WEBVTT 1 00:00:05.480 --> 00:00:07.480 What's up, beautiful people, it's your girl story peat and 2 00:00:07.519 --> 00:00:10.800 this is another episode of Chocolate, Chip and Sip, And 3 00:00:10.880 --> 00:00:13.480 today we're going to tackle a topic that lives rent 4 00:00:13.519 --> 00:00:16.640 free in my mentions, pretty girl privileged. 5 00:00:16.199 --> 00:00:17.640 And so yeah, pretty girl vibe. 6 00:00:18.079 --> 00:00:23.839 Everybody thinks that pretty girl privilege is just free drinks, fire, selfies. 7 00:00:23.640 --> 00:00:25.679 Having a good or it's not this burger or not. 8 00:00:26.320 --> 00:00:28.559 There is a whole nother side of pretty girl privilege 9 00:00:28.600 --> 00:00:32.479 that we never talk about. The pressure, insecurities, the projection, 10 00:00:32.759 --> 00:00:34.679 it's a lot of other things that go into it. 11 00:00:34.719 --> 00:00:37.479 So that's what we are going to be discussing. To date. 12 00:00:37.520 --> 00:00:39.600 Pretty girl privilege is hard. Anybody who's telling you that 13 00:00:39.719 --> 00:00:42.600 it's not is a lot. People think that pretty girl 14 00:00:42.640 --> 00:00:43.280 privilege is. 15 00:00:43.200 --> 00:00:45.880 A cheat coat. It is a full time job. 16 00:00:45.960 --> 00:00:48.159 You can never be tired, you can never be broke, 17 00:00:48.240 --> 00:00:49.600 you can never be going through anything. 18 00:00:49.640 --> 00:00:51.679 Yo. The other day, I was in the mall with 19 00:00:51.759 --> 00:00:53.039 some sweatpants. 20 00:00:52.560 --> 00:00:55.799 On, and a man had the audacity to come up 21 00:00:55.799 --> 00:00:58.039 to me and say, damn, who humbled you today? 22 00:00:59.159 --> 00:01:03.000 Nigga? I can't but chill, dad, what the fuck is happening? 23 00:01:03.479 --> 00:01:06.439 What the fuck is happening? My god, I didn't know 24 00:01:07.480 --> 00:01:08.400 if I wear. 25 00:01:08.280 --> 00:01:10.959 Sweatpants, I have just been humbled. And don't get me 26 00:01:11.000 --> 00:01:14.200 started on a smile queen. You two pretty to be 27 00:01:14.239 --> 00:01:15.760 walking around looking like that. 28 00:01:15.840 --> 00:01:16.879 Nigga, that's my face. 29 00:01:17.480 --> 00:01:19.959 I don't have to smile and shucking job for you 30 00:01:20.040 --> 00:01:22.239 all the time cause I'm pretty. I can activate my 31 00:01:22.319 --> 00:01:24.439 rest and bitch face if I want to. On top 32 00:01:24.519 --> 00:01:27.560 of all this, it's also the pressure to maintain the 33 00:01:27.560 --> 00:01:29.599 body that you worked for, you. 34 00:01:29.719 --> 00:01:31.480 Paid for, you were born with. 35 00:01:31.879 --> 00:01:35.200 Like God forbid a girl be bloated because Auntie flobots 36 00:01:35.239 --> 00:01:38.439 come in town. Oh my god, she done fell off. 37 00:01:38.959 --> 00:01:42.920 Look what she got going on. Bruh, I am opulating 38 00:01:42.959 --> 00:01:43.719 and irritating. 39 00:01:43.840 --> 00:01:47.000 Get the fuck out my face. Okay, I've had it. 40 00:01:47.079 --> 00:01:50.560 Not Pretty girls deserve bad days too, not even a 41 00:01:50.599 --> 00:01:51.120 bad day. 42 00:01:51.480 --> 00:01:53.519 Pretty girls deserve chill days too. 43 00:01:53.640 --> 00:01:56.359 On top of all these other things, you also have 44 00:01:56.439 --> 00:01:59.920 to run the chance of having the misfortune of being 45 00:02:00.040 --> 00:02:04.480 around friends who are jealous or who are insecure. You 46 00:02:04.519 --> 00:02:08.639 can be beefing with people that you didn't even know 47 00:02:08.719 --> 00:02:11.120 you was beefing with. I thought we was friends. Oh 48 00:02:11.159 --> 00:02:13.800 she thinks she is shit. No, I just didn't lower 49 00:02:13.879 --> 00:02:17.000 myself to make you comfortable. Like, I'm just enjoying my time, 50 00:02:17.039 --> 00:02:19.039 my space, my x Y and Z. I don't want 51 00:02:19.039 --> 00:02:22.759 this to sound like pretty girl privilege is some oh 52 00:02:22.879 --> 00:02:25.919 what was me type shit, but like not really. 