1 00:00:09,519 --> 00:00:10,960 Speaker 1: Hello, Hello, everyone. 2 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:14,439 Speaker 2: Oh welcome back to this week's episode of Your Manifesting 3 00:00:14,439 --> 00:00:19,879 Bestie Podcast, Season four. Happy September to everyone, Happy seasons change. 4 00:00:19,920 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 1: I'm so excited and so thrilled for the fall. 5 00:00:22,079 --> 00:00:24,079 Speaker 2: I just feel like it's going to be warm and 6 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:26,320 cozy and successful and exciting. 7 00:00:26,399 --> 00:00:27,760 Speaker 1: And the holidays, Oh my god. 8 00:00:27,800 --> 00:00:29,679 Speaker 2: I love this time of year. I hope you're enjoying 9 00:00:29,719 --> 00:00:32,600 it as well. This week, I really want to give 10 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:35,640 you guys a proper formula that you can start using 11 00:00:35,719 --> 00:00:38,320 to break down the barriers of your limiting beliefs and 12 00:00:38,359 --> 00:00:41,880 start changing your identity and change your self concept successfully. 13 00:00:42,079 --> 00:00:43,560 Speaker 1: And this is a formula that once I. 14 00:00:43,560 --> 00:00:47,280 Speaker 2: Began applying into things that I was actually conscious of, 15 00:00:47,320 --> 00:00:49,679 like problems I have that I'm aware of, and I 16 00:00:49,759 --> 00:00:52,960 began to break them down, almost like an onion that 17 00:00:53,039 --> 00:00:55,159 needs to keep being peeled right, we peel down the 18 00:00:55,240 --> 00:00:58,439 layers over and over again. I realize that I'm able 19 00:00:58,520 --> 00:01:03,280 to transition and transform my belief state about certain topics 20 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:06,640 a lot faster than I was before. And I want 21 00:01:06,640 --> 00:01:09,480 to go through a couple of examples of how this 22 00:01:09,560 --> 00:01:11,319 worked for a few of my clients later on in 23 00:01:11,359 --> 00:01:13,920 the episode. But the key point in here that I 24 00:01:13,920 --> 00:01:15,799 want to go over is you know how we always 25 00:01:15,799 --> 00:01:19,519 talk about how your personality shapes your personal reality. I 26 00:01:19,519 --> 00:01:22,760 feel like we don't utilize the knowledge behind that enough. 27 00:01:22,840 --> 00:01:25,920 Like if my personality can change, like I can change 28 00:01:25,959 --> 00:01:29,120 who I am down to a reaction level, down to 29 00:01:29,159 --> 00:01:32,480 an emotional level, then I'm actually energetically changing, and my 30 00:01:32,519 --> 00:01:35,000 identity can shift. And if my identity can shift, then 31 00:01:35,000 --> 00:01:38,120 my entire reality has to change because as within so 32 00:01:38,239 --> 00:01:41,599 without anything happening inside of me and going on inside 33 00:01:41,599 --> 00:01:45,200 of me, and the way that I energetically embody myself right, 34 00:01:45,239 --> 00:01:48,319 my beliefs, my emotions and everything is how my world 35 00:01:48,599 --> 00:01:51,560 reflects back to me, is how the world physically manifests 36 00:01:51,599 --> 00:01:54,719 for me. But a common issue that we come across 37 00:01:54,879 --> 00:01:57,599 is just a lack of self awareness. So we're more 38 00:01:57,640 --> 00:02:00,640 so behaving as the reactor and our realc instead of 39 00:02:00,640 --> 00:02:03,879 the observer. And you actually are the observer because if 40 00:02:03,920 --> 00:02:08,280 you just quiet yourself for like five seconds, you'll notice 41 00:02:08,319 --> 00:02:10,639 you have thoughts going on in your mind and you 42 00:02:10,639 --> 00:02:13,080 can just sit back and observe them. So if you 43 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:17,120 are the observer and you can flex this observation muscle 44 00:02:17,199 --> 00:02:19,360 more and more, you're going to become so self aware 45 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:22,479 and so conscious of the limits that you're placing upon 46 00:02:22,520 --> 00:02:25,080 yourself throughout the day, and then you can successfully change them. 47 00:02:25,080 --> 00:02:27,560 But if we're lacking that self awareness, it's really difficult 48 00:02:27,560 --> 00:02:30,000 to kind of dig deep and peel back those onions 49 00:02:30,039 --> 00:02:31,879 and those layers of the things that we really need 50 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:34,800 to work on. For example, you might think the reason 51 00:02:34,879 --> 00:02:37,360 you can't manifest money is like you're not taking enough 52 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:40,080 action or you're not good enough, But the layers behind 53 00:02:40,159 --> 00:02:43,599 that are so much deeper, and we're going to figure 54 00:02:43,639 --> 00:02:46,000 out how to get down to the bottom of the pit. 55 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:50,240 Because when we can change that foundation belief, the soul belief, 56 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:53,879 that core belief, that unconscious belief that we're not normally 57 00:02:53,879 --> 00:02:56,879 consciously aware of in our waking moments, then the change 58 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:59,800 can happen because then my personality can really start to 59 00:03:00,240 --> 00:03:03,080 because I'm not playing the guesting game. I'm actually going 60 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:05,159 to be like, oh no, that fear I had it 61 00:03:05,199 --> 00:03:07,759 was so illogical, or that belief I had was so illogical, 62 00:03:07,759 --> 00:03:09,240 and I don't even know where maybe it's themed from, 63 00:03:09,319 --> 00:03:10,599 or maybe I do know where it's theemed from, but 64 00:03:10,960 --> 00:03:14,719 I can now eliminate the root cause rather than the 65 00:03:14,759 --> 00:03:16,520 surface cause of what I used to think it was. 66 00:03:16,719 --> 00:03:18,240 And I hope I'm not getting carried of waiting as 67 00:03:18,319 --> 00:03:19,120 or following along on this. 68 00:03:19,240 --> 00:03:19,520 Speaker 1: Okay. 69 00:03:20,120 --> 00:03:24,120 Speaker 2: So I had a conversation with my client and she 70 00:03:24,439 --> 00:03:27,719 is experiencing a cap, for example, in her life, and 71 00:03:27,879 --> 00:03:30,759 this cap is financial. You might be able to relate 72 00:03:30,800 --> 00:03:32,599 if maybe if you're a business owner, or if you're 73 00:03:32,639 --> 00:03:36,039 working a job or anything where you're you know, depending 74 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:37,879 on your income. Right, You're depending on your income for 75 00:03:38,080 --> 00:03:40,199 your sense of security and life to be taken care of, 76 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:42,639 because hello, we need money, right for the world to 77 00:03:42,639 --> 00:03:44,719 go around, we need money to survive. So she kept 78 00:03:44,759 --> 00:03:48,240 hitting this cap, and this might be where you are too. 79 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:51,120 So in her business, she has this cap that she's 80 00:03:51,159 --> 00:03:52,919 been hitting for I want to say, six months, and 81 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:56,599 she cannot work past this cap. So I'm going to 82 00:03:56,639 --> 00:03:58,840 give a rough number. Her cap is like fifty thousand 83 00:03:58,840 --> 00:04:00,960 dollars a monthly. Some people might look at it and 84 00:04:00,960 --> 00:04:02,840 be like, oh my god, that's an amazing number, and 85 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:04,520 then some people who are light years ahead of that 86 00:04:04,560 --> 00:04:06,199 are like, oh, yeah, that's that's not much. She can 87 00:04:06,240 --> 00:04:08,360 totally do better than that. So that's her cap. Her 88 00:04:08,439 --> 00:04:11,719 cap is around fifty k monthly. She cannot bust through that, 89 00:04:11,800 --> 00:04:15,439 she can't work past it, she can't like propel through 90 00:04:15,439 --> 00:04:18,319 that cap that you know she has on herself subconsciously. 