Speaker 1: What's up, beautiful people, it's your girl story peat and
Speaker 1: this is another episode of Chocolate, Chip and Sip, And
Speaker 1: today we're going to tackle a topic that lives rent
Speaker 1: free in my mentions, pretty girl privileged.
Speaker 2: And so yeah, pretty girl vibe.
Speaker 1: Everybody thinks that pretty girl privilege is just free drinks, fire, selfies.
Speaker 2: Having a good or it's not this burger or not.
Speaker 1: There is a whole nother side of pretty girl privilege
Speaker 1: that we never talk about. The pressure, insecurities, the projection,
Speaker 1: it's a lot of other things that go into it.
Speaker 2: So that's what we are going to be discussing. To date.
Speaker 1: Pretty girl privilege is hard. Anybody who's telling you that
Speaker 1: it's not is a lot. People think that pretty girl
Speaker 1: privilege is.
Speaker 2: A cheat coat. It is a full time job.
Speaker 1: You can never be tired, you can never be broke,
Speaker 1: you can never be going through anything.
Speaker 2: Yo. The other day, I was in the mall with
Speaker 2: some sweatpants.
Speaker 1: On, and a man had the audacity to come up
Speaker 1: to me and say, damn, who humbled you today?
Speaker 2: Nigga? I can't but chill, dad, what the fuck is happening?
Speaker 2: What the fuck is happening? My god, I didn't know
Speaker 2: if I wear.
Speaker 1: Sweatpants, I have just been humbled. And don't get me
Speaker 1: started on a smile queen. You two pretty to be
Speaker 1: walking around looking like that.
Speaker 2: Nigga, that's my face.
Speaker 1: I don't have to smile and shucking job for you
Speaker 1: all the time cause I'm pretty. I can activate my
Speaker 1: rest and bitch face if I want to. On top
Speaker 1: of all this, it's also the pressure to maintain the
Speaker 1: body that you worked for, you.
Speaker 2: Paid for, you were born with.
Speaker 1: Like God forbid a girl be bloated because Auntie flobots
Speaker 1: come in town. Oh my god, she done fell off.
Speaker 1: Look what she got going on. Bruh, I am opulating
Speaker 1: and irritating.
Speaker 2: Get the fuck out my face. Okay, I've had it.
Speaker 1: Not Pretty girls deserve bad days too, not even a
Speaker 1: bad day.
Speaker 2: Pretty girls deserve chill days too.
Speaker 1: On top of all these other things, you also have
Speaker 1: to run the chance of having the misfortune of being
Speaker 1: around friends who are jealous or who are insecure. You
Speaker 1: can be beefing with people that you didn't even know
Speaker 1: you was beefing with. I thought we was friends. Oh
Speaker 1: she thinks she is shit. No, I just didn't lower
Speaker 1: myself to make you comfortable. Like, I'm just enjoying my time,
Speaker 1: my space, my x Y and Z. I don't want
Speaker 1: this to sound like pretty girl privilege is some oh
Speaker 1: what was me type shit, but like not really.
Speaker 2: What was me? Because I got some shit to say, Drake,
Speaker 2: It's not.
Speaker 1: All free drinks and fires out here. Top five struggles
Speaker 1: of having pretty girl privileged. Everyone assumes you're already taking
Speaker 1: I saw a poster said, oh, I know you talking
Speaker 1: to other dudes.
Speaker 2: Bro, I don't even have a dad. It's no dudes,
Speaker 2: I'm barely talking to you.
Speaker 1: Next struggle, people will flirt with you and you are
Speaker 1: just trying to exist in peace.
Speaker 2: You ever see bad Santa, I'm on my okay.
Speaker 1: Sometimes I just want to be to myself, have my peace,
Speaker 1: have my space. Next everyone assumes you're dumb or you
Speaker 1: got your position because you're pretty. Never mind the accolades,
Speaker 1: never mind the degrees, never mind all the experience experience
Speaker 1: you may have, Like, no, you're pretty, that's why you're here.