53 00:02:25.719 --> 00:02:27.879 What was me? Because I got some shit to say, Drake, 54 00:02:28.039 --> 00:02:28.680 It's not. 55 00:02:28.719 --> 00:02:32.080 All free drinks and fires out here. Top five struggles 56 00:02:32.120 --> 00:02:35.479 of having pretty girl privileged. Everyone assumes you're already taking 57 00:02:35.599 --> 00:02:37.759 I saw a poster said, oh, I know you talking 58 00:02:37.800 --> 00:02:38.599 to other dudes. 59 00:02:38.680 --> 00:02:41.840 Bro, I don't even have a dad. It's no dudes, 60 00:02:45.240 --> 00:02:46.599 I'm barely talking to you. 61 00:02:48.919 --> 00:02:52.080 Next struggle, people will flirt with you and you are 62 00:02:52.120 --> 00:02:53.840 just trying to exist in peace. 63 00:02:54.000 --> 00:02:57.719 You ever see bad Santa, I'm on my okay. 64 00:02:57.879 --> 00:03:00.800 Sometimes I just want to be to myself, have my peace, 65 00:03:01.000 --> 00:03:05.080 have my space. Next everyone assumes you're dumb or you 66 00:03:05.199 --> 00:03:08.479 got your position because you're pretty. Never mind the accolades, 67 00:03:08.840 --> 00:03:12.719 never mind the degrees, never mind all the experience experience 68 00:03:12.800 --> 00:03:15.000 you may have, Like, no, you're pretty, that's why you're here. 69 00:03:15.080 --> 00:03:18.879 Next one, there is a large majority of people who 70 00:03:18.879 --> 00:03:22.520 will flirt with you by insulting you. No, I'm saying 71 00:03:22.560 --> 00:03:25.759 like you probably stuck up anyway, Like I just I 72 00:03:25.840 --> 00:03:26.159 am a. 73 00:03:26.159 --> 00:03:26.800 Child of God. 74 00:03:27.680 --> 00:03:31.280 Number five on the top five struggles of being a 75 00:03:31.319 --> 00:03:34.919 pretty girl having pretty girl privilege. Everyone assumes that all 76 00:03:35.120 --> 00:03:38.000 pretty girls are mean and there can only be one 77 00:03:38.159 --> 00:03:41.319 real pretty girls know the more the merrier. I surround 78 00:03:41.319 --> 00:03:43.599 myself with pretty girls all the time because you get 79 00:03:43.639 --> 00:03:48.759 more free shit, I said, all I have to say. 80 00:03:49.479 --> 00:03:52.840 It's not as fun as everyone makes it seem. Another 81 00:03:52.879 --> 00:03:57.120 struggle that goes into this pretty girl privilege is one 82 00:03:57.159 --> 00:04:00.800 that some people fight with because they know if they 83 00:04:00.840 --> 00:04:04.639 admit it, it will reveal how insecure they may or 84 00:04:04.680 --> 00:04:08.520 may not be. Men love pretty girls until they get one. 85 00:04:09.319 --> 00:04:13.360 Men love pretty girls until they get one. I want 86 00:04:13.360 --> 00:04:16.040 to preface this by saying not all men. There are 87 00:04:16.079 --> 00:04:20.399 a certain community of strong, independent, secure men that have 88 00:04:20.560 --> 00:04:23.319 no problem being with a pretty woman because they know 89 00:04:23.399 --> 00:04:25.199 at the end of the day that pretty woman is 90 00:04:25.240 --> 00:04:30.639 coming home to then. And you, you, Kings, deserve free haircuts, 91 00:04:30.959 --> 00:04:32.959 a pack lunch, a set of tires. 92 00:04:33.040 --> 00:04:35.319 Okay, you deserve it, all Kings, but we're not talking 93 00:04:35.319 --> 00:04:37.399 about you right now. We talk about the mother niggas. 94 00:04:38.199 --> 00:04:42.480 There are men that enjoy being with pretty women and 95 00:04:42.759 --> 00:04:46.040 enjoy the attention from pretty women until they're no longer 96 00:04:46.079 --> 00:04:48.439 the center of that attention, They get a pretty girl, 97 00:04:48.560 --> 00:04:50.560 and then they don't want anyone else to ever see 98 00:04:50.560 --> 00:04:51.240 their pretty girls. 99 00:04:51.279 --> 00:04:52.319 Like having a Pokemon card. 100 00:04:52.439 --> 00:04:53.959 You finally got it, and now you're gonna put it 101 00:04:53.959 --> 00:04:55.519 in sleeve and you're gonna put it in a close and 102 00:04:55.519 --> 00:04:56.879 starity and nobody else in starity, but. 103 00:04:57.079 --> 00:05:01.959 Fucking a holographic. I'm pulling up every chance I get that. 104 00:05:03.879 --> 00:05:05.000 It's in my living room. 105 00:05:05.800 --> 00:05:08.680 Yes, first of all, I still got a bind her, baby. 106 00:05:09.240 --> 00:05:11.079 I can't understand what you're saying to that point. 