1 00:00:09,160 --> 00:00:12,960 Speaker 1: What's up? What's up? Everyone? Welcome back to another episode 2 00:00:13,080 --> 00:00:16,719 of your Manifesting Bessie podcast. I'm your host, Flora, and 3 00:00:16,760 --> 00:00:20,600 we are diving into all things mindset and manifestation like 4 00:00:20,679 --> 00:00:24,800 we always do. I'm really excited about this week's episode. 5 00:00:24,879 --> 00:00:27,519 I just came back from vacation not long ago, and 6 00:00:27,600 --> 00:00:30,559 right after vacation, I was offered a cover shoot for 7 00:00:30,600 --> 00:00:33,000 a huge publication which is going to come out next month. 8 00:00:33,000 --> 00:00:35,079 I actually have two magazines coming out next month, which 9 00:00:35,079 --> 00:00:37,920 is so freaking exciting. I cannot wait for you guys 10 00:00:37,920 --> 00:00:40,679 to see those images, the interviews and everything. I'll be 11 00:00:40,679 --> 00:00:42,840 sharing it all over my Instagram, like you know I do. 12 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:45,640 And when I was traveling, I've been like in and 13 00:00:45,719 --> 00:00:47,920 out of flight so much. I got into a lot 14 00:00:47,920 --> 00:00:51,719 of reading and a lot of thinking and connecting more 15 00:00:51,799 --> 00:00:55,399 with the clients I have within my membership and just 16 00:00:55,439 --> 00:00:58,719 having a lot of deeper conversations. And there's another theme 17 00:00:58,719 --> 00:01:00,920 that I've been picking up on, another theme that really 18 00:01:01,000 --> 00:01:03,000 hits close to home for me, and I feel like 19 00:01:03,039 --> 00:01:04,599 a lot of people are going through this. So I 20 00:01:04,640 --> 00:01:07,439 wanted to talk about this topic because I feel like 21 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:10,680 in this community, people who are into manifesting people who 22 00:01:10,680 --> 00:01:14,519 are maybe into spirituality or personal development. A lot of 23 00:01:14,599 --> 00:01:19,680 us as a whole, as a collective, are highly empathetic, 24 00:01:20,319 --> 00:01:24,359 and this can be a superpower, but it almost seems 25 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:29,439 like for most people, their heightened empathy is almost like debilitating. 26 00:01:29,560 --> 00:01:32,640 It slows them down, and it causes them to pick 27 00:01:32,719 --> 00:01:35,239 up on a lot of energies that they're not meant for, 28 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:39,159 that they shouldn't be like absorbing from others, and it's 29 00:01:39,239 --> 00:01:43,200 hindering them. It's hindering their own personal growth. It's hindering 30 00:01:43,439 --> 00:01:46,680 their desires from flowing in, it's hindering how they feel 31 00:01:47,280 --> 00:01:50,840 on a daily basis. And I resonate so close to 32 00:01:50,840 --> 00:01:53,519 this because I have somebody who in my family who 33 00:01:53,560 --> 00:01:55,760 I love dearly and I spend so much time with her, 34 00:01:55,959 --> 00:02:00,439 who's exactly like this. They are somebody who take on 35 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:04,879 every single person's problems as if it's her own and 36 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:09,960 absorbs them and cannot enjoy her day if she feels 37 00:02:10,039 --> 00:02:12,199 like someone else around her that she loves is having 38 00:02:12,199 --> 00:02:14,800 a bad day, or if they're dealing with a problem, 39 00:02:15,199 --> 00:02:18,680 she feels so so much sorrow, so much deep sadness 40 00:02:18,680 --> 00:02:22,360 for them, that it throws off her energetic balance her mood, 41 00:02:22,919 --> 00:02:26,080 and it almost I wouldn't say depression, but it make 42 00:02:26,159 --> 00:02:28,759 it turns into like depressive episodes where she's feeling lousy 43 00:02:28,800 --> 00:02:32,199 about herself because of the energy of other people. So 44 00:02:32,240 --> 00:02:36,039 she's so highly empathetic, which could be again a superpower, 45 00:02:36,479 --> 00:02:40,039 but it is, it becomes debilitating. It becomes like it 46 00:02:40,159 --> 00:02:43,039 leaks out her own energy. It's like the people that 47 00:02:43,199 --> 00:02:45,560 come in contact with her are leeching out her energy 48 00:02:45,599 --> 00:02:48,439 because she's so highly empathetic. So if that sounds like you, 49 00:02:49,039 --> 00:02:52,159 if you are deeply empathetic, you always just you know, 50 00:02:52,199 --> 00:02:54,840 you're like, damn, I feel for people, and I just 51 00:02:54,919 --> 00:02:58,199 want to help everyone, and I feel sorry for them. 52 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:01,039 I feel bad for them. They're a victim. And it 53 00:03:01,080 --> 00:03:02,879 throws off your mood, It throws off your balance, it 54 00:03:02,879 --> 00:03:05,000 throws off your ability to feel good for that day. 55 00:03:05,560 --> 00:03:08,560 This whole episode is going to be dedicated to you, 56 00:03:09,439 --> 00:03:13,439 because I want us to get better at being able 57 00:03:13,479 --> 00:03:17,800 to stabilize our energetic state and not let other people, 58 00:03:18,080 --> 00:03:21,560 like externally in the external world overall throw us off 59 00:03:22,080 --> 00:03:25,039 our pedestal, and throw us off our game, and throw 60 00:03:25,080 --> 00:03:28,240 us off of our good mood attitude. And because it's 61 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:30,120 not our job. You know, it's not my job to 62 00:03:30,360 --> 00:03:33,719 absorb everyone's problems. Well, me personally, it is my job 63 00:03:33,759 --> 00:03:36,360 because I'm a mentor in the space in personal development, 64 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:39,360 so I'm actually absorbing people's problems all day long. But 65 00:03:39,360 --> 00:03:41,159 if you're not in that space, it's not your job. 66 00:03:41,680 --> 00:03:44,280 It is not your job to take on everyone's freaking 67 00:03:44,400 --> 00:03:48,639 problem and be sad about it and feel debilitated by 68 00:03:48,639 --> 00:03:51,599 it and feel powerless because other people in the world 69 00:03:51,719 --> 00:03:54,319 maybe are struggling, or maybe someone in your family is 70 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:58,560 struggling and you just cannot feel good because of them. 71 00:03:58,960 --> 00:04:01,479 So we're going to talk about this today. First, I 72 00:04:01,520 --> 00:04:04,360 want to preface this by saying, the world has taught 73 00:04:04,400 --> 00:04:06,800 you that you need to be so selfless to be 74 00:04:06,879 --> 00:04:10,719 a good person, and that is incorrect. Okay, that is 75 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:15,599 an incorrect way to determine your value. If I am 76 00:04:16,000 --> 00:04:19,000 super selfless, that doesn't necessarily make me a good person. 