Speaker 1: Hello you guys, Welcome back to another episode of the
Hawkerel Energy Podcast. I'm your host, Kayleie, and this is
your weekly reminder that it's a new day, a new week,
a new mindset, and another day for you to become
the hawkeral energy you want to attract. Hello you guys,
welcome back to another episode. I did not record last week.
I was trying to transition the podcast to a new
platform and unfortunately it did not work. So now I
do hire an expert to figure it out. So we're
still on the current platform. But I actually talked to
a few of my podcast friends who are dealing with
the same issue, which a lot of you have told
me about the ads being louder than the microphone. Apparently
it's a very common issue with a lot of other podcasters,
and unfortunately, like there's not really much we can do.
The platform for some reason, just hasn't adjusted their volume
for the ads. I thought it was me and like
my microphone, but apparently it's not. Apparently it's like a
common thing. So anyways, I just wanted to address that
because I know some of you guys have said some
things about the mic stuff, but it's not the mic
it's actually the platform of the ads, and unfortunately I
can't do anything on my end, but I am trying
to transition to a new platform in hopes that the
ads will be more quiet and you guys don't have
to have it blaring in your ear. But other than that,
we're gonna have a good episode today. I actually have
my sister here. We are recording a podcast episode together. Hello,
she is back. We have not recorded an episode together
in such a long time. I think the last time
we recorded one was maybe Costa Rica post coost Rica.
Oh yeah, which would have been in January. Oh wow,
and we're starting four weeks ago. We're starting in May
this Friday. Guys, how is it May? Oh my god,
it's crazy. It's cool crazy. The weather is just starting
to become so nice. I mean, we have had a
few like rainy days. April's definitely been very, very rainy,
but the sun is out earlier, it's like brighter, Like
you can just feel the change and energy. The energy
is so good. It's so good. Like between now and
like the beginning of April, it's been like night and day. Yeah,
like no, our mood has been like so much better.
I feel like my energy on the podcast too, people
can just tell that it's like, wow, we're out of yeah,
the worst parts of the seasons. It's like the best part. Yeah,
it's finally the best part. So we're very, very excited
to be entering May. May is usually a really good
month for us for weatherwise. So we've had a few
nice days where we've been actually able to tan outside,
which is wild. I don't remember the last time I
was able to tan in April. Days that like literally
feel like it's mid June, mid July, Like it just
literally feels like a summer day. And I could you
not Like we and Kaalie are both just like the
happiest ever too. Yeah, we are just a little bit
of those days feel so good. Yeah, we have been
on a high these past few weeks of just having
nice weather and it feels so great. For today's episode,
we really wanted to talk about success and how we
get to that point in our life where we feel
like we've reached the successful point that we wanted to reach.
But we all start from somewhere. We all start from
a point where we kind of feel cringe or embarrassed
or awkward. But I think the whole point of being
embarrassing or being cringe or being awkward is because we
all start from somewhere and eventually we get to the
point where we're the blueprint and we're the success that
we wanted to be for ourselves. So we kind of
wanted to chat about some things that you can do
if you're in this phase in your life where you
are trying to figure out your life or your career,
or your passions or your hobbies and you don't know
where to start in terms of becoming six scessful at it.
We're going to kind of chat about from the start
to the end of how you can become a very
successful person in becoming the version of yourself that you
strive to become. Okay, So we're going to just start
off with a blank question because I feel like my
sister and I can definitely relate on this in the
sense where we have different ways of success. Yeah, but
it's because we're in two different phases in our life
as well, and we also have very big differences just
kind of like very different passions and strengths. But I
think we're both very successful in different ways. Okay, So
I'm going to ask us a question, She'll ask it
to me after the fact, or I'll just say my
response after the fact. But what are cringe moments that
we had that you felt embarrassed in the moment? Like,
is there anything that you can think of that was
embarrassing that you did that you may have learned from,
or something that you're still working towards and something that
you hope to be successful at one at one point
in your life, Like, is there anything that you can
think of? Well, I think a few things come to
mind in terms of a career change. I actually so
prior to my job now, I was doing my masters,
and after I finished my masters, I had no idea
what I wanted to do. And even though this is
something that everybody experiences, and I wouldn't say it's necessarily
something that's cringe or embarrassing, but something that is hard
and something that not a lot of people talk about
and that can actually help you grow. Is that period
in your life where you have no job and you're
like looking for a job, and I guess it is
a little embarrassing in a way because it's like, oh,
I'm unemployed, right, And it can be really really difficult
to also navigate what it is you want to do,
Like you see so many people who well not saying
that everybody has their shit together, but like you may
think that everybody has their shit together, and like you don't.
