WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.480 --> 00:00:06.280 Welcome to the two seventeen Recovery of podcast. 2 00:00:06.440 --> 00:00:09.759 If you don't make mistakes, you won't learn. 3 00:00:10.359 --> 00:00:12.919 With your host, Corey Winfield, you know there was a 4 00:00:12.960 --> 00:00:15.359 reason why that didn't work out, and you can look 5 00:00:15.400 --> 00:00:17.359 back at it and go, yep, I'm glad that didn't 6 00:00:17.399 --> 00:00:19.120 work out how I wanted it, because I wouldn't been 7 00:00:19.199 --> 00:00:25.399 for got your abs. It is the twenty seventh of 8 00:00:25.480 --> 00:00:28.280 August twenty twenty five. My name is Cory Winfield and 9 00:00:28.320 --> 00:00:31.839 I'm Corey Smoker. You are the guest today. Are you 10 00:00:31.879 --> 00:00:36.000 excited about that? Yeah? Nice? We talk about some stuff. 11 00:00:36.799 --> 00:00:39.479 I think that's good. It's just us checking in. We're 12 00:00:39.479 --> 00:00:41.200 trying to get that podcast out there. 13 00:00:43.280 --> 00:00:44.960 I guess yeah, that's what we're trying to do. 14 00:00:45.320 --> 00:00:45.439 Now. 15 00:00:45.479 --> 00:00:47.840 I just want to talk about God today and the 16 00:00:47.920 --> 00:00:50.759 open kind of sums it up my day and how 17 00:00:50.880 --> 00:00:54.240 that went today. I would like to thank God for 18 00:00:54.719 --> 00:01:01.280 making my plans blow up. Let me rewind the tape here. Okay. 19 00:01:01.399 --> 00:01:04.599 So we're going to start a new project and there's 20 00:01:04.640 --> 00:01:07.519 another organization in town and we're gonna start it with them, 21 00:01:07.560 --> 00:01:10.640 and we're excited about it. And today was the day 22 00:01:10.799 --> 00:01:13.200 we were going to go do some things to start 23 00:01:13.239 --> 00:01:15.359 the project, and I was pretty excited. At first. I 24 00:01:15.400 --> 00:01:17.959 was like, I was bummed because we met early August 25 00:01:18.200 --> 00:01:20.200 and then the date was set for August twenty seventh, 26 00:01:20.200 --> 00:01:21.719 and I was like, Dan, that's so far away. Can 27 00:01:21.760 --> 00:01:25.040 we do it tomorrow? And he's like, no, we'll do 28 00:01:25.040 --> 00:01:26.680 it twenty seventh, okay, And I thought, you know what, 29 00:01:27.239 --> 00:01:28.959 that is actually a good thing because that gives me 30 00:01:29.040 --> 00:01:31.760 time to prepare and just to kind of figure out 31 00:01:31.760 --> 00:01:34.480 what stuff we want to do with this project. And 32 00:01:34.560 --> 00:01:37.000 so today ten o'clock I was supposed to meet for 33 00:01:37.040 --> 00:01:41.879 the project and I was supposed to me didn't show 34 00:01:41.920 --> 00:01:46.200 up obviously, not obviously, but he didn't show up, and 35 00:01:46.239 --> 00:01:47.680 I was like, so I waited and I call him. 36 00:01:47.840 --> 00:01:51.439 He thought it was at one. It was. It was 37 00:01:51.480 --> 00:01:55.400 from ten to one is when we reserved this place 38 00:01:55.439 --> 00:01:59.159 to do our thing. And then there's another person that 39 00:01:59.200 --> 00:02:00.760 was supposed to come. And then I waited till like, 40 00:02:00.879 --> 00:02:02.560 I don't know, I'm a ten thirty maybe if that 41 00:02:02.760 --> 00:02:05.280 and that person never came. So I was like, all right, 42 00:02:05.319 --> 00:02:08.759 well I'm out. I was crushed, like I couldn't even 43 00:02:08.800 --> 00:02:10.599 sleep last night. I got two hours of sleep cause 44 00:02:11.319 --> 00:02:14.199 something with weird my brain. But when it starts going 45 00:02:14.360 --> 00:02:16.199 and I start thinking, and then I start thinking about 46 00:02:16.199 --> 00:02:18.159 all the stuff I have to do for this project, 47 00:02:18.199 --> 00:02:19.919 and then all the stuff I have to do outside 48 00:02:19.919 --> 00:02:22.680 of the project, and then family and God and just 49 00:02:22.759 --> 00:02:24.520 all the stuff, and I'm just like, oh my god. 50 00:02:25.080 --> 00:02:27.400 So I could not sleep, and I was excited. It's 51 00:02:27.400 --> 00:02:30.360 like Christmas morning. Well it's not quite as good as 52 00:02:30.360 --> 00:02:32.639 fancy football, but I was very excited about it, and 53 00:02:32.719 --> 00:02:37.719 so like, well, on the nerves of it, yeah, cause 54 00:02:37.719 --> 00:02:39.879 I've been doubting myself, like, oh am I good enough 55 00:02:39.919 --> 00:02:41.879 to do this stuff? Can we do it? I don't know? 56 00:02:42.919 --> 00:02:46.039 And then I'm like, during that time from early August 57 00:02:46.039 --> 00:02:48.439 to like late August August twenty seventh, I had the 58 00:02:48.520 --> 00:02:52.360 time to go, No, I do actually know more than 59 00:02:53.120 --> 00:02:55.159 then I get myself credit for. And I actually fell 60 00:02:55.319 --> 00:02:58.240 into that by taking a class. Then I took these classes, 61 00:02:58.280 --> 00:03:00.639 and I learned all this stuff and I didn't really 62 00:03:00.719 --> 00:03:03.479 learn That's what I was like, Okay, maybe I know 63 00:03:03.520 --> 00:03:06.000 more than I'm giving myself credit for. So I start 64 00:03:06.000 --> 00:03:07.759 to get the confidence and I'm like, yeah, let's do it. 65 00:03:08.080 --> 00:03:10.000 And the most important thing, and if I've said this 66 00:03:10.000 --> 00:03:13.280 a million times but if you're starting a podcast or whatever, 67 00:03:13.879 --> 00:03:18.240 start putting dates on things, because if you don't, it 68 00:03:18.319 --> 00:03:21.080 becomes well, i'll do it next week. No. No, But if 69 00:03:21.120 --> 00:03:24.919 you're like August twenty seventh, we're doing it. You got 70 00:03:24.960 --> 00:03:28.960 to do it unless you're gonna I was gonna say, 71 00:03:28.960 --> 00:03:32.560 bitch out on yourself, but I don't want to offend people, obviously, 72 00:03:33.599 --> 00:03:35.719 but I said it anyway. So if you're offending whatever, 73 00:03:35.840 --> 00:03:36.479 But I think. 74 00:03:36.319 --> 00:03:40.039 When you set the date for that goal or when 75 00:03:40.080 --> 00:03:43.759 you're gonna do it or have it done by I 76 00:03:43.800 --> 00:03:48.240 think that just gives you the more solidified date of. 77 00:03:49.560 --> 00:03:50.759 That you're going to show up and do it. 78 00:03:50.800 --> 00:03:54.159 Yeah, it moves it up, like it moves your planning 79 00:03:54.199 --> 00:03:55.879 everything in your head. It just moves it up because 80 00:03:55.919 --> 00:03:58.919 like we're doing it that day. The podcast is the 81 00:03:58.960 --> 00:04:02.960 same way we start. It was in treatment. I was like, hey, 82 00:04:03.120 --> 00:04:04.719 we get out, you know, let's start a podcast. I'm 83 00:04:04.719 --> 00:04:06.280 gonna start a podcast. I'm gonna do this, I'm gonna 84 00:04:06.280 --> 00:04:09.199 do that, l l lah lah la. And then I 85 00:04:09.199 --> 00:04:12.639 get out. And how I work is everything has to 86 00:04:12.639 --> 00:04:15.400 be perfect before it takes off the ground. Like you 87 00:04:15.439 --> 00:04:17.680 can't just send a test up there and hope, it's 88 00:04:17.720 --> 00:04:19.120 got to be perfect. I have this guy at the 89 00:04:19.160 --> 00:04:22.319 website that everything, and I didn't have any money. I 90 00:04:22.399 --> 00:04:25.399 was just coming out of treatment. I have a job, 91 00:04:25.639 --> 00:04:28.040 like I mean, it was it was a little difficult, 92 00:04:28.759 --> 00:04:33.560 but we did it. And not before I was told 93 00:04:33.560 --> 00:04:36.959 that I had disappointed somebody. Everyone picked this Ryan guy 94 00:04:37.040 --> 00:04:38.600 up and brought him back to the house and he 95 00:04:38.639 --> 00:04:40.639 was in room two seventeen after we were, but he 96 00:04:40.720 --> 00:04:43.560 was still kind of a part of our crew and 97 00:04:43.879 --> 00:04:45.920 he just was like he jumped in the car and 98 00:04:45.959 --> 00:04:47.160 he was like, all right, I want to hear it. 99 00:04:47.160 --> 00:04:48.920 And he was all geeked out and want to hear what, 100 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:51.920 you know, some trick daddy, Like what are you talking about? 