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<v Speaker 1>Nineteen thirty two. Dot Org.

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<v Speaker 2>KCAA is your CNBC News affiliate. We're the station that

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<v Speaker 3>The views and opinions expressed by individuals on the following

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<v Speaker 3>Guy Radio and its platforms.

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<v Speaker 4>It's Guys Guy Radio.

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<v Speaker 3>Here's your host, Robert Manny.

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<v Speaker 5>Welcome to Guys Guys Radio. This is your host, Robert Manny,

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<v Speaker 5>welcoming you to the show where men and women can

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<v Speaker 5>be at their best and everyone wins. Guys Guys Radio.

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<v Speaker 5>We're here to inform you, inspire you, empower you, and

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<v Speaker 5>get you to think, feel, and who knows, maybe even

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<v Speaker 5>act by virtue of the journeys, stories, experiences and insights

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<v Speaker 5>of the guests I bring you each and every week

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<v Speaker 5>to the show. Once again, this week is no exception.

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<v Speaker 5>Today we're going to talk about dating after fifty and

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<v Speaker 5>our special guest is none other than yours truly, Robert Manny.

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<v Speaker 5>That's me and I'm going to be interviewed again by

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<v Speaker 5>my wife, Uni Manning. We're going to talk about dating

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<v Speaker 5>after fifty and it's the subject we've covered many times

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<v Speaker 5>on Guys Guys Radio. From the perspective of a lot

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<v Speaker 5>of the guests I've had on the show who are

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<v Speaker 5>dating experts and relationship experts. So I'm going to aggregate

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<v Speaker 5>all of that learning and my own personal experience of

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<v Speaker 5>dating after fifty and also meeting my lovely wife Uni

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<v Speaker 5>and getting married a number of years ago. So it's

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<v Speaker 5>going to be a fun show. We're going to get

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<v Speaker 5>into all of those ins and outs and challenges that

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<v Speaker 5>people face when they're dating over fifty. You know, folks,

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<v Speaker 5>dating after fifty isn't the end of romance necessarily. It

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<v Speaker 5>may be the beginning of your best relationship yet. So

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<v Speaker 5>I hope you enjoy our comment. You know, I met

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<v Speaker 5>my wife Uni because she winked at me on she

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<v Speaker 5>had a three day pass, a free pass on match

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<v Speaker 5>dot com, and she winked at me, and we got

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<v Speaker 5>together and met and that was it. Now we had

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<v Speaker 5>a storybook ending because we're still together. And that doesn't

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<v Speaker 5>mean it's going to happen for everybody, but it does

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<v Speaker 5>mean that it is possible. And I have spoken to

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<v Speaker 5>a lot of folks who did connect and get married

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<v Speaker 5>after the age of fifty. Now you might not want that,

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<v Speaker 5>but it is possible to find a partner and develop

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<v Speaker 5>a relationship that's lasting and real and fulfilling when you're

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<v Speaker 5>after fifty years old, if you if you keep a

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<v Speaker 5>couple of things in mind that we're going to get

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<v Speaker 5>into on today's show.

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<v Speaker 4>So strap in there.

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<v Speaker 5>And listen up, because I think we're going to have

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<v Speaker 5>a fun ride together right here on Guys Guys Radio.

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<v Speaker 2>It's Guys Guy Radio.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, Guys Guys Radio is the interview portion of our show,

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<v Speaker 5>and once again we're going to do something a little

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<v Speaker 5>special today. My lovely wife Uni Manny is going to

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<v Speaker 5>ask the questions and I'm going to provide the answers,

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<v Speaker 5>So let me send it over to her right now.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, Robert, Well, we're turning the microphone around again, and

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<v Speaker 6>our guest is the host himself, the author, storyteller, marketer,

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<v Speaker 6>and relationship expert, Robert Manny. Robert, You've interviewed lots of people,

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<v Speaker 6>hundreds of experts on dating, relationships, masculinity, personal growth, and

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<v Speaker 6>modern love. So drawing from conversations with all the dating

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<v Speaker 6>coaches and insights from your acclaimed book, The Guys Guy's

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<v Speaker 6>Guide to Love, right today, we're going to explore the realities, challenges,

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<v Speaker 6>and opportunities for singles over fifty who are navigating the

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<v Speaker 6>modern dating world. We're going to cover confidence apps, intimacy,

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<v Speaker 6>second chances, red flags, emotional maturity, and hopefully all all

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<v Speaker 6>that really matters now. So for those of us who

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<v Speaker 6>may be feeling a little disheartened or nervous about getting

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<v Speaker 6>back into dating, how about this. Just chew on this

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<v Speaker 6>for a little bit. Dating after fifty isn't the end

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<v Speaker 6>of romance. It may be the beginning of your best relationship. Yet,

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<v Speaker 6>what do you think.

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<v Speaker 5>Robert, Well, just by the fact, JUNI, that you and

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<v Speaker 5>I are here together conducting this interview seems to say

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<v Speaker 5>that there can be successful love and relationships after the

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<v Speaker 5>age of fifty. As you know, I met you when

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<v Speaker 5>I was over fifty, and we met through an online

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<v Speaker 5>app through match dot com, and you had a free

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<v Speaker 5>three day pass and you winked at me and that

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<v Speaker 5>we met and that was it.

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<v Speaker 4>So it can happen.

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<v Speaker 5>But there's a lot that goes into play before that

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<v Speaker 5>that makes what some would say is like love at first.

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<v Speaker 4>Site type of thing.

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<v Speaker 5>There's something that has to go on before that be

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<v Speaker 5>for that to be able to happen. It's like anything

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<v Speaker 5>else I'll give you an example. I was in my

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<v Speaker 5>advertising background. Client said I need a small agency that

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<v Speaker 5>can do this, this and this, And I called them

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<v Speaker 5>the next day and I said, here's who you need.

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<v Speaker 5>I connected them and then I sent them a bill

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<v Speaker 5>and they said, what how much you charging me for this?

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<v Speaker 5>What did it take you an hour? And I said no,

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<v Speaker 5>it took me twenty years to be able to know

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<v Speaker 5>what you needed.

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<v Speaker 4>And it's the same way in.

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<v Speaker 5>Love, where you have to do the work first to

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<v Speaker 5>be in a position to attract and then connect with

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<v Speaker 5>and then maintain a partnership and a relationship.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, that's well said exactly. It's all of the wisdom

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<v Speaker 6>and the accumulated experience that goes into the now. So, Robert,

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<v Speaker 6>what inspired you to focus so much of your attention

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<v Speaker 6>on dating and relationships for people over fifty?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, it all started when I wrote my book and

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<v Speaker 5>got it out there, The Guy's Guy's Guide to Love,

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<v Speaker 5>which as you know, has been called The Male Sex

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<v Speaker 5>and the City because it's really a relationship, fun romp

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<v Speaker 5>type of relationship that takes place in New York City

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<v Speaker 5>and it's about love and dating from a male perspective.

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<v Speaker 5>And I wrote the book because I was inspired to

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<v Speaker 5>help kind of bridge the great chasm, the great gap

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<v Speaker 5>and communication between men and women. And I wrote the

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<v Speaker 5>book over a decade ago, and it's never been more

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<v Speaker 5>true than right now. Instead of the gap closing, the

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<v Speaker 5>gap has expanded. I think where people really don't know

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<v Speaker 5>how to date now. Now that's just not people over fifty.

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<v Speaker 5>That's for young people also, but for the benefit you know,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not going to tell twenty year olds how to date. However,

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<v Speaker 5>based on my life experience and the fact that i

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<v Speaker 5>wrote this book and the fact that I've interviewed so

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<v Speaker 5>many dating and relationship experts on our show, I think

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<v Speaker 5>I can aggregate a lot of that, a lot of

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<v Speaker 5>those insights and share them with our audience and maybe

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<v Speaker 5>help them out.

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<v Speaker 4>And the news is good news.

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<v Speaker 5>So it is possible to find true love after the

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<v Speaker 5>age of fifty, and some of my guests have done

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<v Speaker 5>the exact same thing as I have. But there's there's

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<v Speaker 5>also a lot of pitfalls along the way. You have

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<v Speaker 5>to make the right decisions, you have to prepare yourself,

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<v Speaker 5>and you have to be open.

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<v Speaker 4>You have to open your heart.

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<v Speaker 6>Well said, well, you've said that dating after fifty can

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<v Speaker 6>actually be better than dating in your twenties and thirties.

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<v Speaker 6>So going back to not telling people you know who

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<v Speaker 6>are in their twenties and thirties what to do on

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<v Speaker 6>a date, why do you think dating after fifty could

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<v Speaker 6>be better?

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<v Speaker 5>Well, you know you have It's all about perspective, Uni,

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<v Speaker 5>you have some experience. Number one, you have some experience.

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<v Speaker 5>So a lot of times in our formative dating years,

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<v Speaker 5>if you will, we end up attracting the same type

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<v Speaker 5>of person.

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<v Speaker 4>Who may not be right for us.

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<v Speaker 5>And hopefully by the time they hit around the age

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<v Speaker 5>forty five, forty forty five, fifty and beyond, they'll have

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<v Speaker 5>realized that maybe it's me. Maybe there's things I need

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<v Speaker 5>to do to not attract the same type of person

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<v Speaker 5>where I'm going to have the same type of relationship

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<v Speaker 5>pitfalls that I had in the past. So that's one

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<v Speaker 5>good thing. It's experience. Secondly, you hopefully by the time

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<v Speaker 5>you're around fifty or so, you have established yourself as

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<v Speaker 5>who you are. You know more about who you are

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<v Speaker 5>and what's important to you, because a lot of times

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<v Speaker 5>when you're younger and you're dating, it's all about the

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<v Speaker 5>shiny object. May oh, that guy's gorgeous or or or whatever.

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<v Speaker 5>You're driven by your libido and your eyes versus what's

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<v Speaker 5>So you have that going for you also, and also

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<v Speaker 5>as part of that being established, you may not have

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<v Speaker 5>as many concerns about who you are. You know who

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<v Speaker 5>you are, and you don't have to doubt yourself, and

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<v Speaker 5>you can be confident in making the right decisions by saying,

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<v Speaker 5>you know what.

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<v Speaker 4>He looks good or she looks good, and it's all good.

