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<v Speaker 1>It's Night Side with Dan Ray on Boston's Radio.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm stunned that Nicole did not mention Alex Bergman. Are

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<v Speaker 2>you still in the studio, Nicole, Oh, yes, I'm here.

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<v Speaker 2>High Alex Bergman.

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<v Speaker 3>You know I should have mentioned that. I'm sorry. Yes,

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<v Speaker 3>another big deal.

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<v Speaker 2>Last question it to you is when will we have

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<v Speaker 2>the duck boats rolling this This is going to be

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<v Speaker 2>the year.

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<v Speaker 3>I cannot wait. Frankly, I think we're overdue. And I

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<v Speaker 3>know that's a little pompous to say, but it's only

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<v Speaker 3>been what one two years?

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<v Speaker 2>This is seven years. That's why.

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<v Speaker 3>Well for the Red Sox of course, but just in general,

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<v Speaker 3>you know, we can't go too long without they get Russell.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to do when they when they win it

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<v Speaker 2>all this year, I'm going to rent a duck boat

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<v Speaker 2>for you and me and we'll join the parade.

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<v Speaker 3>I love that. Yes, let's do it. I'll bring one

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<v Speaker 3>of those really obnoxious horns just because.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, oh at absolute compulsory. Absolutely yes, absolutely, have a

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<v Speaker 2>good show. Thanks very much. Hi, Welcome in everybody. My

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<v Speaker 2>name is Dan Ray, the host of Nightside, celebrating Alex

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<v Speaker 2>Bergman signing with the Red Sox for three years that

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<v Speaker 2>great signing. Great signing. Congratulations the Red Sox. They are

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<v Speaker 2>they are alive and kicking. We have a very interesting

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<v Speaker 2>show tonight. We're going to tell you all about your taxes.

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<v Speaker 2>Mark Misselbeck is going to be here CPA extraordinary answer

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<v Speaker 2>all your question about taxes. And then it looks like

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<v Speaker 2>maybe maybe the city Boston is going to do a

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<v Speaker 2>little bit of reassessment about some of the bus lanes

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<v Speaker 2>and bike lanes. Oh that they would. We'll get to

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<v Speaker 2>all of that. But we have four really interesting guests

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<v Speaker 2>coming up tonight during the eight o'clock hour. Again, my

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<v Speaker 2>name is Dan Ray. Rob Brooks is back in the

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<v Speaker 2>control room, and I want to start off with the

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<v Speaker 2>story of a hockey player place for Endicott College the Goals.

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<v Speaker 2>His name is Jack Smiley. He has a very special

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<v Speaker 2>game coming up this weekend. Jack, Welcome to Nightside. How

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<v Speaker 2>are you, sir.

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<v Speaker 4>Man, Thank you for having me. I'm doing well. I'm

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<v Speaker 4>doing great. It's an honor to be and vice it

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<v Speaker 4>on Well.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll tell you I wanted to talk with you. We

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<v Speaker 2>also have your coach RJ. Tolin with us, the head

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<v Speaker 2>hockey coach varsity men's hockey hockey coach at Endicott. This

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<v Speaker 2>is quite a story.

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<v Speaker 5>R J.

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<v Speaker 6>This is great. Thanks so much for having us on.

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<v Speaker 6>And I'd just like to say that the Red Sox

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<v Speaker 6>had me back even before Bregman when they sent Bobby

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<v Speaker 6>doll Back back down to the minors.

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<v Speaker 2>Dollback probably hit forty five home runs for the White

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<v Speaker 2>Sox and saying why can we get players like that? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, anyway,

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<v Speaker 2>Let's let me Jack explain what happened to you. You're

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<v Speaker 2>a young hockey player. You're a freshman I think at

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<v Speaker 2>Endicott College in February of twenty twenty two, just about

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<v Speaker 2>three years ago, and you're at a team practice and

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<v Speaker 2>you inexplicably suffered a stroke. Tell us about it.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, yeah, it was actually in my sophomore year, but okay,

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<v Speaker 4>it was in that February of twenty twenty two time frame,

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<v Speaker 4>and I had come into the school during COVID, so

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<v Speaker 4>we didn't really have a very normal freshman year at all.

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<v Speaker 4>And early on in that sophomore year I ended up

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<v Speaker 4>having a stroke on the ice for practice, and that

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<v Speaker 4>really changed the trajectory of my life. Put me on

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<v Speaker 4>a completely different collegiate journey than I ever thought I

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<v Speaker 4>would be on I woke up in the hospital on

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<v Speaker 4>February twenty second, completely paralyzed on my right side. I

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<v Speaker 4>couldn't talk normally. It was very inaudible and incomprehensible. I

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<v Speaker 4>was now relearning things that I learned at the ripe

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<v Speaker 4>age of two years old, and going from a twenty

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<v Speaker 4>two year old ncuble collegiate athlete. That's quite a whirlwind.

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<v Speaker 4>So three years so you may road to recover.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you have made a remarkable recovery, coach. What's gonna happen? Uh,

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<v Speaker 2>he's on the ice. I guess Saturday, Saturday night? Are

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<v Speaker 2>you guys at home or away? I know Ray Books?

