WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.160 --> 00:00:01.520 Now now it's official. 2 00:00:02.080 --> 00:00:02.960 What's up, dude? 3 00:00:03.560 --> 00:00:07.480 You've been running around the planet, brother, been traveling, I know. 4 00:00:08.519 --> 00:00:11.919 Uh so, uh what what have you been doing on 5 00:00:11.960 --> 00:00:14.759 the on the road? Is it? Is it both work 6 00:00:14.800 --> 00:00:16.839 and enjoyment where you're globe trotting right now? 7 00:00:16.960 --> 00:00:20.719 Yeah, that's always work. Work is every day, work never stops. 8 00:00:21.760 --> 00:00:24.120 But yeah, just enjoying some time. I think I believe 9 00:00:24.480 --> 00:00:26.519 I just moved, So I think the last couple of 10 00:00:26.559 --> 00:00:29.719 weeks i've been my mom was in town trying to 11 00:00:29.760 --> 00:00:33.560 help me move everything. So that's always I feel like 12 00:00:33.600 --> 00:00:36.600 we've done so much but so little. 13 00:00:37.679 --> 00:00:41.320 Well, I mean I get that, especially because moving is 14 00:00:41.359 --> 00:00:44.799 a pain in the you know what, and you've got 15 00:00:44.799 --> 00:00:48.359 to figure out. Okay, So if I'm doing this, it's 16 00:00:48.359 --> 00:00:50.640 like you peck, you pack up your life, then you 17 00:00:50.679 --> 00:00:54.719 figure out, Okay, it's one of those opportunities where I 18 00:00:55.000 --> 00:00:57.759 maybe should hang onto this, maybe I can let this go. 19 00:00:57.920 --> 00:00:59.799 Maybe I can do this and then move into the 20 00:00:59.799 --> 00:01:02.000 new place. Is it larger or smaller? I guess is 21 00:01:02.039 --> 00:01:02.640 my first question. 22 00:01:02.960 --> 00:01:07.799 Yeah, much bigger, much bigger. So yeah, now it's figuring out, 23 00:01:08.480 --> 00:01:10.879 figuring out where everything goes, needing to buy some new things, 24 00:01:10.959 --> 00:01:13.439 selling things, that don't fit all that kind of stuff. Man. 25 00:01:13.840 --> 00:01:17.200 Okay, so then let me ask it this way. Since 26 00:01:17.200 --> 00:01:20.239 you since you're discussing moving, let me let me apply 27 00:01:20.319 --> 00:01:23.920 it to your your mentoring here when it comes to 28 00:01:24.920 --> 00:01:30.079 your mentors and your mentees specifically when it comes to 29 00:01:31.120 --> 00:01:35.079 making those big life adjustments, whether it's making it taking 30 00:01:35.400 --> 00:01:38.719 a change in location, a change of environment, those kinds 31 00:01:38.760 --> 00:01:42.040 of things. How many discussions do you get to have 32 00:01:42.400 --> 00:01:46.000 with your mentees about these kind of life changing things. 33 00:01:46.079 --> 00:01:48.319 Where As we get older, we do get used to 34 00:01:48.359 --> 00:01:51.799 the idea of moving and compressing or expanding our lives, 35 00:01:51.799 --> 00:01:55.680 but what about young mentees having these big moments about Okay, 36 00:01:55.680 --> 00:01:57.640 do I make this choice to help my career? Do 37 00:01:57.719 --> 00:01:59.959 I stay at home? Do you have any of those conversations? 38 00:02:00.799 --> 00:02:03.560 Of course, right. I think I had a great conversation 39 00:02:03.640 --> 00:02:07.879 with a young boy yesterday from an MLS academy and 40 00:02:08.039 --> 00:02:12.360 just just speaking about just speaking about the sacrifices that 41 00:02:12.400 --> 00:02:16.479 are needed. Right. I think sometimes whenever you're going through 42 00:02:17.719 --> 00:02:19.879 the academy level and when you're kind of okay, this 43 00:02:19.960 --> 00:02:21.759 is my dream, this is really what I want to do, 44 00:02:21.840 --> 00:02:24.039 This is this is I think I can get this 45 00:02:24.159 --> 00:02:27.199 close and then I think you come to realization like, 46 00:02:27.240 --> 00:02:31.319 oh crap, this is this is a lot. And I 47 00:02:31.360 --> 00:02:34.680 think it takes a pretty special person to you know, 48 00:02:34.719 --> 00:02:38.439 I think in total, I don't know how many homes 49 00:02:38.479 --> 00:02:40.560 I've lived in in my career, or how many homes 50 00:02:40.560 --> 00:02:42.360 I've lived in my life. This has got to be 51 00:02:42.599 --> 