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Speaker 3: Here's your host, Robert Manny.
Speaker 5: Welcome to Guys Guys Radio. This is your host, Robert Manny,
Speaker 5: welcoming you to the show where men and women can
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Speaker 5: of the guests I bring you each and every week
Speaker 5: to the show. Once again, this week is no exception.
Speaker 5: Today we're going to talk about dating after fifty and
Speaker 5: our special guest is none other than yours truly, Robert Manny.
Speaker 5: That's me and I'm going to be interviewed again by
Speaker 5: my wife, Uni Manning. We're going to talk about dating
Speaker 5: after fifty and it's the subject we've covered many times
Speaker 5: on Guys Guys Radio. From the perspective of a lot
Speaker 5: of the guests I've had on the show who are
Speaker 5: dating experts and relationship experts. So I'm going to aggregate
Speaker 5: all of that learning and my own personal experience of
Speaker 5: dating after fifty and also meeting my lovely wife Uni
Speaker 5: and getting married a number of years ago. So it's
Speaker 5: going to be a fun show. We're going to get
Speaker 5: into all of those ins and outs and challenges that
Speaker 5: people face when they're dating over fifty. You know, folks,
Speaker 5: dating after fifty isn't the end of romance necessarily. It
Speaker 5: may be the beginning of your best relationship yet. So
Speaker 5: I hope you enjoy our comment. You know, I met
Speaker 5: my wife Uni because she winked at me on she
Speaker 5: had a three day pass, a free pass on match
Speaker 5: dot com, and she winked at me, and we got
Speaker 5: together and met and that was it. Now we had
Speaker 5: a storybook ending because we're still together. And that doesn't
Speaker 5: mean it's going to happen for everybody, but it does
Speaker 5: mean that it is possible. And I have spoken to
Speaker 5: a lot of folks who did connect and get married
Speaker 5: after the age of fifty. Now you might not want that,
Speaker 5: but it is possible to find a partner and develop
Speaker 5: a relationship that's lasting and real and fulfilling when you're
Speaker 5: after fifty years old, if you if you keep a
Speaker 5: couple of things in mind that we're going to get
Speaker 5: into on today's show.
Speaker 4: So strap in there.
Speaker 5: And listen up, because I think we're going to have
Speaker 5: a fun ride together right here on Guys Guys Radio.
Speaker 2: It's Guys Guy Radio.
Speaker 5: Okay, Guys Guys Radio is the interview portion of our show,
Speaker 5: and once again we're going to do something a little
Speaker 5: special today. My lovely wife Uni Manny is going to
Speaker 5: ask the questions and I'm going to provide the answers,
Speaker 5: So let me send it over to her right now.
Speaker 6: Okay, Robert, Well, we're turning the microphone around again, and
Speaker 6: our guest is the host himself, the author, storyteller, marketer,
Speaker 6: and relationship expert, Robert Manny. Robert, You've interviewed lots of people,
Speaker 6: hundreds of experts on dating, relationships, masculinity, personal growth, and
Speaker 6: modern love. So drawing from conversations with all the dating
Speaker 6: coaches and insights from your acclaimed book, The Guys Guy's
Speaker 6: Guide to Love, right today, we're going to explore the realities, challenges,
Speaker 6: and opportunities for singles over fifty who are navigating the
Speaker 6: modern dating world. We're going to cover confidence apps, intimacy,
Speaker 6: second chances, red flags, emotional maturity, and hopefully all all
Speaker 6: that really matters now. So for those of us who
Speaker 6: may be feeling a little disheartened or nervous about getting
Speaker 6: back into dating, how about this. Just chew on this
Speaker 6: for a little bit. Dating after fifty isn't the end
Speaker 6: of romance. It may be the beginning of your best relationship. Yet,
Speaker 6: what do you think.
Speaker 5: Robert, Well, just by the fact, JUNI, that you and
Speaker 5: I are here together conducting this interview seems to say
Speaker 5: that there can be successful love and relationships after the
Speaker 5: age of fifty. As you know, I met you when
Speaker 5: I was over fifty, and we met through an online
Speaker 5: app through match dot com, and you had a free
Speaker 5: three day pass and you winked at me and that
Speaker 5: we met and that was it.
Speaker 4: So it can happen.
Speaker 5: But there's a lot that goes into play before that
Speaker 5: that makes what some would say is like love at first.
Speaker 4: Site type of thing.
Speaker 5: There's something that has to go on before that be
Speaker 5: for that to be able to happen. It's like anything
Speaker 5: else I'll give you an example. I was in my
Speaker 5: advertising background. Client said I need a small agency that
Speaker 5: can do this, this and this, And I called them
Speaker 5: the next day and I said, here's who you need.
Speaker 5: I connected them and then I sent them a bill
Speaker 5: and they said, what how much you charging me for this?
Speaker 5: What did it take you an hour? And I said no,
Speaker 5: it took me twenty years to be able to know
Speaker 5: what you needed.
Speaker 4: And it's the same way in.
Speaker 5: Love, where you have to do the work first to
Speaker 5: be in a position to attract and then connect with
Speaker 5: and then maintain a partnership and a relationship.
Speaker 6: Yeah, that's well said exactly. It's all of the wisdom
Speaker 6: and the accumulated experience that goes into the now. So, Robert,
Speaker 6: what inspired you to focus so much of your attention
Speaker 6: on dating and relationships for people over fifty?
Speaker 5: Well, it all started when I wrote my book and
Speaker 5: got it out there, The Guy's Guy's Guide to Love,
Speaker 5: which as you know, has been called The Male Sex
Speaker 5: and the City because it's really a relationship, fun romp
Speaker 5: type of relationship that takes place in New York City
Speaker 5: and it's about love and dating from a male perspective.
Speaker 5: And I wrote the book because I was inspired to
Speaker 5: help kind of bridge the great chasm, the great gap
Speaker 5: and communication between men and women. And I wrote the
Speaker 5: book over a decade ago, and it's never been more
Speaker 5: true than right now. Instead of the gap closing, the
Speaker 5: gap has expanded. I think where people really don't know
Speaker 5: how to date now. Now that's just not people over fifty.
Speaker 5: That's for young people also, but for the benefit you know,
Speaker 5: I'm not going to tell twenty year olds how to date. However,
Speaker 5: based on my life experience and the fact that i
Speaker 5: wrote this book and the fact that I've interviewed so
Speaker 5: many dating and relationship experts on our show, I think
Speaker 5: I can aggregate a lot of that, a lot of
Speaker 5: those insights and share them with our audience and maybe
Speaker 5: help them out.
Speaker 4: And the news is good news.
Speaker 5: So it is possible to find true love after the
Speaker 5: age of fifty, and some of my guests have done
Speaker 5: the exact same thing as I have. But there's there's
Speaker 5: also a lot of pitfalls along the way. You have
Speaker 5: to make the right decisions, you have to prepare yourself,
Speaker 5: and you have to be open.
Speaker 4: You have to open your heart.
Speaker 6: Well said, well, you've said that dating after fifty can
Speaker 6: actually be better than dating in your twenties and thirties.
Speaker 6: So going back to not telling people you know who
Speaker 6: are in their twenties and thirties what to do on
Speaker 6: a date, why do you think dating after fifty could
Speaker 6: be better?
Speaker 5: Well, you know you have It's all about perspective, Uni,
Speaker 5: you have some experience. Number one, you have some experience.
Speaker 5: So a lot of times in our formative dating years,
Speaker 5: if you will, we end up attracting the same type
Speaker 5: of person.