Speaker 1: Next one, there is a large majority of people who
Speaker 1: will flirt with you by insulting you. No, I'm saying
Speaker 1: like you probably stuck up anyway, Like I just I
Speaker 1: am a.
Speaker 2: Child of God.
Speaker 1: Number five on the top five struggles of being a
Speaker 1: pretty girl having pretty girl privilege. Everyone assumes that all
Speaker 1: pretty girls are mean and there can only be one
Speaker 1: real pretty girls know the more the merrier. I surround
Speaker 1: myself with pretty girls all the time because you get
Speaker 1: more free shit, I said, all I have to say.
Speaker 1: It's not as fun as everyone makes it seem. Another
Speaker 1: struggle that goes into this pretty girl privilege is one
Speaker 1: that some people fight with because they know if they
Speaker 1: admit it, it will reveal how insecure they may or
Speaker 1: may not be. Men love pretty girls until they get one.
Speaker 1: Men love pretty girls until they get one. I want
Speaker 1: to preface this by saying not all men. There are
Speaker 1: a certain community of strong, independent, secure men that have
Speaker 1: no problem being with a pretty woman because they know
Speaker 1: at the end of the day that pretty woman is
Speaker 1: coming home to then. And you, you, Kings, deserve free haircuts,
Speaker 1: a pack lunch, a set of tires.
Speaker 2: Okay, you deserve it, all Kings, but we're not talking
Speaker 2: about you right now. We talk about the mother niggas.
Speaker 1: There are men that enjoy being with pretty women and
Speaker 1: enjoy the attention from pretty women until they're no longer
Speaker 1: the center of that attention, They get a pretty girl,
Speaker 1: and then they don't want anyone else to ever see
Speaker 1: their pretty girls.
Speaker 2: Like having a Pokemon card.
Speaker 3: You finally got it, and now you're gonna put it
Speaker 3: in sleeve and you're gonna put it in a close and
Speaker 3: starity and nobody else in starity, but.
Speaker 2: Fucking a holographic. I'm pulling up every chance I get that.
Speaker 2: It's in my living room.
Speaker 1: Yes, first of all, I still got a bind her, baby.
Speaker 1: I can't understand what you're saying to that point.
Speaker 2: I guess that makes sense.
Speaker 1: They love the idea of a pretty girl until they
Speaker 1: realize hold up, other people think she's pretty too. They
Speaker 1: will turn their insecurities on you and make it feel
Speaker 1: like it's your fault that everybody's looking at you. And
Speaker 1: it's like, brother, if you're going through that, I want
Speaker 1: you to know the next time you out with your
Speaker 1: fond shit and you see people looking at her, take
Speaker 1: it as an ego boost. Grab her by the waist, palm,
Speaker 1: the booty. They looking at something that's already yours. Why
Speaker 1: are you trying to turn around and make that her fault?
Speaker 2: That has nothing to do with that.
Speaker 1: Yes, what I'm saying These will be the same men
Speaker 1: that will then take their fond shit around their uncles
Speaker 1: just so they can say, oh, that's you, nef.
Speaker 2: What's the difference.
Speaker 1: They want a pretty girl, but they don't want the
Speaker 1: attention that a pretty girl brings.
Speaker 2: You mad that other men want what you prayed for.
Speaker 2: You thought she was the only one with that prayer, dummy.
Speaker 1: Not to say that there aren't some problematic pretty women.
Speaker 1: I'm talking about this one specific because they're all try it.
Speaker 1: Another discrepancy when it comes to pretty girl privilege is
Speaker 1: everybody think you got hose. Everybody thinks you have hose. Oh,
Speaker 1: I know you got so many options. I'm not even
Speaker 1: gonna shoot my shot. I know you got holes. Why
Speaker 1: you worry about other people worry about yourself? King people
Speaker 1: assume because you are attractive. This is my rollo, dex baby.
