Speaker 1: I used to think that the smartest thing was keeping
Speaker 1: your goals private into yourself. I've learned that the right
Speaker 1: people can change everything. Welcome to the Transformation Station podcast.
Speaker 1: I'm Christina, owner, operator, and founder of the Transformation Station,
Speaker 1: and this is where we talk about getting stronger while
Speaker 1: navigating real life. If you're trying to stay consistent through
Speaker 1: the ups and the downs and everywhere else in between,
Speaker 1: this is for you. I've been thinking a lot about
Speaker 1: how people say, keep your goals private, don't tell anybody
Speaker 1: what you're doing, move in silence, and I can from
Speaker 1: a different perspective, I can understand why people say that.
Speaker 1: I was talking about the Jenny Jones talk show the
Speaker 1: other day with Coach Nikki on the last podcast episode,
Speaker 1: and it has like that geeked to chic effect. But
Speaker 1: I get it because not everyone deserves that access to
Speaker 1: what your vision is. But I also do think that
Speaker 1: there is such a distinct difference between protecting your peace
Speaker 1: and hiding your growth, and alongside that also getting the
Speaker 1: support that we need and sometimes the support that we.
Speaker 2: Need and love.
Speaker 1: I do believe that when you share your goals with
Speaker 1: the right people, that's when things can really truly start
Speaker 1: to shift again. Having that support in your corner can
Speaker 1: mean everything, and sometimes that's like a make or break too,
Speaker 1: because when you're around people of excellence, people who are
Speaker 1: actually I call it in their own lane. They're putting
Speaker 1: in their time, they're putting in the work, it pulls
Speaker 1: something out of you. And I see this circulate online
Speaker 1: all the time too, like between like the work hard
Speaker 1: and silence disappear for six months. And then there's also
Speaker 1: that version that says, I have never met anyone doing
Speaker 1: more than me that would criticize me. So I've seen
Speaker 1: those two things on the side of the different spectrums,
Speaker 1: and that second one I do believe in that because
Speaker 1: like when you're around people that are also doing what
Speaker 1: they need to do for themselves, it makes it it
Speaker 1: feel possible, it makes it feel like your goals are real,
Speaker 1: and it's that kind of environment that matters. And I
Speaker 1: think that's more than what people would like to admit,
Speaker 1: because like when you go to work and you tell
Speaker 1: people like, oh, this is what I'm doing, and then
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, it seems like you're boasting, like oh,
Speaker 1: that person thinks they're so great or this person thinks
Speaker 1: they're better than everybody. But if someone is truly happy
Speaker 1: in their own lives and their own success, I am
Speaker 1: a firm believer that those people are going to be
Speaker 1: there to support you.
Speaker 2: And to cheer you on.
Speaker 1: And that's why, like people like Christina, you're everybody's cheerleader.
Speaker 2: Yeah I am.
Speaker 1: I'm secure in who I am as a person, and
Speaker 1: I'm secure in my own lane. And the people that
Speaker 1: react badly to your goals are literally the people who
Speaker 1: aren't in their own lane because they're too busy looking
Speaker 1: over your side of the fence at.
Speaker 2: I like to think of it like home improvement.
Speaker 1: I made a Tim the tool Man tailor reference in
Speaker 1: the gym the other day, and I'm like, I was
Speaker 1: fixing something and they're.
Speaker 2: Like, oh wow.
Speaker 1: I'm like, yeah, I'm Tim the tool Man Taylor. And
Speaker 1: then someone's like, I hope nothing blows up in your
Speaker 1: face something along the lines. But it was much nicer
Speaker 1: than that. But I laughed, and I'm like, you know what,
Speaker 1: I'm not used to being Tim the tool Man Taylor.
Speaker 1: I'm used to being Wilson, the man that talks to
Speaker 1: the neighbors on the other side of the fence.
Speaker 2: But that's when.
