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<v Speaker 1>Hello, and welcome to Psychic Teachers. I'm your host, Deb.

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<v Speaker 2>Bowie and I'm Samantha Fay, and we are.

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<v Speaker 1>Just so excited that you are with us. We have

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<v Speaker 1>some really wonderful questions for this month's question and answer episode,

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<v Speaker 1>and that's where we're going to begin. Shall we just

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<v Speaker 1>dive right in, Samantha, Yes.

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<v Speaker 2>I will start us off with our first one. It

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<v Speaker 2>says I'm reaching out because something happened this morning with

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<v Speaker 2>my two year old that made me think of your

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<v Speaker 2>guidance on the podcast. We were lying in bed when

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<v Speaker 2>she suddenly said, look, people say hi mommy, and started

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<v Speaker 2>weaving toward the end of the bed. Then she said,

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<v Speaker 2>look at the lady, and a few minutes later pointed

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<v Speaker 2>and said hi man. It felt very matter of fact

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<v Speaker 2>to her. After listening to your podcast, I remember you

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<v Speaker 2>saying to respond with that overreacting. I've been trying to

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<v Speaker 2>stay calm and neutral so I don't dismiss her intuition

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<v Speaker 2>or make her doubt herself. There are also moments when

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<v Speaker 2>she says she's scared and that a monster is coming.

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<v Speaker 2>When that happens, I encourage her to say no, monster,

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<v Speaker 2>get out of here. To help her feel empowered and safe,

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<v Speaker 2>especially in her own home. I'd love your thoughts on

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<v Speaker 2>how to best handle situations like this, how to validate

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<v Speaker 2>her experience without reinforcing fear, and how to nurture her

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<v Speaker 2>intuition healthily. Well. Doesn't it sound like she's doing everything right?

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<v Speaker 1>Deb Wow, I wish i'd had burns my mom.

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<v Speaker 2>I know me to because you know your first response,

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<v Speaker 2>especially if you aren't intuitive yourself and your child's talking

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<v Speaker 2>about seeing all these people crowding around the bed, you

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<v Speaker 2>might be afraid or you might say it's your imagination.

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<v Speaker 2>But she did not overreact and just said hello to

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<v Speaker 2>the people that she couldn't see. I'm assuming when the

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<v Speaker 2>scary things happened, she's empowering her, So I think that's

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<v Speaker 2>really really good. I would also recommend that you teach

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<v Speaker 2>your child really safe ways to shield her energy and

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<v Speaker 2>not to sound like a used car salesman. But I

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<v Speaker 2>do have a e course on my website called Raising

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<v Speaker 2>your Intuitive Child. I think it's ten dollars, but it

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<v Speaker 2>has a bunch of tips in there about how to

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<v Speaker 2>gently teach your child how to put extra light around

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<v Speaker 2>their aura, like teaching them how to jump into a

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<v Speaker 2>fluffy cloud of protection or using a lightsaber or Cinderella's coach,

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<v Speaker 2>different child centered tips and techniques like that, So you

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<v Speaker 2>might want to check that out. Maybe you could get

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<v Speaker 2>her into some crystals, so she could have some big

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<v Speaker 2>crystals by her bed, like an amethyst or a haematite

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<v Speaker 2>that will be extra protecting. But honestly, just supporting her

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<v Speaker 2>the way you are. It sounds like you're doing everything right.

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<v Speaker 1>Mom.

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<v Speaker 2>You're just doing a fantastic job, and we want to

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<v Speaker 2>give you kudos for that.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely. And you know, folks, I have to tell you,

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<v Speaker 1>when Samantha's daughters were little, one of the things that

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<v Speaker 1>she used to do is she drove them to school

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<v Speaker 1>in the morning. Was she had them imagine that they

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<v Speaker 1>were being driven in the protection of Cinderella's magic coach.

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<v Speaker 1>And every time I think of Cinderella, I think, look

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<v Speaker 1>at what Samantha did for those children, and she taught

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<v Speaker 1>them to do those kinds of things for themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>So yeah, and I think if you make it like

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<v Speaker 2>normal and not woo woo, like okay, kids, now we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to meditate. You know, I never did that. I

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<v Speaker 2>would just say ooh, let's close our eyes and let's

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<v Speaker 2>picture this and what do you see and imagine that

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<v Speaker 2>and just make it fun and like I said, child focused.

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<v Speaker 2>It teaches them how to incorporate these practices of intent

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<v Speaker 2>or prayer if that's in your belief, and meditation and

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<v Speaker 2>guided imagery and protection in a way that just becomes

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<v Speaker 2>a daily practice, which I think is what budding intuitives need.

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<v Speaker 2>They need to know how to turn on their light,

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<v Speaker 2>how to turn off their light or at least dim

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<v Speaker 2>their light when they need to go to school or

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<v Speaker 2>go to bed, how to protect themselves, how to reinforce

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<v Speaker 2>their boundaries. So all of that is really important. But

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<v Speaker 2>from what she's written here, I think she's doing fantastic.

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<v Speaker 1>I think so too. Here's to you it's are smart,

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<v Speaker 1>they are? Yeah, Okay. Our next one says I suffered

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<v Speaker 1>the tremendous loss of my husband two years ago. He

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<v Speaker 1>was fifty five. We were together for thirty years and

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<v Speaker 1>he was not only my life partner but my best friend.

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<v Speaker 1>I met him when I was twenty two, so I've

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<v Speaker 1>been with him my entire adult life. Somehow I have survived,

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<v Speaker 1>and two years later AM started to feel my theory

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<v Speaker 1>is life without him, and that I can live happily,

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<v Speaker 1>not just for me, but for our two adult daughters.

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<v Speaker 1>My question to you both is this, why do I

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<v Speaker 1>feel so disconnected from him? Over the past x twenty

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<v Speaker 1>five years I have studied reiki, crystals, meditation, yoga, to

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<v Speaker 1>row cards, and other energy healing modalities. I certainly don't

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<v Speaker 1>profess to be an expert, but I have always felt

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<v Speaker 1>intuitive and connected to Spirit. So when he died, I

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<v Speaker 1>expected the signs, expected the connection. I just expected more.

