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Speaker 1: Made a decision.

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Speaker 2: Face sunny sun on I had a vision, NiCoT.

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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, what's up for crying out loud?

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Speaker 3: It is?

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Speaker 1: It's Friday. It is Friday. Oh my god. So I

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just got back from the lake. The lake.

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Speaker 3: How was it?

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Speaker 1: I'll tell you next week, okay, yeah, because I want

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to save it. Yeah, okay, good saved the story. Late stories.

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You're gonna have tons Welcome back to FCL Lake Stories. Yeah,

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it's gonna be so much. I can't wait to hear

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about it. No, okay, truthfully, obviously we haven't gone yet

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cause it's Monday, but I hope this works out. Taking

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the dog, Oh yes, she'll be fine. I mean it's

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a pet friendly place, but like people's hasn't really traveled before.

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I haven't really had her at someone else's house. I mean,

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I'm sure that'll part'll be fine, but like, you know,

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we're gonna have to leave her there sometimes if we

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like go out to eat, leaving her in someone else's house, right, fine, Yeah,

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she'll be fine. Just make sure all the doors are locked. Yeah,

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I was like, you know, we have to make sure

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her collar doesn't fall off because she's in Is there

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any like people that come inside and leave things. Oh

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I don't think yeah, because what Tom, Well, I'll tell

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you all right. I remember, you know, Adam's friends with

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Kathy Griffin went to Groundlings together and she went on

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vacation with her Golden Retriever in Palm Springs and left

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the dog in the pet friendly hotel. But like the

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you know, the room service came or something left the

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gate open and there's a huge highway and the dog

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got out and got hit by a car and died. Yeah.

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I'll never forget. When I heard that story, I was

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like I had Molly at the time. I was like,

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oh my god, it makes me want to cry, Like, oh,

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I'm never taking Molly anywhere. Yeah, that's what I'm already

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and you know me, and I'm sorry. I'm like, okay,

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well sit with that now, just yead well. And so

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there's like a beach and the beach itself the lake

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beach you can't I don't think you can allow dogs.

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But they also have a dog beach, right, that's separate.

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But I'm like, yeah, but I'm not gonna I don't

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need to go sit on a lake beach, right, I'm

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not gonna wear put on a bathing suit and go

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like so the kids, and the kids are old enough

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that they can go to the beach by themselves. It's

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like a three minute walk or something from where we're staying.

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So like, you'll be fine, You'll be fine. Absolutely, Yeah,

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you're gonna have a great time. Yeah, did you have

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something to say?

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Speaker 2: No?

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Speaker 1: I think I feel like I was gonna say something

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about that, but no, Right, go ahead, Well let's say

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I to our peeves and then all right, complain about something,

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please do, Andy May Yeah, what do you want to

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complain about? Dude? All right, listen, this is silly, but

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you know, okay, I haven't really been on conference calls

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in a long time. Right right now, I'm getting on

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these conference conference calls with lawyers and stuff. You know,

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it's like accountants and lawyers and the forensics in this.

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And then can you talk on Monday? Can you talk

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on Wednesday?

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Speaker 3: Can you?

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Speaker 1: Can you everybody get on the phone at the same

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time on Friday? And then okay, then this is the

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thing I fucking hate. They give you the they give

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you the number to call in, right, and then they

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set up the conference call. They give you the number

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to call in. You call it then they give you

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the pin, right, get in hit and then they give

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the instructions. Their lawyers, they do it all the time,

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and the email hit this and then hit pound blah

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blah blah. Okay, they'll you know, you'll be announced into

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the conference call. I call the fucking thing, right, I

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call the number, and by the time I look down

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and get the pin, it's like, please try again, Like, bitch,

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give me a second here. What if I was an old,

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senile lady try to get on, you know, I like, yes,

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I mean, come on, and it's like please try and

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then and it gives you two tries and it goes goodbye.

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I like, fucking horror, Let me have a second here,

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give me a break. And then here's the other thing

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about like conference calls. It's uncomfortable, you know. Okay, sometimes

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you have a conference call and it's like the other

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side could be like Adam or whatever, and you don't

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want to get on too early because you know, me

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sitting on the phone at him, Oh yeah, you want

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to be fashionably late. Oh yeah, Like you just don't

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want to be too late. So that then they're in

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the mid conversation and it's like Lynette Corona just joined

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the call, and you're like, everyone, everybody's talking. Yeah, then

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they all that's the other thing. Then they all stop

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and then like, hey, how are you doing. It's good?

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can then they and then one of them talks, and

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then the other one talks, and then they both talk

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at the same time, and then they're both silent and

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just saying no, you know what I mean. So I

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just hate it because you're not a zoom now as

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opposed to on Monday. On Tuesday Show, we were discussing

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the fact that we don't ever want to be facetimed, right,

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and I still maintain that. But the good thing about

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a zoom as opposed to a conference call is you

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can see people. You can see when they're starting out

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to talk about to talk slight, yeah, and you can

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see when somebody's like gonna make a point, like you know,

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have no idea. Good God, it's so dreadful. You don't

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know who's talking. I know, I know, you can't hear them.

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I was just saying that if you put your money

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in there, like what, Alison, speak up? Can't hear you?

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This just happened the other day, Like we were on

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phone with Tony, our accountant, and his phone kept cutting out.

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the phone listening, and he's like every every third word,

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he sounds like he's underwater. And finally, like everybody's quiet,

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and then somebody finally pipes up and goes, uh, Tony,

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we can't hear you. But first you think it's your phone.

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like Tony, is something's wrong with your phone, because you're like, well,

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maybe it's my caybe, it's my connection. That's what I

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was thinking. It's the I just it's so uncomfortable. But

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I'm on these conference calls all the time and I

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just want to kill myself. And then the worst is

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when the kids come around and they're like, hey, I

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want and I'm like trying to mute it, like sheats,

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I'm on the phone and it's oh my God. The

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other day, I was outside, sitting outside. I'm trying to

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get some sun. I'm on a conference call. I'm like,

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I'm just gonna sit in the sun and get some sun.

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Natalia comes home from volleyball. She opens the door starts yelling, Mom, Mom,

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me and Katie are gonna sit by the poll. You

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gotta get out of here while we're coming right now

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to sitbody the I'm like, bitch, I'm on the phone,

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first of all. Second of all, it's my house. If

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I want to sit out here, you go sit somewhere,

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you little charmuda. I go sit in the corner. There's

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plenty of room out here. Mom. Do you have to

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be outside? You have to be I'm like, I'm only

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out here for half an hour. Give me a break. Dario. Anyway, Hey, Kaylen, Hello,

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you know what I Hey, you're on conference calls.

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Speaker 3: I am y, I do conference call?

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Speaker 1: Am? I right, yes, you are.

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Speaker 3: They you can be incredibly frustrating.

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Speaker 1: And they're on kinds of uncomfortable.

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Speaker 3: Oh yeah, they're definitely uncomfortable, especially like when they're talking

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over one another, yes you said, and they just keep

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doing it over and over again.

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Speaker 1: It's it gets or you're the one that's talking over

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the other person, and then you don't know every time

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you do the wrong time it happens all the time.

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a conference call and this happens on AD calls sometimes, right, Kaylen,

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you'll know what I'm talking about. You're on an AD

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call and there's always somebody that has to be like

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an apple shiner. Yeah you know, yeah, and you're like,

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this could have been wrapped up so long ago, but

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there's somebody that really wants to show that they're like enthusiastic.

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there's no fucking questions. We have copy, we know exactly

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what to do. But somebody's like, well, I just want

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to say that I really like this product, and you're like,

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I know, yeah, yes, yes, yes, I hate that. Oh

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I got We were wrapping up the other day and

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then just kept going. Finally two people dropped off. I

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can't drop off because I'm the main person that they

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got to. So I got to sit there and let

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they're talking about shit I don't need to hear, and

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I got to sit there. We were wrapped up an

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hour and a half later and I'm just like, oh

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my god, like somebody's trying to get a raise. Oh

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my god. I know you're like, relax, relax, you already

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got the gig. Yeah you know him, Like you say,

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can I you too? Can just talk all yeah? Yeah,

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you get out and do have a separate Yeah, you

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can just call each other back bye bye. Please try

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your call again. That's the worst though, the pen thing. Man,

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it doesn't give you enough time. I don't know, is

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know if you're looking at your phone. I hate that

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you have to then write all the information on a

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separate piece of paper so that otherwise it clicks. You

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with that. That's why they think kept going like please

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try to get like, did like looking on my phone?

