WEBVTT

1
00:00:01.480 --> 00:00:04.440
<v Speaker 1>Look, man, no one's ever told you this, But I

2
00:00:04.519 --> 00:00:07.440
<v Speaker 1>have to tell you now what they've told you about

3
00:00:07.480 --> 00:00:11.519
<v Speaker 1>what women want. It's a pious lie disguised as tenderness,

4
00:00:12.160 --> 00:00:15.599
<v Speaker 1>a polished narrative to avoid hurting feelings. So you keep

5
00:00:15.599 --> 00:00:19.760
<v Speaker 1>believing that if you're kind, attentive, available, you'll end up

6
00:00:19.800 --> 00:00:25.600
<v Speaker 1>being the chosen one. But there's something they never told you. Often,

7
00:00:25.640 --> 00:00:28.879
<v Speaker 1>what a woman says she wants and what actually turns

8
00:00:28.920 --> 00:00:33.000
<v Speaker 1>her on are two different things. Freud hinted at it

9
00:00:33.039 --> 00:00:36.719
<v Speaker 1>outright in that mix of genius and provocation of his

10
00:00:38.359 --> 00:00:42.840
<v Speaker 1>female desire is not logical. It's not orderly, it doesn't

11
00:00:42.920 --> 00:00:48.079
<v Speaker 1>follow the laws of stability or security. It's chaotic. It's deep,

12
00:00:48.679 --> 00:00:52.920
<v Speaker 1>it's unconscious. And if you don't understand this, you're doomed

13
00:00:52.960 --> 00:00:56.079
<v Speaker 1>to become one of those men who crawl for emotional crumbs,

14
00:00:56.600 --> 00:00:59.799
<v Speaker 1>convinced that the more they give, the more they'll receive.

15
00:01:01.159 --> 00:01:06.079
<v Speaker 2>False. Because here's the truth. No one tells you. The

16
00:01:06.079 --> 00:01:09.480
<v Speaker 2>more you try to please, the more you dilute yourself,

17
00:01:10.120 --> 00:01:13.319
<v Speaker 2>the more you give in, the more invisible you become,

18
00:01:14.359 --> 00:01:17.760
<v Speaker 2>the more you bend over backward to please, the further

19
00:01:17.840 --> 00:01:23.920
<v Speaker 2>you move from what really ignites a woman's deep desire, tension, mystery,

20
00:01:24.400 --> 00:01:29.799
<v Speaker 2>emotional resistance. They don't want an emotional slave, They want

21
00:01:29.840 --> 00:01:34.519
<v Speaker 2>a rock. They don't seek perfect explanations or sensitive speeches.

22
00:01:35.280 --> 00:01:40.159
<v Speaker 2>They seek a firm, impenetrable presence that doesn't bend, that

23
00:01:40.200 --> 00:01:44.000
<v Speaker 2>doesn't tremble when they tremble, that doesn't need validation to

24
00:01:44.040 --> 00:01:48.359
<v Speaker 2>stand tall. The man who disturbs them, who drags them

25
00:01:48.400 --> 00:01:51.599
<v Speaker 2>to the edge of emotional abyss, is not the one

26
00:01:51.599 --> 00:01:55.799
<v Speaker 2>who emotionally bears himself at every opportunity. It's the one

27
00:01:55.799 --> 00:01:59.439
<v Speaker 2>who holds back, the one who chooses when to show himself,

28
00:01:59.840 --> 00:02:03.040
<v Speaker 2>one who never gives everything because he knows that mystery

29
00:02:03.560 --> 00:02:08.039
<v Speaker 2>is power. And you, who thought being the nice guy

30
00:02:08.719 --> 00:02:12.919
<v Speaker 2>was the strategy, who thought that if you were always available,

31
00:02:13.159 --> 00:02:18.479
<v Speaker 2>always willing, always smiling, you would win her heart number,

32
00:02:18.479 --> 00:02:22.080
<v Speaker 2>what you've won is contempt disguised as courtesy. You've won

33
00:02:22.159 --> 00:02:24.680
<v Speaker 2>a spot on her emotional waiting list, just after the

34
00:02:24.680 --> 00:02:27.120
<v Speaker 2>guy who doesn't call for two weeks, but when he appears,

35
00:02:28.199 --> 00:02:32.400
<v Speaker 2>he shakes her inside. Do you know why? Because that

36
00:02:32.520 --> 00:02:37.039
<v Speaker 2>man isn't desperate, because that man doesn't beg because that

37
00:02:37.120 --> 00:02:40.840
<v Speaker 2>man is self sufficient. And no, it's not about playing

38
00:02:40.879 --> 00:02:44.800
<v Speaker 2>the jerk. It's not about manipulating or pretending. It's about

39
00:02:44.840 --> 00:02:49.360
<v Speaker 2>rebuilding yourself from within, understanding that if you break every

40
00:02:49.439 --> 00:02:53.159
<v Speaker 2>time someone doesn't reply to your message, you're not ready.

