Speaker 1: I can't do this independently. The role later keeps me upright.
Speaker 1: It doesn't help me walk all it does, and it
Speaker 1: doesn't let me bend bend over. And you know how
Speaker 1: do people react to you walk everywhere with Well, they
Speaker 1: look poor woman walking with this contraption, And the sadder
Speaker 1: they look, the bigger my smile becomes. By the time
Speaker 1: we pass each other, we waved. This is ga Hi,
Speaker 1: how's everybody? We are going to make Rocott Crumpley. The
Speaker 1: English inflation of it is packed potatoes. But it's much
Speaker 1: more than packed potatoes. It's not potatoes in a brown bag,
Speaker 1: solicious potatoes baked in en oven with a lot of
Speaker 1: dairy goodies. How often do you cook? Me? Cook? I can,
Speaker 1: but I'll be very honest for myself, I never cook,
Speaker 1: except I make sure I have food for shops. Most
Speaker 1: of it is cooked by me. I'll buy some just
Speaker 1: you know, some additions. But I'm not a meat eater.
Speaker 1: I don't like meat, so I don't cook too much alone.
Speaker 1: I'm home alone, yes, and but you and me, if
Speaker 1: I dare I have peanut butter by myself? Yes? Is
Speaker 1: that sad? It's sad, But not because it's sad. It's
Speaker 1: sad because my husband is not here with me. But
Speaker 1: I read, and I read a difference between loneliness and solitude.
Speaker 1: And when I'm home for shopping, it's not about loneliness,
Speaker 1: you know. I like to be with myself. So I
Speaker 1: read a lot and I doven in between them. It'll
Speaker 1: takes me a couple of hours. And when I'm away,
Speaker 1: I have to adjust to other people's schedules, and I
Speaker 1: lose a tremendous amount of my time, which is reading,
Speaker 1: mostly in shops. So I just prefer to spend that home.
Speaker 1: But my family come, as my children come at all
Speaker 1: hours at all times. I'm alone, but I'm not lonely
Speaker 1: when it comes to sitting down by the mead alone.
Speaker 1: That's so very hard for me to to, you know,
Speaker 1: to live with. But I made it dough. Did you
Speaker 1: think of remarrying?
Speaker 2: Sorry?
Speaker 1: Absolutely never? Never? No, why not? Because truthfully, if I'm
Speaker 1: being very honest in fairness to the person, I would
Speaker 1: marry because I would compare everybody to who my husband
Speaker 1: was and wouldn't do them justice right, So it would
Speaker 1: not work. No, No, there's no way. My husband just
Speaker 1: says something so phenomenal. When I discussed it and we
Speaker 1: talked about his illness and his unfortunate demise, I asked
Speaker 1: him what am I going to do here without you?
Speaker 1: So he said, what do you mean you'll remarry? I says, no,
Speaker 1: never have to miss the cat So uh he said,
Speaker 1: well why not? I said, because I I I can't
Speaker 1: imagine living with anybody else. He says, Listen, he says,
Speaker 1: I want to tell you something. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you want to remarry, but if you do, please marry
Speaker 1: a rich man because I want him to give you
Speaker 1: everything that I wasn't able to give you. Wow. And
Speaker 1: there wasn't a single thing that I ever wanted from
Speaker 1: day one that I married him that I didn't have.
Speaker 1: So wow, So that was really not a correct statement
Speaker 1: at all. Wow. He Yeah, he was the gentlest, bestest,
Speaker 1: good hearted soul. Yeah. Yeah.
Speaker 2: Can we can we take a look around at the
Speaker 2: house you shared with him? How many years did you
Speaker 2: share this?
Speaker 1: When we were married for forty seven years? Wow, let's
Speaker 1: take a look.
Speaker 2: It's beautiful and it's a beautiful day.
Speaker 1: This is your china closet, yes, which is almost empty.
Speaker 1: I gave all my stuff to my children, ninety percent
Speaker 1: of it just left the enough silver or glass that
Speaker 1: I need to celebrate. Chops and Jantif this is my
Speaker 1: uh siblings at one of my son's wedding. That's my
Speaker 1: father and my father in law. Lower down is my grandfather.
Speaker 1: She was my mother's father. He survived the war, and
Speaker 1: he came to America a little later than all of us.
Speaker 1: And he was the sweetest, sweetest old man, and he
Speaker 1: had a fabulous relationship with us, and we loved him
Speaker 1: to pieces. He was almost the only grandfather in Williamsburg.