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Then I go back? Did next? Next? New number? It

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should just be a link? Yes, yes, But then the

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a link, then you're in a Google hangout all then

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wasn't expecting this, right, right now, it's intrusive again, like

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realize you come on and I'll do these calls sometimes

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be on camera because it's just easier to so I

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don't have to write down all to do all the members.

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light with me, so I'm just at my computer or

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just like I'm just like, yes, yes, this dark shadow

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person that's like hello, yes, fucking technology, man, geez, I'm

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so far behind. Oh first try.

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Speaker 1: We were we were recording little Peak Peak behind the Curtain.

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We were recording Patreon right, which was really good. It

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was really juicy. I loved it, loved it. I'm not

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trying to like make you guys join up, but we

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there are there are topics that we just cannot cover

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on the regular show because people can't keep their mouths

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shut right. Sometimes we have to do them on patreonaf

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different audience and the show week. We could have never

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our Patreon this week. We could have never done it

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on a regular show. No, because it's stuff we get

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in trouble for talking about. But I but one of

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the questions that we got that we thought was a

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good question that we were like, this could be answered

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on the regular show. Okay, So I'm going to reread

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the question because anybody who's not on Patreon didn't hear

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the beginning of it. Okay, So Amy Donnelly wrote to us,

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dear Rose Rosemne, did she really say that? Okay? I

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would love I would I love that, Amy Donaldy.

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Speaker 1: Mister Richard Frander from Fourtran, New Jersey writes in dear

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Rosanna Dana Hey, doctor Joyce brothers like that smid fall

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off your nose? What are you trying to do? And

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make me sick?

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Speaker 1: Don't get me something I'm struggling with and the wondering

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if you ladies do too, comparing my kids to their

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peers and wondering when to push them and when to

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back off. Okay, so we'll make fun of her again

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for this, Okay. She says, my kids are good kids,

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average regular kids who each have their own little passions.

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My son is super into baseball, my daughter does all

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star cheer, and my oldest is a super hard worker

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who currently has two jobs. All good, right, So that

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we had to take a moment to make fun of

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Amy because she's wondering if if wondering when to push. Yeah,

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your kids are are pushed. Your kids are the ones

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that we sit around selling like, hey, maybe we gotta Yeah,

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she writes, do your kids have friends who do all

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the things? And we're like, yeah, like yours. Your kids

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do all the things. Our kids are doing nothing right.

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Your kids do a lot of stuff too, though, well Natalia,

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that's her.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: And then she says, she says, like there's always so

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much chatter and competition end quote, Oh what team did

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your daughter make? And the crazy parents at the ballfield

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and they're constant bragging. It makes me worried. I don't

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push my kids enough. But then that's crazy. My kid

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isn't going to be a professional baseball player. And then

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she says, and it also drives me nuts that I

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have to stand by myself in order to simply enjoy

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watching my kid play. I don't know. I think my

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question is do you have these am I doing enough,

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nagging thoughts and what's her name? Amy, Amy? Yeah, you know,

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I gotta say sports parents, Man. I live in a

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community where it's so competitive. There's the baseball, there's the basketball,

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the volleyball, but the baseball and the basketball, especially baseball.

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It's just all these kids at their school are all competitive.

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They all do sports stuff for Sonny, and it does

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get it can like, you know, you go to the

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games and it's like your kid doesn't play enough, you know,

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or they don't put your kid in or yeah, like

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or what team did your kid get on and your

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kid didn't make the team, or you know, it's just

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it's so uncomfortable. It just makes you feel like, you know,

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like your kids, maybe your kid's not doing it. I

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just it makes you want to avoid those parents. And

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then I feel for you, Aby, because I've sat by

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myself many times because I don't want to hear it,

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like I don't need to hear who the best coaches

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and what trainers they need to be working with, and

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it's so competitive. It's just for me. I'm with you, Amy,

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I don't I go sit by myself a lot I did.

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The volleyball is different for her in Italian. The parents

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are there seem to be pretty cool. I don't know,

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there's no like what team did she get on or whatever?

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Isn't not in her club? No, not really. I mean

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the parents aren't competitive of like who got into like

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yah higher level. I think I block it out.

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Speaker 2: I do.

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Speaker 1: I don't hang out with them. Every year she's on

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a different team, so there's always different parents. And now

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you got Now it's like you got to get to

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know all the kids' names again, all over again. You

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got to get to know all the parents' names. Is like,

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right now, is she going to be in a different

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group than like the moms that you went to Vegas with?

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That you you know, she's still I'll still see something

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to the place where they like neg you what was

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remember that restaurant where they're like a kind of abusive

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The stuff is abusive. The waiters are mean to you.

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Remember that. You Oh, yes, yes, well we went to Vegas.

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There's a place where that. Yeah, they they they make

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fun of you, they yell at you. It's in Vegas.

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It's called something like Nasty Soals or something like that. Yeah,

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where the waiters abuse you. Yeah, And you had come

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up with the place for everyone to go there. I

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didn't know them. Yeah, when she was worried that the

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other moms were gonna be like this is too much. Yes,

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And one of them was because they had they had

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to put on hats that said like, you know, future strippers,

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stuff like that. Yeah, it's pretty raunchy. And then one

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one mom was like, my beaver stings or something like that,

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like poor poor Tina with her hat, like she's like

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trying to play along and be like cool about it.

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Or she's wearing this hat that says like something about

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her beaver or something, and she's like just like red

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face and embarrassed, and my what bad choice to do.

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But you liked some of those moms.

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Speaker 3: I do.

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Speaker 1: I kind of it is one of them, right, but

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I go through them because it's like, okay, so there's

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different ones now. They they they switch out. A lot

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of parents are new, a lot of kids are Yeah,

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they switch them around, but I'll still see some of

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the parents that I do like, and then we like

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each other. There's only like three of them, Like, let's

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not get crazy. But there's a ton of parents, right

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because right there's a whole team of parents and it's

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dads and moms too, and you gotta remember everybody's names

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and what they're Who kid goes to what parent? And

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I'm constantly sitting next to the the know it all mom,

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you know, and I'm like, wait, what's her name again?

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We're like at the end of the season now, like

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who's who's mom is? Teenas like, I can't ever remember

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who goes to what you know? Even though they're all like, oh,

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n Italian is great, I'm like, who are you which

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one is your kid? Like I yes, right, then you

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have to be like, no, your kid's really good, Like wow, right,

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you have no idea who they are. Now they're like, oh,

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my kid's not even playing right. You're like, well, why

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are you here? Right? That's very misleading? Yeah, now, I

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mean and you know, oh, and then you don't see

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the parents because they're not on the team. But then

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you go to Vegas and then they find you and

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they're like, oh, we're gonna go get a drink tonight.

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I'm like, I got my new parents out. I'm done

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with you guys. You guys are so two years ago

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now hanging out with you anymore? But do you have

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but are there levels like do you have the parents

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that are like, my kid didn't get moved up to

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the Yes, there is a lot of that.

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Speaker 3: I do.

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Speaker 1: I don't get involved. I block it out.

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Speaker 3: I don't. You know.

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Speaker 1: Natalia's competitive and she wants to be on the teams

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that are higher up, and she keeps moving up. I

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don't know what she's saying. One of the trainers are

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saying that she should be on the eighteen year old's team. Oh,

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I don't something like that. I don't know. She's still

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in tryouts. There's no team set yet. So okay, I'll

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get a new set of parents coming up, and you

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look forward to all the complaining I'll have and the

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Vegas trips and driving to the o C and all that.

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So everybody buckle up. So for me, my kids are

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just not competitive. So all the things that, yeah, I

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felt that way about, like, oh, everybody's on these teams.

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I felt that way just at our park, our local

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park park, you know, the Park and Res team when

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my kids were going through that playing basketball there, I

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felt like there was and it's a park and Wreck

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team then, and I felt like, ah, these kids that

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are they're doing like three sports with the Park and

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Rec and they're getting on this team and that that team,

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and I always felt like Elbe was into it, but

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I don't feel like Elbe's ever been super into anything

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like she's. But I feel for for me personally, I

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think I've learned to adjust to the fact that like

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change my expectations and I've decided to kind of tune

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it out as well. And I also want to add

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that this stuff starts really early with young kids, you

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where parents are competitive over not just their kids doing

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all the things, but their kids hitting all the milestones.

