1 00:00:00,840 --> 00:00:09,119 Speaker 1: I made a decision. Face sunny sum, I had a 2 00:00:09,320 --> 00:00:17,079 vision to everybody. 3 00:00:17,239 --> 00:00:21,000 Speaker 2: Thanks for that finger calein. Welcome to for crying out loud. 4 00:00:23,000 --> 00:00:25,839 I hear you have a mask on. You see his 5 00:00:25,839 --> 00:00:29,359 beautiful face again. I see your daughter now and I 6 00:00:29,399 --> 00:00:29,839 look at you. 7 00:00:30,000 --> 00:00:32,679 Speaker 1: Oh yeah, yeah, she does look a lot like me. 8 00:00:33,119 --> 00:00:37,920 She's so cute. I feel nervous right now. I can't 9 00:00:37,960 --> 00:00:40,759 make me nervous. What's up? What's up? 10 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:42,679 Speaker 3: No? 11 00:00:42,920 --> 00:00:49,520 Speaker 1: Much? Well, okay, so this is something that has been. 12 00:00:51,320 --> 00:00:51,520 Speaker 3: Then. 13 00:00:51,679 --> 00:00:53,560 Speaker 1: I've been wanting to get off my chest for a 14 00:00:53,880 --> 00:00:54,719 long time. 15 00:00:55,479 --> 00:00:58,039 Speaker 2: And you know, I don't really talk much about it. 16 00:00:58,119 --> 00:01:01,000 But if some of you guys listen to the Adam 17 00:01:01,039 --> 00:01:04,719 Carolla show, you probably already heard that Adam and I 18 00:01:04,799 --> 00:01:12,040 are separated and or getting a divorce. Yeah, I don't 19 00:01:12,079 --> 00:01:14,680 know if it's there. You go and on with the show. 20 00:01:15,439 --> 00:01:18,879 Speaker 1: What you do this week? Any tournaments? 21 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:24,040 Speaker 3: So do you want to speak more about Yeah. 22 00:01:23,599 --> 00:01:28,959 Speaker 2: Of course, you know this has been something. My stomach 23 00:01:29,079 --> 00:01:32,480 is growling behind the scenes for a long time. Can 24 00:01:32,519 --> 00:01:37,120 you hear my stomach? No, I can feel it's. 25 00:01:35,840 --> 00:01:36,719 Speaker 1: That nerve nerves. 26 00:01:36,760 --> 00:01:41,200 Speaker 2: I don't know, Yeah, it's I don't like the people 27 00:01:41,239 --> 00:01:43,719 that listen to Adam's show. I don't know if it's 28 00:01:43,879 --> 00:01:47,000 big news to them. There's been a lot of speculation. 29 00:01:47,359 --> 00:01:51,200 Adam doesn't really I guess hasn't talked much about me lately. 30 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:55,879 Speaker 1: But yeah, I mean we have been. 31 00:01:56,719 --> 00:02:00,359 Speaker 2: Let's see, I want to say two thousand and nine teen, 32 00:02:00,519 --> 00:02:05,920 two thousand, Well, we started therapy, do we remember do 33 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,120 I talk about did I ever talk about the first 34 00:02:08,159 --> 00:02:11,879 therapist that we went to that was just like he 35 00:02:11,960 --> 00:02:14,680 was a dude and he was just not good for 36 00:02:14,719 --> 00:02:16,759 the two of us at all, Like he thought Adam 37 00:02:16,800 --> 00:02:17,840 was mister Hollywood. 38 00:02:17,879 --> 00:02:19,719 Speaker 1: And he'd go like, yeah, you. 39 00:02:19,599 --> 00:02:23,560 Speaker 3: Know, sometimes Adam comes home and you know, everybody gets 40 00:02:23,560 --> 00:02:26,280 saying yes to him all day, or he's tired and 41 00:02:26,319 --> 00:02:28,879 he just wants to you know whatever, and he's you know, 42 00:02:29,120 --> 00:02:30,960 and Adam's like, no, that's not me at all, that's 43 00:02:30,960 --> 00:02:32,479 not I'm not mister Hollywood. 44 00:02:32,479 --> 00:02:37,680 Speaker 1: Like he kept thinking that he just had us all wrong, huh. 45 00:02:38,159 --> 00:02:43,039 Speaker 2: And Drew recommended him anyway, and so we tried him 46 00:02:43,039 --> 00:02:43,879 for like three or four. 47 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,479 Speaker 3: So you think it's possible that Drew like having a 48 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:48,520 person that's like, you know, Drew, he's a. 49 00:02:48,319 --> 00:02:49,520 Speaker 1: Pretty big Hollywood star. 50 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:53,960 Speaker 3: Yes, when Drew comes home, like he's used to people 51 00:02:54,000 --> 00:02:58,240 being like, well it's true, yes, all right, I think 52 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:01,960 it maybe you know, he got his wires crossed, okay. 53 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:02,439 Speaker 1: So yeah. 54 00:03:02,479 --> 00:03:08,080 Speaker 2: So then so Brittany comes along. And I got Brittany 55 00:03:08,080 --> 00:03:13,159 for Natalia because she in our area. She's she specializes 56 00:03:13,280 --> 00:03:18,000 in teenagers, and she's so cute because she like she's 57 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:22,199 probably I don't know, like thirty five, thirty four, but 58 00:03:22,280 --> 00:03:25,879 she looks like she's twenty five. She's little, she's got 59 00:03:25,919 --> 00:03:29,800 a little tattoo on her wrist, and she's just she's badass. 60 00:03:29,919 --> 00:03:33,479 Speaker 3: I love Brittany, and she really got in Italia's like 61 00:03:33,560 --> 00:03:34,680 spot on, you know. 62 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:38,599 Speaker 2: And Natalia struggles with anxiety a little bit and some 63 00:03:38,879 --> 00:03:42,400 anxiousness and a little OCD. So I got her into 64 00:03:42,599 --> 00:03:46,919 with Brittany early and often, and Adam and I would 65 00:03:47,000 --> 00:03:49,319 have to come in and meet with Brittany from time 66 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:52,240 to time just to you know, get the rundown. And 67 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:54,719 there was one time it's just the two of us 68 00:03:54,800 --> 00:03:58,919 in there with her, and she says, are YouTube. 69 00:03:58,520 --> 00:04:00,840 Speaker 1: In couples therapy. And it was right. 70 00:04:00,840 --> 00:04:03,400 Speaker 2: After like our fourth session with this guy, and Adam 71 00:04:03,439 --> 00:04:05,800 and I are both like, this guy is nuts. He 72 00:04:05,840 --> 00:04:08,960 doesn't understand our situation at all. He's not a good fit. 73 00:04:09,599 --> 00:04:13,879 And we said, well, funny you say that, because and 74 00:04:14,120 --> 00:04:16,319 here's another thing before I go on. 75 00:04:16,680 --> 00:04:19,680 Speaker 1: Adam really liked Brittany, still does. 76 00:04:20,360 --> 00:04:24,240 Speaker 2: Liked how she was so spot on with Natalia and 77 00:04:24,399 --> 00:04:28,959 just no bs and no just really in tune with 78 00:04:29,000 --> 00:04:31,920 what Natalia was all about, and she got it and 79 00:04:31,959 --> 00:04:34,160 she understood how to talk to us about it. She 80 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:37,839 was just great all around, and so he respected her. 81 00:04:38,319 --> 00:04:41,319 Speaker 3: And she said, if you're not in, if you don't 82 00:04:41,319 --> 00:04:44,079 have a therapist, she said, and you want a therapist. 83 00:04:44,199 --> 00:04:48,160 All I usually don't do marriage, you know, I don't 84 00:04:48,199 --> 00:04:51,279 do a couple therapy, but I will for you guys, 85 00:04:51,319 --> 00:04:52,560 because I think you guys are cool. 86 00:04:52,600 --> 00:04:55,079 Speaker 2: That's what she said. I'll never forget. And we were 87 00:04:55,120 --> 00:05:00,639 like done and done. Okay, So we went to so 88 00:05:00,680 --> 00:05:03,800 we were going to see her on a regular basis, 89 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:06,399 and I talked about it, didn't I. 90 00:05:06,360 --> 00:05:08,319 Speaker 1: Talk about our therapy session? Of course? Yeah? 91 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 2: Yeah, So you know, then we did it, decided to 92 00:05:11,639 --> 00:05:16,040 do like take a little break from the relationship and. 93 00:05:16,079 --> 00:05:18,360 Speaker 1: Work on ourselves, and we did that for a. 94 00:05:18,279 --> 00:05:23,639 Speaker 2: While and then you know, I just I've been with 95 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:27,480 Adam since I was twenty five and I'm fifty, so 96 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:31,240 I'm fifty one, but like that's my pretty much my 97 00:05:31,319 --> 00:05:32,399 whole adult life. 98 00:05:32,720 --> 00:05:34,560 Speaker 1: And I met him. 99 00:05:34,399 --> 00:05:40,279 Speaker 3: Young, and he was I don't know, yeah, thirty and 100 00:05:40,319 --> 00:05:43,399 he was just starting out like three months into love 101 00:05:43,439 --> 00:05:44,040 line when I. 102 00:05:44,000 --> 00:05:47,120 Speaker 2: Met him, and you know, we were both pretty young. 