101 00:04:52.120 --> 00:04:57.279 He's like, no, your podcast. Oh, I'm still looking for 102 00:04:57.319 --> 00:04:59.560 a website. And he just shot me this look man, 103 00:04:59.600 --> 00:05:02.639 and this is just it's like like what and he's like, dude, 104 00:05:02.680 --> 00:05:07.160 I'm so disappointed in you. What what are you talking about? 105 00:05:07.399 --> 00:05:10.720 You know, like okay, but it lit the fire under 106 00:05:10.720 --> 00:05:12.040 me to go okay. You know. When we got back 107 00:05:12.079 --> 00:05:13.839 to the house, I s all right, we're starting a Saturday. 108 00:05:13.879 --> 00:05:16.240 How about that. We're starting a Saturday. I don't care 109 00:05:16.240 --> 00:05:18.480 if I have a website. If I have three microphones, 110 00:05:18.480 --> 00:05:20.199 one I don't, I don't. We're starting at Saturday. We're 111 00:05:20.240 --> 00:05:24.120 doing something Saturday. Yeah, And if I didn't do that, 112 00:05:24.240 --> 00:05:26.480 we wouldn't have we wouldn't have almost a thousand episodes 113 00:05:26.480 --> 00:05:27.120 to tell you that. 114 00:05:27.959 --> 00:05:31.560 And it's and it's about like obviously sometimes I tell you, 115 00:05:31.639 --> 00:05:34.360 I'm like, well, it's better than nothing at all, right, 116 00:05:36.319 --> 00:05:39.319 because I'm still learning when I do things or pictures 117 00:05:39.399 --> 00:05:41.639 or videos or audio things. 118 00:05:41.759 --> 00:05:44.279 But that's what we hear and I'm practicing. 119 00:05:44.399 --> 00:05:46.240 Yeah, but that's how you learn, you know. Now, if 120 00:05:46.240 --> 00:05:48.240 you keep making these sticks over and over, then be like, okay, 121 00:05:48.240 --> 00:05:50.480 well maybe you shouldn't do that, you know, like maybe 122 00:05:50.480 --> 00:05:52.000 we can move you in a different direction and put 123 00:05:52.040 --> 00:05:55.519 you in a different spot. Because everybody's valuable, like everybody's value. 124 00:05:55.519 --> 00:05:57.639 Everybody has something that they're good at, and it's just 125 00:05:57.680 --> 00:06:00.759 finding that niche or that what that you're good at. 126 00:06:00.920 --> 00:06:03.319 Like you're a go getter and you're not afraid to fail, 127 00:06:03.639 --> 00:06:05.439 like maybe you are, but you're gonna try it anyway, 128 00:06:05.439 --> 00:06:06.959 and if you fail, you're gonna be like, damn, I tried. 129 00:06:07.920 --> 00:06:11.160 Oh I'll try and if I'm not that good at it, 130 00:06:11.279 --> 00:06:15.079 I'll keep doing it, but I cause I guess it's 131 00:06:15.480 --> 00:06:18.600 a little part for me is kind of like I 132 00:06:18.680 --> 00:06:22.800 tell you, Corey, it's like something out there promoting it 133 00:06:22.839 --> 00:06:25.519 is better than nothing out there for my little videos 134 00:06:25.519 --> 00:06:28.079 that I do, and I only I just do them 135 00:06:28.120 --> 00:06:31.040 because you tell me that it's a better promotion. 136 00:06:31.319 --> 00:06:34.199 I hear people say hey, I see in you or. 137 00:06:34.120 --> 00:06:36.839 Then also, like on my Facebook, it gets other people 138 00:06:36.879 --> 00:06:42.759 that maybe has also doubted my recovery journey or I 139 00:06:42.920 --> 00:06:46.439 haven't kept track of or lost contact with that. Now 140 00:06:46.480 --> 00:06:47.959 all of a sudden they're seeing it and they're like, 141 00:06:48.000 --> 00:06:49.399 oh my gosh, I'm so proud of you. 142 00:06:49.439 --> 00:06:50.360 Look how far you come. 143 00:06:50.879 --> 00:06:55.639 And it's not about I want any credit like that. 144 00:06:56.199 --> 00:06:59.399 It's just showing them like I'm just out here trying 145 00:06:59.439 --> 00:07:03.040 to do the next thing and advocate or promote that 146 00:07:03.240 --> 00:07:04.720 I'm having game night. 