1 00:00:13,720 --> 00:00:16,160 Speaker 1: Hello you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the 2 00:00:16,160 --> 00:00:19,120 Hawkerel Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is 3 00:00:19,160 --> 00:00:21,920 your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week, 4 00:00:21,960 --> 00:00:23,960 a new mindset, and another day for you to become 5 00:00:24,039 --> 00:00:27,039 the hawkeral energy you want to attract. Hello you guys, 6 00:00:27,079 --> 00:00:31,719 welcome back to another episode. I did not record last week. 7 00:00:31,760 --> 00:00:35,439 I was trying to transition the podcast to a new 8 00:00:35,560 --> 00:00:39,000 platform and unfortunately it did not work. So now I 9 00:00:39,359 --> 00:00:42,240 do hire an expert to figure it out. So we're 10 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:46,399 still on the current platform. But I actually talked to 11 00:00:46,479 --> 00:00:49,320 a few of my podcast friends who are dealing with 12 00:00:49,359 --> 00:00:51,520 the same issue, which a lot of you have told 13 00:00:51,560 --> 00:00:55,840 me about the ads being louder than the microphone. Apparently 14 00:00:55,840 --> 00:01:00,200 it's a very common issue with a lot of other podcasters, 15 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:02,880 and unfortunately, like there's not really much we can do. 16 00:01:03,280 --> 00:01:07,079 The platform for some reason, just hasn't adjusted their volume 17 00:01:07,239 --> 00:01:09,879 for the ads. I thought it was me and like 18 00:01:10,120 --> 00:01:12,400 my microphone, but apparently it's not. Apparently it's like a 19 00:01:12,400 --> 00:01:14,760 common thing. So anyways, I just wanted to address that 20 00:01:14,799 --> 00:01:17,400 because I know some of you guys have said some 21 00:01:17,480 --> 00:01:19,680 things about the mic stuff, but it's not the mic 22 00:01:19,799 --> 00:01:22,680 it's actually the platform of the ads, and unfortunately I 23 00:01:22,719 --> 00:01:25,239 can't do anything on my end, but I am trying 24 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:28,680 to transition to a new platform in hopes that the 25 00:01:28,760 --> 00:01:30,959 ads will be more quiet and you guys don't have 26 00:01:30,959 --> 00:01:34,280 to have it blaring in your ear. But other than that, 27 00:01:34,680 --> 00:01:37,920 we're gonna have a good episode today. I actually have 28 00:01:38,000 --> 00:01:41,400 my sister here. We are recording a podcast episode together. Hello, 29 00:01:41,799 --> 00:01:44,159 she is back. We have not recorded an episode together 30 00:01:44,239 --> 00:01:45,640 in such a long time. I think the last time 31 00:01:45,640 --> 00:01:49,040 we recorded one was maybe Costa Rica post coost Rica. 32 00:01:49,079 --> 00:01:51,879 Oh yeah, which would have been in January. Oh wow, 33 00:01:52,079 --> 00:01:55,359 and we're starting four weeks ago. We're starting in May 34 00:01:55,519 --> 00:01:58,799 this Friday. Guys, how is it May? Oh my god, 35 00:01:58,840 --> 00:02:02,760 it's crazy. It's cool crazy. The weather is just starting 36 00:02:02,760 --> 00:02:06,480 to become so nice. I mean, we have had a 37 00:02:06,519 --> 00:02:11,240 few like rainy days. April's definitely been very, very rainy, 38 00:02:11,599 --> 00:02:15,960 but the sun is out earlier, it's like brighter, Like 39 00:02:16,000 --> 00:02:19,240 you can just feel the change and energy. The energy 40 00:02:19,319 --> 00:02:22,039 is so good. It's so good. Like between now and 41 00:02:22,159 --> 00:02:26,120 like the beginning of April, it's been like night and day. Yeah, 42 00:02:26,159 --> 00:02:28,360 like no, our mood has been like so much better. 43 00:02:28,360 --> 00:02:30,240 I feel like my energy on the podcast too, people 44 00:02:30,280 --> 00:02:33,319 can just tell that it's like, wow, we're out of yeah, 45 00:02:33,400 --> 00:02:37,400 the worst parts of the seasons. It's like the best part. Yeah, 46 00:02:37,439 --> 00:02:40,080 it's finally the best part. So we're very, very excited 47 00:02:40,120 --> 00:02:42,360 to be entering May. May is usually a really good 48 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:45,840 month for us for weatherwise. So we've had a few 49 00:02:45,960 --> 00:02:48,520 nice days where we've been actually able to tan outside, 50 00:02:48,560 --> 00:02:50,960 which is wild. I don't remember the last time I 51 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:53,520 was able to tan in April. Days that like literally 52 00:02:53,560 --> 00:02:57,000 feel like it's mid June, mid July, Like it just 53 00:02:57,120 --> 00:03:00,120 literally feels like a summer day. And I could you 54 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:03,080 not Like we and Kaalie are both just like the 55 00:03:03,159 --> 00:03:06,120 happiest ever too. Yeah, we are just a little bit 56 00:03:06,159 --> 00:03:08,879 of those days feel so good. Yeah, we have been 57 00:03:08,919 --> 00:03:10,960 on a high these past few weeks of just having 58 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:14,400 nice weather and it feels so great. For today's episode, 59 00:03:14,400 --> 00:03:17,719 we really wanted to talk about success and how we 60 00:03:17,840 --> 00:03:20,599 get to that point in our life where we feel 61 00:03:20,599 --> 00:03:23,879 like we've reached the successful point that we wanted to reach. 62 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:26,759 But we all start from somewhere. We all start from 63 00:03:26,919 --> 00:03:30,919 a point where we kind of feel cringe or embarrassed 64 00:03:31,039 --> 00:03:34,439 or awkward. But I think the whole point of being 65 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:37,759 embarrassing or being cringe or being awkward is because we 66 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:39,960 all start from somewhere and eventually we get to the 67 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:44,039 point where we're the blueprint and we're the success that 68 00:03:44,080 --> 00:03:46,360 we wanted to be for ourselves. So we kind of 69 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:49,879 wanted to chat about some things that you can do 70 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:51,879 if you're in this phase in your life where you 71 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:54,759 are trying to figure out your life or your career, 72 00:03:55,039 --> 00:03:57,639 or your passions or your hobbies and you don't know 73 00:03:57,680 --> 00:04:00,599 where to start in terms of becoming six scessful at it. 74 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:02,479 We're going to kind of chat about from the start 75 00:04:02,759 --> 00:04:05,599 to the end of how you can become a very 76 00:04:05,599 --> 00:04:08,639 successful person in becoming the version of yourself that you 77 00:04:08,719 --> 00:04:10,919 strive to become. Okay, So we're going to just start 78 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:14,719 off with a blank question because I feel like my 79 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:17,079 sister and I can definitely relate on this in the 80 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:20,720 sense where we have different ways of success. Yeah, but 81 00:04:21,360 --> 00:04:23,160 it's because we're in two different phases in our life 82 00:04:23,199 --> 00:04:26,360 as well, and we also have very big differences just 83 00:04:26,399 --> 00:04:30,680 kind of like very different passions and strengths. But I 84 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:33,439 think we're both very successful in different ways. Okay, So 85 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:35,639 I'm going to ask us a question, She'll ask it 86 00:04:35,680 --> 00:04:37,519 to me after the fact, or I'll just say my 87 00:04:37,560 --> 00:04:40,199 response after the fact. But what are cringe moments that 88 00:04:40,240 --> 00:04:43,399 we had that you felt embarrassed in the moment? Like, 89 00:04:43,480 --> 00:04:44,920 