Speaker 1: Hey, hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to
Speaker 1: think about. I'm going to revisit something I talked about
Speaker 1: a couple of years ago, I think, and that is
Speaker 1: people who are suffering because of a loss of a friend,
Speaker 1: a husband, a wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, child, relative. Some people
Speaker 1: find it so difficult to move forward. Some people don't
Speaker 1: move forward. Some people go to their graves too out
Speaker 1: of grief. I cannot tell anyone how to breathe, but
Speaker 1: I know for a fact.
Speaker 2: You must move on. You must move on.
Speaker 1: Each one of us, every last one of us, came
Speaker 1: into this world, was given life. We didn't ask to
Speaker 1: be born, not one single one of us. We did
Speaker 1: not ask to be born, but yet we were. So
Speaker 1: each of us was given a life to live. That
Speaker 1: goes for you, your child, your husband, your wife, your boyfriend,
Speaker 1: your girlfriend, your friend, your other relatives.
Speaker 2: We all were given our own lives individually.
Speaker 1: We was not born connected to the hip of that
Speaker 1: other person.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying it to sound rude or to be rude.
Speaker 1: I'm just trying to tell you it's a journey we
Speaker 1: all must take. No one is exempt from the journey
Speaker 1: of death. No one is exempt. Now there are different ways.
Speaker 2: We're gonna live here. But if I've always said.
Speaker 1: Two things are certain, you're gonna go home and never leave,
Speaker 1: or you're gonna leave home and never go back, one
Speaker 1: way or the other, We're getting up out of here
Speaker 1: one day, somehow. It's a fact. And if you ever
Speaker 1: hear that again, believe me, that's my saying. I know
Speaker 1: how people take stuff, but that's.
Speaker 2: My saying, and it's true. So all I'm saying is
Speaker 2: we have to move on. We have to move on.
Speaker 1: And when we don't move on, all it does is
Speaker 1: cause us more pain, more mental suffering, more heartache.
Speaker 2: That's what it does. Because people get so.
Speaker 1: Wrapped up so much energy into that dead loved one
Speaker 1: until they can't focus or function, and all that does
Speaker 1: is inhibits you.
Speaker 2: And I know it's horrible to lose a child, I
Speaker 2: know it is. I know it's horrible to lose a mother,
Speaker 2: a father, I know it is.
Speaker 1: I know it.
Speaker 2: I can relate.
Speaker 1: A grandchild, I can relate. I cannot even the death
Speaker 1: that I've experienced.
Speaker 2: It's not normal.
Speaker 1: It's not normal for one family to lose thirty something
Speaker 1: people in six years.
Speaker 2: That's not normal.
Speaker 1: I don't think it is, but that's what has happened
Speaker 1: to me slew of family members. But you know, I'm
Speaker 1: just have to be honest with you. I just have
Speaker 1: to be.
Speaker 2: It hurts. It cuts like a knife.
Speaker 1: The traumatic things I've gone through involved in death cuts
Speaker 1: like a knife. But I cannot wrap myself into that.
Speaker 1: I cannot give power to that pain.
Speaker 2: I just can't do it. I refuse to do it.
Speaker 2: I won't do it. I just can't.
Speaker 1: I can't do it because I've got a life that
Speaker 1: I must continue to live.
Speaker 2: And that's the mindset you have to have.
Speaker 1: Yes, you love them, You'll never stop loving them, You'll
Speaker 1: never stop missing them, but.
Speaker 2: You have to move on.
Speaker 3: I know people who have lost loved ones and they
Speaker 3: turn to drugging and drinking.
Speaker 1: How is that benefiting your deceased loved one.
Speaker 2: It's not gonna bring them back. You're killing yourself.
Speaker 1: You're causing your self pain and suffering mind, body, and soul.
Speaker 2: Drinking and drugging. That is not gonna benefit you.
Speaker 1: It's not gonna do anything to bring them back.
Speaker 2: You have to accept their.
Speaker 1: Gone, no matter how traumatic they left or not.
Speaker 2: You have to accept their gun and move on.
Speaker 1: You'll never stop loving them and thinking of them and
Speaker 1: laughing and every now and then crying. You'll probably do
Speaker 1: that until the day you die. It's been years going
Speaker 1: on four years now from my mom, or just three.
Speaker 2: Going on four and though and I still find myself,
Speaker 2: Mam miss you. I miss you so much because you
Speaker 2: probably will be.
Speaker 1: That way until you leave this earth. But you have
Speaker 1: to move on. You can't be stagnant in your life.
Speaker 3: Just you know, there are people who lose loved ones
Speaker 3: that can't get over. There's others who lose people and
Speaker 3: they have some guilt. You have no reason to have
Speaker 3: guilt that because you survived.
Speaker 2: We all have an appointed time in different ways.
Speaker 1: Now.
Speaker 2: Some people can shorten their lives.
Speaker 1: That's a fact. Even the Bible tells us that you
Speaker 1: can shorten your life. According to the lifestyle you lead,
Speaker 1: you can shorten your life. I've had relatives who shorten
Speaker 1: their lives. But the point I'm trying to make is.
Speaker 2: We have to keep moving on the earth. Do not
Speaker 2: stand still because we lose someone. It does not.
Speaker 1: It does not stand still. It keeps right on rolling
Speaker 1: and turning. But we just have to accept it is
Speaker 1: what it is. They're gone, They're never going to return
Speaker 1: here and we will take the journey someday for ourselves.