41
00:02:54.199 --> 00:02:56.639
<v Speaker 2>That if your mood depends on whether or not they

42
00:02:56.680 --> 00:02:59.759
<v Speaker 2>look at you, you're still a child disguised as an

43
00:02:59.800 --> 00:03:03.879
<v Speaker 2>ad Freud spoke of the unconscious as that place where

44
00:03:03.879 --> 00:03:07.680
<v Speaker 2>the most primal, the most hidden impulses are kept, the

45
00:03:07.680 --> 00:03:10.840
<v Speaker 2>ones we don't even admit to ourselves. And in that

46
00:03:11.039 --> 00:03:15.639
<v Speaker 2>dark place, full of symbolism and repressed desires, hides a

47
00:03:15.680 --> 00:03:21.039
<v Speaker 2>brutal truth. Female desire is not tied to peace. It's

48
00:03:21.120 --> 00:03:24.560
<v Speaker 2>tied to intensity, to what makes her doubt, to what

49
00:03:24.639 --> 00:03:28.479
<v Speaker 2>makes her nervous, to what she can't control. What she

50
00:03:28.599 --> 00:03:33.680
<v Speaker 2>doesn't understand is what she can't stop thinking about. So

51
00:03:34.240 --> 00:03:37.080
<v Speaker 2>what are you doing trying to be predictable? What are

52
00:03:37.080 --> 00:03:41.319
<v Speaker 2>you doing showing yourself as an open book. Desire needs

53
00:03:41.439 --> 00:03:46.840
<v Speaker 2>gray areas, It needs gaps, It needs unanswered questions. The

54
00:03:46.919 --> 00:03:50.960
<v Speaker 2>mistake is not showing your humanity. The mistake is showing

55
00:03:51.000 --> 00:03:53.400
<v Speaker 2>it to someone who hasn't shown they can handle it.

56
00:03:54.120 --> 00:03:56.800
<v Speaker 2>You're giving away your secrets to someone who didn't ask

57
00:03:56.840 --> 00:04:00.360
<v Speaker 2>for them. You're revealing your fears to someone who hasn't

58
00:04:00.400 --> 00:04:05.639
<v Speaker 2>even given you a reason to trust them. Seduction, that

59
00:04:05.759 --> 00:04:09.520
<v Speaker 2>word that seems outdated is still the key, But not

60
00:04:09.639 --> 00:04:14.520
<v Speaker 2>the cheap seduction of rehearsed lines and hollow compliments. I'm

61
00:04:14.560 --> 00:04:18.720
<v Speaker 2>talking about seduction that comes from self control, personal mastery,

62
00:04:19.160 --> 00:04:22.879
<v Speaker 2>the ability to be present without being dependent, to look

63
00:04:23.000 --> 00:04:29.000
<v Speaker 2>without begging, to desire without pleading. Women don't desire the

64
00:04:29.040 --> 00:04:32.800
<v Speaker 2>one who kneels. They desire the one who remains standing

65
00:04:32.959 --> 00:04:36.480
<v Speaker 2>even when everything shakes, the one who knows how to

66
00:04:36.560 --> 00:04:40.480
<v Speaker 2>say no, the one who has his own world, an

67
00:04:40.480 --> 00:04:45.000
<v Speaker 2>inner universe that not everyone can access, because that universe

68
00:04:45.040 --> 00:04:49.000
<v Speaker 2>becomes their obsession, because every time they touch it, they

69
00:04:49.000 --> 00:04:54.600
<v Speaker 2>feel like they're discovering something forbidden, and the forbidden is irresistible.

70
00:04:55.759 --> 00:04:58.639
<v Speaker 2>The problem is that most men today have been tamed

71
00:04:58.759 --> 00:05:03.040
<v Speaker 2>by a narrative that in emotionally castrates them. They've been

72
00:05:03.040 --> 00:05:06.879
<v Speaker 2>told that being sensitive means being vulnerable, and that being

73
00:05:06.959 --> 00:05:10.240
<v Speaker 2>vulnerable is the same as being weak, So they expose

74
00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:14.480
<v Speaker 2>themselves completely. They cry on the first date, they confess

75
00:05:14.600 --> 00:05:20.319
<v Speaker 2>traumas without being invited. They become transparent too soon, and

76
00:05:20.360 --> 00:05:24.199
<v Speaker 2>then they don't understand why despite all their honesty, women

77
00:05:24.240 --> 00:05:28.639
<v Speaker 2>pull away. They pull away because the mystery died, because

78
00:05:28.680 --> 00:05:33.240
<v Speaker 2>there's nothing to discover, because the tension faded. A man

79
00:05:33.279 --> 00:05:36.959
<v Speaker 2>who is desirable is not the one who reveals everything.

80
00:05:37.680 --> 00:05:40.720
<v Speaker 2>It's the one who chooses what to reveal. It's the

81
00:05:40.720 --> 00:05:43.800
<v Speaker 2>one who masters his emotions, not the one who throws

82
00:05:43.839 --> 00:05:47.279
<v Speaker 2>them up. It's the one who listens but doesn't melt.