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And for me, I bought into that a little bit

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with Elbie, and I remember being feeling competitive with other moms,

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not me feeling competitive, but feeling like there was this

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weird competition. I remember being at like mommy and me

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or whatever the thing was where my gym or something,

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when the kids were really young, and the moms that

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were like, their baby's walking already, and I remember that

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feeling of like, yeah, why isn't Elbie's not walking yet?

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And just or this mom being like, oh, my kids

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already started reading, you know, and you just don't know,

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like is my kid behind? Are they not? But when

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Sadie and Xander came along and Sadie was not hitting

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certain milestones. I had to just like throw it all

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out the way. I was like, I don't care, right,

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like whatever you guys, yes, talk yourself, yes, yes, with

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your I don't care what my kid's wearing. Listen, my

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kid's wearing basically the pajamas with the the footy pajamas

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with the zip. Right, I'm not dressing my kids in

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cute outfits. I just got off the competition train at

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that point. Yes, yeah, but Kaylin, are you already feeling

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that a little bit from other parents? Uh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, a little bit.

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Speaker 1: I guess.

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Speaker 3: I definitely feel like at least Ila isn't doing enough

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because obviously Blake is still too young. But yeah, we're

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starting to go, Okay, let's get her into soccer, let's

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get her. Did you like we got to get her

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to do some stuff because yeah, we don't do.

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Speaker 1: Enough, Which is like insane that you would be feeling

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that way right with. I mean, she's not even three yet, right,

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she is three. She just turned three. Okay, so she

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just turned three.

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Speaker 2: That is that.

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Speaker 1: That's the thing, And it's obviously not just an LA thing. No,

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I know, I know, Yeah, I mean I remember when

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the kids were in kindergarten, Sonny's best friend mom. She

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was like, I'm putting him right into baseball. I was like, okay,

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I'm putting them in baseball too. Then all right, what

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do I do? Where do I sign up? Like as

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she was like, yeah, do you gotta get them. She's

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a big sports mom too, though. I mean she met

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her husband in a Raider game. She went to a

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Raider game by herself because she loved the football, she

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loved the team they were. They playing the San Francisco

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forty nine, so she went. She met his dad anyway,

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so she was a big anyway. She was the mom

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that I glombed onto, like am I room mom this week?

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Or what do we do? What's do at the end

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of do I have to sign this paper? What are

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these papers?

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Speaker 3: You know?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 1: So kindergarten she was like baseball. She started baseball, and

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she told me, so the sports moms are the ones

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that that's gotta be like everybody's north star. Yeah, I'm

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not saying you have to sign your kids up for sports,

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but they always know what the fuck is going right,

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they know what the fuck they asked. They got their

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ship together they're organized. Yes, yeah, sports are good for kids,

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but yeah, I mean yeah. So we started early with

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the baseball. I remember Sunny in Italia doing baseball was

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so dreadful and boring, and I mean, like, Sonny couldn't

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hit the ball. It was just an Italian's Thank god.

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It was a mess. The Italians in the outfield. The

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coach Sonny was up. They were playing and Sunny kept missing,

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and the coach goes, buddy, it's okay, I'm gonna keep

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doing it until you hit. Oh, I mean like twenty

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five miss miss miss Italian's outfield going ah, she sits down.

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I tell you get up, you're beer. Poor Sunny was

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so embarrassed. He was like, oh my god, I don't

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like baseball. And I was like, it's all right, I

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just just can just finish it. It's like all right that. Yeah,

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they didn't. The baseball wasn't obviously for them. Then the

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girl scouts came along, the boy scouts. That's all big

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in our neighborhood too. Right right now, are you gonna

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sign Italian up when we moved it? Are you gonna

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sign Italian up for girl Scouts? Oh? Yeah, I guess

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is that what I gotta do for sure, where do

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I sign you know, taking her? I took her to

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like four meetings or like this is this is not

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for us, let's go Like she didn't she as we

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was a Brownie. And then so all of her friends, yeah,

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all of her childhood friends, the ones that live in

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our neighborhood, all of her Jewish friends that she goes

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to camp with, all stuck with it. My kid is like,

468
00:23:11,920 --> 00:23:15,440
really the only quitter. These girls that Elbie's friends with

469
00:23:16,160 --> 00:23:19,160
are still in Girl Scouts. They all got their gold awards.

470
00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:22,359
I'll be quit by Brownies. They She didn't even become

471
00:23:22,359 --> 00:23:24,920
an actual Schot Scout. She did the one year. Maybe

472
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,799
she was a Daisy and then a Brownie, a Daisy,

473
00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:29,839
and then she was a I don't even know if

474
00:23:29,839 --> 00:23:32,079
she made Brownie's. She did it for one year and

475
00:23:32,200 --> 00:23:35,279
then I think she started the next year. This is

476
00:23:35,319 --> 00:23:37,920
what she liked about it. So we only met every

477
00:23:37,960 --> 00:23:39,400
other week. She didn't even have to be a go

478
00:23:39,519 --> 00:23:42,759
get I wasn't even a troop leader. My friends, my

479
00:23:42,920 --> 00:23:45,079
still to this day, my closest mom friends were like

480
00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:47,480
the go getters. They're all troop leaders. They had to

481
00:23:47,519 --> 00:23:49,920
go to all these trainings and I was like, all right,

482
00:23:50,000 --> 00:23:51,559
just tell me where to bring her, Like, you know,

483
00:23:51,880 --> 00:23:55,720
what's the activity we're doing? Bring her to my friend's

484
00:23:55,759 --> 00:23:58,279
house every other week, like you have, somebody brings a snack.

485
00:23:58,519 --> 00:24:01,720
Lbie would go there, eat strawberries, like see your friends. Like,

486
00:24:01,799 --> 00:24:03,759
I'm like, how hard is that? Why do you have

487
00:24:03,839 --> 00:24:06,599
to quit? She was like, I don't want to go anymore.

488
00:24:07,359 --> 00:24:10,200
I was like, but why, Like why would you want

489
00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:12,640
to quit? It's so easy for us. It's like it's

490
00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:15,079
like I get to say that you're involved in something, yes,

491
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:17,920
you know, yeah, And you get to say you're involved

492
00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:19,599
in something your friends are doing it. This is the

493
00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:21,480
only time that you see some of these girls because

494
00:24:21,480 --> 00:24:23,440
she didn't go to school with them. What why do

495
00:24:23,519 --> 00:24:25,839
you want to quit? She was like, I just don't

496
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:28,599
want to go. I just don't like to. I just

497
00:24:28,640 --> 00:24:30,799
don't feel like it and it's boring. And I was like,

498
00:24:31,480 --> 00:24:33,480
what are you gonna do? I was like, all right, right,

499
00:24:33,839 --> 00:24:37,319
you know, so she quit. Literally almost every single one

500
00:24:37,359 --> 00:24:40,160
of them is still going strong. Isn't that crazy?

501
00:24:40,599 --> 00:24:40,720
Speaker 3: Now?

502
00:24:40,839 --> 00:24:43,000
Speaker 1: Her friends too, Like we did it for I don't

503
00:24:43,039 --> 00:24:46,240
even remember, like a couple of maybe two years or something.

504
00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:49,519
Our troop leader was nuts and the other and there

505
00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:52,160
was another troop whose moms I got to know. I

506
00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:54,279
didn't know anybody at the time, and we just moved

507
00:24:54,319 --> 00:24:56,200
to the new neighborhood. Then I get to know the

508
00:24:56,279 --> 00:24:58,759
other troop mom. She's like, why don't you come into

509
00:24:58,839 --> 00:25:00,720
our troop? And I was like, how do I do?

510
00:25:00,880 --> 00:25:02,920
I mean, we're stuck with this troop. I've been with

511
00:25:03,039 --> 00:25:04,880
them for two years. She goes, well, they don't have

512
00:25:04,920 --> 00:25:05,599
their shit together.

513
00:25:05,720 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 3: We do.

514
00:25:06,519 --> 00:25:08,839
Speaker 1: And Natalia's all her friends are on this troop, so

515
00:25:09,319 --> 00:25:11,000
why don't you And I was like, I don't know.

516
00:25:11,119 --> 00:25:12,480
And then I was like, Natalia, do you what.

517
00:25:12,519 --> 00:25:12,839
Speaker 3: Do you do?

518
00:25:13,319 --> 00:25:15,599
Speaker 1: We just dropped off. We just I don't even remember.

