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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you.

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<v Speaker 2>To think about. You know what I've learned when it

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<v Speaker 2>comes to relationships, it's two things I've learned that I

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<v Speaker 2>know for.

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<v Speaker 1>Sure it's true. One there are me let me say that,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's two for sure.

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<v Speaker 2>One people get into relationships.

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<v Speaker 1>Carrying feelings from a relationship they had with someone else.

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<v Speaker 1>And two, most people who get into relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't love themselves. Both are major major no knows.

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<v Speaker 1>That causes huge issues in relationships.

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<v Speaker 2>Both not loving yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>I've talked about it many times, but not loving yourself

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<v Speaker 1>affects you in every.

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<v Speaker 2>Fashion of your life.

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<v Speaker 1>Why because when you don't love yourself, you're so.

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<v Speaker 2>Eager to be loved. You want it so desperately.

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<v Speaker 1>But most people who get what they perceive is love,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not love at all. But they find out the

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<v Speaker 1>hard way when you don't love yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>It's hard for you to see.

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<v Speaker 1>The games people play, the lies people are telling, the manipulation.

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<v Speaker 1>It's hard for you to see those things that you

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<v Speaker 1>need to see. It's hard, but most people just cannot

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<v Speaker 1>see the signs and red flags because they're so caught

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<v Speaker 1>up on what they want, what they feel, what their

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<v Speaker 1>eyes see what they desire their hearts.

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<v Speaker 2>They're so caught up that they cannot.

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<v Speaker 1>See what's right before them. They cannot see you, that

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<v Speaker 1>person is showing them that they are. They can't see

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<v Speaker 1>anything because they're blind by what they want.

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<v Speaker 2>And because of it, many, many, many, many people right

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<v Speaker 2>now as I speak, are.

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<v Speaker 1>In dead, in loveless, unhealthy, toxic, hostile, volatile relationships, living

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<v Speaker 1>as companions or roommates. A lot of people are living

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<v Speaker 1>in fear because they're afraid of the person that they

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<v Speaker 1>want loved.

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<v Speaker 2>Loving yourself is.

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<v Speaker 1>Of the utmost importance, it really really is, and so

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<v Speaker 1>many people are felling themselves because they've never gotten to

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<v Speaker 1>that point in life. They've never been able to love

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<v Speaker 1>themselves because of all of the stuff that they hold inside,

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<v Speaker 1>the negative things.

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<v Speaker 2>You don't have to take my word for it. Just

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<v Speaker 2>look at the news. I mean, all around.

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<v Speaker 1>The world, people are saying the most ridiculous things. I

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<v Speaker 1>mean coming out of the mouths of professional people and

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<v Speaker 1>non professional But you would think professional people who are

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<v Speaker 1>of some type of status would know better. But brokenness

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<v Speaker 1>does not discriminate, and many people are broken. Most are broken,

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<v Speaker 1>they're not and that's why we see all of the chaos,

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<v Speaker 1>all of the hearts that have waxed cold.

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<v Speaker 2>We see all of this. People are saying the most

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<v Speaker 2>foolish things.

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<v Speaker 1>And they are doing the most foolish things because they

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<v Speaker 1>don't love themselves. A person who love his or herself

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<v Speaker 1>do not carry on like that. They don't because they

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<v Speaker 1>love themselves and they love others. People that don't love themselves,

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<v Speaker 1>they cannot possibly love others. I don't care if they

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<v Speaker 1>are children, boyfriend, girls, friend, husband, wise friends.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't love themselves.

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<v Speaker 1>Just because you have all of those things does not

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<v Speaker 1>mean you love yourself. And it shows in the way

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<v Speaker 1>people behave. Now, this is the tricky part. Sometimes people

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<v Speaker 1>are such manipulators. They don't behave in a way that

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<v Speaker 1>looks appropriate, but they're not appropriate people, meaning they are

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<v Speaker 1>not people of character, of the integrity of morals and values.

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<v Speaker 2>And all you have to do is watch.

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<v Speaker 1>Them what they say and what they do. And unfortunately,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people, and many of you listening right now,

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<v Speaker 1>you're in relationship with these people. You're in relationships with them,

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<v Speaker 1>and you're miserable because you see them acting crazy. You

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<v Speaker 1>see how they're carrying on, how they're behaving it's embarrassing.

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<v Speaker 2>To you, It really is.

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<v Speaker 1>So many people are in undy healthy relationships completely.

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<v Speaker 2>And then those.

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<v Speaker 1>Who to get into relationships with people carrying torches of

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<v Speaker 1>individuals that they were in relationships before.