Speaker 4: Who may not be right for us.
Speaker 5: And hopefully by the time they hit around the age
Speaker 5: forty five, forty forty five, fifty and beyond, they'll have
Speaker 5: realized that maybe it's me. Maybe there's things I need
Speaker 5: to do to not attract the same type of person
Speaker 5: where I'm going to have the same type of relationship
Speaker 5: pitfalls that I had in the past. So that's one
Speaker 5: good thing. It's experience. Secondly, you hopefully by the time
Speaker 5: you're around fifty or so, you have established yourself as
Speaker 5: who you are. You know more about who you are
Speaker 5: and what's important to you, because a lot of times
Speaker 5: when you're younger and you're dating, it's all about the
Speaker 5: shiny object. May oh, that guy's gorgeous or or or whatever.
Speaker 5: You're driven by your libido and your eyes versus what's
Speaker 5: really right for you, the type of person that you
Speaker 5: can connect with on an energetic and a heartfelt basis,
Speaker 5: So you have that going for you also, and also
Speaker 5: as part of that being established, you may not have
Speaker 5: as many concerns about who you are. You know who
Speaker 5: you are, and you don't have to doubt yourself, and
Speaker 5: you can be confident in making the right decisions by saying,
Speaker 5: you know what.
Speaker 4: He looks good or she looks good, and it's all good.
Speaker 5: On paper, but there's something wrong, and you don't try
Speaker 5: to force chemistry that's not there. And that happens so
Speaker 5: many times where you know, as a guy, a lot
Speaker 5: of times we think with our eyes when when we're dating,
Speaker 5: and at a certain point we realize that, well, maybe
Speaker 5: she's really pretty, but I don't feel the attraction, or
Speaker 5: this isn't working and she's supposed to be have this
Speaker 5: type in my head, but maybe that's not maybe that's
Speaker 5: not exactly. The type isn't physical. The type needs to
Speaker 5: be emotional and energetic and intellectual as much as it
Speaker 5: is physical. And I think when we get to around
Speaker 5: fifty or so, it's not just based on looks or
Speaker 5: strictly money. Hopefully everybody's established in some way by that time.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and you've done a lot of work on yourself,
Speaker 6: so I think you've been able to resolve a lot
Speaker 6: of the experience that you have gained through the years. However,
Speaker 6: many singles over fifty carry a lot of emotional baggage.
Speaker 6: They've experienced divorce or loss or heartbreak, and they may
Speaker 6: be a little bit more cynical going forward. What do
Speaker 6: you say to them? How would you talk to someone
Speaker 6: who has become I'm a little cynical about moving forward.
Speaker 5: I think it's perfectly understandable because you know, everybody's going
Speaker 5: to deal with dishonesty and people that supposedly were one
Speaker 5: thing it turned out to be something else. And everybody's
Speaker 5: had a broken heart at some point, so.
Speaker 4: I totally get it.
Speaker 5: And when they get into using things like the online
Speaker 5: dating app the honesty is a key issue and a
Speaker 5: lot of women I know from my experience in interviewing
Speaker 5: a lot of dating coaches, they say that women don't
Speaker 5: trust the dating apps, which is a shame because there's
Speaker 5: no better way to meet people. You never meet unless
Speaker 5: you had the app and you and I met that way.
Speaker 5: But the honesty thing is something that a lot of
Speaker 5: people wrestle with because people lie, and you know, you
Speaker 5: never want to lie because the truth, particularly in dating,
Speaker 5: the truth always comes out. If you say you're six
Speaker 5: foot two and you're five foot nine, you're going to
Speaker 5: meet in person, hopefully at some point then the truth
Speaker 5: will show itself.
Speaker 4: And it's across the board in that.
Speaker 5: So it's very under standable that people over fifty are
Speaker 5: going to be cynical because they've been burned along the way.
Speaker 5: They've had life experience. They've had bad life experience, but
Speaker 5: they've had good life experience, and I've gained hopefully they've
Speaker 5: gained some wisdom to not take it personally and just
Speaker 5: know when to let go and move on. That's the
Speaker 5: other thing is people do over fifty is they carry
Speaker 5: a lot of baggage around, and if you want to
Speaker 5: meet somebody new, you have to prepare yourself and put
Speaker 5: yourself in a position to be open for love.
Speaker 4: I remember when.
Speaker 5: I was a fifty or so, I'd go to my
Speaker 5: family gatherings and nobody asked me, why are you still single?
Speaker 4: Now Here I was.
Speaker 5: I was a single guy. I lived in Manhattan, I
Speaker 5: was in advertising. I had a lot of fun. I
Speaker 5: dated a lot before you what I met. Yet I
Speaker 5: hadn't really connected with v one if you will, and
Speaker 5: people stopped asking me, when are you getting married? And
Speaker 5: it was a fate I'll complete that I wasn't. But
Speaker 5: I realized, I said, why aren't my relationships lasting as
Speaker 5: long as I want them to? Why are they falling
Speaker 5: apart at a certain point. I must be doing something.
Speaker 5: And I realized that I wasn't making room in my
Speaker 5: heart for a partner. And as soon as that I
Speaker 5: had that epiphany, and I don't know, it didn't come
Speaker 5: across like it wasn't like lightning struck. I just realized that.
Speaker 5: And as soon as that happened, I realized, that's it.
Speaker 5: I'm going to get I'm going to find the one
Speaker 5: and get married. And I told my mother at Thanksgiving,
Speaker 5: I remember, I'm going to get married next year, Mom,
Speaker 5: and she said, oh, really, that's fantastic. Who are you
Speaker 5: going to marry? I said, I don't know. I haven't
Speaker 5: met her yet, but I knew, And sure enough, you
Speaker 5: and I connected that summer and within a year we
Speaker 5: were engaged, and so it can't happen. But I had
Speaker 5: to put myself in a position to realize, is this
Speaker 5: something I need to do differently? Is this is something
Speaker 5: I need to look at in terms of my shadow self?
Speaker 5: If you will, then maybe I wasn't doing correctly, and
Speaker 5: how do I open myself up so I can attract
Speaker 5: the right person for me? So I think a lot
Speaker 5: of the important work, particularly for daters over fifty, is
Speaker 5: doing the circumspection looking at themselves and saying, Okay, who
Speaker 5: am I, what do I want?
Speaker 4: What do I have to offer?
Speaker 5: How have my relationships gone in the past? Is there
Speaker 5: anything maybe I should relook, reconsider, reshape going forward. Because
Speaker 5: if I'm single and I don't want to be single,
Speaker 5: and I've had relationships and none of them have worked out,
Speaker 5: there must be something I you know, it takes two
Speaker 5: to tango. I can't just blame it on my partners.
Speaker 5: I must have had a if they straight or whatever.
Speaker 5: I must have had something to do with that. So
Speaker 5: we all have to start by looking within, and that's
Speaker 5: a perfect place to begin for pretty much any big
Speaker 5: change in life, and particularly with relationships. So we can
Speaker 5: go easy in ourselves and love ourselves and say, Okay,
Speaker 5: who am I, what has my experience been? What do
Speaker 5: I have to offer? What really works for me? That's
Speaker 5: a perfect place to start and it can get really
Speaker 5: good from there. For me, it happened very quickly. You
Speaker 5: and I connected and boom, that was it.
