WEBVTT 1 00:00:05.960 --> 00:00:09.919 I can't do this independently. The role later keeps me upright. 2 00:00:10.000 --> 00:00:11.800 It doesn't help me walk all it does, and it 3 00:00:11.800 --> 00:00:15.119 doesn't let me bend bend over. And you know how 4 00:00:15.160 --> 00:00:18.160 do people react to you walk everywhere with Well, they 5 00:00:18.199 --> 00:00:22.120 look poor woman walking with this contraption, And the sadder 6 00:00:22.160 --> 00:00:24.679 they look, the bigger my smile becomes. By the time 7 00:00:24.719 --> 00:00:28.600 we pass each other, we waved. This is ga Hi, 8 00:00:28.839 --> 00:00:33.799 how's everybody? We are going to make Rocott Crumpley. The 9 00:00:33.960 --> 00:00:37.240 English inflation of it is packed potatoes. But it's much 10 00:00:37.280 --> 00:00:40.320 more than packed potatoes. It's not potatoes in a brown bag, 11 00:00:41.039 --> 00:00:43.960 solicious potatoes baked in en oven with a lot of 12 00:00:44.039 --> 00:00:48.600 dairy goodies. How often do you cook? Me? Cook? I can, 13 00:00:51.679 --> 00:00:55.200 but I'll be very honest for myself, I never cook, 14 00:00:55.280 --> 00:00:57.759 except I make sure I have food for shops. Most 15 00:00:57.759 --> 00:01:01.280 of it is cooked by me. I'll buy some just 16 00:01:01.359 --> 00:01:04.760 you know, some additions. But I'm not a meat eater. 17 00:01:04.920 --> 00:01:08.640 I don't like meat, so I don't cook too much alone. 18 00:01:08.680 --> 00:01:12.120 I'm home alone, yes, and but you and me, if 19 00:01:12.120 --> 00:01:19.319 I dare I have peanut butter by myself? Yes? Is 20 00:01:19.359 --> 00:01:22.719 that sad? It's sad, But not because it's sad. It's 21 00:01:22.719 --> 00:01:25.159 sad because my husband is not here with me. But 22 00:01:25.280 --> 00:01:29.359 I read, and I read a difference between loneliness and solitude. 23 00:01:29.640 --> 00:01:31.840 And when I'm home for shopping, it's not about loneliness, 24 00:01:32.040 --> 00:01:33.760 you know. I like to be with myself. So I 25 00:01:33.799 --> 00:01:35.799 read a lot and I doven in between them. It'll 26 00:01:35.840 --> 00:01:37.640 takes me a couple of hours. And when I'm away, 27 00:01:38.239 --> 00:01:41.480 I have to adjust to other people's schedules, and I 28 00:01:41.519 --> 00:01:44.920 lose a tremendous amount of my time, which is reading, 29 00:01:45.000 --> 00:01:47.480 mostly in shops. So I just prefer to spend that home. 30 00:01:47.719 --> 00:01:50.159 But my family come, as my children come at all 31 00:01:50.200 --> 00:01:52.760 hours at all times. I'm alone, but I'm not lonely 32 00:01:53.040 --> 00:01:54.840 when it comes to sitting down by the mead alone. 33 00:01:54.840 --> 00:01:57.280 That's so very hard for me to to, you know, 34 00:01:57.359 --> 00:02:00.879 to live with. But I made it dough. Did you 35 00:02:00.920 --> 00:02:01.879 think of remarrying? 36 00:02:02.079 --> 00:02:02.400 Sorry? 37 00:02:02.439 --> 00:02:08.879 Absolutely never? Never? No, why not? Because truthfully, if I'm 38 00:02:08.919 --> 00:02:11.400 being very honest in fairness to the person, I would 39 00:02:11.400 --> 00:02:14.199 marry because I would compare everybody to who my husband 40 00:02:14.319 --> 00:02:18.120 was and wouldn't do them justice right, So it would 41 00:02:18.120 --> 00:02:21.960 not work. No, No, there's no way. My husband just 42 00:02:21.960 --> 00:02:25.000 says something so phenomenal. When I discussed it and we 43 00:02:25.080 --> 00:02:28.719 talked about his illness and his unfortunate demise, I asked 44 00:02:28.800 --> 00:02:30.319 him what am I going to do here without you? 45 00:02:30.960 --> 00:02:33.560 So he said, what do you mean you'll remarry? I says, no, 46 00:02:33.879 --> 00:02:37.919 never have to miss the cat So uh he said, 47 00:02:38.120 --> 00:02:42.240 well why not? I said, because I I I can't 48 00:02:42.240 --> 00:02:44.479 imagine living with anybody else. He says, Listen, he says, 49 00:02:44.520 --> 00:02:46.039 I want to tell you something. I don't know if 50 00:02:46.039 --> 00:02:48.439 you want to remarry, but if you do, please marry 51 00:02:48.479 --> 00:02:50.439 a rich