Speaker 1: Made a decision.
Speaker 2: Face sunny sun on I had a vision, NiCoT.
Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, what's up for crying out loud?
Speaker 3: It is?
Speaker 1: It's Friday. It is Friday. Oh my god. So I
just got back from the lake. The lake.
Speaker 3: How was it?
Speaker 1: I'll tell you next week, okay, yeah, because I want
to save it. Yeah, okay, good saved the story. Late stories.
You're gonna have tons Welcome back to FCL Lake Stories. Yeah,
it's gonna be so much. I can't wait to hear
about it. No, okay, truthfully, obviously we haven't gone yet
cause it's Monday, but I hope this works out. Taking
the dog, Oh yes, she'll be fine. I mean it's
a pet friendly place, but like people's hasn't really traveled before.
I haven't really had her at someone else's house. I mean,
I'm sure that'll part'll be fine, but like, you know,
we're gonna have to leave her there sometimes if we
like go out to eat, leaving her in someone else's house, right, fine, Yeah,
she'll be fine. Just make sure all the doors are locked. Yeah,
I was like, you know, we have to make sure
her collar doesn't fall off because she's in Is there
any like people that come inside and leave things. Oh
I don't think yeah, because what Tom, Well, I'll tell
you all right. I remember, you know, Adam's friends with
Kathy Griffin went to Groundlings together and she went on
vacation with her Golden Retriever in Palm Springs and left
the dog in the pet friendly hotel. But like the
you know, the room service came or something left the
gate open and there's a huge highway and the dog
got out and got hit by a car and died. Yeah.
I'll never forget. When I heard that story, I was
like I had Molly at the time. I was like,
oh my god, it makes me want to cry, Like, oh,
I'm never taking Molly anywhere. Yeah, that's what I'm already
and you know me, and I'm sorry. I'm like, okay,
well sit with that now, just yead well. And so
there's like a beach and the beach itself the lake
beach you can't I don't think you can allow dogs.
But they also have a dog beach, right, that's separate.
But I'm like, yeah, but I'm not gonna I don't
need to go sit on a lake beach, right, I'm
not gonna wear put on a bathing suit and go
like so the kids, and the kids are old enough
that they can go to the beach by themselves. It's
like a three minute walk or something from where we're staying.
So like, you'll be fine, You'll be fine. Absolutely, Yeah,
you're gonna have a great time. Yeah, did you have
something to say?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: I think I feel like I was gonna say something
about that, but no, Right, go ahead, Well let's say
I to our peeves and then all right, complain about something,
please do, Andy May Yeah, what do you want to
complain about? Dude? All right, listen, this is silly, but
you know, okay, I haven't really been on conference calls
in a long time. Right right now, I'm getting on
these conference conference calls with lawyers and stuff. You know,
it's like accountants and lawyers and the forensics in this.
And then can you talk on Monday? Can you talk
on Wednesday?
Speaker 3: Can you?
Speaker 1: Can you everybody get on the phone at the same
time on Friday? And then okay, then this is the
thing I fucking hate. They give you the they give
you the number to call in, right, and then they
set up the conference call. They give you the number
to call in. You call it then they give you
the pin, right, get in hit and then they give
the instructions. Their lawyers, they do it all the time,
and the email hit this and then hit pound blah
blah blah. Okay, they'll you know, you'll be announced into
the conference call. I call the fucking thing, right, I
call the number, and by the time I look down
and get the pin, it's like, please try again, Like, bitch,
give me a second here. What if I was an old,
senile lady try to get on, you know, I like, yes,
I mean, come on, and it's like please try and
then and it gives you two tries and it goes goodbye.
I like, fucking horror, Let me have a second here,
give me a break. And then here's the other thing
about like conference calls. It's uncomfortable, you know. Okay, sometimes
you have a conference call and it's like the other
side could be like Adam or whatever, and you don't
want to get on too early because you know, me
sitting on the phone at him, Oh yeah, you want
to be fashionably late. Oh yeah, Like you just don't
want to be too late. So that then they're in
the mid conversation and it's like Lynette Corona just joined
the call, and you're like, everyone, everybody's talking. Yeah, then
they all that's the other thing. Then they all stop
and then like, hey, how are you doing. It's good?
They okay, just catching you up here, and then they
can then they and then one of them talks, and
then the other one talks, and then they both talk
at the same time, and then they're both silent and
it's uncomfortable, like, no, you go you well, I was
just saying no, you know what I mean. So I
just hate it because you're not a zoom now as
opposed to on Monday. On Tuesday Show, we were discussing
the fact that we don't ever want to be facetimed, right,
and I still maintain that. But the good thing about
a zoom as opposed to a conference call is you
can see people. You can see when they're starting out
to talk about to talk slight, yeah, and you can
see when somebody's like gonna make a point, like you know,
But when it's just when it's a conference call, you
have no idea. Good God, it's so dreadful. You don't
know who's talking. I know, I know, you can't hear them.
They sound like they're ten feet away from the phone.
I was just saying that if you put your money
in there, like what, Alison, speak up? Can't hear you?
This just happened the other day, Like we were on
phone with Tony, our accountant, and his phone kept cutting out.
So he's talking and he's giving information and everybody's on
the phone listening, and he's like every every third word,
he sounds like he's underwater. And finally, like everybody's quiet,
and then somebody finally pipes up and goes, uh, Tony,
I don't know what's going on with your phone, but
we can't hear you. But first you think it's your phone.