is there anything that you can think of that was 90 00:04:44,959 --> 00:04:48,839 embarrassing that you did that you may have learned from, 91 00:04:49,120 --> 00:04:52,279 or something that you're still working towards and something that 92 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:54,800 you hope to be successful at one at one point 93 00:04:54,800 --> 00:04:56,240 in your life, Like, is there anything that you can 94 00:04:56,279 --> 00:04:58,279 think of? Well, I think a few things come to 95 00:04:58,439 --> 00:05:04,920 mind in terms of a career change. I actually so 96 00:05:05,160 --> 00:05:08,360 prior to my job now, I was doing my masters, 97 00:05:08,959 --> 00:05:13,879 and after I finished my masters, I had no idea 98 00:05:14,319 --> 00:05:17,839 what I wanted to do. And even though this is 99 00:05:17,879 --> 00:05:24,160 something that everybody experiences, and I wouldn't say it's necessarily 100 00:05:24,240 --> 00:05:29,240 something that's cringe or embarrassing, but something that is hard 101 00:05:29,839 --> 00:05:32,839 and something that not a lot of people talk about 102 00:05:33,439 --> 00:05:36,759 and that can actually help you grow. Is that period 103 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:39,279 in your life where you have no job and you're 104 00:05:39,319 --> 00:05:42,160 like looking for a job, and I guess it is 105 00:05:42,199 --> 00:05:44,560 a little embarrassing in a way because it's like, oh, 106 00:05:44,639 --> 00:05:48,839 I'm unemployed, right, And it can be really really difficult 107 00:05:49,319 --> 00:05:52,319 to also navigate what it is you want to do, 108 00:05:52,800 --> 00:05:56,360 Like you see so many people who well not saying 109 00:05:56,399 --> 00:05:59,199 that everybody has their shit together, but like you may 110 00:05:59,600 --> 00:06:02,519 think that everybody has their shit together, and like you don't. 111 00:06:02,959 --> 00:06:07,720 And yeah, so I feel like that was definitely maybe 112 00:06:07,759 --> 00:06:10,759 like a little bit of a cringe period or embarrassing 113 00:06:10,800 --> 00:06:14,000 period of my life. But I actually learned so much 114 00:06:14,120 --> 00:06:17,920 about myself and so much about what it is I 115 00:06:18,040 --> 00:06:20,800 want to do and like where I want my career 116 00:06:20,839 --> 00:06:23,839 to take me, and not saying even the career I'm 117 00:06:23,879 --> 00:06:28,199 in now is something I'm insanely passionate about or something 118 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:30,480 that I want to do for the rest of my life. 119 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:33,839 But I figured it out and it really did help 120 00:06:33,879 --> 00:06:38,759 me grow, and not necessarily on the career side of things, 121 00:06:38,839 --> 00:06:42,759 but also when it comes to dating, I feel like 122 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,680 it can be really really cringe to be on the 123 00:06:45,759 --> 00:06:48,519 dating apps, and just like dating in general, and like 124 00:06:48,800 --> 00:06:54,279 first dates are always so awkward, and yeah, dating apps 125 00:06:54,319 --> 00:06:58,079 can be embarrassing too, So yeah, I feel like that's 126 00:06:58,120 --> 00:07:03,079 also something I'm navigating right now, and it's embarrassing, but 127 00:07:03,360 --> 00:07:06,079 it's also like how else am I supposed to meet 128 00:07:06,079 --> 00:07:09,000 a husband? Right and I want to get married I 129 00:07:09,040 --> 00:07:12,360 want to have kids, and that's kind of the only 130 00:07:12,399 --> 00:07:15,160 way to go about it, right. You know, it's possible 131 00:07:15,199 --> 00:07:20,000 to meet people organically, but it also is very difficult. 132 00:07:20,360 --> 00:07:22,600 So yeah, I feel like those are some things that 133 00:07:23,040 --> 00:07:27,279 I feel like I've felt embarrassed about. But dating has 134 00:07:27,319 --> 00:07:30,839 also taught me a lot, like dating other people has 135 00:07:31,439 --> 00:07:34,000 helped me realize what I like, what I don't like, 136 00:07:35,480 --> 00:07:38,800 And yeah, I'm still it's still something I'm navigating, but 137 00:07:38,959 --> 00:07:42,199 I would say those are some things that I guess 138 00:07:42,720 --> 00:07:46,319 we're like cringe moments or embarrassing things. Yeah, and like 139 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:48,439 to build off of that, I can kind of see 140 00:07:48,480 --> 00:07:51,240 it in a situation where like how you felt embarrassed 141 00:07:51,279 --> 00:07:54,199 or cringe when you know you're with your girlfriends and 142 00:07:54,240 --> 00:07:56,079 you're out dinner and they're like, oh my god, so 143 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:58,639 like let's catch up. How's life And then it's like, oh, 144 00:07:58,720 --> 00:08:00,319 like so, what are you doing for work now? And 145 00:08:00,360 --> 00:08:03,879 it's like, oh, I'm currently unemployed. Like it almost like 146 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:06,839 feels like you're losing confidence in yourself or like people 147 00:08:06,879 --> 00:08:09,000 always asking like, oh, did you find a job yet? 148 00:08:09,040 --> 00:08:10,959 Did you find a job, and it's like no, like 149 00:08:11,399 --> 00:08:14,800 it took me, Like I want to say six months, 150 00:08:15,199 --> 00:08:18,160 which is even on like the faster end, like yes, 151 00:08:18,360 --> 00:08:23,360 the job market is so so difficult and yeah yeah, 152 00:08:23,399 --> 00:08:25,160 And I think even like same thing with dating, like 153 00:08:25,279 --> 00:08:27,839 oh my god, are you seeing someone? Like no, And 154 00:08:27,879 --> 00:08:29,639 again it's kind of like you feel like you lose 155 00:08:29,680 --> 00:08:31,759 confidence in yourself when you say that. But at the 156 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:35,080 same time, I feel like, as you said, like giving 157 00:08:35,120 --> 00:08:38,320 this time for yourself and almost like changing your perspective 158 00:08:38,399 --> 00:08:41,200 of being like this is my moment of independence and 159 00:08:41,360 --> 00:08:44,000 realizing like, Okay, I'm taking my time to realize what 160 00:08:44,039 --> 00:08:46,360 I want for myself. Who do I want in my life? 161 00:08:46,360 --> 00:08:48,080 What kind of man do I see myself marrying? Like 162 00:08:48,080 --> 00:08:50,879 you're not rushing into something that you think, Oh, like 163 00:08:50,960 --> 00:08:52,919 I just want to be with someone because I want 164 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:54,039 to say that I have a blue friend or I 165 00:08:54,240 --> 00:08:56,360 have a husband or whatever. I really really like what 166 00:08:56,399 --> 00:08:59,440 you said about changing the perspective of it, where instead 167 00:08:59,480 --> 00:09:02,600 of being like, oh, I don't have my shit together, 168 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,600 like I don't have anything figured out, I don't have 169 00:09:05,639 --> 00:09:07,840 a job, I don't have a boyfriend, it's like, well, 170 00:09:07,879 --> 00:09:10,480 now I get to pick whatever I want. I get 171 00:09:10,519 --> 00:09:12,679 to pick whatever career it is I want. I get 172 00:09:12,679 --> 00:09:15,840 to pick whatever guy it is, I want like you 173 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:20,200 have full full control in your life. See it in 174 00:09:20,240 --> 00:09:23,240 that way, I completely change the perspective of it. It's 175 00:09:23,279 --> 00:09:25,639 all about the perspective. And same thing with the career. 