man because I want him to give you 52 00:02:50.479 --> 00:02:52.800 everything that I wasn't able to give you. Wow. And 53 00:02:52.840 --> 00:02:55.080 there wasn't a single thing that I ever wanted from 54 00:02:55.159 --> 00:02:56.840 day one that I married him that I didn't have. 55 00:02:56.960 --> 00:03:01.159 So wow, So that was really not a correct statement 56 00:03:01.199 --> 00:03:06.520 at all. Wow. He Yeah, he was the gentlest, bestest, 57 00:03:07.000 --> 00:03:09.080 good hearted soul. Yeah. Yeah. 58 00:03:09.159 --> 00:03:10.759 Can we can we take a look around at the 59 00:03:10.800 --> 00:03:12.719 house you shared with him? How many years did you 60 00:03:12.719 --> 00:03:13.400 share this? 61 00:03:13.599 --> 00:03:16.560 When we were married for forty seven years? Wow, let's 62 00:03:16.599 --> 00:03:17.039 take a look. 63 00:03:17.080 --> 00:03:18.960 It's beautiful and it's a beautiful day. 64 00:03:19.240 --> 00:03:23.360 This is your china closet, yes, which is almost empty. 65 00:03:23.560 --> 00:03:26.080 I gave all my stuff to my children, ninety percent 66 00:03:26.159 --> 00:03:29.159 of it just left the enough silver or glass that 67 00:03:29.199 --> 00:03:32.599 I need to celebrate. Chops and Jantif this is my 68 00:03:33.280 --> 00:03:37.520 uh siblings at one of my son's wedding. That's my 69 00:03:37.680 --> 00:03:41.960 father and my father in law. Lower down is my grandfather. 70 00:03:42.199 --> 00:03:45.360 She was my mother's father. He survived the war, and 71 00:03:45.400 --> 00:03:47.599 he came to America a little later than all of us. 72 00:03:48.280 --> 00:03:51.319 And he was the sweetest, sweetest old man, and he 73 00:03:51.439 --> 00:03:54.199 had a fabulous relationship with us, and we loved him 74 00:03:54.240 --> 00:03:57.560 to pieces. He was almost the only grandfather in Williamsburg. 75 00:03:58.159 --> 00:04:01.000 He died very suddenly in one minute, when he was 76 00:04:01.000 --> 00:04:03.039 eighty one years old. He was not an old man, 77 00:04:03.919 --> 00:04:06.439 and he was a very, very beloved person. So all 78 00:04:06.520 --> 00:04:08.240 my children had a great grandfather. 79 00:04:08.439 --> 00:04:09.240 Do you sit out here? 80 00:04:09.639 --> 00:04:12.400 Yeah? Sure, absolutely Java this morning. I first have a 81 00:04:12.400 --> 00:04:15.960 coffee here, of course, when the weather permitting, and then 82 00:04:16.120 --> 00:04:18.360 I look around a little bit, you know, yet did 83 00:04:18.360 --> 00:04:21.000 see watching over the beautiful children and clothing? Oh? I 84 00:04:21.120 --> 00:04:23.160 love it? And all the men who go to chulaid. 85 00:04:25.040 --> 00:04:26.879 Do you know who is like late? 86 00:04:27.360 --> 00:04:29.000 I don't know. I don't know that. I'm not interested. 87 00:04:29.079 --> 00:04:30.879 I don't want to know us or even in my head, 88 00:04:31.399 --> 00:04:34.040 But I just find it amazing to see, you know, 89 00:04:35.040 --> 00:04:37.839 when everybody's almost coming home and people are nicually walking 90 00:04:37.879 --> 00:04:41.639 to shield, you know, very very slowly and very comfortably. 91 00:04:41.680 --> 00:04:46.040 And no, it's just interesting to observe. And then I doven. 92 00:04:46.279 --> 00:04:48.319 I also dimen on the porch with the weather is nice, 93 00:04:49.160 --> 00:04:54.240 and then I go and I read, and then I 94 00:04:54.279 --> 00:04:57.120 get ready for my meal, and then I finish part 95 00:04:57.160 --> 00:04:59.000 of it, and then I read again. This goes out 96 00:04:59.040 --> 00:05:01.079 until about four and the thrown every shoves. 97 00:05:01.240 --> 00:05:03.279 I'm sure your kids would happily move in if you 98 00:05:03.360 --> 00:05:04.000 wanted them to. 99 00:05:04.120 --> 00:05:05.800 I wouldn't want I wouldn't want them to because I 100 00:05:05.800 --> 00:05:07.920 don't think it's fair. They all have families and children. 