Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to Psychic Teachers. I'm your host, Deb.
Speaker 2: Bowie and I'm Samantha Fay, and we are.
Speaker 1: Just so excited that you are with us. We have
Speaker 1: some really wonderful questions for this month's question and answer episode,
Speaker 1: and that's where we're going to begin. Shall we just
Speaker 1: dive right in, Samantha, Yes.
Speaker 2: I will start us off with our first one. It
Speaker 2: says I'm reaching out because something happened this morning with
Speaker 2: my two year old that made me think of your
Speaker 2: guidance on the podcast. We were lying in bed when
Speaker 2: she suddenly said, look, people say hi mommy, and started
Speaker 2: weaving toward the end of the bed. Then she said,
Speaker 2: look at the lady, and a few minutes later pointed
Speaker 2: and said hi man. It felt very matter of fact
Speaker 2: to her. After listening to your podcast, I remember you
Speaker 2: saying to respond with that overreacting. I've been trying to
Speaker 2: stay calm and neutral so I don't dismiss her intuition
Speaker 2: or make her doubt herself. There are also moments when
Speaker 2: she says she's scared and that a monster is coming.
Speaker 2: When that happens, I encourage her to say no, monster,
Speaker 2: get out of here. To help her feel empowered and safe,
Speaker 2: especially in her own home. I'd love your thoughts on
Speaker 2: how to best handle situations like this, how to validate
Speaker 2: her experience without reinforcing fear, and how to nurture her
Speaker 2: intuition healthily. Well. Doesn't it sound like she's doing everything right?
Speaker 1: Deb Wow, I wish i'd had burns my mom.
Speaker 2: I know me to because you know your first response,
Speaker 2: especially if you aren't intuitive yourself and your child's talking
Speaker 2: about seeing all these people crowding around the bed, you
Speaker 2: might be afraid or you might say it's your imagination.
Speaker 2: But she did not overreact and just said hello to
Speaker 2: the people that she couldn't see. I'm assuming when the
Speaker 2: scary things happened, she's empowering her, So I think that's
Speaker 2: really really good. I would also recommend that you teach
Speaker 2: your child really safe ways to shield her energy and
Speaker 2: not to sound like a used car salesman. But I
Speaker 2: do have a e course on my website called Raising
Speaker 2: your Intuitive Child. I think it's ten dollars, but it
Speaker 2: has a bunch of tips in there about how to
Speaker 2: gently teach your child how to put extra light around
Speaker 2: their aura, like teaching them how to jump into a
Speaker 2: fluffy cloud of protection or using a lightsaber or Cinderella's coach,
Speaker 2: different child centered tips and techniques like that, So you
Speaker 2: might want to check that out. Maybe you could get
Speaker 2: her into some crystals, so she could have some big
Speaker 2: crystals by her bed, like an amethyst or a haematite
Speaker 2: that will be extra protecting. But honestly, just supporting her
Speaker 2: the way you are. It sounds like you're doing everything right.
Speaker 1: Mom.
Speaker 2: You're just doing a fantastic job, and we want to
Speaker 2: give you kudos for that.
Speaker 1: Absolutely. And you know, folks, I have to tell you,
Speaker 1: when Samantha's daughters were little, one of the things that
Speaker 1: she used to do is she drove them to school
Speaker 1: in the morning. Was she had them imagine that they
Speaker 1: were being driven in the protection of Cinderella's magic coach.
Speaker 1: And every time I think of Cinderella, I think, look
Speaker 1: at what Samantha did for those children, and she taught
Speaker 1: them to do those kinds of things for themselves.
Speaker 2: So yeah, and I think if you make it like
Speaker 2: normal and not woo woo, like okay, kids, now we're
Speaker 2: going to meditate. You know, I never did that. I
Speaker 2: would just say ooh, let's close our eyes and let's
Speaker 2: picture this and what do you see and imagine that
Speaker 2: and just make it fun and like I said, child focused.
Speaker 2: It teaches them how to incorporate these practices of intent
Speaker 2: or prayer if that's in your belief, and meditation and
Speaker 2: guided imagery and protection in a way that just becomes
Speaker 2: a daily practice, which I think is what budding intuitives need.
Speaker 2: They need to know how to turn on their light,
Speaker 2: how to turn off their light or at least dim
Speaker 2: their light when they need to go to school or
Speaker 2: go to bed, how to protect themselves, how to reinforce
Speaker 2: their boundaries. So all of that is really important. But
Speaker 2: from what she's written here, I think she's doing fantastic.
Speaker 1: I think so too. Here's to you it's are smart,
Speaker 1: they are? Yeah, Okay. Our next one says I suffered
Speaker 1: the tremendous loss of my husband two years ago. He
Speaker 1: was fifty five. We were together for thirty years and
Speaker 1: he was not only my life partner but my best friend.
Speaker 1: I met him when I was twenty two, so I've
Speaker 1: been with him my entire adult life. Somehow I have survived,
Speaker 1: and two years later AM started to feel my theory
Speaker 1: is life without him, and that I can live happily,
Speaker 1: not just for me, but for our two adult daughters.
Speaker 1: My question to you both is this, why do I
Speaker 1: feel so disconnected from him? Over the past x twenty
Speaker 1: five years I have studied reiki, crystals, meditation, yoga, to
Speaker 1: row cards, and other energy healing modalities. I certainly don't
Speaker 1: profess to be an expert, but I have always felt
Speaker 1: intuitive and connected to Spirit. So when he died, I
Speaker 1: expected the signs, expected the connection. I just expected more.
Speaker 1: I have read that it takes time for someone from
Speaker 1: the other side to be ready to connect. Recently, I
Speaker 1: have started dreaming about him, but he is just there
Speaker 1: and either irritating me or simply being frivolous. There are
Speaker 1: no profound messages or declaration of his love for me.
