Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Karen MARCIONI your host for the Hope Show,
Speaker 1: inspired by my book Hope How Other People Endure, which
Speaker 1: is about everyday people overcoming life's challenges. Today on the
Speaker 1: Hope Show, I am honored to have and to welcome
Speaker 1: a woman whose life is a testament to resilience, courage,
Speaker 1: and unwavering service. Francisca Uanz was born in Puerto Rico
Speaker 1: and raised right here in Patterson, New Jersey. She is
Speaker 1: the proud mother of three grown children and a joyful
Speaker 1: grandmother to three beautiful grand babies. And I just learned
Speaker 1: one more on the way. Francisca has dedicated her life
Speaker 1: to lifting others up. She is a passionate community activist,
Speaker 1: a domestic violence coach, and a certified counselor in Drug
Speaker 1: and Alcohol Awareness. She also received specialization Specialized certification in
Speaker 1: Human Trafficking Coach, doing the most work that people can't imagine,
Speaker 1: standing in the gaps where hope is needed most. Alongside
Speaker 1: her full time role as an LPN nurse, she is
Speaker 1: also the CEO and host of her podcast, No Longer Silent,
Speaker 1: a space where she empowers others to speak their truth
Speaker 1: and reclaim their voice. In her spare time. I don't
Speaker 1: know when she finds it, but she finds comfort in
Speaker 1: reading and listening to music, and she continues to pursue
Speaker 1: more education, driven by her desire to help others overcome
Speaker 1: the darkest chapters of their lives. Her motto is I
Speaker 1: don't look like what I've been through, And today she
Speaker 1: is here to share her story, her strength, and her hope. Francisco,
Speaker 1: welcome to the Hope Show.
Speaker 2: Here with you is ready to honor. Thank you so much.
Speaker 1: Well, thank you, Franciscott. Your motto is powerful. I don't
Speaker 1: look like what I've been through. When you say that,
Speaker 1: what part of your journey rises to the surface.
Speaker 3: First, surviving domestic violence, Wow, Saviban domestic violence. I went
Speaker 3: through a very and I can call it a horrifying situation,
Speaker 3: nothing that I wish on any woman. So when I
Speaker 3: truly I stand by that model very strongly.
Speaker 1: Wow. And people can that you're working with that have
Speaker 1: been in that same situation, you can totally relate to
Speaker 1: what they're going through.
Speaker 3: Well, absolutely absolutely, Because I came from violent which was
Speaker 3: physical and verbal, you know, unimaginable things that I would
Speaker 3: never think would be done to me, you know, my
Speaker 3: seventeen years.
Speaker 2: He raped me.
Speaker 1: Oh, you know, he.
Speaker 2: Knocked me down the stairs.
Speaker 3: And you know, I'm permanently with pain on my right
Speaker 3: right ankle holding it up with nails, black guys, scars,
Speaker 3: scars that you can name anywhere in my body. So
Speaker 3: when I talk to somebody that's going through that, I
Speaker 3: let them know that I'm sorry. It's always going to
Speaker 3: be the same thing, and the verbal and the physical
Speaker 3: abuse is not going to stop.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's horrible and I'm so sorry you had to
Speaker 1: live through that, but I'm glad you're here and helping others.
Speaker 1: You've dedicated your life to serving the community. What moment
Speaker 1: or experience first ignited that passion within you.
Speaker 3: For the community activists, the injustice, the injustice. I'm against
Speaker 3: guns and we are losing our use to the streets
Speaker 3: and seniors that are lacking a lot of services and
Speaker 3: also abuse, and I also advocate for autism to Oh,
Speaker 3: if they're non verbal, they're also abused.
Speaker 1: Right right, Well, those are amazing things that you're doing.
Speaker 1: Unbelievable growing up between Puerto Rico and Patterson. What pieces
Speaker 1: of your upbringing shape the woman you are today?