91 00:04:18,480 --> 00:04:21,160 So we went through this little process of analyzing of 92 00:04:21,160 --> 00:04:23,000 what where that cap is coming from, on how we 93 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:25,279 can release it. And you can use this the same 94 00:04:25,319 --> 00:04:28,560 exact like formula or same exact method for any other area. 95 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:30,399 And we'll talk about a couple other areas too on 96 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:33,639 this podcast or on this episode. So I began having 97 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:36,839 to kind of train her consciously rather than subconsciously to 98 00:04:36,959 --> 00:04:38,759 first become the observer, because if we're going to do 99 00:04:38,759 --> 00:04:41,879 this consciously, then eventually it'll be kind of submerged into 100 00:04:41,879 --> 00:04:45,480 the subconscious mind. So Step one was observe what the 101 00:04:45,519 --> 00:04:47,759 limiting belief is. So her limiting belief is she just 102 00:04:47,800 --> 00:04:49,920 can't break through fifty k months, so she has a 103 00:04:49,920 --> 00:04:51,959 cap on her she feels like she's blocked. Okay, that's 104 00:04:52,040 --> 00:04:55,680 number one. Observe the fear or the limiting belief. And 105 00:04:55,720 --> 00:04:57,319 then the next thing that we had to go over 106 00:04:57,600 --> 00:05:01,360 is what does that resistance tell you about yourself? And 107 00:05:01,480 --> 00:05:04,360 what she was able to identify in that question is 108 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:07,600 that her resistance is actually fear. Okay, so there's some 109 00:05:07,680 --> 00:05:11,040 type of fear inside of her of what would happen 110 00:05:11,120 --> 00:05:13,639 if she did break through her fifty thousand dollar month. 111 00:05:13,720 --> 00:05:15,839 So I was like, okay, well, what's your biggest goal? 112 00:05:15,879 --> 00:05:17,680 Then she said, right now, my goal is one hundred 113 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:19,639 thousand dollars a month, So she wants to double it. 114 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:22,639 She fears she cannot achieve that that's too big of 115 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:25,319 a number, that's too scary, that's not like in her 116 00:05:25,439 --> 00:05:28,959 realm of possibilities. So then we broke it down even further. 117 00:05:29,040 --> 00:05:33,120 The next question was what do I fear about this outcome? 118 00:05:33,680 --> 00:05:36,040 And this took her a little bit to answer, but 119 00:05:36,079 --> 00:05:39,120 then we had like an overflow of fears that came 120 00:05:39,199 --> 00:05:42,279 with that one hundred thousand dollars monthly goal, and the 121 00:05:42,319 --> 00:05:45,240 fears that came up for her Number one was if 122 00:05:45,439 --> 00:05:48,360 she achieves that number, there's gonna be way too many 123 00:05:48,360 --> 00:05:51,319 eyes on her, like that comes with blowing up on 124 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:55,120 social media. So this still has this fear of being perceived, 125 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:58,879 fear of being seen, fear of being a fraud, people 126 00:05:59,000 --> 00:06:01,040 thinking she's a fraud or she's not good enough. So 127 00:06:01,079 --> 00:06:04,040 this comes from imposter syndrome as well. So then she 128 00:06:04,079 --> 00:06:07,439 had other fears. If she's that successful, what is her 129 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:09,879 family going to think about her? Who does she think 130 00:06:09,920 --> 00:06:10,360 she is? 131 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:10,959 Speaker 1: Okay? 132 00:06:11,319 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 2: Then another fear that she had that came up was 133 00:06:13,959 --> 00:06:16,439 would she still be able to perform as a good 134 00:06:16,519 --> 00:06:20,040 mom because she has two kids, So if she is 135 00:06:20,079 --> 00:06:23,319 making that much money, that would likely require her to 136 00:06:23,439 --> 00:06:25,279 just be way more involved in her business, and she's 137 00:06:25,319 --> 00:06:27,079 afraid of that because she still wants to be a 138 00:06:27,160 --> 00:06:29,279 very involved mom. So she felt like she was going 139 00:06:29,360 --> 00:06:32,399 to lose control and that she has to pick one 140 00:06:32,480 --> 00:06:36,040 or the other. So all these lingering fears started coming up. 141 00:06:36,079 --> 00:06:38,639 Fear of being perceived, fear of being seen right, fear 142 00:06:38,639 --> 00:06:41,600 of not balancing her career in her home life, all 143 00:06:41,600 --> 00:06:44,040 these different things. So the fear was not it had 144 00:06:44,079 --> 00:06:46,360 nothing to do with the money. So it's not that 145 00:06:46,399 --> 00:06:49,160 she believes she's not capable of achieving it. It's that 146 00:06:49,319 --> 00:06:52,240 what comes with it once it shows up. And then 147 00:06:52,240 --> 00:06:53,879 I was like, Okay, what other fears you have? We 148 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:57,439 just kept peeling back these layers. Another fear that came 149 00:06:57,519 --> 00:06:59,959 up for her was that she doesn't feel that her 150 00:07:00,240 --> 00:07:03,439 systems in place are well equipped to handle that volume 151 00:07:03,480 --> 00:07:05,839 of clients. She feels like that would be such a 152 00:07:05,920 --> 00:07:08,680 large handful, and then she would be overwhelmed and stressed 153 00:07:08,720 --> 00:07:10,519 with work because she really does handle all of it 154 00:07:10,519 --> 00:07:13,120 by herself. Doesn't have like an assistant or customer support 155 00:07:13,199 --> 00:07:15,560 or tech support or anybody for her online business, so 156 00:07:15,639 --> 00:07:17,680 she runs the whole show alone. And I totally relate 157 00:07:17,680 --> 00:07:19,079 to her because I do the same thing pretty much 158 00:07:19,079 --> 00:07:22,040 by myself. So I know having an influx of clients 159 00:07:22,120 --> 00:07:25,160 can be very scary. So the more that we peeled 160 00:07:25,279 --> 00:07:28,879 back the resistance of I can't beat that fifty thousand 161 00:07:28,879 --> 00:07:31,160 dollar a month. I can't move past it. It has 162 00:07:31,199 --> 00:07:33,920 nothing to do with her being like, well I don't 163 00:07:33,920 --> 00:07:36,720 think I'm good enough for it, or I don't think 164 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:39,560 I can achieve it. It's that I can achieve it, 165 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:42,720 but I'm fucking terrified of what comes with it. So 166 00:07:42,759 --> 00:07:44,839 I was like, Okay, well, what other fear do you have? 167 00:07:45,319 --> 00:07:47,959 I just kept digging and digging and digging. 168 00:07:47,680 --> 00:07:48,560 Speaker 1: Into her brain. 169 00:07:48,680 --> 00:07:54,600 Speaker 2: Because fears control us, Fears they overcome us, Fears paralyze us. 170 00:07:54,720 --> 00:07:58,319 Fears stop us from being who we truly are authentically, 171 00:07:58,360 --> 00:08:00,519 I'm like, Okay, what other fears do you have? She 172 00:08:00,639 --> 00:08:04,639 said that she has never experienced that amount of money, 173 00:08:04,680 --> 00:08:07,279 and she feels like she'll blow it, she'll go spend 174 00:08:07,360 --> 00:08:10,120 all of it, and she won't know how to manage 175 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:12,399 her money because she has a history of poor money 176 00:08:12,439 --> 00:08:14,399 management in her past from when she was like in 177 00:08:14,399 --> 00:08:17,720 her twenties. And I was like, okay, that's also valid. 