And yeah, so I feel like that was definitely maybe
like a little bit of a cringe period or embarrassing
period of my life. But I actually learned so much
about myself and so much about what it is I
want to do and like where I want my career
to take me, and not saying even the career I'm
in now is something I'm insanely passionate about or something
that I want to do for the rest of my life.
But I figured it out and it really did help
me grow, and not necessarily on the career side of things,
but also when it comes to dating, I feel like
it can be really really cringe to be on the
dating apps, and just like dating in general, and like
first dates are always so awkward, and yeah, dating apps
can be embarrassing too, So yeah, I feel like that's
also something I'm navigating right now, and it's embarrassing, but
it's also like how else am I supposed to meet
a husband? Right and I want to get married I
want to have kids, and that's kind of the only
way to go about it, right. You know, it's possible
to meet people organically, but it also is very difficult.
So yeah, I feel like those are some things that
I feel like I've felt embarrassed about. But dating has
also taught me a lot, like dating other people has
helped me realize what I like, what I don't like,
And yeah, I'm still it's still something I'm navigating, but
I would say those are some things that I guess
we're like cringe moments or embarrassing things. Yeah, and like
to build off of that, I can kind of see
it in a situation where like how you felt embarrassed
or cringe when you know you're with your girlfriends and
you're out dinner and they're like, oh my god, so
like let's catch up. How's life And then it's like, oh,
like so, what are you doing for work now? And
it's like, oh, I'm currently unemployed. Like it almost like
feels like you're losing confidence in yourself or like people
always asking like, oh, did you find a job yet?
Did you find a job, and it's like no, like
it took me, Like I want to say six months,
which is even on like the faster end, like yes,
the job market is so so difficult and yeah yeah,
And I think even like same thing with dating, like
oh my god, are you seeing someone? Like no, And
again it's kind of like you feel like you lose
confidence in yourself when you say that. But at the
same time, I feel like, as you said, like giving
this time for yourself and almost like changing your perspective
of being like this is my moment of independence and
realizing like, Okay, I'm taking my time to realize what
I want for myself. Who do I want in my life?
What kind of man do I see myself marrying? Like
you're not rushing into something that you think, Oh, like
I just want to be with someone because I want
to say that I have a blue friend or I
have a husband or whatever. I really really like what
you said about changing the perspective of it, where instead
of being like, oh, I don't have my shit together,
like I don't have anything figured out, I don't have
a job, I don't have a boyfriend, it's like, well,
now I get to pick whatever I want. I get
to pick whatever career it is I want. I get
to pick whatever guy it is, I want like you
have full full control in your life. See it in
that way, I completely change the perspective of it. It's
all about the perspective. And same thing with the career.
As you said, it gives you time to actually like
follow through on the job that you want instead of
just rushing into something because you wanted to make a
lot of money. If you have the opportunity to take
some time off financially, to spend a month or two
to figure out, Okay, what are my passions, what are
my strengths, What do I actually want to put my
full energy towards in a career for myself? Like when
you're able to do that, that's such a blessing. And
again all about the mindset shift, all about the perspective
shift of like, I am doing this for myself because
in the long run, it's going to be worth it
because I'm going to see more success out of it
because I'm going to actually love what I do. Or
again finding the person that you want for yourself because
you're actually gonna probably end up being with this person
for a longer period of time because you realize what
you wanted in a person. And also to going back
to kind of like the embarrassing part of it, like
you know, not having a boyfriend or not having a job,
and like feeling like people are judging you for that.
That's literally what's holding you back by letting people like
you shouldn't care about what other people think. Now, if
having no job right now is what makes you happy
because you haven't found your passion, stay unemployed, you know,
I think it's so important to not rush into something.
