Speaker 1: Hey, hey, Hey, I'm bad with something for you to
Speaker 1: think about. When your abuser never apologizes. Did that sink in?
Speaker 1: When your abuser never apologizes? I really, really really want
Speaker 1: you all to think about this because some of you.
Speaker 2: Are individuals who have given total power to people who
Speaker 2: have hurt you. Now, I know when I said abuser,
Speaker 2: some of you immediately immediately.
Speaker 1: Thought I was talking about your SUCs, your significant others,
Speaker 1: which it can be.
Speaker 2: But I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: Anyone who have hurt you and you're holding on to
Speaker 1: that hurt.
Speaker 2: Anyone who have hurt you.
Speaker 1: And you're still holding on to that hurt, that's the
Speaker 1: abuser I'm talking about. See, a lot of you want
Speaker 1: someone to say I'm sorry. You want them to say
Speaker 1: forgive me. But for most people, that's never gonna happen.
Speaker 1: You have to love yourself enough.
Speaker 2: To move on.
Speaker 1: I know a lot of you think that I'll be
Speaker 1: talking out the side of my neck, but I know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying is true.
Speaker 2: The world is full of people who are holding.
Speaker 3: On to old pain that they continue to make it
Speaker 3: feel as if it's new pain because they keep read
Speaker 3: living it, they keep reliving it, because they keep thinking
Speaker 3: about it.
Speaker 1: And they hold it to the fore front of their
Speaker 1: brains and it feels fresh.
Speaker 2: Some of you will never ever, ever ever get it.
Speaker 2: Get a I'm sorry, Please forgive me. I was wrong.
Speaker 1: I never got it from someone. But you have to
Speaker 1: move on. You cannot let what other people have done
Speaker 1: to you to control you or ruin the rest of
Speaker 1: your life. You are giving power to people when you
Speaker 1: do that, When you allow your hurt and pain that
Speaker 1: someone inflicted on you, you are the one who's making
Speaker 1: your life even worse. Because I'm telling you right now,
Speaker 1: some people will never ask you for your forgiveness. Some
Speaker 1: people can't because they're dead and gone. And I've talked
Speaker 1: about that before. Some people you're bitter and angry and
Speaker 1: enrage that are dead and gone.
Speaker 2: Make it make sense. Why are you holding on to
Speaker 2: all of.
Speaker 1: That pain.
Speaker 2: For the rest of your life.
Speaker 1: Some people have died and wanting to their graves holding
Speaker 1: on to negativity.
Speaker 2: When you do that, when you're that type of person,
Speaker 2: all it does is make you so vulnerable to predators.
Speaker 1: I'm not talking about sexual predators, but it could involve them.
Speaker 2: I'm talking about.
Speaker 1: People who prey on other people because they see their
Speaker 1: vulnerabilities When you have a lot of negativity inside of
Speaker 1: you and you're holding on to negative things, you make
Speaker 1: yourself vulnerable to other people who are of unhealed hearts
Speaker 1: and minds like you. You make yourself vulnerable to be used, abused,
Speaker 1: taking advantage of.
Speaker 2: Some of you will never ever ever get an apology.
Speaker 2: Never never, and that's a fact.
Speaker 1: Whatever you went through may have been traumatic, but what
Speaker 1: you doing to yourself is just as bad because you're
Speaker 1: inhibiting your growth. You're inhibiting your ability to mature and
Speaker 1: to become the best person that you can be because
Speaker 1: you're too busy holding on to.
Speaker 2: The anger and the pain of what someone done to you.
Speaker 1: You're mad because they died and never said I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: I want you to think about that. Think about it.
Speaker 1: Make it make sense. And what I'm saying is make
Speaker 1: it make sense that you're holding on to bitterness and
Speaker 1: anger because someone died and didn't say I'm sorry. They
Speaker 1: didn't say I'm s solemn when they were alive. So
Speaker 1: why hold on to something you never gonna receive? Why
Speaker 1: cause yourself unnecessary self inflicted pain because you're going through
Speaker 1: life with the same hatred and bitterness in your heart
Speaker 1: when every day you get to see it's a day
Speaker 1: for you to become better, a chance for you to
Speaker 1: become better, an opportunity for you to become better.