103 00:05:47,319 --> 00:05:50,240 And I never really I had like Mike Gerstein when 104 00:05:50,279 --> 00:05:53,600 I was like in my high school years and right 105 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:55,480 out of high school, and that was about it for 106 00:05:55,519 --> 00:05:58,439 like seven years, I think with Mike on and off, 107 00:05:58,879 --> 00:06:01,560 and then like dated at douchebags. But then you know, 108 00:06:01,759 --> 00:06:06,519 meant Adam and I think we had a good run, 109 00:06:06,839 --> 00:06:09,199 Like I do. I think we you know. 110 00:06:09,120 --> 00:06:12,600 Speaker 1: We we had our kids. Like I wouldn't change anything. 111 00:06:12,680 --> 00:06:16,199 Speaker 2: I mean he I learned a lot from Adam about myself, 112 00:06:17,959 --> 00:06:19,920 and you know, he's the father of my kids. And 113 00:06:20,399 --> 00:06:22,839 I just think that Adam and I were not doing 114 00:06:22,879 --> 00:06:26,600 a good job as getting on the same page as 115 00:06:26,600 --> 00:06:29,839 far as raising the kids together. There was a lot 116 00:06:29,879 --> 00:06:32,519 of miscommunication, a lot of not a lot of follow 117 00:06:32,600 --> 00:06:35,839 through and blah blah blah. And since we took the 118 00:06:36,199 --> 00:06:38,759 like we took the pressure off the marriage to work 119 00:06:38,800 --> 00:06:43,160 on ourselves individual and she has now people are always 120 00:06:43,240 --> 00:06:44,519 going to be like, well, how does she? 121 00:06:44,920 --> 00:06:45,439 Speaker 1: How is she? 122 00:06:46,079 --> 00:06:48,399 Speaker 2: Why do you guys have the same therapist? That's weird. 123 00:06:49,040 --> 00:06:50,879 It just works, It just does. 124 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:53,399 Speaker 1: I can't. And she has a license. 125 00:06:53,800 --> 00:06:56,399 Speaker 2: She has all her licenses, the family marriage, the all 126 00:06:56,759 --> 00:07:00,639 those licenses, but she also has especially coaching license so 127 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:02,920 that she's able to go to So that's how she 128 00:07:02,959 --> 00:07:05,319 works with kids. She's if the kids go, can you 129 00:07:05,360 --> 00:07:07,519 come to my game on a Saturday, she can go, 130 00:07:07,759 --> 00:07:10,959 like instead of meeting them in one on one in 131 00:07:10,959 --> 00:07:13,360 an office, she'll go to the park and throw a 132 00:07:13,360 --> 00:07:16,120 ball with them, or you know, meet them somewhere like 133 00:07:16,639 --> 00:07:17,639 she's able to. 134 00:07:17,720 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: She's got a little more freedom. 135 00:07:19,240 --> 00:07:22,399 Speaker 2: So with this license, she's able to see both of us, 136 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:25,600 and we both agreed that she can say whatever she 137 00:07:25,639 --> 00:07:28,120 wants to us about whatever we say to her, unless 138 00:07:28,160 --> 00:07:31,160 we tell her not to. If she thinks it's a 139 00:07:31,160 --> 00:07:33,079 good idea for the other person to know what the 140 00:07:33,079 --> 00:07:38,120 other person is saying. Okay, so it's worked that way. Okay, 141 00:07:38,639 --> 00:07:40,959 it was work, and it's still working and we're still 142 00:07:40,959 --> 00:07:44,920 doing that. So I would say, like in spring of 143 00:07:45,040 --> 00:07:52,040 twenty nineteen, at some point I was just thinking, like 144 00:07:52,560 --> 00:07:54,480 I don't I can't. 145 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:56,000 Speaker 1: I would rather us. 146 00:07:56,879 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 2: I can't see us moving forward as a couple anymore, 147 00:07:59,800 --> 00:08:04,600 like as a husband and wife. But I still enjoyed 148 00:08:04,639 --> 00:08:07,319 being around Adam when he's in the right mood, and 149 00:08:07,560 --> 00:08:11,519 I still, you know, we have our kids, and I 150 00:08:11,680 --> 00:08:14,519 just wanted to focus on getting into a better relationship 151 00:08:14,560 --> 00:08:17,680 with him instead of husband and wife. When we took 152 00:08:17,720 --> 00:08:21,600 the pressure off of us ourselves, I felt a little 153 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:24,360 like I could breathe a little bit more. I just felt, 154 00:08:24,439 --> 00:08:27,959 you know, this is I'm fifty now. I got to 155 00:08:27,959 --> 00:08:30,879 think about the second chapter of my life, and I 156 00:08:31,000 --> 00:08:33,000 just thought it would be a better idea of us 157 00:08:33,039 --> 00:08:36,200 just working on trying to be better parents for the 158 00:08:36,279 --> 00:08:38,960 kids and getting into a better relationship with all the 159 00:08:39,039 --> 00:08:41,960 resent you know, just getting rid of all that resentment 160 00:08:42,279 --> 00:08:50,120 and moving forward in a positive way. So that's where 161 00:08:50,120 --> 00:08:52,879 I was coming from. And I told that to Brittany, 162 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:57,120 like pretty early into the individual one on one therapy, 163 00:08:59,200 --> 00:09:03,960 and yeah, and she I felt like she was the 164 00:09:04,000 --> 00:09:06,960 first person in the whole world other than like Wendy 165 00:09:07,559 --> 00:09:13,279 and Suzanne that really saw like the what I you know, 166 00:09:13,480 --> 00:09:17,320 how our marriage was and how we sort of grew 167 00:09:17,360 --> 00:09:19,639 into this, like, well, I'm going to go to Chicago 168 00:09:19,679 --> 00:09:21,840 with the kids and blah blah blah, even though it's 169 00:09:21,879 --> 00:09:25,080 Thanksgiving and you know, and it was like okay for 170 00:09:25,200 --> 00:09:27,759 him and okay for me. You know, it was we 171 00:09:28,200 --> 00:09:32,240 started just doing our individual started just spending our lives 172 00:09:32,360 --> 00:09:34,799 individually rather than husband and wife. I mean, we went 173 00:09:34,799 --> 00:09:38,279 on family vacations, but there was a difference between like, 174 00:09:38,600 --> 00:09:40,480 you know, we went on family vacations with like sal 175 00:09:40,600 --> 00:09:45,120 Melissa and Kellison and his wife, and there's a difference 176 00:09:45,120 --> 00:09:47,840 between the way they are with their husbands and the 177 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:50,840 way Adam and I. I was like, we didn't seem 178 00:09:50,879 --> 00:09:53,919 like sort of husband and wife. Didn't feel like that 179 00:09:54,080 --> 00:09:57,519 towards the end earlier on, I mean, we had a 180 00:09:57,519 --> 00:09:59,759 lot of good years, but like towards the last few years, 181 00:10:00,080 --> 00:10:02,759 wasn't It was just obvious like we were just kind 182 00:10:02,759 --> 00:10:07,559 of drifting apart, and I just wanted to get that negative. 183 00:10:10,840 --> 00:10:13,799 I just wanted to move forward with him in a 184 00:10:14,000 --> 00:10:17,519 just indifferent way. And that's the only way I can 185 00:10:17,679 --> 00:10:20,960 explain it. I still I love him, you know, And 186 00:10:21,039 --> 00:10:24,399 nobody cheated on each other. There was nobody else. I mean, 187 00:10:24,519 --> 00:10:26,960 I can tell you I've never cheated. I don't think 188 00:10:27,000 --> 00:10:28,960 he has, but it's. 189 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:32,919 Speaker 1: Just that we you know, we just want to We 190 00:10:33,080 --> 00:10:34,840 kind of wanted two different things. You know. He wanted 191 00:10:34,840 --> 00:10:38,679 to go on hikes, I didn't. I don't know. He 192 00:10:38,720 --> 00:10:40,720 wanted to build a vacation home. I didn't. 193 00:10:40,879 --> 00:10:44,279 Speaker 3: You know, I went through a lot of home remodel, 194 00:10:45,039 --> 00:10:46,519 you know, and. 195 00:10:46,320 --> 00:10:48,440 Speaker 2: There was a lot, you know that we went through. 196 00:10:48,480 --> 00:10:51,399 But we were just kind. 197 00:10:51,200 --> 00:10:58,279 Speaker 3: Of growing apart, and I think that there were things 198 00:10:58,279 --> 00:11:01,480 that he wanted from you, maybe that you just at 199 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:03,799 some point realized I'm just never going to be that. 200 00:11:04,279 --> 00:11:09,120 Speaker 2: Yes, there was all that, definitely, Yeah, I mean there was. 201 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:13,440 Speaker 1: On both sides. He wanted me to be something, I 202 00:11:13,480 --> 00:11:15,000 wanted him to be something. 203 00:11:14,879 --> 00:11:17,960 Speaker 3: And we're just I realized in therapy that that this 204 00:11:18,080 --> 00:11:21,240 is We're going to be going through therapy forever. It's 205 00:11:21,320 --> 00:11:24,320 just gonna, you know, times ticking like life is sure 206 00:11:24,559 --> 00:11:27,200 and you know, when you get to be fifty, you're like, well, 207 00:11:27,519 --> 00:11:31,240 how much longer do you want to spend working on 208 00:11:31,279 --> 00:11:32,639 something that might. 