Speaker 1: Someone's not in their own lane, right, They're too busy
Speaker 1: looking over at your your grass on the other side
Speaker 1: of the fence. They're not focused on building themselves. So
Speaker 1: sometimes when you talk about those things and what your
Speaker 1: goals are, those people can really get uncomfortable when someone
Speaker 1: else is actually focusing on what it is that they
Speaker 1: want to do. And that to me, like, don't shrink
Speaker 1: because of that. That's your sign to keep going. And
Speaker 1: maybe those people you've learned if you already always tell people,
Speaker 1: like not always tell people, but like if you tell
Speaker 1: someone like, oh, this is what I want to do,
Speaker 1: this is my goal, and they come and they shit
Speaker 1: on your goals and your dreams and they make you
Speaker 1: feel like you're small, that's not okay. If it is
Speaker 1: someone who is you've asked for their opinion and they
Speaker 1: give you honest feedback, that's a different story. If you're like, oh,
Speaker 1: do you think that this is a good idea because
Speaker 1: of this or that or this, and you're asking advice,
Speaker 1: then that's their signal to give you advice. But if
Speaker 1: you're just genuinely sharing and you're like, hey, this is
Speaker 1: going to be fantastic, this is what I want to do,
Speaker 1: and they're like, oh, do you think that's such a
Speaker 1: good idea, Well.
Speaker 2: Maybe don't talk to those people.
Speaker 1: Or when you go home and you tell your spouse
Speaker 1: or your family or your friends, like, oh, this person
Speaker 1: is always demeaning me. I don't know why I keep
Speaker 1: sharing my goals with them.
Speaker 2: I don't know why I bother. Why are we friends?
Speaker 1: That's a sign if you're looking forward, sign this is it.
Speaker 1: And that's also one of the reasons too, why group
Speaker 1: fitness is so incredibly special to me.
Speaker 2: It's not just having.
Speaker 1: The workout, like people can't get workouts on YouTube. People
Speaker 1: are chat gpting different exercises for their body and uploading
Speaker 1: pictures and cool, that's badass, that's cool. Sometimes chat GPTs
Speaker 1: a GPS, also GPS and also chat SIBT. Sometimes those
Speaker 1: things that are electronics steer us in the wrong directions
Speaker 1: as well. But to me, it's the energy in the room.
Speaker 1: It's being a around those people who are showing up.
Speaker 1: It's the people that are trying, the people that are improving,
Speaker 1: the people that encourage each other. Maybe they're doing like
Speaker 1: a little tiny booty shake at the end of their workout.
Speaker 1: I know four forty five shout out to four forty five.
Speaker 1: I've seen it, I've been in it. I love this
Speaker 1: energy for you. Those relationships are what matter to me.
Speaker 1: When someone's like, hey, I put a mat down for you.
Speaker 1: Oh fantastic. Those people were strangers even like two weeks ago,
Speaker 1: Like that is cool. I saw someone coming into the
Speaker 1: gym today, actually Kristen from BedHead Berdor Photography special plug
Speaker 1: in there, badass check with her Instagram.
Speaker 2: I saw her with.
Speaker 1: Her bottle and she knew her friends were coming to
Speaker 1: the class with her, and she had all this stuff
Speaker 1: and she had two steps, like two of our commercial
Speaker 1: size steps.
Speaker 2: I'm like, let me help you. I guess I wanted
Speaker 2: to help her, but I was like.
Speaker 1: Oh no, this is like you know that game oh Jangat.
Speaker 1: That's it when you put like little tiny squares and
Speaker 1: you try not to like make anything fall out.
Speaker 2: She's like, no, I got it. This is great. I'm like, okay,
Speaker 2: that's fine.
Speaker 1: I was a little nervous to take something out of
Speaker 1: your hand because the whole django wasn't gonna collapse anyways,
Speaker 1: But that to me is so encouraging. And then to
Speaker 1: see her in the gym, like being open and honest
Speaker 1: and friends with everybody like that, to me is such
Speaker 1: an encouraging thing. One of the previous podcast episodes I
Speaker 1: talked about like the thank you effect, like saying thank
Speaker 1: you and being kind. That's what I'm talking about right there.
Speaker 1: Those are those relationships. They make you feel seen, and
Speaker 1: I also can respect that not everybody is an extroverted personality.