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<v Speaker 5>On paper, but there's something wrong, and you don't try

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<v Speaker 5>to force chemistry that's not there. And that happens so

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<v Speaker 5>many times where you know, as a guy, a lot

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<v Speaker 5>of times we think with our eyes when when we're dating,

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<v Speaker 5>and at a certain point we realize that, well, maybe

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<v Speaker 5>she's really pretty, but I don't feel the attraction, or

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<v Speaker 5>this isn't working and she's supposed to be have this

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<v Speaker 5>type in my head, but maybe that's not maybe that's

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<v Speaker 5>not exactly. The type isn't physical. The type needs to

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<v Speaker 5>be emotional and energetic and intellectual as much as it

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<v Speaker 5>fifty or so, it's not just based on looks or

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<v Speaker 5>strictly money. Hopefully everybody's established in some way by that time.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and you've done a lot of work on yourself,

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<v Speaker 6>so I think you've been able to resolve a lot

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<v Speaker 6>of the experience that you have gained through the years. However,

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<v Speaker 6>many singles over fifty carry a lot of emotional baggage.

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<v Speaker 6>They've experienced divorce or loss or heartbreak, and they may

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<v Speaker 6>be a little bit more cynical going forward. What do

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<v Speaker 6>you say to them? How would you talk to someone

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<v Speaker 6>who has become I'm a little cynical about moving forward.

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<v Speaker 5>I think it's perfectly understandable because you know, everybody's going

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<v Speaker 5>to deal with dishonesty and people that supposedly were one

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<v Speaker 5>thing it turned out to be something else. And everybody's

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<v Speaker 5>had a broken heart at some point, so.

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<v Speaker 4>I totally get it.

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<v Speaker 5>And when they get into using things like the online

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<v Speaker 5>dating app the honesty is a key issue and a

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<v Speaker 5>lot of women I know from my experience in interviewing

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<v Speaker 5>a lot of dating coaches, they say that women don't

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<v Speaker 5>trust the dating apps, which is a shame because there's

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<v Speaker 5>no better way to meet people. You never meet unless

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<v Speaker 5>you had the app and you and I met that way.

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<v Speaker 5>But the honesty thing is something that a lot of

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<v Speaker 5>people wrestle with because people lie, and you know, you

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<v Speaker 5>never want to lie because the truth, particularly in dating,

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<v Speaker 5>the truth always comes out. If you say you're six

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<v Speaker 5>foot two and you're five foot nine, you're going to

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<v Speaker 5>meet in person, hopefully at some point then the truth

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<v Speaker 4>And it's across the board in that.

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<v Speaker 5>So it's very under standable that people over fifty are

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<v Speaker 5>going to be cynical because they've been burned along the way.

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<v Speaker 5>They've had life experience. They've had bad life experience, but

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<v Speaker 5>they've had good life experience, and I've gained hopefully they've

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<v Speaker 5>was in advertising. I had a lot of fun. I

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<v Speaker 5>I realized, I said, why aren't my relationships lasting as

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<v Speaker 5>And I realized that I wasn't making room in my

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<v Speaker 5>across like it wasn't like lightning struck. I just realized that.

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<v Speaker 5>and get married. And I told my mother at Thanksgiving,

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<v Speaker 5>and she said, oh, really, that's fantastic. Who are you

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<v Speaker 5>met her yet, but I knew, And sure enough, you

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<v Speaker 5>and I connected that summer and within a year we

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<v Speaker 5>were engaged, and so it can't happen. But I had

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<v Speaker 5>to put myself in a position to realize, is this

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<v Speaker 5>something I need to do differently? Is this is something

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<v Speaker 5>I need to look at in terms of my shadow self?

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<v Speaker 5>If you will, then maybe I wasn't doing correctly, and

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<v Speaker 5>how do I open myself up so I can attract

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<v Speaker 5>of the important work, particularly for daters over fifty, is

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<v Speaker 5>doing the circumspection looking at themselves and saying, Okay, who

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<v Speaker 5>How have my relationships gone in the past? Is there

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<v Speaker 5>anything maybe I should relook, reconsider, reshape going forward. Because

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<v Speaker 5>and I've had relationships and none of them have worked out,

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<v Speaker 5>there must be something I you know, it takes two

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<v Speaker 5>to tango. I can't just blame it on my partners.

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<v Speaker 5>I must have had a if they straight or whatever.

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<v Speaker 5>I must have had something to do with that. So

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<v Speaker 5>we all have to start by looking within, and that's

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<v Speaker 5>a perfect place to begin for pretty much any big

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<v Speaker 5>change in life, and particularly with relationships. So we can

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<v Speaker 5>go easy in ourselves and love ourselves and say, Okay,

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<v Speaker 5>who am I, what has my experience been? What do

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<v Speaker 5>I have to offer? What really works for me? That's

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<v Speaker 5>a perfect place to start and it can get really

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<v Speaker 5>good from there. For me, it happened very quickly. You

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<v Speaker 5>and I connected and boom, that was it.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, And I think sometimes we talk about the energy

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<v Speaker 6>that was exchanged between us, and it just really there

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<v Speaker 6>was a meeting of the energy as well as the mind, body,

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<v Speaker 6>and heart for us. And we talk about a lot

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<v Speaker 6>of energy that is exchanged in relationships between us. Right,

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<v Speaker 6>So what kind of energy attracts healthy partners at the

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<v Speaker 6>stage of life.

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<v Speaker 5>I think you have to have the open and openness.

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<v Speaker 5>You have to have some type of positivity. If you're

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<v Speaker 5>going to be a Debbie Downer or Donnie down or whatever,

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<v Speaker 5>it's not going to work. You have to be open

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<v Speaker 5>and look at the possibilities and say what can be

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<v Speaker 5>and like I'm going to it's something good is going

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<v Speaker 5>to happen, and believe in yourself and believe in your partner,

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<v Speaker 5>and believe in you two together to make it happen.

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<v Speaker 5>You had mentioned you need the energy exchange, which I

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<v Speaker 5>think is critical also in forging a new relationship. So

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<v Speaker 5>when people meet, a lot of times you have to

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<v Speaker 5>you don't have to, but a lot of times people

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<v Speaker 5>meet through the online apps, and there is an energetic exchange.

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<v Speaker 5>You winked at me, which was that was nice, and

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<v Speaker 5>I wrote back to you, and I think I suggested,

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<v Speaker 5>let's have a phone call. We went back a few times,

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<v Speaker 5>very short, though short and sweet responses, and you said, no,

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<v Speaker 5>we don't need to, let's just meet. And I had

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<v Speaker 5>my rules in place, like you have to have a

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<v Speaker 5>phone call because there's an energetic exchange when you first

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<v Speaker 5>look at the other person's profile, when you first make

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<v Speaker 5>a connection there, and then there's an exchange when you

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<v Speaker 5>hear the other person's voice, which I've experienced, like I

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<v Speaker 5>heard somebody on the phone and like this doesn't work

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<v Speaker 5>for me, not because they had a rock's accent or whatever,

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<v Speaker 5>it's just like it's just I wasn't feeling it, but

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<v Speaker 5>because the voice has a tonality and the voice carries.

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<v Speaker 4>And energy energy. But you said no, let's just meet.

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<v Speaker 5>And then I thought about it and I said, you

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<v Speaker 5>know what, I made up all these rules because I've

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<v Speaker 5>been single so long, and I kind of had thought

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<v Speaker 5>I had mastered the online dating game, if you will,

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<v Speaker 5>I said, well, these are just my rules.

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<v Speaker 4>I'm going to break them. And we met and that

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<v Speaker 4>was in. It wasn't an issue.

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<v Speaker 5>And fortunately when we did meet in person, right we

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<v Speaker 5>were on the same page.

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<v Speaker 6>It's true. I felt the energy. I remember when you said,

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<v Speaker 6>and you offered me your hand. I had on those

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<v Speaker 6>ridiculous shoes and we were going down these steps and

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<v Speaker 6>you offered me your hand to support me as we

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<v Speaker 6>were walking down the stairs. And there was a very

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<v Speaker 6>nice energy exchange there.

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<v Speaker 5>Too, just for the benefit, for the benefit of our audience.

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<v Speaker 5>The way we met, we met at seventy second seventy

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<v Speaker 5>ninth Street, I think in Manhattan on what was it, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 5>but we met on the street on a corner, and

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<v Speaker 5>I was on one corner on the stairs on seventy

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<v Speaker 5>ninth on the west side, I think it was. I

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<v Speaker 5>don't know if it was Amsterdam Avenue or Columbus Avenue,

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<v Speaker 5>and I looked across the street diagonally and I saw

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<v Speaker 5>a beautiful woman in a green and white dress come

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<v Speaker 5>walking across, and I thought, shoot, I have shorts and

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<v Speaker 5>a green T shirt on.

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<v Speaker 4>But at least we matched.

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<v Speaker 5>And then I said, that's her, And when you came

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<v Speaker 5>across the street, I walked up to you and I

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<v Speaker 5>gave you a hug. It was so bizarre, and you

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<v Speaker 5>looked at me like, what are you doing?

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<v Speaker 7>But it was unexpected, I have to say from me too,

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<v Speaker 7>yeah it was. It was very interesting because initially I

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<v Speaker 7>was I didn't know how to take that.

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<v Speaker 6>I thought that was a little too soon. But I

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<v Speaker 6>looked into your eyes and there was again, there was

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<v Speaker 6>this openness in your eyes that said, you know, let's

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<v Speaker 6>just go with it. So I did. I did, and

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<v Speaker 6>it worked out well.

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<v Speaker 7>Enough about us, Enough about us.

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<v Speaker 6>You mentioned now a couple of times about dating apps,

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<v Speaker 6>so you're right, so many people these days are now

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<v Speaker 6>turning to apps. It's become more normal. So going back

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<v Speaker 6>to honesty and when we set up our profiles, how

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<v Speaker 6>important is honesty in setting up our profile and in

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<v Speaker 6>your experience, you know, talking to coaches and speaking to people,

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<v Speaker 6>where do people tend to exaggerate and how should we

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<v Speaker 6>view well?

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<v Speaker 4>I mean, you always want to be honest.

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<v Speaker 5>There's one there because as I mentioned, the truth is

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<v Speaker 5>going to come out if you say you're fifty pounds

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<v Speaker 5>less than you are and you have a really old

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<v Speaker 5>picture and then in person, you don't look like that

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<v Speaker 5>person that's going to come out. So the honesty you

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<v Speaker 5>can only cover up so much. I think the one

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<v Speaker 5>area where there may be a little wiggle room is

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<v Speaker 5>that when you get to age where you know, after

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<v Speaker 5>twenty five, people don't necessarily look their age. There's a

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<v Speaker 5>good looking fifty and then there's a fifty year old

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<v Speaker 5>who looks like they're seventy. And so I think because

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<v Speaker 5>of the algorithms, some people who might be like fifty one,

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<v Speaker 5>they put down that they're forty eight because they want

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<v Speaker 5>to attract people who are going to fit that that level,

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<v Speaker 5>that age. And it's still wrong, but it's understandable. And eventually,

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<v Speaker 5>I've had it happen both ways, and the truth comes

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<v Speaker 5>out quickly, and you either attract it to the person

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<v Speaker 5>of you're not so I'm not or you're not so.

