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<v Speaker 1>Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to

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<v Speaker 1>think about. I'm going to revisit something I talked about

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<v Speaker 1>a couple of years ago, I think, and that is

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<v Speaker 1>people who are suffering because of a loss of a friend,

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<v Speaker 1>a husband, a wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, child, relative. Some people

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<v Speaker 1>find it so difficult to move forward. Some people don't

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<v Speaker 1>move forward. Some people go to their graves too out

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<v Speaker 1>of grief. I cannot tell anyone how to breathe, but

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<v Speaker 1>I know for a fact.

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<v Speaker 2>You must move on. You must move on.

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<v Speaker 1>Each one of us, every last one of us, came

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<v Speaker 1>into this world, was given life. We didn't ask to

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<v Speaker 1>be born, not one single one of us. We did

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<v Speaker 1>not ask to be born, but yet we were. So

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<v Speaker 1>each of us was given a life to live. That

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<v Speaker 1>goes for you, your child, your husband, your wife, your boyfriend,

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<v Speaker 1>your girlfriend, your friend, your other relatives.

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<v Speaker 2>We all were given our own lives individually.

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<v Speaker 1>We was not born connected to the hip of that

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<v Speaker 1>other person.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not saying it to sound rude or to be rude.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just trying to tell you it's a journey we

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<v Speaker 1>all must take. No one is exempt from the journey

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<v Speaker 1>of death. No one is exempt. Now there are different ways.

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna live here. But if I've always said.

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<v Speaker 1>Two things are certain, you're gonna go home and never leave,

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<v Speaker 1>or you're gonna leave home and never go back, one

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<v Speaker 1>way or the other, We're getting up out of here

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<v Speaker 1>one day, somehow. It's a fact. And if you ever

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<v Speaker 1>hear that again, believe me, that's my saying. I know

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<v Speaker 1>how people take stuff, but that's.

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<v Speaker 2>My saying, and it's true. So all I'm saying is

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<v Speaker 2>we have to move on. We have to move on.

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<v Speaker 1>And when we don't move on, all it does is

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<v Speaker 1>cause us more pain, more mental suffering, more heartache.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what it does. Because people get so.

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<v Speaker 1>Wrapped up so much energy into that dead loved one

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<v Speaker 1>until they can't focus or function, and all that does

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<v Speaker 1>is inhibits you.

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<v Speaker 2>And I know it's horrible to lose a child, I

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<v Speaker 2>know it is. I know it's horrible to lose a mother,

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<v Speaker 2>a father, I know it is.

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<v Speaker 1>I know it.

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<v Speaker 2>I can relate.

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<v Speaker 1>A grandchild, I can relate. I cannot even the death

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<v Speaker 1>that I've experienced.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not normal.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not normal for one family to lose thirty something

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<v Speaker 1>people in six years.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not normal.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it is, but that's what has happened

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<v Speaker 1>to me slew of family members. But you know, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just have to be honest with you. I just have

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<v Speaker 1>to be.

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<v Speaker 2>It hurts. It cuts like a knife.

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<v Speaker 1>The traumatic things I've gone through involved in death cuts

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<v Speaker 1>like a knife. But I cannot wrap myself into that.

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<v Speaker 1>I cannot give power to that pain.

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<v Speaker 2>I just can't do it. I refuse to do it.

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<v Speaker 2>I won't do it. I just can't.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't do it because I've got a life that

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<v Speaker 1>I must continue to live.

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<v Speaker 2>And that's the mindset you have to have.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, you love them, You'll never stop loving them, You'll

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<v Speaker 1>never stop missing them, but.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to move on.

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<v Speaker 3>I know people who have lost loved ones and they

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<v Speaker 3>turn to drugging and drinking.

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<v Speaker 1>How is that benefiting your deceased loved one.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not gonna bring them back. You're killing yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>You're causing your self pain and suffering mind, body, and soul.

