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we all have questions, We ask them every day. Our
fault in our problem is is that we don't write
them down and finish out the research project. So what
do we do? We moper around? Oh it's so boring,
look that up. Why are we bored with life? See?
That's what the daily mess is all about, is asking
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your exploration, Hey, zero, And this is vocal d fragging.
Vocal d fragging is taking the time to ask yourself
the questions and then question the answers. It seems like
such a simple thing to do, and yet it's very
difficult for a lot of people to do, and those
that do try to sit there and say, this is
so stupid. I don't want to be caught sitting here
asking myself questions. And the thing about it is, though,
it's like whoa, whoa. Wait. Here's what's stupid is that
you invest so much of your energy and trust into
other people's answers without ever asking yourself. Now, that to
me is stupid. Is that? Wait? Wait a second, None
of these people have walked in your shoes. They haven't
lived your life. They're not staying awake with you while
you fear it. And I had to find out if your
damn bills are going to get paid or you're waking
up in the morning to find out if old mother
Hubbard and her cupboard are sitting there empty and bere
and is the dog going to get food before you
get food? Okay? So I mean they're not living that
lifestyle you are, and you're not asking yourself the questions
and questioning the answers. I do it in a d
fraged journal. Sure anybody can pick this book up and
they can read it. I don't care. I don't care.
This way that's going to save me some time, because
if you're sitting there asking questions about me, go get
the damn book. Get the book, read the book, listen
to my questions, see my questions, and figure out how
you're going to better understand this relationship of building a stronger,
better tomorrow. Ask yourself the questions, question the answers. You
do the work. Don't let somebody do the work for you.
This is vocal d fragging. Here's how vocal D fragging
actually works. It was within these pages and upon this
vocal D frag that I actually asked that question of
why is it when I go to the essential job
I'm having a problem dealing with the initial people that
are there. Is it because I can't work things out
with modern day coworkers and bosses? No, that's not the problem.
What I did was I identified myself as the problem. Well
what the hell's that mean? Well, because I was living
by this rule, if you don't speak to me, I'm
not going to speak to you. I'm not going to
waste my time. Well, what an ego jerk? That is? Right?
If you don't speak to me, I don't speak to you.
I don't know. That's a little bit too serious if
you ask me. So, what I've done over the past
three to four weeks is I've put a lot of
focus on trying to correct that situation. Just go ahead
and do it. Swallow your pride, get rid of your ego,
be the first one who says, hey, how you doing today,
and mean it. Don't sit there and say it because
we all act shit like that out. What you got
to do is you've got to put yourself inside forward
emotion as well as forward growth. And forward growth means that, hey,
for a brief moment here, you might have to actually
be a leader. What the hell gives there? Who wants
to be a leader? That's added work, that's multitasking. That's
something that I don't want to deal with because all
I want to do is go and collect a paycheck,
get my insurance, go home and binge watch some TV.
Yeah I get that, I get that. But if you
look at what you're doing in your everyday life, I'm
sure that the one thing that you and I have
in common is that it looks like we're standing in
front of a forest that has not been pruned. It's
been allowed to live its own life. Well, here's the thing.
If you want to know what happens to a forest
and where it grows to and how far it will reach,
what you need to do is study the early days
of this nation, when all these explorers from around the
world chose to land on our shorelines on the east
coast and work their way toward a different nation, something
that they felt like they could be a part of.
But the first thing it had to be done is
it had to be discovered. And in that process of
discovering things, what they did was that they un covered
the truth about the nation that they were going to
be building. Well, how about if you treat yourself like
a nation and start putting focus on the personal growth
that you need to have, that you need to prune
some trees that you need to sit there and better
understand situations that when you walk into your place of business,
be the first one who says something, get the ball started.
If you hate the fact that people won't talk to
you first, then be the one who starts the conversation.
I'm not being a jerk here. What I'm saying is
is that in everything that you're complaining about, there is
a big, big chance that you are the problem. You're
the problem, but you're expecting people to bend around everything
that you're doing. And if you don't identify what the
situation is and the solution, and if you don't correct yourself,
how do you expect other people to change around you.
That's why you ask the questions, question the answers. I
call it defragging, and it really is a tool that
really really work. As I make my way up heart
Break Hill here for the love of God, who designed
this gigantic mountain outside this forest. But to get into
the area of the forest where I am, I have
to study their plan. Don't complain about the height of
the hill. Get to the other side because you can ooh,
ask the questions, question the answer. Say I'm marl a
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