107 00:05:11.120 --> 00:05:12.120 I guess that makes sense. 108 00:05:12.160 --> 00:05:15.639 They love the idea of a pretty girl until they 109 00:05:15.720 --> 00:05:19.279 realize hold up, other people think she's pretty too. They 110 00:05:19.319 --> 00:05:22.959 will turn their insecurities on you and make it feel 111 00:05:22.959 --> 00:05:25.000 like it's your fault that everybody's looking at you. And 112 00:05:25.040 --> 00:05:26.720 it's like, brother, if you're going through that, I want 113 00:05:26.720 --> 00:05:28.199 you to know the next time you out with your 114 00:05:28.240 --> 00:05:30.480 fond shit and you see people looking at her, take 115 00:05:30.519 --> 00:05:33.240 it as an ego boost. Grab her by the waist, palm, 116 00:05:33.319 --> 00:05:35.920 the booty. They looking at something that's already yours. Why 117 00:05:35.920 --> 00:05:37.759 are you trying to turn around and make that her fault? 118 00:05:37.759 --> 00:05:39.920 That has nothing to do with that. 119 00:05:40.040 --> 00:05:42.800 Yes, what I'm saying These will be the same men 120 00:05:43.120 --> 00:05:46.399 that will then take their fond shit around their uncles 121 00:05:46.480 --> 00:05:48.839 just so they can say, oh, that's you, nef. 122 00:05:50.160 --> 00:05:51.040 What's the difference. 123 00:05:51.240 --> 00:05:53.439 They want a pretty girl, but they don't want the 124 00:05:53.480 --> 00:05:54.959 attention that a pretty girl brings. 125 00:05:55.040 --> 00:05:57.639 You mad that other men want what you prayed for. 126 00:05:58.000 --> 00:06:00.680 You thought she was the only one with that prayer, dummy. 127 00:06:01.040 --> 00:06:04.240 Not to say that there aren't some problematic pretty women. 128 00:06:05.079 --> 00:06:08.279 I'm talking about this one specific because they're all try it. 129 00:06:10.120 --> 00:06:14.160 Another discrepancy when it comes to pretty girl privilege is 130 00:06:14.600 --> 00:06:19.439 everybody think you got hose. Everybody thinks you have hose. Oh, 131 00:06:19.480 --> 00:06:21.959 I know you got so many options. I'm not even 132 00:06:22.000 --> 00:06:24.800 gonna shoot my shot. I know you got holes. Why 133 00:06:24.839 --> 00:06:27.879 you worry about other people worry about yourself? King people 134 00:06:28.319 --> 00:06:31.839 assume because you are attractive. This is my rollo, dex baby. 135 00:06:31.920 --> 00:06:34.079 My phone ain't filled with nothing but puppy videos. 136 00:06:34.680 --> 00:06:37.040 Do you know that ain't no holes in there? My 137 00:06:37.120 --> 00:06:37.959 phone is so dry. 138 00:06:38.000 --> 00:06:39.800 If it went off right now, I know exactly who 139 00:06:39.879 --> 00:06:41.680 it was without even looking at it. 140 00:06:41.720 --> 00:06:43.959 And I honestly one of them is sitting behind the 141 00:06:44.000 --> 00:06:45.319 camera right now, so I know it's not. 142 00:06:46.160 --> 00:06:51.920 So let's get shorter yeah, one as fuck them options. 143 00:06:51.920 --> 00:06:54.240 When you step into the room, you become the only option. 144 00:06:54.600 --> 00:06:57.600 That's the energy that would want fellas, there's a confidence 145 00:06:57.639 --> 00:07:00.399 as soon as I get to what's up back there? 146 00:07:00.519 --> 00:07:07.600 Dog, where's your competitive spence? Pretty girls love peace? 147 00:07:08.240 --> 00:07:10.240 So when y'all be thinking, we out here will all 148 00:07:10.360 --> 00:07:13.439 them options. Most of the time we be in a 149 00:07:13.480 --> 00:07:17.160 crib in a robe watching serial killer documentaries because that 150 00:07:17.160 --> 00:07:20.040 brings us peace and we're gonna protect. 151 00:07:19.759 --> 00:07:20.759 That at all costs. 