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Speaker 1: I made a decision.

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Speaker 2: Sunny Sun yet on I had a visions night. What's happening? Everybody?

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Welcome to for crying out loud. This is gonna be

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a little bit of a tough episode. Yeah, but we'll

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keep it light and tight. It'll be fun, light and tight,

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light and light and sweet baby.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Well huh so okay, I guess. First of all, I

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want to thank everybody on our for crying out loud page,

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so many messages for the posts that I posted about

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the passing of Phil. It was one week ago today.

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Speaker 1: I can't believe it's been one one week ago today.

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When you were like, oh, Phil wasn't able to stand

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up this morning, I had to leave him, Like yeah,

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so I wasn't so Phil.

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Speaker 2: Back in October, Phil started having trouble standing up, and like,

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once he was up, he could walk, but he seemed

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really stiff. So he took him to the vet and

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the vet did X rays and said, you know, he

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basically has some little inflammation in his spine and calcium

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build up or something like that, basically like arthritisy kind

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of thing. Here's the pain medicine, and give it to

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him twice a day every twelve hours and he should

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be okay. So he was back to normal after that,

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and he was going on his walks. I would take

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him on hikes sometimes, and you know, Phil is kind

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of a pain in the ass to take for walk though,

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because he's he's not very energetic. He likes to lay

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down a lot, so he doesn't we don't go too far,

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but you know, I take him for a walk once

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or twice a day. He's perfectly happy just laying around

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in the backyard with me too. So that morning, now

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here's the weird thing. You gave me the rest of

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people's pain medicine, which was the exact same milligram, the

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exact same medicine that I have to get for Phil.

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So I started giving him that pain medicine on Friday

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before Monday. So when he was having trouble walking, I

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had to leave to come here. He got up and

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went out to the bathroom, but then he was like

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down for the count. I could tell something was bothering him,

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and I thought, I said to you, I thought, maybe

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I'm giving him something different. Maybe it's a different you know,

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I don't know, it was the same.

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Speaker 1: You thought maybe it was generic. But it was like

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somehow different. Yeah, different manufacturer.

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Speaker 2: Right, So after we left the podcast, I went and

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picked up his medicine. So when I got home, he

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moved from I left him in my bedroom. He moved

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across the house to the bathroom. He likes to be

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in the bathroom. It's cool, the tile's cool. And he

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was just down in the bathroom and he couldn't get up.

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And I got home. I gave him the pain medicine

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and I gave it like an hour and a half

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two hours to kick in. I sat in the bathroom

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with him. I gave him one of his bones that

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he loves to lick, has peanut butter in the middle.

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So I kept him busy and I kept trying to

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get him up. He just would not couldn't get up.

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And then at one point, like I put a heating

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pad on him, and I was waiting for the medicine

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to kick in. I was doing a chat GPT about it,

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and so I took a towel like a harness. I

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slipped it under his body and I lifted him up

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and he was able to walk out.

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Speaker 1: Because he was in there all day.

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Speaker 2: I wanted him to go to the bathroom, so I

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got him up to the backyard. He sort of walked

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and then he plopped down, couldn't get to the grass.

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And then I sat there a little long, like let

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him rest for a little bit. And then at one

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point he got up and walked to the grass and

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went to the bathroom, and I was like, oh great,

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and then he came back and then he laid back

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down and he just could not He could not get up.

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And I was reading if they knuckle drag their pause

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in the back, that's a bad sign, and he was

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doing that. He couldn't put his paws flat. So I

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was like, I got to take him to the emergency room.

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So I had, but I can't. How am I going

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to put this guy in the car. He weighs one

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hundred and four pounds, is what they said. So I

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went to my neighbors and the husband came and he

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helped me. Now it's like eight o'clock and I get

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him in the car and I take him to the

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emergency Vet hospital and waited for a long time. I

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was there until like two in the morning. Yeah, we

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with him in the car. No, they they got him

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on a gurney out of the car, took him to

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the back. But you know, it's a vet hospital if

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there's an emergency, you know, for other dogs. He's not

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priority right now. So we waited for a long long

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time and then the doctor came in and she's said,

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you know, he doesn't have I tested his back paws.

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the only way we can see what's going on is

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to do an MRI, and an MRI is very expensive.

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do the MRI. He stayed there overnight. Then the next

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day they called and they said, he's got a lot

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of slip discs in his spine and he needs surgery.

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Speaker 1: How did he get those?

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Speaker 2: I think that he probably had that back in October,

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but his vet didn't do an MRI. They just did

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an X ray, and I think it was being masked

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by the pain medicines this whole time. So they said, yeah,

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he had like three slip discs and we need to

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you know, do surgery. And it doesn't guarantee that he's

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going to have you know, he's going to be able

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to walk again. It's fifty to fifty that's what they

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told me.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so but then they were like, but he's fairly

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young and he's otherwise really healthy. That's yeah, you told me, yes,

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that's right.

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Speaker 2: So I had note. I was like, okay, well we

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got you know, let's do the surgery. And I called

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Sonny and Sonny got really upset and he wanted to

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fly home. So he flew home on Tuesday. And then

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Tuesday he had his surgery Tuesday evening and they said,

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you know, it was more than we thought, more than

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the MRI showed, and it was a big surgery. He

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lost a lot of blood, but you know, he's recovery.

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So Tuesday went by and now like, we can go

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visit him. So Sonny and I went to visit him.

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And when we saw him and the ICU, he was

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laying on the They had him on blankets on the

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floor and he was just you know, huffing and puffing

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and he couldn't wag his tail. And Sonny was a mess,

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and you know, so was I. It was really sad,

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and then we were so now I'm thinking how much long?

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How long am I going to give it? You know,

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how long can it take? And then I'm looking into

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these places that well that this hospital has a medical

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boarding after surgery. They take the dogs in this and

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it's not as expensive as the hospital and they can

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take them and they can help, you know, get them better.

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be a week, could be two weeks, could be never.

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Speaker 1: We don't know.

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Speaker 2: So, you know, he did have a lot of surgery.

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Tuesday went into Wednesday, we went to visit him, and

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Natalia came home on Friday and she went to visit

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him and.

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Speaker 1: She was a mess.

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Speaker 2: And Sonny called Adam and Adam was out of town.

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But then he was going to try and visit him,

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but he I don't think he ever got there. And then,

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I mean every morning they would call with an update,

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and every morning I'm praying, like, is there going to

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be good news, and every morning it was the same,

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he's not his legs are not moving well. Then Monday

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came and.

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Speaker 1: We expected at that point, I mean, I was getting

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a lot of updates from you, but it was hard

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because they were like, well, we just don't know exactly exactly.

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Speaker 2: And then some you would get a different doctor. This

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doctor would come in or this whoever was on staff

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or whatever. So yeah, and then Monday came and we

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were going to do our podcast, but I got really sick.

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There was something going There was a flu going around

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in the hospital. One of the doctors wasn't coming in

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because she got The one I was talking to got

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really sick. So I had like the flu. So I

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was feeling horrible and then I said to you, I

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think that they're gonna call me. They called me in

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the morning and they said Phil had took taken a

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turn for the worse. He has a fever and he's

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showing infection and we will have to either take him

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from where he's at right now and take him into

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critical care and start figuring out where the infection is.

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Could be septists, you know. And she said, but I'm

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very concerned. I'm watching him just suffer, so you guys

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need to come here immediately. So Sonny and I went

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over there on Monday. And it was weird because Olga

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called while we were at the hospital and she was

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up the street, so she came and then he was like, yeah,

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have Olga com like for support, So she came over

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to the hospital and then the doctors came to talk

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to us and they said, even if we treat him

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in critical care with he may have all these different

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infections and it's going to be a lot on his

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body and he still doesn't have any use or feeling

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in his legs. So we had to make the decision

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to let him go, and we did. We didn't want

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him suffering. And yeah, and it was like we were

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a mess. And they brought him into this room and

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you know, it was like lightly lit with a little

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couch and he was he was in his little bed

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they made for him, and we just sat there for

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like like an hour. Sonny's face was right up to

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his face, looking in his eyes, telling him he loves him.