Speaker 6: Yeah, And I think sometimes we talk about the energy
Speaker 6: that was exchanged between us, and it just really there
Speaker 6: was a meeting of the energy as well as the mind, body,
Speaker 6: and heart for us. And we talk about a lot
Speaker 6: of energy that is exchanged in relationships between us. Right,
Speaker 6: So what kind of energy attracts healthy partners at the
Speaker 6: stage of life.
Speaker 5: I think you have to have the open and openness.
Speaker 5: You have to have some type of positivity. If you're
Speaker 5: going to be a Debbie Downer or Donnie down or whatever,
Speaker 5: it's not going to work. You have to be open
Speaker 5: and look at the possibilities and say what can be
Speaker 5: and like I'm going to it's something good is going
Speaker 5: to happen, and believe in yourself and believe in your partner,
Speaker 5: and believe in you two together to make it happen.
Speaker 5: You had mentioned you need the energy exchange, which I
Speaker 5: think is critical also in forging a new relationship. So
Speaker 5: when people meet, a lot of times you have to
Speaker 5: you don't have to, but a lot of times people
Speaker 5: meet through the online apps, and there is an energetic exchange.
Speaker 5: You winked at me, which was that was nice, and
Speaker 5: I wrote back to you, and I think I suggested,
Speaker 5: let's have a phone call. We went back a few times,
Speaker 5: very short, though short and sweet responses, and you said, no,
Speaker 5: we don't need to, let's just meet. And I had
Speaker 5: my rules in place, like you have to have a
Speaker 5: phone call because there's an energetic exchange when you first
Speaker 5: look at the other person's profile, when you first make
Speaker 5: a connection there, and then there's an exchange when you
Speaker 5: hear the other person's voice, which I've experienced, like I
Speaker 5: heard somebody on the phone and like this doesn't work
Speaker 5: for me, not because they had a rock's accent or whatever,
Speaker 5: it's just like it's just I wasn't feeling it, but
Speaker 5: because the voice has a tonality and the voice carries.
Speaker 4: And energy energy. But you said no, let's just meet.
Speaker 5: And then I thought about it and I said, you
Speaker 5: know what, I made up all these rules because I've
Speaker 5: been single so long, and I kind of had thought
Speaker 5: I had mastered the online dating game, if you will,
Speaker 5: I said, well, these are just my rules.
Speaker 4: I'm going to break them. And we met and that
Speaker 4: was in. It wasn't an issue.
Speaker 5: And fortunately when we did meet in person, right we
Speaker 5: were on the same page.
Speaker 6: It's true. I felt the energy. I remember when you said,
Speaker 6: and you offered me your hand. I had on those
Speaker 6: ridiculous shoes and we were going down these steps and
Speaker 6: you offered me your hand to support me as we
Speaker 6: were walking down the stairs. And there was a very
Speaker 6: nice energy exchange there.
Speaker 5: Too, just for the benefit, for the benefit of our audience.
Speaker 5: The way we met, we met at seventy second seventy
Speaker 5: ninth Street, I think in Manhattan on what was it, Yeah,
Speaker 5: but we met on the street on a corner, and
Speaker 5: I was on one corner on the stairs on seventy
Speaker 5: ninth on the west side, I think it was. I
Speaker 5: don't know if it was Amsterdam Avenue or Columbus Avenue,
Speaker 5: and I looked across the street diagonally and I saw
Speaker 5: a beautiful woman in a green and white dress come
Speaker 5: walking across, and I thought, shoot, I have shorts and
Speaker 5: a green T shirt on.
Speaker 4: But at least we matched.
Speaker 5: And then I said, that's her, And when you came
Speaker 5: across the street, I walked up to you and I
Speaker 5: gave you a hug. It was so bizarre, and you
Speaker 5: looked at me like, what are you doing?
Speaker 7: But it was unexpected, I have to say from me too,
Speaker 7: yeah it was. It was very interesting because initially I
Speaker 7: was I didn't know how to take that.
Speaker 6: I thought that was a little too soon. But I
Speaker 6: looked into your eyes and there was again, there was
Speaker 6: this openness in your eyes that said, you know, let's
Speaker 6: just go with it. So I did. I did, and
Speaker 6: it worked out well.
Speaker 7: Enough about us, Enough about us.
Speaker 6: You mentioned now a couple of times about dating apps,
Speaker 6: so you're right, so many people these days are now
Speaker 6: turning to apps. It's become more normal. So going back
Speaker 6: to honesty and when we set up our profiles, how
Speaker 6: important is honesty in setting up our profile and in
Speaker 6: your experience, you know, talking to coaches and speaking to people,
Speaker 6: where do people tend to exaggerate and how should we
Speaker 6: view well?
Speaker 4: I mean, you always want to be honest.
Speaker 5: There's one there because as I mentioned, the truth is
Speaker 5: going to come out if you say you're fifty pounds
Speaker 5: less than you are and you have a really old
Speaker 5: picture and then in person, you don't look like that
Speaker 5: person that's going to come out. So the honesty you
Speaker 5: can only cover up so much. I think the one
Speaker 5: area where there may be a little wiggle room is
Speaker 5: that when you get to age where you know, after
Speaker 5: twenty five, people don't necessarily look their age. There's a
Speaker 5: good looking fifty and then there's a fifty year old
Speaker 5: who looks like they're seventy. And so I think because
Speaker 5: of the algorithms, some people who might be like fifty one,
Speaker 5: they put down that they're forty eight because they want
Speaker 5: to attract people who are going to fit that that level,
Speaker 5: that age. And it's still wrong, but it's understandable. And eventually,
Speaker 5: I've had it happen both ways, and the truth comes
Speaker 5: out quickly, and you either attract it to the person
Speaker 5: of you're not so I'm not or you're not so.
Speaker 5: I'm not encouraging that and I'm not condoning that, but
Speaker 5: I understand that people there is a little wiggle room
Speaker 5: sometimes with the age. I mean, you can't do ten
Speaker 5: years or something, but if it's a year or two
Speaker 5: after fifty, who cares? But the truth needs to come
Speaker 5: out quickly about that, because again, you know, to be frank,
Speaker 5: there's people who are fifty who look like they're forty nowadays,
Speaker 5: and there's people who are fifty who look like seventy
Speaker 5: in a bad way, and that's just the way it is.
Speaker 5: So I understand where people might want to play around
Speaker 5: with that a little bit, but again I'm not condoning it,
Speaker 5: but it happens.
Speaker 6: Okay, yeah, I think so too. What are the biggest
Speaker 6: mistakes people make over fifty when using dating apps?
Speaker 5: I think they say too much Number one. In their profile,
Speaker 5: you want to keep it interesting, conversational. From the world
Speaker 5: of advertising, your profile is an ad. It's a print ad.
Speaker 5: I don't know how many of them do video now,
Speaker 5: but it's pretty much an AD. So you want to
Speaker 5: show a couple of images of you in your best life.
Speaker 5: You want to show a headshot with a smile. You
Speaker 5: want to show with some friends doing something active, and
Speaker 5: to get a sense as to who you are and what.
Speaker 4: Your vibe is.
Speaker 5: In the copy of your profile, you don't want to
Speaker 5: say anything negative. You don't want to say I don't
Speaker 5: like this, don't be like my ex or whatever, and
Speaker 5: you'd be surprised how many decent looking people just they
Speaker 5: put themselves in a hole just because they write their
Speaker 5: profile and they have an ax to grind or it's negative.