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<v Speaker 2>The rink up there is named after my Friday book?

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<v Speaker 2>Are you a Homer? Away? On Saturday night?

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<v Speaker 6>Saturday afternoon, we're home with all the seniors and Jack

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<v Speaker 6>And yeah, they'll they'll all be They'll all be out

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<v Speaker 6>there and and I'll play Jack as well.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, is this Jack's first actual game back?

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<v Speaker 6>This will be his his He's he's been on on

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<v Speaker 6>the ice for the season, you know, kind of fully

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<v Speaker 6>making his way back into things, and this will be

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<v Speaker 6>his first first game back since since what happens Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>And who who you guys playing on Saturday afternoon. I

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<v Speaker 2>didn't realize was an afternoon game.

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<v Speaker 6>John to Wales.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, okay, Jack, I know you must be pretty

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<v Speaker 2>excited about Saturday. You this is not the final game

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<v Speaker 2>of the season, so hopefully there'll be a few more

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<v Speaker 2>opportunities to get out there and put the puck up

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<v Speaker 2>behind the goaltenders. Uh. There has to be a little

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<v Speaker 2>bit of a thought in the back of your head though,

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<v Speaker 2>of am I Am I going to be able to

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<v Speaker 2>do it? Or maybe not? Is it? Is it kind

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<v Speaker 2>of a bittersweet feeling coming up as you approach Saturday.

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<v Speaker 2>We've still got, you know, obviously a couple of days

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<v Speaker 2>between now and then to think about it. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>No, it's definitely a whirlwind of emotion for sure, And

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<v Speaker 4>I really try very heavily. Something I've learned throughout the

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<v Speaker 4>entire journey is to focus so directly and so heavily

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<v Speaker 4>on the day you're in and what you can do

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<v Speaker 4>that day to make for a better tomorrow. So I've

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<v Speaker 4>been trying to keep out those emotions as as much

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<v Speaker 4>as I can so they don't become overwhelming. But there

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<v Speaker 4>is definitely that inkling starting to creep in of it's

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<v Speaker 4>real now, it's it's coming up. The opportunities here, and yeah,

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<v Speaker 4>with being out for so long and going through such

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<v Speaker 4>a such a dramatic event and such a real, serious,

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<v Speaker 4>life altering occurrence, there are definitely those thoughts of what's

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<v Speaker 4>going to happen. But I'm just telling myself, I'm scoring

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<v Speaker 4>a couple of goals, I'm putting someone through the glass,

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<v Speaker 4>and Coach is playing me every game after that.

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<v Speaker 2>You sound like a hockey player, that is for sure. Now, Coach,

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<v Speaker 2>I know that you've got a great student body up there.

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<v Speaker 2>I've been on your campus many times, particularly before the pandemic.

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<v Speaker 2>We used to do shows from when Doc Wiley was

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<v Speaker 2>the president of Endicott College. I suspect you'll have a

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<v Speaker 2>full house Saturday afternoon with students and family and friends.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, it's a it's a great community, and I think,

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<v Speaker 6>especially with you know, the kind of unique occasion, I

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<v Speaker 6>would think it will be a pretty lively crowd, be

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<v Speaker 6>a great, great event.

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<v Speaker 2>And I assume I assume the medical staff is clear,

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<v Speaker 2>Jack and whatever it was, whatever the the the accident was,

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<v Speaker 2>or the the the impact, whatever caused this this situation. Uh,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure that the medical staff has looked at him

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<v Speaker 2>pretty clearfulrect.

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, the more time you'll you would spend talking with Jack,

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<v Speaker 6>I'm sure he would say, well, don't worry about me.

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<v Speaker 6>You should make sure the people at Johnson and Wales

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<v Speaker 6>are medically cleared to play against me.

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<v Speaker 2>Uh, sounds like a hockey player. How's the team doing

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<v Speaker 2>this year, coach? Where what's the what's the status of

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<v Speaker 2>the goals?

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<v Speaker 7>Uh?

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<v Speaker 6>I think they're doing this. It's a great, great group

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<v Speaker 6>of kids and where you know, I think they can.

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<v Speaker 6>I think it's a special year. Any year you feel

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<v Speaker 6>like as a coach you can beat anyone in the country.

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<v Speaker 6>So and I truly feel like that. And I enjoy

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<v Speaker 6>going in there every day. And part of it starts

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<v Speaker 6>with being able to spend every day with someone like Jack,

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<v Speaker 6>you know, with the example he sets and how he's

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<v Speaker 6>persevered through everything he's been through, and you know it's

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<v Speaker 6>he's given us all so much.

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<v Speaker 5>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, well, well Jack, you know best best of luck.

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<v Speaker 2>Hockey is a great game. I have a great friend

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<v Speaker 2>of young guy named Matt Brown who unfortunately got badly

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<v Speaker 2>injured even worse than you did, playing high school hockey.

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<v Speaker 2>And he's in a book called Line Change, and you

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<v Speaker 2>may want to pick that up. It's pretty inspirational. Great guy,

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<v Speaker 2>and you sound like a great guy. You're going to

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<v Speaker 2>stay with hockey after your career. Do you have some

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<v Speaker 2>aspirations to coach or anything like that?