176 00:09:25,720 --> 00:09:28,840 As you said, it gives you time to actually like 177 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:31,240 follow through on the job that you want instead of 178 00:09:31,279 --> 00:09:33,879 just rushing into something because you wanted to make a 179 00:09:33,879 --> 00:09:37,759 lot of money. If you have the opportunity to take 180 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:41,759 some time off financially, to spend a month or two 181 00:09:41,840 --> 00:09:43,919 to figure out, Okay, what are my passions, what are 182 00:09:43,919 --> 00:09:45,559 my strengths, What do I actually want to put my 183 00:09:45,600 --> 00:09:48,279 full energy towards in a career for myself? Like when 184 00:09:48,279 --> 00:09:51,039 you're able to do that, that's such a blessing. And 185 00:09:51,080 --> 00:09:54,320 again all about the mindset shift, all about the perspective 186 00:09:54,360 --> 00:09:57,480 shift of like, I am doing this for myself because 187 00:09:58,000 --> 00:10:00,039 in the long run, it's going to be worth it 188 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,600 because I'm going to see more success out of it 189 00:10:02,639 --> 00:10:04,480 because I'm going to actually love what I do. Or 190 00:10:04,879 --> 00:10:07,519 again finding the person that you want for yourself because 191 00:10:07,559 --> 00:10:10,559 you're actually gonna probably end up being with this person 192 00:10:10,600 --> 00:10:13,480 for a longer period of time because you realize what 193 00:10:13,559 --> 00:10:16,000 you wanted in a person. And also to going back 194 00:10:16,039 --> 00:10:19,799 to kind of like the embarrassing part of it, like 195 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:23,159 you know, not having a boyfriend or not having a job, 196 00:10:23,240 --> 00:10:27,080 and like feeling like people are judging you for that. 197 00:10:27,080 --> 00:10:31,639 That's literally what's holding you back by letting people like 198 00:10:31,759 --> 00:10:34,559 you shouldn't care about what other people think. Now, if 199 00:10:35,039 --> 00:10:37,679 having no job right now is what makes you happy 200 00:10:38,039 --> 00:10:42,120 because you haven't found your passion, stay unemployed, you know, 201 00:10:42,320 --> 00:10:46,919 I think it's so important to not rush into something. 202 00:10:47,320 --> 00:10:50,759 You know, I get it that obviously, you know, financial 203 00:10:50,840 --> 00:10:53,919 you need money things like that, but also too, I 204 00:10:53,960 --> 00:10:57,960 think it's important to not rush into something that doesn't 205 00:10:58,000 --> 00:11:00,759 feel right or seeing in a job. You know. Another 206 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:04,639 great example, not necessarily something that's happened to me, but 207 00:11:04,720 --> 00:11:09,039 I know maybe people could relate to is being in 208 00:11:09,080 --> 00:11:12,360 an awful job and wanting to quit, but you're too embarrassed. Yeah, right, 209 00:11:12,759 --> 00:11:17,159 Like that's another thing you're too embarrassed to quit, or 210 00:11:17,360 --> 00:11:19,960 you know, you're you're too worried about what's going to 211 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:21,960 happen next if you can find another job, which are 212 00:11:22,000 --> 00:11:26,759 all understandable reasons, but I also think too, it's important 213 00:11:26,799 --> 00:11:32,320 to follow what makes you happy, and like it sounds 214 00:11:32,360 --> 00:11:34,919 kind of cheesy to say it, but like follow your gut, Like, 215 00:11:34,919 --> 00:11:36,759 if your gut's telling you this is not what I 216 00:11:36,799 --> 00:11:40,399 want to do, you should definitely follow it one hundred percent. 217 00:11:40,519 --> 00:11:43,279 And to build off that point, if you think about 218 00:11:43,360 --> 00:11:45,360 when you are in a job where it's like you 219 00:11:45,480 --> 00:11:48,639 hate and like you're too embarrassed or too uncomfortable to quit, 220 00:11:49,159 --> 00:11:52,840 or it's because you're too comfortable, Yeah, you're too comfortable 221 00:11:52,919 --> 00:11:55,639 with wanting to just stay because it's like, Okay, well 222 00:11:56,080 --> 00:11:58,759 you know I make good money. It's too familiar. It's 223 00:11:59,039 --> 00:12:00,559 you know, I've been with the same people for a 224 00:12:00,559 --> 00:12:02,519 long period of time, and like I've built a routine 225 00:12:02,519 --> 00:12:04,320 around that, So I'm just going to stay because like 226 00:12:04,879 --> 00:12:07,639 this is where my comfort spot is. Well, you can't 227 00:12:07,639 --> 00:12:10,240 grow if exactly want to change. And it's the same 228 00:12:10,279 --> 00:12:13,320 with dating, Like some people may be staying in relationships 229 00:12:13,320 --> 00:12:16,440 because it's familiar, because it's comfortable, but they know deep 230 00:12:16,480 --> 00:12:19,039 down in their gut, yeah, this is not my person. 231 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:21,200 But they don't want to be single because it's cringe, 232 00:12:21,240 --> 00:12:26,519 it's embarrassing. When you'll actually gain more out of being single, 233 00:12:27,200 --> 00:12:30,399 and you'll learn way more about yourself and in the 234 00:12:30,480 --> 00:12:34,679 long run, actually end up being more successful because you 235 00:12:34,799 --> 00:12:39,559 end up finding that person that is the right fit, 236 00:12:39,759 --> 00:12:42,440 is your person, is the one that you had dreamed 237 00:12:42,480 --> 00:12:46,960 about forever. This whole like comfortable conversation is something that 238 00:12:47,279 --> 00:12:49,559 I feel like I'm going through currently. I feel like 239 00:12:49,879 --> 00:12:52,759 last year I turned twenty nine, it was my first 240 00:12:52,840 --> 00:12:55,120 year married. You know, Zach and I were looking for 241 00:12:55,159 --> 00:12:57,720 a new house whatever. I felt like I was in 242 00:12:57,759 --> 00:12:59,559 this period of time in my life where I'm like, Okay, 243 00:13:00,200 --> 00:13:02,159 I'm comfortable, but I'm also like trying to figure things 244 00:13:02,159 --> 00:13:04,240 out for myself right like, I was doing different things whatever. 245 00:13:04,840 --> 00:13:08,960 These past like six months, I have been probably the 246 00:13:09,080 --> 00:13:11,440 most comfortable where I feel like I'm like, Okay, I 247 00:13:11,480 --> 00:13:15,399 got the house figured out. You know, I turned thirty, 248 00:13:15,639 --> 00:13:18,919 Like I feel like now I'm like, okay, what's next, 249 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:21,480 And like, yeah, when I get in that mindset, I 250 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:23,559 feel like I start to lose myself a bit. And 251 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:27,039 I'm starting to realize that it's because oh, you're too comfortable. 252 00:13:27,639 --> 00:13:31,440 You need to make a change, and in order to change, 253 00:13:31,440 --> 00:13:33,600 you need to grow as a person. And so that's 254 00:13:33,639 --> 00:13:35,879 why I feel like, this is why I feel like, Okay, 255 00:13:35,919 --> 00:13:38,600 I'm ready to take on motherhood and I'm ready to 256 00:13:38,600 --> 00:13:40,480 take on like this next phase of my life because 257 00:13:40,480 --> 00:13:42,919 I can tell that I'm getting too comfortable with where 258 00:13:42,960 --> 00:13:47,600 I'm at now, and even those changes scary. I also 259 00:13:47,639 --> 00:13:50,919 think like in order to be successful and like see 260 00:13:50,960 --> 00:13:53,320 the success that you want in yourself, I think it 261 00:13:53,360 --> 00:13:55,759 needs to change. It's important to make that change and 262 00:13:55,759 --> 00:13:58,279 figure out, Okay, what is that change for yourself? Well, 263 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:00,639 and even for me too. I've feel like I can 264 00:14:00,679 --> 00:14:04,080 relate to that as well. With even my own job 265 00:14:04,159 --> 00:14:06,919 that I have currently, I feel like day to day 266 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:12,759 I'm starting to feel a bit too comfortable, and I 267 00:14:12,840 --> 00:14:15,600 am wanting that change. I am wanting to grow and 268 00:14:15,679 --> 00:14:19,399 whether it may not necessarily be within my job, but 269 00:14:19,799 --> 00:14:23,799 within life as a whole, and I still haven't figured 270 00:14:23,799 --> 00:14:27,039 