WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.320 --> 00:00:02.640 I used to think that the smartest thing was keeping 2 00:00:02.640 --> 00:00:06.040 your goals private into yourself. I've learned that the right 3 00:00:06.080 --> 00:00:15.480 people can change everything. Welcome to the Transformation Station podcast. 4 00:00:15.759 --> 00:00:19.600 I'm Christina, owner, operator, and founder of the Transformation Station, 5 00:00:20.000 --> 00:00:22.719 and this is where we talk about getting stronger while 6 00:00:22.839 --> 00:00:26.399 navigating real life. If you're trying to stay consistent through 7 00:00:26.440 --> 00:00:29.359 the ups and the downs and everywhere else in between, 8 00:00:29.760 --> 00:00:33.359 this is for you. I've been thinking a lot about 9 00:00:33.439 --> 00:00:37.000 how people say, keep your goals private, don't tell anybody 10 00:00:37.359 --> 00:00:41.200 what you're doing, move in silence, and I can from 11 00:00:41.280 --> 00:00:44.079 a different perspective, I can understand why people say that. 12 00:00:44.159 --> 00:00:46.880 I was talking about the Jenny Jones talk show the 13 00:00:46.960 --> 00:00:49.960 other day with Coach Nikki on the last podcast episode, 14 00:00:50.640 --> 00:00:52.840 and it has like that geeked to chic effect. But 15 00:00:53.439 --> 00:00:56.759 I get it because not everyone deserves that access to 16 00:00:56.759 --> 00:00:59.399 what your vision is. But I also do think that 17 00:00:59.679 --> 00:01:02.799 there is such a distinct difference between protecting your peace 18 00:01:03.240 --> 00:01:07.680 and hiding your growth, and alongside that also getting the 19 00:01:07.719 --> 00:01:10.920 support that we need and sometimes the support that we. 20 00:01:10.920 --> 00:01:11.480 Need and love. 21 00:01:12.439 --> 00:01:14.719 I do believe that when you share your goals with 22 00:01:14.799 --> 00:01:18.480 the right people, that's when things can really truly start 23 00:01:18.519 --> 00:01:22.239 to shift again. Having that support in your corner can 24 00:01:22.280 --> 00:01:25.239 mean everything, and sometimes that's like a make or break too, 25 00:01:25.359 --> 00:01:29.159 because when you're around people of excellence, people who are 26 00:01:29.560 --> 00:01:32.879 actually I call it in their own lane. They're putting 27 00:01:32.920 --> 00:01:35.599 in their time, they're putting in the work, it pulls 28 00:01:35.640 --> 00:01:38.599 something out of you. And I see this circulate online 29 00:01:38.599 --> 00:01:41.280 all the time too, like between like the work hard 30 00:01:41.319 --> 00:01:44.439 and silence disappear for six months. And then there's also 31 00:01:44.879 --> 00:01:48.959 that version that says, I have never met anyone doing 32 00:01:49.000 --> 00:01:52.920 more than me that would criticize me. So I've seen 33 00:01:53.000 --> 00:01:56.120 those two things on the side of the different spectrums, 34 00:01:56.359 --> 00:01:59.760 and that second one I do believe in that because 35 00:01:59.799 --> 00:02:03.560 like when you're around people that are also doing what 36 00:02:03.599 --> 00:02:06.799 they need to do for themselves, it makes it it 37 00:02:06.840 --> 00:02:09.199 feel possible, it makes it feel like your goals are real, 38 00:02:09.599 --> 00:02:12.439 and it's that kind of environment that matters. And I 39 00:02:12.439 --> 00:02:14.400 think that's more than what people would like to admit, 40 00:02:14.759 --> 00:02:16.439 because like when you go to work and you tell 41 00:02:16.479 --> 00:02:18.439 people like, oh, this is what I'm doing, and then 42 00:02:18.639 --> 00:02:20.599 all of a sudden, it seems like you're boasting, like oh, 43 00:02:20.800 --> 00:02:22.800 that person thinks they're so great or this person thinks 44 00:02:22.840 --> 00:02:26.199 they're better than everybody. But if someone is truly happy 45 00:02:26.240 --> 00:02:28.800 in their own lives and their own success, I am 46 00:02:28.800 --> 00:02:31.560 a firm believer that those people are going to be 47 00:02:31.599 --> 00:02:32.560 there to support you. 48 00:02:32.479 --> 00:02:33.280 And to cheer you on. 49 00:02:33.439 --> 00:02:36.080 And that's why, like people like Christina, you're everybody's cheerleader. 