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<v Speaker 1>So I found this list that this woman shared of

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<v Speaker 1>questions her dad asks her before she can invite her

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<v Speaker 1>boyfriend over. And I'm curious to you guys' take on these.

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<v Speaker 1>What are important personal stories that shaped who he is today? Okay?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I don't hate. I don't hate the idea

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<v Speaker 1>behind that question, like do you know him? I think

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<v Speaker 1>that's what the you know that I was trying to

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<v Speaker 1>get to.

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<v Speaker 2>I was almost curious as to that. I kind of

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<v Speaker 2>figured that's what the case was. But like, it doesn't

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<v Speaker 2>say how long they've been together.

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<v Speaker 1>No, this is for any This is just what the

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<v Speaker 1>dad does before he can invite a boy. Is this

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<v Speaker 1>girl exactly? What does that matter? Well?

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<v Speaker 3>I mean is she a thirteen year old with a boyfriend?

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<v Speaker 1>Or right? How many life experiences does he haven?

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<v Speaker 3>Right?

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<v Speaker 1>Right?

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<v Speaker 3>Is this an adult woman who's hopefully going to marry

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<v Speaker 3>this human or this.

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<v Speaker 1>Guy that I think if it's an adult human, then

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<v Speaker 1>this is weird. I think he's trying to like give

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<v Speaker 1>her tools to know on whether rather than.

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<v Speaker 2>He's cute maybe like a sixteen seventeen year old girl.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, okay, so here's no where did he go to school?

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<v Speaker 1>And did he graduate Okay, so this is definitely after

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<v Speaker 1>high school, then maybe I think these are good questions.

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<v Speaker 1>Like here, I'm trying to give you tools for when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm dead. Okay, another word, or don't.

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<v Speaker 3>Waste my time bringing him home. I don't want to

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<v Speaker 3>meet him if if you don't know enough about him.

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<v Speaker 1>Does he have a family history of diabetes, blood disorders,

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<v Speaker 1>sickle cell sickle cell disease, or cancers? Now we've taken

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<v Speaker 1>a turn here. Yeah, you just got black all of

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<v Speaker 1>a sudden. Is he black? The girl that posted this

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<v Speaker 1>was black? Okay, that makes sense. Then having those sickle.

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<v Speaker 2>Cell absolutely absolutely, you did not preempt us with what

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<v Speaker 2>race she was.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't matter, no, but that makes sense, it does.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, I if it's a white dad asked if

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<v Speaker 2>that could be perceived as extremely racist.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think that's what I'm saying. If I ask

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<v Speaker 1>all these diseases, I'm not judging. I'm just covering all

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<v Speaker 1>the diseases, covering all of them. Has he ever had aides?

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<v Speaker 1>Has he read sex? Said medical history, which I think

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<v Speaker 1>is weird. I think there's nothing wrong with trying to

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<v Speaker 1>teach your kid like, hey, get to know someone. Oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>ask questions but when you start going like the next one,

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<v Speaker 1>does he have any past surgical procedures? I am not

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<v Speaker 1>clear on what that would be important for other than

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<v Speaker 1>to get to a deeper layer of information.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe plastic surgery. Was it?

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<v Speaker 1>Well? A lot of men don't have plastic surgery, and

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of them aren't spies.

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<v Speaker 3>True, but I maybe it was for you know, if

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<v Speaker 3>you're thinking about having children with this person, don't expect

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<v Speaker 3>them to necessarily look like that.

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<v Speaker 1>Again, I think that question is like a really deep

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<v Speaker 1>leveled we're trying to get into the third or fourth

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<v Speaker 1>level of your life rather than I'm just trying to

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<v Speaker 1>get to know you. Yeah, that question is a little bizarre.

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<v Speaker 1>You may be right, But if we're having that question,

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<v Speaker 1>I think there's nothing wrong with asking your partner if

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<v Speaker 1>they've had surgical procedure, but you're just coming over for dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if that's an important question rather than uh,

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<v Speaker 1>what was your life like? What was growing up like? Oh?

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<v Speaker 1>My dad was never there and I was a latchkey

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<v Speaker 1>kid and I've never you know, used a fork. That

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<v Speaker 1>kind of shit's important. I think when did you start dating?

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<v Speaker 1>And how many girls has he dated prior to you.

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<v Speaker 1>So I like this question, and I also don't like

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<v Speaker 1>this question. I like this question from a dad's standpoint.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like this question on a I trust you

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<v Speaker 1>as somebody that uh is an offspring of mine? Right,

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<v Speaker 1>it feels like I don't trust you. I would agree

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<v Speaker 1>with that.

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<v Speaker 2>I I don't see what the point of it is

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<v Speaker 2>because people, Yeah, it's the past. People date, and sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>people date a lot of different people. Sometimes people just

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<v Speaker 2>don't date. Maybe just that one person he fell in

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<v Speaker 2>love with the first piece of ass you got a

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<v Speaker 2>hold of.

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<v Speaker 1>Those people do exist. I don't think it's any of

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<v Speaker 1>the dad's business. I don't disagree.

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't ask my daughter that I know she's dated

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<v Speaker 2>people more than just one person.

