Speaker 1: There are seven things you must keep private. Never share
Speaker 1: them with anyone, not your best friend, not your girlfriend,
Speaker 1: not even your family. Stoicism teaches us to keep most
Speaker 1: things to ourselves, because the more you reveal, the easier
Speaker 1: you are to destroy. Niccolo Machiavelli warned us, everyone sees
Speaker 1: what you appear to be, few experience what you really are.
Speaker 1: That's not a quote, that's a warning. Machiavelli didn't say
Speaker 1: this word for word, but he lived it, and in
Speaker 1: the Prince he made one thing clear. If you want
Speaker 1: to stay in control, reveal nothing. The more you reveal,
Speaker 1: the easier you are to break. People smile in your face,
Speaker 1: but behind that smile they're collecting information, and if you
Speaker 1: give them the wrong piece of information, especially the last one,
Speaker 1: they might use it against you later. So today I'm
Speaker 1: giving you some heaven things you should never reveal to anyone.
Speaker 1: They seem harmless, but they expose you. They make you
Speaker 1: easy to manipulate, so listen carefully. This could save your
Speaker 1: reputation and maybe even your life. One your next move.
Speaker 1: You tell people your goals, your strategies, your vision, thinking
Speaker 1: they'll support you, but in silence, they begin to chip
Speaker 1: away at it. They pretend they care, but what they're
Speaker 1: really doing is undermining your momentum. They question it, they
Speaker 1: doubt it, not because they care, but because they fear
Speaker 1: what you'll become. Your plan isn't safe in other people's heads.
Speaker 1: It's safe when it's done. Here's the truth. People secretly
Speaker 1: don't want you to rise above them. Friends become critics
Speaker 1: when your ambition grows louder than theirs, and if your
Speaker 1: next move threatens their comfort, they'll sabotage you with a smile.
Speaker 1: They act supportive, but they're waiting. Let them wait forever.
Speaker 1: Power moves in silence. You don't need validation, You need results.
Speaker 1: If they see the move before it's made, they'll block it.
Speaker 1: If they see it after it's made, they'll fear it.
Speaker 1: And when you fail, after hyping yourself up, now you've
Speaker 1: given them something even more powerful, evidence to laugh at.
Speaker 1: You don't give them that move in silence. Let results
Speaker 1: do the talking. The second you reveal your next move,
Speaker 1: you expose your ambition, and ambition triggers one of two reactions.
Speaker 1: Insecure people will try to lower it. Competing people will
Speaker 1: try to sabotage it. This is why smart men move
Speaker 1: in silence. They speak with actions. They don't explain their dreams,
Speaker 1: they deliver them. Let me give you a real world example.
Speaker 1: You tell a friend your launching a business. They hit
Speaker 1: you with are you sure that's smart? Right now? Isn't
Speaker 1: that risky? You're gonna leave your stable job for that? Now? Stop?
Speaker 1: Were they really concerned for your well being? Or were
Speaker 1: they afraid you might actually break free? People will throw
Speaker 1: doubt it you dressed as advice. They'll use your old
Speaker 1: self to hold back your future self. Oh but you're
Speaker 1: not that type of guy. You're not even good at that.
Speaker 1: You've never done something like that before. Let me be
Speaker 1: blunt here. You don't owe anyone an explanation. You don't
Speaker 1: need permission to evolve, You don't need validation to act.
Speaker 1: Machiavelli wrote, it is double pleasure to deceive the deceiver.
Speaker 1: Don't mistake this for dishonesty. He meant play the game,
Speaker 1: but stay two steps ahead. Let others think they know
Speaker 1: your moves while you execute the real ones in silence,
Speaker 1: Because the truth is, when they know your next move,
Speaker 1: they can block it, they can delay it, they can
Speaker 1: steal it, or they can plant seeds of doubt. Before
Speaker 1: you even start. Think of the most powerful people in history.
Speaker 1: They didn't announce their next move, They didn't broadcast their intentions.
Speaker 1: They moved then let the world react. Julius Caesar didn't
Speaker 1: post a plan before crossing the rubicon. Alexander didn't tweet
Speaker 1: before launching a campaign. Machiavelli didn't ask for feedback before
Speaker 1: manipulating the state. Today's world tricks you into thinking you
Speaker 1: have to share that transparency is strength. It's not. Silence
Speaker 1: is strength. Let me give you a scenario. You tell
Speaker 1: your family you're quitting your job to build something on
Speaker 1: your own. They panic, They throw stats at you. Ninety
Speaker 1: percent of startups fail. Don't risk stability. You have bills
Speaker 1: to pay. Suddenly you feel small. You question yourself. You
Speaker 1: delay action, not because your plan was wrong, but because
Speaker 1: their fear became your burden. Now reverse the script. You quit, silently,
Speaker 1: build quietly. Then when it's done, they see the result.