Speaker 5: So I think you have to stay positive, you have
Speaker 5: to stay open mind, or you want to keep it short,
Speaker 5: because your goal is to get to the next step,
Speaker 5: which is somebody takes a look at your photos, they
Speaker 5: read it, they say, oh, this person's pretty interesting. I'll
Speaker 5: connect with them, and then you take it from there.
Speaker 5: So the objective of the profile is to get to
Speaker 5: the next step. That's it, because nobody's looking at the profile.
Speaker 5: After you meet. Maybe they'll go back and check, but
Speaker 5: probably it's incidental. At that point. The goal is to
Speaker 5: get step one to step two, which is some type
Speaker 5: of communication, and then step two, after that communication, meet
Speaker 5: in person. And that's where the real energy exchange is
Speaker 5: the only thing that really counts, because ultimately, if you're
Speaker 5: going to be in a relationship, dating and otherwise, you're
Speaker 5: going to meet.
Speaker 4: In person, so that has to feel right.
Speaker 6: Yeah, And I also believe that you put in the
Speaker 6: ways in which you want to connect with people, like
Speaker 6: for example, you know, if you love to hike and
Speaker 6: you're outdoorsy, you know, I would say, make sure you
Speaker 6: put that in there. Don't be afraid to be honest
Speaker 6: about the ways in which you love to live.
Speaker 5: So absolutely, yeah, get a sense as that, because if
Speaker 5: you're a person who they don't really like to hike
Speaker 5: and you love to hike, yet a lot of the
Speaker 5: other things line up.
Speaker 4: Maybe it's a lifestyle thing.
Speaker 5: One person's more outdoors and the other person is not,
Speaker 5: So you want to get that stuff out of the way.
Speaker 5: So in your profile some of those key indicators, like
Speaker 5: everybody likes to travel and takes a walk on a beach,
Speaker 5: but hiking is pretty specific, and hiking can be you know,
Speaker 5: going for a walk, but hiking can also be like
Speaker 5: we just came back from Yosemite.
Speaker 4: That was that was hiking. We were going up five
Speaker 4: thousand feet.
Speaker 5: Five thousand feet And that's for people who are real hikers,
Speaker 5: and that's a different ballgame.
Speaker 4: You have to I don't think.
Speaker 6: I would put that in my profile.
Speaker 4: Hiking correctly, Like I'm a light hiker.
Speaker 6: Right exactly, flat terrain.
Speaker 4: Walk in the woods. Yeah.
Speaker 6: So do you think and going back to the apps,
Speaker 6: do you think they hurt relationships for mature or help
Speaker 6: mature dators?
Speaker 5: I think they can they can help because a lot
Speaker 5: of times, particularly as we age, we don't have as
Speaker 5: much contact with our friends. Our circle of beyond businesses
Speaker 5: gets smaller, and how do you meet people? And you know,
Speaker 5: there's always the grocery store and if you go to
Speaker 5: the gym with a lot of people are like, don't
Speaker 5: talk to me, I'm working out, which totally understandable.
Speaker 4: So you know, this is a way to.
Speaker 5: Meet you know, it's it's more people than you'd ever
Speaker 5: meet in real life.
Speaker 4: I RL as they call it now that you use
Speaker 4: the apps. But again, you.
Speaker 5: Can fall into the deep side of the pool when
Speaker 5: you go on the dating apps. Too many services, too
Speaker 5: many apps, too many dates, too many juggling of relationships
Speaker 5: of potential partners. I remember when we were going out,
Speaker 5: I assumed everybody on the service was dating multiple people
Speaker 5: and then it would sort itself out. And you and
Speaker 5: I went out a few times and then you said
Speaker 5: to me, oh, you're still on You're still on Match.
Speaker 4: And I'm like, well, so are you.
Speaker 5: Because if you saw me and you said, well, well,
Speaker 5: why don't we just go out and then if it
Speaker 5: works out, it works out, and if it doesn't, it doesn't.
Speaker 4: I'm like that's a novel idea.
Speaker 5: Okay, instead of dating five people at the same time,
Speaker 5: let's give it a try. And we did, and everything
Speaker 5: else kind of fell by the wayside.
Speaker 4: But that's again, you know, we had maybe we.
Speaker 5: Were set up to have everything work because so many
Speaker 5: things prior to that didn't work. But the point is
Speaker 5: it can happen, and it can work, and these are
Speaker 5: some of the guardrails that we have to put up
Speaker 5: and some of the expectations that we have to manage
Speaker 5: to be realistic.
Speaker 6: Absolutely, So let's move things along.
Speaker 8: You know.
Speaker 6: Let's say we made the connection on the app, and
Speaker 6: what are some challenges people face when they are dating.
Speaker 6: I mean, I think many people over fifty might feel
Speaker 6: that they miss their chance. So what would you say
Speaker 6: to them.
Speaker 5: Well, there's a couple of things to unpack there. I
Speaker 5: think once you make the first connection with somebody you
Speaker 5: meet over fifty in real life, if you will that,
Speaker 5: you want to make sure that you don't spill all
Speaker 5: your beans, which people have a tendency to do.
Speaker 4: They just give the whole story.
Speaker 5: It's like they throw up on the other person, and
Speaker 5: that can be overbearing, that could be too much. You
Speaker 5: want to just have a nice conversation and enjoy the
Speaker 5: other person's company and see if you can pick up
Speaker 5: vibe wise and see if that works, and also ferret
Speaker 5: out some information about the other person without making them
Speaker 5: feel feel like, you know, that they're being interviewed, because
Speaker 5: sometimes guys feel like they're you know, they're interviewing for
Speaker 5: a job. And on the other hand, sometimes guys will
Speaker 5: just talk about themselves for the entire time and it
Speaker 5: becomes too much. So I think you have to be
Speaker 5: careful when you make that first meeting to be open
Speaker 5: and to actively listen and to quote unquote, as you
Speaker 5: told me, pay attention so you can be present for
Speaker 5: it for the other person and just treat it like fun.
Speaker 5: You know, you can meet people when you're over fifty
Speaker 5: online for perspective dating and maybe it doesn't work out,
Speaker 5: but maybe you become friends and maybe they have a
Speaker 5: girlfriend that they want to introduce you to, or a boyfriend,
Speaker 5: a guy who knows, Hey, I know this other guy,
Speaker 5: he'd be great for you, you know, say that on
Speaker 5: the date, but think, you know, if you have some
Speaker 5: type of connection there where you like the other person,
Speaker 5: or maybe there's some business opportunity there. Things can happen,
Speaker 5: So don't just immediately jets in the other person if
Speaker 5: they're not your perfect, perfect romantic partner, unless that's your
Speaker 5: myopic and that's what you want and that's what you
Speaker 5: therefore and you're not messing around, and that's fine. Just
Speaker 5: know what you want. But I would also always say
Speaker 5: be open, be open minded.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I mean definitely don't put all your eyes in
Speaker 6: one basket, you know, on that first day. That's so
Speaker 6: much pressure right now, and just to make the goal,
Speaker 6: have a connection, have a fun time. It's so much
Speaker 6: stress is taking.
Speaker 4: To keep it light. Keep it light.
Speaker 5: Yeah. Sometimes I know some guys they'll take and women
Speaker 5: have told me this, they the first date they take
Speaker 5: them to. The guy takes the woman to a fancy
Speaker 5: restaurant and then they say, you know, they want to
Speaker 5: get married or something. It's like too much, too soon.