519
00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:21,359
It was brownies. Then Sonny was Sonny was boy Scout,

520
00:25:22,759 --> 00:25:25,039
which did a lot of father son things had on

521
00:25:26,119 --> 00:25:29,880
on weekends that dad was traveling, so I had.

522
00:25:29,759 --> 00:25:30,279
Speaker 2: To go home.

523
00:25:30,599 --> 00:25:33,119
Speaker 1: It's a bunch of dads and we do like we

524
00:25:33,240 --> 00:25:37,240
went to like paintball, we did like was shooting range,

525
00:25:37,599 --> 00:25:40,000
like they were gonna go camping and I was like

526
00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:42,960
and then like Sonny's best friend's dad was like, I'll

527
00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:46,160
I'll take him, you know, So Sonny would go camping.

528
00:25:46,759 --> 00:25:50,079
You know, it's like, oh, Dad's in Utah that weekend,

529
00:25:50,200 --> 00:25:52,279
like can't go, you know. I mean Adam would go

530
00:25:52,519 --> 00:25:55,119
if the thing's in town, like on a Wednesday night

531
00:25:55,319 --> 00:25:58,160
or whatever, but it's like two hours. If it's only

532
00:25:58,279 --> 00:26:01,200
like two hours on a Tuesday, but the weekend hour. Yeah,

533
00:26:01,440 --> 00:26:04,759
but weekends he was never around. It just happened to

534
00:26:04,799 --> 00:26:07,599
be that way most of the time. And you know,

535
00:26:07,920 --> 00:26:11,079
eventually Sonny was like, I'm out these boys. I saw

536
00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:15,559
on Facebook his best friend like Eagle Scout, like and

537
00:26:15,640 --> 00:26:17,680
it's like a portrait, you know, and he's got his

538
00:26:17,799 --> 00:26:20,039
scarf around his neck and he's got his hat on

539
00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:23,240
and it's like proud of my son who made Eagle Scout.

540
00:26:23,319 --> 00:26:25,920
I was like, wow, he's like seventeen with a beard

541
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:28,599
and shit. Like I'm like, right, they still going strong,

542
00:26:28,720 --> 00:26:31,279
but the people get real proud of us. They got

543
00:26:31,319 --> 00:26:33,680
a purple heart. Yeah, I know, it's like settled down

544
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:39,319
to Vietnam, like, you know, he's a veteran, Like, okay,

545
00:26:40,000 --> 00:26:43,680
Eagle Scout. I even forgot. I forgot that Sadie joined

546
00:26:44,000 --> 00:26:46,599
was a daisy yeah, because it wasn't a full on

547
00:26:46,720 --> 00:26:50,240
girl scout when because I remember that so Elbe did it.

548
00:26:50,400 --> 00:26:53,000
But then some moms at the school. One of the

549
00:26:53,119 --> 00:26:57,200
moms is our front Angie Angie, who listens to our

550
00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:01,960
show Who's My Friend? She was like the troop leader,

551
00:27:02,640 --> 00:27:04,680
and so Sadie did it. But we went to a

552
00:27:04,759 --> 00:27:08,200
few meetings. But like Sadie's always had problems, like with

553
00:27:08,359 --> 00:27:11,119
the friends, you know, so it's like a bunch of

554
00:27:11,200 --> 00:27:14,400
the And also there was a mom that I freaking hated.

555
00:27:14,799 --> 00:27:19,160
Do you remember years ago the crazy ass email, the

556
00:27:19,279 --> 00:27:22,920
dramatic reading I like our og dramatic reading, which was

557
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:25,200
from a mom who accused Sadie of bullying her and

558
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:29,599
going to h a three foot tall bully. Yeah she

559
00:27:29,640 --> 00:27:32,519
didn't say hi to her daughter. Yeah. That mom is

560
00:27:33,079 --> 00:27:37,720
a hot like absolutely insane and has a huge personality,

561
00:27:38,079 --> 00:27:43,160
and she was her kid was in so when so like,

562
00:27:43,240 --> 00:27:46,200
we sold cookies one year. Yeah, we did that, which

563
00:27:46,440 --> 00:27:49,000
really was me selling cookies. Of course, you know, I

564
00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:51,279
was going door to door selling the cookies. So we

565
00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:53,599
did that one year and then Sadie didn't care about

566
00:27:53,640 --> 00:27:55,240
it that much. So I was like, okay, so cool,

567
00:27:55,279 --> 00:27:58,119
we quit right now. I was the one, like I am,

568
00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:00,599
was the one that was dancing like a mother. I got,

569
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,079
first of all, I got the girl who's got to

570
00:28:03,119 --> 00:28:05,680
go sell the cookies, which I have to do. I

571
00:28:05,839 --> 00:28:07,880
have to go get you know, sell the cookies. Then

572
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:10,200
the next weekend, the boy's doing a boat race. He's

573
00:28:10,200 --> 00:28:12,720
got to put the boat together. I'm putting the boat together.

574
00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:16,200
I'm taking into the boat, like can we call this shre?

575
00:28:16,480 --> 00:28:18,279
Like can we just call it? And like everybody just

576
00:28:18,559 --> 00:28:22,119
stay home, right, stop go getting. So that was the scouts.

577
00:28:22,880 --> 00:28:25,880
Then I had Elbe. Then Elbi was doing the basket

578
00:28:26,000 --> 00:28:31,440
So then Xander joined basketball really young because his friend

579
00:28:32,160 --> 00:28:34,759
had the mom. There was a sports mom who was like, hey,

580
00:28:35,359 --> 00:28:37,519
Max is going to do basketball? Does Xander want to

581
00:28:37,599 --> 00:28:41,279
do basketball? And I was like, all right, the same

582
00:28:41,319 --> 00:28:43,720
as you. All right, we're going to this park by

583
00:28:43,759 --> 00:28:46,599
the way. She lived like nowhere close to me. But

584
00:28:46,759 --> 00:28:49,519
because it was you know, I could have had I

585
00:28:49,680 --> 00:28:51,759
known that Xander was going to like playing basketball, I

586
00:28:51,799 --> 00:28:52,960
could have done it at the park that was a

587
00:28:53,039 --> 00:28:55,519
block from my house. But no, because it was another

588
00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,880
mom handling who was like, here's where you okay, you

589
00:28:57,920 --> 00:28:59,720
got to show up at this park. It was a

590
00:28:59,759 --> 00:29:02,640
park nowhere close to my house, right, So I would

591
00:29:02,720 --> 00:29:05,559
drive him out there. But he was like five, right,

592
00:29:06,000 --> 00:29:09,119
you know, so it's like ridiculous, Yes, I mean he

593
00:29:09,160 --> 00:29:11,440
didn't know how to play basketball at five, he was

594
00:29:11,519 --> 00:29:15,720
like and he was also Xander was just not athletic,

595
00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:18,119
saying he was like probably like the baseball thing, like

596
00:29:18,519 --> 00:29:21,039
just kind of loping around the court, you know, not

597
00:29:21,599 --> 00:29:25,119
like you know, getting distracted by like a flea air

598
00:29:26,759 --> 00:29:29,640
and then the other teams scoring. That just come. I

599
00:29:29,720 --> 00:29:31,839
was like, do you follow the ball like you know,

600
00:29:32,839 --> 00:29:35,200
taking it actually kind of taking it seriously. So the

601
00:29:35,359 --> 00:29:38,039
next season he wanted to do it again, but so

602
00:29:38,319 --> 00:29:40,920
I was like, okay, we don't. We can lose the

603
00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,680
baggage and do it close to our house. Yes, smart,

604
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:50,160
So funny because I just remembered that Kevin Hart's kid was,

605
00:29:50,359 --> 00:29:53,079
uh oh really I think on a team yeah with

606
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:55,799
Xander that year, like they were so young, his kid

607
00:29:55,880 --> 00:30:00,160
Hendricks anyway, that was I just remember seeing it. But

608
00:30:00,279 --> 00:30:03,039
I remember I told you my kids went to preschool

609
00:30:03,119 --> 00:30:06,119
with Kevin Hart's kids, so they were kind of friend anyway.

610
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:10,440
So they were on a team and then it was

611
00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:14,400
but then he never was like very good at that eight,

612
00:30:14,559 --> 00:30:18,960
like kind of but he was so but he was

613
00:30:19,079 --> 00:30:22,440
not like these other kids that were like really playing

614
00:30:22,519 --> 00:30:25,799
basketball at six, yes, like yeah, who are working on

615
00:30:25,839 --> 00:30:28,440
their dribbling? You know, my kids are just not those kids.