Speaker 1: We have a lot of introverted people and they will
Speaker 1: say painfully shy is the words that they use. But
Speaker 1: those people also make you feel supported. And also I'm
Speaker 1: an extrovert and I know extrovert people too, and I
Speaker 1: know introvert people. We will adopt you do not be
Speaker 1: afraid and sometimes too, like when you feel like you're
Speaker 1: feeling like, oh, I don't know if I can keep going,
Speaker 1: or I don't know if this.
Speaker 2: Is good for me.
Speaker 1: Those are the people that can remind you to believe
Speaker 1: in yourself. They're the ones that are gonna be like,
Speaker 1: you know what you believed in, whatever you believed in
Speaker 1: for X amount of years.
Speaker 2: I don't know if you're listening with it.
Speaker 1: To your I don't know if you're listening to this podcast.
Speaker 1: The kids in the car, So I'm not going to
Speaker 1: talk about special event things. But if you believed in
Speaker 1: something for X amount of time and you believed in
Speaker 1: other people, you can believe in yourself. I know I'm
Speaker 1: saying that very easily. On this episode, I tell myself
Speaker 1: this too, don't worry.
Speaker 2: Okay.
Speaker 1: So there's something else that I've been thinking about as
Speaker 1: well too, because something else that we've been hearing is
Speaker 1: no is a complete sentence.
Speaker 2: We hear that a lot. People love to say it.
Speaker 1: Somebody even said that to me the other day and
Speaker 1: I was like, yes, you know what, I love you
Speaker 1: for this, And sure, sometimes no is a complete sentence,
Speaker 1: but it doesn't need to be that simple if you
Speaker 1: don't want it to be, because people are complex, like
Speaker 1: I mean, like life is complex. What works for one
Speaker 1: person may not work for another. And that's true in fitness,
Speaker 1: that's true in nutrition, that's true in life. That's true
Speaker 1: for like pretty much everything because not every boundary and
Speaker 1: maybe those decisions, some of those things don't need to
Speaker 1: always have the same answer. And I always think about it,
Speaker 1: like when I explain to someone why I don't want
Speaker 1: to do something, like I'm queen of over explaining as well.
Speaker 1: I've really learned how to shorten that boundary within the
Speaker 1: last few years of over explaining. But there's sometimes that
Speaker 1: I want to share why because I respect that person.
Speaker 1: Yes I respect myself as well, but if I want
Speaker 1: to share, I want that person to know why, because
Speaker 1: I know what it's like for someone to totally cut
Speaker 1: me off and say no, and I'm like, oh, did
Speaker 1: I do something wrong?
Speaker 2: Is this okay?
Speaker 1: Like, sure, we don't need to think those things. It
Speaker 1: could just be a personal thing. But if that's going
Speaker 1: to ease anxiety in somebody or give somebody a reason,
Speaker 1: then I'm going to be that person to offer that
Speaker 1: to that person. And it's not that I care more
Speaker 1: about their feelings than mine, but it's like I can
Speaker 1: care about both our feelings at the same time. I've
Speaker 1: also learned that there's going to be decisions that you're
Speaker 1: gonna make because you're going to understand the bigger picture
Speaker 1: and not everyone is going to understand what your vision is.
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, not every season
Speaker 1: needs to have that exact same answers, change things pivot.
Speaker 1: I like to evaluate and be like, what is currently working,
Speaker 1: what is not working, what can stay the same? How
Speaker 1: can I make these tweaks or improvements, and sometimes people
Speaker 1: will like they'll walk into the gym and even something
Speaker 1: as small as rearranging things, people will be like, I
Speaker 1: didn't understand what it was that you were doing, but
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, this is fabulous. I'm like, oh cool,
Speaker 1: thank you. So that to me is like, not everyone
Speaker 1: is going to understand right away, but if they're meant
Speaker 1: to stay, they're going to stay and they're going to
Speaker 1: understand what the bigger picture is because I know that
Speaker 1: it's taken me a long time to trust myself and
Speaker 1: to trust my vision and to trust that I actually
Speaker 1: do know what it is.
Speaker 2: That I am doing.