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<v Speaker 1>I think. I don't care. I think a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>parents try to parent in a reactionary way. For example, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I want to bring this guy i'm dating over, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>does he have any past surgical procedures? What's his family history?

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<v Speaker 1>Does he have sickle? Sell like, that's not the time

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<v Speaker 1>to parent. That is out the window at that.

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<v Speaker 2>Point, and you're not learning anything about the person. To me,

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<v Speaker 2>I think their character is way more important. The boyfriend

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<v Speaker 2>in this case, the character is way more important than

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<v Speaker 2>the past surgical procedures or you know, stuff like that,

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<v Speaker 2>and you don't get to find out. Maybe you can

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<v Speaker 2>see what kind of character they are by asking these questions.

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<v Speaker 1>I agree that character like, what's their character like? And

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<v Speaker 1>maybe a question of what personal story shape. You can

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<v Speaker 1>kind of give examples of that character, but ultimately you'll lie.

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<v Speaker 1>So your character I cannot judge until you are in

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<v Speaker 1>front of me. Until I see you conduct yourself in public,

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<v Speaker 1>That will tell me your character. How you act when

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<v Speaker 1>a grandma is on the street corner trying to cross

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<v Speaker 1>the street. If you see trash, if you throw trash

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<v Speaker 1>on there, you know what I'm saying, Like, I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>start judging your character off those behaviors. Do you hold

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<v Speaker 1>the door open for my daughter? I'm judging you in

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<v Speaker 1>those moments. Another one, what does he do for a living?

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<v Speaker 1>That feels like a fair question. I think there's some

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<v Speaker 1>primer questions, like to get me ready for the visit

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<v Speaker 1>that are a fair game. Hey, what does he do

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<v Speaker 1>for a living? He's a he's a copy machine salesman.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, well, I mean it's better than being a crack salesman.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. One of them you saw a business future, right,

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<v Speaker 1>one of them you didn't. Who does he live with?

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<v Speaker 1>Another great question?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, does he still live with his parents? Is he

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<v Speaker 2>twenty seven and still living with parents? Okay? Or is

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<v Speaker 2>he on his own? Does he every probably if he

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<v Speaker 2>will copy printers or if he sells brek?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? True? Why did he break up with his last girlfriend? Again,

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<v Speaker 1>we're into a question. I think that you should have

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<v Speaker 1>had that seed planeted with your kid a long time

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<v Speaker 1>ago to get to know someone and not just go

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<v Speaker 1>off looks.

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<v Speaker 2>But you said it before. What's it matter because they'll

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<v Speaker 2>there's a chance, a good chance they'll just lie about it.

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<v Speaker 1>Doesn't mean that because someone could lie, you shouldn't try

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<v Speaker 1>to find out because then they can go well you

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<v Speaker 1>didn't ask. It's on you, right at least if he goes,

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<v Speaker 1>oh he dated you know Lindsey, and you go, I know, Lindsay, Lindsay,

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<v Speaker 1>did you date George his piece of shit? Right? Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Of me every day? Yeah? Uh? Does he make you

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<v Speaker 1>feel supported and safe?

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<v Speaker 3>It's a good question for a dad to ask a daughter.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, But here's my problem with that question. If she

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<v Speaker 1>really likes him and he's I'm just gonna go with

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<v Speaker 1>the leather jacket, you know, cigarettes rolled up in the

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<v Speaker 1>sleeve kind of shit. Ray yeah, well yeah yeah, but

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<v Speaker 1>like that mentality. Ah, she's gonna tell him, Yes, a kid,

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<v Speaker 1>unless you have a solid relationship with your kid, which

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<v Speaker 1>if you did, you wouldn't need to ask these questions.

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<v Speaker 1>They're gonna just say yes, yeah, right, because they want

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<v Speaker 1>to date them. What do you like most and least

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<v Speaker 1>about him? I think that's a great question. That's probably

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<v Speaker 1>the best question on that list. And asking to me like.

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<v Speaker 2>Blood work, right, it's weird, man, unless it's like looking

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<v Speaker 2>for like does he have a family history of cancer,

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<v Speaker 2>like with the diabetes or whatever? If I get it,

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<v Speaker 2>trying to see if there's long term here. But it's

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<v Speaker 2>still weird.

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<v Speaker 1>It is. It feels a little old school, right.

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<v Speaker 3>Like if he did have a history of cancer in

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<v Speaker 3>his family, what she's supposed to just dump him?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes? Right? What answer here is gonna negate the situation

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<v Speaker 1>because a kid, if they really want to date this individual,

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<v Speaker 1>is going to circumvent that answer, right, And again I

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<v Speaker 1>think the works you've missed the chance for work by

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<v Speaker 1>this point, and to set that stuff up, Yeah, my

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<v Speaker 1>kid goes, hey, I want to bring George over. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be I'm gonna be great. Let me ask you

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<v Speaker 1>some questions about George so I know who he is,

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<v Speaker 1>Not like I need to approve his visit in a

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<v Speaker 1>home we share together, exactly. But you just bring him

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<v Speaker 1>over and I'll ask him the question. Now that's a

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<v Speaker 1>different thing. I got no problem whoever my daughter dates

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<v Speaker 1>bringing over and making them feel uncomfortable.