101 00:05:08.000 --> 00:05:10.560 They deserve to have their comfort, you know, and their 102 00:05:10.600 --> 00:05:13.199 space in their own comfort zone for the children. But 103 00:05:13.240 --> 00:05:15.879 they come in the summer from when the clock has 104 00:05:15.959 --> 00:05:18.680 moved there come every shop this afternoon. They have a 105 00:05:18.680 --> 00:05:22.959 shallow sheetas in my house. And when the clock has 106 00:05:23.040 --> 00:05:26.959 moved back, when multi shavis comes becomes very long and 107 00:05:27.000 --> 00:05:30.199 shaves is short, they come fear for Abdullah and then 108 00:05:30.199 --> 00:05:32.480 they stay here from Avamalka. They eat, you know, they 109 00:05:32.519 --> 00:05:35.759 snack and they have fun. But we get to see 110 00:05:35.800 --> 00:05:39.160 them every week, almost every week, every Wednesday, my children 111 00:05:39.160 --> 00:05:43.839 who live for come up to visit. That's like carved stone. Well, 112 00:05:43.839 --> 00:05:46.680 my husband was alive and even my oldest son used 113 00:05:46.680 --> 00:05:49.279 to come in from Manhattan and we all got together 114 00:05:49.319 --> 00:05:51.519 and we had all these big pow wows and you know, 115 00:05:51.720 --> 00:05:58.120 the fun discussions and the sibling arguments and it was 116 00:05:58.199 --> 00:06:00.680 just wonderful. But now the ones who live close by 117 00:06:00.800 --> 00:06:04.199 still come here. And that's basically my interaction a whole 118 00:06:04.240 --> 00:06:06.959 week with my family. How many kids do you have seven? 119 00:06:07.279 --> 00:06:12.600 How many grandkids you really want the truth? Yes, forty 120 00:06:12.959 --> 00:06:17.000 forty nine horror, and I have almost that much great granded. 121 00:06:19.079 --> 00:06:22.199 Do you know all their names? It's impossible, absolutely really 122 00:06:22.319 --> 00:06:25.120 absolutely so every time baby is born, and make sure 123 00:06:25.120 --> 00:06:28.439 I know the name, and I remember the name, and 124 00:06:28.759 --> 00:06:31.680 and I try to focus on it because I don't 125 00:06:31.720 --> 00:06:34.199 want them to come to my house and you know, 126 00:06:34.360 --> 00:06:36.319 and I have no idea. Tell me what's your name? 127 00:06:36.360 --> 00:06:39.399 Who do you belong? Yeah? That was my grandparents. I 128 00:06:39.439 --> 00:06:43.279 do know all their names so far, so far, Wait 129 00:06:43.360 --> 00:06:46.040 till we get to one hundred. I don't think I 130 00:06:46.079 --> 00:06:52.360 want to be around and twenty comes, you know, in 131 00:06:52.399 --> 00:06:55.439 the meantime, But other than that. What am I going 132 00:06:55.519 --> 00:06:58.879 to do here? Too long to be by myself? You'll 133 00:06:58.920 --> 00:07:04.000 remarry and yeah, me and you? That was I think 134 00:07:04.040 --> 00:07:07.160 you're not a nice thing to say in public. No, no, no, 135 00:07:07.959 --> 00:07:10.920 I am good on my own. I'm not lonely either. No, really, 136 00:07:10.920 --> 00:07:13.600 I have to tell you, there's no way in the 137 00:07:13.600 --> 00:07:16.720 world I wouldn't compare the nicest person to my husband, 138 00:07:16.759 --> 00:07:19.759 and I couldn't accept anybody second second best. You know, 139 00:07:19.839 --> 00:07:24.240 he was just so so unusual. Look across the street. 140 00:07:24.680 --> 00:07:28.160 They're also that those three porches also have young women 141 00:07:28.199 --> 00:07:31.399 sitting out there with little children, and it's just a 142 00:07:31.519 --> 00:07:33.759 very nice way to spend chib this morning and just 143 00:07:33.879 --> 00:07:37.639 have what to look around at. That's all. Yeah, my 144 00:07:37.720 --> 00:07:41.120 children are going to be hysterical because they always want 145 00:07:41.160 --> 00:07:43.279 me to make rocket Crumpy during the year. They love 146 00:07:43.319 --> 00:07:45.800 it as a snack, and I don't want to do it. 147 00:07:46.240 --> 00:07:49.639 I'm just too lazy. Now when they find out that 148 00:07:49.680 --> 00:07:52.480 I made more from treeta, oh my gosh, I will 149 00:07:52.600 --> 00:07:55.560 be in trouble. Let's not tell them. I won't tell them. 150 00:07:55.560 --> 00:07:57.519 You're right. But they were here, yes, and I said 151 00:07:57.519 --> 00:08:01.120 I'm making rocket Crumpy tomorrow. They all said they're coming 152 00:08:01.160 --> 00:08:04.720 this evening that says, don't you dare us done? It's 153 00:08:04.759 --> 00:08:08.120 our show exactly. So let me have the potatoes. Let's 154 00:08:08.160 --> 00:08:11.040 go to the potatoes. Okay, perfect. 