00:02:45.240 this has got to be upper twenties right now. Wow, 52 00:02:45.840 --> 00:02:47.919 of how many homes I've lived since I was twelve 53 00:02:48.000 --> 00:02:53.280 years old. So, you know, I think it's it's you 54 00:02:53.599 --> 00:02:56.400 look at your life and I mean, finally, this will 55 00:02:56.439 --> 00:02:58.439 be a place to where I can call home, sweet 56 00:02:58.439 --> 00:03:02.639 home for quite some time. So it feels it feels good. 57 00:03:02.719 --> 00:03:03.719 It definitely feels good. 58 00:03:04.919 --> 00:03:11.800 Is there a greater sense of with your mentees knowing 59 00:03:11.840 --> 00:03:14.240 that these are things that I have to do or 60 00:03:14.360 --> 00:03:18.439 is there still I guess the level of comfortability from 61 00:03:18.479 --> 00:03:22.800 like when you were twelve and you know, I was twelve. 62 00:03:22.840 --> 00:03:26.000 Back in the late eighteen hundreds, the idea of leaving 63 00:03:26.039 --> 00:03:28.840 home it was something that we really had to grapple with. 64 00:03:29.039 --> 00:03:32.599 Is it easier these days for the young athlete to 65 00:03:32.680 --> 00:03:35.360 sit there and get that this might be something that 66 00:03:35.400 --> 00:03:36.039 I need to do. 67 00:03:36.599 --> 00:03:39.360 Yeah, I think it's just throwing that out there and 68 00:03:39.439 --> 00:03:42.599 kind of helping them understand not only the discipline that 69 00:03:42.639 --> 00:03:47.919 goes beyond it, but just just the sacrifices, right, the 70 00:03:47.960 --> 00:03:53.039 things that they most likely will have to be in 71 00:03:53.080 --> 00:03:55.240 front of at some point if they want to take 72 00:03:55.280 --> 00:03:59.400 soccer as far as they can. But I think it's 73 00:03:59.479 --> 00:04:03.919 not the reg dealer or the average you know, the 74 00:04:04.000 --> 00:04:07.360 average joe, average Joe's kind of trajectory, right, I think 75 00:04:07.680 --> 00:04:10.840 the trajectory of sometimes what they play in their head 76 00:04:10.960 --> 00:04:13.800 is completely different than what it what it can truly be. 77 00:04:14.960 --> 00:04:17.560 One of the things that I wrote down as we 78 00:04:17.600 --> 00:04:20.360 take our first right turn of the morning, uh, from 79 00:04:20.399 --> 00:04:24.639 your last visit, it says coaching up and p k's' 80 00:04:24.959 --> 00:04:28.399 with the with it says coaching up. P K. Garza Literally, 81 00:04:28.439 --> 00:04:30.319 this is the note that I have from the last 82 00:04:30.319 --> 00:04:32.360 time that we were that we talked about these kinds 83 00:04:32.399 --> 00:04:36.079 of things, and I just want to first off, I 84 00:04:36.079 --> 00:04:37.519 just want to take it from the idea of coaching 85 00:04:37.519 --> 00:04:43.040 somebody else because you moving going into someplace new, taking 86 00:04:43.079 --> 00:04:46.600 that next step, digging those next strides in your life 87 00:04:46.639 --> 00:04:49.920 and living in a big capital h house, you know, 88 00:04:50.120 --> 00:04:54.279 something like that. When it comes to coaching up an individual, 89 00:04:54.360 --> 00:04:58.920 coaching up a mentee. Obviously, they wouldn't have knocked on 90 00:04:58.959 --> 00:05:01.800 your door if they weren't receptive to the idea of 91 00:05:01.839 --> 00:05:05.160 hopefully listening to what you have to say. But when 92 00:05:05.160 --> 00:05:09.000 it comes to coaching them up in a situation, in 93 00:05:09.040 --> 00:05:13.560 addition to understanding, yes, this is why I'm here, what 94 00:05:14.040 --> 00:05:16.439 do you have to do to get to that next 95 00:05:16.519 --> 00:05:19.560 level of encouragement? Because I get that there's probably a 96 00:05:19.600 --> 00:05:23.839 baseline of being a mentor, and then there's that level 97 00:05:23.879 --> 00:05:26.000 of comfort and then okay, I've got to go to 98 00:05:26.040 --> 00:05:29.519 this next level with these individuals. So when it comes 99 00:05:29.519 --> 00:05:33.079 to coaching up your mentees and going to that next level, 100 00:05:33.079 --> 00:05:36.399 that second level with them, obviously I would think that 101 00:05:36.439 --> 00:05:39.759 it