147 00:07:06.160 --> 00:07:08.160 Yeah, and it might not even be someone you know 148 00:07:08.560 --> 00:07:10.079 that sees something. You know. I don't know how you 149 00:07:10.120 --> 00:07:13.279 keep your Facebook mind. I know like three people on there, 150 00:07:14.560 --> 00:07:16.480 the rest I don't. I don't know. Well, I know 151 00:07:16.480 --> 00:07:18.360 a couple of people on my Facebook, but I got 152 00:07:18.360 --> 00:07:20.000 a lot of people on there, and I don't know 153 00:07:20.000 --> 00:07:22.439 a lot of them. But those other people that could 154 00:07:22.480 --> 00:07:24.399 come across your stuff that you may not know, but 155 00:07:24.439 --> 00:07:26.360 they're like oh wow, and they come across your story 156 00:07:26.439 --> 00:07:27.879 and they might have a problem and you could give 157 00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:30.000 them a hope without even knowing. You know that. That's 158 00:07:30.000 --> 00:07:31.519 what it's about, and that's why we do what we do. 159 00:07:32.160 --> 00:07:33.480 There was a guy when I was in sober Living. 160 00:07:33.600 --> 00:07:37.759 His name was Matt and he he I don't know 161 00:07:37.759 --> 00:07:41.639 what his deal was. Jealousy's crazy, I guess, but he 162 00:07:42.000 --> 00:07:44.800 was like, oh, yeah, you're and I'm in keep in mind, 163 00:07:44.800 --> 00:07:48.879 I'm in sober Living. I'm working at Heartsy Grove and Potoski, 164 00:07:48.920 --> 00:07:50.480 which is r V resort. I was making like, I 165 00:07:50.480 --> 00:07:53.600 don't know, fourteen bucks an hour. I worked thirty hours 166 00:07:53.600 --> 00:07:56.279 a week or I know. I wasn't rich, that's for sure. 167 00:07:57.680 --> 00:07:59.759 But he said one day, he's like, yeah, that's gonna 168 00:07:59.759 --> 00:08:02.439 be your downfall, Windfield. That's when you're gonna relapse because 169 00:08:02.480 --> 00:08:07.199 all this fortune and fames go into your head. And 170 00:08:07.240 --> 00:08:11.720 we started laughing, me and Ryan and Parker rest of 171 00:08:11.800 --> 00:08:16.720 pees guy above. I mean, but anyway, we just start 172 00:08:16.759 --> 00:08:20.360 dying laughing man, because we're like, wait, talking about how 173 00:08:20.439 --> 00:08:24.040 much money we've paid for this podcast, like it's still 174 00:08:24.759 --> 00:08:27.000 like we don't, we're not doing this to make money, 175 00:08:27.120 --> 00:08:29.519 and maybe one day it's some clips and people reach 176 00:08:29.519 --> 00:08:31.160 out and they're like, you have so many episodes, like 177 00:08:31.199 --> 00:08:34.039 this is insane, Like you could put this out for 178 00:08:34.240 --> 00:08:36.759 years and years and years and not even do another podcast. 179 00:08:36.799 --> 00:08:40.559 You could just I was like, yeah, but I think 180 00:08:40.879 --> 00:08:42.919 even then, you're not doing it. 181 00:08:42.799 --> 00:08:44.759 To get to get rich. 182 00:08:44.840 --> 00:08:47.559 You would be putting it out there to put back 183 00:08:47.600 --> 00:08:50.720 into to seventeen recovery, whether it's funding a ride, or 184 00:08:50.759 --> 00:08:55.320 whether it's a meeting space, or whether it's somewhere where 185 00:08:55.360 --> 00:08:58.799 you could do this podcast live with an audience, bigger people, 186 00:08:59.320 --> 00:09:01.879 or you know what I mean. So I think that's 187 00:09:01.919 --> 00:09:05.000 the difference of it. You're just like you always say, 188 00:09:05.679 --> 00:09:06.039 I just. 189 00:09:05.960 --> 00:09:06.720 Want to help people. 190 00:09:06.879 --> 00:09:09.279 I do. And now keep in mind, I want to 191 00:09:09.279 --> 00:09:11.279 live comfortable. I'm not gonna lie, but I'm gonna get 192 00:09:11.320 --> 00:09:14.440 rich when I write my movie or finish writing my 193 00:09:14.480 --> 00:09:16.200 movie and then shoot it and sell it. Or maybe 194 00:09:16.240 --> 00:09:18.600 I wouldn't. Maybe I'll just keep it and just shoot it, 195 00:09:19.639 --> 00:09:21.279 just watch it at my house by myself, will never 196 00:09:21.279 --> 00:09:22.039 show it to anybody. 197 00:09:22.600 --> 00:09:25.440 I could, oh, and then then it would go big 198 00:09:25.480 --> 00:09:27.840 when you pass away and Parker. 199 00:09:27.600 --> 00:09:28.399 Can have all the money. 