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<v Speaker 3>My dad was never like I want to make him

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<v Speaker 3>feel uncomfortable. Like sure, he joked about, oh, when you

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<v Speaker 3>start dating and bring a guy home, I'm going to

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<v Speaker 3>be sure to cleaning my shotguns or something. But he

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<v Speaker 3>was It was very simple for him. If he could

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<v Speaker 3>hold a conversation with a guy that I was seeing,

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<v Speaker 3>then it was cool. But if he couldn't, if he

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<v Speaker 3>could not converse with this gentleman, he wasn't for me.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So I think that's wild. Yeah, it was this great,

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<v Speaker 1>I know, but that's not an accurate red flag. Meeting

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<v Speaker 1>the father of somebody your dating is incredibly nerve wracking, right,

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<v Speaker 1>And to put make that be the threshold on whether

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<v Speaker 1>they're worthy or not, it's hardly fair.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, What if he's just, you know, very charismatic and

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<v Speaker 2>knows how to answer the question.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure, but he did right the beaver. Uh it did work.

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<v Speaker 3>I mean there was one guy in particular that I

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<v Speaker 3>remember that I really crushed on, really hard, and he

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<v Speaker 3>could not hold a conversation with me. It was like

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<v Speaker 3>he was he was nervous and it didn't matter how

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<v Speaker 3>many times he would come over and he just might

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<v Speaker 3>have was like, I can't get anything out of him,

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<v Speaker 3>Like what did he want? He just wanted to hold

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<v Speaker 3>a conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe he didn't want to talk to your dad.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, but it didn't work out, right, But you know.

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<v Speaker 1>But in the grand scheme of things, maybe he just

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<v Speaker 1>didn't want to talk to your dad, right, Yeah, him

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<v Speaker 1>not talking to your dad hardly warranted whether you guys

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<v Speaker 1>worked out or not. Well, I look where they're at now. No,

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<v Speaker 1>I get the correlation, right, I get the correlation. But

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't mean anything because maybe your husband met him.

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<v Speaker 1>But would he have passed that test? You'd like to

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<v Speaker 1>think yes, right, but there's no way to know.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, what's weird is the first night that I ran

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<v Speaker 3>into my now husband. I was twenty two years old

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<v Speaker 3>and at a bar having dinner with my dad, and

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<v Speaker 3>Kevin had came up and approached us, and we hadn't

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<v Speaker 3>seen each other since high school. And I said, holy shit, Kevin,

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<v Speaker 3>what's going on? And he was like, Lindsey Wow. And

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<v Speaker 1>What does that mean at that level? Did we talk

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<v Speaker 1>ass But I don't think people are aware of that. No, no,

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<v Speaker 1>hell no. They don't think about it until you go

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<v Speaker 2>Was, right, she would probably say you did. She would

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<v Speaker 2>But maybe it's because.

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<v Speaker 1>Does that make me bad? Though? And great? And really

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<v Speaker 2>Cause trauma on somebody they can't and it sucks. But

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<v Speaker 2>one could also say it's on them. You know, it's

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<v Speaker 2>not your actions, it's it's their reactions that caused the trauma. Right,

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<v Speaker 2>It's not anything you did, it's just how they reacted

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<v Speaker 2>that causes the trauma. I don't think it makes you

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<v Speaker 2>a bad person. I'm sure there's people out there.

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<v Speaker 1>That that that.

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<v Speaker 2>That do things on purpose and to cause harm and

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<v Speaker 2>trauma to people, but I think a lot of us

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<v Speaker 2>And I didn't think about it at the time, but

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, that's how I feel. We'll come back. But to

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<v Speaker 1>tie that up to what the list is, I got

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<v Speaker 1>every any trouble I got in with him was all

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<v Speaker 1>the bus, and but I got cross with him, and

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't mean I did anything wrong. So my point

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<v Speaker 1>being is that those things there's no way to know

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<v Speaker 1>right now. As far as I don't think you, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think people militia, people sit down and plan to

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<v Speaker 1>do harmful things. I think, like, let's take a classic

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<v Speaker 1>example of like an abuser. I don't think an abuser goes,

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<v Speaker 1>how can I abuse this person today? I think that's

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<v Speaker 1>what they know. They think that's a relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>That's fair to say, that's fair to say. They do

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<v Speaker 1>And so I don't I don't think people, well, some

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<v Speaker 2>There's there's a small group of people that are just

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<v Speaker 2>fucking hateful assholes that are like, oh, can't I destroy

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<v Speaker 1>Worst case scenario? Right? Hitler thought he was doing good

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<v Speaker 1>right right, So I know he wasn't like, how can

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<v Speaker 1>I hurt these people today? He was believing in the

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<v Speaker 1>cause right right right, So to him, it wasn't bad.