Speaker 1: I have lots and lots of experience in specific aspects
Speaker 1: of life, especially in my own life. So when I
Speaker 1: make those decisions, it's not like, oh, like Christine is
Speaker 1: making bad decisions. Ah, just wait, you just wait, because
Speaker 1: I have learned a lot. I've made a lot of
Speaker 1: bad decisions to make good ones. Finally, Okay, So speaking
Speaker 1: of learning things earlier on, So I had a secret
Speaker 1: Facebook page one time, a long long time ago, and
Speaker 1: this was for this was when Facebook pages first happened.
Speaker 1: So it was for my weekly weigh ins, my progress pictures. Again,
Speaker 1: when Facebook first came out came out, I was actually
Speaker 1: living overseas in the Caribbean, and I was taking pictures
Speaker 1: of like this is my gripefruit tree, and this is
Speaker 1: what I'm eating, and this is how I'm learning to
Speaker 1: roast cashew nuts that I went and pulled off of
Speaker 1: a tree. So like, there's certain things that I uploaded
Speaker 1: on that page and I didn't know it was public.
Speaker 1: I was posting my weight, I was posting my front
Speaker 1: picture's side pictures, back pictures. This was a long time
Speaker 1: ago when I used to do those things. Now I
Speaker 1: don't track my progress in that context. I prefer to
Speaker 1: see how I feel and also make tweaks with my
Speaker 1: in body analysis report. But anyway, so the support that
Speaker 1: I received from that hidden, not hidden, very public Facebook
Speaker 1: page was so unreal because people saw me trying and
Speaker 1: they saw me being consistent as well and having that
Speaker 1: page and telling people what my goals were and sharing
Speaker 1: those things. That support helped to shape the confidence that
Speaker 1: I needed to build what came next, and that was
Speaker 1: not just myself, but also the transformation station. That page
Speaker 1: was actually submitted. There was a gym manager at the
Speaker 1: time I was flying in from the Caribbean for my
Speaker 1: mom's birthday as a surprise, and I'm like, I just
Speaker 1: want like a two to three week pass, like I
Speaker 1: don't want to pay for membership. I don't want anything
Speaker 1: for free, like I can pay for drop ins. And
Speaker 1: I had to talk to the manager at the time
Speaker 1: or whatever, and he asked me a whole bunch of
Speaker 1: questions and then I told him like, oh, I've lost
Speaker 1: X amount of pounds.
Speaker 2: This is what I've done.
Speaker 1: That's how I was actually offered my first job because
Speaker 1: that person asked about this Facebook page and he's like,
Speaker 1: can I write that down? I'm like, yeah, sure, go
Speaker 1: check it out later whatever. The next day, I came
Speaker 1: in and everyone's like, oh my gosh, this is Christina,
Speaker 1: like congratulations.
Speaker 2: On your progress. I'm like, well, is this happening?
Speaker 1: And I asked someone like how does everybody know? And
Speaker 1: they're like, oh, that person submit. That person's not even
Speaker 1: working in there anymore, but that person sent everybody an
Speaker 1: email with your Facebook page. I was like, oh, okay,
Speaker 1: Like I wasn't upset or anything because I already knew
Speaker 1: it was public after I gave him the link. Anyway,
Speaker 1: and then long story short, I flew back to the
Speaker 1: Caribbean and my phone rang and it was a job offer.
Speaker 1: And it was my Caribbean cell phone that I kept
Speaker 1: in my suitcase. Yeah, my cell phone rang and I
Speaker 1: answered it and it was a job offer. I'm like, listen,
Speaker 1: I don't like personal trainers. I'm not certified. I have
Speaker 1: zero interest. And that person on the other side of
Speaker 1: the phone said, why are you moving back? Okay, we'll
Speaker 1: start training you. We need you to start for December.
Speaker 1: That way, when January hits, we have you on the
Speaker 1: floor because we need more personal trainers like you. And
Speaker 1: there was an incident that happened and it was actually
Speaker 1: to the person that was calling me and offering me
Speaker 1: the job. And I'm like, I'm not certified. I know nothing,
Speaker 1: and she's like, we're going to get you certified. This
Speaker 1: is what is going to happen. I'm like, okay, cool.
