Speaker 1: This video will help you end the invisible war within
Speaker 1: yourself and bring every frightened, tired, and hopeful part of
Speaker 1: you back on to the same side. Perhaps one part
Speaker 1: of you wants to move forward while another tells you
Speaker 1: to delay. One part longs to be loved, while another
Speaker 1: searches constantly for evidence that you are unworthy. You may
Speaker 1: call the resistant part lazy, weak, or self destructive, but
Speaker 1: it is not truly your enemy. It is often an
Speaker 1: old protective voice created by fear of failure, judgment, rejection,
Speaker 1: or unfamiliar change. Each time you insult yourself in order
Speaker 1: to improve, you become both the attacker and the person
Speaker 1: being attacked. The body does not know which side to defend.
Speaker 1: It only receives the message that danger exists within. Healing
Speaker 1: does not begin when one part of you finally defeats another.
Speaker 1: It begins when all parts are invited into understanding and
Speaker 1: guided by mature love. I do not need to destroy
Speaker 1: my former self. I need to understand its fear and
Speaker 1: lead it toward a wiser choice. The frightened ego is
Speaker 1: not an evil force that must be eliminated. It is
Speaker 1: more like a frightened child who took control of the
Speaker 1: vehicle without knowing the road. It remembers shame, painful mistakes,
Speaker 1: and moments when being visible led to rejection, so it says,
Speaker 1: do not try. You may fail, Wait until you are perfect,
Speaker 1: or remain small so no one can judge you. Criticism
Speaker 1: is the method it learned to use for protection. Perhaps
Speaker 1: remaining unnoticed once felt safer than being seen. Thank this
Speaker 1: part for trying to protect you, but do not allow
Speaker 1: it to continue directing your whole life. Criticism never changes
Speaker 1: a thing. Fear may need to be heard, but love
Speaker 1: must now become the leader. Your authentic self speaks differently.
Speaker 1: It does not humiliate, threaten, or insist that your worth
Speaker 1: depends upon flawless performance. It may ask you to do
Speaker 1: something difficult, but its direction is usually simple. Tell the truth,
Speaker 1: leave what harms you, begin the task, rest the body,
Speaker 1: or try again. Inner wisdom does not promise that every
Speaker 1: decision will be comfortable. It reminds you that you can
Speaker 1: face discomfort without abandoning yourself. When fear appears, do not shout,
Speaker 1: be quiet, Ask what are you trying to protect me from?
Speaker 1: Then ask whether the daneinger is actually present or merely
Speaker 1: resembles an old experience. Finally ask what can the adult
Speaker 1: within me do so that we feel supported enough to continue?
Speaker 1: Every part of me is welcome, but love now leads
Speaker 1: my life. Another source of inner conflict is the language
Speaker 1: of should, must, and not enough. You tell yourself, I
Speaker 1: should be more successful by this age. I must be
Speaker 1: thinner to be loved, or I cannot make another mistake.
Speaker 1: These sentences create an idealized person and use that image
Speaker 1: to punish the real person who is living today. Have
Speaker 1: you noticed how heavy a task becomes when shame is
Speaker 1: attached to it. The mind may avoid the task because
Speaker 1: avoidance temporarily reduces pain. Then you label the avoidance laziness
Speaker 1: and attack your again. Procrastination is not always a lack
Speaker 1: of will power. Sometimes it is resistance to an internal
Speaker 1: supervisor who never offers encouragement. You don't have to immediately
Speaker 1: be perfect. Learning becomes easier when mistakes are no longer
Speaker 1: treated as evidence of personal failure. Replace commands with conscious
Speaker 1: choice and responsibility. Instead of I have to exercise, say
Speaker 1: I choose to move because my body deserves support. Replace
Speaker 1: I should be more successful with I will identify one
Speaker 1: meaningful step instead of I must never fail, Say I
Speaker 1: allow myself to learn through experimentation. Replace I should have
Speaker 1: known better with I acted from the awareness I had.
Speaker 1: Then today I understand more. This language does not remove responsibility.