200 00:09:29.519 --> 00:09:31.440 I always said, if I had money when I was 201 00:09:31.720 --> 00:09:35.799 in my active addiction, I would have died a long 202 00:09:35.879 --> 00:09:38.279 time ago. Like I feel bad for rich people or 203 00:09:38.320 --> 00:09:40.080 people if you know somebody with money and you're like, 204 00:09:40.120 --> 00:09:43.279 oh no, big god, everything, No, just pump the brakes, 205 00:09:43.279 --> 00:09:45.960 because addiction does not discriminate. It will to destroy your life. 206 00:09:46.000 --> 00:09:48.159 It doesn't matter if you have money, but to have 207 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:52.279 money obviously, like me, I ran out of money because 208 00:09:52.279 --> 00:09:54.399 then I couldn't keep a job because well I was 209 00:09:54.480 --> 00:09:59.480 drinking all the time. And I just think that it's 210 00:10:01.519 --> 00:10:01.960 I don't know. 211 00:10:02.360 --> 00:10:04.039 Money changes people. I'll tell you. 212 00:10:04.039 --> 00:10:08.519 That it does, but it's not. It's not the like, yes, 213 00:10:08.559 --> 00:10:11.559 we love living comfortable, yeah, you know, And I don't 214 00:10:11.559 --> 00:10:13.759 even say I don't even I'm not trying to say 215 00:10:13.799 --> 00:10:15.919 I'm rich or anything, but like it's nice to have 216 00:10:15.960 --> 00:10:18.759 a wife who's responsible and has taught me, Hey, this 217 00:10:18.799 --> 00:10:20.159 is how you rebuild your credit. That's how you do 218 00:10:20.320 --> 00:10:22.879 like all of that falls into it, you know. And 219 00:10:23.600 --> 00:10:25.279 some people like, oh you got some myself, Well yeah, 220 00:10:25.279 --> 00:10:27.799 well I because of my wife had me fix my credit. 221 00:10:27.960 --> 00:10:29.679 I was able to get a credit card that had 222 00:10:29.679 --> 00:10:32.200 no interest for a year and a half. You can 223 00:10:32.240 --> 00:10:35.120 buy stuff on that one, you know, like because normally, 224 00:10:35.200 --> 00:10:37.360 like when we use a credit card, we will and 225 00:10:37.360 --> 00:10:38.840 we'll pay it right off because we don't want to 226 00:10:38.840 --> 00:10:41.240 pay interest. Because you start doing that, you're just a 227 00:10:41.360 --> 00:10:44.480 brac And then you just pay for a bunch of 228 00:10:44.480 --> 00:10:47.360 stuff and they'll give you cash back points. And I 229 00:10:47.399 --> 00:10:49.639 know I might be talking like crazy stuff to someone 230 00:10:49.679 --> 00:10:51.840 who is in early recovery. Is like, my credit score 231 00:10:51.879 --> 00:10:54.600 is like six hundred, what are you talking about? Trust me? 232 00:10:54.840 --> 00:10:57.720 Just stick with it and you can if you need help, 233 00:10:57.759 --> 00:11:01.600 reach out Corey c r I at seventeen recovery dot com. 234 00:11:01.879 --> 00:11:05.639 We'll get you in touch or some budgeting or some 235 00:11:05.799 --> 00:11:09.759 kind of credit rebuilding process will definitely help you. But 236 00:11:09.759 --> 00:11:11.720 but that's but that's what people seeither oh Cory got 237 00:11:11.720 --> 00:11:14.360 no camera or Corey did this. Well, no, Corey had 238 00:11:14.360 --> 00:11:17.240 fixed his credit and I think Corey's got it. See 239 00:11:17.320 --> 00:11:20.000 now I got to offload it to another card that 240 00:11:20.039 --> 00:11:22.559 has a year and a half no interest. But that's 241 00:11:22.559 --> 00:11:24.840 how you do it. You don't pay the interest and 242 00:11:25.039 --> 00:11:27.519 you get the points back and oh here's three percent back. 243 00:11:27.799 --> 00:11:28.399 It adds up. 244 00:11:28.960 --> 00:11:34.519 But I think it's not even about living comfortable per se, right, 245 00:11:34.600 --> 00:11:39.960 it's about we're just living responsible. Yeah, we're a little 246 00:11:39.960 --> 00:11:45.000 bit more responsible than when we first got sober, and 247 00:11:45.120 --> 00:11:48.200 definitely when we're using right, I. 248 00:11:48.120 --> 00:11:49.279 Mean, I never had money. 