50 00:02:36.159 --> 00:02:36.599 Yeah I am. 51 00:02:36.719 --> 00:02:38.439 I'm secure in who I am as a person, and 52 00:02:38.479 --> 00:02:41.479 I'm secure in my own lane. And the people that 53 00:02:41.800 --> 00:02:45.599 react badly to your goals are literally the people who 54 00:02:45.639 --> 00:02:47.840 aren't in their own lane because they're too busy looking 55 00:02:47.879 --> 00:02:49.599 over your side of the fence at. 56 00:02:49.759 --> 00:02:52.319 I like to think of it like home improvement. 57 00:02:52.360 --> 00:02:54.840 I made a Tim the tool Man tailor reference in 58 00:02:54.879 --> 00:02:57.759 the gym the other day, and I'm like, I was 59 00:02:57.800 --> 00:02:59.080 fixing something and they're. 60 00:02:58.919 --> 00:02:59.560 Like, oh wow. 61 00:02:59.800 --> 00:03:02.400 I'm like, yeah, I'm Tim the tool Man Taylor. And 62 00:03:02.400 --> 00:03:04.400 then someone's like, I hope nothing blows up in your 63 00:03:04.400 --> 00:03:06.639 face something along the lines. But it was much nicer 64 00:03:06.639 --> 00:03:08.360 than that. But I laughed, and I'm like, you know what, 65 00:03:08.400 --> 00:03:10.639 I'm not used to being Tim the tool Man Taylor. 66 00:03:10.680 --> 00:03:13.599 I'm used to being Wilson, the man that talks to 67 00:03:13.639 --> 00:03:15.680 the neighbors on the other side of the fence. 68 00:03:16.520 --> 00:03:17.439 But that's when. 69 00:03:17.319 --> 00:03:19.120 Someone's not in their own lane, right, They're too busy 70 00:03:19.159 --> 00:03:22.439 looking over at your your grass on the other side 71 00:03:22.439 --> 00:03:26.639 of the fence. They're not focused on building themselves. So 72 00:03:26.680 --> 00:03:29.280 sometimes when you talk about those things and what your 73 00:03:29.280 --> 00:03:32.879 goals are, those people can really get uncomfortable when someone 74 00:03:32.879 --> 00:03:35.159 else is actually focusing on what it is that they 75 00:03:35.159 --> 00:03:38.280 want to do. And that to me, like, don't shrink 76 00:03:38.319 --> 00:03:40.439 because of that. That's your sign to keep going. And 77 00:03:40.439 --> 00:03:43.599 maybe those people you've learned if you already always tell people, 78 00:03:43.680 --> 00:03:45.919 like not always tell people, but like if you tell 79 00:03:45.960 --> 00:03:47.680 someone like, oh, this is what I want to do, 80 00:03:47.759 --> 00:03:49.479 this is my goal, and they come and they shit 81 00:03:49.560 --> 00:03:51.199 on your goals and your dreams and they make you 82 00:03:51.199 --> 00:03:54.599 feel like you're small, that's not okay. If it is 83 00:03:54.639 --> 00:03:58.000 someone who is you've asked for their opinion and they 84 00:03:58.000 --> 00:04:01.439 give you honest feedback, that's a different story. If you're like, oh, 85 00:04:01.479 --> 00:04:03.199 do you think that this is a good idea because 86 00:04:03.199 --> 00:04:06.280 of this or that or this, and you're asking advice, 87 00:04:06.919 --> 00:04:09.240 then that's their signal to give you advice. But if 88 00:04:09.280 --> 00:04:12.199 you're just genuinely sharing and you're like, hey, this is 89 00:04:12.199 --> 00:04:14.039 going to be fantastic, this is what I want to do, 90 00:04:14.120 --> 00:04:15.639 and they're like, oh, do you think that's such a 91 00:04:15.639 --> 00:04:16.959 good idea, Well. 92 00:04:16.879 --> 00:04:18.079 Maybe don't talk to those people. 93 00:04:18.240 --> 00:04:19.920 Or when you go home and you tell your spouse 94 00:04:20.000 --> 00:04:22.279 or your family or your friends, like, oh, this person 95 00:04:22.399 --> 00:04:24.879 is always demeaning me. I don't know why I keep 96 00:04:24.920 --> 00:04:26.000 sharing my goals with them. 97 00:04:26.000 --> 00:04:27.879 I don't know why I bother. Why are we friends? 98 00:04:28.279 --> 00:04:31.439 That's a sign if you're looking forward, sign this is it. 99 00:04:32.439 --> 00:04:35.560 And that's also one of the reasons too, why group 100 00:04:35.600 --> 00:04:37.839 fitness is so incredibly special to me. 101 00:04:38.439 --> 00:04:39.879 It's not just having. 