Speaker 1: And fast forward fifteen years and I still appreciate that person. However,
Speaker 1: I only did work there for less than a month,
Speaker 1: and then I had my first key to my first
Speaker 1: location when I was in my twenties. I think I
Speaker 1: shared this on the podcast earlier. Yeah, so that person
Speaker 1: and I are still in contact here and there, we
Speaker 1: run into each other and it's like.
Speaker 2: I just love you.
Speaker 1: It was all watch and she's like, I just love
Speaker 1: you so much. It was a really great experience actually
Speaker 1: meeting this person and having that journey unfold in that context.
Speaker 2: But that was long story short.
Speaker 1: That was because I publicly shared what my goals were,
Speaker 1: and then people that wanted to come along for the ride,
Speaker 1: they saddled up and they did. Some of them even
Speaker 1: changed their own lives alongside of me. And that's when
Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, I got to get certified. I need
Speaker 1: to figure out what I'm doing. People are asking to
Speaker 1: be my workout partner. People are asking me to write
Speaker 1: the meal plans and fitness plans. And this is before
Speaker 1: AI happened. This is before people were losing one hundred
Speaker 1: pounds and that was normal back then. It wasn't so
Speaker 1: normal for someone who was four hundred pounds to lose
Speaker 1: weight essentially, especially without any different tools, because this was
Speaker 1: way before people had experience.
Speaker 2: With those tools.
Speaker 1: So yeah, it's a really interesting thing when you start
Speaker 1: to share your journey. And if I kept that bottled
Speaker 1: up and I was just like, oh, I'm just gonna
Speaker 1: do my own thing. That's cool too, if that's something
Speaker 1: that you love to do. Again, people are complex. You
Speaker 1: gotta do what's.
Speaker 2: Good for you.
Speaker 1: But if I did keep my stuff a secret, I
Speaker 1: wouldn't be where I am right now, and the transformation
Speaker 1: station in this podcast would not exist. So super cool
Speaker 1: for that, and that's why I do also believe that
Speaker 1: when you have confidence. I made a podcast on a
Speaker 1: podcast an Instagram rail about this today because it was
Speaker 1: really heavy on my heart about confidence because people always
Speaker 1: ask me. So I shared about when I did the
Speaker 1: firearms training and my instructor, he's so cool, and he
Speaker 1: was like, oh, you come across like you know things,
Speaker 1: like you know everything and you're very stoic, and I'm
Speaker 1: like what, So I kid you not. Yesterday, my spouse
Speaker 1: and I walked into a store and it wasn't even
Speaker 1: it was in a different city and is the place
Speaker 1: that I've never really explored, and there was a store
Speaker 1: and I walked into the store. Of course, because I've
Speaker 1: never really explored the city, I've never been into the store.
Speaker 1: And I walked in and there was a lady right
Speaker 1: there at the cash and she turned She's like Hi.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, how are you doing? And then she's like, okay,
Speaker 1: so you've been here before. I'm like no, I've never
Speaker 1: been here before. She's like oh, She's like, you walked
Speaker 1: in really confident, like you've been here before. I was
Speaker 1: like oh no, no. She's like, so do you know
Speaker 1: what the specials are? Have you seen like our social media?
Speaker 1: I'm like no, I know nothing about you. And she's
Speaker 1: like oh wow, She's like the way you enter the room,
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, thank you. I'm like, this is cool
Speaker 1: because that's something that I never had experienced before. That's
Speaker 1: not the way I used to enter rooms before. I
Speaker 1: used to be nervous, or I used to be scared,
Speaker 1: or I used to cry. So like, that's a really
Speaker 1: strong leverage to me. Why I think that confidence comes
Speaker 1: after you step And I said, like in my my reel,
Speaker 1: going back to the real, I said like, I'm not
Speaker 1: this extra overconfident person. I'm just someone who got tired
Speaker 1: of being underneath what I thought was everybody's thumbs. And
Speaker 1: I got tired of being bullied most of my life.
Speaker 1: I got tired of people I'm gonna do the Rocky
Speaker 1: Balboa thing. I got tired of people sticking a finger
Speaker 1: in my face and telling me that.
