1 00:00:12,119 --> 00:00:16,120 Speaker 1: Welcome to episode five of Dear to See It. Y'all, 2 00:00:16,199 --> 00:00:20,519 we were doing so good. We have been. We have 3 00:00:20,600 --> 00:00:25,839 been doing so good. This show has been all that 4 00:00:25,879 --> 00:00:27,879 I wanted it to be, all that I needed it 5 00:00:27,879 --> 00:00:29,960 to be. Okay, y'all, we have been doing so good, 6 00:00:30,280 --> 00:00:32,560 and I don't want y'all to forget some of our 7 00:00:32,640 --> 00:00:35,560 milestones that we have. Okay, So first of all, I 8 00:00:35,600 --> 00:00:38,799 want y'all to leave a five star review, not two, 9 00:00:38,920 --> 00:00:43,600 not four, baby, five five star review, because I mean, 10 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:45,759 if you've been here in this episode five, that means 11 00:00:45,759 --> 00:00:47,719 you love me as much as I love you, and 12 00:00:47,759 --> 00:00:50,840 so you need to give us a five star review. 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We 21 00:01:21,640 --> 00:01:23,799 were probably over two hundred and fifty by now, okay, 22 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:27,439 and then we won one hundred thousand subscribers on both channels. 23 00:01:27,799 --> 00:01:30,280 Y'all know, I'm a dog when it come to my goals. 24 00:01:30,439 --> 00:01:32,200 Don't play on me and don't play on my name. 25 00:01:32,439 --> 00:01:38,519 It will meet away you say you do, okay, helped 26 00:01:38,519 --> 00:01:39,239 me hit my goals. 27 00:01:39,280 --> 00:01:39,519 Speaker 2: Okay. 28 00:01:39,560 --> 00:01:43,200 Speaker 1: We got fifty thousand followers on Apple Podcasts, five hundred reviews, 29 00:01:43,280 --> 00:01:45,200 five star, all right, and then we got one hundred 30 00:01:45,200 --> 00:01:49,319 thousand subscribers. All right period. All right, we have our 31 00:01:49,519 --> 00:01:56,680 Peanut gallery again, our good sense Gabby visiting us. To 32 00:01:56,760 --> 00:01:58,920 know Gabby is to love Gabby, you know, and I 33 00:01:58,959 --> 00:02:03,560 don't think I've ever said that, but like some you 34 00:02:03,640 --> 00:02:08,319 are so easy to love Gabby, Like you're just like 35 00:02:08,439 --> 00:02:17,639 the most kind spirited, like just just easy going love, 36 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:20,560 you know what I'm saying, Just like friendship, Like I 37 00:02:20,560 --> 00:02:24,560 can't even imagine you being combat like I've been. Clearly 38 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:27,599 we've never had any like altercations or arguments or anything 39 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:29,759 like that, but I couldn't even imagine, like, you know, 40 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:33,840 you just seem like you know how to mitigate a 41 00:02:33,879 --> 00:02:38,800 lot of things in life, right, and yeah, you're a peacemaker. 42 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:41,120 Shout out to Gabby Anyways, if you want to go 43 00:02:41,199 --> 00:02:44,759 out in the DMV area, look up Gabby and her 44 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:47,240 page and her company, all right, so that you can 45 00:02:47,240 --> 00:02:49,639 figure out where to go in the city. All of 46 00:02:49,680 --> 00:02:52,439 the events are just like SoLIT and that's really how 47 00:02:52,439 --> 00:02:54,800 we first met. I was invited to one of Gabby's events. 48 00:02:55,000 --> 00:02:58,080 It was a great time. Okay, So shout out to Gabby. 49 00:02:58,120 --> 00:03:00,759 Gabby's coming to give us her look. Sent on all 50 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:04,280 the tea that will be dropping that will be dropping today. Okay. 51 00:03:04,759 --> 00:03:08,560 Episode five, Episode five, y'all, look, you winn't thick right, 52 00:03:08,960 --> 00:03:11,800 Me and you was never's part makey dott I okay, 53 00:03:11,879 --> 00:03:15,280 color purple, okay, period? All right, A couple of or 54 00:03:15,879 --> 00:03:21,639 a review to read for our show is listen, y'all. 55 00:03:22,039 --> 00:03:27,400 Yes exclamation points three exclamation points. Yes. Been waiting on 56 00:03:27,479 --> 00:03:31,479 the first episode to drop. It was absolutely everything that 57 00:03:31,599 --> 00:03:34,840 I thought it was going to be, plus some Thank 58 00:03:34,879 --> 00:03:37,800 you for always helping the girls out. Can't wait for 59 00:03:38,120 --> 00:03:41,800 episode two. I hope of this everything that you thought 60 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:46,879 it would be. If you want the most real, raw trill, 61 00:03:47,639 --> 00:03:55,000 just most genuine version of me, catch me on Apple podcasts, okay, 62 00:03:55,599 --> 00:03:59,199 Spotify and YouTube. All right, this look this baby, this 63 00:03:59,240 --> 00:04:01,879 ain't for no life. It's the same for no no Cloud, 64 00:04:01,960 --> 00:04:04,240 the same for this is like literally the space that 65 00:04:04,280 --> 00:04:07,639 I dreamed of. And so yes, I'm so glad to 66 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:10,080 hear things like this because this is really who I am. 67 00:04:10,240 --> 00:04:12,599 Always I have this joke and I'll be like, I'm 68 00:04:12,599 --> 00:04:15,879 not who y'all think I am. Hey, y'all always say this, 69 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:17,839 Like when I'm going on my rants, I'd be like, 70 00:04:17,959 --> 00:04:21,199 I'm not who y'all think I am. And now you 71 00:04:21,240 --> 00:04:22,920 get to see who I am. I'm just a girl 72 00:04:22,920 --> 00:04:25,319 from Chicago. Baby, I'm a girl from Chicago. Look. And 73 00:04:25,399 --> 00:04:26,959 also let me say this. Let me be clear, baby, 74 00:04:26,959 --> 00:04:29,279 I am from the West side Chicago. I know people 75 00:04:29,319 --> 00:04:31,560 only think that Chicago has the South Side. I'm from 76 00:04:31,560 --> 00:04:34,199 the West side of Chicago. Ktown twenty first, No Worst 77 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:40,120 Baby twenty first and Homan Okay, the west side of Chicago. Now, 78 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:41,959 I went to high school south, but I'm from the 79 00:04:42,000 --> 00:04:46,079 West side of Chicago. K Town Baby twenty first, No Worse, 80 00:04:46,120 --> 00:04:47,959 twenty first at home and asked about me. My grandma 81 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:50,519 was living on My grandma was one of the longest 82 00:04:50,560 --> 00:04:56,279 living person people on that block. I anyways, I digress. 83 00:04:57,399 --> 00:04:59,720 We're going on to our first segment of the Red 84 00:04:59,759 --> 00:05:05,199 Flag Report. Okay, I'm going to read this Red Flag Report. 85 00:05:05,639 --> 00:05:09,800 Still marry but miles apart? All right? And a recent 86 00:05:10,079 --> 00:05:18,680 essence article by Elizabeth Ayola Ayola, The concept of the 87 00:05:18,800 --> 00:05:24,199 silent divorce is explored a growing trend where couples remain 88 00:05:24,399 --> 00:05:31,120 legally married but emotionally, mentally, and often physically disconnected. Licensed 89 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:36,079 therapists say this breakdown is usually caused by unresolved conflict, 90 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:44,000 emotional neglect, poor communication, and unaddressed resentment. According to a 91 00:05:44,120 --> 00:05:48,600 twenty twenty three Pure Research report, fifty five percent of 92 00:05:48,680 --> 00:05:53,639 Americans believe unhappy couples stay in their marriages too long 93 00:05:54,040 --> 00:05:57,639 and that lingering disconnect can take a toll on mental 94 00:05:57,639 --> 00:06:02,680 health and self esteem. But is staying out of duty, 95 00:06:03,839 --> 00:06:08,160 fear or routine the red flag? But it's staying out 96 00:06:08,199 --> 00:06:12,879 of duty, fear or routine the red flag? Or is 97 00:06:12,920 --> 00:06:15,560 it the refusal to do the work to reconnect? 98 00:06:15,800 --> 00:06:16,120 Speaker 3: You know what? 99 00:06:16,199 --> 00:06:18,439 Speaker 1: The interesting thing I have to tell y'all sorry about 100 00:06:18,439 --> 00:06:22,040 once upon a time, how I was in a ethically 101 00:06:22,079 --> 00:06:26,120 non monogamous relationship. Okay, y'all, I don't think I'm crazy. 102 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:27,920 I don't know I to sell this on Live Baby 103 00:06:27,920 --> 00:06:31,639 Alive on air Once upon a Time Child, I was 104 00:06:31,879 --> 00:06:35,959 given the red flag to date. This a woman's husband's 105 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:42,519 a real thing, A real thing. Okay. A associate friend 106 00:06:42,560 --> 00:06:45,199 of mine hit me up and he was like, hey, 107 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:48,839 to see you. My wife and I are exploring an 108 00:06:48,879 --> 00:06:56,000 ethically non monogamous relationship. We were tasked with creating a 109 00:06:56,079 --> 00:06:59,319 list of who we would like to be, who we 110 00:06:59,319 --> 00:07:02,279 were interested in, and you've always been at the top 111 00:07:02,319 --> 00:07:05,839 of my list. He was like, so like, basically, like 112 00:07:06,000 --> 00:07:09,079 what do you think? And I was like, nigga, what 113 00:07:09,360 --> 00:07:12,279 the fuck? Like, I was like, and he was like, 114 00:07:12,360 --> 00:07:15,000 you want to talk to my wife? I said, put 115 00:07:15,040 --> 00:07:17,480 that bitch on the fountain. I said, put her on 116 00:07:17,480 --> 00:07:20,000 the phone, and he did. He put us in the 117 00:07:20,040 --> 00:07:24,839 group chat. We exchanged numbers, and that woman called me 118 00:07:24,879 --> 00:07:27,079 and she said to see if my husband's obsessed with you. 119 00:07:29,319 --> 00:07:34,279 She was like, you have always been kind of the 120 00:07:34,360 --> 00:07:37,240 talk with my husband, and now him and I are 121 00:07:37,319 --> 00:07:43,959 exploring ethical nominogamy and if you wouldn't, I'm with it. 122 00:07:44,560 --> 00:07:46,600 All I needed to do is hear her voice. I 123 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:48,360 was I was a little bit younger, I wasn't too young. 