differs from individual to individual. But how do you, 102 00:05:39.879 --> 00:05:42.360 as a mentor gauge Okay, I've really got to dial 103 00:05:42.399 --> 00:05:45.199 it up with this person I see promise, or I 104 00:05:45.279 --> 00:05:47.439 need to dial it up with this person so they 105 00:05:47.480 --> 00:05:49.639 can see the promise. How do you figure out when 106 00:05:49.639 --> 00:05:52.040 to dial it up with a mentee's. 107 00:05:51.399 --> 00:05:53.639 That's a great question. I think once you start to 108 00:05:53.680 --> 00:05:57.959 build that kind of trust, and I think I think 109 00:05:57.959 --> 00:06:00.319 Mike and I always say this's like personal stories telling. 110 00:06:00.360 --> 00:06:04.600 I think is by far my favorite thing to do 111 00:06:04.680 --> 00:06:06.839 because it allows you to build that connection with each 112 00:06:06.839 --> 00:06:11.120 an individual, helping them understand whether it be the trajectory 113 00:06:11.160 --> 00:06:12.959 of the path that you took that that is so 114 00:06:13.040 --> 00:06:16.240 much different, but just to give them an idea of 115 00:06:16.879 --> 00:06:19.160 who you are and what you've been through, right, or 116 00:06:19.199 --> 00:06:20.879 who you are and kind of what got you to 117 00:06:20.920 --> 00:06:25.759 where you wanted to go. I think breaking the ice 118 00:06:25.879 --> 00:06:30.360 there and kind of you know, building a better bond 119 00:06:30.360 --> 00:06:33.639 and relationship. In those moments are when I think I 120 00:06:33.680 --> 00:06:36.240 am able to pull the trigger and then say, okay, 121 00:06:36.279 --> 00:06:38.800 this is this is now something that we can speak 122 00:06:38.800 --> 00:06:45.000 about in regard to maybe building more responsibility or bettering 123 00:06:45.040 --> 00:06:49.519 their accountability or helping them understand, hey, this this can 124 00:06:49.600 --> 00:06:52.680 be something that you can look forward to for a 125 00:06:52.680 --> 00:06:54.839 really long time. And if you do it this way, 126 00:06:54.959 --> 00:06:56.720 this is how we did it, this is how I 127 00:06:56.759 --> 00:07:00.399 did it, and it worked for us. So you know, 128 00:07:00.519 --> 00:07:03.439 each each and every individual is different. And I think 129 00:07:03.519 --> 00:07:05.639 that's the beauty of mentorship. And Mike and I always 130 00:07:05.639 --> 00:07:07.399 speak about it as well, is that some kids just 131 00:07:07.439 --> 00:07:10.439 want to make varsity from JV, right, and some kids 132 00:07:10.480 --> 00:07:14.560 want to truly aspire to become a pro. Some kids 133 00:07:14.600 --> 00:07:18.680 want to take the life values and the life hacks 134 00:07:18.680 --> 00:07:21.759 of what we what we speak about into maybe a 135 00:07:21.800 --> 00:07:24.920 business they want to run one day. Right, there's there's 136 00:07:25.040 --> 00:07:28.240 there's so many different little nuances and things that we're 137 00:07:28.279 --> 00:07:31.879 able to implement and apply to all of our sessions. 138 00:07:31.959 --> 00:07:35.000 And each each and every kid differs. That's the beauty 139 00:07:35.040 --> 00:07:36.879 of it as well. Each and every kid thinks differently, 140 00:07:36.879 --> 00:07:39.199 Each and every kid reacts differently, each and every kid 141 00:07:39.399 --> 00:07:44.199 aspires differently, Each and every kid wants wants something different, 142 00:07:44.959 --> 00:07:48.360 And I think kind of building them up within their 143 00:07:48.399 --> 00:07:53.399 own internal belief uh, and kind of helping them understand 144 00:07:53.399 --> 00:07:54.879 what they see in the mirror every day and what 145 00:07:54.879 --> 00:07:57.920 they're working with every day. That that's that's something that's 146 00:07:58.480 --> 00:08:01.920 you know, a massive, a massive you know benefit I 147 00:08:01.920 --> 00:08:02.480 think to our. 148 00:08:02.399 --> 00:08:05.639 Program well, and I would imagine though that it's also 149 00:08:05.720 --> 00:08:09.519 a learning experience for you and trying to figure out, Okay, 150 00:08:09.560 --> 00:08:11.480 here's where I hit the clutch, here's where I hit 151 00:08:11.519 --> 00:08:14.199 the brake, Here's where I hit the gas. Because of 152 00:08:14.759 --> 00:08:20.000 understanding where that mentee is coming from, it's like, Okay, no, 153 00:08:20.199 --> 00:08:22.360 I don't want to be you know, I don't want 154 00:08:22.399 --> 00:08:25.240 to be messy. I just want to get to college. No, 155 00:08:25.399 --> 00:08:27.160 I don't want to be messy. I just want to 156 00:08:27.199 --> 00:08:30.560 figure out, Okay, how do I apply these life skills? 