155 00:08:12.000 --> 00:08:14.160 So it's about having nicely. 156 00:08:13.920 --> 00:08:19.120 Shaped even potatoes. At least the circumsis circum the circumference 157 00:08:19.160 --> 00:08:22.920 should be, you know, even so we don't have gaps. 158 00:08:23.240 --> 00:08:25.600 Or we're not peeling it afterwards. 159 00:08:25.680 --> 00:08:28.560 If you peel it before, by the time it's cooked 160 00:08:28.680 --> 00:08:31.639 very well, it's going to become too soft and it's 161 00:08:31.639 --> 00:08:34.960 going to fall apart. You know, the slices won't stay, 162 00:08:35.559 --> 00:08:38.320 won't stay whole. So I think we have too many potatoes. 163 00:08:38.320 --> 00:08:40.799 You don't have to cook all the potatoes, Okay, I don't. 164 00:08:41.519 --> 00:08:44.039 I see. I never made such a moments or another that. Okay, 165 00:08:44.200 --> 00:08:49.200 this is Shailah like everybody does. Hangs it up. It's 166 00:08:49.200 --> 00:08:52.879 supposed to be a prevention against my visiting your house. 167 00:08:53.399 --> 00:08:56.600 Tell us again. Yes, well, there was a we all know. 168 00:08:56.679 --> 00:08:59.559 Actually his your side was this past week. There was 169 00:08:59.559 --> 00:09:02.600 a very big scholar and a very big Toaldic and 170 00:09:02.720 --> 00:09:07.320 Hungary in the city Caristeer. He was extremely into helping 171 00:09:07.360 --> 00:09:11.480 other people, feeding them all the time. And actually what 172 00:09:11.600 --> 00:09:13.639 I heard and I'm sure it's true that when he 173 00:09:13.720 --> 00:09:15.399 was sick, and when he was a last of life, 174 00:09:15.519 --> 00:09:17.879 he was laying but very ill, and he sent messages 175 00:09:17.919 --> 00:09:20.320 to the people in the kitchen, please make sure that 176 00:09:20.399 --> 00:09:22.919 all the people they're probably going to be coming to 177 00:09:23.000 --> 00:09:25.440 a funeral soon, and make sure that there's enough food 178 00:09:25.480 --> 00:09:28.519 cook that they shouldn't, you know, be hungry. So and 179 00:09:28.559 --> 00:09:30.279 there was some I don't know if it's an old 180 00:09:30.279 --> 00:09:35.799 wife stale, but I'm comfortable believing it that somehow they 181 00:09:35.799 --> 00:09:37.360 once hung up a picture of him, and all the 182 00:09:37.440 --> 00:09:41.879 mie scattered, So everybody's hanging up pictures. My kids are 183 00:09:41.960 --> 00:09:43.600 laughing and making fun of me, but I don't care. 184 00:09:43.639 --> 00:09:46.759 It doesn't hurt to have a picture of It's because 185 00:09:46.759 --> 00:09:48.759 some people think it's an old wife stale, but we 186 00:09:48.799 --> 00:09:52.639 don't know. But the fact is I Borokasham, Thank goodness, 187 00:09:52.639 --> 00:09:56.080 I don't have any mice. Do I tribute to is official. 188 00:09:56.159 --> 00:09:58.919 But also that the exterminated spent two days closing up 189 00:09:58.960 --> 00:10:03.279 my os. So you know, there's a very famous saying. 190 00:10:03.360 --> 00:10:04.960 You know, I'll do the work and you'll do the 191 00:10:05.000 --> 00:10:08.799 mas and toy them, you know. So I did the 192 00:10:08.840 --> 00:10:11.080 work with the exterminator of silo does the math. And 193 00:10:12.120 --> 00:10:15.000 I want to tell you something, Rita. I know a 194 00:10:15.039 --> 00:10:18.919 lot of women who had nice husbands, but in every 195 00:10:19.000 --> 00:10:22.600 single way, you know, just from their discussions. Okay, this 196 00:10:22.679 --> 00:10:28.200 is perfect. I in all my many many years that 197 00:10:28.240 --> 00:10:30.480 I knew them and I knew of their husbands, I 198 00:10:30.559 --> 00:10:34.240 never I never heard from my friends and things that 199 00:10:34.279 --> 00:10:37.120 I knew about my husband. You know, they were very 200 00:10:37.159 --> 00:10:39.559 I didn't know anybody who had that kind of quality. 