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<v Speaker 5>I'm not encouraging that and I'm not condoning that, but

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<v Speaker 5>I understand that people there is a little wiggle room

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<v Speaker 5>sometimes with the age. I mean, you can't do ten

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<v Speaker 5>years or something, but if it's a year or two

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<v Speaker 5>after fifty, who cares? But the truth needs to come

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<v Speaker 5>out quickly about that, because again, you know, to be frank,

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<v Speaker 5>there's people who are fifty who look like they're forty nowadays,

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<v Speaker 5>and there's people who are fifty who look like seventy

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<v Speaker 5>in a bad way, and that's just the way it is.

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<v Speaker 5>So I understand where people might want to play around

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<v Speaker 5>with that a little bit, but again I'm not condoning it,

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<v Speaker 5>but it happens.

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<v Speaker 6>Okay, yeah, I think so too. What are the biggest

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<v Speaker 6>mistakes people make over fifty when using dating apps?

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<v Speaker 5>I think they say too much Number one. In their profile,

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<v Speaker 5>you want to keep it interesting, conversational. From the world

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<v Speaker 5>of advertising, your profile is an ad. It's a print ad.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know how many of them do video now,

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<v Speaker 5>but it's pretty much an AD. So you want to

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<v Speaker 5>show a couple of images of you in your best life.

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<v Speaker 5>You want to show a headshot with a smile. You

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<v Speaker 5>want to show with some friends doing something active, and

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<v Speaker 5>to get a sense as to who you are and what.

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<v Speaker 4>Your vibe is.

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<v Speaker 5>In the copy of your profile, you don't want to

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<v Speaker 5>say anything negative. You don't want to say I don't

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<v Speaker 5>like this, don't be like my ex or whatever, and

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<v Speaker 5>you'd be surprised how many decent looking people just they

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<v Speaker 5>put themselves in a hole just because they write their

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<v Speaker 5>So I think you have to stay positive, you have

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<v Speaker 5>to stay open mind, or you want to keep it short,

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<v Speaker 5>because your goal is to get to the next step,

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<v Speaker 5>which is somebody takes a look at your photos, they

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<v Speaker 5>read it, they say, oh, this person's pretty interesting. I'll

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<v Speaker 5>connect with them, and then you take it from there.

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<v Speaker 5>So the objective of the profile is to get to

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<v Speaker 5>the next step. That's it, because nobody's looking at the profile.

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<v Speaker 5>After you meet. Maybe they'll go back and check, but

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<v Speaker 5>probably it's incidental. At that point. The goal is to

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<v Speaker 5>get step one to step two, which is some type

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<v Speaker 5>of communication, and then step two, after that communication, meet

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<v Speaker 5>in person. And that's where the real energy exchange is

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<v Speaker 5>the only thing that really counts, because ultimately, if you're

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<v Speaker 5>going to be in a relationship, dating and otherwise, you're

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<v Speaker 5>going to meet.

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<v Speaker 4>In person, so that has to feel right.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, And I also believe that you put in the

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<v Speaker 6>ways in which you want to connect with people, like

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<v Speaker 6>you're outdoorsy, you know, I would say, make sure you

424
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<v Speaker 6>put that in there. Don't be afraid to be honest

425
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<v Speaker 6>about the ways in which you love to live.

426
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<v Speaker 5>So absolutely, yeah, get a sense as that, because if

427
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<v Speaker 5>you're a person who they don't really like to hike

428
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<v Speaker 5>and you love to hike, yet a lot of the

429
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<v Speaker 5>other things line up.

430
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<v Speaker 4>Maybe it's a lifestyle thing.

431
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<v Speaker 5>One person's more outdoors and the other person is not,

432
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<v Speaker 5>So you want to get that stuff out of the way.

433
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<v Speaker 5>So in your profile some of those key indicators, like

434
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<v Speaker 5>everybody likes to travel and takes a walk on a beach,

435
00:21:56.359 --> 00:21:59.920
<v Speaker 5>but hiking is pretty specific, and hiking can be you know,

436
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<v Speaker 5>going for a walk, but hiking can also be like

437
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<v Speaker 5>we just came back from Yosemite.

438
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<v Speaker 4>That was that was hiking. We were going up five

439
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<v Speaker 4>thousand feet.

440
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<v Speaker 5>Five thousand feet And that's for people who are real hikers,

441
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<v Speaker 5>and that's a different ballgame.

442
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<v Speaker 4>You have to I don't think.

443
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<v Speaker 6>I would put that in my profile.

444
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<v Speaker 4>Hiking correctly, Like I'm a light hiker.

445
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<v Speaker 6>Right exactly, flat terrain.

446
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<v Speaker 4>Walk in the woods. Yeah.

447
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<v Speaker 6>So do you think and going back to the apps,

448
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<v Speaker 6>do you think they hurt relationships for mature or help

449
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<v Speaker 6>mature dators?

450
00:22:32.799 --> 00:22:35.079
<v Speaker 5>I think they can they can help because a lot

451
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<v Speaker 5>of times, particularly as we age, we don't have as

452
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<v Speaker 5>much contact with our friends. Our circle of beyond businesses

453
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<v Speaker 5>gets smaller, and how do you meet people? And you know,

454
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<v Speaker 5>there's always the grocery store and if you go to

455
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<v Speaker 5>the gym with a lot of people are like, don't

456
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<v Speaker 5>talk to me, I'm working out, which totally understandable.

457
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<v Speaker 4>So you know, this is a way to.

458
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<v Speaker 5>Meet you know, it's it's more people than you'd ever

459
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<v Speaker 5>meet in real life.

460
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<v Speaker 4>I RL as they call it now that you use

461
00:23:04.039 --> 00:23:06.680
<v Speaker 4>the apps. But again, you.

462
00:23:06.720 --> 00:23:09.920
<v Speaker 5>Can fall into the deep side of the pool when

463
00:23:09.960 --> 00:23:12.519
<v Speaker 5>you go on the dating apps. Too many services, too

464
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<v Speaker 5>many apps, too many dates, too many juggling of relationships

465
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<v Speaker 5>of potential partners. I remember when we were going out,

466
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<v Speaker 5>I assumed everybody on the service was dating multiple people

467
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<v Speaker 5>and then it would sort itself out. And you and

468
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<v Speaker 5>I went out a few times and then you said

469
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<v Speaker 5>to me, oh, you're still on You're still on Match.

470
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<v Speaker 4>And I'm like, well, so are you.

471
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<v Speaker 5>Because if you saw me and you said, well, well,

472
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<v Speaker 5>why don't we just go out and then if it

473
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<v Speaker 5>works out, it works out, and if it doesn't, it doesn't.

474
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<v Speaker 4>I'm like that's a novel idea.

475
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<v Speaker 5>Okay, instead of dating five people at the same time,

476
00:23:46.799 --> 00:23:49.559
<v Speaker 5>let's give it a try. And we did, and everything

477
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<v Speaker 5>else kind of fell by the wayside.

478
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<v Speaker 4>But that's again, you know, we had maybe we.

479
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<v Speaker 5>Were set up to have everything work because so many

480
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<v Speaker 5>things prior to that didn't work. But the point is

481
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<v Speaker 5>it can happen, and it can work, and these are

482
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<v Speaker 5>some of the guardrails that we have to put up

483
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<v Speaker 5>and some of the expectations that we have to manage

484
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<v Speaker 5>to be realistic.

485
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<v Speaker 6>Absolutely, So let's move things along.

486
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<v Speaker 8>You know.

487
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<v Speaker 6>Let's say we made the connection on the app, and

488
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<v Speaker 6>what are some challenges people face when they are dating.

489
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<v Speaker 6>I mean, I think many people over fifty might feel

490
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<v Speaker 6>that they miss their chance. So what would you say

491
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<v Speaker 6>to them.

492
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<v Speaker 5>Well, there's a couple of things to unpack there. I

493
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<v Speaker 5>think once you make the first connection with somebody you

494
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<v Speaker 5>meet over fifty in real life, if you will that,

495
00:24:37.559 --> 00:24:39.640
<v Speaker 5>you want to make sure that you don't spill all

496
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<v Speaker 5>your beans, which people have a tendency to do.

497
00:24:42.359 --> 00:24:43.640
<v Speaker 4>They just give the whole story.

498
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<v Speaker 5>It's like they throw up on the other person, and

499
00:24:45.799 --> 00:24:48.480
<v Speaker 5>that can be overbearing, that could be too much. You

500
00:24:48.519 --> 00:24:51.359
<v Speaker 5>want to just have a nice conversation and enjoy the

501
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<v Speaker 5>other person's company and see if you can pick up

502
00:24:53.799 --> 00:24:56.559
<v Speaker 5>vibe wise and see if that works, and also ferret

503
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<v Speaker 5>out some information about the other person without making them

504
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<v Speaker 5>feel feel like, you know, that they're being interviewed, because

505
00:25:03.319 --> 00:25:05.599
<v Speaker 5>sometimes guys feel like they're you know, they're interviewing for

506
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<v Speaker 5>a job. And on the other hand, sometimes guys will

507
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<v Speaker 5>just talk about themselves for the entire time and it

508
00:25:11.640 --> 00:25:14.000
<v Speaker 5>becomes too much. So I think you have to be

509
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<v Speaker 5>careful when you make that first meeting to be open

510
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<v Speaker 5>and to actively listen and to quote unquote, as you

511
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<v Speaker 5>told me, pay attention so you can be present for

512
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<v Speaker 5>it for the other person and just treat it like fun.

513
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<v Speaker 5>You know, you can meet people when you're over fifty

514
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<v Speaker 5>online for perspective dating and maybe it doesn't work out,

515
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<v Speaker 5>but maybe you become friends and maybe they have a

516
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<v Speaker 5>girlfriend that they want to introduce you to, or a boyfriend,

517
00:25:39.279 --> 00:25:41.079
<v Speaker 5>a guy who knows, Hey, I know this other guy,

518
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<v Speaker 5>he'd be great for you, you know, say that on

519
00:25:43.559 --> 00:25:45.680
<v Speaker 5>the date, but think, you know, if you have some

520
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<v Speaker 5>type of connection there where you like the other person,

521
00:25:48.039 --> 00:25:51.200
<v Speaker 5>or maybe there's some business opportunity there. Things can happen,

522
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<v Speaker 5>So don't just immediately jets in the other person if

523
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<v Speaker 5>they're not your perfect, perfect romantic partner, unless that's your

524
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<v Speaker 5>myopic and that's what you want and that's what you

525
00:26:00.079 --> 00:26:03.480
<v Speaker 5>therefore and you're not messing around, and that's fine. Just

526
00:26:03.680 --> 00:26:07.319
<v Speaker 5>know what you want. But I would also always say

527
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<v Speaker 5>be open, be open minded.