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I was telling him, thank you for being such a

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great dog to us, and him thank you Phil.

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Speaker 1: You know, it was just such a great dog.

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Speaker 2: And it was just too soon. It was too soon.

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He was only ten, it was only two. And you

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is when Sonny was home for Super Bowl. We were

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playing with Phil and I said, just Sonny, I said,

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I hate that.

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Speaker 1: I said this.

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Speaker 2: I said, you know, he's ten years old and he's

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in great shape. His hips are great, you know, if

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he plays his cards right and stopped, you know, doesn't

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eat anything like he's got, I've probably got another five

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or six years for you know. And I said that,

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and Sonny was like, I know, I remember you said that.

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It was like me a couple of weeks earlier, and

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it was really too soon. He was such a great dog,

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and he was my pal, and he was my buddy,

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and he slept with me every single night and followed

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me everywhere, and he loves Sonny so much.

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Speaker 1: And Sonny and then I lay next to him.

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Speaker 2: And I thanked him and I kissed him right on

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his lips and he gave me a big lick. And

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then the doctor came in and you know, explained what

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would happen, and you know, he was quiet and peaceful,

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and he went very peacefully.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, it was really tough. It was a hard week.

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And I can't believe it's only been one week and.

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Speaker 2: Sonny has stayed with me. He's going home tomorrow. He's

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his teachers have been very great with him and understanding,

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and uh, he wanted to stay.

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Speaker 1: With me and didn't want me to be alone.

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Speaker 2: And he wanted to just kind of hang Like the

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two of us we ate dinner together every night and

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hung out. We've been hanging and we've been I mean

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Sonny watching him that whole week and talking to the

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doctors and asking questions and visiting him. It was like

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having a partner with me. I wasn't alone and making decisions.

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I didn't want to make this decision on my own,

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you know. And Sonny has just shown me what a

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great young man he's grown into in these situations.

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Speaker 1: And I'm very proud of him.

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Speaker 2: And he got a really nice text from his dad

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saying basically the same thing, that he's proud of him.

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And so we have a candle that's been burning. We've

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been burning a lot of candles, and we have a

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our painting that we have of him that we got

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from Robert Phelps, and you know, just.

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Speaker 1: The house is like empty. So it's so weird because

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when I just went through this, Xander, I was like

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in protect the kid's mind. That's how I was. Then

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Xander was like I want to be there, you know.

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day it's happening. We planned it on a day that

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he was going to school, and we were thinking, like,

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we got to protect the kids. They don't need to

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be there for you. And Xander was like, no, I

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want to be I want to be home, right right,

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almost eighteen at the time he was seven. But he

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was like, it's like a very adult kind of decision.

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But if that's what he wants to do, like far

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be it from us to go like, no, you can't

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be there. So he and Sadie stayed home. And he

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was such a man. Yeah, I told you he was.

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He and John walked he Bow's body out to the

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and I couldn't do it.

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we left the room, finally I went up to pay

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and Sonny kept looking back at the room and he goes,

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I just want to go back one more time, and

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he went back into the room.

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Speaker 1: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but.

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Speaker 1: That was his buddy. That was his buddy. They went

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on their lung walks. To be kind of shocking to

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have like just been at school for.

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Speaker 2: I know, it was just happened so sudden, and I

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wasn't too worried about it. Monday morning when I was here,

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I'm like, no, he'll be you know, because he got

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better last time. He's you know, so I was like.

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Speaker 1: It seems like he's been through worse.

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Speaker 2: Right, it's exactly right, but he just couldn't ever recover.

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And I didn't want to see him. He was suffering.

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He was huffing and puffed, did the right thing. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, these dogs, they you know, like we just don't

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even deserve them, like, you know, they don't need to

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go through.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, he was not the whole week. He

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was not in good shape. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: So it's so hard because we have to make these

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decisions for them because they can't. They can't tell us

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like let me go, you know. So you know I

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had it was so so brutal with Penelope because there

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were times where she was fine.

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Speaker 2: Right right, it's tough, how do you know? And I

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feel like Phil was telling us when he got worse.

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And when we saw him that day, he was tough

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and I wanted him to stop. He was panting so

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hard and he could barely like lift his head to us.

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their face right in front of him, and you know,

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he knew we were there, but he was not well

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and I didn't want to continue, you know, the suffering.

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Speaker 1: I'm so sorry, and as I already told you, but

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I'll say it again. When John found out, John started crying. Oh.

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I mean obviously it probably triggered, but he's heard the

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Phil's stories and I you know, been part of our

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show a little bit, and he was just like, oh

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my god, please tell on it. Thank you, Thank you,

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John hurt Her, No, thank you John and everybody.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I know and I've read every single messages.

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And also one last thing I want to say is

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I'm working with this organization called Frankie's Friends and their

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nonprofit across the country, and I'm setting up a memorial

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page where with a link and you can donate for

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people families that needed funds and that you know and

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that when they get put in that position. If I

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didn't have money, I don't know what I would have done.

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You know, it's scary, and it's a lot of money.

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It's costly, and I read all the stories of families

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that they've helped, and Betty White's on the page with

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her thing and they help so many families that in

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an emergency like that for their dogs.

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Speaker 1: That's so beautiful. They're called Frankie's Friends.

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Speaker 2: I think it's I will definitely by next week, we'll

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have the page up and I will have the link

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and I will let you guys know. But yeah, yeah,

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put it on our Facebook page and definitely definitely will.

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Isn't it crazy that, like the first thing one of

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the things I thought was like, to get you a

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painting because but then I was like, this is so

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weird because he just made you a painting.

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Speaker 1: Yeahn though fills alive and right right, And I was like,

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oh my god, yeah, the black fucking mirror episode. I know, right,

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it's crazy. It's so weird.

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Speaker 2: I thought about that, like the two of us parallel lives.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but also just that he made you that painting.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I will post that painting. Yeah I

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should have posted it.

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Speaker 1: And now it's like a memorial. Yeah yeah.

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Speaker 2: We we had it like in our house kind of

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in the back, but I moved it up front on

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the wall so you see it right when you walk in.

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Speaker 1: It's so hard because you know, you miss of course

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them and their smell and their presence and all of that,

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But then you also like it leaves you so I mean,

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you're not trying to make this worse, Like I'm just

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going to make it worse. Yeah, you have two kids

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at school, and it leaves you with this absence of

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a creature to be taken care of you needed to be.

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It's happy to see you when you get home.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, like, yeah, it's just yeah, the worl it's the worst. Yeah,

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you know, And eventually I'll probably get another dog, but

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not right now.

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Speaker 1: I don't. No, I'm still like mourning. Of course it's

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been a week.

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Speaker 2: It's only been a week, and his hair is everywhere still, Yeah,

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clean up his toys when I got home. Really sad,

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but I'm so happy I have Sunny with me.

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Speaker 1: I mean, and then you were freaking sick on top

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of it. I was sick, I know, just at the

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tail end of it. Well you had just started I

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don't I think you had just started antibiotics last week. Yeah,

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you didn't even not come in. You didn't come in

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because you were sick, right, not even because of Phil,

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That's right, right, you were just like, I'm really sick.

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You said, I have a really bad caught yes, and

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then I then you said you were going to go

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I was going to get the by the doctor or whatever,

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and you get antibiotics you were just starting them and

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then you had to go through all that. Yeah, it

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was it was brutal. Yeah, it was awful. Yeah. Let's

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Speaker 1: Do so in other medical news, I'm back in the

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UTI game.

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Speaker 2: I know, Stephanie at Ah, what is with us?

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Speaker 1: Why does this happen? And I don't even know why

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I have a UTI because I've been using my estradiol cright,

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But I okay, and I will tell you all about

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this too. But I went to a state qualifiers speech

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and debate competition, yes, with Sander, and I was a judge.

