WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.360 --> 00:00:05.080 You are listening to Subject to Interpretation, a podcast where 2 00:00:05.160 --> 00:00:07.919 I pull some cards to open up the conversation. But 3 00:00:08.720 --> 00:00:11.759 my job is to challenge you to lean into your 4 00:00:11.800 --> 00:00:17.839 intuition and listen closely for your own personal confirmations. I 5 00:00:17.879 --> 00:00:22.199 am your host, Cynthia be mentor and coach to women 6 00:00:22.239 --> 00:00:25.960 who have the audacity to recognize just how much of 7 00:00:26.000 --> 00:00:31.879 their journey through womanhood is truly rooted in spirituality. Please 8 00:00:31.920 --> 00:00:34.719 put your triggers to the side so you've got room 9 00:00:34.799 --> 00:00:37.439 to open up your mind and let's get into your 10 00:00:37.439 --> 00:00:48.240 message of the day, shall we. So the card of 11 00:00:48.240 --> 00:00:54.640 the day is passion, right. I want you to, you know, 12 00:00:54.679 --> 00:00:58.880 the drill, pause the episode, open up your journal or 13 00:00:58.880 --> 00:01:01.000 your notesapp on your phone, and I want you to 14 00:01:01.039 --> 00:01:03.880 brain dump, if you will, all the things that come 15 00:01:03.920 --> 00:01:08.040 to your mind when you hear the word passion. Okay, 16 00:01:08.120 --> 00:01:11.159 So do that and then come on back. And we've 17 00:01:11.159 --> 00:01:15.120 been unpacked bars. Okay, I trust you did what the 18 00:01:15.120 --> 00:01:18.840 fuck I told you to do, and so let's get 19 00:01:18.879 --> 00:01:20.560 into it. Now. You're gonna follow me down a yellow 20 00:01:20.560 --> 00:01:22.959 brick road. What else is new? What else is new? 21 00:01:24.519 --> 00:01:26.680 So when I pulled the card this morning before my walk, 22 00:01:28.400 --> 00:01:31.519 I was like, Okay, passion cool. So I lace up, 23 00:01:32.359 --> 00:01:36.120 I get out there, hit the pavement, and as I'm walking, 24 00:01:36.239 --> 00:01:39.719 I'm thinking about passion and it's leading me to all 25 00:01:39.719 --> 00:01:42.120 these different places. A lot of stuff is coming up. 26 00:01:42.879 --> 00:01:44.799 And one thing in particular that came up for me 27 00:01:45.120 --> 00:01:47.799 a conversation that I was having with Dwayne this past 28 00:01:47.840 --> 00:01:54.040 weekend about building websites. So so basically one of my clients, 29 00:01:54.840 --> 00:01:56.680 well two of my clients, but one of my clients 30 00:01:57.200 --> 00:01:59.400 just the other day, she said, be how much you 31 00:01:59.519 --> 00:02:01.280 charge row up site because I think I'm being a 32 00:02:01.359 --> 00:02:04.280 need one. And I got really excited because I really love, 33 00:02:04.599 --> 00:02:08.479 I really love the process of building out these websites, 34 00:02:08.639 --> 00:02:10.800 and especially for my clients because I get to have 35 00:02:10.879 --> 00:02:15.199 complete creative control and that's heavan. So I told her 36 00:02:15.199 --> 00:02:16.800 the price, whatever the case may be. And I had 37 00:02:16.840 --> 00:02:19.759 just finished building a website for another client of mine 38 00:02:19.800 --> 00:02:23.199 who's a lawyer. And she's a lawyer who but she's 39 00:02:23.240 --> 00:02:25.800 it for creative entrepreneurs, right, look her up. If you 40 00:02:25.840 --> 00:02:28.120 need a lawyer, if you're in the US and you 41 00:02:28.120 --> 00:02:31.159 need an attorney to help you sort through you know 42 00:02:31.360 --> 00:02:35.120 your especially if you're a creative, go get yourself protected, right, 43 00:02:35.120 --> 00:02:38.639 her name is Demi and you can find her at uh, 44 00:02:39.199 --> 00:02:41.520 hold on, let me, let me get the website. Okay, 45 00:02:41.560 --> 00:02:42.919 I got it. You can find her at the DAMIL 46 00:02:43.000 --> 00:02:46.560 Firm dot com. So that is the d E M 47 00:02:46.680 --> 00:02:50.719 I L L E F I R M the DMIL 48 00:02:50.800 --> 00:02:54.080 Firm dot com. And she specializes she's legal counsel and 49 00:02:54.120 --> 00:02:57.520 business strategy for creatives and entrepreneurs. So I did her 50 00:02:57.560 --> 00:03:01.919 website and I did the I'm doing the other one 51 00:03:01.960 --> 00:03:04.159 from my other client. And so I was