Speaker 3: I love my heart is I love the food and
Speaker 3: the climate. I gotta say, I'm a Caribbean woman. I
Speaker 3: love thee I love Patterson, but right now it's like
Speaker 3: too cold. Yeah, it's too cold for me. So I
Speaker 3: love my average. I love it anywhere words hot all right?
Speaker 1: Wow, Yes, I think now everyone's thinking of the Caribbean.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Was there a specific turning point where you realized my
Speaker 1: pain is going to become someone else's hope? Oh?
Speaker 2: Absolutely?
Speaker 3: I like that, Yeah absolutely, because before in the past,
Speaker 3: I was ashamed.
Speaker 2: You know, I can admit that I was a shame.
Speaker 3: I didn't want to admit what was being done to
Speaker 3: me because somebody would actually think, oh, how can your
Speaker 3: husband rape you when it's not consensual? Yes, it's rat
Speaker 3: Oh how can you, you know, tolerate so many years
Speaker 3: of that abuse.
Speaker 2: There should have been a way out, but there wasn't.
Speaker 2: No resources.
Speaker 3: And now I'm glad to say that I'm speaking up
Speaker 3: and more and more are coming out saying I was
Speaker 3: verbally abused, I was physically both. And when they see
Speaker 3: me come out of that situation like with a smile
Speaker 3: and doing what I'm doing now, I give them a
Speaker 3: hope that you can change because I really don't look
Speaker 3: like what I went through.
Speaker 1: Right now, you don't traumatize. I'm not damaged, and you
Speaker 1: look beautiful.
Speaker 3: So they see them and be like, oh my god,
Speaker 3: it was ready for meal. I said not one time,
Speaker 3: several times, so they were like, you would probably be damaged,
Speaker 3: bitter and no.
Speaker 1: And not and that's that's what keeps you you going.
Speaker 1: And you had mentioned earlier that your faith had a
Speaker 1: big part of helping you.
Speaker 2: Absolutely.
Speaker 1: Can you talk a little bit about your fig.
Speaker 3: Well, the six years were wonderful in the marriage, but
Speaker 3: after that, when I started seeing the verbal and physical abuse,
Speaker 3: I started going to people and you know, weren't believe
Speaker 3: in it or telling me to fix it. I started
Speaker 3: always praying, something I didn't do before, but I started praying.
Speaker 3: I said, God, you know what, get me out of
Speaker 3: this situation. No one should be living this way. And
Speaker 3: I could say that, you know, in twenty thirteen, he
Speaker 3: did do it and got me out of that situation.
Speaker 3: And I'm just grateful that. You know, I'm not encouraging
Speaker 3: nobody to not get counseling. I didn't and because I
Speaker 3: just my faith grew with him and he got me
Speaker 3: out of it.
Speaker 2: You know.
Speaker 1: So right.
Speaker 3: Faith does work, and he is amazing and he still
Speaker 3: keeps being amazing in my life.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Absolutely. We do have one comment from the chat box.
Speaker 1: Let's Antonia Davis said, you are amazing her love and
Speaker 1: compassion for others. It's incredible and I can see that
Speaker 1: and hear it in your voice. Many people who experienced
Speaker 1: trauma never speak out. A friend of recently, a friend
Speaker 1: of mine, you know, with with ice arresting people, it
Speaker 1: seems that they're going after, you know, someone that just
Speaker 1: doesn't look like them, so to speak. And a friend
Speaker 1: of mine is really embarrassed to talk about it because
Speaker 1: her son was was arrested and detained for hours and
Speaker 1: they had to hire a lawyer. And you know, luckily
Speaker 1: they were able to do that. However, in other situations
Speaker 1: where there are there are traumas and or you know,
Speaker 1: arrests are made. You create a podcast called No Longer Silent,
Speaker 1: whether it's regarding domestic abuse or injustice. What helped you
Speaker 1: reclaim your voice?