157 00:08:30.720 --> 00:08:33.360 How much of a learning experience has that been for you? 158 00:08:33.639 --> 00:08:37.279 And cap to to gauge, Okay, I might be I 159 00:08:37.320 --> 00:08:39.639 don't know if I'm pushing hard enough. I don't know 160 00:08:39.679 --> 00:08:42.080 if I'm pushing too hard. How much of a how 161 00:08:42.159 --> 00:08:44.080 much of a life hack has it been for you? 162 00:08:44.639 --> 00:08:48.240 It's it's been immense because you learn. I think that's 163 00:08:48.279 --> 00:08:50.320 the cool part. And we talked about it before you learn, 164 00:08:50.840 --> 00:08:54.159 you learn a lot from your mentees. You learn how 165 00:08:54.159 --> 00:08:56.399 they view certain things, and and you and I have 166 00:08:56.480 --> 00:09:01.000 gone over like the self belief, self discipline, self regulation, 167 00:09:01.159 --> 00:09:04.559 self assessment. And there's been times to where I mean, 168 00:09:04.639 --> 00:09:07.440 obviously I have to kind of push push the envelope 169 00:09:07.440 --> 00:09:09.360 a little bit more with with with some of the kids, 170 00:09:09.399 --> 00:09:13.320 right and kind of really help them understand certain phrases 171 00:09:13.600 --> 00:09:17.879 or paraphrases or synonyms or things that I think of 172 00:09:17.960 --> 00:09:20.720 in which how those apply to me. But there will 173 00:09:20.759 --> 00:09:24.919 be some kids that just absolutely blow it out of them, right, 174 00:09:24.960 --> 00:09:29.120 They just completely explode with amazing phrases and amazing things, 175 00:09:29.159 --> 00:09:31.840 and you're like, wow, this is this is how this 176 00:09:31.960 --> 00:09:35.159 kid views this that I want to use that, right, 177 00:09:35.159 --> 00:09:36.720 I'm going to use that for myself. I'm going to 178 00:09:36.840 --> 00:09:41.399 use that in being committed to something or finding consistency 179 00:09:41.480 --> 00:09:45.159 in something like sometimes they'll they'll just completely take you 180 00:09:45.200 --> 00:09:49.279 by surprise. And I think that that's that's where you know, 181 00:09:49.360 --> 00:09:52.480 having that flexibility and just being adaptable and and and 182 00:09:52.600 --> 00:09:55.759 the willingness and and wanting to learn. Even for us 183 00:09:55.840 --> 00:09:59.320 as as adults, we're teaching kids, but we're also learning 184 00:09:59.360 --> 00:10:01.320 a lot from these kids as well, which is h 185 00:10:01.399 --> 00:10:02.440 which is a beautiful thing. 186 00:10:02.840 --> 00:10:05.639 Okay, so i'll bite what are some of those phrases 187 00:10:05.720 --> 00:10:09.759 and descriptors that they're introducing to you that you wouldn't 188 00:10:09.759 --> 00:10:13.080 have necessarily thought of or applied into a situation where 189 00:10:13.279 --> 00:10:14.919 oh man, what the hell of a way to sit 190 00:10:14.919 --> 00:10:15.759 there and think of something? 191 00:10:15.840 --> 00:10:19.360 Yeah, I wish, I wish I've saved. I mean, whenever 192 00:10:19.399 --> 00:10:21.759 I do the exercise with them, I usually I use 193 00:10:21.799 --> 00:10:26.120 post it notes. Ah, and I'll kind of it's really interesting, 194 00:10:26.200 --> 00:10:28.320 I'll be able to fit all of our phrases within 195 00:10:28.440 --> 00:10:30.720 and we'll divide that. We'll divide that post it note 196 00:10:30.759 --> 00:10:33.279 in four right, in four sections, and we'll do the 197 00:10:33.279 --> 00:10:37.720 four selves, and I mean I can't really, you know, 198 00:10:38.159 --> 00:10:40.399 I wish I would save all of those post it 199 00:10:40.399 --> 00:10:42.360 notes of some of the kids to where I'm just 200 00:10:42.600 --> 00:10:45.879 completely blown away by some of the phrases that they 201 00:10:45.919 --> 00:10:48.399 come up, because it's it's ultimately what applies to them. 202 00:10:48.480 --> 00:10:48.600 Right. 