So then I don't want to be the ones saying
like Tony, is something's wrong with your phone, because you're like, well,
maybe it's my caybe, it's my connection. That's what I
was thinking. It's the I just it's so uncomfortable. But
I'm on these conference calls all the time and I
just want to kill myself. And then the worst is
when the kids come around and they're like, hey, I
want and I'm like trying to mute it, like sheats,
I'm on the phone and it's oh my God. The
other day, I was outside, sitting outside. I'm trying to
get some sun. I'm on a conference call. I'm like,
I'm just gonna sit in the sun and get some sun.
Natalia comes home from volleyball. She opens the door starts yelling, Mom, Mom,
me and Katie are gonna sit by the poll. You
gotta get out of here while we're coming right now
to sitbody the I'm like, bitch, I'm on the phone,
first of all. Second of all, it's my house. If
I want to sit out here, you go sit somewhere,
you little charmuda. I go sit in the corner. There's
plenty of room out here. Mom. Do you have to
be outside? You have to be I'm like, I'm only
out here for half an hour. Give me a break. Dario. Anyway, Hey, Kaylen, Hello,
you know what I Hey, you're on conference calls.
Speaker 3: I am y, I do conference call?
Speaker 1: Am? I right, yes, you are.
Speaker 3: They you can be incredibly frustrating.
Speaker 1: And they're on kinds of uncomfortable.
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, they're definitely uncomfortable, especially like when they're talking
over one another, yes you said, and they just keep
doing it over and over again.
Speaker 1: It's it gets or you're the one that's talking over
the other person, and then you don't know every time
you do the wrong time it happens all the time.
Or how about how about this one where you're on
a conference call and this happens on AD calls sometimes, right, Kaylen,
you'll know what I'm talking about. You're on an AD
call and there's always somebody that has to be like
an apple shiner. Yeah you know, yeah, and you're like,
this could have been wrapped up so long ago, but
there's somebody that really wants to show that they're like enthusiastic.
They'll be like, is there any questions and you're like, no,
there's no fucking questions. We have copy, we know exactly
what to do. But somebody's like, well, I just want
to say that I really like this product, and you're like,
I know, yeah, yes, yes, yes, I hate that. Oh
I got We were wrapping up the other day and
then just kept going. Finally two people dropped off. I
can't drop off because I'm the main person that they
got to. So I got to sit there and let
they're talking about shit I don't need to hear, and
I got to sit there. We were wrapped up an
hour and a half later and I'm just like, oh
my god, like somebody's trying to get a raise. Oh
my god. I know you're like, relax, relax, you already
got the gig. Yeah you know him, Like you say,
can I you too? Can just talk all yeah? Yeah,
you get out and do have a separate Yeah, you
can just call each other back bye bye. Please try
your call again. That's the worst though, the pen thing. Man,
it doesn't give you enough time. I don't know, is
it just me?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: No, no, no, It's ridiculous and I have can't you
know if you're looking at your phone. I hate that
you have to then write all the information on a
separate piece of paper so that otherwise it clicks. You
can't write. And that's I learned my lesson early on
with that. That's why they think kept going like please
try to get like, did like looking on my phone?
Then I go back? Did next? Next? New number? It
should just be a link? Yes, yes, But then the
problem if you want to do the one that's just
a link, then you're in a Google hangout all then
suddenly your face is on there and you're like, I
wasn't expecting this, right, right now, it's intrusive again, like
face on right right, or you just look at you
realize you come on and I'll do these calls sometimes
where I have to go click on the link and
be on camera because it's just easier to so I
don't have to write down all to do all the members.
But then it's like you, I don't bring my ring
light with me, so I'm just at my computer or
whatever and there's no light and then I turn it on.
It looks like I'm like a ghost, you know. It's
just like I'm just like, yes, yes, this dark shadow
person that's like hello, yes, fucking technology, man, geez, I'm
so far behind. Oh first try.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 1: We were we were recording little Peak Peak behind the Curtain.
We were recording Patreon right, which was really good. It
was really juicy. I loved it, loved it. I'm not
trying to like make you guys join up, but we
there are there are topics that we just cannot cover
on the regular show because people can't keep their mouths
shut right. Sometimes we have to do them on patreonaf
On Patreon, it's a lot safer on Patreon. It's a
different audience and the show week. We could have never
our Patreon this week. We could have never done it
on a regular show. No, because it's stuff we get
in trouble for talking about. But I but one of
the questions that we got that we thought was a
good question that we were like, this could be answered
on the regular show. Okay, So I'm going to reread
the question because anybody who's not on Patreon didn't hear
the beginning of it. Okay, So Amy Donnelly wrote to us,
dear Rose Rosemne, did she really say that? Okay? I
would love I would I love that, Amy Donaldy.
Speaker 3: Right.
Speaker 1: Mister Richard Frander from Fourtran, New Jersey writes in dear
Rosanna Dana Hey, doctor Joyce brothers like that smid fall
off your nose? What are you trying to do? And
make me sick?
Speaker 2: He head?
Speaker 1: Don't get me something I'm struggling with and the wondering
if you ladies do too, comparing my kids to their
peers and wondering when to push them and when to
back off. Okay, so we'll make fun of her again
for this, Okay. She says, my kids are good kids,
average regular kids who each have their own little passions.
