Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you.
Speaker 2: To think about. You know what I've learned when it
Speaker 2: comes to relationships, it's two things I've learned that I
Speaker 2: know for.
Speaker 1: Sure it's true. One there are me let me say that,
Speaker 1: but it's two for sure.
Speaker 2: One people get into relationships.
Speaker 1: Carrying feelings from a relationship they had with someone else.
Speaker 1: And two, most people who get into relationships.
Speaker 2: Don't love themselves. Both are major major no knows.
Speaker 1: That causes huge issues in relationships.
Speaker 2: Both not loving yourself.
Speaker 1: I've talked about it many times, but not loving yourself
Speaker 1: affects you in every.
Speaker 2: Fashion of your life.
Speaker 1: Why because when you don't love yourself, you're so.
Speaker 2: Eager to be loved. You want it so desperately.
Speaker 1: But most people who get what they perceive is love,
Speaker 1: it's not love at all. But they find out the
Speaker 1: hard way when you don't love yourself.
Speaker 2: It's hard for you to see.
Speaker 1: The games people play, the lies people are telling, the manipulation.
Speaker 1: It's hard for you to see those things that you
Speaker 1: need to see. It's hard, but most people just cannot
Speaker 1: see the signs and red flags because they're so caught
Speaker 1: up on what they want, what they feel, what their
Speaker 1: eyes see what they desire their hearts.
Speaker 2: They're so caught up that they cannot.
Speaker 1: See what's right before them. They cannot see you, that
Speaker 1: person is showing them that they are. They can't see
Speaker 1: anything because they're blind by what they want.
Speaker 2: And because of it, many, many, many, many people right
Speaker 2: now as I speak, are.
Speaker 1: In dead, in loveless, unhealthy, toxic, hostile, volatile relationships, living
Speaker 1: as companions or roommates. A lot of people are living
Speaker 1: in fear because they're afraid of the person that they
Speaker 1: want loved.
Speaker 2: Loving yourself is.
Speaker 1: Of the utmost importance, it really really is, and so
Speaker 1: many people are felling themselves because they've never gotten to
Speaker 1: that point in life. They've never been able to love
Speaker 1: themselves because of all of the stuff that they hold inside,
Speaker 1: the negative things.
Speaker 2: You don't have to take my word for it. Just
Speaker 2: look at the news. I mean, all around.
Speaker 1: The world, people are saying the most ridiculous things. I
Speaker 1: mean coming out of the mouths of professional people and
Speaker 1: non professional But you would think professional people who are
Speaker 1: of some type of status would know better. But brokenness
Speaker 1: does not discriminate, and many people are broken. Most are broken,
Speaker 1: they're not and that's why we see all of the chaos,
Speaker 1: all of the hearts that have waxed cold.
Speaker 2: We see all of this. People are saying the most
Speaker 2: foolish things.
Speaker 1: And they are doing the most foolish things because they
Speaker 1: don't love themselves. A person who love his or herself
Speaker 1: do not carry on like that. They don't because they
Speaker 1: love themselves and they love others. People that don't love themselves,
Speaker 1: they cannot possibly love others. I don't care if they
Speaker 1: are children, boyfriend, girls, friend, husband, wise friends.
Speaker 2: They don't love themselves.
Speaker 1: Just because you have all of those things does not
Speaker 1: mean you love yourself. And it shows in the way
Speaker 1: people behave. Now, this is the tricky part. Sometimes people
Speaker 1: are such manipulators. They don't behave in a way that
Speaker 1: looks appropriate, but they're not appropriate people, meaning they are
Speaker 1: not people of character, of the integrity of morals and values.
Speaker 2: And all you have to do is watch.
Speaker 1: Them what they say and what they do. And unfortunately,
Speaker 1: a lot of people, and many of you listening right now,
Speaker 1: you're in relationship with these people. You're in relationships with them,
Speaker 1: and you're miserable because you see them acting crazy. You
Speaker 1: see how they're carrying on, how they're behaving it's embarrassing.
Speaker 2: To you, It really is.
Speaker 1: So many people are in undy healthy relationships completely.
Speaker 2: And then those.
Speaker 1: Who to get into relationships with people carrying torches of
Speaker 1: individuals that they were in relationships before.
Speaker 2: That is wrong.