201 00:10:39.960 --> 00:10:42.080 You know, you don't like meat, So what do you 202 00:10:42.159 --> 00:10:47.720 eat you stay in such good shape? I don't know. Now. 203 00:10:47.759 --> 00:10:50.600 I had for lunch my daughter happened to have brought 204 00:10:50.639 --> 00:10:52.639 me shoes, hair. Last night you bought me very delicious 205 00:10:52.679 --> 00:10:56.039 potato salad and I had a slice half a slice 206 00:10:56.080 --> 00:11:00.799 of salmon. So that was fun, you know. And I 207 00:11:00.879 --> 00:11:06.000 make myself. I love split pea soup. Oh that sounds good. 208 00:11:06.320 --> 00:11:10.000 Yes, if I get Most women say you can keep 209 00:11:10.039 --> 00:11:12.360 your figure past men and falls. 210 00:11:13.080 --> 00:11:15.360 Listen. I tried very hard, and I worked very hard, 211 00:11:16.200 --> 00:11:18.799 and I was totally obsessed with weight all my life. 212 00:11:19.120 --> 00:11:21.960 Really yeah, I tell you why. When I was a 213 00:11:22.000 --> 00:11:24.679 young kid, I was never fat cause I had a 214 00:11:24.679 --> 00:11:27.360 good figure. I have a long waist and I had 215 00:11:27.399 --> 00:11:30.200 a long neck, and but I was a big person. 216 00:11:30.480 --> 00:11:32.039 And when I was about twelve years old, my mother 217 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:35.240 took me to the doctor. I wasn't feeling well, and 218 00:11:35.600 --> 00:11:37.600 y you know, my mother went out while he was 219 00:11:37.600 --> 00:11:40.279 examining me. And then he tells me, says, you know, Giddle, 220 00:11:41.080 --> 00:11:42.960 you're such a good looking girl. Why are you fat? 221 00:11:45.000 --> 00:11:47.600 So I thought to myself, you know, I didn't care 222 00:11:47.639 --> 00:11:50.159 about what he said about the fat, but I think 223 00:11:50.279 --> 00:11:52.919 if he called me good looking girl, I must be good. 224 00:11:52.960 --> 00:11:54.600 Nobody ever told me I was good looking, you know. 225 00:11:55.519 --> 00:11:58.519 And and so I said, so what should I do, 226 00:11:58.519 --> 00:12:01.720 Doctor Diamond? I love to eat. He says, okay, says 227 00:12:01.720 --> 00:12:05.080 I'll give you something. And imagine, Frieda, you're talking about 228 00:12:05.080 --> 00:12:11.799 something that happened probably sixty four sixty five years ago. Mm. 229 00:12:11.799 --> 00:12:14.120 And he gave me a prescription for some sort of medication, 230 00:12:14.600 --> 00:12:18.279 really yes, to reduce my appetite like adderall. I don't 231 00:12:18.320 --> 00:12:19.960 remember what it was. I've no idea. All I know 232 00:12:20.080 --> 00:12:21.720 is that it was a controlled drug and you didn't 233 00:12:21.720 --> 00:12:24.519 need a license for it, and it cost to two dollars. 234 00:12:24.519 --> 00:12:26.519 And I didn't tell my mother. I went to the 235 00:12:26.600 --> 00:12:32.399 drug store and I got the medication and I took 236 00:12:32.440 --> 00:12:36.200 it and I became so abnormally hyper that I went 237 00:12:36.240 --> 00:12:39.000 through them with My mother had no idea why. But 238 00:12:39.039 --> 00:12:43.159 he also had a pen pal in England who I 239 00:12:43.200 --> 00:12:47.320 was fourteen years old, not even who who. I wrote 240 00:12:47.320 --> 00:12:48.879 her about it and she says, get to send me 241 00:12:48.919 --> 00:12:51.960 the medication. So I went to the pharmacy and asked 242 00:12:51.960 --> 00:12:54.039 for refill. But I imagine I hadn't even used it 243 00:12:54.080 --> 00:12:55.759 wasn't even thirty days past. They gave me ser this. 244 00:12:56.120 --> 00:12:57.960 They gave me refillm I sent it to London to 245 00:12:58.000 --> 00:12:59.960 my cousin. She was my cousin, my pen pal also 246 00:13:00.759 --> 00:13:03.120 and her mother called up my mother. Good, my mother's 247 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:05.600 bird's cousin. She says, what did you get to send 248 00:13:05.639 --> 00:13:07.600 to my daughter? Ki? So my mother says, I'm not 249 00:13:07.639 --> 00:13:09.919 get what you're talking about. Yes, yes, get to send 250 00:13:10.000 --> 00:13:17.519 some medication. My daughter's off the wall. So the mystimulants absolutely. 