You know, I get it that obviously, you know, financial
you need money things like that, but also too, I
think it's important to not rush into something that doesn't
feel right or seeing in a job. You know. Another
great example, not necessarily something that's happened to me, but
I know maybe people could relate to is being in
an awful job and wanting to quit, but you're too embarrassed. Yeah, right,
Like that's another thing you're too embarrassed to quit, or
you know, you're you're too worried about what's going to
happen next if you can find another job, which are
all understandable reasons, but I also think too, it's important
to follow what makes you happy, and like it sounds
kind of cheesy to say it, but like follow your gut, Like,
if your gut's telling you this is not what I
want to do, you should definitely follow it one hundred percent.
And to build off that point, if you think about
when you are in a job where it's like you
hate and like you're too embarrassed or too uncomfortable to quit,
or it's because you're too comfortable, Yeah, you're too comfortable
with wanting to just stay because it's like, Okay, well
you know I make good money. It's too familiar. It's
you know, I've been with the same people for a
long period of time, and like I've built a routine
around that, So I'm just going to stay because like
this is where my comfort spot is. Well, you can't
grow if exactly want to change. And it's the same
with dating, Like some people may be staying in relationships
because it's familiar, because it's comfortable, but they know deep
down in their gut, yeah, this is not my person.
But they don't want to be single because it's cringe,
it's embarrassing. When you'll actually gain more out of being single,
and you'll learn way more about yourself and in the
long run, actually end up being more successful because you
end up finding that person that is the right fit,
is your person, is the one that you had dreamed
about forever. This whole like comfortable conversation is something that
I feel like I'm going through currently. I feel like
last year I turned twenty nine, it was my first
year married. You know, Zach and I were looking for
a new house whatever. I felt like I was in
this period of time in my life where I'm like, Okay,
I'm comfortable, but I'm also like trying to figure things
out for myself right like, I was doing different things whatever.
These past like six months, I have been probably the
most comfortable where I feel like I'm like, Okay, I
got the house figured out. You know, I turned thirty,
Like I feel like now I'm like, okay, what's next,
And like, yeah, when I get in that mindset, I
feel like I start to lose myself a bit. And
I'm starting to realize that it's because oh, you're too comfortable.
You need to make a change, and in order to change,
you need to grow as a person. And so that's
why I feel like, this is why I feel like, Okay,
I'm ready to take on motherhood and I'm ready to
take on like this next phase of my life because
I can tell that I'm getting too comfortable with where
I'm at now, and even those changes scary. I also
think like in order to be successful and like see
the success that you want in yourself, I think it
needs to change. It's important to make that change and
figure out, Okay, what is that change for yourself? Well,
and even for me too. I've feel like I can
relate to that as well. With even my own job
that I have currently, I feel like day to day
I'm starting to feel a bit too comfortable, and I
am wanting that change. I am wanting to grow and
whether it may not necessarily be within my job, but
within life as a whole, and I still haven't figured
that out, sort of like that missing puzzle piece, and
I'm excited about figuring that out. So, if you're in
a place in your life where you feel like you've
been in like a comfort zone and you feel like
there's like something that you feel like is missing or
something that you are thinking about, but like are too
scared to jump to that conclusion, whether it's like getting
back in the dating world, you know, going into motherhood
or parenthood, wanting to do a major career change, like
when you realize that you're too comfortable when you're in
this situation. That is the sign where it's like, Okay,
I'm ready for my next chapter. I'm ready for this
next era of myself. And it's honestly when you feel
like something is missing, at least for me. Yes, I've
felt these past few weeks. I'm like, Okay, something is missing,
Like what is it that's missing? And like I said,
I still haven't figured that out, and that's okay, and
I'm excited to figure that out. As I was saying,
I feel like there's a missing piece, a missing puzzle piece,
and I haven't figured that out yet, and that's okay.
And I'm learning right now and trying to navigate what
that missing piece is. And it could just be something
as simple as starting a new habit in my life,
Like I am really trying to figure out, okay, what
makes me happy? What is something I'm passionate about. And
it doesn't necessarily have to be my career, but I
can find something that I can integrate into my life
so easily that you know, brings me joy, whether it's
you know, posting online like I've been posting more tiktoks
online or I don't know, just like certain things, yeah
that I feel like could be small in life that
you can just integrate. Madison just keeps going and going.