124 00:07:48,399 --> 00:07:50,560 Maybe this is the years ago five years ago. Okay, 125 00:07:50,759 --> 00:07:56,040 so I'm just like, oh, okay, long story short, this 126 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:58,519 man was low key like the love of my life. 127 00:07:58,839 --> 00:08:02,120 And basically the wife called me back and was like, 128 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:05,120 I kind of been off too much that I can chew. 129 00:08:05,199 --> 00:08:07,639 And I was like, wait a minute, like, girl, I'm 130 00:08:07,680 --> 00:08:09,639 in love with your husband. What the fuck is going on? 131 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:11,839 You first? You said I could now what's going on? 132 00:08:12,079 --> 00:08:15,439 And she said that once upon a time I told 133 00:08:15,480 --> 00:08:18,000 this guy said, hey, you know I'm gonna have to 134 00:08:18,040 --> 00:08:20,160 break up with you, right, And he was like why 135 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:22,319 why would you have to break up with me? And 136 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:24,240 I was like, because I want kids and you can't 137 00:08:24,240 --> 00:08:27,399 give me kids. The wife called me and was like, 138 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:31,800 my husband came back and said, to see it wants children? 139 00:08:31,879 --> 00:08:33,919 Can I give her kids? Is that part of the agreement? 140 00:08:34,480 --> 00:08:36,159 And she was like, bitch, I didn't sign up for 141 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:38,679 this shit. I didn't know that he could like you 142 00:08:38,799 --> 00:08:42,320 the way that heat. You know that he thought that 143 00:08:42,360 --> 00:08:44,919 he could like you, right, And so that was a 144 00:08:44,960 --> 00:08:47,559 whole thing. So once the one a time child I 145 00:08:47,639 --> 00:08:50,159 was in this ethically non monogamous w wasash and I 146 00:08:50,240 --> 00:08:52,279 brought all this up to say, y'all follow me here. 147 00:08:52,399 --> 00:08:55,960 Is that a part of this cold general conversation was 148 00:08:56,360 --> 00:09:01,120 living living a part together, and that was these couples 149 00:09:01,240 --> 00:09:05,840 that were living apart but they were together. And I 150 00:09:05,879 --> 00:09:09,080 feel like this is kind of what this article is discussing, 151 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:15,720 Like couples that are legally together but in reality a 152 00:09:15,799 --> 00:09:21,320 fucking party their living single lives also there that they're 153 00:09:21,360 --> 00:09:25,279 emotionally and physically disconnected. And I think this brings up 154 00:09:25,279 --> 00:09:28,840 the conversation of what is the value add of a 155 00:09:28,919 --> 00:09:32,440 legal marriage? Okay? And I think that people are finding 156 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:37,039 out that you lose a lot more in the marriage 157 00:09:37,080 --> 00:09:41,720 slash divorce than it is actually to gain because when 158 00:09:41,759 --> 00:09:45,320 people say love ain't enough, most of a marriage is 159 00:09:45,360 --> 00:09:49,679 really about the love and the connection, right, Like that's 160 00:09:49,799 --> 00:09:53,559 really mostly what it's about. And you end up combining 161 00:09:53,720 --> 00:09:57,279 assets and when the divorce happens, you find out that 162 00:09:59,120 --> 00:10:02,879 you lost a live more than love connection, that you 163 00:10:03,000 --> 00:10:07,799 lost houses, you lost fucking parental rights, you lost I 164 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:13,159 mean literally like real assets, investments, portfolio, like you split 165 00:10:13,240 --> 00:10:14,799 in shit that you never fucked. 166 00:10:14,480 --> 00:10:16,360 Speaker 2: Like, wait, I bought that into the marriage. 167 00:10:16,360 --> 00:10:18,919 Speaker 1: I bought that into the marriage, and now I have 168 00:10:19,000 --> 00:10:21,000 to split it. So this's this whole thing, you know, 169 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:26,399 and and I feel like I have experienced firsthand what 170 00:10:26,440 --> 00:10:30,000 it's like for just as a side person to like 171 00:10:32,720 --> 00:10:38,559 uh an or unorthodox kind of marriage. Like these were 172 00:10:38,600 --> 00:10:42,960 two people that were saying like, hey, I'm open today 173 00:10:43,000 --> 00:10:45,720 in other people. You're open today to other people. But 174 00:10:45,759 --> 00:10:48,360 then like in the end, like it was just like 175 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:51,840 this a weird thing. But I think that that's becoming 176 00:10:52,480 --> 00:10:54,559 a lot. Like you see like what's his name? What 177 00:10:54,600 --> 00:11:01,399 was it? Neo? Yeah, neo talking, he got three four. 178 00:11:01,279 --> 00:11:04,200 Speaker 4: Five and like not kissing in a row and then 179 00:11:04,240 --> 00:11:05,279 headed out to the concert. 180 00:11:05,399 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: I'm like, okay, he got three four five girlfriends, So 181 00:11:08,480 --> 00:11:11,120 now he's like that's like I feel like we're seeing 182 00:11:11,159 --> 00:11:15,159 a lot of non traditional type of relationships where people 183 00:11:15,200 --> 00:11:21,840 are maybe like not together but together legally together separated, 184 00:11:21,840 --> 00:11:24,279 which also brings up the conversation. It's like, as a 185 00:11:24,320 --> 00:11:27,039 single woman, if you meet a man and he says 186 00:11:27,120 --> 00:11:31,080 he's married but he's separated, what you're gonna do? 187 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:34,399 Speaker 4: I think he's still married, So I'm kind of backing away. 188 00:11:34,440 --> 00:11:38,039 That's just me, what about you? 189 00:11:38,039 --> 00:11:38,279 Speaker 3: You know? 190 00:11:38,480 --> 00:11:42,399 Speaker 1: I think it's interesting. I personally just like try my 191 00:11:42,440 --> 00:11:45,600 best to steer away. But also what I have seen 192 00:11:45,720 --> 00:11:51,480 people legitly separated, not involved with that woman baby since 193 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:55,759 for years. I mean legitly separated. But you also you 194 00:11:55,799 --> 00:11:58,600 are married man. Yeah, And I think that like when 195 00:11:58,600 --> 00:12:03,879 you're in your thirties, late thirties, no kids, never been married, shit, 196 00:12:04,039 --> 00:12:08,240 start getting Nobody told us about this stuff, you know, 197 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:11,440 when you talk about marriage, love and life. Nobody told 198 00:12:11,440 --> 00:12:13,600 you about this stuff. There's a lot I call them 199 00:12:13,639 --> 00:12:16,960 the the divorce dereks, the divorce dereks. There's a lot 200 00:12:16,960 --> 00:12:21,879 of divorce dereks out here that are actually separated but 201 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:26,320 legally married, yeah, and have no intentions on getting back 202 00:12:26,399 --> 00:12:32,960 with their partner wives. But there are that there's a process, 203 00:12:33,240 --> 00:12:36,919 there's a process before the divorce, right, And so I 204 00:12:36,960 --> 00:12:39,600 think that it just really is like tricky. It's almost 205 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:43,440 like we get like kind of life's left over. It's like, yeah, damn, 206 00:12:43,559 --> 00:12:46,039 like you on your second life. I'm on my first 207 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:46,799 life right. 208 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:50,039 Speaker 4: Right, So it definitely has like a little I'm like, dang, 209 00:12:50,679 --> 00:12:52,039 but I don't know, just a little piece of me 210 00:12:52,159 --> 00:12:54,919 is like I gotta see y'all separate is separated. 