249 00:11:49.360 --> 00:11:51.960 We're not comfortable enough to be like, oh well, if 250 00:11:51.960 --> 00:11:55.360 everything went south, we'd be good for a year. No, 251 00:11:55.559 --> 00:11:59.679 we'd be the same, you know. So, but it is 252 00:11:59.759 --> 00:12:03.279 nice to look comfortable to do things, and I like 253 00:12:04.960 --> 00:12:06.679 being able to do that for people here, you know. 254 00:12:06.759 --> 00:12:09.399 And that's why I think that we can make a difference, 255 00:12:09.440 --> 00:12:11.759 because somebody that's doing your job deserves to get paid, 256 00:12:13.039 --> 00:12:16.480 you know, Like, yeah, I see some of these others 257 00:12:16.480 --> 00:12:19.799 went down in southwest Michigan. They were paying people twelve 258 00:12:19.799 --> 00:12:25.240 dollars an hour. Obviously nobody works there. 259 00:12:26.919 --> 00:12:28.080 How do you even survive? 260 00:12:28.279 --> 00:12:32.159 But how could you keep anybody good? Right? Because if 261 00:12:32.200 --> 00:12:35.000 I'm sober, I'm in recovery, I'm doing my thing. I'm 262 00:12:35.000 --> 00:12:36.840 not trying to make twelve dollars an hour. I want 263 00:12:36.840 --> 00:12:38.720 to help some people. Sure, And when I started out, yeah, 264 00:12:38.759 --> 00:12:40.320 I just talked about I was making fourteen dollars an 265 00:12:40.320 --> 00:12:42.840 hour there. But that was like a no pressure job 266 00:12:42.879 --> 00:12:45.120 that I could just go to and be a pickle. 267 00:12:45.600 --> 00:12:48.600 As our friend Tony said. 268 00:12:49.000 --> 00:12:50.320 Well we need that in the beginning. 269 00:12:50.720 --> 00:12:55.120 No brainer, not no chaos, just a job that's very 270 00:12:55.159 --> 00:12:59.159 super easy but also just picks up busy work for. 271 00:12:59.159 --> 00:13:01.000 Us, right, But not the treatment center. I would say 272 00:13:01.000 --> 00:13:03.919 probably for twelve dollars an hour, But I don't know. 273 00:13:03.960 --> 00:13:06.519 I worked at a treatment center when I first got well, 274 00:13:06.559 --> 00:13:07.919 not when I first got out of the treatment. There was 275 00:13:07.919 --> 00:13:09.279 some time in there because I didn't want to work there. 276 00:13:09.360 --> 00:13:13.440 We refer to it as the nasty Chinese restaurant. Tell 277 00:13:13.440 --> 00:13:15.919 that story in a minute. It's a good one. But 278 00:13:17.480 --> 00:13:22.399 with the with that, I knew that it was getting 279 00:13:22.399 --> 00:13:26.120 to me, the working there and the way they ran 280 00:13:26.240 --> 00:13:29.240 the place. And I said to myself, I can't work 281 00:13:29.279 --> 00:13:31.960 here more, like I can't support that mission, Like that's 282 00:13:32.000 --> 00:13:35.360 not helping people and I want to help people, and 283 00:13:35.399 --> 00:13:39.840 so I can't work anymore. And but who's I mean? 284 00:13:39.840 --> 00:13:42.759 That was my fifteenth time through treatment, you know, so 285 00:13:42.840 --> 00:13:47.000 like I had built up some callouses. I've kind of learned, Okay, 286 00:13:47.080 --> 00:13:48.600 well listen what you do here and this is what 287 00:13:48.679 --> 00:13:49.919 you do here is but like if someone who's just 288 00:13:49.960 --> 00:13:51.240 coming in, like I don't know that that would be 289 00:13:51.240 --> 00:13:51.759 scary to me. 290 00:13:53.080 --> 00:13:56.480 Yeah, I don't know. I think also to it takes 291 00:13:56.679 --> 00:14:00.519 a certain individual to work in a treatment center. 292 00:14:01.240 --> 00:14:01.840 I did it. 293 00:14:03.000 --> 00:14:10.279 I did the women's Obviously, I don't I You couldn't 294 00:14:10.279 --> 00:14:12.000 pay me enough to go back and do that again. 295 00:14:12.159 --> 00:14:17.279 No, no, not twelve hours an hour? No, And that's 296 00:14:17.320 --> 00:14:23.399 the problem, you know, and figure it out. 297 00:14:23.759 --> 00:14:26.000 But back to the stiless story. 