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Speaker 1: Tasha's Tasha's confession. I just recently had to tell myself.
Speaker 1: You are emotional mature like I have come a long
Speaker 1: long way. You know when you're changing and you're going
Speaker 1: through different stages in life. Sometimes you don't even realize
Speaker 1: how far you've come. And recently I've had a few
Speaker 1: incidents where I would have normally blown my top and
Speaker 1: really just really got that folks. But I just I
Speaker 1: don't have it in me anymore. It's just not where
Speaker 1: I am in life. And I had to realize that
Speaker 1: that's emotional maturity. Yes, emotional maturity. It's an amazing, beautiful feeling.
Speaker 1: And it's taken me, you know, to be sexy years old.
Speaker 1: It didn't come overnight. So I'm not pushing it like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: you need to get on board. No, no, no, I'm
Speaker 1: just super proud of myself and I wanted to share
Speaker 1: this episode with you on sometimes you know, emotionally we
Speaker 1: can be all over the place. We can just pop
Speaker 1: off and not think before we speak. My mom used
Speaker 1: to always say that, and I would look at her
Speaker 1: and just ranting and raving and just pissed off and
Speaker 1: angry about something and wanting to get at somebody about
Speaker 1: what they said or did to me. And it's just
Speaker 1: like I'm at that age, but nothing matters like that anymore.
Speaker 1: I'd rather just cut ties with you than they go
Speaker 1: back and forth or have to, you know, match your
Speaker 1: energy when it comes to being anger. If you're pissed
Speaker 1: at me or don't like something I've done, it just
Speaker 1: doesn't matter to me. You know, I'm not doing that. No,
Speaker 1: I'm in a good place. Baby, I am not doing that,
Speaker 1: and it feels so good. So this episode is titled
Speaker 1: the glow Up. No one talks about emotional maturity. That's
Speaker 1: I'm glowed up, baby, I'm glowed up. This is my
Speaker 1: glow up, my emotional maturity. So I'm not finna match
Speaker 1: energies with nobody. Recently, I've had folks like do things
Speaker 1: and say things that you know, I could have easily
Speaker 1: just torn them to pieces. The old me a couple
Speaker 1: of years ago, two years ago, three years ago, oh
Speaker 1: my god, I would have been just like sitting on
Speaker 1: ready to just go back and forth. But in today's world,
Speaker 1: my being sexy and my emotional maturity, that's just not
Speaker 1: where I'm at. I don't have anything to prove to anyone.
Speaker 1: I'm an amazing, amazing human being, amazing woman, and I
Speaker 1: always say I'm damn near perfect, and I really mean that.
Speaker 1: Everything about me is up front. I'm honest, I'm loyal,
Speaker 1: I'm loving, I'm caring. I will give you the shirt
Speaker 1: off my back. I will support you. I've been there
Speaker 1: for folks when I wasn't even there for myself, you understand.
Speaker 1: So no, I don't have anything to prove to anyone.
Speaker 1: But you know, folks want you to be and do
Speaker 1: and act according to what they want and need from you.
Speaker 1: And I no longer dance to those tunes of what
Speaker 1: you need and how I can show up? What am
Speaker 1: I going to give? What am I gonna do? I
Speaker 1: not doing that if it doesn't fit into my schedule
Speaker 1: and my life and what I'm going through not happening,
Speaker 1: And just don't care how someone takes that. You know,
Speaker 1: it's a that's for them to deal with, because I
Speaker 1: have to deal with what I want to deal with.
Speaker 1: And if I don't want to deal with you and
Speaker 1: any of your drama, I just won't. Okay, So let's
Speaker 1: get into this. Emotional mature individuals possesses the ability to understand, regulate,
Speaker 1: and appropriately express their emotions while empathizing with others, even
Speaker 1: under stress. It involves taking responsibility for reactions, setting healthy boundaries,
Speaker 1: managing conflict constructively. In seeking personal growth. Key signs include awareness, empathy,
Speaker 1: and resilience. Usage. Examples of emotional mature behavior conflict resolution,
Speaker 1: taking a breath to respond calmly rather than reacting immediately
Speaker 1: with anger, doing a disagreement, responsibility admitting when you are
Speaker 1: wrong and offering a sincere apology rather than blaming others.