211 00:12:55,000 --> 00:12:55,960 Speaker 2: I need to see. 212 00:12:55,720 --> 00:13:00,440 Speaker 4: Like like just completely different lines of where I feel 213 00:13:00,480 --> 00:13:02,480 comfortable because I just feel like at the end of 214 00:13:02,480 --> 00:13:06,159 there's the bond sometimes that is. I mean, I would, 215 00:13:06,240 --> 00:13:08,360 I would just hoped it would be created when you 216 00:13:08,399 --> 00:13:11,360 actually go into a formal union with somebody that I'm like, 217 00:13:11,799 --> 00:13:15,200 it's easy to talk your shit, like when we're just 218 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:18,559 like at a bar, at a restaurant, but like, let's 219 00:13:18,559 --> 00:13:19,399 see she walk in here. 220 00:13:19,399 --> 00:13:22,320 Speaker 2: If your back don't get straight right like that. 221 00:13:22,679 --> 00:13:24,600 Speaker 1: But honestly to what I feel like, I always say, 222 00:13:24,679 --> 00:13:27,840 like there's like a compilation when I think about like, 223 00:13:27,919 --> 00:13:31,799 for example, like men are that are short, but if 224 00:13:31,840 --> 00:13:35,519 you're wealthy and short, it adds a little bit more, right, 225 00:13:36,080 --> 00:13:38,960 It's the same thing and the deficit. It's like I 226 00:13:39,480 --> 00:13:44,519 may can do married but separated, but if y'all got kids, 227 00:13:44,559 --> 00:13:47,000 but that I'm not doing it. Like if y'all if 228 00:13:47,000 --> 00:13:49,440 you have the co parent as well, like you can't 229 00:13:49,440 --> 00:13:55,039 be both. You can't be legally married slash separated and 230 00:13:55,159 --> 00:13:58,000 you have the co parent. Now that is too much 231 00:13:58,039 --> 00:14:00,759 for me. Like it's like a it's like a formula. 232 00:14:01,039 --> 00:14:04,679 Yeah I have like if you short but you have money. 233 00:14:06,039 --> 00:14:08,720 I thought this is real. And it said they were 234 00:14:08,799 --> 00:14:11,559 like six two and six four is kind of the same. 235 00:14:11,679 --> 00:14:14,480 And the guy was like what. It's not the same. 236 00:14:14,799 --> 00:14:18,559 If you are six' to, two it's, like, okay, yeah 237 00:14:18,759 --> 00:14:21,000 Maybe i'll Go. Dutch but if it's like if you 238 00:14:21,159 --> 00:14:23,799 six four and you say, that you're like, a maybe 239 00:14:23,799 --> 00:14:26,840 you're just don't tell me about your criminal. Past, right 240 00:14:27,120 --> 00:14:30,879 six four grants you so much more than six. Two 241 00:14:31,000 --> 00:14:33,240 it is not the. Same AND i feel, like, like, 242 00:14:33,559 --> 00:14:38,519 again height plus, wealth, look talk to me. Nice it. 243 00:14:38,559 --> 00:14:43,799 Depends but you're talking About. Mary but separate and you got, kids, 244 00:14:44,120 --> 00:14:47,440 bitch count me. OUT i. Can't it depends on the 245 00:14:47,480 --> 00:14:50,639 formula of the guy and what you have to. Offer 246 00:14:51,000 --> 00:14:54,240 but separated plus co, PARENTING i can't do. It if 247 00:14:54,240 --> 00:14:57,960 you were, separating there wasn't any children involved, you you 248 00:14:58,039 --> 00:15:01,120 might just swing my. Way who knows IF i truly 249 00:15:01,200 --> 00:15:04,879 believe you were, separated, right you? Know but that PART 250 00:15:05,600 --> 00:15:07,919 i believe. THAT i think that a lot of people 251 00:15:08,120 --> 00:15:13,000 are have seen the results of. Divorces they have seen 252 00:15:13,279 --> 00:15:19,000 just what's the girl From Real housewives Of atlanta what's her? 253 00:15:19,080 --> 00:15:21,679 Speaker 2: Name drew her husband living in the basement. 254 00:15:21,759 --> 00:15:25,080 Speaker 4: Child oh, no, NO i just saw it like on on social. 255 00:15:25,080 --> 00:15:26,720 Speaker 2: Media but, yes, yes, yes, yes. 256 00:15:26,559 --> 00:15:30,919 Speaker 1: The husband is living in the basement because the arrangement 257 00:15:31,360 --> 00:15:33,679 of the. DIVORCE i think they got the fate try 258 00:15:33,720 --> 00:15:36,960 to work it out. First but, like the husband is 259 00:15:37,000 --> 00:15:40,159 living in the basement and she has had court orders 260 00:15:40,279 --> 00:15:43,399 that she cannot vis this is her home or their, 261 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:46,519 home and the husband lived in the basement. 262 00:15:46,279 --> 00:15:47,919 Speaker 2: And she can't go to his. House she can't go 263 00:15:47,960 --> 00:15:49,159 to her basement in her. 264 00:15:49,279 --> 00:15:52,559 Speaker 1: Rasement it's crazy, thing you. Know So i've seen some 265 00:15:52,639 --> 00:15:55,639 shit AND i feel LIKE i feel like things are 266 00:15:55,639 --> 00:15:58,080 becoming a little bit, different you. KNOW i think that 267 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:05,080 women are more open to these like non traditional. Arrangements 268 00:16:05,120 --> 00:16:08,600 even in my girl chat there's a lot of Women 269 00:16:09,080 --> 00:16:12,519 christian women per se that are being approached By muslim 270 00:16:12,559 --> 00:16:15,679 men who can have a few wives and they're, like, 271 00:16:16,360 --> 00:16:19,759 Well i'm open to. Converting but what you. Know So 272 00:16:19,879 --> 00:16:23,360 i've seen a lot of just like non traditional kind 273 00:16:23,399 --> 00:16:27,159 of mixing. Situations But i'm not that, agile. 274 00:16:26,919 --> 00:16:28,679 Speaker 4: Yeah BECAUSE i feel, like what IF i fall in 275 00:16:28,720 --> 00:16:29,840 love and then you have to get the. 276 00:16:29,879 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 2: Divorce now you're, like, OH i don't want to get. 277 00:16:31,440 --> 00:16:33,080 Speaker 4: It it's like, okay well we didn't we donn did 278 00:16:33,080 --> 00:16:34,360 all this and now you don't want to get the, 279 00:16:34,399 --> 00:16:38,399 Divorce like, Right, YEAH i. 280 00:16:38,320 --> 00:16:40,639 Speaker 1: Think it's just a. Lot So, Honestly i'm not, surprised 281 00:16:40,799 --> 00:16:43,240 but you, said but it's staying out of out of 282 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:46,120 duty fear or, routine the red, flag or is it 283 00:16:46,159 --> 00:16:50,480 the refusal to do the work to. Reconnect i'm kind 284 00:16:50,480 --> 00:16:52,919 of on, one like both ends of the. Fence as 285 00:16:52,960 --> 00:16:57,279 much as people will presume, That i'm, like, girl if 286 00:16:57,320 --> 00:17:00,000 he not doing, this leave. HIM i always tell WOMEN 287 00:17:00,519 --> 00:17:04,279 i DON'T i coach marry, women, ironically And i'm not 288 00:17:04,319 --> 00:17:06,640 a married, person BUT i coach married. Women and When 289 00:17:06,640 --> 00:17:09,599 i'm telling, you my advice to marry women is far. 290 00:17:09,640 --> 00:17:13,279 Different this shit not no. Joke you married that, man under, god, 291 00:17:13,319 --> 00:17:15,599 bitch getting the, mug getting the, booth getting the. Field 292 00:17:15,599 --> 00:17:17,480 you gotta put that fucking work in getting. This you 293 00:17:17,759 --> 00:17:20,319 can't just be Like i'm done with. You, no you 294 00:17:20,440 --> 00:17:22,880 married that. Man you gotta do it the. Work you 295 00:17:22,880 --> 00:17:24,920 gotta go to, Counseling you gotta work it, out you. 296 00:17:24,920 --> 00:17:28,519 GOTTA i always, say, baby look if my husband cheat on, 297 00:17:28,559 --> 00:17:29,640 ME i don't know What i'm gonna. 298 00:17:29,640 --> 00:17:33,079 Speaker 4: Do and that is the honest, answer, RIGHT i think 299 00:17:33,119 --> 00:17:34,279 we we gotta stop. 300 00:17:34,319 --> 00:17:37,440 Speaker 2: Acting oh, No i'm that's not a Firmat let's not 301 00:17:37,480 --> 00:17:37,640 be so. 302 00:17:37,759 --> 00:17:43,960 Speaker 4: Cavalier in you an, oath like an agree a covenant, Essentially, 303 00:17:44,000 --> 00:17:46,480 no it is a covenant that you made that you're, like, 304 00:17:46,519 --> 00:17:46,799 Oh i'm. 305 00:17:46,839 --> 00:17:49,440 Speaker 1: DONE i mean people people are even, say look a, 306 00:17:49,519 --> 00:17:54,400 man give me twelve fifteen years of a good, life 307 00:17:55,920 --> 00:17:57,640 a good life and we didn't have, kids and you 308 00:17:57,759 --> 00:18:01,400 fucking around and look you have a little missed up 309 00:18:01,599 --> 00:18:04,480 you you. YOU i can't confirm with the not ima 310 00:18:04,559 --> 00:18:07,319 leave My husban'm gonna say that. Now look that's the. 311 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:08,799 Speaker 2: HONEST i think we need to start having. 312 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:11,720 Speaker 1: More conversations like you're talking about a life THAT i 313 00:18:11,759 --> 00:18:13,039 build with, you and you made a. 314 00:18:13,119 --> 00:18:15,839 Speaker 2: Mistake and, remember your life is not social. 315 00:18:15,920 --> 00:18:18,759 Speaker 4: Media your life is your husband and you the, Wife 316 00:18:18,839 --> 00:18:21,880 like stop trying to like Because i'm gonna. Be people 317 00:18:21,920 --> 00:18:25,640 gonna think whatever you, can you can break up with. 318 00:18:25,680 --> 00:18:27,319 Him they gonna say, something stay with, him say. 319 00:18:27,359 --> 00:18:31,359 Speaker 1: Something, yeah, yeah, yeah it's really it's really difficult to 320 00:18:31,400 --> 00:18:35,440 say so anyho. HMM i think we're living in some 321 00:18:35,519 --> 00:18:38,200 new new ages and new, times AND i think that 322 00:18:38,359 --> 00:18:41,200 men have more of a platform to be more flexible 323 00:18:41,200 --> 00:18:43,720 and what they. Want it doesn't have to be. Monogamy 324 00:18:43,799 --> 00:18:47,079 women are more. FLEXIBLE i think that that the numbers 325 00:18:47,079 --> 00:18:50,720 in the ratio of available men makes women a little 326 00:18:50,759 --> 00:18:54,559 bit more. Flexible and you've seen a lot of just 327 00:18:55,200 --> 00:19:00,319 non traditional hookups and link ups and ship you know 328 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:03,079 What i'm, Saying just to make sure you can't afford three. 