WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.960 --> 00:00:04.519 We just make sure you know, and it's I'll houls 2 00:00:04.559 --> 00:00:08.279 to say. Anybody has any questions and sure coming in. 3 00:00:08.279 --> 00:00:09.919 We're getting started here in a second. I got a 4 00:00:09.960 --> 00:00:10.519 need with me. 5 00:00:10.519 --> 00:00:12.439 Meat was a part of my Halloween show. 6 00:00:12.960 --> 00:00:16.640 And he's gonna be talking about the inverted matrix tonight 7 00:00:16.679 --> 00:00:17.879 and creating magic, and. 8 00:00:17.839 --> 00:00:19.559 I thought, you know what, we might as well do 9 00:00:19.600 --> 00:00:19.839 it live. 10 00:00:19.920 --> 00:00:21.800 I wasn't gonna go live again, but here I am, 11 00:00:22.120 --> 00:00:23.399 and then I might as well just do the ten 12 00:00:23.440 --> 00:00:25.600 o'clock show live too, so I'll be like five shows 13 00:00:25.600 --> 00:00:27.679 I do the one day. But I mean, I'm trying 14 00:00:27.679 --> 00:00:29.679 to get myself out there and be out there. 15 00:00:29.559 --> 00:00:32.200 A lot, so you know, I like to do this. 16 00:00:32.320 --> 00:00:34.799 But h HAMI thanks so much for coming back on 17 00:00:34.840 --> 00:00:38.359 my show. How are you? I'm doing good, Thanks Robert, 18 00:00:38.439 --> 00:00:41.640 thanks for having me. I'm very excited to have this 19 00:00:41.719 --> 00:00:45.159 with you. Yeah, so tell us a little bit about yourself. 20 00:00:45.159 --> 00:00:47.560 Tell us about your background and then your spiritual awakening 21 00:00:47.600 --> 00:00:48.039 and all that. 22 00:00:49.799 --> 00:00:52.439 Well, the funny thing is that I don't consider myself 23 00:00:52.439 --> 00:00:56.240 a spiritually a Baconing because I was born and raised 24 00:00:56.240 --> 00:01:00.399 in this reality decades ago, and when I was born, 25 00:01:01.560 --> 00:01:05.599 I always felt that I'm in some sort of a very. 26 00:01:05.480 --> 00:01:09.760 Badly made B movie that you can, you know. But 27 00:01:09.879 --> 00:01:14.519 when the COVID thing happened, I'm like, Okay, now I 28 00:01:14.599 --> 00:01:16.840 really know that I'm not crazy, and I've not been 29 00:01:16.920 --> 00:01:19.879 crazy all my life, but I can tell you that 30 00:01:20.000 --> 00:01:22.719 they're really the great thing thing. And I wouldn't necessarily 31 00:01:22.760 --> 00:01:28.120 call it my awakening, but the change in me happened 32 00:01:28.120 --> 00:01:31.719 when I did my inner child inner child therapy work 33 00:01:32.560 --> 00:01:35.799 and with my inner child therapist in two thousand and one, 34 00:01:37.159 --> 00:01:40.680 and that's when I started accessing my own guidance and 35 00:01:40.840 --> 00:01:46.000 learning things from myself. Before that, before two thousand and one, 36 00:01:48.000 --> 00:01:51.200 I was learning everything from everybody else, and my main 37 00:01:51.280 --> 00:01:55.640 source of guidance was Carlos Costanda, and I loved Carlos 38 00:01:55.640 --> 00:01:57.920 and I loved the way he looked at the world. 39 00:01:58.840 --> 00:02:04.760 But then when I sort of got into my own 40 00:02:04.840 --> 00:02:07.760 guidance in two thousand and one, and then I think 41 00:02:07.799 --> 00:02:11.400 it was nineteen ninety nine, in ninety nine that when 42 00:02:11.400 --> 00:02:13.919 I watched a movie Matrix, and I'm like, oh my god, 43 00:02:14.039 --> 00:02:17.639 this is really a documentary. This is showing what our 44 00:02:17.680 --> 00:02:20.560 reality is about. And in two thousand and one, when 45 00:02:20.560 --> 00:02:23.560 I did my own inner guidance, and learning how to 46 00:02:23.680 --> 00:02:29.520 listen to myself and find God in myself. That's when 47 00:02:29.599 --> 00:02:35.120 everything changed for me, and since then I have been 48 00:02:36.159 --> 00:02:42.680 basically I've been doing you know. I consider myself a 49 00:02:42.719 --> 00:02:45.919 life coach, a term that I don't really necessarily like. 50 00:02:47.319 --> 00:02:52.120 I consider myself I invented a nerve name for myself. 