Speaker 1: Look, man, no one's ever told you this, But I
Speaker 1: have to tell you now what they've told you about
Speaker 1: what women want. It's a pious lie disguised as tenderness,
Speaker 1: a polished narrative to avoid hurting feelings. So you keep
Speaker 1: believing that if you're kind, attentive, available, you'll end up
Speaker 1: being the chosen one. But there's something they never told you. Often,
Speaker 1: what a woman says she wants and what actually turns
Speaker 1: her on are two different things. Freud hinted at it
Speaker 1: outright in that mix of genius and provocation of his
Speaker 1: female desire is not logical. It's not orderly, it doesn't
Speaker 1: follow the laws of stability or security. It's chaotic. It's deep,
Speaker 1: it's unconscious. And if you don't understand this, you're doomed
Speaker 1: to become one of those men who crawl for emotional crumbs,
Speaker 1: convinced that the more they give, the more they'll receive.
Speaker 2: False. Because here's the truth. No one tells you. The
Speaker 2: more you try to please, the more you dilute yourself,
Speaker 2: the more you give in, the more invisible you become,
Speaker 2: the more you bend over backward to please, the further
Speaker 2: you move from what really ignites a woman's deep desire, tension, mystery,
Speaker 2: emotional resistance. They don't want an emotional slave, They want
Speaker 2: a rock. They don't seek perfect explanations or sensitive speeches.
Speaker 2: They seek a firm, impenetrable presence that doesn't bend, that
Speaker 2: doesn't tremble when they tremble, that doesn't need validation to
Speaker 2: stand tall. The man who disturbs them, who drags them
Speaker 2: to the edge of emotional abyss, is not the one
Speaker 2: who emotionally bears himself at every opportunity. It's the one
Speaker 2: who holds back, the one who chooses when to show himself,
Speaker 2: one who never gives everything because he knows that mystery
Speaker 2: is power. And you, who thought being the nice guy
Speaker 2: was the strategy, who thought that if you were always available,
Speaker 2: always willing, always smiling, you would win her heart number,
Speaker 2: what you've won is contempt disguised as courtesy. You've won
Speaker 2: a spot on her emotional waiting list, just after the
Speaker 2: guy who doesn't call for two weeks, but when he appears,
Speaker 2: he shakes her inside. Do you know why? Because that
Speaker 2: man isn't desperate, because that man doesn't beg because that
Speaker 2: man is self sufficient. And no, it's not about playing
Speaker 2: the jerk. It's not about manipulating or pretending. It's about
Speaker 2: rebuilding yourself from within, understanding that if you break every
Speaker 2: time someone doesn't reply to your message, you're not ready.
Speaker 2: That if your mood depends on whether or not they
Speaker 2: look at you, you're still a child disguised as an
Speaker 2: ad Freud spoke of the unconscious as that place where
Speaker 2: the most primal, the most hidden impulses are kept, the
Speaker 2: ones we don't even admit to ourselves. And in that
Speaker 2: dark place, full of symbolism and repressed desires, hides a
Speaker 2: brutal truth. Female desire is not tied to peace. It's
Speaker 2: tied to intensity, to what makes her doubt, to what
Speaker 2: makes her nervous, to what she can't control. What she
Speaker 2: doesn't understand is what she can't stop thinking about. So
Speaker 2: what are you doing trying to be predictable? What are
Speaker 2: you doing showing yourself as an open book. Desire needs
Speaker 2: gray areas, It needs gaps, It needs unanswered questions. The
Speaker 2: mistake is not showing your humanity. The mistake is showing
Speaker 2: it to someone who hasn't shown they can handle it.
Speaker 2: You're giving away your secrets to someone who didn't ask
Speaker 2: for them. You're revealing your fears to someone who hasn't
Speaker 2: even given you a reason to trust them. Seduction, that
Speaker 2: word that seems outdated is still the key, But not
Speaker 2: the cheap seduction of rehearsed lines and hollow compliments. I'm
Speaker 2: talking about seduction that comes from self control, personal mastery,
Speaker 2: the ability to be present without being dependent, to look
Speaker 2: without begging, to desire without pleading. Women don't desire the
Speaker 2: one who kneels. They desire the one who remains standing
Speaker 2: even when everything shakes, the one who knows how to
Speaker 2: say no, the one who has his own world, an
Speaker 2: inner universe that not everyone can access, because that universe
Speaker 2: becomes their obsession, because every time they touch it, they
Speaker 2: feel like they're discovering something forbidden, and the forbidden is irresistible.