203 00:10:48.639 --> 00:10:51.080 If I look at self belief, for me, I'm thinking about, 204 00:10:51.399 --> 00:10:56.159 you know, taking risks or making mistakes, or you know, 205 00:10:57.840 --> 00:11:02.480 just the good old confidence, right, a good old taking responsibility, 206 00:11:02.840 --> 00:11:07.159 or having the faith in yourself or you know, ability 207 00:11:07.200 --> 00:11:09.519 to take over or come into a flow state. And 208 00:11:09.559 --> 00:11:11.360 there'll be other kids to where they'll look at those 209 00:11:13.000 --> 00:11:17.080 excuse me, niece, go for it, lost it. But there'll 210 00:11:17.080 --> 00:11:18.960 be other kids that that you know, you do that with, 211 00:11:19.000 --> 00:11:22.799 and they'll just come up with things that are completely 212 00:11:22.799 --> 00:11:25.200 different than what you would ever what you would ever 213 00:11:25.320 --> 00:11:28.440 kind of think self belief to be. You know, I 214 00:11:28.440 --> 00:11:30.360 can't think on the top of my head, but you know, 215 00:11:30.960 --> 00:11:33.279 there's there's so many interesting ones that we have gotten, 216 00:11:33.720 --> 00:11:36.320 whether sometimes be speaking with high schools or even middle 217 00:11:36.320 --> 00:11:41.919 schools or teams. But my favorite is just the individual 218 00:11:41.919 --> 00:11:45.759 work because you're really diving deep into how that individual 219 00:11:45.840 --> 00:11:50.759 thinks about about certain qualities of themselves or you kind 220 00:11:50.759 --> 00:11:53.320 of look at it and I you know, one interesting 221 00:11:53.399 --> 00:11:55.799 thing for me is whenever we do finish like that 222 00:11:55.960 --> 00:11:59.799 exercise with a lot of kids, they'll they'll look at 223 00:11:59.799 --> 00:12:01.360 it and they'll stare at it, and they'll kind of 224 00:12:01.879 --> 00:12:04.080 they kind of think to themselves of like, Okay, I 225 00:12:05.240 --> 00:12:07.639 have some of these, but man, I really need to 226 00:12:07.679 --> 00:12:10.279 focus on a lot of these that I've just written 227 00:12:10.320 --> 00:12:13.279 down for myself. And that's the power of writing things down. 228 00:12:13.320 --> 00:12:15.120 I think that's the power of putting things out into 229 00:12:15.159 --> 00:12:19.039 existence because they're giving themselves almost like a guideline and 230 00:12:19.039 --> 00:12:21.480 an accountabiit. I tell them it's an accountability list, right, 231 00:12:22.159 --> 00:12:24.279 It's a it's a way to hold yourself accountable and 232 00:12:24.279 --> 00:12:27.759 and and also kind of consistently see things towards where 233 00:12:27.759 --> 00:12:29.279 where you want to go, where you want to get to. 234 00:12:29.799 --> 00:12:30.039 Uh. 235 00:12:30.080 --> 00:12:32.279 So you know it's it's it's that it's that guideline 236 00:12:32.320 --> 00:12:35.039 to your personal success of it essentially. 237 00:12:35.200 --> 00:12:38.879 How do you not get lost in all of the 238 00:12:38.919 --> 00:12:42.440 information that I And this might be something that you 239 00:12:42.519 --> 00:12:45.919 address both as a mentor and a men tee because 240 00:12:45.960 --> 00:12:51.159 of all this this flow of information that seems like 241 00:12:51.320 --> 00:12:55.039 it comes to you from a mente and from you 242 00:12:55.159 --> 00:13:00.159 as a mentor, how do you prioritize all of the 243 00:13:00.200 --> 00:13:03.600 information that might be coming your way, because they all 244 00:13:03.679 --> 00:13:06.080 might be great hints, they all might be great ideas, 245 00:13:06.639 --> 00:13:10.919 But how do you look at the list and prioritize 246 00:13:11.039 --> 00:13:13.559 and go, Okay, this needs to be number one, This 247 00:13:13.639 --> 00:13:15.840 needs to be number two, instead of getting lost in 248 00:13:15.879 --> 00:13:17.519 the sauce and looking at it as a piece of 249 00:13:17.559 --> 00:13:20.159 paper that has a lot of