77 00:04:19,199 --> 00:04:22,519 That just means I'm an easy person to get access to, 78 00:04:22,600 --> 00:04:25,360 and it's very easy to drain me of my energy 79 00:04:25,399 --> 00:04:29,279 and I'm likely always tired and pessimistic and worn out 80 00:04:29,279 --> 00:04:33,720 because of other people. Does that make me a good person? No, 81 00:04:34,079 --> 00:04:36,959 it doesn't. Wanting to be a people pleaser. Does that 82 00:04:37,040 --> 00:04:39,279 make me a good person? Wanting to make sure everyone's 83 00:04:39,399 --> 00:04:42,879 good and everyone's set to where I am not pouring 84 00:04:42,920 --> 00:04:45,040 into myself but I want to pour into everyone else. 85 00:04:45,079 --> 00:04:49,160 Does that make me a good person? Unfortunately? Not? Why 86 00:04:49,439 --> 00:04:52,000 Because ultimately, in the end of the day, somebody who 87 00:04:52,079 --> 00:04:55,319 just gives and gives and gives and has to feel 88 00:04:55,360 --> 00:04:58,879 for everyone and is just so overly selfless and just 89 00:04:59,439 --> 00:05:01,879 you know, such people pleaser needs to make sure everyone 90 00:05:01,879 --> 00:05:05,160 else is good around them. That individual not only is 91 00:05:05,199 --> 00:05:08,920 creating self harm, but there is not enough energy for 92 00:05:09,000 --> 00:05:12,759 you to make everyone else happy anyway. You can't. You 93 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:16,079 can't do it. You cannot take that on. So the 94 00:05:16,079 --> 00:05:18,160 people you're trying to make happy, all those people that 95 00:05:18,160 --> 00:05:20,600 you're trying to please all the time and make sure 96 00:05:20,639 --> 00:05:23,800 that they're having a great day, you don't have enough 97 00:05:23,920 --> 00:05:25,879 energy to make sure that they can do that because 98 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:29,480 it's not your job anyway, that's an inside job for them. Okay, 99 00:05:29,759 --> 00:05:32,160 So they don't. They don't really see you necessarily as 100 00:05:32,160 --> 00:05:35,040 a good person because it's not fixing them. Okay, they're 101 00:05:35,079 --> 00:05:36,519 just looking at it as like, damn, I have all 102 00:05:36,519 --> 00:05:38,920 these problems. They might not even notice how you're bending 103 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:42,040 over backwards to help them. Okay, I want you to 104 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:47,279 stop being so selfless and so empathetic and always trying 105 00:05:47,279 --> 00:05:51,120 to put yourself into everyone else's shoes, and so overly 106 00:05:51,319 --> 00:05:55,000 understanding of other people's bad behaviors. I want you to 107 00:05:55,040 --> 00:05:59,639 become selfish, Yes, selfish, self centered. I need you to 108 00:05:59,680 --> 00:06:03,600 believe that the world revolves around you. Okay, why do 109 00:06:03,680 --> 00:06:05,319 I want that, oh, Flora, you just want me to 110 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:08,160 be selfish. That's a bad characteristic to have. That. That's 111 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:09,839 not what I was taught when I was growing up 112 00:06:09,879 --> 00:06:13,720 by my parents and my teachers and society always told 113 00:06:13,759 --> 00:06:17,040 me to be selfish. And being selfish is horrible. It 114 00:06:17,079 --> 00:06:20,399 makes me a mean person, a bad person. No, it doesn't. No, 115 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:24,720 it doesn't, because when you learn how to control your 116 00:06:24,920 --> 00:06:28,120 energy and control your emotions and focus on everything that 117 00:06:28,240 --> 00:06:32,519 feels good for you, you're actually changing the world. You're 118 00:06:32,639 --> 00:06:36,879 changing the environment, You're changing every single room that you 119 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:40,319 walk into for the better. You're changing every single person 120 00:06:40,319 --> 00:06:43,839 who comes across your amazing energy. That is where real 121 00:06:44,000 --> 00:06:47,439 change occurs is when you're selfish. And I don't mean 122 00:06:47,480 --> 00:06:51,959 selfish in a narcissistic way. I mean a selfish and 123 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,720 a Am I going to engage with this? And is 124 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:56,560 it going to make me feel better? No, it's not 125 00:06:56,600 --> 00:06:58,360 going to make me feel better that I'm not engaging 126 00:06:58,399 --> 00:07:01,560 with this. I need to be select and protective of 127 00:07:01,600 --> 00:07:05,639 my energy, okay, because my energy is so fucking expensive, 128 00:07:05,720 --> 00:07:08,040 and I'm not putting it on sale for anyone. I 129 00:07:08,079 --> 00:07:11,000 don't care how bad of a day they're having. Okay, 130 00:07:11,680 --> 00:07:14,600 I need to make sure first that I'm maintaining my 131 00:07:14,639 --> 00:07:17,560 own energy and my own feel good state, because when 132 00:07:17,560 --> 00:07:19,720 I show up that way in the world, I can 133 00:07:19,839 --> 00:07:23,639 change the world. I can make every environment better, every 134 00:07:23,639 --> 00:07:27,639 person better, every conversation better because I pour into me 135 00:07:27,680 --> 00:07:30,920 and my cup is full. Okay, it has to start 136 00:07:30,959 --> 00:07:35,040 with me. And people experience this all day long, like 137 00:07:35,519 --> 00:07:37,560 they're gonna go into work and their boss is having 138 00:07:37,600 --> 00:07:39,959 a bad day and they take it upon themselves to 139 00:07:39,959 --> 00:07:42,120 try to make their boss happy and kiss their ass. 140 00:07:42,439 --> 00:07:45,240 Is that your job? Nope? Okay, so tell yourself, you 141 00:07:45,240 --> 00:07:47,480 know what, that's not my job. My boss is unhappy, 142 00:07:47,560 --> 00:07:49,480 that's not my job. I'm just trying to do my 143 00:07:49,519 --> 00:07:52,360 work and clock out. That's not my job. Okay. Stop 144 00:07:52,360 --> 00:07:55,639 taking everything upon yourself. Your husband or your wife came 145 00:07:55,759 --> 00:07:58,240 