Speaker 1: It creates an atmosphere in which responsibility can be practiced
Speaker 1: without shame. I release the person I was supposed to
Speaker 1: be and support the person I am becoming. You are
Speaker 1: more likely to move when the next step is offered
Speaker 1: as loving participation rather than punishment. The body can become
Speaker 1: the place where this unresolved conflict is experienced. Persistent self
Speaker 1: criticism may contribute to ongoing stress and influence sleep, breathing,
Speaker 1: muscle tension, self care behavior, and how discomfort is perceived,
Speaker 1: but we must never claim that one specific thought directly
Speaker 1: created one specific illness. Health conditions can involve genetics, infection, injury, environ, aging,
Speaker 1: and many other complex factors. You are not at fault
Speaker 1: because your body is struggling. Self love can support your
Speaker 1: relationship with health, but it does not replace necessary medical
Speaker 1: evaluation or treatment. You are not a bad person for
Speaker 1: thinking the way you do. Healing language must never become
Speaker 1: another source of blame. Do not punish the body for changing.
Speaker 1: Do not call it ugly because it has aged. Hate
Speaker 1: it because it hurts, or force it into exhaustion to
Speaker 1: meet an external standard. The body does not need another battle.
Speaker 1: It needs attentive listening, practical support, and appropriate professional care.
Speaker 1: Instead of asking what is wrong with my body? Ask
Speaker 1: what might my body need for me now? The answer
Speaker 1: may be rest, movement, nourishment, comfort, medical attention, or a
Speaker 1: reduction in unnecessary demands. My body is not my enemy.
Speaker 1: I listen to it with respect and support it with
Speaker 1: loving appropriate care. Partnership allows you to remain hopeful without
Speaker 1: denying reality. Blame and self condemnation create another internal division.
Speaker 1: Your family, environment, former partner, employer, or larger social system
Speaker 1: may have affected your life in real and painful ways.
Speaker 1: Acknowledging that influence is honest. It is not weakness. But
Speaker 1: if all power remains permanently in their hands, your future
Speaker 1: depends upon their apology, understanding, or change. You may wait
Speaker 1: for years for san someone else to release you. When
Speaker 1: you blame another, you give your own power away. This
Speaker 1: does not mean that they are innocent. It means you
Speaker 1: deserve access to your present choices, even when they never
Speaker 1: take responsibility. The opposite extreme is placing all blame upon yourself.
Speaker 1: Mature Responsibility does not mean accepting guilt for what someone
Speaker 1: else did to you. You were not responsible for being mistreated, neglected, betrayed,
Speaker 1: or harmed. You are responsible now for seeking support, creating safety,
Speaker 1: setting limits, and choosing what helps you heal. Responsibility does
Speaker 1: not say everything was my fault. It says wherever this began,
Speaker 1: the next step belongs to me. Responsibility is making a
Speaker 1: conscious choice of how you will respect This distinction restores
Speaker 1: power without rewriting the truth. Separate the situation into three layers. First,
Speaker 1: not mine the behavior, choices, and accountability of other people. Second,
Speaker 1: it affected me the emotions, beliefs and consequences you now carry. Third,
Speaker 1: within my power today, how you care for yourself, what
Speaker 1: support you seek, what you allow, and what future you
Speaker 1: begin building. You can return another person's responsibility without denying
Speaker 1: the impact upon you. You can acknowledge the impact without
Speaker 1: making it your permanent identity. Then say I release blame
Speaker 1: without denying the truth. I reclaim the power to choose
Speaker 1: what happens next. The inner war ends gradually through many
Speaker 1: moments in which you refuse to attack yourself. Fear speaks,
Speaker 1: and you listen without surrendering leadership. A should appears and
Speaker 1: you translate it into a conscious choice. The body asks
Speaker 1: for care, and you respond instead of criticizing. The past
Speaker 1: explains what affected you, but today's responsibility guides what comes next.
Speaker 1: Be gentle and kind and patient with yourself. You are
Speaker 1: not trying to destroy any part of who you are.
Speaker 1: You are teaching every part that it is finally safe
Speaker 1: to be guided by love. I would like you to
Speaker 1: begin with a very simple experiment. For the next twenty
Speaker 1: four hours, do not deliberately insult, ridicule, or threaten yourself.