251 00:13:18.399 --> 00:13:20.080 And then I had to tell my mother the truth, 252 00:13:21.600 --> 00:13:23.120 and my mother said she's gonna call it back to 253 00:13:23.240 --> 00:13:25.200 darme that I says, don't you dear, he didn't tell 254 00:13:25.240 --> 00:13:27.879 me not to tell you? And I says, the anyway 255 00:13:28.000 --> 00:13:29.559 does them? To make a long story short, of cause 256 00:13:29.559 --> 00:13:31.120 my mother threw into the coverage that with the end 257 00:13:31.120 --> 00:13:35.440 of my story. But up until the day, I always 258 00:13:35.440 --> 00:13:38.639 struggled Wah. I always wanted to be skinny, and I 259 00:13:38.759 --> 00:13:42.519 was skinny most of my life. But there were two 260 00:13:42.559 --> 00:13:45.960 things that I struggled with. But I was skinny, I 261 00:13:46.120 --> 00:13:49.600 starved and every time I ate something which I shouldn't have, 262 00:13:49.799 --> 00:13:52.279 I had such guilt, Yeah, that I didn't enjoy my 263 00:13:52.320 --> 00:13:56.159 food ever. Yeah, and it kept me back from socializing. Yeah, 264 00:13:56.200 --> 00:13:57.960 you know, because if I went someplace and there was 265 00:13:58.000 --> 00:14:01.080 delicious food, you know. I remember I was a class 266 00:14:01.080 --> 00:14:04.000 hostess for Bicker Island party in Pupa for many many years. 267 00:14:04.440 --> 00:14:07.759 That is beautiful party the first day sleep hass you know, 268 00:14:08.320 --> 00:14:10.159 and I was my class's host and I had to 269 00:14:10.200 --> 00:14:12.480 go there and not touch a morsel off And everything 270 00:14:12.519 --> 00:14:15.960 was dairy, the most delicious cheesecakes and blints and everything. 271 00:14:17.120 --> 00:14:18.720 And so most of the time I looked for an 272 00:14:18.720 --> 00:14:21.480 excuse not to go because I knew that self control 273 00:14:21.519 --> 00:14:23.720 was gonna be so much difficult to me. And at 274 00:14:23.759 --> 00:14:25.519 the end of the day it was felt imagine I 275 00:14:25.559 --> 00:14:27.639 missed out and said you good, delicious, you know. So 276 00:14:27.879 --> 00:14:30.720 this was a struggle all my life. At one point 277 00:14:31.559 --> 00:14:36.279 I s developed terrible, terrible pain my whole body. It's 278 00:14:36.279 --> 00:14:40.200 called fibermyalgia. Yeah, it's it's it's it's an order immune disease, 279 00:14:41.120 --> 00:14:45.519 and there there's really almost no cure for it. And 280 00:14:45.600 --> 00:14:49.759 I was suffering tremendously and the doctor gave me a 281 00:14:49.799 --> 00:14:52.759 pregnance on which is a steroid, and of course it 282 00:14:52.840 --> 00:14:56.159 made me feel much better. But I started gaining weight 283 00:14:57.360 --> 00:15:02.039 and then I developed chronic critigue syndrome. Wow to those 284 00:15:02.039 --> 00:15:05.080 an ordinance, and that was also a disaster. And so 285 00:15:05.120 --> 00:15:07.519 I was on the spreaduce someone for a year and 286 00:15:07.600 --> 00:15:09.720 I gave a lot of weight and I didn't eat 287 00:15:09.720 --> 00:15:12.000 more much. It just blew me up terribly and I 288 00:15:12.080 --> 00:15:15.480 was miserable. And then one day I decided, you know what, 289 00:15:16.360 --> 00:15:19.000 too bad to pain. I'd rather suffer. I don't wanna 290 00:15:19.039 --> 00:15:22.120 die in all of that woman, you know. Wow, So 291 00:15:22.600 --> 00:15:28.879 I I weaved myself off the present zone. Wyah. And 292 00:15:28.960 --> 00:15:34.360 you know I suffered, but the weight didn't go. The 293 00:15:34.360 --> 00:15:36.600 weight didn't go. No, I was not able to lose 294 00:15:36.679 --> 00:15:38.480 weight on me. Whatever I did, you know, pound here 295 00:15:38.480 --> 00:15:40.840 and a pound did there? Was I It was terrible. 296 00:15:41.320 --> 00:15:45.240 So then I went on a very very strict diet, 297 00:15:45.759 --> 00:15:48.159 and I lost sixty pounds. 298 00:15:48.360 --> 00:15:52.159 Aw, you're definitely slimmer than you were in your youth. 299 00:15:52.919 --> 00:15:54.600 I'm not slimmer than I was when I got married. 