51 00:02:52.159 --> 00:02:59.879 I consider myself a healing journey guide. And the war 52 00:03:00.199 --> 00:03:04.960 I do is that I work with people. When people 53 00:03:05.000 --> 00:03:09.360 come to me with questions, I don't solve their questions 54 00:03:09.439 --> 00:03:12.520 or I don't solve their problem, but I get them 55 00:03:12.759 --> 00:03:17.360 in touch with a part of themselves that has the solution, 56 00:03:18.080 --> 00:03:23.599 because nobody is an authority on us except ourselves. And 57 00:03:23.719 --> 00:03:27.960 rather than me feeling that I can solve anybody's problems, 58 00:03:28.759 --> 00:03:32.199 I find a part of them that knows how to 59 00:03:32.280 --> 00:03:35.680 answer that question. Because each one of us as a 60 00:03:35.719 --> 00:03:42.400 person is a community of personas, and these communities, they're 61 00:03:42.479 --> 00:03:46.759 usually all these parts, all these voices. Internally, they are 62 00:03:46.800 --> 00:03:51.080 at war. But when we start learning about ourselves and 63 00:03:51.199 --> 00:03:58.280 we start finding our wounded, broken, hidden parts and burying parts, 64 00:03:59.120 --> 00:04:02.840 that's when we get to a peace of mind. And 65 00:04:02.960 --> 00:04:06.520 that's when we can hear God's guidance. So I don't 66 00:04:06.520 --> 00:04:08.879 know if that gives you an idea of what I 67 00:04:08.919 --> 00:04:11.000 am or who I am. So you do like past 68 00:04:11.039 --> 00:04:16.160 life progressions, No, no, it's you don't need to do 69 00:04:16.360 --> 00:04:21.040 past life regression. You need to do present life regression. 70 00:04:21.079 --> 00:04:25.279 You need to see what happened in your childhood. Because 71 00:04:25.720 --> 00:04:31.279 everything that happened to us that makes us basically screws 72 00:04:31.360 --> 00:04:34.160 us up is that you know, since our birth till 73 00:04:34.199 --> 00:04:38.399 about age ten, all these trauma, all these things happen 74 00:04:38.519 --> 00:04:42.959 to us that we never heal, and we become these 75 00:04:43.399 --> 00:04:48.639 children running around running on programs that we created when 76 00:04:48.680 --> 00:04:52.600 we were seven, when we're being six, and they're all 77 00:04:52.680 --> 00:04:56.680 defense mechanisms, and most people are just run by defense 78 00:04:56.720 --> 00:05:01.680 mechanisms rather than having an idea. Are to be present 79 00:05:02.279 --> 00:05:08.439 in the situation and respond, rather than react based on 80 00:05:08.480 --> 00:05:12.800 a script that they wrote when they were seven. That's amazing. 81 00:05:13.000 --> 00:05:16.600 I like that, like and so what so your clearent 82 00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:17.480 childhood trauma? 83 00:05:17.519 --> 00:05:26.480 Basically, yes, this lifetime, not last lifetime, not twenty lifetimes ago, 84 00:05:26.680 --> 00:05:32.439 this lifetime. Because we are born in this reality with 85 00:05:32.839 --> 00:05:37.240 very little ability to fend for ourselves and have the 86 00:05:37.279 --> 00:05:45.160 ability to find peace for ourselves, find love for ourselves. 87 00:05:45.560 --> 00:05:48.600 We look at our parents, we do like at authorities, 88 00:05:48.720 --> 00:05:52.000 we look at you know, our friends and peers, and 89 00:05:52.079 --> 00:05:56.800 they shape us. And most ninety percent of that stuff 90 00:05:56.839 --> 00:06:02.079 that we get is usually negative, and we create these personas. 91 00:06:02.120 --> 00:06:04.959 And that's why most of the people that you see 92 00:06:05.040 --> 00:06:09.600 around you, unless they've done it tremendous amount of inner work. 93 00:06:10.040 --> 00:06:14.759 They're all very hard on the outside, but soft and 94 00:06:14.879 --> 00:06:19.279 chewy on the inside. That's why people are also confrontational 95 00:06:19.360 --> 00:06:24.720 and angry and in a very defensive state. But then 96 00:06:24.800 --> 00:06:28.000 when you push them a little back, give them a 97 00:06:28.000 --> 00:06:30.839 little pushback, they fall done and they can't get up. 98 00:06:31.439 --> 00:06:34.959 But when you work on yourself, you become this, you know, 99 00:06:35.439 --> 00:06:38.279 it's kind of like you become this like a teddy bear. 100 00:06:38.399 --> 00:06:43.360 You become this completely soft and loving being on the 101 00:06:43.399 --> 00:06:51.439 outside that is absolutely vulnerable, but internally you are unbreakable. 