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And you know, I get a lot of stories, got

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a lot of mileage from speech and debate. I love it.

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Some people are kind of catty and don't really like

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all the speech and debate stories. Well guess what motherfuckers

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I do to sell there? Also, they're almost done, okay, yes,

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like this was our last thing? Huh, well not our

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very last thing, which I'll get to. Yeah, But so

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this was a big thing and I was required to

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go judge on Saturday, so Friday, so Xander did I

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talk about this on the thing before that this. So

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he competed in one other speech event that I told

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you about, but he did not write his original oratory

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speech because he's been so busy doing other things. He's

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in school play and I told you, and I told him,

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just stop, don't try to do speech on top of that. Yeah.

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So he went to the speech event and he did

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improv duos, and he did this thing called impromptu, which

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is they give you a topic and you make up

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a speech off the top of your head. Yeah, for

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five minutes. Right. Neither prep. So you can just go

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to the competition and compete in those events. But he

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had this thing where he was like, I want to

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write a speech. I want to write an o oh

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speech for this weekend for one time. I want to

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at least compete with it one time. Okay, it's his thing,

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but he still hadn't done it because he's been doing

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his play rehearsals. So I was like, at one point,

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I just said, if you don't want to do it,

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just don't do it. It's totally fine, but I'm gonna

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I have to judge now, so I'm going to go

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either way at this point, and he goes, I'm doing it.

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I'm writing this speech and I'm going to do it.

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And I was like, okay, So now it's the speech.

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Thing was on Saturday, Saturday, and Sunday. So now it's

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like Thursday. He so, Wednesday he's writing a speech and

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I'm like, are you fucking kidding me? It's a ten

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minute speech that has to be fully memorized. Oh wow,

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I can't have notes. You can't have note cards, you

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can't have bullet points. It has to be in your

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mind and ten minutes. Imagine. I'm like, I can't memorize

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something that's thirty seconds. I couldn't memorize that much, right,

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he has to memorize ten minutes of material. So and

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he didn't. He wasn't written. So he went good under

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pressure apparently, so because let me tell you what happened.

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So Wednesday he's writing, but it's not done. Thursday he's writing,

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he's writing it in different classes at school. Thursday night

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he stays up until midnight, finishes his speech. He's not

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talking to me about it. So in my mind, I'm like, well,

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he's not feeling good about this because he's not running

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anything by me. He's not trying to run the speech.

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I guess he's just going to go throw some shit

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against the wall. Yeah. But he tells me on Friday,

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he's like, I'm doing the speech tomorrow and I go okay,

473
00:25:55,759 --> 00:25:58,440
and he goes, I got to memorize it today, right.

474
00:25:59,279 --> 00:26:02,720
He finished writing at Thursday night at midnight. Oh my god.

475
00:26:02,960 --> 00:26:06,240
So Friday he's just like, I'm learning it today. He

476
00:26:06,400 --> 00:26:10,000
learns the speech and he's like, I'm going to the competition,

477
00:26:10,039 --> 00:26:14,079
and I go, okay, whatever you want to do. Meanwhile,

478
00:26:14,759 --> 00:26:20,759
So this category, ooh, original oratory is a hard category.

479
00:26:20,799 --> 00:26:23,200
It's a big category because it's one of the few

480
00:26:23,240 --> 00:26:27,640
categories where people are writing something original, like about their

481
00:26:27,720 --> 00:26:30,559
life or about something they're passionate about. A lot of

482
00:26:30,599 --> 00:26:33,440
the other things are like there's a thing called declamation,

483
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,440
and that's where you learn somebody else's speech. It's a

484
00:26:36,480 --> 00:26:39,240
ten minute speech, but it could be like Obama or

485
00:26:39,279 --> 00:26:41,720
somebody did a really cool one that was Malcolm X.

486
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,119
But you're reading someone else's speech, so you don't have

487
00:26:44,119 --> 00:26:46,279
to write anything. Yeah, go and look up some Ted

488
00:26:46,319 --> 00:26:50,279
talks like how the speech you like? But this original

489
00:26:50,279 --> 00:26:53,000
oratory is like, it's got to be good, it's got

490
00:26:53,000 --> 00:26:58,400
to be researched. I'm like, I have zero expectations because

491
00:26:58,519 --> 00:27:01,440
it's like a lot of really good kids and a

492
00:27:01,440 --> 00:27:03,240
lot of these kids have been working on their speech

493
00:27:03,279 --> 00:27:07,200
since twenty twenty five. Wow, because the season started in

494
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:10,480
October of last year. Now we're in March. So some

495
00:27:10,519 --> 00:27:14,559
of these kids have done these there's speech like thirty times, yeah,

496
00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:17,079
you know, forty times at this point. They've gone to

497
00:27:17,079 --> 00:27:20,880
different events. So I'm like, I'm giving them a pep

498
00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:24,599
talk and just going, don't be hard on yourself, Like

499
00:27:25,759 --> 00:27:28,680
I think you're already killing it. You wrote something like

500
00:27:29,000 --> 00:27:31,640
just showing up is so cool? Oh yeah, how cool

501
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:35,000
are you? Yeah? You like I would never have done

502
00:27:35,079 --> 00:27:37,680
that yet. Yeah, no, get her here. I'm like if

503
00:27:37,720 --> 00:27:40,880
I didn't, if I wasn't being paid, if somebody was like,

504
00:27:40,920 --> 00:27:42,400
you know what, you don't have to do it, I'd

505
00:27:42,400 --> 00:27:45,079
be like, great, I'm not doing it.

506
00:27:45,119 --> 00:27:45,279
Speaker 2: Then.

507
00:27:45,519 --> 00:27:48,480
Speaker 1: Yeah, I did nothing in high school. I had no

508
00:27:48,839 --> 00:27:52,640
there's no motivation. I cannot believe that he does so

509
00:27:52,720 --> 00:27:55,079
many things. So I'm just in awe. I don't know

510
00:27:55,079 --> 00:27:58,160
where you came from, right, but like, good for you. Yeah.

511
00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:02,519
So anyway, I went there with my friend Julie because

512
00:28:02,599 --> 00:28:06,200
her daughter was doing it too. I remember last year

513
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:08,400
I went with Tamra, my pat Tamra a lot, but

514
00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:11,559
this year Tamra's kid is already at Berkeley. So so

515
00:28:11,599 --> 00:28:15,200
we go to the competition. Xander has not at this

516
00:28:15,279 --> 00:28:19,039
point said anything about anything. He's just I'm like, why

517
00:28:19,079 --> 00:28:23,680
are you so chill? He goes, I'm not, I'm really nervous. Wow, Okay,

518
00:28:24,519 --> 00:28:28,000
he's not running the speech, and it's so he told

519
00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:30,519
me later he went and like did the speech to

520
00:28:30,599 --> 00:28:33,880
a wall, and then he went into his first thing.

521
00:28:34,319 --> 00:28:36,000
I went off to judge, So you don't get to

522
00:28:36,000 --> 00:28:38,759
see it. You don't never get to see it because

523
00:28:38,759 --> 00:28:40,960
I'm judging other things. Right, I don't never get to

524
00:28:41,039 --> 00:28:43,720
judge my own kid. I don't get to judge anyone

525
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:47,599
from our school. So while he's competing, I'm judging other things.

526
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:50,960
So he does his first round. They get two rounds

527
00:28:51,000 --> 00:28:54,839
on Saturday. He does two, and I judged four rounds

528
00:28:54,880 --> 00:29:00,160
for that day, he only had two rounds. Afterwards, he goes, honestly,

529
00:29:00,839 --> 00:29:03,079
because I would see him, I would pass him, you know,

530
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:07,319
And he was like, I feel good. He's like, mom,

531
00:29:07,400 --> 00:29:09,559
I said the whole speech and I did not. I

532
00:29:09,599 --> 00:29:12,400
didn't mess up, I didn't forget anything. I'm just proud

533
00:29:12,440 --> 00:29:15,640
of myself for getting through it. And I was like, well,

534
00:29:15,640 --> 00:29:18,960
that's amazing for you. Yeah, yeah, fucking great, you know.