Speaker 1: That's how you earn respect. You don't ask for it.
Speaker 1: You impose it by what you execute, not what you explain.
Speaker 1: People respect finished products, they don't respect unfinished ideas. Every
Speaker 1: time you share your next move, you give someone the
Speaker 1: power to kill it. Sometimes with a word, sometimes with silence.
Speaker 1: Both are lethal. When you're still fragile, ask yourself, why
Speaker 1: do I share my plans with people who've done nothing
Speaker 1: with theirs? And if this hits hard, drop this in
Speaker 1: the comments I move in silence. Two your weakness. The
Speaker 1: second you tell the wrong person your weakness, you become
Speaker 1: a target. You might think you're being honest, but they're
Speaker 1: taking notes. They're storing your pain. Like Ammo Marcus Aurelius said,
Speaker 1: be tolerant with others, be strict with yourself. That means
Speaker 1: you deal with your pain internally without broadcasting it for validation.
Speaker 1: Why because most people don't care, and the ones who do,
Speaker 1: they're watching to see when you bleed, so they know
Speaker 1: where to strike. What you see as a cry for help,
Speaker 1: they see is leverage. You bleed in front of them,
Speaker 1: and they pretend to stitch the wound, then cut deeper
Speaker 1: when it serves them. Your enemies are often people you
Speaker 1: once called friends. You need to understand this. You never
Speaker 1: expose what you haven't mastered. Your weakness is your responsibility,
Speaker 1: not your announcement. Stop expecting to carry your emotional weight.
Speaker 1: You bleed in front of the wrong person once and
Speaker 1: you'll pay for it forever. Don't believe me. Look at
Speaker 1: the last time someone used your own words against you
Speaker 1: in an argument. That friend who remembered what you said
Speaker 1: in weakness, that relative who laughed about your fear months later,
Speaker 1: that ex who exposed your deepest insecurity after the break up.
Speaker 1: They don't forget, they collect. Never forget this. Your enemies
Speaker 1: were once your confidants. Your biggest betrayals will come from
Speaker 1: familiar faces, and the wounds that hurt the most will
Speaker 1: be the ones you volunteered. So what do you do.
Speaker 1: You build yourself up in private. You conquer your demons
Speaker 1: behind closed doors. You become the kind of man who
Speaker 1: masters his wounds, not markets them. And if you're thinking,
Speaker 1: but I need support, let me tell you something. Support
Speaker 1: is earned through strength, not tears. Because in a world
Speaker 1: full of emotional exhibitionists, the man who is stoic, who
Speaker 1: is unreadable, that's the man they respect. He's unpredictable, he's powerful,
Speaker 1: he's untouchable. You don't walk around showing your cracks. You
Speaker 1: become the storm that doesn't break, because the second you
Speaker 1: show them where to hit, they will. Your pain is sacred.
Speaker 1: Protect it. Now, let's go even deeper. Your enemies they
Speaker 1: often used to be your friends, the people you shared
Speaker 1: secrets with, the ones who knew your fears, the ones
Speaker 1: who said I got you. One day they'll turn, and
Speaker 1: when they do, they'll weaponize everything you ever told them.
Speaker 1: Stop expecting loyalty from people who benefit from your weakness.
Speaker 1: You don't owe the world your truth. You owe yourself
Speaker 1: your dignity. And here's something Machiavelli would wish whip if
Speaker 1: he sat across from you right now. If you want control,
Speaker 1: never expose the variables people can use to control you.
Speaker 1: Be cold, be quiet, be unreadable. Let people guess what
Speaker 1: hurts you. Let them try to figure it out. Let
Speaker 1: them fail, because the moment they know you, they own you.
Speaker 1: If you're still here, You're not like most most people quit,
Speaker 1: they scroll, but you're still watching, and that says something.