having a 52 00:03:04.159 --> 00:03:06.719 conversation with doing about this, and I said, man, I really, 53 00:03:06.919 --> 00:03:09.960 I really love doing this. And then he has been 54 00:03:09.960 --> 00:03:11.879 telling me for a while, He's like, you know, you 55 00:03:11.919 --> 00:03:15.879 should let other people know that you do these things, right, 56 00:03:16.039 --> 00:03:20.719 because while you know you specialize in coaching, personal advisory, 57 00:03:21.039 --> 00:03:23.879 all that stuff, you know, writing, I'm pretty sure a 58 00:03:23.919 --> 00:03:27.319 lot of your audience don't don't know that you also 59 00:03:27.639 --> 00:03:32.560 do websites. And you know, the only people who know 60 00:03:32.599 --> 00:03:35.039 are your clients that are already with you, right, and 61 00:03:35.080 --> 00:03:37.400 then you you said shit up for them. And I 62 00:03:37.400 --> 00:03:38.879 was singing to myself and I was saying to him, 63 00:03:38.919 --> 00:03:41.039 I said, you know what, You're absolutely right, right, And 64 00:03:41.080 --> 00:03:43.879 I said, I'm gonna start sponsoring my own shit. Because 65 00:03:44.360 --> 00:03:47.560 the running joke for the last ever since I've been podcasting, 66 00:03:47.840 --> 00:03:50.360 even on my old podcast for so for the last 67 00:03:50.400 --> 00:03:53.000 i'm gonna know six or seven years, is that I 68 00:03:53.000 --> 00:03:58.199 don't get sponsors because I cuss too much. People don't 69 00:03:58.199 --> 00:04:00.240 have sponsor me, right, And I say, that's okay, because 70 00:04:00.240 --> 00:04:03.080 I'll sponsored my motherfuckingself. That's fine, right, I got books, 71 00:04:03.080 --> 00:04:04.960 I got my own things going on. I don't need 72 00:04:04.960 --> 00:04:08.120 your shit, you know. So that I was saying to him, 73 00:04:08.159 --> 00:04:10.479 I said, you know, I'm gonna find a way to 74 00:04:10.639 --> 00:04:13.479 sponsor myself, make my own commercial on my own podcasts, 75 00:04:13.479 --> 00:04:15.639 and sponsor myself and talk about the fact that I 76 00:04:15.680 --> 00:04:21.639 do websites, right, simple websites now, nothing crazy, but it 77 00:04:21.639 --> 00:04:24.680 gets the job done. Simple what and they're very pretty. Anyways, 78 00:04:24.720 --> 00:04:28.040 I digress, And so I had said, you know, I'm 79 00:04:28.160 --> 00:04:30.399 very passionate about this, right, It's one of the things 80 00:04:30.439 --> 00:04:33.959 that I'm very passionate about. And then so today when 81 00:04:34.000 --> 00:04:36.360 I was on my walk, I was thinking about that conversation, 82 00:04:36.560 --> 00:04:38.560 and I said to myself, I was thinking about the 83 00:04:38.560 --> 00:04:44.399 fact that never as a little girl, or as a teenager, 84 00:04:44.560 --> 00:04:46.480 or even as an adult, right, a young adult that 85 00:04:46.519 --> 00:04:49.399 I think on when I make websites. That was never 86 00:04:49.680 --> 00:04:54.120 a thought, never ever a thought, so let alone a 87 00:04:54.240 --> 00:04:58.000 passion and I say that. So I let me actually 88 00:04:58.040 --> 00:05:01.480 say this first. I thought about conversations that I've had 89 00:05:01.519 --> 00:05:04.040 with many women over the years when I speak about 90 00:05:04.040 --> 00:05:07.079 the importance of getting a fucking life and creating copies 91 00:05:07.079 --> 00:05:09.519 for yourself and finding something that you're passionate about. How 92 00:05:09.519 --> 00:05:12.279 many women have responded that they're not passionate about anything, right, 93 00:05:12.279 --> 00:05:15.480 and they get frustrated because they don't the things that 94 00:05:15.480 --> 00:05:20.279 they're passionate about, you know, are either you know, not 95 00:05:20.600 --> 00:05:23.879 enough air quotes here, right, or that they quite genuinely 96 00:05:24.000 --> 00:05:28.040 don't feel a passion for many things right, or anything 97 00:05:28.079 --> 00:05:32.920 at all. And so I was thinking to myself, back 98 00:05:32.959 --> 00:05:39.480 to the website stuff. So I learned to create websites 99 00:05:39.680 --> 00:05:41.920 that was birthed out of a problem that I needed 100 00:05:41.959 --> 00:05:45.360 to solve. Okay, And so one thing about me that 101 00:05:45.360 --> 00:05:47.040 I'm