152 00:07:20.839 --> 00:07:23.879 Okay, So next time you see a beautiful woman outside, 153 00:07:23.920 --> 00:07:26.120 you assume she got nineteen million hoes. 154 00:07:26.160 --> 00:07:26.639 She don't. 155 00:07:26.720 --> 00:07:29.199 She might be got like nineteen million plants. Then nobody 156 00:07:29.240 --> 00:07:32.680 believes you because you're fine. I want y'all to understand 157 00:07:32.920 --> 00:07:35.759 there are more women who think like me than there 158 00:07:35.800 --> 00:07:39.120 are not. The problem is a we be in a house, 159 00:07:39.160 --> 00:07:41.920 mind in our business and be the ones who do 160 00:07:41.959 --> 00:07:44.480 have the hoes and are unattractive. They be the loudest, 161 00:07:44.839 --> 00:07:46.680 so y'all think it's more of them, but it's not. 162 00:07:46.800 --> 00:07:49.319 It's really more women like me. We just be chill 163 00:07:49.439 --> 00:07:52.000 in the house and on some like quiet shit. But 164 00:07:53.639 --> 00:07:56.319 the optics. So this brings me to my next point. 165 00:07:56.680 --> 00:07:57.720 Y'all don't be talking. 166 00:07:57.560 --> 00:08:00.639 Enough about this, and it pisses me off. It's always, oh, 167 00:08:00.800 --> 00:08:03.920 women get pretty girl privileged. They go outside and they 168 00:08:03.920 --> 00:08:05.839 don't have to pay for nothing, and their life is 169 00:08:05.839 --> 00:08:06.439 so easy. 170 00:08:06.480 --> 00:08:10.079 Do men have pretty privilege? Yes, it's called a handsome handout, 171 00:08:10.120 --> 00:08:12.199 That's what I like to call it. I call it 172 00:08:12.240 --> 00:08:16.199 a handsome handout. If you are attractive, have a gold chain, 173 00:08:16.480 --> 00:08:19.000 a pretty smile, don't let you be able to build 174 00:08:19.000 --> 00:08:19.560 some stuff. 175 00:08:19.680 --> 00:08:22.600 Life is just going to be a little bit easier 176 00:08:22.639 --> 00:08:24.720 for you. You don't even gotta do nothing but take a 177 00:08:24.759 --> 00:08:26.759 deep breath, and you're gonna get a compliment. Handsome man 178 00:08:26.879 --> 00:08:31.079 will get away with being inconsistent, having poor communicational skills, 179 00:08:31.199 --> 00:08:34.840 being unintentional. Like all we do is be like, oh, yeah, 180 00:08:35.360 --> 00:08:37.399 he's cute. And I want to say, not all women. 181 00:08:37.679 --> 00:08:39.639 You're making us look bad. But I digress. 182 00:08:39.759 --> 00:08:42.960 When you are handsome, that six figures. 183 00:08:42.879 --> 00:08:47.399 That height requirement, that foreign car, that ninety day rule, 184 00:08:47.600 --> 00:08:50.080 all that go out the window for some women. And 185 00:08:50.120 --> 00:08:52.039 it's like, y'all don't ever want to talk about that 186 00:08:52.039 --> 00:08:54.840 when you're talking about the pretty privilege. Why y'all get 187 00:08:54.879 --> 00:08:57.799 it too, just because you know the benefits may not 188 00:08:57.840 --> 00:09:00.279 be the same. Don't mean it don't exist. 189 00:09:00.600 --> 00:09:01.200 Acknowledge it. 190 00:09:01.279 --> 00:09:03.600 I will acknowledge that when you look a certain way, 191 00:09:03.639 --> 00:09:05.639 whether you be male or female, you get put on 192 00:09:05.679 --> 00:09:08.679 a certain pedestal. But I also want to acknowledge that 193 00:09:08.799 --> 00:09:11.120 some of us be getting played by people who don't 194 00:09:11.120 --> 00:09:14.720 know the difference between there, there and there because they're attractive. 195 00:09:15.120 --> 00:09:19.559 And it's not okay, it's not okay, he's dumb. Yeah 196 00:09:19.600 --> 00:09:22.080 he's fine. Hold on, let's hear him out. No, he's dumb. 197 00:09:22.679 --> 00:09:24.480 He's dumb. And I'm gonna be real with you. 198 00:09:24.519 --> 00:09:27.159 If you have ever gone on the internet and said, 199 00:09:27.600 --> 00:09:30.279 do women still you don't got the handsome handout? You 200 00:09:30.320 --> 00:09:32.320 are not getting it, because yes, women do. If you're 201 00:09:32.320 --> 00:09:34.240 a woman and you ever went on the internet and said, 202 00:09:34.279 --> 00:09:37.279 do men still that pretty privileges? Not for you, my love, 203 00:09:37.519 --> 00:09:39.960 because I'm going to tell you the ones who have 204 00:09:40.080 --> 00:09:44.279 it have it. Someone said it might be three dudes 205 00:09:44.360 --> 00:09:46.879 who can get the handsome handout, but almost every girl 206 00:09:46.919 --> 00:09:48.360 in the world can get pretty privileged. 