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<v Speaker 1>Hey, thanks for joining us today on Pastor Rick's Daily Hope,

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<v Speaker 1>the Bible Teaching Ministry of Rick Warren. And today we're

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<v Speaker 1>continuing our series called the Habits of Happiness. In this series,

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<v Speaker 1>Rick dives into the Book of Philippians and helps you

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<v Speaker 1>discover God's path to true and lasting happiness. Okay, and

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<v Speaker 1>now here's part one of a message called happiness can

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<v Speaker 1>be Learned.

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<v Speaker 2>Many people think that happiness is simply a matter of luck,

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<v Speaker 2>and they think if you're happy, you're just lucky. You

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<v Speaker 2>got lucky, you had happy circumstances, and so congratulations for you.

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<v Speaker 2>But actually, happiness can be learned. It is a quality

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<v Speaker 2>that you can learn. There are certain qualities that if

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<v Speaker 2>you learn them, your happiness in life is going to

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<v Speaker 2>go up exponentially. If you don't have these qualities in

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<v Speaker 2>your life, your unhappiness will go up exponentially. Now, you

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<v Speaker 2>probably never thought about this, but if I miss it

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<v Speaker 2>to you, you automatically know what I'm talking about, because

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<v Speaker 2>you could instinctively pick out qualities that cause you to

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<v Speaker 2>be happy and qualities that cause you to be unhappy.

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<v Speaker 2>For instance, if we made two columns, the happiness column

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<v Speaker 2>and the unhappiness column. And I said, now which column?

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<v Speaker 2>Would impatience go in unhappiness? Yeah, impatient people tend to

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<v Speaker 2>be unhappy people. Would you agree with that? And the

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<v Speaker 2>more patient you are, if you learn patience, you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to be happier in life. That obviously makes sense. If

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<v Speaker 2>I said, for instance, cruelty, that would go in the

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<v Speaker 2>unhappiness column, kindness would go on the happiness column. This

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<v Speaker 2>is kind of obvious, and we could make an entire

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<v Speaker 2>list if I said, if I'm arrogant, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 2>tend to be unhappy, and if I am humble, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to tend to be more happy. So what we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to do this weekend as we go through the

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<v Speaker 2>Book of Philippians is look at four very important qualities

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<v Speaker 2>you need to build it in your life. Now, happiness

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<v Speaker 2>is a serious business, and if you really want to

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<v Speaker 2>be happy, then you need to build these qualities in

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<v Speaker 2>your life. We're starting in Chapter two of Philippians, verses

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<v Speaker 2>nineteen down to verse thirty. Let me read it to

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<v Speaker 2>you and then we'll we'll look at it. Paul says this,

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<v Speaker 2>I hope in the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to

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<v Speaker 2>you soon. Now let me stop her and remind you

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<v Speaker 2>of the background. Paul is in prison in Rome. He's

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<v Speaker 2>writing a letter to a church in Greece, in a

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<v Speaker 2>city called Philippi, so we call it the Philippian Letter.

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<v Speaker 2>And Paul is writing to these church members of a

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<v Speaker 2>church he started in Greece, and they have been sending

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<v Speaker 2>him care packages. They've been They actually send him an

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<v Speaker 2>offering while he was in prison waiting to appeal his

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<v Speaker 2>execution before Caesar, who was Nero in Rome at the time.

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<v Speaker 2>And Paul is writing back to the Philippians. And this

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<v Speaker 2>book is actually a thank you letter. It is a

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<v Speaker 2>thank you letter for a financial gift. And in the

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<v Speaker 2>middle of this letter he gives some personal information. So

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<v Speaker 2>let me say it. Read it again. I hope in

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<v Speaker 2>the Lord Jesus to send Timothy to you soon so

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<v Speaker 2>that I may be cheered when I received news about you.