102 00:04:39.639 --> 00:04:42.040 The workout, like people can't get workouts on YouTube. People 103 00:04:42.079 --> 00:04:46.000 are chat gpting different exercises for their body and uploading 104 00:04:46.000 --> 00:04:50.160 pictures and cool, that's badass, that's cool. Sometimes chat GPTs 105 00:04:50.319 --> 00:04:53.920 a GPS, also GPS and also chat SIBT. Sometimes those 106 00:04:53.959 --> 00:04:56.319 things that are electronics steer us in the wrong directions 107 00:04:56.360 --> 00:04:59.519 as well. But to me, it's the energy in the room. 108 00:04:59.560 --> 00:05:02.000 It's being a around those people who are showing up. 109 00:05:02.160 --> 00:05:04.519 It's the people that are trying, the people that are improving, 110 00:05:04.720 --> 00:05:07.040 the people that encourage each other. Maybe they're doing like 111 00:05:07.079 --> 00:05:08.920 a little tiny booty shake at the end of their workout. 112 00:05:08.920 --> 00:05:11.160 I know four forty five shout out to four forty five. 113 00:05:11.439 --> 00:05:14.720 I've seen it, I've been in it. I love this 114 00:05:14.920 --> 00:05:18.680 energy for you. Those relationships are what matter to me. 115 00:05:18.920 --> 00:05:23.199 When someone's like, hey, I put a mat down for you. 116 00:05:23.319 --> 00:05:26.360 Oh fantastic. Those people were strangers even like two weeks ago, 117 00:05:26.879 --> 00:05:30.160 Like that is cool. I saw someone coming into the 118 00:05:30.199 --> 00:05:34.439 gym today, actually Kristen from BedHead Berdor Photography special plug 119 00:05:34.439 --> 00:05:37.079 in there, badass check with her Instagram. 120 00:05:37.439 --> 00:05:38.120 I saw her with. 121 00:05:38.079 --> 00:05:39.720 Her bottle and she knew her friends were coming to 122 00:05:39.720 --> 00:05:41.839 the class with her, and she had all this stuff 123 00:05:41.879 --> 00:05:44.759 and she had two steps, like two of our commercial 124 00:05:44.839 --> 00:05:45.600 size steps. 125 00:05:45.839 --> 00:05:48.279 I'm like, let me help you. I guess I wanted 126 00:05:48.279 --> 00:05:49.279 to help her, but I was like. 127 00:05:49.439 --> 00:05:52.000 Oh no, this is like you know that game oh Jangat. 128 00:05:52.000 --> 00:05:53.879 That's it when you put like little tiny squares and 129 00:05:53.920 --> 00:05:56.000 you try not to like make anything fall out. 130 00:05:56.399 --> 00:05:58.600 She's like, no, I got it. This is great. I'm like, okay, 131 00:05:58.600 --> 00:05:58.959 that's fine. 132 00:05:58.959 --> 00:06:00.879 I was a little nervous to take something out of 133 00:06:00.959 --> 00:06:03.879 your hand because the whole django wasn't gonna collapse anyways, 134 00:06:04.160 --> 00:06:06.319 But that to me is so encouraging. And then to 135 00:06:06.360 --> 00:06:08.720 see her in the gym, like being open and honest 136 00:06:08.759 --> 00:06:10.839 and friends with everybody like that, to me is such 137 00:06:10.879 --> 00:06:13.959 an encouraging thing. One of the previous podcast episodes I 138 00:06:14.040 --> 00:06:17.000 talked about like the thank you effect, like saying thank 139 00:06:17.040 --> 00:06:19.879 you and being kind. That's what I'm talking about right there. 140 00:06:19.920 --> 00:06:22.439 Those are those relationships. They make you feel seen, and 141 00:06:22.480 --> 00:06:25.920 I also can respect that not everybody is an extroverted personality. 142 00:06:25.959 --> 00:06:28.600 We have a lot of introverted people and they will 143 00:06:28.600 --> 00:06:31.959 say painfully shy is the words that they use. But 144 00:06:32.000 --> 00:06:34.319 those people also make you feel supported. And also I'm 145 00:06:34.319 --> 00:06:36.399 an extrovert and I know extrovert people too, and I 146 00:06:36.439 --> 00:06:39.199 know introvert people. We will adopt you do not be 147 00:06:39.279 --> 00:06:43.279 afraid and sometimes too, like when you feel like you're 148 00:06:43.279 --> 00:06:45.319 feeling like, oh, I don't know if I can keep going, 149 00:06:45.439 --> 00:06:46.160 or I don't know if this. 150 00:06:46.199 --> 00:06:46.800 Is good for me. 151 00:06:47.319 --> 00:06:51.240 Those are the people that can remind you to believe 152 00:06:51.279 --> 00:06:52.800 in yourself. They're the ones that are gonna be like, 153 00:06:52.800 --> 00:06:55.279 you know what you believed in, whatever you believed in 154 00:06:55.319 --> 00:06:56.279 for X amount of years. 