83
00:05:48.040 --> 00:05:51.519
<v Speaker 2>It's the one who accompanies but doesn't lose himself in

84
00:05:51.560 --> 00:05:54.879
<v Speaker 2>the other. That man is an anomaly in a world

85
00:05:54.920 --> 00:05:58.680
<v Speaker 2>of broken mirrors. That man is a magnet. Don't be confused.

86
00:05:59.279 --> 00:06:03.000
<v Speaker 2>Coldness is not the key. Coldness is a refuge for

87
00:06:03.079 --> 00:06:07.399
<v Speaker 2>those who have nothing inside. The key is containment. It's

88
00:06:07.439 --> 00:06:10.199
<v Speaker 2>being able to feel without being a slave to the feeling.

89
00:06:10.720 --> 00:06:14.000
<v Speaker 2>It's being able to love without losing yourself. It's being

90
00:06:14.040 --> 00:06:17.959
<v Speaker 2>able to desire without becoming a beggar. That is the

91
00:06:18.000 --> 00:06:21.360
<v Speaker 2>strength that Freud glimpsed when he spoke of female desire

92
00:06:21.759 --> 00:06:25.160
<v Speaker 2>as a force activated by the unattainable, the one that

93
00:06:25.199 --> 00:06:29.279
<v Speaker 2>doesn't give in, the one that doesn't beg The paradox

94
00:06:29.360 --> 00:06:34.040
<v Speaker 2>is brutal. The more you contain yourself, the more intensely

95
00:06:34.120 --> 00:06:34.759
<v Speaker 2>they desire.

96
00:06:34.800 --> 00:06:34.920
<v Speaker 1>You.

97
00:06:35.600 --> 00:06:38.199
<v Speaker 2>The more focused you are on your path, your mission,

98
00:06:38.279 --> 00:06:41.879
<v Speaker 2>your direction, the more you become an enigma. And the

99
00:06:42.040 --> 00:06:46.560
<v Speaker 2>enigma is the fuel of desire. Look at yourself in

100
00:06:46.600 --> 00:06:49.680
<v Speaker 2>the mirror and ask how much of yourself have you

101
00:06:49.759 --> 00:06:53.759
<v Speaker 2>given away without it being asked? How many times have

102
00:06:53.839 --> 00:06:58.279
<v Speaker 2>you begged for attention disguised as interest. How many times

103
00:06:58.279 --> 00:07:02.879
<v Speaker 2>have you confused closeness with urgency. You're exhausted because you've

104
00:07:02.920 --> 00:07:06.920
<v Speaker 2>tried to be everything to everyone. You're empty because you've

105
00:07:06.920 --> 00:07:10.800
<v Speaker 2>given without measure. You're frustrated because you never understood that

106
00:07:10.920 --> 00:07:16.000
<v Speaker 2>desire is not earned. It's provoked, and it's provoked by

107
00:07:16.000 --> 00:07:19.759
<v Speaker 2>what isn't easily given. The man who seduces from the

108
00:07:19.839 --> 00:07:22.720
<v Speaker 2>soul is not the one who shouts. It's the one

109
00:07:22.720 --> 00:07:25.920
<v Speaker 2>who vibrates differently. It's the one who doesn't need to

110
00:07:26.000 --> 00:07:29.639
<v Speaker 2>prove anything because he already knows his worth. It's the

111
00:07:29.680 --> 00:07:33.160
<v Speaker 2>one who walks firmly because he knows his path. It's

112
00:07:33.160 --> 00:07:36.800
<v Speaker 2>the one who, in the face of someone else's emotional chaos,

113
00:07:37.199 --> 00:07:42.279
<v Speaker 2>doesn't crumble, he holds it. That firmness is magnetic. That

114
00:07:42.399 --> 00:07:47.759
<v Speaker 2>independence is addictive because it represents everything most people don't have.

115
00:07:48.839 --> 00:07:53.040
<v Speaker 2>Because in a world of emotional excess. Self control is luxury,

116
00:07:53.720 --> 00:07:57.199
<v Speaker 2>and you can be that luxury. But first you have

117
00:07:57.279 --> 00:08:00.240
<v Speaker 2>to kill the beggar that lives inside you, the one

118
00:08:00.240 --> 00:08:03.399
<v Speaker 2>who begs, the one who waits, the one who pleads.

119
00:08:04.319 --> 00:08:07.240
<v Speaker 2>You weren't born to beg for love. You were born

120
00:08:07.360 --> 00:08:12.600
<v Speaker 2>to radiate presents. And here's the final twist, the part

121
00:08:12.680 --> 00:08:17.079
<v Speaker 2>most men refuse to accept. The more you need yourself,

122
00:08:17.439 --> 00:08:20.519
<v Speaker 2>the less you need to be loved. And when you

123
00:08:20.600 --> 00:08:25.079
<v Speaker 2>don't need to be loved, you become irresistible because you

124
00:08:25.160 --> 00:08:29.319
<v Speaker 2>no longer give from lack. You give from abundance. You

125
00:08:29.399 --> 00:08:32.440
<v Speaker 2>no longer love to fill a void. You love because

126
00:08:32.480 --> 00:08:36.879
<v Speaker 2>you have more than enough. Freud knew this before anyone.