300 00:15:54.600 --> 00:15:56.399 I'll show you a picture of me in my wedding dress, 301 00:15:56.440 --> 00:16:01.279 you know, but I'm I'm slimmer now than I I was. 302 00:16:01.639 --> 00:16:03.600 I was December when I was very young, you know. 303 00:16:04.200 --> 00:16:04.960 Yeah. 304 00:16:05.000 --> 00:16:07.320 And you know, if I'll show you some pictures of 305 00:16:07.320 --> 00:16:09.039 me and my children's wait and I always you know, 306 00:16:09.080 --> 00:16:11.919 I was, I looked very good, you know. But those 307 00:16:12.279 --> 00:16:14.919 those sixty pounds that I lost, no matter what I did, 308 00:16:15.000 --> 00:16:18.120 I could not get rid of it, you know. And 309 00:16:18.679 --> 00:16:20.919 so but fine, And then then my husband got sick, 310 00:16:21.320 --> 00:16:24.639 and then of course I didn't lose it because we 311 00:16:24.679 --> 00:16:27.279 didn't eat normal. I didn't cooclean in the hospital every day, 312 00:16:27.519 --> 00:16:29.240 and before we came home, either I went into the 313 00:16:29.240 --> 00:16:32.200 big home room and I got myself a a bagel 314 00:16:32.240 --> 00:16:38.679 sandwich or I or I or came home and bought something, 315 00:16:38.720 --> 00:16:40.120 you know, out So. 316 00:16:40.080 --> 00:16:45.240 Can I ask why you you have uh a roll later? 317 00:16:45.360 --> 00:16:49.879 Why you walk with a because a bm it's a ferrari. 318 00:16:50.200 --> 00:16:54.480 It's a ferrari. Because when I had chronic fatigue syndrome. 319 00:16:55.200 --> 00:16:57.879 I I was sick for about ten years and it 320 00:16:58.000 --> 00:17:02.399 was very very sour cream it was and the cream cheese, 321 00:17:02.399 --> 00:17:07.920 and it was very very bad. And so I spent 322 00:17:08.599 --> 00:17:10.359 I don't remember if it was eight or ten years 323 00:17:10.359 --> 00:17:14.039 of my life. I spent sitting on the couch. I 324 00:17:14.079 --> 00:17:16.200 got up in the morning to me and my husband 325 00:17:16.200 --> 00:17:20.240 would barely manage to get me dressed and drag me down. 326 00:17:20.279 --> 00:17:22.559 I had a car taking me to Williamsburg every day 327 00:17:22.599 --> 00:17:27.279 to work, and I sat at work. I was working 328 00:17:27.279 --> 00:17:30.279 on a computer, and I came home and I sat 329 00:17:30.359 --> 00:17:33.039 on a couch like a bump on a log, every 330 00:17:33.079 --> 00:17:35.559 single day of the week. I'm telling you, I don't 331 00:17:35.559 --> 00:17:38.119 remember how many years it was, but many many years. 332 00:17:38.680 --> 00:17:43.799 And I damaged my The core of my body, the 333 00:17:43.880 --> 00:17:46.440 muscles and my core of my body were very very damaged. 334 00:17:46.519 --> 00:17:49.720 No access. Before that. I spent years and years. We 335 00:17:49.720 --> 00:17:52.480 were just discussing with fake and Pearl. We walked every 336 00:17:52.559 --> 00:17:55.559 single night. We were the first brisk walkers, and we 337 00:17:55.599 --> 00:17:59.920 did it for many many years besides Tish above night 338 00:18:00.000 --> 00:18:02.119 and Kipper Night every single night of there, you know, 339 00:18:02.599 --> 00:18:05.400 and we were very fit. And then I just stopped 340 00:18:05.400 --> 00:18:09.640 moving and then this part of my body, the core 341 00:18:09.799 --> 00:18:13.720 of my body, became very very damaged. The muscles completely 342 00:18:13.759 --> 00:18:17.000 room and my back is perfect. I went to nurologists 343 00:18:17.000 --> 00:18:20.200 and spine specialists. My back is thousand percent perfect, nine hundred. 344 00:18:20.720 --> 00:18:24.440 This is completely damaged. This part of the body helps 345 00:18:24.440 --> 00:18:27.759 the spine upright. You know, it's just the spine. Since 346 00:18:27.799 --> 00:18:32.599 this is not working, I can't do this independently, you see. 347 00:18:32.960 --> 00:18:35.480 You know. It's like like you're trying to peel potatoes 348 00:18:35.480 --> 00:18:38.160 with one hand, so you're holding you understand, holding the 349 00:18:38.200 --> 00:18:41.880 peel and the potato together doesn't work. So after about 350 00:18:42.079 --> 00:18:45.359 five steps or fifty seconds, I feel where my chest 351 00:18:45.400 --> 00:18:48.079 is pushing up to my lungs. See I'm already starting 352 00:18:48.079 --> 00:18:50.599 to get out of breath now. Ah see. So the 353 00:18:51.079 --> 00:18:53.920 role later keeps me upright. It doesn't help me walk. 354 00:18:54.119 --> 00:18:56.559 All it does is it doesn't let me bend over, 355 00:18:56.799 --> 00:19:00.119 bend over, and you know, and that's it, and that's 356 00:19:00.160 --> 00:19:02.440 how you get around all. 357 00:19:02.319 --> 00:19:04.880 Over you're everywhere you're going to Manhattan. 