207 00:09:48.440 --> 00:09:51.320 That's your fault. Hold on, let me finish, let me 208 00:09:51.360 --> 00:09:51.759 better asks. 209 00:09:51.799 --> 00:09:55.600 You don't have to actually be pretty to get pretty privileged. 210 00:09:55.639 --> 00:09:58.639 You just have to look better than your surroundings. I 211 00:09:58.720 --> 00:10:02.759 can be a six in an area of threes, and 212 00:10:02.799 --> 00:10:05.600 now I'm getting pretty privileged. Who's the fault here, me 213 00:10:05.679 --> 00:10:08.080 for being a six or you forgiving a six attention? 214 00:10:08.279 --> 00:10:11.240 Now I want to get into my favorite part of 215 00:10:11.279 --> 00:10:11.679 the show. 216 00:10:12.039 --> 00:10:13.080 Somebody come look at this. 217 00:10:13.240 --> 00:10:15.919 Now we're gonna read some funny stories from Reddit that 218 00:10:16.080 --> 00:10:18.919 might have you wondering about pretty privilege. I want to 219 00:10:18.960 --> 00:10:21.039 go to a gym and work on myself, but my 220 00:10:21.120 --> 00:10:22.279 boyfriend is against it. 221 00:10:22.440 --> 00:10:23.279 What should we do? 222 00:10:23.720 --> 00:10:26.240 This is what we were talking about, when you get 223 00:10:26.360 --> 00:10:28.879 somebody and then you want to keep them in the 224 00:10:28.919 --> 00:10:35.320 house because you don't want anybody else to see your body. 225 00:10:35.440 --> 00:10:37.679 My boyfriend really despises me wanting to go to the 226 00:10:37.720 --> 00:10:40.279 gym and work on myself. He knows my dad will 227 00:10:40.320 --> 00:10:42.440 also be at the gym while I go there. I 228 00:10:42.480 --> 00:10:44.399 also told him we could call and that I will 229 00:10:44.440 --> 00:10:47.039 wear baggy sweatpants and a hoodie with a sports bar 230 00:10:47.159 --> 00:10:49.080 on and a jacket with the shirt and a sports 231 00:10:49.080 --> 00:10:52.480 bar on. Since you're doing too much. You're doing too much, 232 00:10:52.759 --> 00:10:56.000 you gonna be in somebody's gym past the fuck out. Okay, 233 00:10:57.600 --> 00:11:01.759 oh my god, Jesus Christ. But he keeps on impressing 234 00:11:01.799 --> 00:11:04.000 me that I should also wear a shirt underneath the 235 00:11:04.000 --> 00:11:11.720 hoodie another one, but that makes me feel like it 236 00:11:11.759 --> 00:11:14.559 will suffocate me. He does not want me to converse 237 00:11:14.600 --> 00:11:17.360 with anyone at the gym, not even a simple conversation. 238 00:11:17.759 --> 00:11:20.639 I've also told him that we could gym together, but 239 00:11:20.840 --> 00:11:23.799 he isn't that financially stable to afford a membership to 240 00:11:23.840 --> 00:11:24.840 the place that I'm going to. 241 00:11:27.200 --> 00:11:28.639 I don't even gotta finish it. 242 00:11:28.799 --> 00:11:30.559 That man don't want you to going to that gym 243 00:11:30.600 --> 00:11:32.600 because he thinks you're gonna see another man who can 244 00:11:32.639 --> 00:11:33.799 afford you at that gym. 245 00:11:34.240 --> 00:11:35.840 Can't you want you as a house. 246 00:11:39.159 --> 00:11:43.480 No? But I have offered to pay for three fourth 247 00:11:43.639 --> 00:11:47.279 of the expenses of the membership and traveling, since he 248 00:11:47.360 --> 00:11:50.440 would also be traveling for around thirty to fifty minutes 249 00:11:50.879 --> 00:11:53.879 via booking a motorcycle sussy since he doesn't have his 250 00:11:53.879 --> 00:11:56.200 own vehicle yet. It's like an uber from where we 251 00:11:56.320 --> 00:11:59.240 are from just to get here since he is kind 252 00:11:59.240 --> 00:12:02.639 of far away. For some information, I am not overweight, 253 00:12:02.879 --> 00:12:04.720 but I am kind of chubby, So I want to 254 00:12:04.720 --> 00:12:07.720 work on myself and have a healthier lifestyle because I'm 255 00:12:07.759 --> 00:12:10.200 always up all night and playing games and my energy 256 00:12:10.240 --> 00:12:13.360 has decreased by a lot that also affected my studies. 