Speaker 3: Knowing that I'm not the only one, Oh for sure,
Speaker 3: I'm not only one, and talking about your testimony is
Speaker 3: it's powerful because when someone knows that you went through,
Speaker 3: you would reach out to many and say, listen, I
Speaker 3: went through that, and I got to say, it's not
Speaker 3: just women. I've had men now coming out, which is
Speaker 3: amazing because the stigma of the men is that they're
Speaker 3: mantra and they can't go through that, how can they
Speaker 3: get abused? But yeah, men can be abused too. So
Speaker 3: you lot are coming out and through my no longer
Speaker 3: that it was rebirthed in twenty twenty three. I'm grateful
Speaker 3: for the opportunity because now we do. I touch on
Speaker 3: domestic bondents, for the red flags, how to get out
Speaker 3: of a toxic relationship.
Speaker 2: I tap child abuse also to educate you know.
Speaker 3: The no, the signs, no touching, or why not to permit,
Speaker 3: don't even with your boyfriend if you're starting, you know,
Speaker 3: because it's not their children. So alcohol, addiction, I tap
Speaker 3: on everything.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's wonderful. As a domestic violence coach, you sit
Speaker 1: with people in their darkest moments. How do you hold
Speaker 1: space for others while taking care of your own heart? Oh?
Speaker 2: Good question.
Speaker 3: Sometimes it's heart wrenching because you can hear something from
Speaker 3: someone else far worser than your testimony, far worse, and
Speaker 3: when you hear it, it can be a death of
Speaker 3: a child and they're coming out of it. So I
Speaker 3: had one case like that where the boyfriend killed the.
Speaker 1: Two year old, Oh my god.
Speaker 3: Drown them out the window, and she had it come
Speaker 3: to terms to live with the law of our child
Speaker 3: and to forgive.
Speaker 2: Him to move on.
Speaker 3: But once you told me that, listen, I got kids
Speaker 3: and they're growing in I got grandkids.
Speaker 2: I don't think that.
Speaker 3: It could be such a hur or profound to get
Speaker 3: over something like that.
Speaker 1: Wow.
Speaker 2: Wow, that and resonates in the stays with me.
Speaker 3: Wow.
Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, I just I can't even imagine. You know,
Speaker 1: your children are blessed, blessed and sacred to us, and
Speaker 1: to have that happen. Wow. So you have certifications in
Speaker 1: drug and alcohol awareness, substance counseling, and human trafficking coaching.
Speaker 1: What led you to pursue such emotionally demanding areas of
Speaker 1: service because some.
Speaker 3: People think it's not happening and believe it or not,
Speaker 3: there is right, you know, not too long ago, a
Speaker 3: couple of weeks ago, there was a house where they
Speaker 3: had you know, children, teenagers that were being trafficking recently
Speaker 3: and locally, yeah, locally, So you would think it's not happening,
Speaker 3: but it is and you have to be very careful.
Speaker 2: And as for our.
Speaker 3: Children, one of the main reasons I thought that is
Speaker 3: because I caught a thirteen year old smoking cigarettes. And
Speaker 3: it starts with and I asked her, what are you
Speaker 3: doing smoking ciga? Are you're supposed to be in school
Speaker 3: right right now? Something happened at home. I don't feel
Speaker 3: good and I didn't feel going. There was an argument
Speaker 3: between the parents and they didn't feel like going to school.
Speaker 3: But instead she was in front of a facility smoking
Speaker 3: cigarettes and that was thirteen.
Speaker 1: Wow. So and she's lucky you came by.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 3: I told her to go to school, and I mentored
Speaker 3: it a little bit, and I told her this that
Speaker 3: whatever's happening at home, you know, you can get help.
Speaker 3: There's a counseling in this school reach out. You know,
Speaker 3: parents can't get mad if you if your child seek
Speaker 3: that because they have to have an outlet.
Speaker 1: Of course, of course, because of some of the things
Speaker 1: that are happening in our schools, you know, the gun violence.
Speaker 1: Hopefully they don't have guns, but you know, some of
Speaker 1: these troublesome years of childhood lead to students doing other things.
Speaker 1: When you hear someone say I don't think I'll ever recover.