My son is super into baseball, my daughter does all
star cheer, and my oldest is a super hard worker
who currently has two jobs. All good, right, So that
we had to take a moment to make fun of
Amy because she's wondering if if wondering when to push. Yeah,
your kids are are pushed. Your kids are the ones
that we sit around selling like, hey, maybe we gotta Yeah,
she writes, do your kids have friends who do all
the things? And we're like, yeah, like yours. Your kids
do all the things. Our kids are doing nothing right.
Your kids do a lot of stuff too, though, well Natalia,
that's her.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then she says, she says, like there's always so
much chatter and competition end quote, Oh what team did
your daughter make? And the crazy parents at the ballfield
and they're constant bragging. It makes me worried. I don't
push my kids enough. But then that's crazy. My kid
isn't going to be a professional baseball player. And then
she says, and it also drives me nuts that I
have to stand by myself in order to simply enjoy
watching my kid play. I don't know. I think my
question is do you have these am I doing enough,
nagging thoughts and what's her name? Amy, Amy? Yeah, you know,
I gotta say sports parents, Man. I live in a
community where it's so competitive. There's the baseball, there's the basketball,
the volleyball, but the baseball and the basketball, especially baseball.
It's just all these kids at their school are all competitive.
They all do sports stuff for Sonny, and it does
get it can like, you know, you go to the
games and it's like your kid doesn't play enough, you know,
or they don't put your kid in or yeah, like
or what team did your kid get on and your
kid didn't make the team, or you know, it's just
it's so uncomfortable. It just makes you feel like, you know,
like your kids, maybe your kid's not doing it. I
just it makes you want to avoid those parents. And
then I feel for you, Aby, because I've sat by
myself many times because I don't want to hear it,
like I don't need to hear who the best coaches
and what trainers they need to be working with, and
it's so competitive. It's just for me. I'm with you, Amy,
I don't I go sit by myself a lot I did.
The volleyball is different for her in Italian. The parents
are there seem to be pretty cool. I don't know,
there's no like what team did she get on or whatever?
Isn't not in her club? No, not really. I mean
the parents aren't competitive of like who got into like
yah higher level. I think I block it out.
Speaker 2: I do.
Speaker 1: I don't hang out with them. Every year she's on
a different team, so there's always different parents. And now
you got Now it's like you got to get to
know all the kids' names again, all over again. You
got to get to know all the parents' names. Is like,
right now, is she going to be in a different
group than like the moms that you went to Vegas with?
That you you know, she's still I'll still see something
to the place where they like neg you what was
remember that restaurant where they're like a kind of abusive
The stuff is abusive. The waiters are mean to you.
Remember that. You Oh, yes, yes, well we went to Vegas.
There's a place where that. Yeah, they they they make
fun of you, they yell at you. It's in Vegas.
It's called something like Nasty Soals or something like that. Yeah,
where the waiters abuse you. Yeah, And you had come
up with the place for everyone to go there. I
didn't know them. Yeah, when she was worried that the
other moms were gonna be like this is too much. Yes,
And one of them was because they had they had
to put on hats that said like, you know, future strippers,
stuff like that. Yeah, it's pretty raunchy. And then one
one mom was like, my beaver stings or something like that,
like poor poor Tina with her hat, like she's like
trying to play along and be like cool about it.
Or she's wearing this hat that says like something about
her beaver or something, and she's like just like red
face and embarrassed, and my what bad choice to do.
But you liked some of those moms.
Speaker 3: I do.
Speaker 1: I kind of it is one of them, right, but
I go through them because it's like, okay, so there's
different ones now. They they they switch out. A lot
of parents are new, a lot of kids are Yeah,
they switch them around, but I'll still see some of
the parents that I do like, and then we like
each other. There's only like three of them, Like, let's
not get crazy. But there's a ton of parents, right
because right there's a whole team of parents and it's
dads and moms too, and you gotta remember everybody's names
and what they're Who kid goes to what parent? And
I'm constantly sitting next to the the know it all mom,
you know, and I'm like, wait, what's her name again?
We're like at the end of the season now, like
who's who's mom is? Teenas like, I can't ever remember
who goes to what you know? Even though they're all like, oh,
n Italian is great, I'm like, who are you which
one is your kid? Like I yes, right, then you
have to be like, no, your kid's really good, Like wow, right,
you have no idea who they are. Now they're like, oh,
my kid's not even playing right. You're like, well, why
are you here? Right? That's very misleading? Yeah, now, I
mean and you know, oh, and then you don't see
the parents because they're not on the team. But then
you go to Vegas and then they find you and
they're like, oh, we're gonna go get a drink tonight.
I'm like, I got my new parents out. I'm done
with you guys. You guys are so two years ago
now hanging out with you anymore? But do you have
but are there levels like do you have the parents
that are like, my kid didn't get moved up to
the Yes, there is a lot of that.
Speaker 3: I do.
Speaker 1: I don't get involved. I block it out.
Speaker 3: I don't. You know.
Speaker 1: Natalia's competitive and she wants to be on the teams
that are higher up, and she keeps moving up. I
don't know what she's saying. One of the trainers are
saying that she should be on the eighteen year old's team. Oh,
I don't something like that. I don't know. She's still
in tryouts. There's no team set yet. So okay, I'll
get a new set of parents coming up, and you
look forward to all the complaining I'll have and the
Vegas trips and driving to the o C and all that.
So everybody buckle up. So for me, my kids are
just not competitive. So all the things that, yeah, I
felt that way about, like, oh, everybody's on these teams.