Speaker 1: That is wrong on every level. You're gonna always be
Speaker 1: thinking could have, would have, should have. You're gonna always
Speaker 1: have that in the back of your mind because you're
Speaker 1: still carrying flames for.
Speaker 2: That person that you should have been over.
Speaker 1: It's not fair to the person you're with, and it's
Speaker 1: not fair to yourself if you're not over someone completely
Speaker 1: over them. Don't get in a relationship with anyone else
Speaker 1: because what you do, whether conscious or subconscious, you compare.
Speaker 2: Them, You compare them.
Speaker 1: Some of you do it outright, you compare them, well,
Speaker 1: blah bah blah blah, was this way and did that
Speaker 1: and all of this and that when you should never
Speaker 1: do that. And all it takes is, i mean, just
Speaker 1: the slightest breathe and you'll be ready to run back
Speaker 1: over there. All it takes is the slightest thing that
Speaker 1: you're new sicknificant other can do or say, and you're
Speaker 1: ready to fall right back over.
Speaker 2: To that other person.
Speaker 1: Some of you are in relationships with new people and
Speaker 1: you're fooling around with.
Speaker 2: The old person. That is wrong. It is wrong.
Speaker 1: No one should ever carry flames for someone that they
Speaker 1: was previously with into a new relationship.
Speaker 2: Now, listen, I'm not.
Speaker 1: Not eve and I'm far from them. I understand when
Speaker 1: you have had a relationship with someone, you got memories
Speaker 1: and you have thoughts and things you know, sometimes you
Speaker 1: reminience in your head. You don't even be meaning to,
Speaker 1: but the thoughts will come sometimes entertaining those thoughts. It's
Speaker 1: not what you should be doing.
Speaker 2: It's not.
Speaker 1: Everyone should be satisfied with the person they chose to
Speaker 1: be with.
Speaker 2: If you are not, that's on you. Bable that's on.
Speaker 1: You because you should have never moved forward if you're
Speaker 1: still looking behind. That's in your relationship and in your
Speaker 1: life in general. You should have never ever moved forward
Speaker 1: if you're still looking behind, But unfortunately.
Speaker 2: Many people do. Many people have.
Speaker 1: A lot of your significant others are unhappy because they
Speaker 1: know you still have feelings for that last person, or
Speaker 1: it could be a person from years before, like years
Speaker 1: and years and years before, but they know you still
Speaker 1: have feelings for that person because of the things you
Speaker 1: said and.
Speaker 2: Stuff like that. You're wrong, you're.
Speaker 1: Flat out rome and a significant other, a new significant
Speaker 1: other have every right.
Speaker 3: To feel some kind of way, every.
Speaker 2: Right because you're wrong.
Speaker 1: So many people mess up their relationships because they carry
Speaker 1: feelings into those new relationships from the last person. Many
Speaker 1: people get into relationships they have children with other people,
Speaker 1: and they know they still have feelings for that mother
Speaker 1: or that father, but they get into relationships with new people.
Speaker 3: Causing havo because the other person, that individual that they
Speaker 3: have a child with, almost controls them.
Speaker 1: So it's like, what's the point, what's the point of
Speaker 1: being with me if that person over there still has
Speaker 1: such a hold on you. See, where people go wrong is,
Speaker 1: and I'm talking as a woman and as a mother,
Speaker 1: where people go wrong is they think, especially women, Oh,
Speaker 1: I have a child by him, you know, therefore he's
Speaker 1: gonna do what I say. I have a hold on
Speaker 1: him forever because I have a child with him.
Speaker 2: No lies lies. That man.
Speaker 1: Must be a mature adult who have no problems with
Speaker 1: putting their X in his or her place. Well, let
Speaker 1: me rephrase that in her place. I said his or
Speaker 1: her place, but I'm meaning whether it's a male or
Speaker 1: female putting their ex.
Speaker 2: In their place.
Speaker 1: Because the man I'm speaking man with the woman putting
Speaker 1: her in her place, he should have no problem if
Speaker 1: he's gotten into a new relationship or if she's gotten
Speaker 1: into a new relationship, you should have no issues making
Speaker 1: that X stay in their lane. If you can't, you
Speaker 1: shouldn't be in a new relationship with anyone because all
Speaker 1: it does is cause friction, It causes problems if you
Speaker 1: know you still have feelings for someone.