Speaker 3: What do you tell them It's possible. It's possible because
Speaker 3: you do recover. But it's your mindset that has to change. Well,
Speaker 3: you can't stay stuck in that. I'm a domestic violence survivor.
Speaker 3: I could have stayed stuck in my trauma, right, I
Speaker 3: could have won another avenue, and I chose to rebuild
Speaker 3: and reinvent myself.
Speaker 2: And say this and I can do this. I can
Speaker 2: really do this.
Speaker 3: So for someone to say to me, I can't recover,
Speaker 3: you gotta tell me why, give me your reasons? Okay,
Speaker 3: and we'll have a conversation. Because if I can do it,
Speaker 3: I see many do it. You can do it.
Speaker 2: So you just got to get words of encouragement.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's so much of it is a mindset
Speaker 1: and it may take a long time. It doesn't happen overnight.
Speaker 1: I am sure, but there is the possibility you can do.
Speaker 1: It can be done, and you're an example of it. Wow.
Speaker 1: So you're a mom and a grandmother. What do your
Speaker 1: children and grandbabies mean to you in this season of
Speaker 1: your life?
Speaker 2: A hold on a whole lot.
Speaker 3: They're my motivation, really, my motivation and now to see
Speaker 3: the new generation is an impact for me because I
Speaker 3: gotta say, my first grandson, who's Don ten, whenever he
Speaker 3: sees me out there doing stuff, he just tells me,
Speaker 3: I want to be like you.
Speaker 2: Oh I love what you're doing. Oh how precious is that?
Speaker 2: So when you.
Speaker 3: See that, it encourages you more and more and more
Speaker 3: to just go out there and continue when you have
Speaker 3: that support and motivations. So they are really you know,
Speaker 3: my air, the air that I breathe and anything that
Speaker 3: I do. And basically I'm leaving them like the legacy
Speaker 3: to continue on what I'm doing.
Speaker 1: Oh that's so wonderful. Oh my, to have your grandchild
Speaker 1: say I want to be like you. How wonderful. We
Speaker 1: have another conference. A comment from Latona trafficking is very bad,
Speaker 1: and they are after our children even though it doesn't
Speaker 1: matter now, they are after everyone. Oh, out said, and
Speaker 1: trust the process, Trust the process. It's what she's said, and.
Speaker 3: She's right, she's absolutely, because we just can't say it's
Speaker 3: just children.
Speaker 2: We have teenagers, we have women.
Speaker 3: We also have men becomingly when I'm coming across as
Speaker 3: children and teenagers.
Speaker 1: Right right when life feels heavy, what do you personally
Speaker 1: turn to for comfort, A book, a song, a quiet moment.
Speaker 3: I do three things because what I do is like
Speaker 3: I have the weight of the world, and I honestly
Speaker 3: have to say I have the weight of the world
Speaker 3: on me with a lot of responsibilities. So one of
Speaker 3: the things I started doing was meditating. I turn on
Speaker 3: candles and I meditate. I'll listen to gossip of music
Speaker 3: because that really winds me down. And I love reading.
Speaker 2: I love reading.
Speaker 1: That's great, that's great. Meditation is it's so great for
Speaker 1: any of us. I took a course, you know, and
Speaker 1: it's you know, when things get really difficult, if we
Speaker 1: just take some time to quiet ourselves and to breathe,
Speaker 1: it can make all the difference.
Speaker 2: I signed on that with you. Absolutely.
Speaker 1: Yeah. So people might not realize how much courage it
Speaker 1: takes to start healing, like the like a person who
Speaker 1: doesn't think they can heal. What was one small step
Speaker 1: and a small brave step that you took early.