Speaker 5: So I would always suggest keep it light. If you
Speaker 5: you know, want to meet at a lounge or someplace
Speaker 5: where you can enjoy a beverage or maybe someplace where
Speaker 5: you can go then afterwards, take a walk or something,
Speaker 5: and that's it and then it's see if it if
Speaker 5: it works, and if it does, don't play games, then
Speaker 5: with how many days do I wait before I get back?
Speaker 5: Or it just like set it up, keep going, yeah.
Speaker 6: Exactly, if it feels right, take a chance. Yeah. So
Speaker 6: there are people who have been dating, and then there
Speaker 6: are others as they're older, they've just come out of
Speaker 6: a long marriage. What kind of advice would you give
Speaker 6: someone that's coming out of a long relationship, some lasting
Speaker 6: over twenty years.
Speaker 4: Well, that's a great question.
Speaker 5: And I think there's the online dating answer and then
Speaker 5: there's in real life overall answer. And I think if
Speaker 5: it's let's start with in real life overall, you need
Speaker 5: to say, Okay, I'm here, where am I? What happened?
Speaker 5: Why am I single?
Speaker 4: Now?
Speaker 5: Is this something I chose? Is something I want? Is
Speaker 5: this something I'm happy with? What do I want going forward?
Speaker 5: What do I have to offer? What does the other
Speaker 5: person need to have? Short lists? Not like thirty five
Speaker 5: you know thirty five to item list where they must
Speaker 5: have all these things? Keep it based on values. What
Speaker 5: are the values I need in a potential partner for online?
Speaker 5: I think you gotta just shorten all of that and say, okay,
Speaker 5: what type of person do I want to connect with?
Speaker 5: I want to have somebody who lives close by. They
Speaker 5: we can have some fun. I enjoy conversing with them,
Speaker 5: and maybe there's some shared activities and who knows what
Speaker 5: can happen. So I think again, having that open mind
Speaker 5: is the real key, and also the circumspection and then
Speaker 5: the open mind and.
Speaker 4: Open heart.
Speaker 6: Good to hear. So in your experience, do you find
Speaker 6: that men and women want fundamentally different things? You talked
Speaker 6: about values, but do you think that that's you know, well,
Speaker 6: fundamental difference.
Speaker 5: It's you know, that's a that's a big, big, big question.
Speaker 5: So every situation is different. Every time a man and
Speaker 5: a woman or a couple of whatever get together, it
Speaker 5: creates a unique little universe. It's like a snowflake or something.
Speaker 5: Every little action is a separate entity. So, you know,
Speaker 5: they might want to have they might have similar needs,
Speaker 5: similar values, and they might not. So I can't speak
Speaker 5: for everybody in terms of what does everybody want and
Speaker 5: is a difference between men and women? I think fundamentally
Speaker 5: people want to be with somebody that they enjoy spending
Speaker 5: time with, and what can happen out of there is different.
Speaker 5: If it's a younger guy, they're probably intert Sex is
Speaker 5: going to be at the top of the list. An
Speaker 5: older guy, it's going to be near the top of
Speaker 5: the list, if not at the top of the list.
Speaker 5: But there's going to be other things. And for women
Speaker 5: it's going to be other things also depending on their
Speaker 5: life stage. I think, would you agree or disagree with that?
Speaker 4: Uni?
Speaker 6: I think sex and intimacy it's important for both people. However,
Speaker 6: I think for women the intimacy is something that they
Speaker 6: I don't know if require is such a word, but
Speaker 6: that is highly important for long term relationships. Now sex
Speaker 6: could be these days a lot more casual where the
Speaker 6: intimacy isn't as important, But I still speak to a
Speaker 6: lot of women who, especially in even within a relationship,
Speaker 6: if they're going through periods where the intimacy isn't there,
Speaker 6: then the sex kind of dries out. So good to know, yeah,
Speaker 6: is very important. And it isn't just the physical part.
Speaker 6: It's the warmth, it's the connection, it's the the ability
Speaker 6: to feel safe so that we can share our private thoughts,
Speaker 6: that level of intimacy. Before we close out the this
Speaker 6: particular section, what's your best first date?
Speaker 4: Question to ask somebody when you go on the first date.
Speaker 4: So that's a great question.
Speaker 5: Uh, you know, I think something that's kind of open ended,
Speaker 5: not like you know something to the what what are
Speaker 5: some of the things that you want to what you
Speaker 5: want to do?
Speaker 4: What?
Speaker 5: What do you have you have some plans for this
Speaker 5: coming year? I would keep it like general and open.
Speaker 5: I know that's kind of a boring answer, but that's
Speaker 5: what I got. Uh, that's what I would ask if
Speaker 5: I want to get to know somebody, kind of get
Speaker 5: a sense as to who they are. Do you see
Speaker 5: yourself living around here? You know, in the next five years,
Speaker 5: you see yourself moving kind of what's what's your kind
Speaker 5: of you have kind of a game plan or you
Speaker 5: kind of.
Speaker 4: Just play it by year, or where are you on things?
Speaker 5: What's what's kind of you know, gives a sense as
Speaker 5: to who they are and what they are and where
Speaker 5: they're going.
Speaker 6: Yeah, it's almost a directional question almost as to see
Speaker 6: are we going along in a similar path before?
Speaker 5: Yeah, because they could say I'm moving, you know, I'm
Speaker 5: definitely getting off grid, and uh, you might be a
Speaker 5: city person and I'm like, Okay, that's great that we're
Speaker 5: here now. But if she's going off grid and I'm not,
Speaker 5: how are we going to make this work.
Speaker 6: Yeah, you know. That actually goes right into the next segment,
Speaker 6: which is I wanted to talk to you a little
Speaker 6: bit about red flags and green flags. What are the
Speaker 6: subtle red flags? That seems like a big one, you're
Speaker 6: not going to be in the same location, But what
Speaker 6: are the subtle red flags that you think I should
Speaker 6: be aware of.
Speaker 5: Well, I think there's two sets. I think there's the
Speaker 5: emotional red flags and is the logistical red flags. So
Speaker 5: the emotional red flags, if somebody really is bitter about
Speaker 5: their past relationships and has not done the work where
Speaker 5: they have the ability to let go and be open,
Speaker 5: and you're going to get compared to what happened in
Speaker 5: the past and don't be like my ex and he
Speaker 5: did this, and don't do that, and like it becomes
Speaker 5: very pressurized situation there. And logistically, if you're you know,
Speaker 5: if you're going to be in different locations and different
Speaker 5: states of mind and different states of art and it's
Speaker 5: going to be difficult to get together and build a relationship,
Speaker 5: that's a red flag. Also if they're always booked, if
Speaker 5: they're always busy, if you and you're not as busy
Speaker 5: because you have this you if you really want to
Speaker 5: do something, You're going to make the time. If you
Speaker 5: really want to be with somebody, you'll make the.
Speaker 4: Time for them.
Speaker 5: If you don't, then maybe you're not going to go
Speaker 5: out of your way as much. But if you have
Speaker 5: to find a way into their schedule on an ongoing basis, that's,
Speaker 5: to me is a red flag that they're not they're
Speaker 5: not being open or there, you're not a priority, or
Speaker 5: they're not that interested.
Speaker 6: Yeah, those are two good good signs. Then what's the
Speaker 6: flip side, what are the green flags we should be
Speaker 6: This is a good one.
Speaker 5: Well, I think one, I think you want to be
Speaker 5: with somebody, particularly if you're over fifty, who's kind hearted
Speaker 5: and who's who's a nice person, you know that whole
Speaker 5: you know, the whole like bad boy thing and all
Speaker 5: of that. Do you really want to be with a
Speaker 5: bad boy if you're a woman over fifty.