I felt that way just at our park, our local
park park, you know, the Park and Res team when
my kids were going through that playing basketball there, I
felt like there was and it's a park and Wreck
team then, and I felt like, ah, these kids that
are they're doing like three sports with the Park and
Rec and they're getting on this team and that that team,
and I always felt like Elbe was into it, but
I don't feel like Elbe's ever been super into anything
like she's. But I feel for for me personally, I
think I've learned to adjust to the fact that like
change my expectations and I've decided to kind of tune
it out as well. And I also want to add
that this stuff starts really early with young kids, you
where parents are competitive over not just their kids doing
all the things, but their kids hitting all the milestones.
And for me, I bought into that a little bit
with Elbie, and I remember being feeling competitive with other moms,
not me feeling competitive, but feeling like there was this
weird competition. I remember being at like mommy and me
or whatever the thing was where my gym or something,
when the kids were really young, and the moms that
were like, their baby's walking already, and I remember that
feeling of like, yeah, why isn't Elbie's not walking yet?
And just or this mom being like, oh, my kids
already started reading, you know, and you just don't know,
like is my kid behind? Are they not? But when
Sadie and Xander came along and Sadie was not hitting
certain milestones. I had to just like throw it all
out the way. I was like, I don't care, right,
like whatever you guys, yes, talk yourself, yes, yes, with
your I don't care what my kid's wearing. Listen, my
kid's wearing basically the pajamas with the the footy pajamas
with the zip. Right, I'm not dressing my kids in
cute outfits. I just got off the competition train at
that point. Yes, yeah, but Kaylin, are you already feeling
that a little bit from other parents? Uh?
Speaker 3: Yeah, a little bit.
Speaker 1: I guess.
Speaker 3: I definitely feel like at least Ila isn't doing enough
because obviously Blake is still too young. But yeah, we're
starting to go, Okay, let's get her into soccer, let's
get her. Did you like we got to get her
to do some stuff because yeah, we don't do.
Speaker 1: Enough, Which is like insane that you would be feeling
that way right with. I mean, she's not even three yet, right,
she is three. She just turned three. Okay, so she
just turned three.
Speaker 2: That is that.
Speaker 1: That's the thing, And it's obviously not just an LA thing. No,
I know, I know, Yeah, I mean I remember when
the kids were in kindergarten, Sonny's best friend mom. She
was like, I'm putting him right into baseball. I was like, okay,
I'm putting them in baseball too. Then all right, what
do I do? Where do I sign up? Like as
she was like, yeah, do you gotta get them. She's
a big sports mom too, though. I mean she met
her husband in a Raider game. She went to a
Raider game by herself because she loved the football, she
loved the team they were. They playing the San Francisco
forty nine, so she went. She met his dad anyway,
so she was a big anyway. She was the mom
that I glombed onto, like am I room mom this week?
Or what do we do? What's do at the end
of do I have to sign this paper? What are
these papers?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 2: Right?
Speaker 1: So kindergarten she was like baseball. She started baseball, and
she told me, so the sports moms are the ones
that that's gotta be like everybody's north star. Yeah, I'm
not saying you have to sign your kids up for sports,
but they always know what the fuck is going right,
they know what the fuck they asked. They got their
ship together they're organized. Yes, yeah, sports are good for kids,
but yeah, I mean yeah. So we started early with
the baseball. I remember Sunny in Italia doing baseball was
so dreadful and boring, and I mean, like, Sonny couldn't
hit the ball. It was just an Italian's Thank god.
It was a mess. The Italians in the outfield. The
coach Sonny was up. They were playing and Sunny kept missing,
and the coach goes, buddy, it's okay, I'm gonna keep
doing it until you hit. Oh, I mean like twenty
five miss miss miss Italian's outfield going ah, she sits down.
I tell you get up, you're beer. Poor Sunny was
so embarrassed. He was like, oh my god, I don't
like baseball. And I was like, it's all right, I
just just can just finish it. It's like all right that. Yeah,
they didn't. The baseball wasn't obviously for them. Then the
girl scouts came along, the boy scouts. That's all big
in our neighborhood too. Right right now, are you gonna
sign Italian up when we moved it? Are you gonna
sign Italian up for girl Scouts? Oh? Yeah, I guess
is that what I gotta do for sure, where do
I sign you know, taking her? I took her to
like four meetings or like this is this is not
for us, let's go Like she didn't she as we
was a Brownie. And then so all of her friends, yeah,
all of her childhood friends, the ones that live in
our neighborhood, all of her Jewish friends that she goes
to camp with, all stuck with it. My kid is like,
really the only quitter. These girls that Elbie's friends with
are still in Girl Scouts. They all got their gold awards.
I'll be quit by Brownies. They She didn't even become
an actual Schot Scout. She did the one year. Maybe
she was a Daisy and then a Brownie, a Daisy,
and then she was a I don't even know if
she made Brownie's. She did it for one year and
then I think she started the next year. This is
what she liked about it. So we only met every
other week. She didn't even have to be a go
get I wasn't even a troop leader. My friends, my
still to this day, my closest mom friends were like
the go getters. They're all troop leaders. They had to
go to all these trainings and I was like, all right,
just tell me where to bring her, Like, you know,
what's the activity we're doing? Bring her to my friend's
house every other week, like you have, somebody brings a snack.
Lbie would go there, eat strawberries, like see your friends. Like,
I'm like, how hard is that? Why do you have
to quit? She was like, I don't want to go anymore.