Speaker 1: He died very suddenly in one minute, when he was
Speaker 1: eighty one years old. He was not an old man,
Speaker 1: and he was a very, very beloved person. So all
Speaker 1: my children had a great grandfather.
Speaker 2: Do you sit out here?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Sure, absolutely Java this morning. I first have a
Speaker 1: coffee here, of course, when the weather permitting, and then
Speaker 1: I look around a little bit, you know, yet did
Speaker 1: see watching over the beautiful children and clothing? Oh? I
Speaker 1: love it? And all the men who go to chulaid.
Speaker 2: Do you know who is like late?
Speaker 1: I don't know. I don't know that. I'm not interested.
Speaker 1: I don't want to know us or even in my head,
Speaker 1: But I just find it amazing to see, you know,
Speaker 1: when everybody's almost coming home and people are nicually walking
Speaker 1: to shield, you know, very very slowly and very comfortably.
Speaker 1: And no, it's just interesting to observe. And then I doven.
Speaker 1: I also dimen on the porch with the weather is nice,
Speaker 1: and then I go and I read, and then I
Speaker 1: get ready for my meal, and then I finish part
Speaker 1: of it, and then I read again. This goes out
Speaker 1: until about four and the thrown every shoves.
Speaker 2: I'm sure your kids would happily move in if you
Speaker 2: wanted them to.
Speaker 1: I wouldn't want I wouldn't want them to because I
Speaker 1: don't think it's fair. They all have families and children.
Speaker 1: They deserve to have their comfort, you know, and their
Speaker 1: space in their own comfort zone for the children. But
Speaker 1: they come in the summer from when the clock has
Speaker 1: moved there come every shop this afternoon. They have a
Speaker 1: shallow sheetas in my house. And when the clock has
Speaker 1: moved back, when multi shavis comes becomes very long and
Speaker 1: shaves is short, they come fear for Abdullah and then
Speaker 1: they stay here from Avamalka. They eat, you know, they
Speaker 1: snack and they have fun. But we get to see
Speaker 1: them every week, almost every week, every Wednesday, my children
Speaker 1: who live for come up to visit. That's like carved stone. Well,
Speaker 1: my husband was alive and even my oldest son used
Speaker 1: to come in from Manhattan and we all got together
Speaker 1: and we had all these big pow wows and you know,
Speaker 1: the fun discussions and the sibling arguments and it was
Speaker 1: just wonderful. But now the ones who live close by
Speaker 1: still come here. And that's basically my interaction a whole
Speaker 1: week with my family. How many kids do you have seven?
Speaker 1: How many grandkids you really want the truth? Yes, forty
Speaker 1: forty nine horror, and I have almost that much great granded.
Speaker 1: Do you know all their names? It's impossible, absolutely really
Speaker 1: absolutely so every time baby is born, and make sure
Speaker 1: I know the name, and I remember the name, and
Speaker 1: and I try to focus on it because I don't
Speaker 1: want them to come to my house and you know,
Speaker 1: and I have no idea. Tell me what's your name?
Speaker 1: Who do you belong? Yeah? That was my grandparents. I
Speaker 1: do know all their names so far, so far, Wait
Speaker 1: till we get to one hundred. I don't think I
Speaker 1: want to be around and twenty comes, you know, in
Speaker 1: the meantime, But other than that. What am I going
Speaker 1: to do here? Too long to be by myself? You'll
Speaker 1: remarry and yeah, me and you? That was I think
Speaker 1: you're not a nice thing to say in public. No, no, no,
Speaker 1: I am good on my own. I'm not lonely either. No, really,
Speaker 1: I have to tell you, there's no way in the
Speaker 1: world I wouldn't compare the nicest person to my husband,
Speaker 1: and I couldn't accept anybody second second best. You know,
Speaker 1: he was just so so unusual. Look across the street.
Speaker 1: They're also that those three porches also have young women
Speaker 1: sitting out there with little children, and it's just a
Speaker 1: very nice way to spend chib this morning and just
Speaker 1: have what to look around at. That's all. Yeah, my
Speaker 1: children are going to be hysterical because they always want
Speaker 1: me to make rocket Crumpy during the year. They love
Speaker 1: it as a snack, and I don't want to do it.
Speaker 1: I'm just too lazy. Now when they find out that
Speaker 1: I made more from treeta, oh my gosh, I will
Speaker 1: be in trouble. Let's not tell them. I won't tell them.
Speaker 1: You're right. But they were here, yes, and I said
Speaker 1: I'm making rocket Crumpy tomorrow. They all said they're coming
Speaker 1: this evening that says, don't you dare us done? It's
Speaker 1: our show exactly. So let me have the potatoes. Let's
Speaker 1: go to the potatoes. Okay, perfect.