528
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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I mean definitely don't put all your eyes in

529
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<v Speaker 6>one basket, you know, on that first day. That's so

530
00:26:15.119 --> 00:26:18.680
<v Speaker 6>much pressure right now, and just to make the goal,

531
00:26:19.000 --> 00:26:22.519
<v Speaker 6>have a connection, have a fun time. It's so much

532
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<v Speaker 6>stress is taking.

533
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<v Speaker 4>To keep it light. Keep it light.

534
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<v Speaker 5>Yeah. Sometimes I know some guys they'll take and women

535
00:26:28.160 --> 00:26:30.519
<v Speaker 5>have told me this, they the first date they take

536
00:26:30.559 --> 00:26:32.839
<v Speaker 5>them to. The guy takes the woman to a fancy

537
00:26:32.880 --> 00:26:35.039
<v Speaker 5>restaurant and then they say, you know, they want to

538
00:26:35.119 --> 00:26:37.759
<v Speaker 5>get married or something. It's like too much, too soon.

539
00:26:38.200 --> 00:26:41.240
<v Speaker 5>So I would always suggest keep it light. If you

540
00:26:41.240 --> 00:26:43.519
<v Speaker 5>you know, want to meet at a lounge or someplace

541
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<v Speaker 5>where you can enjoy a beverage or maybe someplace where

542
00:26:46.319 --> 00:26:48.839
<v Speaker 5>you can go then afterwards, take a walk or something,

543
00:26:49.079 --> 00:26:51.640
<v Speaker 5>and that's it and then it's see if it if

544
00:26:51.720 --> 00:26:55.160
<v Speaker 5>it works, and if it does, don't play games, then

545
00:26:55.519 --> 00:26:57.839
<v Speaker 5>with how many days do I wait before I get back?

546
00:26:57.960 --> 00:27:01.799
<v Speaker 5>Or it just like set it up, keep going, yeah.

547
00:27:01.559 --> 00:27:06.039
<v Speaker 6>Exactly, if it feels right, take a chance. Yeah. So

548
00:27:06.200 --> 00:27:09.160
<v Speaker 6>there are people who have been dating, and then there

549
00:27:09.200 --> 00:27:12.960
<v Speaker 6>are others as they're older, they've just come out of

550
00:27:13.039 --> 00:27:16.400
<v Speaker 6>a long marriage. What kind of advice would you give

551
00:27:16.480 --> 00:27:20.200
<v Speaker 6>someone that's coming out of a long relationship, some lasting

552
00:27:20.240 --> 00:27:21.400
<v Speaker 6>over twenty years.

553
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<v Speaker 4>Well, that's a great question.

554
00:27:23.440 --> 00:27:26.519
<v Speaker 5>And I think there's the online dating answer and then

555
00:27:26.559 --> 00:27:29.920
<v Speaker 5>there's in real life overall answer. And I think if

556
00:27:29.960 --> 00:27:33.000
<v Speaker 5>it's let's start with in real life overall, you need

557
00:27:33.039 --> 00:27:36.480
<v Speaker 5>to say, Okay, I'm here, where am I? What happened?

558
00:27:36.799 --> 00:27:38.279
<v Speaker 5>Why am I single?

559
00:27:38.359 --> 00:27:38.599
<v Speaker 4>Now?

560
00:27:38.960 --> 00:27:41.200
<v Speaker 5>Is this something I chose? Is something I want? Is

561
00:27:41.200 --> 00:27:44.200
<v Speaker 5>this something I'm happy with? What do I want going forward?

562
00:27:44.599 --> 00:27:46.799
<v Speaker 5>What do I have to offer? What does the other

563
00:27:46.880 --> 00:27:50.039
<v Speaker 5>person need to have? Short lists? Not like thirty five

564
00:27:50.480 --> 00:27:53.880
<v Speaker 5>you know thirty five to item list where they must

565
00:27:53.880 --> 00:27:56.279
<v Speaker 5>have all these things? Keep it based on values. What

566
00:27:56.319 --> 00:28:01.039
<v Speaker 5>are the values I need in a potential partner for online?

567
00:28:01.160 --> 00:28:04.440
<v Speaker 5>I think you gotta just shorten all of that and say, okay,

568
00:28:04.680 --> 00:28:06.559
<v Speaker 5>what type of person do I want to connect with?

569
00:28:07.400 --> 00:28:09.720
<v Speaker 5>I want to have somebody who lives close by. They

570
00:28:09.960 --> 00:28:12.799
<v Speaker 5>we can have some fun. I enjoy conversing with them,

571
00:28:13.039 --> 00:28:15.440
<v Speaker 5>and maybe there's some shared activities and who knows what

572
00:28:15.480 --> 00:28:18.680
<v Speaker 5>can happen. So I think again, having that open mind

573
00:28:18.799 --> 00:28:22.519
<v Speaker 5>is the real key, and also the circumspection and then

574
00:28:22.559 --> 00:28:23.759
<v Speaker 5>the open mind and.

575
00:28:23.759 --> 00:28:24.599
<v Speaker 4>Open heart.

576
00:28:26.359 --> 00:28:33.799
<v Speaker 6>Good to hear. So in your experience, do you find

577
00:28:33.960 --> 00:28:38.400
<v Speaker 6>that men and women want fundamentally different things? You talked

578
00:28:38.400 --> 00:28:42.480
<v Speaker 6>about values, but do you think that that's you know, well,

579
00:28:42.640 --> 00:28:43.680
<v Speaker 6>fundamental difference.

580
00:28:44.000 --> 00:28:47.680
<v Speaker 5>It's you know, that's a that's a big, big, big question.

581
00:28:47.880 --> 00:28:52.200
<v Speaker 5>So every situation is different. Every time a man and

582
00:28:52.240 --> 00:28:55.240
<v Speaker 5>a woman or a couple of whatever get together, it

583
00:28:55.359 --> 00:28:59.119
<v Speaker 5>creates a unique little universe. It's like a snowflake or something.

584
00:28:59.279 --> 00:29:04.039
<v Speaker 5>Every little action is a separate entity. So, you know,

585
00:29:04.279 --> 00:29:08.960
<v Speaker 5>they might want to have they might have similar needs,

586
00:29:09.000 --> 00:29:12.400
<v Speaker 5>similar values, and they might not. So I can't speak

587
00:29:12.440 --> 00:29:15.359
<v Speaker 5>for everybody in terms of what does everybody want and

588
00:29:15.519 --> 00:29:19.319
<v Speaker 5>is a difference between men and women? I think fundamentally

589
00:29:19.400 --> 00:29:22.039
<v Speaker 5>people want to be with somebody that they enjoy spending

590
00:29:22.079 --> 00:29:24.799
<v Speaker 5>time with, and what can happen out of there is different.

591
00:29:24.839 --> 00:29:27.680
<v Speaker 5>If it's a younger guy, they're probably intert Sex is

592
00:29:27.720 --> 00:29:29.200
<v Speaker 5>going to be at the top of the list. An

593
00:29:29.200 --> 00:29:31.319
<v Speaker 5>older guy, it's going to be near the top of

594
00:29:31.319 --> 00:29:32.559
<v Speaker 5>the list, if not at the top of the list.

595
00:29:32.599 --> 00:29:34.440
<v Speaker 5>But there's going to be other things. And for women

596
00:29:34.519 --> 00:29:37.960
<v Speaker 5>it's going to be other things also depending on their

597
00:29:38.039 --> 00:29:40.839
<v Speaker 5>life stage. I think, would you agree or disagree with that?

598
00:29:40.960 --> 00:29:41.680
<v Speaker 4>Uni?

599
00:29:43.599 --> 00:29:48.880
<v Speaker 6>I think sex and intimacy it's important for both people. However,

600
00:29:48.960 --> 00:29:54.599
<v Speaker 6>I think for women the intimacy is something that they

601
00:29:57.000 --> 00:29:59.319
<v Speaker 6>I don't know if require is such a word, but

602
00:30:00.240 --> 00:30:04.799
<v Speaker 6>that is highly important for long term relationships. Now sex

603
00:30:04.880 --> 00:30:08.119
<v Speaker 6>could be these days a lot more casual where the

604
00:30:08.160 --> 00:30:11.920
<v Speaker 6>intimacy isn't as important, But I still speak to a

605
00:30:11.920 --> 00:30:15.519
<v Speaker 6>lot of women who, especially in even within a relationship,

606
00:30:15.960 --> 00:30:18.960
<v Speaker 6>if they're going through periods where the intimacy isn't there,

607
00:30:19.319 --> 00:30:25.200
<v Speaker 6>then the sex kind of dries out. So good to know, yeah,

608
00:30:26.160 --> 00:30:31.079
<v Speaker 6>is very important. And it isn't just the physical part.

609
00:30:31.119 --> 00:30:35.160
<v Speaker 6>It's the warmth, it's the connection, it's the the ability

610
00:30:35.240 --> 00:30:40.079
<v Speaker 6>to feel safe so that we can share our private thoughts,

611
00:30:39.799 --> 00:30:44.279
<v Speaker 6>that level of intimacy. Before we close out the this

612
00:30:44.440 --> 00:30:47.839
<v Speaker 6>particular section, what's your best first date?

613
00:30:48.000 --> 00:30:51.720
<v Speaker 4>Question to ask somebody when you go on the first date.

614
00:30:51.880 --> 00:30:52.960
<v Speaker 4>So that's a great question.

615
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<v Speaker 5>Uh, you know, I think something that's kind of open ended,

616
00:30:56.839 --> 00:31:00.559
<v Speaker 5>not like you know something to the what what are

617
00:31:00.680 --> 00:31:02.759
<v Speaker 5>some of the things that you want to what you

618
00:31:02.799 --> 00:31:03.240
<v Speaker 5>want to do?

619
00:31:03.480 --> 00:31:03.720
<v Speaker 4>What?

620
00:31:03.720 --> 00:31:05.240
<v Speaker 5>What do you have you have some plans for this

621
00:31:05.359 --> 00:31:09.920
<v Speaker 5>coming year? I would keep it like general and open.