178 00:08:17,800 --> 00:08:20,959 So if I did manifest one hundred k months, my 179 00:08:21,079 --> 00:08:23,839 fears I would blow it. I wouldn't be smart with it, 180 00:08:23,879 --> 00:08:26,319 I wouldn't invest it. I don't know how to properly 181 00:08:26,399 --> 00:08:29,720 manage it. So there's all these fears that she has 182 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:34,080 around the actual desire of achieving one hundred thousand dollars 183 00:08:34,120 --> 00:08:37,399 monthly income. But if we didn't peel back all these 184 00:08:37,519 --> 00:08:41,440 layers and observe what the actual resistance means, she would 185 00:08:41,440 --> 00:08:44,440 still think that she just can't manifest that money because 186 00:08:44,440 --> 00:08:46,759 maybe she's not taking enough action, or she's just not 187 00:08:46,799 --> 00:08:49,279 good enough at her business. She's not a good enough coach, 188 00:08:49,480 --> 00:08:51,799 she's not good enough at this, she's unworthy. It has 189 00:08:51,840 --> 00:08:55,080 nothing to do with any of those things. Her fears 190 00:08:55,320 --> 00:08:58,799 came from what comes with the desire. So if I 191 00:08:59,039 --> 00:09:03,799 actually receive the desire, what issues am I going to 192 00:09:03,919 --> 00:09:07,919 experience with it? So that is what was holding her back. 193 00:09:08,360 --> 00:09:11,559 So if we can peel back these layers of the 194 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,759 resistance stems from not that I don't believe I can 195 00:09:14,840 --> 00:09:17,399 have it, but my fear is the belief of what 196 00:09:17,639 --> 00:09:21,000 comes with having that massive desire. And then we can 197 00:09:21,039 --> 00:09:23,320 break down that a lot of these fears are irrational, 198 00:09:23,559 --> 00:09:26,120 a lot of these fears are completely okay, and they 199 00:09:26,120 --> 00:09:28,399 can be worked through and we can find balance and 200 00:09:28,440 --> 00:09:33,279 we can find solutions for it. Right, then then we 201 00:09:33,320 --> 00:09:36,120 can cap out, we can pass that cap of fifty 202 00:09:36,200 --> 00:09:38,559 k months, surpass it, double it, and then you can 203 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:41,600 achieve your goal. And then obviously the question is, well, 204 00:09:41,639 --> 00:09:43,000 how the fuck do I do that? 205 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:43,399 Speaker 1: Right? 206 00:09:43,480 --> 00:09:45,759 Speaker 2: So the next step we want to take and peeling 207 00:09:45,759 --> 00:09:48,919 back these onions and these layers. Obviously you're gonna want 208 00:09:48,960 --> 00:09:52,080 to start training your body into a new emotional response 209 00:09:52,159 --> 00:09:54,679 to the idea. And the only way we can truly 210 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:57,480 do that is through nervous system regulation. If you follow 211 00:09:57,480 --> 00:09:59,559 me on social media, you know, I'm like so fucking 212 00:09:59,559 --> 00:09:59,960 big on that. 213 00:10:00,039 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 1: I harp on it. 214 00:10:00,600 --> 00:10:02,559 Speaker 2: If you're in my academy, I harp on it. I'm like, 215 00:10:02,559 --> 00:10:04,799 you gotta regulate your nervous system two three times a day, 216 00:10:04,879 --> 00:10:07,519 do it, go, go, go like I. It really is 217 00:10:07,559 --> 00:10:10,639 such a missing component that unfortunately people look past or 218 00:10:10,679 --> 00:10:13,039 they don't take it seriously enough. Because if your nervous 219 00:10:13,039 --> 00:10:15,080 system is in control of you, okay, it's in control 220 00:10:15,120 --> 00:10:18,240 of your emotional responses, your emotional reactions, your energetic state, 221 00:10:18,279 --> 00:10:20,159 the way that you feel throughout the day. If you're 222 00:10:20,200 --> 00:10:24,480 chronically anxious, your nervous system is disregulated. If you are 223 00:10:24,480 --> 00:10:27,639 always pessimistic or always doubtful, or always living in fear, 224 00:10:27,720 --> 00:10:29,600 your nervous system is disregulated. 225 00:10:29,639 --> 00:10:30,000 Speaker 1: Okay. 226 00:10:30,240 --> 00:10:32,639 Speaker 2: If you fear to speak up and be bold and 227 00:10:32,639 --> 00:10:35,720 be yourself and be authentic, your nervous system is disregulated. 228 00:10:35,879 --> 00:10:37,919 If you're in a functional free zone where you just 229 00:10:38,200 --> 00:10:42,440 cannot take action, you're frozen, your nervous system is disregulated. 230 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:45,120 And these are the blockages that people face. So step one, 231 00:10:45,799 --> 00:10:49,320 regulate that freaking nervous system. Okay, take it seriously. Do 232 00:10:49,440 --> 00:10:51,840 the breath work, do the eft, do the ice facials. 233 00:10:51,879 --> 00:10:54,840 Go jump on a trampoline or a rebounder. Okay, go 234 00:10:54,879 --> 00:10:57,919 on those outdoor walks, do the cold plunges and the 235 00:10:57,919 --> 00:10:58,600 cold showers. 236 00:10:58,600 --> 00:11:00,080 Speaker 1: There's so many ways. 237 00:11:00,080 --> 00:11:02,840 Speaker 2: To regulate yourself, and this needs to be taken just 238 00:11:02,879 --> 00:11:07,320 as seriously as like eating healthy, drinking enough water, brushing 239 00:11:07,320 --> 00:11:10,200 your teeth as soon as you wake up, speaking positively 240 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:12,200 to yourself. These are all important things throughout your day 241 00:11:12,200 --> 00:11:14,399 that you know you need to do. So this is 242 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:16,879 something that you need to do, So don't skip that 243 00:11:17,000 --> 00:11:20,360 step number one and then number two of peeling back 244 00:11:20,399 --> 00:11:22,240 these onions and like digging deeper so that we can 245 00:11:22,240 --> 00:11:25,240 start actually changing and being that observer of like, Okay, 246 00:11:25,279 --> 00:11:27,440 I'm not actually my thoughts and fears. I can just 247 00:11:27,559 --> 00:11:29,480 realize these things are kind of irrational, or I can 248 00:11:29,519 --> 00:11:32,799 change my behavior towards them, since my personality reflects my 249 00:11:32,919 --> 00:11:36,080 personal reality. Right, So the next thing that we want 250 00:11:36,120 --> 00:11:40,200 to do is once you've identified those fears of why 251 00:11:40,279 --> 00:11:43,120 you believe you wouldn't be able to handle the desire 252 00:11:43,240 --> 00:11:45,120 if it were to show up today, like why you 253 00:11:45,159 --> 00:11:47,840 don't feel prepared enough for it yet, Like write those 254 00:11:47,879 --> 00:11:49,960 things down and then we're going to find a way 255 00:11:50,000 --> 00:11:51,960 to combat it. So if I were to give you 256 00:11:51,960 --> 00:11:54,399 a piece of paper and I was like, hey, if 257 00:11:54,399 --> 00:11:57,320 you had a desire and of a video kid, gain 258 00:11:57,440 --> 00:12:00,840 character version of you was living through that. So like 259 00:12:01,240 --> 00:12:03,480 think of like sims or think of a video game. Right, 260 00:12:03,879 --> 00:12:07,840 what version of you is living in that desire? How 261 00:12:07,879 --> 00:12:09,960 does that version of you look? And what are like 262 00:12:10,399 --> 00:12:13,519 the appearance of you? And also what are the beliefs 263 00:12:13,519 --> 00:12:17,519 that you would be caring about yourself as you successfully 264 00:12:17,559 --> 00:12:20,559 have achieved that desire? So, when I asked her that question, 265 00:12:20,679 --> 00:12:23,600 her response was, well, that version of me would be 266 00:12:23,759 --> 00:12:28,000 very confident about number one, managing my money. That version 267 00:12:28,039 --> 00:12:32,360 of me would feel very free and abundant. That version 268 00:12:32,399 --> 00:12:35,519 of me would feel like I am an authority figure. 