I was like, but why, Like why would you want
to quit? It's so easy for us. It's like it's
like I get to say that you're involved in something, yes,
you know, yeah, And you get to say you're involved
in something your friends are doing it. This is the
only time that you see some of these girls because
she didn't go to school with them. What why do
you want to quit? She was like, I just don't
want to go. I just don't like to. I just
don't feel like it and it's boring. And I was like,
what are you gonna do? I was like, all right, right,
you know, so she quit. Literally almost every single one
of them is still going strong. Isn't that crazy?
Speaker 3: Now?
Speaker 1: Her friends too, Like we did it for I don't
even remember, like a couple of maybe two years or something.
Our troop leader was nuts and the other and there
was another troop whose moms I got to know. I
didn't know anybody at the time, and we just moved
to the new neighborhood. Then I get to know the
other troop mom. She's like, why don't you come into
our troop? And I was like, how do I do?
I mean, we're stuck with this troop. I've been with
them for two years. She goes, well, they don't have
their shit together.
Speaker 3: We do.
Speaker 1: And Natalia's all her friends are on this troop, so
why don't you And I was like, I don't know.
And then I was like, Natalia, do you what.
Speaker 3: Do you do?
Speaker 1: We just dropped off. We just I don't even remember.
It was brownies. Then Sonny was Sonny was boy Scout,
which did a lot of father son things had on
on weekends that dad was traveling, so I had.
Speaker 2: To go home.
Speaker 1: It's a bunch of dads and we do like we
went to like paintball, we did like was shooting range,
like they were gonna go camping and I was like
and then like Sonny's best friend's dad was like, I'll
I'll take him, you know, So Sonny would go camping.
You know, it's like, oh, Dad's in Utah that weekend,
like can't go, you know. I mean Adam would go
if the thing's in town, like on a Wednesday night
or whatever, but it's like two hours. If it's only
like two hours on a Tuesday, but the weekend hour. Yeah,
but weekends he was never around. It just happened to
be that way most of the time. And you know,
eventually Sonny was like, I'm out these boys. I saw
on Facebook his best friend like Eagle Scout, like and
it's like a portrait, you know, and he's got his
scarf around his neck and he's got his hat on
and it's like proud of my son who made Eagle Scout.
I was like, wow, he's like seventeen with a beard
and shit. Like I'm like, right, they still going strong,
but the people get real proud of us. They got
a purple heart. Yeah, I know, it's like settled down
to Vietnam, like, you know, he's a veteran, Like, okay,
Eagle Scout. I even forgot. I forgot that Sadie joined
was a daisy yeah, because it wasn't a full on
girl scout when because I remember that so Elbe did it.
But then some moms at the school. One of the
moms is our front Angie Angie, who listens to our
show Who's My Friend? She was like the troop leader,
and so Sadie did it. But we went to a
few meetings. But like Sadie's always had problems, like with
the friends, you know, so it's like a bunch of
the And also there was a mom that I freaking hated.
Do you remember years ago the crazy ass email, the
dramatic reading I like our og dramatic reading, which was
from a mom who accused Sadie of bullying her and
going to h a three foot tall bully. Yeah she
didn't say hi to her daughter. Yeah. That mom is
a hot like absolutely insane and has a huge personality,
and she was her kid was in so when so like,
we sold cookies one year. Yeah, we did that, which
really was me selling cookies. Of course, you know, I
was going door to door selling the cookies. So we
did that one year and then Sadie didn't care about
it that much. So I was like, okay, so cool,
we quit right now. I was the one, like I am,
was the one that was dancing like a mother. I got,
first of all, I got the girl who's got to
go sell the cookies, which I have to do. I
have to go get you know, sell the cookies. Then
the next weekend, the boy's doing a boat race. He's
got to put the boat together. I'm putting the boat together.
I'm taking into the boat, like can we call this shre?
Like can we just call it? And like everybody just
stay home, right, stop go getting. So that was the scouts.
Then I had Elbe. Then Elbi was doing the basket
So then Xander joined basketball really young because his friend
had the mom. There was a sports mom who was like, hey,
Max is going to do basketball? Does Xander want to
do basketball? And I was like, all right, the same
as you. All right, we're going to this park by
the way. She lived like nowhere close to me. But
because it was you know, I could have had I
known that Xander was going to like playing basketball, I
could have done it at the park that was a
block from my house. But no, because it was another
mom handling who was like, here's where you okay, you
got to show up at this park. It was a
park nowhere close to my house, right, So I would
drive him out there. But he was like five, right,
you know, so it's like ridiculous, Yes, I mean he
didn't know how to play basketball at five, he was
like and he was also Xander was just not athletic,
saying he was like probably like the baseball thing, like
just kind of loping around the court, you know, not
like you know, getting distracted by like a flea air
and then the other teams scoring. That just come. I
was like, do you follow the ball like you know,
taking it actually kind of taking it seriously. So the
next season he wanted to do it again, but so
I was like, okay, we don't. We can lose the
baggage and do it close to our house. Yes, smart,
So funny because I just remembered that Kevin Hart's kid was,
uh oh really I think on a team yeah with
Xander that year, like they were so young, his kid
Hendricks anyway, that was I just remember seeing it. But
I remember I told you my kids went to preschool
with Kevin Hart's kids, so they were kind of friend anyway.
So they were on a team and then it was
but then he never was like very good at that eight,
like kind of but he was so but he was
not like these other kids that were like really playing
basketball at six, yes, like yeah, who are working on
their dribbling? You know, my kids are just not those kids.