535
00:29:19,599 --> 00:29:24,000
And he does his second round and he's like, oh

536
00:29:24,599 --> 00:29:27,359
the first round, he goes, Okay, he goes, it didn't

537
00:29:27,480 --> 00:29:29,599
totally affect me, he goes, But there was a woman

538
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:33,279
who was like mad dogging me, oh wow. And I

539
00:29:33,359 --> 00:29:35,640
don't know what the speech is at this point. Yeah,

540
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,759
though I do know. He told me that he is

541
00:29:38,799 --> 00:29:42,680
talking about being trans in the speech. So I'm like, what,

542
00:29:43,119 --> 00:29:47,480
had you already said that you're trans? And he goes, yeah,

543
00:29:47,599 --> 00:29:49,880
he goes. I don't know if she's like transphobic. I

544
00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:52,079
don't know why, but she was just giving me such

545
00:29:52,119 --> 00:29:54,759
a crazy look. And she was one of the judges.

546
00:29:54,880 --> 00:29:58,640
One of the judges. So this is a big event.

547
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:02,839
State qualify, so whoever gets and it's very hard to

548
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:07,240
qualify for state, so they every room has three judges

549
00:30:07,279 --> 00:30:10,200
instead of one. Okay, because they don't trust you could

550
00:30:10,200 --> 00:30:12,359
have a shitty judge, and so you have to have

551
00:30:12,680 --> 00:30:15,160
other people to bounce it off of, not to you

552
00:30:15,200 --> 00:30:18,160
don't get to discuss, but you have like three different

553
00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:20,279
points of view on your speech, right, and a lot

554
00:30:20,279 --> 00:30:23,839
of times people have very different opinions. Yeah. Yes, so

555
00:30:23,880 --> 00:30:27,000
there's usually like six people in a round about like

556
00:30:27,039 --> 00:30:30,359
five or six people. So anyway, so he was really

557
00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:32,519
upset about it. He goes, I'm telling you, this lady

558
00:30:32,599 --> 00:30:36,160
was giving me such dirty looks. Yeah. So then the

559
00:30:36,279 --> 00:30:40,359
coach later talks to me and she's like, yeah, he

560
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:42,960
told me, she goes, But I went and checked what

561
00:30:43,039 --> 00:30:45,839
score she gave him, and she gave him second. I

562
00:30:45,880 --> 00:30:48,240
was like, oh, she goes. So I don't really want

563
00:30:48,279 --> 00:30:49,960
to take it any further because I don't want them

564
00:30:49,960 --> 00:30:53,200
to disqualify that score because it's great. Yeah. So I

565
00:30:53,240 --> 00:30:58,759
was like, okay. So then that night our coach texts

566
00:30:58,799 --> 00:31:01,000
me and she goes, Zam does not want to know

567
00:31:01,039 --> 00:31:04,079
how he's doing. He just wants to just have no

568
00:31:04,160 --> 00:31:06,680
pressure and just do his thing. She goes, but do

569
00:31:06,759 --> 00:31:13,039
you want to know how he's doing? And I was like, hell, yes, right,

570
00:31:13,240 --> 00:31:16,799
So she goes, he got a three, a two, and

571
00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:20,759
a one on his first round, which is fantastic, but

572
00:31:20,839 --> 00:31:23,400
he ranked him number one. Wow. And he goes and

573
00:31:23,480 --> 00:31:26,880
on his second round he got two two one and

574
00:31:26,920 --> 00:31:32,720
I was like, that's crazy. What what He literally memorized

575
00:31:32,759 --> 00:31:36,039
the speech yesterday And she goes, I know, he just

576
00:31:36,200 --> 00:31:39,799
wrote it. He just wrote it. He's never practiced it,

577
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:43,279
not one time. That is amazing, and she goes, it

578
00:31:43,359 --> 00:31:45,880
must be a good speech. So then I said, so

579
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:50,279
then there was another preliminary round Sunday morning. She goes,

580
00:31:52,000 --> 00:31:55,000
she was funny. She goes, basically, he could kind of

581
00:31:55,039 --> 00:31:57,519
shit the bed on this third round and still make

582
00:31:57,559 --> 00:32:02,000
it to semi finals. So there's three rounds, a semi finals,

583
00:32:02,039 --> 00:32:04,799
and then a finals. Ok. And goes, I think he's

584
00:32:04,880 --> 00:32:09,000
going to be in semi finals unless something went pretty wrong, right,

585
00:32:09,160 --> 00:32:11,759
Like he's looking good for the semi finals. So I

586
00:32:11,839 --> 00:32:16,640
was like, okay. So his third round, he's like, honestly, again,

587
00:32:17,200 --> 00:32:20,279
I feel pretty good. Like I did my thing again,

588
00:32:20,319 --> 00:32:22,680
I didn't mess up, I didn't get a time violation,

589
00:32:22,960 --> 00:32:26,640
Like I'm happy with myself. Yeah, Like that's kind of

590
00:32:26,920 --> 00:32:29,079
right because normally he's like, I don't know, I have

591
00:32:29,200 --> 00:32:31,920
no idea how I did. Like yeah, So then I

592
00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:35,480
find out that his third round he got again a one,

593
00:32:35,839 --> 00:32:40,119
a two, and a three. Oh my, great god, that's insane.

594
00:32:40,400 --> 00:32:40,799
Speaker 2: Yeah.

595
00:32:40,839 --> 00:32:43,319
Speaker 1: So then he broke to the semi finals. So then

596
00:32:43,359 --> 00:32:47,240
the semi finals are two rooms of six kids, right,

597
00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:49,240
and then out of that there's going to be a

598
00:32:49,279 --> 00:32:52,240
finals round, which is seven kids. Okay, So he does

599
00:32:52,240 --> 00:32:56,759
his semi finals round and coach comes up to me

600
00:32:56,799 --> 00:32:59,680
and she's like, he did good. Oh my, he's going

601
00:32:59,759 --> 00:33:00,599
to be in finals.

602
00:33:00,839 --> 00:33:01,160
Speaker 2: Wow.

603
00:33:01,720 --> 00:33:04,680
Speaker 1: Yeah. So I was just like going crazy because oh

604
00:33:04,839 --> 00:33:07,079
I just was like kept texting John. I'm like, this

605
00:33:07,160 --> 00:33:12,119
is insane. Like this kid wrote this speech, you know,

606
00:33:12,279 --> 00:33:14,200
two days ago. He just finished it, and he just

607
00:33:14,319 --> 00:33:16,799
memorized it in one day. And he's and didn't we

608
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:21,000
run it by it? Yeah, nobody that never practiced it

609
00:33:21,079 --> 00:33:24,279
was not practicing it in between. This is as compared

610
00:33:24,279 --> 00:33:27,000
to last year when he wrote that speech about like

611
00:33:27,079 --> 00:33:30,160
toxic masculine and was constantly practicing it. To me, Remember

612
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:31,640
I told you I was like getting bored.

613
00:33:31,799 --> 00:33:31,960
Speaker 2: Yeah.

614
00:33:32,079 --> 00:33:34,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, I was like, okay, I've heard this so many

615
00:33:34,400 --> 00:33:37,599
times and then timing it for him and it would

616
00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:40,000
go over none of that. He was just like doing

617
00:33:40,039 --> 00:33:44,400
his own thing. Wow. Anyway, text, So then he went

618
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:48,480
to the finals and then there's an award ceremony and

619
00:33:48,519 --> 00:33:51,480
now I have no idea. So out of seven kids,

620
00:33:52,519 --> 00:33:54,319
as far as I knew, only four we're going to

621
00:33:54,400 --> 00:33:58,480
qualify for state. And he was one of them. So

622
00:33:58,559 --> 00:34:01,480
he ended up coming he and up tied for first place.