102 00:06:52.600 --> 00:06:56.639 I love that. I love that. That's amazing. That's amazing. Yeah. 103 00:06:57.079 --> 00:06:59.639 So how do we how do we get into the 104 00:07:00.079 --> 00:07:03.279 topic of tonight? How do we create magic in our world? Like? 105 00:07:03.279 --> 00:07:06.240 How do we? Well? I mean, so the thing is 106 00:07:06.279 --> 00:07:14.120 that what happens is that you are a community of voices, 107 00:07:15.240 --> 00:07:18.839 and these personas and voices, all of them, have been 108 00:07:18.959 --> 00:07:27.040 created because they are defense mechanisms to something. I can 109 00:07:27.120 --> 00:07:30.120 give you an example. I had a client years ago 110 00:07:31.000 --> 00:07:33.439 and he went on a date with a beautiful girl. 111 00:07:33.959 --> 00:07:38.879 And this whole time he was with this girl, he 112 00:07:38.879 --> 00:07:44.160 he hated it. He had all this stuff being told 113 00:07:44.199 --> 00:07:47.839 inside his head. That's like, she doesn't like you, this 114 00:07:47.959 --> 00:07:50.920 is stupid whatever. There was this voice in his head 115 00:07:51.360 --> 00:07:53.240 and he was my client. So he came to me 116 00:07:53.279 --> 00:07:56.199 and said, Hamid, can you please help me? Can you 117 00:07:56.240 --> 00:08:02.160 get rid of this voice? And I'm like, okay, so 118 00:08:02.240 --> 00:08:03.959 you had a you know, you had a hard time 119 00:08:04.000 --> 00:08:06.120 when you were having on it. We were on it 120 00:08:06.240 --> 00:08:10.439 this date and he said yes, And I said, okay, 121 00:08:10.480 --> 00:08:15.040 tell me this. When you were six or seven or 122 00:08:15.120 --> 00:08:18.240 eight or something like that, did you have any issues 123 00:08:18.319 --> 00:08:22.279 with girls? And he said yeah. And I'm like, can 124 00:08:22.319 --> 00:08:24.759 you tell me what happened? And he said, well, I 125 00:08:24.800 --> 00:08:28.040 went and asked this girl to go out with me, 126 00:08:29.720 --> 00:08:32.879 and you know, I put myself out there and said 127 00:08:32.879 --> 00:08:34.600 will you go out with me? And she said no? 128 00:08:35.320 --> 00:08:38.759 And then she said no. I felt bad and I 129 00:08:38.879 --> 00:08:41.440 was throwing up for a couple of hours and I 130 00:08:41.480 --> 00:08:45.480 got sick for three weeks. And I'm like, this part 131 00:08:45.519 --> 00:08:50.039 of you that was editorializing and saying all these nasty 132 00:08:50.120 --> 00:08:53.799 things when you were at that date with this girl. Today, 133 00:08:54.480 --> 00:08:59.279 this is the part that wanted to defend you against 134 00:08:59.360 --> 00:09:04.279 bad things happening to you ever again. So that part 135 00:09:04.519 --> 00:09:09.200 is not your enemy. That part is your guard the end. 136 00:09:09.799 --> 00:09:12.679 But it doesn't know how to guard you, how to 137 00:09:12.720 --> 00:09:18.559 protect you, how to love you, because it has no way. 138 00:09:18.840 --> 00:09:23.679 It's just doing something trying to protect you from that situation. 139 00:09:24.519 --> 00:09:27.840 And what you need to do is that next time 140 00:09:27.879 --> 00:09:30.200 you go on a date and a part like that 141 00:09:30.279 --> 00:09:34.960 comes out and wants to fight with you and wants 142 00:09:34.960 --> 00:09:41.159 to fight with the situation, turn yourself, turn yourself to it, 143 00:09:42.399 --> 00:09:46.799 look at it internally, and say, I love you so much, 144 00:09:47.480 --> 00:09:51.639 thank you so much for everything that you have done 145 00:09:51.720 --> 00:09:57.039 for me all these years. But from here on, let 146 00:09:57.080 --> 00:10:00.799 me take care of myself. I don't need you to 147 00:10:00.960 --> 00:10:05.120 protect me. I love you, and I am so grateful 148 00:10:05.159 --> 00:10:09.480 to you. So what that does to you, Robert, is 149 00:10:09.519 --> 00:10:15.919 that all these parts, they are like twelve thirteen, fifteen 150 00:10:16.080 --> 00:10:20.000 angry voices, that there are all these men inside our 151 00:10:20.120 --> 00:10:24.159 head that are screaming at each other and they're fighting 152 00:10:24.200 --> 00:10:31.039 with each other really loud. And what happens is that 153 00:10:31.080 --> 00:10:34.679 when they are all fighting with each other, we cannot 154 00:10:34.720 --> 00:10:38.399 find the peace of mind, We cannot find direction, we 155 00:10:38.480 --> 00:10:42.279 cannot find guidance. And then we go to each one 156 00:10:42.360 --> 00:10:44.919 of these parts the way I told you, just you 157 00:10:45.000 --> 00:10:48.720 do with that part and turn them all into guardian. 