Speaker 2: So it's about having nicely.
Speaker 1: Shaped even potatoes. At least the circumsis circum the circumference
Speaker 1: should be, you know, even so we don't have gaps.
Speaker 2: Or we're not peeling it afterwards.
Speaker 1: If you peel it before, by the time it's cooked
Speaker 1: very well, it's going to become too soft and it's
Speaker 1: going to fall apart. You know, the slices won't stay,
Speaker 1: won't stay whole. So I think we have too many potatoes.
Speaker 1: You don't have to cook all the potatoes, Okay, I don't.
Speaker 1: I see. I never made such a moments or another that. Okay,
Speaker 1: this is Shailah like everybody does. Hangs it up. It's
Speaker 1: supposed to be a prevention against my visiting your house.
Speaker 1: Tell us again. Yes, well, there was a we all know.
Speaker 1: Actually his your side was this past week. There was
Speaker 1: a very big scholar and a very big Toaldic and
Speaker 1: Hungary in the city Caristeer. He was extremely into helping
Speaker 1: other people, feeding them all the time. And actually what
Speaker 1: I heard and I'm sure it's true that when he
Speaker 1: was sick, and when he was a last of life,
Speaker 1: he was laying but very ill, and he sent messages
Speaker 1: to the people in the kitchen, please make sure that
Speaker 1: all the people they're probably going to be coming to
Speaker 1: a funeral soon, and make sure that there's enough food
Speaker 1: cook that they shouldn't, you know, be hungry. So and
Speaker 1: there was some I don't know if it's an old
Speaker 1: wife stale, but I'm comfortable believing it that somehow they
Speaker 1: once hung up a picture of him, and all the
Speaker 1: mie scattered, So everybody's hanging up pictures. My kids are
Speaker 1: laughing and making fun of me, but I don't care.
Speaker 1: It doesn't hurt to have a picture of It's because
Speaker 1: some people think it's an old wife stale, but we
Speaker 1: don't know. But the fact is I Borokasham, Thank goodness,
Speaker 1: I don't have any mice. Do I tribute to is official.
Speaker 1: But also that the exterminated spent two days closing up
Speaker 1: my os. So you know, there's a very famous saying.
Speaker 1: You know, I'll do the work and you'll do the
Speaker 1: mas and toy them, you know. So I did the
Speaker 1: work with the exterminator of silo does the math. And
Speaker 1: I want to tell you something, Rita. I know a
Speaker 1: lot of women who had nice husbands, but in every
Speaker 1: single way, you know, just from their discussions. Okay, this
Speaker 1: is perfect. I in all my many many years that
Speaker 1: I knew them and I knew of their husbands, I
Speaker 1: never I never heard from my friends and things that
Speaker 1: I knew about my husband. You know, they were very
Speaker 1: I didn't know anybody who had that kind of quality.
Speaker 1: You know, you don't like meat, So what do you
Speaker 1: eat you stay in such good shape? I don't know. Now.
Speaker 1: I had for lunch my daughter happened to have brought
Speaker 1: me shoes, hair. Last night you bought me very delicious
Speaker 1: potato salad and I had a slice half a slice
Speaker 1: of salmon. So that was fun, you know. And I
Speaker 1: make myself. I love split pea soup. Oh that sounds good.
Speaker 2: Yes, if I get Most women say you can keep
Speaker 2: your figure past men and falls.
Speaker 1: Listen. I tried very hard, and I worked very hard,
Speaker 1: and I was totally obsessed with weight all my life.
Speaker 1: Really yeah, I tell you why. When I was a
Speaker 1: young kid, I was never fat cause I had a
Speaker 1: good figure. I have a long waist and I had
Speaker 1: a long neck, and but I was a big person.
Speaker 1: And when I was about twelve years old, my mother
Speaker 1: took me to the doctor. I wasn't feeling well, and
Speaker 1: y you know, my mother went out while he was
Speaker 1: examining me. And then he tells me, says, you know, Giddle,
Speaker 1: you're such a good looking girl. Why are you fat?
Speaker 1: So I thought to myself, you know, I didn't care
Speaker 1: about what he said about the fat, but I think
Speaker 1: if he called me good looking girl, I must be good.
Speaker 1: Nobody ever told me I was good looking, you know.
Speaker 1: And and so I said, so what should I do,
Speaker 1: Doctor Diamond? I love to eat. He says, okay, says
Speaker 1: I'll give you something. And imagine, Frieda, you're talking about
Speaker 1: something that happened probably sixty four sixty five years ago. Mm.