So then Elbee decided like, oh, that looks kind of fun.
I want to try it too. So I think she
was ten, So she started playing and as we all know,
albe Alby has like like she was good at basketball,
not great, would have had to really practice and like,
but you know, so then she we put her in
a like a club team basically for like a season
so that she could get better. It was like a
developmental club team, which was so it was like multiple
practices a week and like a lot of skills, and
you know, she got a little better, but she was
just never super competitive. So I was sad when she
dropped out, But also like same as this mom amy,
like she's not gonna be playing basketball at UCLA, Like
she's not getting a basketball scholarship for college or playing
in the WNBA, So if she's not wanting to do
it with all her free time, I just feel like
it's so intense. And Elvie's never been same with like theater,
she was really good, she was in plays. She has
a beautiful singing voice, but like yeah, yeah, after like
seventh grade, she was like, I'm good. She has a
different path, like kids have their own. She's my kid's
not passionate about anything. So you just talk about like
feeling that feeling seeing other moms whose kids have like
stuck with stuff and now they're like amazing at it. No,
none of my kids have ever stuck with anything and
become amazing. But I don't let it. Yeah, what do
you I mean, what are you gonna do? Make them
push push them out the door and make them get
How do you do that? You know? They are who
they are. That's what I think, and I think it
has to come from them. I believe, like Natalia loves
volleyball and she's pushing you yes for volleyball, like okay,
even though she had a concussion so she was out
for a while, but you see how motivated she is
to come back and like she wants to go. Like
kids have to they have to have that right, right,
Yes they do. Like I got two kids, I got
one that just he was competitive for a while, but
then it just faded away, not into it always really
not that do you think he did it? Because I
think he thought he should be doing it the basketball.
You know, I think he has always for you think
he wasn't because remember when he was being the assistant
to the coach. Yeah he did, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah
he loved. Yeah, he did love. I think he just
felt like, I'm really actually curious about it.
Speaker 3: Yes.
Speaker 1: Do you think he felt like I'm just not a star,
Like I'm not the kid that's he says killing it
every game? Yeah, yeah, he said. We talked about it. Yeah, yeah,
he says. You know, he was when he was young,
starting at like six seven, he was on YMCA's on
the wreck team, he was on club teams. You know,
he was doing it. He loved it mostly because his
close friends were doing it, and like in second, third,
fourth grade, all the same boys would make that, you know,
they would get on the teams, and then especially when
they went to junior high. When they got to junior high,
middle school, it was Sonny was he was at that point,
they were all these boys were like getting growth spurts,
getting bigger right in middle school and they were getting better,
you know, they were in their competitive His best friend
Jensen's a competitive kid, and so was his other friends
that he was like really close with and the coaches
would be like, just you know, we're putting you in, Sonny,
you sit on the bench, you know, And Sonny just
doesn't have that competitive He's not going to get in
your face and grab the ball. He just doesn't have
that in him. And then yeah, so we were talking
about it, and yeah, we we were talking about it,
and he said, uh, yeah, I mean he goes everybody.
Speaker 2: He goes.
Speaker 1: You know, the boys were getting on teams. You know,
you got to try out for the school, and you know,
you don't make it. And he's like it just wasn't
the one year he didn't make the team, right, Yeah,
but then like the next year, I feel like he did.
But remember the year that this was a couple of
years ago, he just wouldn't go to the try to
try out, right. I remember talking to a mom volleyball
mom whose son knew the coaches because the son played basketball.
Very competitive but I like her anyway, she gave me
advice and she said that that she goes, go talk
to that coach. Yeah, she said, talk to the coach.
He'll you know, consider Sonny or something like that. Right,
And then I told Sonny that and he was like,
I go, the coach is waiting for you for the tryout.
He goes, right, No, he didn't want to go. He
didn't want to go. He got intimidated. He's like everybody
else was getting bigger and everybody was getting stronger, and
I just wasn't. It wasn't my thing, you know. And
then we were talking about it. I go, what you
are you going to sign up for something this year?
And he was like, you know, I go, what about
Because he used to do track too a long time ago.
I remember, yeah, and he's like, I'm just not fast
enough for track, And I said, what about cross country? No,
he's not into it, and then he'd be so good
across country though, I know that shit. He wants to
go for nine mile walks. Why doesn't he just go
for a nine mile jog? I he doesn't want to
do that. There's something at their school that's comedy. It's
called comedy sports. Uh huh. He wants to do that.
I don't know what the fuck it is, but that's cool. Yeah,
he wants to do that. And he wants to be
on the debate team. I love that. Yeah, Sonny likes
he's more in his head. You know, he's a he's
a thinker. He's got ideas, he's got opinions, you know.
I mean, but he's uh yeah, he's that's his thing.
He likes to He fu talks my ear off every night.
I mean, when I'm there, he follows me around and
I'm like, I'm gonna take Phil for a while. I'll
the go way with you, all right, And he's just
I don't even know. For like ten minutes, We'll talk
about sports. A few minutes later, I'm like, I'm thinking
to myself, is he still what what are we talking about?
Are you still talking about? You know, I don't know
the sports? What are you talking about? He just loves
to talk. And we went to Chicago. My nephew, Nicholas
is like that, and he loves to talk and he's
just like talking Sonny's ear off about how to make
a bomb and shit when he was a teenager. You
friends don't know how to do. You like put it
in it, you put this in it, you put that,
And he goes almost blew my hand off. He's telling Sonny.