pretty sure you guys know already because I said 102 00:05:47.040 --> 00:05:48.600 all them in the fucking time. But I'm a problem 103 00:05:48.680 --> 00:05:50.720 solver and I'm the type of person who will figure 104 00:05:50.759 --> 00:05:53.160 out a way come hella high water. And the reason 105 00:05:53.199 --> 00:05:56.240 why I learned how to build websites is because early 106 00:05:56.360 --> 00:05:59.959 early on, I didn't have the money. Right, early early on, 107 00:06:00.040 --> 00:06:04.279 I needed a website. I'm talking in fourteen years old now, 108 00:06:04.319 --> 00:06:07.560 twelve years ago, a new website, and so I was 109 00:06:07.600 --> 00:06:10.160 getting quoted, you know, especially back then, and it's still 110 00:06:10.199 --> 00:06:13.120 the same now, right, But five six seven thousand dollars 111 00:06:13.199 --> 00:06:18.680 to build a website, musa, I'm not too I don't 112 00:06:18.720 --> 00:06:22.120 have I have I don't have that money, right, I 113 00:06:22.160 --> 00:06:26.360 don't have that money. Soh BRB in two years, I 114 00:06:26.399 --> 00:06:28.959 don't know, right, But I knew I needed the website. 115 00:06:29.000 --> 00:06:33.439 So I sat down and I learned how to build it. 116 00:06:33.560 --> 00:06:35.879 You know, I started with wigs, which is still my 117 00:06:35.920 --> 00:06:38.560 main hub. I use wis all the time because that's 118 00:06:38.560 --> 00:06:41.120 what I know now and that's where I'm comfortable. But 119 00:06:41.519 --> 00:06:44.040 and you know, at the when I first did my 120 00:06:44.079 --> 00:06:47.839 first one, it was yall, you know, it was I wish, 121 00:06:47.839 --> 00:06:49.839 I wish I still had a picture of what the 122 00:06:49.879 --> 00:06:51.879 first first website ever looked like. But it got the 123 00:06:51.959 --> 00:06:56.600 job done right. But then I had a new problem. 124 00:06:57.160 --> 00:06:59.480 I wanted to make it look better because it was 125 00:06:59.480 --> 00:07:05.519 a little jane. So I if you have been around 126 00:07:05.560 --> 00:07:09.279 for long enough, you know that my my old website. 127 00:07:09.319 --> 00:07:11.319 It was originally it's been through so many names, child, 128 00:07:11.319 --> 00:07:13.879 whatever the case may be. But in the beginning, you know, 129 00:07:14.639 --> 00:07:17.639 I had altered it many times, many many, many many times. 130 00:07:17.680 --> 00:07:19.639 Right there was I'd altered it, I revised it, I 131 00:07:19.720 --> 00:07:21.800 updated it, altered it, revised it, update it, right. But 132 00:07:21.879 --> 00:07:23.800 in the background, I really wanted to learn how to 133 00:07:23.839 --> 00:07:26.120 make this shit look nice, how to make this shit 134 00:07:26.240 --> 00:07:29.560 look pretty, how to make you know. And then as 135 00:07:29.600 --> 00:07:34.399 I grew as a woman, so did the design aspect 136 00:07:34.439 --> 00:07:36.399 of it. Right. It used to be very cute, see 137 00:07:36.399 --> 00:07:39.759 and very the cartoony and you know, whatever the case 138 00:07:39.800 --> 00:07:42.480 may be, until I refined it to the point where 139 00:07:42.480 --> 00:07:44.639 we are now. So if you go look at my 140 00:07:44.680 --> 00:07:51.240 website now Cynthia bw dot com, it's completely different than 141 00:07:51.279 --> 00:07:53.480 where I of course, are completely different, right, But I 142 00:07:53.519 --> 00:07:56.160 have I say, I'm giving you this backstory to say 143 00:07:57.040 --> 00:07:59.600 I grew into this passion. It was not something I 144 00:07:59.639 --> 00:08:02.120 started passionate. I don't give a fuck, give a fuck, 145 00:08:03.480 --> 00:08:05.519 give a fuck. I just want to write books. But 146 00:08:05.639 --> 00:08:07.439 because I wanted to write book I want to write books, 147 00:08:07.439 --> 00:08:10.879 and I wanted to publish books. But that led to 148 00:08:10.920 --> 00:08:14.160 me realizing, okay, I want to write books and publish them. Cool. 149 00:08:15.240 --> 00:08:17.560 But the problem is, I need to figure out now 150 00:08:17.560 --> 00:08:19.199 if I'm gonna do all this by myself, I need 151 00:08:19.240 --> 00:08:21.439 to learn how to build or I learned, need to 152 00:08:21.519 --> 00:08:23.800 learn how to make cover designs. Sure I could hire 153 00:08:23.800 --> 00:08:26.399 somebody to do it, yes, but remember at the time, 154 00:08:26.920 --> 00:08:30.160 my money for that, my money for that, money to that. 155 00:08:30.680 --> 00:08:33.600 So rather than sit upon my ass and cry and 156 00:08:33.600 --> 00:08:35.159 complain about I don't have money for this, I ho't 157 00:08:35.200 --> 00:08:36.759 money for that, I can't do this, and just let 158 00:08:36.759 --> 00:08:39.240 my dreams pass me by, I figured it out. I 159 00:08:39.759 --> 00:08:43.440 sat down, and I learned write how to do these things. 