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<v Speaker 2>Drinking and drugging. That is not gonna benefit you.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not gonna do anything to bring them back.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to accept their.

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<v Speaker 1>Gone, no matter how traumatic they left or not.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to accept their gun and move on.

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<v Speaker 1>You'll never stop loving them and thinking of them and

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<v Speaker 1>laughing and every now and then crying. You'll probably do

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<v Speaker 1>that until the day you die. It's been years going

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<v Speaker 1>on four years now from my mom, or just three.

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<v Speaker 2>Going on four and though and I still find myself,

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<v Speaker 2>Mam miss you. I miss you so much because you

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<v Speaker 2>probably will be.

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<v Speaker 1>That way until you leave this earth. But you have

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<v Speaker 1>to move on. You can't be stagnant in your life.

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<v Speaker 3>Just you know, there are people who lose loved ones

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<v Speaker 3>that can't get over. There's others who lose people and

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<v Speaker 3>they have some guilt. You have no reason to have

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<v Speaker 3>guilt that because you survived.

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<v Speaker 2>We all have an appointed time in different ways.

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<v Speaker 1>Now.

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<v Speaker 2>Some people can shorten their lives.

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<v Speaker 1>That's a fact. Even the Bible tells us that you

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<v Speaker 1>can shorten your life. According to the lifestyle you lead,

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<v Speaker 1>you can shorten your life. I've had relatives who shorten

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<v Speaker 1>their lives. But the point I'm trying to make is.

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<v Speaker 2>We have to keep moving on the earth. Do not

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<v Speaker 2>stand still because we lose someone. It does not.

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<v Speaker 1>It does not stand still. It keeps right on rolling

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<v Speaker 1>and turning. But we just have to accept it is

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<v Speaker 1>what it is. They're gone, They're never going to return

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<v Speaker 1>here and we will take the journey someday for ourselves.

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<v Speaker 1>Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep living until

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<v Speaker 1>it's your term. I just feel that's the best advice

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<v Speaker 1>I can give people, because people cause themselves so much

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<v Speaker 1>unnecessary self inflicted pain and suffering because they refuse to

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<v Speaker 1>let go.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not saying you have to get over it, because

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<v Speaker 2>you'll never get over it, but you have to get

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<v Speaker 2>to that.

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<v Speaker 1>Point where you can move on. You must because your

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<v Speaker 1>life will never be what's intended for you because you're

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<v Speaker 1>holding yourself back. You're allowing grief to cause you depression

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<v Speaker 1>and to be suicidal and things of that nature. Just darkness.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just total darkness and negativity. And the devil loved

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<v Speaker 1>that for you. The devil wants you in such darkness

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<v Speaker 1>that you take your own life. He's sucking it out

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<v Speaker 1>of you anyways, because that's what you're giving him power

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<v Speaker 1>to do. It's very painful to lose loved ones, very painful.

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<v Speaker 1>But we must keep living. And I know some people say, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>you don't tell me you know how to grief. I

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<v Speaker 1>have not sat here and said anything about how someone

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<v Speaker 1>should grieve. I have not said that, not one single time,

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<v Speaker 1>So don't even say it, because I've not uttered that

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<v Speaker 1>out of my mouth.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not telling anyone how to breathe. I'm just saying

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<v Speaker 2>you have to get.

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<v Speaker 1>To a point where you move on because nothing you

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<v Speaker 1>do would bring them back, nothing, nothing at all would

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<v Speaker 1>bring them back.

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<v Speaker 2>You just have to pick yourself up and keep on

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<v Speaker 2>going because we all going to die.

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<v Speaker 1>We all are going to take that journey of death.

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<v Speaker 1>We're all going to They just took it before you.

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<v Speaker 2>And my heart goes out to people.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish I could talk to every person who find

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<v Speaker 1>it difficult to move forward.

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<v Speaker 2>I wish I could talk to every single person, but

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<v Speaker 2>I can't. But just know that it's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay to feel hurt and feel the pain, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's not okay.