home and they've been in a pissi ass mood. Maybe 146 00:07:58,279 --> 00:07:59,680 they had a bad day at work or a bad 147 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:03,720 week at work, or whatever they're battling with. Is it 148 00:08:03,759 --> 00:08:08,079 your job to try to fix that person and energetically 149 00:08:08,079 --> 00:08:11,839 come down to their level. It's actually not okay. You 150 00:08:11,839 --> 00:08:13,519 can be a good partner, you know, give them a 151 00:08:13,560 --> 00:08:16,439 back massage, order their favorite meal if you want, put 152 00:08:16,480 --> 00:08:18,399 a smile on their fees. It's not your job to 153 00:08:18,439 --> 00:08:22,240 fix them, though, And it's not your job to absorb 154 00:08:22,360 --> 00:08:25,079 their negative energy and take it upon yourself as your 155 00:08:25,120 --> 00:08:28,519 own problem that they're having a bad day. So when 156 00:08:28,560 --> 00:08:30,680 they come in through that door and they're pissy, say 157 00:08:30,680 --> 00:08:33,320 it to yourself. That's not my job. That's not my job. 158 00:08:33,360 --> 00:08:36,440 My job is to maintain might feel good attitude within 159 00:08:36,480 --> 00:08:38,879 myself because that is actually the only way I can 160 00:08:38,879 --> 00:08:41,519 make that person have a better day anyway. It's if 161 00:08:41,600 --> 00:08:44,600 I'm in a good mood, if I'm in high spirits, 162 00:08:44,879 --> 00:08:48,399 if i feel joyful, if I have good energy, if 163 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:51,080 I've poured into myself that then I'm the best partner 164 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:53,399 I can be. But I'm not here to bend over 165 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:57,039 backwards and fix everyone around me. That just makes me exhausted, 166 00:08:57,080 --> 00:08:59,559 and ultimately I'm going to become resentful for all these 167 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:02,840 people that I'm always trying to fix, all these people 168 00:09:02,840 --> 00:09:05,559 that I need to feel responsible for. Why am I 169 00:09:05,720 --> 00:09:11,440 doing that? And I see this mostly in women obviously. Right, 170 00:09:11,799 --> 00:09:15,240 women are brought up and taught to take on their 171 00:09:15,320 --> 00:09:21,919 family's problems, their parents' problems, their cousin's problems, their spouse's problems, 172 00:09:22,159 --> 00:09:25,080 and they're taught to be people pleasers. You have to 173 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:27,080 please everyone. You have to be polite, you have to 174 00:09:27,080 --> 00:09:30,039 put a smile on your face. You can be too loud. 175 00:09:30,279 --> 00:09:33,320 You should be more submissive. You need to make everyone comfortable. 176 00:09:33,480 --> 00:09:36,120 You need to make everyone happy. Don't be too bold, 177 00:09:36,360 --> 00:09:39,639 don't be too assertive. Right, We're supposed to make everyone happy, 178 00:09:39,720 --> 00:09:44,039 but not ourselves. That's fucking crazy. Everybody who wants you 179 00:09:44,080 --> 00:09:46,519 to be that way is actually selfish in their own way, 180 00:09:46,799 --> 00:09:48,559 because they just want you to please them and please 181 00:09:48,600 --> 00:09:50,320 them and please them and please them, impoortant to them 182 00:09:50,320 --> 00:09:53,279 and break your back for them. That's not how it works. 183 00:09:53,559 --> 00:09:56,440 You'll never be happy being a people pleaser. So every 184 00:09:56,519 --> 00:09:59,519 time you see someone struggling with a problem, can I 185 00:09:59,559 --> 00:10:02,960 fix their problem. No, okay, that's not my job. Say 186 00:10:02,960 --> 00:10:06,200 it with me, that's not my job. I had a 187 00:10:07,360 --> 00:10:10,840 woman in my membership who was telling me her child, 188 00:10:11,399 --> 00:10:15,120 who is a teenager. You know, she's coming to terms 189 00:10:15,159 --> 00:10:18,039 with the fact that she wants her own career choices. 190 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:21,799 She wants her daughter to be a lawyer. Her daughter 191 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:23,720 wants to be a musician, she wants to play music. 192 00:10:24,399 --> 00:10:26,879 And she's like, how can I manifest from my daughter 193 00:10:26,919 --> 00:10:30,600 to become a lawyer. I'm like, babe, what it's your 194 00:10:30,679 --> 00:10:34,360 daughter's life, it's her route to happiness. Let her choose 195 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:36,559 her own career path. Why are you trying to force 196 00:10:37,000 --> 00:10:39,559 her into what you do for a living. It's not 197 00:10:39,679 --> 00:10:42,440 your job, So say it with me. That's not my job. 198 00:10:42,480 --> 00:10:44,519 I'm not here to force people to fix things, to 199 00:10:44,600 --> 00:10:48,679 change everyone. It's not my job. If it's so relieving 200 00:10:49,519 --> 00:10:53,519 and it's so freeing to realize that you don't have 201 00:10:53,639 --> 00:10:57,720 to carry everyone's problems on your back, and you don't 202 00:10:57,759 --> 00:11:00,919 have to hold the weight of the world on your shoulders, 203 00:11:01,399 --> 00:11:04,879 you can just let it go and tell yourself that's 204 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:09,200 not my problem, because it's not. It actually never was 205 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:12,759 your problem, and I'm sorry, not your problem. Your job 206 00:11:12,960 --> 00:11:15,600 is to fulfill yourself. That is when you are the 207 00:11:15,639 --> 00:11:19,080 best partner, the best parent, the best employee, the best 208 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:22,440 business owner and CEO, the best friend you can ever be. 209 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:26,799 Is when you're always pouring into yourself. Okay, And when 210 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:30,519 we talk about pouring into ourselves, it's ensuring that I'm 211 00:11:30,639 --> 00:11:34,039 checked in with my emotions. It's ensuring that I'm self 212 00:11:34,080 --> 00:11:36,159 aware of how I feel throughout the day and what 213 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:38,720 I'm engaging with and what type of thoughts I'm offering, 214 00:11:38,759 --> 00:11:42,200 any emotions I'm offering to make sure I'm feeling good 215 00:11:42,200 --> 00:11:44,840 most of the time. I'm checking with my feelings they 216 00:11:44,840 --> 00:11:48,200 most of the time, to make sure I'm okay, and 217 00:11:48,279 --> 00:11:51,720 I'm joyful and I'm blissful and I'm feeling content and 218 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:55,559 I'm feeling satisfied with myself. Because the more that people 219 00:11:55,720 --> 00:11:58,759 drain me, the less energy I have to pour into myself. 