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<v Speaker 4>Jack, I don't know exactly what the future holds after

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<v Speaker 4>I graduate. I've been so focused on getting back on

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<v Speaker 4>the ice and dialed in on getting back on the

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<v Speaker 4>sheet and making it the best I can that I

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<v Speaker 4>haven't really thought it much else. So We'll see where

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<v Speaker 4>the road takes me. But I'm not counting it out.

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<v Speaker 4>I love the game of hockey. It's given me so

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<v Speaker 4>much that I could definitely see myself trying to get

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<v Speaker 4>back give back to it in some capacity.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Jack, best of luck you. Sounds like you're lucked

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<v Speaker 2>and loaded ready to go. Best of luck Saturday afternoon, coach,

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<v Speaker 2>Best to you and the Gulls for the rest of

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<v Speaker 2>the season. Say hi to all our friends at Endicott College.

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<v Speaker 2>And what time is that game? We have a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of listeners up obviously north through whom I assume there

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<v Speaker 2>might be a few tickets still available.

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<v Speaker 6>I hope kids, it's three o'clock on Saturday afternoon.

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<v Speaker 2>All Right, beautiful rink named in honor of Ray bark

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<v Speaker 2>Y balk the great Bruins defensemen, and also Stanley Cup

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<v Speaker 2>winning with the Colorado Avalanche. Gentlemen. Thanks very much, Jack,

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<v Speaker 2>You're an inspiration to all and the best of luck.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll be checking out the newspapers on on Saturday, and

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<v Speaker 2>I'm hoping to see in the goal goal scoring list. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>thanks Jack, and thanks Coach Paulin. Thanks very much, both

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<v Speaker 2>of you.

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<v Speaker 4>Thank you, thank you very much for having us on.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks you, my pleasure, my pleasure. When we get back,

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<v Speaker 2>we are going to talk about and I guess we've

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<v Speaker 2>had recently who's been a great guest. And she's actually

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<v Speaker 2>I think gonna be signing books this weekend up at

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<v Speaker 2>I believe it's a new report. We'll get all that information.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll be talking to Carolyn Sharp right after this break

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<v Speaker 2>here on a Thursday Eve on Nightside.

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<v Speaker 1>Now back to Dan Ray live from the Window World

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<v Speaker 1>Nightside Studios on WBZ News Radio.

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<v Speaker 2>I want to welcome back to Nightside Carolyn Sharp. She

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<v Speaker 2>was with us, I guess a week or so ago,

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<v Speaker 2>taking phone calls in tonight. She's here in a more

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<v Speaker 2>truncated form, because Carolyn is going to make an appearance

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<v Speaker 2>this weekend. And I think you said you're up in

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<v Speaker 2>either is it New Report or Gloucester?

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<v Speaker 8>Carolyn, it is Newberry Poor. I'm at Jabberwacke Books in

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<v Speaker 8>Newburyport on Saturday from five to seven.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. Now, your book, which we've talked about in the

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<v Speaker 2>air and we can talk about tonight, is Fire It Up.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, that is a book that essentially it provides

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<v Speaker 2>four secrets to reigniting intimacy and joy in your relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>And obviously it's around this Valentine's you'll be up here

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<v Speaker 2>in Valentine's Day weekend. How's the book going these days?

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<v Speaker 2>Is it still as active on Amazon as it was

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<v Speaker 2>when we talked to a couple of weeks ago.

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<v Speaker 9>It is.

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<v Speaker 8>It's doing really well. People are responding really positive positively

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<v Speaker 2>Now, I know the book became available only about a

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<v Speaker 2>it is intended for couples. Both couples, you know, need

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<v Speaker 2>Give us a quick suggestion, what are the fourth secrets?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sure you don't want to give away the entire

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<v Speaker 8>Communication is under everything, is throughout everything, and that is

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<v Speaker 8>first secret is that foundation. It's having a purpose, the

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<v Speaker 8>why of your relationship, as well as solid agreements and

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<v Speaker 8>Secret number two is the oxygen, which is the deep

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<v Speaker 6>The right amount of.

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<v Speaker 8>Air in between you to each do what you want

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<v Speaker 8>and spend time together in time apart. That's also oxygen.

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<v Speaker 8>The fuel is that communication you're taught about, and the

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<v Speaker 8>emotional safety to be yourself and to make mistakes and

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<v Speaker 8>come back and learn from them together. And then finally,

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<v Speaker 8>ignition is the spark, the fun, the passion, the romance

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<v Speaker 8>that every couple wants, but many don't realize that over

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<v Speaker 8>a ten, twenty, thirty forty year relationship, you have to

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<v Speaker 8>work at that spark because it doesn't just stay there naturally.

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<v Speaker 8>And so in each of those secrets, I give lots

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<v Speaker 8>of exercises and stories of real life couples that struggle

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<v Speaker 8>they don't feel alone and like, oh, our relationship is doomed. No,

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, five years, ten years, thirty forty years, Yeah, it

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<v Speaker 6>Yeah, you got to keep it doesn't matter.