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<v Speaker 2>To stay there. You gotta move on. You got to

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<v Speaker 2>move on because you gotta keep living. You gotta keep living.

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<v Speaker 1>They did what they were supposed to do. That means

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<v Speaker 1>they took the journey, because it's a journey we all

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<v Speaker 1>wanna take. They just took it before you, and it's unfortunate,

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<v Speaker 1>but it happens to.

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<v Speaker 2>All of us. We've all experienced death.

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<v Speaker 1>Somebody we've lost someone, whether it.

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<v Speaker 2>Was a friend or a family member. Love women.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm not trying to be harsher, preen or anything.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just telling you you.

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<v Speaker 1>Suck the life from yourself, mind, body, and soul when

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<v Speaker 1>you can't.

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<v Speaker 2>Move on.

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<v Speaker 1>Over someone who did exactly what we all gonna do

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<v Speaker 1>one day. You deserve to keep going until it's your

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<v Speaker 1>turn because you got one coming.

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<v Speaker 2>We all do. No one is exempt.

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<v Speaker 1>I know for me, I keep it moving. Do it hurt, yes?

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<v Speaker 1>Do I think about it sometimes? Yes? Do I crime sometimes? Absolutely?

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<v Speaker 1>But I don't stay in that place. I don't just

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<v Speaker 1>waddle in that place because I got more living to do,

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<v Speaker 1>and my eyes is on heaven.

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<v Speaker 2>That's where my eyes are.

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<v Speaker 1>I won't get distracted by anything or no one. My

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<v Speaker 1>eyes is on heaven because I want to meet my

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<v Speaker 1>father one day. I want to look at me and say,

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<v Speaker 1>well done, that good and faithal servant. I can't do

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<v Speaker 1>that from worshiping people and things.

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<v Speaker 2>That's how I feel.

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<v Speaker 1>No one else has to feel how I feel, but

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<v Speaker 1>that's how I feel because I'm.

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<v Speaker 2>Looting in Jesus.

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<v Speaker 1>I stand on the word of God, and God has

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<v Speaker 1>given me the peace that he promised that peace has

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<v Speaker 1>surpassed all understanding because I know I'm going through things

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<v Speaker 1>that some people couldn't handle, and I thank him. I

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<v Speaker 1>thank him so much for the strength that he's given me.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not easy, but because of the strength he gave.

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<v Speaker 2>Me, I can endure on top of all the other

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<v Speaker 2>craziness going around in this world.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just saying, my sister, my brother, you have to

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<v Speaker 1>keep moving because nothing you do, all the misery you

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<v Speaker 1>causing yourself, it will not bring them back. It just whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's all I'm going to say on that. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope no one takes offense. I'm saying it out of

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<v Speaker 1>love because I understand been there, going through it now.

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<v Speaker 1>But I choose to continue to live. Life already throws craziness.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to.

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<v Speaker 1>Be going through life miserable and depressed and sad. And no,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want to go through life like that. It's

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<v Speaker 1>enough gloom and doom around us. We shouldn't put it

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<v Speaker 1>on ourselves. See, when you go through life life that

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<v Speaker 1>it makes it harder for you to be able to

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<v Speaker 1>stay in those unexpected things that come your way. It's

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<v Speaker 1>hard for you to endure the storms that come your

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<v Speaker 1>way because you're.

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<v Speaker 2>Already in that negative mindset. It just makes it worse,

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<v Speaker 2>all right.

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<v Speaker 1>So that's it, because I'm getting ready to go on

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<v Speaker 1>another tangent. Thank you for listening. Please share this episode

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<v Speaker 1>and my heart and love to any and everyone that's

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<v Speaker 1>out there is going through.

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<v Speaker 2>Bereave it much love to you.

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<v Speaker 1>I end every episode the same, and I hope and

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<v Speaker 1>I pray you do it.

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<v Speaker 2>Thank on it