158 00:10:49.919 --> 00:10:54.360 That these guardians sit at it at a boardroom and 159 00:10:54.399 --> 00:10:58.639 they start consult consulting to you, and they start telling 160 00:10:58.679 --> 00:11:03.480 you what to do, rather than being at each other's 161 00:11:03.559 --> 00:11:06.679 throat and at your throat. At that time, you start 162 00:11:06.759 --> 00:11:10.879 seeing I call it like a little princess, little like 163 00:11:11.720 --> 00:11:15.360 eight year old little girl who singing very sweetly, and 164 00:11:15.440 --> 00:11:18.279 you could never see and you could never hear. That 165 00:11:18.480 --> 00:11:23.000 voice is your guidance. That voice is God. And then 166 00:11:23.039 --> 00:11:26.799 you follow God, and you follow that voice, and you 167 00:11:26.879 --> 00:11:32.120 do what is right and what is a win win win, 168 00:11:32.320 --> 00:11:36.039 and what alleviates suffering. And when you do that, you 169 00:11:36.120 --> 00:11:40.039 create magic. Everywhere you go. You end up being in 170 00:11:40.120 --> 00:11:44.440 the right place, right time, with the right company, doing 171 00:11:44.519 --> 00:11:48.960 the right thing. Because you're not doing it from an ego. 172 00:11:49.240 --> 00:11:52.639 You're not doing it for yourself. You're not doing it 173 00:11:52.679 --> 00:11:55.960 to make money, you're not doing it to become popular. 174 00:11:56.480 --> 00:11:59.679 You're doing it because it's the right thing to do. 175 00:11:59.759 --> 00:12:02.720 That creates a win win win. And when you do that, 176 00:12:02.720 --> 00:12:07.600 that creates enormous magic everywhere you go and you become 177 00:12:08.360 --> 00:12:11.399 This is such a solution and medicine to other people 178 00:12:11.919 --> 00:12:18.600 who are running from their ego, running run by their emotion. 179 00:12:19.240 --> 00:12:23.080 But all of this happens when you do inner work 180 00:12:23.440 --> 00:12:29.200 and you go after all those wounded, broken parts and 181 00:12:29.360 --> 00:12:33.000 turn those wounded broken hidden parts. And I go through 182 00:12:33.039 --> 00:12:38.279 this process of I call it discover you felt first 183 00:12:38.320 --> 00:12:44.639 discover that part, then you acknowledge them, then you understand them, 184 00:12:45.120 --> 00:12:49.720 then you appreciate them, then you embrace them, then you 185 00:12:49.879 --> 00:12:54.120 celebrate them, then you honor them, and they come become 186 00:12:54.159 --> 00:12:57.960 your guardian. And then you have all these different parts. 187 00:12:58.639 --> 00:13:04.600 Then they what happens to them is that then you 188 00:13:04.720 --> 00:13:08.679 start having access to yourself, to your guidance, and that 189 00:13:08.879 --> 00:13:13.399 with that guidance you can create so much magic and 190 00:13:13.720 --> 00:13:20.919 be have synchronicities every day, so many synchronicities, so many 191 00:13:22.399 --> 00:13:28.960 splendid things and serendipities happening to you that it becomes 192 00:13:29.000 --> 00:13:32.919 just normal to you having miracles, having a miraculous life 193 00:13:33.039 --> 00:13:37.759 every single day. It becomes something that you expect rather 194 00:13:37.960 --> 00:13:42.360 than miracles, becoming something which is rare and not normal. 195 00:13:43.120 --> 00:13:44.759 I love that. I love that. I wish I could 196 00:13:44.840 --> 00:13:46.240 learn how to embrace it myself. 197 00:13:46.279 --> 00:13:49.639 You know. So it's all about you're basically enforcing the 198 00:13:49.720 --> 00:13:51.000 ego death right. 199 00:13:52.159 --> 00:13:55.799 I wouldn't say it's the ego death although I had 200 00:13:55.840 --> 00:13:59.320 an ego death process. It's not so much about it's 201 00:13:59.440 --> 00:14:04.159 about embracing. It's about really all those hidden broken parts 202 00:14:04.200 --> 00:14:07.919 of you, the wounded parts, because those wounded parts you 203 00:14:07.960 --> 00:14:11.120 see that. The thing is that, Robert, and the thing 204 00:14:11.159 --> 00:14:14.799 that we need to understand is that and any given point, 205 00:14:15.240 --> 00:14:18.559 if a human being does has not done a tremendous 206 00:14:18.559 --> 00:14:25.000 amount of inner work, they are like a dark castle. 