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<v Speaker 1>He wasn't twiddling his thumbs in an evil way. Though

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<v Speaker 1>we know that now, I mean, we knew it. We

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<v Speaker 1>ratherittle I won't.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, maybe it is all subconscious, regardless of who you are.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe it is all subconscious. We don't mean to I

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<v Speaker 2>don't mean to hurt anybody. It happens. But again that

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<v Speaker 2>goes back to is it is it something I did

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<v Speaker 2>or is it just just your reaction?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, so this is okay, I'll go down. This is

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<v Speaker 1>fucking wild. So there's this theory that your subconscious doesn't exist.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just a thing that we have said for a

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<v Speaker 1>long time, that you have the subconscious that to almost

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<v Speaker 1>absolve you from responsibility, and that what happens is if

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<v Speaker 1>you will, you have a case. You have a plethora

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<v Speaker 1>of Marvel characters in your head and the majority of

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<v Speaker 1>them are really bad actors in your mind, and you

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<v Speaker 1>learned you have a managing of traffic air on who

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<v Speaker 1>you let run your life? Okay, sorry, and then you

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<v Speaker 1>say things like subconscious to absolve yourself like it wasn't me,

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<v Speaker 1>it was my subpetious rather than you have these thoughts

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<v Speaker 1>or characters. You and I've kind of talked about this,

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<v Speaker 1>type of person that every now and again that character

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<v Speaker 1>will get out and then it becomes normal. Right. It

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<v Speaker 3>An abuser or a serial killer who says, well, they

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<v Speaker 1>Right. If you're choosing, hey, I shouldn't kill anybody regardless

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<v Speaker 1>of what they do, just because I don't agree with it,

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<v Speaker 1>then then yeah, you would know that, Hey, that's not okay.

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<v Speaker 1>What about the child molesters? Can we kill them? Yeah? Hot?

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<v Speaker 1>Take No, I don't think you should kill the child molesters,

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<v Speaker 1>they should go through due process and be handled that way,

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<v Speaker 1>and then what happens in the jailhouse stays in the jailhouse.

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<v Speaker 2>Is that big stand, I think is what it was

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<v Speaker 2>the movie with Rob Schneider, and there's like Rob's like

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<v Speaker 2>about this movie on this podcast before as a matter

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<v Speaker 2>of fact, and it's like, all right, from here on out,

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<v Speaker 2>are you in here for? And he's like, I mean

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<v Speaker 2>here for twenty years for selling weed? And he's like, now,

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<v Speaker 2>should this guy right here get raped every.

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<v Speaker 1>Day for selling a little bit of weed? Right?

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<v Speaker 2>No? And then one of the other inmates is like,

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<v Speaker 1>Can we rape them? And he's like, the punishment fits

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<v Speaker 1>the crime. I'm for it, Go for it. There's a

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<v Speaker 1>all are pretty lucky that we're not child molesters, because

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<v Speaker 1>I still love grape juice. Yeah, it's fair. We all

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<v Speaker 1>make our decisions. Now, was it your subconscious that said, no,

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<v Speaker 1>little girls anymore, but liking you know, sweet tarts was

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<v Speaker 1>still okay, right, and animal crackers. So what you're saying,

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<v Speaker 1>but we just keep it down inside. Michael Berger at

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<v Speaker 1>iHeartMedia dot Com. No, you said that. I never said that.

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<v Speaker 1>But with that thought process, it explains why people, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>go off the rocker, and you know, like you hear

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<v Speaker 1>There was never a problem until there was the idea

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<v Speaker 1>grilling and showing that you don't trust or I trust you?

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<v Speaker 1>And it is what it is, Lindsey, I trust you.

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<v Speaker 3>What is it is? What it is?

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<v Speaker 1>That's it hardly matters, right, Okay.

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<v Speaker 3>You'll figure it out matters because you just have to

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<v Speaker 3>have faith in yourself that you raised someone who can

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<v Speaker 1>That series of questions hardly will decide if they're worth

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<v Speaker 1>being around, because you can pass all the tests. This

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<v Speaker 1>don't know about you. I think I'm a pretty good guy,

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<v Speaker 1>and I've been in many relationships and they ended. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything happens for a reason, and it isn't because I

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<v Speaker 1>or haven't had sickle cell right. Yeah, I just think

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<v Speaker 1>about these things like as you get older, you can

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<v Speaker 1>do all the right steps and well, Jason Bateman's got

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<v Speaker 1>a really great thing about being an actor, and he's asked,

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<v Speaker 1>am an actor? And he's like, you know, the idea

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<v Speaker 2>Being brought into it as a young child and groomed

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<v Speaker 2>Right, I'm sure there's a lot of people that want that.

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<v Speaker 2>They see their kid, you know, he's got some kind

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<v Speaker 3>Oh, Michael J.

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<v Speaker 1>Fox movie.

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<v Speaker 3>They were filming in Chicago, or doing auditions in Chicago,

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<v Speaker 3>that mold. It was Life with Mikey was the name.

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<v Speaker 1>would you take your kids to do that? Yeah? I would.

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<v Speaker 1>Want to go, sure, sure, that's it. That's a fun

418
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<v Speaker 1>way to word that. If there was something you knew

419
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<v Speaker 1>is not good for them, would you encourage them to

420
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<v Speaker 1>do it because they are expressing interest?