Speaker 2: The problem is that most men today have been tamed
Speaker 2: by a narrative that in emotionally castrates them. They've been
Speaker 2: told that being sensitive means being vulnerable, and that being
Speaker 2: vulnerable is the same as being weak, So they expose
Speaker 2: themselves completely. They cry on the first date, they confess
Speaker 2: traumas without being invited. They become transparent too soon, and
Speaker 2: then they don't understand why despite all their honesty, women
Speaker 2: pull away. They pull away because the mystery died, because
Speaker 2: there's nothing to discover, because the tension faded. A man
Speaker 2: who is desirable is not the one who reveals everything.
Speaker 2: It's the one who chooses what to reveal. It's the
Speaker 2: one who masters his emotions, not the one who throws
Speaker 2: them up. It's the one who listens but doesn't melt.
Speaker 2: It's the one who accompanies but doesn't lose himself in
Speaker 2: the other. That man is an anomaly in a world
Speaker 2: of broken mirrors. That man is a magnet. Don't be confused.
Speaker 2: Coldness is not the key. Coldness is a refuge for
Speaker 2: those who have nothing inside. The key is containment. It's
Speaker 2: being able to feel without being a slave to the feeling.
Speaker 2: It's being able to love without losing yourself. It's being
Speaker 2: able to desire without becoming a beggar. That is the
Speaker 2: strength that Freud glimpsed when he spoke of female desire
Speaker 2: as a force activated by the unattainable, the one that
Speaker 2: doesn't give in, the one that doesn't beg The paradox
Speaker 2: is brutal. The more you contain yourself, the more intensely
Speaker 2: they desire.
Speaker 1: You.
Speaker 2: The more focused you are on your path, your mission,
Speaker 2: your direction, the more you become an enigma. And the
Speaker 2: enigma is the fuel of desire. Look at yourself in
Speaker 2: the mirror and ask how much of yourself have you
Speaker 2: given away without it being asked? How many times have
Speaker 2: you begged for attention disguised as interest. How many times
Speaker 2: have you confused closeness with urgency. You're exhausted because you've
Speaker 2: tried to be everything to everyone. You're empty because you've
Speaker 2: given without measure. You're frustrated because you never understood that
Speaker 2: desire is not earned. It's provoked, and it's provoked by
Speaker 2: what isn't easily given. The man who seduces from the
Speaker 2: soul is not the one who shouts. It's the one
Speaker 2: who vibrates differently. It's the one who doesn't need to
Speaker 2: prove anything because he already knows his worth. It's the
Speaker 2: one who walks firmly because he knows his path. It's
Speaker 2: the one who, in the face of someone else's emotional chaos,
Speaker 2: doesn't crumble, he holds it. That firmness is magnetic. That
Speaker 2: independence is addictive because it represents everything most people don't have.
Speaker 2: Because in a world of emotional excess. Self control is luxury,
Speaker 2: and you can be that luxury. But first you have
Speaker 2: to kill the beggar that lives inside you, the one
Speaker 2: who begs, the one who waits, the one who pleads.
Speaker 2: You weren't born to beg for love. You were born
Speaker 2: to radiate presents. And here's the final twist, the part
Speaker 2: most men refuse to accept. The more you need yourself,
Speaker 2: the less you need to be loved. And when you
Speaker 2: don't need to be loved, you become irresistible because you
Speaker 2: no longer give from lack. You give from abundance. You
Speaker 2: no longer love to fill a void. You love because
Speaker 2: you have more than enough. Freud knew this before anyone.
Speaker 2: Female desire is activated when there are no certainties, when
Speaker 2: logic fails, when the soul twists in unanswered questions. They
Speaker 2: want to feel like they have you, but not possess you.