Speaker 1: My phone ain't filled with nothing but puppy videos.
Speaker 2: Do you know that ain't no holes in there? My
Speaker 2: phone is so dry.
Speaker 1: If it went off right now, I know exactly who
Speaker 1: it was without even looking at it.
Speaker 2: And I honestly one of them is sitting behind the
Speaker 2: camera right now, so I know it's not.
Speaker 1: So let's get shorter yeah, one as fuck them options.
Speaker 1: When you step into the room, you become the only option.
Speaker 1: That's the energy that would want fellas, there's a confidence
Speaker 1: as soon as I get to what's up back there?
Speaker 2: Dog, where's your competitive spence? Pretty girls love peace?
Speaker 1: So when y'all be thinking, we out here will all
Speaker 1: them options. Most of the time we be in a
Speaker 1: crib in a robe watching serial killer documentaries because that
Speaker 1: brings us peace and we're gonna protect.
Speaker 2: That at all costs.
Speaker 1: Okay, So next time you see a beautiful woman outside,
Speaker 1: you assume she got nineteen million hoes.
Speaker 2: She don't.
Speaker 1: She might be got like nineteen million plants. Then nobody
Speaker 1: believes you because you're fine. I want y'all to understand
Speaker 1: there are more women who think like me than there
Speaker 1: are not. The problem is a we be in a house,
Speaker 1: mind in our business and be the ones who do
Speaker 1: have the hoes and are unattractive. They be the loudest,
Speaker 1: so y'all think it's more of them, but it's not.
Speaker 1: It's really more women like me. We just be chill
Speaker 1: in the house and on some like quiet shit. But
Speaker 1: the optics. So this brings me to my next point.
Speaker 2: Y'all don't be talking.
Speaker 1: Enough about this, and it pisses me off. It's always, oh,
Speaker 1: women get pretty girl privileged. They go outside and they
Speaker 1: don't have to pay for nothing, and their life is
Speaker 1: so easy.
Speaker 2: Do men have pretty privilege? Yes, it's called a handsome handout,
Speaker 2: That's what I like to call it. I call it
Speaker 2: a handsome handout. If you are attractive, have a gold chain,
Speaker 2: a pretty smile, don't let you be able to build
Speaker 2: some stuff.
Speaker 1: Life is just going to be a little bit easier
Speaker 1: for you. You don't even gotta do nothing but take a
Speaker 1: deep breath, and you're gonna get a compliment. Handsome man
Speaker 1: will get away with being inconsistent, having poor communicational skills,
Speaker 1: being unintentional. Like all we do is be like, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: he's cute. And I want to say, not all women.
Speaker 1: You're making us look bad. But I digress.
Speaker 2: When you are handsome, that six figures.
Speaker 1: That height requirement, that foreign car, that ninety day rule,
Speaker 1: all that go out the window for some women. And
Speaker 1: it's like, y'all don't ever want to talk about that
Speaker 1: when you're talking about the pretty privilege. Why y'all get
Speaker 1: it too, just because you know the benefits may not
Speaker 1: be the same. Don't mean it don't exist.
Speaker 2: Acknowledge it.
Speaker 1: I will acknowledge that when you look a certain way,
Speaker 1: whether you be male or female, you get put on
Speaker 1: a certain pedestal. But I also want to acknowledge that
Speaker 1: some of us be getting played by people who don't
Speaker 1: know the difference between there, there and there because they're attractive.
Speaker 2: And it's not okay, it's not okay, he's dumb. Yeah
Speaker 2: he's fine. Hold on, let's hear him out. No, he's dumb.
Speaker 2: He's dumb. And I'm gonna be real with you.