that out, sort of like that missing puzzle piece, and 271 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:29,759 I'm excited about figuring that out. So, if you're in 272 00:14:29,799 --> 00:14:31,480 a place in your life where you feel like you've 273 00:14:31,519 --> 00:14:33,919 been in like a comfort zone and you feel like 274 00:14:34,320 --> 00:14:37,279 there's like something that you feel like is missing or 275 00:14:37,320 --> 00:14:40,600 something that you are thinking about, but like are too 276 00:14:40,639 --> 00:14:44,440 scared to jump to that conclusion, whether it's like getting 277 00:14:44,480 --> 00:14:47,840 back in the dating world, you know, going into motherhood 278 00:14:47,919 --> 00:14:51,759 or parenthood, wanting to do a major career change, like 279 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:54,600 when you realize that you're too comfortable when you're in 280 00:14:54,639 --> 00:14:58,559 this situation. That is the sign where it's like, Okay, 281 00:14:58,720 --> 00:15:00,879 I'm ready for my next chapter. I'm ready for this 282 00:15:00,960 --> 00:15:04,279 next era of myself. And it's honestly when you feel 283 00:15:04,320 --> 00:15:07,960 like something is missing, at least for me. Yes, I've 284 00:15:07,960 --> 00:15:11,799 felt these past few weeks. I'm like, Okay, something is missing, 285 00:15:12,000 --> 00:15:15,000 Like what is it that's missing? And like I said, 286 00:15:15,039 --> 00:15:17,759 I still haven't figured that out, and that's okay, and 287 00:15:17,799 --> 00:15:19,799 I'm excited to figure that out. As I was saying, 288 00:15:19,840 --> 00:15:23,480 I feel like there's a missing piece, a missing puzzle piece, 289 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:26,559 and I haven't figured that out yet, and that's okay. 290 00:15:27,360 --> 00:15:31,480 And I'm learning right now and trying to navigate what 291 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:35,080 that missing piece is. And it could just be something 292 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:38,080 as simple as starting a new habit in my life, 293 00:15:38,120 --> 00:15:41,039 Like I am really trying to figure out, okay, what 294 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:45,519 makes me happy? What is something I'm passionate about. And 295 00:15:45,759 --> 00:15:49,399 it doesn't necessarily have to be my career, but I 296 00:15:49,440 --> 00:15:53,600 can find something that I can integrate into my life 297 00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:58,399 so easily that you know, brings me joy, whether it's 298 00:15:58,600 --> 00:16:01,960 you know, posting online like I've been posting more tiktoks 299 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:05,879 online or I don't know, just like certain things, yeah 300 00:16:05,960 --> 00:16:08,919 that I feel like could be small in life that 301 00:16:09,039 --> 00:16:13,000 you can just integrate. Madison just keeps going and going. 302 00:16:13,080 --> 00:16:15,000 I'm like, okay, we're just gonna cut it off here 303 00:16:15,039 --> 00:16:17,159 because she's like, I gotta keep talking. I'm like, no, 304 00:16:17,320 --> 00:16:19,679 you don't. You can just cut it off there. Done 305 00:16:19,679 --> 00:16:22,240 this in a while. Clearly, I love it. I love 306 00:16:22,279 --> 00:16:25,720 it speaking about like you posting on TikTok consistently. I 307 00:16:25,720 --> 00:16:28,440 think that's great because I know you love social media 308 00:16:28,559 --> 00:16:30,159 just as much as I love social media, and I 309 00:16:30,159 --> 00:16:35,279 think maybe like also seeing me in this influencer space, 310 00:16:35,320 --> 00:16:37,200 it may have like inspired you where yeah, oh look 311 00:16:37,240 --> 00:16:41,159 at her, like she's getting pr she's getting work opportunities, 312 00:16:41,200 --> 00:16:43,240 Like Okay, maybe this can allow me to have a 313 00:16:43,240 --> 00:16:46,159 little bit of something similar to that in my life, 314 00:16:46,200 --> 00:16:48,399 if that's something that you're passionate about. But I guess 315 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:50,320 that kind of brings me back to the question of, like, 316 00:16:50,519 --> 00:16:53,519 what's a cringe moment that I've had in my life. 317 00:16:53,639 --> 00:16:56,679 I feel like was embarrassing that I grew from was 318 00:16:57,000 --> 00:17:00,000 obviously posting on social media like that was a huge 319 00:17:00,240 --> 00:17:04,799 thing for me when I was twenty one. I found 320 00:17:04,799 --> 00:17:07,039 a love for twenty one twenty one. Well, no, no, no, 321 00:17:07,319 --> 00:17:09,359 it was twenty five. Oh when I started, I was 322 00:17:09,359 --> 00:17:11,079 gonna say, I thought it was twenty five. Twenty one 323 00:17:11,200 --> 00:17:14,720 was when I like kind of fell in love with YouTube. Yeah, YouTubers, 324 00:17:14,839 --> 00:17:18,039 like kind of like falling in love with the influencer space. 325 00:17:18,839 --> 00:17:21,279 And you know the story I was in Paris was 326 00:17:21,359 --> 00:17:24,519 Zach and I literally brought his brother's camera to vlog. 327 00:17:24,720 --> 00:17:28,319 I took one video of myself and I literally in 328 00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:31,880 that moment I played the clip, I looked at myself. 329 00:17:31,960 --> 00:17:35,000 I said, oh my god, I am awful. And I 330 00:17:35,039 --> 00:17:38,319 don't even hold them about Dominican and that video. You 331 00:17:39,279 --> 00:17:42,000 I forgot about that Baily when she was were you 332 00:17:42,039 --> 00:17:45,039 twenty This is wait, this is twenty sixteen. This is 333 00:17:45,079 --> 00:17:47,880 the what's your face? What was that phase that we 334 00:17:47,920 --> 00:17:51,880 had the Alexis Wren and Jay. Yes, the music, the 335 00:17:52,039 --> 00:17:54,839 esthetic video, It's okay, let's talk about that. That was 336 00:17:55,519 --> 00:17:59,960 the story, the vibe. Anyways, we go on this trip, 337 00:18:00,079 --> 00:18:02,880 like we would always go on family trips, and I 338 00:18:02,920 --> 00:18:07,359 think Zach came. I don't know, No, we weren't even dating this, No, 339 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:09,319 no way, I don't think we were dating. You were 340 00:18:09,359 --> 00:18:12,440 definitely dating Kilee. I was sixteen and twenty sixteen. Oh okay, 341 00:18:12,440 --> 00:18:14,119 then yeah, we started dating Zach when I was like 342 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:15,640 three year right, we were dating. I don't know if 343 00:18:15,680 --> 00:18:17,240 he was there or not. He was like he wasn't 344 00:18:17,240 --> 00:18:22,200 there something I don't know. Anyways, Kaylee decides she wants 345 00:18:22,240 --> 00:18:26,079 to make a video, an aesthetic an esthetic video, and 346 00:18:26,200 --> 00:18:32,200 like just picture the music is like that Alexis wren 347 00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:35,519 Jay like that. I don't even know how to describe 348 00:18:35,519 --> 00:18:38,640 that kind of music. Hecky, yeah, like I don't know, 349 00:18:38,759 --> 00:18:43,240 twenty sixteen vibe. But it was not giving. If I'm 350 00:18:43,279 --> 00:18:47,279 not giving, I'm talking like footage under the water, like 351 00:18:47,359 --> 00:18:51,880 of us swimming with fish, talking like panoramic view of 352 00:18:51,920 --> 00:18:55,319 the palm trees, remember me walking in the trails like 353 00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:58,519 it was just awful. Everything about it was not giving. 