329 00:19:03,079 --> 00:19:05,519 WIVES i always find the. Audacity it's, like, y'all ALMOST 330 00:19:05,640 --> 00:19:09,640 i met a man your. Event you remember that like 331 00:19:09,759 --> 00:19:12,680 pink event that you did at that, Place and they 332 00:19:12,720 --> 00:19:15,759 had like all of the like artists in the. Background 333 00:19:15,799 --> 00:19:18,440 it was like photos of, them like artwork of these 334 00:19:18,480 --> 00:19:19,480 like it was like. 335 00:19:19,680 --> 00:19:21,160 Speaker 2: A pastels and something. 336 00:19:21,160 --> 00:19:26,079 Speaker 1: Event, YES i met a man there and he had 337 00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:29,240 three of his girlfriends there AND i was, like. OH 338 00:19:29,319 --> 00:19:30,759 i was, like, oh, yeah you're a. Wife and he was, like, 339 00:19:30,759 --> 00:19:32,119 Oh i'm not. Married AND i was, like, OH i 340 00:19:32,160 --> 00:19:34,559 thought you, Said and he's like he, Said i'm in 341 00:19:34,599 --> 00:19:37,559 a polygamous. Relationship AND i look at, that nigga and my, sad, 342 00:19:37,599 --> 00:19:40,599 bitch you ain't got enough money to be. Polygamousts and 343 00:19:40,720 --> 00:19:45,599 that though you ain't got enough money to be, polygamousts 344 00:19:45,720 --> 00:19:48,480 you niggas out here just just doing shit just because 345 00:19:48,799 --> 00:19:50,559 you don't have enough money to be. 346 00:19:50,640 --> 00:19:53,160 Speaker 4: Polygamousts AND i think we should talk about. That you 347 00:19:53,240 --> 00:19:58,559 used to have enough money to date one person fifty, two. 348 00:20:00,240 --> 00:20:02,279 Speaker 2: That's. All i'm. Like i'm just, Like, OKAY i don't 349 00:20:02,279 --> 00:20:03,559 think we're there. Yet we need to see. 350 00:20:04,480 --> 00:20:07,680 Speaker 1: Audacity you have enough, money. Y'all not look, y'all Not 351 00:20:07,759 --> 00:20:12,480 Cam newton and Fucking neo and all these people that climb. Child, anyways, 352 00:20:13,039 --> 00:20:15,079 ANYWAYS i look at that. MAN i. 353 00:20:15,240 --> 00:20:17,759 Speaker 2: Laughed, no That, no that is comical your. 354 00:20:17,880 --> 00:20:23,359 Speaker 1: Poligaments, baby you ain't got enough money to Be they multiple, 355 00:20:23,400 --> 00:20:27,680 people all three of, them the whole. Crew, ANYWAYS i. 356 00:20:27,759 --> 00:20:35,079 Digress topic number, Two offset won't spousal. Support new details 357 00:20:35,119 --> 00:20:39,039 emerged That offset is now seeking spousal support and his 358 00:20:39,359 --> 00:20:43,319 ongoing divorce From CARDI. B according TO, tmz the rapper 359 00:20:43,400 --> 00:20:47,319 also requested joint legal cussy of their children While CARDI. 360 00:20:47,359 --> 00:20:49,279 B i got something to say about, that While CARDI 361 00:20:49,359 --> 00:20:54,200 b asks for primary physical. Custody they're on, again off 362 00:20:54,240 --> 00:20:58,599 again relationship has been plagued by, cheating, rumors emotional tor, 363 00:20:58,640 --> 00:21:04,119 boil and public, fallout including allegations of harassment and revenge. 364 00:21:04,200 --> 00:21:08,279 Porn as a drama continues to, unfold it raises a bigger. 365 00:21:08,359 --> 00:21:11,599 Question how can you spot the red flags early enough 366 00:21:11,680 --> 00:21:16,839 to avoid getting this, deep this deep into. Dysfunction, okay 367 00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:21,359 can we talk about the men that been ain't shit 368 00:21:21,519 --> 00:21:23,839 ass fathers that's now going. 369 00:21:23,640 --> 00:21:24,839 Speaker 2: For full fucking legal. 370 00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:32,599 Speaker 1: Custody this has been a whole thing of weekend, dads bootleg, 371 00:21:32,720 --> 00:21:37,359 stepdaddies and, like now you men are going for full. 372 00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:41,160 Custody you don't even know what fucking grade your kid is. 373 00:21:41,200 --> 00:21:43,240 In you don't know what they, Eat you don't know 374 00:21:43,279 --> 00:21:46,359 if they fucking allergic to peanuts or a jell. O, 375 00:21:46,359 --> 00:21:52,079 okay these men are now literally in, court revengeful getting 376 00:21:52,119 --> 00:21:54,680 trying to get full custody of these, kids which is beyond. 377 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:57,559 Me you know that the kid been with the mama 378 00:21:57,640 --> 00:22:00,480 this whole, time, baby cut it. Out you don't know 379 00:22:00,799 --> 00:22:02,799 about this kid, really you've been picking them up on 380 00:22:02,839 --> 00:22:05,799 the weekend once a, summer, okay every other. Summer, Right 381 00:22:05,839 --> 00:22:08,119 so that's just one. Thing but, also can we talk about. 382 00:22:08,119 --> 00:22:11,680 It first of, All CARDI, B i love you AND 383 00:22:12,559 --> 00:22:15,319 i Love CARDI b, seriously but let's get the fuck into. 384 00:22:15,319 --> 00:22:18,920 It CARDI. B your man proposes, you proposed to you 385 00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:22,240 at a. Concert let's talk about. It he had four 386 00:22:22,319 --> 00:22:25,799 or five kids before you fucking met. Him who knows 387 00:22:25,839 --> 00:22:28,839 what that was, like who knows what that? Was like 388 00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:34,640 the man proposed to you at a concert and then 389 00:22:34,759 --> 00:22:35,319 y'all went to the. 390 00:22:35,319 --> 00:22:39,119 Speaker 2: Courthouse So, cardi, hey. 391 00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:42,359 Speaker 1: You never, had you never. Had and again this is 392 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:45,200 not to say that the weddings make it more real 393 00:22:45,359 --> 00:22:48,200 or the bigger the ring or the, bigger. 394 00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:52,079 Speaker 4: But he proposed to you at a, concert very, showy 395 00:22:54,279 --> 00:22:59,200 very like, performative if you, will very. 396 00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:03,759 Speaker 1: Ghetto it was a, concert a hood ass concert that 397 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:06,400 the boy proposed to, you and then you went to 398 00:23:07,160 --> 00:23:12,799 the courthouse and got. Married so there is. THAT i 399 00:23:12,920 --> 00:23:15,960 called that from a million miles. Away, yeah you, know 400 00:23:16,640 --> 00:23:19,400 a million miles. Away and also, too like we have 401 00:23:19,559 --> 00:23:23,720 all seen Just cardi just unravel so. Much we have 402 00:23:23,960 --> 00:23:29,319 done so Many, again we talked About, carley we talked 403 00:23:29,319 --> 00:23:35,960 About Brittany renner And cardi B, ollie y'all can call. Me, okay, 404 00:23:36,839 --> 00:23:39,000 look so we can coach y'all through, this but let's 405 00:23:39,079 --> 00:23:44,200 just we cannot fail to talk About CARDI b without 406 00:23:44,240 --> 00:23:50,519 talking about that motherfucking. Comeback can we talk About Tiana? 407 00:23:50,599 --> 00:23:54,799 Taylor and can we talk about The Cardi B's, okay, yes, listen, 408 00:23:54,920 --> 00:24:01,440 ladies have you A Tiana? Taylor cardi be Cash doll fucking, 409 00:24:01,480 --> 00:24:05,359 summer the way that these women been popping out with 410 00:24:05,519 --> 00:24:06,799 new niggas. 411 00:24:06,319 --> 00:24:11,559 Speaker 2: Happily all, smiles all. Smiles i'm, like goshy'all met that. 412 00:24:11,599 --> 00:24:16,359 Speaker 1: Man that baby was ten months, old, period he, Said she, 413 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:19,960 said what's? Up i'm on to the Next we. Haven't 414 00:24:20,079 --> 00:24:21,839 this is a this is a Little this is a. 415 00:24:21,880 --> 00:24:26,279 Movement this is a movement of women say fuck, You 416 00:24:27,079 --> 00:24:30,079 i'm not gonna take this treatment. Anymore and if you 417 00:24:30,240 --> 00:24:33,559 can move, on so CAN. I and you were to 418 00:24:33,680 --> 00:24:34,119 know what's. 419 00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:34,559 Speaker 2: So, funny? 420 00:24:35,519 --> 00:24:38,960 Speaker 1: Ladies this is so, good this is so. GOOD i 421 00:24:39,119 --> 00:24:46,079 always say women cry, first men cry. Longer women cry, 422 00:24:46,160 --> 00:24:54,680 first men cry. Longer, Listen Emon schumpert offset and who 423 00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:57,880 the fuck? Else who was the third? Person? Oh no Cash, 424 00:24:57,920 --> 00:25:03,559 dolls baby. Daddy oh them niggas, struggling all of them. 425 00:25:03,599 --> 00:25:06,240 Speaker 2: Struggling none of them got them a new. 426 00:25:06,319 --> 00:25:11,440 Speaker 1: Piece, okay women cry, first men cry, longer and Cash 427 00:25:11,599 --> 00:25:14,720 doll happily blended family at Fucking Disney. 428 00:25:14,759 --> 00:25:16,400 Speaker 2: World Tianna taylor. 