Speaker 1: Even my to row and oracle cards don't seem to
Speaker 1: have the shine they had before. I seem to be
Speaker 1: questioning everything now and wondering if I ever had any
Speaker 1: type of intuitive gift or connection as now it seems
Speaker 1: to have all but left me. Where are the signs
Speaker 1: I so desperately want from him? Or am I not
Speaker 1: open enough to re Do you perhaps have any advice
Speaker 1: on how to reconnect with Spirit, whether it is mine
Speaker 1: or his? Or am I being too hard on myself
Speaker 1: and expecting too much? Okay, First of all, I am
Speaker 1: so very very sorry about the loss of your life mate.
Speaker 1: To lose him has i'm sure been extremely difficult, and
Speaker 1: please know that our hearts are with you. Second, you've
Speaker 1: answered your own questions In many ways. What I have
Speaker 1: always been shown is that time is different on the
Speaker 1: other side, as the person on the other side goes
Speaker 1: through a life review and goes through the process of
Speaker 1: being acclimated and learning and growing and making plans perhaps
Speaker 1: to come back to this plane or to move on.
Speaker 1: A book I would really recommend, and I know we
Speaker 1: recommend this book all the time, but we mean it
Speaker 1: is Testimony of Light by Helen Greeves, where she talks
Speaker 1: about her friend who's a nun who is on the
Speaker 1: other side explains to her what happens on the other
Speaker 1: side to folks once they crossover. I will tell you
Speaker 1: that your feelings of disconnect, your feelings of oh what
Speaker 1: am I doing wrong? I've tried all these things and
Speaker 1: nothing's working. That is a normal part of the grieving process.
Speaker 1: What you're doing is very normal, And I use that
Speaker 1: word with big quotation marks because I'm not even sure
Speaker 1: there is such a thing as normal grieving, but it's
Speaker 1: certainly fairly common among folks who are grieving to have
Speaker 1: this roller coaster of emotions and beliefs and challenges to
Speaker 1: yourself and to the universe and to so much around you.
Speaker 1: Believe it or not. As hard as it is, it's
Speaker 1: also quite healthy to ask all of these questions and
Speaker 1: to just wonder. The other thing I think that we
Speaker 1: often do is we have this expectation of some kind
Speaker 1: of big reconnect that is deeply meaningful and really overt
Speaker 1: and really big, and sometimes it's just not. And sometimes
Speaker 1: what you get is that they just come and say, well,
Speaker 1: I'm okay over here, and you're okay over there, and
Speaker 1: I just want to say hi. And sometimes that's what
Speaker 1: you get. And sometimes you get nothing, and you wonder why.
Speaker 1: And the answer is, we don't know why. We don't
Speaker 1: know what that relationship we had that was so incredibly
Speaker 1: deep and powerful here on this plane does or does
Speaker 1: not continue to connect or reconnect from the other side.
Speaker 1: We don't have an answer for that. But I will
Speaker 1: tell you that your abilities to be intuitive have not
Speaker 1: left you, but they've taken a break. This intuitive work
Speaker 1: and grief work are both hard work, and sometimes I
Speaker 1: don't think we can always do them simultaneously. Don't be
Speaker 1: hurtling yourself, give yourself permission to just be here now.
Speaker 1: I can't speak about losing a marriage partner, but I
Speaker 1: can speak about this. When our wonderful friend, Jean the
Speaker 1: Palm Reader died. We've been friends for fifty years. It
Speaker 1: never crossed my mind she wouldn't come and hang out
Speaker 1: with me. We did for fifty years. Where's she going, dow,
Speaker 1: She's never been. You can go back and listen to
Speaker 1: a podcast episode that Joel and I did soon after
Speaker 1: she died, about this incredible treasure hunt that she created
Speaker 1: to teach me the one thing, the one last gift
Speaker 1: she wanted to give me, and it was two words,
Speaker 1: be happy. Just be happy. But it was a whole
Speaker 1: convoluted process to get that information. It was not Jeane
Speaker 1: coming and sitting on the side of my bed as
Speaker 1: I thought she would do. I don't know. I think
Speaker 1: she's busy on the other side. I think she had
Speaker 1: a lot of folks over there she needed to see
Speaker 1: and connect with. She had a lot of work to
Speaker 1: do to review her life and to look at where
Speaker 1: she's going. So keep in mind that your husband is
Speaker 1: doing what he needs to do on the other side
Speaker 1: right now, and give yourself permission to do what you
Speaker 1: need to do on this side, and be kind impatient
Speaker 1: with yourself.
Speaker 2: You know what I wonder, too, Deb, what there could
Speaker 2: be anger here? I know if I lost my life
Speaker 2: partner and I was only fifty five, I'd be pissed.
Speaker 1: That's a good point, and that's a normal part of
Speaker 1: the grieving process. It's normal to be angry.