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<v Speaker 2>and age, most couples are pretty busy. That traditional form

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<v Speaker 2>to work through it. So let's let's talk about the event.

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<v Speaker 2>I did mention the last time we're here, I want

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<v Speaker 2>you to come back. This is Saturday night, the fifteenth.

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<v Speaker 2>Couldn't tell from the phone number. And it's the Jabberwakeee

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<v Speaker 2>book Shop on Water Street, downtown Newport, and it's beautiful.

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<v Speaker 8>do a little book book browsing, get your book signed

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<v Speaker 2>It's great. So it's five to seven. You'll be there

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<v Speaker 2>five o'clock and people. You said you'll do a little

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<v Speaker 2>to people and sign some books. And that's great. So

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<v Speaker 2>I'm so glad that we reconnected tonight. I wish you

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<v Speaker 5>That everyone who's so much.

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<v Speaker 2>tell you that they heard you. If not tonight on nightside,

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<v Speaker 2>very pleasure to talk with you again and guest on

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<v Speaker 2>Saturday night at the Jabberwaukee Bookshop in New Report. Easy

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<v Speaker 2>to find ye And as you said, a great you're

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<v Speaker 2>you're done by seven o'clock. You got time for drinks, dinner,

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<v Speaker 2>and everything else. So ye have a great have a

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<v Speaker 2>great time. And I had forgotten you sure that you

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<v Speaker 2>had ever told me that that you were that you

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<v Speaker 2>at the phone number you had, and I said, gee,

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<v Speaker 2>where's that area, coach, So that was what.

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<v Speaker 8>That's my Seattle number. I moved here in August. So

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<v Speaker 8>I'm a I'm a I'm a Massachusetts person now, So happily,

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<v Speaker 8>can you.

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<v Speaker 2>A native at this point if you've been.

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<v Speaker 8>Here, thank you for your native wonderful.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank you so much. Pleasure to have talked to you again.

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<v Speaker 2>Talk soon. Okay.

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<v Speaker 8>Likewise, alrighty bye bye bye bye.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay. That's it's a great local connection. I just love

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<v Speaker 2>that one. Okay. When we get back after the news,

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<v Speaker 2>at the bottom of the hour, we're going to talk

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<v Speaker 2>about a short film festival at the Coolidge Corner Theater.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not sure if this is a one day event

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<v Speaker 2>but it's really interesting what we're talking with. Mark Anasasio,

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<v Speaker 2>We're going to be talking with another author, a psychotherapist

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<v Speaker 2>and communications coach so often communications are important, Jill Robin Paine,

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<v Speaker 2>communication by looking at the third side of the coin.

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<v Speaker 2>Stay with us, and then we'll get all of your

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<v Speaker 2>we'll solve the bike lane problem in Boston and other

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<v Speaker 2>we have a lot to accomplish. Stay with us, Dan

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<v Speaker 2>Ray on night Side on a Thursday night. Beautiful day

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<v Speaker 2>to day, a little bit of melting, but some more

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<v Speaker 1>This, you're on Nightside with Dan Ray on Boston's news radio.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, it is a film Awards season. I think

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<v Speaker 2>everyone knows that. And with us now is Mark Anastasio.

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<v Speaker 2>He's the Coolidge Corner Theater programming director and they have

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<v Speaker 2>a very interesting event. I know it's tomorrow, Mark, but

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<v Speaker 2>I'm unclear from the information that I have in front

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<v Speaker 2>of me, is if this is a one day only event,

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<v Speaker 2>or if it's going to continue on through the weekend.

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<v Speaker 2>Good evening, how are you?

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<v Speaker 5>And good Dan? Thanks for having me, How are you great?

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<v Speaker 2>Just a little confused at the ball. This is a

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, it's it's much longer. So we're opening the OSCAR

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<v Speaker 5>nominated short films on a full run. So they begin

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<v Speaker 5>on February fourteenth, and they'll probably be with us for

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<v Speaker 5>a couple of weeks. We start off showing the live

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<v Speaker 5>couple of weeks from now we'll bring into documentary shorts.

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<v Speaker 2>So okay, im, although I'm a member of the Screen

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<v Speaker 2>Actors after Union, I want to make sure that my

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<v Speaker 2>it a certain length? I mean, most of us think

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<v Speaker 2>two hours long. Some of them are epic length, three

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<v Speaker 2>hour long movies that you know, But what's my definition

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<v Speaker 5>I think that it varies depending on you know, which

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<v Speaker 5>which festival or where they're being submitted. But they tend

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<v Speaker 5>to be films that are you know, shorter, shorter than

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<v Speaker 5>sixty minutes. Most of the films in these short film

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<v Speaker 5>programs are on average about you know, ten to twenty

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<v Speaker 5>there's five or six films in the live action program,

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<v Speaker 5>and there are five films in the animated program this year.

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<v Speaker 5>And so the programs themselves run about ninety minutes to

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<v Speaker 2>These are films one of which I assume in each

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<v Speaker 5>Correct. Yeah, So, and they're international films that these films

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<v Speaker 5>come from all over the world. They they you know,

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<v Speaker 5>they run the gamut as far as what genres they are.