207 00:14:25.840 --> 00:14:33.720 This dark castle is ten percent illuminated, ninety percent in 208 00:14:33.799 --> 00:14:37.559 the darkness. That darkness, and actually there is you know, 209 00:14:37.679 --> 00:14:40.559 I have different things. We have. You have there's a 210 00:14:40.639 --> 00:14:42.879 light part of you, there's a dark part of you, 211 00:14:42.960 --> 00:14:46.519 and there's a shadow. Darkness is a part of you 212 00:14:46.720 --> 00:14:50.080 that we know that we have that darkness. We are 213 00:14:50.200 --> 00:14:53.120 aware of our darkness. We are, but the shadow. The 214 00:14:53.159 --> 00:14:55.919 problem with the shadow is that ninety percent of are 215 00:14:56.639 --> 00:14:59.360 problems like the shadow, and the shadow is something that 216 00:14:59.399 --> 00:15:04.440 we are unaware we do not know we have those shadows. 217 00:15:04.759 --> 00:15:09.240 So the thing that happens, Robert, is that you have 218 00:15:09.320 --> 00:15:13.519 this illuminated part. We have this illuminated part of us that. 219 00:15:13.559 --> 00:15:16.600 Is like these beautiful lit rooms that they are well 220 00:15:16.679 --> 00:15:20.600 lit and beautiful, but then ninety percent of that castle 221 00:15:21.639 --> 00:15:25.360 is in darkness, and in that darkness the shadow lives. 222 00:15:25.360 --> 00:15:29.679 And where the shadow lives. You have no idea what 223 00:15:29.919 --> 00:15:34.080 is that has happening inside those parts. So what happens 224 00:15:34.120 --> 00:15:37.480 with people, Robert, this is why you have so much. 225 00:15:37.960 --> 00:15:41.320 You know, you cannot trust people. People tell you something, 226 00:15:41.639 --> 00:15:44.039 they give you a promise, they can't keep it because 227 00:15:44.039 --> 00:15:47.240 you're not dealing with the same person. You're dealing with 228 00:15:47.440 --> 00:15:50.840 multiple people. And like, let's take it the case of 229 00:15:50.840 --> 00:15:54.799 a people pleaser, somebody who's like, let's say you're having 230 00:15:54.840 --> 00:15:59.440 an amazing time with your significant other. You know, you're 231 00:15:59.440 --> 00:16:03.759 having an amazing dinner, You're having an amazing picnic with them, 232 00:16:04.039 --> 00:16:07.879 You're really enjoying them, they're really enjoying you. And then 233 00:16:07.919 --> 00:16:11.639 your neighbor who you don't even know, you've met him 234 00:16:11.679 --> 00:16:16.480 for five minutes, calls you and says, I am moving, 235 00:16:16.919 --> 00:16:22.320 come and help me. And because so many humans are 236 00:16:23.320 --> 00:16:27.559 programmed to become people pleasers, because that helps the authority, 237 00:16:27.600 --> 00:16:33.519 that helps the inverted matrix control our lives. We would 238 00:16:33.679 --> 00:16:37.200 drop this beautiful thing, with this beautiful love of our 239 00:16:37.279 --> 00:16:40.519 life to go help a guy that we hardly know. 240 00:16:41.519 --> 00:16:45.039 So many people do this. So many people are at 241 00:16:45.080 --> 00:16:50.240 the bottom of their priority. Everybody else is more important 242 00:16:50.279 --> 00:16:53.519 to them than themselves. And then when they go do 243 00:16:53.679 --> 00:16:58.080 this thing, they do all of these good things for 244 00:16:58.320 --> 00:17:03.679 everybody around them, but nothing for themselves. And then there's 245 00:17:03.759 --> 00:17:11.359 a point that they hit empty, that their gas tank 246 00:17:11.720 --> 00:17:15.720 is no longer has any juice left in them, and 247 00:17:15.759 --> 00:17:23.160 then when that happens, they explode. So, you know, this 248 00:17:23.279 --> 00:17:26.759 person who's been so kind and so loving to everybody, 249 00:17:27.079 --> 00:17:30.440 They go home, and then when the gas tank is unempty, 250 00:17:32.039 --> 00:17:37.000 their significant others says, how was your day? And they explode, 251 00:17:37.440 --> 00:17:40.839 What you mean? I was my day? And why does 252 00:17:40.920 --> 00:17:44.039 that happen? And the thing is because that shadow takes 253 00:17:44.079 --> 00:17:48.839 over when we have low no resources left, our shadow 254 00:17:48.880 --> 00:17:54.359 takes over, and this person who's such kind soul that 255 00:17:54.559 --> 00:18:01.039 helping everybody, then they say the nastiest, horrible things to 256 00:18:01.119 --> 00:18:05.680 other people in two minutes. And then the shadow goes 257 00:18:05.759 --> 00:18:10.440 back and the person comes back and they're like, what happened? 