257 00:12:13.799 --> 00:12:16.480 You are one gym session away from being out of 258 00:12:16.480 --> 00:12:19.159 his league, and he is trying to keep you in 259 00:12:19.200 --> 00:12:21.399 his league for as long as he can. He ain't 260 00:12:21.399 --> 00:12:24.919 got no car, he can't afford. Jim okay. He probably 261 00:12:24.960 --> 00:12:26.919 knows that he secured you at a low point and 262 00:12:26.919 --> 00:12:31.759 he's trying to keep you. How did he even get 263 00:12:31.799 --> 00:12:34.039 in the room, says, I know he got good dang lang, 264 00:12:34.519 --> 00:12:36.080 I know, I know. 265 00:12:36.000 --> 00:12:38.559 He got a fucking meet him. I know he do. 266 00:12:40.200 --> 00:12:42.519 My boyfriend is not a gym goer, and he's the 267 00:12:42.559 --> 00:12:45.039 reason why I'm always up playing games and we both 268 00:12:45.120 --> 00:12:47.679 do enjoy them. He also sometimes helped me with my 269 00:12:47.759 --> 00:12:51.480 studies if he knows how. And he doesn't really do 270 00:12:51.600 --> 00:12:54.559 any workouts, but he goes out every day because his 271 00:12:54.639 --> 00:12:57.799 mother asks him to buy daily needs for them and 272 00:12:57.799 --> 00:13:00.679 pick up his little sister from school, which he always 273 00:13:01.080 --> 00:13:03.840 does only on walk since it's not very far. It's 274 00:13:03.879 --> 00:13:06.279 really unfair. I barely go out. So I want to 275 00:13:06.360 --> 00:13:08.799 change that about myself and start working on my lifestyle 276 00:13:08.840 --> 00:13:11.080 and focus on myself and my studies again. 277 00:13:11.399 --> 00:13:15.120 But I'm not leaving him behind. Leave him behind. Everybody 278 00:13:15.200 --> 00:13:17.360 can't go. You know what Harriet Thomas said when Nigga 279 00:13:17.399 --> 00:13:20.240 said they didn't want to leave her peace. Everybody can't go. 280 00:13:20.559 --> 00:13:21.000 That's it. 281 00:13:21.120 --> 00:13:23.759 Somebody gonna have to get left, she says. I apologize 282 00:13:23.799 --> 00:13:26.320 if my grammar and spelling are incorrect. English isn't my 283 00:13:26.360 --> 00:13:29.639 first language. My height is one hundred and sixty centimeters 284 00:13:29.679 --> 00:13:31.759 and I weigh one hundred and thirty seven pounds at it. 285 00:13:32.240 --> 00:13:34.399 Thank you so much for your response. I just find 286 00:13:34.440 --> 00:13:36.759 it really hard to leave him, knowing he's the first 287 00:13:36.840 --> 00:13:39.000 guy I ever gave my trust to, and the first 288 00:13:39.080 --> 00:13:41.840 boyfriend I ever had, and the first one I introduced 289 00:13:41.879 --> 00:13:44.080 to my very strict family, and the fact that he 290 00:13:44.200 --> 00:13:50.159 told me I'm his lifeline and might unalive himself, unlive 291 00:13:50.240 --> 00:13:53.240 himself if I ever left, an actual possibility, because he 292 00:13:53.399 --> 00:13:58.279 almost poked himself when I tried leaving, but luckily poked 293 00:13:58.279 --> 00:14:01.080 a bag of his and said that I'm allowed to 294 00:14:01.120 --> 00:14:03.600 leave if I try again, but his life won't be guaranteed. 295 00:14:03.600 --> 00:14:05.279 And he told me he loves me so much. Hey 296 00:14:05.320 --> 00:14:08.639 don't love you, girl, He don't love you. 297 00:14:08.879 --> 00:14:11.039 It's just so much to unpack here, and I feel 298 00:14:11.039 --> 00:14:12.919 like y'all already know what I'm gonna say, so I'm 299 00:14:12.919 --> 00:14:13.799 gonna just leave it at that. 300 00:14:14.120 --> 00:14:16.080 Leave his asses, that's it in that song. 301 00:14:16.159 --> 00:14:18.440 Okay, So next one, am I the asshole for want 302 00:14:18.480 --> 00:14:21.080 of my maids of honor and bridesmaids to be makeup 303 00:14:21.120 --> 00:14:22.519 free and jewelry free. 304 00:14:22.559 --> 00:14:26.720 It's an ugly ass wedding. I can tell that's kind 305 00:14:26.759 --> 00:14:29.759 of be an ugly ass wet you'll what ugly and tired? 