354 00:18:58,519 --> 00:19:02,480 Alexis ren Or you did not make YouTube. Well, just 355 00:19:02,559 --> 00:19:05,400 let's say I think I've deleted it. I've actually deleted 356 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:07,240 it from my memory, and then you just wrote it 357 00:19:07,279 --> 00:19:10,519 back up. I always bring it up in case she forgets. Yeah, 358 00:19:10,640 --> 00:19:13,400 I mean we used to record YouTube videos when Justin 359 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:17,559 Bieber had THO. We'd like, oh yeah, lyric videos or 360 00:19:17,640 --> 00:19:21,319 singing videos Dan sing videos obviously, like filming has always 361 00:19:21,319 --> 00:19:23,079 just been a part of our We used to actually 362 00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:27,200 have like a photo booth camera in our office that 363 00:19:27,319 --> 00:19:30,799 we used to use. And like, I was like, never 364 00:19:30,839 --> 00:19:34,279 a singer, but like I you thought you were, well, 365 00:19:34,440 --> 00:19:36,839 I wanted to know, you know, when you just I'm 366 00:19:36,880 --> 00:19:39,519 sure people can relate to this, when you just want 367 00:19:39,559 --> 00:19:43,319 to know if you're a good singer or not. I 368 00:19:43,440 --> 00:19:46,680 used to record myself singing yeah, and I would listen 369 00:19:46,720 --> 00:19:48,279 to it back and I'd be like, yeah, I'm not 370 00:19:48,359 --> 00:19:50,480 a good singer. Yeah, I've discovered that this is not 371 00:19:50,559 --> 00:19:55,279 my passion. Okay, you figure it out. But anyways, the 372 00:19:55,279 --> 00:19:57,160 point is that I've always had this passion for filming, 373 00:19:57,200 --> 00:20:00,359 and so I never really took it seriously until twenty 374 00:20:00,400 --> 00:20:02,160 twenty five. And I feel like there was a switch 375 00:20:02,160 --> 00:20:04,279 where I just almost didn't care what I looked like 376 00:20:04,359 --> 00:20:06,799 or didn't care what other people thought. But again in 377 00:20:06,839 --> 00:20:09,519 the beginning, I was embarrassed I didn't follow through with it. 378 00:20:09,559 --> 00:20:12,440 I decided to just like not do it anymore. And 379 00:20:12,480 --> 00:20:13,799 then I was like, you know what, No, I do 380 00:20:13,880 --> 00:20:15,960 really love this. I'm just going to try and do 381 00:20:16,039 --> 00:20:18,799 it I have to change my perspective of like, Okay, 382 00:20:18,799 --> 00:20:20,400 don't care what you look like, don't care what other 383 00:20:20,440 --> 00:20:23,000 people think. If you love it, then keep doing it 384 00:20:23,039 --> 00:20:25,200 and see where you get out of it. And that's 385 00:20:25,279 --> 00:20:27,319 kind of where it comes into the play of like 386 00:20:27,440 --> 00:20:30,759 being consistent at something, and that's where success comes at 387 00:20:30,799 --> 00:20:35,759 it because I consistently posted for two years and like 388 00:20:35,880 --> 00:20:38,640 every single day I'd show up, i'd take out my iPhone, 389 00:20:38,680 --> 00:20:41,559 i'd film footage, I'd post it hard, which is really 390 00:20:41,599 --> 00:20:45,279 hard to consistently show up. And that's where the success 391 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:48,519 became a thing because I didn't stop. I kept going. 392 00:20:48,599 --> 00:20:51,119 But I also think too, when it's something that you're 393 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:54,400 passionate about and something you really really want, you're like 394 00:20:54,559 --> 00:20:58,279 excited to do it, whether it's every single day or consistently, 395 00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:01,359 like you you want to sh show up every single 396 00:21:01,440 --> 00:21:04,599 day because it's something that you're so passionate about, and 397 00:21:04,680 --> 00:21:07,720 it goes to show that like my confidence didn't just 398 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:09,880 like it didn't just come out of nowhere. I think 399 00:21:09,920 --> 00:21:12,160 because I was so passionate about this and was so 400 00:21:12,400 --> 00:21:16,079 in love with filming and influencing and all that it 401 00:21:16,200 --> 00:21:19,160 just like I proved myself over time that it's like, no, 402 00:21:19,279 --> 00:21:21,880 I am good at this. Eventually I realized that I'm like, no, 403 00:21:22,000 --> 00:21:24,200 this is something I love. This is something I'm good at. 404 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:26,200 And that's how you kind of build the confidence of like, 405 00:21:26,559 --> 00:21:28,079 I don't care what people think. I'm just gonna keep 406 00:21:28,119 --> 00:21:29,720 doing and keep doing it. And that's kind of like 407 00:21:29,759 --> 00:21:32,079 how it got built. And also too, I think it's 408 00:21:32,119 --> 00:21:37,759 important to remember, like not to compare yourselves to other people, like, 409 00:21:37,880 --> 00:21:40,880 especially when it comes to influencing, to people who have 410 00:21:41,000 --> 00:21:43,160 been in it for years and years and years. Like, 411 00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:46,160 let's say you really want to become an influencer. It's 412 00:21:46,160 --> 00:21:48,480 something you're super passionate about, but you film one video 413 00:21:48,519 --> 00:21:51,480 and you're like, ough, this doesn't look like you know 414 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:55,359 the other influencers videos, They at one point started from 415 00:21:55,400 --> 00:22:00,119 square one. Just because their videos now look amazing, asteatic 416 00:22:00,200 --> 00:22:03,720 and whatever in yours do don't. That doesn't mean you 417 00:22:03,799 --> 00:22:07,319 can't get there, exactly, and you shouldn't stop posting if 418 00:22:07,319 --> 00:22:11,720 it's something you're incredibly passionate about because oh my videos 419 00:22:11,720 --> 00:22:14,599 look bad. They don't look like so and So's videos 420 00:22:14,680 --> 00:22:17,160 or whatever. Yeah, so true. They all start from somewhere. 421 00:22:17,359 --> 00:22:20,720 Yeah exactly. I want to talk about a recent thing 422 00:22:20,759 --> 00:22:22,599 that people have been talking about all over social media 423 00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:24,200 that just kind of goes hand in hand with this 424 00:22:24,519 --> 00:22:27,880 conversation about you know, being successful and like starting somewhere 425 00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:30,079 and getting to the point where you were. If you 426 00:22:30,119 --> 00:22:32,799 guys are on TikTok, I'm sure you guys know acquired style. 427 00:22:32,960 --> 00:22:37,640 She's a twin and she recently was on her baucherette trip, 428 00:22:37,759 --> 00:22:42,079 and the entire bachelorette trip was sponsored by a beauty 429 00:22:42,119 --> 00:22:46,039 brand called Swan Beauty, which no one has ever heard of, 430 00:22:46,200 --> 00:22:48,759 yea until this bacherette trip, which is wild. I was like, 431 00:22:49,200 --> 00:22:51,039 I literally called Kale. I was like, have you heard 432 00:22:51,079 --> 00:22:53,119 of this friendly? Yeah, I've never used this brand? Right, 433 00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:56,960 And then this brand gave her a private jet, they 434 00:22:57,039 --> 00:23:00,680 paid for her entire villa for her bacherette. Yeah, they 435 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:04,559 did everything like beach clubs and itinerary for them, Like 436 00:23:04,759 --> 00:23:08,680 everything was covered and so she got ripped apart in 437 00:23:08,799 --> 00:23:11,480 the mine for like, this is such a like she's 438 00:23:11,519 --> 00:23:13,720 just trying to flex because she's an influencer and she's 439 00:23:13,799 --> 00:23:16,440 rich or like this is not relatable whatsoever. This is 440 00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:19,400 like super out of touch and like I totally get it. 441 00:23:19,400 --> 00:23:21,559 It is very out of touch, Like getting it die 442 00:23:21,640 --> 00:23:24,440 relatable and not relatable, getting that villa whatever. But I 443 00:23:24,480 --> 00:23:27,319 think it also goes to show that, like she's an 444 00:23:27,319 --> 00:23:30,519 influencer that started from a point in her life where 445 00:23:30,559 --> 00:23:34,200 she was just posting photos and like it wasn't really 446 00:23:34,240 --> 00:23:35,839 a big influencer at all at the time. Like she 447 