127
00:08:37.879 --> 00:08:41.879
<v Speaker 2>Female desire is activated when there are no certainties, when

128
00:08:41.960 --> 00:08:47.720
<v Speaker 2>logic fails, when the soul twists in unanswered questions. They

129
00:08:47.759 --> 00:08:50.919
<v Speaker 2>want to feel like they have you, but not possess you.

130
00:08:51.960 --> 00:08:55.519
<v Speaker 2>They want to get close but not invaged. They want

131
00:08:55.559 --> 00:09:00.000
<v Speaker 2>to touch you, but not fully reach you. And you,

132
00:09:00.279 --> 00:09:03.279
<v Speaker 2>what do you want to be a comfortable answer or

133
00:09:03.320 --> 00:09:09.080
<v Speaker 2>an unforgettable question? Choose wisely, because that desire you think

134
00:09:09.159 --> 00:09:13.080
<v Speaker 2>you can provoke with flowers and poems actually awakens in

135
00:09:13.159 --> 00:09:18.080
<v Speaker 2>the darkness of the inexplicable. Don't domesticate it, don't explain it,

136
00:09:18.440 --> 00:09:22.440
<v Speaker 2>provoke it, because in the end, the man who doesn't

137
00:09:22.519 --> 00:09:26.080
<v Speaker 2>need to be desired is the one who is the most.

138
00:09:27.200 --> 00:09:29.840
<v Speaker 2>And here is where another aspect comes in that few

139
00:09:30.080 --> 00:09:36.519
<v Speaker 2>understand and is directly linked to female desire. Contrast. There

140
00:09:36.600 --> 00:09:41.360
<v Speaker 2>is no desire without contrast, no attraction without opposites. What

141
00:09:41.480 --> 00:09:46.240
<v Speaker 2>excites is not uniformity, it's the living contradiction. And the

142
00:09:46.279 --> 00:09:48.399
<v Speaker 2>man who awakens that in a woman is not the

143
00:09:48.440 --> 00:09:51.679
<v Speaker 2>one who is defined by a single layer, but the

144
00:09:51.679 --> 00:09:55.600
<v Speaker 2>one who carries layers that aren't easily seen. Not the

145
00:09:55.639 --> 00:09:58.840
<v Speaker 2>one who is always cold, nor the one who is

146
00:09:58.840 --> 00:10:02.279
<v Speaker 2>always warm, but the one who can be ice and

147
00:10:02.519 --> 00:10:07.759
<v Speaker 2>fire and never when expected. That is the man who

148
00:10:07.840 --> 00:10:11.519
<v Speaker 2>leaves a mark not for what he gives, but for

149
00:10:11.639 --> 00:10:16.440
<v Speaker 2>what he contains, for what he insinuates but doesn't concede.

150
00:10:17.000 --> 00:10:20.720
<v Speaker 2>Female desire is ignited in the tension between what is

151
00:10:20.799 --> 00:10:25.440
<v Speaker 2>shown and what is hidden, between what is offered and

152
00:10:25.559 --> 00:10:30.840
<v Speaker 2>what is withdrawn. It's that ebb and flow that creates obsession,

153
00:10:31.679 --> 00:10:36.279
<v Speaker 2>the one that activates fantasy, and fantasy brother is much

154
00:10:36.360 --> 00:10:40.080
<v Speaker 2>more powerful than any reality. The mistake is thinking that

155
00:10:40.159 --> 00:10:46.080
<v Speaker 2>by being completely good, completely giving, completely transparent, you'll conquer something.

156
00:10:46.960 --> 00:10:51.519
<v Speaker 2>But absolute things don't seduce, They bore because in the

157
00:10:51.639 --> 00:10:57.159
<v Speaker 2>absolute there's no surprise, and desire feeds on the unexpected,

158
00:10:57.559 --> 00:11:01.799
<v Speaker 2>on what breaks patterns, on what can't be predicted. When

159
00:11:01.799 --> 00:11:04.480
<v Speaker 2>a woman thinks she already has you figured out, the

160
00:11:04.559 --> 00:11:10.600
<v Speaker 2>mystery dies, and with the mystery, desire dies. Look around you.

161
00:11:11.360 --> 00:11:15.399
<v Speaker 2>Most men today are desperate to be predictable, to be safe,

162
00:11:15.960 --> 00:11:19.879
<v Speaker 2>to not make mistakes, and in that attempt to be perfect,

163
00:11:20.240 --> 00:11:26.039
<v Speaker 2>they become flat. The edge disappears, the sharpness evaporates. They

164
00:11:26.039 --> 00:11:31.120
<v Speaker 2>don't discomfort, they don't challenge, they don't provoke, and therefore

165
00:11:31.159 --> 00:11:33.919
<v Speaker 2>they don't leave a mark because it's not enough to

166
00:11:33.960 --> 00:11:40.240
<v Speaker 2>be liked. Liking is easy. What's difficult is fascinating. What's

167
00:11:40.279 --> 00:11:44.240
<v Speaker 2>difficult is being remembered when you're not around. What's difficult

168
00:11:44.320 --> 00:11:46.919
<v Speaker 2>is having them think of you for no apparent reason.