220 00:11:59,000 --> 00:12:05,360 I eventually become resentful, bitter, anxious, depressed, and empty. And 221 00:12:05,399 --> 00:12:08,240 I cannot serve anyone that way, right, I can't show 222 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:10,320 up as my best self when I'm empty and dried 223 00:12:10,399 --> 00:12:13,320 up and everyone has used me for all my positive 224 00:12:13,440 --> 00:12:16,519 energy and my kindness. What the fuck? I can't keep 225 00:12:16,519 --> 00:12:19,080 doing it. How does that even like logically make sense 226 00:12:19,080 --> 00:12:23,159 to anyone? Right, And people pleasers have this tendency to 227 00:12:23,279 --> 00:12:28,600 like they think they think that if they break their 228 00:12:28,679 --> 00:12:32,480 back and drain all their energy to give to someone else, 229 00:12:32,559 --> 00:12:36,519 that person will someday thank them. They probably won't, like 230 00:12:36,600 --> 00:12:38,519 point blank, Pier, the person's probably not ever gonna fucking 231 00:12:38,519 --> 00:12:41,440 notice how much you're doing for them. Okay, so stop it, 232 00:12:41,679 --> 00:12:45,159 Stop hurting yourself. Stop doing so much for everyone and 233 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:48,559 not for you. And this whole not my job thing 234 00:12:48,799 --> 00:12:51,600 it can go into so many different areas of your life. 235 00:12:51,600 --> 00:12:56,279 For example, I create content, right, and being in the 236 00:12:56,320 --> 00:13:01,279 online space, you get comments, you get attacked by people, 237 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:04,159 You get so much feedback, ones that are great and 238 00:13:04,159 --> 00:13:06,960 ones are awful. Right. It just comes with the territory 239 00:13:06,960 --> 00:13:08,559 of being a content creator, and you have to kind 240 00:13:08,559 --> 00:13:13,120 of accept that. And when I see that people say 241 00:13:13,120 --> 00:13:16,679 things under my posts that are totally incorrect, blatantly incorrect, 242 00:13:17,399 --> 00:13:19,519 I used to be like, I need to prove them wrong, 243 00:13:19,799 --> 00:13:21,480 I need to give them a piece of my mind. 244 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:23,159 I need to tell you off. And I used to 245 00:13:23,200 --> 00:13:26,399 be really fucking snarky, and I would get under people's 246 00:13:26,399 --> 00:13:28,360 skins so bad and It was kind of fun at first, 247 00:13:28,799 --> 00:13:32,639 but now I'm realizing it's not my job. It's not 248 00:13:32,799 --> 00:13:35,639 my job to make someone understand who I am and 249 00:13:35,679 --> 00:13:38,919 what I teach. It's not my job to make everyone 250 00:13:39,159 --> 00:13:42,320 like me. It's not my job to gain everyone's approval. 251 00:13:42,799 --> 00:13:46,360 It's not my job to seek out everyone's validation. That's 252 00:13:46,360 --> 00:13:48,840 not my fucking job. So now that when I see 253 00:13:48,879 --> 00:13:51,720 people I like, oh, I just like their comment, I'm like, Okay, 254 00:13:52,399 --> 00:13:55,440 that's great. You think what I'm doing is wrong, wonderful, 255 00:13:56,159 --> 00:13:58,480 good for you? Like I have absolutely no response on 256 00:13:58,600 --> 00:14:01,279 It's not my job to convey into them. Otherwise, that's 257 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:04,240 their personal growth that they got to work on. Okay, 258 00:14:04,279 --> 00:14:06,799 if someone's mean to me, that's their problem. Is it 259 00:14:06,879 --> 00:14:09,559 my job to fix them and prove that I'm worthy 260 00:14:09,600 --> 00:14:13,799 of kindness? Nope, not my fucking job is sure as 261 00:14:13,799 --> 00:14:15,799 hell is not my job. I'm not dealing with that shit. 262 00:14:15,840 --> 00:14:18,279 Are you serious? I got better things to do, like 263 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:21,519 making myself happy. I was talking to somebody in my 264 00:14:21,600 --> 00:14:23,679 membership program and she was like, Flora, I want to 265 00:14:23,720 --> 00:14:27,279 create content, but I'm afraid of like my family seeing it, 266 00:14:27,360 --> 00:14:30,480 my aunt's seeing it, people from my hometown seeing it. Like, 267 00:14:30,519 --> 00:14:32,159 what are they gonna say? What are they gonna think? 268 00:14:32,480 --> 00:14:35,720 And I'm literally like speaking to her, like, Babe, is 269 00:14:35,759 --> 00:14:39,720 it your job to receive validation from all these people? 270 00:14:39,759 --> 00:14:43,080 Do you even care like what they think? Are they 271 00:14:43,120 --> 00:14:47,639 going to blow up your brand? Nope, they're not. They're 272 00:14:47,639 --> 00:14:50,399 just people who have judgments and opinions anyway, No matter 273 00:14:50,480 --> 00:14:52,159 what you do, no matter what job you have, what 274 00:14:52,320 --> 00:14:54,879 career role you have, whether you stay quiet like a 275 00:14:54,879 --> 00:14:57,320 little mouse, or you're bold and loud and proud with 276 00:14:57,360 --> 00:15:00,600 what you do, doesn't matter. They're gonna have opinions. So 277 00:15:00,720 --> 00:15:03,360 is it your job to get every single person to 278 00:15:03,559 --> 00:15:07,519 like you and to validate you and to even support you. Nope, 279 00:15:08,600 --> 00:15:11,279 say with me, that's not my job. It's not my 280 00:15:11,320 --> 00:15:14,720 fucking job. I got other jobs. Okay. My job is 281 00:15:14,799 --> 00:15:18,519 making sure I live in my authenticity. My job is 282 00:15:18,559 --> 00:15:21,960 making sure I show up passionately. My job is making 283 00:15:21,960 --> 00:15:24,919 sure I follow my bliss and my happiness. My job 284 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:27,679 is ensuring that I am proud of what I do. 285 00:15:28,399 --> 00:15:31,120 My job is ensuring that I love who I am 286 00:15:31,480 --> 00:15:33,360 and what I'm sticking to and how I show up 287 00:15:33,360 --> 00:15:35,960 and the energy that I carry and carrying out my 288 00:15:36,000 --> 00:15:39,039 own success that's my job. All these other people that 289 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:42,440 