Speaker 1: If you have ever gone on the internet and said,
Speaker 1: do women still you don't got the handsome handout? You
Speaker 1: are not getting it, because yes, women do. If you're
Speaker 1: a woman and you ever went on the internet and said,
Speaker 1: do men still that pretty privileges? Not for you, my love,
Speaker 1: because I'm going to tell you the ones who have
Speaker 1: it have it. Someone said it might be three dudes
Speaker 1: who can get the handsome handout, but almost every girl
Speaker 1: in the world can get pretty privileged.
Speaker 2: That's your fault. Hold on, let me finish, let me
Speaker 2: better asks.
Speaker 1: You don't have to actually be pretty to get pretty privileged.
Speaker 1: You just have to look better than your surroundings. I
Speaker 1: can be a six in an area of threes, and
Speaker 1: now I'm getting pretty privileged. Who's the fault here, me
Speaker 1: for being a six or you forgiving a six attention?
Speaker 1: Now I want to get into my favorite part of
Speaker 1: the show.
Speaker 2: Somebody come look at this.
Speaker 1: Now we're gonna read some funny stories from Reddit that
Speaker 1: might have you wondering about pretty privilege. I want to
Speaker 1: go to a gym and work on myself, but my
Speaker 1: boyfriend is against it.
Speaker 2: What should we do?
Speaker 1: This is what we were talking about, when you get
Speaker 1: somebody and then you want to keep them in the
Speaker 1: house because you don't want anybody else to see your body.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend really despises me wanting to go to the
Speaker 1: gym and work on myself. He knows my dad will
Speaker 1: also be at the gym while I go there. I
Speaker 1: also told him we could call and that I will
Speaker 1: wear baggy sweatpants and a hoodie with a sports bar
Speaker 1: on and a jacket with the shirt and a sports
Speaker 1: bar on. Since you're doing too much. You're doing too much,
Speaker 1: you gonna be in somebody's gym past the fuck out. Okay,
Speaker 1: oh my god, Jesus Christ. But he keeps on impressing
Speaker 1: me that I should also wear a shirt underneath the
Speaker 1: hoodie another one, but that makes me feel like it
Speaker 1: will suffocate me. He does not want me to converse
Speaker 1: with anyone at the gym, not even a simple conversation.
Speaker 1: I've also told him that we could gym together, but
Speaker 1: he isn't that financially stable to afford a membership to
Speaker 1: the place that I'm going to.
Speaker 2: I don't even gotta finish it.
Speaker 1: That man don't want you to going to that gym
Speaker 1: because he thinks you're gonna see another man who can
Speaker 1: afford you at that gym.
Speaker 2: Can't you want you as a house.
Speaker 1: No? But I have offered to pay for three fourth
Speaker 1: of the expenses of the membership and traveling, since he
Speaker 1: would also be traveling for around thirty to fifty minutes
Speaker 1: via booking a motorcycle sussy since he doesn't have his
Speaker 1: own vehicle yet. It's like an uber from where we
Speaker 1: are from just to get here since he is kind
Speaker 1: of far away. For some information, I am not overweight,
Speaker 1: but I am kind of chubby, So I want to
Speaker 1: work on myself and have a healthier lifestyle because I'm
Speaker 1: always up all night and playing games and my energy
Speaker 1: has decreased by a lot that also affected my studies.
Speaker 1: You are one gym session away from being out of
Speaker 1: his league, and he is trying to keep you in
Speaker 1: his league for as long as he can. He ain't
Speaker 1: got no car, he can't afford. Jim okay. He probably
Speaker 1: knows that he secured you at a low point and
Speaker 1: he's trying to keep you. How did he even get
Speaker 1: in the room, says, I know he got good dang lang,
Speaker 1: I know, I know.
Speaker 2: He got a fucking meet him. I know he do.
Speaker 1: My boyfriend is not a gym goer, and he's the
Speaker 1: reason why I'm always up playing games and we both
Speaker 1: do enjoy them. He also sometimes helped me with my
Speaker 1: studies if he knows how. And he doesn't really do
Speaker 1: any workouts, but he goes out every day because his
Speaker 1: mother asks him to buy daily needs for them and
Speaker 1: pick up his little sister from school, which he always
Speaker 1: does only on walk since it's not very far. It's
Speaker 1: really unfair. I barely go out. So I want to
Speaker 1: change that about myself and start working on my lifestyle
Speaker 1: and focus on myself and my studies again.