Speaker 1: You're hungry. You want power over your life. So congratulations,
Speaker 1: because the next one is where most people destroy themselves
Speaker 1: without even realizing it. This is the one that ruins reputations,
Speaker 1: sparks jealousy, and paints a target on your back. Three
Speaker 1: your income. The richer you get, the quieter you need
Speaker 1: to be. There's a reason old money is quiet and
Speaker 1: new money is loud because real power doesn't shout it.
Speaker 1: Watches start talking about how much you earn, and watch
Speaker 1: how fast people start playing games. Suddenly you're the target
Speaker 1: of comparison, jealousy, judgment. People stop seeing you, they see
Speaker 1: your wallet. Money doesn't just change your lifestyle, it changes
Speaker 1: how people treat you. You tell someone your income and
Speaker 1: they begin calculating how to use you, how to beat you,
Speaker 1: or how to destroy you. The richer you get, the
Speaker 1: quieter you must become. Money doesn't buy loyalty, It buys attention,
Speaker 1: and most of it's fake. Power isn't in showing what
Speaker 1: you have. It's in making them wonder, make them guess,
Speaker 1: make them uncomfortable not knowing. Remember this, silence is the
Speaker 1: ultimate flex. If they don't know what you have, they
Speaker 1: can't control how they treat you. Let them assume. Because
Speaker 1: mystery invites respect and power oh grows best when it's hidden.
Speaker 1: That's why the true machiavellian doesn't show his wealth. Money
Speaker 1: is a weapon, and you never show your weapons before
Speaker 1: the war starts. You flex it. You become predictable. You
Speaker 1: stay silent, You stay in control, think about the people
Speaker 1: around you. You tell them how much you make, Suddenly
Speaker 1: they think you owe them something. They want help. They
Speaker 1: want to drag you into their drama because you can
Speaker 1: afford it. And if you say no, you're the villain,
Speaker 1: not because you changed, but because their fantasy of using
Speaker 1: you just collapsed. Let's go deeper. Silence isn't about secrecy,
Speaker 1: it's about self preservation. If they don't know what you have,
Speaker 1: they don't know how to manipulate you. You can walk
Speaker 1: into a room and be underestimated, and that's your edge.
Speaker 1: They won't see you coming, they won't plan for you.
Speaker 1: They won't prepare defenses because you never gave them a
Speaker 1: reason to. But the moment you speak on it, the
Speaker 1: moment you start flexing your income, you paint a target
Speaker 1: on your back, and the world starts aiming the ones
Speaker 1: who really have power. They let others guess, Let them
Speaker 1: wonder how much you make, let them assume, because mystery
Speaker 1: is more powerful than wealth. People respect what they can't
Speaker 1: figure out. They fear what they can't label. They watch
Speaker 1: what they can't access. If you want to own the room,
Speaker 1: don't show up screaming about your bank account. Own your silence.
Speaker 1: You don't need to explain your lifestyle. You don't need
Speaker 1: to justify your success. You don't need to defend what
Speaker 1: you earn. Now pause, ask yourself, how many people in
Speaker 1: your life know what you make and what did it
Speaker 1: really bring you? Did it bring peace or pressure, support
Speaker 1: or suspicion. If you're honest, you already know the answer.
Speaker 1: Let me paint you a scene. You tell your friend
Speaker 1: you made six figures this year. At first they smile,
Speaker 1: they clap, they say that's amazing, But then the questions begin.
Speaker 1: You must be rich now right, Hey, I've got this
Speaker 1: business idea. Can you help me with rent? Suddenly your
Speaker 1: income has created expectation, and when you don't meet it,
Speaker 1: respect turns to resentment. And if you think this only
Speaker 1: happens with friends, think again. In relationships, money becomes control.
Speaker 1: If they think you earn more, they'll either rely on
Speaker 1: you too much or compete with you silently. In family,
Speaker 1: you're now the one who made it, which means you're
Speaker 1: expected to carry their weight, solve their problems, and never
Speaker 1: say no. Say no once, and you're the arrogant one,
Speaker 1: the selfish one, the one who forgot where you came from.
Speaker 1: Ever said you shouldn't help others, But during your building
Speaker 1: stage you need to stay ruthless. Do not sacrifice your
Speaker 1: future to carry someone else's weight. Once you start making progress,
Speaker 1: they will see you as the person who made it.