421
00:23:48.079 --> 00:23:50.359
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, I mean I let my kid play football. It's

422
00:23:50.519 --> 00:23:52.880
<v Speaker 3>you know, not necessarily good for them, right.

423
00:23:54.359 --> 00:23:55.599
<v Speaker 1>So yes, I would.

424
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<v Speaker 3>However, I think I would make sure that I was

425
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<v Speaker 3>there every step of the way.

426
00:24:03.119 --> 00:24:06.720
<v Speaker 1>So I could be involved. Until you know a movie

427
00:24:06.799 --> 00:24:09.000
<v Speaker 1>that Ryan Roolds is on and he is like, hey,

428
00:24:09.000 --> 00:24:10.559
<v Speaker 1>come talk to me over here, and then you not

429
00:24:10.640 --> 00:24:11.559
<v Speaker 1>have eyes on your kid.

430
00:24:11.599 --> 00:24:13.519
<v Speaker 2>Or hang out on my trailer for a little bit. Right,

431
00:24:13.839 --> 00:24:15.039
<v Speaker 2>so you the real Deadpool?

432
00:24:15.119 --> 00:24:16.200
<v Speaker 1>Yeah? What about you gimp?

433
00:24:16.920 --> 00:24:17.000
<v Speaker 3>Uh?

434
00:24:17.160 --> 00:24:19.039
<v Speaker 2>Well, them figured out on your own. That's the thing

435
00:24:19.039 --> 00:24:20.720
<v Speaker 2>about life, man, You got to figure it out on

436
00:24:20.759 --> 00:24:22.920
<v Speaker 2>your own. You gotta let them figure out on it.

437
00:24:23.039 --> 00:24:25.079
<v Speaker 2>You can protect your kids or try to protect them

438
00:24:25.559 --> 00:24:29.119
<v Speaker 2>until the fucking day is done, and then things are

439
00:24:29.119 --> 00:24:30.319
<v Speaker 2>gonna happen regardless.

440
00:24:30.400 --> 00:24:31.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know what I mean.

441
00:24:31.759 --> 00:24:35.440
<v Speaker 2>And if they're expressing interest in this and they want

442
00:24:35.440 --> 00:24:37.200
<v Speaker 2>to do it, go for it.

443
00:24:37.319 --> 00:24:37.920
<v Speaker 1>Have had it.

444
00:24:37.920 --> 00:24:40.359
<v Speaker 2>That will support you one hundred percent. I'll be there

445
00:24:40.400 --> 00:24:44.240
<v Speaker 2>if it falls apart. Yeah, but you got to figure

446
00:24:44.279 --> 00:24:48.359
<v Speaker 2>that on your own. I cannot. I cannot protect you

447
00:24:48.480 --> 00:24:51.119
<v Speaker 2>all the time, right.

448
00:24:50.279 --> 00:24:53.759
<v Speaker 1>I just can't. It's impossible. Right. I don't disagree with that.

449
00:24:53.759 --> 00:24:56.200
<v Speaker 1>That doesn't mean I'm knocking on too now. And I

450
00:24:56.319 --> 00:24:58.920
<v Speaker 1>kind of have the attitude of if you wanted to

451
00:24:58.960 --> 00:25:04.559
<v Speaker 1>sell drugs, would I let you? Okay, what's the answer.

452
00:25:04.759 --> 00:25:04.960
<v Speaker 2>No?

453
00:25:05.279 --> 00:25:08.880
<v Speaker 1>Why not? They're showing interest because it's illegal? Well, so

454
00:25:09.039 --> 00:25:12.279
<v Speaker 1>what we just made an argument both of you did

455
00:25:12.279 --> 00:25:14.000
<v Speaker 1>that they should be able to do whatever they want.

456
00:25:14.599 --> 00:25:19.039
<v Speaker 1>I love them, do it well, then sell tic TACs Like, no,

457
00:25:19.160 --> 00:25:19.799
<v Speaker 1>you don't know.

458
00:25:19.920 --> 00:25:22.400
<v Speaker 2>Now, you're changing what they want to do, right, right,

459
00:25:22.480 --> 00:25:25.039
<v Speaker 2>you can't do that. If they want to sell drugs,

460
00:25:25.200 --> 00:25:25.839
<v Speaker 2>let them do it.

461
00:25:26.200 --> 00:25:28.839
<v Speaker 1>They've got the question. No, they've got to figure it out.

462
00:25:28.920 --> 00:25:31.160
<v Speaker 2>They've got to figure it out that like, Okay, this

463
00:25:31.279 --> 00:25:32.559
<v Speaker 2>is something you want to do, but there are also

464
00:25:32.680 --> 00:25:35.799
<v Speaker 2>consequences that go with it, and you can't protect.

465
00:25:35.440 --> 00:25:36.200
<v Speaker 1>Them all the time.

466
00:25:36.400 --> 00:25:38.319
<v Speaker 2>So if they want to go and fucking sell drugs,

467
00:25:38.359 --> 00:25:40.079
<v Speaker 2>then go fucking sell drugs.

468
00:25:40.559 --> 00:25:43.319
<v Speaker 1>Just know that if you get caught, you're fucked.