Speaker 2: They want to get close but not invaged. They want
Speaker 2: to touch you, but not fully reach you. And you,
Speaker 2: what do you want to be a comfortable answer or
Speaker 2: an unforgettable question? Choose wisely, because that desire you think
Speaker 2: you can provoke with flowers and poems actually awakens in
Speaker 2: the darkness of the inexplicable. Don't domesticate it, don't explain it,
Speaker 2: provoke it, because in the end, the man who doesn't
Speaker 2: need to be desired is the one who is the most.
Speaker 2: And here is where another aspect comes in that few
Speaker 2: understand and is directly linked to female desire. Contrast. There
Speaker 2: is no desire without contrast, no attraction without opposites. What
Speaker 2: excites is not uniformity, it's the living contradiction. And the
Speaker 2: man who awakens that in a woman is not the
Speaker 2: one who is defined by a single layer, but the
Speaker 2: one who carries layers that aren't easily seen. Not the
Speaker 2: one who is always cold, nor the one who is
Speaker 2: always warm, but the one who can be ice and
Speaker 2: fire and never when expected. That is the man who
Speaker 2: leaves a mark not for what he gives, but for
Speaker 2: what he contains, for what he insinuates but doesn't concede.
Speaker 2: Female desire is ignited in the tension between what is
Speaker 2: shown and what is hidden, between what is offered and
Speaker 2: what is withdrawn. It's that ebb and flow that creates obsession,
Speaker 2: the one that activates fantasy, and fantasy brother is much
Speaker 2: more powerful than any reality. The mistake is thinking that
Speaker 2: by being completely good, completely giving, completely transparent, you'll conquer something.
Speaker 2: But absolute things don't seduce, They bore because in the
Speaker 2: absolute there's no surprise, and desire feeds on the unexpected,
Speaker 2: on what breaks patterns, on what can't be predicted. When
Speaker 2: a woman thinks she already has you figured out, the
Speaker 2: mystery dies, and with the mystery, desire dies. Look around you.
Speaker 2: Most men today are desperate to be predictable, to be safe,
Speaker 2: to not make mistakes, and in that attempt to be perfect,
Speaker 2: they become flat. The edge disappears, the sharpness evaporates. They
Speaker 2: don't discomfort, they don't challenge, they don't provoke, and therefore
Speaker 2: they don't leave a mark because it's not enough to
Speaker 2: be liked. Liking is easy. What's difficult is fascinating. What's
Speaker 2: difficult is being remembered when you're not around. What's difficult
Speaker 2: is having them think of you for no apparent reason.
Speaker 2: And that's not achieved by being correct, it's achieved by
Speaker 2: being unforgettable. Now listen closely. One of the biggest triggers
Speaker 2: of female desire is not physical. It's symbolic. It's what
Speaker 2: you represent, what you awaken in her imagination. If you
Speaker 2: represent comfort, you'll be valued, but if you represent challenge,
Speaker 2: you'll be desired. If you represent a peaceful life, they'll
Speaker 2: want you as a stable option. But if you represent depth, mystery,
Speaker 2: emotional mastery, you'll be impossible to ignore. Women, even though
Speaker 2: they say they seek peace, are drawn to controlled chaos.
Speaker 2: And I repeat controlled chaos. It's not about being a
Speaker 2: destructive whirlwind. It's about being a storm that doesn't need
Speaker 2: to explode. That contained energy is what disarms them. It's
Speaker 2: knowing you could burn but choose not to, because self
Speaker 2: control is more erotic than any declaration of love. And
Speaker 2: here comes another essential nuance, nonverbal language. Silence, the gaze
Speaker 2: held without hesitation, the pause before responding, those small gestures
Speaker 2: that indicate that you're not nervous, that you're not seeking approval,
Speaker 2: that you can stay with her or without her and
Speaker 2: still be just as complete. That's perceived, that sensed. That
Speaker 2: alters because it's not what you say, it's what you project,
Speaker 2: it's not what you promise, it's what you are without
Speaker 2: needing to say it. We live in an era of
Speaker 2: constant exposure. Everyone talks, everyone shows, everyone yells to be seen.
Speaker 2: And do you know who stands out in the middle
Speaker 2: of that noise, the one who's silent, the one who observes,
Speaker 2: the one who retreats, the one who, instead of proving,
Speaker 2: simply remains. Because his mere presence communicates more than a
Speaker 2: thousand words. That man is rare. He's different and different
Speaker 2: attract Now let's talk about another brutal trap, emotional self annihilation.