209 00:11:32,519 --> 00:11:36,159 Speaker 2: Not like is it so salvageable? Like I don't know, 210 00:11:36,240 --> 00:11:39,759 I didn't. I didn't think it was. And you want 211 00:11:39,799 --> 00:11:43,879 to have like some more kids? Oh yeah, absolutely. 212 00:11:46,159 --> 00:11:47,759 Speaker 3: A little joke I was a throwing in a little 213 00:11:47,840 --> 00:11:51,360 joke for some levity except my head. Well, I know 214 00:11:51,440 --> 00:11:53,559 that you wanted to get this off your chest, and 215 00:11:53,639 --> 00:11:56,799 we have Patreon to talk you know. 216 00:11:57,159 --> 00:12:00,000 Speaker 1: A little more in depth. Yeah, I can tell you more. 217 00:12:01,080 --> 00:12:04,879 Speaker 3: Yeah, but that but I thought that's what people need 218 00:12:04,919 --> 00:12:07,639 to know moving forward, right, so now you don't have 219 00:12:07,720 --> 00:12:09,799 to you know when need Well. 220 00:12:09,679 --> 00:12:12,399 Speaker 2: It's been hard because there's so many you know, so 221 00:12:12,919 --> 00:12:14,519 we should we. 222 00:12:14,440 --> 00:12:17,960 Speaker 1: Do an ad and then I'll tell you sure, okay, okay, 223 00:12:18,039 --> 00:12:24,200 So you were saying that you that it's been hard. Yeah, 224 00:12:24,240 --> 00:12:26,039 because it's. 225 00:12:25,879 --> 00:12:29,279 Speaker 3: Been hard, definitely not being able to talk about it 226 00:12:29,759 --> 00:12:34,240 well because so this is so what we're doing is now, 227 00:12:34,279 --> 00:12:37,480 let's talk about the kids for a second. You know, 228 00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:43,120 it was we we put it on we have about. 229 00:12:42,600 --> 00:12:47,159 Speaker 1: Like I don't know, I think it was almost Jean twenty. Yeah, 230 00:12:47,200 --> 00:12:48,200 it was like a little bit. 231 00:12:48,120 --> 00:12:52,039 Speaker 2: Over a year of us in therapy and sort of 232 00:12:52,559 --> 00:12:55,679 living in the same house but not as husband and 233 00:12:55,759 --> 00:12:58,440 wife but not but nothing really changed in front of 234 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:00,679 the kids. First of all, I am an idle argue 235 00:13:00,960 --> 00:13:03,120 or anything like that. Well, we do, but not in 236 00:13:03,120 --> 00:13:06,080 front of the kids. There's no like, you know, weird 237 00:13:06,480 --> 00:13:08,960 silent treatments going on or any there's no then there 238 00:13:09,039 --> 00:13:10,279 was no tension. 239 00:13:10,639 --> 00:13:14,279 Speaker 1: You know, I always tried to keep a happy face. 240 00:13:14,080 --> 00:13:17,120 Speaker 2: And you know, and so we had didn't we have 241 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:19,799 dinner with the kids, and nothing really changed for them. 242 00:13:20,200 --> 00:13:21,960 But behind the scenes, we were going to therapy and 243 00:13:22,519 --> 00:13:25,720 you know, decided that we were going to end it 244 00:13:25,759 --> 00:13:26,559 at some point. 245 00:13:26,639 --> 00:13:27,639 Speaker 3: But so. 246 00:13:29,080 --> 00:13:30,600 Speaker 1: We decided to tell the kids. 247 00:13:30,600 --> 00:13:33,360 Speaker 2: We told the kids a while ago and I think 248 00:13:33,360 --> 00:13:36,039 it was I don't know, like nine months ago now, 249 00:13:36,600 --> 00:13:39,840 and that. 250 00:13:39,000 --> 00:13:41,200 Speaker 1: We had it. We told we told. 251 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:44,039 Speaker 2: So, we told them we were going to talk, we 252 00:13:44,039 --> 00:13:47,159 were going to go to therapy Brittany. We brought them 253 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:50,679 with us to Brittany and it was for them to 254 00:13:50,840 --> 00:13:53,480 like catch up on things. And then we you know, 255 00:13:53,519 --> 00:13:56,799 we Adam just blurted it out and your mother and 256 00:13:56,840 --> 00:13:59,559 I was getting at of divorce, and you know, they 257 00:13:59,600 --> 00:14:02,039 were they handled it pretty well. I mean, you know, 258 00:14:02,080 --> 00:14:05,120 they're of course it's going to upset them. And I 259 00:14:05,120 --> 00:14:08,399 would hope everybody just you know, remembers that we have 260 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:12,679 kids and to have respect about that, because we have 261 00:14:12,759 --> 00:14:16,559 teenagers that are on social media, and I would hope 262 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:17,600 that people would have. 263 00:14:17,639 --> 00:14:20,080 Speaker 1: Respect during this time for that. I would too. 264 00:14:20,360 --> 00:14:24,519 Speaker 2: Yeah, but but it was interesting because you know, they 265 00:14:24,519 --> 00:14:31,639 did ask questions. And after it was done, Brittany told me, 266 00:14:31,759 --> 00:14:33,320 she said, you know, I do this a lot with 267 00:14:33,440 --> 00:14:35,639 families where we tell the kids that the parents are 268 00:14:35,679 --> 00:14:38,919 getting divorced, and she said, your kids did not once 269 00:14:39,039 --> 00:14:44,519 ask why. And so you know, they got used to 270 00:14:44,639 --> 00:14:47,200 Adam and I living my own thing, like, oh, Dad's 271 00:14:47,200 --> 00:14:50,000 going to be out of town, so let's go, you know, 272 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:51,799 see the relatives or whatever. 273 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:53,120 Speaker 1: They got used to. 274 00:14:53,080 --> 00:14:56,120 Speaker 2: That, and they've been like again, we've been on family 275 00:14:56,200 --> 00:14:59,080 vacations and stuff. We you know, when the kids had 276 00:14:59,080 --> 00:15:01,840 games in town, all four went to their games together, 277 00:15:02,200 --> 00:15:06,000 even though we were separated at that point. So we said, 278 00:15:06,039 --> 00:15:09,840 like to them, nothing's gonna change really because we had 279 00:15:09,960 --> 00:15:13,120 like luckily that we have the resources to be able 280 00:15:13,159 --> 00:15:16,200 to instead of having them go back and forth, we 281 00:15:16,240 --> 00:15:19,080 go back and forth. So we're doing the nesting thing. 282 00:15:19,759 --> 00:15:24,080 And Adam decided to buy his mouth that Malibu place 283 00:15:24,600 --> 00:15:29,200 before the talk of divorce. It was early on, and 284 00:15:29,279 --> 00:15:33,039 it was because Natalia. It was like Natalia was going 285 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:35,480 on these drives and wanting to go to Malibu and stuff, 286 00:15:35,480 --> 00:15:38,159 and Adam was like, she said, like, can we get 287 00:15:38,200 --> 00:15:40,399 a house to rent for the summer, you know, and 288 00:15:40,440 --> 00:15:41,919 he was like, instead of rent, well, I won't we 289 00:15:41,960 --> 00:15:46,120 buy something. Adam's not a renter, so you know, so 290 00:15:46,240 --> 00:15:49,759 then it was lucky that he had the place, and 291 00:15:49,960 --> 00:15:52,399 we just basically said that, you know, you guys are 292 00:15:52,399 --> 00:15:54,799 gonna stay in the house and mom and dad are 293 00:15:54,799 --> 00:15:56,679 going to figure out a schedule and we're going to rotate. 294 00:15:56,879 --> 00:15:59,879 Speaker 1: Okay, So that's what nesting is. That's what nesting. 295 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:04,240 Speaker 2: Yes, where the parents go somewhere and the other parent 296 00:16:04,360 --> 00:16:06,679 comes for a few days or whatever your schedule is. 297 00:16:07,600 --> 00:16:10,919 So at first though, we didn't do it yet. We 298 00:16:11,360 --> 00:16:13,600 let them get used to it, the fact of the 299 00:16:13,679 --> 00:16:17,879 idea of you know, divorce and then and then eventually 300 00:16:18,919 --> 00:16:21,200 Adam started staying in Malibu a little more and more, 301 00:16:21,799 --> 00:16:26,039 and then you know, I still have a condo, but 302 00:16:26,360 --> 00:16:29,600 Olga lives in it. So until she you know, we 303 00:16:29,799 --> 00:16:32,120 talked to Olga and I don't know who's getting Olga 304 00:16:32,159 --> 00:16:32,759 in the divorce. 305 00:16:32,919 --> 00:16:35,759 Speaker 1: I think it's going to be Adam obviously. 