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<v Speaker 2>I have no one else like him. This is Timothy,

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<v Speaker 2>who takes a genuine interest in your welfare, for everybody

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<v Speaker 2>else looks after his own interest, not those of Jesus Christ.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know that Timothy has proved himself because as

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<v Speaker 2>a son with his father, he has served with me

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<v Speaker 2>in the work of the Gospel, the good News. I

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<v Speaker 2>hope therefore to send him Timothy as soon as I

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<v Speaker 2>can see how things go with me, and I'm confident

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<v Speaker 2>that I myself will come soon. In other words, I

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<v Speaker 2>hope I'm going to get out of jail and come

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<v Speaker 2>back to see you in Philippi. But he's says, I

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<v Speaker 2>think it is necessary to also send back to you Epaphriditis.

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<v Speaker 2>That's a long Greek name for a man. But that's

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<v Speaker 2>another guy like Timothy, Paphforditis, my brother, my fellow worker,

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<v Speaker 2>and my fellow soldier, who is also your messenger, whom

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<v Speaker 2>you sent to me to take care of my needs.

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<v Speaker 2>When the Philippians sent a financial gift to help Paul

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<v Speaker 2>always in prison Rome, they send it to a guy

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<v Speaker 2>named Apaphroditis, and he says, I'm going to send this

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<v Speaker 2>guy back to you, for he longs for all of

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<v Speaker 2>you because this was his home church. And he's distressed

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<v Speaker 2>because you heard he was ill. Indeed he was ill,

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<v Speaker 2>and he almost died in trying to get to Paul

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<v Speaker 2>on that trip to Rome. But God had mercy on him,

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<v Speaker 2>and not only on him, but also on me, to

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<v Speaker 2>spare me sorrow upon sorrow. Therefore, I am all the

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<v Speaker 2>more eager to send him back to you, so that

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<v Speaker 2>when you see him again, you may be glad, and

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<v Speaker 2>I maybe have they have less anxiety. So welcome him

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<v Speaker 2>in the Lord with great joy and honor men like him,

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<v Speaker 2>because he almost died for the work of Christ, risking

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<v Speaker 2>his life to make up for the help you could

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<v Speaker 2>not give me. Now, at a first glance, that doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>seem to be a very deep passage. You're going it

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<v Speaker 2>sounds like Paul's talking about two guys that are with

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<v Speaker 2>him in Rome that he's going to send back to Greece.

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<v Speaker 2>And when you read this letter, you might ask, why

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<v Speaker 2>in the world did God include that in the Bible.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, why is that even there. It's just a

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<v Speaker 2>personal note about two guys the church that the Philippi

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<v Speaker 2>knows and that Paul knows, and they've helped each other.

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<v Speaker 2>And and you might think, you know, this is one

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<v Speaker 2>of those passages in the Bible just kind of read

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<v Speaker 2>over real quick and just get to the good parts,

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<v Speaker 2>and you would be wrong. You would be wrong, because

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<v Speaker 2>the Bible says everything in the Bible is there to

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<v Speaker 2>teach us by exams, and in this passage that I

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<v Speaker 2>just read, you are the examples of the four things

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<v Speaker 2>you must build into your life if you want to

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<v Speaker 2>really be happy, if you want to live consistently happy.

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<v Speaker 2>Now he has an example of these four choices that

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<v Speaker 2>leads to happiness in these two guys named Timothy and Epaphroditis.

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<v Speaker 2>Now here's the background. Paul intends to send two guys

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<v Speaker 2>who are with him in Rome while he's there in prison,

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<v Speaker 2>back to the Philippian Church. And he says in verse nineteen,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to send you Timothy, And in verse twenty

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<v Speaker 2>five he says, I'm going to send back to you Paphorditis,

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<v Speaker 2>who's a member of your church. And then Paul endorses

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<v Speaker 2>these two guys as role models. He says in verse

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<v Speaker 2>twenty of Timothy, I got nobody else like him. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>let me just stop right there for a minute. If Paul,

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<v Speaker 2>the apostle who wrote most of the New Testament, says

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know anybody like him in the whole world,

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<v Speaker 2>you better pay attention to this guy. When Paul says

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<v Speaker 2>I don't have anybody in my life like Timothy, then

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<v Speaker 2>you better pay attention to him. In fact, two of

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<v Speaker 2>the books of the Bible are called first and second,

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<v Speaker 2>Timothy written to this guy, so he's a very important character.