Speaker 2: You know how. You just have this expectation of how
Speaker 2: your life will go, like we'll retire at this age,
Speaker 2: and then we'll travel, and then we'll do this, and
Speaker 2: then this will happen. And when that's ripped from you,
Speaker 2: there's anger. Anger will block intuition and mediumship stronger than
Speaker 2: I think, maybe even fear or doubt and the other
Speaker 2: thing that I never talk about. And I might delete
Speaker 2: this if you tell me too, Deb. When I've done
Speaker 2: mediumship readings, very often the person who has just died
Speaker 2: is sad too for a bit. And I never say
Speaker 2: that because I don't want anyone to think of their
Speaker 2: loved ones as being sad on the other side. But
Speaker 2: they're people, and sometimes they're upset that they died and
Speaker 2: they're missing you, and they're upset that they can't experience
Speaker 2: these chapters of living life with you, and it takes
Speaker 2: them some time to acclimate to that, and so it
Speaker 2: might be a whole combination of all of that. It
Speaker 2: doesn't mean that he's not on the other side. It
Speaker 2: doesn't mean that he's just footloose and fancy for and like, well,
Speaker 2: I hope she figures it out. No, I will bet
Speaker 2: you that he is trying so hard to work through
Speaker 2: his own emotions in his healing, but then he has
Speaker 2: to learn how to connect energetically with you. I had
Speaker 2: a friend and her father died and her mother was
Speaker 2: just not doing well with the grief, and nobody had
Speaker 2: gotten any signs or inkling or anything from him, and
Speaker 2: she asked me to tune in. And his energy was
Speaker 2: so specific, tob it was like one plus one plus
Speaker 2: one equals three. Like he would give me a symbol
Speaker 2: and then a symbol and then a symbol, and I'd
Speaker 2: have to put it together to get the message. And
Speaker 2: it was kind of frustrating and long, but he came
Speaker 2: through really, really well. She said, Oh, he was a scientist,
Speaker 2: so that makes sense. He didn't know. He didn't know
Speaker 2: how to connect with someone like me. He didn't know
Speaker 2: how to flicker a light bulb for his wife. He
Speaker 2: didn't know. And when he connected with me, I remember
Speaker 2: him saying, this is so fun, Like he just didn't know.
Speaker 2: So they do have to learn everything about energy when
Speaker 2: they get over there and how they can connect with us.
Speaker 2: But I just I just would give yourself some grace
Speaker 2: and time to work through the anger. And if you
Speaker 2: are angry and try to be okay with that too.
Speaker 1: Feelings are not right a wrong page of star.
Speaker 2: Yeah, does that make sense? Like both of my sisters
Speaker 2: have heard from my dad and I haven't. And I'm
Speaker 2: the medium, I'm the intuitive one.
Speaker 1: But I think you're the one who was with him
Speaker 1: every day.
Speaker 2: Yeah, but I'm so pissed that he's gone. And I
Speaker 2: know that makes no sense. The man was eighty three,
Speaker 2: like you know, it's not like he was fifty five
Speaker 2: like this listener. But I'm still angry, and so I
Speaker 2: think I still have to work through that.
Speaker 1: And that may be you know that you say that
Speaker 1: that may be a part of of mine. Is you know,
Speaker 1: damn it, Jane, why did you leave me?
Speaker 2: Yeah?
Speaker 1: But she was ninety three, hello, you know, and tired.
Speaker 1: She was tired, she was ready to go.
Speaker 2: So one worth thing. I would just recommend that this
Speaker 2: listener work on not even connecting with spirit or your
Speaker 2: wonderful husband, but just connecting with yourself, you know, yeah,
Speaker 2: and just being being okay with the sadness and the
Speaker 2: loss and the anger. Well not but you'll never be
Speaker 2: okay with it, but you know, sitting with it so
Speaker 2: that you don't judge yourself for being mad at his
Speaker 2: death or even mad at him. That's okay too, but
Speaker 2: I think you need to give yourself time to sit
Speaker 2: with all those emotions.
Speaker 1: I do too, And I will just say this. When
Speaker 1: each of my parents died, I put myself in therapy
Speaker 1: with a grief counselor, and it was incredibly helpful to
Speaker 1: have a consistent meeting with someone who was professional, who
Speaker 1: had no emotional ties to the situation at all, and
Speaker 1: who just heard me. And that was so helpful to me.
Speaker 2: That's a great suggestion too, Okay. Our next one says,
Speaker 2: I'm currently working through an addiction and focusing on grounding
Speaker 2: and healing. I was hoping you might have recommendations for
Speaker 2: crystals that could support me during this process, especially ones
Speaker 2: that pair well with grounding techniques and emotional stability. Do
Speaker 2: I have crystal recommendations? Yes, I do think. I think
Speaker 2: the first one I would recommend is amethyst because it
Speaker 2: is called the all healer, but it is also called
Speaker 2: the stone of sobriety. You want to hear a funny
Speaker 2: legend story, deb Oh, yeah, good. The reason why the
Speaker 2: Romans would make their wine goblets out of amethyst was
Speaker 2: because it was known as the stone of sobriety, and
Speaker 2: it was said that you couldn't get drunk if you
Speaker 2: drank wine from an amethyst goblet. And think about Roman days.
Speaker 2: I mean, they couldn't walk around with their stanley jugs
Speaker 2: of water like we do. They had to drink wine
Speaker 2: basically all day, so there was a risk of being
Speaker 2: aneebraided all the time. But historians now believe that the
Speaker 2: reason why they would pour wine into amethyst goblets is
Speaker 2: that they would water it down so much to save
Speaker 2: money and it would still look purple because it was
Speaker 2: in a purple goblet, and that's why it became known
Speaker 2: as the stone of sobriety because you couldn't get drunk
Speaker 2: of water down wine. I would also recommend lipidolite because
Speaker 2: it is a stone of emotional stability and it is
Speaker 2: just a very calming stone that helps to clear overthinking thoughts.
Speaker 2: Pyrite would be another good one, the golden pyrite, because
Speaker 2: it really does seal in your intentions and helps break
Speaker 2: bad habits. Sunstone I would also recommend because it's such
Speaker 2: a happy stone and it gives courage and confidence so
Speaker 2: that we can continue on with sobriety. Clear chords to
Speaker 2: help you really focus on what it is you are
Speaker 2: achieving in your journey. Black obsidian for again the grounding
Speaker 2: that you asked for and the protection. You cannot beat
Speaker 2: Black obsidian for that. And rodonite again for emotional stability,
Speaker 2: but also for grief work and healing, because I think
Speaker 2: when you're going through the healing process of addiction, a
Speaker 2: lot of stuff comes up, and rodonite is a great
Speaker 2: stone to help you deal with that with some self love.