I'm like, okay, we're just gonna cut it off here
because she's like, I gotta keep talking. I'm like, no,
you don't. You can just cut it off there. Done
this in a while. Clearly, I love it. I love
it speaking about like you posting on TikTok consistently. I
think that's great because I know you love social media
just as much as I love social media, and I
think maybe like also seeing me in this influencer space,
it may have like inspired you where yeah, oh look
at her, like she's getting pr she's getting work opportunities,
Like Okay, maybe this can allow me to have a
little bit of something similar to that in my life,
if that's something that you're passionate about. But I guess
that kind of brings me back to the question of, like,
what's a cringe moment that I've had in my life.
I feel like was embarrassing that I grew from was
obviously posting on social media like that was a huge
thing for me when I was twenty one. I found
a love for twenty one twenty one. Well, no, no, no,
it was twenty five. Oh when I started, I was
gonna say, I thought it was twenty five. Twenty one
was when I like kind of fell in love with YouTube. Yeah, YouTubers,
like kind of like falling in love with the influencer space.
And you know the story I was in Paris was
Zach and I literally brought his brother's camera to vlog.
I took one video of myself and I literally in
that moment I played the clip, I looked at myself.
I said, oh my god, I am awful. And I
don't even hold them about Dominican and that video. You
I forgot about that Baily when she was were you
twenty This is wait, this is twenty sixteen. This is
the what's your face? What was that phase that we
had the Alexis Wren and Jay. Yes, the music, the
esthetic video, It's okay, let's talk about that. That was
the story, the vibe. Anyways, we go on this trip,
like we would always go on family trips, and I
think Zach came. I don't know, No, we weren't even dating this, No,
no way, I don't think we were dating. You were
definitely dating Kilee. I was sixteen and twenty sixteen. Oh okay,
then yeah, we started dating Zach when I was like
three year right, we were dating. I don't know if
he was there or not. He was like he wasn't
there something I don't know. Anyways, Kaylee decides she wants
to make a video, an aesthetic an esthetic video, and
like just picture the music is like that Alexis wren
Jay like that. I don't even know how to describe
that kind of music. Hecky, yeah, like I don't know,
twenty sixteen vibe. But it was not giving. If I'm
not giving, I'm talking like footage under the water, like
of us swimming with fish, talking like panoramic view of
the palm trees, remember me walking in the trails like
it was just awful. Everything about it was not giving.
Alexis ren Or you did not make YouTube. Well, just
let's say I think I've deleted it. I've actually deleted
it from my memory, and then you just wrote it
back up. I always bring it up in case she forgets. Yeah,
I mean we used to record YouTube videos when Justin
Bieber had THO. We'd like, oh yeah, lyric videos or
singing videos Dan sing videos obviously, like filming has always
just been a part of our We used to actually
have like a photo booth camera in our office that
we used to use. And like, I was like, never
a singer, but like I you thought you were, well,
I wanted to know, you know, when you just I'm
sure people can relate to this, when you just want
to know if you're a good singer or not. I
used to record myself singing yeah, and I would listen
to it back and I'd be like, yeah, I'm not
a good singer. Yeah, I've discovered that this is not
my passion. Okay, you figure it out. But anyways, the
point is that I've always had this passion for filming,
and so I never really took it seriously until twenty
twenty five. And I feel like there was a switch
where I just almost didn't care what I looked like
or didn't care what other people thought. But again in
the beginning, I was embarrassed I didn't follow through with it.
I decided to just like not do it anymore. And
then I was like, you know what, No, I do
really love this. I'm just going to try and do
it I have to change my perspective of like, Okay,
don't care what you look like, don't care what other
people think. If you love it, then keep doing it
and see where you get out of it. And that's
kind of where it comes into the play of like
being consistent at something, and that's where success comes at
it because I consistently posted for two years and like
every single day I'd show up, i'd take out my iPhone,
i'd film footage, I'd post it hard, which is really
hard to consistently show up. And that's where the success
became a thing because I didn't stop. I kept going.