623
00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:05,640
Oh my, the entire company. That's amazing that.

624
00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:10,360
Speaker 2: How much you you must feel like so flipping proud.

625
00:34:10,920 --> 00:34:15,360
So then I mean I was like in total absolute shock.

626
00:34:15,639 --> 00:34:17,239
I was just like felt like I was having a

627
00:34:17,480 --> 00:34:20,079
I was like, what is happening? Because so, as I've

628
00:34:20,119 --> 00:34:22,840
told you before, they call the names from seventh place,

629
00:34:23,199 --> 00:34:25,400
and then when they get to fourth so there were

630
00:34:25,480 --> 00:34:29,039
five actually it turned out five people qualified. So they

631
00:34:29,039 --> 00:34:31,880
get to fifth place, and then they say in fifth

632
00:34:31,920 --> 00:34:36,639
place and qualifying for state from Burbank High School.

633
00:34:36,960 --> 00:34:39,320
Speaker 1: This name. So every time they say the high school,

634
00:34:39,360 --> 00:34:41,840
first you know it's not your high school? Yeah, right,

635
00:34:42,039 --> 00:34:44,840
so they say it, and then they so they do,

636
00:34:45,039 --> 00:34:48,519
they get to they do seventh place, sixth place, So

637
00:34:48,559 --> 00:34:52,400
I'm like, holy shitty qualified for state, right, and then

638
00:34:52,400 --> 00:34:54,960
they say the name and it's not Xander, and I'm like,

639
00:34:55,280 --> 00:34:58,239
oh my god, he did better than fifth he did

640
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:00,960
better than fifth place. And then they go in fourth

641
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:03,679
place and it's not Xander, and I was like, I

642
00:35:03,760 --> 00:35:07,199
keep looking at the coach going, wait, what is going on?

643
00:35:07,599 --> 00:35:11,440
And then they're like in third place, not Xander, And

644
00:35:11,480 --> 00:35:14,199
then second place was Xander. But then the head of

645
00:35:14,199 --> 00:35:18,119
the thing told our coach he actually he technically qualified

646
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:23,280
tied ten first. Wow, that is so yeah. So then

647
00:35:23,519 --> 00:35:27,880
that night he was so he's so tired. He missed

648
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:31,199
two days of tech rehearsal for his play, and then

649
00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:32,880
he had there was no way he could stay home

650
00:35:32,920 --> 00:35:35,360
from school today because if you stay home from school,

651
00:35:35,559 --> 00:35:38,840
you can't do your after school activity, which is tech

652
00:35:38,880 --> 00:35:42,000
rehearsal for his play which opens on Thursday. Oh my god,

653
00:35:42,079 --> 00:35:45,719
this kid, I know. So he was like sick. I mean,

654
00:35:45,760 --> 00:35:48,800
he has like scratchy throat, not feeling great. But I

655
00:35:48,880 --> 00:35:50,400
was like, do you want to just stay home? And

656
00:35:50,440 --> 00:35:52,920
he goes, I can't, No, I have to go. So

657
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:55,360
I was like, okay. So last night he did the

658
00:35:55,400 --> 00:36:00,480
speech for us, for me and John and Sadie Lynette.

659
00:36:00,760 --> 00:36:06,559
It was so well written. Really, another coach slash judge

660
00:36:06,559 --> 00:36:09,760
who judged his final round told our coach, that's the

661
00:36:09,760 --> 00:36:13,800
best speech I've seen all weekend. Wow. I mean, it

662
00:36:14,000 --> 00:36:17,639
was such a beautiful speech. I bet it was all

663
00:36:17,719 --> 00:36:22,599
about how the word normal, Where the word normal comes from,

664
00:36:22,639 --> 00:36:25,360
and how the word normal comes from, like a mathematical

665
00:36:25,440 --> 00:36:28,800
term about like a straight line and a perpendicular line.

666
00:36:28,840 --> 00:36:32,960
It's kind of complicated, yeah, but he's it's basically about

667
00:36:33,360 --> 00:36:36,800
how a long time ago they came up with this

668
00:36:36,840 --> 00:36:39,960
word normal, which leaves a lot of people I guess

669
00:36:40,000 --> 00:36:43,559
as abnormal. So if you're not this kind of perfect specimen,

670
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,920
you're in some way abnormal. And then he starts and

671
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:52,440
then he talks about how he's trans and and how

672
00:36:52,519 --> 00:36:55,679
so people have been programmed to believe that something off

673
00:36:55,719 --> 00:36:59,400
of what they consider normal is like a glitch. Right,

674
00:36:59,519 --> 00:37:03,000
he goes, and then it's basically like I'm not a glitch, right,

675
00:37:03,199 --> 00:37:07,119
I'm and how but he compares it all to the

676
00:37:07,159 --> 00:37:12,800
Wei and the we balance board, and how when he

677
00:37:12,840 --> 00:37:14,599
was a kid he got on the Wii balance board

678
00:37:14,599 --> 00:37:18,000
and they tell you you're BMI, and then BMIs was

679
00:37:18,119 --> 00:37:22,480
also something that was like created has nothing really to

680
00:37:22,559 --> 00:37:25,000
do with your actual health, right, it was like a

681
00:37:25,119 --> 00:37:28,480
made up anyway. It was so beautiful and so smart,

682
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:32,480
and I was literally listening to it going, I don't

683
00:37:32,559 --> 00:37:36,000
know where he came from. Death's so great, that is

684
00:37:36,079 --> 00:37:38,719
says I didn't go to college. I am not as

685
00:37:39,039 --> 00:37:42,079
not nearly as smart as this kid or John. John's

686
00:37:42,119 --> 00:37:44,400
really smart too. Well get it from John.

687
00:37:44,679 --> 00:37:47,800
Speaker 2: I mean, I'm sure he gets from both of you guys,

688
00:37:47,880 --> 00:37:49,360
because you're a great writer too.

689
00:37:49,559 --> 00:37:54,840
Speaker 1: But I mean John is really creative and really really smart. Yeah, yeah,

690
00:37:54,880 --> 00:37:57,440
just I'm telling you. I was like, he is a

691
00:37:57,440 --> 00:38:00,360
goal getter have written something like that. But John was like,

692
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:04,039
I couldn't either write never could I have written something

693
00:38:04,159 --> 00:38:06,880
like that at eighteen years old. Yeah, and in two days.

694
00:38:07,159 --> 00:38:08,079
That's insane.

695
00:38:08,199 --> 00:38:12,480
Speaker 2: That is, I would be like bursting with joy and pride.

696
00:38:12,960 --> 00:38:13,800
Speaker 1: Unbelievable.

697
00:38:14,079 --> 00:38:18,639
Speaker 2: I'm so happy for him, town congratulations that you know.

698
00:38:18,800 --> 00:38:25,199
Speaker 1: It's hard, is like having a twin and another kid. Yeah,

699
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:28,079
it's so it's hard when like one kid is doing

700
00:38:28,199 --> 00:38:30,639
so much and then getting celebrated all the time and

701
00:38:30,639 --> 00:38:33,760
getting all this outside validation. Right, It's so hard because

702
00:38:33,800 --> 00:38:36,840
you don't want to be like, but Sadie, you're great too.

703
00:38:37,039 --> 00:38:39,519
Oh like that you don't want to be fae. Yeah yeah,

704
00:38:39,559 --> 00:38:42,039
And it's like, and Sadie is so great in her

705
00:38:42,079 --> 00:38:45,920
own way obviously, right, but that's just like a hard thing.

706
00:38:45,960 --> 00:38:47,960
And think of how hard you and I both worked

707
00:38:48,239 --> 00:38:51,760
when the twins were little to like make things even. Yeah, right,

708
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:54,199
and you reach a certain point where it's kind of

709
00:38:54,400 --> 00:38:57,880
to them like what they do with right right themselves?