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<v Speaker 1>I have read that it takes time for someone from

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<v Speaker 1>the other side to be ready to connect. Recently, I

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<v Speaker 1>have started dreaming about him, but he is just there

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<v Speaker 1>and either irritating me or simply being frivolous. There are

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<v Speaker 1>no profound messages or declaration of his love for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Even my to row and oracle cards don't seem to

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<v Speaker 1>have the shine they had before. I seem to be

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<v Speaker 1>questioning everything now and wondering if I ever had any

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<v Speaker 1>type of intuitive gift or connection as now it seems

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<v Speaker 1>to have all but left me. Where are the signs

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<v Speaker 1>I so desperately want from him? Or am I not

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<v Speaker 1>open enough to re Do you perhaps have any advice

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<v Speaker 1>on how to reconnect with Spirit, whether it is mine

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<v Speaker 1>or his? Or am I being too hard on myself

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<v Speaker 1>and expecting too much? Okay, First of all, I am

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<v Speaker 1>so very very sorry about the loss of your life mate.

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<v Speaker 1>To lose him has i'm sure been extremely difficult, and

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<v Speaker 1>please know that our hearts are with you. Second, you've

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<v Speaker 1>answered your own questions In many ways. What I have

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<v Speaker 1>always been shown is that time is different on the

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<v Speaker 1>other side, as the person on the other side goes

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<v Speaker 1>through a life review and goes through the process of

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<v Speaker 1>being acclimated and learning and growing and making plans perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>to come back to this plane or to move on.

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<v Speaker 1>A book I would really recommend, and I know we

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<v Speaker 1>recommend this book all the time, but we mean it

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<v Speaker 1>is Testimony of Light by Helen Greeves, where she talks

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<v Speaker 1>about her friend who's a nun who is on the

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<v Speaker 1>other side explains to her what happens on the other

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<v Speaker 1>side to folks once they crossover. I will tell you

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<v Speaker 1>that your feelings of disconnect, your feelings of oh what

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<v Speaker 1>am I doing wrong? I've tried all these things and

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<v Speaker 1>nothing's working. That is a normal part of the grieving process.

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<v Speaker 1>What you're doing is very normal, And I use that

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<v Speaker 1>word with big quotation marks because I'm not even sure

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<v Speaker 1>there is such a thing as normal grieving, but it's

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<v Speaker 1>certainly fairly common among folks who are grieving to have

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<v Speaker 1>this roller coaster of emotions and beliefs and challenges to

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<v Speaker 1>yourself and to the universe and to so much around you.

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<v Speaker 1>Believe it or not. As hard as it is, it's

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<v Speaker 1>also quite healthy to ask all of these questions and

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<v Speaker 1>to just wonder. The other thing I think that we

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<v Speaker 1>often do is we have this expectation of some kind

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<v Speaker 1>of big reconnect that is deeply meaningful and really overt

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<v Speaker 1>and really big, and sometimes it's just not. And sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>what you get is that they just come and say, well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm okay over here, and you're okay over there, and

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to say hi. And sometimes that's what

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<v Speaker 1>you get. And sometimes you get nothing, and you wonder why.

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<v Speaker 1>And the answer is, we don't know why. We don't

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<v Speaker 1>know what that relationship we had that was so incredibly

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<v Speaker 1>deep and powerful here on this plane does or does

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<v Speaker 1>not continue to connect or reconnect from the other side.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't have an answer for that. But I will

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<v Speaker 1>tell you that your abilities to be intuitive have not

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<v Speaker 1>left you, but they've taken a break. This intuitive work

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<v Speaker 1>and grief work are both hard work, and sometimes I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think we can always do them simultaneously. Don't be

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<v Speaker 1>hurtling yourself, give yourself permission to just be here now.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't speak about losing a marriage partner, but I

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<v Speaker 1>can speak about this. When our wonderful friend, Jean the

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<v Speaker 1>Palm Reader died. We've been friends for fifty years. It

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<v Speaker 1>never crossed my mind she wouldn't come and hang out

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<v Speaker 1>with me. We did for fifty years. Where's she going, dow,

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<v Speaker 1>She's never been. You can go back and listen to

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<v Speaker 1>a podcast episode that Joel and I did soon after

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<v Speaker 1>she died, about this incredible treasure hunt that she created

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<v Speaker 1>to teach me the one thing, the one last gift

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<v Speaker 1>she wanted to give me, and it was two words,

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<v Speaker 1>be happy. Just be happy. But it was a whole

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<v Speaker 1>convoluted process to get that information. It was not Jeane

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<v Speaker 1>coming and sitting on the side of my bed as

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<v Speaker 1>I thought she would do. I don't know. I think

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<v Speaker 1>she's busy on the other side. I think she had

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of folks over there she needed to see

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<v Speaker 1>and connect with. She had a lot of work to

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<v Speaker 1>do to review her life and to look at where

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<v Speaker 1>she's going. So keep in mind that your husband is

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<v Speaker 1>doing what he needs to do on the other side

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<v Speaker 1>right now, and give yourself permission to do what you

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<v Speaker 1>need to do on this side, and be kind impatient

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<v Speaker 2>You know what I wonder, too, Deb, what there could

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<v Speaker 2>be anger here? I know if I lost my life

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<v Speaker 2>partner and I was only fifty five, I'd be pissed.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a good point, and that's a normal part of

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<v Speaker 1>the grieving process. It's normal to be angry.