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<v Speaker 5>There's there's science fiction, there's drama. You know, there's there's

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<v Speaker 5>to watch with an audience. And it's a popular program

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<v Speaker 5>at the Coolidge year after year. This is you know,

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<v Speaker 5>I've been with the theater seventeen years now and we've

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<v Speaker 5>we've run the Shorts program just about every year that

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<v Speaker 5>a bigger theater than ever before. The Coolidge recently completed

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<v Speaker 5>a large expansion project, so we're actually putting these short

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<v Speaker 5>in the new wing of our building, so more seats

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<v Speaker 5>to accommodate the demand for these short films.

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<v Speaker 2>Those of us in Boston quotes loved the Coolidge Corner Theater.

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<v Speaker 2>How is it the project the theater has been able

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<v Speaker 2>to develop this, this annual association with Oscar nominated films.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh, that's a good question. It's it's they began coming

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<v Speaker 5>from a distributor that we worked with regularly, sort of

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<v Speaker 5>more independent distributor called Magnolia Films. This year they're distributed

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<v Speaker 5>by an organization just called Shorts, And this is I guess. Oh,

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<v Speaker 5>I'm looking at their information now. It is the twentieth

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<v Speaker 5>year that they've they've offered the Oscar nominated shorts to theaters.

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<v Speaker 5>I don't know if it's exclusive with us. That's something

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<v Speaker 2>But yeah, I think I think we're the only problem.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing that we do know is that if they'd

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<v Speaker 2>like if people out there are film aficionados or people

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<v Speaker 2>be an aficionado. You could go to how can they

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<v Speaker 2>Tell us, tell us how it works structurally.

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<v Speaker 5>Sure they can get Folks can get tickets on our website,

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<v Speaker 5>for the live action Oscar shorts as well as the

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<v Speaker 5>animated Oscar shorts. Each program has two showtimes daily. You

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<v Speaker 5>do need a separate ticket for the live action then

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<v Speaker 5>for the animated. But this weekend, the live action shorts

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<v Speaker 5>are playing at two pm and seven fifteen, while the

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<v Speaker 5>animated short screen at four forty five and nine to

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<v Speaker 5>fifty pm in that late slot. And yeah, it's it's

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<v Speaker 5>just it's such a popular program. It's a great way

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<v Speaker 5>for people to see films early on from filmmakers that

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<v Speaker 5>are making these short films and are are soon to

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<v Speaker 5>go on, you know, to some sort of exciting feature

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<v Speaker 5>length film. But short short films themselves are are are

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<v Speaker 5>an amazing way to see a story. Some of these

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<v Speaker 5>fifteen minute movies are are just as complete and thrilling

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<v Speaker 5>as a two hour film that you would go to

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<v Speaker 5>a theater to see. So certainly worth checking out.

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<v Speaker 2>Now have you found from years to year? And again,

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know if there are regulars who are coming

436
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<v Speaker 2>year after year, but regulars who just focus, say on

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<v Speaker 2>either the live action or the animated. They're sort of

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<v Speaker 2>like people who are just interested in one of the

439
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<v Speaker 2>subsets of these films and wants to figure out who's

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<v Speaker 2>going to take on the Oscar for this group or

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<v Speaker 2>people coming yeah, to be exposed across the board there.

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<v Speaker 5>I think that's a great that's a great question. I

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<v Speaker 5>think that the majority of the folks that come out

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<v Speaker 5>for these programs like to catch all of them because

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<v Speaker 5>they want to be able to make their Oscar predictions.

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<v Speaker 5>They want to say, be able to say that they've

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<v Speaker 5>seen everything that's nominated come Academy Awards night. But then

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<v Speaker 5>there are you know, there are some diehard animation fans

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<v Speaker 5>that want to come out and see those films in

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<v Speaker 5>particular because it might be their only chance for the

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<v Speaker 5>live action too, but that it's their only chance to

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<v Speaker 5>see them in a theatrical setting, to experience them with

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<v Speaker 5>an audience, which you know, only heightens the emotions and

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<v Speaker 5>the reactions that you get from from these great movies.

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<v Speaker 5>But I think, yeah, overall, everybody wants to see all

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<v Speaker 5>of them, the shorts. Fans are fans of each each program,

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<v Speaker 5>the live action, the animated, and to some extent, the documentary.

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<v Speaker 2>That's great, And it sounds as if you guys are

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<v Speaker 2>renovating the theater, constantly updating it.

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<v Speaker 5>I know.

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<v Speaker 2>It's such a great a great institution. Again, it's it's

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<v Speaker 2>worth the trip any time, but it's for the next

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<v Speaker 2>two weeks. So we're talking about the last two weeks

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<v Speaker 2>of February. If you're a movie buff, great way to

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<v Speaker 2>spend most of the last two weeks of February out

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<v Speaker 2>of the cold in a theater watching Oscar nominated films. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>absolutely I could.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, I couldn't have said it better Dan, that's that's

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<v Speaker 5>that's just right. You know, it's a it's a gloomy

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<v Speaker 5>time of year, especially on a daylight today where it's

471
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<v Speaker 5>you know, raining and flushy outside. Come on into the

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<v Speaker 5>coolidge and see some great film and you know, get

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<v Speaker 5>out of that New England February.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, so it starts tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 7>First films started to say at two pm. Yes, that's right,

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<v Speaker 7>two pm, okay, and pretty much every day Saturday Sunday

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<v Speaker 7>every weekday for the next couple of weeks. The schedule

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<v Speaker 7>is available at Coolidge dot org. I don't want people

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<v Speaker 7>calling me tomorrow and asking me when is this film?