710
00:38:57,960 --> 00:38:58,960
Yeah that is tough.

711
00:38:59,119 --> 00:39:02,920
Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, but they're both like they're both great in

712
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:07,760
their own ways, you know. And I mean that's an

713
00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:12,159
insane that's amazing what he did. Just so now he's

714
00:39:12,199 --> 00:39:14,119
going to the finals, the state finals.

715
00:39:14,360 --> 00:39:17,719
Speaker 1: He's going to the state finals in Union City, California.

716
00:39:17,840 --> 00:39:21,599
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717
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718
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719
00:39:25,800 --> 00:39:29,159
of our favorite breads and Olga loves it too. And

720
00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:33,800
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721
00:39:34,119 --> 00:39:37,360
five net carbs and eleven to thirty two grams of

722
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fiver from the texture, So you get the soft, fluffy

723
00:39:40,880 --> 00:39:44,159
experience that you know and love, but it's packed with

724
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you know, they have wraps, they have bagels, they have tortillas,

725
00:39:49,400 --> 00:39:52,760
they have noodles and bread loafs and we love it

726
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and my kids love it. Yeah, and you know it's

727
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good for you and it's not going to give you

728
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all those carbs from like the regular bread.

729
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730
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731
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732
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733
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734
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Speaker 1: Yeah. So wow, what a weekend. Yeah, crazy weekend. But meanwhile, sorry,

735
00:40:27,159 --> 00:40:32,159
more about me now. Meanwhile, I want to say on Saturday,

736
00:40:32,320 --> 00:40:35,440
I just started to feel that feeling, the UTI feeling,

737
00:40:35,639 --> 00:40:39,639
and I was like I couldn't have a uti could

738
00:40:39,719 --> 00:40:42,000
I like, I haven't been doing anything wrong. I have

739
00:40:42,199 --> 00:40:44,679
been having like crazy wild sex. I haven't been like

740
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,760
eating a bunch of sugar. I was like why why?

741
00:40:48,320 --> 00:40:50,800
I know I was tired. You know sometimes I think

742
00:40:50,800 --> 00:40:53,320
you can get run down and yeah, maybe get an infection.

743
00:40:53,199 --> 00:40:55,320
Speaker 2: Yeah, I think so, I don't know how it happened

744
00:40:55,360 --> 00:40:57,239
aing like I'm not I don't know.

745
00:40:57,440 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 1: So I was like you know when you're in denial,

746
00:41:00,039 --> 00:41:02,000
well first because I was like maybe I'm just having

747
00:41:02,039 --> 00:41:03,679
to pee a lot, right, And I was like I

748
00:41:03,719 --> 00:41:06,360
don't know why I'm not drinking like a lot of water. Yeah,

749
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:08,360
And I was like, maybe I should drink more water.

750
00:41:08,800 --> 00:41:10,920
I was like, why do I keep feeling like I

751
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:14,480
have to pee over the day?

752
00:41:15,199 --> 00:41:18,119
Speaker 2: Get home while you're doing the judging at the school.

753
00:41:18,360 --> 00:41:21,440
Speaker 1: Yes, oh god. So then I'm having that feeling and

754
00:41:21,880 --> 00:41:24,679
I'm at a school that I don't know. Yeah, and

755
00:41:24,760 --> 00:41:27,320
I'm like, I have to find the bathroom. I'm looking

756
00:41:27,360 --> 00:41:28,599
for bathrooms and like.

757
00:41:29,119 --> 00:41:31,639
Speaker 2: Oh my god, that's the worst feeling around with my

758
00:41:31,639 --> 00:41:35,440
broken foot. I'm wandering around with my stupid flat foot

759
00:41:35,639 --> 00:41:38,920
shoe for my broken fright going has anybody seen a

760
00:41:38,960 --> 00:41:41,840
bathroom and then having to go back to the bathroom,

761
00:41:42,079 --> 00:41:45,519
hoof it to the freaking bathroom like eight times.

762
00:41:45,800 --> 00:41:48,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's an infection. And you know you and I

763
00:41:48,480 --> 00:41:51,239
are the same, Like I rarely ever have to pee, right,

764
00:41:51,360 --> 00:41:55,239
it's rare, So I can go a long time if

765
00:41:55,280 --> 00:41:58,320
things are normal. Yeah. No, I mean, if I'm drinking

766
00:41:58,360 --> 00:42:01,119
a bunch of water, sure, But I'm saying anyway, point being,

767
00:42:01,519 --> 00:42:05,320
I get home that night and I do one of

768
00:42:05,360 --> 00:42:09,039
those self tests. Yes, piano little you can buy, Yeah,

769
00:42:09,159 --> 00:42:11,639
you can buy. And I'm like, and it says it's

770
00:42:11,840 --> 00:42:18,440
positive for lukacytes, but it's negative for nitrites, which I

771
00:42:18,599 --> 00:42:20,920
have to look it up. I ask you chat GPT

772
00:42:21,440 --> 00:42:24,519
and it says, well, this means you could have a UTI,

773
00:42:24,679 --> 00:42:27,360
but it also means you could just have some like inflammation.

774
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:30,400
Now in my mind, did I kind of know I

775
00:42:30,400 --> 00:42:33,239
had a UTI? Yes? Yes, yeah, But I was also

776
00:42:33,320 --> 00:42:35,920
a little bit in denial because I'm like, tomorrow I

777
00:42:35,960 --> 00:42:39,039
have to be at this fucking competition even longer. The

778
00:42:39,159 --> 00:42:42,159
second day has the awards ceremonies, it has the finals.

779
00:42:42,280 --> 00:42:44,239
It was going to be a twelve hour day, oh

780
00:42:44,320 --> 00:42:48,800
my god. And the time changed, I know, so we

781
00:42:48,920 --> 00:42:51,199
lost an hour. So I was like, I got to

782
00:42:51,239 --> 00:42:53,679
get up. I have to leave the house at seven thirty,

783
00:42:53,719 --> 00:42:56,239
which is really six thirty. So I'm basically getting up

784
00:42:56,280 --> 00:42:59,239
at six am after I was tired from the night before.

785
00:42:59,639 --> 00:43:03,239
So I'm like, well, I can't go to urgent care

786
00:43:03,679 --> 00:43:06,960
on Sunday, right, I can't. So I'm like, okay, I

787
00:43:07,000 --> 00:43:08,880
gotta drink a lot of water. I had some of

788
00:43:08,920 --> 00:43:11,519
that stuff that you take for a bladder infection, yeah,

789
00:43:11,559 --> 00:43:14,079
the asy So I took that the night before, and

790
00:43:14,119 --> 00:43:17,400
then I took that on Sunday, and then I was like, okay,

791
00:43:17,480 --> 00:43:21,159
like I think I I think I feel better. Yeah.

792
00:43:22,280 --> 00:43:27,480
So then last night I was like, I told John,

793
00:43:27,519 --> 00:43:30,480
I go, I think I have a UTI, but like

794
00:43:30,639 --> 00:43:35,239
maybe not. Then I was having that slightly feverish feeling. Yeah,

795
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:38,360
like that's the worst, and I'm like, oh boy. So

796
00:43:38,400 --> 00:43:39,960
then I thought, okay, I'm gonna get up in the

797
00:43:40,000 --> 00:43:42,199
morning and I'm going to go to urgent care, yeah

798
00:43:42,559 --> 00:43:47,119
before we record. But then I woke up in the

799
00:43:47,119 --> 00:43:50,079
morning and I was like, I don't know, maybe it's better.

800
00:43:50,280 --> 00:43:52,719
Maybe I'll just go record and then I'll go after

801
00:43:52,800 --> 00:43:55,320
if I still need to. Yeah. But then my back

802
00:43:55,400 --> 00:43:59,599
started hurting and below my rib bad. So then I

803
00:43:59,599 --> 00:44:10,039
called Julie Case and I was like, hey, dude.