269 00:12:36,120 --> 00:12:39,120 That version of me would show up a lot more 270 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:41,919 bold in my content on social media because that is 271 00:12:41,960 --> 00:12:45,200 where she actively gets her clients from. She said she 272 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:48,440 would also take better care of her appearances, so she 273 00:12:48,519 --> 00:12:51,399 would take better care of like her clothes, her hair, 274 00:12:51,519 --> 00:12:54,039 her skin, right, like the physical aspects of how she looks. 275 00:12:54,039 --> 00:12:56,960 She sees herself to be someone that's much more physically 276 00:12:56,960 --> 00:12:57,919 while taken care. 277 00:12:57,759 --> 00:12:59,559 Speaker 1: Of, and the list went on and on. 278 00:12:59,639 --> 00:13:03,159 Speaker 2: Right, she found all these different attributes of feelings and 279 00:13:03,240 --> 00:13:06,720 emotions and behaviors and personality traits that she would carry 280 00:13:07,480 --> 00:13:10,600 if she was living through that desire of already making 281 00:13:10,720 --> 00:13:14,519 one hundred thousand dollars a month. And I was like, wonderful, great, 282 00:13:14,519 --> 00:13:17,039 I'm glad you were able to identify this. Now let's 283 00:13:17,080 --> 00:13:19,840 take it even a step further. How can you show 284 00:13:19,919 --> 00:13:22,600 up as that version of yourself today? Because that is 285 00:13:22,639 --> 00:13:25,320 how we start to change your personality. And if we 286 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:27,960 can shift your personality to the one hundred thousand dollars 287 00:13:28,039 --> 00:13:32,120 monthly personality of yourself rather than consistently living in the 288 00:13:32,159 --> 00:13:35,840 fifty thousand dollars reality or identity of yourself, then your 289 00:13:35,879 --> 00:13:38,759 personal reality can shift and it will start to reflect 290 00:13:38,799 --> 00:13:42,120 back that one hundred thousand dollars monthly income, right like that. 291 00:13:42,480 --> 00:13:45,039 I know it sounds simple once we break it down 292 00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:46,600 like this, but until we break it down and become 293 00:13:46,639 --> 00:13:49,240 that observer, it's like, okay, well, what the fuck does 294 00:13:49,279 --> 00:13:51,960 she always mean? Like showing up as the identity you know? 295 00:13:52,039 --> 00:13:55,519 I can affirm until my face turns blue. But if 296 00:13:55,559 --> 00:13:58,480 I'm not taking like the aligned action, meaning I'm not 297 00:13:58,639 --> 00:14:03,360 acting like the new version, my personality has not shifted. 298 00:14:03,919 --> 00:14:06,600 I'm not really observing my thoughts. I'm still just reacting 299 00:14:06,639 --> 00:14:10,080 to them. I'm not really making changes in my personality 300 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:13,320 and in my daily behaviors, so my actions don't yet 301 00:14:13,360 --> 00:14:16,799 reflect the new identity, so my identity cannot shift. I 302 00:14:17,200 --> 00:14:19,639 can keep trying, right, I can keep working on it. 303 00:14:19,960 --> 00:14:23,799 But until I start to actually behave and embody that 304 00:14:23,879 --> 00:14:26,559 one hundred thousand dollars monthly version of myself, then it's 305 00:14:26,600 --> 00:14:28,480 gonna be really difficult for everything else to catch up. 306 00:14:28,519 --> 00:14:31,519 So I asked her, how can we embody right that 307 00:14:31,639 --> 00:14:32,440 version of yourself? 308 00:14:32,720 --> 00:14:33,200 Speaker 1: Number One? 309 00:14:33,240 --> 00:14:36,039 Speaker 2: If your fear of mismanaging all that money, you know 310 00:14:36,120 --> 00:14:38,279 is a big root cause of it, I'm like, well, 311 00:14:38,679 --> 00:14:41,799 let's start to learn how to budget. Let's start to 312 00:14:41,919 --> 00:14:44,399 learn how to invest right. Let's look at the ways 313 00:14:44,440 --> 00:14:47,480 that we can properly spend our money so that we 314 00:14:47,519 --> 00:14:50,399 feel safe around spending, so that we feel proud of 315 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:52,200 what we're spending, so that we're not just blowing it 316 00:14:52,200 --> 00:14:54,279 on random stuff, but that we're doing things with the 317 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:56,240 money that feel really good. I'm like, can you do 318 00:14:56,320 --> 00:14:59,879 that now with your current income? And she said, yes, absolutely. 319 00:15:00,000 --> 00:15:01,559 You can even hire someone to help me, like a 320 00:15:01,559 --> 00:15:02,279 financial advisor. 321 00:15:02,279 --> 00:15:03,080 Speaker 1: I'm like, wonderful. 322 00:15:03,120 --> 00:15:05,519 Speaker 2: See, you can now start acting like you already have 323 00:15:05,559 --> 00:15:08,720 that one hundred thousand dollars a month coming in. You 324 00:15:08,759 --> 00:15:12,720 can start identifying as her, you can start behaving like her. 325 00:15:12,799 --> 00:15:16,120 Because now we have a solution to that underlying fear. 326 00:15:16,519 --> 00:15:19,080 What else did she have on that fear? Well, her 327 00:15:19,080 --> 00:15:20,879 fear was that she wouldn't be able to show up 328 00:15:20,879 --> 00:15:24,279 as a good mom and handle that type of business. 329 00:15:24,320 --> 00:15:26,639 I was like, okay, so what about the way that 330 00:15:26,679 --> 00:15:28,879 you're a good mom now that you make fifty thousand 331 00:15:28,879 --> 00:15:32,000 dollars and you still handle your business. I'm like, it's 332 00:15:32,039 --> 00:15:34,120 not a huge difference, is it. She's like, well, I 333 00:15:34,159 --> 00:15:36,519 think I might need some help. I'm like, okay, so 334 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:38,919 what do you want to be more hands off on 335 00:15:39,480 --> 00:15:42,360 your business systems or help around the house as a mom? 336 00:15:42,399 --> 00:15:44,440 Do you want to either hire a nanny or do 337 00:15:44,480 --> 00:15:46,679 you want to hire a personal assistant in your business? 338 00:15:47,080 --> 00:15:49,159 Let's think about what's more important for you. She said, 339 00:15:49,159 --> 00:15:51,360 it would be a lot easier if I can delegate 340 00:15:51,440 --> 00:15:53,720 a lot of my work to an assistant so she 341 00:15:53,799 --> 00:15:56,480 can respond to my emails, so that she can answer 342 00:15:56,519 --> 00:15:58,360 my DMS and all these things that would make her 343 00:15:58,399 --> 00:16:00,600 feel more relieved and have more time I'm as a mom, 344 00:16:00,600 --> 00:16:03,480 I'm like, okay, can you take action on that now 345 00:16:03,559 --> 00:16:06,840 that you're making fifty k a month? She said, yeah, absolutely, 346 00:16:06,879 --> 00:16:09,559 I've just always been afraid to delegate my work. I'm like, okay, 347 00:16:09,600 --> 00:16:10,759 but that's an irrational fear. 348 00:16:10,799 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: So let's go do it. 349 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:13,679 Speaker 2: Let's start acting like you do have that one hundred 350 00:16:13,720 --> 00:16:17,120 thousand dollars monthly coming in right, Let's start behaving like 351 00:16:17,159 --> 00:16:19,559 that version of herselves now and