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<v Speaker 2>That is wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>That is wrong on every level. You're gonna always be

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<v Speaker 1>thinking could have, would have, should have. You're gonna always

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<v Speaker 1>have that in the back of your mind because you're

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<v Speaker 1>still carrying flames for.

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<v Speaker 2>That person that you should have been over.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not fair to the person you're with, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>not fair to yourself if you're not over someone completely

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<v Speaker 1>over them. Don't get in a relationship with anyone else

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<v Speaker 1>because what you do, whether conscious or subconscious, you compare.

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<v Speaker 2>Them, You compare them.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of you do it outright, you compare them, well,

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<v Speaker 1>blah bah blah blah, was this way and did that

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<v Speaker 1>and all of this and that when you should never

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<v Speaker 1>do that. And all it takes is, i mean, just

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<v Speaker 1>the slightest breathe and you'll be ready to run back

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<v Speaker 1>over there. All it takes is the slightest thing that

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<v Speaker 1>you're new sicknificant other can do or say, and you're

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<v Speaker 1>ready to fall right back over.

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<v Speaker 2>To that other person.

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<v Speaker 1>Some of you are in relationships with new people and

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<v Speaker 1>you're fooling around with.

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<v Speaker 2>The old person. That is wrong. It is wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>No one should ever carry flames for someone that they

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<v Speaker 1>was previously with into a new relationship.

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<v Speaker 2>Now, listen, I'm not.

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<v Speaker 1>Not eve and I'm far from them. I understand when

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<v Speaker 1>you have had a relationship with someone, you got memories

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<v Speaker 1>and you have thoughts and things you know, sometimes you

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<v Speaker 1>reminience in your head. You don't even be meaning to,

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<v Speaker 1>but the thoughts will come sometimes entertaining those thoughts. It's

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<v Speaker 1>not what you should be doing.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not.

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<v Speaker 1>Everyone should be satisfied with the person they chose to

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<v Speaker 1>be with.

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<v Speaker 2>If you are not, that's on you. Bable that's on.

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<v Speaker 1>You because you should have never moved forward if you're

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<v Speaker 1>still looking behind. That's in your relationship and in your

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<v Speaker 1>life in general. You should have never ever moved forward

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<v Speaker 1>if you're still looking behind, But unfortunately.

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<v Speaker 2>Many people do. Many people have.

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<v Speaker 1>A lot of your significant others are unhappy because they

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<v Speaker 1>know you still have feelings for that last person, or

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<v Speaker 1>it could be a person from years before, like years

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<v Speaker 1>and years and years before, but they know you still

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<v Speaker 1>have feelings for that person because of the things you

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<v Speaker 1>said and.

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<v Speaker 2>Stuff like that. You're wrong, you're.

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<v Speaker 1>Flat out rome and a significant other, a new significant

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<v Speaker 1>other have every right.

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<v Speaker 3>To feel some kind of way, every.

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<v Speaker 2>Right because you're wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>So many people mess up their relationships because they carry

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<v Speaker 1>feelings into those new relationships from the last person. Many

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<v Speaker 1>people get into relationships they have children with other people,

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<v Speaker 1>and they know they still have feelings for that mother

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<v Speaker 1>or that father, but they get into relationships with new people.

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<v Speaker 3>Causing havo because the other person, that individual that they

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<v Speaker 3>have a child with, almost controls them.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's like, what's the point, what's the point of

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<v Speaker 1>being with me if that person over there still has

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<v Speaker 1>such a hold on you. See, where people go wrong is,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm talking as a woman and as a mother,

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<v Speaker 1>where people go wrong is they think, especially women, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I have a child by him, you know, therefore he's

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<v Speaker 1>gonna do what I say. I have a hold on

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<v Speaker 1>him forever because I have a child with him.

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<v Speaker 2>No lies lies. That man.

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<v Speaker 1>Must be a mature adult who have no problems with

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<v Speaker 1>putting their X in his or her place. Well, let

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<v Speaker 1>me rephrase that in her place. I said his or

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<v Speaker 1>her place, but I'm meaning whether it's a male or

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<v Speaker 1>female putting their ex.

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<v Speaker 2>In their place.

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<v Speaker 1>Because the man I'm speaking man with the woman putting

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<v Speaker 1>her in her place, he should have no problem if

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<v Speaker 1>he's gotten into a new relationship or if she's gotten

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<v Speaker 1>into a new relationship, you should have no issues making

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<v Speaker 1>that X stay in their lane. If you can't, you

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be in a new relationship with anyone because all

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<v Speaker 1>it does is cause friction, It causes problems if you

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<v Speaker 1>know you still have feelings for someone.