Speaker 2: I'm no good.
Speaker 1: When you start to trust yourself, things happen. When you
Speaker 1: step into your goals first you learn that you can
Speaker 1: trust yourself, doors open, things happen, Momentum builds, and some
Speaker 1: of those people that are a little bit like they
Speaker 1: seem like, oh, that person's too good to be my
Speaker 1: friend because they're successful and it looks like they have
Speaker 1: their life going on, those are the people you need
Speaker 1: to chase. Those are the people that you should cling to,
Speaker 1: not the people that suit your old lifestyle that are
Speaker 1: still wallowing in their own Don't get me wrong, everyone
Speaker 1: has their own things that they're going through. But how
Speaker 1: many times I looked at someone like that person's never
Speaker 1: gonna like me, that person's never gonna want to be
Speaker 1: my friend. Now that person's one of my best friends.
Speaker 1: Like that's just how those things unfold. It doesn't really matter,
Speaker 1: Like it doesn't matter where you came from.
Speaker 2: It doesn't.
Speaker 1: I mean, those things matter, but they don't matter in
Speaker 1: this context about whether you deserve to be confident or not.
Speaker 1: You deserve to have confidence, You deserve to enter a
Speaker 1: room like you're okay, Like even if you're not okay.
Speaker 1: Eventually that starts to build, because at one time I'm
Speaker 1: not okay, And there's sometimes, depending on what time of
Speaker 1: the month it is, I feel like I don't deserve
Speaker 1: anything in my entire life. Things happen, we feel like shit,
Speaker 1: and then you know what I do? You know what
Speaker 1: that sound is? Blowing the dust off my shoulder and
Speaker 1: keep going. So I hope that you have that support
Speaker 1: around you too. I hope that you have that confidence
Speaker 1: that you can keep yourself afloat that when you do
Speaker 1: feel low, you're like, oh, this isn't right. Let me
Speaker 1: check my period calendar. Oh I knew I wasn't a
Speaker 1: basic whiny bitch.
Speaker 2: Please don't delete me for saying that.
Speaker 1: But it's true, Like there's sometimes that's just the time,
Speaker 1: and that's just how it goes. And having that knowledge
Speaker 1: in yourself, having that no, you know what, I am
Speaker 1: a'ro on boulder and you cannot blow me down. It
Speaker 1: doesn't mean being aggressive or resentful. It just means knowing
Speaker 1: that you're secure in yourself, that you can enter the
Speaker 1: room with confidence, you can enter your life with confidence.
Speaker 1: Get tired of waiting to be accepted, get tired of
Speaker 1: waiting for people's approval, or maybe you're waiting for their permission.
Speaker 1: Stop waiting for when you think that you're going to
Speaker 1: look the part, or when you think you're going to
Speaker 1: be educated enough to be the part.
Speaker 2: Make your own path.
Speaker 1: You don't need to stay where you are because it
Speaker 1: makes other people uncomfortable. You can step into who you
Speaker 1: are and who you are becoming without giving a shit
Speaker 1: about what anybody else has to say. If you want
Speaker 1: to share your goals, make sure that you are choosing
Speaker 1: the people that you are sharing your goals with. Build
Speaker 1: around those people. Build those friendships around those people who
Speaker 1: are also doing the work and making themselves proud. And
Speaker 1: I will say sometimes people will struggle, but those are
Speaker 1: the people who are so focused on their own lane
Speaker 1: that are not going to be putting you down. They're
Speaker 1: going to be looking for a solution to the problem,
Speaker 1: and not more problems to the solution. If we always
Speaker 1: wait for people to understand your lane before you even
Speaker 1: start driving into it, it's going to be complete chaos.
Speaker 1: Your goals will get stronger and stronger when you stop
Speaker 1: hiding them from the people who can actually help you grow.
Speaker 1: All right, friends, this is all the time we have
Speaker 1: for today. Hope you enjoyed the podcast. We do have
Speaker 1: a few super exciting guests lined up for the rest
Speaker 1: of the week, so we'll make sure you tune in.
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