Speaker 2: But what do people do know.
Speaker 1: They double down, They double down with the negativity. If
Speaker 1: you're a negative person, you think negative, you feel negative,
Speaker 1: you act negative.
Speaker 2: People can put.
Speaker 1: On good facides, you know, they can fake and pretend
Speaker 1: very well, they're masters at it.
Speaker 2: But what's inside of you will still.
Speaker 3: Affect you because there is no change, because it's still there.
Speaker 1: It affects your marriages, it affects your ability to parent,
Speaker 1: It affects you as a boss, It affects.
Speaker 2: You as a supervisor or any form of leader.
Speaker 1: It affects you as a pastor, police officer, president.
Speaker 2: I mean, it don't matter what role.
Speaker 1: Or position that you have, an unhealed heart and mind
Speaker 1: will affect you.
Speaker 2: And this is exactly why.
Speaker 1: We're seeing all of the chaos and drama in the
Speaker 1: world today, all of the unthinkables committed in the world today,
Speaker 1: because people are of unhealed hearts and minds. Like I said,
Speaker 1: everything then come from childhood. Some people picked up things
Speaker 1: as they grow because as you get older and you
Speaker 1: start doing things on your own. Social circles change, environments,
Speaker 1: change the things that you hear and you receive from
Speaker 1: other people changes, and you get negativity from everywhere. Social media,
Speaker 1: news radio, I mean it's everywhere. So people get all
Speaker 1: kinds of negativity. And when you are not an individual
Speaker 1: who have that mental maturity, you will gravitate towards what
Speaker 1: you think is similar to you.
Speaker 2: I think it's awful.
Speaker 1: I think it's awful, and it can lead to destruction
Speaker 1: and devastation. And I know first hand it can because
Speaker 1: it happened to someone very very dear to me. It
Speaker 1: led to total destruction, total destruction because of what she
Speaker 1: chose to get into. Total destruction and devastation that can't
Speaker 1: ever be undone. It's permanent because a lot of times
Speaker 1: people get into things that they think they can handle,
Speaker 1: but they have no clue until they get in it.
Speaker 2: And they're in a bad, bad place.
Speaker 1: It's a lot of you don't want to listen to
Speaker 1: the truth. You want to rebel, You want to continue
Speaker 1: to go through life the same way, and you run into.
Speaker 2: These people that's no good for you.
Speaker 1: You get into these things like drugs and alcohol and sex,
Speaker 1: perversion and all kind of things you comhearse them into.
Speaker 2: And ruin your lives because you chose to do.
Speaker 1: The wrong things, because you chose to go through life
Speaker 1: bitter and angry. All it does is lead to self destruction.
Speaker 1: You don't have to go out and commit a Hainou's crime.
Speaker 1: You self destruct yourself in your own life by the
Speaker 1: behaviors that you have, by the thoughts that you have,
Speaker 1: and the feelings you have behind those thoughts, all because
Speaker 1: you choose not to change. You wanna do it your way,
Speaker 1: which is not the right way and haven't been.
Speaker 2: The right way obviously.
Speaker 1: If you're still in the same place mentally, your way
Speaker 1: is not the right way.
Speaker 2: If you're still struggling with the same things.
Speaker 1: From years and years ago, your way is not the
Speaker 1: right way. Obviously. If you're doing it the same you're
Speaker 1: getting the same results. Your way has not worked. I
Speaker 1: don't know how many times I have to say it,
Speaker 1: but I'll keep saying that.
Speaker 2: If it does not matter.
Speaker 1: What you gain in this world or what you don't
Speaker 1: gain in this world, what's.
Speaker 2: In you will have an effect on you.