429 00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:20,920 Speaker 1: Planning the fucking, birthday surprise birthday for her. Man no, 430 00:25:21,000 --> 00:25:24,519 notes no NOTE cardi b on the yacht with her? 431 00:25:24,640 --> 00:25:28,880 Nigga where is he? Mine where is what what's his? 432 00:25:28,960 --> 00:25:29,119 Speaker 4: Name? 433 00:25:29,160 --> 00:25:30,759 Speaker 2: Tracy? 434 00:25:31,000 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 1: Tracy where is he struggling with some Random instagram fake 435 00:25:35,279 --> 00:25:39,000 booty girl who knows where he? Is and all sat 436 00:25:39,039 --> 00:25:44,000 ain't got. New women cry, first men cry. Longer and 437 00:25:44,119 --> 00:25:48,279 these women have had they have substance in their new. 438 00:25:48,359 --> 00:25:53,359 Speaker 2: Relationship and the men are. Scrambling they are he mind. 439 00:25:53,160 --> 00:25:55,119 Speaker 1: Nobody hard here back what he? Doing we ain't heard 440 00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:59,319 it from him Since dancing with The. Stars we heard 441 00:25:59,319 --> 00:26:03,039 her from that man's dancing with the laying load the words, 442 00:26:03,079 --> 00:26:04,359 tiana boot, up. 443 00:26:07,400 --> 00:26:10,680 Speaker 2: Looking, good, party boot, up. 444 00:26:11,039 --> 00:26:17,880 Speaker 1: And they're all of their men are. Scrambling, ladies if 445 00:26:17,960 --> 00:26:22,160 you ain't heard nothing, else what's my relationship advice for the? 446 00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:25,000 Month be A cardi b be A, tiana be a 447 00:26:25,079 --> 00:26:28,480 cash Style, okay and that's it on that, anyways we 448 00:26:28,640 --> 00:26:31,400 off that look we are we, Are we off that, 449 00:26:31,559 --> 00:26:35,480 Look we off that soap box. Period. Okay them men 450 00:26:35,519 --> 00:26:37,799 ain't found nobody, that none of them in a. RELATIONSHIP 451 00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:41,319 i feel like this is a new. Movement it's like 452 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:43,920 a love it SIS i love. It, no you're worth 453 00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:46,839 an attacks at taxing. 454 00:26:48,880 --> 00:26:51,759 Speaker 2: Huh okay, literally. 455 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:54,559 Speaker 1: And for all you women, also this is a good 456 00:26:54,599 --> 00:26:56,640 thing for all you. WOMEN i get this question every 457 00:26:56,720 --> 00:27:01,200 day became a single. Mom do you think men will date? 458 00:27:01,279 --> 00:27:04,359 Me will? Kid? Now granted you not a, celebrity But 459 00:27:05,039 --> 00:27:09,960 Tianna taylor has. Children, Yes cardi b had fucking, kids 460 00:27:10,200 --> 00:27:13,200 and so cash y'all got two fucking. Kids all of 461 00:27:13,200 --> 00:27:15,880 them got to a, piece all three of them got 462 00:27:15,920 --> 00:27:17,680 to a, piece and they found new. Men so these 463 00:27:17,799 --> 00:27:20,039 niggas don't give a. Fuck, Okay so please don't let 464 00:27:20,079 --> 00:27:23,359 having kids hold you, back because clearly men out here 465 00:27:23,440 --> 00:27:27,079 being stepdaddy's and bonus dads, period pointing of. Blank, anyway 466 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:29,720 we off that soap, box going to Our Bitch You 467 00:27:29,759 --> 00:27:33,480 Smell good. Segment you, know y'all know this is my. Favorite, 468 00:27:33,640 --> 00:27:37,960 Okay so we've been doing empties and y'all, know IF 469 00:27:38,039 --> 00:27:42,680 i empty a, bottle, baby it is something to be. 470 00:27:42,799 --> 00:27:51,000 Said this bottle is legit. Empty it is legit. Empty 471 00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:53,960 and the funniest thing is THAT i went TO la 472 00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:56,839 a couple of weeks ago and my homegirl THAT i 473 00:27:56,960 --> 00:27:59,519 put on this fragrance had a full bottle of. It 474 00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:01,079 she was, like, GIRL i remember you talking ABOUT i 475 00:28:01,119 --> 00:28:03,680 love this. FRAGRANCE i was fraying her shit CAUSE i was, 476 00:28:03,720 --> 00:28:04,359 LIKE i ain't got no. 477 00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:04,880 Speaker 2: More i'm. 478 00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:07,559 Speaker 1: Out i'm. OUT i ain't got no, more. Y'all this 479 00:28:07,759 --> 00:28:11,839 fragrance Is Wulan child By Nie. Shawne and WHEN i tell, 480 00:28:11,880 --> 00:28:15,839 you the green tea note in this fragrance is so freaking. 481 00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:20,319 Good And i'm bringing these up because it is, summer. 482 00:28:20,640 --> 00:28:24,920 Y'ALL i have, legit no lie over two hundred. Fragrance, 483 00:28:25,079 --> 00:28:27,519 literally my fragrance pledge is probably about fifty thousand. DOLLARS 484 00:28:28,039 --> 00:28:31,079 i ain't low on a, thing, BABY i got full, 485 00:28:31,200 --> 00:28:34,720 bottles duplicates of many. Fragrance But i'm coming to you 486 00:28:34,839 --> 00:28:38,880 today to show you a fragrance THAT i. Emptied, OKAY 487 00:28:39,279 --> 00:28:41,160 i don't hit the bottom of no. Bottle. 488 00:28:41,240 --> 00:28:44,839 Speaker 2: Baby IF i hit the, bottom it's a Winning i'm. 489 00:28:44,920 --> 00:28:49,400 Speaker 1: Obsessed. Okay this Is Wulan child By Niche, Shae Nie, 490 00:28:49,400 --> 00:28:54,200 SHAE i have more fragrances in your in this house 491 00:28:55,400 --> 00:28:58,480 than any fragrance THAT i. Own sponsor me and stop 492 00:28:58,519 --> 00:29:02,480 playing on my fucking. Name, Okay, niehae call me all. 493 00:29:02,559 --> 00:29:06,759 RIGHT i have so many fragrances from you, all all. 494 00:29:06,839 --> 00:29:10,960 Right i'm obsessed with this fragrance. House and it's really 495 00:29:11,039 --> 00:29:14,359 because of the projection in the siage when you wear, 496 00:29:14,519 --> 00:29:16,720 this you can smell. It IF i wash my, CLOTHES 497 00:29:16,799 --> 00:29:20,400 i could smell it on. There, still that's so. Good, 498 00:29:20,680 --> 00:29:26,480 listen so, good nie woulin. Chot, ladies if you're a summer, 499 00:29:26,559 --> 00:29:30,960 girl if you're, fresh just if you're a fresh, girly, 500 00:29:31,119 --> 00:29:33,480 right if you like a fresh, Scent i'm telling You 501 00:29:34,079 --> 00:29:37,599 i've already talked About, birato young. Girls this is wulan. 502 00:29:37,759 --> 00:29:42,680 Chid niehe's woolan. Chid it is just too good to be. 503 00:29:42,799 --> 00:29:45,960 True And i've hit the. Bottom i've hit the. Bottom 504 00:29:46,920 --> 00:29:47,839 it's literally nothing in. 505 00:29:47,920 --> 00:29:48,039 Speaker 3: Here. 506 00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:51,119 Speaker 1: OKAY i was springing my homegirl fragrance In. La All, 507 00:29:51,200 --> 00:29:53,480 right it's just too good to be. 508 00:29:53,559 --> 00:29:55,319 Speaker 2: TRUE i. Say the notes on hold, on. 509 00:29:55,440 --> 00:30:01,640 Speaker 1: Y'all the notes in this are burgami. ORANGE i Love. 510 00:30:01,680 --> 00:30:05,759 Bergamont you gotta be grown to wear, Burgamte bergamont. Orange 511 00:30:06,319 --> 00:30:11,440 let's see, mandarin oohlong. Tea THE t, notes, Y'ALL i 512 00:30:11,599 --> 00:30:14,799 know it sounds, weird like it's, like what DOES t smell? 513 00:30:15,000 --> 00:30:17,519 Like if you? Know you know when you when you 514 00:30:17,680 --> 00:30:20,720 smell it in? Here the tnte in, this and it's so. 515 00:30:20,880 --> 00:30:24,000 Speaker 2: Crazy, nutmeg musk and fig are the base. 516 00:30:24,119 --> 00:30:28,839 Speaker 1: Notes. Okay the heart note is really what carries the. 517 00:30:28,920 --> 00:30:32,440 Fragrance and one of the hard notes is this oohlong t. 518 00:30:33,200 --> 00:30:36,880 Notes this is one of my favorite favorite. Fragrances earlier, 519 00:30:36,960 --> 00:30:42,200 today my sister SAID i better be on the fragrance 520 00:30:42,240 --> 00:30:44,640 wheel AND i, said, well some of them going in 521 00:30:44,759 --> 00:30:47,319 my going in my. Casket she was, saying, like, bitch 522 00:30:47,440 --> 00:30:49,960 the day you, die you better put me on the 523 00:30:50,039 --> 00:30:52,240 wheel for some of these. Fragrances AND i, said, well 524 00:30:52,279 --> 00:30:54,119 some of them is going in my. Casket this is 525 00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:55,960 one of. Them, okay this is one of them That 526 00:30:55,960 --> 00:30:57,720 i'm gonna, say put that shit in my cask and 527 00:30:57,839 --> 00:31:00,039 nobody can have. It, okay put it in my. CAST i, 528 00:31:00,079 --> 00:31:03,079 said that's wulan shah nie. Seanne it's too good to be, true. 529 00:31:03,160 --> 00:31:05,200 Y'all i'm telling WHAT i. Heard i'm telling you WHAT i, know, 530 00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:09,119 baby all. Right, anyways we offer that bit you smell 531 00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:11,759 good for, it bit you smell good, segment, y'all is 532 00:31:11,839 --> 00:31:13,799 too good to be. True that it's one of my. 533 00:31:13,920 --> 00:31:17,599 Empties AND i literally never hit the bottom of a. Bottle, 534 00:31:17,920 --> 00:31:21,079 okay it's. Good get, In get, in why you, can 535 00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:27,680 okay this, sorry dear to see a SEGMENT i love 536 00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:30,559 when y'all write me. In, okay write Me. Okay the 537 00:31:30,640 --> 00:31:32,599 link is in my. BIO i always post a. Link 538 00:31:32,880 --> 00:31:35,160 y'all can write me boy snow me, in. Y'all y'all 539 00:31:35,200 --> 00:31:38,480 want some live relationship advice right in To dear to see? 540 00:31:38,519 --> 00:31:38,559 Speaker 3: You? 541 00:31:38,880 --> 00:31:40,759 Speaker 1: Okay, Anyways, okay we're planning. 