298 00:14:26.080 --> 00:14:27.840 Yeah, let's go to the fun story here. And then 299 00:14:27.840 --> 00:14:30.000 we got to talk about got for a minute or two. 300 00:14:30.519 --> 00:14:33.120 But no, the story about the Chinese restaurant is the 301 00:14:33.159 --> 00:14:34.919 streatment center that I went to that wasn't a big 302 00:14:34.919 --> 00:14:36.679 fan of Obviously. I just mentioned that, and I also 303 00:14:36.679 --> 00:14:40.399 mentioned that I worked there. But we were in it 304 00:14:40.519 --> 00:14:44.320 was some city, And how we got to the city 305 00:14:44.519 --> 00:14:49.879 was our friend Tyrone had jumped in the car with Joey, 306 00:14:50.120 --> 00:14:52.559 a guy who had lived there at the sober living 307 00:14:52.559 --> 00:14:55.639 house I was managing, and they were like, hey, let's 308 00:14:55.639 --> 00:14:57.399 go up to the store, which is right down the road, 309 00:14:57.600 --> 00:15:00.000 and they ended up taking him like forty minutes away 310 00:15:00.240 --> 00:15:03.480 to some meeting. And they thought it was hilarious that 311 00:15:03.519 --> 00:15:05.159 they like kidnapped him and took him to a meeting. 312 00:15:05.159 --> 00:15:07.559 And they thought it was great. So Joey gets in 313 00:15:07.559 --> 00:15:10.519 the car and without really even saying anything, we just 314 00:15:10.519 --> 00:15:14.159 looked at each other and we're like, yep, kidnap. And 315 00:15:14.279 --> 00:15:15.960 I don't remember where we went. It was like an 316 00:15:15.960 --> 00:15:18.159 hour and a half away. Like he was so pissed 317 00:15:18.159 --> 00:15:19.679 because he was like, I got stuff to do. Guys, 318 00:15:19.720 --> 00:15:21.960 We're like, well, I guess the meeting today is is 319 00:15:22.000 --> 00:15:24.080 what you're doing? And then we went to a Chinese 320 00:15:24.120 --> 00:15:29.600 restaurant afterward and it was gross, and there was this 321 00:15:29.679 --> 00:15:34.960 woman who was up at the buffet. She's getting food, 322 00:15:35.080 --> 00:15:36.919 that's what they do. Kind of rolled your eyes a 323 00:15:36.960 --> 00:15:39.320 little bit, like you were disappointed in the story how 324 00:15:39.360 --> 00:15:42.399 it started. So there's a woman at the buffet getting food, okay, 325 00:15:42.480 --> 00:15:44.399 and you're gonna roll your eyes like something bad happened. 326 00:15:44.519 --> 00:15:46.360 I just I can only imagine. 327 00:15:46.879 --> 00:15:50.559 Okay, well it's exactly what you thought. So you were 328 00:15:50.600 --> 00:15:52.679 sitting there and I think Joey was next to me 329 00:15:52.840 --> 00:15:55.080 or I can't remember how who was where, but he 330 00:15:55.200 --> 00:16:00.480 notices the woman at the buffet and apparently the workout 331 00:16:00.519 --> 00:16:06.120 that she does on her backside, Joey thought it made 332 00:16:06.159 --> 00:16:09.879 it look really attractive. So Joey says to us, oh 333 00:16:09.919 --> 00:16:12.440 my God, guys, there's something to this. I can't remember 334 00:16:12.440 --> 00:16:17.399 exactly word for it, but he said, damn that girl's ass. 335 00:16:19.000 --> 00:16:27.919 We look well. Meanwhile, the bodybuilder boyfriend was right behind Joey. 336 00:16:28.000 --> 00:16:31.000 He was standing there right behind him doing something, and 337 00:16:31.039 --> 00:16:35.120 he like looked at Joey and we were just like, oh, boy, Like, 338 00:16:35.240 --> 00:16:39.159 let's because he heard that? Yeah, and it was. It 339 00:16:39.200 --> 00:16:40.840 was pretty funny though, because we were just like, oh 340 00:16:40.840 --> 00:16:41.559 my god, what'd you say? 341 00:16:41.639 --> 00:16:42.000 Joey? 342 00:16:42.360 --> 00:16:44.519 Wait? Look at what Joey. You know, because we were 343 00:16:44.559 --> 00:16:47.480 all two seventeenth out, you know, like, how awkward can 344 00:16:47.480 --> 00:16:48.639 we make this for Joey now? 345 00:16:49.720 --> 00:16:50.600 And he's kidnap? 