Speaker 1: If you don't make a positive change in your life,
Speaker 1: that negativity will have an effect on you. Let me
Speaker 1: tell you, I know someone who is so negative. This
Speaker 1: person is so negative, and they have no clue that
Speaker 1: they're OCD. They have no clue that they are full
Speaker 1: of anxieties and paranoias. They have no clue I've talked
Speaker 1: to this person. They don't believe what I'm saying. I'm
Speaker 1: not telling the truth, it's not true. But I'm like,
Speaker 1: you forgot what I've done all my life. You forgot
Speaker 1: my degrees, you forgot what I've been a part of.
Speaker 1: I'm saying that to help you, not to hurt you,
Speaker 1: not to be mean. You are a negative person, and
Speaker 1: you take in all the negativity from these people in your.
Speaker 2: Life that you call your friends.
Speaker 1: All of them are me negative dumping on you, and
Speaker 1: now you're a mess.
Speaker 2: I mean all over the place, all over the place.
Speaker 1: You talk to this person, and they will go all
Speaker 1: around the world, just all over the place.
Speaker 2: But they don't see it.
Speaker 1: They see things in other people, but they can't see
Speaker 1: anything in themselves. And their home depicts their mental status.
Speaker 2: Clearly, just disarray everywhere, but they can't see it.
Speaker 1: And it's because of all of the bitterness inside that
Speaker 1: they've held on to for years and years and years
Speaker 1: and now they're just cold hearted.
Speaker 2: But they can't see.
Speaker 1: The person that hurt them the most is dead and good.
Speaker 1: When that person was alive, they still didn't apologize.
Speaker 2: But this person still care the hurting pain.
Speaker 1: They'll say that they don't, but it's obvious that they
Speaker 1: do and they have affected them for a lifetime. You
Speaker 1: have to want better for yourself. You have to love
Speaker 1: yourself despite of.
Speaker 2: What you've gone through.
Speaker 1: Anyone who hurt you, it does not matter who they were.
Speaker 1: Anyone who hurt you went through something themselves, and I've
Speaker 1: always told you it is no excuse. But because they
Speaker 1: were unhealed and never learned to cope in a positive way,
Speaker 1: they projected on you.
Speaker 2: But because that happened, you still.
Speaker 1: Could have chosen a better route, a better path for yourself.
Speaker 1: No matter what you've gone through, you still could have
Speaker 1: chose to be better. But most people stay in the
Speaker 1: same place mentally, on the same path.
Speaker 2: With no mental maturity.
Speaker 1: They get older, they gain things in life, they accomplish things,
Speaker 1: but mentally they are the same and they're still struggling
Speaker 1: with the same types of mental problems because of the
Speaker 1: hurt inside. Because they never ever, ever forgave whoever it was,
Speaker 1: and they never forgave themselves for allowing themselves to go
Speaker 1: through life.
Speaker 2: Full of hurt, pain and anger, when when they are.
Speaker 1: Way way past that, they're not experiencing it anymore. They're
Speaker 1: experiencing in their memories, and they have empowered their memories.
Speaker 1: They have so much power, they have invested so much
Speaker 1: power in their memories.
Speaker 2: That it has formed all of these negative thoughts.
Speaker 1: And they just project project, project, project, project project.
Speaker 2: That's what people do, projecting.
Speaker 1: All their negativity onto others, causing havoc.
Speaker 2: In the world.
Speaker 1: Have hearts full of hate, anger, rage, holding in that
Speaker 1: mess for years, causing dysfunction in their own lives because
Speaker 1: they choose to hold on to the negativity and not
Speaker 1: let it go.
Speaker 2: That's why every day we see.
Speaker 1: People just fallow, fallow, fallow, fallow, fall into traps, believe
Speaker 1: anything easily because of the mindsets.
Speaker 2: That they have.
Speaker 1: Even when people are blatantly doing wrong, they can't see it.
Speaker 1: They fall for the okie dope because they can't see
Speaker 1: anything else. They can't see positive because they're so.