306 00:14:29.879 --> 00:14:34.120 No, Me, forty one female and my fiance, thirty three female, 307 00:14:34.320 --> 00:14:37.440 are both somewhere between butch and fem. We both have 308 00:14:37.559 --> 00:14:40.879 long hair and wear dresses, but we both don't wear makeup, 309 00:14:41.120 --> 00:14:44.960 jewelry nor perfume. We wouldn't be wearing makeup, jewelry nor 310 00:14:45.039 --> 00:14:47.799 perfume as brides. We want the maids of honor and 311 00:14:47.840 --> 00:14:51.000 bridesmaids to also be makeup free and jewelry free. I 312 00:14:51.039 --> 00:14:54.519 thought my maid of honor, my fiance is made of honor, 313 00:14:54.879 --> 00:14:58.799 and our six bridesmaids understood my maid of honor, and 314 00:14:58.919 --> 00:15:00.919 four out of the six alright, mads thought they could 315 00:15:00.919 --> 00:15:03.440 wear makeup and jewelry while the brides are makeup free 316 00:15:03.440 --> 00:15:05.879 and jewelry free. I'm not gonna lie sense I did too, 317 00:15:05.879 --> 00:15:08.360 because what you gotta do with me, Like, if you 318 00:15:08.440 --> 00:15:12.480 want to be old natural, that's fine, but you don't 319 00:15:12.519 --> 00:15:15.840 want nobody in the party to wear makeup. And you 320 00:15:15.879 --> 00:15:18.120 could have been like, hey, we don't want to do 321 00:15:18.480 --> 00:15:22.320 a full glamp. We're requesting soft or natural glam. How 322 00:15:22.399 --> 00:15:25.200 you know I want everybody to see my acne scars? 323 00:15:25.960 --> 00:15:26.440 Okay? 324 00:15:26.679 --> 00:15:29.320 How you know I want everybody to see these bags, 325 00:15:29.519 --> 00:15:31.879 these designer bags under my eye? 326 00:15:32.039 --> 00:15:35.000 Okay? How you know I. 327 00:15:34.360 --> 00:15:37.039 Want everybody to see my imperfections. You could be cool 328 00:15:37.080 --> 00:15:39.559 with yours, but you don't know what my comfortability is 329 00:15:39.559 --> 00:15:39.960 with mine. 330 00:15:40.000 --> 00:15:40.480 That don't make it. 331 00:15:40.600 --> 00:15:43.960 Don't all have like a regular routine for just concealer 332 00:15:44.039 --> 00:15:46.960 or something, yes, regular like that instead of being you're 333 00:15:47.039 --> 00:15:49.440 a completely different bare face than just having your regular 334 00:15:49.480 --> 00:15:50.600 dear concealer. 335 00:15:50.720 --> 00:15:52.399 Right, yes, you don't. 336 00:15:52.480 --> 00:15:55.440 You don't have to look like you're going to prom 337 00:15:56.039 --> 00:15:59.080 or you're going to like, you know, the met gala. 338 00:15:59.159 --> 00:16:01.879 You can have like a soft, simple beat that will 339 00:16:01.919 --> 00:16:04.799 look very natural and really just cover and perfection. So 340 00:16:04.840 --> 00:16:07.879 when you say you want a natural wedding, you're capable 341 00:16:07.919 --> 00:16:11.200 of having that. You're choosing to let nobody like not 342 00:16:11.279 --> 00:16:12.799 even a tented moisturizer. 343 00:16:12.919 --> 00:16:15.360 Why you want people this looks crazy. 344 00:16:15.639 --> 00:16:17.879 My fiance is made of honor and two of the 345 00:16:17.919 --> 00:16:21.080 bridesmaids understood when it was mentioned months ago. Now that 346 00:16:21.159 --> 00:16:23.879 everyone knows, my maid of honor and one bridesmaid said 347 00:16:23.919 --> 00:16:24.639 they can't do it. 348 00:16:24.879 --> 00:16:26.080 I'm not gonna lie. I can't either. 