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<v Speaker 2>You know how. You just have this expectation of how

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<v Speaker 2>your life will go, like we'll retire at this age,

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<v Speaker 2>and then we'll travel, and then we'll do this, and

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<v Speaker 2>then this will happen. And when that's ripped from you,

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<v Speaker 2>there's anger. Anger will block intuition and mediumship stronger than

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<v Speaker 2>I think, maybe even fear or doubt and the other

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<v Speaker 2>thing that I never talk about. And I might delete

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<v Speaker 2>this if you tell me too, Deb. When I've done

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<v Speaker 2>mediumship readings, very often the person who has just died

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<v Speaker 2>is sad too for a bit. And I never say

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<v Speaker 2>that because I don't want anyone to think of their

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<v Speaker 2>loved ones as being sad on the other side. But

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<v Speaker 2>they're people, and sometimes they're upset that they died and

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<v Speaker 2>they're missing you, and they're upset that they can't experience

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<v Speaker 2>these chapters of living life with you, and it takes

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<v Speaker 2>them some time to acclimate to that, and so it

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<v Speaker 2>might be a whole combination of all of that. It

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't mean that he's not on the other side. It

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<v Speaker 2>doesn't mean that he's just footloose and fancy for and like, well,

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<v Speaker 2>I hope she figures it out. No, I will bet

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<v Speaker 2>you that he is trying so hard to work through

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<v Speaker 2>his own emotions in his healing, but then he has

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<v Speaker 2>to learn how to connect energetically with you. I had

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<v Speaker 2>a friend and her father died and her mother was

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<v Speaker 2>just not doing well with the grief, and nobody had

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<v Speaker 2>gotten any signs or inkling or anything from him, and

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<v Speaker 2>she asked me to tune in. And his energy was

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<v Speaker 2>so specific, tob it was like one plus one plus

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<v Speaker 2>one equals three. Like he would give me a symbol

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<v Speaker 2>and then a symbol and then a symbol, and I'd

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<v Speaker 2>have to put it together to get the message. And

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<v Speaker 2>so that makes sense. He didn't know. He didn't know

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<v Speaker 2>how to connect with someone like me. He didn't know

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<v Speaker 2>how to flicker a light bulb for his wife. He

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<v Speaker 2>him saying, this is so fun, Like he just didn't know.

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<v Speaker 2>So they do have to learn everything about energy when

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<v Speaker 2>But I just I just would give yourself some grace

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<v Speaker 1>Feelings are not right a wrong page of star.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, does that make sense? Like both of my sisters

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<v Speaker 1>But I think you're the one who was with him

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<v Speaker 2>like you know, it's not like he was fifty five

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<v Speaker 2>like this listener. But I'm still angry, and so I

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<v Speaker 1>And that may be you know that you say that

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<v Speaker 1>that may be a part of of mine. Is you know,

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<v Speaker 1>damn it, Jane, why did you leave me?

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<v Speaker 1>But she was ninety three, hello, you know, and tired.

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<v Speaker 2>So one worth thing. I would just recommend that this

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<v Speaker 2>wonderful husband, but just connecting with yourself, you know, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>and just being being okay with the sadness and the

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<v Speaker 2>okay with it, but you know, sitting with it so

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<v Speaker 2>that you don't judge yourself for being mad at his

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<v Speaker 2>death or even mad at him. That's okay too, but

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<v Speaker 2>I think you need to give yourself time to sit

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<v Speaker 1>I do too, And I will just say this. When

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<v Speaker 1>with a grief counselor, and it was incredibly helpful to

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<v Speaker 1>had no emotional ties to the situation at all, and

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<v Speaker 1>who just heard me. And that was so helpful to me.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a great suggestion too, Okay. Our next one says,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm currently working through an addiction and focusing on grounding

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<v Speaker 2>and healing. I was hoping you might have recommendations for

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<v Speaker 2>that pair well with grounding techniques and emotional stability. Do

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<v Speaker 2>I have crystal recommendations? Yes, I do think. I think

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<v Speaker 2>the first one I would recommend is amethyst because it

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<v Speaker 2>is called the all healer, but it is also called

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<v Speaker 2>the stone of sobriety. You want to hear a funny

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<v Speaker 2>legend story, deb Oh, yeah, good. The reason why the

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<v Speaker 2>Romans would make their wine goblets out of amethyst was

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<v Speaker 2>because it was known as the stone of sobriety, and

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<v Speaker 2>it was said that you couldn't get drunk if you

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<v Speaker 2>drank wine from an amethyst goblet. And think about Roman days.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, they couldn't walk around with their stanley jugs

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<v Speaker 2>of water like we do. They had to drink wine

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<v Speaker 2>basically all day, so there was a risk of being

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<v Speaker 2>aneebraided all the time. But historians now believe that the

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<v Speaker 2>reason why they would pour wine into amethyst goblets is

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<v Speaker 2>that they would water it down so much to save

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<v Speaker 2>money and it would still look purple because it was

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<v Speaker 2>in a purple goblet, and that's why it became known

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<v Speaker 2>as the stone of sobriety because you couldn't get drunk

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<v Speaker 2>of water down wine. I would also recommend lipidolite because

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<v Speaker 2>it is a stone of emotional stability and it is

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<v Speaker 2>just a very calming stone that helps to clear overthinking thoughts.

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<v Speaker 2>Pyrite would be another good one, the golden pyrite, because

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<v Speaker 2>it really does seal in your intentions and helps break

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<v Speaker 2>bad habits. Sunstone I would also recommend because it's such

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<v Speaker 2>a happy stone and it gives courage and confidence so

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<v Speaker 2>that we can continue on with sobriety. Clear chords to

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<v Speaker 2>help you really focus on what it is you are

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<v Speaker 2>achieving in your journey. Black obsidian for again the grounding

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<v Speaker 2>that you asked for and the protection. You cannot beat

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<v Speaker 2>Black obsidian for that. And rodonite again for emotional stability,

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<v Speaker 2>but also for grief work and healing, because I think

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<v Speaker 2>when you're going through the healing process of addiction, a

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<v Speaker 2>lot of stuff comes up, and rodonite is a great

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<v Speaker 1>Tiger's Eye is coming to mind, Samantha, you have thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>on that.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that would make sense because it's grounding, it's protective.

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<v Speaker 2>But the gold and the tiger's eye also helps in

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<v Speaker 2>similar ways to the pyrite and the sunstone. It's incredibly protective.

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<v Speaker 2>It was used for years as a talisman against the

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<v Speaker 2>evil eye or people who are ill wishing you or

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<v Speaker 2>jealous of you. But it also works on the root

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<v Speaker 2>and solar plexus chakra, so it will ground you but

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<v Speaker 2>also empower you to set healthy boundaries.