Speaker 1: While you are still building, you must stay focused and
Speaker 1: protect your progress for never expose your relationship conflicts. You
Speaker 1: ever see someone post this, can't believe what she did
Speaker 1: to me again, She's acting cold and distant. Relationships are hard. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's weakness broadcasted. Let me paint you a scene. You
Speaker 1: fight with your partner. You feel hurt, betrayed, confused, so
Speaker 1: you go tell your friend your group chat. You spill
Speaker 1: the details, the words, the insults, the chaos. You think
Speaker 1: you're getting support, but what you're actually doing is broadcasting
Speaker 1: your instability. Now everyone knows your connection is shaky. Now
Speaker 1: everyone sees your power slipping. And when people see cracks,
Speaker 1: they don't help fix them. They wait for collapse. Here's
Speaker 1: the law. Never expose your relationship conflicts, because once you do,
Speaker 1: you've handed over your power. You've turned your personal life
Speaker 1: into public entertainment. And the worst part, no one watching
Speaker 1: actually cares. And the world is full of people who
Speaker 1: smile while sharpening the knife your relationship is your battlefield,
Speaker 1: and nobody outside the battlefield deserves a map of your
Speaker 1: emotional vulnerabilities. Once your relationship problems go public, you stop
Speaker 1: being respected. You become a character, a meme, a tragic
Speaker 1: story in someone else's group chat. They see your emotional leash.
Speaker 1: They see you controlled by love, by chaos, by drama,
Speaker 1: and respect disappears because when you share your conflicts, you
Speaker 1: reveal your emotional dependence. That's not power, that's weakness. In HD,
Speaker 1: what you say in pain becomes their entertainment, their leverage,
Speaker 1: their ammo. You tell them your girl friend disrespected you,
Speaker 1: they laugh about it. Later, you say your girlfriend cheats
Speaker 1: and you stayed. They never look at you the same again.
Speaker 1: You're no longer the mysterious man in control. You're the
Speaker 1: soap opera, the fragile one, the one they expect to
Speaker 1: break again. Never let people turn your heart break into
Speaker 1: their small talk. And this isn't just about friends. In
Speaker 1: a professional setting, when co workers or clients hear about
Speaker 1: your relationship issues, they start to question your discipline. Is
Speaker 1: he distracted? And here's the deeper truth. People only respect
Speaker 1: what you protect. If your relationship is sacred, keep it sacred.
Speaker 1: If it's hell, fix it or leave it. But don't
Speaker 1: parade the fire like a badge, because once you start
Speaker 1: explaining it to outsiders, you give them control over how
Speaker 1: it defines you. Now, this doesn't mean suffer in silence.
Speaker 1: This doesn't mean isolate. If you need help, get it
Speaker 1: from someone who's above your level, a therapist, a mentor,
Speaker 1: not your emotionally reactive friend who can't even manage their
Speaker 1: own love life. Let me give you a Machiavellian scenario.
Speaker 1: You're in a political court. Your rival wants to know
Speaker 1: where to strike you Casually mention that your queen betrayed
Speaker 1: your trust. Boom. Now they have their angle. They use
Speaker 1: it to break your focus. Push that crack until your
Speaker 1: whole kingdom collapses. Sound dramatic, it's not. It happens every
Speaker 1: day in companies, in friend groups, on social media. Your
Speaker 1: emotional chaos be comes the thing people use to define
Speaker 1: your strength, not your winds, not your vision, your drama.
Speaker 1: You become the broken lover, the betrayed partner, the one
Speaker 1: who's going through something. They won't say it to your face,
Speaker 1: but they'll think it, and they'll treat you accordingly. Here's
Speaker 1: the rule. If it bleeds, don't post it. If it hurts,
Speaker 1: don't parade it. If it's sacred, protected Because what you
Speaker 1: expose emotionally will be used strategically. Let me say that again,
Speaker 1: what you expose emotionally will be used strategically, and most
Speaker 1: of the time, not by your enemies, but by your spectators.
Speaker 1: People love watching you break, not because they hate you,
Speaker 1: but because it makes them feel better about themselves. Now
Speaker 1: flip the script. You keep your chaos private. You never
Speaker 1: talk about your conflicts. You show up, stable, clear, controlled.
Speaker 1: What happens. People assume strength, they assume control. They see
Speaker 1: no cracks, so they respect you more. Even if your
Speaker 1: relationship is hell behind the scenes, your silence becomes your power.
Speaker 1: Control the narrative or be owned by it. Five. Never
Speaker 1: share your family problems. You think telling people about your
Speaker 1: family problems makes you honest. You think being open about
Speaker 1: your childhood trauma, your father's absence will make them understand you. No,
Speaker 1: it makes them judge you. People don't care. They gossip.