160 00:08:43.480 --> 00:08:45.320 And the same thing with my book cover is granted, 161 00:08:45.399 --> 00:08:47.360 you know, the first book I ever launched, which was 162 00:08:47.440 --> 00:08:49.559 Letters to my ex under my old pen name CCB. 163 00:08:50.639 --> 00:09:01.840 The first cover of that whatever, right, but it got 164 00:09:01.840 --> 00:09:06.559 the job done, and I was I knew eventually I 165 00:09:06.559 --> 00:09:08.399 wanted to. And that's just the beauty for me of 166 00:09:08.440 --> 00:09:11.080 self publishing anything, because I can revise it as many 167 00:09:11.080 --> 00:09:13.440 times as I need to. Nothing is set in stone, 168 00:09:14.080 --> 00:09:16.720 but I knew eventually. You know, we'll figure out, we'll 169 00:09:16.759 --> 00:09:18.960 iron up the details later, but right now, let's just 170 00:09:18.960 --> 00:09:21.480 get this oat into the world, right, And so I 171 00:09:21.600 --> 00:09:24.080 solved my problem, and then I continue to solve the problem. 172 00:09:24.159 --> 00:09:26.720 The book went through, you know, a few different book covers, 173 00:09:26.720 --> 00:09:28.879 the same thing with my second and my third books, right, 174 00:09:29.320 --> 00:09:31.519 because I got better and better at learning how to 175 00:09:31.600 --> 00:09:35.399 make covers, how to make book covers, and so these 176 00:09:35.480 --> 00:09:40.000 became skills that I learned and I kept I continued 177 00:09:40.039 --> 00:09:42.480 to learn because I had a problem I need to solve, 178 00:09:42.720 --> 00:09:45.000 and these skills ended up becoming something that I was 179 00:09:45.039 --> 00:09:47.000 really passionate about because I really like to do it. 180 00:09:47.080 --> 00:09:51.799 So now with fast forward, you know, fourteen years later 181 00:09:51.879 --> 00:09:54.000 or whatever it kis, maybe twelve year fourteen mineral, it's 182 00:09:54.000 --> 00:09:56.759 been a while, okay, but fast forward a decade and 183 00:09:56.840 --> 00:10:00.759 some change, I am able to do do all these 184 00:10:00.759 --> 00:10:05.559 things that were birthed. I had all these skills that 185 00:10:05.639 --> 00:10:07.679 were birth out of a problem that I needed to solve, 186 00:10:07.759 --> 00:10:10.080 multiple problems that I need to solve that I didn't 187 00:10:10.080 --> 00:10:11.720 have the money to pay somebody to do it, so 188 00:10:11.759 --> 00:10:13.279 I learned how to do it myself. And now they 189 00:10:13.360 --> 00:10:17.639 become passions of mine that I'm really excited about. And 190 00:10:17.639 --> 00:10:19.679 then I get really excited about. It's music to my ears. 191 00:10:19.679 --> 00:10:21.320 When when one of my clients just says to me, 192 00:10:21.440 --> 00:10:26.240 be can you make me a website? I'm like, fuck, yes, 193 00:10:26.320 --> 00:10:30.519 I can. Let's go right, cause I get so another. 194 00:10:31.200 --> 00:10:32.759 I'm going to call it a super hower of mine. 195 00:10:33.200 --> 00:10:35.679 But I get hyper focused, right, I get hyper focused, 196 00:10:35.679 --> 00:10:37.240 and once I'm in, I'm in it. I was telling 197 00:10:37.320 --> 00:10:40.480 my clients and when she asked me to make her website, 198 00:10:40.919 --> 00:10:42.679 she it was just a thought at first, and then 199 00:10:42.679 --> 00:10:44.279 when we talked in our session, I told her. As 200 00:10:44.279 --> 00:10:46.039 soon she came in the session, I said, Dna, I 201 00:10:46.080 --> 00:10:48.320 just want to let you know that you're gonna have 202 00:10:48.360 --> 00:10:50.399 to now follow through with this, whether you want to 203 00:10:50.639 --> 00:10:53.399 or not, because I already started a mood board for you. 204 00:10:53.440 --> 00:10:56.519 I already started image, I already started in my brain, 205 00:10:56.559 --> 00:10:58.759 and I need to follow this through. Please, I need this. 206 00:10:58.840 --> 00:11:02.240 I need this. I need to follow this through because 207 00:11:02.320 --> 00:11:03.960 I won't know what else to do with it. Right. 