155 00:06:56.279 --> 00:06:57.639 I don't know if you're listening with it. 156 00:06:57.759 --> 00:06:59.959 To your I don't know if you're listening to this podcast. 157 00:07:00.040 --> 00:07:01.160 The kids in the car, So I'm not going to 158 00:07:01.199 --> 00:07:04.680 talk about special event things. But if you believed in 159 00:07:04.720 --> 00:07:07.000 something for X amount of time and you believed in 160 00:07:07.040 --> 00:07:10.680 other people, you can believe in yourself. I know I'm 161 00:07:10.680 --> 00:07:13.560 saying that very easily. On this episode, I tell myself 162 00:07:13.560 --> 00:07:14.319 this too, don't worry. 163 00:07:15.160 --> 00:07:15.480 Okay. 164 00:07:15.560 --> 00:07:19.439 So there's something else that I've been thinking about as 165 00:07:19.480 --> 00:07:23.680 well too, because something else that we've been hearing is 166 00:07:24.240 --> 00:07:25.519 no is a complete sentence. 167 00:07:26.120 --> 00:07:27.839 We hear that a lot. People love to say it. 168 00:07:27.879 --> 00:07:29.360 Somebody even said that to me the other day and 169 00:07:29.360 --> 00:07:30.800 I was like, yes, you know what, I love you 170 00:07:30.879 --> 00:07:34.439 for this, And sure, sometimes no is a complete sentence, 171 00:07:34.759 --> 00:07:36.519 but it doesn't need to be that simple if you 172 00:07:36.560 --> 00:07:39.000 don't want it to be, because people are complex, like 173 00:07:40.040 --> 00:07:43.399 I mean, like life is complex. What works for one 174 00:07:43.439 --> 00:07:45.800 person may not work for another. And that's true in fitness, 175 00:07:45.800 --> 00:07:48.319 that's true in nutrition, that's true in life. That's true 176 00:07:48.600 --> 00:07:52.959 for like pretty much everything because not every boundary and 177 00:07:53.120 --> 00:07:56.680 maybe those decisions, some of those things don't need to 178 00:07:56.720 --> 00:07:59.560 always have the same answer. And I always think about it, 179 00:07:59.600 --> 00:08:02.279 like when I explain to someone why I don't want 180 00:08:02.279 --> 00:08:04.959 to do something, like I'm queen of over explaining as well. 181 00:08:05.040 --> 00:08:08.759 I've really learned how to shorten that boundary within the 182 00:08:08.800 --> 00:08:12.120 last few years of over explaining. But there's sometimes that 183 00:08:12.439 --> 00:08:15.959 I want to share why because I respect that person. 184 00:08:16.040 --> 00:08:18.759 Yes I respect myself as well, but if I want 185 00:08:18.800 --> 00:08:22.879 to share, I want that person to know why, because 186 00:08:22.920 --> 00:08:24.839 I know what it's like for someone to totally cut 187 00:08:24.839 --> 00:08:27.560 me off and say no, and I'm like, oh, did 188 00:08:27.600 --> 00:08:28.439 I do something wrong? 189 00:08:28.560 --> 00:08:29.199 Is this okay? 190 00:08:29.319 --> 00:08:31.839 Like, sure, we don't need to think those things. It 191 00:08:31.839 --> 00:08:34.080 could just be a personal thing. But if that's going 192 00:08:34.120 --> 00:08:37.159 to ease anxiety in somebody or give somebody a reason, 193 00:08:37.519 --> 00:08:40.000 then I'm going to be that person to offer that 194 00:08:40.240 --> 00:08:42.240 to that person. And it's not that I care more 195 00:08:42.279 --> 00:08:44.840 about their feelings than mine, but it's like I can 196 00:08:44.879 --> 00:08:47.559 care about both our feelings at the same time. I've 197 00:08:47.600 --> 00:08:49.960 also learned that there's going to be decisions that you're 198 00:08:50.000 --> 00:08:52.279 gonna make because you're going to understand the bigger picture 199 00:08:52.360 --> 00:08:55.159 and not everyone is going to understand what your vision is. 200 00:08:55.519 --> 00:08:57.759 But at the end of the day, not every season 201 00:08:57.840 --> 00:09:01.360 needs to have that exact same answers, change things pivot. 