306 00:16:35,919 --> 00:16:39,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's kind of taken over my role, like, you know, 307 00:16:39,759 --> 00:16:41,879 cooking for him and taking his clothes to the dry 308 00:16:41,919 --> 00:16:42,720 cleaning and all that. 309 00:16:44,440 --> 00:16:46,759 Speaker 1: You know, she stepped up her role. Thank God for Olga. 310 00:16:47,360 --> 00:16:50,399 And uh so she's, yeah, she's. 311 00:16:50,240 --> 00:16:52,919 Speaker 2: Been living in my condo ever since day one with her, 312 00:16:53,080 --> 00:16:56,000 and she knew that this was coming. And she lives 313 00:16:56,039 --> 00:16:58,200 with her daughter and her daughter's son and her son 314 00:16:58,240 --> 00:17:00,320 in law, our daughter's husband who works here, who I 315 00:17:00,360 --> 00:17:03,480 love to death. It's a hard worker. And they're looking 316 00:17:03,519 --> 00:17:07,000 for a place to live. And so the plan is 317 00:17:07,000 --> 00:17:10,559 for now, like we're just going to be, you know, 318 00:17:10,880 --> 00:17:13,599 rotating until they're done with school and then we'll figure 319 00:17:13,640 --> 00:17:15,960 it out. So we have until they're in he out 320 00:17:16,000 --> 00:17:20,079 of high school. And in the meantime, I had to 321 00:17:20,119 --> 00:17:23,319 find just like a quick apartment somewhere close by. There 322 00:17:23,400 --> 00:17:26,960 was Luckily, one of Sonny's friends in town was going 323 00:17:26,960 --> 00:17:29,720 through it went through a divorce right when I talked 324 00:17:29,720 --> 00:17:33,160 to her about it, and she like already been there, 325 00:17:33,240 --> 00:17:37,079 done that, has a mediator, knew the places to look 326 00:17:37,200 --> 00:17:42,640 for living nearby, and so I got like this Airbnb 327 00:17:43,680 --> 00:17:47,279 in Pasadena that's like seven minutes away. I mean, it's 328 00:17:47,319 --> 00:17:50,440 really close, and I'm going to stay there until Olga, 329 00:17:51,279 --> 00:17:56,000 you know, find someplace and and. 330 00:17:55,319 --> 00:17:57,920 Speaker 1: And so I've been staying in this airba. 331 00:17:58,079 --> 00:18:00,440 Speaker 3: So I couldn't really talk about it on our show, 332 00:18:01,200 --> 00:18:04,920 you know, Mondays. So our schedule is Adam is there 333 00:18:05,000 --> 00:18:07,759 every Monday and Tuesday no matter what. I'm there every 334 00:18:07,799 --> 00:18:10,920 Wednesday and Thursday no matter what. And then every other 335 00:18:11,119 --> 00:18:15,359 Friday through Sunday. We rotate, so somebody's there five days 336 00:18:15,400 --> 00:18:19,319 in a row, you see. So if it's my weekend 337 00:18:19,319 --> 00:18:22,839 to be there, I'm there Wednesday all the way until Sunday, 338 00:18:23,279 --> 00:18:25,440 and if he's there, you know, so anyway, everybody can 339 00:18:25,440 --> 00:18:28,880 figure that out. So we rotate, and it's nice because 340 00:18:28,920 --> 00:18:30,319 then Adam goes to. 341 00:18:30,319 --> 00:18:33,160 Speaker 2: Work and then I come there. I'm there during the 342 00:18:33,200 --> 00:18:35,799 day while they're in school, just like normal. I just 343 00:18:35,839 --> 00:18:37,920 come there, you know. He leaves around ten and the 344 00:18:38,119 --> 00:18:40,759 I come there and I'm there, and then he gets 345 00:18:40,799 --> 00:18:44,400 back around four or something, and then Olga gets there 346 00:18:44,400 --> 00:18:47,400 at like three. So they're these kids like I'm taking 347 00:18:47,400 --> 00:18:51,279 her to her practices all the time. It doesn't really change, right, 348 00:18:51,359 --> 00:18:54,279 and nothing's really changed for them, and we're lucky for that. 349 00:18:55,000 --> 00:19:00,000 So they've they've they seem to be handling it pretty well. 350 00:19:01,319 --> 00:19:04,920 I mean from what I've seen they are. Yeah, yeah, 351 00:19:05,039 --> 00:19:11,559 I Natalia definitely, she's like all right, her one question 352 00:19:11,680 --> 00:19:14,039 was do we still go to Jimmy's house for Christmas Eve? 353 00:19:15,039 --> 00:19:19,519 Speaker 1: That was one of her like first questions. So yeah, 354 00:19:19,599 --> 00:19:20,079 I mean. 355 00:19:20,079 --> 00:19:24,279 Speaker 2: Sonny's a little more sensitive, definitely, And yeah, he was 356 00:19:24,359 --> 00:19:27,519 like sad about it, obviously, and Natalia was too, but 357 00:19:27,640 --> 00:19:31,799 like Sonny, you know, I'm sure he's not happy. They're 358 00:19:31,839 --> 00:19:35,799 both I'm not happy about it, but they understand. They're 359 00:19:35,839 --> 00:19:39,279 at the age where they understand, which lucky. I mean, 360 00:19:39,359 --> 00:19:41,359 if it was five years ago, I don't it would 361 00:19:41,359 --> 00:19:44,319 have been bad. But now they're at that age. So 362 00:19:45,680 --> 00:19:46,519 that's the plan. 363 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:51,279 Speaker 3: And you know, we're just going to continue going through 364 00:19:51,319 --> 00:19:58,279 therapy and working on becoming better parents and. 365 00:19:56,440 --> 00:19:59,200 Speaker 2: And and it has. We've come a long way. Definitely, 366 00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:02,440 we're on you know, getting on the same page and 367 00:20:03,200 --> 00:20:05,559 working through Brittany, and Brittany will say like, if you 368 00:20:05,599 --> 00:20:08,200 can do this for me with Adam, that would help me, 369 00:20:08,359 --> 00:20:11,680 so that I can help him. You know, he's working 370 00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:15,039 on like bonding more with Natalia. 371 00:20:14,519 --> 00:20:16,799 Speaker 1: Which is nice. You know, he's a dude. 372 00:20:16,839 --> 00:20:18,839 Speaker 2: He doesn't know how to bond with a teenage girl, 373 00:20:19,160 --> 00:20:21,799 you know, and so she's helping him through that and 374 00:20:21,799 --> 00:20:26,480 they're they're they're doing pretty well. And you know, just 375 00:20:26,559 --> 00:20:29,519 keeping the therapy and keep the therapy going. The kids 376 00:20:29,519 --> 00:20:32,039 are going to therapy as well when they need it. 377 00:20:32,680 --> 00:20:37,200 Speaker 3: And yeah, now I'm like living in a you know, 378 00:20:37,279 --> 00:20:39,079 living in my own little bachelorette place. 379 00:20:40,720 --> 00:20:44,000 Speaker 1: But you're happy. I am happy, Yeah I am. 380 00:20:44,519 --> 00:20:48,839 Speaker 3: I mean, as your co host and friend, I all 381 00:20:48,920 --> 00:20:51,359 I can say is like I just support you and 382 00:20:51,480 --> 00:20:54,279 always have you whatever your Stephanie. 383 00:20:55,200 --> 00:20:58,200 Speaker 1: No one's worked harder on a marriage than you, like, 384 00:20:58,599 --> 00:20:59,599 thank you. I've been with. 385 00:20:59,519 --> 00:21:01,519 Speaker 3: You for a long time and I've heard a lot 386 00:21:01,559 --> 00:21:04,799 of the ups and downs and the you know, how 387 00:21:04,880 --> 00:21:08,839 you feel. Obviously I hear things from your perspective, but 388 00:21:09,079 --> 00:21:12,599 I feel like you are super fair minded and really 389 00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:15,079 gave this all you had, and you would not have 390 00:21:15,160 --> 00:21:17,599 made this decision if this wasn't the best thing for 391 00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:21,839 you and the whole family, right, And you deserve happiness, 392 00:21:22,200 --> 00:21:23,039 thank you. 393 00:21:23,039 --> 00:21:24,359 Speaker 1: You deserve You're. 394 00:21:24,200 --> 00:21:28,799 Speaker 3: Young still and like, if it's not gonna last forever, 395 00:21:29,000 --> 00:21:31,160 then why not have that second chapter? 396 00:21:31,279 --> 00:21:31,440 Speaker 1: Right? 397 00:21:31,880 --> 00:21:35,200 Speaker 3: That's what I've been saying, you know, And that's how 398 00:21:35,200 --> 00:21:38,599 what I've that's the mindset I have, and you know the. 399 00:21:40,519 --> 00:21:40,720 Speaker 1: Huh. 400 00:21:43,279 --> 00:21:46,359 Speaker 2: I mean, I did go through a time where I 401 00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:50,240 was not happy. I mean I was really unhappy, and 402 00:21:50,680 --> 00:21:54,559 I kind of knew it before we even went to 403 00:21:54,960 --> 00:21:57,440 it was when you're in it, you don't understand it 404 00:21:57,599 --> 00:21:59,920 really like you now. But now that I'm out of 405 00:21:59,920 --> 00:22:03,000 it and I'm looking back, like I was unhappy for 406 00:22:03,039 --> 00:22:06,400 a while for a long time, and I tried, and 407 00:22:06,480 --> 00:22:10,200 yeah I did, and I was like drinking a lot 408 00:22:10,359 --> 00:22:16,440 and just you know, just not you know, I before 409 00:22:16,440 --> 00:22:18,759 we went to therapy, and so this was years ago, 410 00:22:18,839 --> 00:22:21,000 and I realized like I didn't know if I could 411 00:22:21,039 --> 00:22:23,119 ever be happy. I just thought like, all right, well, 412 00:22:23,160 --> 00:22:26,640 I'm just gonna tough it out and you know, be 413 00:22:26,759 --> 00:22:29,519 there and be there for the kids. And but then 414 00:22:29,559 --> 00:22:32,279 when you go to therapy and you realize like that's 415 00:22:32,359 --> 00:22:36,319 not sustainable at all. Can't do that and it's not 416 00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:39,279 going to make anybody happy. You have to make a choice, 417 00:22:39,559 --> 00:22:41,920 and it's as hard as it is. It was, I 418 00:22:42,000 --> 00:22:47,000 just realized that, you know, I look, I think everybody's 419 00:22:47,039 --> 00:22:49,599 going to thank me in the long run. I think 420 00:22:49,640 --> 00:22:52,960 that Adam has a shot of being happy and the 421 00:22:53,039 --> 00:22:56,319 same as me, and I think we're both happy. 