Speaker 1: Hello, my lovelies. I'm Roxy Callahan and welcome to my
Erotic Whispers podcast. This special mini episode is a presentation
of something you can only find on my patreon, Roxy's
Weekly Whisper. Every week, members of my Patreon receive a
behind the scenes note from me. I talk about that
week's episode, my experience writing and my life with sex
and erotica. Sometimes it's amusing, and sometimes it's interesting, and
sometimes it's personal. This Weekly Whisper is from the listener.
They ask do you have a lot of sexual experience?
And is that what's needed to write erotica? So let's
find out what I wrote. And remember, if you want
to read these weekly notes or you want to chattel
my discord, join my patreon. The link will be in
the description. And also, as always, this podcast is intended
for adult listeners. A listener wrote to me via email
and asked, do you have a lot of sexual experience?
Is that what is needed to write erotica? They went
on to mention that they had very little experience but
loved writing and the thought of writing erotica thrilled them.
Those are actually two questions, so let me answer them
individually in terms of experience, I've had quite a bit.
I am a bisexual, and I was particularly wild in college.
How wild depends on your definition of what wild is.
I never took part in an orgy, and I've only
had one threesome, which I wasn't particularly happy with as
one of the participants was a guy I was dating,
and he seemed more excited about the other woman than me.
Now that would have been okay, but she was also
more excited about my boyfriend than me. Anyway, As to today,
I've been dating someone for almost a year, and I
do think we have what you would consider a lot
of sex, probably every other day, or a little bit
more often than that. To go a little bit further,
I would have to say my libido has always been
really high, but in college it was actually totally out
of control. So the wildness wasn't so much about bdsm,
orgies and all of the things that you might read
in erotica, but more like having as much sex as possible.
That led to unintentional wildness, like sex with lots of
men and women in club bathrooms, in cars, and once
on a hike. And this is worth noting because I
think it's kind of charming. And also hot. My boyfriend
and I decided the best way to enjoy the sunrise
was with me on my hands and knees and him
behind me as we both watched the sunrise while fucking.
We literally were trying to time a mutual orgasm as
we watch the sun peak over a mountain. Who you
failed miserably, but I applaud myself for the attempt. Anyway,
if you have specific questions, I'm pretty much an open book.
You can always ask me on my discord when I'm
happy to discuss pretty much anything sexual. So the next
question includes the implication that you need to have a
lot of sexual experience to write erotica. And like I said,
I have a lot of experience, but very little of
it is really what you would consider the wild taboos
that you often find in erotica, So it's not really
at all true. All you really need is a good imagination. Now,
it certainly helps if you have a passion for what
you're writing about. So while you could write a nice
BDSM scene, if you aren't into BDSM, you won't really
get the true underlying heat and passion from it unless
you love the idea of it. Now, note that I
didn't say unless you experience it. I said you love
the idea of it. Sexual pleasure is such a primal
thing that you don't need to necessarily experience being tied
up to know how it all works. One person loves
the tie, the other loves being tied, and after that
you do all kinds of delicious things with bodies and
ways that we are familiar with as we all have one.
So the short answer, my lovelies, is that even virgins
can write amazing erotica. We all know or should know,
our own bodies, and we all know the feeling of
lusting after a partner, whether it's a man or a woman.
The joy and passion of sex is something that's part
of all of us. And if any of you are
new writers and want to write erotica, feel free to
send it to me at Roxy at tenth Muse Dodd Studio.
Thanks so much for listening to my podcast. I'm Roxy
Allahan and my Erotic Whispers are brought to you by
tenth Muse Studio.