Speaker 1: Empathy understanding that others have bad days and giving them
Speaker 1: the benefit of the doubt rather than taking things personally.
Speaker 1: Boundaries clearly communicating personal needs and expectations without manipulation. Growth
Speaker 1: mindset actively seeking out multiple points of view to learn
Speaker 1: rather than feeling threatened by opposing views. Synonymous and related concepts, resilient,
Speaker 1: self aware, emotionally intelligent, rational, level headed, empathetic, accountable, balance, stable.
Speaker 1: Key components of emotional maturity self regulation not letting emotions
Speaker 1: overpara logic and managing intense emotions like anger or anxiety.
Speaker 1: Self awareness understanding your own emotions and why you feel them.
Speaker 1: Responsibility letting ownership of your feelings and reactions I'm sorry,
Speaker 1: taking ownership of your feelings and reactions rather than blaming
Speaker 1: others for your state of mind. So those are some
Speaker 1: of the signs of emotional maturity. And I know rather
Speaker 1: than acting in anger, Oh my God, Like I said,
Speaker 1: some things have happened to me recently where my anger
Speaker 1: would have stepped in and taken over and I would
Speaker 1: have just whoo, I would have went left and it
Speaker 1: would have been so ugly. But I refuse to do that.
Speaker 1: I'm not in that headspace any longer. And that's why
Speaker 1: I said my glow up that no one talks about.
Speaker 1: I'm so freaking mature. I only wish my mom was
Speaker 1: able to see this side of me, and I'm sure
Speaker 1: she's able to, you know, from the other side see it.
Speaker 1: And I'm aware of understanding my emotions now. I've always
Speaker 1: respected the folks point of view of things. Everyone has
Speaker 1: a right to feel how they feel, and I respect that.
Speaker 1: But because I don't fit into what you're feeling or
Speaker 1: going through at the time, you're not gonna make me
Speaker 1: think I'm less than or I'm not the person in
Speaker 1: the amazing human being. I am. Like, that's not happening,
Speaker 1: And if we aren't getting along, it's okay to move
Speaker 1: things along and sever the tithes. It's okay it happens.
Speaker 1: I want to be happy, I want to be at
Speaker 1: peace and those are all the emotions I have. I
Speaker 1: don't owe a single human being. I don't owe anybody
Speaker 1: an explanation. I don't owe anybody an apology. I don't
Speaker 1: owe anyone anything. I owe myself everything. And finally, I
Speaker 1: am being there for me. And if that doesn't involve
Speaker 1: this and that and this person and that person, that's okay.
Speaker 1: I mean I go to sleep sleeping peacefully every single night,
Speaker 1: because again, I'm an amazing human being. I'm damn near perfect,
Speaker 1: and no one can take that from me, and no
Speaker 1: one can make me feel otherwise. So here's some signs
Speaker 1: of emotional maturity being flexible. It's all too easy to
Speaker 1: assume things will go according to plan, or that a
Speaker 1: situation or event will go smoothly because it has each
Speaker 1: time in the past. When it doesn't, and that is
Speaker 1: often when. Then if an emotional mature person is able
Speaker 1: to think things out and come up with a viable
Speaker 1: plan B or even C as needed, so that a
Speaker 1: situation can be dealt with and still move forward, not
Speaker 1: letting bump in the road run your entire plan, knowing
Speaker 1: that they don't know everything. An emotional mature person knows
Speaker 1: that they don't know and they also know that their
Speaker 1: own way of doing things may not be the only
Speaker 1: way or even the best way. They don't argue just
Speaker 1: to be right or to show dominance to be in charge.
Speaker 1: They keep an open mind and have open ears and
Speaker 1: eyes to look for situations where they may be able
Speaker 1: to learn something, as well as know when they may
Speaker 1: have something positive to contribute to a situation that can
Speaker 1: help others. They look for learning and growth from every opportunity.
Speaker 1: An emotional mature person is on the lookout for what
Speaker 1: can be learned from any situation or ear opportunity and
Speaker 1: searches for the growth opportunity within within it, asking how
Speaker 1: can I learn and grow from this? They stay resilient
Speaker 1: and the face of upset, setbacks, or disappointments, and emotional
Speaker 1: mature person will acknowledge their feelings, identify what can be done,
Speaker 1: and then decide what steps to take to move on.