616
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:32,720
So then Elbee decided like, oh, that looks kind of fun.

617
00:30:32,759 --> 00:30:34,200
I want to try it too. So I think she

618
00:30:34,359 --> 00:30:37,640
was ten, So she started playing and as we all know,

619
00:30:38,880 --> 00:30:43,480
albe Alby has like like she was good at basketball,

620
00:30:44,160 --> 00:30:47,279
not great, would have had to really practice and like,

621
00:30:47,839 --> 00:30:49,480
but you know, so then she we put her in

622
00:30:49,559 --> 00:30:52,880
a like a club team basically for like a season

623
00:30:53,640 --> 00:30:56,200
so that she could get better. It was like a

624
00:30:56,279 --> 00:30:59,200
developmental club team, which was so it was like multiple

625
00:30:59,279 --> 00:31:01,799
practices a week and like a lot of skills, and

626
00:31:01,920 --> 00:31:04,319
you know, she got a little better, but she was

627
00:31:04,480 --> 00:31:07,680
just never super competitive. So I was sad when she

628
00:31:07,839 --> 00:31:10,960
dropped out, But also like same as this mom amy,

629
00:31:11,119 --> 00:31:14,039
like she's not gonna be playing basketball at UCLA, Like

630
00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:17,119
she's not getting a basketball scholarship for college or playing

631
00:31:17,160 --> 00:31:20,799
in the WNBA, So if she's not wanting to do

632
00:31:20,960 --> 00:31:23,720
it with all her free time, I just feel like

633
00:31:23,759 --> 00:31:27,559
it's so intense. And Elvie's never been same with like theater,

634
00:31:28,119 --> 00:31:30,759
she was really good, she was in plays. She has

635
00:31:30,839 --> 00:31:34,839
a beautiful singing voice, but like yeah, yeah, after like

636
00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:37,400
seventh grade, she was like, I'm good. She has a

637
00:31:37,440 --> 00:31:40,359
different path, like kids have their own. She's my kid's

638
00:31:40,400 --> 00:31:42,920
not passionate about anything. So you just talk about like

639
00:31:43,079 --> 00:31:46,400
feeling that feeling seeing other moms whose kids have like

640
00:31:46,559 --> 00:31:49,920
stuck with stuff and now they're like amazing at it. No,

641
00:31:50,079 --> 00:31:52,319
none of my kids have ever stuck with anything and

642
00:31:52,400 --> 00:31:55,359
become amazing. But I don't let it. Yeah, what do

643
00:31:55,400 --> 00:31:57,640
you I mean, what are you gonna do? Make them

644
00:31:57,759 --> 00:31:59,759
push push them out the door and make them get

645
00:32:00,519 --> 00:32:02,640
How do you do that? You know? They are who

646
00:32:02,720 --> 00:32:05,079
they are. That's what I think, and I think it

647
00:32:05,200 --> 00:32:09,519
has to come from them. I believe, like Natalia loves

648
00:32:09,640 --> 00:32:13,359
volleyball and she's pushing you yes for volleyball, like okay,

649
00:32:14,319 --> 00:32:17,160
even though she had a concussion so she was out

650
00:32:17,279 --> 00:32:19,680
for a while, but you see how motivated she is

651
00:32:19,799 --> 00:32:22,000
to come back and like she wants to go. Like

652
00:32:22,119 --> 00:32:24,240
kids have to they have to have that right, right,

653
00:32:24,960 --> 00:32:28,079
Yes they do. Like I got two kids, I got

654
00:32:28,240 --> 00:32:31,920
one that just he was competitive for a while, but

655
00:32:32,079 --> 00:32:35,440
then it just faded away, not into it always really

656
00:32:35,559 --> 00:32:38,119
not that do you think he did it? Because I

657
00:32:38,200 --> 00:32:40,960
think he thought he should be doing it the basketball.

658
00:32:41,799 --> 00:32:44,079
You know, I think he has always for you think

659
00:32:44,119 --> 00:32:46,440
he wasn't because remember when he was being the assistant

660
00:32:46,519 --> 00:32:48,920
to the coach. Yeah he did, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah

661
00:32:49,079 --> 00:32:51,039
he loved. Yeah, he did love. I think he just

662
00:32:51,119 --> 00:32:53,680
felt like, I'm really actually curious about it.

663
00:32:53,839 --> 00:32:53,960
Speaker 3: Yes.

664
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:57,200
Speaker 1: Do you think he felt like I'm just not a star,

665
00:32:57,480 --> 00:32:59,519
Like I'm not the kid that's he says killing it

666
00:32:59,559 --> 00:33:02,960
every game? Yeah, yeah, he said. We talked about it. Yeah, yeah,

667
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:06,039
he says. You know, he was when he was young,

668
00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:09,799
starting at like six seven, he was on YMCA's on

669
00:33:09,880 --> 00:33:11,960
the wreck team, he was on club teams. You know,

670
00:33:12,119 --> 00:33:14,519
he was doing it. He loved it mostly because his

671
00:33:14,640 --> 00:33:18,720
close friends were doing it, and like in second, third,

672
00:33:18,839 --> 00:33:22,279
fourth grade, all the same boys would make that, you know,

673
00:33:22,440 --> 00:33:26,039
they would get on the teams, and then especially when

674
00:33:26,079 --> 00:33:28,519
they went to junior high. When they got to junior high,

675
00:33:28,880 --> 00:33:35,000
middle school, it was Sonny was he was at that point,

676
00:33:35,920 --> 00:33:39,279
they were all these boys were like getting growth spurts,

677
00:33:39,559 --> 00:33:43,559
getting bigger right in middle school and they were getting better,

678
00:33:43,599 --> 00:33:45,960
you know, they were in their competitive His best friend

679
00:33:46,039 --> 00:33:49,839
Jensen's a competitive kid, and so was his other friends

680
00:33:49,880 --> 00:33:53,400
that he was like really close with and the coaches

681
00:33:53,440 --> 00:33:55,960
would be like, just you know, we're putting you in, Sonny,

682
00:33:56,160 --> 00:33:58,160
you sit on the bench, you know, And Sonny just

683
00:33:58,359 --> 00:34:00,200
doesn't have that competitive He's not going to get in

684
00:34:00,240 --> 00:34:02,000
your face and grab the ball. He just doesn't have

685
00:34:02,119 --> 00:34:05,559
that in him. And then yeah, so we were talking

686
00:34:05,599 --> 00:34:09,159
about it, and yeah, we we were talking about it,

687
00:34:09,199 --> 00:34:11,920
and he said, uh, yeah, I mean he goes everybody.

688
00:34:12,000 --> 00:34:12,280
Speaker 2: He goes.

689
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:16,280
Speaker 1: You know, the boys were getting on teams. You know,

690
00:34:16,360 --> 00:34:18,679
you got to try out for the school, and you know,

691
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:21,079
you don't make it. And he's like it just wasn't

692
00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:23,719
the one year he didn't make the team, right, Yeah,

693
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:26,239
but then like the next year, I feel like he did.

694
00:34:26,679 --> 00:34:28,679
But remember the year that this was a couple of

695
00:34:28,719 --> 00:34:30,679
years ago, he just wouldn't go to the try to

696
00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:34,159
try out, right. I remember talking to a mom volleyball

697
00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:38,360
mom whose son knew the coaches because the son played basketball.

698
00:34:38,559 --> 00:34:41,800
Very competitive but I like her anyway, she gave me

699
00:34:41,880 --> 00:34:44,280
advice and she said that that she goes, go talk

700
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:47,440
to that coach. Yeah, she said, talk to the coach.

701
00:34:47,960 --> 00:34:51,320
He'll you know, consider Sonny or something like that. Right,

702
00:34:51,800 --> 00:34:54,239
And then I told Sonny that and he was like,

703
00:34:54,360 --> 00:34:56,079
I go, the coach is waiting for you for the tryout.

704
00:34:56,119 --> 00:34:57,639
He goes, right, No, he didn't want to go. He

705
00:34:57,679 --> 00:35:00,559
didn't want to go. He got intimidated. He's like everybody

706
00:35:00,599 --> 00:35:03,159
else was getting bigger and everybody was getting stronger, and

707
00:35:03,360 --> 00:35:06,719
I just wasn't. It wasn't my thing, you know. And

708
00:35:06,840 --> 00:35:08,440
then we were talking about it. I go, what you

709
00:35:08,519 --> 00:35:10,280
are you going to sign up for something this year?