Speaker 1: And he gave me a prescription for some sort of medication,
Speaker 1: really yes, to reduce my appetite like adderall. I don't
Speaker 1: remember what it was. I've no idea. All I know
Speaker 1: is that it was a controlled drug and you didn't
Speaker 1: need a license for it, and it cost to two dollars.
Speaker 1: And I didn't tell my mother. I went to the
Speaker 1: drug store and I got the medication and I took
Speaker 1: it and I became so abnormally hyper that I went
Speaker 1: through them with My mother had no idea why. But
Speaker 1: he also had a pen pal in England who I
Speaker 1: was fourteen years old, not even who who. I wrote
Speaker 1: her about it and she says, get to send me
Speaker 1: the medication. So I went to the pharmacy and asked
Speaker 1: for refill. But I imagine I hadn't even used it
Speaker 1: wasn't even thirty days past. They gave me ser this.
Speaker 1: They gave me refillm I sent it to London to
Speaker 1: my cousin. She was my cousin, my pen pal also
Speaker 1: and her mother called up my mother. Good, my mother's
Speaker 1: bird's cousin. She says, what did you get to send
Speaker 1: to my daughter? Ki? So my mother says, I'm not
Speaker 1: get what you're talking about. Yes, yes, get to send
Speaker 1: some medication. My daughter's off the wall. So the mystimulants absolutely.
Speaker 1: And then I had to tell my mother the truth,
Speaker 1: and my mother said she's gonna call it back to
Speaker 1: darme that I says, don't you dear, he didn't tell
Speaker 1: me not to tell you? And I says, the anyway
Speaker 1: does them? To make a long story short, of cause
Speaker 1: my mother threw into the coverage that with the end
Speaker 1: of my story. But up until the day, I always
Speaker 1: struggled Wah. I always wanted to be skinny, and I
Speaker 1: was skinny most of my life. But there were two
Speaker 1: things that I struggled with. But I was skinny, I
Speaker 1: starved and every time I ate something which I shouldn't have,
Speaker 1: I had such guilt, Yeah, that I didn't enjoy my
Speaker 1: food ever. Yeah, and it kept me back from socializing. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, because if I went someplace and there was
Speaker 1: delicious food, you know. I remember I was a class
Speaker 1: hostess for Bicker Island party in Pupa for many many years.
Speaker 1: That is beautiful party the first day sleep hass you know,
Speaker 1: and I was my class's host and I had to
Speaker 1: go there and not touch a morsel off And everything
Speaker 1: was dairy, the most delicious cheesecakes and blints and everything.
Speaker 1: And so most of the time I looked for an
Speaker 1: excuse not to go because I knew that self control
Speaker 1: was gonna be so much difficult to me. And at
Speaker 1: the end of the day it was felt imagine I
Speaker 1: missed out and said you good, delicious, you know. So
Speaker 1: this was a struggle all my life. At one point
Speaker 1: I s developed terrible, terrible pain my whole body. It's
Speaker 1: called fibermyalgia. Yeah, it's it's it's it's an order immune disease,
Speaker 1: and there there's really almost no cure for it. And
Speaker 1: I was suffering tremendously and the doctor gave me a
Speaker 1: pregnance on which is a steroid, and of course it
Speaker 1: made me feel much better. But I started gaining weight
Speaker 1: and then I developed chronic critigue syndrome. Wow to those
Speaker 1: an ordinance, and that was also a disaster. And so
Speaker 1: I was on the spreaduce someone for a year and
Speaker 1: I gave a lot of weight and I didn't eat
Speaker 1: more much. It just blew me up terribly and I
Speaker 1: was miserable. And then one day I decided, you know what,
Speaker 1: too bad to pain. I'd rather suffer. I don't wanna
Speaker 1: die in all of that woman, you know. Wow, So
Speaker 1: I I weaved myself off the present zone. Wyah. And
Speaker 1: you know I suffered, but the weight didn't go. The
Speaker 1: weight didn't go. No, I was not able to lose
Speaker 1: weight on me. Whatever I did, you know, pound here
Speaker 1: and a pound did there? Was I It was terrible.
Speaker 1: So then I went on a very very strict diet,
Speaker 1: and I lost sixty pounds.
Speaker 2: Aw, you're definitely slimmer than you were in your youth.
Speaker 1: I'm not slimmer than I was when I got married.
Speaker 1: I'll show you a picture of me in my wedding dress,
Speaker 1: you know, but I'm I'm slimmer now than I I was.