202 00:09:01.639 --> 00:09:03.879 I like to evaluate and be like, what is currently working, 203 00:09:03.919 --> 00:09:06.200 what is not working, what can stay the same? How 204 00:09:06.240 --> 00:09:10.039 can I make these tweaks or improvements, and sometimes people 205 00:09:10.039 --> 00:09:12.159 will like they'll walk into the gym and even something 206 00:09:12.200 --> 00:09:14.240 as small as rearranging things, people will be like, I 207 00:09:14.279 --> 00:09:16.159 didn't understand what it was that you were doing, but 208 00:09:16.200 --> 00:09:18.639 oh my gosh, this is fabulous. I'm like, oh cool, 209 00:09:18.679 --> 00:09:22.600 thank you. So that to me is like, not everyone 210 00:09:22.639 --> 00:09:25.480 is going to understand right away, but if they're meant 211 00:09:25.519 --> 00:09:26.919 to stay, they're going to stay and they're going to 212 00:09:27.000 --> 00:09:29.399 understand what the bigger picture is because I know that 213 00:09:29.440 --> 00:09:31.879 it's taken me a long time to trust myself and 214 00:09:31.919 --> 00:09:34.279 to trust my vision and to trust that I actually 215 00:09:34.320 --> 00:09:35.559 do know what it is. 216 00:09:35.480 --> 00:09:36.120 That I am doing. 217 00:09:36.200 --> 00:09:39.240 I have lots and lots of experience in specific aspects 218 00:09:39.279 --> 00:09:41.799 of life, especially in my own life. So when I 219 00:09:41.840 --> 00:09:45.039 make those decisions, it's not like, oh, like Christine is 220 00:09:45.080 --> 00:09:48.120 making bad decisions. Ah, just wait, you just wait, because 221 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:50.960 I have learned a lot. I've made a lot of 222 00:09:50.960 --> 00:09:55.120 bad decisions to make good ones. Finally, Okay, So speaking 223 00:09:55.120 --> 00:09:59.200 of learning things earlier on, So I had a secret 224 00:09:59.200 --> 00:10:02.879 Facebook page one time, a long long time ago, and 225 00:10:02.919 --> 00:10:06.200 this was for this was when Facebook pages first happened. 226 00:10:06.480 --> 00:10:10.480 So it was for my weekly weigh ins, my progress pictures. Again, 227 00:10:10.480 --> 00:10:12.879 when Facebook first came out came out, I was actually 228 00:10:12.960 --> 00:10:16.200 living overseas in the Caribbean, and I was taking pictures 229 00:10:16.200 --> 00:10:17.720 of like this is my gripefruit tree, and this is 230 00:10:17.759 --> 00:10:20.519 what I'm eating, and this is how I'm learning to 231 00:10:20.639 --> 00:10:22.799 roast cashew nuts that I went and pulled off of 232 00:10:22.799 --> 00:10:25.879 a tree. So like, there's certain things that I uploaded 233 00:10:26.000 --> 00:10:29.039 on that page and I didn't know it was public. 234 00:10:29.480 --> 00:10:32.000 I was posting my weight, I was posting my front 235 00:10:32.039 --> 00:10:35.840 picture's side pictures, back pictures. This was a long time 236 00:10:35.879 --> 00:10:37.360 ago when I used to do those things. Now I 237 00:10:37.399 --> 00:10:40.200 don't track my progress in that context. I prefer to 238 00:10:40.840 --> 00:10:44.919 see how I feel and also make tweaks with my 239 00:10:45.240 --> 00:10:49.559 in body analysis report. But anyway, so the support that 240 00:10:49.639 --> 00:10:53.840 I received from that hidden, not hidden, very public Facebook 241 00:10:53.840 --> 00:10:58.039 page was so unreal because people saw me trying and 242 00:10:58.080 --> 00:11:01.759 they saw me being consistent as well and having that 243 00:11:01.799 --> 00:11:04.240 page and telling people what my goals were and sharing 244 00:11:04.279 --> 00:11:08.080 those things. That support helped to shape the confidence that 245 00:11:08.120 --> 00:11:10.480 I needed to build what came next, and that was 246 00:11:10.519 --> 00:11:15.000 not just myself, but also the transformation station. That page 247 00:11:15.080 --> 00:11:18.360 was actually submitted. There was a gym manager at the 248 00:11:18.440 --> 00:11:21.600 time I was flying in from the Caribbean for my 249 00:11:21.639 --> 00:11:25.559 mom's birthday as a surprise, and I'm like, I just 250 00:11:25.639 --> 00:11:27.440 want like a two to three week pass, like I 251 00:11:27.480 --> 00:11:29.559 don't want to pay for membership. I don't want anything 252 00:11:29.600 --> 00:11:32.080 for free, like I can pay for drop ins. And 253 00:11:32.159 --> 00:11:34.440 I had to talk to the manager at the time 254 00:11:34.519 --> 00:11:36.720 or whatever, and he asked me a whole bunch of 255 00:11:36.799 --> 00:11:38.480 questions and then I told him like, oh, I've lost 256 00:11:38.600 --> 00:11:39.279 X amount of pounds. 