710
00:35:10,760 --> 00:35:12,239
And he was like, you know, I go, what about

711
00:35:12,280 --> 00:35:14,800
Because he used to do track too a long time ago.

712
00:35:14,920 --> 00:35:18,159
I remember, yeah, and he's like, I'm just not fast

713
00:35:18,320 --> 00:35:21,639
enough for track, And I said, what about cross country? No,

714
00:35:21,880 --> 00:35:24,599
he's not into it, and then he'd be so good

715
00:35:24,639 --> 00:35:27,679
across country though, I know that shit. He wants to

716
00:35:27,719 --> 00:35:29,840
go for nine mile walks. Why doesn't he just go

717
00:35:29,960 --> 00:35:33,199
for a nine mile jog? I he doesn't want to

718
00:35:33,239 --> 00:35:35,800
do that. There's something at their school that's comedy. It's

719
00:35:35,840 --> 00:35:38,639
called comedy sports. Uh huh. He wants to do that.

720
00:35:39,079 --> 00:35:42,119
I don't know what the fuck it is, but that's cool. Yeah,

721
00:35:42,159 --> 00:35:43,400
he wants to do that. And he wants to be

722
00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:47,599
on the debate team. I love that. Yeah, Sonny likes

723
00:35:48,519 --> 00:35:50,639
he's more in his head. You know, he's a he's

724
00:35:50,719 --> 00:35:55,559
a thinker. He's got ideas, he's got opinions, you know.

725
00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:59,199
I mean, but he's uh yeah, he's that's his thing.

726
00:35:59,760 --> 00:36:04,360
He likes to He fu talks my ear off every night.

727
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:07,159
I mean, when I'm there, he follows me around and

728
00:36:07,639 --> 00:36:09,239
I'm like, I'm gonna take Phil for a while. I'll

729
00:36:09,239 --> 00:36:12,599
the go way with you, all right, And he's just

730
00:36:12,760 --> 00:36:14,880
I don't even know. For like ten minutes, We'll talk

731
00:36:14,920 --> 00:36:18,000
about sports. A few minutes later, I'm like, I'm thinking

732
00:36:18,000 --> 00:36:20,239
to myself, is he still what what are we talking about?

733
00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:23,920
Are you still talking about? You know, I don't know

734
00:36:24,199 --> 00:36:27,599
the sports? What are you talking about? He just loves

735
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:33,000
to talk. And we went to Chicago. My nephew, Nicholas

736
00:36:33,280 --> 00:36:35,960
is like that, and he loves to talk and he's

737
00:36:36,039 --> 00:36:38,039
just like talking Sonny's ear off about how to make

738
00:36:38,079 --> 00:36:40,119
a bomb and shit when he was a teenager. You

739
00:36:40,239 --> 00:36:42,519
friends don't know how to do. You like put it

740
00:36:42,599 --> 00:36:43,920
in it, you put this in it, you put that,

741
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,599
And he goes almost blew my hand off. He's telling Sonny.

742
00:36:47,159 --> 00:36:49,920
Sonny's like, now I know how you guys feel. Because

743
00:36:49,960 --> 00:36:52,360
Nicholas doesn't stop talking. He's like now I know you

744
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,119
guys because we were like we're all you know me

745
00:36:54,159 --> 00:36:55,960
and all they were like, ah, but beep a beep

746
00:36:56,039 --> 00:36:58,079
a beap. I'm like, Sonny, I gotta go to bed.

747
00:36:58,199 --> 00:37:01,960
I'm tired. I don't want to hear Marvel for whatever,

748
00:37:02,119 --> 00:37:09,320
like comics. It's like it's yes, So anyway where that's

749
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:14,239
so funny. Well, I am hopeful that Xander is going

750
00:37:14,320 --> 00:37:16,679
to be a bit like Sonny in the way that

751
00:37:17,519 --> 00:37:20,639
you know he as you know, yeah, he does tend

752
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:23,800
to find things that he's interested in, like guitar, and

753
00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:27,159
now he's super serious about it. That's funny though, because

754
00:37:27,159 --> 00:37:31,000
so Sadie's had a couple of guitar lessons. Xander's motivated,

755
00:37:31,559 --> 00:37:33,519
you know. And this is the thing. I think if

756
00:37:33,519 --> 00:37:37,280
I could give anybody advice who's wondering, it's like, let

757
00:37:37,360 --> 00:37:40,280
them find their say yes, because I tried pushing my

758
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:42,880
kids to so many things. I tried getting Xander to

759
00:37:42,960 --> 00:37:47,880
do uh, drawn theater when he was young. He hated it,

760
00:37:48,599 --> 00:37:51,039
but like he came to it on his own like

761
00:37:51,199 --> 00:37:53,239
years later, and he did some improv and he was

762
00:37:53,280 --> 00:37:55,559
like really good at it. But you know, I have

763
00:37:55,639 --> 00:37:57,320
asked him, do you want to do improv and he's

764
00:37:57,360 --> 00:38:00,840
like no, but he's saw. And then in their school

765
00:38:00,880 --> 00:38:04,360
that they're going into, they got a choice of theater.

766
00:38:05,199 --> 00:38:09,559
It was like theater, music or something else that they

767
00:38:09,599 --> 00:38:13,760
could do, and Sadie signed up for theater nic, which

768
00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:16,239
I think is really cute. And I hope, like Anne,

769
00:38:16,320 --> 00:38:19,440
Xander signed up for music. That's nice. And I'm like,

770
00:38:20,360 --> 00:38:23,719
I didn't realize, Like Xander's gotten very good on the

771
00:38:23,760 --> 00:38:29,039
guitar and he practices all the time, though I've never

772
00:38:29,360 --> 00:38:32,000
asked him to practice. Not one time I have ever

773
00:38:32,119 --> 00:38:34,039
been like, Hey, you're gonna pick up your guitar? Are

774
00:38:34,079 --> 00:38:35,920
you gonna work on that? Like it's all him, and

775
00:38:36,039 --> 00:38:37,800
he's the one who's always like, Mom, do you want

776
00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:39,280
to hear this thing? I just learned? Mom? Do you

777
00:38:39,320 --> 00:38:41,519
want to hear me play this thing? Which you know

778
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:45,920
is like passion? Yeah, which is great, And like I

779
00:38:46,119 --> 00:38:48,400
hope that he gets to bring his guitar to school

780
00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:51,000
and be like they can they can per form bands,

781
00:38:51,519 --> 00:38:52,800
Like I think this is going to be the right

782
00:38:52,880 --> 00:38:56,119
place for him in that way. But then like Sadie,

783
00:38:56,199 --> 00:38:59,159
I'm trying to let Sadie come to her own thing

784
00:38:59,199 --> 00:39:02,239
as well. She expressed interest in taking guitar lessons. Now

785
00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:06,320
we're getting her guitar lessons. Now, Xander's jealous that she's

786
00:39:06,400 --> 00:39:10,400
having lessons, and he's like, does he teach? Oh? Does he?

787
00:39:10,880 --> 00:39:15,199
I'd like to take a lesson. Yeah. I was like, well,

788
00:39:15,239 --> 00:39:18,400
how does Sadie feel about that? And he goes so

789
00:39:18,599 --> 00:39:23,119
much not a fan because Sadie doesn't want to compete

790
00:39:23,440 --> 00:39:27,599
and play guitar in her room, while Xander's yeah, they're twins,

791
00:39:27,840 --> 00:39:31,000
you get it. Yes, if Sadie starts playing guitar in

792
00:39:31,079 --> 00:39:34,320
her room, Xander's gonna start playing louder right. Oh yeah.

793
00:39:34,360 --> 00:39:36,679
And then if I go Xander like Sadie was just

794
00:39:36,719 --> 00:39:39,000
starting to play guitar, he'd be like, oh, okay, yeah

795
00:39:40,480 --> 00:39:43,719
she I didn't know. I didn't notice. I'd be like, really,

796
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:49,920
that's funny. You didn't You didn't hear Sadie playing the guitar. Mom. Honestly,

797
00:39:50,079 --> 00:39:51,840
I was just in my room with the door shut.

798
00:39:51,840 --> 00:39:54,559
I was I had my headphones on and I was

799
00:39:54,599 --> 00:39:56,679
watching a YouTube video and suddenly I was just like,

800
00:39:56,719 --> 00:39:59,079
I feel like playing guitar. So I didn't even WHOA.