258 00:18:11.400 --> 00:18:15.599 What did I just say? What happened? Where did I go? 259 00:18:16.279 --> 00:18:22.200 It's literally that they burn down the whole neighborhood and 260 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:25.920 they have no idea that shadow does that, they have 261 00:18:26.160 --> 00:18:30.920 no idea, and then when they come back, they still 262 00:18:30.960 --> 00:18:33.359 are holding the matches and they don't know what happened. 263 00:18:34.279 --> 00:18:38.920 That's what happens with shadow, because we are controlled by 264 00:18:38.960 --> 00:18:46.440 shadow or shadow, and then we have so the answer 265 00:18:46.480 --> 00:18:49.720 to that is integration. The answer to that it's not 266 00:18:49.839 --> 00:18:54.720 so much about death. It's about taking all these wounded, broken, hidden, 267 00:18:54.920 --> 00:18:59.559 buried parts and making them parts of ourselves that they 268 00:18:59.720 --> 00:19:03.720 can't assault us, rather than become part of our shadow. 269 00:19:05.920 --> 00:19:07.279 I love that. I love that. 270 00:19:07.279 --> 00:19:10.400 That's amazing, And you kind of just described me like honestly, 271 00:19:10.480 --> 00:19:14.400 like because like because me, like I do so many podcasts, 272 00:19:14.440 --> 00:19:17.000 like you know today this is my fourth podcast, and 273 00:19:17.039 --> 00:19:19.440 then I even have one more after this because I 274 00:19:19.440 --> 00:19:21.200 didn't want to say notice someone and I was like, 275 00:19:21.240 --> 00:19:22.920 you know what, I was like, I'm just like, why 276 00:19:22.920 --> 00:19:25.519 am I doing so many podcasts? And by the time 277 00:19:25.559 --> 00:19:28.400 I'm done, I have no resources, I have no energy, 278 00:19:28.480 --> 00:19:29.000 you know what I mean. 279 00:19:29.079 --> 00:19:30.960 I don't even have much to show. I can't be 280 00:19:31.079 --> 00:19:33.279 doing them, you know, I can't. I can't sense that, 281 00:19:33.440 --> 00:19:35.640 Robert to you because I do some psychic work and 282 00:19:35.720 --> 00:19:40.039 some intuitive work. So part of that without me saying that, 283 00:19:40.440 --> 00:19:43.079 I wanted you to say that, but I can see 284 00:19:43.119 --> 00:19:45.359 that you are a people pleaser right now. 285 00:19:45.559 --> 00:19:48.359 You am I want to I want to make everybody happy, everybody, 286 00:19:48.599 --> 00:19:49.759 and guess. 287 00:19:49.599 --> 00:19:56.119 What that he gets you? Unempty and that unfortunately, Robert, 288 00:19:56.160 --> 00:19:59.680 the problem with that becoming a people being a people pleaser, 289 00:20:00.119 --> 00:20:03.839 which is what we're programmed to be, is that guess 290 00:20:03.880 --> 00:20:09.119 what when what that happens when we continue being people pleasers, 291 00:20:10.359 --> 00:20:13.160 we start pleasing people like you're starting to please this 292 00:20:13.319 --> 00:20:16.960 guy that wanted you, you know, wanted you to whatever 293 00:20:17.119 --> 00:20:20.160 interview them, and you're doing it's because you're a people pleaser. 294 00:20:20.839 --> 00:20:25.759 But your brother that you love so much and is 295 00:20:25.839 --> 00:20:30.240 visiting you from another town and then they are right there, 296 00:20:30.519 --> 00:20:33.359 and you don't have any time and energy left for 297 00:20:33.480 --> 00:20:36.839 this person who loves you deeply, because you have given 298 00:20:37.119 --> 00:20:41.240 all of you to people who don't even appreciate. 