622
00:31:10.440 --> 00:31:12.559
<v Speaker 5>I know that's kind of a boring answer, but that's

623
00:31:12.599 --> 00:31:14.680
<v Speaker 5>what I got. Uh, that's what I would ask if

624
00:31:14.720 --> 00:31:16.720
<v Speaker 5>I want to get to know somebody, kind of get

625
00:31:16.720 --> 00:31:18.599
<v Speaker 5>a sense as to who they are. Do you see

626
00:31:18.599 --> 00:31:21.759
<v Speaker 5>yourself living around here? You know, in the next five years,

627
00:31:21.799 --> 00:31:24.640
<v Speaker 5>you see yourself moving kind of what's what's your kind

628
00:31:24.640 --> 00:31:26.119
<v Speaker 5>of you have kind of a game plan or you

629
00:31:26.200 --> 00:31:26.599
<v Speaker 5>kind of.

630
00:31:26.519 --> 00:31:29.480
<v Speaker 4>Just play it by year, or where are you on things?

631
00:31:29.519 --> 00:31:31.720
<v Speaker 5>What's what's kind of you know, gives a sense as

632
00:31:31.799 --> 00:31:33.200
<v Speaker 5>to who they are and what they are and where

633
00:31:33.200 --> 00:31:33.599
<v Speaker 5>they're going.

634
00:31:33.759 --> 00:31:37.160
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, it's almost a directional question almost as to see

635
00:31:37.319 --> 00:31:40.680
<v Speaker 6>are we going along in a similar path before?

636
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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, because they could say I'm moving, you know, I'm

637
00:31:43.559 --> 00:31:46.440
<v Speaker 5>definitely getting off grid, and uh, you might be a

638
00:31:46.440 --> 00:31:49.039
<v Speaker 5>city person and I'm like, Okay, that's great that we're

639
00:31:49.039 --> 00:31:51.200
<v Speaker 5>here now. But if she's going off grid and I'm not,

640
00:31:51.759 --> 00:31:53.480
<v Speaker 5>how are we going to make this work.

641
00:31:53.920 --> 00:31:57.519
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, you know. That actually goes right into the next segment,

642
00:31:57.559 --> 00:31:59.119
<v Speaker 6>which is I wanted to talk to you a little

643
00:31:59.160 --> 00:32:03.880
<v Speaker 6>bit about red flags and green flags. What are the

644
00:32:04.000 --> 00:32:07.519
<v Speaker 6>subtle red flags? That seems like a big one, you're

645
00:32:07.559 --> 00:32:09.519
<v Speaker 6>not going to be in the same location, But what

646
00:32:09.559 --> 00:32:13.920
<v Speaker 6>are the subtle red flags that you think I should

647
00:32:13.920 --> 00:32:14.440
<v Speaker 6>be aware of.

648
00:32:14.599 --> 00:32:16.599
<v Speaker 5>Well, I think there's two sets. I think there's the

649
00:32:16.759 --> 00:32:20.240
<v Speaker 5>emotional red flags and is the logistical red flags. So

650
00:32:20.279 --> 00:32:24.359
<v Speaker 5>the emotional red flags, if somebody really is bitter about

651
00:32:24.359 --> 00:32:27.480
<v Speaker 5>their past relationships and has not done the work where

652
00:32:27.519 --> 00:32:29.599
<v Speaker 5>they have the ability to let go and be open,

653
00:32:29.920 --> 00:32:32.079
<v Speaker 5>and you're going to get compared to what happened in

654
00:32:32.079 --> 00:32:34.359
<v Speaker 5>the past and don't be like my ex and he

655
00:32:34.519 --> 00:32:37.480
<v Speaker 5>did this, and don't do that, and like it becomes

656
00:32:37.599 --> 00:32:43.440
<v Speaker 5>very pressurized situation there. And logistically, if you're you know,

657
00:32:43.519 --> 00:32:46.039
<v Speaker 5>if you're going to be in different locations and different

658
00:32:46.400 --> 00:32:49.759
<v Speaker 5>states of mind and different states of art and it's

659
00:32:49.799 --> 00:32:52.960
<v Speaker 5>going to be difficult to get together and build a relationship,

660
00:32:53.160 --> 00:32:55.559
<v Speaker 5>that's a red flag. Also if they're always booked, if

661
00:32:55.559 --> 00:32:58.559
<v Speaker 5>they're always busy, if you and you're not as busy

662
00:32:58.720 --> 00:33:01.640
<v Speaker 5>because you have this you if you really want to

663
00:33:01.680 --> 00:33:03.400
<v Speaker 5>do something, You're going to make the time. If you

664
00:33:03.440 --> 00:33:05.279
<v Speaker 5>really want to be with somebody, you'll make the.

665
00:33:05.240 --> 00:33:05.799
<v Speaker 4>Time for them.

666
00:33:05.839 --> 00:33:07.680
<v Speaker 5>If you don't, then maybe you're not going to go

667
00:33:07.720 --> 00:33:09.480
<v Speaker 5>out of your way as much. But if you have

668
00:33:09.559 --> 00:33:13.400
<v Speaker 5>to find a way into their schedule on an ongoing basis, that's,

669
00:33:13.440 --> 00:33:15.680
<v Speaker 5>to me is a red flag that they're not they're

670
00:33:15.759 --> 00:33:18.359
<v Speaker 5>not being open or there, you're not a priority, or

671
00:33:18.440 --> 00:33:19.480
<v Speaker 5>they're not that interested.

672
00:33:20.559 --> 00:33:24.519
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, those are two good good signs. Then what's the

673
00:33:24.519 --> 00:33:27.079
<v Speaker 6>flip side, what are the green flags we should be

674
00:33:27.960 --> 00:33:28.960
<v Speaker 6>This is a good one.

675
00:33:30.359 --> 00:33:32.960
<v Speaker 5>Well, I think one, I think you want to be

676
00:33:33.079 --> 00:33:36.359
<v Speaker 5>with somebody, particularly if you're over fifty, who's kind hearted

677
00:33:36.680 --> 00:33:40.240
<v Speaker 5>and who's who's a nice person, you know that whole

678
00:33:40.319 --> 00:33:42.559
<v Speaker 5>you know, the whole like bad boy thing and all

679
00:33:42.599 --> 00:33:43.759
<v Speaker 5>of that. Do you really want to be with a

680
00:33:43.799 --> 00:33:45.480
<v Speaker 5>bad boy if you're a woman over fifty.

681
00:33:46.319 --> 00:33:48.440
<v Speaker 4>I don't know. I'm not a woman over fifty, so

682
00:33:48.480 --> 00:33:49.039
<v Speaker 4>I can't say.

683
00:33:49.079 --> 00:33:52.160
<v Speaker 5>But that's that's to me, seems like for the younger crowd,

684
00:33:52.160 --> 00:33:54.759
<v Speaker 5>whereas there's that edge, that danger. I think you want

685
00:33:54.799 --> 00:33:57.319
<v Speaker 5>the guy to be dynamic and interesting, but you don't

686
00:33:57.480 --> 00:34:00.799
<v Speaker 5>necessarily you don't want the bad boy at that stage

687
00:34:00.799 --> 00:34:04.920
<v Speaker 5>of life. So I think the green flag there is

688
00:34:04.960 --> 00:34:07.480
<v Speaker 5>if they are kind, harder, they're open, they make time

689
00:34:07.559 --> 00:34:11.039
<v Speaker 5>for you, if they respect your independence. Because I think

690
00:34:11.119 --> 00:34:14.360
<v Speaker 5>over fifty, one of the keys to making relationship is

691
00:34:14.719 --> 00:34:18.159
<v Speaker 5>each person has to be able to have their own life.

692
00:34:19.039 --> 00:34:20.920
<v Speaker 5>You want to have the share time, but you both

693
00:34:20.960 --> 00:34:22.920
<v Speaker 5>want to have a life because if one person throws

694
00:34:22.920 --> 00:34:26.559
<v Speaker 5>their entire life into you, then they might, you know, secretly,

695
00:34:26.880 --> 00:34:30.119
<v Speaker 5>be a little bit bitter about that, like, hey, what

696
00:34:30.159 --> 00:34:32.000
<v Speaker 5>about me? So you want to make sure that they

697
00:34:32.039 --> 00:34:34.440
<v Speaker 5>have the time to develop themselves. You have the time

698
00:34:34.480 --> 00:34:36.840
<v Speaker 5>to develop yourself. So if you sense there's a nice

699
00:34:36.840 --> 00:34:41.400
<v Speaker 5>give and take in the relationship that's bordering, then that's

700
00:34:41.440 --> 00:34:42.199
<v Speaker 5>a really good thing.

701
00:34:43.320 --> 00:34:50.119
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, And from your response, it's acknowledging how the landscape

702
00:34:50.159 --> 00:34:54.320
<v Speaker 6>really does change as we get older. So people over

703
00:34:54.440 --> 00:34:58.800
<v Speaker 6>fifty are in a different, different stage in life. They

704
00:34:58.880 --> 00:35:02.719
<v Speaker 6>could be airing for parents, or they're in a mature

705
00:35:02.760 --> 00:35:07.280
<v Speaker 6>stage and managing their careers, and they may even be grandparents.

706
00:35:07.360 --> 00:35:10.880
<v Speaker 6>So how does the complexity of our lives start to

707
00:35:10.920 --> 00:35:12.639
<v Speaker 6>affect dating well?

708
00:35:12.639 --> 00:35:14.559
<v Speaker 5>Again, and that's another thing where you look for the

709
00:35:14.599 --> 00:35:17.480
<v Speaker 5>green lights, they're the green signs the positives, because if

710
00:35:17.480 --> 00:35:20.239
<v Speaker 5>they're so busy, if they have so many things that

711
00:35:20.239 --> 00:35:22.599
<v Speaker 5>they have to juggle, how are they going to.

712
00:35:22.599 --> 00:35:23.360
<v Speaker 4>Make time for you.

713
00:35:23.400 --> 00:35:26.039
<v Speaker 5>And you might not have been married before, you might

714
00:35:26.119 --> 00:35:29.440
<v Speaker 5>have grown kids, you might not have parents that you

715
00:35:29.480 --> 00:35:30.920
<v Speaker 5>have to take care of, you might be in a

716
00:35:30.920 --> 00:35:33.519
<v Speaker 5>completely different situation. So if one person's kind of freed

717
00:35:33.559 --> 00:35:36.320
<v Speaker 5>up and the other person's constantly juggling or under pressure

718
00:35:36.320 --> 00:35:38.880
<v Speaker 5>all the time, that's going to make it a challenge.