00:23:36,079 --> 00:23:40,000 grew her platform over the past few years to become 448 00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:42,960 very successful at it. And I think this trip for 449 00:23:43,039 --> 00:23:45,519 her and my eyes was like, this is what I've 450 00:23:45,519 --> 00:23:47,440 worked hard for the past five years for, is that 451 00:23:47,559 --> 00:23:50,519 I was able to get the opportunity of a brand 452 00:23:50,599 --> 00:23:53,680 to sponsor my baucherette because I worked my freaking ass 453 00:23:53,720 --> 00:23:56,480 off these past five years to grow my audience, to 454 00:23:56,519 --> 00:23:59,440 grow my platform. And it wasn't to like show off, 455 00:23:59,480 --> 00:24:02,480 It was more so to show that like what her 456 00:24:02,559 --> 00:24:05,480 work was able to provide her was something that she 457 00:24:05,559 --> 00:24:08,400 worked really hard towards. And I find that inspiring for myself, 458 00:24:08,440 --> 00:24:11,839 like seeing that, like as an influencer who you know, 459 00:24:12,440 --> 00:24:15,119 follows other influencers who are really successful at what they do, 460 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:17,240 Like I see that in my eyes as like, wow, 461 00:24:17,279 --> 00:24:21,079 that's very well deserved, Like she deserves that because she's 462 00:24:21,119 --> 00:24:23,480 worked her freaking ass off to get to that point, 463 00:24:23,519 --> 00:24:26,240 and also too, I feel like people have to remember 464 00:24:26,319 --> 00:24:30,559 that success looks different for everything. Yes, so that was 465 00:24:30,599 --> 00:24:34,640 success for her because of where she is in her career. 466 00:24:34,759 --> 00:24:38,039 And once again to also point out, like I just 467 00:24:38,079 --> 00:24:41,680 said before, she started from somewhere. She started from square one, 468 00:24:41,839 --> 00:24:44,839 and she built her way to this point and that's 469 00:24:44,839 --> 00:24:48,440 what success in her life now looks for her. So 470 00:24:48,599 --> 00:24:53,720 doesn't mean that it's the same success for you, because 471 00:24:53,920 --> 00:24:56,960 it's obviously not. Like Kaylie said, it's not something that 472 00:24:57,359 --> 00:25:02,200 is relatable to every single person. And just because that's 473 00:25:02,279 --> 00:25:05,839 not what success looks like for you, doesn't mean that's 474 00:25:05,880 --> 00:25:08,599 not something you can achieve. Yeah, And like, if you 475 00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:11,880 feel indifferent about that situation, that's totally fine. As Madison said, 476 00:25:12,000 --> 00:25:15,119 success looks different for everyone. If you have a goal 477 00:25:15,160 --> 00:25:17,240 in your life that you want to be successful at 478 00:25:17,680 --> 00:25:21,599 and it's not something like what I went through, that 479 00:25:21,759 --> 00:25:25,839 is totally okay. We all have different views and versions 480 00:25:25,880 --> 00:25:28,119 of how we want our success to look like. Yeah, 481 00:25:28,119 --> 00:25:30,839 and I think that's very much okay to like not 482 00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:33,119 feel okay with like what happened. But like, I also 483 00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:36,839 don't think like shaming women online about like something that 484 00:25:36,880 --> 00:25:39,319 they've wanted for themselves, is okay, Like I think we 485 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:42,039 should be supporting other women. I'm all about supporting women 486 00:25:42,319 --> 00:25:46,000 and supporting their wants in life and their successful moments 487 00:25:46,000 --> 00:25:47,480 in life. And I feel like that was a moment 488 00:25:47,519 --> 00:25:49,359 where it's like she wanted that for herself. You could 489 00:25:49,400 --> 00:25:52,359 tell that's what she wanted, and seeing other women tear 490 00:25:52,400 --> 00:25:54,480 her down was like kind of sad. So it's like, well, 491 00:25:54,720 --> 00:25:57,279 for you, that might not be something that you wanted 492 00:25:57,279 --> 00:25:59,920 for your success or like maybe it's jealousy. I know, 493 00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:03,000 I like, let her live this successful moment in her 494 00:26:03,039 --> 00:26:05,119 life she's proud of. You can clearly tell she was 495 00:26:05,559 --> 00:26:08,720 very beyond Arybaul and like you can just tell that 496 00:26:08,799 --> 00:26:11,400 it was her emotions were so real of like this 497 00:26:11,599 --> 00:26:15,400 is trulya pinchery moment on like she was shocked that 498 00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:17,880 she like was a opportunity like this. But she also 499 00:26:17,880 --> 00:26:19,480 made it clear that it's like she wouldn't have been 500 00:26:19,480 --> 00:26:22,240 there without her followers or just her powers to get 501 00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,799 her there. So that's probably an influencer that I like 502 00:26:24,920 --> 00:26:27,440 love to follow and like I'm very inspired by for myself. 503 00:26:27,480 --> 00:26:29,559 So anyways, I just wanted to add that in because 504 00:26:29,559 --> 00:26:31,400 I think it's like kind of a recent thing that 505 00:26:31,400 --> 00:26:33,119 people have been talking about on TikTok that's like a 506 00:26:33,160 --> 00:26:38,160 recent success for her specifically of being in the influencing industry. 507 00:26:38,200 --> 00:26:42,119 And like, I think you following people on social media 508 00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:44,440 or like what you consume on a daily basis, whether 509 00:26:44,480 --> 00:26:47,000 it's like someone in your life that's maybe a business 510 00:26:47,000 --> 00:26:50,279 owner or your boss or maybe a friend, Like I 511 00:26:50,279 --> 00:26:52,480 think what really matters is the environment that you put 512 00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:55,680 yourself in and what you consume. And that's something for 513 00:26:55,799 --> 00:26:58,920 me that I see as motivation. Like I love to 514 00:26:59,039 --> 00:27:01,759 follow business owners on social media. I love to follow 515 00:27:01,799 --> 00:27:05,720 other influencers like Bridget who went on this insane trip 516 00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:08,119 you know that a brand covered, Like I love to 517 00:27:08,160 --> 00:27:11,400 follow women that I truly think are visions of like 518 00:27:11,440 --> 00:27:14,039 how I admire myself for success, Like how do I 519 00:27:14,079 --> 00:27:17,880 see my success in people's eyes? And like following business 520 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,440 owners for an example, I would love to own my 521 00:27:20,480 --> 00:27:22,799 own business one day. And when I see these girls 522 00:27:23,000 --> 00:27:26,160 thriving at their business and just being so successful at 523 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:28,519 their company, I'm like, this is what I want for myself. 524 00:27:28,559 --> 00:27:30,799 So I love to consume that because it creates motivation 525 00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:33,440 for myself to like want to succeed in that field 526 00:27:33,519 --> 00:27:35,920 for myself. Well, and I also think it's important, like 527 00:27:35,960 --> 00:27:39,799 you've just said, to change that perspective instead of being like, 528 00:27:40,200 --> 00:27:44,359 oh my god, she has all this Like that's so unrelatable, 529 00:27:44,799 --> 00:27:48,319 be inspired, Like I don't know for me personally, Like 530 00:27:48,640 --> 00:27:53,759 I follow so many influencers that I cannot relate to. 531 00:27:54,079 --> 00:27:56,680 But I like that, you know, I like that I 532 00:27:56,720 --> 00:28:00,519 can't relate to them because it's something that I strive 533 00:28:00,680 --> 00:28:03,799 to become, Like I see them as, like you said, 534 00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:07,200 instead of seeing it as like jealousy, see it as 535 00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:10,839 a motivation, see it as something that you want to 536 00:28:10,839 --> 00:28:13,119 become or you want to strive towards. Like there's so 537 00:28:13,160 --> 00:28:15,759 many influencers I follow, and the reason I follow them 538 00:28:15,839 --> 00:28:18,799 is because I'm so inspired by them, and even if 539 00:28:18,799 --> 00:28:22,759 it's in like completely different aspects. Like for example, an 540 00:28:22,759 --> 00:28:25,559 influencer I love is Page Loree. Yes, that's just what 541 00:28:25,680 --> 00:28:28,240 I love her. And let's talk about that for a second. 