Speaker 2: Many men, when they enter a relationship or the game
Speaker 2: of seduction, begin to distort themselves. They soften, they mutate
Speaker 2: based on what they think she expects. They stop making
Speaker 2: their own decisions, They change their opinions, They renounce their essence.
Speaker 2: Why to fit in, to be the ideal, But the
Speaker 2: ideal is boring, The ideal is artificial, and the artificial
Speaker 2: doesn't connect with the unconscious. And it's there where desire fades,
Speaker 2: because in that attempt to adapt, you become just another one.
Speaker 2: Another who doesn't discomfort, who doesn't challenge, who doesn't bother,
Speaker 2: But also another who isn't interesting, who doesn't vibrate, who
Speaker 2: doesn't ignite anything. Because no one desires a reflection of
Speaker 2: themselves elves. They desire the one who moves them, the
Speaker 2: one who stirs their gut, the one who confronts them
Speaker 2: and at the same time holds them. And that can
Speaker 2: only be done by someone who has built themselves from
Speaker 2: the inside, who doesn't need to disguise anything. Freud said
Speaker 2: it plainly. The unconscious mind is full of impulses that
Speaker 2: don't accept social morality. Desire has no rules. Desire is
Speaker 2: not fair, Desire is not rational. So if you behave
Speaker 2: with logic, with rules, with predictable morality, you're going to
Speaker 2: appeal to her brain, but not her guts. And the
Speaker 2: gut is what decides. Desire is not built in the
Speaker 2: conscious mind, but in the most primitive part of being.
Speaker 2: And do you know what activates the primitive, the unexpected,
Speaker 2: the untamable. What you can't put in a box. You
Speaker 2: can be kind, you can be polite, you can be
Speaker 2: correct and still be completely forgettable. But if you're unpredictable,
Speaker 2: if you have a shadow, if you don't always act
Speaker 2: as expected but do so with internal coherence, then a
Speaker 2: crack opens, a crack where obsession enters. And what is
Speaker 2: the core of all this The power of your frame,
Speaker 2: your mental structure, what you're willing to allow and what
Speaker 2: you'll never yield. When a woman feels that your frame
Speaker 2: is stronger than her emotional chaos. Something activates inside her.
Speaker 2: She doesn't understand why, but she starts to see you differently,
Speaker 2: because while everyone else breaks in the face of her
Speaker 2: mood swings, you remain steady, while everyone else is desperate
Speaker 2: to please, You observe without begging, And that deep in
Speaker 2: her psyche is irresistible. So no, don't make yourself smaller
Speaker 2: to fit into her world, make her want to climb
Speaker 2: to enter yours. Don't tell her you're willing to do
Speaker 2: anything to be with her. Tell her without saying it,
Speaker 2: that you're already complete, and that if she wants in,
Speaker 2: she'll have to earn it. That not everyone gets in,
Speaker 2: that not everyone stays, not for ego, but for standard,
Speaker 2: because your peace, your purpose, your path are worth more
Speaker 2: than momentary validation. And here's where I make it clear.
Speaker 2: A man who respects himself is a magnet. A man
Speaker 2: who doesn't negotiate his values to be liked becomes magnetic.
Speaker 2: He's not the most handsome, he's not the strongest. He's
Speaker 2: the one who doesn't kneel. He's the one who knows
Speaker 2: that even in the storm, his inner axis doesn't move.
Speaker 2: That man is not found every day, and when a
Speaker 2: woman finds him, even if she doesn't understand it, she's
Speaker 2: trapped between fascination and confusion. And you, do you still
Speaker 2: want to fit in? Or do you prefer to become
Speaker 2: an anomaly? Because I'm telling you already. Women don't desire
Speaker 2: the perfect man. They desire the one who, with all
Speaker 2: his demons well integrated, keeps walking firm without asking permission.