169
00:11:47.720 --> 00:11:51.559
<v Speaker 2>And that's not achieved by being correct, it's achieved by

170
00:11:51.600 --> 00:11:57.200
<v Speaker 2>being unforgettable. Now listen closely. One of the biggest triggers

171
00:11:57.200 --> 00:12:03.080
<v Speaker 2>of female desire is not physical. It's symbolic. It's what

172
00:12:03.120 --> 00:12:08.240
<v Speaker 2>you represent, what you awaken in her imagination. If you

173
00:12:08.320 --> 00:12:12.879
<v Speaker 2>represent comfort, you'll be valued, but if you represent challenge,

174
00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:17.639
<v Speaker 2>you'll be desired. If you represent a peaceful life, they'll

175
00:12:17.639 --> 00:12:22.720
<v Speaker 2>want you as a stable option. But if you represent depth, mystery,

176
00:12:23.000 --> 00:12:28.600
<v Speaker 2>emotional mastery, you'll be impossible to ignore. Women, even though

177
00:12:28.639 --> 00:12:32.799
<v Speaker 2>they say they seek peace, are drawn to controlled chaos.

178
00:12:33.240 --> 00:12:37.159
<v Speaker 2>And I repeat controlled chaos. It's not about being a

179
00:12:37.240 --> 00:12:41.159
<v Speaker 2>destructive whirlwind. It's about being a storm that doesn't need

180
00:12:41.200 --> 00:12:46.519
<v Speaker 2>to explode. That contained energy is what disarms them. It's

181
00:12:46.600 --> 00:12:51.200
<v Speaker 2>knowing you could burn but choose not to, because self

182
00:12:51.240 --> 00:12:55.759
<v Speaker 2>control is more erotic than any declaration of love. And

183
00:12:55.840 --> 00:13:03.200
<v Speaker 2>here comes another essential nuance, nonverbal language. Silence, the gaze

184
00:13:03.240 --> 00:13:09.000
<v Speaker 2>held without hesitation, the pause before responding, those small gestures

185
00:13:09.039 --> 00:13:12.759
<v Speaker 2>that indicate that you're not nervous, that you're not seeking approval,

186
00:13:13.159 --> 00:13:16.600
<v Speaker 2>that you can stay with her or without her and

187
00:13:16.759 --> 00:13:21.399
<v Speaker 2>still be just as complete. That's perceived, that sensed. That

188
00:13:21.519 --> 00:13:24.960
<v Speaker 2>alters because it's not what you say, it's what you project,

189
00:13:25.399 --> 00:13:27.840
<v Speaker 2>it's not what you promise, it's what you are without

190
00:13:27.919 --> 00:13:30.440
<v Speaker 2>needing to say it. We live in an era of

191
00:13:30.600 --> 00:13:36.639
<v Speaker 2>constant exposure. Everyone talks, everyone shows, everyone yells to be seen.

192
00:13:37.559 --> 00:13:39.440
<v Speaker 2>And do you know who stands out in the middle

193
00:13:39.480 --> 00:13:43.639
<v Speaker 2>of that noise, the one who's silent, the one who observes,

194
00:13:44.480 --> 00:13:48.080
<v Speaker 2>the one who retreats, the one who, instead of proving,

195
00:13:48.360 --> 00:13:53.240
<v Speaker 2>simply remains. Because his mere presence communicates more than a

196
00:13:53.320 --> 00:13:58.639
<v Speaker 2>thousand words. That man is rare. He's different and different

197
00:13:59.440 --> 00:14:06.440
<v Speaker 2>attract Now let's talk about another brutal trap, emotional self annihilation.

198
00:14:07.799 --> 00:14:10.799
<v Speaker 2>Many men, when they enter a relationship or the game

199
00:14:10.840 --> 00:14:16.519
<v Speaker 2>of seduction, begin to distort themselves. They soften, they mutate

200
00:14:16.759 --> 00:14:20.480
<v Speaker 2>based on what they think she expects. They stop making

201
00:14:20.519 --> 00:14:25.039
<v Speaker 2>their own decisions, They change their opinions, They renounce their essence.

202
00:14:25.480 --> 00:14:30.240
<v Speaker 2>Why to fit in, to be the ideal, But the

203
00:14:30.320 --> 00:14:35.440
<v Speaker 2>ideal is boring, The ideal is artificial, and the artificial

204
00:14:35.519 --> 00:14:40.000
<v Speaker 2>doesn't connect with the unconscious. And it's there where desire fades,

205
00:14:41.000 --> 00:14:45.320
<v Speaker 2>because in that attempt to adapt, you become just another one.