But I also think too, when it's something that you're
passionate about and something you really really want, you're like
excited to do it, whether it's every single day or consistently,
like you you want to sh show up every single
day because it's something that you're so passionate about, and
it goes to show that like my confidence didn't just
like it didn't just come out of nowhere. I think
because I was so passionate about this and was so
in love with filming and influencing and all that it
just like I proved myself over time that it's like, no,
I am good at this. Eventually I realized that I'm like, no,
this is something I love. This is something I'm good at.
And that's how you kind of build the confidence of like,
I don't care what people think. I'm just gonna keep
doing and keep doing it. And that's kind of like
how it got built. And also too, I think it's
important to remember, like not to compare yourselves to other people, like,
especially when it comes to influencing, to people who have
been in it for years and years and years. Like,
let's say you really want to become an influencer. It's
something you're super passionate about, but you film one video
and you're like, ough, this doesn't look like you know
the other influencers videos, They at one point started from
square one. Just because their videos now look amazing, asteatic
and whatever in yours do don't. That doesn't mean you
can't get there, exactly, and you shouldn't stop posting if
it's something you're incredibly passionate about because oh my videos
look bad. They don't look like so and So's videos
or whatever. Yeah, so true. They all start from somewhere.
Yeah exactly. I want to talk about a recent thing
that people have been talking about all over social media
that just kind of goes hand in hand with this
conversation about you know, being successful and like starting somewhere
and getting to the point where you were. If you
guys are on TikTok, I'm sure you guys know acquired style.
She's a twin and she recently was on her baucherette trip,
and the entire bachelorette trip was sponsored by a beauty
brand called Swan Beauty, which no one has ever heard of,
yea until this bacherette trip, which is wild. I was like,
I literally called Kale. I was like, have you heard
of this friendly? Yeah, I've never used this brand? Right,
And then this brand gave her a private jet, they
paid for her entire villa for her bacherette. Yeah, they
did everything like beach clubs and itinerary for them, Like
everything was covered and so she got ripped apart in
the mine for like, this is such a like she's
just trying to flex because she's an influencer and she's
rich or like this is not relatable whatsoever. This is
like super out of touch and like I totally get it.
It is very out of touch, Like getting it die
relatable and not relatable, getting that villa whatever. But I
think it also goes to show that, like she's an
influencer that started from a point in her life where
she was just posting photos and like it wasn't really
a big influencer at all at the time. Like she
grew her platform over the past few years to become
very successful at it. And I think this trip for
her and my eyes was like, this is what I've
worked hard for the past five years for, is that
I was able to get the opportunity of a brand
to sponsor my baucherette because I worked my freaking ass
off these past five years to grow my audience, to
grow my platform. And it wasn't to like show off,
It was more so to show that like what her
work was able to provide her was something that she
worked really hard towards. And I find that inspiring for myself,
like seeing that, like as an influencer who you know,
follows other influencers who are really successful at what they do,
Like I see that in my eyes as like, wow,
that's very well deserved, Like she deserves that because she's
worked her freaking ass off to get to that point,
and also too, I feel like people have to remember
that success looks different for everything. Yes, so that was
success for her because of where she is in her career.
And once again to also point out, like I just
said before, she started from somewhere. She started from square one,
and she built her way to this point and that's
what success in her life now looks for her. So
doesn't mean that it's the same success for you, because
it's obviously not. Like Kaylie said, it's not something that
is relatable to every single person. And just because that's
not what success looks like for you, doesn't mean that's
not something you can achieve. Yeah, And like, if you
feel indifferent about that situation, that's totally fine. As Madison said,
success looks different for everyone. If you have a goal
in your life that you want to be successful at
and it's not something like what I went through, that
is totally okay. We all have different views and versions
of how we want our success to look like. Yeah,
and I think that's very much okay to like not
feel okay with like what happened. But like, I also
don't think like shaming women online about like something that
they've wanted for themselves, is okay, Like I think we
should be supporting other women. I'm all about supporting women
and supporting their wants in life and their successful moments
in life. And I feel like that was a moment
where it's like she wanted that for herself. You could
tell that's what she wanted, and seeing other women tear
her down was like kind of sad. So it's like, well,
for you, that might not be something that you wanted
for your success or like maybe it's jealousy. I know,
I like, let her live this successful moment in her
life she's proud of. You can clearly tell she was
very beyond Arybaul and like you can just tell that
it was her emotions were so real of like this
is trulya pinchery moment on like she was shocked that
she like was a opportunity like this. But she also
made it clear that it's like she wouldn't have been
there without her followers or just her powers to get
her there. So that's probably an influencer that I like
love to follow and like I'm very inspired by for myself.