doing the things to 352 00:16:19,720 --> 00:16:23,759 prepare for that manifestation. So I can start acting ready, 353 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:26,200 I can start feeling good about it. I can start 354 00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:27,600 feeling like I have space for it. 355 00:16:27,639 --> 00:16:29,600 Speaker 1: I can start feeling like I'm already it. 356 00:16:29,639 --> 00:16:33,279 Speaker 2: I'm already her, I'm already that identity, like it starts 357 00:16:33,279 --> 00:16:34,000 already happening now. 358 00:16:34,000 --> 00:16:34,240 Speaker 1: Okay. 359 00:16:34,279 --> 00:16:36,840 Speaker 2: So the other fear that she had, I'm trying to 360 00:16:36,840 --> 00:16:38,480 think back on what we talked about. Oh yeah, So 361 00:16:38,519 --> 00:16:41,200 the other fear that she had was that she has 362 00:16:41,240 --> 00:16:45,200 that fear of being seen, Like more clients coming in 363 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:47,960 means more eyes on her. And I was like, okay, 364 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:51,519 so how have you been showing up online to get 365 00:16:51,559 --> 00:16:54,519 fifty k months already? Because that's a huge deal. That 366 00:16:54,639 --> 00:16:56,840 already means there's a lot of eyes on you. There's 367 00:16:56,840 --> 00:16:59,399 a lot of prospects, there's a lot of people rolling in. 368 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:02,840 And she's like, honestly, I just show up more on 369 00:17:02,919 --> 00:17:06,920 my stories to promote myself. But I'm still afraid of 370 00:17:07,200 --> 00:17:09,839 the exposure part, which is like showing up on reels 371 00:17:09,880 --> 00:17:11,519 and tiktoks things that go viral. 372 00:17:11,839 --> 00:17:13,279 Speaker 1: So I was like, Okay, can. 373 00:17:13,119 --> 00:17:15,920 Speaker 2: We start taking action on showing up more consistently in 374 00:17:16,079 --> 00:17:19,039 those areas so that you can start working through the 375 00:17:19,119 --> 00:17:22,480 fear of being seen, working through the fear of being 376 00:17:22,599 --> 00:17:26,160 perceived and becoming successful because honestly, you're already showing up. 377 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:28,279 It just takes a little bit more practice, a little 378 00:17:28,319 --> 00:17:30,680 bit more self security and self comfort. And she's like, yeah, 379 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:32,440 but how can I do that? So it's like, okay, 380 00:17:32,480 --> 00:17:34,559 you can do like the pre celebration method. You can 381 00:17:34,599 --> 00:17:38,599 incorporate some mere work into your daily practice before you 382 00:17:38,640 --> 00:17:42,319 show up online so that you feel confident, you feel bold, 383 00:17:42,599 --> 00:17:44,960 and I also want you to start validating yourself that 384 00:17:45,000 --> 00:17:48,240 you already have an insane amount of success, so there's 385 00:17:48,240 --> 00:17:50,400 nothing to fear with more, there's nothing to fear with 386 00:17:50,440 --> 00:17:51,079 doubling it. 387 00:17:51,160 --> 00:17:52,839 Speaker 1: Okay. So we just had to. 388 00:17:52,799 --> 00:17:56,440 Speaker 2: Work through these core fears because the fears or the 389 00:17:56,480 --> 00:17:59,519 belief wasn't that she cannot achieve one hundred k months 390 00:18:00,279 --> 00:18:02,240 is all the things that come with the one hundred 391 00:18:02,319 --> 00:18:05,559 k months. So she was just refusing simply because she 392 00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:08,240 wasn't aware that the fears of what comes with it 393 00:18:08,279 --> 00:18:10,519 is the actual part that was holding her back, and 394 00:18:10,559 --> 00:18:12,759 not that she doesn't, you know, work hard enough, or 395 00:18:12,759 --> 00:18:14,480 that she's not good enough to actually achieve it, or 396 00:18:14,480 --> 00:18:17,599 that she's not capable. Right, because we're all capable to 397 00:18:17,759 --> 00:18:21,279 show up and take action, we're all capable to present 398 00:18:21,319 --> 00:18:23,400 ourselves in a way that can be successful. We're all 399 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:26,240 capable of getting whatever the fuck we want. It's just 400 00:18:26,279 --> 00:18:28,960 there's an underlying fear that we hold of what comes 401 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:32,400 with it, so our personality has a block Our personality 402 00:18:32,839 --> 00:18:35,000 is scared to change, so we keep behaving like the 403 00:18:35,119 --> 00:18:38,079 old self because we're just not being observers, we're just 404 00:18:38,119 --> 00:18:41,799 being reactors. Okay, we want to start observing our fears, 405 00:18:41,839 --> 00:18:44,519 our thoughts, and our limits and our blockages so we 406 00:18:44,559 --> 00:18:48,960 can become better creators, write better conscious creators, and work 407 00:18:49,000 --> 00:18:52,119 through these limits. Because it shouldn't take us a whole 408 00:18:52,119 --> 00:18:55,039 lifetime to work through a limiting belief. Okay, we can 409 00:18:55,079 --> 00:18:57,279 tackle it in a couple of months, start behaving like 410 00:18:57,319 --> 00:18:59,920 the new self, and things can kind of start to flow. 411 00:19:00,400 --> 00:19:02,319 The energy of well being can started to start to 412 00:19:02,359 --> 00:19:05,160 flow in. So I'm going to break down those questions 413 00:19:05,200 --> 00:19:07,640 again in case anyone wants to write this down, because 414 00:19:07,680 --> 00:19:10,519 this is something you can work through in every single area. 415 00:19:10,599 --> 00:19:14,680 So Number one, I identify what's my desire. Number two, 416 00:19:15,119 --> 00:19:19,160 identify what is my resistance around the desire? So what 417 00:19:19,240 --> 00:19:22,680 is the limit? And then what does that resistance say 418 00:19:22,720 --> 00:19:23,279 about me? 419 00:19:23,680 --> 00:19:24,079 Speaker 1: Okay? 420 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:28,079 Speaker 2: The next step is to identify what do I fear 421 00:19:28,440 --> 00:19:32,039 about that outcome. The next step is going to be 422 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:35,799 peeling back those fears, okay, because we're going to realize 423 00:19:36,119 --> 00:19:38,400 a lot of them are irrational, a lot of them 424 00:19:38,559 --> 00:19:40,960 can just be combated, a lot of them we can 425 00:19:41,039 --> 00:19:44,359 work through pretty simply once they are identified. So figure 426 00:19:44,359 --> 00:19:47,039 out where the resistance is coming from and why you 427 00:19:47,200 --> 00:19:50,720 fear that once it does take place, what would possibly 428 00:19:50,759 --> 00:19:52,559 happen to you? And what you know, like why is 429 00:19:52,599 --> 00:19:54,160 that why it's so scary for you? 430 00:19:54,559 --> 00:19:54,960 Speaker 1: Okay? 431 00:19:55,960 --> 00:19:59,240 Speaker 2: And then ask yourself, why do I believe I cannot 432 00:19:59,279 --> 00:19:59,799 handle it? 433 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:00,799 Speaker 1: Okay? 434 00:20:01,559 --> 00:20:03,640 Speaker 2: You can write down all your responses like on a 435 00:20:03,720 --> 00:20:05,799 piece of paper as you work through these questions when 436 00:20:05,839 --> 00:20:09,359 you come back to this episode, and then the next 437 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:13,279 question is if I had the desire today? What beliefs 438 00:20:13,279 --> 00:20:16,039 would I carry about myself? So if I was living 439 00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:20,440 in that perfect reality, now, what beliefs would I be embodying? Okay, 440 00:20:21,000 --> 00:20:24,160 the next question is how does this version of myself behave? 