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<v Speaker 1>I want you to imagine a long, polished table set

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<v Speaker 1>with the finest silverware, expensive china, and plush chairs, reserved

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<v Speaker 1>for the power players in your field, those who make

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<v Speaker 1>decisions and shape destinies. For years I dreamed of being

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<v Speaker 1>granted a seat at that table. I believed if I

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<v Speaker 1>impressed the right people, met the so called standard and

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<v Speaker 1>checked all the boxes, they'd slide me in engraved invitation

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<v Speaker 1>and say congratulations.

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<v Speaker 2>You've arrived.

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<v Speaker 1>But guess what, that invitation never came, and it might

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<v Speaker 1>never come for you either. And that is the best

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<v Speaker 1>news you can hear today, because the moment you realize

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<v Speaker 1>you don't need anybody else to recognize you, you become dangerous.

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<v Speaker 1>You're free to operate with zero limits. You become your

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<v Speaker 1>own organization, your own authority, and your own leader.

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<v Speaker 2>That is what true self leadership is all about.

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<v Speaker 1>And that's what I'm here to challenge you to become

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<v Speaker 1>the kind of person who sets the bar so high

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<v Speaker 1>that people are forced to wonder how you do it,

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<v Speaker 1>The kind of person who redefines what's possible, the kind

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<v Speaker 1>of person who doesn't give a damn about external validation

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<v Speaker 1>because they're too busy validating themselves.

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<v Speaker 2>As far back as I can remember, I felt like

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<v Speaker 2>a nobody.

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<v Speaker 1>I was a punk kid, lost with zero respect for

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<v Speaker 1>myself or anyone else. But there was a deep craving

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<v Speaker 1>inside me, a craving for recognition, for respect, for the

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<v Speaker 1>feeling that I was someone. That seat of ambition burned hot,

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<v Speaker 1>and when I was young, I was drawn to special operations.

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<v Speaker 1>I figured if I could just meet their standards, if

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<v Speaker 1>I joined an elite unit, then they'd have.

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<v Speaker 2>To notice me. Then I'd matter. But let me tell

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<v Speaker 2>you something. If that spark of desire to.

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<v Speaker 1>Prove yourself is fueled only by external rewards, badges, uniforms, compliments,

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<v Speaker 1>your tank will run empty faster than you think, because

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<v Speaker 1>there will come a day when nobody notices how hard

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<v Speaker 1>you work. There will be times when you believe you

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<v Speaker 1>deserve that seat at the table, Yet all you're doing

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<v Speaker 1>is serving those who got there first, even the ones

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<v Speaker 1>who aren't as qualified as you. And you'll ask yourself,

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<v Speaker 1>where's my invite? Why is no one pulling out a

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<v Speaker 1>chair for me? Here's the cold truth. The greatest leaders

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<v Speaker 1>I've ever seen weren't waiting on anyone to anoint them.

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<v Speaker 1>They didn't wait to be recognized or be told they

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<v Speaker 1>were special.

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<v Speaker 2>They just were special.

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<v Speaker 1>They commanded respect by the way they showed up every

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<v Speaker 1>single day, no excuses, no disclaimers, no days off. I

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<v Speaker 1>encountered one of these individuals in Air Assault school back

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<v Speaker 1>in the day. It was a ten day crucible run

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<v Speaker 1>by the Army known as the ten Hardest Days in

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<v Speaker 1>the US Army. If you failed the initial physical test,

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<v Speaker 1>you were out before the program even really started, and

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<v Speaker 1>if you made it today one, you'd spend your next

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<v Speaker 1>ten days humping rucks, hauling gear, mastering sling load tests,

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<v Speaker 1>all under relentless physical and mental pressure.

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<v Speaker 2>That's where I crossed paths with a man named Happened Connolly.

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<v Speaker 2>On day zero.

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<v Speaker 1>I noticed him only briefly, but on day one everything changed.

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<v Speaker 1>Before dawn, we had to do a set of five

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<v Speaker 1>and dimes, five pull ups, ten push ups every single

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<v Speaker 1>time we passed under these metal arches. While everyone else

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<v Speaker 1>was content to meet the standard five and ten, Connolly

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<v Speaker 1>was still on that pull up bar. Long after we

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<v Speaker 1>dropped back to the ground. He knocked out pull up

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<v Speaker 1>after pull up, then he fell forward and punched out

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<v Speaker 1>push up after push up. I was like, what the

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<v Speaker 1>hell is he doing. He knew that same day we'd

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<v Speaker 1>be pummeled with miles of running, weighted rucks and more

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<v Speaker 1>upper body work. Yeah, he didn't care about the risk

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<v Speaker 1>of burning out because his mentality was if you set

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<v Speaker 1>a standard for me, fine, but my standard is higher.