801
00:39:59,199 --> 00:40:02,880
I'm so sorry. I'll belous. I'll let her do her thing,

802
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:07,519
that's too funny. That's so cute. They're very competitive with

803
00:40:07,599 --> 00:40:12,360
each other, but they try to keep it right, like, oh,

804
00:40:12,440 --> 00:40:15,480
I don't know competitive. No, And if I was to

805
00:40:15,599 --> 00:40:18,719
ask Sadie, like, are you okay with Sander taking a

806
00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:21,199
guitar list, she'd be like, what me? Of course? I mean,

807
00:40:21,559 --> 00:40:24,039
that's you know, I mean, it's kind of weird that,

808
00:40:24,199 --> 00:40:26,760
like I was taking. I mean, he he already knows

809
00:40:26,760 --> 00:40:29,519
how to play guitar, but I mean, hey, he wants to. Sure.

810
00:40:29,639 --> 00:40:35,440
I mean, I'm I'll never say no, but yeah, that's

811
00:40:35,559 --> 00:40:38,880
so cute. I love that Xander learned how to play guitar.

812
00:40:39,360 --> 00:40:42,159
You know, he's probably got a musical ear. You know,

813
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:47,320
I'm sure he's You know, kids, they they developed what

814
00:40:47,440 --> 00:40:50,159
they want, they look for what they like, and you

815
00:40:50,280 --> 00:40:54,679
know it's just you gotta just just foster an environment.

816
00:40:54,760 --> 00:41:00,199
I guess. You know, before we go a top, I

817
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:03,280
wanted to bring up that I would love your thoughts

818
00:41:03,320 --> 00:41:08,840
on I've so this is totally off topic, but and

819
00:41:08,920 --> 00:41:10,800
I'll tell you how I thought of it in a moment,

820
00:41:10,880 --> 00:41:11,880
but so.

821
00:41:13,960 --> 00:41:14,000
Speaker 3: So.

822
00:41:14,280 --> 00:41:19,039
Speaker 1: Sadie lately has been say like trying to be healthier,

823
00:41:19,400 --> 00:41:22,039
like making comments about like you know, wanting to go

824
00:41:22,159 --> 00:41:25,000
to the gym, and like, you know, and she's so,

825
00:41:25,320 --> 00:41:28,239
I am a full on sugar addict, as you know.

826
00:41:28,679 --> 00:41:32,840
Day three, no sugar today, congrat thank you. I'm just

827
00:41:32,880 --> 00:41:34,719
like it gets out of control and then I just go,

828
00:41:34,960 --> 00:41:36,960
oh my god, I can't look at another box of

829
00:41:37,039 --> 00:41:39,639
mic and ikes, you know, because I'll just go crazy

830
00:41:39,719 --> 00:41:41,960
and buy all the candy, all the sweets. So now

831
00:41:41,960 --> 00:41:46,119
I'm like none. So anyway, Sadie, But I don't ever

832
00:41:47,119 --> 00:41:50,320
ever put anything on my kids. We don't talk about calories,

833
00:41:50,519 --> 00:41:53,280
we don't talk about I never say oh I feel

834
00:41:53,320 --> 00:41:56,599
so fat. I never say oh my body looks terrible

835
00:41:56,719 --> 00:41:59,800
or I can't fit into my clothes. I have commented

836
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:02,159
that COVID, you know, because I stopped going to the

837
00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:04,760
gym at the beginning of COVID. I have said, like,

838
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:08,159
all right, like I got to get healthier. I always

839
00:42:08,239 --> 00:42:10,559
focus on just saying I want to be like healthy,

840
00:42:10,639 --> 00:42:12,960
get back to being healthy, and that sugar makes me

841
00:42:13,039 --> 00:42:16,920
feel shitty, right, And so I'm they all understand that

842
00:42:18,599 --> 00:42:22,599
Sadie's fourteen, Lbe's seventeen. I have not seen any signs

843
00:42:22,639 --> 00:42:26,400
of any kind of like eating disorders with my kids.

844
00:42:28,159 --> 00:42:31,440
That's not to say that they couldn't develop that. So

845
00:42:31,760 --> 00:42:38,119
Elbie is like just kind of naturally thin and so

846
00:42:38,280 --> 00:42:40,599
she's never ever had to worry about her weight. And

847
00:42:40,719 --> 00:42:42,760
for a long time she was in, you know, playing

848
00:42:42,840 --> 00:42:45,719
so much basketball, and she was just like skinny, skinny,

849
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:49,320
little skinny mini. And she eats terrible food. She eats

850
00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:52,760
tons of junk food. But she's also a kid who

851
00:42:53,559 --> 00:42:55,840
like will eat half of something and then just like

852
00:42:55,960 --> 00:42:58,599
forget about it, because she's the kind of person that

853
00:42:58,679 --> 00:43:01,480
we all hate. That's like I forgot to eat, you know.

854
00:43:01,840 --> 00:43:04,159
Then she'll be like, oh, I didn't eat today. Oh

855
00:43:04,199 --> 00:43:06,519
I need to eat some food, you know. But since

856
00:43:06,559 --> 00:43:09,599
she's not playing basketball, I'm not like I'm not like, oh,

857
00:43:09,679 --> 00:43:11,760
you got to eat, like you gotta we gotta take

858
00:43:11,800 --> 00:43:16,480
you to jamba juice. Anyway, my point is Sadie and

859
00:43:16,760 --> 00:43:20,239
Xander both have more of like my jeans where they

860
00:43:20,599 --> 00:43:24,639
like literally like to eat and like to eat unhealthier foods,

861
00:43:24,800 --> 00:43:29,159
and they have there they're more easier for them to

862
00:43:29,199 --> 00:43:35,119
gain weight. And so like Sadie has begun saying things

863
00:43:35,280 --> 00:43:40,280
like oh I'm gonna have she So this is like backstory,

864
00:43:40,360 --> 00:43:43,039
but because of the growth hormone she was on it

865
00:43:43,119 --> 00:43:46,000
has it can make your cholesterol a little bit high,

866
00:43:46,639 --> 00:43:48,719
so her cholesterol was a little bit high. That has

867
00:43:48,800 --> 00:43:51,599
nothing to do with really eating, but she got it

868
00:43:51,679 --> 00:43:54,719
in her head that like, oh, Like she went to

869
00:43:54,760 --> 00:43:56,599
go order some food the other night and she was like,

870
00:43:56,599 --> 00:43:59,719
I'm gonna have chicken instead of steak, and then John

871
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:01,840
was like, why don't you get the steak. You can

872
00:44:01,880 --> 00:44:03,760
get the steak, like, and she was like, oh, just

873
00:44:03,960 --> 00:44:06,719
my cholesterols, Like I remember that my cholesterol is high,

874
00:44:06,760 --> 00:44:10,400
and like, I think chicken's a little healthier. So to me,

875
00:44:11,679 --> 00:44:15,360
because I've never seen my kids have any I watch

876
00:44:15,559 --> 00:44:18,679
for that kind of thing. Neither none of my kids

877
00:44:18,760 --> 00:44:23,480
have ever I felt seemed unhealthy about food, like unhealthy

878
00:44:23,960 --> 00:44:26,559
obsession about what they're eating or not eating, or trying

879
00:44:26,559 --> 00:44:30,159
to restrict calories or anything like that. Obviously, it's a

880
00:44:30,639 --> 00:44:35,239
huge problem among girls, and it was for me, and

881
00:44:35,360 --> 00:44:37,599
I did all sorts of weird stuff at that age.