422 00:22:56,559 --> 00:22:58,319 Speaker 1: Then it benefits everybody. 423 00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:01,400 Speaker 2: And I think that he's gonna be thanking me later 424 00:23:01,440 --> 00:23:03,799 on somewhare down the road. I just don't think that 425 00:23:03,880 --> 00:23:07,000 I was cut out to be like what he really wanted, 426 00:23:07,599 --> 00:23:07,799 you know. 427 00:23:08,440 --> 00:23:10,680 Speaker 1: That's how I felt. That's how I felt, and. 428 00:23:10,799 --> 00:23:13,920 Speaker 3: It was hard to deal with and then to come 429 00:23:13,960 --> 00:23:17,079 to that realization, but then not being in therapy or 430 00:23:17,079 --> 00:23:19,599 really talking about it only with my you know you 431 00:23:20,519 --> 00:23:23,319 and my close friends talking about it, but like it 432 00:23:23,359 --> 00:23:24,640 was tough for a long time. 433 00:23:26,079 --> 00:23:28,720 Speaker 1: And so I feel like I went through the anger. 434 00:23:28,359 --> 00:23:31,400 Speaker 2: In the morning and all that already, and by the 435 00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:35,000 time I got to Brittany, she you know, she was like, 436 00:23:36,119 --> 00:23:38,359 I see a difference, Like it's it was like your 437 00:23:38,440 --> 00:23:41,039 light was dim. It was like somebody took your light 438 00:23:41,319 --> 00:23:44,160 and switched it off, and now like your lights on, 439 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:46,799 you know, like you were out of gas when you 440 00:23:46,839 --> 00:23:50,480 came to therapy. And she could see that immediately. And 441 00:23:51,480 --> 00:23:52,000 because I. 442 00:23:51,960 --> 00:23:56,119 Speaker 1: Did, I was trying. I was trying trying, and because 443 00:23:56,160 --> 00:23:57,640 I did, I love at him. 444 00:23:57,440 --> 00:23:59,599 Speaker 2: Like I you know, I never wanted to get a 445 00:23:59,599 --> 00:24:04,480 divorce ever, but like I said, I just started thinking, 446 00:24:04,519 --> 00:24:08,200 like all right, like let's get real, I'm not getting 447 00:24:08,200 --> 00:24:12,119 any younger, he's not getting any younger, and. 448 00:24:12,880 --> 00:24:15,920 Speaker 3: We should be happy. We deserve to be happy. You Yes, 449 00:24:16,000 --> 00:24:16,920 you deserve to be happy. 450 00:24:16,960 --> 00:24:18,920 Speaker 2: So you got to go through that shit to get 451 00:24:18,920 --> 00:24:22,720 to the happy side. Yeah, and I feel content. Yeah, 452 00:24:22,799 --> 00:24:25,799 I'm I'm happy. I get sad when I'm at my 453 00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:29,240 other place. Like at first, I was like, oh, bachelor, 454 00:24:29,279 --> 00:24:31,880 I've had nobody bought, no Phil, no. 455 00:24:31,799 --> 00:24:35,240 Speaker 1: Phill hair, no fill all up in my grill. Listen, 456 00:24:35,240 --> 00:24:39,400 you're not divorcing Phil. Oh God, that dog, I really 457 00:24:39,759 --> 00:24:42,839 he is much. He follows me everywhere. But like I 458 00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:45,000 was just thinking, you know, oh, like okay, I'm gonna 459 00:24:45,000 --> 00:24:45,640 be by myself. 460 00:24:46,200 --> 00:24:48,960 Speaker 2: Like the mom that I was talking to, she was 461 00:24:49,039 --> 00:24:51,920 raising three boys and her situation was different and her 462 00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:54,880 husband cheated and she found out about it. So she 463 00:24:55,079 --> 00:24:57,559 it wasn't like, you know, it took her by surprise 464 00:24:57,640 --> 00:24:59,240 and she went through a hard time. But she was like, 465 00:24:59,240 --> 00:25:02,359 it's really once you get your place, you're gonna feel great. 466 00:25:02,519 --> 00:25:06,119 Speaker 1: It'll feel different, but it'll feel nice. And so I 467 00:25:06,160 --> 00:25:07,119 saw that part. 468 00:25:07,240 --> 00:25:09,160 Speaker 2: But then like so at first I was like whoa 469 00:25:09,240 --> 00:25:12,559 you know, And then I was like, huh, I'm here 470 00:25:12,599 --> 00:25:15,440 for the whole weekend with like nope, So on the 471 00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:18,000 weekends he's there, you know, during the week it's different 472 00:25:18,000 --> 00:25:20,359 because I'm there, so I see the kids all the time, right, 473 00:25:20,440 --> 00:25:22,880 every day, but on the weekends he's with them. I 474 00:25:23,400 --> 00:25:25,880 don't go over there, but not every weekend, right, well 475 00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:28,839 every other weekend, right, So, but like, you know, there's 476 00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,359 Sunday nights where I'm by myself, and I'm like, it's 477 00:25:31,400 --> 00:25:34,319 just weird not having anybody in the house, like anybody 478 00:25:34,640 --> 00:25:38,519 looking for me, you know. And Natalia had a hard 479 00:25:38,519 --> 00:25:40,839 time at for a little while in the beginning because 480 00:25:40,880 --> 00:25:43,680 she was left with Adam and Sonny and that's when 481 00:25:43,720 --> 00:25:46,440 she was fighting with Sonny all the time, and you know, 482 00:25:47,079 --> 00:25:49,480 and you know, Adam's not the mom, so he doesn't 483 00:25:49,480 --> 00:25:52,559 think about putting lights on before he, you know, leaves 484 00:25:52,559 --> 00:25:54,920 to go to work on Sunday, right, and the Italia 485 00:25:54,960 --> 00:25:57,240 comes home and the lights are off and nobody's around, 486 00:25:57,279 --> 00:25:58,400 and so then she calls me. 487 00:25:58,440 --> 00:25:59,119 Speaker 1: You know, there was a. 488 00:25:59,039 --> 00:26:02,759 Speaker 2: Little adjustment she you know, Sonny feels ganged up on 489 00:26:02,839 --> 00:26:05,240 sometimes when it's just me and him, me and her 490 00:26:05,519 --> 00:26:07,960 and me and the two of them, right, he feels 491 00:26:08,000 --> 00:26:10,759 like the two of us are sometimes you know, he's 492 00:26:10,799 --> 00:26:13,319 got to be like the man of the house or something, right, 493 00:26:13,359 --> 00:26:16,400 And then she feels ganged up on when she's alone 494 00:26:16,400 --> 00:26:17,079 with the two of them. 495 00:26:17,839 --> 00:26:21,880 Speaker 3: I'm like, these two. It was during the election, you know, 496 00:26:22,039 --> 00:26:23,400 there was all the politics. 497 00:26:23,440 --> 00:26:25,359 Speaker 2: They were arguing. You know, she was arguing with her 498 00:26:25,440 --> 00:26:28,359 dad about it and her brother about it, and it 499 00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:30,920 was just, you know, it's tough. But now those two 500 00:26:30,960 --> 00:26:34,880 are getting along great. I think everybody's adjusted very well. 501 00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:37,960 And definitely Sonny and Itali are getting along nicely, which 502 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:42,119 is great, and it's there. I feel like I can 503 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:46,359 relax and have peace on the weekends now because they did. 504 00:26:46,440 --> 00:26:49,480 She had a hard time, but now now things are 505 00:26:49,839 --> 00:26:51,039 calm and better. 506 00:26:51,839 --> 00:26:54,680 Speaker 1: And my little place it's really cute. 507 00:26:54,960 --> 00:26:57,599 Speaker 2: Barry and Van Martin are the two guys that run it, 508 00:26:58,400 --> 00:27:03,680 and it's like this little it's like four plex. They 509 00:27:03,720 --> 00:27:05,839 live in one, so I don't feel like, you know, 510 00:27:06,200 --> 00:27:09,680 like I'm alone. I feel like they're they're they're on property, 511 00:27:09,960 --> 00:27:12,480 so I'm never by my like I feel like somebody's around, 512 00:27:12,559 --> 00:27:14,920 you know, right the other three they rent down the 513 00:27:14,960 --> 00:27:15,559 other units. 