Speaker 1: Tiger's Eye is coming to mind, Samantha, you have thoughts
Speaker 1: on that.
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, that would make sense because it's grounding, it's protective.
Speaker 2: But the gold and the tiger's eye also helps in
Speaker 2: similar ways to the pyrite and the sunstone. It's incredibly protective.
Speaker 2: It was used for years as a talisman against the
Speaker 2: evil eye or people who are ill wishing you or
Speaker 2: jealous of you. But it also works on the root
Speaker 2: and solar plexus chakra, so it will ground you but
Speaker 2: also empower you to set healthy boundaries.
Speaker 1: Absolutely, that is hard work. Working through addiction issues is hard,
Speaker 1: hard work. And really be kind and gentle with yourself.
Speaker 1: I don't know which method you're following. I don't need
Speaker 1: to know, but whichever it is, if it is working
Speaker 1: for you, work it as they say.
Speaker 2: I just had a thought. You know, my dad used
Speaker 2: to carry his AA chips every day with such pride,
Speaker 2: and he'd take them out and you know, put them
Speaker 2: on his bureau every night. They should make amethyst chips
Speaker 2: for AA.
Speaker 1: Well that thing.
Speaker 2: That's a good play, right, because we really my dad
Speaker 2: would often carry his in his pocket.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: I can remember him like flipping them in his pocket
Speaker 2: with his thumb and forefinger.
Speaker 1: You know, almost using him like a worry stone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, they should make those out of amethyst.
Speaker 1: Well, you know, I bet you that this listener could
Speaker 1: find a worry stone made of amethyst, yeah, and put
Speaker 1: it in the pocket and use it that way too.
Speaker 1: I'm sure you could. Yeah.
Speaker 2: And I would recommend maybe doing a crystal grid with
Speaker 2: those stones, And just because I recommended them in debt,
Speaker 2: you know, if they don't resonate with you, use what
Speaker 2: resonates with you. But you do want to get something
Speaker 2: like amethyst that is said to help us break bad
Speaker 2: habits and heal, or something like lipidolite or rotonite for
Speaker 2: that stability, and put it all into a crystal grid
Speaker 2: with your affirmation at the center, underneath a larger pyramid
Speaker 2: or obelisk shaped stone. Okay, let's take our first quick
Speaker 2: break and we'll be right back with some more wonderful questions.
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Speaker 1: Our next one says, I'm in my mid fifties, married
Speaker 1: to a wonderful husband, and I am a school teacher.
Speaker 1: I've been teaching for almost thirty years. I've really been
Speaker 1: interested in your q and as episodes where you had
Speaker 1: teaching or teacher related questions. It has given me the
Speaker 1: confidence to send you my email. Let's just say, teaching
Speaker 1: isn't getting any easier, boy? Is that the truth. I
Speaker 1: love the job, but every day is different. I enjoy
Speaker 1: the creative process of preparing lessons and get such a
Speaker 1: feeling of satisfaction when you see that light bulb moment
Speaker 1: with a child. However, some weeks I am beyond exhausted,
Speaker 1: both physically and mentally. I've come home crying as I've
Speaker 1: walked through the door because I am so drained, and
Speaker 1: I know I'm not alone. Sometimes the biggest issue I
Speaker 1: have to deal with is the parents. I'm always polite
Speaker 1: and positive to parents, but I don't always get the
Speaker 1: same in return. Also, there's so much negativity out there,
Speaker 1: with parents creating what's at groups and social media discussing
Speaker 1: you and your interactions with their children, questioning things. It's
Speaker 1: heartbreaking sometimes where is the respect that we had for
Speaker 1: each other? So after a long ramble, my question is
Speaker 1: how can I manage my evenings, my weekends, and my
Speaker 1: half term breaks. I lie in bed rerunning the day
Speaker 1: through my mind, thinking about the next day and the
Speaker 1: next day. I'm drained. I feel like quitting. Some days
Speaker 1: I meditate, but it's getting harder and harder. I take
Speaker 1: long walks in the woods near my house, but find
Speaker 1: myself unable to switch off. I'm also caring for my mom,
Speaker 1: who is in her eighties, and let me tell you this,
Speaker 1: it's not easy. Ooh. I've taken a deep breath after
Speaker 1: that one Samantha.
Speaker 2: That's a lot she's in this sandwich generation. And when
Speaker 2: she said how parents are creating what's app groups and
Speaker 2: social media groups to discuss you, that is something you
Speaker 2: and I did not have to deal with when we
Speaker 2: were teaching. That nothing no but my tea.
Speaker 1: Yes we did, but that was usually just students. It
Speaker 1: wasn't parents, although towards the end of my time at teaching,
Speaker 1: I did have an interesting and unpleasant experience with a
Speaker 1: student's parent, even though my student was a university student
Speaker 1: and an adult. But in any case, let me go
Speaker 1: back to this gal's question here. Let me offer just
Speaker 1: some practical suggestions for you, in addition to the emotional suggestions.
Speaker 1: When you walk into your house in the afternoon after school,
Speaker 1: go straight to the laundry room, take the clothes off
Speaker 1: that you have been wearing to work, and jump in
Speaker 1: the shower and literally and metaphorically wash off your day.