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<v Speaker 1>He didn't say one word to us. He never said

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<v Speaker 1>look at me, I'm a badass. He just did the

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<v Speaker 1>work silently and consistently. That was the first time I

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<v Speaker 1>saw someone raise the bar so dramatically. It messed with

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<v Speaker 1>my mind. I was used to being the standard. He

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<v Speaker 1>was playing a whole different game. Most people love standards because.

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<v Speaker 2>Standards keep us safe.

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<v Speaker 1>There's something we can see, measure and check off the list.

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<v Speaker 2>You want me to do.

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<v Speaker 1>Five pull ups, great, I'll do my five and go home.

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<v Speaker 2>But you can't stop at five.

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<v Speaker 1>If you want to become elite, you have to dominate

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<v Speaker 1>the standard. That's what Connolly showed us.

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<v Speaker 2>Day in and day out. We'd line up.

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<v Speaker 1>For a six mile rock march with our packs and

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<v Speaker 1>the instructor said, you have ninety minutes to finish. Immediately,

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<v Speaker 1>eight percent of the class started scheming how to walk

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<v Speaker 1>for half of it and jog the rest because ninety

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<v Speaker 1>minutes is plenty of time, right, But Connally took off

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<v Speaker 1>like he was running for his life. He wasn't there

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<v Speaker 1>to impress the instructors. He wasn't there to look cool

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<v Speaker 1>for the rest of us. He was there to explore

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<v Speaker 1>the absolute edge of his potential, and it messed with

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<v Speaker 1>the entire group dynamic.

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<v Speaker 2>We started in.

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<v Speaker 1>A pack of five, but by the halfway mark he

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<v Speaker 1>was gone, disappeared into the hills. When we finished, and

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<v Speaker 1>we felt pretty good about ourselves because we'd beaten the

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<v Speaker 1>official time who was waiting for us. Cracking out pull

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<v Speaker 1>ups under the arches, Connolly, once again, he annihilated every expectation,

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<v Speaker 1>as if the rules didn't apply to him. You'd think

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<v Speaker 1>maybe he'd let off the gas at some point, but no.

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<v Speaker 1>Ten days straight he never stopped pushing. He volunteered to

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<v Speaker 1>be the first to do the dreaded sling low test

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<v Speaker 1>some of the jams half the class because it's super precise,

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<v Speaker 1>extremely technical, but he.

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<v Speaker 2>Just stepped forward, smoked it, and walked away.

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<v Speaker 1>From that day, I learned a valuable lesson The standard

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<v Speaker 1>is a floor, not a ceiling, and if you truly

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<v Speaker 1>want to be an outlier, you must bring a standard

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<v Speaker 1>of your own that eclipses whatever the official rule book says.

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<v Speaker 1>Otherwise you'll be just another face in the crowd, doing

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<v Speaker 1>enough to get by, riding the bell curve into old

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<v Speaker 1>age for a law time. I believe that leadership meant

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<v Speaker 1>having people under you, wearing stripes on your uniform, or

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<v Speaker 1>commanding an entire team.

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<v Speaker 2>That's not leadership. That's a position, that's a title.

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<v Speaker 1>True leadership can belong to anybody, regardless of rank, job, title,

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<v Speaker 1>or status, because leadership is about influence, and the most

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<v Speaker 1>powerful influence you can ever wield is the example you

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<v Speaker 1>set every day.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not about talking a good game.

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<v Speaker 1>Plenty of bosses, teachers, coaches, politicians love to blow smoke,

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<v Speaker 1>get pep talks, and hand out fancy mission statements, but.

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<v Speaker 2>None of that matters if you're not following through with

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<v Speaker 2>real action. People see through the hype.

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<v Speaker 1>They see how you live, how you talk to your family,

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<v Speaker 1>how you treat strangers when the cameras are off.

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<v Speaker 2>That's where the real measure of a leader is revealed.

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<v Speaker 1>If you can't lead yourself, if you can't adhere to

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<v Speaker 1>your own code, why should anybody else trust you to

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<v Speaker 1>lead them? When you're young, it's normal to look for validation.