469
00:25:43.599 --> 00:25:46.440
<v Speaker 2>You're in jail, and I'll be there to bail you out,

470
00:25:46.640 --> 00:25:48.599
<v Speaker 2>and I'll go to your court I'll go to your

471
00:25:48.640 --> 00:25:49.559
<v Speaker 2>courtrooms with you.

472
00:25:49.680 --> 00:25:53.440
<v Speaker 3>But told them there's consequences.

473
00:25:52.759 --> 00:25:55.200
<v Speaker 1>Because they have to learn on their own. But it

474
00:25:55.319 --> 00:25:58.480
<v Speaker 1>doesn't bailing them out show them that there's an out. Yeah,

475
00:25:58.480 --> 00:25:59.599
<v Speaker 1>that you're enabling it.

476
00:26:00.039 --> 00:26:02.720
<v Speaker 2>Give them that one free pass like my parents told me.

477
00:26:03.039 --> 00:26:05.160
<v Speaker 2>And if it's only had to been done one, I

478
00:26:05.200 --> 00:26:08.559
<v Speaker 2>will bail you out of jail one time. After that,

479
00:26:09.000 --> 00:26:11.680
<v Speaker 2>no more, my friend will do it. I'll bail you

480
00:26:11.720 --> 00:26:14.759
<v Speaker 2>out of jail one time, and I would do it

481
00:26:14.920 --> 00:26:17.599
<v Speaker 2>for either one of my kids. If all three of

482
00:26:17.599 --> 00:26:19.680
<v Speaker 2>them got fucking all three of them got locked up

483
00:26:19.680 --> 00:26:22.079
<v Speaker 2>at the same time, then shit, all right done, all

484
00:26:22.119 --> 00:26:25.160
<v Speaker 2>three of you done used your card. But I did

485
00:26:25.200 --> 00:26:27.880
<v Speaker 2>it once. I belgi out one time. The rest of that,

486
00:26:28.000 --> 00:26:30.559
<v Speaker 2>you're on your own. You gotta figure, you gotta learn.

487
00:26:30.680 --> 00:26:32.599
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I'm not far from what you're saying. Like I

488
00:26:32.640 --> 00:26:35.839
<v Speaker 1>believe you've got to give your kids room to make mistakes,

489
00:26:36.400 --> 00:26:38.359
<v Speaker 1>but I think I have a responsibility to try and

490
00:26:38.440 --> 00:26:40.599
<v Speaker 1>keep you out of danger as best as possible, right,

491
00:26:40.759 --> 00:26:45.039
<v Speaker 1>and sometimes that might mean you're not selling drugs, And

492
00:26:45.240 --> 00:26:47.599
<v Speaker 1>I don't think you should be a child actor again.

493
00:26:47.720 --> 00:26:51.200
<v Speaker 2>But this goes back to you know, my daughter's dating

494
00:26:51.200 --> 00:26:52.000
<v Speaker 2>a black guy.

495
00:26:52.119 --> 00:26:54.279
<v Speaker 1>You know, I don't want you dating that black guy.

496
00:26:54.440 --> 00:26:56.039
<v Speaker 1>She'd go fucking do it anyway.

497
00:26:56.359 --> 00:26:58.920
<v Speaker 2>The more that you do anything that you push against them,

498
00:26:58.960 --> 00:27:00.799
<v Speaker 2>they're going to do it anyway.

499
00:27:02.759 --> 00:27:04.599
<v Speaker 1>I just want to help clean you, help that clean

500
00:27:04.599 --> 00:27:05.960
<v Speaker 1>that up of it. I don't think that's a fair

501
00:27:05.960 --> 00:27:09.279
<v Speaker 1>comparison to like something that is illegal, like who you

502
00:27:09.400 --> 00:27:11.799
<v Speaker 1>date that that is what it is, like that there

503
00:27:11.880 --> 00:27:15.319
<v Speaker 1>is zero wrong there's a zero wrong person, right right right.

504
00:27:15.440 --> 00:27:18.039
<v Speaker 2>I'm just saying that, like, whatever they want to do,

505
00:27:18.119 --> 00:27:21.039
<v Speaker 2>they're gonna do it anyway, regardless of what it is,

506
00:27:21.359 --> 00:27:24.799
<v Speaker 2>whether it's dating somebody of another ethnicity, or whether it's

507
00:27:24.839 --> 00:27:28.440
<v Speaker 2>selling drugs or selling feet picks on fucking only fans,

508
00:27:28.759 --> 00:27:29.519
<v Speaker 2>They're gonna do.

509
00:27:29.440 --> 00:27:31.799
<v Speaker 1>It anyway, and there's nothing I can do about it.

510
00:27:31.920 --> 00:27:33.599
<v Speaker 1>That is true. I I you and I agree on

511
00:27:33.599 --> 00:27:35.759
<v Speaker 1>that one hundred percent. But when I signed up to

512
00:27:35.799 --> 00:27:39.599
<v Speaker 1>be a parent, I took on the responsibility of trying

513
00:27:39.640 --> 00:27:41.640
<v Speaker 1>to steer them away from those things.