Speaker 1: This does not mean that every critical thought will disappear.
Speaker 1: The old voice may still say you are useless, you
Speaker 1: always ruin everything, or you will never change. Your task
Speaker 1: is not to wrestle the thought to the ground. A
Speaker 1: fight against criticism can become another form of criticism. Simply
Speaker 1: recognize the voice and refuse to supply it with more ammunition.
Speaker 1: Say I hear the old criticism and I choose not
Speaker 1: to continue it. Then add I am ending the war
Speaker 1: with myself. You do not need to win the argument,
Speaker 1: you need only decline to carry it forward. During this
Speaker 1: cease fire, learn to distinguish evaluation from attack. Evaluation says
Speaker 1: I did not prepare sufficiently for that conversation. Attack says
Speaker 1: I am a useless person who can never do anything correctly.
Speaker 1: Evaluation identifies behavior that can be examined and changed. Attack
Speaker 1: turns one behavior into a verdict about your entire identity.
Speaker 1: Evaluation asks what happened, what was needed, and what can
Speaker 1: be done next. Attack creates shame and leaves no constructive direction.
Speaker 1: Criticism never changes a thing. You may frighten yourself into
Speaker 1: temporary compliance, but you do not create a loving, sustainable
Speaker 1: relationship with growth. Suppose you missed a deadline. The old
Speaker 1: response may be you are lazy and unreliable during the
Speaker 1: cease fire. Replace it with facts I underestimated the time,
Speaker 1: became distracted and did not ask for help soon enough.
Speaker 1: Now you have information, you can apologize, renegotiate, change the schedule,
Speaker 1: reduce distractions, or begin earlier next time. Say this mistake
Speaker 1: needs correction. It does not need to be used to
Speaker 1: destroy me. You are not avoiding consequences. You are removing
Speaker 1: humiliation from the process of taking responsibility. Perhaps you spoke
Speaker 1: harshly to someone. Self love does not say it does
Speaker 1: not matter because I must accept myself. It says my
Speaker 1: behavior caused harm, and I can repair what is possible
Speaker 1: without withdrawing love from myself. You apologize clearly, listen to
Speaker 1: the impact, and change the pattern. Shame says I am bad,
Speaker 1: so there is no point trying. Responsibility says I behave
Speaker 1: badly in that moment, and I am capable of another choice.
Speaker 1: Responsibility is making a conscious choice of how you will respond.
Speaker 1: Accountability becomes stronger when it is not tangled with self destruction.
Speaker 1: Keep a small mark on paper each time you catch
Speaker 1: an attack. Do not record it to prove how negative
Speaker 1: you are. Record the moment of recognition, because recognition is
Speaker 1: the beginning of change. At the end of twenty four hours,
Speaker 1: count how many times you interrupted the old pattern. Perhaps
Speaker 1: you caught it twice, perhaps twenty times. Every interruption matters.
Speaker 1: You cannot insult yourself into becoming a more loving person.
Speaker 1: The cease fire is successful whenever you stop one bullet
Speaker 1: that would otherwise have been fired inward. Next, write down
Speaker 1: the judgment you hear most frequently. Perhaps it says I
Speaker 1: never finish anything, I am too sensitive, no one truly
Speaker 1: wants me, or I must be perfect to have value.
Speaker 1: Write the sentence exactly as it appears. Then read it
Speaker 1: slowly and notice whether it sounds like your natural voice
Speaker 1: or like something learned. Many beliefs enter consciousness before we
Speaker 1: are old enough to evaluate them. A parent, teacher, sibling,
Speaker 1: religious authority, or frightened caregiver may have spoken from their
Speaker 1: own limitations. Your beliefs are merely habitual thinking patterns that
Speaker 1: you learned as a child. A belief can be familiar
Speaker 1: without being true. Ask who first spoke to me this way?
Speaker 1: You may remember one person, a family, atmosphere, or no
Speaker 1: specific source at all. Then ask how old was I
Speaker 1: when I began believing this? A six year old cannot
Speaker 1: examine criticism with adult perspective. The child assumes that powerful
Speaker 1: adults know the truth. Next, ask how did believing this
Speaker 1: help me remain safe or accepted? Perhaps I am too
Speaker 1: sensitive taught you to hide feelings in a family that
Speaker 1: could not tolerate emotion. Perhaps perfectionism helped you avoid punishment.