Speaker 1: I was December when I was very young, you know.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: And you know, if I'll show you some pictures of
Speaker 1: me and my children's wait and I always you know,
Speaker 1: I was, I looked very good, you know. But those
Speaker 1: those sixty pounds that I lost, no matter what I did,
Speaker 1: I could not get rid of it, you know. And
Speaker 1: so but fine, And then then my husband got sick,
Speaker 1: and then of course I didn't lose it because we
Speaker 1: didn't eat normal. I didn't cooclean in the hospital every day,
Speaker 1: and before we came home, either I went into the
Speaker 1: big home room and I got myself a a bagel
Speaker 1: sandwich or I or I or came home and bought something,
Speaker 1: you know, out So.
Speaker 2: Can I ask why you you have uh a roll later?
Speaker 1: Why you walk with a because a bm it's a ferrari.
Speaker 1: It's a ferrari. Because when I had chronic fatigue syndrome.
Speaker 1: I I was sick for about ten years and it
Speaker 1: was very very sour cream it was and the cream cheese,
Speaker 1: and it was very very bad. And so I spent
Speaker 1: I don't remember if it was eight or ten years
Speaker 1: of my life. I spent sitting on the couch. I
Speaker 1: got up in the morning to me and my husband
Speaker 1: would barely manage to get me dressed and drag me down.
Speaker 1: I had a car taking me to Williamsburg every day
Speaker 1: to work, and I sat at work. I was working
Speaker 1: on a computer, and I came home and I sat
Speaker 1: on a couch like a bump on a log, every
Speaker 1: single day of the week. I'm telling you, I don't
Speaker 1: remember how many years it was, but many many years.
Speaker 1: And I damaged my The core of my body, the
Speaker 1: muscles and my core of my body were very very damaged.
Speaker 1: No access. Before that. I spent years and years. We
Speaker 1: were just discussing with fake and Pearl. We walked every
Speaker 1: single night. We were the first brisk walkers, and we
Speaker 1: did it for many many years besides Tish above night
Speaker 1: and Kipper Night every single night of there, you know,
Speaker 1: and we were very fit. And then I just stopped
Speaker 1: moving and then this part of my body, the core
Speaker 1: of my body, became very very damaged. The muscles completely
Speaker 1: room and my back is perfect. I went to nurologists
Speaker 1: and spine specialists. My back is thousand percent perfect, nine hundred.
Speaker 1: This is completely damaged. This part of the body helps
Speaker 1: the spine upright. You know, it's just the spine. Since
Speaker 1: this is not working, I can't do this independently, you see.
Speaker 1: You know. It's like like you're trying to peel potatoes
Speaker 1: with one hand, so you're holding you understand, holding the
Speaker 1: peel and the potato together doesn't work. So after about
Speaker 1: five steps or fifty seconds, I feel where my chest
Speaker 1: is pushing up to my lungs. See I'm already starting
Speaker 1: to get out of breath now. Ah see. So the
Speaker 1: role later keeps me upright. It doesn't help me walk.
Speaker 1: All it does is it doesn't let me bend over,
Speaker 1: bend over, and you know, and that's it, and that's
Speaker 1: how you get around all.
Speaker 2: Over you're everywhere you're going to Manhattan.
Speaker 1: I want to tell you something. My lab where used
Speaker 1: you know, where I used to go on Manhattan was
Speaker 1: on Seventh Avenue and fifty seventh Street, right on the
Speaker 1: corner there was a train station with an elevator, and
Speaker 1: so at the corner I got into the elevator. When
Speaker 1: the weather was nice, I would I would start walking
Speaker 1: on the corner of Seventh Avenue fifty seventh and I
Speaker 1: would walk to the next station, and the next station
Speaker 1: and the next station, And as long as I was
Speaker 1: able to walk and the weather was nice, I would walk.
Speaker 1: And I would sometimes walk twenty twenty to twenty four blocks.
Speaker 1: I remember recently I happened to have been there with
Speaker 1: you with my roll. Later, of course, only with my
Speaker 1: roll there I would walk. I would walk, and by
Speaker 1: each station I said, no, I can go further, and
Speaker 1: I went from fifty seven seven to ten and seven
Speaker 1: talk about forty seven blocks STREETA.
Speaker 2: How do people react to you walking everywhere.
Speaker 1: With Well, they look, But I want to tell you
Speaker 1: something I try very hard. That people sometimes have very
Speaker 1: sad look poor you know, I look okay, I'm dressed, okay,
Speaker 1: you know, poor woman walking with this contraption, And the
Speaker 1: sadder they look, the bigger my smile becomes. By the
Speaker 1: time we pass each other a wave, it becomes okay.