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<v Speaker 1>You want your teachers, or parents or mentors to say

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<v Speaker 1>you did great, But you can't rely on that as

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<v Speaker 1>your fuel forever because you'll never receive enough praise to

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<v Speaker 1>fill the hole that insecurity leaves behind. The only way

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<v Speaker 1>to fill that hole is to become your own damn hero,

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<v Speaker 1>and that requires adopting an oath to self.

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<v Speaker 2>For me, that oath is.

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<v Speaker 1>Simple, live with a day, one week one mentality. Stay

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<v Speaker 1>rooted in discipline, personal accountability, and humility. Never stop when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm tired, stop only when I'm done. In a world

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<v Speaker 1>of mediocrity. My mission is to become uncommon amongst the uncommon.

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<v Speaker 1>I've memorize those lines. They guide me when I feel

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<v Speaker 1>weak or aimless. Whenever the world gets chaotic and I

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<v Speaker 1>start losing focus, I come back to that oath because

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<v Speaker 1>if I can't live by those words every single day,

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<v Speaker 1>then all my talk means nothing.

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<v Speaker 2>I challenge you to write your own oath, your own

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<v Speaker 2>personal creed that reflects the values.

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<v Speaker 1>Commitments, and goals you stand for. Don't rely on your

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<v Speaker 1>company's mission statement or a motivational quote you saw on

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<v Speaker 1>social media. Dig down and figure out what you truly

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<v Speaker 1>want to represent. It should be demanding. It should scare

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<v Speaker 1>you a little because it demands that you show up

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<v Speaker 1>at a higher level. That's a good thing because it

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<v Speaker 1>forces you to grow. Leadership in the shadows is what

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<v Speaker 1>I call it. The best leaders often aren't the ones

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<v Speaker 1>in the spotlight. They're not always the CEOs or generals

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<v Speaker 1>medals clanking on their chest. Sometimes they're the ones quietly

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<v Speaker 1>outperforming the standard. They're the ones who arrive early, leave late,

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<v Speaker 1>and never complain in between. They don't need to broadcast

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<v Speaker 1>their achievements because their actions speak volumes. When you live

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<v Speaker 1>like this, you automatically inspire others, whether you intend to

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<v Speaker 1>or not. Most people are stuck in the middle of

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<v Speaker 1>the pack. Law for an example of what greatness looks like.

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<v Speaker 2>Be that example. Don't advertise it, just be it the right.

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<v Speaker 1>People will notice, and even if they don't, it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>matter because you're not doing it for them.

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<v Speaker 2>You're doing it for you. Here's what happens when you

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<v Speaker 2>start living by your own oath. People will talk.

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<v Speaker 1>They'll whisper he's obsessed or she's crazy because you're not

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<v Speaker 1>playing the same game they're playing. They'll say, calm down, man,

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<v Speaker 1>you're doing way too much.

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<v Speaker 2>But let me tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>There's no such thing as way too much. If you're

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<v Speaker 1>in pursuit of your highest potential. Yes, have balance in

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<v Speaker 1>your life. Spend time with family and friends, read good books,

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<v Speaker 1>or do whatever nurtures your spirit. But never apologize for

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<v Speaker 1>pushing yourself. Never shrink to make the people around you comfortable,

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<v Speaker 1>because if you do, you're training them and yourself to

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<v Speaker 1>accept mediocrity. And once theocrity sets in, it seeps into

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<v Speaker 1>everything you do until you're left living a life of

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<v Speaker 1>regrets and what ifs. Tell them I'm not crazy, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>just not you. Then keep doing your thing. In order

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<v Speaker 1>to maintain that relentless standard, you have to do a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of unseen work. It's in those lonely hours, early mornings,

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<v Speaker 1>late nights, at times when no one's checking on you

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<v Speaker 1>that self leadership is forged. You're the only one holding

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<v Speaker 1>yourself accountable, the only one who knows whether you skip

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<v Speaker 1>the day or fake the workout.

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<v Speaker 2>You can't hide from yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>When the heat is on, your level of preparation becomes

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<v Speaker 1>glaringly obvious.

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<v Speaker 2>If you've been half assing your training, you'll fail.

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<v Speaker 1>If you've been going above and beyond that secret hustle

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<v Speaker 1>will shine through. That's why you never wait for orders, instructions,

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<v Speaker 1>or deadlines to get started. If you're applying to a

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<v Speaker 1>program or know there's a chance you might have to

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<v Speaker 1>pass a test, start preparing now. Don't wait for the

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<v Speaker 1>letter or the phone call. You can gain so much

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<v Speaker 1>ground if you approach life with the mentality I'm already

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<v Speaker 1>in trading, I'm already preparing. That's how you transform into

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<v Speaker 1>someone who sees his opportunities.