Speaker 1: Perhaps believing no one would stay prevented you from becoming vulnerable.
Speaker 1: The belief may have caused pain and still have served
Speaker 1: a protective purpose at the time. Finally, ask did the
Speaker 1: person who gave me this message truly understand who I was?
Speaker 1: They may have seen one behavior and turned it into
Speaker 1: an identity. They may have been exhausted, frightened, or repeating
Speaker 1: what was said to them. Understanding their limitation does not
Speaker 1: erase the effect upon you. It helps you stop treating
Speaker 1: their perception as an eternal authority. Say this belief may
Speaker 1: have entered through someone else's fear, but it does not
Speaker 1: belong in my future. I release it now. You do
Speaker 1: not have to condemn the person in order to end
Speaker 1: the inheritance. Imagine placing the belief outside your body. You
Speaker 1: might write it on another piece of paper and say,
Speaker 1: this sentence traveled through my family, but it will not
Speaker 1: travel through me any farther. Do not destroy the paper.
Speaker 1: If that feels too dramatic, simply place it aside as
Speaker 1: evidence of something you no longer need to obey. Then
Speaker 1: write a replacement that is honest and supportive. I never
Speaker 1: finish anything. Might become I am learning to complete one
Speaker 1: meaningful task at a time. I am too sensitive. May
Speaker 1: become My sensitivity gives me information, and I am learning
Speaker 1: to use it wisely. No one wants me. May become
Speaker 1: I am available for relationships that recognize and reciprocate my love.
Speaker 1: A new belief needs repetition and lived evidence, not force.
Speaker 1: Do not worry if the old sentence returns. It has
Speaker 1: traveled the same mental route for years. Each time it appears,
Speaker 1: Say I know where you came from, and I no
Speaker 1: longer mistake you for my identity. Then practice the replacement
Speaker 1: through one action. Complete a small task, honor an emotion,
Speaker 1: or move toward a reciprocal connection. A thought can be changed.
Speaker 1: Change becomes more believable when thought and behavior begins supporting
Speaker 1: each other. Behind many difficult behaviors is a younger part
Speaker 1: trying to prevent an old pain. The part that procrastinates
Speaker 1: may fear failure and exposure. The angry part may fear
Speaker 1: humiliation or being ignored. The people pleasing part may believe
Speaker 1: disagreement leads to abandonment. The perfectionist may believe mistakes cause
Speaker 1: love to disappear. If you see only the behavior, you
Speaker 1: may attack it. If you recognize the fear beneath it,
Speaker 1: you can offer guidance. Be gentle and kind and patient
Speaker 1: with yourself. Gentleness allows the frightened part to stop defending
Speaker 1: itself long enough to learn something new. When you notice
Speaker 1: a strong reaction, ask how old does this feeling seem
Speaker 1: You may be an adult in the present, but the
Speaker 1: panic may feel six years old. Place a hand over
Speaker 1: your heart and say it is all right. We made
Speaker 1: a mistake. Tell the younger part. A mistake does not
Speaker 1: make you a bad person. Remind it. We are safe
Speaker 1: enough to look at what happened. Then make a promise.
Speaker 1: I will not abandon you. When things become difficult. We
Speaker 1: will repair what can be repaired. Together, these words create
Speaker 1: a different inner authority, one that protects without terrorizing. Re
Speaker 1: Parenting yourself does not mean indulging every feeling or avoiding responsibility.
Speaker 1: A loving adult does not allow a child to do
Speaker 1: anything simply because the child is upset. A loving adult listens, explains,
Speaker 1: provides limits, and follows through. If you behaved poorly, you
Speaker 1: still apologize. If a task matters, you still complete it.
Speaker 1: If a habit is harmful, you still create a structure
Speaker 1: to change it. The difference is that correction comes from
Speaker 1: dignity instead of disgust. I can hold myself accountable without
Speaker 1: withdrawing my love. Love remains present while behavior is adjusted.