Speaker 1: Now what I need is this. I don't remember if
Speaker 1: it was cotta cheese or not. Okay, we'll do it without.
Speaker 1: And if you have a problem, you can eat a
Speaker 1: teaspoon of cotta cheese.
Speaker 2: It's not easy to cook with someone shoving a camera
Speaker 2: in your face.
Speaker 1: Right, it doesn't bother me. I mean you're not in
Speaker 1: my way. Doing pretty good, it's looking good. When do
Speaker 1: we put the cream cheese? Next leap? Then we get
Speaker 1: another layer of potatoes? No, here, we get another cream cheese,
Speaker 1: Then we get another layer of potatoes. This is this
Speaker 1: is mega h this is mega Yeah. This is exactly
Speaker 1: how much saltier you'll have to give it me on
Speaker 1: my clean hand, because otherwise it's going to still give
Speaker 1: me just how about that? Just this much? No, no, no, no,
Speaker 1: let's way too little. Free Okay, more and more and more.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna put the whole thing I need to
Speaker 1: have it. What about spices. I'm gonna put a little
Speaker 1: white pepper. Okay. Now what we're gonna do is lift
Speaker 1: this up. Okay, you see, brilliant kidneys. It was somebody
Speaker 1: in jail once, very very stupid man and once he
Speaker 1: says something hurry smart, that has them. How did you
Speaker 1: know that? He says kidneys.
Speaker 2: Okay, let me let me take it to the.
Speaker 1: Okay, now I'm gonna tie myself. I'll do it on
Speaker 1: my phone. Where is my phone? He here, Yes, yes, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna put it on for s for thirty minutes
Speaker 1: and then I'll check it and see what's going on.
Speaker 1: Let's sit down. Let's sit down. Well, I'll tell you
Speaker 1: what I did yesterday. N I wouldn't even people might
Speaker 1: think that there's something wrong with me. I'll give you
Speaker 1: an example what I did. There's a beautiful new outdoors
Speaker 1: mall that opened in Belmont Park in Long Island. It's
Speaker 1: called Belmont Park Village. And they were working and I'm
Speaker 1: I I see it advertisery for the last two years,
Speaker 1: you know, and it's almost completed, and but now it's
Speaker 1: completely completed. Not all the stores are open. And I
Speaker 1: was coollishing. He said, I like, I like these, you know,
Speaker 1: interesting you know, trips or or whatever you wanna call it,
Speaker 1: e expositions. I went with my friend, paid a lot
Speaker 1: of money to one Island. He waited first for three
Speaker 1: hours and we had the time of our life.
Speaker 2: Did you shop anything?
Speaker 1: I bought my solone, very pretty evening bag. I see yeah, sure,
Speaker 1: pretty pretty pretty. It was very it's a very high
Speaker 1: end bag. It was reduced by seventy percent. Let me
Speaker 1: show it for the posterity. This is really pretty. I
Speaker 1: like it. But you know thet is it's a gorgeous place.
Speaker 1: It's a village. It's an outdoor village, and and and
Speaker 1: it's like being in the country two hundred years ago.
Speaker 1: But everything's brand doing gorgeous. All the cobblestoned you know,
Speaker 1: walkways and the beautiful little cottage looking houses. Everything was
Speaker 1: high end than gorgeous. And it was quiet because the
Speaker 1: middle of the week the weather wasn't great and we
Speaker 1: had the time of my life. Okay, so you know
Speaker 1: things that I always come up with something.
Speaker 2: Do you not find that it's a struggle with your
Speaker 2: like your mobility?
Speaker 1: Absolutely not, absolutely not. Of course I work with my
Speaker 1: role later. But my feet are perfect freedo, you're not.
Speaker 1: We walked for three hours in that whole village, you know,
Speaker 1: to know you know what I even have it?
Speaker 2: I think, I oh, yeah, sure, so as long as
Speaker 2: you have your.
Speaker 1: Wo yeah you see, these are all high end stores.
Speaker 1: Massoni Kurt Geiger, coach, Roberto Cavali, La Coste Vi, the Westwood, Longhamp,
Speaker 1: the North Face, Aquasara, sung Glass, Lululemon. I'd go to
Speaker 1: the North Face, and yeah, well the north there has
Speaker 1: a lot of jackets, you know, but you know I
Speaker 1: have enough jackets anyway. No, but I liked it. I
Speaker 1: saw it, and I just liked it. I really went
Speaker 1: to see the place. I wanted to check it out.
Speaker 1: I completely related. Yeah, yeah, yeah really, And I still
Speaker 1: have to going to Macy's has the beautiful flower Show,
Speaker 1: and my daughter went today. She wanted to take me.