882
00:44:37,639 --> 00:44:40,760
In high school, I was popping dexaterm, I was always

883
00:44:40,920 --> 00:44:43,400
trying to lose weight. So I'm not seeing that in

884
00:44:43,480 --> 00:44:48,920
my kids. But John, sometimes I feel like it's okay

885
00:44:49,079 --> 00:44:51,199
for them to want to be healthy. Like I feel

886
00:44:51,239 --> 00:44:52,960
like if there's nothing wrong with them being like I

887
00:44:53,000 --> 00:44:54,840
want to go to the gym or I want to

888
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:59,559
take a break from eating sweets, Like I think that's fine. Yeah,

889
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:05,519
feels like that's going to create like like he's always pushing,

890
00:45:05,599 --> 00:45:08,079
like if they've eaten like some of their food, He's

891
00:45:08,079 --> 00:45:09,639
always like, well, you didn't eat your food? How to

892
00:45:09,719 --> 00:45:13,800
eat your food? And I'm like it makes me uncomfortable

893
00:45:13,960 --> 00:45:16,960
that he's like pushing do you know what I mean? Like, yeah,

894
00:45:17,079 --> 00:45:18,320
I don't know. Do you know what I'm saying. I

895
00:45:18,599 --> 00:45:20,920
understand exactly what you're saying. Like it's okay for me

896
00:45:21,000 --> 00:45:22,880
to allow the kids to be like we're going to

897
00:45:22,920 --> 00:45:25,159
try not to eat desserts for a little while to

898
00:45:25,280 --> 00:45:27,840
be healthy, right, right, as long as they're not like

899
00:45:28,000 --> 00:45:31,440
I'm on a diet. Yes, And I think that, you know,

900
00:45:31,599 --> 00:45:33,880
I think that they're they're at that age where they're

901
00:45:34,000 --> 00:45:36,159
very aware of how they look in their body, and

902
00:45:36,280 --> 00:45:40,119
I think that, you know it, like the TikTok stuff,

903
00:45:40,239 --> 00:45:43,880
I don't know what goes on there, Like, you know,

904
00:45:44,000 --> 00:45:47,119
I always hear these trends about like dieting and stuff,

905
00:45:47,159 --> 00:45:50,159
like they're they're showing teenage girls about what to eat,

906
00:45:50,239 --> 00:45:51,719
what's not to eat, or how to throw up and

907
00:45:51,760 --> 00:45:54,880
nothing like there's stuff like that, you know, out there,

908
00:45:55,559 --> 00:45:58,960
and that's the thing that I would kind of be

909
00:45:59,039 --> 00:46:01,519
concerned about what are they watching or what are they

910
00:46:01,599 --> 00:46:04,960
looking at or what are they why. But on the

911
00:46:05,000 --> 00:46:07,960
flip side, when I was when I was her age

912
00:46:08,320 --> 00:46:11,079
fourteen fifteen, I found out I had high cholesterol. My

913
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:14,760
dad had a quadruple bypass. I was scared too when

914
00:46:14,760 --> 00:46:16,840
I heard I had a high clusture. I was like, oh, shoot,

915
00:46:17,039 --> 00:46:19,199
I can't eat steak that much. I can't. I gotta

916
00:46:19,199 --> 00:46:21,280
add real, I can't have this kind of butter. I

917
00:46:21,360 --> 00:46:23,559
gotta you know. It was like I remember being her

918
00:46:23,599 --> 00:46:25,880
age and thinking I don't want to get high collosts.

919
00:46:26,119 --> 00:46:28,360
So they're you know, she's just trying to be healthy.

920
00:46:28,400 --> 00:46:30,760
I mean, just got to watch, you know a little bit.

921
00:46:31,199 --> 00:46:34,719
I understand where you're coming from with John that it's

922
00:46:35,239 --> 00:46:38,880
it makes you feel uncomfortable, But I mean, they're not

923
00:46:39,199 --> 00:46:42,760
little kids. Where they're not it's not I've tried to say,

924
00:46:42,800 --> 00:46:47,320
I'm like, they're not starving, right, Like they're not restricting. Now,

925
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:49,559
we're not dealing with a kid who won't eat, right

926
00:46:49,679 --> 00:46:52,519
so like if she wants to leave some if she's full, Like,

927
00:46:52,599 --> 00:46:54,320
I think that's a better thing to teach, is like,

928
00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:57,320
if you're full, you don't have to don't finish food

929
00:46:57,320 --> 00:47:00,559
because it's on your plate. Like yeah, but he, I

930
00:47:00,639 --> 00:47:02,639
think he's trying to do his best, Like I think

931
00:47:02,679 --> 00:47:04,960
it's coming from a good place. And then he said

932
00:47:05,000 --> 00:47:06,320
to me the other night, he was like, well, I

933
00:47:06,400 --> 00:47:09,079
just don't want her to, you know, be worried about

934
00:47:09,119 --> 00:47:11,320
like what she's eating. And I was like, I get that,

935
00:47:11,440 --> 00:47:13,400
but I don't think she is worried about what she's

936
00:47:13,679 --> 00:47:17,559
I don't think she's worrying about it from a calorie standpoint.

937
00:47:17,599 --> 00:47:19,599
She's just trying to be healthy. She's not missing meal.

938
00:47:19,719 --> 00:47:22,519
My kids are not missing meals. They're not like if

939
00:47:22,559 --> 00:47:23,800
I go, hey, you guys want to go out for

940
00:47:23,880 --> 00:47:25,960
ice cream, they're going to be like hell yeah, So

941
00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:29,199
you know, I don't know, But I don't want to

942
00:47:29,440 --> 00:47:31,840
make it a big deal with John, like because I

943
00:47:31,880 --> 00:47:34,079
think his heart's in the right place. So I don't

944
00:47:34,119 --> 00:47:36,079
want to be like, can you please not tell them

945
00:47:36,119 --> 00:47:38,599
to eat more food? Because He's like, but I don't

946
00:47:38,599 --> 00:47:42,760
want them to worry about what they're that's tough. I

947
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:45,320
get it. Touchy. I know you have to be careful

948
00:47:45,360 --> 00:47:48,119
with girls. Yeah, but part of me is like, yeah,

949
00:47:48,159 --> 00:47:50,719
but I am a girl. I did have an eating disorder,

950
00:47:50,840 --> 00:47:52,679
so I know what to look for and they're not

951
00:47:52,760 --> 00:47:55,639
showing any of those signs. Right, Well, that's good. I

952
00:47:55,800 --> 00:47:59,159
never ever had to deal with I didn't even have

953
00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,760
friends really. I mean I had friends kind of that

954
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:05,199
did it just because they wanted attention. But I remember

955
00:48:05,239 --> 00:48:07,400
I had one friend that did it. I mean maybe

956
00:48:07,559 --> 00:48:10,440
I don't know, I don't know, but like she just

957
00:48:10,519 --> 00:48:12,079
like did it for like three weeks and then she

958
00:48:12,239 --> 00:48:14,719
was done. We were like in high school. But like, yeah,

959
00:48:14,760 --> 00:48:18,840
I've never I've never really dealt with it. I mean,

960
00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:23,880
Sadie had a friend this year that was in treatment

961
00:48:24,920 --> 00:48:28,800
for aanorexia. I know, I know at thirteen years old.

962
00:48:28,800 --> 00:48:31,679
Oh Jesus too young. I feel so bad for that, Like,

963
00:48:31,800 --> 00:48:35,719
and that is like really hard to get rid of,

964
00:48:36,840 --> 00:48:38,119
to get to recover from, you know.

965
00:48:38,320 --> 00:48:38,559
Speaker 3: Wow.

966
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:44,239
Speaker 1: So and I I wondered if say, like what, like

967
00:48:44,679 --> 00:48:47,039
how much my kids know about that? But you don't

968
00:48:47,039 --> 00:48:49,079
want to draw. You don't want to like, hey, let's

969
00:48:49,159 --> 00:48:51,239
talk a lot about hirexia what it is, because you

970
00:48:51,239 --> 00:48:52,960
don't want to give your kid ideas. No, I know

971
00:48:53,360 --> 00:48:55,880
that's the hard part. But you also don't know what

972
00:48:55,960 --> 00:48:59,840
they're watching, like Instagram and shit like that. Stuff just

973
00:49:00,039 --> 00:49:03,400
poisons their mind, it really can. It's it's such a

974
00:49:03,519 --> 00:49:06,559
competitive world with everybody's got to look great and then

975
00:49:07,239 --> 00:49:09,559
filters where you can make yourselves look different.

976
00:49:09,679 --> 00:49:10,400
Speaker 3: I just it's.

977
00:49:12,480 --> 00:49:14,519
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I'm taking away all my kids social

978
00:49:14,559 --> 00:49:19,320
media today starting today, right, me too? How'd you know

979
00:49:20,599 --> 00:49:22,960
hopefully this is a learning show for you, Kaylin?

980
00:49:23,599 --> 00:49:23,760
Speaker 3: Yeah?

981
00:49:25,199 --> 00:49:29,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got two girls. Yeah, that's all right, everybody.

982
00:49:29,480 --> 00:49:32,719
We love you guys so much. Thanks Cal you're a

983
00:49:32,840 --> 00:49:34,440
parent now, don't f it up.

984
00:49:36,159 --> 00:49:44,239
Speaker 3: It's good. Letting go great