Speaker 1: Imagine how this might sound in daily life. Instead of
Speaker 1: why have you ruined this again? Say something did not work.
Speaker 1: Let us understand why. Instead of you are so lazy,
Speaker 1: say we are avoiding this task. Is it unclear, overwhelming, frightening,
Speaker 1: or physically exhausting? Instead of you should know better, say
Speaker 1: we understand more now, And the next choice can reflect
Speaker 1: that understanding your language teaches the nervous system, whether mistakes
Speaker 1: lead to learning or emotional exile. I forgive myself for
Speaker 1: not knowing what I had never been taught. Forgiveness opens
Speaker 1: the door to instruction. Then prove your reliability through action.
Speaker 1: If you promise the body rest, do not wait until
Speaker 1: complete collapse. If you say you will leave what repeatedly
Speaker 1: harms you, begin making a safe and practical plan. If
Speaker 1: you promise to seek help, contact an appropriate person. If
Speaker 1: you tell the younger part that its feelings matter, make
Speaker 1: time to listen rather than silencing it with constant activity.
Speaker 1: Trust grows when the adult self becomes consistent. I am
Speaker 1: now the loving, steady, and trustworthy presence I once needed.
Speaker 1: Your younger self does not need need perfect parenting from you.
Speaker 1: It needs dependable repair. Now stand before a mirror. If
Speaker 1: you can look into your pupils rather than inspecting the
Speaker 1: shape of your face or searching for something to correct
Speaker 1: meet the person who has accompanied you through every age, mistake, loss, achievement,
Speaker 1: and beginning. You may feel awkward, emotional, irritated, or tempted
Speaker 1: to look away. All of these responses are welcome. The
Speaker 1: mirror reveals the relationship you already have with yourself. It
Speaker 1: does not create the discomfort. It makes the discomfort visible
Speaker 1: enough to be healed. Mirror work is simple and very powerful.
Speaker 1: Say your name slowly, then speak these words. I am
Speaker 1: no longer fighting you. We are on the same side now.
Speaker 1: I forgive you for not knowing what you had never
Speaker 1: been taught. I love you, and I will prove that
Speaker 1: love through the way I live. Pause after each sentence.
Speaker 1: Notice which statement you can receive and which one feels difficult.
Speaker 1: Do not rush to make the exercise look spiritual. Honesty
Speaker 1: matters more than performance. If I love you create strong resistance,
Speaker 1: do not force it. Begin with something closer to your
Speaker 1: present truth. I am willing to stop being cruel to you.
Speaker 1: You may say, I am willing to learn how to
Speaker 1: respect you, or I am willing to remain with you today.
Speaker 1: Willingness is not a lesser form of healing. It is
Speaker 1: an honest beginning that the mind can accept I am
Speaker 1: willing to learn to love myself. Repeat it until the
Speaker 1: possibility feels less foreign. The mirror declaration must end with
Speaker 1: w one concrete commitment. Ask how will I demonstrate peace
Speaker 1: with myself today? Perhaps you will let the body rest
Speaker 1: at an appropriate time. Perhaps you will complete something you
Speaker 1: promised yourself. You may stop contacting a person or place
Speaker 1: that continually reopens harm. You may ask for help, prepare
Speaker 1: a nourishing meal, schedule an appointment, or speak a truth
Speaker 1: that has been held inside. Love is never outside ourselves.
Speaker 1: Love is always within us. Inner love becomes visible through
Speaker 1: outer choices. Return to the mirror during difficult moments, not
Speaker 1: only when you feel calm. If something unpleasant happens, look
Speaker 1: into your eyes and say, I love you anyway. Events
Speaker 1: come and go, Approval comes and goes, Success and disappointment
Speaker 1: come and go. The relationship you build with yourself can remain.
Speaker 1: You are teaching yourself. Nothing that happens today will make
Speaker 1: me emotionally abandon you. That is the foundation of peace.
Speaker 1: Peace with yourself does not mean that you stop growing, working,
Speaker 1: or correcting harmful habits. It means that hatred is no
Speaker 1: longer the fuel for change. Love says you deserve a
Speaker 1: good life. Discipline responds, I will protect that life through
Speaker 1: consistent choices. Discipline is not an internal voice screaming at you.