So anyways, I just wanted to add that in because
I think it's like kind of a recent thing that
people have been talking about on TikTok that's like a
recent success for her specifically of being in the influencing industry.
And like, I think you following people on social media
or like what you consume on a daily basis, whether
it's like someone in your life that's maybe a business
owner or your boss or maybe a friend, Like I
think what really matters is the environment that you put
yourself in and what you consume. And that's something for
me that I see as motivation. Like I love to
follow business owners on social media. I love to follow
other influencers like Bridget who went on this insane trip
you know that a brand covered, Like I love to
follow women that I truly think are visions of like
how I admire myself for success, Like how do I
see my success in people's eyes? And like following business
owners for an example, I would love to own my
own business one day. And when I see these girls
thriving at their business and just being so successful at
their company, I'm like, this is what I want for myself.
So I love to consume that because it creates motivation
for myself to like want to succeed in that field
for myself. Well, and I also think it's important, like
you've just said, to change that perspective instead of being like,
oh my god, she has all this Like that's so unrelatable,
be inspired, Like I don't know for me personally, Like
I follow so many influencers that I cannot relate to.
But I like that, you know, I like that I
can't relate to them because it's something that I strive
to become, Like I see them as, like you said,
instead of seeing it as like jealousy, see it as
a motivation, see it as something that you want to
become or you want to strive towards. Like there's so
many influencers I follow, and the reason I follow them
is because I'm so inspired by them, and even if
it's in like completely different aspects. Like for example, an
influencer I love is Page Loree. Yes, that's just what
I love her. And let's talk about that for a second.
She is a tennis wife, so her fiance is a
professional tennis player. Yes, not right there, very unrelatable. He
owns a very successful business, again something that people really
strive for. But it's not easy to have a very
successful business that she has she owns a beautiful house.
She has I think two houses, to be honest, like
lives a very different life, and we both love to
follow her because they're so inspired by her. And I
was just about to say, it's not even about what
she specifically, because it's like, I mean not saying this
is something I would ever be passionate about, but I
wouldn't say right now, I'm passionate about starting a brand.
But what inspires me is her passion for her brand, Yes,
if that makes any sense, Like she has a passion
and that's what inspires me to find something. I just
watch her YouTube video this morning at her new flagship store,
and it just was inspiring me so much to find
a passion like she has. Yes, right, Like that's kind
of maybe the point that people are missing where it's like, oh,
she's so unrelatable, like I could never start my own
brand or whatever. But it's like that's not the point.
And what I love about her brand too is that
it's so her, Like she did such a great job
of like making a brand that really you can just
tell that it's like very much like things that she's
been so passionate about for so long, where I feel
like some people they start a business, but it's like, oh,
it just kind of was like a random business that
they started up that didn't really have any meaning to them.
So for me, I feel like I'm still trying to
discover that for myself of like what do I want
to start that I feel like identifies me as a person,
what my passions are, and what I truly love because
I think when you see someone again have so much
passion towards something, that's what becomes successful and that's what
like it's just I don't know and something that, like
you said, is so her like that's inspiring. Yes, I agree,
I agree, very very inspiring. Anyways, we're truly just inspired
by so many women that we follow on social media.
Another thing that I can think about in my environment
of someone that motivates me or inspires me is Dad.
Like I see Dad as a huge, you know, motivator
or someone that's just always been very successful and someone
that I've always admired at his hard work and like
him starting his company when he did, and like now
seeing his success with this new company that he's had,
I don't know, I find it very inspiring for him,
especially because like he's older and like he could to
my dad could literally retire, but he continues to work,
and like his drive and his determination again inspires me.