514
00:27:41.680 --> 00:27:45.599
<v Speaker 2>And that is fantastic until they turn eighteen, and then

515
00:27:45.440 --> 00:27:46.960
<v Speaker 2>they are they're their own people.

516
00:27:47.000 --> 00:27:48.359
<v Speaker 1>That's a different conversation with adults.

517
00:27:48.400 --> 00:27:51.400
<v Speaker 2>And maybe that's why I'm like looking at things differently

518
00:27:51.599 --> 00:27:54.319
<v Speaker 2>than you can. Your perspective exactly. All my kids are

519
00:27:54.359 --> 00:27:56.799
<v Speaker 2>all growing up. Every fucking one of them's eighteen and over.

520
00:27:56.839 --> 00:27:57.880
<v Speaker 1>They're all adults.

521
00:27:59.279 --> 00:28:01.960
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, And who's just saying they could still get fucked

522
00:28:02.000 --> 00:28:03.079
<v Speaker 2>up later on down the road.

523
00:28:03.079 --> 00:28:04.359
<v Speaker 1>But listen, I did my part.

524
00:28:04.720 --> 00:28:06.359
<v Speaker 2>I did my part and did everything I could to

525
00:28:06.359 --> 00:28:09.799
<v Speaker 2>make sure that these people grow up to be upstanding citizens.

526
00:28:10.079 --> 00:28:12.200
<v Speaker 2>You know, now they're adults and there's nothing I can

527
00:28:12.240 --> 00:28:12.880
<v Speaker 2>read about it.

528
00:28:13.039 --> 00:28:15.200
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I think that's a fun question too, is

529
00:28:15.720 --> 00:28:19.920
<v Speaker 1>what is an upstanding citizen? Well, and and that's rhetorical

530
00:28:19.920 --> 00:28:22.960
<v Speaker 1>that I think it's gonna be different for everybody. What

531
00:28:23.039 --> 00:28:24.799
<v Speaker 1>is an ups Is it someone who goes to church

532
00:28:24.839 --> 00:28:27.200
<v Speaker 1>every day? Is it someone who pays their taxes? Is

533
00:28:27.200 --> 00:28:30.759
<v Speaker 1>it someone who? Are you a good person if you

534
00:28:31.319 --> 00:28:34.119
<v Speaker 1>pay your taxes but also work in arms deals?

535
00:28:34.319 --> 00:28:34.519
<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

536
00:28:34.599 --> 00:28:34.720
<v Speaker 3>Right?

537
00:28:35.880 --> 00:28:37.960
<v Speaker 1>Do you pay the taxes on the arms deals? Yeah?

538
00:28:38.000 --> 00:28:41.319
<v Speaker 1>Do you see what I'm saying? Like, what's the movie

539
00:28:41.400 --> 00:28:47.839
<v Speaker 1>with Denzel Washington and he's the drug guy in New York? No,

540
00:28:48.000 --> 00:28:51.359
<v Speaker 1>he's that's a police officer. Yeah, still drugs involved, drugs

541
00:28:51.359 --> 00:28:56.079
<v Speaker 1>are involved, but with t I and uh, he's the

542
00:28:56.119 --> 00:28:57.880
<v Speaker 1>boss and he goes up to that guy and shoots

543
00:28:57.960 --> 00:28:59.599
<v Speaker 1>that guy in the other drug guy in the face.

544
00:29:00.480 --> 00:29:01.440
<v Speaker 3>Was it something brothers?

545
00:29:02.160 --> 00:29:08.599
<v Speaker 1>No? Anyway, in that movie, he's a good dude, but

546
00:29:09.079 --> 00:29:13.799
<v Speaker 1>he's also not a good dude. So American gangster. Yeah

547
00:29:13.839 --> 00:29:16.200
<v Speaker 1>that's what it is. Yeah. Yeah, he was a bad

548
00:29:16.240 --> 00:29:17.440
<v Speaker 1>motherfucker in that movie, but a.

549
00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:21.559
<v Speaker 2>Good person too, exactly for for his community.

550
00:29:21.839 --> 00:29:24.960
<v Speaker 1>So he was a good person but got there a

551
00:29:25.000 --> 00:29:28.200
<v Speaker 1>different story. That's what I'm saying. He provided turkeys for

552
00:29:28.240 --> 00:29:30.400
<v Speaker 1>everybody and Thanksgiving. He took care of people in the

553
00:29:30.440 --> 00:29:34.240
<v Speaker 1>neighborhood and they insulate. But you could argue he wasn't

554
00:29:34.279 --> 00:29:37.200
<v Speaker 1>good dude because he made those moves to insulate himself, right,

555
00:29:37.359 --> 00:29:38.319
<v Speaker 1>kind of like Dexter.

556
00:29:39.079 --> 00:29:43.200
<v Speaker 3>He was a serial killer, but he only killed bad

557
00:29:43.279 --> 00:29:43.920
<v Speaker 3>people that.