Speaker 1: Literally the water will help cleanse you, not just physically,
Speaker 1: but also if you can envision that that water is
Speaker 1: also realigning and connecting your chakra energy to bring you
Speaker 1: back to center. That is one of the best ways
Speaker 1: I know to delineate your time from your work turned
Speaker 1: and you put that the clothes you've been wearing in
Speaker 1: the washing machine and let them get the gunk off
Speaker 1: of them that they've absorbed all during the day. I
Speaker 1: also can't recommend enough to you that you carry stones
Speaker 1: with you to work. Who was I talking to a
Speaker 1: while back who said that she needed a different broad
Speaker 1: size because she always has all these rocks that are
Speaker 1: bra And I thought, oh boy, but you know, put
Speaker 1: a stone in your desk drawer, maybe even something. And
Speaker 1: this sounds very simplistic, and Samantha's probably got additional suggestions
Speaker 1: for this, but a piece of clear courtz so that
Speaker 1: while you're in that space with your students and potentially
Speaker 1: with having to talk to parents, that you've got some
Speaker 1: clarity and support from that rock. One of the things
Speaker 1: that I hear you saying you do is that you
Speaker 1: meditate and you go for walks and whatnot, and it's
Speaker 1: hard to turn it off. I know it's hard to
Speaker 1: turn it off, probably because you're a good teacher. You
Speaker 1: come home at night and think, oh, here's something I
Speaker 1: can add to tomorrow's left. So you never quit working,
Speaker 1: walk away from it. Give yourself permission to do something different,
Speaker 1: whether it's making a jigsaw puzzle or reading a nonsensical
Speaker 1: book that didn't matter, whatever it is, give yourself those
Speaker 1: very clear boundaries. No, it's not a dirty word. It
Speaker 1: is a complete sentence. Give yourself permission to do something fun.
Speaker 1: Don't do what I call the yeah but syndrome, which
Speaker 1: is when you think, oh, today's Saturday and I could
Speaker 1: go yard sailing, for example, Yeah, but I probably stay
Speaker 1: home and clean the toilet. No, get out of the
Speaker 1: house and go. The toilet will be there when you
Speaker 1: get home. Eyebrotheros with the mom thing. I recommend that
Speaker 1: there are support groups available. They're online groups. I know
Speaker 1: I used to when I was helping to take care
Speaker 1: of my parents, had belonged to a website or followed
Speaker 1: a website. I think it was caregiver dot org. I
Speaker 1: may add that wrong, but really gave me some great suggestions.
Speaker 1: Give yourself permission to take care of you. That's really
Speaker 1: what this boils down to for me, Samantha. You want
Speaker 1: to add to.
Speaker 2: Yeah and really treat your time as your treasure. Absolutely,
Speaker 2: and it might cost you money, and that's okay for now,
Speaker 2: if possible. So what I mean by that is when
Speaker 2: I was working and taking care of the kids and
Speaker 2: my mom and all of that. I stopped cooking for
Speaker 2: like a year. And was it expensive to order out
Speaker 2: or you know instacart stuff to my mom's house. Yeah
Speaker 2: it was, but you know what, it was worth it
Speaker 2: for that little bit because I had nothing left to give,
Speaker 2: and to me, cooking is a nurturing, giving thing, right.
Speaker 2: So whatever you feel is like a time eater in
Speaker 2: your life, try to find a way around it. Even
Speaker 2: if it's just you're like, oh, that's a waste of money,
Speaker 2: like I was. But even if it is and you
Speaker 2: can do it, do it because you need to treat
Speaker 2: your time off as your treasure as gold, because that's
Speaker 2: exactly what it is. Most of my friends are teachers
Speaker 2: in elementary school age and they are dealing with all
Speaker 2: of this. Some of the things that they do that
Speaker 2: have helped them. One they have started a group chat
Speaker 2: and it's on as like a video thing. It's a
Speaker 2: separate app thing, but they will video themselves rempting or
Speaker 2: shouting themselves out if they had a good day. That's
Speaker 2: really helpful to reach out to community. And they're from
Speaker 2: different schools. They're not all in the same school. They're
Speaker 2: not all on the same teaching team, which I think
Speaker 2: is helpful as well. Something else a lot of them
Speaker 2: do that I could not do, but I think it's
Speaker 2: a great idea. They all have to be at school
Speaker 2: at by seven fifteen, and so they get up at
Speaker 2: five so that they can have a slow morning. You know,
Speaker 2: some of them will go for a walk around the
Speaker 2: neighborhood or pray or meditate a little bit. But they
Speaker 2: wake up extra early so that when they get to school,
Speaker 2: they've already had that treasure of time for themselves. And
Speaker 2: I think that's really important as well. It's a difficult,
Speaker 2: difficult thing that you are going through, and I agree.
Speaker 2: I think the parents are getting worse. I think they're
Speaker 2: getting more vocal. One of my teacher friends, I think
Speaker 2: she had a master's in education, and she only needed
Speaker 2: a few credits to get her master's in library science.
Speaker 2: So she switched from teaching fourth grade to being the
Speaker 2: school librarian. She is over the moon happy. She's like,
Speaker 2: this is the easiest best job compared to being in
Speaker 2: the classroom and dealing with the parents.
Speaker 1: I had a friend who also did that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, so I'm not saying leave your job, but I'm
Speaker 2: just saying sometimes when I get in those moments of like,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, I had to take care of these
Speaker 2: kids all day. I have to take care of my family.
Speaker 2: I had to take care of my mom. That's a lot.
Speaker 2: And remembering and reminding yourself that you have options, I
Speaker 2: think can be really helpful.
Speaker 1: I agree, but that's helpful to her.
Speaker 2: Our next one says, concerning the last podcast, you said
Speaker 2: the souls we were given. We were given this body.
Speaker 2: We are souls, and we were all connected at the
Speaker 2: same instant. Some of us are more experienced at the
Speaker 2: different distant dimensional dungeons of dwelling. I always enjoy your ramblings.
Speaker 2: Keep up the good work. I'm surprised that we said
Speaker 2: the souls we were given. That was probably me, but
Speaker 2: I think this listener is right. We are souls, we
Speaker 2: were given a body. So I stand corrected.