299 00:20:43.440 --> 00:20:46.720 Yeah, that's kind of you know, I mean, I mean 300 00:20:46.720 --> 00:20:49.440 I think my audience appreciates it, but I mean you know. 301 00:20:49.599 --> 00:20:52.720 But it's not about that. Your audience. Okay, your audience 302 00:20:52.759 --> 00:20:56.119 is great, and you know they bring you, you know whatever, 303 00:20:56.279 --> 00:21:00.400 maybe a little bit of income. And also about it 304 00:21:00.480 --> 00:21:08.119 this Robert, that it's not about not being appreciated. It's 305 00:21:08.200 --> 00:21:13.799 not about not doing the right thing. It's about doing 306 00:21:13.960 --> 00:21:22.559 things knowing your own limits, respecting yourself, respecting your boundaries, 307 00:21:22.799 --> 00:21:28.240 respecting your energy. And people don't do that. We don't 308 00:21:28.279 --> 00:21:32.799 do that because when I told you you have ten percent, 309 00:21:33.519 --> 00:21:38.400 there's this castle that is ten percent, like ninety percent shadow. Frankly, 310 00:21:38.559 --> 00:21:40.480 we don't know what the hell is happening in the 311 00:21:40.680 --> 00:21:43.880 ninety percent of us. We have no idea. If we 312 00:21:43.920 --> 00:21:48.279 don't have any idea what is happening, then how are 313 00:21:48.279 --> 00:21:50.960 we going to do anything about it? So for you 314 00:21:52.640 --> 00:21:57.240 right now, since you brought this up, there are there 315 00:21:57.319 --> 00:22:00.960 are reasons that this is the way you are. Okay, 316 00:22:01.359 --> 00:22:08.160 this is not this is not by accident, it's not 317 00:22:08.319 --> 00:22:12.079 some sort of a it didn't come from other space 318 00:22:12.240 --> 00:22:15.480 that you are the way you are. Okay, you are 319 00:22:15.599 --> 00:22:20.200 this way because of significant childhood trauma. And this is 320 00:22:20.240 --> 00:22:22.839 what happens to all of us. We all have significant 321 00:22:22.920 --> 00:22:27.279 childhood trauma. But when we don't understand that significant childhood trauma, 322 00:22:28.440 --> 00:22:32.119 we don't resolve it, and it turns into patterns like 323 00:22:32.240 --> 00:22:40.359 people pleasing. So it's again not about not serving people, 324 00:22:40.920 --> 00:22:44.519 not being of highest service. But think about it, Trobert. 325 00:22:44.720 --> 00:22:50.039 If you were setting your boundaries in a really clear, 326 00:22:50.319 --> 00:22:55.359 loving way and doing everything that is right to you 327 00:22:55.880 --> 00:22:59.880 and you love, the quality of what you do and 328 00:23:00.119 --> 00:23:03.400 the number of things that you would do would be different, 329 00:23:04.000 --> 00:23:09.359 and you would even feel different. Like when I look 330 00:23:09.519 --> 00:23:13.319 at a situation of somebody who's a people pleaser, it's 331 00:23:13.359 --> 00:23:18.200 almost like constantly you feel that like walls are closing 332 00:23:18.240 --> 00:23:21.599 in on you, Like there's a tremendous amount of pressure 333 00:23:22.119 --> 00:23:26.440 that people put themselves under. But if you do what 334 00:23:26.640 --> 00:23:31.640 we love, there is no pressure. We are doing things 335 00:23:31.680 --> 00:23:35.839 that it's kind of like overflows from you from a 336 00:23:35.920 --> 00:23:40.960 place of joy and a place of abundance rather than 337 00:23:40.960 --> 00:23:46.240 a place of being pressure to squeeze the last drop 338 00:23:46.319 --> 00:23:50.839 of energy all of us. Yeah, that's a good point. 339 00:23:51.079 --> 00:23:55.880 I never thought of that. Yeah. I mean the reason 340 00:23:55.920 --> 00:23:59.039 you didn't think about these things is because again it 341 00:23:59.079 --> 00:24:03.920 takes a tremendous amount of inner work. Because and the 342 00:24:04.000 --> 00:24:06.960 inner work that I'm talking about is not just talking. 