Speaker 2: And I'm not speaking like.
Speaker 1: You care for the person, because that's just natural because
Speaker 1: we care for people. We all should care for people
Speaker 1: whether you was in a relationship with them or not.
Speaker 1: But the care is different from being in love with
Speaker 1: them or loving them in that way. So let's not
Speaker 1: miscunscrew anything here. But if you know you're feeling intimate
Speaker 1: ways for your ex, then you know you're wrong and
Speaker 1: you shouldn't be in a relationship with anyone else.
Speaker 2: But people are doing these things.
Speaker 1: They're getting in relationships with people when they don't love themselves,
Speaker 1: and then you get in relationship with someone who don't
Speaker 1: love his or herself and it's just a mess.
Speaker 2: But this is what people keep.
Speaker 1: Doing, just ruining their relationships that potentially could have been
Speaker 1: very good relationships. So many people in this world are
Speaker 1: in unhappy, unhealthy relationships.
Speaker 4: And that's just fact, just unhealthy, rolling over night after
Speaker 4: night looking into the face of someone they don't even want.
Speaker 1: To be with.
Speaker 2: That is horrible.
Speaker 1: But this is what people are settling with because of
Speaker 1: who they are, Not the other person, but you.
Speaker 2: I'm talking about who you are. You're settling because of
Speaker 2: who you.
Speaker 1: Are, what's inside of you that's causing you to settle.
Speaker 1: Most people are in unhappy relationships, and that is so
Speaker 1: sad to me. I would much rather be alone than
Speaker 1: to be with someone and yearning for love.
Speaker 2: But that's the case for most people. I have talked to.
Speaker 1: Many hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of people and couples miserable.
Speaker 1: They totally different, not on the same level, just unequally
Speaker 1: yoked and unhappy within themselves and in their relationships. There's
Speaker 1: no way you're going to be happy in your relationship
Speaker 1: when you're unhappy within yourself.
Speaker 2: People have it all wrong. You're seeking all of these different.
Speaker 1: Things in other people when you yourself don't possess them.
Speaker 1: You're seeking love and happiness and all of these things,
Speaker 1: securities in other people when you don't possess them in yourself,
Speaker 1: only to be more miserable now than you were before.
Speaker 1: That's why people move on in life. They move from
Speaker 1: relationship to relationship carrying the same baggage. They're moving on,
Speaker 1: but it's a cycle. They're repeating the same cycles because
Speaker 1: they're moving, but they're going nowhere, same cycles, same cycles
Speaker 1: because they keep looking behind, or they keep holding on
Speaker 1: to things that's.
Speaker 2: Dragging them down and keeping them stabbing it.
Speaker 1: This is what people are doing to themselves, or have
Speaker 1: done to themselves.
Speaker 2: They get married, divorced.
Speaker 1: A few months later, not even a year later, marrying
Speaker 1: someone else, just repeating cycles.
Speaker 2: Until you learn to love yourself, know who you are.
Speaker 1: You'll never be truly happy in a relationship because you
Speaker 1: cannot be happy until you know how to love yourself.
Speaker 2: And I've told you in many episodes.
Speaker 1: If it's your first time here, go and listen to them.
Speaker 1: Learning to love yourself is a process. It takes forgiveness,
Speaker 1: loving yourself.
Speaker 2: Well, let me go back.
Speaker 1: It takes forgiveness, letting go, loving yourself, knowing who you are,
Speaker 1: learning from all your experiences, good and bad, learning from
Speaker 1: them because when you learn from your experiences, you grow,
Speaker 1: and then you can get to that level of mental
Speaker 1: money maturity. Most people are not there. Most people will
Speaker 1: never get there. People think because people are rich, they
Speaker 1: have all of these things, they have titles and all
Speaker 1: of these high positions, that they're okay, they're exempt. They're
Speaker 1: more broken than the average person, and you can tell
Speaker 1: because they have been in multiple relations multiple relationships, they
Speaker 1: do the most absurd things. They are power hungry, controlling.
Speaker 1: Those are characteristics of brokenness. Any person that wants power
Speaker 1: over you or power over people is a broken and weak.
Speaker 2: Person who becomes in power by broken people.