Speaker 1: They believe in themselves. Emotional mature people don't have a
Speaker 1: false sense of self that is ego based and diluted,
Speaker 1: but they do have optimism and their own ability to
Speaker 1: use effort and patience as a way to establish the
Speaker 1: belief that they are equipped to deal with whatever life
Speaker 1: may throw their way. That's me approachability. Emotionally mature people
Speaker 1: are able to and prefer to talk with people, not
Speaker 1: at them. They have genuine, genuine empathy for others and
Speaker 1: open mind and work towards not being judgmental of others.
Speaker 1: Knowing that judgments are often based on preconceived notions can
Speaker 1: impede their ability to know someone in their truth. That's
Speaker 1: so true. They have a calm disposition. Emotionally mature people
Speaker 1: do get mad, but they do not let the emotion
Speaker 1: dictate their response. They aim to have a clear mind
Speaker 1: with the goal of having rationality dictate how to effectively
Speaker 1: deal with a situation and also see all of available
Speaker 1: options to come to a successful resolution. They know that
Speaker 1: when emotions override rationality, clearness of thoughts gets blurred and
Speaker 1: can limit the options for dealing effectively. Are y'all feeling this?
Speaker 1: Y'all feeling is? And that is all all of the
Speaker 1: good qualities and the signs of emotional maturity. Are you
Speaker 1: there yet? Are you there halfway there? Or you have
Speaker 1: yet to yet to reach the emotional maturity state? Like
Speaker 1: I said, a few things have happened, and there was
Speaker 1: something that happened when my sister called me and she
Speaker 1: was like, oh, I saw this, and I thought you
Speaker 1: were going to react like this. And when I saw
Speaker 1: that you had and I said, oh, I just don't.
Speaker 1: It's not in me any longer. She was like, I
Speaker 1: am so proud of you. I was like, yeah, And
Speaker 1: that was the day that I really had to take
Speaker 1: into consideration of how far I've come and being emotionally mature.
Speaker 1: Like I said, it doesn't come overnight. You won't recognize
Speaker 1: it right away. At least I hadn't. You know, I
Speaker 1: didn't recognize it right away, but it took time and
Speaker 1: time and time. You know, time is time. Time won't
Speaker 1: give us time, you know, But in time, all things
Speaker 1: will reveal itself. I know I'm amazing, And if you
Speaker 1: know you're amazing, don't allow people to make you feel
Speaker 1: bad about decisions you have to make for what's best
Speaker 1: in your life. Be emotion mature about everything, your decisions
Speaker 1: and dealing in how you deal with folks. But like
Speaker 1: I said, it comes in time, and everybody's time frame
Speaker 1: is different. I can't tell you that this has happen
Speaker 1: overnight or next week for you. I'm just sharing with
Speaker 1: you all what's happened to me and what I've come
Speaker 1: to realize that I am emotional mature, and I'm so
Speaker 1: grateful that I could say that out loud, like m
Speaker 1: you can't affect me the things that used to just
Speaker 1: make me pop off. No, I'm not there any longer. Babes,
Speaker 1: you got this, you can have that. But if worse
Speaker 1: come the worst, I'm getting that asked. Don't get me wrong,
Speaker 1: don't take it too far, but I'm not just gonna
Speaker 1: every little thing someone says that I don't agree with,
Speaker 1: and I know every little thing that I do that
Speaker 1: someone doesn't agree with. So that's just life. AnyWho, I
Speaker 1: hope you can take something from this episode. I hope
Speaker 1: something resonated with you. Maybe you can share with a friend.
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Speaker 1: I love you. I love you. I love you and
Speaker 1: if you've listened to the end of this episode, you
Speaker 1: are an amazing human being. And in case no one
Speaker 1: told you today, you are an amazing human being. You're special,
Speaker 1: you're loving, and you are enough. You're gorgeous, you're beautiful,
Speaker 1: you're handsome, You all that. Okay, Yes you are. Don't
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Speaker 1: Love your damn self. Surround yourself with nothing but love,
Speaker 1: and remember growth looks good on you, even if no
Speaker 1: one has told you so. Just feel it and just
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