Speaker 1: It is the ability to do what matters, even when
Speaker 1: the emotion of the moment is not enthusiastic. I only
Speaker 1: give out that which I wish to receive. Give your
Speaker 1: future self the consistency you hope life will give you.
Speaker 1: Build discipline through structure rather than punishment. Choose a waking
Speaker 1: time you can sustain, rather than creating an extreme routine
Speaker 1: that collapses after three days. Complete one important task before
Speaker 1: allowing distractions to divide your attention. Keep one small promise
Speaker 1: to yourself. Establish one clear limit with an activity, person,
Speaker 1: or habit that repeatedly drains your energy. Small structures reduce
Speaker 1: the number of decisions you must make while tired or emotional.
Speaker 1: I am a capable person, and I can handle anything
Speaker 1: that comes my way. Capability is strengthened by agreements you
Speaker 1: can realistically keep self. Love without discipline can become avoidance
Speaker 1: disguised as kindness. You may say I am honoring myself
Speaker 1: while continually postponing work that protects your future. But discipline
Speaker 1: without love becomes punishment. You force the body, demand perfection
Speaker 1: and call exhaustion commitment. The mature relationship combines both ask
Speaker 1: what supports me now and what will support me later.
Speaker 1: Sometimes the answer is rest. Sometimes it is completing the task.
Speaker 1: I am loving and disciplined. I care for my present
Speaker 1: self and protect my future self. Responsibility is another expression
Speaker 1: of peace. Stop waiting for an apology before allowing yourself
Speaker 1: to live. Stop waiting for perfect circumstances before beginning the
Speaker 1: next appropriate step. Stop asking a person without the capacity
Speaker 1: to recognize your value to become the authority who finally
Speaker 1: confirms it. Life does not guarantee that every situation will
Speaker 1: be fair, but you can still decide what continues in
Speaker 1: your world. Each morning, ask which part of my life
Speaker 1: is waiting for me to take responsibility to day? The
Speaker 1: answer may involve money, health, work, relationships, or the way
Speaker 1: you speak to yourself. Responsibility does not say that everything
Speaker 1: is your fault. It separates what belongs to others from
Speaker 1: what belongs to you. Now, another person remains responsible for
Speaker 1: their behavior. Your past circumstances may have limited what you
Speaker 1: could choose then to day. However, you may possess options
Speaker 1: that were not available before I reclaim the power to
Speaker 1: choose what happens next. Power may look like asking for
Speaker 1: help rather than solving everything alone. Be prepared for discomfort
Speaker 1: when your choices be begin changing when you stop pleasing everyone.
Speaker 1: Guilt may appear when you allow yourself to be visible.
Speaker 1: Fear of judgment may rise when you rest. An old
Speaker 1: voice may call you lazy. When you choose differently from
Speaker 1: your family, you may feel disloyal. These emotions do not
Speaker 1: automatically mean that you are making the wrong choice. Sometimes
Speaker 1: they indicate that your nervous system is leaving what is familiar.
Speaker 1: When you first begin doing something new, it never feels right.
Speaker 1: New can feel strange before it feels natural. Learn to
Speaker 1: distinguish the discomfort of growth from the discomfort of danger. Growth.