Speaker 4: I don't know. I'm not a woman over fifty, so
Speaker 4: I can't say.
Speaker 5: But that's that's to me, seems like for the younger crowd,
Speaker 5: whereas there's that edge, that danger. I think you want
Speaker 5: the guy to be dynamic and interesting, but you don't
Speaker 5: necessarily you don't want the bad boy at that stage
Speaker 5: of life. So I think the green flag there is
Speaker 5: if they are kind, harder, they're open, they make time
Speaker 5: for you, if they respect your independence. Because I think
Speaker 5: over fifty, one of the keys to making relationship is
Speaker 5: each person has to be able to have their own life.
Speaker 5: You want to have the share time, but you both
Speaker 5: want to have a life because if one person throws
Speaker 5: their entire life into you, then they might, you know, secretly,
Speaker 5: be a little bit bitter about that, like, hey, what
Speaker 5: about me? So you want to make sure that they
Speaker 5: have the time to develop themselves. You have the time
Speaker 5: to develop yourself. So if you sense there's a nice
Speaker 5: give and take in the relationship that's bordering, then that's
Speaker 5: a really good thing.
Speaker 6: Yeah, And from your response, it's acknowledging how the landscape
Speaker 6: really does change as we get older. So people over
Speaker 6: fifty are in a different, different stage in life. They
Speaker 6: could be airing for parents, or they're in a mature
Speaker 6: stage and managing their careers, and they may even be grandparents.
Speaker 6: So how does the complexity of our lives start to
Speaker 6: affect dating well?
Speaker 5: Again, and that's another thing where you look for the
Speaker 5: green lights, they're the green signs the positives, because if
Speaker 5: they're so busy, if they have so many things that
Speaker 5: they have to juggle, how are they going to.
Speaker 4: Make time for you.
Speaker 5: And you might not have been married before, you might
Speaker 5: have grown kids, you might not have parents that you
Speaker 5: have to take care of, you might be in a
Speaker 5: completely different situation. So if one person's kind of freed
Speaker 5: up and the other person's constantly juggling or under pressure
Speaker 5: all the time, that's going to make it a challenge.
Speaker 4: So you have to find somebody.
Speaker 5: Where who's available kind of in the same space as
Speaker 5: you are to make it work, or else you do
Speaker 5: the work to make it work. And sometimes it's worth
Speaker 5: it to do that, and other times it's like, you
Speaker 5: know what, I'm over fifty the clock sticking. I don't
Speaker 5: want to go through all of this again because I've
Speaker 5: been there, I've been with that other person's going through,
Speaker 5: and I don't want to go there again. It could
Speaker 5: be with trouble with kids, or maybe this illness in
Speaker 5: the family, or some type of financial hardship, all understandable things.
Speaker 4: Stuff happens.
Speaker 5: Then it's up to you to decide do I want
Speaker 5: to do I want to invite that into my life,
Speaker 5: Do I like this person. Am I attracted enough to
Speaker 5: this person that I want to let them bring in
Speaker 5: their all their baggage with them, or do I feel
Speaker 5: that they can manage their stuff where we will have
Speaker 5: our time and it's going to be enough and they
Speaker 5: can deal with their other stuff on their own and
Speaker 5: I don't have to get dragged into that.
Speaker 4: And you've seen how it is with some of our
Speaker 4: friends here, right.
Speaker 6: Yeah, I think self work what you were saying before,
Speaker 6: because our life becomes so complex just doing the self
Speaker 6: work and asking the question is their space in my
Speaker 6: life right now to significantly care for another being? Right?
Speaker 6: And if the answer is yes, then go forward and
Speaker 6: be honest that there is still a lot going on,
Speaker 6: but there is also time and space for relationship. But
Speaker 6: if you do a personal assessment and you know, you say, wow,
Speaker 6: I just have so many plates up in the air
Speaker 6: that I'm juggling right now, I couldn't significantly put the
Speaker 6: time and attention that's required for a deep relationship, maybe
Speaker 6: just some light dating, right.
Speaker 5: And sometimes what happens is that people who have they've
Speaker 5: been out of the dating game, if you will, for
Speaker 5: a couple of decades, and they just step into it,
Speaker 5: and I've met them online and I'm like, oh, I'm
Speaker 5: the first person they met. It's like, it's not going
Speaker 5: to I knew it wouldn't work because they're just getting
Speaker 5: their toe wet there. They don't know what they're what's
Speaker 5: out there, they don't know what they're looking for. They
Speaker 5: haven't really severed their ties with their past relationship.
Speaker 4: They're just kind of sniffing around.
Speaker 5: So I think what you want to do before you
Speaker 5: put yourself out there, Like somebody famous celebrity Matthew McConaughey
Speaker 5: said his dad told them, don't have ass anything. And
Speaker 5: I think that's some of the greatest advice ever. If
Speaker 5: you're going to do it, do it. So if you're
Speaker 5: going to get involved, you want to put yourself out there,
Speaker 5: put yourself out there, be open. You're going to get
Speaker 5: hurt sometimes and you're going to but you may win
Speaker 5: the big one as we have.
Speaker 4: So, but don't do it half assed. Do it for real. Yeah.
Speaker 6: It's interesting you said that because even before I put
Speaker 6: my profile out there, I had given space between my
Speaker 6: long term relationship had ended and I had given some
Speaker 6: space and I'd asked myself, what type of person do
Speaker 6: I want to meet, and I had gotten a sense
Speaker 6: and my list was not long, and it was value space,
Speaker 6: and that's how I connected with you. I had a
Speaker 6: clearer sense in my head. I had learned from my relationship,
Speaker 6: and so I knew I wanted something different and that's
Speaker 6: what I got.
Speaker 4: Well, I'm glad we got that.
Speaker 6: Yeah, So going into mature relationships, how important is the
Speaker 6: physical attraction?
Speaker 4: I think you know for me as you know it's
Speaker 4: important to me. I mean, it is what it is.
Speaker 5: I don't question how you know my urges or what
Speaker 5: attracts me works.
Speaker 4: It is what it is. I didn't create myself. I'm
Speaker 4: working on myself.
Speaker 5: But what I'm attracted to, I'm attracted to, and I
Speaker 5: think for me it's important. I can't speak for all guys,
Speaker 5: but from what I've heard from the dating coaches that
Speaker 5: I've interviewed that.
Speaker 4: It's important for men.
Speaker 5: It's also important for women that the guys you know
Speaker 5: well groomed and takes care of himself and is polite
Speaker 5: and respectful. What's really interesting is to a person, every
Speaker 5: dating coach I've ever interviewed has said the one thing
Speaker 5: that women want from guys is they want a man
Speaker 5: to be a man in the best sense of the word.
Speaker 5: They want him to be confident, not cocky. They want
Speaker 5: them to be emotionally available, but not arrogant. You know,
Speaker 5: they want a good guy, but they wanted a real
Speaker 5: man in the best sense of the word.
Speaker 4: And I think that's important.
Speaker 5: I think for guys, I think they're looking for a
Speaker 5: woman who's a real woman, quote unquote, which is so
Speaker 5: can be so many. It's so dynamic nowadays because as
Speaker 5: you know, this is a time where you know, women
Speaker 5: have made so many getting finally getting such long overdue
Speaker 5: recognition for all the wonderful things that are doing, and
Speaker 5: it's going to be more and more and more. So
Speaker 5: you want a guy who appreciates that, is not against women,
Speaker 5: who really appreciates the fact that the more women can do,
Speaker 5: the better it is.