Speaker 1: She wanted me to go in, but I says, no,
Speaker 1: I'm not giving a procot plee. So that was that.
Speaker 1: But you know, like I should still go. Of course,
Speaker 1: I'm telling you, I'm an adventurous person. You know. That's
Speaker 1: sometime they're do an overnight in the hospital, and you know,
Speaker 1: I can have a car coming back to Brooklyn. Sometimes
Speaker 1: they just stay there till ten instead of leaving at
Speaker 1: seven thirty eighth, And I go to Manhattan. I spend
Speaker 1: the day in Manhattan, go to a museum, I go
Speaker 1: to I you know, I go to I go to
Speaker 1: Brian Park. I sit there and I read. Then they
Speaker 1: have before the holidays have all these beautiful booths, these artists,
Speaker 1: you know. And and they have one in Grand Central,
Speaker 1: they have one Brian Park, and they have one a
Speaker 1: Union Square East, you know. And I got back. Wow,
Speaker 1: well my husband, my husband was such a fan. You
Speaker 1: let me do whatever I want. Is it makes you happy?
Speaker 1: Says go you ready? I'm ready. Okay, let's see what
Speaker 1: it looks like. Perfect, gorgeous. Oh gorgeous. I think we
Speaker 1: have to make it. Chafuni cancel? Okay, how do we
Speaker 1: get it out? I'll get it out, don't Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna give you a tree. We made a lot. I
Speaker 1: have to say good. We can give to everyone on YouTube,
Speaker 1: so keep I don't give the any don't give them
Speaker 1: my days because they won't have a drop left. We
Speaker 1: haven't tasted it yet, though.
Speaker 2: It smells so.
Speaker 1: Good, right, that's what it's supposed to do. Smell good
Speaker 1: of it. So let's wait over till the cools and
Speaker 1: you're nice. See I have I even said a very
Speaker 1: big shopping back for you. Wait a minutes and we'll
Speaker 1: see what happens. Okay, I have a question for you.
Speaker 2: Please, since you've shared so much, go ahead. Do you
Speaker 2: have any regrets in looking back in your life.
Speaker 1: I have one regret, but it doesn't haunt me. Why
Speaker 1: doesn't it haunt me? I'm I'm not such a I
Speaker 1: don't have so much self confidence. I think that you
Speaker 1: know that a mistake doesn't bother me. I was a
Speaker 1: very very good mother and a housewife. My kids were
Speaker 1: immaculately taking care of in every respect. You know. It
Speaker 1: was a very very functional house, and we had a
Speaker 1: very good home. You know, the relations you know, the
Speaker 1: relationship between my housing was very amicable. It was a
Speaker 1: peaceful house. But I focused too much on my perfectionism
Speaker 1: instead of spending more time, you know, giving my children
Speaker 1: quality time as the young children when they were you know.
Speaker 1: But you know, so when I see now my daughters,
Speaker 1: you know, they really spent quality time playing with their children,
Speaker 1: listening to the and I listened, you know. But when
Speaker 1: I think if I would have invested as much time
Speaker 1: in my perfectionism and all the craziness, you know, I
Speaker 1: don't know if they would be different. I have nice,
Speaker 1: good children. But I think now, you know, what was
Speaker 1: my what was my need to have everything be so perfect?
Speaker 1: You know, when I was in well, my house and
Speaker 1: my and my laundry and my children were dressed immaculately,
Speaker 1: and and I cooked, you know, every night. There was
Speaker 1: no shortcuts, never bought out, you know, never went to restaurants.
Speaker 1: I'm not saying we didn't treat the kids once in a while,
Speaker 1: but you know, I was very, very domesticated. And also
Speaker 1: I also was involved a lot in the community. I
Speaker 1: was involved when my children went to school with a
Speaker 1: ladies auxiliary, with the school program, with the cater and
Speaker 1: I went a lot, you know, collecting tadakka for the
Speaker 1: d shivas and the schools, you know. And I remember
Speaker 1: I once heard a speech from the tailor at Rabitson
Speaker 1: and you said, you know, mother's it's very very wonderful
Speaker 1: when you're doing hest and midfist, but the biggest hess
Speaker 1: it is that when children come home from school, be
Speaker 1: home and be patient, and don't run the hospital and
Speaker 1: don't cook, cook in the bigger colingn rooms, he says,
Speaker 1: you know. And that came back to haunt me later,
Speaker 1: you know. And I did a lot of that. I
Speaker 1: went out at night, you know, to weddings, you know,
Speaker 1: to collect money for the eshiva, for bigger column. And
Speaker 1: I was also very involved. I was the oldest daughter
Speaker 1: in my family. I had an older brother, and there
Speaker 1: were some issues, you know, among my siblings, and everybody
Speaker 1: came to me because I was the oldest, almost oldest,
Speaker 1: and I spent a tremendous amount of time helping my
Speaker 1: siblings when I should have been there a little more
Speaker 1: for my children. And you know, that's really my only regret.