208 00:11:03.960 --> 00:11:06.600 So she started laughing and she's like, no, be yes, 209 00:11:06.639 --> 00:11:09.320 we're one hundred percent or one hundred percent doing it right. 210 00:11:09.399 --> 00:11:15.360 And so what I love is the creative control I 211 00:11:15.399 --> 00:11:18.600 get to have right where I take into consideration my clients, 212 00:11:18.639 --> 00:11:21.600 who they are, what they want to represent, the they're 213 00:11:21.639 --> 00:11:24.639 little things. You know. So for example, for if you 214 00:11:24.720 --> 00:11:30.159 go on the dmil Firm dot com, which is Demi's website. 215 00:11:30.720 --> 00:11:32.919 She when we spoke about it, she said, I want 216 00:11:32.919 --> 00:11:35.360 to find a way to incorporate the fact that I'm 217 00:11:35.360 --> 00:11:38.480 a Libra in there, right, she said, Okay, bet, And 218 00:11:38.600 --> 00:11:41.320 as I was, you know, singing up her website, I 219 00:11:41.360 --> 00:11:45.240 said to myself, oh, I can't. I can't just put scales. 220 00:11:45.360 --> 00:11:48.960 And I could because a lot of attorneys actually have 221 00:11:49.039 --> 00:11:52.080 scales on their website, right, but it looks all borrowing 222 00:11:52.159 --> 00:11:58.279 and ugly in my personal opinion. And Demi is her 223 00:11:58.360 --> 00:12:02.200 audience who she serves are creatives and entrepreneurs. So I 224 00:12:02.279 --> 00:12:05.639 wanted when creatives and entrepreneurs got there. And that's another 225 00:12:05.679 --> 00:12:07.799 thing that's important too, right, I wanted when they landed 226 00:12:07.840 --> 00:12:10.360 on her website that they felt as though this was 227 00:12:10.399 --> 00:12:13.480 for them. It wasn't stiffy, it wasn't barring, right that 228 00:12:13.519 --> 00:12:16.559 they could Okay, this is the lawyer who who is 229 00:12:16.679 --> 00:12:20.559 creative herself, right, because she is. She plays the piano anyways, right, 230 00:12:21.120 --> 00:12:23.440 that's important. She plays the piano, she plays instruments like 231 00:12:23.480 --> 00:12:26.720 she's you know, she's the bomb. Dot com showed my 232 00:12:26.759 --> 00:12:28.519 age here, show my age the bomb dot com all 233 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:31.679 that had in a bag of chips. Okay, cool. Anyways, 234 00:12:32.240 --> 00:12:35.159 So when I was thinking about how to incorporate the 235 00:12:35.840 --> 00:12:39.480 what a day, what a day the scales, I said, 236 00:12:39.559 --> 00:12:41.360 I can't just do like a local dog, a dog 237 00:12:41.399 --> 00:12:42.799 a scale, whatever the case may be. So if you 238 00:12:42.879 --> 00:12:44.600 go on her website and you look at the picture, 239 00:12:44.679 --> 00:12:47.039 the photo that's on the wall in the background, you 240 00:12:47.080 --> 00:12:50.320 will see that the photo is scales. It's scales, right, 241 00:12:50.360 --> 00:12:52.720 It's the little things. It's just the little things. And 242 00:12:52.759 --> 00:12:55.360 I had so much fun doing it, and I was 243 00:12:55.399 --> 00:12:59.039 really passionate about figuring out how to get how to 244 00:12:59.080 --> 00:13:04.320 incorporate that in a way that is not cheesy and corny. 245 00:13:04.480 --> 00:13:06.879 Geana is sound I'm saying. So I say all that 246 00:13:07.200 --> 00:13:09.440 I bring you down this Excuse me? Did I hit 247 00:13:09.440 --> 00:13:12.320 the microphone? What I'm mercying? I bring you down this 248 00:13:12.399 --> 00:13:15.879 journey with me. To say, a lot of times when 249 00:13:15.879 --> 00:13:20.639 we think about passions, we're thinking about them very one dimensional. 250 00:13:21.080 --> 00:13:25.480 We're thinking about it's something that has to to light 251 00:13:25.519 --> 00:13:28.919 you up right away, right And the purpose of my 252 00:13:28.960 --> 00:13:32.120 story was to show you that a lot of times, 253 00:13:32.159 --> 00:13:36.080 often even it could be something that grows into a passion. 