Speaker 1: Say it again, people don't care. They consume your pain
Speaker 1: like entertainment. Because when you share your family problems, you
Speaker 1: think you're getting support, But what you're really giving them
Speaker 1: is a story, and people love a story, especially one
Speaker 1: that makes you look weak. Here's the law. Never reveal
Speaker 1: your family problems. Ever, I don't care if it's your coworkers,
Speaker 1: your social media followers, even some so called friends. Keep
Speaker 1: it locked because most people don't care, and the ones
Speaker 1: who pretend to, they gossip. Here's the brutal truth. When
Speaker 1: you reveal the chaos inside your home, you strip yourself
Speaker 1: of dignity outside of it. People don't separate you from
Speaker 1: your family. They project the dysfunction unto you. They'll say
Speaker 1: things like, no, wonder he's like that. They'll act sympathetic,
Speaker 1: then screenshot your breakdown, then serve it as a joke
Speaker 1: at the next dinner party. Why because your pain feeds
Speaker 1: their eager It gives them someone to feel superior to,
Speaker 1: someone to talk about when their lives are boring, someone
Speaker 1: to dissect when they need a distraction from their own mess.
Speaker 1: Machiavelli wrote, it is better to be feared than loved
Speaker 1: if you cannot be both. When you overshare family drama,
Speaker 1: you lose both. You're not feared, you're not loved, You're pitied,
Speaker 1: and pity kills respect. When they pity you They don't
Speaker 1: follow you, they don't admire you, they don't listen when
Speaker 1: you speak, because they've already placed you beneath them. Your
Speaker 1: trauma becomes your label, not your strength, not your growth,
Speaker 1: just your label. Let me paint a real life scenario.
Speaker 1: You're at work, a colleague asks about your week end.
Speaker 1: You let your guard down. My dad left again. It's
Speaker 1: always been like that. My mom cried all day. I'm exhausted.
Speaker 1: You think you're opening up, but all they hear is unstable, distracted, weak.
Speaker 1: They'll never say it to your face, but the next
Speaker 1: time there's a promotion, a high stakes assignment, a leadership roll,
Speaker 1: they'll pass because some consciously they don't trust your foundation.
Speaker 1: Your emotional scars are sacred, not everyone deserves to see them.
Speaker 1: Stoics like Marcus Aurelius understood this. He wrote, the things
Speaker 1: you think about determine the quality of your mind. Your
Speaker 1: soul takes on the color of your thoughts. If your
Speaker 1: mind is focused on reliving dysfunction, your energy carries dysfunction
Speaker 1: and people feel it. So what should you do? Heal
Speaker 1: in silence, Build in silence, and when you rise, let
Speaker 1: them see strength, not the storm you came from Your
Speaker 1: story is yours. It's not public property, it's not their entertainment.
Speaker 1: Think about your lowest moments with your family. Maybe your
Speaker 1: parents betrayed each other. Maybe you were raised in chaos.
Speaker 1: Maybe there's trauma, abuse, violence, addiction. Now picture telling that
Speaker 1: to someone who hasn't earned your trust. What do they
Speaker 1: really do with that info. They don't give you therapy.
Speaker 1: They give it legs, They repeat it, They share it
Speaker 1: as concern, but it's judgment rapped in sympathy. When you succeed,
Speaker 1: they'll drag your family pain into it. They'll say you
Speaker 1: got lucky. They'll say you're unstable underneath. And when you fail,
Speaker 1: they'll say they saw it coming. You lose both ways.
Speaker 1: So protect your peace because once you put your family
Speaker 1: problems on display, you lose control of the narrative. And
Speaker 1: in this world, the narrative is power. The next time
Speaker 1: your name comes up, it's not your success. They mention,
Speaker 1: it's your dysfunction. Yeah he's doing well, but you know
Speaker 1: his dad's are drunk. Right, she's smart, but her family's
Speaker 1: a mess. They come from chaos. Don't trust it. Respect gone.
Speaker 1: If this hits hard, drop this in the comments. My
Speaker 1: silence protects my story because from today, you don't bleed
Speaker 1: where vultures fly. You speak with results, and you never
Speaker 1: hand your scars to strangers. Six never share your long
Speaker 1: term goals. I'm not talking about your next vacation. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about that empire. You're trying to build the business,
Speaker 1: the version of you no one's seen yet, that vision.