558
00:29:43.920 --> 00:29:46.799
<v Speaker 1>Were He wasn't a good dude at all. No, Dexter's

559
00:29:46.839 --> 00:29:49.680
<v Speaker 1>not a good dude at all, no way, shape or

560
00:29:49.720 --> 00:29:53.279
<v Speaker 1>form he thought he was. He was that is a

561
00:29:53.319 --> 00:29:58.319
<v Speaker 1>serial killer. They think they're doing good. These people, these

562
00:29:58.319 --> 00:30:02.519
<v Speaker 1>people that killed prostitutes, they think they're doing God's work.

563
00:30:03.279 --> 00:30:05.920
<v Speaker 1>That's what Dexter is doing. He thinks he's doing the

564
00:30:05.960 --> 00:30:13.079
<v Speaker 1>work of justice without judge or jury. Right, fascinating all

565
00:30:13.119 --> 00:30:17.119
<v Speaker 1>because you want to know who's got sickle cell. I

566
00:30:17.160 --> 00:30:19.799
<v Speaker 1>may start doing that with my daughters when they're of age.

567
00:30:20.119 --> 00:30:25.680
<v Speaker 1>Does he have sickle cell? Right?

568
00:30:25.759 --> 00:30:25.799
<v Speaker 3>No?

569
00:30:26.119 --> 00:30:30.039
<v Speaker 1>Does he like green peppers? There you go, it's the

570
00:30:30.079 --> 00:30:33.319
<v Speaker 1>hard hitting questions right there. Yeah, that's for me. I

571
00:30:33.319 --> 00:30:34.759
<v Speaker 1>want to know the things you don't like because I

572
00:30:34.759 --> 00:30:39.680
<v Speaker 1>can just roll you for it. Okra, He'll never have

573
00:30:39.720 --> 00:30:40.720
<v Speaker 1>okra in this house.

574
00:30:41.079 --> 00:30:44.119
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, he eats meatless Fahida's dad. It's a little weird,

575
00:30:44.119 --> 00:30:44.640
<v Speaker 2>but it's okay.

576
00:30:44.640 --> 00:30:54.559
<v Speaker 1>It's just onions and peppers. Fas kind of savas you mean,

577
00:30:54.640 --> 00:31:00.920
<v Speaker 1>grilled peppers and onions, right, gross, show me your greeno

578
00:31:01.039 --> 00:31:02.480
<v Speaker 1>without showing me your greeno.

579
00:31:03.000 --> 00:31:04.920
<v Speaker 2>I'm all for it, But give me the meat. But

580
00:31:04.960 --> 00:31:07.599
<v Speaker 2>the goddamn steak chicken or you know, shrimping there mane.

581
00:31:09.000 --> 00:31:09.839
<v Speaker 2>I love the combo.

582
00:31:10.319 --> 00:31:12.400
<v Speaker 1>Oh, that's the best way to do it. Yeah, it's

583
00:31:12.640 --> 00:31:16.720
<v Speaker 1>salsa and sky took. They do shrimp chicken, shrimp chicken

584
00:31:18.240 --> 00:31:23.000
<v Speaker 1>steak covered in caeso. Yeah. Love that place up there,

585
00:31:23.039 --> 00:31:25.319
<v Speaker 1>man Oh, it's one of the best mess Mexicans in town.

586
00:31:25.400 --> 00:31:26.799
<v Speaker 2>I take a road trip up there on a bike

587
00:31:26.920 --> 00:31:29.960
<v Speaker 2>just because, Yeah, I want to ride go up there,

588
00:31:30.000 --> 00:31:32.359
<v Speaker 2>and then we hit uh, we hit up the biker

589
00:31:32.359 --> 00:31:32.920
<v Speaker 2>bars on the way in.

590
00:31:33.160 --> 00:31:35.960
<v Speaker 1>It's it's easily the best. Yeah, I'm good with this statement.

591
00:31:36.240 --> 00:31:38.599
<v Speaker 1>The best, if not one of the top ten Mexican

592
00:31:38.599 --> 00:31:40.319
<v Speaker 1>restaurants in the metro. That's fair.

593
00:31:40.599 --> 00:31:42.920
<v Speaker 2>And that's not the only one of those. There's like

594
00:31:42.920 --> 00:31:45.319
<v Speaker 2>two or three other ones, not the same. That's the

595
00:31:45.359 --> 00:31:47.839
<v Speaker 2>fun thing, same name, same menu.

596
00:31:49.119 --> 00:31:51.519
<v Speaker 1>Yeah, because I've had El Tequila's and been to different ones,

597
00:31:51.519 --> 00:31:53.000
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, this isn't as good as another one

598
00:31:53.000 --> 00:31:57.680
<v Speaker 1>I've been to. Yeah, Mexican food, That is all right.

599
00:31:58.759 --> 00:32:02.720
<v Speaker 1>You guys have a fantastic week. Make sure you ask

600
00:32:02.759 --> 00:32:06.000
<v Speaker 1>your kids who they're dating, get to know their life events,

601
00:32:06.039 --> 00:32:07.960
<v Speaker 1>maybe with their life goal once you already see yourself

602
00:32:07.960 --> 00:32:12.200
<v Speaker 1>in five years, right, yes, you guys, have a great week.

603
00:32:13.279 --> 00:32:17.319
<v Speaker 1>Bye bye