Speaker 3: On knowing the fact that I wanted to divorce from
Speaker 3: the individual, and later on it happening and thinking of
Speaker 3: the responsibility, the financial, the children, and I got scared,
Speaker 3: you know, I really got scared. Because I was like, Okay,
Speaker 3: now it's not to win comes. Now it's just me
Speaker 3: and we have to survive. So you guess I'm not
Speaker 3: even to tell anybody that's not scary. But then I thought,
Speaker 3: do I want to go back to that situation? Do
Speaker 3: I want to go through all that stuff that he
Speaker 3: made me go through? And I just said, you know what, God,
Speaker 3: you got me out of that situation. Let me take
Speaker 3: on another job or something. I was like, but I
Speaker 3: am gonna do it, and I'm gonna show people that
Speaker 3: you can after the trauma, move forward and do succeed.
Speaker 2: You know, I paid my.
Speaker 3: Rent, I took on another job several I modeled cash
Speaker 3: was coming in from that, so I went into a
Speaker 3: radio station. Advertisement came into that. So when I started
Speaker 3: realizing that you can do it?
Speaker 2: Is it possible?
Speaker 3: I encourage people don't be afraid, don't stay in a
Speaker 3: relationship because of financials, and don't stay because of.
Speaker 2: The children, because you can do it.
Speaker 3: Something in here and your gut will say you can
Speaker 3: do this and not be afraid.
Speaker 1: Right right, Oh, that's really great advice. I mean, I
Speaker 1: can imagine how scary it would be, but knowing God
Speaker 1: helped you get out of a relationship. He will continue
Speaker 1: to help things continue on. Wow, so your story reaches
Speaker 1: survivors of trauma, addiction, violence, and silence. What message do
Speaker 1: you hope they hear in your voice today.
Speaker 3: That I turned my pain to purpose. Yes, and I
Speaker 3: really don't.
Speaker 2: Look like what I went through.
Speaker 3: I'm proud of myself to have overcame so much that
Speaker 3: should have destroyed me right, you know, inside and out.
Speaker 3: And I can just say that it took a whole
Speaker 3: year for me to love myself, reinvent myself, and find
Speaker 3: myself and to actually be able to look in the
Speaker 3: mirror and see what I like looking.
Speaker 2: Back at me because I couldn't.
Speaker 3: He used to say I was ugly worthless, And it
Speaker 3: took a while for me to look at the mirror
Speaker 3: and actually see if there was an imperfection.
Speaker 1: Wow, so many things that are not true. But I
Speaker 1: don't understand how some can be so mean. But it's
Speaker 1: the same thing as we were talking earlier. You were
Speaker 1: speaking to some children yesterday and I was a teacher,
Speaker 1: and we would have some parents come in and talk
Speaker 1: about the bullying of young girls some boys today and
Speaker 1: how it can lead to suicide and how dangerous. You know,
Speaker 1: these things that go on with young kids today possibly
Speaker 1: because of social media. It has a lot to do
Speaker 1: with it. How do you try to reach these young
Speaker 1: girls that get so caught up in their social media
Speaker 1: and what other people think.
Speaker 2: Well, social media has it's not going away.
Speaker 3: Unfortunately, it has a very impact, especially these challenges, right,
Speaker 3: you know, which I don't agree with, But sometimes I
Speaker 3: gotta say, as parents, we put the limits, you know,
Speaker 3: we have to be I was a parent that was
Speaker 3: very involved with my children, knowing what they were doing.
Speaker 2: I was involved with school. I sheltered them a.
Speaker 3: Little bit from being outside because my mindset was, like,
Speaker 3: you get in trouble, it falls back on me. So
Speaker 3: basically in the home you have to notice set the limits.
Speaker 3: Like back then, they really didn't have social media like now.
Speaker 3: So with the younger generation you have to like put
Speaker 3: parental control, you know, because it has a lot of influence.
Speaker 3: They'll tell you certain things that I'm not you know,
Speaker 3: I don't approve.