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<v Speaker 2>And I'm not speaking like.

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<v Speaker 1>You care for the person, because that's just natural because

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<v Speaker 1>we care for people. We all should care for people

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<v Speaker 1>whether you was in a relationship with them or not.

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<v Speaker 1>But the care is different from being in love with

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<v Speaker 1>them or loving them in that way. So let's not

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<v Speaker 1>miscunscrew anything here. But if you know you're feeling intimate

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<v Speaker 1>ways for your ex, then you know you're wrong and

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<v Speaker 1>you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone else.

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<v Speaker 2>But people are doing these things.

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<v Speaker 1>They're getting in relationships with people when they don't love themselves,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you get in relationship with someone who don't

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<v Speaker 1>love his or herself and it's just a mess.

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<v Speaker 2>But this is what people keep.

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<v Speaker 1>Doing, just ruining their relationships that potentially could have been

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<v Speaker 1>very good relationships. So many people in this world are

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<v Speaker 1>in unhappy, unhealthy relationships.

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<v Speaker 4>And that's just fact, just unhealthy, rolling over night after

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<v Speaker 4>night looking into the face of someone they don't even want.

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<v Speaker 1>To be with.

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<v Speaker 2>That is horrible.

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<v Speaker 1>But this is what people are settling with because of

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<v Speaker 1>who they are, Not the other person, but you.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm talking about who you are. You're settling because of

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<v Speaker 2>who you.

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<v Speaker 1>Are, what's inside of you that's causing you to settle.

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<v Speaker 1>Most people are in unhappy relationships, and that is so

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<v Speaker 1>sad to me. I would much rather be alone than

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<v Speaker 1>to be with someone and yearning for love.

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<v Speaker 2>But that's the case for most people. I have talked to.

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<v Speaker 1>Many hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people and couples miserable.

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<v Speaker 1>They totally different, not on the same level, just unequally

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<v Speaker 1>yoked and unhappy within themselves and in their relationships. There's

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<v Speaker 1>no way you're going to be happy in your relationship

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<v Speaker 1>when you're unhappy within yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>People have it all wrong. You're seeking all of these different.

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<v Speaker 1>Things in other people when you yourself don't possess them.

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<v Speaker 1>You're seeking love and happiness and all of these things,

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<v Speaker 1>securities in other people when you don't possess them in yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>only to be more miserable now than you were before.

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<v Speaker 1>That's why people move on in life. They move from

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<v Speaker 1>relationship to relationship carrying the same baggage. They're moving on,

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<v Speaker 1>but it's a cycle. They're repeating the same cycles because

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<v Speaker 1>they're moving, but they're going nowhere, same cycles, same cycles

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<v Speaker 1>because they keep looking behind, or they keep holding on

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<v Speaker 1>to things that's.

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<v Speaker 2>Dragging them down and keeping them stabbing it.

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<v Speaker 1>This is what people are doing to themselves, or have

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<v Speaker 1>done to themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>They get married, divorced.

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<v Speaker 1>A few months later, not even a year later, marrying

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<v Speaker 1>someone else, just repeating cycles.

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<v Speaker 2>Until you learn to love yourself, know who you are.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll never be truly happy in a relationship because you

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<v Speaker 1>cannot be happy until you know how to love yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've told you in many episodes.

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<v Speaker 1>If it's your first time here, go and listen to them.

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<v Speaker 1>Learning to love yourself is a process. It takes forgiveness,

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<v Speaker 1>loving yourself.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, let me go back.

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<v Speaker 1>It takes forgiveness, letting go, loving yourself, knowing who you are,

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<v Speaker 1>learning from all your experiences, good and bad, learning from

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<v Speaker 1>them because when you learn from your experiences, you grow,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you can get to that level of mental

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<v Speaker 1>money maturity. Most people are not there. Most people will

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<v Speaker 1>never get there. People think because people are rich, they

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<v Speaker 1>have all of these things, they have titles and all

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<v Speaker 1>of these high positions, that they're okay, they're exempt. They're

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<v Speaker 1>more broken than the average person, and you can tell

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<v Speaker 1>because they have been in multiple relations multiple relationships, they

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<v Speaker 1>do the most absurd things. They are power hungry, controlling.

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<v Speaker 1>Those are characteristics of brokenness. Any person that wants power

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<v Speaker 1>over you or power over people is a broken and weak.

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<v Speaker 2>Person who becomes in power by broken people.

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<v Speaker 1>Because a person who loves his or herself is not

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<v Speaker 1>giving their power to no one.

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<v Speaker 2>They're not They know better, but the majority don't because

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<v Speaker 2>of the mindset they have. And it's the.