Speaker 4: For guys.
Speaker 5: I always say this is the best time ever for
Speaker 5: a guy to be a guy because of that. And
Speaker 5: the problem I think that a lot of men have,
Speaker 5: regardless of age nowadays, is they've been put into like
Speaker 5: pigeon hole. They're in the crosshairs. If you're a young guy,
Speaker 5: you don't have role models anymore. You've got the mma
Speaker 5: on one side, you've got manscaping on the other side,
Speaker 5: and it's really tough for guys today to know who
Speaker 5: they are because women don't necessarily need men in a
Speaker 5: traditional sense the way they have in the past, and
Speaker 5: the regardless of all the politics and everything. You can't
Speaker 5: force that back onto society. You can't go back and
Speaker 5: say men are this and women are that. You have
Speaker 5: to let the whole thing evolve, and hopefully it's it
Speaker 5: evolves in a way where women revel in their independence
Speaker 5: and they have their own lives. Yet want a guy
Speaker 5: who understands that and who revels in his independence and
Speaker 5: his own life also, and then when they come together
Speaker 5: it's even bigger than each one individually.
Speaker 6: Yeah, So it seems to me that physical attraction is
Speaker 6: definitely important, you know, I think speaking from a woman,
Speaker 6: you know, we can talk about being attracted in many
Speaker 6: different levels, but we also long for that physical intimacy
Speaker 6: as well. And you're right, we do want a guy
Speaker 6: to be a guy. So, in closing, what role do spirituality,
Speaker 6: emotional intelligence, and personal growth play relationships in your point?
Speaker 5: I mean huge, So with spirituality, I think if one
Speaker 5: person's going on a spiritual kind of journey, recognizes it,
Speaker 5: and the other person is not really in the same
Speaker 5: space or same place because we're all heading the same
Speaker 5: to the same destination. It's just everybody's going on their
Speaker 5: own journey time wise, that becomes an issue. I know
Speaker 5: in previous relationships where I was going one way and
Speaker 5: the partner was not going that way, and that becomes
Speaker 5: an issue. So spirituality, I think is important where you
Speaker 5: want to have some type of at least understanding, and
Speaker 5: it's better like you and I are, I think, on
Speaker 5: the same place on our spiritual journey. We're both on
Speaker 5: our own spiritual journey. But I think there's a lot
Speaker 5: of overlap and things we can share. What were the
Speaker 5: other two things unie.
Speaker 6: So spirituality and emotional intelligence and personal growth?
Speaker 5: Okay, so I think you know, a lot of times
Speaker 5: with women they want a guy who you know, with
Speaker 5: a personal growth, who has a goal in all but
Speaker 5: a lot of times also they don't want the guy
Speaker 5: to have achieved the goal. It'say some women who don't
Speaker 5: want to be there when he's growing, They want to
Speaker 5: be there when he's accomplished his goal. So that's a
Speaker 5: tricky one sometimes for guys.
Speaker 4: And then the.
Speaker 5: Third one was personal and emotional intelligence. Okay, so I
Speaker 5: think there. I think every woman wants a guy who's
Speaker 5: quote unquote emotionally intelligent. I think most of the guys
Speaker 5: don't even know what that means.
Speaker 4: So you just have to.
Speaker 5: Hope for the best there and hopefully through being open
Speaker 5: in terms of being able to talk about stuff how
Speaker 5: they feel, not take things personally, not look at a
Speaker 5: lot of times guys and I do this, as you know,
Speaker 5: they'll look at any time they take things as criticism
Speaker 5: that are really meant with the goal of making a
Speaker 5: relationship as good as it can be. So if you
Speaker 5: see that the signs of all the good parts of
Speaker 5: that are there, that's a really good thing.
Speaker 6: Yeah, and you know about criticism, It's all about communication,
Speaker 6: isn't it. We could probably do a whole segment on communication.
Speaker 4: Yeah.
Speaker 6: Well, Robert, this has been a thoughtful and insightful and
Speaker 6: inspiring conversation. So whether someone is newly single, divorced, widow,
Speaker 6: or simply searching for a meaningful connection, I believe your
Speaker 6: message is ultimately hopeful that love, intimacy, compassion, and personal
Speaker 6: growth never expire. Absolutely, So thanks for sharing your wisdom
Speaker 6: and experiences with us today.
Speaker 4: Thank you Union. Here's the book once again. The guys
Speaker 4: Guys Guys Love.
Speaker 5: You can find me right here on KCA Radio in
Speaker 5: southern California, my worldwide podcast, Guys Guys Radio, my website,
Speaker 5: Robert manny MNI dot com. I'm on UK Health Radio
Speaker 5: weekends and on demand. I'm on YouTube, I'm on Rumble
Speaker 5: and pretty much so many other I'm a guest on
Speaker 5: so many other shows on YouTube where we talk about
Speaker 5: relationships over fifty, particularly on Second ACTV with Silka Schwartz cough.
Speaker 6: So wonderful. Thanks Robert. It's simer unique in your little
Speaker 6: corner here. Bye bye bye.
Speaker 4: Thanks, it's guys Guy Radio.
Speaker 5: Okay, what a fun conversation with my lovely wife Uni
Speaker 5: about dating after fifty at some of the opportunities and
Speaker 5: some of the potential pitfalls that you might face along
Speaker 5: the way. And I think the number one takeaway is
Speaker 5: before you get out there, if you are single and
Speaker 5: you're over fifty and do want to make a connections
Speaker 5: to number one, take a step back and take stock
Speaker 5: of yourself, who you are, what you are, what you
Speaker 5: are looking for in a partner, and what you really
Speaker 5: have to offer. And also I think it's ultimately very
Speaker 5: important to ask yourself, is there any role I played
Speaker 5: in my previous relationships maybe not working out the way
Speaker 5: I want them to work out? And is there anything
Speaker 5: I could see differently or do differently to give myself
Speaker 5: a better chance of succeeding in the future. I think
Speaker 5: that is critical that we first look inward before going outward.
Speaker 5: The second thing is consider the reality and the possibilities
Speaker 5: of the online dating world. It's not for everybody. Some
Speaker 5: people just don't like it. They feel there's too much
Speaker 5: dishonesty there. They feel it's a waste of time, or
Speaker 5: they get they get caught in going into the deep
Speaker 5: end too quickly and they go onto too many services
Speaker 5: and they're juggling too many potential partners and it just
Speaker 5: doesn't work out. So I think you need to be
Speaker 5: mindful about what it is and how you can make
Speaker 5: online dating work for you. If it is in fact
Speaker 5: something that you feel can be a useful tool, and
Speaker 5: that after all, that's what it is. It's a tool,
Speaker 5: and if you use it properly, it can work out,
Speaker 5: as it did with UNI and Eyes. So I'll wish
Speaker 5: you the best of luck finding a potential partner. If
Speaker 5: that's what you're interested in and finding that love that's
Speaker 5: out there, just put your intenna out there and be
Speaker 5: ready to be open to receive it when it's ready
Speaker 5: to come to you. Thank you for listening to Guys
Speaker 5: Guys Radio. We'll be back next week with a brand
Speaker 5: new episode. And until then, like I always say, guys,
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Speaker 9: NBC News Radio. I'm Lisa Carton. President Trump says the
Speaker 9: US will be attacking Iran very hard. Speaking from the
Speaker 9: Oval Office this morning, Trump said more attacks are coming
Speaker 9: following yesterday strikes and retaliation for the downing of a
Speaker 9: US APACHE helicopter near the Strait of Wormuz.
