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Speaker 1: I just want to take the time to thank you

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for being a big supporter of all of my podcasts,

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all seventeen of them that have been hanging out and

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growing ever since twenty twelve. Now, how can you find

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them right? Well, there is one place. It's all been

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centralized Arrow dot net, A R R E dot net

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And once again, thank you so much.

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Speaker 2: Hey Sarah, welcome to vocal dfreg vocal d fragging is

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taking the time to ask yourself the questions and question

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the answers. You think it's easy to try it sometime,

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but keep up with it. Don't just do it one

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time and think, oh, I'm fixed. It doesn't work that way.

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It's a journey, it's an understanding, it's an agreement asking

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yourself the questions and then questioning the answers. This is

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vocal dfrag walking through this forest today, something that came

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into my heart and it was based on the shadows

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and shades of a tree. It's like our mindsets, you know,

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we're always going up and down, twisting around, we're falling,

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we're picking ourselves back up, we're brushing the dirt off

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our knees and then and here it comes again, more

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shadows and shades, those challenges and changes that we have

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to face on a daily basis, And during these uncertain times,

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it gets worse and then it gets better. So how

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do you make your way through the shadows and shades?

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I mean, you can't always be a bright light. I

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mean I've tried that game and I've been surrounded by

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people that go turn it off. Mister positive, We don't

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need you today. We need you to relate with us.

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We need you to step into the shadows and shades

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of the realms of our reality. Is it a choice

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to step into this? And the reason why I bring

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this up is because it is my choice to walk

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through this forest where the sun is bright, but the

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trees are creating shadows and shade. And when I step

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into those moments, what do I feel? A chill? The

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temperature changes. So therefore, why aren't we the same way

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as human beings? We are. We are one hundred percent

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the same, except people can't see the shadows and shades inside.

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How we think, how we plan things out or don't

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plan things out, how we procrastinate, how we build an

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idea inside the invisibleness of our thinking process, and then

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for it to materialize, I'm not going to do it today.

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I'll set it aside the next day, and there you

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have it, more shadow and shades. I'm a d fragger.

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That means that I sit down and I ask the questions,

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and I will ask myself those questions based on why

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are you doing this? What puts you in this position

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of decision making when you know the project has to

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get done? Is it a fear of making mistakes? Is

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it a fear of being greater than what you were yesterday?

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And that is a real fear, because if you're going

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to be greater than what you were yesterday, what's tomorrow

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going to bring? You have to be better than that.

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I mean I had to deal with that when I

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was voted employee of the Year back in the nineteen nineties.

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I had to live up to that trophy. Well maybe

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not to others, but to myself. And I believe that

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we do that to ourselves on a daily basis. We

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have a great day, well let's do it again. Let's

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have a great day again tomorrow, Let's have a great week,

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a great month. And when it doesn't pan out, it's

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like writing the title of a book or a chapter.

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You've got to live up to how that book or

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that chapter has begun. The title, the Shadow, the Shades,

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dealing with it, talking about it. Don't run to somebody

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and get their assumption because they're not walking in your shoes.

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Trust in yourself first, and then grow forward. It's okay

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to walk into the shadows and shades. Just know it's

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going to be a little bit cooler. Listen to it,

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ask the questions, question the answers. It's called defragging. I'm

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Eryn