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<v Speaker 2>I won't know, okay. And by the way, as a

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<v Speaker 2>member of SAG after I get to vote on the

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<v Speaker 2>Oscar nominations, which is pretty cool.

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<v Speaker 5>Oh wonderful.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know, I'm serious. That's uh. I've done that

485
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<v Speaker 2>for many, many years, and so you know, not that

486
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<v Speaker 2>I'm not particularly adept at picking winners, but I certainly

487
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<v Speaker 2>do like to do my research, and I might sneak

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<v Speaker 2>in the back of the theater up there someday in

489
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<v Speaker 2>the next couple of weeks and catch a few of these.

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<v Speaker 2>It sounds like a yeah.

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<v Speaker 5>We give tickets to Yeah, can we give tickets to

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<v Speaker 5>SAG members? Dan, It's part of the deal.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, you know, I'd be more than happy to buy

494
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<v Speaker 2>and support the support the theater and stay in the

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<v Speaker 2>back of the dark glasses and hiding because someone might

496
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<v Speaker 2>ask me a question and think that I actually know

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<v Speaker 2>anything about this stuff. Mark, I really appreciate your time.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks so much for being a great sport and explaining

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<v Speaker 2>it very very well. Mark Anastasio, the Coolidge Corner Theater

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<v Speaker 2>programming Director. Thanks again, Mark, I hope to see you

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<v Speaker 2>at some point in a not tra distant future.

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<v Speaker 5>Thank you so much. Dan, You're more than welcome.

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<v Speaker 2>When we get back, we're going to talk about a

504
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<v Speaker 2>concept that I, frankly don't quite understand. It's called empathy.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like taking the letter B and putting it before

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<v Speaker 2>the word empathy. I know what empathy means, but I'm

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<v Speaker 2>going to find out what empathy means simplifying communication by

508
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<v Speaker 2>looking at the third side of the coin. Very interesting title.

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<v Speaker 2>The author, Jill Robin Paine, she's an author and a

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<v Speaker 2>psychotherapist and communication coach, will join us on the other

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<v Speaker 2>side of this quick break on a kind of a

512
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<v Speaker 2>typical Thursday night in February. We're going to get you

513
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<v Speaker 2>to the weekend. Between tonight and tomorrow, we'll get through

514
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<v Speaker 2>another stormy weekend, and pretty soon February we'll turn into

515
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<v Speaker 2>March and we'll be getting scores of the Red Sox.

516
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<v Speaker 2>They did pick up a great addition today to their team,

517
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<v Speaker 2>Alex Bragman, a great player from Houston, from the Houston Astros.

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<v Speaker 2>So there's a lot to look forward to. Here and

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<v Speaker 2>only on nightside, but on the months ahead, as spring

520
00:29:32.640 --> 00:29:36.359
<v Speaker 2>is getting ready to spring, we'll be back at nightside

521
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<v Speaker 2>right after this.

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<v Speaker 1>Now back to Dan ray Line from the Window World

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<v Speaker 1>Nightside Studios on w b Z, the news radio.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, well, we're talking about a subject in a

525
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<v Speaker 2>concept that I have never heard. So therefore, let me

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<v Speaker 2>introduce my guest, Jill Roberin Paine. She's an author of

527
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<v Speaker 2>psychotherapist and has written a series of books on something

528
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<v Speaker 2>called empathy. I can take a guess at it, Robin,

529
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<v Speaker 2>but Jill, but I'd rather hear it from you directly.

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<v Speaker 2>What exactly is empathy? I see the word empathy with

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<v Speaker 2>the letter B before. What are we talking about?

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<v Speaker 9>Well, empathy I came up with is because I've been

533
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<v Speaker 9>doing this my whole life, Dan, and for the last

534
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<v Speaker 9>forty years since I've been working in the mental health field,

535
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<v Speaker 9>I have been bantering with empathy, and that is what

536
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<v Speaker 9>this means. I just trademarked it. It's B which stands

537
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<v Speaker 9>for banter, and empathy, of course is empathy. So we

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<v Speaker 9>do this. Actually, you do this a lot because you're

539
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<v Speaker 9>a host on a radio show.

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<v Speaker 6>So you're doing it right now.

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<v Speaker 9>By talking with me and chit chatting and getting to

542
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<v Speaker 9>know me, and this is what's missing in our life now.

543
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<v Speaker 9>We empathy is on the rise if you read about it.