542 00:31:40,599 --> 00:31:44,839 Speaker 3: Tore dear to see. You how do you know when 543 00:31:44,880 --> 00:31:48,279 a good man really is a good. Man i've been 544 00:31:48,319 --> 00:31:50,559 with my boyfriend for a few months, now AND i 545 00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:52,759 can feel that he loves me and we are so happy. 546 00:31:52,839 --> 00:31:55,440 Together but what DO i do about that little voice 547 00:31:55,480 --> 00:31:57,519 in the back of my head telling me that he 548 00:31:57,640 --> 00:32:00,160 might be playing me for a? Fool thank you so 549 00:32:00,279 --> 00:32:01,480 much and good luck on your new. 550 00:32:01,559 --> 00:32:06,920 Speaker 1: Podcast oh this one is kind of more complex BECAUSE 551 00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:09,480 i want to know a little bit more about why 552 00:32:09,519 --> 00:32:11,079 do you feel like he is playing you for a? 553 00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:13,839 Fool and the reason why that's important is, because, like 554 00:32:15,119 --> 00:32:20,359 sometimes women can get into relationships and they're so used 555 00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:23,960 to be treated being treated, poorly and they're so used 556 00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:27,279 to toxic men that they don't see a good thing coming, 557 00:32:27,640 --> 00:32:30,440 right and they're skeptical of the good. Things it's, like, 558 00:32:30,640 --> 00:32:32,519 oh this is too good to be. True he must be, 559 00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:35,480 Lying he must be, cheating he must Be, no it's 560 00:32:35,559 --> 00:32:38,680 actually not. You you came across a good, man. Right 561 00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:42,400 but it's, Like i'm also, what listen to your intuitions 562 00:32:42,400 --> 00:32:46,000 type of gul, Too, okay that your intuition is protects 563 00:32:46,039 --> 00:32:49,880 you from so, much it's literally to protect you from 564 00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:54,319 harm and. Danger So i'm more so like what you, 565 00:32:54,519 --> 00:32:57,200 know what you find, out what you? See you, know, 566 00:32:57,440 --> 00:33:00,680 like what what is it that you've seen that you're, 567 00:33:00,799 --> 00:33:03,799 LIKE i can't, help but there's a small little voice 568 00:33:03,799 --> 00:33:07,240 in my head that keeps questioning whether he's truly genuine 569 00:33:07,559 --> 00:33:10,160 or secretly playing her, Right and so my thing is, 570 00:33:10,279 --> 00:33:14,160 like check, yourself make sure that it's not childhood trauma 571 00:33:14,720 --> 00:33:19,400 or just baggage that you're dragging in from a past, relationship, 572 00:33:19,559 --> 00:33:23,160 right but also listen to your. Intuition. Right SO i 573 00:33:23,279 --> 00:33:25,920 WISH i would have known a little bit. MORE i 574 00:33:26,039 --> 00:33:29,200 want to know if it's like he's really a good, Man, 575 00:33:29,319 --> 00:33:33,759 savannah but you you just got so much, yeah self, 576 00:33:33,799 --> 00:33:37,799 sabotage just baggage and trauma from past, relationships or you're 577 00:33:37,839 --> 00:33:42,200 attracted to toxic. Things, right when you get a relationship 578 00:33:42,240 --> 00:33:45,920 that's actually calm and, respective you're just you're almost like 579 00:33:46,079 --> 00:33:49,839 picking fights and like looking for the drama in. It all, 580 00:33:49,960 --> 00:33:52,000 Right so that's just one thing Where i'm kind of, like, 581 00:33:52,079 --> 00:33:54,799 okay could it be? That but also it's, like don't 582 00:33:54,839 --> 00:34:00,279 skip over that look that turning in in your. Gut you. 583 00:34:00,400 --> 00:34:03,000 Know SO i don't have that much, information BUT i 584 00:34:03,240 --> 00:34:06,880 was just you, know encourage this woman to check, yourself 585 00:34:06,960 --> 00:34:09,599 do an, audit do an audit of that, relationship and 586 00:34:09,679 --> 00:34:12,719 make sure you be real about, it, Right like what 587 00:34:13,159 --> 00:34:15,679 is it that making that's making you think that this 588 00:34:15,920 --> 00:34:17,360 person could be playing? 589 00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:19,719 Speaker 4: You double pound on that real part BECAUSE i think 590 00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:22,239 sometimes we like don't even realize we're living in a. 591 00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:24,320 Speaker 2: Fantasy we're, like, no we didn't see. That you saw. 592 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:26,239 Speaker 1: That you saw, That, yeah you saw. 593 00:34:26,320 --> 00:34:27,320 Speaker 2: That you saw. 594 00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:30,719 Speaker 1: That SO i wonder if you, know maybe she's seen 595 00:34:31,360 --> 00:34:34,880 something that's kind of or just like you, know even 596 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:38,559 like the past just kind of it's a chaos that 597 00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:40,440 when things get, quiet. 598 00:34:40,599 --> 00:34:43,079 Speaker 4: Because it sounds like she's, happy like she says like 599 00:34:43,199 --> 00:34:45,239 she's there's some signs that he, loves like he cares 600 00:34:45,320 --> 00:34:45,559 for her. 601 00:34:45,679 --> 00:34:48,480 Speaker 2: Deeply so it's like even a few months, too, yeah you. 602 00:34:48,599 --> 00:34:50,639 Speaker 4: Know so it's JUST i think that that's, Real, like 603 00:34:51,519 --> 00:34:55,159 let's do an audit and let's my self, sabotage. 604 00:34:54,679 --> 00:34:57,599 Speaker 2: Like because that's that's so. Real we do that because 605 00:34:57,599 --> 00:34:59,679 we do. That, Really, NO i don't want to feel 606 00:34:59,760 --> 00:35:00,840 that what's wrong with? 607 00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:03,920 Speaker 1: You why are you so? Nice and it's like, sorry, 608 00:35:05,599 --> 00:35:08,760 right like why you you, know you know you want 609 00:35:08,840 --> 00:35:10,599 to think about those kind of. Things you want somebody 610 00:35:10,639 --> 00:35:13,320 that's kind and, genuine and you, know sometimes we're just 611 00:35:13,440 --> 00:35:17,079 not in a space to really quite accept that and recognize, 612 00:35:17,159 --> 00:35:20,960 that and we're like fishing for the drama and the 613 00:35:21,119 --> 00:35:24,159 chaos and trying to figure out like is this? Religiou it's, like, 614 00:35:24,239 --> 00:35:26,320 girl you just met a great. Guy that's kind of. 615 00:35:26,360 --> 00:35:29,440 Normal can we normalize normal. 616 00:35:29,199 --> 00:35:31,800 Speaker 2: Men that's not with the, drama that's not you, know 617 00:35:32,599 --> 00:35:35,679 trying to talk to you friend just. 618 00:35:35,880 --> 00:35:41,440 Speaker 1: Like, baseline cool, dude like cool regular. People you, know 619 00:35:41,639 --> 00:35:44,280 so interesting. Enough BUT i would, say do an, audit check, 620 00:35:44,320 --> 00:35:47,039 yourself be real about, it, okay make sure that you 621 00:35:47,719 --> 00:35:54,039 are not just attracting people that that's full of chaos 622 00:35:54,119 --> 00:35:56,480 and so now you don't really know like what, calm 623 00:35:56,719 --> 00:36:00,320 cool and just peace looks like in your. Relationship so, 624 00:36:00,719 --> 00:36:04,519 interesting but, yeah good luck to you, says it's only 625 00:36:04,559 --> 00:36:06,320 been a few, months so keep your eye, out but, 626 00:36:07,079 --> 00:36:09,320 yeah do a little self dive on. 627 00:36:09,519 --> 00:36:09,559 Speaker 3: That. 628 00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:16,719 Speaker 1: Okay our second voicemail is my son the? Problem dare to. 629 00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:20,960 Speaker 5: SIYA i am thirty, two living In New, york very, 630 00:36:21,000 --> 00:36:22,719 beautiful go to church Every. 631 00:36:22,760 --> 00:36:23,960 Speaker 1: SUNDAY i take care of. 632 00:36:24,039 --> 00:36:26,280 Speaker 5: Myself i'm in the, GYM i drink my, Water i'm 633 00:36:26,360 --> 00:36:26,519 in my. 634 00:36:26,639 --> 00:36:27,519 Speaker 3: BUSINESS i have a good. 635 00:36:27,639 --> 00:36:32,639 Speaker 5: Job all of these. THINGS i also have a fourteen 636 00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,840 year old. Son and my question to you, is what 637 00:36:36,360 --> 00:36:40,360 is this taboo or IT'S i don't. KNOW i feel 638 00:36:40,360 --> 00:36:44,000 Like i'm missing. Something it seems like the men aren't 639 00:36:44,079 --> 00:36:49,400 interested in either single, moms single moms with, boys and 640 00:36:49,519 --> 00:36:52,559 THEN i have like, Both i'm a single mom with 641 00:36:52,639 --> 00:36:53,239 a teenage. 642 00:36:53,320 --> 00:36:56,519 Speaker 1: Boy, like AM i missing? 