346 00:16:51.200 --> 00:16:53.799 Yeah, he can't even run to the car because he 347 00:16:53.840 --> 00:16:54.519 doesn't have the keys. 348 00:16:54.559 --> 00:16:58.480 It's not his Can I ask? Did he ever kidnap anybody? Again? No? 349 00:16:59.039 --> 00:17:00.320 I didn't like it being done to him. 350 00:17:00.399 --> 00:17:04.119 Uh no, I guess not. Yeah, he left. He was like, 351 00:17:04.119 --> 00:17:05.799 I want to start the podcast and you can go 352 00:17:05.880 --> 00:17:10.400 back and listen to episodes from then. That would have 353 00:17:10.400 --> 00:17:13.680 been twenty twenty, but the two seventeen app. Actually our 354 00:17:13.720 --> 00:17:15.920 website does too, but you have to scroll back kind 355 00:17:15.920 --> 00:17:17.400 of far. But if you have the two seventeen app, 356 00:17:17.440 --> 00:17:20.720 you can go back pretty easy. But joey'soun some of them. 357 00:17:20.720 --> 00:17:23.240 I think punching a kangaroo was one of them. I 358 00:17:23.279 --> 00:17:24.880 think that was the name of the episode, something about 359 00:17:24.880 --> 00:17:29.319 punching a kangaroo. Do you know what that means? No? Okay, good, 360 00:17:29.359 --> 00:17:33.400 I'm not telling you that's great? Are my employee? I 361 00:17:33.440 --> 00:17:34.839 can't do that, that's good? 362 00:17:35.079 --> 00:17:38.839 I don't think I I can only imagine. 363 00:17:39.440 --> 00:17:42.160 Ask your husband, Jesse. I didn't even know it until 364 00:17:42.279 --> 00:17:44.920 they I was like, what, and there's not? Oh okay, 365 00:17:45.720 --> 00:17:47.640 but yeah, go back and listen to that one punching 366 00:17:47.680 --> 00:17:49.160 the clown or punch the clown. 367 00:17:48.880 --> 00:17:52.480 Something like that clown or kangaroo. 368 00:17:53.400 --> 00:17:56.039 Those two of them. Because Chris talked about punching the kangaroo. 369 00:17:56.839 --> 00:17:58.480 I think it was the clown punching the clown. 370 00:18:00.440 --> 00:18:02.240 I guess I think I'm gonna go back and listen 371 00:18:02.279 --> 00:18:06.279 to it first. Well, I get never. I'll just listen 372 00:18:06.359 --> 00:18:11.559 to it. Go from there, get home, put it on 373 00:18:11.640 --> 00:18:15.599 while I'm taking a nice crap cleaning or cleaning. 374 00:18:16.400 --> 00:18:17.519 Let's put it in my earpod. 375 00:18:17.599 --> 00:18:20.200 How come women don't talk about crapping as much as 376 00:18:20.240 --> 00:18:20.559 men do. 377 00:18:22.640 --> 00:18:26.119 I don't know, because it's just crapping, like you just 378 00:18:26.359 --> 00:18:27.799 go and take a shit and you're out. 379 00:18:29.480 --> 00:18:32.160 I mean, I have four dogs staring at me. 380 00:18:33.319 --> 00:18:34.519 Take your dogs in the bathroom with you. 381 00:18:35.039 --> 00:18:39.119 They bust the door down. So it's just. 382 00:18:40.559 --> 00:18:43.480 It's like, come on, when as soon as I get home, 383 00:18:43.559 --> 00:18:47.200 I have four dogs following me everywhere. 384 00:18:48.519 --> 00:18:49.720 I have a one year old that does that. 385 00:18:51.160 --> 00:18:51.279 Well. 386 00:18:51.279 --> 00:18:53.119 I used to have just a child in the bathroom 387 00:18:53.160 --> 00:18:56.200 staring at me too, and then she would get you know, 388 00:18:56.240 --> 00:19:00.680 because now you're stuck on the toilet pooping, and now 389 00:19:00.720 --> 00:19:02.079 she's pulling things out. 390 00:19:01.880 --> 00:19:04.200 Of the drawers and the bottom of the cupboards. 391 00:19:04.279 --> 00:19:08.079 And I'm glad we finally got to the bottom of 392 00:19:08.079 --> 00:19:12.480 why women don't talk about pooping obviously, because they're worried 393 00:19:12.480 --> 00:19:13.960 about all the other stuff that's gonna go wrong. They 394 00:19:14.000 --> 00:19:16.839 got to get in now, especially once. 395 00:19:16.680 --> 00:19:20.920 You become a mom, you're unless someone else is either 396 00:19:21.000 --> 00:19:23.079 home with you. I mean, you can't even trust when 397 00:19:23.079 --> 00:19:23.640 they're sleeping. 398 00:19:24.400 --> 00:19:28.839 Does that make Does that make women not stereotyping men 399 00:19:28.960 --> 00:19:32.440 by assuming all men take forever in the bathroom. But 400 00:19:32.519 --> 00:19:36.160 I gotta check my fantasy, you know, I gotta that's 401 00:19:36.240 --> 00:19:39.640