Speaker 2: You strike me as the ultimate extrovert. You're like thriving,
Speaker 2: You're always going to weddings, You're going to things.
Speaker 1: Now, well, I'm not an introverted person by sure, but
Speaker 1: interesting left. I'm also a very private person to a
Speaker 1: certain extent. There are times and I don't want to
Speaker 1: see people for days, or I could live in an island,
Speaker 1: you know, in that sense. No, I you know, it's
Speaker 1: very stuper to me to say about myself, but I
Speaker 1: think I must have had a soft heart because all
Speaker 1: the things that I did was was you know, because
Speaker 1: I was. My thought was I'm helping other people. But
Speaker 1: the tale Revins said, charity in the home, you know.
Speaker 1: But when I found that, you know, But that's the
Speaker 1: only regret. But I'm telling you I never missed a pta.
Speaker 1: I never missed any kind of intervention when my children
Speaker 1: probab we went all out for my children's schools and
Speaker 1: my husband, I mean, he was fantastic. I had four
Speaker 1: boys to get tea sheebas and as you know a
Speaker 1: little bit of my family, there were the round hole
Speaker 1: in the square peg, you know, they didn't fit in
Speaker 1: right here, and it was really a lot of hard work.
Speaker 1: But my husband was a fab you know, like I
Speaker 1: feel in hindsight that my husband made up for it
Speaker 1: in a lot of ways. So that's why they turned out,
Speaker 1: you know, okay. And but other than that, I was
Speaker 1: very good to my parents only because I felt sorry
Speaker 1: for my mother. You know, my mother had canninder eleven children.
Speaker 1: My mother was also very, very domesticated. She wasn't that
Speaker 1: one of those strong women, you know, she worked hard,
Speaker 1: and so I was the very there for her as
Speaker 1: a child and as a grown up and as an
Speaker 1: older woman. And so I know that I didn't I
Speaker 1: didn't tune in enough to my children for selfish reasons,
Speaker 1: you know, So I did great. No, No, what I'm
Speaker 1: trying to say that I don't feel guilt in a
Speaker 1: way that you know, what did I do that I
Speaker 1: couldn't utilize my time? You know me, you know, I
Speaker 1: gave the others, you know, and I don't regret that,
Speaker 1: you know, and and but you know, but when I
Speaker 1: think now, if I would do it over again, I
Speaker 1: would do it a little differently.
Speaker 3: All right, Oh my god, oh my god.
Speaker 1: It's right, it's good. It is really good. Yeah. I
Speaker 1: think one thing next time, when you're going to do it,
Speaker 1: make the slices a little thiner with the potatoes. I think, yes,
Speaker 1: you know that you should you should feel that, you know,
Speaker 1: not the potatoes the main ingredient that you know, the
Speaker 1: eggs are also, you know, as prominent as the potatoes
Speaker 1: and the whole thing. This is the first time I
Speaker 1: have it with a cheese. Yes, you know, it's a
Speaker 1: different it's a different feeling and taste. My mother put
Speaker 1: bread crumbs on top soon she took it out of
Speaker 1: the oven, or when she served it before. And well,
Speaker 1: that also looks, you know, it looks like a nice finish.
Speaker 1: I do that when I make you know, a noodle
Speaker 1: coogle or exactly. That was the idea. That's good. This
Speaker 1: was the best. And the pummis you know. I did
Speaker 1: not tell Pearl Baby, really no, because I want I
Speaker 1: want them to I want proto god in YouTube and
Speaker 1: combat you.
Speaker 2: Okay, let's not tell them.
Speaker 1: I'm not telling them. Let's not tell them until to.
Speaker 3: Get a rocket crump in surprise.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and she said, and you didn't tell me about it.
Speaker 1: We talk every day, or you didn't tell me about it.
Speaker 1: It's perfect. Thank you Rocket Group. You don't let anybody
Speaker 1: do a hold up on Yeah, no, are you kidding?
Speaker 1: I will? I will buy them as come on, hold on,
Speaker 1: hold on, okay o, my god, I can not think
Speaker 1: this was thank you enough. Let me see it absolutely