Speaker 1: Because a person who loves his or herself is not
Speaker 1: giving their power to no one.
Speaker 2: They're not They know better, but the majority don't because
Speaker 2: of the mindset they have. And it's the.
Speaker 1: Very same reason people get into bad relationships with the
Speaker 1: wrong people for the wrong reasons. You always hear people say, well,
Speaker 1: you don't ever truly know a person. What I believe
Speaker 1: is you can know a person well enough to know
Speaker 1: whether they're good or bad, someone that you should or
Speaker 1: shouldn't be with. But the problem is people don't even try.
Speaker 1: They're too busy word about self that all they want
Speaker 1: to do is please and a pease. They're not trying
Speaker 1: to find out the things that.
Speaker 2: They need to know.
Speaker 1: They're just trying to please in a peace because of
Speaker 1: what they want. And because of that, a lot of
Speaker 1: people never get to know who they are with because
Speaker 1: they never ask the right questions. They're afraid to ask
Speaker 1: the right questions. They're embarrassed to ask the right questions.
Speaker 2: And two people are just not on that level.
Speaker 1: They get into relationships, but they're not communicating on that level.
Speaker 2: Relationships are not hard.
Speaker 1: People in the relationships make the relationships part. And it
Speaker 1: all goes back to the mindset people have.
Speaker 2: Who you you are.
Speaker 1: As a person, the real you, the real person that
Speaker 1: you are, that person that's hidden inside for most people.
Speaker 1: Because individuals who love him or herself.
Speaker 2: What you see is what you get, like it or not.
Speaker 1: And I will tell you that people who love themselves
Speaker 1: are loving people. They're not trying to cause issues. They
Speaker 1: may not play with anyone. They're not gonna take your crap,
Speaker 1: but they don't cause any problems. They love everyone, but
Speaker 1: they see you. They're not gonna entertain foolishness. They're not
Speaker 1: going to involve themselves with people who they know are
Speaker 1: doing wrong or who are wrong for them.
Speaker 2: Most people haven't got there.
Speaker 1: Everything is about your mindset and about you knowing yourself
Speaker 1: and loving yourself, for which most people don't.
Speaker 2: And I just want you to think about what I've said.
Speaker 2: Just look at your life. Be honest with yourself.
Speaker 1: If you cannot be honest with yourself, you know you
Speaker 1: can't be honest with anyone. Be honest with yourself. Where
Speaker 1: are you right now in your life? Are you faking
Speaker 1: and pretending to be okay.
Speaker 2: When you know you're not.
Speaker 1: You will never get anywhere, see, because with that mindset,
Speaker 1: you can't take anything.
Speaker 2: And it's just true.
Speaker 1: You can't take it, and you will never ever make
Speaker 1: it to the level of mental maturity that you deserve
Speaker 1: to be at. And the only person who's holding you
Speaker 1: back is yourself. So if your life, it's up to you.
Speaker 1: As always, I just put the information out there. Oh
Speaker 1: my goodness, I would love to see the world full
Speaker 1: of people of better mindsets because what I'm seeing, I
Speaker 1: know God and Jesus shaking their heads because it's a
Speaker 1: hot mess. I know God says, I gave my only
Speaker 1: begotten son.
Speaker 2: And we're right back into the same mess.
Speaker 1: Because it's shameful, it's sad, it really is that people
Speaker 1: are not choosing to be better. We're way in twenty
Speaker 1: twenty five and people are worse off mentally than they
Speaker 1: were hundreds and hundreds of years ago because their mindsets
Speaker 1: have not changed. That's all I'm saying. I'm leaving it
Speaker 1: right there. What you open yourself up to is exactly
Speaker 1: what you're gonna get. And some thank you for listening
Speaker 1: much love. Is it's your first time here, welcome, Please
Speaker 1: come back and also check out the episodes that's out
Speaker 1: there for those who listen on a regular basis. Thank
Speaker 1: you so much much love to each and every one
Speaker 1: of you. Please reach out to me. I love hearing
Speaker 1: from you. I'm still thinking about going on YouTube or
Speaker 1: something on that along that line. I'm still thinking. I
Speaker 1: know I've been thinking for years. It's very sensitive for me,
Speaker 1: but who knows what may happen in twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1: It's going pretty fast though, so thank you much love.
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