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<v Speaker 1>Absolutely, that is hard work. Working through addiction issues is hard,

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<v Speaker 1>hard work. And really be kind and gentle with yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know which method you're following. I don't need

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<v Speaker 1>to know, but whichever it is, if it is working

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<v Speaker 1>for you, work it as they say.

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<v Speaker 2>I just had a thought. You know, my dad used

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<v Speaker 2>to carry his AA chips every day with such pride,

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<v Speaker 2>and he'd take them out and you know, put them

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<v Speaker 2>on his bureau every night. They should make amethyst chips

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<v Speaker 2>for AA.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that thing.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a good play, right, because we really my dad

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<v Speaker 2>would often carry his in his pocket.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I can remember him like flipping them in his pocket

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<v Speaker 2>with his thumb and forefinger.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, almost using him like a worry stone.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, they should make those out of amethyst.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, you know, I bet you that this listener could

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<v Speaker 1>find a worry stone made of amethyst, yeah, and put

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<v Speaker 1>it in the pocket and use it that way too.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure you could. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And I would recommend maybe doing a crystal grid with

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<v Speaker 2>those stones, And just because I recommended them in debt,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, if they don't resonate with you, use what

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<v Speaker 2>resonates with you. But you do want to get something

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<v Speaker 2>like amethyst that is said to help us break bad

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<v Speaker 2>habits and heal, or something like lipidolite or rotonite for

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<v Speaker 2>that stability, and put it all into a crystal grid

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<v Speaker 2>with your affirmation at the center, underneath a larger pyramid

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<v Speaker 2>or obelisk shaped stone. Okay, let's take our first quick

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<v Speaker 2>break and we'll be right back with some more wonderful questions.

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<v Speaker 1>So I look forward to working with you. Thanks so much, everybody. Okay, Samantha,

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<v Speaker 1>Our next one says, I'm in my mid fifties, married

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<v Speaker 1>to a wonderful husband, and I am a school teacher.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been teaching for almost thirty years. I've really been

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<v Speaker 1>interested in your q and as episodes where you had

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<v Speaker 1>teaching or teacher related questions. It has given me the

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<v Speaker 1>confidence to send you my email. Let's just say, teaching

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<v Speaker 1>isn't getting any easier, boy? Is that the truth. I

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<v Speaker 1>both physically and mentally. I've come home crying as I've

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<v Speaker 1>I know I'm not alone. Sometimes the biggest issue I

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<v Speaker 1>and positive to parents, but I don't always get the

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<v Speaker 1>same in return. Also, there's so much negativity out there,

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<v Speaker 1>heartbreaking sometimes where is the respect that we had for

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<v Speaker 1>each other? So after a long ramble, my question is

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<v Speaker 1>how can I manage my evenings, my weekends, and my

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<v Speaker 1>half term breaks. I lie in bed rerunning the day

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<v Speaker 1>myself unable to switch off. I'm also caring for my mom,

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<v Speaker 1>who is in her eighties, and let me tell you this,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not easy. Ooh. I've taken a deep breath after

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<v Speaker 1>that one Samantha.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a lot she's in this sandwich generation. And when

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<v Speaker 2>she said how parents are creating what's app groups and

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<v Speaker 2>social media groups to discuss you, that is something you

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<v Speaker 2>and I did not have to deal with when we

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<v Speaker 1>Yes we did, but that was usually just students. It

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<v Speaker 1>and an adult. But in any case, let me go

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<v Speaker 1>back to this gal's question here. Let me offer just

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<v Speaker 1>some practical suggestions for you, in addition to the emotional suggestions.

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<v Speaker 1>When you walk into your house in the afternoon after school,

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<v Speaker 1>go straight to the laundry room, take the clothes off

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<v Speaker 1>that you have been wearing to work, and jump in

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<v Speaker 1>the shower and literally and metaphorically wash off your day.

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<v Speaker 1>Literally the water will help cleanse you, not just physically,

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<v Speaker 1>back to center. That is one of the best ways

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<v Speaker 1>I know to delineate your time from your work turned

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<v Speaker 1>and you put that the clothes you've been wearing in

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<v Speaker 1>the washing machine and let them get the gunk off

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<v Speaker 1>of them that they've absorbed all during the day. I

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<v Speaker 1>also can't recommend enough to you that you carry stones

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<v Speaker 1>with you to work. Who was I talking to a

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<v Speaker 1>while back who said that she needed a different broad

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<v Speaker 1>size because she always has all these rocks that are

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<v Speaker 1>bra And I thought, oh boy, but you know, put

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<v Speaker 1>this sounds very simplistic, and Samantha's probably got additional suggestions

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<v Speaker 1>for this, but a piece of clear courtz so that

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<v Speaker 1>while you're in that space with your students and potentially

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<v Speaker 1>that I hear you saying you do is that you

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<v Speaker 1>meditate and you go for walks and whatnot, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>hard to turn it off. I know it's hard to

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<v Speaker 1>turn it off, probably because you're a good teacher. You

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<v Speaker 1>come home at night and think, oh, here's something I

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<v Speaker 1>can add to tomorrow's left. So you never quit working,

425
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<v Speaker 1>walk away from it. Give yourself permission to do something different,

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<v Speaker 1>whether it's making a jigsaw puzzle or reading a nonsensical

427
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<v Speaker 1>book that didn't matter, whatever it is, give yourself those

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<v Speaker 1>very clear boundaries. No, it's not a dirty word. It

429
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<v Speaker 1>is a complete sentence. Give yourself permission to do something fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't do what I call the yeah but syndrome, which

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<v Speaker 1>is when you think, oh, today's Saturday and I could

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<v Speaker 1>go yard sailing, for example, Yeah, but I probably stay

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<v Speaker 1>home and clean the toilet. No, get out of the

434
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<v Speaker 1>house and go. The toilet will be there when you

435
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<v Speaker 1>get home. Eyebrotheros with the mom thing. I recommend that

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<v Speaker 1>there are support groups available. They're online groups. I know

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<v Speaker 1>I used to when I was helping to take care

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<v Speaker 1>of my parents, had belonged to a website or followed

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<v Speaker 1>a website. I think it was caregiver dot org. I

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<v Speaker 1>may add that wrong, but really gave me some great suggestions.