719
00:35:38.880 --> 00:35:40.760
<v Speaker 4>So you have to find somebody.

720
00:35:40.400 --> 00:35:43.880
<v Speaker 5>Where who's available kind of in the same space as

721
00:35:43.880 --> 00:35:46.599
<v Speaker 5>you are to make it work, or else you do

722
00:35:46.639 --> 00:35:49.880
<v Speaker 5>the work to make it work. And sometimes it's worth

723
00:35:49.920 --> 00:35:51.559
<v Speaker 5>it to do that, and other times it's like, you

724
00:35:51.559 --> 00:35:53.960
<v Speaker 5>know what, I'm over fifty the clock sticking. I don't

725
00:35:53.960 --> 00:35:55.840
<v Speaker 5>want to go through all of this again because I've

726
00:35:55.880 --> 00:35:59.000
<v Speaker 5>been there, I've been with that other person's going through,

727
00:35:59.159 --> 00:36:00.800
<v Speaker 5>and I don't want to go there again. It could

728
00:36:00.800 --> 00:36:04.440
<v Speaker 5>be with trouble with kids, or maybe this illness in

729
00:36:04.480 --> 00:36:07.840
<v Speaker 5>the family, or some type of financial hardship, all understandable things.

730
00:36:07.960 --> 00:36:08.679
<v Speaker 4>Stuff happens.

731
00:36:08.760 --> 00:36:10.480
<v Speaker 5>Then it's up to you to decide do I want

732
00:36:10.480 --> 00:36:13.159
<v Speaker 5>to do I want to invite that into my life,

733
00:36:13.280 --> 00:36:15.679
<v Speaker 5>Do I like this person. Am I attracted enough to

734
00:36:15.719 --> 00:36:17.760
<v Speaker 5>this person that I want to let them bring in

735
00:36:17.960 --> 00:36:21.039
<v Speaker 5>their all their baggage with them, or do I feel

736
00:36:21.079 --> 00:36:24.480
<v Speaker 5>that they can manage their stuff where we will have

737
00:36:24.599 --> 00:36:26.679
<v Speaker 5>our time and it's going to be enough and they

738
00:36:26.719 --> 00:36:28.760
<v Speaker 5>can deal with their other stuff on their own and

739
00:36:28.800 --> 00:36:30.199
<v Speaker 5>I don't have to get dragged into that.

740
00:36:30.239 --> 00:36:31.679
<v Speaker 4>And you've seen how it is with some of our

741
00:36:31.760 --> 00:36:32.840
<v Speaker 4>friends here, right.

742
00:36:33.760 --> 00:36:36.800
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, I think self work what you were saying before,

743
00:36:37.320 --> 00:36:42.840
<v Speaker 6>because our life becomes so complex just doing the self

744
00:36:42.920 --> 00:36:46.440
<v Speaker 6>work and asking the question is their space in my

745
00:36:46.519 --> 00:36:51.119
<v Speaker 6>life right now to significantly care for another being? Right?

746
00:36:51.719 --> 00:36:55.880
<v Speaker 6>And if the answer is yes, then go forward and

747
00:36:55.920 --> 00:36:58.960
<v Speaker 6>be honest that there is still a lot going on,

748
00:36:59.119 --> 00:37:03.360
<v Speaker 6>but there is also time and space for relationship. But

749
00:37:03.880 --> 00:37:08.280
<v Speaker 6>if you do a personal assessment and you know, you say, wow,

750
00:37:08.320 --> 00:37:10.320
<v Speaker 6>I just have so many plates up in the air

751
00:37:10.440 --> 00:37:14.519
<v Speaker 6>that I'm juggling right now, I couldn't significantly put the

752
00:37:14.599 --> 00:37:19.199
<v Speaker 6>time and attention that's required for a deep relationship, maybe

753
00:37:19.239 --> 00:37:20.480
<v Speaker 6>just some light dating, right.

754
00:37:20.679 --> 00:37:24.480
<v Speaker 5>And sometimes what happens is that people who have they've

755
00:37:24.519 --> 00:37:26.760
<v Speaker 5>been out of the dating game, if you will, for

756
00:37:27.480 --> 00:37:29.400
<v Speaker 5>a couple of decades, and they just step into it,

757
00:37:29.400 --> 00:37:32.039
<v Speaker 5>and I've met them online and I'm like, oh, I'm

758
00:37:32.039 --> 00:37:34.159
<v Speaker 5>the first person they met. It's like, it's not going

759
00:37:34.239 --> 00:37:37.320
<v Speaker 5>to I knew it wouldn't work because they're just getting

760
00:37:37.360 --> 00:37:40.280
<v Speaker 5>their toe wet there. They don't know what they're what's

761
00:37:40.320 --> 00:37:43.760
<v Speaker 5>out there, they don't know what they're looking for. They

762
00:37:43.840 --> 00:37:47.039
<v Speaker 5>haven't really severed their ties with their past relationship.

763
00:37:47.079 --> 00:37:48.559
<v Speaker 4>They're just kind of sniffing around.

764
00:37:48.800 --> 00:37:50.400
<v Speaker 5>So I think what you want to do before you

765
00:37:50.400 --> 00:37:55.559
<v Speaker 5>put yourself out there, Like somebody famous celebrity Matthew McConaughey

766
00:37:55.639 --> 00:37:58.400
<v Speaker 5>said his dad told them, don't have ass anything. And

767
00:37:58.440 --> 00:38:01.159
<v Speaker 5>I think that's some of the greatest advice ever. If

768
00:38:01.159 --> 00:38:02.599
<v Speaker 5>you're going to do it, do it. So if you're

769
00:38:02.599 --> 00:38:04.960
<v Speaker 5>going to get involved, you want to put yourself out there,

770
00:38:05.000 --> 00:38:07.559
<v Speaker 5>put yourself out there, be open. You're going to get

771
00:38:07.639 --> 00:38:09.760
<v Speaker 5>hurt sometimes and you're going to but you may win

772
00:38:09.800 --> 00:38:11.079
<v Speaker 5>the big one as we have.

773
00:38:12.000 --> 00:38:16.800
<v Speaker 4>So, but don't do it half assed. Do it for real. Yeah.

774
00:38:16.840 --> 00:38:20.599
<v Speaker 6>It's interesting you said that because even before I put

775
00:38:20.599 --> 00:38:24.639
<v Speaker 6>my profile out there, I had given space between my

776
00:38:24.760 --> 00:38:27.559
<v Speaker 6>long term relationship had ended and I had given some

777
00:38:27.679 --> 00:38:31.760
<v Speaker 6>space and I'd asked myself, what type of person do

778
00:38:31.840 --> 00:38:35.679
<v Speaker 6>I want to meet, and I had gotten a sense

779
00:38:35.719 --> 00:38:38.760
<v Speaker 6>and my list was not long, and it was value space,

780
00:38:40.119 --> 00:38:43.199
<v Speaker 6>and that's how I connected with you. I had a

781
00:38:43.239 --> 00:38:48.760
<v Speaker 6>clearer sense in my head. I had learned from my relationship,

782
00:38:48.880 --> 00:38:51.519
<v Speaker 6>and so I knew I wanted something different and that's

783
00:38:51.559 --> 00:38:52.159
<v Speaker 6>what I got.

784
00:38:53.239 --> 00:38:54.800
<v Speaker 4>Well, I'm glad we got that.

785
00:38:55.559 --> 00:38:59.639
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, So going into mature relationships, how important is the

786
00:38:59.639 --> 00:39:00.639
<v Speaker 6>physical attraction?

787
00:39:01.920 --> 00:39:05.320
<v Speaker 4>I think you know for me as you know it's

788
00:39:05.440 --> 00:39:08.320
<v Speaker 4>important to me. I mean, it is what it is.

789
00:39:09.039 --> 00:39:13.760
<v Speaker 5>I don't question how you know my urges or what

790
00:39:13.840 --> 00:39:15.000
<v Speaker 5>attracts me works.

791
00:39:15.199 --> 00:39:18.079
<v Speaker 4>It is what it is. I didn't create myself. I'm

792
00:39:18.119 --> 00:39:19.119
<v Speaker 4>working on myself.

793
00:39:19.159 --> 00:39:24.320
<v Speaker 5>But what I'm attracted to, I'm attracted to, and I

794
00:39:24.360 --> 00:39:27.800
<v Speaker 5>think for me it's important. I can't speak for all guys,

795
00:39:27.840 --> 00:39:30.039
<v Speaker 5>but from what I've heard from the dating coaches that

796
00:39:30.079 --> 00:39:31.480
<v Speaker 5>I've interviewed that.

797
00:39:31.599 --> 00:39:32.519
<v Speaker 4>It's important for men.

798
00:39:32.599 --> 00:39:34.840
<v Speaker 5>It's also important for women that the guys you know

799
00:39:34.920 --> 00:39:37.000
<v Speaker 5>well groomed and takes care of himself and is polite

800
00:39:37.039 --> 00:39:40.719
<v Speaker 5>and respectful. What's really interesting is to a person, every

801
00:39:40.800 --> 00:39:43.039
<v Speaker 5>dating coach I've ever interviewed has said the one thing

802
00:39:43.079 --> 00:39:46.440
<v Speaker 5>that women want from guys is they want a man

803
00:39:46.480 --> 00:39:48.559
<v Speaker 5>to be a man in the best sense of the word.

804
00:39:48.960 --> 00:39:51.559
<v Speaker 5>They want him to be confident, not cocky. They want

805
00:39:51.639 --> 00:39:54.960
<v Speaker 5>them to be emotionally available, but not arrogant. You know,

806
00:39:55.000 --> 00:39:57.400
<v Speaker 5>they want a good guy, but they wanted a real

807
00:39:57.480 --> 00:39:59.559
<v Speaker 5>man in the best sense of the word.

808
00:39:59.360 --> 00:40:01.840
<v Speaker 4>And I think that's important.

809
00:40:01.840 --> 00:40:04.159
<v Speaker 5>I think for guys, I think they're looking for a

810
00:40:04.159 --> 00:40:07.280
<v Speaker 5>woman who's a real woman, quote unquote, which is so

811
00:40:07.559 --> 00:40:11.079
<v Speaker 5>can be so many. It's so dynamic nowadays because as

812
00:40:11.119 --> 00:40:14.559
<v Speaker 5>you know, this is a time where you know, women

813
00:40:14.719 --> 00:40:18.840
<v Speaker 5>have made so many getting finally getting such long overdue

814
00:40:18.920 --> 00:40:21.440
<v Speaker 5>recognition for all the wonderful things that are doing, and

815
00:40:21.440 --> 00:40:22.840
<v Speaker 5>it's going to be more and more and more. So

816
00:40:22.880 --> 00:40:25.920
<v Speaker 5>you want a guy who appreciates that, is not against women,

817
00:40:26.000 --> 00:40:29.159
<v Speaker 5>who really appreciates the fact that the more women can do,

818
00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:30.079
<v Speaker 5>the better it is.