Speaker 1: Right. It's hard. And I have a twenty eight year
Speaker 1: old son and as he was growing up, social media
Speaker 1: started to become you know, really important. It didn't really
Speaker 1: affect him, but I also know that you know. Hopefully
Speaker 1: the parental challenges, parental controls can work because I have
Speaker 1: to ask him about things with technology in today's world,
Speaker 1: and it's important, and I've always told him be careful
Speaker 1: with what you post because a lot of that can
Speaker 1: come out, and when you're older and looking for a job,
Speaker 1: your employer can check those that your email or your
Speaker 1: social media page. People look people up on social media,
Speaker 1: and you always want to have your best foot forward
Speaker 1: and or not even go on them so that there's
Speaker 1: not anything negative that can come from it.
Speaker 3: And I'm gonna pig youback on that with you what
Speaker 3: you just said. Sometimes when you're coming out of colleges
Speaker 3: or applying for colleges.
Speaker 2: They really look at that as your resume.
Speaker 3: They see what you're doing, and sometimes that affects you.
Speaker 1: Yes, especially if you're taking pictures while you're drinking or
Speaker 1: at a party, it's.
Speaker 2: Throughout of craziness. They look at that. So you have to.
Speaker 3: Be very careful what you pose right, very careful because
Speaker 3: it's out there for the whole world to see, and
Speaker 3: that's the image you're bringing and they don't want that
Speaker 3: into college or they definitely they want that for their company.
Speaker 2: So you have to be very mindful.
Speaker 1: Right right, And going back talking about the younger children,
Speaker 1: parents need to really be involved in their children's lives
Speaker 1: because there's a lot of stuff that goes on out there. Absolutely,
Speaker 1: and I think sheltering them is better than not being involved.
Speaker 2: Absolutely parents. Really, I emphasize.
Speaker 3: That I talk a lot on my podcast on lots
Speaker 3: of stuff, but I know sometimes we live like a
Speaker 3: hectic life with work and stuff.
Speaker 2: But you have to you know, there's twenty four hours
Speaker 2: in the day.
Speaker 3: I say, if you've worked from a nine to five
Speaker 3: eight to five, you still have like an hour or
Speaker 3: two before they go to bed.
Speaker 2: To ask them how it was school. You know, let
Speaker 2: me check your homework, right, You know, if they.
Speaker 3: Have phones, you're entitled, if you're paying the bill, you're
Speaker 3: entitled to look through their phone to see if you
Speaker 3: see anything weird. Because we have to step up to
Speaker 3: the plate and acknowledge the fact that our kids cannot
Speaker 3: be you know without us, right right, No, without us,
Speaker 3: because some have grown and think that you can't tell
Speaker 3: them nothing. Now as long as you're under my room,
Speaker 3: different story right there, you gotta listen to me.
Speaker 1: Still, Yeah, absolutely, Latona has another question statement that she said,
Speaker 1: how did you gain your and it didn't finish something.
Speaker 1: She is amazing with youth. You are amazing with youth.
Speaker 1: I saw her being interviewed by a ten year old
Speaker 1: and speaking of bullying and the flags and God can
Speaker 1: and it came off. But a ten year old interviewed you.
Speaker 2: Yes, that is my lovely knees Trinity. I love her.
Speaker 3: She actually interviewed me and there was some questions. She
Speaker 3: asked me that I was well, and there's one that
Speaker 3: I have to throw up here. You know about the
Speaker 3: red flags and you know about the greenish gil She
Speaker 3: asked me what was the yellow?
Speaker 1: Oh? And I was like, well, I don't even know that.
Speaker 3: And I told the listen to the best of none
Speaker 3: of I'm just gonna throw it out there. Slow down
Speaker 3: because that's exactly what the yellow mean when you're driving.
Speaker 2: Oh. But I commend her because she did interview me.
Speaker 2: She really asked me, and I think that was a
Speaker 2: bonus question.
Speaker 1: Wow, that's amazing. So there are different colors that they yeah,
Speaker 1: that mean different things. I'm clueless, Well, the red is
Speaker 1: reflax that you have to know some of the stuff
Speaker 1: that he does to you, like you know I educate
Speaker 1: the youth and where if your boyfriend's trying to change
Speaker 1: your way of dressing, right, friends, isolation, those are reflags
Speaker 1: right right? Okay, recently someone told me, you know, there's
Speaker 1: a chapter in the Bible, I think it's Tewod Carinthians
Speaker 1: where they talk about love. And what she said is
Speaker 1: put the boyfriend's name or friend in front of those words.