Speaker 2: But I'm not leaving him behind. Leave him behind. Everybody
Speaker 2: can't go. You know what Harriet Thomas said when Nigga
Speaker 2: said they didn't want to leave her peace. Everybody can't go.
Speaker 2: That's it.
Speaker 1: Somebody gonna have to get left, she says. I apologize
Speaker 1: if my grammar and spelling are incorrect. English isn't my
Speaker 1: first language. My height is one hundred and sixty centimeters
Speaker 1: and I weigh one hundred and thirty seven pounds at it.
Speaker 1: Thank you so much for your response. I just find
Speaker 1: it really hard to leave him, knowing he's the first
Speaker 1: guy I ever gave my trust to, and the first
Speaker 1: boyfriend I ever had, and the first one I introduced
Speaker 1: to my very strict family, and the fact that he
Speaker 1: told me I'm his lifeline and might unalive himself, unlive
Speaker 1: himself if I ever left, an actual possibility, because he
Speaker 1: almost poked himself when I tried leaving, but luckily poked
Speaker 1: a bag of his and said that I'm allowed to
Speaker 1: leave if I try again, but his life won't be guaranteed.
Speaker 2: And he told me he loves me so much. Hey
Speaker 2: don't love you, girl, He don't love you.
Speaker 1: It's just so much to unpack here, and I feel
Speaker 1: like y'all already know what I'm gonna say, so I'm
Speaker 1: gonna just leave it at that.
Speaker 2: Leave his asses, that's it in that song.
Speaker 1: Okay, So next one, am I the asshole for want
Speaker 1: of my maids of honor and bridesmaids to be makeup
Speaker 1: free and jewelry free.
Speaker 2: It's an ugly ass wedding. I can tell that's kind
Speaker 2: of be an ugly ass wet you'll what ugly and tired?
Speaker 1: No, Me, forty one female and my fiance, thirty three female,
Speaker 1: are both somewhere between butch and fem. We both have
Speaker 1: long hair and wear dresses, but we both don't wear makeup,
Speaker 1: jewelry nor perfume. We wouldn't be wearing makeup, jewelry nor
Speaker 1: perfume as brides. We want the maids of honor and
Speaker 1: bridesmaids to also be makeup free and jewelry free. I
Speaker 1: thought my maid of honor, my fiance is made of honor,
Speaker 1: and our six bridesmaids understood my maid of honor, and
Speaker 1: four out of the six alright, mads thought they could
Speaker 1: wear makeup and jewelry while the brides are makeup free
Speaker 1: and jewelry free. I'm not gonna lie sense I did too,
Speaker 1: because what you gotta do with me, Like, if you
Speaker 1: want to be old natural, that's fine, but you don't
Speaker 1: want nobody in the party to wear makeup. And you
Speaker 1: could have been like, hey, we don't want to do
Speaker 1: a full glamp. We're requesting soft or natural glam. How
Speaker 1: you know I want everybody to see my acne scars?
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 1: How you know I want everybody to see these bags,
Speaker 1: these designer bags under my eye?
Speaker 2: Okay? How you know I.
Speaker 1: Want everybody to see my imperfections. You could be cool
Speaker 1: with yours, but you don't know what my comfortability is
Speaker 1: with mine.
Speaker 2: That don't make it.
Speaker 3: Don't all have like a regular routine for just concealer
Speaker 3: or something, yes, regular like that instead of being you're
Speaker 3: a completely different bare face than just having your regular
Speaker 3: dear concealer.
Speaker 2: Right, yes, you don't.
Speaker 1: You don't have to look like you're going to prom
Speaker 1: or you're going to like, you know, the met gala.