information on it and going, man, 250 00:13:20.240 --> 00:13:22.559 what do I knock off first? How do you talk 251 00:13:22.600 --> 00:13:24.360 to a man t to sit there and go, okay, 252 00:13:24.759 --> 00:13:26.679 this is what you need to do first. Don't get 253 00:13:26.720 --> 00:13:29.200 lost in those other four here's the order that you 254 00:13:29.240 --> 00:13:31.279 need to attack or is there an order that you 255 00:13:31.320 --> 00:13:33.759 need to attack? Just hit whatever you can knock off 256 00:13:33.799 --> 00:13:34.159 the list. 257 00:13:34.240 --> 00:13:36.960 Yeah, I think, like for example, in the foreselfs, they're 258 00:13:37.000 --> 00:13:39.919 all interconnected, right, and so if you're lacking in one, 259 00:13:39.960 --> 00:13:44.159 you can always reroute yourself to another. And I think 260 00:13:44.200 --> 00:13:46.600 that's the beauty of it as well. Usually, like kids, 261 00:13:46.600 --> 00:13:48.799 at the end of that exercise, they'll usually kind of 262 00:13:49.480 --> 00:13:51.960 make arrows pointing to where they can go if they 263 00:13:52.039 --> 00:13:55.799 are feeling a lack in one of them. And I 264 00:13:55.799 --> 00:13:58.559 think that's something that really helps them. And I don't 265 00:13:59.600 --> 00:14:01.879 meanly as a mentor. I don't try and give too 266 00:14:01.960 --> 00:14:04.919 much information within every session that we do. I try 267 00:14:04.919 --> 00:14:08.240 and mainly focus on just one thing, right, whether it 268 00:14:08.320 --> 00:14:10.879 be a lot of acronym exercises that we've created or 269 00:14:10.919 --> 00:14:14.320 acronym exercises that I've created with my just just thinking 270 00:14:14.360 --> 00:14:18.399 about and looking and learning from things. I don't try 271 00:14:18.399 --> 00:14:21.000 and give too much information so it'll allow them to 272 00:14:21.120 --> 00:14:24.399 just truly focus on what that is for that day, 273 00:14:25.279 --> 00:14:27.639 because I feel like for me, I'm such a visual 274 00:14:27.759 --> 00:14:30.960 learner as well. I need to see things to kind 275 00:14:30.960 --> 00:14:36.279 of understand them the best way possible. So I try 276 00:14:36.279 --> 00:14:37.960 and I try and teach the way that I guess 277 00:14:38.000 --> 00:14:42.320 I learn as well. But you know, giving them hints 278 00:14:42.320 --> 00:14:44.960 and giving them showing them proof, for giving them video 279 00:14:44.960 --> 00:14:49.120 footage of something to kind of explain more of what's 280 00:14:49.200 --> 00:14:51.720 needed from them, I think that's a massive point of 281 00:14:51.799 --> 00:14:53.840 it as well. But I don't try and jump all 282 00:14:53.879 --> 00:14:57.639 over the place. I think. I think having a lot 283 00:14:57.639 --> 00:15:02.200 of you know, great minds alike. You know, whenever we 284 00:15:02.279 --> 00:15:05.399 did the ICA training for for MLS, the Inner Cultural 285 00:15:05.399 --> 00:15:08.159 Awareness which we have those meetings in a couple of 286 00:15:08.159 --> 00:15:12.679 months to kind of revamp ICA two point zero for 287 00:15:12.799 --> 00:15:16.360 two thousand and twenty five. So we just I just 288 00:15:16.399 --> 00:15:18.120 got that email a couple of days ago to be 289 00:15:18.159 --> 00:15:20.320 involved again and to be one of the head speakers. 290 00:15:20.360 --> 00:15:24.080 So I think it's interesting because now I think now 291 00:15:24.159 --> 00:15:27.360 even doing that has allowed me to bring in a 292 00:15:27.360 --> 00:15:29.960 lot of things that I do in mentorship, uh, and 293 00:15:30.080 --> 00:15:31.799 I have a lot of ideas, and so I think 294 00:15:31.840 --> 00:15:34.240 that now building that trust with them and helping them 295 00:15:34.320 --> 00:15:38.000 understand from from a league standpoint, hey, this guy can 296 00:15:38.200 --> 00:15:40.639 speak to people, and this guy can really get a 297 00:15:40.679 --> 00:15:44.000 message across. Well, I have a lot of messages as 298 00:15:44.000 --> 00:15:46.120 well that I work with mintees that I feel like 299 00:15:46.159 --> 00:15:50.799 would be fantastic to work with with professionals. So, you