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<v Speaker 1>Helping leaders motivate their people to a higher level of

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<v Speaker 1>performance through strong human relations, team building, and goalajiving. This

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<v Speaker 1>is the seven Minute Leadership Podcast with your host Paul Felloaledo.

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<v Speaker 1>Hello everyone, and welcome to the seven Minute Leadership Podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It's episode seven point thirty three. Today we're talking about

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<v Speaker 1>something that most leaders only think about when it's too late. Confidence,

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<v Speaker 1>specifically the kind of confidence that holds you together when

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<v Speaker 1>everything around you is falling apart. So I'm calling it

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<v Speaker 1>confidence built before the crisis. And here's the truth, right

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<v Speaker 1>out of the gate. If you're waiting for a crisis

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<v Speaker 1>to figure out who you are as a leader, you're

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<v Speaker 1>already behind. So let me paint a picture for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Two leaders, same company, same unexpected situation. A key client

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<v Speaker 1>walks away, revenue drops significantly, and the team is rattled.

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<v Speaker 1>The first leader freezes, They start second guessing every decision.

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<v Speaker 1>They hold three meetings in one day and make no

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<v Speaker 1>actual decisions in any of them. Their team can feel

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<v Speaker 1>the uncertainty rating off of them and it spreads like

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<v Speaker 1>a cold and a kindergarten classroom. The second leader, they're calm,

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<v Speaker 1>not fake, calm, not that weird, glassy eyed, calm that

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<v Speaker 1>makes your team more nervous, genuinely calm. They gather the facts,

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<v Speaker 1>they communicate clearly, and they make a call. The team

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't love the situation, but they trust the person leading

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<v Speaker 1>them through it. What's the difference between those two leaders.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not intelligence, it's not experience, it's not even skill.

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<v Speaker 1>It's preparation. One of them built their confidence before the

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<v Speaker 1>crisis ever showed up. So how do you actually do that?

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<v Speaker 1>How do you build that kind of camp confidence before

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<v Speaker 1>you need it. The first thing I want you to

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<v Speaker 1>understand is that real leadership confidence doesn't come from never failing.

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<v Speaker 1>It comes from knowing yourself well enough to trust your

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<v Speaker 1>own judgment even when you're not sure of the outcome.

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<v Speaker 1>That takes work, quiet, intentional work that most people skip

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<v Speaker 1>because it doesn't feel urgent. Here's a simple place to start.

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<v Speaker 1>Get clear on your values. Not the values your company

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<v Speaker 1>posts on the wall in the break room. Your values

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<v Speaker 1>the things that are non negotiable for you when you're

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<v Speaker 1>making decisions under pressure, Because when a crisis hits, you

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<v Speaker 1>won't have time to figure out what you stand for.

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<v Speaker 1>You need to know already. Sit down this week, seriously,

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<v Speaker 1>block thirty minutes and write down three to five things

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<v Speaker 1>that guide how you lead, not how you want to

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<v Speaker 1>be perceived, how you actually want to behave. When it

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<v Speaker 1>gets hard, that list comes your anchor. The second thing

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<v Speaker 1>is this, you have to practice making decisions. Confident leaders

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<v Speaker 1>aren't people who were born decisive. They're people who have

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<v Speaker 1>made a lot of decisions. Learn from the ones that

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<v Speaker 1>didn't work, and stop being afraid of being wrong. One

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<v Speaker 1>of the biggest confidence killers I see in leaders is

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<v Speaker 1>the habit of waiting for perfect information. You tell yourself

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<v Speaker 1>you just need a little more data, a little more time,

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<v Speaker 1>one more conversation, and meanwhile the team is standing around you,

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<v Speaker 1>waiting for direction and losing faith in you by the hour.

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<v Speaker 1>So here's the mindset shift. A good decision made now

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<v Speaker 1>is almost always better than a perfect decision made too late.

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<v Speaker 1>Start practicing that in low stakes moments, so it becomes

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<v Speaker 1>natural when the stakes go up. Make the call on

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<v Speaker 1>the small stuff. Where does the team eat lunch for

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<v Speaker 1>the end of the quarter celebration, Make the call, what's

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<v Speaker 1>the agenda for the new team meeting? Make the call.

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<v Speaker 1>Stop deferring the small decisions, because that habit will show

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<v Speaker 1>up in the big ones. The third piece of building

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<v Speaker 1>confidence before the crisis is relationships. Confident leaders are not

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<v Speaker 1>lone wolves. They have people around them, a mentor, a peer,

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<v Speaker 1>a coach, someone who they can call when things get hard,

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<v Speaker 1>not to be told what to do, but to think

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<v Speaker 1>out loud with someone who's not going to panic with them.

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<v Speaker 1>If you don't have that right now, that's something to

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<v Speaker 1>fix today, not tomorrow. Today, because in a crisis you

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<v Speaker 1>will need a sounding board. And that's not a weakness,

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<v Speaker 1>that's wisdom. The most confident leaders I've ever seen are

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<v Speaker 1>the ones who are completely comfortable saying, hey, I need

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<v Speaker 1>to think through something with you. That's not insecurity. That's

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<v Speaker 1>self awareness. Build those relationships before you need them, because

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<v Speaker 1>nobody wants to make a new friend in the middle

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<v Speaker 1>of a fire, So let's bring this together. Confidence built

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<v Speaker 1>before the crisis comes down to three things. Know your

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<v Speaker 1>value so your decisions, have a foundation. Practice deciding so

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<v Speaker 1>you stop being afraid of being wrong. And build real

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<v Speaker 1>relationships so you're never facing hard moments completely alone. None

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<v Speaker 1>of this is complicated, but it does require you to

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<v Speaker 1>be intentional about it, which is kind of the whole

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<v Speaker 1>point of what we talk about on this show the

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<v Speaker 1>leaders who show up best in a crisis didn't get lucky.

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<v Speaker 1>They did the quiet work ahead of time, and that

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<v Speaker 1>work is available to all of us. So here's what

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<v Speaker 1>I want to leave you with today. Confidence isn't something

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<v Speaker 1>you find in a crisis. It's something you carry into one.

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<v Speaker 1>Start building it now in the ordinary moments, in the

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<v Speaker 1>small decisions, in the honest conversations you have with yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and with the people that you trust, because one day

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<v Speaker 1>and I can't tell you when something is going to

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<v Speaker 1>happen that tests you, and when it does, you'll be

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<v Speaker 1>glad you started today. This has been the seven minute

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<v Speaker 1>Leadership Podcast, and I thank you for listening. For more

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<v Speaker 1>Paul Fell of Alito Podcasts, visit paulfellowalito dot com.