544
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<v Speaker 9>Research shows that it's cyclical, cyclical, so banters missing, is

545
00:31:05.039 --> 00:31:08.720
<v Speaker 9>missing we're texting or my clients will come to me

546
00:31:08.759 --> 00:31:11.400
<v Speaker 9>and they'll say, gosh, I was talking to my partner

547
00:31:11.920 --> 00:31:14.519
<v Speaker 9>or my friends all week and I said, were you

548
00:31:14.680 --> 00:31:17.960
<v Speaker 9>talking or texting? And so we're doing too much of

549
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<v Speaker 9>that and not enough verbal So that's what this is.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I am sorry with you. With my kids, who

551
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<v Speaker 2>are of course much younger than me, they're thirty somethings. Uh,

552
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<v Speaker 2>and they're always trying to convince me just send me

553
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<v Speaker 2>a text, just send me a text. And it's like

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<v Speaker 2>you start off at text, you know, what are your

555
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<v Speaker 2>plans for the weekend? And then they send you back

556
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<v Speaker 2>a text. Well, really not sure yet. We might do this,

557
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<v Speaker 2>might do this Okay, Well, which is more likely because

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to figure out and it's like you realize

559
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<v Speaker 2>for me texting, yeah, it takes me thirty minutes to

560
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<v Speaker 2>text back and forth on many things which could be

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<v Speaker 2>completed with a two minute phone conversation.

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<v Speaker 9>And exactly exactly think that.

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<v Speaker 2>The generation X generation, why whatever the whatever the generation

564
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<v Speaker 2>is we're talking about. Yes, I think they're telephone a verse.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not telephone averse. I spend four hours a night,

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<v Speaker 2>five nights a week chatting on the phone with complete strangers.

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<v Speaker 9>That's right. And you know what, when I said something

568
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<v Speaker 9>to somebody the other day about a banter and chit chat,

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<v Speaker 9>they say, oh, that's so superficial. And they've done studies

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<v Speaker 9>that if you chitchat or do small talk, which is

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<v Speaker 9>what we used to do in the olden days, it

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<v Speaker 9>builds comfortability and it builds connectedness, and then you may

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<v Speaker 9>want to talk to the more So. That is part

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<v Speaker 9>of my empathy, and we need to practice it more So.

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<v Speaker 9>A lot of people are saying the kids are having

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<v Speaker 9>problems because they have too much dopamine, or they're getting

577
00:32:48.880 --> 00:32:51.920
<v Speaker 9>so much dopamine from the computers. You know what it is, Dan,

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<v Speaker 9>It's there's not enough movement. There's not enough movement. When

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<v Speaker 9>you're texting people, do you go oh hi, No, you don't,

580
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<v Speaker 9>you're not in made it. You're just texting. You may

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<v Speaker 9>give a smile. So what I've noticed is a lot

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<v Speaker 9>of the younger people have a blunted affect, and so

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<v Speaker 9>I'm getting them.

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<v Speaker 2>They have a blunted affect.

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<v Speaker 9>Sounds yes, it can be. Do you know that. What

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<v Speaker 9>I've noticed is the blunted affect, which is so I

587
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<v Speaker 9>am very animated. You can hear it in my voice.

588
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<v Speaker 9>I'm moving my hands up and down.

589
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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, exactly, and gesticulating even as you speak.

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<v Speaker 9>Exactly. And so what's happening in a blunted affect. It's

591
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<v Speaker 9>not just your face is sort of blah. It's your

592
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<v Speaker 9>body's blah. And if your body and your face is blah,

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<v Speaker 9>how are you feeling blah? So when these kids come

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<v Speaker 9>to me, they're feeling blah and they need to get

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<v Speaker 9>out and recreate.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I love to use the word gesticulate whenever I can,

598
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<v Speaker 2>because it sounds so horrible. People think you're talking about

599
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<v Speaker 2>something really bad. Oh my god, the guy was caught

600
00:33:59.680 --> 00:34:03.680
<v Speaker 2>sticklating in the park. No, I'm one of those people,

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<v Speaker 2>Joe din If I sat next to you on an

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<v Speaker 2>airplane for like two hours flying to Chicago or something,

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<v Speaker 2>I would have a conversation with you, if you would

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<v Speaker 2>allow me. I'll never bother people, but I'll start off

605
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<v Speaker 2>with hey, how you doing? Where from where you're going,

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<v Speaker 2>you know, and if they're willing to chat a little bit.

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<v Speaker 2>Two hours later, I'll I know everything about you. I

608
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<v Speaker 2>will find some people that we both know. I do

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<v Speaker 2>believe in that six steps, six degrees of separation. And

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<v Speaker 2>the other thing that I love to do, which she'll

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<v Speaker 2>show you how weird I am. I'm weird in many ways.

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<v Speaker 2>But you know, you get on to ever get on

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<v Speaker 2>an elevator downtown and there's like three people in the

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<v Speaker 2>elevator and you get on. He's kind of in a corner,

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<v Speaker 2>no eye contact, no conversation. What I love to do

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<v Speaker 2>is once the door is closed is look at everybody

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<v Speaker 2>and say, I'm sure all of you are wondering why

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<v Speaker 2>I've called this meeting, but I appreciate you being here today.

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<v Speaker 2>And you get some very weird looks from people.

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<v Speaker 9>I bet some people start talking.

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<v Speaker 2>They do oh yes, they'll stop, look at it, look

622
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<v Speaker 2>at it, and then oh, yeah, how you doing? You know?