514 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:17,519 Speaker 3: It's really cute. It's really small, but it's really cute. 515 00:27:17,519 --> 00:27:21,279 I don't what do I need, you know, And so 516 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:26,279 that I mean, yeah, how do I put this? I 517 00:27:26,319 --> 00:27:28,839 guess that would go against anybody who wants to say 518 00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:29,680 you're a gold digger. 519 00:27:30,759 --> 00:27:32,880 Speaker 1: I guess never thought about that. 520 00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:36,799 Speaker 3: I mean, you are surrounded by like Chanel bags in 521 00:27:36,839 --> 00:27:39,200 your small You don't need a lot of square footage, 522 00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:41,920 but you need a lot of really nice bags. 523 00:27:41,000 --> 00:27:43,960 Speaker 1: Yes, like a burkin. You have how many berkins? Do? 524 00:27:44,079 --> 00:27:48,559 About eight? Now? Yeah? So you're gonna hold onto those though? 525 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:54,240 Speaker 2: Absolutely, I a little made a huge like area. I 526 00:27:54,359 --> 00:27:57,720 basically took over my whole place with all my shoes 527 00:27:57,720 --> 00:27:59,359 and back all your shoes and backs, Yeah, I just 528 00:27:59,400 --> 00:27:59,920 move them there. 529 00:28:00,000 --> 00:28:02,359 Speaker 3: But you're just a shoes and bags person. That's that's 530 00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:03,319 how you've always. 531 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:05,720 Speaker 1: Been to shop at Target. Like what I'm you? 532 00:28:05,839 --> 00:28:08,200 Speaker 2: I wear yoga pants every day, right, but you just 533 00:28:08,240 --> 00:28:10,079 have I got forty. 534 00:28:09,759 --> 00:28:16,519 Speaker 3: Thousand dollars back. Oh my gosh, well gold I've just 535 00:28:16,759 --> 00:28:17,079 had him. 536 00:28:17,200 --> 00:28:19,920 Speaker 1: You feel better. I do feel better. 537 00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:21,039 Speaker 3: Well. 538 00:28:21,079 --> 00:28:23,559 Speaker 2: I feel like I can talk freely now Like before 539 00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:26,119 it was like, so what's going on? I'm not sing much, 540 00:28:26,440 --> 00:28:29,119 you know, and talk about it on our show. Right 541 00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:32,400 now I can like talk about my life again, right, 542 00:28:32,559 --> 00:28:36,279 you know? That feels so good? And I take I 543 00:28:36,319 --> 00:28:39,599 took his lead, Like whenever you want to talk about it. 544 00:28:39,720 --> 00:28:42,279 Speaker 1: I you know, we don't need to address it right away. 545 00:28:42,759 --> 00:28:47,880 Speaker 3: Everybody's like speculating obviously, But like when I say. 546 00:28:47,680 --> 00:28:52,480 Speaker 1: Everybody, I mean his audience. But like you know, I 547 00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:55,559 just was patient. I just took his lead. 548 00:28:55,640 --> 00:28:57,200 Speaker 2: And there was a couple of times where I was 549 00:28:57,240 --> 00:28:59,960 driving in here on a Monday, going like, let me 550 00:29:00,119 --> 00:29:01,440 just talk to him and ask him if I can 551 00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:04,880 talk about it, Like, na, this is all lot so 552 00:29:06,279 --> 00:29:09,920 the paperwork is gonna get filed soon. So I just 553 00:29:09,960 --> 00:29:12,079 thought it's a good idea to talk about it first 554 00:29:12,279 --> 00:29:13,279 before it gets filed. 555 00:29:13,599 --> 00:29:16,960 Speaker 1: You know who, No, I don't know. I just I 556 00:29:16,960 --> 00:29:20,119 think that's the right move. Yeah, m hmm. 557 00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:23,960 Speaker 2: It's just tough when you have kids, you know, like 558 00:29:24,039 --> 00:29:27,240 you just want to protect them. Of course, especially teenagers, 559 00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:31,240 you know, they they can google stuff all the time. 560 00:29:31,920 --> 00:29:36,319 Like Natalia said, she she she looked up. She just 561 00:29:36,359 --> 00:29:38,160 saw a psychic. Did I tell you about the psychic? 562 00:29:38,559 --> 00:29:41,240 Speaker 1: No? Oh boy? Should we do an ad? And then yeah, 563 00:29:41,599 --> 00:29:46,359 the psychic? What were you just going to say? The psychic? Yes? 564 00:29:46,640 --> 00:29:52,119 Speaker 3: So Natalia's friend's birthday was coming up and she was like, mom, 565 00:29:52,599 --> 00:29:55,000 her friend's mom is getting us a psychic reading but 566 00:29:55,039 --> 00:29:57,000 we don't know where to Like she said she'd do 567 00:29:57,079 --> 00:29:58,000 it for her and her friend. 568 00:29:58,079 --> 00:30:00,279 Speaker 2: She picked me to do it with, but we a 569 00:30:00,319 --> 00:30:03,000 psychic and I was and she's like, she found somebody online. 570 00:30:03,039 --> 00:30:04,400 I go, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no no. 571 00:30:04,480 --> 00:30:05,640 Speaker 1: Don't go for that Sharmuta. 572 00:30:06,240 --> 00:30:10,079 Speaker 2: I said, So, Jen Jennifer here, who's the host of 573 00:30:10,160 --> 00:30:16,079 Lady Lackey's becoming my favorite show. And she recently has 574 00:30:16,119 --> 00:30:18,759 been seeing this like online, so she did a zoom 575 00:30:18,759 --> 00:30:21,759 with her. She recorded it on her phone and she 576 00:30:21,839 --> 00:30:23,400 did it like six months ago, and then she did 577 00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:26,000 it again recently. And I see Jen every Wednesday for 578 00:30:26,079 --> 00:30:29,160 our meetings here for Corolla drinks and afterwards she'll tell 579 00:30:29,200 --> 00:30:30,359 me about the psychic. 580 00:30:31,759 --> 00:30:34,079 Speaker 1: Some of the things the psychic said happened, Like. 581 00:30:34,039 --> 00:30:35,799 Speaker 2: She said, your boyfriend who broke up with you is 582 00:30:35,799 --> 00:30:37,799 going to come back around in the spring or something 583 00:30:37,880 --> 00:30:41,200 like that, and he did, like around springtime. 584 00:30:41,279 --> 00:30:43,240 Speaker 1: She was pretty spot on with a lot of stuff. 585 00:30:43,519 --> 00:30:44,240 She found this. 586 00:30:45,000 --> 00:30:47,400 Speaker 2: She was looking for a psychic and she was on like, 587 00:30:47,480 --> 00:30:49,720 I don't know, one of those Facebook pages like that 588 00:30:50,359 --> 00:30:53,359 you're on, like I don't know, like Whispering Eileen's or 589 00:30:53,400 --> 00:30:55,119 some huh. I don't know if it's that one. It 590 00:30:55,200 --> 00:30:57,319 was something okay, and they were taught. There was a 591 00:30:57,319 --> 00:30:59,559 thread about psychics and there was one woman that was, 592 00:31:00,079 --> 00:31:03,519 you know, giving this woman you know, high praises about 593 00:31:03,519 --> 00:31:04,319 how great she was. 594 00:31:04,640 --> 00:31:08,079 Speaker 1: So she was spot on. It's so much that Jen did. 595 00:31:07,920 --> 00:31:12,519 Speaker 2: It again recently and she records it, which is really smart, 596 00:31:13,319 --> 00:31:15,000 and so then she can go back and listen. And 597 00:31:15,839 --> 00:31:18,839 uh so I was like, all right, well, I think 598 00:31:18,920 --> 00:31:21,680 I might have somebody for you. So I got this 599 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,400 woman's name for her, gave it to the mom, and 600 00:31:24,440 --> 00:31:27,039 then they set it up and they did it at 601 00:31:27,079 --> 00:31:27,599 my house. 602 00:31:28,000 --> 00:31:33,119 Speaker 3: Oh yeah, it was like last week and Natalia said, Mom. First, 603 00:31:33,119 --> 00:31:38,240 the psychic said you're you're uh? She said, your mother 604 00:31:39,119 --> 00:31:42,960 is your mother? Her? 605 00:31:43,079 --> 00:31:44,119 Speaker 1: Your grandmother's gone? 606 00:31:44,200 --> 00:31:47,720 Speaker 2: Right, yes, she says Sidnatalia, She said, well, just tell 607 00:31:47,759 --> 00:31:51,359 your mom that there's somebody there is a woman with 608 00:31:51,440 --> 00:31:56,559 dark hair that's around her constantly, and your grandmother, I'm 609 00:31:56,599 --> 00:32:00,160 gonna guess, was pretty spunky and pretty feisty. 610 00:32:00,559 --> 00:32:04,160 Speaker 1: She told Thentalian. Wow, And I'm like, did she know? 611 00:32:04,519 --> 00:32:08,039 Speaker 2: She did know the girls' names, so I don't know, 612 00:32:08,039 --> 00:32:09,759 if you like she googles them. I don't know what 613 00:32:09,839 --> 00:32:13,240 she does maybe maybe not, I don't know. But she 614 00:32:13,319 --> 00:32:16,200 did tell her that her grandmother was spunky and that 615 00:32:16,240 --> 00:32:19,759 she's around feisty and that she's around me, which freaked 616 00:32:19,799 --> 00:32:20,759 Italian out. 617 00:32:20,839 --> 00:32:22,200 Speaker 1: And then she talked to Natalian. 