206
00:14:46.039 --> 00:14:50.080
<v Speaker 2>Another who doesn't discomfort, who doesn't challenge, who doesn't bother,

207
00:14:50.840 --> 00:14:55.120
<v Speaker 2>But also another who isn't interesting, who doesn't vibrate, who

208
00:14:55.159 --> 00:14:59.559
<v Speaker 2>doesn't ignite anything. Because no one desires a reflection of

209
00:14:59.600 --> 00:15:03.519
<v Speaker 2>themselves elves. They desire the one who moves them, the

210
00:15:03.519 --> 00:15:06.840
<v Speaker 2>one who stirs their gut, the one who confronts them

211
00:15:07.320 --> 00:15:11.200
<v Speaker 2>and at the same time holds them. And that can

212
00:15:11.200 --> 00:15:13.720
<v Speaker 2>only be done by someone who has built themselves from

213
00:15:13.720 --> 00:15:18.120
<v Speaker 2>the inside, who doesn't need to disguise anything. Freud said

214
00:15:18.120 --> 00:15:21.840
<v Speaker 2>it plainly. The unconscious mind is full of impulses that

215
00:15:21.879 --> 00:15:27.320
<v Speaker 2>don't accept social morality. Desire has no rules. Desire is

216
00:15:27.399 --> 00:15:32.039
<v Speaker 2>not fair, Desire is not rational. So if you behave

217
00:15:32.159 --> 00:15:36.480
<v Speaker 2>with logic, with rules, with predictable morality, you're going to

218
00:15:36.519 --> 00:15:40.039
<v Speaker 2>appeal to her brain, but not her guts. And the

219
00:15:40.120 --> 00:15:44.120
<v Speaker 2>gut is what decides. Desire is not built in the

220
00:15:44.159 --> 00:15:47.720
<v Speaker 2>conscious mind, but in the most primitive part of being.

221
00:15:48.919 --> 00:15:53.080
<v Speaker 2>And do you know what activates the primitive, the unexpected,

222
00:15:53.600 --> 00:15:57.360
<v Speaker 2>the untamable. What you can't put in a box. You

223
00:15:57.399 --> 00:16:00.440
<v Speaker 2>can be kind, you can be polite, you can be

224
00:16:00.480 --> 00:16:06.279
<v Speaker 2>correct and still be completely forgettable. But if you're unpredictable,

225
00:16:06.600 --> 00:16:09.600
<v Speaker 2>if you have a shadow, if you don't always act

226
00:16:09.639 --> 00:16:14.279
<v Speaker 2>as expected but do so with internal coherence, then a

227
00:16:14.360 --> 00:16:19.799
<v Speaker 2>crack opens, a crack where obsession enters. And what is

228
00:16:19.879 --> 00:16:23.720
<v Speaker 2>the core of all this The power of your frame,

229
00:16:24.559 --> 00:16:28.799
<v Speaker 2>your mental structure, what you're willing to allow and what

230
00:16:28.960 --> 00:16:33.159
<v Speaker 2>you'll never yield. When a woman feels that your frame

231
00:16:33.240 --> 00:16:38.440
<v Speaker 2>is stronger than her emotional chaos. Something activates inside her.

232
00:16:39.120 --> 00:16:43.200
<v Speaker 2>She doesn't understand why, but she starts to see you differently,

233
00:16:44.080 --> 00:16:46.679
<v Speaker 2>because while everyone else breaks in the face of her

234
00:16:46.720 --> 00:16:52.279
<v Speaker 2>mood swings, you remain steady, while everyone else is desperate

235
00:16:52.440 --> 00:16:57.559
<v Speaker 2>to please, You observe without begging, And that deep in

236
00:16:57.639 --> 00:17:03.399
<v Speaker 2>her psyche is irresistible. So no, don't make yourself smaller

237
00:17:03.440 --> 00:17:06.599
<v Speaker 2>to fit into her world, make her want to climb

238
00:17:06.599 --> 00:17:09.799
<v Speaker 2>to enter yours. Don't tell her you're willing to do

239
00:17:09.880 --> 00:17:13.400
<v Speaker 2>anything to be with her. Tell her without saying it,

240
00:17:13.720 --> 00:17:16.720
<v Speaker 2>that you're already complete, and that if she wants in,

241
00:17:16.799 --> 00:17:19.559
<v Speaker 2>she'll have to earn it. That not everyone gets in,

242
00:17:20.119 --> 00:17:24.839
<v Speaker 2>that not everyone stays, not for ego, but for standard,

243
00:17:26.119 --> 00:17:30.599
<v Speaker 2>because your peace, your purpose, your path are worth more

244
00:17:30.640 --> 00:17:34.880
<v Speaker 2>than momentary validation. And here's where I make it clear.

245
00:17:35.880 --> 00:17:40.079
<v Speaker 2>A man who respects himself is a magnet. A man

246
00:17:40.079 --> 00:17:44.480
<v Speaker 2>who doesn't negotiate his values to be liked becomes magnetic.