I'm worried about, it's not my fucking job. Allow that 290 00:15:42,559 --> 00:15:46,240 to fall off of your shoulders. You're like walking around 291 00:15:46,320 --> 00:15:49,080 with this with you know when people go jogging and 292 00:15:49,120 --> 00:15:52,080 they wear like a weighted vest and that vest is 293 00:15:52,120 --> 00:15:54,879 like forty pounds, sixty pounds, one hundred pounds, like a 294 00:15:54,879 --> 00:15:58,519 weighted vest so that they get a heavier workout in Babe, 295 00:15:58,559 --> 00:16:03,799 take the fucking vest off. You're carrying everyone's opinions and 296 00:16:03,960 --> 00:16:06,679 problems on top of you. It's not your job to 297 00:16:06,840 --> 00:16:10,519 carry it. Let them carry their own shit. Let it go. 298 00:16:10,759 --> 00:16:15,200 Release it. Like every time you come you come into 299 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,480 contact with things and you feel like this is going 300 00:16:17,519 --> 00:16:19,879 to throw off your energy, you feel that pinning your 301 00:16:19,879 --> 00:16:21,559 something like, oh this doesn't really feel good or I 302 00:16:21,559 --> 00:16:25,120 don't want to engage in this conversation. Ask yourself, can 303 00:16:25,159 --> 00:16:27,559 I fix this right now for this person? Nope? All right, 304 00:16:27,639 --> 00:16:31,960 it's not my job. It's just not And we just 305 00:16:32,039 --> 00:16:34,600 take on so much more than we need to, and 306 00:16:34,639 --> 00:16:37,720 we don't do a good job at ensuring that we're okay, 307 00:16:38,200 --> 00:16:41,159 that we're feeling good, and then your vibration is out 308 00:16:41,159 --> 00:16:45,120 of whack, your feeling state is low, and you're living 309 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:48,039 in fear. You're living in anxiety all the time. You're 310 00:16:48,080 --> 00:16:50,720 wondering why you never feel good, you're never happy, You're 311 00:16:50,720 --> 00:16:53,159 always in panic mode, you're always in fight or flight mode, 312 00:16:53,200 --> 00:16:55,480 you're always on your chronic stress, and you're always fatigued, 313 00:16:55,519 --> 00:16:58,120 and you don't have energy for things. What are you 314 00:16:58,200 --> 00:17:01,519 engaging with and what are you absorbing from the people 315 00:17:01,600 --> 00:17:05,240 outside of you, and why are you allowing them to 316 00:17:05,319 --> 00:17:08,519 lead your energy like that? Okay, it's time to stand 317 00:17:08,599 --> 00:17:11,400 up for yourself and take yourself out of situations, out 318 00:17:11,400 --> 00:17:14,559 of conversations and out of events and environments that just 319 00:17:14,599 --> 00:17:17,359 don't feel good. And there's a time and place to 320 00:17:17,400 --> 00:17:20,480 be empathetic, but you're being empathetic to a point of 321 00:17:20,519 --> 00:17:23,200 self destruction. That's where we got to nip the shit 322 00:17:23,240 --> 00:17:26,599 in the butt. That's where it's not okay. You're literally 323 00:17:27,240 --> 00:17:29,759 acting like you're alive for others and you're not. You 324 00:17:29,839 --> 00:17:32,920 need to be alive for yourself. Okay. So, now that 325 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:35,039 we got that conversation out of the way, what do 326 00:17:35,079 --> 00:17:36,920 we want to do moving forward? Well, we want to 327 00:17:36,960 --> 00:17:38,680 be a little bit more selfish, we want to be 328 00:17:38,720 --> 00:17:41,319 a little bit more tuned in with self. We want 329 00:17:41,319 --> 00:17:44,039 to be more self aware. We want to be like, Hey, 330 00:17:44,359 --> 00:17:47,400 how does this make me feel? Do I want to 331 00:17:47,519 --> 00:17:50,640 engage with this? Okay? Do I want to absorb this? 332 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:53,319 Do I want to give my focus and my precious, 333 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:57,000 expensive ass energy to this. If the answer is no, 334 00:17:57,119 --> 00:17:59,799 then I need to make that choice. Okay. Whether it's 335 00:17:59,839 --> 00:18:03,039 with friendships with familylessen family can be very fucking draining. 336 00:18:03,640 --> 00:18:07,279 Another conversation I had with somebody in our academy, she 337 00:18:07,519 --> 00:18:09,759 was like, Flora, I'm thirty one years old, you know, 338 00:18:09,920 --> 00:18:11,759 and I live with my parents and my dad is 339 00:18:11,759 --> 00:18:14,079 super narcissistic. He drains me. He takes a lot of 340 00:18:14,079 --> 00:18:17,119 my money for paychecks. Da da D. What do I do? 341 00:18:18,559 --> 00:18:22,359 I was like, Babe, you move out, You find a solution, 342 00:18:22,480 --> 00:18:24,960 and you move out. You're already working full time, get 343 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:27,039 out of your parents' house. You tell me your dad's 344 00:18:27,039 --> 00:18:29,480 a narcissist and they're draining you of your energy, and 345 00:18:29,480 --> 00:18:31,720 you're trying to manifest a better outcome. Why don't you 346 00:18:31,880 --> 00:18:34,119 just leave? Why do you feel like you need to 347 00:18:34,160 --> 00:18:37,599 take on your parents' burdens. It's going to destroy your life. 348 00:18:37,720 --> 00:18:41,240 You're alive for your own fulfillment. For your own happiness 349 00:18:41,759 --> 00:18:46,519 and overall, this is what turns people bitter, hateful, resentful, drained, 350 00:18:46,680 --> 00:18:49,359 you know, depressed, anxious, all these things, because they're just 351 00:18:49,519 --> 00:18:53,240 constantly trying to make everyone else happy but themselves. They're 352 00:18:53,279 --> 00:18:57,000 constantly taking on everyone else's burdens as their own. They're 353 00:18:57,039 --> 00:19:01,400 absorbing everyone's negative energy all the time. So I want 354 00:19:01,400 --> 00:19:04,359 you to be a little bit more selfish. It's so 355 00:19:04,559 --> 00:19:07,279 good to become self centered in this way. It's so 356 00:19:07,480 --> 00:19:11,039 good to just be aware of Am I feeling good? 357 00:19:11,160 --> 00:19:13,359 Does this resonate well with me? Is this aligned with 358 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,519 how I want to feel? Can I fix this person's 359 00:19:16,599 --> 00:19:20,200 problem anyway? Probably not. Can I fix the whole state 360 00:19:20,240 --> 00:19:23,720 of the world, Probably not. Can I fix people suffering 361 00:19:24,119 --> 00:19:27,319 in a different country, probably not. I probably