257 00:11:39.360 --> 00:11:40.200 This is what I've done. 258 00:11:41.159 --> 00:11:43.320 That's how I was actually offered my first job because 259 00:11:43.320 --> 00:11:47.120 that person asked about this Facebook page and he's like, 260 00:11:47.120 --> 00:11:48.559 can I write that down? I'm like, yeah, sure, go 261 00:11:48.639 --> 00:11:51.320 check it out later whatever. The next day, I came 262 00:11:51.320 --> 00:11:53.559 in and everyone's like, oh my gosh, this is Christina, 263 00:11:53.720 --> 00:11:55.399 like congratulations. 264 00:11:54.720 --> 00:11:56.639 On your progress. I'm like, well, is this happening? 265 00:11:57.240 --> 00:12:00.080 And I asked someone like how does everybody know? And 266 00:12:00.159 --> 00:12:03.799 they're like, oh, that person submit. That person's not even 267 00:12:03.799 --> 00:12:07.279 working in there anymore, but that person sent everybody an 268 00:12:07.279 --> 00:12:10.519 email with your Facebook page. I was like, oh, okay, 269 00:12:10.639 --> 00:12:12.919 Like I wasn't upset or anything because I already knew 270 00:12:12.919 --> 00:12:16.679 it was public after I gave him the link. Anyway, 271 00:12:16.679 --> 00:12:18.879 and then long story short, I flew back to the 272 00:12:18.879 --> 00:12:21.559 Caribbean and my phone rang and it was a job offer. 273 00:12:21.559 --> 00:12:23.799 And it was my Caribbean cell phone that I kept 274 00:12:23.799 --> 00:12:27.240 in my suitcase. Yeah, my cell phone rang and I 275 00:12:27.279 --> 00:12:29.120 answered it and it was a job offer. I'm like, listen, 276 00:12:29.159 --> 00:12:31.159 I don't like personal trainers. I'm not certified. I have 277 00:12:31.240 --> 00:12:34.519 zero interest. And that person on the other side of 278 00:12:34.559 --> 00:12:36.879 the phone said, why are you moving back? Okay, we'll 279 00:12:36.919 --> 00:12:39.799 start training you. We need you to start for December. 280 00:12:39.919 --> 00:12:42.120 That way, when January hits, we have you on the 281 00:12:42.159 --> 00:12:45.759 floor because we need more personal trainers like you. And 282 00:12:45.799 --> 00:12:49.120 there was an incident that happened and it was actually 283 00:12:49.120 --> 00:12:51.120 to the person that was calling me and offering me 284 00:12:51.279 --> 00:12:53.600 the job. And I'm like, I'm not certified. I know nothing, 285 00:12:54.000 --> 00:12:55.840 and she's like, we're going to get you certified. This 286 00:12:55.919 --> 00:12:57.720 is what is going to happen. I'm like, okay, cool. 287 00:12:58.320 --> 00:13:03.360 And fast forward fifteen years and I still appreciate that person. However, 288 00:13:03.399 --> 00:13:05.080 I only did work there for less than a month, 289 00:13:05.120 --> 00:13:08.159 and then I had my first key to my first 290 00:13:08.159 --> 00:13:10.039 location when I was in my twenties. I think I 291 00:13:10.039 --> 00:13:13.879 shared this on the podcast earlier. Yeah, so that person 292 00:13:13.919 --> 00:13:16.120 and I are still in contact here and there, we 293 00:13:16.200 --> 00:13:17.600 run into each other and it's like. 294 00:13:17.600 --> 00:13:18.240 I just love you. 295 00:13:18.279 --> 00:13:19.799 It was all watch and she's like, I just love 296 00:13:19.840 --> 00:13:23.799 you so much. It was a really great experience actually 297 00:13:24.600 --> 00:13:27.799 meeting this person and having that journey unfold in that context. 298 00:13:28.000 --> 00:13:30.000 But that was long story short. 