247
00:17:45.079 --> 00:17:48.599
<v Speaker 2>He's not the most handsome, he's not the strongest. He's

248
00:17:48.640 --> 00:17:51.200
<v Speaker 2>the one who doesn't kneel. He's the one who knows

249
00:17:51.200 --> 00:17:54.079
<v Speaker 2>that even in the storm, his inner axis doesn't move.

250
00:17:54.960 --> 00:17:57.920
<v Speaker 2>That man is not found every day, and when a

251
00:17:57.920 --> 00:18:01.559
<v Speaker 2>woman finds him, even if she doesn't understand it, she's

252
00:18:01.599 --> 00:18:06.160
<v Speaker 2>trapped between fascination and confusion. And you, do you still

253
00:18:06.200 --> 00:18:08.640
<v Speaker 2>want to fit in? Or do you prefer to become

254
00:18:08.640 --> 00:18:13.160
<v Speaker 2>an anomaly? Because I'm telling you already. Women don't desire

255
00:18:13.200 --> 00:18:16.400
<v Speaker 2>the perfect man. They desire the one who, with all

256
00:18:16.440 --> 00:18:21.039
<v Speaker 2>his demons well integrated, keeps walking firm without asking permission.

257
00:18:22.039 --> 00:18:25.960
<v Speaker 2>They desire the one who doesn't submit to chaos but

258
00:18:26.119 --> 00:18:29.799
<v Speaker 2>contains it. The one who doesn't dissolve in his emotions

259
00:18:30.319 --> 00:18:33.960
<v Speaker 2>but channels them. The one who doesn't give himself completely

260
00:18:34.039 --> 00:18:38.000
<v Speaker 2>right away, but gives himself in pieces, always leaving something

261
00:18:38.039 --> 00:18:42.599
<v Speaker 2>that can't be fully reached. Because in the end, desire

262
00:18:42.920 --> 00:18:47.559
<v Speaker 2>is this a game of distances, of what touches but

263
00:18:47.720 --> 00:18:51.640
<v Speaker 2>is not given, of what insinuates but doesn't explain, of

264
00:18:51.680 --> 00:18:55.440
<v Speaker 2>what could explode but doesn't. The one who learns to

265
00:18:55.559 --> 00:18:59.319
<v Speaker 2>master that game doesn't need to chase. He is chaste,

266
00:18:59.640 --> 00:19:02.799
<v Speaker 2>He doesn't need to beg he has sought. He doesn't

267
00:19:02.799 --> 00:19:05.680
<v Speaker 2>need to say he's worth it, because his mere presence

268
00:19:06.039 --> 00:19:09.519
<v Speaker 2>already shouts it. And now listen carefully, because we're coming

269
00:19:09.519 --> 00:19:12.319
<v Speaker 2>to the point where many disconnect. But you're not like

270
00:19:12.359 --> 00:19:15.480
<v Speaker 2>the others. If you've made it this far, it's because

271
00:19:15.480 --> 00:19:18.200
<v Speaker 2>you sense that what you're hearing is not just about women.

272
00:19:18.480 --> 00:19:21.160
<v Speaker 2>It's about you, about who you really are when you're

273
00:19:21.160 --> 00:19:23.920
<v Speaker 2>not trying to please, about that man you've hidden out

274
00:19:23.960 --> 00:19:27.799
<v Speaker 2>of fear of not being accepted. But acceptance without authenticity

275
00:19:28.279 --> 00:19:31.400
<v Speaker 2>is a prison with flowers. And there's something else. No

276
00:19:31.440 --> 00:19:34.880
<v Speaker 2>one dares to tell you. She doesn't want to conquer you,

277
00:19:35.759 --> 00:19:39.720
<v Speaker 2>she wants to discover you, and for that you need

278
00:19:39.759 --> 00:19:43.400
<v Speaker 2>to have something worth discovering. If everything in you is

279
00:19:43.440 --> 00:19:46.400
<v Speaker 2>served on a platter from the first second, if every

280
00:19:46.440 --> 00:19:49.720
<v Speaker 2>emotion is delivered without anyone asking for it, if your

281
00:19:49.720 --> 00:19:53.599
<v Speaker 2>soul is on sale, where's the magic? Where's the vertigo?

282
00:19:54.880 --> 00:20:00.799
<v Speaker 2>Vertigo that feeling that mixes fear with desire, that makes

283
00:20:00.799 --> 00:20:04.720
<v Speaker 2>someone approach knowing they could get burned, but still stays.

284
00:20:05.920 --> 00:20:09.559
<v Speaker 2>That's what makes a connection not just another story, but

285
00:20:09.640 --> 00:20:13.720
<v Speaker 2>a mark that can't be erased. And that vertigo can

286
00:20:13.759 --> 00:20:17.200
<v Speaker 2>only be caused by someone who doesn't beg someone who

287
00:20:17.279 --> 00:20:21.480
<v Speaker 2>doesn't adapt, someone who doesn't lower the volume of their

288
00:20:21.640 --> 00:20:24.880
<v Speaker 2>essence to fit in a room that doesn't deserve their presence,

289
00:20:26.319 --> 00:20:31.319
<v Speaker 2>because there's one final truth. No one dares to scream.