Speaker 2: They desire the one who doesn't submit to chaos but
Speaker 2: contains it. The one who doesn't dissolve in his emotions
Speaker 2: but channels them. The one who doesn't give himself completely
Speaker 2: right away, but gives himself in pieces, always leaving something
Speaker 2: that can't be fully reached. Because in the end, desire
Speaker 2: is this a game of distances, of what touches but
Speaker 2: is not given, of what insinuates but doesn't explain, of
Speaker 2: what could explode but doesn't. The one who learns to
Speaker 2: master that game doesn't need to chase. He is chaste,
Speaker 2: He doesn't need to beg he has sought. He doesn't
Speaker 2: need to say he's worth it, because his mere presence
Speaker 2: already shouts it. And now listen carefully, because we're coming
Speaker 2: to the point where many disconnect. But you're not like
Speaker 2: the others. If you've made it this far, it's because
Speaker 2: you sense that what you're hearing is not just about women.
Speaker 2: It's about you, about who you really are when you're
Speaker 2: not trying to please, about that man you've hidden out
Speaker 2: of fear of not being accepted. But acceptance without authenticity
Speaker 2: is a prison with flowers. And there's something else. No
Speaker 2: one dares to tell you. She doesn't want to conquer you,
Speaker 2: she wants to discover you, and for that you need
Speaker 2: to have something worth discovering. If everything in you is
Speaker 2: served on a platter from the first second, if every
Speaker 2: emotion is delivered without anyone asking for it, if your
Speaker 2: soul is on sale, where's the magic? Where's the vertigo?
Speaker 2: Vertigo that feeling that mixes fear with desire, that makes
Speaker 2: someone approach knowing they could get burned, but still stays.
Speaker 2: That's what makes a connection not just another story, but
Speaker 2: a mark that can't be erased. And that vertigo can
Speaker 2: only be caused by someone who doesn't beg someone who
Speaker 2: doesn't adapt, someone who doesn't lower the volume of their
Speaker 2: essence to fit in a room that doesn't deserve their presence,
Speaker 2: because there's one final truth. No one dares to scream.
Speaker 2: If you have to beg you're not in the right place.
Speaker 2: If to be loved you have to dissolve your character.
Speaker 2: If to be desired you have to pretend a softer
Speaker 2: version of yourself. You're negotiating your soul for crumbs of affection.
Speaker 2: And you know what she feels it too. She may
Speaker 2: not say it, she may not verbalize it, but in
Speaker 2: her most primal instinct she smells it. And when she
Speaker 2: smells it, she leaves. Not physically maybe, but emotionally she leaves.
Speaker 2: Because no one desires what they don't respect, and no
Speaker 2: one respects someone who doesn't respect themselves. So here it
Speaker 2: is clearly. Don't change to please grow so that liking
Speaker 2: you becomes a privilege. Don't show everything you are. Make
Speaker 2: discovering you a process, not a presentation. Don't offer your
Speaker 2: soul as a business card, offer your address, and let
Speaker 2: only the brave arrive. And now we'll close this as
Speaker 2: it deserves. If any part of you has awakened with
Speaker 2: these words, if you felt that discomfort that precedes transformation,
Speaker 2: then this video has done its job. You didn't come
Speaker 2: here just to understand women, you came to remember what
Speaker 2: you are, to reclaim what the world tried to take
Speaker 2: from you with rules, well intentioned advice, and cheap validation.
Speaker 2: This channel isn't for everyone. It's for those who are
Speaker 2: willing to burn and rebuild, for those who understand that
Speaker 2: desire isn't provoked from the surface but from the roots,
Speaker 2: For those who want to stop being an echo and
Speaker 2: start being a voice. So if this is resonated with you, subscribe,
Speaker 2: not because I ask you to, but because you know
Speaker 2: you'll find what no one dares to tell you here.
Speaker 2: And if you want this conversation to continue, leave the
Speaker 2: phrase in the comments. I'm not your reflection, I'm your vertigo.
Speaker 2: Let it be known who is awake, And now listen
Speaker 2: to this final whisper as if it were a tattoo
Speaker 2: for your mind. You're not just another man. You weren't
Speaker 2: designed to crawl. You were born with the ability to
Speaker 2: start fires in silences where others only know how to scream.
Speaker 2: And when the world doesn't know how to label you,
Speaker 2: don't hold back. Smile because those who can't be defined
Speaker 2: are the only ones who truly matter. See you next time,
Speaker 2: and remember, don't explain your fire to those who only
Speaker 2: understand ashes see you in the shadows.