Speaker 1: You can have like a soft, simple beat that will
Speaker 1: look very natural and really just cover and perfection. So
Speaker 1: when you say you want a natural wedding, you're capable
Speaker 1: of having that. You're choosing to let nobody like not
Speaker 1: even a tented moisturizer.
Speaker 2: Why you want people this looks crazy.
Speaker 1: My fiance is made of honor and two of the
Speaker 1: bridesmaids understood when it was mentioned months ago. Now that
Speaker 1: everyone knows, my maid of honor and one bridesmaid said
Speaker 1: they can't do it.
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna lie. I can't either.
Speaker 1: If you tell me you don't want me to wear
Speaker 1: no makeup, I will join you in the audience. I
Speaker 1: will support you from the audience, okay, because I don't
Speaker 1: even I wouldn't do that to myself, because I will
Speaker 1: want your wedding to look as good as possible. If
Speaker 1: I'm up here standing here looking like Ricky the Raccoon,
Speaker 1: I'm not.
Speaker 2: Helping nobody in these pictures. So okay.
Speaker 1: My maid of honor is really upset with me. She
Speaker 1: said it's a privilege for a woman to be able
Speaker 1: to go make up free at a wedding. I don't
Speaker 1: think it's a privilege. I think it's a choice. What
Speaker 1: your level of comfortability is and how you present to
Speaker 1: other people may not be what mind is, she says
Speaker 1: she doesn't have. She said she has age spots, fine lines,
Speaker 1: and large pores to cover. She said that I'm a word.
Speaker 1: I don't think I can say on Reddit? Am I
Speaker 1: a bridezilla? Am I the asshole? Now here's the part
Speaker 1: that I thought was really really really really really really good.
Speaker 1: So someone acts if they had very little and very
Speaker 1: natural makeup, basically a bass layer, would that be acceptable?
Speaker 2: She says no, Me and my fiance want a very
Speaker 2: raw and natural look. So you want an ugly ass
Speaker 2: fucking what it's given? You want everybody to look ugly.
Speaker 1: If you're at a point where you don't want the
Speaker 1: people in your weddington wear makeup because you assume it's
Speaker 1: not a natural look, knowing that you can have simple,
Speaker 1: soft glam appearances, you don't want your bridesmaids to outshine you.
Speaker 2: And yes, you are the asshole.
Speaker 3: If I had to film that shit like yo, why
Speaker 3: are right in here?
Speaker 2: You look tired last night?
Speaker 1: And my whole thing is it doesn't automatically imply that
Speaker 1: the bridesmaids that are made of honor are unattractive. It's like,
Speaker 1: do I want to go out in public the same
Speaker 1: way I look at the gym?
Speaker 2: Fucking no niggas a o haircuft. We don't. You don't
Speaker 2: just go anywhere with.
Speaker 1: That if you want to raw a natural look, why
Speaker 1: are you still allowing people to get their hair done?
Speaker 1: Fuck it, let's go all out, bass to the wall.
Speaker 1: Let's all look homeless like, let's all be raw natural.
Speaker 1: I want everyone to look fine at my wet n closing.
Speaker 1: Whether you are pretty, whether you are handsome, or whether
Speaker 1: you are delusional, okay, allow your privilege to not control you,
Speaker 1: but also not cause you to be humble. This this
Speaker 1: episode was really for all the people who are attractive
Speaker 1: and may or may not struggle with that. I want
Speaker 1: you all to find confidence and peace and walk in
Speaker 1: your light and don't let nobody force you to smile.
Speaker 2: You don't have to. You don't fucking have to. My
Speaker 2: message is always going to be the same.
Speaker 1: Follow me on a gram at stormy p p ea
Speaker 1: at chocola ship and sip and uh. If you don't
Speaker 1: remember anything else, please remember smile queen.
Speaker 2: No, you don't have to. I love you guys, and
Speaker 2: I've seen next week. Peace