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Speaker 2: Hello, my lovelies, I'm Roxy Callahan and welcome to my
Speaker 2: Erotic Whispers podcast. This special mini episode is a presentation
Speaker 2: of something you can only find on my patreon, Roxy's
Speaker 2: Weekly Whisper. Every week, members of my Patreon receive a
Speaker 2: behind the scenes note from me. I talk about that
Speaker 2: week's episode, my experience writing and my life with sex
Speaker 2: and erotica. Sometimes it's amusing, and sometimes it's interesting, and
Speaker 2: sometimes it's personal. This Weekly Whisper is from the listener.
Speaker 2: They ask, do you have a lot of sexual experience
Speaker 2: and is that what's needed to write erotica? So let's
Speaker 2: find out what I wrote. And remember, if you want
Speaker 2: to read these weekly notes or you want to chattel
Speaker 2: my discord, join my patreon. The link will be in
Speaker 2: the description and also, as always, this podcast is intended
Speaker 2: for adult listeners. A listener wrote to me via email
Speaker 2: and asked, do you have a lot of sexual experience?
Speaker 2: Is that what is needed to write erotica? They went
Speaker 2: on to mention that they had very little experience but
Speaker 2: loved writing and the thought of writing erotica thrilled them.
Speaker 2: Those are actually two questions, so let me answer them individually.
Speaker 2: In terms of experience, I've had quite a bit. I
Speaker 2: am a bisexual, and I was particularly wild in college.
Speaker 2: How wild depends on your definition of what wild is.
Speaker 2: I never took part in an orgy, and I've only
Speaker 2: had one threesome, which I wasn't particularly happy with as
Speaker 2: one of the participants was a guy I was dating,
Speaker 2: and he seemed more excited about the other woman than me.
Speaker 2: Now that would have been okay, but she was also
Speaker 2: more excited about my boyfriend than me. Anyway, As to today,
Speaker 2: I've been dating someone for almost a year, and I
Speaker 2: do think we have what you would consider a lot
Speaker 2: of sex, probably every other day or a little bit
Speaker 2: more often than that. To go a little bit further,
Speaker 2: I would have to say my libido has always been
Speaker 2: really high, but in college it was actually totally out
Speaker 2: of control. So the wildness wasn't so much about bdsm
Speaker 2: orgies and all of the things that you might read
Speaker 2: in erotica, but more like having as much sex as
Speaker 2: possible that led to unintentional wildness like sex with life
Speaker 2: of men and women in club bathrooms, in cars, and
Speaker 2: once on a hike. And this is worth noting because
Speaker 2: I think it's kind of charming and also hot. My
Speaker 2: boyfriend and I decided the best way to enjoy the
Speaker 2: sunrise was with me on my hands and knees and
Speaker 2: him behind me as we both watched the sunrise while fucking.
Speaker 2: We literally were trying to time a mutual orgasm as
Speaker 2: we watch the sun peak over a mountain who he
Speaker 2: failed miserably, but I applaud myself for the attempt. Anyway,
Speaker 2: if you have specific questions, I'm pretty much in an open book.
Speaker 2: You can always ask me on my discord when I'm
Speaker 2: happy to discuss pretty much anything sexual. So the next
Speaker 2: question includes the implication that you need to have a
Speaker 2: lot of sexual experience to write erotica, And like I said,
Speaker 2: I have a lot of experience, but very little of
Speaker 2: it is really what you would consider the wild taboos
Speaker 2: that you often find in erotica, so it's not really
Speaker 2: at all true. All you really need is a good imagination. Now,
Speaker 2: it certainly helps if you have a passion for what
Speaker 2: you're writing about. So while you could write a nice
Speaker 2: BDSM scene, if you aren't into BDSM, you won't really
Speaker 2: get the true underlying heat and passion from it unless
Speaker 2: you love the idea of it. Now, note that I
Speaker 2: didn't say unless you experience it. I said you love
Speaker 2: the idea of it. Sexual pleasure is such a primal
Speaker 2: thing that you don't need to necessarily experience being tied
Speaker 2: up to know how it all works. One person loves
Speaker 2: the tide, the other loves being tied, and after that
Speaker 2: you do all kinds of delicious things with bodies and
Speaker 2: ways that we are familiar with as we all have one.
Speaker 2: So the short answer, my lovelies, is that even virgins
Speaker 2: can write amazing erotica. We all know or should know,
Speaker 2: our own bodies, and we all know the feeling of
Speaker 2: lusting after a partner, whether it's a man or a woman.
Speaker 2: The joy and passion of sex is something that's part
Speaker 2: of all of us. And if any of you are
Speaker 2: new writers and want to write erotica, feel free to
Speaker 2: send it to me at Roxy at tenth muse dot studio.
Speaker 2: Thanks so much for listening to my podcast. I'm Roxy
Speaker 2: Callahan and my Erotic Whispers are brought to you by
Speaker 2: tenth Muse Studio