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Speaker 1: Ero dot net a r r o e dot net.

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It is the home of the daily Mess. Come on,

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we all have questions, We ask them every day. Our

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fault in our problem is is that we don't write

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them down and finish out the research project. So what

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do we do? We moper around? Oh it's so boring,

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look that up. Why are we bored with life? See?

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That's what the daily mess is all about, is asking

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real people questions and getting real people answers. Only on

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ero dot net a r r oe dot net. Enjoy

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your exploration, Hey, zero, And this is vocal d fragging.

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Vocal d fragging is taking the time to ask yourself

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the questions and then question the answers. It seems like

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such a simple thing to do, and yet it's very

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difficult for a lot of people to do, and those

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that do try to sit there and say, this is

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so stupid. I don't want to be caught sitting here

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asking myself questions. And the thing about it is, though,

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it's like whoa, whoa. Wait. Here's what's stupid is that

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you invest so much of your energy and trust into

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other people's answers without ever asking yourself. Now, that to

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me is stupid. Is that? Wait? Wait a second, None

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of these people have walked in your shoes. They haven't

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lived your life. They're not staying awake with you while

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you fear it. And I had to find out if your

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damn bills are going to get paid or you're waking

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up in the morning to find out if old mother

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Hubbard and her cupboard are sitting there empty and bere

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and is the dog going to get food before you

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get food? Okay? So I mean they're not living that

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lifestyle you are, and you're not asking yourself the questions

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and questioning the answers. I do it in a d

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fraged journal. Sure anybody can pick this book up and

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they can read it. I don't care. I don't care.

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This way that's going to save me some time, because

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if you're sitting there asking questions about me, go get

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the damn book. Get the book, read the book, listen

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to my questions, see my questions, and figure out how

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you're going to better understand this relationship of building a stronger,

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better tomorrow. Ask yourself the questions, question the answers. You

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do the work. Don't let somebody do the work for you.

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This is vocal d fragging. Here's how vocal D fragging

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actually works. It was within these pages and upon this

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vocal D frag that I actually asked that question of

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why is it when I go to the essential job

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I'm having a problem dealing with the initial people that

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are there. Is it because I can't work things out

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with modern day coworkers and bosses? No, that's not the problem.

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What I did was I identified myself as the problem. Well

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what the hell's that mean? Well, because I was living

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by this rule, if you don't speak to me, I'm

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not going to speak to you. I'm not going to

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waste my time. Well, what an ego jerk? That is? Right?

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If you don't speak to me, I don't speak to you.

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I don't know. That's a little bit too serious if

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you ask me. So, what I've done over the past

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three to four weeks is I've put a lot of

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focus on trying to correct that situation. Just go ahead

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and do it. Swallow your pride, get rid of your ego,

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be the first one who says, hey, how you doing today,

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and mean it. Don't sit there and say it because

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we all act shit like that out. What you got

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to do is you've got to put yourself inside forward

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emotion as well as forward growth. And forward growth means that, hey,

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for a brief moment here, you might have to actually

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be a leader. What the hell gives there? Who wants

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to be a leader? That's added work, that's multitasking. That's

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something that I don't want to deal with because all

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I want to do is go and collect a paycheck,

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get my insurance, go home and binge watch some TV.

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Yeah I get that, I get that. But if you

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look at what you're doing in your everyday life, I'm

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sure that the one thing that you and I have

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in common is that it looks like we're standing in

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front of a forest that has not been pruned. It's

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been allowed to live its own life. Well, here's the thing.

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If you want to know what happens to a forest

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and where it grows to and how far it will reach,

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what you need to do is study the early days

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of this nation, when all these explorers from around the

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world chose to land on our shorelines on the east

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coast and work their way toward a different nation, something

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that they felt like they could be a part of.

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But the first thing it had to be done is

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it had to be discovered. And in that process of

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discovering things, what they did was that they un covered

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the truth about the nation that they were going to

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be building. Well, how about if you treat yourself like

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a nation and start putting focus on the personal growth

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that you need to have, that you need to prune

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some trees that you need to sit there and better

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understand situations that when you walk into your place of business,

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be the first one who says something, get the ball started.

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If you hate the fact that people won't talk to

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you first, then be the one who starts the conversation.

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I'm not being a jerk here. What I'm saying is

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is that in everything that you're complaining about, there is

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a big, big chance that you are the problem. You're

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the problem, but you're expecting people to bend around everything

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that you're doing. And if you don't identify what the

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situation is and the solution, and if you don't correct yourself,

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how do you expect other people to change around you.

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That's why you ask the questions, question the answers. I

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call it defragging, and it really is a tool that

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really really work. As I make my way up heart

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Break Hill here for the love of God, who designed

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this gigantic mountain outside this forest. But to get into

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the area of the forest where I am, I have

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to study their plan. Don't complain about the height of

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the hill. Get to the other side because you can ooh,

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ask the questions, question the answer. Say I'm marl a

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spocal de Fregman