441 00:20:24,400 --> 00:20:27,200 And what is their personality? So how does this version 442 00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:29,480 of you act? How do they show up? What are 443 00:20:29,519 --> 00:20:31,839 the action steps that that version. 444 00:20:31,519 --> 00:20:33,160 Speaker 1: Of you is now taking? 445 00:20:33,400 --> 00:20:35,799 Speaker 2: Okay, and then the next and then the other questions 446 00:20:35,799 --> 00:20:38,680 you can ask as you work through these limits is 447 00:20:38,960 --> 00:20:42,000 how does this version treat themselves? How does this version 448 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:45,640 react to obstacles? And how does this differ from how 449 00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:49,200 I currently behave? Okay, So like, what are the key 450 00:20:49,200 --> 00:20:52,279 differences from my current identity so that I can switch 451 00:20:52,279 --> 00:20:54,640 into the new identity? How is it different from who 452 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:56,680 I am today of who I want to become? So 453 00:20:56,839 --> 00:20:59,799 as you start to identify these things, it's pretty simple 454 00:21:00,119 --> 00:21:01,720 how to show up as. 455 00:21:01,519 --> 00:21:02,359 Speaker 1: The new self? 456 00:21:02,839 --> 00:21:05,440 Speaker 2: And then I did this same process on a male 457 00:21:05,559 --> 00:21:08,640 client who has been he's in his forties and he's 458 00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:10,519 been wanting to manifest a wife. He's been wanting to 459 00:21:10,519 --> 00:21:13,759 manifest love and a healthy relationship. So we went through 460 00:21:13,799 --> 00:21:16,200 a lot of these questions with him, and you might 461 00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:18,279 be able to relate to this if you're someone who 462 00:21:18,319 --> 00:21:21,519 has been really desiring like true love or positive relationship, 463 00:21:21,519 --> 00:21:24,359 a healthy relationship, and you're more so usedful like toxicity. 464 00:21:24,680 --> 00:21:27,160 So one of the things that we went through or 465 00:21:27,200 --> 00:21:29,960 were his fears, right, So his resistance is that he 466 00:21:30,079 --> 00:21:33,720 just believes he's not lovable. He believes that like no 467 00:21:33,759 --> 00:21:36,640 one who meets him is going to fall for him, 468 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:38,039 like he's not desirable. 469 00:21:38,160 --> 00:21:38,400 Speaker 1: Okay. 470 00:21:38,480 --> 00:21:41,559 Speaker 2: So these were his levels of resistance around relationships. So 471 00:21:41,599 --> 00:21:43,359 then we work through the fears. I'm like, why do 472 00:21:43,400 --> 00:21:46,440 you believe this to be true about yourself? And he's like, well, 473 00:21:46,640 --> 00:21:48,960 one of my parents, which was his dad, left them 474 00:21:49,000 --> 00:21:51,559 at a young age. This made him believe that he 475 00:21:51,640 --> 00:21:52,480 is unwanted. 476 00:21:52,680 --> 00:21:53,000 Speaker 1: Okay. 477 00:21:53,599 --> 00:21:55,559 Speaker 2: So instead of being like, okay, well you know, your 478 00:21:55,640 --> 00:21:57,559 dad clearly had a lot of problems and he made 479 00:21:57,599 --> 00:22:00,319 a really bad choice, he was more so taking upon 480 00:22:00,400 --> 00:22:03,480 himself to blame himself that he's unwanted because one of 481 00:22:03,519 --> 00:22:06,039 his parents left him at a young age, right. And 482 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:07,680 I think a lot of people can relate to that. 483 00:22:07,759 --> 00:22:10,759 It's that abandonment wound that a lot of us carry. 484 00:22:11,319 --> 00:22:14,079 So the next question that we went to is what 485 00:22:14,200 --> 00:22:17,480 do I think would happen if I actually had my desire. 486 00:22:18,039 --> 00:22:20,200 Speaker 1: So his fear is if he did. 487 00:22:20,039 --> 00:22:22,720 Speaker 2: Have a loving wife or a loving girlfriend or partner, 488 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:26,279 he feels like she would also abandon him, like she 489 00:22:26,319 --> 00:22:29,319 would figure out that he's unlovable, that there's something wrong 490 00:22:29,359 --> 00:22:31,640 with him, and that he needs to be abandoned, that 491 00:22:31,680 --> 00:22:33,880 she needs to get up and leave him. So that 492 00:22:34,000 --> 00:22:36,079 is the fear that was running through his mind for 493 00:22:36,079 --> 00:22:38,599 forty years, right, which is awful. It's so sad that 494 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:40,920 a lot of people do carry these things so they 495 00:22:40,960 --> 00:22:44,240 feel not good enough for someone else, or that someone's 496 00:22:44,240 --> 00:22:46,119 going to leave them. So it's not that they cannot 497 00:22:46,119 --> 00:22:49,079 attract the right partner. They fear that once they have 498 00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:52,000 the right partner, the partner's going to also leave. Okay, 499 00:22:52,039 --> 00:22:56,519 So he realized this fear is not something that serves him. 500 00:22:56,519 --> 00:22:58,440 This belief does not serve him. He doesn't need to 501 00:22:58,519 --> 00:23:00,680 hold on to this because he realized this too is 502 00:23:00,720 --> 00:23:03,720 irrational because you know, his dad leaving him from a 503 00:23:03,799 --> 00:23:06,079 very young age is so long ago and has nothing 504 00:23:06,079 --> 00:23:08,279 to do with the adult that he is today. So 505 00:23:08,319 --> 00:23:11,920 then we kept appeeling back the layers and then and 506 00:23:12,000 --> 00:23:14,880 I was like, okay, So let's say you did have 507 00:23:15,279 --> 00:23:19,079 your wife today, you were in a loving, caring relationships. 508 00:23:19,480 --> 00:23:23,200 What beliefs would you hold about yourself then? And he said, well, 509 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:26,559 that I am lovable and that I am worthy, and 510 00:23:26,640 --> 00:23:28,200 that it's not too late for me to have a 511 00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:31,319 family or to find love. Okay, so I can find 512 00:23:31,319 --> 00:23:33,839 a partner. There is a possibility of it. So these 513 00:23:33,839 --> 00:23:36,359 are the beliefs he said he would hold about himself. 514 00:23:36,400 --> 00:23:40,680 Then I was like, okay, so what personality changes can 515 00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,680 we make so that you currently start to act like 516 00:23:43,759 --> 00:23:46,519 that version of yourself who believes that those things are 517 00:23:46,519 --> 00:23:50,400 true about himself? And he was like, well, if I 518 00:23:50,480 --> 00:23:52,319 did have a wife, or if I did have a 519 00:23:52,359 --> 00:23:56,559 loving partner, I would feel like happier and more inclined 520 00:23:56,680 --> 00:23:59,240 to go out, Like he would want to be more 521 00:23:59,279 --> 00:24:01,960 social if he had a partner by his side, because 522 00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:04,759 he's a little bit like introverted and kind of afraid 523 00:24:04,799 --> 00:24:08,559 of being social. I was like, okay, so your next 524 00:24:08,599 --> 00:24:11,640 action step is to go out. Your next action step 525 00:24:11,720 --> 00:24:13,200 is going to be to go to the places that 526 00:24:13,240 --> 00:24:15,200 you would love to go with your partner, whether it's 527 00:24:15,200 --> 00:24:17,160 a nice restaurant or to mingle at a bar, or 528 00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:19,599 to go to a lounge or a speak easier, go 529 00:24:19,680 --> 00:24:22,960 to a book club or whatever, because that's likely where 530 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:25,079 your wife is going to be anyway, if those are 531 00:24:25,079 --> 00:24:27,400 the things you're enjoying to do with her, right, So, 532 00:24:27,519 --> 00:24:29,920 like take yourself to those places. That's a great action 533 00:24:30,039 --> 00:24:33,119 step he can start doing. And I was like, well, 534 00:24:33,160 --> 00:24:35,880 what else would you be doing or with your personality, 535 00:24:35,880 --> 00:24:38,279 how else would you be seeing yourself if you had 536 00:24:38,319 --> 00:24:40,400 a wife currently? He was like, well, I would try 537 00:24:40,440 --> 00:24:44,279 to have her feel very cozy in my house, like 538 00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:47,240 very warm and very invited. I'm like, okay, so how 539 00:24:47,240 --> 00:24:50,960 can we make your home now, even without a partner there, 540 00:24:51,119 --> 00:24:52,599 feel more cozy? 541 00:24:52,359 --> 00:24:54,599 Speaker 1: What things can you do? He's like, I can spice 542 00:24:54,599 --> 00:24:55,160 it up a little. 