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<v Speaker 2>He says, I don't anybody like him. And then he

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<v Speaker 2>says about the other guy, Paphroditis, he says, I want

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<v Speaker 2>you to welcome him when I send him, and honor

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<v Speaker 2>him because he nearly died. He nearly died for my sake. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>Paul says, and here's the reason why we're looking in

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<v Speaker 2>this series on the habits of happiness. Paul says, I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to send these guys to you for three reasons.

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<v Speaker 2>And he says this. He said in verse nineteen, so

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<v Speaker 2>that I may be cheered, so that I can be happy.

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<v Speaker 2>And then in verse twenty eight he says, so that

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<v Speaker 2>you may be happy, so you may be glad, you

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<v Speaker 2>may be happy. And then he says in verse twenty eight,

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<v Speaker 2>so that I may have less anxiety. So whatever these

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<v Speaker 2>guys are doing, however they are living, it's a way

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<v Speaker 2>that's gonna make you glad, it's gonna make me glad,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's gonna make us all have less anxiety. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>as your pastor, I want you to be happy, I

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<v Speaker 2>want me to be happy, and I want us all

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<v Speaker 2>to have less anxiety. So we're gonna look at this passage.

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<v Speaker 2>Does that make sense? And I'm gonna say, what is

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<v Speaker 2>it about these two guys that are so worthy? They're

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<v Speaker 2>in the Bible in a little footnote that looks like

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<v Speaker 2>kind of like just a personal hey, I'm sending these guys,

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<v Speaker 2>he says, in the Living Bible. These guys will make

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<v Speaker 2>me happy and lighten my cares. Now, what this passage

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<v Speaker 2>teaches us is that there are four qualities you need

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<v Speaker 2>to have in your life in order for your happiness

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<v Speaker 2>to go up and for the happiness of people around

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<v Speaker 2>you to go up too. And the first thing that

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<v Speaker 2>you have to learn is this. You're gonna have to learn.

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<v Speaker 2>Write this down to shift the focus away from myself.

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<v Speaker 2>That is the starting point for all happiness. I must

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<v Speaker 2>shift the focus away from myself. I have to care

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<v Speaker 2>about more than just me. I've got to care about

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<v Speaker 2>the needs of those around me. If all I think

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<v Speaker 2>about is me, me me, me, me, me me, me, myself,

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<v Speaker 2>an I I'm going to be a pretty miserable person.

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<v Speaker 2>If I truly want to be happy in life, I've

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<v Speaker 2>got to move the focus off myself. Now. Paul gives

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<v Speaker 2>Timothy as an example of this. In verse twenty twenty one,

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<v Speaker 2>he says this, I have nobody else like him who

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<v Speaker 2>takes a genuine interest in your welfare. For everybody else

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<v Speaker 2>looks out for his own interest. Would you say that's

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<v Speaker 2>true today? Of most people, everybody looks out for their

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<v Speaker 2>own interest. Not that many people are looking after your interest.

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<v Speaker 2>Could you name the people are looking after your interest?

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<v Speaker 2>Not many. Most people are looking after their own interest,

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<v Speaker 2>not yours. And as as naturally, I tend to look

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<v Speaker 2>at my own interest, I don't tend to look at

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<v Speaker 2>your interest. I don't get up in the morning and think, hmm,

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<v Speaker 2>I wonder if you're having a hard time today. Now

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<v Speaker 2>I'm always thinking about me. You tend to think about you.

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<v Speaker 2>Paul says, I've got nobody like this guy because he

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<v Speaker 2>actually takes a genuine interest in you, not simply in himself.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody else looks out for his own interest. And noticing

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<v Speaker 2>that phrase there, he says, no one else, No one

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<v Speaker 2>else is like In other words, unselfish people are very

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<v Speaker 2>very rare. Nobody else is liking he says, who takes

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<v Speaker 2>a genuine interest. There are many people who fake interest

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<v Speaker 2>in you. It's so funny. Sometimes I go to these

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<v Speaker 2>parties and or these important diplomatic events, and people are

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<v Speaker 2>standing there talking to you, and they've got one of

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<v Speaker 2>these little you know, toast at things and a drink

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<v Speaker 2>in their hands, and they're not they're talking to you,

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<v Speaker 2>but the whole time they're looking over your show, like

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<v Speaker 2>is there anybody else more important I should be talking to?