343 00:24:07.519 --> 00:24:13.319 It's not psycho analysis. It's a lot of emotion, understanding 344 00:24:13.400 --> 00:24:18.400 our own emotions right, and understanding that why do we 345 00:24:18.519 --> 00:24:21.640 do what we do. I think once one time I 346 00:24:21.759 --> 00:24:25.279 watched the TV whatever, I will watch this thing that 347 00:24:26.440 --> 00:24:29.720 this guy was in a line. He was in a 348 00:24:29.799 --> 00:24:35.599 line for Apple for an Apple phone, for an iPhone 349 00:24:36.240 --> 00:24:42.480 for two weeks. He had camped out there to get 350 00:24:42.480 --> 00:24:46.359 an iPhone for two weeks. And then reporter asked them 351 00:24:46.519 --> 00:24:49.440 why do you why do you camp? Why do you 352 00:24:49.480 --> 00:24:52.240 are why are you doing this? And his answer was 353 00:24:52.319 --> 00:24:57.039 I don't know. And Robert, we have people who do 354 00:24:57.160 --> 00:25:01.400 something for the fears. They are in a bad relationship, 355 00:25:01.440 --> 00:25:04.440 they're like this, they're in that situation and you ask 356 00:25:04.559 --> 00:25:08.880 them why and they don't know. I'm going to give 357 00:25:08.920 --> 00:25:13.359 you another example, if I may. I had a client, Robert, 358 00:25:13.359 --> 00:25:21.079 who came to me and she was extremely, extremely excited 359 00:25:21.160 --> 00:25:24.240 to work with me as a coach, as a life coach. 360 00:25:25.160 --> 00:25:27.559 She paid me one hundred and fifty dollars for a session. 361 00:25:27.839 --> 00:25:31.640 And then she comes to the session and I'm like, so, 362 00:25:31.720 --> 00:25:35.039 why are you having a session And she's like, I 363 00:25:35.119 --> 00:25:38.559 don't know. My life is perfect. And I'm like, well, 364 00:25:38.759 --> 00:25:42.680 you really wanted to work with me. You were really eager. 365 00:25:43.200 --> 00:25:46.480 Why are you doing this? And Robert, she kept saying, 366 00:25:46.720 --> 00:25:51.440 I don't know. My life is perfect. And I'm like, okay, well, 367 00:25:51.480 --> 00:25:54.000 I saw that there was this man in your life 368 00:25:54.039 --> 00:25:57.079 that it seemed that you don't have the best relationship 369 00:25:57.119 --> 00:26:01.480 with this person. Is that right? And she's me yes? 370 00:26:02.359 --> 00:26:05.039 And I said, how long have you been with this guy? 371 00:26:05.519 --> 00:26:12.119 She said seventeen years? And I'm like, okay, why did 372 00:26:12.200 --> 00:26:14.759 you even meet up with him? Why did you want 373 00:26:14.799 --> 00:26:18.119 to be his partner or something? Because I wanted to 374 00:26:18.200 --> 00:26:22.160 help him? Okay, that's great. So Robert, I'm having a 375 00:26:22.200 --> 00:26:24.440 session with her. Right, I'm having a session with her. 376 00:26:24.640 --> 00:26:27.079 I'm talking to her. I'm talking about her inner child, 377 00:26:27.119 --> 00:26:30.039 I'm talking about her inner warrior. I'm talking about all 378 00:26:30.079 --> 00:26:33.400 these things. Half an hour later, I go to her 379 00:26:33.440 --> 00:26:36.480 and say, why did you go with this guy? Or 380 00:26:36.559 --> 00:26:39.559 because I wanted to help her? Okay, I continue the session. 381 00:26:39.599 --> 00:26:42.880 I keep working with her. I go back to the 382 00:26:42.920 --> 00:26:46.119 same question, why are you with this guy? Because I 383 00:26:46.160 --> 00:26:49.799 wanted to help him? Okay, again, I continue the session. 384 00:26:50.480 --> 00:26:53.400 Half an hour later, whatever I asked her, why are 385 00:26:53.440 --> 00:26:57.519 you with this guy? Please? This time take your time, 386 00:26:58.680 --> 00:27:05.200 really go inside, feel in yourself. Don't just blurt out 387 00:27:05.240 --> 00:27:10.880 the answer, speak what is really the truth? And her 388 00:27:10.920 --> 00:27:16.359 answer was quietly, Robert, because I wanted to be needed. 389 00:27:19.480 --> 00:27:25.240 And when she said that, Robert, there was an explosion 390 00:27:25.599 --> 00:27:28.960 right in her me and this guy she had been 391 00:27:29.359 --> 00:27:36.079 for with seventeen years, she broke up with him because 392 00:27:36.160 --> 00:27:40.839 when you get to your own truth, why do we 393 00:27:40.960 --> 00:27:45.839 do things we do? If it is not in that 394 00:27:46.240 --> 00:27:51.039 authentic alignment with who we are and what we do, 395 00:27:52.359 --> 00:27:55.480 it is easy to drop it when we take that 396 00:27:55.839 --> 00:28:03.359 on as ourselves, not as an external thing that is 397 00:28:03.519 --> 00:28:13.680 forcing us to do things. Yeah, well that's this amazing stuff. 398 00:28:13.799 --> 00:28:19.480 This is amazing stuff. This really is Thanks brilliant, thank you. 399 00:28:19.519 --> 00:28:21.839 So where do you want to go? Next week? Is 400 00:28:21.839 --> 00:28:22.640 still a little bit of. 401 00:28:22.559 --> 00:28:24.599