Speaker 1: Keep it sacred, keep it private. You ever wonder why
Speaker 1: some people never get anywhere even when they have big dreams,
Speaker 1: because they talked too much. You have a vision. Then
Speaker 1: you told someone, they clapped, You felt good, and that
Speaker 1: was the beginning of the end. Most people mistake talking
Speaker 1: about success for actually building it. If they don't know
Speaker 1: what you're building, they can't block it. If they don't
Speaker 1: know how far you want to go, they can't trap
Speaker 1: you in place. If they don't know who you're becoming,
Speaker 1: they can't stop it. Keep them in the dark while
Speaker 1: you become the storm. Let me hit you with a
Speaker 1: brutal truth. Most people don't want you to win long term.
Speaker 1: They want you to improve a little, but not too much.
Speaker 1: They want you to do well, but not better than them.
Speaker 1: They'll support you until your growth threatens their self worth.
Speaker 1: You ever notice that you start a side hustle and
Speaker 1: people say, why don't you focus on your job Instead,
Speaker 1: you start investing in yourself and they ask, who do
Speaker 1: you think you are? You set a five year plan
Speaker 1: and they laugh, Bro, that's unrealistic. These are the same
Speaker 1: people who scroll all day, the same ones who gave
Speaker 1: up on their dreams years ago. Now they hate that
Speaker 1: you still believe in yours. So you have two options.
Speaker 1: Option one, feed them your plan, let them chew it up,
Speaker 1: spit it out, and laugh. Option two, starve their doubts,
Speaker 1: move in silence, deliver results so loud no one dares
Speaker 1: question you again. Here's a mindset to tattoo on your brain.
Speaker 1: Let them see nothing, let them expect nothing, let them
Speaker 1: prepare for nothing. Because the man who says little moves freely.
Speaker 1: The man who talks big becomes a target. And here's
Speaker 1: the dark psychology in play. When you keep your long
Speaker 1: term goals secret, you create mystery. Mystery builds tension, Tension
Speaker 1: commands attention. Attention leads to power. You say you want
Speaker 1: to build a business. You tell your friends. They're impressed.
Speaker 1: You feel like you've already done something, but you haven't.
Speaker 1: You've only fed your ego, not your results. This is
Speaker 1: the danger of sharing long term goals. They trigger fake dopamine.
Speaker 1: The brain can't tell the difference between accomplishment and applause.
Speaker 1: You talk, they cheer, and your brain thinks mission can
Speaker 1: But nothing's been done, no product, no system, no struggle,
Speaker 1: no sacrifice, just a fantasy you murdered with your own mouth.
Speaker 1: Machiavelli said, it is much safer to be feared than
Speaker 1: loved when one of the two must be lacking. You
Speaker 1: want to be loved. When you share your goals, you
Speaker 1: want praise, you want support. But the moment you chase love,
Speaker 1: you lose power. Your long term vision is sacred. Treat
Speaker 1: it like a blueprint locked in a vault. Only a
Speaker 1: fool leaves it lying around for anyone to see. Let's
Speaker 1: break this down. Why do people feel the need to
Speaker 1: share their big goals validation? They want others to believe
Speaker 1: in it so they don't have to fully carry it alone.
Speaker 1: But the moment you make your vision public, you give
Speaker 1: people permission to critique it. Now they're in your head.
Speaker 1: It's too ambitious? Is that realistic? Why don't you try
Speaker 1: something smaller first? Even if they don't mean harm. They've
Speaker 1: planted doubt. Now you start adjusting your vision, not for truth,
Speaker 1: but for approval. You lose your edge. You water down
Speaker 1: your dream. You shape it to be digestible, not disruptive.
Speaker 1: Here's the rule. Never give people a target they don't deserve.
Speaker 1: Now let's talk about execution. People who share their long
Speaker 1: term goals too early procrastinate more. Why because they already
Speaker 1: felt the reward in being seen as ambitious. They told
Speaker 1: the world they'll lose weight, start a company, make seven figures,
Speaker 1: move countries. But now the pressure's off. Everyone already knows.
Speaker 1: There's no mystery, no internal fire. They already cashed in
Speaker 1: the validation. Don't let that be you. You say nothing.
Speaker 1: You work in silence. You train in the shadows, and
Speaker 1: when it's done, you beak with your results. You speak
Speaker 1: through your power. You don't announce victories. You force people
Speaker 1: to notice them. Let them ask, wait, when did this happen?