349 00:16:26.159 --> 00:16:28.279 If you tell me you don't want me to wear 350 00:16:28.480 --> 00:16:31.720 no makeup, I will join you in the audience. I 351 00:16:31.720 --> 00:16:34.799 will support you from the audience, okay, because I don't 352 00:16:34.840 --> 00:16:38.399 even I wouldn't do that to myself, because I will 353 00:16:38.480 --> 00:16:41.440 want your wedding to look as good as possible. If 354 00:16:41.440 --> 00:16:43.840 I'm up here standing here looking like Ricky the Raccoon, 355 00:16:43.960 --> 00:16:44.320 I'm not. 356 00:16:44.320 --> 00:16:46.320 Helping nobody in these pictures. So okay. 357 00:16:46.480 --> 00:16:48.399 My maid of honor is really upset with me. She 358 00:16:48.480 --> 00:16:50.639 said it's a privilege for a woman to be able 359 00:16:50.679 --> 00:16:52.559 to go make up free at a wedding. I don't 360 00:16:52.559 --> 00:16:54.759 think it's a privilege. I think it's a choice. What 361 00:16:54.799 --> 00:16:57.480 your level of comfortability is and how you present to 362 00:16:57.519 --> 00:17:01.240 other people may not be what mind is, she says 363 00:17:01.440 --> 00:17:05.960 she doesn't have. She said she has age spots, fine lines, 364 00:17:06.000 --> 00:17:09.240 and large pores to cover. She said that I'm a word. 365 00:17:09.279 --> 00:17:11.480 I don't think I can say on Reddit? Am I 366 00:17:11.519 --> 00:17:14.359 a bridezilla? Am I the asshole? Now here's the part 367 00:17:14.440 --> 00:17:17.079 that I thought was really really really really really really good. 368 00:17:17.279 --> 00:17:20.480 So someone acts if they had very little and very 369 00:17:20.559 --> 00:17:24.319 natural makeup, basically a bass layer, would that be acceptable? 370 00:17:24.720 --> 00:17:27.759 She says no, Me and my fiance want a very 371 00:17:27.880 --> 00:17:30.160 raw and natural look. So you want an ugly ass 372 00:17:30.200 --> 00:17:33.240 fucking what it's given? You want everybody to look ugly. 373 00:17:33.480 --> 00:17:35.839 If you're at a point where you don't want the 374 00:17:35.880 --> 00:17:39.720 people in your weddington wear makeup because you assume it's 375 00:17:39.960 --> 00:17:44.279 not a natural look, knowing that you can have simple, 376 00:17:44.440 --> 00:17:48.480 soft glam appearances, you don't want your bridesmaids to outshine you. 377 00:17:48.880 --> 00:17:50.799 And yes, you are the asshole. 378 00:17:51.079 --> 00:17:53.359 If I had to film that shit like yo, why 379 00:17:53.400 --> 00:17:53.960 are right in here? 380 00:17:53.920 --> 00:17:55.599 You look tired last night? 381 00:17:55.720 --> 00:17:59.799 And my whole thing is it doesn't automatically imply that 382 00:17:59.839 --> 00:18:02.599 the bridesmaids that are made of honor are unattractive. It's like, 383 00:18:02.759 --> 00:18:06.079 do I want to go out in public the same 384 00:18:06.119 --> 00:18:07.680 way I look at the gym? 385 00:18:07.960 --> 00:18:10.400 Fucking no niggas a o haircuft. We don't. You don't 386 00:18:10.480 --> 00:18:11.359 just go anywhere with. 387 00:18:11.319 --> 00:18:13.480 That if you want to raw a natural look, why 388 00:18:13.480 --> 00:18:15.319 are you still allowing people to get their hair done? 389 00:18:15.519 --> 00:18:17.079 Fuck it, let's go all out, bass to the wall. 390 00:18:17.160 --> 00:18:19.680 Let's all look homeless like, let's all be raw natural. 391 00:18:19.799 --> 00:18:22.559 I want everyone to look fine at my wet n closing. 392 00:18:22.839 --> 00:18:26.960 Whether you are pretty, whether you are handsome, or whether 393 00:18:27.000 --> 00:18:33.200 you are delusional, okay, allow your privilege to not control you, 394 00:18:33.640 --> 00:18:36.200 but also not cause you to be humble. This this 395 00:18:36.279 --> 00:18:39.319 episode was really for all the people who are attractive 396 00:18:39.880 --> 00:18:42.559 and may or may not struggle with that. I want 397 00:18:42.599 --> 00:18:45.960 you all to find confidence and peace and walk in 398 00:18:46.000 --> 00:18:49.039 your light and don't let nobody force you to smile. 399 00:18:49.240 --> 00:18:51.400 You don't have to. You don't fucking have to. My 400 00:18:51.400 --> 00:18:52.759 message is always going to be the same. 401 00:18:52.799 --> 00:18:56.000