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<v Speaker 2>They're pretending to take an interest in me, but they're

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<v Speaker 2>not really did me. They're looking over who else could

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<v Speaker 2>I talk to instead of this guy? Because they don't.

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<v Speaker 2>They're pretending that. He says that he takes a genuine interest.

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<v Speaker 2>A good News translation says he genuinely cares about you.

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<v Speaker 2>Others care only about themselves. And then once you circle

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<v Speaker 2>the phrase, it says, looks out everyone else looks out

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<v Speaker 2>for his own interest. Circle that phrase, looks out. What

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<v Speaker 2>we're talking about here is a matter of focus. The

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<v Speaker 2>first key to happiness is you've got to change your focus.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to shift your focus away from yourself onto

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<v Speaker 2>other people. You gotta look out for others. Now, do

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<v Speaker 2>you normally do that? Not? Normally. That's something you have

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<v Speaker 2>to learn to do. When you walk into a room,

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<v Speaker 2>you're not normally thinking who in this room needs my help.

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<v Speaker 2>You walk into the room, look, look and think, how

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<v Speaker 2>Circle that phrase wrapped up. For those of you who

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<v Speaker 2>message paraphrase. It says, here, don't be so obsessed with

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<v Speaker 2>a helping hand. If you did that, you think you'd

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<v Speaker 2>be happier. Yes you would, Yes you would. You See,

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<v Speaker 2>this isn't easy to do because everything in our culture

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<v Speaker 2>and America is becoming more and more self centered. I

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<v Speaker 2>number today are I, me, my choice, unique, special, These

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<v Speaker 2>words are being overused today. Words you don't hear much.

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<v Speaker 2>They are responsibility and prayer. Okay, those words that were

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<v Speaker 2>happiness is something you drink. It says, here's a coke bottle,

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<v Speaker 2>says open happiness. So if you just buy that product,

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<v Speaker 2>says not only that joy is something you drive, and

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<v Speaker 2>And what is it? You know? It's an AUDI that

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<v Speaker 2>is an audacious goal? Is what that is? Right there? ADDI.

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<v Speaker 2>Now what Pepsi tells us is this all that matters

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<v Speaker 2>is today? Live for now an others. Don't plan about tomorrow,

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<v Speaker 2>Sprite tells us this, obey your thirst, okay, in other words,

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<v Speaker 2>give in to any urge you have. Okay. You're hearing

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<v Speaker 2>these message subliminal. It's all about you, It's all about you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's all about you. Burger King have it your way,

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<v Speaker 2>have it your way. Well, that's about us, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>Now that's not bad advice when you're ordering a hamburger,

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<v Speaker 2>but that's terrible advice for relationships. Here's a perfume product,

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<v Speaker 2>it's all about me. Yeah, yeah, it's all about me.

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<v Speaker 2>And then for smart counter culture programming or or you know, positioning,

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<v Speaker 2>the donut company did this one. I love donuts because

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<v Speaker 2>they're not self centered at all, little counter culture spin

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<v Speaker 2>on advertising. The bottom line is everything in culture teaches

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<v Speaker 2>have to intentionally shift the focus away if I want

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<v Speaker 2>to be happy. Number two. The second thing you're going

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<v Speaker 2>to need to learn to be happy is this. If

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<v Speaker 2>you want to be happy, you're going to have to

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<v Speaker 2>become someone that people trust. You're going to have to

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<v Speaker 2>become someone that people trust. Proverbs thirteen fifteen says those

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<v Speaker 2>who can't be trusted are on the road to ruin. Now,

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<v Speaker 2>it's really obvious that the more people trust you, the

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<v Speaker 2>you're not going to be happy. If nobody trusts you,

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<v Speaker 2>you're living a pretty miserable life. So here's another quality

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<v Speaker 2>you can learn. If you learn to be trustworthy, you

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<v Speaker 2>learn to be dependable, and you develop that quality in

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<v Speaker 2>your life, you're going to be a whole lot happier

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<v Speaker 2>than people who aren't worthy of trust. If you want

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<v Speaker 2>to be happy, you got to become somebody that people trust.