542 00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:32,000 She is a tennis wife, so her fiance is a 543 00:28:32,039 --> 00:28:35,519 professional tennis player. Yes, not right there, very unrelatable. He 544 00:28:35,839 --> 00:28:39,640 owns a very successful business, again something that people really 545 00:28:39,680 --> 00:28:41,920 strive for. But it's not easy to have a very 546 00:28:42,079 --> 00:28:45,720 successful business that she has she owns a beautiful house. 547 00:28:45,799 --> 00:28:48,160 She has I think two houses, to be honest, like 548 00:28:48,960 --> 00:28:53,160 lives a very different life, and we both love to 549 00:28:53,200 --> 00:28:56,000 follow her because they're so inspired by her. And I 550 00:28:56,039 --> 00:28:58,759 was just about to say, it's not even about what 551 00:28:58,960 --> 00:29:02,759 she specifically, because it's like, I mean not saying this 552 00:29:02,799 --> 00:29:04,680 is something I would ever be passionate about, but I 553 00:29:04,680 --> 00:29:08,279 wouldn't say right now, I'm passionate about starting a brand. 554 00:29:08,480 --> 00:29:12,039 But what inspires me is her passion for her brand, Yes, 555 00:29:12,079 --> 00:29:14,559 if that makes any sense, Like she has a passion 556 00:29:14,640 --> 00:29:18,200 and that's what inspires me to find something. I just 557 00:29:18,359 --> 00:29:22,079 watch her YouTube video this morning at her new flagship store, 558 00:29:22,559 --> 00:29:28,000 and it just was inspiring me so much to find 559 00:29:28,200 --> 00:29:32,200 a passion like she has. Yes, right, Like that's kind 560 00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:35,079 of maybe the point that people are missing where it's like, oh, 561 00:29:35,119 --> 00:29:37,559 she's so unrelatable, like I could never start my own 562 00:29:37,559 --> 00:29:39,720 brand or whatever. But it's like that's not the point. 563 00:29:39,839 --> 00:29:42,160 And what I love about her brand too is that 564 00:29:42,599 --> 00:29:45,559 it's so her, Like she did such a great job 565 00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:49,039 of like making a brand that really you can just 566 00:29:49,079 --> 00:29:52,240 tell that it's like very much like things that she's 567 00:29:52,279 --> 00:29:54,440 been so passionate about for so long, where I feel 568 00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,400 like some people they start a business, but it's like, oh, 569 00:29:57,160 --> 00:29:59,839 it just kind of was like a random business that 570 00:29:59,839 --> 00:30:02,480 they started up that didn't really have any meaning to them. 571 00:30:02,519 --> 00:30:04,799 So for me, I feel like I'm still trying to 572 00:30:04,920 --> 00:30:07,279 discover that for myself of like what do I want 573 00:30:07,319 --> 00:30:10,960 to start that I feel like identifies me as a person, 574 00:30:11,079 --> 00:30:13,880 what my passions are, and what I truly love because 575 00:30:13,880 --> 00:30:16,920 I think when you see someone again have so much 576 00:30:16,960 --> 00:30:20,759 passion towards something, that's what becomes successful and that's what 577 00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:23,319 like it's just I don't know and something that, like 578 00:30:23,359 --> 00:30:28,319 you said, is so her like that's inspiring. Yes, I agree, 579 00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:31,519 I agree, very very inspiring. Anyways, we're truly just inspired 580 00:30:31,559 --> 00:30:33,799 by so many women that we follow on social media. 581 00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:36,400 Another thing that I can think about in my environment 582 00:30:36,480 --> 00:30:39,000 of someone that motivates me or inspires me is Dad. 583 00:30:39,119 --> 00:30:43,559 Like I see Dad as a huge, you know, motivator 584 00:30:43,720 --> 00:30:46,240 or someone that's just always been very successful and someone 585 00:30:46,240 --> 00:30:49,119 that I've always admired at his hard work and like 586 00:30:49,640 --> 00:30:52,119 him starting his company when he did, and like now 587 00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:54,720 seeing his success with this new company that he's had, 588 00:30:55,079 --> 00:30:57,319 I don't know, I find it very inspiring for him, 589 00:30:57,599 --> 00:30:59,839 especially because like he's older and like he could to 590 00:31:00,319 --> 00:31:02,960 my dad could literally retire, but he continues to work, 591 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:06,319 and like his drive and his determination again inspires me. 592 00:31:06,480 --> 00:31:08,880 There's either people in your life or there's people that 593 00:31:08,960 --> 00:31:12,960 you follow that are going to really impact your success 594 00:31:13,039 --> 00:31:15,359 or drive or motivation. And like I feel like we 595 00:31:15,480 --> 00:31:18,759 follow these people for a reason, Like I love to 596 00:31:18,799 --> 00:31:22,119 follow people who inspire me, Like it's just it's something 597 00:31:22,160 --> 00:31:24,400 that I really really do look up to, and I 598 00:31:24,400 --> 00:31:27,920 feel like, again that's where it's creating the constant motivation 599 00:31:28,039 --> 00:31:30,759 and that drive it you want for yourself, for your 600 00:31:30,839 --> 00:31:34,640 future self and exactly, I think talking about this also 601 00:31:34,759 --> 00:31:37,839 kind of talks about like where is the final destination at, 602 00:31:37,880 --> 00:31:39,680 Like do you all of a sudden, like once you've 603 00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:41,920 reached that success point in your life, it's like, oh 604 00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:43,920 my god, this is it. I've reached a success Like 605 00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:47,519 I don't think success ever has an ending point, Like 606 00:31:47,559 --> 00:31:50,240 I think it doesn't every season in your life. I 607 00:31:50,240 --> 00:31:52,599 think there's always going to be something else that you 608 00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:54,599 want to succeed that in life, Like I know for 609 00:31:54,720 --> 00:31:57,519 sure I want to be hopefully a successful mother one 610 00:31:57,559 --> 00:32:00,640 day of just like being able to figure it out 611 00:32:00,680 --> 00:32:03,319 and like also be able to like still have my 612 00:32:03,400 --> 00:32:05,440 own life of like not just being a mom but 613 00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:07,119 also being like a business owner a mom, Like I 614 00:32:07,119 --> 00:32:08,960 want to be able to do like multiple things. And 615 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:10,799 I know that's going to be hard to figure out 616 00:32:10,839 --> 00:32:12,680 and not something I'm going to get right off the bat. 617 00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:14,839 I know that for a fact. But I know if 618 00:32:14,880 --> 00:32:17,839 I work hard and continue to like feel determined of 619 00:32:17,920 --> 00:32:20,240 wanting to be a mom and a business owner and 620 00:32:20,240 --> 00:32:22,680 an influencer, I know it's possible. But I have to 621 00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:26,640 have that drive in success. But I think it's good 622 00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,359 