Speaker 1: Well, and we are more Some of us are more
Speaker 1: experienced at the different distant dimensional dungeons of dwelling. Good gracious,
Speaker 1: have mercy, Thank you, and we will keep on rambling
Speaker 1: and hopefully rambling the correct direction. Thank you for that.
Speaker 1: Our next one says, I was visiting with my daughter
Speaker 1: and we talked about asking our guides to show us
Speaker 1: our spirit animals. She asked very specific questions to see
Speaker 1: her spirit animal, but feel she isn't doing it right.
Speaker 1: I think she got her answer. We are very involved
Speaker 1: with horses as I grew up and still work on
Speaker 1: a ranch and use horses for work. She has a
Speaker 1: couple of her own horses, but she kept seeing mustangs
Speaker 1: show up in different social media and had a lady
Speaker 1: come into her workplace who started talking about her mustang.
Speaker 1: I told my daughter that I think she got her answer,
Speaker 1: but she replied, but they can be domesticated, so I
Speaker 1: told her to ask her guide for confirmation. What are
Speaker 1: your thoughts on domesticated animals as guides. I think that
Speaker 1: it makes more sense to me for them to be
Speaker 1: wild animals for us to get our messages brought to us.
Speaker 1: But would like your opinion. Ooh, I love this question.
Speaker 1: First of all, In my beliefs and what I've been taught,
Speaker 1: most indigenous peoples don't use the word animal. For example,
Speaker 1: in the Lakota language, there's no such word as animal.
Speaker 1: We think in terms of people, people's plural or nations,
Speaker 1: and that there's no hierarchy among them. The ant person,
Speaker 1: for example, is just as an important and just as
Speaker 1: much unnecessary part of what's called the great gift giving
Speaker 1: circle of life as is the buffalo nation person. And
Speaker 1: there is no difference between dog person who lives in
Speaker 1: your home with you and a wolf person who lives
Speaker 1: in the Arctic. They are all the same in terms
Speaker 1: of their gifts and what they bring into connected universal energy.
Speaker 1: And when we think of animal that I use that
Speaker 1: word in our sense of the people in a big circle.
Speaker 1: We often see ourselves as humans in the center of
Speaker 1: that circle. We are not That circle is all of
Speaker 1: us two legged, four legged, swimming, crawling, flying, and standing.
Speaker 1: People's so to think, oh, well, it's not okay to
Speaker 1: have a quote domesticated animal person as a guide. Have
Speaker 1: you listened to me talk about Merlin the Magic cap.
Speaker 1: Not only were he and I best friends, he was
Speaker 1: also one of my greatest teachers. I trusted him more
Speaker 1: than I have probably trusted almost any other being in
Speaker 1: the world. His guidance and protection of me were always there.
Speaker 1: I would invite those folks listening who question and say,
Speaker 1: oh wait, I just saw a hawk that must be
Speaker 1: my guide. Well, the people who come to us are
Speaker 1: not always just permanent folks with us for our lifetime,
Speaker 1: but they come at a particular moment to teach us
Speaker 1: a particular lesson, to invite us to look at the
Speaker 1: world in a different way. So justice, perhaps that hawk
Speaker 1: person may be your teacher. So is the blue jay. Example.
Speaker 1: While Samantha and I have been recording this episode this morning,
Speaker 1: I have watched a little Carolina wren sit on the
Speaker 1: banister of my deck all morning, and every once in
Speaker 1: a while she I don't know why. I think it's
Speaker 1: a she will fly away and then come back. Well,
Speaker 1: probably given the time of year it is, this wren
Speaker 1: is looking for a good place to build a nest
Speaker 1: eventually here. But nonetheless, I know that there is a
Speaker 1: lesson for me this morning because of this wren being nearby.
Speaker 1: And when we finish recording, I will go back to
Speaker 1: some notes that I have made about another experience I
Speaker 1: had with a wren some years ago to be reminded
Speaker 1: of why maybe this wren has returned to me this morning.
Speaker 1: So everyone is a teacher for everyone, regardless of domestication
Speaker 1: or not.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it's important to remember, like you were saying,
Speaker 2: some animal people come to us just as a sign
Speaker 2: or a reminder or a message. It doesn't mean that
Speaker 2: they are our guides. When my daughter moved to college,
Speaker 2: the first month, she saw ladybugs everywhere. I mean she
Speaker 2: basically had wood like living in her door room that
Speaker 2: she would snap a picture and send it to me.
Speaker 2: I think that Ladybug came to her for that first
Speaker 2: month just to say, you're going to have a lot
Speaker 2: of good luck this year. This is going to be
Speaker 2: a good year. And it really was. But I don't
Speaker 2: think the ladybug is like her spirit guide, her animal guide.
Speaker 1: Yah, you don't know, because one of the things that
Speaker 1: we do is discount Miselle. Probably not that Ladybuger's probably
Speaker 1: not there with her forever. And you may be absolutely
Speaker 1: right about that. But what's important is to be in
Speaker 1: the now with the information you're getting and the guidance
Speaker 1: and the support you're getting, and.
Speaker 2: Just to acknowledge it and say thank you and recognize it.
Speaker 2: Great question. Okay, let's take our last break. We'll be
Speaker 2: right back. Hey guys, I'm teaching a live webinar in
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Speaker 2: And then in April, I'm teaching the Be your Own
Speaker 2: Psychic Class that will start Wednesdays in April on April
Speaker 2: eighth from seven to eight thirty pm Eastern. In this
Speaker 2: jam packed into active course, you'll learn how to work
Speaker 2: with your chakras to awaken and strengthen your intuition. You're
Speaker 2: partnered up with someone new from class each week to
Speaker 2: practice all of the exercises in the course. Some of
Speaker 2: the topics covered include working with guys and angels, how
Speaker 2: to start doing readings, finding your community, working with your clayers,
Speaker 2: and using psychic tools. The four week class includes lots
Speaker 2: of handouts, three guided MP three meditations, and class recordings.