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<v Speaker 1>Give yourself permission to take care of you. That's really

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<v Speaker 1>what this boils down to for me, Samantha. You want

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<v Speaker 1>to add to.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah and really treat your time as your treasure. Absolutely,

445
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<v Speaker 2>and it might cost you money, and that's okay for now,

446
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<v Speaker 2>if possible. So what I mean by that is when

447
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<v Speaker 2>I was working and taking care of the kids and

448
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<v Speaker 2>my mom and all of that. I stopped cooking for

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<v Speaker 2>like a year. And was it expensive to order out

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<v Speaker 2>or you know instacart stuff to my mom's house. Yeah

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<v Speaker 2>it was, but you know what, it was worth it

452
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<v Speaker 2>for that little bit because I had nothing left to give,

453
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<v Speaker 2>and to me, cooking is a nurturing, giving thing, right.

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<v Speaker 2>So whatever you feel is like a time eater in

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<v Speaker 2>your life, try to find a way around it. Even

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<v Speaker 2>if it's just you're like, oh, that's a waste of money,

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<v Speaker 2>like I was. But even if it is and you

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<v Speaker 2>can do it, do it because you need to treat

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<v Speaker 2>your time off as your treasure as gold, because that's

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<v Speaker 2>exactly what it is. Most of my friends are teachers

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<v Speaker 2>in elementary school age and they are dealing with all

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<v Speaker 2>of this. Some of the things that they do that

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<v Speaker 2>have helped them. One they have started a group chat

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<v Speaker 2>and it's on as like a video thing. It's a

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<v Speaker 2>separate app thing, but they will video themselves rempting or

466
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<v Speaker 2>shouting themselves out if they had a good day. That's

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<v Speaker 2>really helpful to reach out to community. And they're from

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<v Speaker 2>different schools. They're not all in the same school. They're

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<v Speaker 2>not all on the same teaching team, which I think

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<v Speaker 2>is helpful as well. Something else a lot of them

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<v Speaker 2>do that I could not do, but I think it's

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<v Speaker 2>a great idea. They all have to be at school

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<v Speaker 2>at by seven fifteen, and so they get up at

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<v Speaker 2>five so that they can have a slow morning. You know,

475
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<v Speaker 2>some of them will go for a walk around the

476
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<v Speaker 2>neighborhood or pray or meditate a little bit. But they

477
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<v Speaker 2>wake up extra early so that when they get to school,

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<v Speaker 2>they've already had that treasure of time for themselves. And

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<v Speaker 2>I think that's really important as well. It's a difficult,

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<v Speaker 2>difficult thing that you are going through, and I agree.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the parents are getting worse. I think they're

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<v Speaker 2>getting more vocal. One of my teacher friends, I think

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<v Speaker 2>she had a master's in education, and she only needed

484
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<v Speaker 2>a few credits to get her master's in library science.

485
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<v Speaker 2>So she switched from teaching fourth grade to being the

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<v Speaker 2>school librarian. She is over the moon happy. She's like,

487
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<v Speaker 2>this is the easiest best job compared to being in

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<v Speaker 2>the classroom and dealing with the parents.

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<v Speaker 1>I had a friend who also did that.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so I'm not saying leave your job, but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just saying sometimes when I get in those moments of like,

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<v Speaker 2>oh my gosh, I had to take care of these

493
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<v Speaker 2>kids all day. I have to take care of my family.

494
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<v Speaker 2>I had to take care of my mom. That's a lot.

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<v Speaker 2>And remembering and reminding yourself that you have options, I

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<v Speaker 2>think can be really helpful.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree, but that's helpful to her.

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<v Speaker 2>Our next one says, concerning the last podcast, you said

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<v Speaker 2>the souls we were given. We were given this body.

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<v Speaker 2>We are souls, and we were all connected at the

501
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<v Speaker 2>same instant. Some of us are more experienced at the

502
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<v Speaker 2>different distant dimensional dungeons of dwelling. I always enjoy your ramblings.

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<v Speaker 2>Keep up the good work. I'm surprised that we said

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<v Speaker 2>the souls we were given. That was probably me, but

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<v Speaker 2>I think this listener is right. We are souls, we

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<v Speaker 2>were given a body. So I stand corrected.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, and we are more Some of us are more

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<v Speaker 1>experienced at the different distant dimensional dungeons of dwelling. Good gracious,

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<v Speaker 1>have mercy, Thank you, and we will keep on rambling

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<v Speaker 1>and hopefully rambling the correct direction. Thank you for that.

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<v Speaker 1>Our next one says, I was visiting with my daughter

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<v Speaker 1>and we talked about asking our guides to show us

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<v Speaker 1>our spirit animals. She asked very specific questions to see

514
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<v Speaker 1>her spirit animal, but feel she isn't doing it right.

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<v Speaker 1>I think she got her answer. We are very involved

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<v Speaker 1>with horses as I grew up and still work on

517
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<v Speaker 1>a ranch and use horses for work. She has a

518
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<v Speaker 1>couple of her own horses, but she kept seeing mustangs

519
00:30:27.440 --> 00:30:30.960
<v Speaker 1>show up in different social media and had a lady

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<v Speaker 1>come into her workplace who started talking about her mustang.

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<v Speaker 1>I told my daughter that I think she got her answer,

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<v Speaker 1>but she replied, but they can be domesticated, so I

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<v Speaker 1>told her to ask her guide for confirmation. What are

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<v Speaker 1>your thoughts on domesticated animals as guides. I think that

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<v Speaker 1>it makes more sense to me for them to be

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<v Speaker 1>wild animals for us to get our messages brought to us.

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<v Speaker 1>But would like your opinion. Ooh, I love this question.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, In my beliefs and what I've been taught,

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<v Speaker 1>most indigenous peoples don't use the word animal. For example,

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<v Speaker 1>in the Lakota language, there's no such word as animal.