254 00:13:36.279 --> 00:13:38.559 It could be a skill that you learn that grows 255 00:13:38.600 --> 00:13:41.120 into a passion. It could be a hobby you pick 256 00:13:41.200 --> 00:13:43.879 up that grows into a passion. Right. It could be 257 00:13:43.919 --> 00:13:50.080 something that grows over time, just like love. Just like love, right, 258 00:13:50.320 --> 00:13:54.080 just like anything else, grows over time. And now twoto's 259 00:13:55.399 --> 00:13:57.720 a year later, two years later, six months later, you're 260 00:13:57.840 --> 00:14:00.360 very passionate about it. Right, is the same thing. I 261 00:14:00.399 --> 00:14:05.600 could say, You know, I keep walking, right walking, fitness, 262 00:14:05.720 --> 00:14:07.080 whatever the case they be. Do you think I was 263 00:14:07.080 --> 00:14:08.879 passionate about that shit? Let me do something I remember 264 00:14:08.960 --> 00:14:11.000 and if you're an og you will remember me saying this. 265 00:14:11.480 --> 00:14:13.519 When I used to do Instagram lives and people would 266 00:14:13.519 --> 00:14:17.080 say this is this is a long time ago. But 267 00:14:17.080 --> 00:14:19.519 people would say to me, they would ask, you know, 268 00:14:19.600 --> 00:14:22.960 be you know, what's your workout regimen or whatever the 269 00:14:22.960 --> 00:14:24.799 case thing be. And I would say I would My 270 00:14:25.000 --> 00:14:28.279 response was workout. Maybe the only squad that I do 271 00:14:28.360 --> 00:14:31.879 is over public tola bowls. Okay, anybody trying to Nobody 272 00:14:31.919 --> 00:14:34.399 got time for that, right, This was my answer. People 273 00:14:34.399 --> 00:14:37.000 will talk about a hike and I would, oh, you 274 00:14:37.000 --> 00:14:39.759 want to go to hike? As are there hot wings 275 00:14:39.759 --> 00:14:41.159 at the end of the site. Why Why am I 276 00:14:41.200 --> 00:14:44.879 going on hike for? No? Thank you? No, why I'm good? 277 00:14:45.279 --> 00:14:49.840 Right fast forward seven years later, I'm very passionate about walking. 278 00:14:50.039 --> 00:14:52.039 Duanna and I went to a wedding this past weekend, 279 00:14:52.080 --> 00:14:54.120 beautiful one, and we had so much fun. We did karaoke. 280 00:14:54.240 --> 00:14:57.440 Oh my god, it was so much fun. We've never 281 00:14:57.440 --> 00:15:00.360 done it before, he and I together. It was so 282 00:15:00.519 --> 00:15:03.159 much fune. Anyways, we got up there anyways, it doesn't matter, 283 00:15:03.720 --> 00:15:07.480 and we were in the mountains. We're in the countryside, 284 00:15:07.559 --> 00:15:10.720 will Yeah, there was mountains. We're in the countryside. So 285 00:15:10.759 --> 00:15:13.399 it was about an hour and some change away, two 286 00:15:13.399 --> 00:15:16.799 hours away. And in the morning when we woke up, 287 00:15:17.720 --> 00:15:19.720 I was ready. I brought my I made sure. Now 288 00:15:19.759 --> 00:15:22.240 we were on technically our local vacation, right, a local 289 00:15:22.279 --> 00:15:26.600 mini weekend trip away. Yes, for a wedding, but still nonetheless, 290 00:15:26.799 --> 00:15:29.600 and I made sure before leaving. I packed my sneakers, 291 00:15:29.679 --> 00:15:31.919 I packed my vest, my weighted vest, I packed my 292 00:15:31.960 --> 00:15:34.440 workout gear, whatever the case may be. Because I knew 293 00:15:34.919 --> 00:15:38.600 that I wanted to on Saturday morning before the wedding, 294 00:15:38.600 --> 00:15:40.679 I wanted to wake up early, and I wanted to 295 00:15:40.720 --> 00:15:42.720 go walk. I wanted to go for a good walk 296 00:15:42.759 --> 00:15:45.200 through the mountains, through the you know, all the things whatever, 297 00:15:45.240 --> 00:15:47.039 and so we did. We woke up. It was like no, no, no, 298 00:15:47.200 --> 00:15:49.679 seven o'clock whatever, and we laced up and went for 299 00:15:49.679 --> 00:15:51.639 a beautiful walk. And I was very passionate about this, 300 00:15:52.200 --> 00:15:58.559 very passionate about about taking the walk. Right, But this 301 00:15:58.600 --> 00:16:00.919 is something that I've grown into. These are things that 302 00:16:00.960 --> 00:16:04.799 I've grown into, right, And a lot of times, you know, 303 00:16:05.360 --> 