543 00:24:55,200 --> 00:24:57,480 Speaker 2: I can paint this room, I can add more candles, 544 00:24:58,160 --> 00:25:00,359 you know, Like he had all these ideas of how 545 00:25:00,400 --> 00:25:04,279 he can make his home feel more homely, more family like, 546 00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:07,319 more welcoming, so that when his partner enters that house, 547 00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:08,319 she'll want to stay. 548 00:25:08,559 --> 00:25:10,279 Speaker 1: Right. So it was like these little things, I'm like, 549 00:25:10,319 --> 00:25:11,079 these are things. 550 00:25:10,839 --> 00:25:14,759 Speaker 2: Your personality can take action on now, and you can 551 00:25:14,799 --> 00:25:19,079 start behaving and showing up like this loved version of yourself. 552 00:25:19,119 --> 00:25:21,200 And I was like, what else. What else would happen 553 00:25:21,519 --> 00:25:23,880 if you had a wife? He said, I would take 554 00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:26,880 a lot better care of my appearance. I'm like, so 555 00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:28,720 what does that mean? He said, I would probably want 556 00:25:28,720 --> 00:25:31,400 to work out more. I would take better care of 557 00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:34,319 my physical health and eat better because I want to 558 00:25:34,359 --> 00:25:36,880 stay healthy for my family. I'm like, Okay, are you 559 00:25:36,960 --> 00:25:38,920 doing that now? He's like no, Like he could literally 560 00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:40,680 care less about his diet and stuff. I'm like, okay, 561 00:25:40,720 --> 00:25:43,759 so again, can you change that now? Can you start 562 00:25:43,759 --> 00:25:46,799 showing up as that identity now to start molding your 563 00:25:46,839 --> 00:25:52,359 personality into that desirable outcome? He said absolutely, So he 564 00:25:52,519 --> 00:25:54,839 wrote down the action steps he wants to start taking 565 00:25:54,839 --> 00:25:57,920 to start embodying the new identity, the version of himself 566 00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:00,640 he would be if he was in that love carrying 567 00:26:00,680 --> 00:26:04,359 relationship with his dream wife. So when we peel back 568 00:26:04,400 --> 00:26:06,400 these layers, like, the real point I'm trying to get 569 00:26:06,440 --> 00:26:09,160 at is when we see how these fears that we 570 00:26:09,279 --> 00:26:12,240 hold are actually just fears of what comes with the 571 00:26:12,279 --> 00:26:15,359 desire wanted tear. Like that's what we actually fear. That's 572 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:18,400 the actual cap, that's the actual block. 573 00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:19,400 Speaker 1: Okay. 574 00:26:19,640 --> 00:26:23,000 Speaker 2: Someone said that they fear healthy relationships because they seem boring. 575 00:26:23,160 --> 00:26:25,720 I was like, girl, you're just so used to toxicity. 576 00:26:25,759 --> 00:26:27,759 Of course you're gonna think it's boring. So we have 577 00:26:27,960 --> 00:26:30,279 It's not that we don't believe we can achieve it, 578 00:26:30,319 --> 00:26:33,480 but it's almost it's almost like it it feels scary 579 00:26:33,480 --> 00:26:36,119 to achieve it because when I do achieve it, what 580 00:26:36,160 --> 00:26:37,279 if X, Y and Z happens? 581 00:26:37,279 --> 00:26:38,680 Speaker 1: What if I lose it? What if this? What if that? 582 00:26:38,920 --> 00:26:41,240 Speaker 2: So we want to peel back those fears and layers 583 00:26:41,559 --> 00:26:43,960 and then see how we can shift the personality to 584 00:26:44,039 --> 00:26:48,200 reflect the version of ourselves who behaves like the person 585 00:26:48,279 --> 00:26:51,519 who does have the desire. These are small things we 586 00:26:51,599 --> 00:26:55,279 can start doing today, because then if my personality actively 587 00:26:55,400 --> 00:26:59,400 starts shifting into that individual, there is no other option 588 00:26:59,599 --> 00:27:03,359 for my reality then to refleg back the three D 589 00:27:03,640 --> 00:27:07,599 that represents my new self concept. There's no other option. 590 00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:09,599 Speaker 1: But in order to. 591 00:27:09,599 --> 00:27:12,960 Speaker 2: Get to that level of Okay, what identity am I choosing? 592 00:27:13,480 --> 00:27:15,400 We want to work through those old fears and be 593 00:27:15,559 --> 00:27:19,640 that observer. Okay, So really like get down into the 594 00:27:19,759 --> 00:27:23,559 nitty gritty, like get your fucking claws into the subconscious, 595 00:27:23,680 --> 00:27:26,880 peel it back, like dig deeper, dig into the dirt, 596 00:27:27,319 --> 00:27:30,039 who like who am I who, who do I believe 597 00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:32,400 I am? And what are the fears that I'm still 598 00:27:32,400 --> 00:27:35,599 holding onto from maybe childhood or whatever or what scars 599 00:27:35,640 --> 00:27:38,599 am I just refusing to let go because I fear 600 00:27:38,720 --> 00:27:42,519 the actual good that comes with the desire. So a 601 00:27:42,519 --> 00:27:43,799 lot of our fears is what I'm saying, is like 602 00:27:43,839 --> 00:27:47,240 they're so irrational, and so we keep behaving like the 603 00:27:47,279 --> 00:27:50,640 old self because we want to just protect ourselves. The 604 00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:54,960 subconscious is compelling me to self sabotage as a form 605 00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:58,039 of self defense, as a form of protection, because the 606 00:27:58,039 --> 00:28:01,799 brain wants to preserve you. The mind wants to preserve you, 607 00:28:01,880 --> 00:28:05,119 wants to keep you safe. Okay, so if you're hitting 608 00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:08,559 a block, if you're hitting a constant cap, you may 609 00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,880 not be aware of the underlying beliefs behind that onion. 610 00:28:12,880 --> 00:28:14,480 That we got to keep fucking peeling over and over 611 00:28:14,519 --> 00:28:17,680 and over and over to identify what the real fears 612 00:28:17,759 --> 00:28:21,799 are that come with receiving the actual desire and then 613 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:25,119 identifying who is the new identity that does have the 614 00:28:25,160 --> 00:28:28,240 desire and feels safe having it, feels good about having it, 615 00:28:28,359 --> 00:28:31,680 enjoys having it instead of fearing having it, And how 616 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:35,200 does heat or she behave Like what is the personality 617 00:28:35,200 --> 00:28:37,359 traits of that individual, and how do they feel about themselves? 