819
00:40:30.119 --> 00:40:30.519
<v Speaker 4>For guys.

820
00:40:30.519 --> 00:40:32.480
<v Speaker 5>I always say this is the best time ever for

821
00:40:32.519 --> 00:40:35.840
<v Speaker 5>a guy to be a guy because of that. And

822
00:40:36.480 --> 00:40:38.440
<v Speaker 5>the problem I think that a lot of men have,

823
00:40:38.719 --> 00:40:42.039
<v Speaker 5>regardless of age nowadays, is they've been put into like

824
00:40:42.119 --> 00:40:44.920
<v Speaker 5>pigeon hole. They're in the crosshairs. If you're a young guy,

825
00:40:44.960 --> 00:40:48.480
<v Speaker 5>you don't have role models anymore. You've got the mma

826
00:40:48.599 --> 00:40:51.199
<v Speaker 5>on one side, you've got manscaping on the other side,

827
00:40:51.199 --> 00:40:54.119
<v Speaker 5>and it's really tough for guys today to know who

828
00:40:54.119 --> 00:40:57.119
<v Speaker 5>they are because women don't necessarily need men in a

829
00:40:57.199 --> 00:41:00.159
<v Speaker 5>traditional sense the way they have in the past, and

830
00:41:00.239 --> 00:41:02.559
<v Speaker 5>the regardless of all the politics and everything. You can't

831
00:41:02.599 --> 00:41:06.320
<v Speaker 5>force that back onto society. You can't go back and

832
00:41:06.360 --> 00:41:09.000
<v Speaker 5>say men are this and women are that. You have

833
00:41:09.079 --> 00:41:12.400
<v Speaker 5>to let the whole thing evolve, and hopefully it's it

834
00:41:12.480 --> 00:41:16.679
<v Speaker 5>evolves in a way where women revel in their independence

835
00:41:16.760 --> 00:41:18.920
<v Speaker 5>and they have their own lives. Yet want a guy

836
00:41:19.000 --> 00:41:22.760
<v Speaker 5>who understands that and who revels in his independence and

837
00:41:22.800 --> 00:41:25.480
<v Speaker 5>his own life also, and then when they come together

838
00:41:25.679 --> 00:41:28.440
<v Speaker 5>it's even bigger than each one individually.

839
00:41:29.800 --> 00:41:33.800
<v Speaker 6>Yeah, So it seems to me that physical attraction is

840
00:41:33.840 --> 00:41:36.719
<v Speaker 6>definitely important, you know, I think speaking from a woman,

841
00:41:36.800 --> 00:41:38.880
<v Speaker 6>you know, we can talk about being attracted in many

842
00:41:38.920 --> 00:41:43.079
<v Speaker 6>different levels, but we also long for that physical intimacy

843
00:41:43.119 --> 00:41:45.280
<v Speaker 6>as well. And you're right, we do want a guy

844
00:41:45.360 --> 00:41:54.960
<v Speaker 6>to be a guy. So, in closing, what role do spirituality,

845
00:41:55.159 --> 00:42:02.199
<v Speaker 6>emotional intelligence, and personal growth play relationships in your point?

846
00:42:02.559 --> 00:42:05.440
<v Speaker 5>I mean huge, So with spirituality, I think if one

847
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<v Speaker 5>person's going on a spiritual kind of journey, recognizes it,

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<v Speaker 5>and the other person is not really in the same

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<v Speaker 5>space or same place because we're all heading the same

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<v Speaker 5>to the same destination. It's just everybody's going on their

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<v Speaker 5>own journey time wise, that becomes an issue. I know

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<v Speaker 5>in previous relationships where I was going one way and

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<v Speaker 5>the partner was not going that way, and that becomes

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<v Speaker 5>an issue. So spirituality, I think is important where you

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<v Speaker 5>want to have some type of at least understanding, and

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<v Speaker 5>it's better like you and I are, I think, on

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<v Speaker 5>the same place on our spiritual journey. We're both on

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<v Speaker 5>our own spiritual journey. But I think there's a lot

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<v Speaker 5>of overlap and things we can share. What were the

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<v Speaker 5>other two things unie.

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<v Speaker 6>So spirituality and emotional intelligence and personal growth?

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, so I think you know, a lot of times

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<v Speaker 5>with women they want a guy who you know, with

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<v Speaker 5>a personal growth, who has a goal in all but

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<v Speaker 5>a lot of times also they don't want the guy

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<v Speaker 5>to have achieved the goal. It'say some women who don't

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<v Speaker 5>want to be there when he's growing, They want to

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<v Speaker 5>be there when he's accomplished his goal. So that's a

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<v Speaker 5>tricky one sometimes for guys.

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<v Speaker 4>And then the.

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<v Speaker 5>Third one was personal and emotional intelligence. Okay, so I

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<v Speaker 5>think there. I think every woman wants a guy who's

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<v Speaker 5>quote unquote emotionally intelligent. I think most of the guys

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<v Speaker 5>don't even know what that means.

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<v Speaker 4>So you just have to.

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<v Speaker 5>Hope for the best there and hopefully through being open

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<v Speaker 5>in terms of being able to talk about stuff how

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<v Speaker 5>they feel, not take things personally, not look at a

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<v Speaker 5>lot of times guys and I do this, as you know,

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<v Speaker 5>they'll look at any time they take things as criticism

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<v Speaker 5>that are really meant with the goal of making a

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<v Speaker 5>relationship as good as it can be. So if you

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<v Speaker 5>see that the signs of all the good parts of

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<v Speaker 5>that are there, that's a really good thing.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, and you know about criticism, It's all about communication,

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<v Speaker 6>isn't it. We could probably do a whole segment on communication.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 6>Well, Robert, this has been a thoughtful and insightful and

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<v Speaker 6>inspiring conversation. So whether someone is newly single, divorced, widow,

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<v Speaker 6>or simply searching for a meaningful connection, I believe your

891
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<v Speaker 6>message is ultimately hopeful that love, intimacy, compassion, and personal

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<v Speaker 6>growth never expire. Absolutely, So thanks for sharing your wisdom

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<v Speaker 6>and experiences with us today.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you Union. Here's the book once again. The guys

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<v Speaker 4>Guys Guys Love.

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<v Speaker 5>You can find me right here on KCA Radio in

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<v Speaker 5>southern California, my worldwide podcast, Guys Guys Radio, my website,

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<v Speaker 5>Robert manny MNI dot com. I'm on UK Health Radio

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<v Speaker 5>weekends and on demand. I'm on YouTube, I'm on Rumble

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<v Speaker 5>and pretty much so many other I'm a guest on

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<v Speaker 5>so many other shows on YouTube where we talk about

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<v Speaker 5>relationships over fifty, particularly on Second ACTV with Silka Schwartz cough.

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<v Speaker 6>So wonderful. Thanks Robert. It's simer unique in your little

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<v Speaker 6>corner here. Bye bye bye.

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<v Speaker 4>Thanks, it's guys Guy Radio.

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<v Speaker 5>Okay, what a fun conversation with my lovely wife Uni

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<v Speaker 5>about dating after fifty at some of the opportunities and

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<v Speaker 5>some of the potential pitfalls that you might face along

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<v Speaker 5>the way. And I think the number one takeaway is

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<v Speaker 5>before you get out there, if you are single and

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<v Speaker 5>you're over fifty and do want to make a connections

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<v Speaker 5>to number one, take a step back and take stock

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<v Speaker 5>of yourself, who you are, what you are, what you

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<v Speaker 5>are looking for in a partner, and what you really

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<v Speaker 5>have to offer. And also I think it's ultimately very

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<v Speaker 5>important to ask yourself, is there any role I played

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<v Speaker 5>in my previous relationships maybe not working out the way

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<v Speaker 5>I want them to work out? And is there anything

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<v Speaker 5>I could see differently or do differently to give myself

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<v Speaker 5>a better chance of succeeding in the future. I think

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<v Speaker 5>that is critical that we first look inward before going outward.

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<v Speaker 5>The second thing is consider the reality and the possibilities

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<v Speaker 5>of the online dating world. It's not for everybody. Some

924
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<v Speaker 5>people just don't like it. They feel there's too much

925
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<v Speaker 5>dishonesty there. They feel it's a waste of time, or

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<v Speaker 5>they get they get caught in going into the deep

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<v Speaker 5>end too quickly and they go onto too many services

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<v Speaker 5>and they're juggling too many potential partners and it just

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<v Speaker 5>doesn't work out. So I think you need to be

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<v Speaker 5>mindful about what it is and how you can make

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<v Speaker 5>online dating work for you. If it is in fact

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<v Speaker 5>something that you feel can be a useful tool, and

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<v Speaker 5>that after all, that's what it is. It's a tool,

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<v Speaker 5>and if you use it properly, it can work out,

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<v Speaker 5>as it did with UNI and Eyes. So I'll wish

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<v Speaker 5>you the best of luck finding a potential partner. If

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<v Speaker 5>that's what you're interested in and finding that love that's

938
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<v Speaker 5>out there, just put your intenna out there and be

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<v Speaker 5>ready to be open to receive it when it's ready

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<v Speaker 5>to come to you. Thank you for listening to Guys

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<v Speaker 5>Guys Radio. We'll be back next week with a brand

942
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<v Speaker 5>new episode. And until then, like I always say, guys,

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<v Speaker 5>guys finish first.

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<v Speaker 1>NBC News on CACAA Lomlad sponsored by Teamsters Local nineteen

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<v Speaker 9>NBC News Radio. I'm Lisa Carton. President Trump says the

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<v Speaker 9>US will be attacking Iran very hard. Speaking from the

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<v Speaker 9>Oval Office this morning, Trump said more attacks are coming

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<v Speaker 9>following yesterday strikes and retaliation for the downing of a

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<v Speaker 9>US APACHE helicopter near the Strait of Wormuz.

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<v Speaker 10>The US military targeted about twenty different locations inside Iran,

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<v Speaker 10>including radar stations, missile defense systems, air defense systems. No

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<v Speaker 10>reports of any casualties there. Significantly, the US didn't target

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<v Speaker 10>any Iranian cities or its leaders.