643 00:36:56,639 --> 00:37:00,079 Speaker 5: Something do guys not like? That because it's like as 644 00:37:00,119 --> 00:37:02,239 soon AS i tell a guy THAT i have a 645 00:37:02,320 --> 00:37:05,880 teenager teenage, son he's, fourteen they kind of seem to 646 00:37:06,000 --> 00:37:09,480 run away a little. Bit And i'm, LIKE i don't 647 00:37:09,559 --> 00:37:12,920 have the baby daddy. DRAMA i don't have. 648 00:37:13,000 --> 00:37:15,400 Speaker 1: A bunch of kids and just have, Him so what 649 00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:15,920 is the? 650 00:37:16,079 --> 00:37:18,639 Speaker 5: Issue AND i just feel like it can't be me 651 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:21,079 BECAUSE i take care of, myself you, Know AND i 652 00:37:21,159 --> 00:37:23,760 pray AND i Ask god to send me a, husband 653 00:37:23,880 --> 00:37:26,719 And i'm waiting for my husband to find. Me i've 654 00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:31,559 been following all of your, advice not. Dating, Crazy what 655 00:37:31,679 --> 00:37:32,159 AM i doing? 656 00:37:32,280 --> 00:37:32,519 Speaker 1: Wrong? 657 00:37:32,679 --> 00:37:36,159 Speaker 5: Like is the single mom thing like really an issue with? 658 00:37:36,239 --> 00:37:38,679 Speaker 3: Men you know? 659 00:37:38,800 --> 00:37:41,159 Speaker 1: WHAT a lot of the things that she named are 660 00:37:41,280 --> 00:37:45,400 not things that men are looking. For that's what women don't, understand. 661 00:37:46,719 --> 00:37:47,000 Speaker 3: Some of. 662 00:37:47,079 --> 00:37:49,440 Speaker 1: Them, like of course men are. Attracted they want to 663 00:37:49,480 --> 00:37:52,920 be attracted to someone, physically. Right but it's like ALL 664 00:37:53,199 --> 00:37:56,199 i heard this every fucking. DAY i have a, Degree 665 00:37:56,920 --> 00:38:00,519 i'm a good, WOMAN i love you, KNOW i, COOK i. 666 00:38:00,719 --> 00:38:04,440 Clean that is not what a man is looking. For, 667 00:38:05,039 --> 00:38:09,079 okay that is not what you should be leveraging as a, woman. 668 00:38:09,239 --> 00:38:12,760 Right AND i hear this so, much AND i think 669 00:38:12,800 --> 00:38:15,519 that the key thing is just in your, head, right 670 00:38:15,960 --> 00:38:18,280 it's in your. Head this is not this is not 671 00:38:18,480 --> 00:38:21,599 actually about the, child, Right this is about actually everything 672 00:38:21,639 --> 00:38:24,159 that you spoke about before that you feel, like you 673 00:38:24,320 --> 00:38:26,639 take care of, yourself you're a praying, woman you do, 674 00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:28,800 good you look, good you got a good, job. Whatever 675 00:38:29,199 --> 00:38:32,119 and it's like when you see a, man AND i 676 00:38:32,159 --> 00:38:34,239 say this all the, time when a man is at 677 00:38:34,320 --> 00:38:37,559 the altar and he's crying with his little cue card 678 00:38:37,639 --> 00:38:41,639 for his vows and he's, shaking right and he's crying 679 00:38:41,760 --> 00:38:45,320 his little eyes. Out he's, like you made me a better, 680 00:38:45,519 --> 00:38:49,039 man and you helped me be a better. Father and, 681 00:38:49,199 --> 00:38:53,760 you he's, saying you're a, Patient you're, kind you're, compromising you're. 682 00:38:53,880 --> 00:38:58,639 Understanding that is what that is what the men are looking, for. 683 00:38:58,920 --> 00:39:02,119 Okay AND i know it's like a catch twenty two because, 684 00:39:02,239 --> 00:39:05,840 yes attraction is like a, baseline, Right BUT i, see 685 00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:08,199 and this is to all of my, sisters all of 686 00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:11,960 my black. Women let me tell you. This the, job the, 687 00:39:12,159 --> 00:39:17,159 degree and your income is not your currency in, life 688 00:39:17,639 --> 00:39:20,400 and you gotta hop off of. It it's such a 689 00:39:20,760 --> 00:39:24,559 masculine doggie dog world that you're. Playing AND i want 690 00:39:24,639 --> 00:39:28,079 you to relinquish yourself out of the poverty and the 691 00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:32,360 fucking jail Of i'm doing good for. Myself i'm a high, 692 00:39:32,480 --> 00:39:36,280 EARNER i pay my own. Bills please get off that. Horse. 693 00:39:36,440 --> 00:39:39,360 Okay that is not what men want from, you all. 694 00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:45,599 Right men want you to be emotionally, sound, patient, kind. 695 00:39:46,199 --> 00:39:49,000 Nurturing they want to see the wife in you and 696 00:39:49,119 --> 00:39:49,760 the mother in. 697 00:39:49,880 --> 00:39:50,800 Speaker 2: You that's. 698 00:39:50,880 --> 00:39:55,679 Speaker 1: It, please put your accolades behind the accolades, Ooh i'm 699 00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:58,559 about to get on, one. Y'all for black women in, 700 00:39:58,639 --> 00:40:02,000 particular the accolade that you learned in life is the 701 00:40:02,199 --> 00:40:05,760 doggy dog world that we used to compete with white. People. 702 00:40:06,239 --> 00:40:09,480 Period you don't want to compete with that when it 703 00:40:09,559 --> 00:40:11,599 comes to your man or, right you don't want to 704 00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:15,159 use those same things to compete when it comes to 705 00:40:15,280 --> 00:40:18,400 your man and your. Partner what we were told to go, 706 00:40:18,599 --> 00:40:21,199 out get an, education don't depend on the man from. 707 00:40:21,239 --> 00:40:24,760 That that is what we used to compete with white. 708 00:40:24,840 --> 00:40:28,400 PEOPLE i went to two, Pwy's, OKAY i got two 709 00:40:28,519 --> 00:40:31,920 degrees from two p. Wis that is WHAT i was 710 00:40:32,039 --> 00:40:35,079 taught to compete with these white folk where money wasn't an. 711 00:40:35,119 --> 00:40:40,039 Issue don't use those things to compete in your love, Life, 712 00:40:40,280 --> 00:40:45,599 okay you got to relinquish, it free. Yourself black men 713 00:40:46,000 --> 00:40:50,519 are not looking for, money degrees and fucking. 714 00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:53,360 Speaker 2: Success they're looking. 715 00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:57,360 Speaker 1: For the, softness, okay and black women that's what they. 716 00:40:57,480 --> 00:41:00,280 Want they want the, kindness they want understand and then 717 00:41:00,360 --> 00:41:03,280 they won't. Love they want. Patience AND i hear this 718 00:41:03,519 --> 00:41:05,199 type of call every fuck of. That i'm let you 719 00:41:05,239 --> 00:41:07,159 know this today. Baby it ain't your fourteen year. Old 720 00:41:07,480 --> 00:41:10,480 it ain't your. Kid, yeah you know how many men she, 721 00:41:10,519 --> 00:41:15,559 said you're thirty two years, Old so see year olds got. Kids, 722 00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:17,519 okay it ain't your. 723 00:41:17,599 --> 00:41:17,880 Speaker 4: Child. 724 00:41:17,960 --> 00:41:23,159 Speaker 1: Baby you have to really tap into a different aura 725 00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:25,360 of what you. Know what you have going, on and 726 00:41:25,800 --> 00:41:28,840 being a praying woman is, great, right But i'm telling 727 00:41:28,920 --> 00:41:33,760 You black women have to free themselves from this boss. 728 00:41:34,079 --> 00:41:41,639 LIFE a man will marry A starbucks. Barista, okay why 729 00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:44,519 because she was? Understanding you ever seen these women that 730 00:41:44,639 --> 00:41:47,679 be like? Girl you know you saw you saw tyrone new? 731 00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:51,559 Girlfriend you, know can you believe? It let me tell 732 00:41:51,559 --> 00:41:55,320 you About tyrone's new. Girlfriend tyrone's new girlfriend know how 733 00:41:55,360 --> 00:41:58,199 to fucking. Listen she knows how to shut, up she 734 00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:01,440 knows how to, submit she knows how to be understanding and. 735 00:42:01,599 --> 00:42:03,599 Patient they don't have nothing to do with what you 736 00:42:03,760 --> 00:42:08,239 look like what you. Get But tyrone's new girlfriend is 737 00:42:08,400 --> 00:42:12,719 making him feel like king fucking. Type. Okay she's making 738 00:42:12,840 --> 00:42:16,920 him feel so good about so many, things and that 739 00:42:18,199 --> 00:42:21,960 is what men are looking. For so everything you, name sweet, 740 00:42:22,000 --> 00:42:25,719 girl is my son the. Problem, no it's not your, Son, 741 00:42:25,840 --> 00:42:29,800 okay it's your perspective on what you think you bring 742 00:42:29,920 --> 00:42:32,400 to the. Table once upon a time somebody asked me, 743 00:42:32,519 --> 00:42:35,880 saying what would you say to a man that asks 744 00:42:35,920 --> 00:42:38,480 you what do you bring to the? Table AND i, 745 00:42:38,599 --> 00:42:42,519 said the ability to know what the table fucking. Needs, 746 00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:44,840 OKAY i, know that's. 747 00:42:44,920 --> 00:42:48,440 Speaker 4: It that's, it and that's a bar he. Was if he's, 748 00:42:48,480 --> 00:42:50,920 smart he would shut up because, that's oh, shit. 749 00:42:51,079 --> 00:42:53,280 Speaker 1: What do you bring to the? TABLE i bring the 750 00:42:53,400 --> 00:42:58,039 ability to know what the table. NEEDS i know whether 751 00:42:58,079 --> 00:43:01,440 we need new fucking, napkins new, cutlery if we need some, 752 00:43:01,679 --> 00:43:03,039 water if we need. 753 00:43:03,000 --> 00:43:04,760 Speaker 2: Hello we need some new table. 