Speaker 1: How did you do that? Let your silence become their obsession.
Speaker 1: Never share your long term goals, not because they're bad,
Speaker 1: but because they're vulnerable. Protect the mission. Move in silence,
Speaker 1: arrive like a king seven. Never reveal your biggest regrets.
Speaker 1: They'll act like they care. They'll nod while you speak.
Speaker 1: They might even share a story of their own. But
Speaker 1: the moment you reveal your deepest regret, your biggest failure,
Speaker 1: your most painful past, they'll never see you the same again.
Speaker 1: The truth most people aren't equipped to carry your past.
Speaker 1: They weaponize it, They store it, They wait, and the
Speaker 1: second you pose threat succeed more than they expected, or
Speaker 1: dare to set boundaries, they'll throw it back at you.
Speaker 1: Your regret becomes their leverage. They'll say things like, you
Speaker 1: think you've changed, weren't you the same guy who funny?
Speaker 1: How you act like you're better now. It doesn't matter
Speaker 1: if it was five years ago, ten years ago, or
Speaker 1: last week. Your vulnerability becomes their opportunity. This is the
Speaker 1: cost of confession in a ruthless world. You think you're
Speaker 1: being real. They think they've found your leash. That's why
Speaker 1: Machiavelli warned it is much safer to be feared than
Speaker 1: loved if you cannot be both. Regret invites sympathy, and
Speaker 1: sympathy lowers your position. People don't respect who you were,
Speaker 1: They respect who you pretend not to be any more.
Speaker 1: You want to confess, do it to God, do it
Speaker 1: to your journal, not to the friend who gossips, not
Speaker 1: to the partner who want one day might leave, not
Speaker 1: to the co worker who smiles too much. Because here's
Speaker 1: what no one wants to admit. Your past will always
Speaker 1: be more interesting to others than your future. People don't
Speaker 1: ask because they care. They ask because they want a
Speaker 1: weakness they can remember. They want a reason to keep
Speaker 1: you below them. They want a story to tell that
Speaker 1: starts with you wouldn't believe what he used to do.
Speaker 1: Even if you've grown, even if you've changed, your regret
Speaker 1: stays frozen in their mind, not as a phase, as proof,
Speaker 1: proof that you can be broken, proof that you were
Speaker 1: once small, proof that under the surface, you're still that person.
Speaker 1: So what do you do? You lock it, bury it,
Speaker 1: use it as fuel, not as a story. Turn your
Speaker 1: biggest regret into silent discipline. Let it shape how you move,
Speaker 1: not how you explain yourself. Let me give you a
Speaker 1: real world example. Used to chase the wrong women, you
Speaker 1: got manipulated, played lied to. Now you've leveled up, you
Speaker 1: hold frame, you command respect. But you meet someone new
Speaker 1: and you tell her everything about your past. At first,
Speaker 1: she sympathizes, but weeks later, in the middle of an argument,
Speaker 1: she brings it up. You were so weak back then,
Speaker 1: you'll always be insecure. I could ruin you too if
Speaker 1: I wanted it. Stings not because it's still true, but
Speaker 1: because you gave her the Ammo Machiavellian lesson. Do not
Speaker 1: arm others with your own failures. It's a test. Most
Speaker 1: fail the need to confess pain to people who haven't
Speaker 1: earned your trust. Why do you really share your regrets,
Speaker 1: Let's be honest. You want to feel lighter, you want
Speaker 1: to feel understood. You want someone to say I've been
Speaker 1: there too. But that craving, that hunger to unburden yourself.
Speaker 1: It makes you weak, not because the regret is shameful,
Speaker 1: but because you needed someone to carry it with you.
Speaker 1: Strong men carry their past in silence. Seneca once said,
Speaker 1: he who is brave is free. Freedom doesn't mean saying everything.
Speaker 1: It means you've mastered it so deeply you don't need
Speaker 1: to explain it to anyone. Let your future be so
Speaker 1: dominant it makes your past irrelevant. Don't deny your past,
Speaker 1: just never share it where it can be stored, repeated,
Speaker 1: or judged, because people never forget what you regret. And
Speaker 1: in the right moment, they will use it to shatter
Speaker 1: your progress. So from this day forward, repeat this to yourself.
Speaker 1: My regret is my discipline. Not a confession, not a
Speaker 1: SOB story, not a talking point.