to know that, like I'm not done, Like I know 623 00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:31,759 I'm not done. I know I have more that I 624 00:32:31,799 --> 00:32:34,880 want to accomplish in life and a lot more things 625 00:32:34,920 --> 00:32:37,279 to be successful at. And I think that's what makes 626 00:32:37,319 --> 00:32:40,799 life exciting is knowing that there's never keep going, there's 627 00:32:40,920 --> 00:32:42,920 never a finish line. You can always find ways to 628 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:47,279 be successful, growing, evolving and adjusting. And I think it's 629 00:32:47,359 --> 00:32:51,400 important to remind yourself of that, Like there shouldn't ever 630 00:32:51,480 --> 00:32:53,960 be a point in your life where you're like, oh, 631 00:32:54,039 --> 00:32:57,920 well I've achieved everything. Yeah, that's that that should never happen, 632 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:01,880 Like you're always gonna have or goals, and like I 633 00:33:01,920 --> 00:33:06,240 feel like too, And I'm somebody who is victim of this. 634 00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:09,920 I feel like I have so many goals and I'm 635 00:33:09,960 --> 00:33:13,200 trying to accomplish them, whether it's all at once or 636 00:33:13,319 --> 00:33:17,039 just I'm almost like I'm trying to reach that final destination. 637 00:33:17,079 --> 00:33:19,000 I'm trying to reach a point in my life where 638 00:33:19,039 --> 00:33:22,960 I'm like, Okay, I've I've checked all the boxes, I'm satisfied, 639 00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:27,519 but that's never gonna happen, no, right, So, and also too, 640 00:33:27,599 --> 00:33:31,960 I think it's important to stop trying to just chase 641 00:33:32,000 --> 00:33:36,000 for that big one goal and start by, you know, 642 00:33:36,079 --> 00:33:40,160 doing little goals right and to that point. And like 643 00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:41,839 exactly for you right now, like when you were talking 644 00:33:41,839 --> 00:33:44,599 about like your dating life and like your career, it's like, yeah, 645 00:33:44,720 --> 00:33:47,279 maybe you're not at that success point you want right 646 00:33:47,319 --> 00:33:49,839 now for yourself, but it's like you're in this stage 647 00:33:49,839 --> 00:33:52,160 of like you're figuring it out right, exactly figuring out 648 00:33:52,559 --> 00:33:54,880 I feel like you've already started to make a list 649 00:33:54,920 --> 00:33:57,599 of like what you see in your ideal man, right Yeah, 650 00:33:57,720 --> 00:33:59,960 like you're taking the time of like enjoying your independence, 651 00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:03,440 but also exactly a plan of how you're going to 652 00:34:03,519 --> 00:34:06,920 get that successful man that you want for yourself. Well, 653 00:34:06,920 --> 00:34:09,199 and that's a perfect example. Like I feel like, for me, 654 00:34:09,880 --> 00:34:13,320 let's say the final destination is finding a husband, Well, 655 00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:16,599 the small goals I'm doing before that, and one thing 656 00:34:16,639 --> 00:34:20,000 I'm really working on right now is becoming the best 657 00:34:20,079 --> 00:34:23,599 version of myself so that whenever I do find my husband, 658 00:34:24,000 --> 00:34:26,960 I am giving him that best version of me. So 659 00:34:27,159 --> 00:34:29,840 I'm doing little things in my life right now to 660 00:34:29,920 --> 00:34:32,880 become the best version of myself. And so that's just 661 00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:34,920 kind of like an example. Yeah, I just wanted to 662 00:34:34,920 --> 00:34:39,199 create like different examples of dating, life, career, mother side, whatever. 663 00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:41,960 It is. Like, there's so many things that you can 664 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:44,199 be successful at and it doesn't just have to be 665 00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:48,039 like about money or about like tangible things. It could 666 00:34:48,119 --> 00:34:50,599 be just about things that you want for yourself. I 667 00:34:50,639 --> 00:34:54,840 think it's important that instead of because there is not 668 00:34:55,000 --> 00:34:58,440 necessarily a finish line. And I've seen this quote and 669 00:34:58,480 --> 00:35:01,400 I can't remember the exact quote, but it's something along 670 00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:05,719 the lines of focusing on the journey, not the final destination. 671 00:35:05,960 --> 00:35:08,519 I love it right because there is no final destination, 672 00:35:08,719 --> 00:35:13,880 and I think we lose that aspect of being present 673 00:35:14,599 --> 00:35:17,880 and just enjoying the now because we're so worried about 674 00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:21,000 what's the final destination, whether it's you know, finding a 675 00:35:21,039 --> 00:35:25,159 man or figuring out your job. Like you're so focused 676 00:35:25,159 --> 00:35:29,039 on that you're not being present in what you have now. 677 00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:31,760 And that's why I think creating, like I said, the 678 00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:33,840 little goals, like I feel like it helps you be 679 00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:36,320 more present because you're just you're focusing on the journey. 680 00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:38,519 And this is why we always talk about like doing 681 00:35:38,559 --> 00:35:41,360 monthly goals or we have goals for yourself because these 682 00:35:41,360 --> 00:35:43,599 little goals like might it makes a big difference. They 683 00:35:43,679 --> 00:35:45,480 might seem like, oh, this is just a joke, like 684 00:35:45,480 --> 00:35:47,840 why are we getting these little goals, But it's like, well, no, 685 00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,360 these little goals actually will add up to get you 686 00:35:50,400 --> 00:35:52,199 to that big goal that you go up for yourself. 687 00:35:52,199 --> 00:35:54,360 And I think that's why it's so important to always 688 00:35:54,800 --> 00:35:57,760 set goals for yourself because it motivates yourself. It creates 689 00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:01,639 just inspiration for yourself to become successful at these things 690 00:36:01,679 --> 00:36:03,599 and get to that big point. Think of it this way. 691 00:36:03,679 --> 00:36:08,199 The smallest goal of for example, waking up early in 692 00:36:08,239 --> 00:36:11,519 the morning instead of waking up at like six am 693 00:36:11,559 --> 00:36:14,559 instead of eight am, can make the biggest difference one 694 00:36:14,599 --> 00:36:17,880 hundred percent. It's the little things that make a huge impact. Well, 695 00:36:17,880 --> 00:36:20,360 that is today's episode. I feel like we kind of 696 00:36:20,440 --> 00:36:23,119 hit a lot of different points about success and how 697 00:36:23,280 --> 00:36:26,079 it's okay to start off with being embarrassed or awkward 698 00:36:26,159 --> 00:36:28,880 or cringe and realize that you get to that point 699 00:36:28,880 --> 00:36:31,159 in your life that you really wanted for yourself. But 700 00:36:31,199 --> 00:36:32,960 I hope you guys really enjoyed this episode. I know 701 00:36:33,039 --> 00:36:35,760 we both enjoyed talking about it. But if you're new, 702 00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,079 definitely make sure to follow us at the Hawkrow Energy 703 00:36:38,119 --> 00:36:40,639 Instagram page. You can also follow me the host, Kaylee. 704 00:36:40,679 --> 00:36:43,599 I'm on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. But I love you 705 00:36:43,599 --> 00:36:45,559 guys allso much. Thanks for listening, and I will see 706 00:36:45,559 --> 00:36:58,760 you guys in next week's episode.