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<v Speaker 2>Now again, Paul uses Timothy as an example of this

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<v Speaker 2>verse twenty two. He says, Timothy has proven himself because

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<v Speaker 2>in the work of the gospel. Now again, he's given

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<v Speaker 2>this guy in action. I've seen this Timothy. I've seen

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<v Speaker 2>him in all kinds of circumstances. And he says, this guy, Timothy,

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<v Speaker 2>he's the real deal. He's the real McCoy. He's authentic,

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<v Speaker 2>he's genuine, he's trustworthy, he's dependable, he's reliable. You can

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<v Speaker 2>what kind of person Timothy proved to be. Do people

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<v Speaker 2>know what kind of person you really are? And are

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<v Speaker 2>you trustworthy? If you're not, then you're not very happy

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<v Speaker 2>because the more people trust you, the more your happiness

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<v Speaker 2>goes up. Now, he says, about this guy, Timothy, he's

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<v Speaker 2>proven trustworthy. He has been proven, he has been proved

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<v Speaker 2>over time, tested, verified, checked out. He is credible, he

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<v Speaker 2>is creditable. You know, anytime you go to a bank

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<v Speaker 2>going to do a thing on you called a credit check,

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<v Speaker 2>a credit check, and they're gonna say, are you worthy

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<v Speaker 2>of being trusted with credit? Are you creditable? Do you

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<v Speaker 2>pay your bills back? Are you paying them back on time?

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<v Speaker 2>Do you have a track record of doing what you say?

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<v Speaker 2>and we're going to lose it. They do a credit

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<v Speaker 2>check on you to see if you are credible or

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<v Speaker 2>credit worthy. Now, I want to tell you a little secret.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody around you is doing a credit check on your

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<v Speaker 2>life every moment of your life. Not just the banks,

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<v Speaker 2>but everybody around you is constantly doing a credit check

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<v Speaker 2>on you. Are you what you say you are? Are

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<v Speaker 2>you the real deal? Are you just some phony Bologna.

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<v Speaker 2>You wear a mask here and wear a mask over here.

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<v Speaker 2>Greek theater. One actor would play many parts, and he'd

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<v Speaker 2>That's where we get the word hypocrite. Hypocrite means somebody

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<v Speaker 2>and that way with his wife, and you don't really know.

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<v Speaker 2>Is what you see? What you get? He's saying, you

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<v Speaker 2>know the kind of person Timothy was. He proved, he

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<v Speaker 2>if you're going to be happy, you got to learn

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<v Speaker 2>to be consistent. You got to learn to be dependable, trustworthy, reliable.

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<v Speaker 2>How do you develop a reputation for reliability. Two things.

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<v Speaker 2>Write them down. The Bible tells us number one, live

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<v Speaker 2>with integrity. Live with integrity. And what I mean by

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<v Speaker 2>that is make sure that my actions match my words.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't talk a good game and then live another

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<v Speaker 2>different way. No, he says, what you see is what

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<v Speaker 2>required for integrity, none of us have integrity because nobody's perfect.

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<v Speaker 2>We're all flawed. But integrity means what you see is

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<v Speaker 2>what you get. It's the real deal. Make sure my

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<v Speaker 2>reliable friends who do what they say are like a

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<v Speaker 2>cool drink, or like cool drinks and sweltering heat refreshing,

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<v Speaker 2>not a great verse. So that's the you know, can

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<v Speaker 2>people count on you? Or do you flip flop? Are

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<v Speaker 2>Proverbs twenty five nineteen says this, Putting confidence in an

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<v Speaker 2>on a broken foot. I like that, what as you say?

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<v Speaker 2>The greatest stability is dependability. It's more important than the

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<v Speaker 2>other ability in life. The greatest ability is dependability. Are

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<v Speaker 2>you dependable? Are you credit worthy? Are you worthy of trust?

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<v Speaker 2>person because the more people who trust in you, the

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<v Speaker 2>Proverbs twenty eight to twenty says, honest people will lead

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<v Speaker 2>a full, happy life. You want to be happy. Honest

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<v Speaker 2>people lead full every life. Number two. Not only do

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you for listening to Pastor Rick's Daily Hope. Hey,

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