Speaker 1: Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and keep living until
Speaker 1: it's your term. I just feel that's the best advice
Speaker 1: I can give people, because people cause themselves so much
Speaker 1: unnecessary self inflicted pain and suffering because they refuse to
Speaker 1: let go.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying you have to get over it, because
Speaker 2: you'll never get over it, but you have to get
Speaker 2: to that.
Speaker 1: Point where you can move on. You must because your
Speaker 1: life will never be what's intended for you because you're
Speaker 1: holding yourself back. You're allowing grief to cause you depression
Speaker 1: and to be suicidal and things of that nature. Just darkness.
Speaker 1: It's just total darkness and negativity. And the devil loved
Speaker 1: that for you. The devil wants you in such darkness
Speaker 1: that you take your own life. He's sucking it out
Speaker 1: of you anyways, because that's what you're giving him power
Speaker 1: to do. It's very painful to lose loved ones, very painful.
Speaker 1: But we must keep living. And I know some people say, oh,
Speaker 1: you don't tell me you know how to grief. I
Speaker 1: have not sat here and said anything about how someone
Speaker 1: should grieve. I have not said that, not one single time,
Speaker 1: So don't even say it, because I've not uttered that
Speaker 1: out of my mouth.
Speaker 2: I'm not telling anyone how to breathe. I'm just saying
Speaker 2: you have to get.
Speaker 1: To a point where you move on because nothing you
Speaker 1: do would bring them back, nothing, nothing at all would
Speaker 1: bring them back.
Speaker 2: You just have to pick yourself up and keep on
Speaker 2: going because we all going to die.
Speaker 1: We all are going to take that journey of death.
Speaker 1: We're all going to They just took it before you.
Speaker 2: And my heart goes out to people.
Speaker 1: I wish I could talk to every person who find
Speaker 1: it difficult to move forward.
Speaker 2: I wish I could talk to every single person, but
Speaker 2: I can't. But just know that it's okay.
Speaker 1: It's okay to feel hurt and feel the pain, but
Speaker 1: it's not okay.
Speaker 2: To stay there. You gotta move on. You got to
Speaker 2: move on because you gotta keep living. You gotta keep living.
Speaker 1: They did what they were supposed to do. That means
Speaker 1: they took the journey, because it's a journey we all
Speaker 1: wanna take. They just took it before you, and it's unfortunate,
Speaker 1: but it happens to.
Speaker 2: All of us. We've all experienced death.
Speaker 1: Somebody we've lost someone, whether it.
Speaker 2: Was a friend or a family member. Love women.
Speaker 1: So I'm not trying to be harsher, preen or anything.
Speaker 2: I'm just telling you you.
Speaker 1: Suck the life from yourself, mind, body, and soul when
Speaker 1: you can't.
Speaker 2: Move on.
Speaker 1: Over someone who did exactly what we all gonna do
Speaker 1: one day. You deserve to keep going until it's your
Speaker 1: turn because you got one coming.
Speaker 2: We all do. No one is exempt.
Speaker 1: I know for me, I keep it moving. Do it hurt, yes?
Speaker 1: Do I think about it sometimes? Yes? Do I crime sometimes? Absolutely?
Speaker 1: But I don't stay in that place. I don't just
Speaker 1: waddle in that place because I got more living to do,
Speaker 1: and my eyes is on heaven.
Speaker 2: That's where my eyes are.
Speaker 1: I won't get distracted by anything or no one. My
Speaker 1: eyes is on heaven because I want to meet my
Speaker 1: father one day. I want to look at me and say,
Speaker 1: well done, that good and faithal servant. I can't do
Speaker 1: that from worshiping people and things.
Speaker 2: That's how I feel.
Speaker 1: No one else has to feel how I feel, but
Speaker 1: that's how I feel because I'm.
Speaker 2: Looting in Jesus.
Speaker 1: I stand on the word of God, and God has
Speaker 1: given me the peace that he promised that peace has
Speaker 1: surpassed all understanding because I know I'm going through things
Speaker 1: that some people couldn't handle, and I thank him. I
Speaker 1: thank him so much for the strength that he's given me.
Speaker 1: It's not easy, but because of the strength he gave.
Speaker 2: Me, I can endure on top of all the other
Speaker 2: craziness going around in this world.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, my sister, my brother, you have to
Speaker 1: keep moving because nothing you do, all the misery you
Speaker 1: causing yourself, it will not bring them back. It just whatever.
Speaker 1: So that's all I'm going to say on that. I
Speaker 1: hope no one takes offense. I'm saying it out of
Speaker 1: love because I understand been there, going through it now.
Speaker 1: But I choose to continue to live. Life already throws craziness.
Speaker 2: I don't want to.
Speaker 1: Be going through life miserable and depressed and sad. And no,
Speaker 1: I don't want to go through life like that. It's
Speaker 1: enough gloom and doom around us. We shouldn't put it
Speaker 1: on ourselves. See, when you go through life life that
Speaker 1: it makes it harder for you to be able to
Speaker 1: stay in those unexpected things that come your way. It's
Speaker 1: hard for you to endure the storms that come your
Speaker 1: way because you're.
Speaker 2: Already in that negative mindset. It just makes it worse,
Speaker 2: all right.
Speaker 1: So that's it, because I'm getting ready to go on
Speaker 1: another tangent. Thank you for listening. Please share this episode
Speaker 1: and my heart and love to any and everyone that's
Speaker 1: out there is going through.
Speaker 2: Bereave it much love to you.
Speaker 1: I end every episode the same, and I hope and
Speaker 1: I pray you do it.
Speaker 2: Thank on it