299 00:13:30.039 --> 00:13:32.639 That was because I publicly shared what my goals were, 300 00:13:32.960 --> 00:13:35.039 and then people that wanted to come along for the ride, 301 00:13:35.600 --> 00:13:37.440 they saddled up and they did. Some of them even 302 00:13:37.519 --> 00:13:39.600 changed their own lives alongside of me. And that's when 303 00:13:39.600 --> 00:13:41.360 I'm like, Okay, I got to get certified. I need 304 00:13:41.399 --> 00:13:44.840 to figure out what I'm doing. People are asking to 305 00:13:44.840 --> 00:13:47.200 be my workout partner. People are asking me to write 306 00:13:47.200 --> 00:13:49.480 the meal plans and fitness plans. And this is before 307 00:13:49.519 --> 00:13:52.519 AI happened. This is before people were losing one hundred 308 00:13:52.559 --> 00:13:55.600 pounds and that was normal back then. It wasn't so 309 00:13:55.639 --> 00:13:58.080 normal for someone who was four hundred pounds to lose 310 00:13:58.120 --> 00:14:02.919 weight essentially, especially without any different tools, because this was 311 00:14:02.960 --> 00:14:06.039 way before people had experience. 312 00:14:05.519 --> 00:14:06.240 With those tools. 313 00:14:06.679 --> 00:14:09.159 So yeah, it's a really interesting thing when you start 314 00:14:09.200 --> 00:14:13.600 to share your journey. And if I kept that bottled 315 00:14:13.639 --> 00:14:15.000 up and I was just like, oh, I'm just gonna 316 00:14:15.240 --> 00:14:17.159 do my own thing. That's cool too, if that's something 317 00:14:17.159 --> 00:14:18.919 that you love to do. Again, people are complex. You 318 00:14:18.919 --> 00:14:19.559 gotta do what's. 319 00:14:19.440 --> 00:14:19.879 Good for you. 320 00:14:20.360 --> 00:14:22.840 But if I did keep my stuff a secret, I 321 00:14:22.840 --> 00:14:24.879 wouldn't be where I am right now, and the transformation 322 00:14:24.919 --> 00:14:28.399 station in this podcast would not exist. So super cool 323 00:14:29.360 --> 00:14:32.360 for that, and that's why I do also believe that 324 00:14:32.639 --> 00:14:35.519 when you have confidence. I made a podcast on a 325 00:14:35.720 --> 00:14:37.799 podcast an Instagram rail about this today because it was 326 00:14:37.799 --> 00:14:40.879 really heavy on my heart about confidence because people always 327 00:14:40.879 --> 00:14:42.960 ask me. So I shared about when I did the 328 00:14:42.960 --> 00:14:47.960 firearms training and my instructor, he's so cool, and he 329 00:14:48.120 --> 00:14:49.879 was like, oh, you come across like you know things, 330 00:14:49.919 --> 00:14:52.720 like you know everything and you're very stoic, and I'm 331 00:14:52.759 --> 00:14:56.200 like what, So I kid you not. Yesterday, my spouse 332 00:14:56.240 --> 00:14:58.600 and I walked into a store and it wasn't even 333 00:14:58.840 --> 00:15:01.320 it was in a different city and is the place 334 00:15:01.320 --> 00:15:03.600 that I've never really explored, and there was a store 335 00:15:03.679 --> 00:15:06.679 and I walked into the store. Of course, because I've 336 00:15:06.679 --> 00:15:09.000 never really explored the city, I've never been into the store. 337 00:15:09.399 --> 00:15:10.799 And I walked in and there was a lady right 338 00:15:10.840 --> 00:15:12.320 there at the cash and she turned She's like Hi. 339 00:15:12.480 --> 00:15:16.240 I'm like, oh, how are you doing? And then she's like, okay, 340 00:15:16.480 --> 00:15:19.840 so you've been here before. I'm like no, I've never 341 00:15:19.879 --> 00:15:22.399 been here before. She's like oh, She's like, you walked 342 00:15:22.440 --> 00:15:24.960 in really confident, like you've been here before. I was 343 00:15:25.000 --> 00:15:26.639 like oh no, no. She's like, so do you know 344 00:15:26.639 --> 00:15:29.159 what the specials are? Have you seen like our social media? 