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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction, unplugged because we will always say

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yes to creativity, totally uncut because we all make mistakes.

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So let's turn it into a tool. This is Arrow unplugged.

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I don't know what I would do without Google. I've

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become such a lazy speller because of spell check, this

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digital age, and it does scare me that AI will

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eventually just speak for me one day. It will. But

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how do you deal with those situations when these strengths

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that we once had are just fading away? And it's like,

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where is everything going and growing? And how can I

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participate in an age where everything is just handed to us?

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And if we don't get it handed to us, then

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sometimes we can act like a two year old throwing

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a king size fit. And that's usually when my dad

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would give me more than just a look, Hey, it's Arrow.

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This is the daily Mess, a chronological walk through in

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everyday world. I am a daily writer, a silent wolf.

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I sit back and just watch life. I listen to it.

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I try to replenish it while while bringing other things

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forward with it. This is the daily mess, the journey

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to make sense of the journey to make sense of who, what, where?

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Why and how. My father used to tell me all

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the time it don't make sense. Although I knew exactly

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what I was talking about, he found it to be

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very difficult to pull up a chair and just listen

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to my side of the story. Making sense to others

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requires a connection and a real conversation. One of my

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coworkers doesn't know how to make sense of the way

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that I do business. He says, you do it wrong.

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So what does he do? He puts his hands on

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that manager's cap and he starts talking to me in

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that vocal tone like a boss. And man, if that

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doesn't just get underneath my skin so quickly when somebody

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tosses out their authority like that, because it's not about

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you becoming a boss to tell me how I should

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be thinking. Making sense of my own self is very difficult.

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We each of us have to deal with that on

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a daily basis. But how do we make sense to others.

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It's not about playing out a role. That's not the answer.

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It's about being open and authentic as to why the

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origin of the subject was invited to the conversation. When

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something doesn't make sense, break out the gift of talk

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and let's work it out when we don't make sense

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to others. I don't want to have to live out

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those days with my father again. You don't make sense.

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I understand where I'm coming from because I'm going to

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break down everything that I do say before I release

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it for someone else to listen to. Learning how to

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make sense. It doesn't mean you have to be right.

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It doesn't mean that everything that you do is wrong.

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It's trying to get others to hear your side of

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the experience. I daily write. I also keep that defrag journal.

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When I need to ask questions, I go there, I

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do my studying, I break it down and I make

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sense to myself first. Then it becomes part of the conversation.

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But the trigger is when you've got something that you've

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been working on and you share it with others who

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really don't even have the time to listen to you.

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They don't want to make sense of your sense because

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they're on their own path, and are you willing to

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listen to them back and forth. We've got to become

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better listeners and better communicators. I'm Meryl, and that's the

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daily mess