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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Spotlight Advanced. I'm Patrick Woodward.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm Megan Nolette. Spotlight uses a special English method

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<v Speaker 2>of broadcasting. It is easier for people to understand no

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<v Speaker 2>matter where in the world they live.

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<v Speaker 1>I am sorry. This phrase is one of the most

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<v Speaker 1>powerful phrases in the English language. It's something that is

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<v Speaker 1>often difficult to say. Saying I am sorry means that

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<v Speaker 1>you regret something you did or said. Saying I am

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<v Speaker 1>sorry is a kind of apology. It's a way to

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<v Speaker 1>admit that you were wrong. Today's Spotlight is on the

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<v Speaker 1>power of apology.

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<v Speaker 2>On the streets of Nalanda, India, a man sits wearing

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<v Speaker 2>very dirty clothes. His clothes are made from old cloth bags.

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<v Speaker 2>Old shoes hang around his neck. His name is Shayam

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<v Speaker 2>Narayan Sharma. He has a dark past. Years ago, he

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<v Speaker 2>admitted to the murders of sixteen people.

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<v Speaker 1>As a young man, Sharma worked as an assassin, a

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<v Speaker 1>person who kills other people for money. He was fifteen

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<v Speaker 1>years old when he killed his first person, but this

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<v Speaker 1>was not his only crime. In nineteen eighty six, he

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<v Speaker 1>stole a child. He asked the parents to pay him money,

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<v Speaker 1>then he would return the child, but After three weeks

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<v Speaker 1>holding the child, Sharma let the child go. He said

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<v Speaker 1>he felt sad for the child. The story became famous,

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<v Speaker 1>but the police never caught him.

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<v Speaker 2>Sharma also owned a factory. Like many people in Nalanda,

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<v Speaker 2>he made guns. Making these guns was illegal, but it

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<v Speaker 2>made Sharma a lot of money.

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<v Speaker 1>But after years of crime, Sharma went to the police.

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<v Speaker 1>He admitted his crimes. The police put Sharma in prison

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<v Speaker 1>for a few years, but when he was released, Sharma

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<v Speaker 1>went back to a life of crime. He went back

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<v Speaker 1>to the police again in nineteen ninety five and finally

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<v Speaker 1>again in two thousand.

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<v Speaker 2>During his time in prison, Sharma read many books. These

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<v Speaker 2>books changed his life. Some of the books were religious

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<v Speaker 2>books like the Christian Bible. Sharma says that these books

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<v Speaker 2>changed the way he looked at life. He started teaching

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<v Speaker 2>other prisoners how to read. He then changed his name

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<v Speaker 2>to Daya Sagar. This new name means ocean of sadness

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<v Speaker 2>and caring.

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<v Speaker 1>After four years in prison, he was permitted to leave,

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<v Speaker 1>but Dia Saga would not leave the prison unless the

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<v Speaker 1>police promised to keep teaching the other prisoners how to read.

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<v Speaker 1>The guards had to force Diasaga to leave the.

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<v Speaker 2>Prison After prison, Diasagar sold his home. He used the

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<v Speaker 2>money to start a school for poor children. He called

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<v Speaker 2>the school Naisuba, which means New Morning. Diasagar teaches sixty

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<v Speaker 2>children from the village. He does this for free.

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<v Speaker 1>At the beginning of this program, we described Diasaga's strange

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<v Speaker 1>clothing clothes made from cloth bags with shoes around his neck.

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<v Speaker 1>His strange clothes are away for him to recognize his

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<v Speaker 1>crimes and ask forgiveness. The school and his clothes are

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<v Speaker 1>away for Diasaga to apologize.

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<v Speaker 2>Diasagar apologized for all the bad things that he did,

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<v Speaker 2>but can a person apologize for things that other people did? Well?

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<v Speaker 2>In the year two thousand, Pope John Paul did just that.

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<v Speaker 1>The Catholic Church has existed for more than a thousand years.