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<v Speaker 1>We think in terms of people, people's plural or nations,

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<v Speaker 1>and that there's no hierarchy among them. The ant person,

533
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<v Speaker 1>for example, is just as an important and just as

534
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<v Speaker 1>much unnecessary part of what's called the great gift giving

535
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<v Speaker 1>circle of life as is the buffalo nation person. And

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<v Speaker 1>there is no difference between dog person who lives in

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<v Speaker 1>your home with you and a wolf person who lives

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<v Speaker 1>in the Arctic. They are all the same in terms

539
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<v Speaker 1>of their gifts and what they bring into connected universal energy.

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<v Speaker 1>And when we think of animal that I use that

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<v Speaker 1>word in our sense of the people in a big circle.

542
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<v Speaker 1>We often see ourselves as humans in the center of

543
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<v Speaker 1>that circle. We are not That circle is all of

544
00:32:19.359 --> 00:32:25.799
<v Speaker 1>us two legged, four legged, swimming, crawling, flying, and standing.

545
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<v Speaker 1>People's so to think, oh, well, it's not okay to

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<v Speaker 1>have a quote domesticated animal person as a guide. Have

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<v Speaker 1>you listened to me talk about Merlin the Magic cap.

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<v Speaker 1>Not only were he and I best friends, he was

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<v Speaker 1>also one of my greatest teachers. I trusted him more

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<v Speaker 1>than I have probably trusted almost any other being in

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<v Speaker 1>the world. His guidance and protection of me were always there.

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<v Speaker 1>I would invite those folks listening who question and say,

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<v Speaker 1>oh wait, I just saw a hawk that must be

554
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<v Speaker 1>my guide. Well, the people who come to us are

555
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<v Speaker 1>not always just permanent folks with us for our lifetime,

556
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<v Speaker 1>but they come at a particular moment to teach us

557
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<v Speaker 1>a particular lesson, to invite us to look at the

558
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<v Speaker 1>world in a different way. So justice, perhaps that hawk

559
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<v Speaker 1>person may be your teacher. So is the blue jay. Example.

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<v Speaker 1>While Samantha and I have been recording this episode this morning,

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<v Speaker 1>I have watched a little Carolina wren sit on the

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<v Speaker 1>banister of my deck all morning, and every once in

563
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<v Speaker 1>a while she I don't know why. I think it's

564
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<v Speaker 1>a she will fly away and then come back. Well,

565
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<v Speaker 1>probably given the time of year it is, this wren

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<v Speaker 1>is looking for a good place to build a nest

567
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<v Speaker 1>eventually here. But nonetheless, I know that there is a

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<v Speaker 1>lesson for me this morning because of this wren being nearby.

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<v Speaker 1>And when we finish recording, I will go back to

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<v Speaker 1>some notes that I have made about another experience I

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<v Speaker 1>had with a wren some years ago to be reminded

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<v Speaker 1>of why maybe this wren has returned to me this morning.

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<v Speaker 1>So everyone is a teacher for everyone, regardless of domestication

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<v Speaker 1>or not.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, and it's important to remember, like you were saying,

576
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<v Speaker 2>some animal people come to us just as a sign

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<v Speaker 2>or a reminder or a message. It doesn't mean that

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<v Speaker 2>they are our guides. When my daughter moved to college,

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<v Speaker 2>the first month, she saw ladybugs everywhere. I mean she

580
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<v Speaker 2>basically had wood like living in her door room that

581
00:34:40.400 --> 00:34:42.360
<v Speaker 2>she would snap a picture and send it to me.

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<v Speaker 2>I think that Ladybug came to her for that first

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<v Speaker 2>month just to say, you're going to have a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of good luck this year. This is going to be

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<v Speaker 2>a good year. And it really was. But I don't

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<v Speaker 2>think the ladybug is like her spirit guide, her animal guide.

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<v Speaker 1>Yah, you don't know, because one of the things that

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<v Speaker 1>we do is discount Miselle. Probably not that Ladybuger's probably

589
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<v Speaker 1>not there with her forever. And you may be absolutely

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<v Speaker 1>right about that. But what's important is to be in

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<v Speaker 1>the now with the information you're getting and the guidance

592
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<v Speaker 1>and the support you're getting, and.

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<v Speaker 2>Just to acknowledge it and say thank you and recognize it.

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<v Speaker 2>Great question. Okay, let's take our last break. We'll be

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<v Speaker 2>right back. Hey guys, I'm teaching a live webinar in

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<v Speaker 2>March hosted by the Edgar Cacare if you want to

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<v Speaker 2>learn more about the magical potential in your dreams, how

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<v Speaker 2>to work with your subconscious through the dream state, and

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<v Speaker 2>tips for remembering your dreams. Join me online March eighteenth

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<v Speaker 2>at eight pm Eastern. To register, you can go to

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<v Speaker 2>Edgarcacy dot org and click the Upcoming Events and Programs tab.

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<v Speaker 2>And then in April, I'm teaching the Be your Own

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<v Speaker 2>Psychic Class that will start Wednesdays in April on April

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<v Speaker 2>eighth from seven to eight thirty pm Eastern. In this

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<v Speaker 2>jam packed into active course, you'll learn how to work

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<v Speaker 2>with your chakras to awaken and strengthen your intuition. You're

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<v Speaker 2>partnered up with someone new from class each week to

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<v Speaker 2>practice all of the exercises in the course. Some of

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<v Speaker 2>the topics covered include working with guys and angels, how

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<v Speaker 2>to start doing readings, finding your community, working with your clayers,

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<v Speaker 2>and using psychic tools. The four week class includes lots

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<v Speaker 2>of handouts, three guided MP three meditations, and class recordings.