754 00:43:04,840 --> 00:43:06,599 Speaker 1: Gas, hello we need to do table. 755 00:43:06,679 --> 00:43:06,880 Speaker 3: Gas. 756 00:43:07,400 --> 00:43:11,000 Speaker 1: BABY i bring the ability to know what the table. 757 00:43:11,119 --> 00:43:14,679 Needs and that is innately what women. Bring we are. 758 00:43:14,840 --> 00:43:18,199 Incubators we those are things that we men don't have. It, 759 00:43:18,519 --> 00:43:22,559 okay men just generally don't have. It and that is 760 00:43:22,679 --> 00:43:24,360 what first of, ALL i wouldn't even be answering them 761 00:43:24,400 --> 00:43:26,119 type of questions because at the moment you ask me, 762 00:43:26,159 --> 00:43:28,559 that the MOMENT i clocked the fuck. Out, okay but 763 00:43:28,719 --> 00:43:32,079 if you wanted to, know all, RIGHT i bring the 764 00:43:32,280 --> 00:43:37,880 ability to know what the table. Needs that is what 765 00:43:38,199 --> 00:43:42,679 women's gift on this earth, is all, right, truly, truly. 766 00:43:43,039 --> 00:43:45,400 Truly so, no, baby it ain't your fourteen year. Old 767 00:43:45,800 --> 00:43:49,719 you gotta clock the fucking women do not know what 768 00:43:49,960 --> 00:43:53,960 men are actually freaking looking. For and, actually you, KNOW 769 00:43:54,159 --> 00:43:56,199 i don't know if we should be really trying to 770 00:43:56,760 --> 00:44:00,039 really kind of even like counter that Our BUT i 771 00:44:00,039 --> 00:44:02,519 don't want to live my life and thinking of like 772 00:44:02,719 --> 00:44:03,800 what are men looking? 773 00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:04,760 Speaker 3: For you? 774 00:44:04,880 --> 00:44:06,079 Speaker 1: KNOW i want to. 775 00:44:06,199 --> 00:44:07,280 Speaker 2: Exist that's. 776 00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:09,480 Speaker 1: It ALL i want to do is. EXIST i want 777 00:44:09,519 --> 00:44:11,920 to be. MYSELF i want to, exist AND i want 778 00:44:11,960 --> 00:44:15,079 to attract the men that are attracted to WHO i am. Innately, 779 00:44:15,280 --> 00:44:17,920 Right but for a woman that has a fourteen year 780 00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:20,280 old or, Right i'm gonna tell you, this it's not 781 00:44:20,400 --> 00:44:21,360 your fourteen it's not your. 782 00:44:21,400 --> 00:44:22,280 Speaker 2: Trying it's so self. 783 00:44:22,280 --> 00:44:27,320 Speaker 4: Sufficient i'm, like, yeah fourteen year, old, listen it's in high. 784 00:44:27,360 --> 00:44:29,320 Speaker 2: School high, school he can watch, himself. 785 00:44:29,480 --> 00:44:31,679 Speaker 1: Right i'm, like if you can't get a man to 786 00:44:31,760 --> 00:44:34,159 get it to be an into you with a fourteen year, 787 00:44:34,199 --> 00:44:36,519 old imagine these women out here with the fucking, toddlers 788 00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:39,559 toddlers and two year. Olds they need a babysitter in 789 00:44:39,639 --> 00:44:40,920 in order to go out a day with. YOU i 790 00:44:41,000 --> 00:44:43,280 need a, Babysitter, Okay so trust, me it's not your 791 00:44:43,320 --> 00:44:45,400 fourteen year old. Sweetheart you just have to do a 792 00:44:45,440 --> 00:44:48,760 little bit of recalibrating and. Readjusting that's just my opinion or. 793 00:44:48,800 --> 00:44:51,480 Speaker 4: WHATEVER i THINK i even learned like not to lead 794 00:44:51,559 --> 00:44:54,800 with like your professional. Stuff it's not a it's not an, 795 00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:57,199 interview like don't leave with, that don't leave with. 796 00:44:57,239 --> 00:44:59,800 Speaker 1: That don't leave with, that and also too LIKE, i, 797 00:45:00,559 --> 00:45:02,880 well what is it? ONE i THINK i found so 798 00:45:03,119 --> 00:45:09,239 much peace and, actual actual solitude and knowing that in 799 00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:12,079 the men that don't want to be with, me if 800 00:45:12,119 --> 00:45:14,159 that makes any, Sense like so many women are, like 801 00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:15,360 well what is it about? 802 00:45:15,480 --> 00:45:15,519 Speaker 3: Me? 803 00:45:15,920 --> 00:45:18,960 Speaker 1: Sweetheart you don't want everybody to be into. You you 804 00:45:19,360 --> 00:45:22,599 you do not want everybody to be into. You you 805 00:45:22,760 --> 00:45:27,519 want to have a very select few that fit the. Bill, 806 00:45:27,760 --> 00:45:31,599 okay you want to have a very select few people 807 00:45:32,039 --> 00:45:37,079 that actually qualify. You don't want to run them up 808 00:45:37,159 --> 00:45:43,960 and have the gist. Everybody when a man is, like oh, 809 00:45:44,119 --> 00:45:47,599 this you ain't my, type you ain't, great, awesome make 810 00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:50,719 room for my motherfucking, husband thank, you use, me bye. 811 00:45:51,159 --> 00:45:53,800 BYE i don't like. THIS i don't like the. MAKEUP 812 00:45:53,800 --> 00:45:55,519 i don't like that WITH i don't like. That maybe, 813 00:45:55,639 --> 00:45:59,280 great thank, You please make room for my. Person it 814 00:45:59,519 --> 00:46:03,599 is a good thing when men find you not their 815 00:46:03,719 --> 00:46:06,039 type or you're not in line with what they want to. Date, 816 00:46:06,159 --> 00:46:09,679 y'all you do not want everybody to feel like they 817 00:46:09,800 --> 00:46:10,880 can date you. 818 00:46:11,199 --> 00:46:13,679 Speaker 2: And can we also like get our own type, Too 819 00:46:14,079 --> 00:46:16,119 LIKE i don't like. 820 00:46:16,280 --> 00:46:20,039 Speaker 1: THAT i don't like. This you never. You you rarely 821 00:46:20,199 --> 00:46:24,480 hear men, saying, well she wasn't really my, type BUT 822 00:46:24,719 --> 00:46:27,679 I i decided to and when we did see. Them 823 00:46:27,719 --> 00:46:29,559 i've seen a couple of podcasts when these men was 824 00:46:29,599 --> 00:46:31,960 on here talk about somehow they wife's wasn't they first 825 00:46:32,000 --> 00:46:35,599 type the one they type at? First and we ate them? Alive, 826 00:46:36,119 --> 00:46:39,239 okay women need to start we be letting men grow 827 00:46:39,320 --> 00:46:41,480 on us too. Much it's, like, girl do you have a? 828 00:46:41,599 --> 00:46:44,800 Type stick to your, type because men stick today. Type 829 00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:47,920 they do and they never al and they do Not 830 00:46:48,239 --> 00:46:50,920 they they play, around but they ain't gonna. 831 00:46:50,960 --> 00:46:54,119 Speaker 2: Marry this was fun and this WAS i. 832 00:46:54,280 --> 00:46:56,239 Speaker 4: Had SO i have a lot of guy friends and 833 00:46:56,400 --> 00:46:58,880 like they will remember one of the singular he was just, like, 834 00:46:59,119 --> 00:47:03,000 nah never wife AND i AND i found that to 835 00:47:03,079 --> 00:47:06,960 be so, profound like because he just was so he 836 00:47:07,199 --> 00:47:11,519 just he knew like this was only fun and, unfortunately 837 00:47:11,639 --> 00:47:14,800 like she didn't think, that but like he it's like men, 838 00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:18,800 know like this is, fun this is ending in two, months. 839 00:47:18,760 --> 00:47:20,440 Speaker 1: And we just take a page out of their, book 840 00:47:20,639 --> 00:47:22,880 and that many pages THAT i feel like we need 841 00:47:22,920 --> 00:47:24,960 to take a. Pack, look it ain't that many pages 842 00:47:25,039 --> 00:47:27,119 we should take out their, book but that's one of. 843 00:47:27,239 --> 00:47:31,000 Them get what you want up, front be serious about. 844 00:47:31,079 --> 00:47:33,519 It and if it's for, play, play it's for play. 845 00:47:33,559 --> 00:47:36,199 Play but know who you want. To women will let 846 00:47:36,239 --> 00:47:40,199 a man grow on them so, much and they's nothing 847 00:47:40,320 --> 00:47:44,000 worse than being cheated on and lied to by a. 848 00:47:44,119 --> 00:47:50,039 MAN i didn't even like, you, BRO i never liked 849 00:47:50,079 --> 00:47:52,719 you to begin, with and then you grew on me 850 00:47:53,119 --> 00:47:57,679 and you're a cheater on top of, that, babbie what's 851 00:47:57,679 --> 00:48:02,039 the chances we're the? Chances what are the? Chances mm 852 00:48:02,079 --> 00:48:05,719 hmm is that, girl my? Mam it's forty? Eight were four? 853 00:48:05,760 --> 00:48:09,519 Gaming it's, saying, OKAY i think We it ain't your, son, 854 00:48:09,559 --> 00:48:11,119 sweetheart trust, me it ain't. 855 00:48:11,119 --> 00:48:14,599 Speaker 2: You fourteen year old tre In New, york have fun 856 00:48:14,639 --> 00:48:16,800 this summery, girl have a good. 857 00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:22,840 Speaker 1: Time, Listen Cash, Doll, Teanga, Taylor, cardi B, okay all 858 00:48:22,880 --> 00:48:24,840 of them got kids are right Now i'm a good. Sign, 859 00:48:25,199 --> 00:48:29,239 anyway here's that episode five in The books and The 860 00:48:29,320 --> 00:48:29,639 books