know, 300 00:15:50.840 --> 00:15:53.120 I think that's that's just another another way that we 301 00:15:53.159 --> 00:15:56.360 can another path that we can take. But yeah, it's 302 00:15:56.399 --> 00:15:59.759 it's it's interesting to to to you know, when we 303 00:15:59.799 --> 00:16:03.600 talk about giving so much information. Whenever we started those 304 00:16:03.799 --> 00:16:05.919 ICA trainings. In that first day, we did like a 305 00:16:06.039 --> 00:16:09.000 seven hour workshop all day and at the end of it, 306 00:16:09.080 --> 00:16:10.960 I think every single one of our brains was just 307 00:16:11.039 --> 00:16:14.559 absolutely fried because it was just too much and they 308 00:16:14.600 --> 00:16:17.279 wanted us to speak for like three hours to all 309 00:16:17.320 --> 00:16:19.360 the players, and I was like, look, the most you're 310 00:16:19.360 --> 00:16:21.039 going to get out of a professional athlete is like 311 00:16:21.559 --> 00:16:26.240 thirty five forty minutes, if that right. So you know, 312 00:16:26.279 --> 00:16:29.240 you have to find a way to interact keep them connected, 313 00:16:29.320 --> 00:16:32.840 and you can't just be speaking to them about certain things. 314 00:16:32.840 --> 00:16:35.120 You have to you have to get them on board 315 00:16:35.159 --> 00:16:37.799 with with what you're trying to the message that you're 316 00:16:37.840 --> 00:16:41.759 trying to portray. So you know, I think it's the same. 317 00:16:42.039 --> 00:16:43.960 It's the same with a lot of kids as well. 318 00:16:44.000 --> 00:16:46.519 If you really think about it, the kid's attention span. 319 00:16:46.679 --> 00:16:50.799 My kids attention span is ten seconds, right, So I'm 320 00:16:50.840 --> 00:16:53.519 trying to think about things within my sessions that it's 321 00:16:53.639 --> 00:16:59.039 just one piece of information turned into a bigger exercise, 322 00:16:59.799 --> 00:17:03.360 but always leading back to what that initial conversation or 323 00:17:03.360 --> 00:17:05.480 that initial point within the exercise is. 324 00:17:06.440 --> 00:17:10.480 Because there's a difference in speaking with someone then speaking 325 00:17:10.559 --> 00:17:11.319 to someone. 326 00:17:12.559 --> 00:17:16.640 I'm always for speaking with someone rather than speaking to someone. 327 00:17:17.240 --> 00:17:19.920 And even when I go and speak to title I schools, 328 00:17:20.000 --> 00:17:22.720 or even when I go and speak to middle schools 329 00:17:22.839 --> 00:17:25.839 or kids who are struggling in school, or kids who 330 00:17:25.839 --> 00:17:30.799 are getting in trouble and iss and oss with those kids. 331 00:17:30.920 --> 00:17:35.599 I always start with questions first. I never do questions last. 332 00:17:35.599 --> 00:17:39.119 I never speak to them. And I'm like, you know, hey, 333 00:17:39.440 --> 00:17:41.720 now we're going to leave the last ten fifteen minutes 334 00:17:41.720 --> 00:17:43.880 and open up for questions. I want you to give 335 00:17:43.920 --> 00:17:46.599 me the questions first. Give me the questions first, because 336 00:17:46.599 --> 00:17:49.039 then it opens up a great conversation to have and 337 00:17:49.079 --> 00:17:51.839 now I can give them proof or I can kind 338 00:17:51.880 --> 00:17:54.880 of dig deep and think about stories, whether they be 339 00:17:54.960 --> 00:17:59.559 personal or with other people that will help connect their question. 340 00:18:00.920 --> 00:18:03.240 And it's not just giving. Uh. That's where I think 341 00:18:03.279 --> 00:18:07.359 that personal storytelling becomes, you know, key and clutch to 342 00:18:07.039 --> 00:18:10.960 to to really giving and kind of getting that message out. 343 00:18:11.799 --> 00:18:14.480 Because if you because in a situation like this, and 344 00:18:14.480 --> 00:18:16.440 I do want to get into your acronyms, so put 345 00:18:16.519 --> 00:18:18.319 you put that in the back of your head for 346 00:18:18.319 --> 00:18:18.680 the minute. 