345 00:15:29.200 --> 00:15:31.960 I'm like no, I know nothing about you. And she's 346 00:15:32.000 --> 00:15:34.720 like oh wow, She's like the way you enter the room, 347 00:15:34.759 --> 00:15:37.919 I'm like, oh, thank you. I'm like, this is cool 348 00:15:38.000 --> 00:15:41.279 because that's something that I never had experienced before. That's 349 00:15:41.279 --> 00:15:42.960 not the way I used to enter rooms before. I 350 00:15:43.000 --> 00:15:44.639 used to be nervous, or I used to be scared, 351 00:15:44.679 --> 00:15:48.519 or I used to cry. So like, that's a really 352 00:15:49.480 --> 00:15:52.559 strong leverage to me. Why I think that confidence comes 353 00:15:52.600 --> 00:15:54.960 after you step And I said, like in my my reel, 354 00:15:55.000 --> 00:15:56.960 going back to the real, I said like, I'm not 355 00:15:57.200 --> 00:16:01.200 this extra overconfident person. I'm just someone who got tired 356 00:16:01.720 --> 00:16:05.120 of being underneath what I thought was everybody's thumbs. And 357 00:16:05.159 --> 00:16:07.879 I got tired of being bullied most of my life. 358 00:16:07.919 --> 00:16:10.679 I got tired of people I'm gonna do the Rocky 359 00:16:10.720 --> 00:16:13.840 Balboa thing. I got tired of people sticking a finger 360 00:16:13.840 --> 00:16:15.120 in my face and telling me that. 361 00:16:15.120 --> 00:16:15.799 I'm no good. 362 00:16:16.720 --> 00:16:18.919 When you start to trust yourself, things happen. When you 363 00:16:18.919 --> 00:16:22.120 step into your goals first you learn that you can 364 00:16:22.120 --> 00:16:26.480 trust yourself, doors open, things happen, Momentum builds, and some 365 00:16:26.519 --> 00:16:28.639 of those people that are a little bit like they 366 00:16:28.720 --> 00:16:30.759 seem like, oh, that person's too good to be my 367 00:16:30.799 --> 00:16:32.840 friend because they're successful and it looks like they have 368 00:16:32.919 --> 00:16:34.600 their life going on, those are the people you need 369 00:16:34.639 --> 00:16:37.240 to chase. Those are the people that you should cling to, 370 00:16:37.879 --> 00:16:40.879 not the people that suit your old lifestyle that are 371 00:16:40.919 --> 00:16:43.799 still wallowing in their own Don't get me wrong, everyone 372 00:16:43.879 --> 00:16:47.000 has their own things that they're going through. But how 373 00:16:47.039 --> 00:16:49.039 many times I looked at someone like that person's never 374 00:16:49.080 --> 00:16:50.879 gonna like me, that person's never gonna want to be 375 00:16:50.919 --> 00:16:54.200 my friend. Now that person's one of my best friends. 376 00:16:55.600 --> 00:16:59.279 Like that's just how those things unfold. It doesn't really matter, 377 00:16:59.399 --> 00:17:02.559 Like it doesn't matter where you came from. 378 00:17:02.639 --> 00:17:03.000 It doesn't. 379 00:17:03.039 --> 00:17:04.640 I mean, those things matter, but they don't matter in 380 00:17:04.640 --> 00:17:07.480 this context about whether you deserve to be confident or not. 381 00:17:07.960 --> 00:17:10.160 You deserve to have confidence, You deserve to enter a 382 00:17:10.319 --> 00:17:14.519 room like you're okay, Like even if you're not okay. 383 00:17:15.279 --> 00:17:17.680 Eventually that starts to build, because at one time I'm 384 00:17:17.680 --> 00:17:21.400 not okay, And there's sometimes, depending on what time of 385 00:17:21.400 --> 00:17:23.880 the month it is, I feel like I don't deserve 386 00:17:23.920 --> 00:17:27.440 anything in my entire life. Things happen, we feel like shit, 387 00:17:27.920 --> 00:17:30.240 and then you know what I do? You know what 388 00:17:30.240 --> 00:17:32.759 that sound is? Blowing the dust off my shoulder and 389 00:17:32.839 --> 00:17:35.319 keep going. So I hope that you have that support 390 00:17:35.359 --> 00:17:38.880 around you too. I hope that you have that confidence 391 00:17:38.920 --> 00:17:41.200 that you can keep yourself afloat that when you do 392 00:17:41.240 --> 00:17:43.240 feel low, you're like, oh, this isn't right. Let me 393 00:17:43.279 --> 00:17:45.319 check my period calendar. Oh I knew I wasn't a 394 00:17:45.359 --> 00:17:46.319 basic whiny bitch. 395 00:17:48.440 --> 00:17:50.079 Please don't delete me for saying that. 396 00:17:51.240 --> 00:17:53.400 But it's true, Like there's sometimes that's just the time, 397 00:17:53.440 --> 00:17:56.599 and that's just how it goes. And having that knowledge 398 00:17:56.599 --> 00:17:59.720 in yourself, having that no, you know what, I am 399 00:17:59.759 --> 00:18:02.519 a'ro on boulder and you cannot blow me down. It 400 00:18:02.559 --> 00:18:05.759 doesn't mean being aggressive or resentful. It just means knowing 401 00:18:05.839 --> 00:18:08.200