can't do 362 00:19:27,440 --> 00:19:29,519 much about it. But am I going to sit here 363 00:19:29,519 --> 00:19:34,440 and destroy myself every day and feel lousy about myself 364 00:19:34,880 --> 00:19:37,599 every day because I just want to fix everyone else? 365 00:19:38,119 --> 00:19:42,079 It's not worth it, okay, But it is worth it 366 00:19:42,599 --> 00:19:45,400 to pour into you and to be so fixated on 367 00:19:45,400 --> 00:19:48,799 your emotional state, your vibrational state, and to feel good 368 00:19:48,799 --> 00:19:51,680 and to feel high energy, to feel positive, or even 369 00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:54,880 to just feel content, because that is how you start 370 00:19:54,880 --> 00:19:58,559 to change the world. Okay, when you start feeling good, 371 00:19:58,599 --> 00:20:02,359 you know what happens. You know what a magnetic shit happens, 372 00:20:02,720 --> 00:20:06,519 and the energy shift that starts to occur. You become 373 00:20:06,599 --> 00:20:12,039 the example. You become the prototype of the god frequency. 374 00:20:12,519 --> 00:20:16,720 You become so fucking magnetic that everyone looks at you 375 00:20:16,759 --> 00:20:20,000 as like, wow, how do they do it? I want 376 00:20:20,000 --> 00:20:22,680 to be like them. They're always in a great mood. 377 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:26,440 They don't let anything bother them, They're so not worried 378 00:20:26,480 --> 00:20:30,160 about anyone else's problems. They're just so joyful. I want 379 00:20:30,160 --> 00:20:32,960 to be like that person. You turn into like a 380 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:37,319 miracle magnet. You become somebody that is the example that 381 00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:40,319 people look to when they say I want to feel better. 382 00:20:40,440 --> 00:20:43,480 I want to use them as an example. Okay, So 383 00:20:43,519 --> 00:20:44,799 they look at you and they look at how you 384 00:20:44,839 --> 00:20:46,720 handle life. They look at the fact that you don't 385 00:20:46,759 --> 00:20:48,960 let little petty shit bother you. They look at the 386 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:51,240 fact that you're non reactive to things, and you're so 387 00:20:51,440 --> 00:20:54,200 stable and you're so in control of your emotions. They 388 00:20:54,200 --> 00:20:56,079 look at you and they just see that you're blissfully 389 00:20:56,119 --> 00:20:58,400 happy just because you feel like it, not because any 390 00:20:58,440 --> 00:21:01,799 external circumstance makes you happy. But because you choose to 391 00:21:01,839 --> 00:21:03,880 be happy, because you just want to be happy, you say, 392 00:21:04,000 --> 00:21:06,039 to hell with everything else. I don't give a fuck 393 00:21:06,039 --> 00:21:08,640 about anything else. I care about being happy. I care 394 00:21:08,640 --> 00:21:11,279 about feeling good today. I care about loving myself today. 395 00:21:11,319 --> 00:21:12,920 Even though my hair is a little bit messed up, 396 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:14,759 or maybe I'm not wearing my best outfit, I still 397 00:21:14,759 --> 00:21:17,000 want to feel good about myself today. Maybe I didn't 398 00:21:17,000 --> 00:21:18,359 put makeup on this morning, but I still want to 399 00:21:18,359 --> 00:21:20,960 feel good about myself today. Maybe my boyfriend was being 400 00:21:20,960 --> 00:21:22,480 a fucking dick to me, but I still want to 401 00:21:22,480 --> 00:21:24,920 feel good about myself today. Maybe my boss was an 402 00:21:24,960 --> 00:21:26,960 asshole to me at work yesterday, but I still want 403 00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:29,559 to feel good about myself today. That's who you start 404 00:21:29,599 --> 00:21:34,799 to become. You become someone who dominantly feels good about 405 00:21:34,799 --> 00:21:38,200 who they are. You become the example. You become the 406 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:41,880 person who sets the tone in every single room that 407 00:21:41,920 --> 00:21:45,559 they walk into, where people gravitate to your good energy. 408 00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:48,039 People fall in love with your energy and they want 409 00:21:48,079 --> 00:21:52,000 to be like that. Okay, your positive energy, your good vibes, 410 00:21:52,039 --> 00:21:56,880 your kindness, your love, your self centeredness rubs off on 411 00:21:56,920 --> 00:22:00,119 them in a positive way. butN that they don't tell you. Okay, 412 00:22:00,240 --> 00:22:01,839 even if they're a little bit jealous of you, for 413 00:22:01,920 --> 00:22:05,640 that doesn't really matter. You're going to start changing people 414 00:22:06,079 --> 00:22:10,039 by your energetic state because as within so without, who 415 00:22:10,079 --> 00:22:12,559 you choose to embody internally is how the external world 416 00:22:12,599 --> 00:22:15,000 will start to reflect themselves back to you. Anyway. So 417 00:22:15,240 --> 00:22:18,480 guess what happens? Then you stop attracting all these broken 418 00:22:18,519 --> 00:22:22,200 ass people anyway, You stop attracting all these broken situations 419 00:22:22,240 --> 00:22:24,960 and environments all the time, and the people who are 420 00:22:25,000 --> 00:22:28,079 broken in your life somehow find a way to fix themselves, 421 00:22:28,519 --> 00:22:31,839 somehow find a way to become successful, to find happiness, 422 00:22:32,000 --> 00:22:35,119 to stop self loathing, to become more positive, to find 423 00:22:35,160 --> 00:22:38,880 love in their lives, to become joyful. Somehow, someway, they 424 00:22:38,920 --> 00:22:41,599 actually fix themselves. Oh my god, guess what. You didn't 425 00:22:41,640 --> 00:22:44,039 have to fix them. You didn't have to take on 426 00:22:44,079 --> 00:22:49,119 their burdens. You just exemplified amazing fucking energy. You just 427 00:22:49,240 --> 00:22:53,839 exemplified the God frequency for them. You became the example 428 00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:57,519 for them, and that inspired them to fix themselves. You 429 00:22:57,519 --> 00:22:58,880 didn't have to do it, and you didn't have to 430 00:22:58,880 --> 00:23:01,880 take it on. But now you're not drained, and you're 431 00:23:01,880 --> 00:23:04,759 not resentful and You're not a fucking people pleaser trying 432 00:23:04,759 --> 00:23:07,200 to bend yourself backwards for everyone else to be happy. No, 433 00:23:07,680 --> 00:23:10,599 they're finding their own happiness because you set an example, 434 00:23:11,039 --> 00:23:13,440 because you walked into a sad room and chose to 435 00:23:13,480 --> 00:23:16,519 be happy anyway. Because maybe you were born into a 436 00:23:16,559 --> 00:23:20,480 broken household and you chose to make yourself whole. And 437 00:23:20,519 --> 00:23:23,200 now you inspire your parents and your siblings and everybody 438 00:23:23,240 --> 00:23:26,359 else in your fucking lineage to do better, to become better, 439 00:23:26,480 --> 00:23:31,200 to heal themselves too. Okay, but it's not by fixing 440 00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:35,400 everyone around you and being so overly empathetic that it 441 00:23:35,519 --> 00:23:39,519 ruins you and you have to absorb everyone's problems. That's 442 00:23:39,599 --> 00:23:42,720 not how you fix the world. You first have to 443 00:23:42,799 --> 00:23:46,680 just work on yourself and become the example. Okay. And 444 00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:50,039 I had this conversation with somebody. She she's a part 445 00:23:50,039 --> 00:23:51,880 of a church, and she was telling me how she 446 00:23:52,279 --> 00:23:55,559 wishes she could manifest, you know, her friends joining her 447 00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:57,599 church so that they can be saved and all these things, 448 00:23:58,039 --> 00:24:01,400 and I was like, listen, the only way you can 449 00:24:02,079 --> 00:24:05,480 convince someone of something right that you want for them 450 00:24:06,079 --> 00:24:10,440 is not by force. It's not by pressuring them. It's 451 00:24:10,519 --> 00:24:13,839 not by undermining them or telling them that your belief 452 00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:16,000 is better than theirs. The only way you're going to 453 00:24:16,079 --> 00:24:18,039 get these people to come to your church is by 454 00:24:18,200 --> 00:24:22,039 being an example of being the byproduct of that church. 455 00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:27,759 Do you represent it well? Do you serve that church properly? Okay? 456 00:24:28,079 --> 00:24:30,960 Are you a blessed individual because everything is working out 457 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:33,440 so well for you because of your faith and your belief. 458 00:24:33,720 --> 00:24:36,839 If you become the example your friends will follow, They're 459 00:24:36,839 --> 00:24:38,839 going to be like, oh my god, you handle everything 460 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:42,240 so well. You're always so blessed with miracles and new opportunities, 461 00:24:42,279 --> 00:24:44,359 and you're so successful, and you're so happy, and you're 462 00:24:44,400 --> 00:24:47,559 so full of love and full of life. I want 463 00:24:47,559 --> 00:24:50,599 to be like you. Okay, then they're going to turn 464 00:24:50,640 --> 00:24:53,559 to whatever your faith is. That's the only way you're 465 00:24:53,559 --> 00:24:55,880 going to bring people together and start to change them. 466 00:24:56,200 --> 00:24:58,200 It's like another example is like, let's say you have 467 00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:00,720 a certain diet that you follow, maybe your fully plant 468 00:25:00,759 --> 00:25:04,240 based vegan or maybe you're on a high carnivore diet, 469 00:25:04,559 --> 00:25:07,599 and you see that the effects of this diet have 470 00:25:07,680 --> 00:25:10,279 such a great impact on you. You don't need to 471 00:25:10,720 --> 00:25:13,359 force anyone in your family right to try it out. 472 00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:15,960 You just need to be the leading example of the 473 00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:18,839 benefits of that perfect die, that amazing diet that you 474 00:25:19,000 --> 00:25:22,119 so wholeheartedly believe in, and then people will start to 475 00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:25,200 see you as the example. They're going to ask you questions, 476 00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:26,680 what are you doing, what are you eating? You look 477 00:25:26,680 --> 00:25:29,200 fucking amazing, you look so ripped, you look so fit, 478 00:25:29,519 --> 00:25:31,759 you have so much energy, your skin is glowing. Babe, 479 00:25:31,799 --> 00:25:34,160 what are your diet secrets? They're going to be begging 480 00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:36,640 you for the information. But if you were like, oh, 481 00:25:36,720 --> 00:25:39,200 you need to become vegan. The way that you eat 482 00:25:39,279 --> 00:25:40,880 is wrong, you think they're going to give a damn 483 00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,160 about what you're saying. No, you need to become the 484 00:25:43,240 --> 00:25:46,160 example for people. Okay, you want to help change someone 485 00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:50,799 to become better, Be the example, Be the testimony for them, 486 00:25:51,440 --> 00:25:54,640 Be the individual that changes their perspective because of your actions, 487 00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:56,960 because of your energy, because of the way that you 488 00:25:57,000 --> 00:25:59,039 handle life, because of how fucking blessed you are and 489 00:25:59,079 --> 00:26:02,400 how amazing things are going for you. Okay, that's what 490 00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:04,519 turns people into a great coach, a great mentor, a 491 00:26:04,519 --> 00:26:07,839 great teacher, a great friend, a great lover, a great 492 00:26:07,880 --> 00:26:11,599 business owner, a great whatever. Okay, it's not by trying 493 00:26:11,599 --> 00:26:15,400 to change anyone. It's by changing yourself and becoming who 494 00:26:15,480 --> 00:26:17,279 you want to be and how you wish the world 495 00:26:17,319 --> 00:26:21,519 operated as well. Right, So, every time you come across things, 496 00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:25,680 be like, is this my problem to fix? Nope, Nope, 497 00:26:25,720 --> 00:26:28,640 it's not. Can I fix on how I feel about it? Yep, 498 00:26:28,680 --> 00:26:31,200 that's the only thing that's my job, that's my job. 499 00:26:31,599 --> 00:26:35,519 Fixing people is not my fucking job. Okay, fixing myself 500 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:40,759 being self aware, being selfish, turning inward and directing my 501 00:26:40,880 --> 00:26:43,599 energy towards self so that I can feel good. I 502 00:26:43,640 --> 00:26:47,000 can be the example. I can lead by example. I 503 00:26:47,039 --> 00:26:50,359 can have a positive impact on people by my incredible energy. 