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<v Speaker 1>Very same reason people get into bad relationships with the

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<v Speaker 1>wrong people for the wrong reasons. You always hear people say, well,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't ever truly know a person. What I believe

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<v Speaker 1>is you can know a person well enough to know

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<v Speaker 1>whether they're good or bad, someone that you should or

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be with. But the problem is people don't even try.

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<v Speaker 1>They're too busy word about self that all they want

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<v Speaker 1>to do is please and a pease. They're not trying

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<v Speaker 1>to find out the things that.

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<v Speaker 2>They need to know.

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<v Speaker 1>They're just trying to please in a peace because of

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<v Speaker 1>what they want. And because of that, a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people never get to know who they are with because

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<v Speaker 1>they never ask the right questions. They're afraid to ask

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<v Speaker 1>the right questions. They're embarrassed to ask the right questions.

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<v Speaker 2>And two people are just not on that level.

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<v Speaker 1>They get into relationships, but they're not communicating on that level.

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<v Speaker 2>Relationships are not hard.

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<v Speaker 1>People in the relationships make the relationships part. And it

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<v Speaker 1>all goes back to the mindset people have.

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<v Speaker 2>Who you you are.

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<v Speaker 1>As a person, the real you, the real person that

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<v Speaker 1>you are, that person that's hidden inside for most people.

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<v Speaker 1>Because individuals who love him or herself.

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<v Speaker 2>What you see is what you get, like it or not.

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<v Speaker 1>And I will tell you that people who love themselves

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<v Speaker 1>are loving people. They're not trying to cause issues. They

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<v Speaker 1>may not play with anyone. They're not gonna take your crap,

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<v Speaker 1>but they don't cause any problems. They love everyone, but

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<v Speaker 1>they see you. They're not gonna entertain foolishness. They're not

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<v Speaker 1>going to involve themselves with people who they know are

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<v Speaker 1>doing wrong or who are wrong for them.

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<v Speaker 2>Most people haven't got there.

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<v Speaker 1>Everything is about your mindset and about you knowing yourself

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<v Speaker 1>and loving yourself, for which most people don't.

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<v Speaker 2>And I just want you to think about what I've said.

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<v Speaker 2>Just look at your life. Be honest with yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>If you cannot be honest with yourself, you know you

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<v Speaker 1>can't be honest with anyone. Be honest with yourself. Where

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<v Speaker 1>are you right now in your life? Are you faking

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<v Speaker 1>and pretending to be okay.

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<v Speaker 2>When you know you're not.

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<v Speaker 1>You will never get anywhere, see, because with that mindset,

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<v Speaker 1>you can't take anything.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's just true.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't take it, and you will never ever make

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<v Speaker 1>it to the level of mental maturity that you deserve

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<v Speaker 1>to be at. And the only person who's holding you

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<v Speaker 1>back is yourself. So if your life, it's up to you.

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<v Speaker 1>As always, I just put the information out there. Oh

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<v Speaker 1>my goodness, I would love to see the world full

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<v Speaker 1>of people of better mindsets because what I'm seeing, I

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<v Speaker 1>know God and Jesus shaking their heads because it's a

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<v Speaker 1>hot mess. I know God says, I gave my only

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<v Speaker 1>begotten son.

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<v Speaker 2>And we're right back into the same mess.

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<v Speaker 1>Because it's shameful, it's sad, it really is that people

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<v Speaker 1>are not choosing to be better. We're way in twenty

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<v Speaker 1>twenty five and people are worse off mentally than they

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<v Speaker 1>were hundreds and hundreds of years ago because their mindsets

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<v Speaker 1>have not changed. That's all I'm saying. I'm leaving it

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<v Speaker 1>right there. What you open yourself up to is exactly

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<v Speaker 1>what you're gonna get. And some thank you for listening

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<v Speaker 1>much love. Is it's your first time here, welcome, Please

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<v Speaker 1>come back and also check out the episodes that's out

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<v Speaker 1>there for those who listen on a regular basis. Thank

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<v Speaker 1>you so much much love to each and every one

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<v Speaker 1>of you. Please reach out to me. I love hearing

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<v Speaker 1>from you. I'm still thinking about going on YouTube or

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<v Speaker 1>something on that along that line. I'm still thinking. I

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<v Speaker 1>know I've been thinking for years. It's very sensitive for me,

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<v Speaker 1>but who knows what may happen in twenty twenty five.

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<v Speaker 1>It's going pretty fast though, so thank you much love.

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<v Speaker 1>Please share this episode in all episodes the same and

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<v Speaker 1>I hope you do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Think on it