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<v Speaker 2>And in most cases, and when I do that, I

624
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<v Speaker 2>was on TV here in Boston for thirty one years

625
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<v Speaker 2>as a TV repair. People say you're daing right right,

626
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<v Speaker 2>and yeah, yeah, yeah, how you doing? Nice to meet you.

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<v Speaker 2>It's it's it's empathy. Now, I know empathy by you're.

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<v Speaker 9>Doing it, yes, and us humor you just use tumor.

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<v Speaker 9>That's part of bantering.

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<v Speaker 5>Yeah, there you go.

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<v Speaker 2>Got to have humor. Oh my god. If you don't

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<v Speaker 2>have humor, what what is life without humor? Really think

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<v Speaker 2>about it.

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<v Speaker 9>I don't know. Pretty bad, so you. So you.

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<v Speaker 2>Have three books here which I want to give a

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<v Speaker 2>good plug to what empathy looking through children's eyes to

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<v Speaker 2>simplify communications. My wife and I have a two and

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<v Speaker 2>a half year old grandson. I'm doing empathy with him

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<v Speaker 2>all the time I'm talking to him. I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 2>break down communication. I'm trying to make sure he unders letters,

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<v Speaker 2>and I mean, you know, it's like NonStop. Then you

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<v Speaker 2>have second one empathy simplify communication by looking at the

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<v Speaker 2>third side of the coin. And I see now what

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<v Speaker 2>you mean by the third side of the coin not

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<v Speaker 2>handing with tails, but the depth the width of the coin,

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<v Speaker 2>if you will, which is great. And then a third

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<v Speaker 2>one meeting people. It's not a game, your path to

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<v Speaker 2>genuine connections through empathy. Has this been a successful series

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<v Speaker 2>of books?

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<v Speaker 9>I bet it has, you know what. My clients have

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<v Speaker 9>loved it, and I have people call me up and

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<v Speaker 9>tell me how they love it. And the meeting people

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<v Speaker 9>It's not a game really helps people in relating to

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<v Speaker 9>other people and finding their partners. A matter of fact, Dan,

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<v Speaker 9>I found my second husband, who have been with for

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<v Speaker 9>thirteen years with that book, So it really does work.

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<v Speaker 9>And basically empathy is start with empathy, respond with banter,

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<v Speaker 9>and focus on a win win situation because if your

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<v Speaker 9>partner loses, you've lost, and the same goes with every conversation.

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<v Speaker 9>So if you focus on wanting it to win, life

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<v Speaker 9>is perception and so just make it a win win.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, it's it's just human interaction, is what you're talking

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<v Speaker 2>about at the at.

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<v Speaker 6>The core exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>And yeah, you know last night, not to bring politics

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<v Speaker 2>into this, but but this guy came back from Russia.

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<v Speaker 2>He was in jail like for several years and all else.

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<v Speaker 2>Every day when we're not in jail, we should wake

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<v Speaker 2>up and say, hey, who can I meet today? What?

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<v Speaker 2>What what can I learn today? Just take advantage of

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<v Speaker 2>every day. This is these look like three great books.

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<v Speaker 2>I assume they're available at Amazon and in bookstores everywhere.

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<v Speaker 9>Right right there, Yes they are. And then meeting people

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<v Speaker 9>it's not a game is also on audio all any audio, Spotify, Audible.

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<v Speaker 2>Great. I have I have a lot of people who

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<v Speaker 2>listen to my show who happen to be blind because

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<v Speaker 2>they self identify as being non visual or blind, whatever

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<v Speaker 2>whatever term they want. But it's meeting people. It's not

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<v Speaker 2>a game. Uh and again, empathy, empathy. You could look

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<v Speaker 2>it up, Jill Robin pain. Jill, you've been a great guest.

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<v Speaker 2>You've been a great guest.

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<v Speaker 9>Thank you so much. Thank You'll have you.

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<v Speaker 2>Back and we'll do an hour and we'll take some

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<v Speaker 2>phone calls for my listeners in the first hour. We

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<v Speaker 2>just that.

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<v Speaker 9>I would love that.

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<v Speaker 2>We'll set something up. I'll have my my producer get

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<v Speaker 2>in touch with your folks. Thanks very much, Jill. I

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<v Speaker 2>really enjoyed this.

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<v Speaker 6>Stay warm, Stay warm, not that if you're.

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<v Speaker 2>In New England or this is this is almost tropical.

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<v Speaker 2>It's only I mean, it's it's above zero. What the heck?

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<v Speaker 2>We're okay, thanks, I'm in Houston, okay you Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>well you know in July we got better weather than Houston.

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<v Speaker 2>Trust me on that. I've been to Houston in July. Thanks, Joe.

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<v Speaker 2>I really enjoyed it. Jill Robin pain, empathy, and also

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<v Speaker 2>meeting people. It's not a game, and this isn't a game, folks.

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<v Speaker 2>This is Nightside. We are coming back on the other

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<v Speaker 2>side and we're going to solve all your tax questions.

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<v Speaker 2>Cant solve your tax problems, but all your tax questions

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