Speaker 2: Just go to Samantha Fay dot com and click the
Speaker 2: upcoming events tab. Hope to see you there. Welcome back, okay.
Speaker 2: Our last one says, I'm writing to you with a
Speaker 2: question related to chord cutting. After reading your Psychic Protection
Speaker 2: E course you offer and doing the practice. A few
Speaker 2: things came up. In my first session. I cut chords
Speaker 2: to three successive people. After each cut, I dwelled in
Speaker 2: the golden aura for some time to allow it to settle. Then,
Speaker 2: when I felt ready, I simply asked where else I
Speaker 2: had a negative cord that needed to be cut. After
Speaker 2: an initial successful cut, I received an image of an
Speaker 2: old employer friend and immediately saw the cord attached at
Speaker 2: our respective throat chakras, so I cut it. This was
Speaker 2: a friend from some years ago, with whom I had
Speaker 2: always felt a heavy, intense and chaotic energy. It felt
Speaker 2: good to release this. I then asked one last time
Speaker 2: to see a person with whom I had a negative cord.
Speaker 2: The person that came up for me was an ex partner,
Speaker 2: whom I consider a karmic friend in the sense that
Speaker 2: from the get go our paths seemed linked in a
Speaker 2: powerful way. I've always felt that the energy between us
Speaker 2: was intense, heavy, and charged, perhaps with the tinge of darkness,
Speaker 2: which I always simply interpreted as the energy of the
Speaker 2: trauma she carries, which she has been working at shedding
Speaker 2: for years through plant medicine, ceremonies and herbal concoctions. As
Speaker 2: well as energy work. Many people likewise find her energy
Speaker 2: quite intense. Essentially, I feel that she is a being
Speaker 2: who has a lot on her heart, but who is
Speaker 2: genuinely driven towards light, which is why I've wanted to
Speaker 2: keep her in my life, should she ever need help
Speaker 2: on her journey or just someone to talk to. When
Speaker 2: I did the practice, I saw that we were linked
Speaker 2: by a cord that was sort of messy, goopy, black
Speaker 2: slime and shreds of duct tape, and it was attached
Speaker 2: at my root chakra and her heart chakra. I decided
Speaker 2: to trust my intuition and cut this cord, which felt
Speaker 2: good overall, all the more so because I had just
Speaker 2: done two previous chord cuttings. I noticed what seemed like
Speaker 2: unwholesome spirits get released from the cut and had to
Speaker 2: use an indigenous style sharp toothed wooden sword to do
Speaker 2: the cut. My question is, does cutting a chord with
Speaker 2: someone like this partner mean that I commit myself to
Speaker 2: no longer engage with this person. Can we have many
Speaker 2: chords with someone, some of which are positive and some
Speaker 2: of which are negative, or is it always one chord,
Speaker 2: the emotional tenor of which ruppers sense the whole dynamic
Speaker 2: can cord cutting act as an energetic reset, so that
Speaker 2: if we reattach we won't be carrying the baggage of
Speaker 2: many years. This is a person I've known for about
Speaker 2: a decade, and it's only in the last year that
Speaker 2: the relationship became very much attuned to growth and healing.
Speaker 2: I have many other friends that come to mind that
Speaker 2: struggle with addiction, depression, and so on, and yet I
Speaker 2: know they benefit greatly from the time we spend together,
Speaker 2: perhaps sitting to do meditation or just having a call
Speaker 2: to let them know they're doing all right and that
Speaker 2: I'm there for them. These are all beings that I
Speaker 2: will deliberately evoke in my prayers as I send spiritual
Speaker 2: companions and guides and angels to help them dispel confusion
Speaker 2: and cultivate inner peace. In your practice, where do you
Speaker 2: strike a balance between including these heavier people for whom
Speaker 2: we feel deep compassion and setting a firm boundary reserved
Speaker 2: for positive beings. And again, I'll stress that the people
Speaker 2: I'm mentioning, even if they are struggling deeply with negative emotions,
Speaker 2: are very aware of the predicament and trying to move
Speaker 2: towards light. The whole question is, of course the result
Speaker 2: of my intuition hinting that I should cut a chord
Speaker 2: with someone whom, in my heart I consider to be
Speaker 2: a friend and fellow traveler on the path. I want
Speaker 2: to thank you in advance for any advice. The E
Speaker 2: course has been a real blessing. I'll be recommending it
Speaker 2: to friends. Thank you. All right, there's a lot to
Speaker 2: impact there. First of all, yes, you can have positive
Speaker 2: chords and negative chords with people. And when you do
Speaker 2: a chord cutting and you set the intention to see
Speaker 2: the negative chords, you're only going to cut the negative chords.
Speaker 2: Those positive chords are made of love. I don't even
Speaker 2: think they can be severed, because that's how strong love
Speaker 2: is as an energetic connection. But once you do cut
Speaker 2: a negative chord, it does not mean you're done with
Speaker 2: that person. I mean, deb how many times have we
Speaker 2: had to do chord cutting meditations for negative people at
Speaker 2: our life and they just record hello? Right, right, So
Speaker 2: don't worry about that. You're not going to sever that chord.