504 00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:54,000 I can become magnetic. Listen, the whole world will follow 505 00:26:54,039 --> 00:26:57,039 your feet. Literally, they'll be bowing down like, oh my god, 506 00:26:57,039 --> 00:27:00,319 you're so amazing. Whatever you do, they're gonna want to follow. 507 00:27:00,319 --> 00:27:01,880 They're gonna want to listen, they're gonna want to be 508 00:27:01,920 --> 00:27:03,799 a part of it. You can sell them a fucking 509 00:27:03,920 --> 00:27:06,160 use pair of socks and they'll buy it because they're like, 510 00:27:06,240 --> 00:27:08,960 I want to be like you, I want your secrets. 511 00:27:09,000 --> 00:27:11,039 If I need to buy a used pair of socks 512 00:27:11,079 --> 00:27:14,279 from you, that's what I'm gonna do. Okay, And this 513 00:27:14,440 --> 00:27:17,799 goes into like my entrepreneurs, A lot of people who 514 00:27:17,799 --> 00:27:22,160 are in business, they're like they're so heavily focused on 515 00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:25,559 what everyone thinks of them. What is someone thinking of me? No, 516 00:27:25,640 --> 00:27:28,039 it's how do I feel about the way I show up? 517 00:27:28,640 --> 00:27:31,680 How do I feel about my offers, my services, my 518 00:27:31,720 --> 00:27:35,519 products that I give people? Do I feel ecstatic about it? 519 00:27:35,559 --> 00:27:39,799 And am I insanely passionate about it? Right? That's what matters? 520 00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:43,559 And am I the example of what I teach and 521 00:27:43,640 --> 00:27:45,720 what I share and what I talk about? Am I 522 00:27:45,880 --> 00:27:48,640 the living result? Am I the testimony of what I'm 523 00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:52,160 trying to get other people to also believe in? Right, 524 00:27:52,240 --> 00:27:54,880 that's what you need to worry about. That's your job. 525 00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:58,519 It's you. Everything is an inside job. Everything is all 526 00:27:58,559 --> 00:28:02,559 about you. Nothing, nothing in your life that you deem 527 00:28:02,599 --> 00:28:06,680 as a problem is actually an external issue. The negative 528 00:28:06,720 --> 00:28:09,880 people around you, they're not your jobs to fix, none 529 00:28:09,880 --> 00:28:12,279 of them. Okay, The only thing we got to start 530 00:28:12,319 --> 00:28:15,400 focusing on is how do I feel? What is my 531 00:28:15,599 --> 00:28:19,720 energy today? What am I doing to uplift myself? How 532 00:28:20,000 --> 00:28:21,880 am I going to pour into me today to have 533 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,640 a great day? What perspectives am I going to have 534 00:28:24,680 --> 00:28:27,000 today to have a great day. But what am I 535 00:28:27,000 --> 00:28:29,519 going to start assuming into my reality and to have 536 00:28:29,559 --> 00:28:32,640 a great day? That is where my energy needs to go. 537 00:28:32,759 --> 00:28:37,400 That's my job. That's my one and only job every 538 00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:41,559 single day. How do I feel? Not only are you 539 00:28:41,599 --> 00:28:44,799 going to stop attracting like super narcissistic people and people 540 00:28:44,799 --> 00:28:47,559 who drain you and negative relationships into your life? Oh 541 00:28:47,559 --> 00:28:49,599 that's going to end when you fix this right, when 542 00:28:49,640 --> 00:28:51,799 you work on this area that it's all about how 543 00:28:51,880 --> 00:28:54,640 you feel, but you're also going to open the door 544 00:28:54,720 --> 00:28:57,359 for so many people to want to make the right 545 00:28:57,440 --> 00:29:00,200 change in their life too. You're going to have such 546 00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:03,359 a positive impact on people that without trying to please anyone, 547 00:29:03,559 --> 00:29:07,119 you're literally pleasing everyone. You're saving them. You're the light 548 00:29:07,200 --> 00:29:11,640 in their life. You become like Heaven sent to people, 549 00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:15,559 you know what I mean? Like your energy just saves them, 550 00:29:15,599 --> 00:29:18,000 It improves them, It uplifts them, and you don't have 551 00:29:18,079 --> 00:29:20,519 to do anything but just be yourself and focus on 552 00:29:20,559 --> 00:29:23,319 how good you are feeling. Isn't that incredible? The more 553 00:29:23,319 --> 00:29:25,400 selfish that you are, the better your life gets, And 554 00:29:25,400 --> 00:29:27,720 the more selfish that you are, the better everyone else's 555 00:29:27,720 --> 00:29:30,119 life gets around you too. So why are you being 556 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:33,160 so selfless all the time? Right? Why are we always 557 00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:36,000 thought to be so selfless? All we're really doing is 558 00:29:36,039 --> 00:29:38,400 giving our power away to everything and everyone in every 559 00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:41,240 circumstance and draining ourselves and then being sad about it, 560 00:29:41,279 --> 00:29:43,960 and then being helpless and hopeless and tired and angry, 561 00:29:44,359 --> 00:29:45,839 and then we hate the world and we're like, oh 562 00:29:45,839 --> 00:29:48,519 my god, I'm so bad at this, I can't manifest changes. 563 00:29:48,920 --> 00:29:50,960 No your problems that you're too fucking empathetic and you're 564 00:29:50,960 --> 00:29:53,880 taking on everyone else's negative energy. Twenty four to seven. 565 00:29:54,279 --> 00:29:57,039 It's time to cut the cord. It's time to stand 566 00:29:57,119 --> 00:30:00,279 up and put yourself first in every situation. Not only 567 00:30:00,319 --> 00:30:01,559 are you going to change your life, but you're going 568 00:30:01,599 --> 00:30:03,079 to change the whole world around you. And that is 569 00:30:03,119 --> 00:30:07,279 an incredible thing to start to witness. Thank you guys 570 00:30:07,279 --> 00:30:09,799 so much for tuning in to this week's episode of 571 00:30:09,839 --> 00:30:12,759 your Manifesting Bessie Podcasts, and we will be back again 572 00:30:12,799 --> 00:30:15,000 next Wednesday.