804
00:44:04,480 --> 00:44:04,559
Speaker 2: I.

805
00:44:06,239 --> 00:44:08,800
Speaker 1: I and now my back hurts and She's like, yeah,

806
00:44:08,840 --> 00:44:10,679
you have a kidney infection and I was like, well

807
00:44:10,719 --> 00:44:16,039
they fuck. It's so funny. Julie just texted me everything, Okay,

808
00:44:16,079 --> 00:44:19,880
did they give you antibiotics? So I'm like all right.

809
00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:22,119
So I texted you. I was like, what do you

810
00:44:22,199 --> 00:44:24,840
now It's like noon, and I was like, what if

811
00:44:24,880 --> 00:44:27,039
I just run to urgent care and you were like,

812
00:44:27,159 --> 00:44:30,440
of course please. So I go to urgent Care. I'm like,

813
00:44:30,599 --> 00:44:33,320
I think I have a kidney infection, but maybe I'm fine.

814
00:44:33,400 --> 00:44:36,400
I don't know. I could be overreacting. And they tested

815
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:38,440
it and they're like, yeah, you had a kidney and

816
00:44:38,639 --> 00:44:43,320
an infection. Well they can't. They said, they touched my

817
00:44:44,119 --> 00:44:46,840
they've pounded on my thing and it hurt kidney and

818
00:44:47,199 --> 00:44:49,719
my pee was They said, yeah, you have all kinds

819
00:44:49,760 --> 00:44:54,920
of an infection. So they're like, either way, if you

820
00:44:55,000 --> 00:44:57,880
had they said, if you had a bad kidney infection, though,

821
00:44:57,920 --> 00:45:01,360
you would be like have a fever, you would be sick. Like, well,

822
00:45:01,639 --> 00:45:04,199
you could have ended up that way. Well that's the thing.

823
00:45:04,280 --> 00:45:06,880
They're like, you caught it early enough. It's probably not

824
00:45:07,079 --> 00:45:10,400
a full on kidney infection right now. It's going that way,

825
00:45:10,480 --> 00:45:13,360
so go get your antibiotics and take them. Yeah so

826
00:45:13,599 --> 00:45:17,119
you did good. We're both on antibiotics. Yeah.

827
00:45:17,159 --> 00:45:20,599
Speaker 2: My antibiotics makes me nauseous. Oh no, yeah, so I

828
00:45:20,639 --> 00:45:23,079
have to like eat something and then I'm not. It

829
00:45:23,079 --> 00:45:25,599
doesn't make me hung I haven't been hungry all week.

830
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:27,079
I have not had an appetite.

831
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:32,400
Speaker 1: You know. Well that's for probably a lot of reasons. Yeah, yeah, yeah,

832
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:36,039
So how are you feeling, like mentally are you You

833
00:45:36,079 --> 00:45:39,280
said you don't feel you're like yourself. I don't feel

834
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:42,079
like myself. I feel very off. But do you feel

835
00:45:42,280 --> 00:45:43,679
like off because you're sad?

836
00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:47,320
Speaker 2: And I feel like it's that I feel like I'm grieving,

837
00:45:47,880 --> 00:45:50,960
and maybe it has some of the antibiotics I feel.

838
00:45:51,000 --> 00:45:53,039
But I don't have an app something with my appetite.

839
00:45:53,039 --> 00:45:53,880
Maybe because of that.

840
00:45:54,000 --> 00:45:57,360
Speaker 1: I don't know. I just I feel.

841
00:45:58,880 --> 00:46:02,639
Speaker 2: I feel kind of empty, of course, like I'm just

842
00:46:02,679 --> 00:46:07,119
going through the motions, you know. And but yesterday Suzanne

843
00:46:07,760 --> 00:46:10,840
was it. Yes, No, Saturday, I went to Suzanne's house.

844
00:46:11,000 --> 00:46:13,719
She lives so fucking far from me. Took me an

845
00:46:13,760 --> 00:46:16,280
hour to get there on a Saturday. First city, right, Yes,

846
00:46:16,440 --> 00:46:17,559
it took me like an hour.

847
00:46:17,719 --> 00:46:18,119
Speaker 1: Brutal.

848
00:46:18,239 --> 00:46:22,039
Speaker 2: It was brutal on a Saturday, and it was so windy.

849
00:46:22,079 --> 00:46:24,159
We were going to go eat by the beach, but

850
00:46:24,280 --> 00:46:26,639
it was way too wendy. So we went to the

851
00:46:26,679 --> 00:46:30,440
Century City Mall by her house and you know, had

852
00:46:30,519 --> 00:46:33,719
lunch there and walked around and got some errands, did

853
00:46:33,719 --> 00:46:36,320
some errands, both of us got a lot of stuff done.

854
00:46:36,599 --> 00:46:39,079
Speaker 1: Now, the Century City parking lot is one of the

855
00:46:39,119 --> 00:46:42,159
worst parking lots of it was. And also they had

856
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:46,480
streets blocked off because they had the marathon. The next

857
00:46:46,599 --> 00:46:49,440
next day was the next ending in Century City. Yes,

858
00:46:49,599 --> 00:46:51,079
so all the streets.

859
00:46:51,599 --> 00:46:54,079
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was bad, but once we got in, we

860
00:46:54,159 --> 00:46:55,159
got in, it was fine.

861
00:46:55,599 --> 00:46:58,280
Speaker 1: But then you have to take like a hundred photographs

862
00:46:58,280 --> 00:47:00,760
of where you're calling. Oh yeah, we did everything for

863
00:47:01,000 --> 00:47:04,800
exactly the same Yeah, every floor, and there's like half floors.

864
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:07,199
It's like a split level house. So except for a

865
00:47:07,239 --> 00:47:09,679
bunch of them, so you don't know, are you on

866
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:12,079
like four B four?

867
00:47:12,280 --> 00:47:15,880
Speaker 2: We were four here one twelve is where we were. Yeah,

868
00:47:15,920 --> 00:47:19,039
there was no parking, but it was fun. We had

869
00:47:19,039 --> 00:47:21,079
a great day, you know, Stan and I don't really

870
00:47:21,079 --> 00:47:23,480
hang out like that. And then I went back to

871
00:47:23,480 --> 00:47:26,039
her house and hung out with her up outside with

872
00:47:26,079 --> 00:47:29,719
her little dog, Frankie was her dog's name, played with

873
00:47:29,719 --> 00:47:34,000
Frankie in the backyard and chilled and then took another

874
00:47:34,039 --> 00:47:37,199
hour to get back home. But it was nice to

875
00:47:37,199 --> 00:47:41,480
get out, you know. And then watched UFC fights with

876
00:47:41,519 --> 00:47:46,159
Sonny on Saturday, and how's he doing. He's doing okay,

877
00:47:46,360 --> 00:47:48,800
he's doing good. The kids they bounced back a little

878
00:47:48,840 --> 00:47:53,000
fun they do. Yeah, yeah, you know, he's he's sad.

879
00:47:53,079 --> 00:47:56,079
I mean, we went out for dinner, and we came

880
00:47:56,119 --> 00:47:58,000
home and walked into the house and it was like

881
00:47:58,159 --> 00:48:00,800
we both went you know, because when we walk in,

882
00:48:00,920 --> 00:48:04,920
Phil is always like wagging that tail, you know.

883
00:48:06,360 --> 00:48:10,039
Speaker 1: Yeah, and then everything reminds you because not even just

884
00:48:10,039 --> 00:48:12,079
the hair, but like the time that you would feed

885
00:48:12,119 --> 00:48:14,400
them exactly wake up in the morning and you're like,

886
00:48:14,639 --> 00:48:18,320
oh right, oh, I know, my routine is gone.