Speaker 2: And then that person's going to be like Jane, do
Speaker 2: who are you? I have no idea. You know they're
Speaker 2: not going to forget you. They will probably record, which
Speaker 2: is why we recommend doing a guided cord cutting meditation
Speaker 2: frequently because that will happen. Now, even if these people
Speaker 2: are going through a lot and need you, and you're
Speaker 2: there for them, and it sounds as though you really
Speaker 2: want to be there for them, you want them to
Speaker 2: know that you are there as a support. I think
Speaker 2: that is beautiful and speaks a lot to your character
Speaker 2: and the loving soul that you are. What I don't
Speaker 2: see in this email is what you receive from them,
Speaker 2: And I just think it is important. When you're intuitive
Speaker 2: and empathic and on this spiritual journey, we love to give,
Speaker 2: we love to help others, but we have to be
Speaker 2: cognizant of what are we receiving in return. And I
Speaker 2: don't mean that in a tit for tat way. I
Speaker 2: just really think it's important that you are also receiving
Speaker 2: something from them so that you are not completely draining
Speaker 2: your energy. So I would just ask you to really
Speaker 2: consider that there are some people who are on the
Speaker 2: spiritual path and they kind of enjoy always needing help
Speaker 2: and needing prayers and needing something and complaining and bemoaning
Speaker 2: and going over and over and over their past trauma.
Speaker 2: And if any of these people you're referencing are like that,
Speaker 2: I don't know. I think it can be a difficult
Speaker 2: thing for our energetic field to maintain them in our life.
Speaker 2: You can still send them a prayer, you can still
Speaker 2: light candles for them, you can still ask that they
Speaker 2: be surrounded by their guides and angels. But engaging with
Speaker 2: them every time that they need two hours on the
Speaker 2: phone or what have you. I think there needs to
Speaker 2: be some reflection there.
Speaker 1: What do you think, Oh, indeed, I do You can
Speaker 1: be very kind and empathetic and caring about someone and
Speaker 1: not have a chord connected to them. If you've sent
Speaker 1: me an email, you know this is true because you've
Speaker 1: seen it at the bottom of my email. Some years ago,
Speaker 1: I had a chord with an amazingly difficult energy vampire,
Speaker 1: exactly if Samantha described take take, take, take take, and
Speaker 1: gave nothing back. And I tried chord cutting, and I
Speaker 1: tried all sorts of stuff, and it would work for
Speaker 1: a bit, and then here we go again, the chord
Speaker 1: would come back. And what finally helped me was a
Speaker 1: mantra from the chorus from a song by Jewel and
Speaker 1: the name of the song is life uncommon, and the
Speaker 1: verse is no longer. Lend your strength to that which
Speaker 1: you wish to be free from lives with love and bravery,
Speaker 1: and you shall lead a life uncommon. And every time
Speaker 1: this person called me up and start and I could
Speaker 1: feel the chord coming, I quit hearing her. I literally
Speaker 1: blocked out whatever it was she was saying, and I
Speaker 1: started singing that line from Jewel in my head, and
Speaker 1: guess what, she went away. So the chord cutting is
Speaker 1: a great exercise, and it's a great thing to do
Speaker 1: when it's needed. But you also have some ancillary support
Speaker 1: to use with that process if you should choose to
Speaker 1: use it, And in my case, I use song lyrics,
Speaker 1: but there's certainly other things as well, so you don't
Speaker 1: have to do chord cutting in a vacuum. I guess
Speaker 1: that's what I'm saying here.
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly. But this person is doing everything right and
Speaker 2: has absolutely beautiful, perfect intentions. I just that was the
Speaker 2: one thing that stood out to me, is that this
Speaker 2: person is always showing up for these people, and I
Speaker 2: just think you have to sometimes when do you show
Speaker 2: up for me? Right?
Speaker 1: And to show up for yourself is to say I
Speaker 1: have clear boundaries, and here we are. And again, like
Speaker 1: I said a few minutes ago to another email, we gotten,
Speaker 1: no is a complete sentence and it's okay to say
Speaker 1: it sometimes. Yeah.
Speaker 2: I mean those energy vampires. The one you're talking about,
Speaker 2: if I'm thinking of the same person, was just not
Speaker 2: a very nice person. But there are energy vampires who
Speaker 2: are incredibly kind. They don't even know their energy vampires.
Speaker 1: Oh, absolutely not. I can tell you that this person
Speaker 1: would would have believed that she was just you know,
Speaker 1: right up there with the good guys with kindness, and
Speaker 1: that she was the victim who.
Speaker 2: Not So no, no, So I would I would keep
Speaker 2: doing your cord cutting meditation, and I would also just
Speaker 2: reflect on the give and take of these relationships and
Speaker 2: keep lighting the candle, like we said before, doing all
Speaker 2: that beautiful things. But you might want to consider cutting
Speaker 2: a chord to any aspect of yourself that feels as
Speaker 2: though you have to show up for everyone. And the
Speaker 2: book I would recommend us one we talk about all
Speaker 2: the time on the show, just like with Helen Graves,
Speaker 2: is Sacred Selfishness by doctor Bud Harris. So it's a
Speaker 2: good one that reminds us it's okay to put ourselves
Speaker 2: first sometimes, and that we have to shine a light
Speaker 2: on ourselves if we're going to shine a light on others.
Speaker 1: Good point.
Speaker 2: These were really good questions, and some of them were
Speaker 2: really heavy, And I just want to remind everyone how
Speaker 2: honored deb and I feel when you take time to
Speaker 2: sit down and compose an email to us, because it's,
Speaker 2: like the teacher listener said, all of the questions that
Speaker 2: other teachers have sent in gave her the courage to
Speaker 2: send hers in. But it also reminds us that we're
Speaker 2: all we're all walking this path together, and we're all
Speaker 2: dealing with heavy stuff, and it does lighten and lessen
Speaker 2: our burden when we vocalize it and share it with others.
Speaker 2: There is something so powerful about just putting words to
Speaker 2: what it is you're going through. Don't you agree?
Speaker 1: I do. We're honored to do this episode every month,
Speaker 1: and we appreciate your questions and understanding that we get
Speaker 1: so many that there's no way we can answer them
Speaker 1: in person, but we're happy to be able to find
Speaker 1: at ones that come in that are helpful that we
Speaker 1: think will also be helpful to others who are listening
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