There's either people in your life or there's people that
you follow that are going to really impact your success
or drive or motivation. And like I feel like we
follow these people for a reason, Like I love to
follow people who inspire me, Like it's just it's something
that I really really do look up to, and I
feel like, again that's where it's creating the constant motivation
and that drive it you want for yourself, for your
future self and exactly, I think talking about this also
kind of talks about like where is the final destination at,
Like do you all of a sudden, like once you've
reached that success point in your life, it's like, oh
my god, this is it. I've reached a success Like
I don't think success ever has an ending point, Like
I think it doesn't every season in your life. I
think there's always going to be something else that you
want to succeed that in life, Like I know for
sure I want to be hopefully a successful mother one
day of just like being able to figure it out
and like also be able to like still have my
own life of like not just being a mom but
also being like a business owner a mom, Like I
want to be able to do like multiple things. And
I know that's going to be hard to figure out
and not something I'm going to get right off the bat.
I know that for a fact. But I know if
I work hard and continue to like feel determined of
wanting to be a mom and a business owner and
an influencer, I know it's possible. But I have to
have that drive in success. But I think it's good
to know that, like I'm not done, Like I know
I'm not done. I know I have more that I
want to accomplish in life and a lot more things
to be successful at. And I think that's what makes
life exciting is knowing that there's never keep going, there's
never a finish line. You can always find ways to
be successful, growing, evolving and adjusting. And I think it's
important to remind yourself of that, Like there shouldn't ever
be a point in your life where you're like, oh,
well I've achieved everything. Yeah, that's that that should never happen,
Like you're always gonna have or goals, and like I
feel like too, And I'm somebody who is victim of this.
I feel like I have so many goals and I'm
trying to accomplish them, whether it's all at once or
just I'm almost like I'm trying to reach that final destination.
I'm trying to reach a point in my life where
I'm like, Okay, I've I've checked all the boxes, I'm satisfied,
but that's never gonna happen, no, right, So, and also too,
I think it's important to stop trying to just chase
for that big one goal and start by, you know,
doing little goals right and to that point. And like
exactly for you right now, like when you were talking
about like your dating life and like your career, it's like, yeah,
maybe you're not at that success point you want right
now for yourself, but it's like you're in this stage
of like you're figuring it out right, exactly figuring out
I feel like you've already started to make a list
of like what you see in your ideal man, right Yeah,
like you're taking the time of like enjoying your independence,
but also exactly a plan of how you're going to
get that successful man that you want for yourself. Well,
and that's a perfect example. Like I feel like, for me,
let's say the final destination is finding a husband, Well,
the small goals I'm doing before that, and one thing
I'm really working on right now is becoming the best
version of myself so that whenever I do find my husband,
I am giving him that best version of me. So
I'm doing little things in my life right now to
become the best version of myself. And so that's just
kind of like an example. Yeah, I just wanted to
create like different examples of dating, life, career, mother side, whatever.
It is. Like, there's so many things that you can
be successful at and it doesn't just have to be
like about money or about like tangible things. It could
be just about things that you want for yourself. I
think it's important that instead of because there is not
necessarily a finish line. And I've seen this quote and
I can't remember the exact quote, but it's something along
the lines of focusing on the journey, not the final destination.
I love it right because there is no final destination,
and I think we lose that aspect of being present
and just enjoying the now because we're so worried about
what's the final destination, whether it's you know, finding a
man or figuring out your job. Like you're so focused
on that you're not being present in what you have now.
And that's why I think creating, like I said, the
little goals, like I feel like it helps you be
more present because you're just you're focusing on the journey.
And this is why we always talk about like doing
monthly goals or we have goals for yourself because these
little goals like might it makes a big difference. They
might seem like, oh, this is just a joke, like
why are we getting these little goals, But it's like, well, no,
these little goals actually will add up to get you
to that big goal that you go up for yourself.
And I think that's why it's so important to always
set goals for yourself because it motivates yourself. It creates
just inspiration for yourself to become successful at these things
and get to that big point. Think of it this way.
The smallest goal of for example, waking up early in
the morning instead of waking up at like six am
instead of eight am, can make the biggest difference one
hundred percent. It's the little things that make a huge impact. Well,
that is today's episode. I feel like we kind of
hit a lot of different points about success and how
it's okay to start off with being embarrassed or awkward
or cringe and realize that you get to that point
in your life that you really wanted for yourself. But
I hope you guys really enjoyed this episode. I know
we both enjoyed talking about it. But if you're new,
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I'm on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube. But I love you
guys allso much. Thanks for listening, and I will see
you guys in next week's episode.