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<v Speaker 2>Just go to Samantha Fay dot com and click the

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<v Speaker 2>upcoming events tab. Hope to see you there. Welcome back, okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Our last one says, I'm writing to you with a

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<v Speaker 2>question related to chord cutting. After reading your Psychic Protection

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<v Speaker 2>E course you offer and doing the practice. A few

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<v Speaker 2>things came up. In my first session. I cut chords

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<v Speaker 2>to three successive people. After each cut, I dwelled in

620
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<v Speaker 2>the golden aura for some time to allow it to settle. Then,

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<v Speaker 2>when I felt ready, I simply asked where else I

622
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<v Speaker 2>had a negative cord that needed to be cut. After

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<v Speaker 2>an initial successful cut, I received an image of an

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<v Speaker 2>old employer friend and immediately saw the cord attached at

625
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<v Speaker 2>our respective throat chakras, so I cut it. This was

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<v Speaker 2>a friend from some years ago, with whom I had

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<v Speaker 2>always felt a heavy, intense and chaotic energy. It felt

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<v Speaker 2>good to release this. I then asked one last time

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<v Speaker 2>to see a person with whom I had a negative cord.

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<v Speaker 2>The person that came up for me was an ex partner,

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<v Speaker 2>whom I consider a karmic friend in the sense that

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<v Speaker 2>from the get go our paths seemed linked in a

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<v Speaker 2>powerful way. I've always felt that the energy between us

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<v Speaker 2>was intense, heavy, and charged, perhaps with the tinge of darkness,

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<v Speaker 2>which I always simply interpreted as the energy of the

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<v Speaker 2>trauma she carries, which she has been working at shedding

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<v Speaker 2>for years through plant medicine, ceremonies and herbal concoctions. As

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<v Speaker 2>well as energy work. Many people likewise find her energy

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<v Speaker 2>quite intense. Essentially, I feel that she is a being

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<v Speaker 2>who has a lot on her heart, but who is

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<v Speaker 2>genuinely driven towards light, which is why I've wanted to

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<v Speaker 2>keep her in my life, should she ever need help

643
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<v Speaker 2>on her journey or just someone to talk to. When

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<v Speaker 2>I did the practice, I saw that we were linked

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<v Speaker 2>by a cord that was sort of messy, goopy, black

646
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<v Speaker 2>slime and shreds of duct tape, and it was attached

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<v Speaker 2>at my root chakra and her heart chakra. I decided

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<v Speaker 2>to trust my intuition and cut this cord, which felt

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<v Speaker 2>good overall, all the more so because I had just

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<v Speaker 2>done two previous chord cuttings. I noticed what seemed like

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<v Speaker 2>unwholesome spirits get released from the cut and had to

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<v Speaker 2>use an indigenous style sharp toothed wooden sword to do

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<v Speaker 2>the cut. My question is, does cutting a chord with

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<v Speaker 2>someone like this partner mean that I commit myself to

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<v Speaker 2>no longer engage with this person. Can we have many

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<v Speaker 2>chords with someone, some of which are positive and some

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<v Speaker 2>of which are negative, or is it always one chord,

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<v Speaker 2>the emotional tenor of which ruppers sense the whole dynamic

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<v Speaker 2>can cord cutting act as an energetic reset, so that

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<v Speaker 2>if we reattach we won't be carrying the baggage of

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<v Speaker 2>many years. This is a person I've known for about

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<v Speaker 2>a decade, and it's only in the last year that

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<v Speaker 2>the relationship became very much attuned to growth and healing.

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<v Speaker 2>I have many other friends that come to mind that

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<v Speaker 2>struggle with addiction, depression, and so on, and yet I

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<v Speaker 2>know they benefit greatly from the time we spend together,

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<v Speaker 2>perhaps sitting to do meditation or just having a call

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<v Speaker 2>to let them know they're doing all right and that

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<v Speaker 2>I'm there for them. These are all beings that I

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<v Speaker 2>will deliberately evoke in my prayers as I send spiritual

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<v Speaker 2>companions and guides and angels to help them dispel confusion

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<v Speaker 2>and cultivate inner peace. In your practice, where do you

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<v Speaker 2>strike a balance between including these heavier people for whom

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<v Speaker 2>we feel deep compassion and setting a firm boundary reserved

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<v Speaker 2>for positive beings. And again, I'll stress that the people

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<v Speaker 2>I'm mentioning, even if they are struggling deeply with negative emotions,

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<v Speaker 2>are very aware of the predicament and trying to move

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<v Speaker 2>towards light. The whole question is, of course the result

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<v Speaker 2>of my intuition hinting that I should cut a chord

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<v Speaker 2>with someone whom, in my heart I consider to be

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<v Speaker 2>a friend and fellow traveler on the path. I want

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<v Speaker 2>to thank you in advance for any advice. The E

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<v Speaker 2>course has been a real blessing. I'll be recommending it

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<v Speaker 2>to friends. Thank you. All right, there's a lot to

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<v Speaker 2>impact there. First of all, yes, you can have positive

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<v Speaker 2>chords and negative chords with people. And when you do

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<v Speaker 2>a chord cutting and you set the intention to see

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<v Speaker 2>the negative chords, you're only going to cut the negative chords.

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<v Speaker 2>Those positive chords are made of love. I don't even

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<v Speaker 2>think they can be severed, because that's how strong love

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<v Speaker 2>is as an energetic connection. But once you do cut

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<v Speaker 2>a negative chord, it does not mean you're done with

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<v Speaker 2>that person. I mean, deb how many times have we

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<v Speaker 2>had to do chord cutting meditations for negative people at

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<v Speaker 2>our life and they just record hello? Right, right, So

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<v Speaker 2>don't worry about that. You're not going to sever that chord.