887
00:48:18,679 --> 00:48:20,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, And like I would sit in bed and eat

888
00:48:21,000 --> 00:48:23,239
cheese its and feel guilty because he's not here with

889
00:48:23,320 --> 00:48:25,320
me to share my cheese its.

890
00:48:25,800 --> 00:48:28,920
Speaker 1: So I didn't want to eat cheese its. I had

891
00:48:28,960 --> 00:48:36,039
a couple and put them away. I'm sorry, Yeah, I'll

892
00:48:36,079 --> 00:48:40,079
be okay. I know, I know you're tough, but like

893
00:48:40,159 --> 00:48:45,639
you've been through some stuff. The divorce was not easy. Well.

894
00:48:45,679 --> 00:48:48,519
Speaker 2: And then I had like a concussion, Oh my god,

895
00:48:48,719 --> 00:48:51,320
I know, which I still have a little lump in

896
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:53,840
the back of my head. I can feel it, and

897
00:48:54,000 --> 00:48:58,840
that's still going on. But it's going it's going away, you.

898
00:48:58,800 --> 00:49:02,920
Speaker 1: Know, Sadie. I think Sadie had a very mild concussion

899
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:07,639
a few weeks ago. She gave blood and she apparently

900
00:49:07,719 --> 00:49:10,800
she's very low on iron, we found out afterward, but

901
00:49:10,960 --> 00:49:14,400
she passed out for a second and she fell and

902
00:49:14,480 --> 00:49:17,360
hit her head. She did. She didn't even come home though,

903
00:49:17,400 --> 00:49:19,519
because she was like, I was okay, I was fine,

904
00:49:19,960 --> 00:49:23,440
but then she started getting like really intense headaches, like

905
00:49:23,599 --> 00:49:28,199
every day, and basically I learned from you. I was like, well,

906
00:49:28,480 --> 00:49:31,519
it sounds like it's a mild concussion. There's nothing they're

907
00:49:31,519 --> 00:49:33,079
going to really be able to do for you, but

908
00:49:33,400 --> 00:49:35,719
it should it takes a while to go.

909
00:49:36,199 --> 00:49:39,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah, I mean I at the next day,

910
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:41,840
I was dizzy and stuff and I couldn't come in.

911
00:49:42,599 --> 00:49:44,639
Speaker 1: But after that, I was like fine.

912
00:49:44,719 --> 00:49:46,760
Speaker 2: And then I found all that bruising on the back

913
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:51,079
of my neck, right, Yeah, dude, we're a mess.

914
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:55,559
Speaker 1: I know, it's all bruised too. It's like what I mean,

915
00:49:55,920 --> 00:49:58,320
I know. I went to the same urgent care for

916
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:01,079
my uti where I went literally two weeks ago for

917
00:50:01,199 --> 00:50:04,800
my foot, right, and I was like I'm back, yeah,

918
00:50:04,920 --> 00:50:06,840
and I showed him my foot. I was like, remember me,

919
00:50:06,960 --> 00:50:08,800
I was here two weeks ago. It broke my foot,

920
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:11,119
isn't it. Doctor was like I don't really remember.

921
00:50:10,840 --> 00:50:13,559
Speaker 2: But isn't it nice that they already have all your insurance?

922
00:50:13,599 --> 00:50:15,800
You don't have to do that already they have everything

923
00:50:15,880 --> 00:50:18,800
there on file. Yeah, that's happened when I went in

924
00:50:18,840 --> 00:50:21,199
for my cold, my flu or whatever.

925
00:50:21,480 --> 00:50:24,639
Speaker 1: Yeah, oh my god. When I went in and I

926
00:50:24,719 --> 00:50:26,800
was texting this to you, but it's going to be

927
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:29,599
better to hear it in person. So there was like

928
00:50:29,639 --> 00:50:33,239
this older couple and the guy was he had hurt

929
00:50:33,280 --> 00:50:35,920
his eye, I guess, or the side of his face, huh,

930
00:50:36,079 --> 00:50:39,039
but he just was like I'm gonna say they were

931
00:50:39,039 --> 00:50:43,079
in their seventies, maybe like late seventies, but the guy

932
00:50:43,199 --> 00:50:46,800
was being so dramatic about whatever his injury was. The

933
00:50:46,840 --> 00:50:49,880
woman was like, can can they bring him back? And

934
00:50:49,920 --> 00:50:54,239
they're like, of course, they're super bitchy. Yeah. So the

935
00:50:54,320 --> 00:50:56,760
lady at the desk was like, we're going to bring

936
00:50:56,840 --> 00:50:59,000
him back. We're going to bring him back like any minute.

937
00:50:59,079 --> 00:51:06,960
And the guy's like oh oh. And there was one

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other there's like another person waiting and they're like, can

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you get them back, like right, and the lady is

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just not having it behind the desk. She's like, we

941
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will bring him back in a minute, any minute. But

942
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it took so long. I texted you, Yeah, this guy's

943
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got something that's going out of the space and they

944
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are not bringing him back, and they just kept saying

945
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it will be a minute. So then he's like getting

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up and walking outside and just like, oh my god.

947
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And I wanted to go like, maybe you should have

948
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gone to the er, like if SIT's exact exactly, Yeah,

949
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is this ship that bad? Does this ship have a

950
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good day? Ask yourself? Why is this shit that bad

951
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that you can't have yourself good day? So then so

952
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then he gets taken back, and then the other people

953
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get taken back, and then I get taken back, and

954
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I'm in a room and I can literally just faintly here.

955
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Speaker 2: Oh god, this guy, what happened to him? I don't

956
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know him with the shoe or something.

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Speaker 1: There's god. Oh. And then the wife was wearing a

958
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top and I'm not proud of this, but because she

959
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was like in her seventies, but she was wearing a

960
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top that I literally have and it's kind of me.

961
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It's from Macy's right, and I want I so badly

962
00:52:24,119 --> 00:52:25,679
wanted to be like, oh my god, I have that

963
00:52:25,760 --> 00:52:28,280
same top, but I was like, that really couldn't be

964
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less appropriate, because I'm like, cause, what do I think

965
00:52:30,960 --> 00:52:34,159
She's gonna go like, Oh my god, that's so funny. Yeah,

966
00:52:34,159 --> 00:52:36,599
I get out of Macy's. She's walking her husband around,

967
00:52:36,599 --> 00:52:41,760
who's crying right one eye husband? No, I had some

968
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boundaries and I just had it. It was an inside thought. Right,

969
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Are you proud of me? Yes?

970
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Speaker 2: I am.

971
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Speaker 1: I love that you had the same top as her.

972
00:52:50,199 --> 00:52:53,519
That's not funny. Yeah, it's weird, and it's it's funny

973
00:52:53,599 --> 00:52:56,199
enough because it's a top that I bought and I

974
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don't like and I've never worn. Oh my gosh, all right,

975
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let me say let's say let's save some stuff for

976
00:53:03,960 --> 00:53:08,039
like Friday show, but let's say hi to our friends.

977
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We got, Oh Katie with a lot of ease. Katie's

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rolling on e. Yeah, Katie Murphy, Yeah, Hi Katie. Apparently

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she had rejoined and I forgot I forgot to add

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her to our us, so we've been forgetting about her.

981
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Oh sorry, Katie rolling on E. Kelsey is between two ferns,

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and CHRISTI get the strap, and Stephanie's a shtinker wrinker,

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and Sandra it's not easy being green, and Aaron's a

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dirty Sanchez and Leslie coughin like don like Lyne. Yeah,

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I'm with you, girl.

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Speaker 2: Alicia Escalante from the city of Almonte City, where we're

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going to be Kelly Branch, she's your aunt.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, Rebecca was so cute. Sheybody wants to come judge

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in Union City on April seventeenth. Ah yeah, and let's

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see Sean vosh Ooh that baby Gabby and Missy they're

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out there outside by the urgent care where I saw him.

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Hey did you see him?

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Speaker 2: Yeah?

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Speaker 1: They were like, oh outside moaning yup.

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