618 00:32:22,240 --> 00:32:24,880 Speaker 2: She said that she's got relatives that live on the east, 619 00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:27,720 like like not live close by, that she's very close 620 00:32:27,759 --> 00:32:31,319 with she misses. But then she told her, she said, 621 00:32:31,400 --> 00:32:35,440 so your parents are are divorced, and she said they're 622 00:32:35,440 --> 00:32:40,559 getting divorced and she said, okay, and she said, I 623 00:32:40,640 --> 00:32:45,240 see your dad dating, but dating a lot, but I 624 00:32:45,279 --> 00:32:48,519 see your mom finding somebody a good like. Natalia was 625 00:32:48,559 --> 00:32:50,640 like telling She's like, but she said, you're gonna find 626 00:32:50,640 --> 00:32:54,279 a really good guy. Really, he's going to be the one, 627 00:32:54,359 --> 00:32:56,799 she said, And I was like, the one. I don't 628 00:32:56,799 --> 00:33:00,000 want to get married. That's the last thing I need 629 00:33:00,079 --> 00:33:03,240 right now. It's another guy. I was like, Oh, nice 630 00:33:03,319 --> 00:33:10,799 Jewish lawyer in my future. So yeah, and that's what 631 00:33:10,839 --> 00:33:12,680 she said, and I was like, Okay, that's. 632 00:33:12,440 --> 00:33:17,559 Speaker 1: Interesting, but uh yeah. 633 00:33:17,599 --> 00:33:21,039 Speaker 2: So that was the psychic oh Natalia. So then she 634 00:33:21,119 --> 00:33:23,559 went online and she googled. So she went to our 635 00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:26,200 like Adam's Wikipedia page and then she was like, mom, 636 00:33:26,240 --> 00:33:30,400 do you realize that you guys got married on the 637 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:33,200 twenty eighth. On the twenty second is when you told 638 00:33:33,240 --> 00:33:36,839 us you were getting a divorce. That's seven days apart. 639 00:33:37,519 --> 00:33:40,480 And that makes and then we were only six days apart. 640 00:33:40,880 --> 00:33:43,880 That's what Wait, the twenty second or the twenty third. 641 00:33:43,880 --> 00:33:46,400 She had the date written down of the date. It 642 00:33:46,480 --> 00:33:48,720 was around the twenty second or the twenty I don't know, 643 00:33:49,200 --> 00:33:52,359 and she said it was seven days in between. And 644 00:33:52,400 --> 00:33:55,920 they're born on the seventh, Sonny and Natalia. That's what 645 00:33:56,000 --> 00:33:58,799 she made that connection. I was like, Okay, so now 646 00:33:58,839 --> 00:33:59,559 she's like, you know. 647 00:33:59,599 --> 00:34:03,359 Speaker 3: So they're googling, they're online, and they're reading things, right, 648 00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:06,279 So I just got to figure out how to. 649 00:34:08,199 --> 00:34:09,599 Speaker 1: Get Reddit away from them. 650 00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:14,599 Speaker 3: What I love about podcasts is it's not super googleable, 651 00:34:15,039 --> 00:34:18,280 like yeah, which is why I was able, I think, 652 00:34:18,840 --> 00:34:23,800 for so long to talk about like Xander's transition, you know, 653 00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:26,679 personal things I feel like we can talk about, especially 654 00:34:26,679 --> 00:34:31,599 on Patreon. Yeah wink wink. But uh, just because it 655 00:34:31,639 --> 00:34:33,840 doesn't help to google the name, it's not going to 656 00:34:33,880 --> 00:34:37,960 come unless we call the episode that, right, It's just talk, 657 00:34:38,199 --> 00:34:41,480 it's just talking. It sort of goes away, especially on 658 00:34:41,840 --> 00:34:45,039 especially on this podcast because it goes behind a paywall 659 00:34:45,039 --> 00:34:48,519 with and people are like, well, what's gone miss that counsel. 660 00:34:48,760 --> 00:34:53,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, oh well yeah that is the nice thing. Yeah, 661 00:34:53,639 --> 00:34:56,519 can't go back and find it. That's that's how come 662 00:34:56,639 --> 00:35:01,360 we can be more unfiltered right with our chat. Yeah, 663 00:35:01,679 --> 00:35:04,320 that's true. Tell you guys about our lives because we're 664 00:35:04,360 --> 00:35:06,920 not worried that you're now. When I used to blog. 665 00:35:07,599 --> 00:35:12,519 Speaker 3: Now, that's sometimes I get emails from people that are like, hey, 666 00:35:13,079 --> 00:35:18,559 I was just reading about how you uh were having 667 00:35:18,639 --> 00:35:21,519 a lot of anxiety when you quit drinking. And I'm 668 00:35:21,559 --> 00:35:26,000 like what, and I'll find out it was from an 669 00:35:26,079 --> 00:35:29,079 article that remember, for a little while I was working 670 00:35:29,119 --> 00:35:31,239 for work at health, Yeah, and I was writing all 671 00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:32,599 these articles about sobriety. 672 00:35:32,719 --> 00:35:35,599 Speaker 1: Yeah. You know, people just google shit, like they. 673 00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:38,960 Speaker 3: Google alcoholism anxiety and then like my article comes up. 674 00:35:38,960 --> 00:35:41,800 And it's just sometimes I get these blasts from the 675 00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:45,880 past that I'm happy about. Sometimes not so much. Sometimes 676 00:35:45,960 --> 00:35:49,000 somebody's like mad at me about something and I'm like, 677 00:35:49,440 --> 00:35:51,400 I wrote that in twenty. 678 00:35:50,800 --> 00:35:54,920 Speaker 1: Twelve, My god, Like, how did you find that? Yeah? Yeah, 679 00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:57,760 it's weird, it is, I bet, But never with. 680 00:35:57,719 --> 00:36:00,920 Speaker 3: A podcast, Nobody ever is like you said on your 681 00:36:01,039 --> 00:36:05,039 podcast in two thousand and seven that blob right. 682 00:36:05,280 --> 00:36:06,760 Speaker 1: Well, first of all, I didn't have a podcast in 683 00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:09,679 two thousand and seven, so but you know, but yeah, no, 684 00:36:09,960 --> 00:36:13,440 that is the nice thing that is it's probably good 685 00:36:13,440 --> 00:36:14,159 for the kids. 686 00:36:13,960 --> 00:36:19,039 Speaker 3: To Yeah, I listen, there's a lot of stuff to 687 00:36:19,159 --> 00:36:23,199 google about me. And also, I mean I'm paranoid about 688 00:36:23,199 --> 00:36:25,440 that too. I'm sure that my kids have found stuff. 689 00:36:25,639 --> 00:36:29,000 Speaker 2: Hi you going, I yeah, I know, definitely. That's why 690 00:36:29,159 --> 00:36:31,760 I well, that's why I got her into therapy early. 691 00:36:32,079 --> 00:36:34,400 But I mean, you gotta I gotta stay on them 692 00:36:34,440 --> 00:36:36,840 and talk to them and you know, and make sure 693 00:36:36,880 --> 00:36:39,280 that they're okay, or they have questions or whatever they 694 00:36:39,320 --> 00:36:40,719 saw something they want to talk about. 695 00:36:41,159 --> 00:36:42,920 Speaker 1: You know. I just try and. 696 00:36:42,920 --> 00:36:45,920 Speaker 2: Have that open line of communication because God knows like 697 00:36:46,559 --> 00:36:49,079 all the shit Adam says, and it's just it's just 698 00:36:50,960 --> 00:36:54,199 it's it's tough raising kids. I mean, not even just 699 00:36:54,199 --> 00:36:56,519 being in the public eye. It's just tough having social 700 00:36:56,559 --> 00:36:59,199 media and you know, when your kid is growing up, 701 00:36:59,280 --> 00:36:59,840 it's tough. 702 00:37:00,159 --> 00:37:07,440 Speaker 1: But anyway, but I do feel I do feel happy. Good. 703 00:37:07,679 --> 00:37:08,920 Yeah good. 704 00:37:09,159 --> 00:37:14,480 Speaker 3: I think that anybody who everybody who hears this, Look, 705 00:37:14,559 --> 00:37:17,800 here's the thing. You're not asking for approval for. This 706 00:37:17,880 --> 00:37:19,320 is your life, this. 707 00:37:19,239 --> 00:37:20,519 Speaker 1: Is your decision. 708 00:37:21,119 --> 00:37:24,760 Speaker 3: It doesn't matter what anybody else thinks, obviously, But I 709 00:37:24,800 --> 00:37:26,480 do truly believe. 710 00:37:26,079 --> 00:37:28,920 Speaker 1: That our podcast listeners our friends. 711 00:37:29,280 --> 00:37:32,719 Speaker 3: Yes, I have to believe that we're not like Joe Rogan. 