Speaker 1: Discomfort may include nervousness, uncertainty, or guilt. Yet beneath it,
Speaker 1: you sense that you are respecting yourself. You remain free
Speaker 1: to choose, use, speak, pause, and reconsider. Danger involves threats, coercion, humiliation, violence,
Speaker 1: or genuine loss of safety. You do not need to
Speaker 1: remain in danger to prove your courage. Seek help and
Speaker 1: protection when needed. It is safe for me to speak
Speaker 1: up for myself. Courage includes leaving what is harmful. Suppose
Speaker 1: you set a healthy boundary and immediately feel guilty. Ask
Speaker 1: did I do something harmful? Or did I merely do
Speaker 1: something unfamiliar? If you communicated respectfully and protected a legitimate need,
Speaker 1: the guilt may be an old alarm. Let it exist
Speaker 1: without rushing to erase the boundary. Say I can feel
Speaker 1: discomfort without turning against myself. The body learns through experience
Speaker 1: that saying no does not make you cruel. Suppose you
Speaker 1: begin a meaningful project and fear being judged. Do not
Speaker 1: wait for the fear to disappear before working. Give the
Speaker 1: fear a smaller role. Say you may sit beside me,
Speaker 1: but you may not control my hands. Complete one page,
Speaker 1: one email, one application, or one hour of practice. I
Speaker 1: am willing to learn. Action teaches the frightened part that
Speaker 1: visibility can be survived if resting creates discomfort, establish a
Speaker 1: clear and reasonable period of rest, rather than collapsing indefinitely
Speaker 1: or refusing to pause at all, say for thirty minutes,
Speaker 1: I am allowing the body to restore itself. Then I
Speaker 1: will reassess what is needed. This gives both love and
Speaker 1: discipline a place you can be relaxed and still handle
Speaker 1: whatever you need to handle. Rest and responsibility can cooperate.
Speaker 1: Let this become your affirmation for the transition. I can
Speaker 1: feel discomfort without turning against myself. I remain loving, disciplined,
Speaker 1: and free. You do not need comfort at every moment.
Speaker 1: In order to remain faithful to yourself. You need enough
Speaker 1: inner safety to choose rather than react. Making peace with
Speaker 1: yourself does not mean that you stop correcting mistakes, developing skills,
Speaker 1: completing responsibilities, or changing harmful habits. It means you no
Speaker 1: longer use self hatred as the engine of improvement. The
Speaker 1: frightened ego is not expelled. It is placed into the
Speaker 1: care of your mature self. The body is not punished,
Speaker 1: It is listened to and supported appropriately. The past is
Speaker 1: not denied, it is returned to its proper time. Our
Speaker 1: ability to change and adapt and flow with the process
Speaker 1: of life is our healing power. Change no longer requires
Speaker 1: an enemy. You and the person you want to become
Speaker 1: are not standing on opposite battlefields. Your future self is
Speaker 1: not disgusted with you. That person exists because you are
Speaker 1: willing to take the next step. Today. They need your honesty, discipline, courage,
Speaker 1: and care, not your destruction. I support the person I
Speaker 1: am becoming by loving the person I am today. The
Speaker 1: present self is not an obstacle. It is the only
Speaker 1: self who can make the next choice. There will still
Speaker 1: be difficult days. You may criticize yourself, procrastinate, become reactive,
Speaker 1: or return to an old relation ship with shame. The
Speaker 1: appearance of an old pattern does not restart the war
Speaker 1: unless you choose to attack yourself for having it. Recognize it,
Speaker 1: understand what activated it, repair what is necessary, and begin again.
Speaker 1: I am in the process of positive changes. A process
Speaker 1: contains repetition and many opportunities for return. Tonight, review the
Speaker 1: day without putting yourself on trial. Ask where you remained
Speaker 1: on your own side. Notice one moment when you interrupted criticism,
Speaker 1: traced an old belief, comforted a frightened part, kept a promise,
Speaker 1: or moved through discomfort without abandonment. Praise that moment. Then
Speaker 1: identify one repair for tomorrow. Praise yourself as much as
Speaker 1: you can. Encouragement creates energy for continuation. Now play one
Speaker 1: hand over your heart and repeat. The war within me
Speaker 1: is over. I release criticism, blame, shame, and the demand
Speaker 1: to be perfect. Every part of me now belongs on
Speaker 1: the same loving team. I accept responsibility without punishment, discipline
Speaker 1: myself without cruelty, and move through discomfort without abandonment. I
Speaker 1: am safe with myself, I am healing. I am free.
Speaker 1: Let these words become a commitment rather than another standard
Speaker 1: you must perform perfectly. Peace is renewed whenever you choose
Speaker 1: not to fire the next shot. It is renewed when
Speaker 1: truth replaces insult, responsibility replaces blame, and discipline joins hands
Speaker 1: with love. You do not have to destroy yourself to
Speaker 1: transform your life. You need only remain on your own
Speaker 1: side while you learn a better way.