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<v Speaker 1>In this time, the Church has done many great things,

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<v Speaker 1>but in his apology, the Pope said that the Church

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<v Speaker 1>has also hurt people. Church policy has caused division and suffering.

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<v Speaker 1>Sometimes people have died as a result.

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<v Speaker 2>So the Pope apologized. He apologized to several special groups,

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<v Speaker 2>including Jews, Gypsies, women, and native people. He apologized for

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<v Speaker 2>the pain the church caused to people who were not Catholic.

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<v Speaker 2>He apologized for many historical events.

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<v Speaker 1>The pope even apologized to Galileo. Galileo was a scientist

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<v Speaker 1>in the seventeenth century. He was one of the first

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<v Speaker 1>people to say that the earth moved around the sun.

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<v Speaker 1>At this time, the church leaders did not believe this.

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<v Speaker 1>They thought the sun moved round the earth, so the

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<v Speaker 1>church put Galilea on trial and sent him to prison. Today,

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<v Speaker 1>scientists and the church agree that the earth moves around

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<v Speaker 1>the sun. Pope John Paul wanted to show the world

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<v Speaker 1>that the Church cares about the truth. He wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>show that any personal group can be wrong sometimes.

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<v Speaker 2>Many church leaders were not sure if it was a

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<v Speaker 2>good idea for the pope to do this. They thought

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<v Speaker 2>that the church should not admit that it was wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>They believed that people would not trust them, that it

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<v Speaker 2>would take away from the church's authority. But the pope disagreed.

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<v Speaker 2>He thought that it was important to apologize.

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<v Speaker 1>Many doctors agree that apologizing is import and apologies are

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<v Speaker 1>good for the giver and receiver. When a person receives

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<v Speaker 1>an apology, they begin to feel emotional healing. Apologies help

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<v Speaker 1>people move past anger. When a person does something wrong,

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<v Speaker 1>they feel bad about it. This feeling can be emotionally damaging.

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<v Speaker 1>Apologizing helps to heal these emotions. Apologizing shows that you

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<v Speaker 1>respect the person you wronged. Apologizing also helps keep the

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<v Speaker 1>person from doing that bad thing again.

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<v Speaker 2>Is there something that you have done that you feel

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<v Speaker 2>bad about? Is there a person who you have treated badly?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you need to say I am sorry to someone?

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<v Speaker 2>Here are five things you can do to have a

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<v Speaker 2>successful apology.

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<v Speaker 1>One make your apology real. Mean what you say. People

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<v Speaker 1>can tell if you make responsibility for what you did

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<v Speaker 1>or if you are lying.

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<v Speaker 2>Two do not make excuses. An apology is not explaining

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<v Speaker 2>why you did something, It is saying that you were

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<v Speaker 2>wrong to do it.

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<v Speaker 1>Three make a promise to change. A real apology shows

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<v Speaker 1>that you've learned from what you did. Show that you

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<v Speaker 1>mean what you say.

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<v Speaker 2>Four make it clear that you are apologizing. Just saying

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<v Speaker 2>I am sorry is not enough. Talk about what you

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<v Speaker 2>did and then say that you feel bad about doing it.

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<v Speaker 2>It is important that the person knows you are apologizing

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<v Speaker 2>to them.

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<v Speaker 1>Five. Be prepared for the unexpected. Sometimes an apology is

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<v Speaker 1>followed by the other person apologizing. Relationships can be healed,

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<v Speaker 1>friendships can be formed, but sometimes an apology does not

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<v Speaker 1>solve all the problems. It may take time for the

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<v Speaker 1>person to accept your apology. The person may stay angry

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<v Speaker 1>with you. You never know how things will end, but

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<v Speaker 1>an apology can usually help.

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<v Speaker 2>Whom do you need to apologize to today?

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<v Speaker 1>How have you apologized to those you have heard? What

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<v Speaker 1>gives you hope that your apology can change a relationship?

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<v Speaker 1>What happens if you apologize and the other person does

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<v Speaker 1>not accept your apology. Tell us what you think. You

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<v Speaker 2>program is called The Power of Apology.

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