712 00:37:32,800 --> 00:37:37,199 People aren't hate listening or just like either. I think 713 00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:40,239 people feel like you're a friend of theirs and you 714 00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:42,639 what do you want for your friends? You want them 715 00:37:42,639 --> 00:37:46,400 to be happy and have a great life. So I 716 00:37:46,440 --> 00:37:48,880 think that you know what's right for you. You're a grown 717 00:37:49,039 --> 00:37:53,280 You're a grown ass woman, and I believe that our 718 00:37:53,400 --> 00:37:56,039 audience is going to understand that you're doing the best 719 00:37:56,039 --> 00:37:58,400 thing for your kids and your family. You're great mom, 720 00:37:58,480 --> 00:38:01,960 You're fabulous mom. You would not have made a decision 721 00:38:02,039 --> 00:38:03,719 that would harm your kids. Now. 722 00:38:04,039 --> 00:38:06,440 Speaker 1: You made a decision to do. 723 00:38:06,360 --> 00:38:09,280 Speaker 3: Something that you felt would be a positive move in 724 00:38:09,360 --> 00:38:13,400 the end for everybody, as you have said. So I 725 00:38:13,480 --> 00:38:19,039 hope that our audience can come from only love and support. 726 00:38:19,280 --> 00:38:22,559 Thank you for their friend, Lynette Corolla sister, thank you, 727 00:38:23,440 --> 00:38:24,760 that's right, thank you. 728 00:38:25,760 --> 00:38:26,920 Speaker 1: I'm sure they will. 729 00:38:27,519 --> 00:38:29,519 Speaker 3: I'm sure they will, and I'm sure there's gonna be 730 00:38:29,519 --> 00:38:32,360 a lot of other chat or two. But listen, there's 731 00:38:32,400 --> 00:38:35,320 a couple of assholes in every bunch. As we've talked about, 732 00:38:35,599 --> 00:38:37,239 you know, we're going to talk more about it on 733 00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:40,280 Patreon and even on our Patreon that people pay for. 734 00:38:40,679 --> 00:38:43,400 There will be people that will say shit, and then 735 00:38:43,400 --> 00:38:44,440 I'll delete it. 736 00:38:44,400 --> 00:38:47,199 Speaker 1: Right before I could see it. 737 00:38:47,320 --> 00:38:50,440 Speaker 3: I used to get more mad and sometimes talk back 738 00:38:50,519 --> 00:38:53,599 because look on like a public forum, like say, you 739 00:38:53,639 --> 00:38:55,039 read my book and you want to leave me a 740 00:38:55,079 --> 00:38:56,239 shitty Amazon review. 741 00:38:56,360 --> 00:38:59,239 Speaker 1: I'm never going to like write, First of all, I probably. 742 00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:00,920 Speaker 3: Won't see it because I don't really read those, but 743 00:39:01,039 --> 00:39:04,280 if I did, I'm not going to like respond, how 744 00:39:04,360 --> 00:39:07,639 dare you? But when you come to my house right, 745 00:39:07,760 --> 00:39:10,559 which is and you talk to me like you're not 746 00:39:10,599 --> 00:39:12,679 really talking to me, like you're just giving a critique 747 00:39:12,679 --> 00:39:15,320 of the show. Again, I've said this before, I don't 748 00:39:15,320 --> 00:39:16,440 know who you think is reading it. 749 00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:19,480 Speaker 1: We don't have a boss, right, nobody's reading your. 750 00:39:19,360 --> 00:39:21,719 Speaker 3: Complaint and going, you know what, I'm going to sit 751 00:39:21,760 --> 00:39:25,039 that Stephanie Wilder Taylor down and talk to her about 752 00:39:25,199 --> 00:39:29,519 straighten her ass out, like right, oh, totally. No one's 753 00:39:29,599 --> 00:39:32,960 going to sit Lynette down and go listen, rethink this. 754 00:39:33,840 --> 00:39:37,760 Ruth from Cincinnati things that you're fucking bad, mom, you're 755 00:39:37,840 --> 00:39:38,559 fucking it up. 756 00:39:38,639 --> 00:39:42,719 Speaker 1: Well, okay, good luck to you. Yeah. Yeah, I mean 757 00:39:42,800 --> 00:39:46,000 there's always going to be those troublemakers. But I don't know. 758 00:39:46,199 --> 00:39:51,639 Speaker 2: I mean, look, I'm I definitely I'm not happy that 759 00:39:51,679 --> 00:39:56,239 the marriage ended, obviously, but I'm I'm hopeful for like 760 00:39:56,320 --> 00:39:59,920 the future that we can both find, you know, happiness, 761 00:40:00,199 --> 00:40:02,559 whether it's alone or with somebody or whatever it is. 762 00:40:02,599 --> 00:40:04,280 But I just feel like it's just going to be 763 00:40:04,719 --> 00:40:08,760 so much better for both of us, you know. And 764 00:40:08,800 --> 00:40:10,760 I don't know if Adam sees that yet or not. 765 00:40:10,840 --> 00:40:14,400 Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know what he I mean, 766 00:40:16,239 --> 00:40:18,159 you know, it's tough. 767 00:40:18,760 --> 00:40:21,480 Speaker 2: It's tough when you're when you come at it in 768 00:40:22,199 --> 00:40:26,320 a different place like I've thought coming, but I didn't 769 00:40:26,679 --> 00:40:29,360 know in the moment like it was coming. 770 00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:32,000 Speaker 1: I just thought that this is what life is. 771 00:40:32,039 --> 00:40:34,719 Speaker 2: It's tough, or you're it's hard being a long term 772 00:40:34,719 --> 00:40:38,440 relationship or whatever. I just kind of was struggling with that, 773 00:40:38,679 --> 00:40:41,719 and then I, you know, did that morning and sad 774 00:40:41,760 --> 00:40:46,639 and angry stages, and but he wasn't privy to that, 775 00:40:46,960 --> 00:40:50,039 so I didn't tell him really until we started going 776 00:40:50,039 --> 00:40:55,239 to therapy, so that's when you know. So then I 777 00:40:56,039 --> 00:41:00,159 think that I think Adam definitely wanted to try. I 778 00:41:00,519 --> 00:41:04,480 know he did more, but I feel like I kind 779 00:41:04,480 --> 00:41:08,920 of just took the bull by the horns and just said, like, 780 00:41:09,039 --> 00:41:15,239 let's let's just call time and death. I guess, Cayln, 781 00:41:15,280 --> 00:41:17,159 what do you think. 782 00:41:19,199 --> 00:41:21,840 Speaker 1: I'm happy for you, Lynette. I'm happy that you're happy now. 783 00:41:22,199 --> 00:41:24,400 I kind of I saw you as well, kind of 784 00:41:24,440 --> 00:41:27,280 go through all this a little bit more from afar. 785 00:41:27,960 --> 00:41:30,280 But yeah, I'm happy that you're doing a lot better 786 00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:33,199 now and that everything's worked out. Thank you, thank you, 787 00:41:33,559 --> 00:41:34,199 Thanks Kaylen. 788 00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:37,480 Speaker 3: I mean from a strictly selfish perspective, I feel like 789 00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:38,039 the shows. 790 00:41:37,840 --> 00:41:38,840 Speaker 1: Have gotten a lot funnier. 791 00:41:39,039 --> 00:41:42,760 Speaker 3: Yeah, don't you, Kaitlin be honest? 792 00:41:42,920 --> 00:41:45,480 Speaker 1: Yes, yeah, absolutely. 793 00:41:45,960 --> 00:41:49,119 Speaker 3: There's like a light like you have your I don't 794 00:41:49,159 --> 00:41:51,559 know you feel like you do you see a difference 795 00:41:51,559 --> 00:41:54,599 in me? Oh yeah yeah I have for a long yes, 796 00:41:55,119 --> 00:41:58,519 really for a while. Yes, there's like a you are 797 00:41:58,559 --> 00:42:03,920 a much life and looser and but you've you've always 798 00:42:04,039 --> 00:42:07,280 been unfiltered and honest. But I just I feel like 799 00:42:07,320 --> 00:42:09,960 there's more like a lightness. Yeah, there is, like you said, 800 00:42:10,039 --> 00:42:13,320 like your light is back light. You're more yourself, right. 801 00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:18,280 I feel like you used to be more guarded, even 802 00:42:18,320 --> 00:42:20,440 though you would still talk about stuff and be honest, 803 00:42:20,480 --> 00:42:22,840 but I felt like there was like a slight weight, 804 00:42:23,320 --> 00:42:26,159 yes of how you were supposed to be, And now 805 00:42:26,199 --> 00:42:28,440 I feel like you're just more Lynette, right, You're more 806 00:42:28,559 --> 00:42:29,199 lynette ish. 807 00:42:29,440 --> 00:42:31,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's that's a good way of funny. 808 00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:32,119 Speaker 1: Thank you. 809 00:42:32,920 --> 00:42:35,239 Speaker 3: I do I feel I do feel lighter. I do 810 00:42:35,840 --> 00:42:37,400 I see your personality more. 811 00:42:37,519 --> 00:42:37,880 Speaker 1: Yeah. 812 00:42:38,519 --> 00:42:42,440 Speaker 2: I was a little more I don't know, worried about what, 813 00:42:42,760 --> 00:42:48,360 you know, feeling judged sometimes maybe, yeah, definitely. And now 814 00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:53,840 I just don't give a five fox zero fox anyway. 815 00:42:53,920 --> 00:42:56,800 That's all all right, Thank you guys, Thanks for being 816 00:42:56,840 --> 00:42:59,360 patient and waiting for Patreon to come out on Friday. 817 00:42:59,679 --> 00:43:02,119 Speaker 1: Yeah, we love you guys. To your parents now, don't 818 00:43:02,199 --> 00:43:02,599 f it up.