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<v Speaker 2>And then that person's going to be like Jane, do

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<v Speaker 2>who are you? I have no idea. You know they're

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<v Speaker 2>not going to forget you. They will probably record, which

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<v Speaker 2>is why we recommend doing a guided cord cutting meditation

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<v Speaker 2>frequently because that will happen. Now, even if these people

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<v Speaker 2>are going through a lot and need you, and you're

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<v Speaker 2>there for them, and it sounds as though you really

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<v Speaker 2>want to be there for them, you want them to

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<v Speaker 2>know that you are there as a support. I think

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<v Speaker 2>that is beautiful and speaks a lot to your character

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<v Speaker 2>and the loving soul that you are. What I don't

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<v Speaker 2>see in this email is what you receive from them,

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<v Speaker 2>And I just think it is important. When you're intuitive

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<v Speaker 2>and empathic and on this spiritual journey, we love to give,

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<v Speaker 2>we love to help others, but we have to be

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<v Speaker 2>cognizant of what are we receiving in return. And I

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<v Speaker 2>don't mean that in a tit for tat way. I

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<v Speaker 2>just really think it's important that you are also receiving

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<v Speaker 2>something from them so that you are not completely draining

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<v Speaker 2>your energy. So I would just ask you to really

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<v Speaker 2>consider that there are some people who are on the

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<v Speaker 2>spiritual path and they kind of enjoy always needing help

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<v Speaker 2>and needing prayers and needing something and complaining and bemoaning

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<v Speaker 2>and going over and over and over their past trauma.

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<v Speaker 2>And if any of these people you're referencing are like that,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I think it can be a difficult

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<v Speaker 2>thing for our energetic field to maintain them in our life.

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<v Speaker 2>You can still send them a prayer, you can still

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<v Speaker 2>light candles for them, you can still ask that they

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<v Speaker 2>be surrounded by their guides and angels. But engaging with

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<v Speaker 2>them every time that they need two hours on the

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<v Speaker 2>phone or what have you. I think there needs to

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<v Speaker 2>be some reflection there.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you think, Oh, indeed, I do You can

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<v Speaker 1>be very kind and empathetic and caring about someone and

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<v Speaker 1>not have a chord connected to them. If you've sent

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<v Speaker 1>me an email, you know this is true because you've

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<v Speaker 1>seen it at the bottom of my email. Some years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>I had a chord with an amazingly difficult energy vampire,

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<v Speaker 1>exactly if Samantha described take take, take, take take, and

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<v Speaker 1>gave nothing back. And I tried chord cutting, and I

738
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<v Speaker 1>tried all sorts of stuff, and it would work for

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<v Speaker 1>a bit, and then here we go again, the chord

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<v Speaker 1>would come back. And what finally helped me was a

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<v Speaker 1>mantra from the chorus from a song by Jewel and

742
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<v Speaker 1>the name of the song is life uncommon, and the

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<v Speaker 1>verse is no longer. Lend your strength to that which

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<v Speaker 1>you wish to be free from lives with love and bravery,

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<v Speaker 1>and you shall lead a life uncommon. And every time

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<v Speaker 1>this person called me up and start and I could

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<v Speaker 1>feel the chord coming, I quit hearing her. I literally

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<v Speaker 1>blocked out whatever it was she was saying, and I

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<v Speaker 1>started singing that line from Jewel in my head, and

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<v Speaker 1>guess what, she went away. So the chord cutting is

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<v Speaker 1>a great exercise, and it's a great thing to do

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<v Speaker 1>when it's needed. But you also have some ancillary support

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<v Speaker 1>to use with that process if you should choose to

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<v Speaker 1>use it, And in my case, I use song lyrics,

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<v Speaker 1>but there's certainly other things as well, so you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have to do chord cutting in a vacuum. I guess

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<v Speaker 1>that's what I'm saying here.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, exactly. But this person is doing everything right and

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<v Speaker 2>has absolutely beautiful, perfect intentions. I just that was the

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<v Speaker 2>one thing that stood out to me, is that this

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<v Speaker 2>person is always showing up for these people, and I

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<v Speaker 2>just think you have to sometimes when do you show

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<v Speaker 2>up for me? Right?

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<v Speaker 1>And to show up for yourself is to say I

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<v Speaker 1>have clear boundaries, and here we are. And again, like

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<v Speaker 1>I said a few minutes ago to another email, we gotten,

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<v Speaker 1>no is a complete sentence and it's okay to say

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<v Speaker 1>it sometimes. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean those energy vampires. The one you're talking about,

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<v Speaker 2>if I'm thinking of the same person, was just not

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<v Speaker 2>a very nice person. But there are energy vampires who

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<v Speaker 2>are incredibly kind. They don't even know their energy vampires.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, absolutely not. I can tell you that this person

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<v Speaker 1>would would have believed that she was just you know,

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<v Speaker 1>right up there with the good guys with kindness, and

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<v Speaker 1>that she was the victim who.

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<v Speaker 2>Not So no, no, So I would I would keep

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<v Speaker 2>doing your cord cutting meditation, and I would also just

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<v Speaker 2>reflect on the give and take of these relationships and

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<v Speaker 2>keep lighting the candle, like we said before, doing all

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<v Speaker 2>that beautiful things. But you might want to consider cutting

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<v Speaker 2>a chord to any aspect of yourself that feels as

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<v Speaker 2>though you have to show up for everyone. And the

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<v Speaker 2>book I would recommend us one we talk about all

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<v Speaker 2>the time on the show, just like with Helen Graves,

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<v Speaker 2>is Sacred Selfishness by doctor Bud Harris. So it's a

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<v Speaker 2>good one that reminds us it's okay to put ourselves

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<v Speaker 2>first sometimes, and that we have to shine a light

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<v Speaker 2>on ourselves if we're going to shine a light on others.

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<v Speaker 1>Good point.

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<v Speaker 2>These were really good questions, and some of them were

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<v Speaker 2>really heavy, And I just want to remind everyone how

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<v Speaker 2>honored deb and I feel when you take time to

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<v Speaker 2>sit down and compose an email to us, because it's,

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<v Speaker 2>like the teacher listener said, all of the questions that

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<v Speaker 2>other teachers have sent in gave her the courage to

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<v Speaker 2>send hers in. But it also reminds us that we're

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<v Speaker 2>all we're all walking this path together, and we're all

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<v Speaker 2>dealing with heavy stuff, and it does lighten and lessen

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<v Speaker 2>our burden when we vocalize it and share it with others.

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<v Speaker 2>There is something so powerful about just putting words to

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<v Speaker 2>what it is you're going through. Don't you agree?

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<v Speaker 1>I do. We're honored to do this episode every month,

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<v Speaker 1>so many that there's no way we can answer them

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<v Speaker 1>in person, but we're happy to be able to find

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