00:16:10.679 there's I realize this skewed perception or this very one 304 00:16:10.720 --> 00:16:15.360 dimensional thinking about what passion is, what a passion needs 305 00:16:15.399 --> 00:16:18.440 to be. And I think it's very important. I don't think, 306 00:16:18.480 --> 00:16:21.759 I know it's very important for so many women to 307 00:16:21.799 --> 00:16:25.600 be encouraged to broaden their perspectives of passions. Because if 308 00:16:25.639 --> 00:16:27.639 you sit down there and you way, it's like motivation, 309 00:16:28.720 --> 00:16:31.519 if you sit down there and you wait for a 310 00:16:31.559 --> 00:16:34.919 time to feel motivated to do something. Motivation is very fleety, right, 311 00:16:35.000 --> 00:16:38.799 It's a very it's a very flighty fleeting bitch. Right. 312 00:16:38.960 --> 00:16:44.120 Sometimes she is. Sometimes she's not there, Okay, here today, 313 00:16:44.279 --> 00:16:47.000 gone for six months, come back, right, She's very she's 314 00:16:47.120 --> 00:16:52.559 very me. Motivation is very me when it comes to 315 00:16:52.679 --> 00:16:56.679 podcast episodes, when it comes to to to friends. So 316 00:16:56.679 --> 00:16:58.879 when it comes to I'm you know, I will check in, 317 00:16:59.320 --> 00:17:01.159 but I also my disappear for three months, you know, 318 00:17:01.200 --> 00:17:04.759 but I'll be back. I'm gonna disappear again. Right, just 319 00:17:04.839 --> 00:17:06.359 keep it in a book. Let's just keep it in 320 00:17:06.400 --> 00:17:10.480 a book. Right. So it's the same thing with this 321 00:17:10.720 --> 00:17:15.440 idea of you know, I have to wait until I 322 00:17:15.559 --> 00:17:20.200 feel really passionate about something to do something. Now, you 323 00:17:20.279 --> 00:17:27.559 don't sometimes that shit. More often, your passion will grow 324 00:17:27.640 --> 00:17:30.279 on you. But you have to start something, right. You 325 00:17:30.279 --> 00:17:32.519 have to start something. You got to stick to it right. 326 00:17:32.599 --> 00:17:34.559 You got to do it more and more often, more 327 00:17:34.559 --> 00:17:36.960 and more often until tutoth Like I said, it becomes 328 00:17:36.960 --> 00:17:39.640 something that you're fucking hella passionate about. And like I said, 329 00:17:39.680 --> 00:17:43.319 you know, for me, my passions, I realize are very 330 00:17:43.359 --> 00:17:46.400 much connected to my need to problem solve. It's in need. 331 00:17:46.440 --> 00:17:48.000 My brother and I were speaking about this the other 332 00:17:48.079 --> 00:17:51.960 night when we were talking about a certain family member, 333 00:17:52.279 --> 00:17:54.400 and we'll just say a certain family member, and he 334 00:17:54.440 --> 00:17:58.000 and I were speaking about how we're just speaking about 335 00:17:58.039 --> 00:18:02.640 this this person in general. We're talking and talk of 336 00:18:02.720 --> 00:18:05.480 some shit, some real shit, but shit none bless. And 337 00:18:06.799 --> 00:18:09.559 as we're talking and talking talking, it finally dawned on me. 338 00:18:09.599 --> 00:18:13.119 I said, oh, my goodness, I'm starting to realize why. 339 00:18:13.319 --> 00:18:15.279 One of the reasons, one of the main, over the 340 00:18:15.319 --> 00:18:18.279 core reason why this person drives me so crazy is 341 00:18:18.319 --> 00:18:22.079 because I'm never able to solve their problem right, because 342 00:18:22.440 --> 00:18:25.279 they're always complaining about something and I give them solutions 343 00:18:26.640 --> 00:18:31.160 which would solve their problem, and they don't, and this 344 00:18:31.279 --> 00:18:33.880 drives me nuts. And then so we had this big 345 00:18:33.880 --> 00:18:35.920 aha moment and he's like, Yo, that makes perfect sense. 346 00:18:35.960 --> 00:18:39.880 I'm like, oh my fucking god, I'm literally I want 347 00:18:39.880 --> 00:18:45.359 to stop saying literally anyways, I'm we're gonna work on that. 348 00:18:45.400 --> 00:18:51.079 We are working on that. But I am I have 349 00:18:51.119 --> 00:18:53.160 to if there's a problem, I have to see it through. 350 00:18:53.279 --> 00:18:56.039 I have to solve it. I have to solve it right. 