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<v Speaker 2>The instant they appear.

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<v Speaker 1>Eventually, after enough time chasing the seat at the mythical table,

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<v Speaker 1>I had a moment of clarity.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't want to sit at your table. I want

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<v Speaker 2>to build my own.

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<v Speaker 1>That doesn't mean I became arrogant or anti authority. It

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<v Speaker 1>never going to see me the way I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>be seen.

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<v Speaker 2>Once I made that shift, my life changed.

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<v Speaker 1>Every training evolution, every challenge, course, every race became my

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<v Speaker 1>personal crucible for growth. Instead of asking how do I

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<v Speaker 1>stack up against others? I asked how do I crush

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<v Speaker 1>my own limitations today? Because when you orient your life

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<v Speaker 1>around that question, you stop comparing yourself to the crowd

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<v Speaker 1>are comparing yourself to your own previous best, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>how you become uncommon amongst the uncommon.

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<v Speaker 2>Before we wrap this up, let me ask you who

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<v Speaker 2>do you want to become and what do you want

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<v Speaker 2>to stand for.

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<v Speaker 1>If you can't answer that in a single sentence, your

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<v Speaker 1>oath is still unformed.

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<v Speaker 2>You owe it to yourself to fine that clarity. So

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<v Speaker 2>take some time. Lock yourself away, if you have.

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<v Speaker 1>To, turn off your phone, Get a notebook and write

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<v Speaker 1>down the values that matter to you. Write down the

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<v Speaker 1>standards you want to embody. Be honest with yourself, even

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<v Speaker 1>brutally so, and craft a personal creed that demands your best,

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<v Speaker 1>committed to memory. Recite it every morning, and hold yourself

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<v Speaker 1>to it in every choice you make. Don't let it

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<v Speaker 1>become empty words on a page. Let it guide your

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<v Speaker 1>actions until it's woven into your character. Once you have

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<v Speaker 1>your oath, you won't need anyone else to lead you.

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<v Speaker 1>Your ambition and discipline will become a self sustaining engine,

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<v Speaker 1>powered by your own desire to see just how far

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<v Speaker 1>you can go. That's when you truly become unstoppable. Look

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<v Speaker 1>around at the world, Look at how many people accept

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<v Speaker 1>mediocre as the norm. Look at how many people are

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<v Speaker 1>willing to do just enough, punch the clock, earn their paycheck,

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<v Speaker 1>and wait for their retirement. Is that the life you

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<v Speaker 1>want for yourself? Or do you want to become the

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<v Speaker 1>kind of person who blazes a new trail, sets a

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<v Speaker 1>standard that most people can't even see, and becomes a

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<v Speaker 1>silent force that lists everyone else higher. The choice is yours,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's not easy. Your family might think you're crazy,

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<v Speaker 1>your friends might whisper behind your back. But when you

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<v Speaker 1>commit to self leadership, you realize you don't need that

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<v Speaker 1>mythical invitation. You don't need anyone else to give you

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<v Speaker 1>permission to be great. You can build a standard so

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<v Speaker 1>high it scares you and become the kind of outlier

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<v Speaker 1>who makes everyone else step up their I'm challenging you

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<v Speaker 1>today to become that person. The person who shows up

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<v Speaker 1>ready no matter what, because they live by a code

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<v Speaker 1>stronger than any mission statement or organizational creed.

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<v Speaker 2>The person who pushes past.

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<v Speaker 1>The standard day in and day out until the rest

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<v Speaker 1>of the world has no choice but to notice. And

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<v Speaker 1>still you won't need their recognition because you've been leading

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<v Speaker 1>yourself the whole time.

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<v Speaker 2>So as you leave here, Ask yourself, what am I

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<v Speaker 2>living for? What oath do I swear by?

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<v Speaker 1>Once you lock in those answers, I promise you you

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<v Speaker 1>will never be lost again because you'll be following your

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<v Speaker 1>own compass, guided by the highest standard you can envision.

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<v Speaker 2>Stand up, be your own hero, be your own leader.

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<v Speaker 1>Write your own oath, and watch your life transform into

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<v Speaker 1>something you never dream possible. Don't just meet the standard,

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<v Speaker 1>smash it become uncommon amongst the uncommon.

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<v Speaker 2>There's no better way to live. Now, go out there

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<v Speaker 2>and make it happen.