Speaker 10: The US military targeted about twenty different locations inside Iran,
Speaker 10: including radar stations, missile defense systems, air defense systems. No
Speaker 10: reports of any casualties there. Significantly, the US didn't target
Speaker 10: any Iranian cities or its leaders.
Speaker 9: NBC's Richard Engel reporting Iran responded with a tax on
Speaker 9: US targets in the Middle East. President Trump has signed
Speaker 9: a bill to fund immigration enforcement. Speaking from the Oval
Speaker 9: Office today, the President said it will give ICE and
Speaker 9: border patrol the resources they need to keep America safe.
Speaker 4: For more than one hundred days.
Speaker 11: Congressional Democrats tried to block all funding for the Department
Speaker 11: of Homeland Security in a reprehensible attempt to throw open
Speaker 11: the borders of the United States of America.
Speaker 9: The measure was approved in a House vote Tuesday. The
Speaker 9: measure fund's ice and border patrol through the end of
Speaker 9: Trump's term. It includes thirty eight billion dollars for ICE
Speaker 9: and twenty six billion for border patrol. The bill's passage
Speaker 9: comes after a government shutdown in weeks of delays before
Speaker 9: it finally cleared the Senate last week. Millions of people
Speaker 9: across the Midwest and north the East are under a
Speaker 9: severe weather threat that's expected to intensify tonight. The multi
Speaker 9: day severe weather threat is forecast to bring storms capable
Speaker 9: of producing large hail, damaging wind gusts and tornadoes. By Thursday,
Speaker 9: the threat shifts and extends into the Ohio Valley and
Speaker 9: the Northeast. The murder conviction for a black Texas high
Speaker 9: school track star who killed a white opponent is being
Speaker 9: appealed by his lawyers. Carmelo Anthony fatally stabbed Austin Metcalf
Speaker 9: during a fight at a competition last year in the
Speaker 9: Dallas suburb of Frisco. He's been sentenced to thirty five
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Speaker 9: President Trump's approval rating on the economy is at a
Speaker 9: record low. According to a new economist you gov poll.
Speaker 9: Michael Kashner reports.
Speaker 13: Just twenty nine percent of Americans said they approve of
Speaker 13: the president's handling of the economy. Well sixty three percent disapprove.
Speaker 13: The poll found that Americans have an increasingly bleak economic outlook.
Speaker 13: At the start of Trump's current term, thirty seven percent
Speaker 13: said the economy was getting worse. Now that number is
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Speaker 9: Stadium hospitality workers are voting on a new contract. Daniel
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Speaker 14: It comes two days before the opening World Cup match
Speaker 14: at the venue in Inglewood. On Tuesday, the Food and
Speaker 14: Beverage Workers Union Unite Here Local eleven tentatively agreed to
Speaker 14: a new contract with the stadium's food service operator, Legends Global.
Speaker 14: Union members had overwhelmingly authorized the strike. Concessions. Stand attendants
Speaker 14: are reportedly being offered a forty percent pay increase in
Speaker 14: premium pay for mega events like the World Cup. Workers
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Speaker 9: The NYPD says heavy security measures are in place around
Speaker 9: Madison Square Garden as the Knicks prepared to take on
Speaker 9: the Spurs in Game four of the NBA Finals. Natalie
Speaker 9: Migliori is in New York.
Speaker 15: The NYBD is setting up frozen zones and only allowing
Speaker 15: one thousand ticketed fans to attend the watch party outside
Speaker 15: the garden, with owner James Dolan calling the police commissioner
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Speaker 9: And The NBA Finals continue tonight with the Spurs hoping
Speaker 9: to even the best of seven series at two games
Speaker 9: apiece when they square off against the Knicks from Madison
Speaker 9: Square Garden. San Antonio avoided a three to nothing deficit
Speaker 9: after Victor Wembanyama led the team with thirty two points
Speaker 9: in a close victory. Lisa carton NBC News Radio.
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Speaker 9: NBC News Radio. I'm Lisa Carton. President Trump says the
Speaker 9: US will be attacking Iran very hard. Speaking from the
Speaker 9: Oval Office this morning, Trump said more attacks are coming
Speaker 9: following yesterday strikes and retaliation for the downing of a
Speaker 9: US helicopter near the Strait of Wormuz.
Speaker 10: The US military targeted about twenty different locations inside Iran,
Speaker 10: including radar stations, missile defense systems, air defense systems. No
Speaker 10: reports of any casualties there. Significantly, the US didn't target
Speaker 10: any Iranian cities or its leaders.
Speaker 9: NBC's Richard Engel reporting Iran responded with a tax on
Speaker 9: US targets in the Middle East. President Trump has signed
Speaker 9: a bill to fund immigration enforcement. Speaking from the Oval
Speaker 9: Office today, the President said it will give Ice and
Speaker 9: Border Patrol the resources they need to keep America safe.
Speaker 4: For more than one hundred.
Speaker 11: Days, Congressional Democrats tried to block all funding for the
Speaker 11: Department of Homeland Security in a reprehensible attempt to throw
Speaker 11: open the borders of the United States of America.
Speaker 9: The measure was approved in a House vote Tuesday. In
Speaker 9: the measure fund's ice and border patrol through the end
Speaker 9: of Trump's term. It includes thirty eight billion dollars for
Speaker 9: ice and twenty six billion for border patrol. The bill's
Speaker 9: passage comes after a government shutdown in weeks of delays
Speaker 9: before it finally cleared the Senate last week. Millions of
Speaker 9: people across the Midwest and Northeast are under a severe
Speaker 9: weather threat that's expected to intensify tonight. The multi day
Speaker 9: severe weather threat is forecast to bring storms capable of
Speaker 9: producing large hail, damaging wind gusts and tornadoes. By Thursday,
Speaker 9: the threat shifts and extends into the Ohio Valley and
Speaker 9: the Northeast. The murder conviction for a black Texas high
Speaker 9: school track star who killed a white opponent is being
Speaker 9: appealed by his lawyers. Carmelo Anthony fatally stabbed Austin Metcalf
Speaker 9: during a fight at a competition last year in the
Speaker 9: Dallas suburb of Frisco. He's been sentenced to thirty five
Speaker 9: years in prison. You're listening to the latest on NBC
Speaker 9: News Radio.
Speaker 12: Located in the heart of San Bernardino, California, the Teamsters
Speaker 12: Local nineteen thirty two Training Center is designed to train
Speaker 12: workers for high demand, good paying jobs and various industries
Speaker 12: throughout the Inland Empire.
Speaker 4: If you want a pathway.
Speaker 12: A high paying job and the respect that comes with
Speaker 12: a union contract, visit nineteen thirty two Trainingcenter dot org
Speaker 12: to enroll today. That's nineteen thirty two Trainingcenter dot org.
Speaker 3: There's never been a better time for men to be
Speaker 3: whoever they want to be. Yet it's never been less
Speaker 3: clear who men really are. Guys Guy Radio, starring author
Speaker 3: Robert Manny, is on Caseyaa every Wednesday at eight pm.
Speaker 3: Whether it's relationships, sex, wellness, or spirituality, join Robert as
Speaker 3: he interviews the experts about how men and women can
Speaker 3: be at their best. Guys Guy Radio, Better Men, Better worlds.
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