347 00:18:18.839 --> 00:18:19.279 That's good. 348 00:18:19.480 --> 00:18:25.359 But questions first versus questions last. Traditionally, if you are 349 00:18:25.440 --> 00:18:28.319 called up to speak, and we see this a lot, 350 00:18:28.599 --> 00:18:30.920 you know, even when we were growing up. You know, hey, 351 00:18:30.960 --> 00:18:32.720 it's a show and tell day and we have some 352 00:18:33.000 --> 00:18:37.440 we have an adult here. If the adult starts by 353 00:18:37.680 --> 00:18:40.240 or the expert of the leader, what have you starts 354 00:18:40.279 --> 00:18:44.160 by talking. Then by the time they have finished talking, 355 00:18:44.400 --> 00:18:46.720 you just want to get out of the room. All 356 00:18:46.720 --> 00:18:50.440 of that momentum that the speaker or that that dignitary 357 00:18:50.759 --> 00:18:54.720 or that person of importance might have had coming in, 358 00:18:55.160 --> 00:18:59.079 all of that momentum is lost, and the interest is lost, 359 00:18:59.119 --> 00:19:01.559 and everybody's tie and you just want to leave. So 360 00:19:01.759 --> 00:19:06.960 questions last won't necessarily lend itself to a learning back 361 00:19:07.039 --> 00:19:12.480 and forth where questions first puts the onus on the 362 00:19:12.559 --> 00:19:15.759 listener to sit there and look at their own curiosity 363 00:19:15.839 --> 00:19:18.839 and it's like, Okay, well, why are you here? How 364 00:19:18.960 --> 00:19:21.559 can I how can I play off of you and 365 00:19:21.599 --> 00:19:24.759 get my energy moving first, as opposed to having all 366 00:19:24.759 --> 00:19:27.559 of the energy dissipate and wanting to get out with 367 00:19:27.680 --> 00:19:28.359 questions laugh. 368 00:19:29.559 --> 00:19:33.440 Most definitely, I think it just it kind of for me. 369 00:19:33.480 --> 00:19:37.559 It kind of softens it softens the room. It allows 370 00:19:37.599 --> 00:19:41.279 them to kind of feel an easier way to speak 371 00:19:41.319 --> 00:19:43.440 to an adult. I think sometimes it's hard for kids 372 00:19:43.480 --> 00:19:46.519 to have that courage and and. 373 00:19:46.400 --> 00:19:49.160 Kind of confidence, and especially someone that's not family. 374 00:19:49.160 --> 00:19:51.759 Especially someone that's not family, especially someone that like I 375 00:19:51.759 --> 00:19:53.559 look at like title win schools, or kids that I 376 00:19:53.559 --> 00:19:56.680 speak to that are in trouble, like they that their 377 00:19:56.759 --> 00:20:00.279 their level of trust is probably quite low, right because 378 00:20:00.279 --> 00:20:03.000 they feel like you know, anybody around them, they probably 379 00:20:03.079 --> 00:20:07.839 most likely don't don't trust. So I think allowing them 380 00:20:07.920 --> 00:20:10.200 to kind of build that connection from the off and 381 00:20:10.200 --> 00:20:14.000 and and asking specific questions that might be of help 382 00:20:14.079 --> 00:20:18.319 to them is a huge is a huge benefit to 383 00:20:18.559 --> 00:20:19.359 to to lead off. 384 00:20:20.039 --> 00:20:23.720 You mentioned acronyms, All right, I'll bite. What kind of 385 00:20:23.799 --> 00:20:27.319 acronyms are ones that you that you have or that 386 00:20:27.400 --> 00:20:30.279 you've created that help in your creative process? 387 00:20:30.599 --> 00:20:34.279 Oh? Man, we got a lot. Obviously. We have the 388 00:20:34.279 --> 00:20:38.880 the four selfs. We have the three s's. Three seeds 389 00:20:39.000 --> 00:20:39.559 is a good one. 390 00:20:39.960 --> 00:20:40.319 Uh huh. 391 00:20:40.319 --> 00:20:42.039 I can't give all my secrets away. 392 00:20:41.839 --> 00:20:45.519 No, no, no, but I mean three. 393 00:20:45.279 --> 00:20:49.839 Seasons ago and it's confidence, consistency, and commitment. We have 394 00:20:49.920 --> 00:20:51.519 a lot of them. I have the three most I 395 00:20:51.519 --> 00:20:54.640 have three m vts. That's a good one to kind 396 00:20:54.640 --> 00:20:57.039 of always tell kids. Look, I like to focus on 397 00:20:57.079 --> 00:20:59.640 the mindset and even when I speak to to to 398 00:20:59.759 --> 00:21:02.279 even parents as well. I truly like to focus on 399 00:21:02.319 --> 00:21:04.279 the mindset. But I think that the heart has a 400 00:21:04.279 --> 00:21:07.000 lot to do with it as well. So heart, heart 401 00:21:07.000 --> 00:21:10.880