358 00:19:05.240 --> 00:19:07.200 I want to tell you something. My lab where used 359 00:19:07.359 --> 00:19:09.759 you know, where I used to go on Manhattan was 360 00:19:09.839 --> 00:19:12.240 on Seventh Avenue and fifty seventh Street, right on the 361 00:19:12.240 --> 00:19:16.480 corner there was a train station with an elevator, and 362 00:19:16.519 --> 00:19:18.839 so at the corner I got into the elevator. When 363 00:19:18.880 --> 00:19:23.759 the weather was nice, I would I would start walking 364 00:19:23.839 --> 00:19:26.359 on the corner of Seventh Avenue fifty seventh and I 365 00:19:26.400 --> 00:19:28.680 would walk to the next station, and the next station 366 00:19:29.240 --> 00:19:31.400 and the next station, And as long as I was 367 00:19:31.440 --> 00:19:33.799 able to walk and the weather was nice, I would walk. 368 00:19:34.319 --> 00:19:37.559 And I would sometimes walk twenty twenty to twenty four blocks. 369 00:19:37.759 --> 00:19:39.720 I remember recently I happened to have been there with 370 00:19:39.880 --> 00:19:42.160 you with my roll. Later, of course, only with my 371 00:19:42.240 --> 00:19:45.960 roll there I would walk. I would walk, and by 372 00:19:45.960 --> 00:19:48.319 each station I said, no, I can go further, and 373 00:19:48.319 --> 00:19:50.640 I went from fifty seven seven to ten and seven 374 00:19:50.799 --> 00:19:52.319 talk about forty seven blocks STREETA. 375 00:19:52.480 --> 00:19:55.119 How do people react to you walking everywhere. 376 00:19:54.640 --> 00:19:57.039 With Well, they look, But I want to tell you 377 00:19:57.079 --> 00:20:00.359 something I try very hard. That people sometimes have very 378 00:20:00.359 --> 00:20:03.119 sad look poor you know, I look okay, I'm dressed, okay, 379 00:20:03.279 --> 00:20:06.960 you know, poor woman walking with this contraption, And the 380 00:20:07.000 --> 00:20:09.720 sadder they look, the bigger my smile becomes. By the 381 00:20:09.799 --> 00:20:13.440 time we pass each other a wave, it becomes okay. 382 00:20:13.480 --> 00:20:16.079 Now what I need is this. I don't remember if 383 00:20:16.119 --> 00:20:19.000 it was cotta cheese or not. Okay, we'll do it without. 384 00:20:19.039 --> 00:20:20.799 And if you have a problem, you can eat a 385 00:20:20.960 --> 00:20:24.359 teaspoon of cotta cheese. 386 00:20:25.039 --> 00:20:28.880 It's not easy to cook with someone shoving a camera 387 00:20:28.920 --> 00:20:29.480 in your face. 388 00:20:29.640 --> 00:20:32.240 Right, it doesn't bother me. I mean you're not in 389 00:20:32.240 --> 00:20:37.119 my way. Doing pretty good, it's looking good. When do 390 00:20:37.160 --> 00:20:39.759 we put the cream cheese? Next leap? Then we get 391 00:20:39.799 --> 00:20:43.279 another layer of potatoes? No, here, we get another cream cheese, 392 00:20:43.319 --> 00:20:47.119 Then we get another layer of potatoes. This is this 393 00:20:47.240 --> 00:20:52.960 is mega h this is mega Yeah. This is exactly 394 00:20:53.319 --> 00:20:55.319 how much saltier you'll have to give it me on 395 00:20:55.359 --> 00:20:57.759 my clean hand, because otherwise it's going to still give 396 00:20:57.799 --> 00:21:02.480 me just how about that? Just this much? No, no, no, no, 397 00:21:02.519 --> 00:21:06.279 let's way too little. Free Okay, more and more and more. 398 00:21:06.799 --> 00:21:08.119 I'm not gonna put the whole thing I need to 399 00:21:08.160 --> 00:21:20.640 have it. What about spices. I'm gonna put a little 400 00:21:20.640 --> 00:21:24.880 white pepper. Okay. Now what we're gonna do is lift 401 00:21:24.920 --> 00:21:33.279