Speaker 1: And if he is kind, if he doesn't judge, if
Speaker 1: he is polite, all of those things. If he's doing
Speaker 1: all those things, then it's a good man or good friend.
Speaker 1: But if he's not doing those things, maybe it's a
Speaker 1: red flag.
Speaker 2: Yes it is, Yes it is.
Speaker 1: What does hope look like to you now after everything
Speaker 1: you've endured and overcome?
Speaker 2: Well, good question.
Speaker 3: I figure my life now is now in a civil lining.
Speaker 3: You know, it's heading towards the right direction because you
Speaker 3: have to have passion in what you do a lot
Speaker 3: of passion, patience. And the one thing about me is
Speaker 3: that I love helping someone. You know, I'm their ear,
Speaker 3: and I see hope in everything I'm doing. But I
Speaker 3: meet everybody that I work with halfway right. You know,
Speaker 3: I don't push nothing on. I would love everybody to
Speaker 3: get out of the toxic relationship.
Speaker 1: And not get right.
Speaker 2: Absolutely, that would be my hope right there.
Speaker 3: But the fact that I'm helping now and that there's
Speaker 3: more and more people coming out, more organizations, you know,
Speaker 3: helping out also, and that it's no longer something that's
Speaker 3: being kept silence.
Speaker 1: Right right, That's that's good. And what advice would you
Speaker 1: give to somebody who's in who's deciding whether they should
Speaker 1: leave a relationship.
Speaker 3: Well, when I'm mentor and I speak, I allow them
Speaker 3: to tell me what's going on as to I want
Speaker 3: you to leave. You know, I don't do none of
Speaker 3: that because we seldom see that they go back, and
Speaker 3: then that will avoid from coming to speaking to me
Speaker 3: again because I'm pushing more, like you gotta be.
Speaker 2: I walk through through the process like what did he do?
Speaker 2: How do you feel when he did that?
Speaker 3: What exactly you want to come out of that relationship?
Speaker 3: What you're looking for? And then once they tell me
Speaker 3: why I want to leave because I can't take no
Speaker 3: more the physical abuse of verbal and then I go
Speaker 3: into like a world vital complaint. You know, there's door
Speaker 3: restrain and order, change the locks on your door and
Speaker 3: make sure police escort comes and picks his clothes. Uh,
Speaker 3: if they really want to get out of the relationship.
Speaker 1: Wow, Wow, I can understand why that would be a
Speaker 1: big step in someone's life, and yet they will feel
Speaker 1: so much better after the fact.
Speaker 2: Absolutely.
Speaker 3: I gotta tell you, I felt like a bird in
Speaker 3: a cage, a bird in a cage when I literally
Speaker 3: did that divorce.
Speaker 2: It's like I saw myself lying. I say, here we go.
Speaker 1: Oh see that. Wow, I can just picture it. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you're free, a free Wow. So if you could speak
Speaker 1: to the younger version of yourself, the one before the storms,
Speaker 1: what would you tell her?
Speaker 2: I'm proud of you. You came so far.
Speaker 3: You didn't let anything of that defeat you, you know,
Speaker 3: and you're strong and continue to stay that way.
Speaker 1: That's wonderful. What's next for you? What dreams or goals
Speaker 1: are you excited to bring into reality as you continue
Speaker 1: helping others?
Speaker 2: Well, I'm meantitate to God.
Speaker 3: We are in need of a facility, a safe haven
Speaker 3: in the city of Patison for domestic and I wanted
Speaker 3: to be open not only to domestic for anything that's
Speaker 3: going on, anything traumatizing, alcohol, drugs, you name it. But
Speaker 3: I really want a building so they can service for counseling.