Speaker 2: Surround it and drowning in negativity.
Speaker 1: Like I said, some of you will never receive the
Speaker 1: forgiveness you're looking for, But what you need to do
Speaker 1: is forgive yourself. You need to forgive yourself and let
Speaker 1: go and move on. I'm not saying you're gonna forget,
Speaker 1: but you don't have to give power to those negative thoughts,
Speaker 1: those memories that you are holding on to as if
Speaker 1: there is any benefit those memories that's causing you pain.
Speaker 1: It's no benefit to hold on to those things. It
Speaker 1: makes you a better person. It makes you an angry person,
Speaker 1: it makes you a person who's.
Speaker 2: Gullible and fall for things that you shouldn't fall for.
Speaker 1: The person that you really need to receive forgiveness from
Speaker 1: is yourself. Forgive those other people because obviously they went
Speaker 1: through something.
Speaker 2: Forgive them in your heart.
Speaker 1: Because they went through something too, and it was wrong
Speaker 1: of them to hurt their children.
Speaker 2: That's why I said, you know.
Speaker 1: This mindset, these unhealed hearts and minds affect parenting. We
Speaker 1: see it today right now today, the terrible parenting styles
Speaker 1: that people have absolutely terrible, and unfortunately many of those children,
Speaker 1: most of.
Speaker 2: Them will grow up with similar traits as their parents
Speaker 2: or parents.
Speaker 1: Because people get comfortable even with the negativity, They get
Speaker 1: comfortable in complacence, they normalize it and walalat of Walla.
Speaker 1: We have a world full of broken people doing the
Speaker 1: most following wrong, disrespecting, doing all kinds of things because
Speaker 1: their unheal hearts and minds. You may never get that apology,
Speaker 1: but you definitely, one hundred percent need to forgive yourself.
Speaker 1: It's up to you. You can continue in life with
Speaker 1: this darkness inside of you, or you can say enough
Speaker 1: is enough.
Speaker 2: I want better for me. I love me. Most people
Speaker 2: don't love themselves.
Speaker 1: There is no way a person love self with all
Speaker 1: the hatred and bitterness in their hearts. There is no
Speaker 1: way possible, no way, no way, no way. I don't
Speaker 1: care what you think. You do not love yourself. If
Speaker 1: you're carrying around darkness, evil, hate, anger, bitterness, that is
Speaker 1: so far from love. A person who love themselves want
Speaker 1: peace and harmony in their lives. They want love in
Speaker 1: their lives. They want to show love for other people.
Speaker 1: They want to be good to other people. You can't
Speaker 1: be that with hate in your heart.
Speaker 2: You can't. You can't love, really love with.
Speaker 1: Hatred in your heart. You just can't do it. And
Speaker 1: I know many people think that they love themselves, but
Speaker 1: it's an illusion. It truly is, because, as I said,
Speaker 1: there's no way you love yourself with so much hatred
Speaker 1: in your heart, so much negativity in you that you
Speaker 1: become comfortable and complacent with because it's so familiar. It hurts,
Speaker 1: but it's so familiar. Make it make sense, as they say,
Speaker 1: because it don't.
Speaker 2: It does not. You have to do some inside work
Speaker 2: for change to occur.
Speaker 1: No one can do it for you. You have to
Speaker 1: do it for yourself. And if you choose to keep
Speaker 1: going through life.
Speaker 2: The same way, you will get the same results.
Speaker 1: I don't care how much money you have or how
Speaker 1: much money you don't have. That heart has to change
Speaker 1: for the better if you want better in your life,
Speaker 1: point blank. And that's all I'm saying. If you want
Speaker 1: to reach out to me, you have questions, whatever, please
Speaker 1: feel free.
Speaker 2: My podcast has my email. I will respond. Thank you
Speaker 2: for listening.
Speaker 1: Please share much love in every episode the same and
Speaker 1: I pray, I pray you do it, think on it.