618 00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:39,680 How do they treat themselves, how do they show up 619 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:43,519 for themselves, how do they operate in their reality? What 620 00:28:43,599 --> 00:28:46,480 are the action steps that person takes, not that they 621 00:28:46,519 --> 00:28:48,559 have the desire? So that is going to be your 622 00:28:48,599 --> 00:28:51,880 aligned action. That's how you're going to take that term 623 00:28:52,319 --> 00:28:56,039 aligned action and actually apply it so your personality can 624 00:28:56,519 --> 00:29:01,839 drastically start to change, because all these underlie fears are 625 00:29:01,920 --> 00:29:05,960 the blocks. Okay, it's it's the irrational fears we carry 626 00:29:06,519 --> 00:29:10,359 that alter our personality so that we self sabotage. So 627 00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:13,720 if I can like effectively figure out what personality traits, 628 00:29:13,759 --> 00:29:18,000 what key characteristics the ideal version of myself would have, 629 00:29:18,599 --> 00:29:21,119 then I can identify how I can behave like them, 630 00:29:21,119 --> 00:29:23,720 because there's things I can do today to become them. 631 00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:26,799 There's things I can do today to act like that version. 632 00:29:26,839 --> 00:29:30,279 Because remember we're all acting every day. When you're at work, 633 00:29:30,400 --> 00:29:32,279 you're acting like a different person than when you're with 634 00:29:32,319 --> 00:29:32,720 your friends. 635 00:29:32,759 --> 00:29:33,640 Speaker 1: And when you're with. 636 00:29:33,640 --> 00:29:36,119 Speaker 2: Your friend, you're acting like a different person than when 637 00:29:36,119 --> 00:29:38,119 you're on a date. And when you're on a date, 638 00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:40,319 you're acting like a totally different person, and when you're 639 00:29:40,359 --> 00:29:43,039 with your parents, and when you're with your parents, you 640 00:29:43,079 --> 00:29:44,680 act like a total different person than when you're on 641 00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:47,519 a job interview. These are you're acting. You're acting all 642 00:29:47,599 --> 00:29:50,160 day long. You're constantly acting like a new identity, and 643 00:29:50,200 --> 00:29:52,920 you know how to do this, okay, but it just 644 00:29:52,960 --> 00:29:56,119 feels so unfamiliar because we have that fear of how 645 00:29:56,119 --> 00:29:57,920 can I act like? What does she mean act like 646 00:29:57,920 --> 00:29:59,640 a new or become a new identity? What is she 647 00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:01,359 talking about? How am I supposed to do that? I'm 648 00:30:01,440 --> 00:30:03,440 terrified I have all these blockages that I have, all 649 00:30:03,440 --> 00:30:06,039 this resistance. Yes you do, and I do too, and 650 00:30:06,079 --> 00:30:09,079 I get that. But once we become self aware, become 651 00:30:09,079 --> 00:30:12,000 the observer, we can identify what they are, peel it back, 652 00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:16,359 change the reactions and the actions of the individual, and 653 00:30:16,400 --> 00:30:20,839 then we start to consciously and effectively mold the energetic 654 00:30:20,920 --> 00:30:25,880 state of who we are. Once that's molded, once that's shifted, 655 00:30:25,960 --> 00:30:29,599 Once I actually make space for the desire to flow 656 00:30:29,599 --> 00:30:34,559 in through my behavior, through a changed personality, my personal 657 00:30:34,599 --> 00:30:36,279 reality has to reflect it back. 658 00:30:36,400 --> 00:30:39,200 Speaker 1: It must change. Okay. 659 00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:42,400 Speaker 2: Without these steps, though, it's really tough, because if I 660 00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:46,480 can't identify it with these with the right questions. Then 661 00:30:46,759 --> 00:30:49,480 I'm still always like, oh what am I doing wrong? 662 00:30:50,079 --> 00:30:52,880 Why is nothing working? Why am I meditating that thing's working? 663 00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:54,559 Why am I firming and nothing's working. Why am I 664 00:30:54,599 --> 00:30:59,400 pre celebrating and nothing's working? Okay, it's because your self 665 00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:02,920 identific hasn't gone through the proper shift yet and your 666 00:31:03,079 --> 00:31:08,240 actions don't represent the changed identity. So it's all about 667 00:31:08,279 --> 00:31:10,240 like the way that you perceive who you are, the 668 00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:12,200 way you feel about yourself, the way you handle things, 669 00:31:12,319 --> 00:31:17,519 your daily dominant emotions, and that's what represents you energetically 670 00:31:17,759 --> 00:31:22,359 in the quantum field. So we want to use this 671 00:31:22,799 --> 00:31:26,200 as a method to break down the barriers in every area. Okay, 672 00:31:26,319 --> 00:31:28,559 we talked about money on this episode. We talked about 673 00:31:28,599 --> 00:31:31,119 relationships on this episode, but you can do this in 674 00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:36,000 so many different areas, in your friendships, in your health 675 00:31:36,039 --> 00:31:39,440 and body image, in your self confidence, and so many 676 00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:42,799 other things. I mean, everyone has like ten different desires 677 00:31:42,799 --> 00:31:46,079 they're trying to manifest rightfully, So because we're human beings 678 00:31:46,079 --> 00:31:49,039 who want to keep expanding, and once we get one desire, 679 00:31:49,039 --> 00:31:51,960 we're like, okay, what's next. You know, we're only content 680 00:31:52,039 --> 00:31:53,799 for like a week, and then we want more. And 681 00:31:53,799 --> 00:31:54,720 that's okay, that's what. 682 00:31:54,599 --> 00:31:58,000 Speaker 1: We're here for. We're here for expansion. But we cannot expand. 683 00:31:58,319 --> 00:32:01,799 Speaker 2: If we energetically are stuck and if we energetically are 684 00:32:01,839 --> 00:32:05,039 not choosing to shift the personality and change the identity. Okay, 685 00:32:05,279 --> 00:32:08,680 So self identification and self observation here is going to 686 00:32:08,680 --> 00:32:14,119 be crucial. Self awareness is what creates more expansion and change. 687 00:32:14,559 --> 00:32:18,079 So don't go mindless to who you are, don't go 688 00:32:18,240 --> 00:32:20,920 mindless to what your fears are, and don't go mindless 689 00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:25,319 to your self sabotaging behavior. If we can identify it, we. 690 00:32:25,279 --> 00:32:26,799 Speaker 1: Can change it. Okay. 691 00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:30,559 Speaker 2: Identification here is going to be key. So use these steps, 692 00:32:30,880 --> 00:32:34,119 use this little formula that we put together on this episode. Okay, 693 00:32:34,119 --> 00:32:37,160 I'm rambling. It's been well over thirty minutes now, Okay, 694 00:32:37,240 --> 00:32:39,440 so we're going to wrap up this episode. Thank you 695 00:32:39,480 --> 00:32:43,640 guys so much for tuning in to your Manifesting Bessy podcasts, 696 00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:46,359 and as always, we will be back again next Wednesday 697 00:32:46,400 --> 00:32:47,640 with a brand new episode.