Speaker 3: Also that they can find, you know, a safe haven
Speaker 3: where they won't.
Speaker 2: Get hurt, you know, undisclosed.
Speaker 3: So that is in my goal and that's what I
Speaker 3: want to actually deal hopefully and not just Patterson where
Speaker 3: the need where the facilities are needed.
Speaker 2: So I'm looking out of Patterson also.
Speaker 1: Okay, Well, I will be praying for you for that.
Speaker 1: And if somebody has information that could help you, how
Speaker 1: can they reach you?
Speaker 3: Well on Facebook I'm Francisco Nunions and that's my strong
Speaker 3: platform where I release a lot of information. And also
Speaker 3: my phone number is public which is ninety seven three
Speaker 3: ninety seven nine four two eighty eight. Anyone, I mean,
Speaker 3: anyone that is in need. It doesn't have to even
Speaker 3: be domestic.
Speaker 1: I'm not a resource box, right, you are full of information?
Speaker 1: Raises any last thoughts for our listeners.
Speaker 3: I just want to say to our listeners that never
Speaker 3: tolerate disrespect. Look for your safety. When something is you know,
Speaker 3: troubling you and it's not for you and it's in
Speaker 3: your spirit, just walk away, Just walk away. Because I
Speaker 3: always say love is not supposed to her. It's beautiful.
Speaker 1: And we're like.
Speaker 3: Flowers, you know, we're like flowers, and you know, love yourself,
Speaker 3: love yourself enough to not tolerate anything in your surrounding.
Speaker 3: And I mean it not only for domestic I mean
Speaker 3: it like family wise too. If there's something that's unnerving you,
Speaker 3: it's okay to walk away, right right. For peace, It's
Speaker 3: okay to walk away.
Speaker 1: I did it, Yeah, peace. Wow. As we close today's episode,
Speaker 1: I want to take a moment to honor the courage
Speaker 1: of our guest, Francisca Nuniez. Francisca, You've shown us that
Speaker 1: resilience isn't loud, it's steady. It's the quiet strength of
Speaker 1: a woman who has walked through storms and still chooses
Speaker 1: to stand in her purpose. It's the voice of someone
Speaker 1: who has been silenced but refuses to say silent any longer.
Speaker 1: Your story today reminded us that healing is not just possible,
Speaker 1: it is powerful, and our past does not define us,
Speaker 1: it prepares us. You've lived those words. I don't look
Speaker 1: like I've been what I've been through, and in doing so,
Speaker 1: you've given others permission to believe the same about themselves.
Speaker 1: To everyone listening, may Francisco's journey encourage you to speak
Speaker 1: your truth, to break the silence that held you back,
Speaker 1: and to believe that there is beauty waiting on the
Speaker 1: other side of your pain. Remember, hope is in something
Speaker 1: we find once. It's something we choose every day, in
Speaker 1: our healing, in our growth, and in our willingness to rise. Francisco,
Speaker 1: thank you for your heart, your honesty, and your unwavering
Speaker 1: commitment to helping others find their voice.
Speaker 2: Thank you, thank you.
Speaker 1: In my book, I pair a song with each story,
Speaker 1: and I've decided to do that with each episode and
Speaker 1: for you, I found a song called Unstoppable, with lyrics
Speaker 1: by Canny c Ani and Fearless Soul. You're a masterpiece,
Speaker 1: a light for all the world to see. You've come
Speaker 1: so far and you've survived every moment, shaped your fire inside.
Speaker 1: You're so bold. Don't you hide. The world needs your strength,
Speaker 1: don't deny it. Hold your head up high and own it.
Speaker 1: This is your time. You've always known it. You're unstoppable, unshakable, incredible, irreplaceable.
Speaker 1: Thank you listeners for joining me today on The Hope Show.
Speaker 1: If you have a story of resilience or transformation, I
Speaker 1: would love to hear it. Remember every story yours included
Speaker 1: May have the power to help someone through their healing
Speaker 1: and be the light someone else needs today. Let's keep
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