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<v Speaker 9>NBC's Richard Engel reporting Iran responded with a tax on

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<v Speaker 9>US targets in the Middle East. President Trump has signed

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<v Speaker 9>a bill to fund immigration enforcement. Speaking from the Oval

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<v Speaker 9>Office today, the President said it will give ICE and

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<v Speaker 9>border patrol the resources they need to keep America safe.

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<v Speaker 4>For more than one hundred days.

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<v Speaker 11>Congressional Democrats tried to block all funding for the Department

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<v Speaker 11>of Homeland Security in a reprehensible attempt to throw open

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<v Speaker 11>the borders of the United States of America.

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<v Speaker 9>The measure was approved in a House vote Tuesday. The

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<v Speaker 9>measure fund's ice and border patrol through the end of

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<v Speaker 9>Trump's term. It includes thirty eight billion dollars for ICE

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<v Speaker 9>and twenty six billion for border patrol. The bill's passage

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<v Speaker 9>comes after a government shutdown in weeks of delays before

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<v Speaker 9>it finally cleared the Senate last week. Millions of people

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<v Speaker 9>across the Midwest and north the East are under a

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<v Speaker 9>severe weather threat that's expected to intensify tonight. The multi

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<v Speaker 9>day severe weather threat is forecast to bring storms capable

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<v Speaker 9>of producing large hail, damaging wind gusts and tornadoes. By Thursday,

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<v Speaker 9>the threat shifts and extends into the Ohio Valley and

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<v Speaker 9>the Northeast. The murder conviction for a black Texas high

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<v Speaker 9>school track star who killed a white opponent is being

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<v Speaker 9>appealed by his lawyers. Carmelo Anthony fatally stabbed Austin Metcalf

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<v Speaker 9>during a fight at a competition last year in the

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<v Speaker 9>Dallas suburb of Frisco. He's been sentenced to thirty five

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<v Speaker 9>years in prison. You're listening to the latest on NBC

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<v Speaker 3>There's never been a better time for men to be

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<v Speaker 3>clear who men really are. Guys Guy Radio, starring author

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<v Speaker 9>President Trump's approval rating on the economy is at a

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<v Speaker 9>record low. According to a new economist you gov poll.

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<v Speaker 9>Michael Kashner reports.

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<v Speaker 13>Just twenty nine percent of Americans said they approve of

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<v Speaker 13>the president's handling of the economy. Well sixty three percent disapprove.

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<v Speaker 13>The poll found that Americans have an increasingly bleak economic outlook.

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<v Speaker 13>At the start of Trump's current term, thirty seven percent

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<v Speaker 13>said the economy was getting worse. Now that number is

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<v Speaker 13>at fifty seven percent. Big issues of concern were food

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<v Speaker 13>and gas prices. This woman stopped the pump at twenty dollars.

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<v Speaker 7>That's all I can afford right now with the prices.

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<v Speaker 4>They're so expensive right now.

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<v Speaker 9>I'm Michael Kassner in California today, about two thousand SOFI

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<v Speaker 9>Stadium hospitality workers are voting on a new contract. Daniel

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<v Speaker 9>Martindale has details.

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<v Speaker 14>It comes two days before the opening World Cup match

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<v Speaker 14>at the venue in Inglewood. On Tuesday, the Food and

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<v Speaker 14>Beverage Workers Union Unite Here Local eleven tentatively agreed to

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<v Speaker 14>a new contract with the stadium's food service operator, Legends Global.

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<v Speaker 14>Union members had overwhelmingly authorized the strike. Concessions. Stand attendants

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<v Speaker 14>are reportedly being offered a forty percent pay increase in

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<v Speaker 14>premium pay for mega events like the World Cup. Workers

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<v Speaker 14>would also be allowed to walk off the job if

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<v Speaker 14>the union determines ICE agents are putting their safety and

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<v Speaker 14>security at risk.

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<v Speaker 9>The NYPD says heavy security measures are in place around

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<v Speaker 9>Madison Square Garden as the Knicks prepared to take on

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<v Speaker 9>the Spurs in Game four of the NBA Finals. Natalie

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<v Speaker 9>Migliori is in New York.

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<v Speaker 15>The NYBD is setting up frozen zones and only allowing

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<v Speaker 15>one thousand ticketed fans to attend the watch party outside

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<v Speaker 15>the garden, with owner James Dolan calling the police commissioner

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<v Speaker 15>a mayor party pooperst.

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<v Speaker 9>And The NBA Finals continue tonight with the Spurs hoping

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<v Speaker 9>to even the best of seven series at two games

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<v Speaker 9>apiece when they square off against the Knicks from Madison

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<v Speaker 9>Square Garden. San Antonio avoided a three to nothing deficit

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<v Speaker 9>after Victor Wembanyama led the team with thirty two points

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<v Speaker 9>in a close victory. Lisa carton NBC News Radio.

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<v Speaker 2>Ten fifty am, don't forget that number. And for you

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<v Speaker 2>young people who got here by accidentally fat fingering your

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<v Speaker 2>FM band select there We're an AM radio station, and

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<v Speaker 2>AM refers to more than just the time of day.

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<v Speaker 4>It's a bird, it's a plan.

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<v Speaker 16>No, it's super raw. Okay, a gimmicky opening for a

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<v Speaker 16>commercial about Superwroth universal life insurance, but I'm sure it

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<v Speaker 16>got your attention.

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<v Speaker 5>Now.

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<v Speaker 16>What is a super.

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<v Speaker 2>Wroth, you ask. It's a permanent indexed.

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<v Speaker 16>Universal life insurance that's totally liquid and easily accessible once

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<v Speaker 16>it matures. Can be used to supplement retirement savings or

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<v Speaker 16>a death benefit or both. Has no income or contribution limit,

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<v Speaker 16>has no five year rule like roth iras, has no

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<v Speaker 16>ten percent penalty for accessing the funds before age fifty

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<v Speaker 16>nine and a half. Oh, and the average historical returns

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<v Speaker 16>are five to seven percent annually tax freight. Super Roths

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<v Speaker 16>also lock in gains, which means you don't lose your

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<v Speaker 16>money when the market is down. It sounds incredible, right,

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<v Speaker 16>sounds super super roths are the way of the future,

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<v Speaker 8>This segment sponsored by our friends at the All News.

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<v Speaker 8>Sammy's Restaurant. Sammy's is now open in Kalamesa at Exit

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<v Speaker 8>eighty eight off the ten Freeway, next to the Jack

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<v Speaker 8>in the Box in the former Bob's Big Boy Restaurant.

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<v Speaker 8>Not to name drop, but Sammy's in the former Bob's

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<v Speaker 8>is a lot like Norms. It has an extensive menu

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<v Speaker 8>with multiple restaurants in rialto in places like Upland and Ranchukumonga.

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<v Speaker 8>Samm's is a great place to dine. Their menu is

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<v Speaker 8>very similar with their American trio of delicious steak, shrimp,

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<v Speaker 8>and chicken and an expansive menu. You won't go hungry

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<v Speaker 8>and you won't go broke at Sammy's. You can come

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<v Speaker 8>meet Sammy and his family. Sammy was a chief cook

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<v Speaker 8>for Norms for years and it shows in his menu.

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<v Speaker 8>Sammy's is a great place to meet the family, friends,

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<v Speaker 8>or have a community meeting. You can ask about their

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<v Speaker 8>private meeting room available for parties of fifteen or more

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<v Speaker 8>on a first come, first serve basis. Sammy's is now

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<v Speaker 8>open from six am to nine pm every day at

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<v Speaker 8>five point forty sandal would drive off of Exit eighty

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<v Speaker 8>eight at the ten Freeway in Kalamesa. Look for the

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<v Speaker 8>Big Boy statue. It's still there. We thanks Sammy for

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<v Speaker 8>returning to this station as a loyal sponsor. You can

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<v Speaker 8>find more info about Sammy's at Samy'scafe dot Net. At

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<v Speaker 8>Samy'scafe dot Net well, you can also find discount coupons

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<v Speaker 8>to save money. And by the way, Sammy's has free

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<v Speaker 8>Wi Fi too. Sammy's and Kalamesa Ray also one of

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<v Speaker 8>their other locations, are ready to serve you. Sammy's is

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<v Speaker 8>now open in Kalamesa.

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<v Speaker 9>NBC News Radio. I'm Lisa Carton. President Trump says the

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<v Speaker 9>US will be attacking Iran very hard. Speaking from the

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<v Speaker 9>Oval Office this morning, Trump said more attacks are coming

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<v Speaker 9>following yesterday strikes and retaliation for the downing of a

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<v Speaker 9>US helicopter near the Strait of Wormuz.

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<v Speaker 10>The US military targeted about twenty different locations inside Iran,

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<v Speaker 10>including radar stations, missile defense systems, air defense systems. No

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<v Speaker 10>reports of any casualties there. Significantly, the US didn't target

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<v Speaker 10>any Iranian cities or its leaders.

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<v Speaker 9>NBC's Richard Engel reporting Iran responded with a tax on

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<v Speaker 9>US targets in the Middle East. President Trump has signed

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<v Speaker 9>a bill to fund immigration enforcement. Speaking from the Oval

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<v Speaker 9>Office today, the President said it will give Ice and

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<v Speaker 9>Border Patrol the resources they need to keep America safe.

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<v Speaker 4>For more than one hundred.

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<v Speaker 11>Days, Congressional Democrats tried to block all funding for the

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<v Speaker 11>Department of Homeland Security in a reprehensible attempt to throw

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<v Speaker 11>open the borders of the United States of America.

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<v Speaker 9>The measure was approved in a House vote Tuesday. In

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<v Speaker 9>the measure fund's ice and border patrol through the end

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<v Speaker 9>of Trump's term. It includes thirty eight billion dollars for

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<v Speaker 9>ice and twenty six billion for border patrol. The bill's

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<v Speaker 9>passage comes after a government shutdown in weeks of delays

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<v Speaker 9>before it finally cleared the Senate last week. Millions of

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<v Speaker 9>people across the Midwest and Northeast are under a severe

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<v Speaker 9>weather threat that's expected to intensify tonight. The multi day

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<v Speaker 9>producing large hail, damaging wind gusts and tornadoes. By Thursday,

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<v Speaker 9>the threat shifts and extends into the Ohio Valley and

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<v Speaker 9>the Northeast. The murder conviction for a black Texas high

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<v Speaker 9>school track star who killed a white opponent is being

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<v Speaker 9>appealed by his lawyers. Carmelo Anthony fatally stabbed Austin Metcalf

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<v Speaker 9>during a fight at a competition last year in the

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<v Speaker 9>Dallas suburb of Frisco. He's been sentenced to thirty five

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<v Speaker 9>years in prison. You're listening to the latest on NBC

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