Sonny's like, now I know how you guys feel. Because
Nicholas doesn't stop talking. He's like now I know you
guys because we were like we're all you know me
and all they were like, ah, but beep a beep
a beap. I'm like, Sonny, I gotta go to bed.
I'm tired. I don't want to hear Marvel for whatever,
like comics. It's like it's yes, So anyway where that's
so funny. Well, I am hopeful that Xander is going
to be a bit like Sonny in the way that
you know he as you know, yeah, he does tend
to find things that he's interested in, like guitar, and
now he's super serious about it. That's funny though, because
so Sadie's had a couple of guitar lessons. Xander's motivated,
you know. And this is the thing. I think if
I could give anybody advice who's wondering, it's like, let
them find their say yes, because I tried pushing my
kids to so many things. I tried getting Xander to
do uh, drawn theater when he was young. He hated it,
but like he came to it on his own like
years later, and he did some improv and he was
like really good at it. But you know, I have
asked him, do you want to do improv and he's
like no, but he's saw. And then in their school
that they're going into, they got a choice of theater.
It was like theater, music or something else that they
could do, and Sadie signed up for theater nic, which
I think is really cute. And I hope, like Anne,
Xander signed up for music. That's nice. And I'm like,
I didn't realize, Like Xander's gotten very good on the
guitar and he practices all the time, though I've never
asked him to practice. Not one time I have ever
been like, Hey, you're gonna pick up your guitar? Are
you gonna work on that? Like it's all him, and
he's the one who's always like, Mom, do you want
to hear this thing? I just learned? Mom? Do you
want to hear me play this thing? Which you know
is like passion? Yeah, which is great, And like I
hope that he gets to bring his guitar to school
and be like they can they can per form bands,
Like I think this is going to be the right
place for him in that way. But then like Sadie,
I'm trying to let Sadie come to her own thing
as well. She expressed interest in taking guitar lessons. Now
we're getting her guitar lessons. Now, Xander's jealous that she's
having lessons, and he's like, does he teach? Oh? Does he?
I'd like to take a lesson. Yeah. I was like, well,
how does Sadie feel about that? And he goes so
much not a fan because Sadie doesn't want to compete
and play guitar in her room, while Xander's yeah, they're twins,
you get it. Yes, if Sadie starts playing guitar in
her room, Xander's gonna start playing louder right. Oh yeah.
And then if I go Xander like Sadie was just
starting to play guitar, he'd be like, oh, okay, yeah
she I didn't know. I didn't notice. I'd be like, really,
that's funny. You didn't You didn't hear Sadie playing the guitar. Mom. Honestly,
I was just in my room with the door shut.
I was I had my headphones on and I was
watching a YouTube video and suddenly I was just like,
I feel like playing guitar. So I didn't even WHOA.
I'm so sorry. I'll belous. I'll let her do her thing,
that's too funny. That's so cute. They're very competitive with
each other, but they try to keep it right, like, oh,
I don't know competitive. No, And if I was to
ask Sadie, like, are you okay with Sander taking a
guitar list, she'd be like, what me? Of course? I mean,
that's you know, I mean, it's kind of weird that,
like I was taking. I mean, he he already knows
how to play guitar, but I mean, hey, he wants to. Sure.
I mean, I'm I'll never say no, but yeah, that's
so cute. I love that Xander learned how to play guitar.
You know, he's probably got a musical ear. You know,
I'm sure he's You know, kids, they they developed what
they want, they look for what they like, and you
know it's just you gotta just just foster an environment.
I guess. You know, before we go a top, I
wanted to bring up that I would love your thoughts
on I've so this is totally off topic, but and
I'll tell you how I thought of it in a moment,
but so.
Speaker 3: So.
Speaker 1: Sadie lately has been say like trying to be healthier,
like making comments about like you know, wanting to go
to the gym, and like, you know, and she's so,
I am a full on sugar addict, as you know.
Day three, no sugar today, congrat thank you. I'm just
like it gets out of control and then I just go,
oh my god, I can't look at another box of
mic and ikes, you know, because I'll just go crazy
and buy all the candy, all the sweets. So now
I'm like none. So anyway, Sadie, But I don't ever
ever put anything on my kids. We don't talk about calories,
we don't talk about I never say oh I feel
so fat. I never say oh my body looks terrible
or I can't fit into my clothes. I have commented
that COVID, you know, because I stopped going to the
gym at the beginning of COVID. I have said, like,
all right, like I got to get healthier. I always
focus on just saying I want to be like healthy,
get back to being healthy, and that sugar makes me
feel shitty, right, And so I'm they all understand that
Sadie's fourteen, Lbe's seventeen. I have not seen any signs
of any kind of like eating disorders with my kids.
That's not to say that they couldn't develop that. So
Elbie is like just kind of naturally thin and so
she's never ever had to worry about her weight. And
for a long time she was in, you know, playing
so much basketball, and she was just like skinny, skinny,
little skinny mini. And she eats terrible food. She eats
tons of junk food. But she's also a kid who
like will eat half of something and then just like
forget about it, because she's the kind of person that
we all hate. That's like I forgot to eat, you know.