351 00:18:56.559 --> 00:19:02.319 And so so for example me, you know, putting out workbooks, journals, 352 00:19:02.359 --> 00:19:05.359 so on and so forth, it's because I saw a problem, 353 00:19:05.960 --> 00:19:08.759 you know, within so many women, right, a problem that 354 00:19:08.799 --> 00:19:11.160 so many women had, and this was my way of 355 00:19:11.200 --> 00:19:14.960 solving it right or helping you solve certain of it right. 356 00:19:15.200 --> 00:19:17.799 Won't put it on into the world, whatevery case may be. Books, 357 00:19:18.000 --> 00:19:20.279 there's a problem, I'm gonna put out a book. This 358 00:19:20.400 --> 00:19:23.079 is gonna help you solve it. Right, Clients, you have 359 00:19:23.119 --> 00:19:27.559 a problem, I'm gonna solve it. This is right. But 360 00:19:27.640 --> 00:19:30.680 this is also what makes me so good at what 361 00:19:30.720 --> 00:19:34.960 I do, right, because I'm very invested in solving the problem, 362 00:19:35.319 --> 00:19:38.960 and so it's a very real thing. And because of that, 363 00:19:39.519 --> 00:19:43.640 I'm very passionate about solving the problem. So it's linked, right. 364 00:19:43.839 --> 00:19:46.680 My investment is so strong that it becomes something I'm 365 00:19:46.759 --> 00:19:49.119 very passionate about, which is why often when I get 366 00:19:49.160 --> 00:19:51.039 on my podcast to speak, sometimes it's not like I'm 367 00:19:51.119 --> 00:19:55.599 yelling at y'all, and sometimes i am, but I'm very 368 00:19:55.599 --> 00:19:58.039 passionate about what the fuck I have to say, because 369 00:19:58.079 --> 00:20:04.039 everything I have to say is is a is the answer, right, 370 00:20:04.119 --> 00:20:08.000 the solution to the problems that so many women say 371 00:20:08.000 --> 00:20:12.200 that they have. You see what I'm saying, So I 372 00:20:12.319 --> 00:20:17.319 dare you, I double doggie, triple doggie. Dare you to 373 00:20:17.960 --> 00:20:21.200 think outside of your box if you will write and 374 00:20:21.839 --> 00:20:24.960 perhaps stop thinking of passion as something that has to 375 00:20:25.000 --> 00:20:28.359 ignite you right now, right even when you're thinking about 376 00:20:28.519 --> 00:20:30.160 you know, I know some of y'all wrote down, you know, 377 00:20:30.279 --> 00:20:33.240 passionate relationships. You know what I'm saying. But I also 378 00:20:33.319 --> 00:20:35.039 think you know what, let's go there for a second. 379 00:20:37.480 --> 00:20:40.839 I also think that this idea of a passionate relationship 380 00:20:40.920 --> 00:20:46.599 is also very one dimensional. And when you think of passion, 381 00:20:46.759 --> 00:20:51.720 you think of the movies, or you think of that 382 00:20:51.799 --> 00:20:55.759 beginning chemistry, or you think that it's an everyday thing, right, 383 00:20:55.880 --> 00:20:58.839 and so you know, just there's so much passion in 384 00:20:58.839 --> 00:21:02.599 our relationship and sparks and flames, and you know which 385 00:21:02.640 --> 00:21:04.519 is so hungry for each other all the time. Let 386 00:21:04.559 --> 00:21:07.720 me tell you some right now, let me tell you 387 00:21:07.799 --> 00:21:12.839 something right now. What did I say earlier? Just like motivation, 388 00:21:13.240 --> 00:21:15.920 passion and relationships, that shit comes and goes. Okay, this 389 00:21:15.960 --> 00:21:18.519 shit comes and ghosts, It comes and goes, and or 390 00:21:19.200 --> 00:21:22.519 it can look it could take on different forms, right, 391 00:21:22.599 --> 00:21:25.400 So maybe it's not we're passionately making love all the 392 00:21:25.400 --> 00:21:28.119 time every night, or we're passionately all over each other 393 00:21:28.440 --> 00:21:30.559 right all the time, or I just feel passionate. You 394 00:21:30.599 --> 00:21:33.559 don't always feel Sometimes sometimes you're gonna look at your 395 00:21:33.559 --> 00:21:36.240 man and you're gonna be like, I love you, but 396 00:21:36.279 --> 00:21:38.279 I don't really necessarily know if I like you. Right 397 00:21:38.319 --> 00:21:39.839 now you get on my nerves just a little bit, 398 00:21:40.200 --> 00:21:44.559 this fuck bit, but I love you boo, right I 399 00:21:44.559 --> 00:21:46.960 think a lot of women have this idea in their 400 00:21:47.000 --> 00:21:52.920 mind that things such as passion, h you know, love 401 00:21:53.039 --> 00:21:56.240