290
00:20:31.640 --> 00:20:34.680
<v Speaker 2>If you have to beg you're not in the right place.

291
00:20:36.000 --> 00:20:38.559
<v Speaker 2>If to be loved you have to dissolve your character.

292
00:20:39.000 --> 00:20:41.640
<v Speaker 2>If to be desired you have to pretend a softer

293
00:20:41.799 --> 00:20:45.720
<v Speaker 2>version of yourself. You're negotiating your soul for crumbs of affection.

294
00:20:46.880 --> 00:20:51.359
<v Speaker 2>And you know what she feels it too. She may

295
00:20:51.400 --> 00:20:54.480
<v Speaker 2>not say it, she may not verbalize it, but in

296
00:20:54.519 --> 00:20:59.079
<v Speaker 2>her most primal instinct she smells it. And when she

297
00:20:59.160 --> 00:21:05.559
<v Speaker 2>smells it, she leaves. Not physically maybe, but emotionally she leaves.

298
00:21:06.119 --> 00:21:09.640
<v Speaker 2>Because no one desires what they don't respect, and no

299
00:21:09.680 --> 00:21:13.920
<v Speaker 2>one respects someone who doesn't respect themselves. So here it

300
00:21:14.000 --> 00:21:19.240
<v Speaker 2>is clearly. Don't change to please grow so that liking

301
00:21:19.319 --> 00:21:23.640
<v Speaker 2>you becomes a privilege. Don't show everything you are. Make

302
00:21:23.759 --> 00:21:28.400
<v Speaker 2>discovering you a process, not a presentation. Don't offer your

303
00:21:28.440 --> 00:21:32.759
<v Speaker 2>soul as a business card, offer your address, and let

304
00:21:32.799 --> 00:21:37.559
<v Speaker 2>only the brave arrive. And now we'll close this as

305
00:21:37.599 --> 00:21:41.000
<v Speaker 2>it deserves. If any part of you has awakened with

306
00:21:41.160 --> 00:21:45.079
<v Speaker 2>these words, if you felt that discomfort that precedes transformation,

307
00:21:45.759 --> 00:21:48.920
<v Speaker 2>then this video has done its job. You didn't come

308
00:21:48.960 --> 00:21:52.559
<v Speaker 2>here just to understand women, you came to remember what

309
00:21:52.680 --> 00:21:56.119
<v Speaker 2>you are, to reclaim what the world tried to take

310
00:21:56.160 --> 00:22:00.680
<v Speaker 2>from you with rules, well intentioned advice, and cheap validation.

311
00:22:01.400 --> 00:22:04.960
<v Speaker 2>This channel isn't for everyone. It's for those who are

312
00:22:04.960 --> 00:22:09.400
<v Speaker 2>willing to burn and rebuild, for those who understand that

313
00:22:09.559 --> 00:22:14.200
<v Speaker 2>desire isn't provoked from the surface but from the roots,

314
00:22:14.799 --> 00:22:17.920
<v Speaker 2>For those who want to stop being an echo and

315
00:22:18.039 --> 00:22:24.559
<v Speaker 2>start being a voice. So if this is resonated with you, subscribe,

316
00:22:24.599 --> 00:22:27.599
<v Speaker 2>not because I ask you to, but because you know

317
00:22:27.799 --> 00:22:30.559
<v Speaker 2>you'll find what no one dares to tell you here.

318
00:22:31.400 --> 00:22:34.720
<v Speaker 2>And if you want this conversation to continue, leave the

319
00:22:34.720 --> 00:22:39.519
<v Speaker 2>phrase in the comments. I'm not your reflection, I'm your vertigo.

320
00:22:40.880 --> 00:22:45.559
<v Speaker 2>Let it be known who is awake, And now listen

321
00:22:45.599 --> 00:22:48.400
<v Speaker 2>to this final whisper as if it were a tattoo

322
00:22:48.480 --> 00:22:52.799
<v Speaker 2>for your mind. You're not just another man. You weren't

323
00:22:52.799 --> 00:22:56.160
<v Speaker 2>designed to crawl. You were born with the ability to

324
00:22:56.200 --> 00:23:00.440
<v Speaker 2>start fires in silences where others only know how to scream.

325
00:23:01.039 --> 00:23:03.559
<v Speaker 2>And when the world doesn't know how to label you,

326
00:23:04.160 --> 00:23:09.279
<v Speaker 2>don't hold back. Smile because those who can't be defined

327
00:23:09.759 --> 00:23:13.880
<v Speaker 2>are the only ones who truly matter. See you next time,

328
00:23:15.480 --> 00:23:19.200
<v Speaker 2>and remember, don't explain your fire to those who only

329
00:23:19.279 --> 00:23:25.279
<v Speaker 2>understand ashes see you in the shadows.