Then she'll be like, oh, I didn't eat today. Oh
I need to eat some food, you know. But since
she's not playing basketball, I'm not like I'm not like, oh,
you got to eat, like you gotta we gotta take
you to jamba juice. Anyway, my point is Sadie and
Xander both have more of like my jeans where they
like literally like to eat and like to eat unhealthier foods,
and they have there they're more easier for them to
gain weight. And so like Sadie has begun saying things
like oh I'm gonna have she So this is like backstory,
but because of the growth hormone she was on it
has it can make your cholesterol a little bit high,
so her cholesterol was a little bit high. That has
nothing to do with really eating, but she got it
in her head that like, oh, Like she went to
go order some food the other night and she was like,
I'm gonna have chicken instead of steak, and then John
was like, why don't you get the steak. You can
get the steak, like, and she was like, oh, just
my cholesterols, Like I remember that my cholesterol is high,
and like, I think chicken's a little healthier. So to me,
because I've never seen my kids have any I watch
for that kind of thing. Neither none of my kids
have ever I felt seemed unhealthy about food, like unhealthy
obsession about what they're eating or not eating, or trying
to restrict calories or anything like that. Obviously, it's a
huge problem among girls, and it was for me, and
I did all sorts of weird stuff at that age.
In high school, I was popping dexaterm, I was always
trying to lose weight. So I'm not seeing that in
my kids. But John, sometimes I feel like it's okay
for them to want to be healthy. Like I feel
like if there's nothing wrong with them being like I
want to go to the gym or I want to
take a break from eating sweets, Like I think that's fine. Yeah,
feels like that's going to create like like he's always pushing,
like if they've eaten like some of their food, He's
always like, well, you didn't eat your food? How to
eat your food? And I'm like it makes me uncomfortable
that he's like pushing do you know what I mean? Like, yeah,
I don't know. Do you know what I'm saying. I
understand exactly what you're saying. Like it's okay for me
to allow the kids to be like we're going to
try not to eat desserts for a little while to
be healthy, right, right, as long as they're not like
I'm on a diet. Yes, And I think that, you know,
I think that they're they're at that age where they're
very aware of how they look in their body, and
I think that, you know it, like the TikTok stuff,
I don't know what goes on there, Like, you know,
I always hear these trends about like dieting and stuff,
like they're they're showing teenage girls about what to eat,
what's not to eat, or how to throw up and
nothing like there's stuff like that, you know, out there,
and that's the thing that I would kind of be
concerned about what are they watching or what are they
looking at or what are they why. But on the
flip side, when I was when I was her age
fourteen fifteen, I found out I had high cholesterol. My
dad had a quadruple bypass. I was scared too when
I heard I had a high clusture. I was like, oh, shoot,
I can't eat steak that much. I can't. I gotta
add real, I can't have this kind of butter. I
gotta you know. It was like I remember being her
age and thinking I don't want to get high collosts.
So they're you know, she's just trying to be healthy.
I mean, just got to watch, you know a little bit.
I understand where you're coming from with John that it's
it makes you feel uncomfortable, But I mean, they're not
little kids. Where they're not it's not I've tried to say,
I'm like, they're not starving, right, Like they're not restricting. Now,
we're not dealing with a kid who won't eat, right
so like if she wants to leave some if she's full, Like,
I think that's a better thing to teach, is like,
if you're full, you don't have to don't finish food
because it's on your plate. Like yeah, but he, I
think he's trying to do his best, Like I think
it's coming from a good place. And then he said
to me the other night, he was like, well, I
just don't want her to, you know, be worried about
like what she's eating. And I was like, I get that,
but I don't think she is worried about what she's
I don't think she's worrying about it from a calorie standpoint.
She's just trying to be healthy. She's not missing meal.
My kids are not missing meals. They're not like if
I go, hey, you guys want to go out for
ice cream, they're going to be like hell yeah, So
you know, I don't know, But I don't want to
make it a big deal with John, like because I
think his heart's in the right place. So I don't
want to be like, can you please not tell them
to eat more food? Because He's like, but I don't
want them to worry about what they're that's tough. I
get it. Touchy. I know you have to be careful
with girls. Yeah, but part of me is like, yeah,
but I am a girl. I did have an eating disorder,
so I know what to look for and they're not
showing any of those signs. Right, Well, that's good. I
never ever had to deal with I didn't even have
friends really. I mean I had friends kind of that
did it just because they wanted attention. But I remember
I had one friend that did it. I mean maybe
I don't know, I don't know, but like she just
like did it for like three weeks and then she
was done. We were like in high school. But like, yeah,
I've never I've never really dealt with it. I mean,
Sadie had a friend this year that was in treatment
for aanorexia. I know, I know at thirteen years old.
Oh Jesus too young. I feel so bad for that, Like,
and that is like really hard to get rid of,
to get to recover from, you know.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 1: So and I I wondered if say, like what, like
how much my kids know about that? But you don't
want to draw. You don't want to like, hey, let's
talk a lot about hirexia what it is, because you
don't want to give your kid ideas. No, I know
that's the hard part. But you also don't know what
they're watching, like Instagram and shit like that. Stuff just
poisons their mind, it really can. It's it's such a
competitive world with everybody's got to look great and then
filters where you can make yourselves look different.
Speaker 3: I just it's.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna I'm taking away all my kids social
media today starting today, right, me too? How'd you know
hopefully this is a learning show for you, Kaylin?
Speaker 3: Yeah?
Speaker 1: Yeah, you got two girls. Yeah, that's all right, everybody.
We love you guys so much. Thanks Cal you're a
parent now, don't f it up.
Speaker 3: It's good. Letting go great