Speaker 1: Fifty bloods fifty plus fifty plus.
Speaker 2: We're gonna continue the theme. We're talking about what I'm
Speaker 2: what I'm going through. It's just it's his age appropriate.
Speaker 2: So I had to cancel my trip to Indiana. I'm
Speaker 2: gonna go later. But it took cares of stuff with
Speaker 2: my mom and my daughter. So the sandwich generation that continues.
Speaker 2: The thing for my mom, which is much more important
Speaker 2: than what's going on my daughter is I'm not I
Speaker 2: mean my daughter's going through her mom's dead that I'm
Speaker 2: not saying it's not important. That's clear, straightforward. There's a funeral.
Speaker 2: I'm going to go support her and be there. My
Speaker 2: mom's things are more complicated because either because she's not
Speaker 2: eating so and not sleeping well enough, she's not get
Speaker 2: enough nutrients that her either that or some kind of
Speaker 2: dementia setting in not sure old age stuff. It's a
Speaker 2: lot that goes that that's going into this right now
Speaker 2: that I can't diagnose it on my own, and so
Speaker 2: I had this. So I had a really bad episode
Speaker 2: with my mom the other day where she's mumbling stuff
Speaker 2: that thinks that she's done and I didn't know about.
Speaker 2: I'm trying to help with her finances, take over things,
Speaker 2: gonna help her our stuff, and she names he She's like,
Speaker 2: but when I did this, like what did you do?
Speaker 1: And when I got this in the mail, what'd you get? Like?
Speaker 1: There's things she's not telling me.
Speaker 2: I thought she was telling me, So I'm like, are
Speaker 2: you So I don't know if she's purposely not telling
Speaker 2: me or she just forgets. And there's some major stuff
Speaker 2: she's mentioning in the mumblings of her talking. So I've
Speaker 2: had to jump in, like, okay, I don't get even staying.
Speaker 2: Find those papers, find what she's talking about, so I
Speaker 2: can see what's going on, give her idea because I
Speaker 2: want her being taken advantage of. I want something weird happening,
Speaker 2: like I k I of want to that stuff happening
Speaker 2: to her not at all. That's not that's not cool.
Speaker 2: So I'm trying to figure that out. Another thing too,
Speaker 2: that is that has happened. So he went to have
Speaker 2: the doctor visit. We had a we had a teleconference
Speaker 2: doctor visit so to zoom, which was great. It wasn't
Speaker 2: her regular doctor, but this doctor was great. She was great.
Speaker 1: She was like, oh my god, James, you you.
Speaker 2: You know your stuff I said, well, I'm a I'm
Speaker 2: a I'm an ex nurse, not practicing anybody.
Speaker 1: I'm next nurse.
Speaker 2: I know, I know a few things and so, but
Speaker 2: I know I'm not a doctor. I don't take a fence.
Speaker 1: To it at all. I'm not.
Speaker 2: And she wanted to talk to a doctor. I mean
Speaker 2: where my mother wants just gi a term. So she's
Speaker 2: we were there together. My mother's compreating some stuff and
Speaker 2: it's like she's like, Okay, we're having a good moment.
Speaker 1: She's kind of copreating things. You know.
Speaker 2: I had to jump in a couple of times to
Speaker 2: express what was going on. We can't get her words
Speaker 2: together a little bit.
Speaker 1: I'm a deal.
Speaker 2: So the doctor understands and says, well, let's rule out
Speaker 2: anything physical, just just just can rule out. She has Kaisers.
Speaker 2: She's a great insurance. I don't care for Kaiser, but
Speaker 2: she has great insurance for her.
Speaker 1: And is it good.
Speaker 2: So we're gonna get the siscate lab and chess ray.
Speaker 2: So that's blood work and chess ray, chests X ray
Speaker 2: and then doctor Mary. So I had set all that up.
Speaker 2: I set all that up. Also had to find rides
Speaker 2: for her. Who can who in the family could take
Speaker 2: her on this day. I'm around town first now im not,
Speaker 2: but it was it was a lot of I felt
Speaker 2: like I was just everything I was doing was for her,
Speaker 2: which in turn is kind of for all of us
Speaker 2: in the family because weird ones will be affected by
Speaker 2: whatever you know.
Speaker 1: By her, you know what I mean. So I sent
Speaker 1: her information.
Speaker 2: And I call she calls me, was that a Starbucks?
Speaker 1: Working on the stuff?
Speaker 2: And she is saying some oft the wall stuff too
Speaker 2: that I don't even know what she's talking about. She's
Speaker 2: not she's not having her senses are complete. She's all
Speaker 2: over the place, and so I tried to so when
Speaker 2: she gets like that, I try to get a deep breath,
Speaker 2: and it's a go okay, let me say. I try
Speaker 2: to cipher what she's saying. And there was one point
Speaker 2: she was like, you know, you get thirty dollars. I'm
Speaker 2: like thirty dollars, Like you get thirty are you gonna
Speaker 2: send back thirty dollars?
Speaker 1: Like what do you?
Speaker 2: I don't know what you're talking about. And I taught
Speaker 2: me Rake very just nice about like girls. So I
Speaker 2: don't know what you're talking about. What do you can
Speaker 2: you slow just slow down? Ticket deeper out to tell
Speaker 2: me what you and tell you what's going on. Sometimes
Speaker 2: it works and I go, oh, okay, and I'll tell
Speaker 2: her as long as it's like still confusing.
Speaker 1: It great.
Speaker 2: Ten minutes I realized she got in her mind somewhere
Speaker 2: that I needed thirty bucks and I asked her for it,
Speaker 2: and she said it to me and I never did.
Speaker 1: It's okay.
Speaker 2: And then I said, okay, I didn't that to my
Speaker 2: account later and there were thirty bucks in there. I mean,
Speaker 2: I turned back. I mean we're all sharing money. I
Speaker 2: share money with her whatever. So I was like, I
Speaker 2: was like, okay, is thirty bucks whatever? And then I
Speaker 2: told her, but I said, I sent her a text
Speaker 2: with her dots departments coming up. She didn't, you know,
Speaker 2: she didn't understand the text. She was like getting in.
Speaker 2: She was getting confused on the phone, getting frustrated. Don't
Speaker 2: you give I don't get frustrated. It's okay. Maybe we're
Speaker 2: giving you, he said, Maybe I'm giving you. I try
Speaker 2: to be really nice.
Speaker 1: Spot. Maybe we're giving you too many numbers. But I'm
Speaker 1: talking too fast. It's fine. I slow it down.
Speaker 2: I go, we're going to a doctor on this day
Speaker 2: for your labs and we're going on the doctor on
Speaker 2: this day with this, I said, oh about you, and
Speaker 2: she still wasn't getting it. So I was like, it's fine,
Speaker 2: said that's why. That's why I said, I want to stay.
Speaker 2: I'm gonna go with you so I can tell them,
Speaker 2: which they also have on their records too, but make
Speaker 2: sure that he give what she needs to have done.
Speaker 1: I know. It's like.
Speaker 2: So I'm just like okay, and I said, I'm learning
Speaker 2: that I have to kind of because yes, it was
Speaker 2: a hard day for me. And uh, because she's a hoarder.
Speaker 2: So I looking at her house and I'm like, I
Speaker 2: stopped working on it for two years. I used to
Speaker 2: working all the time. But I said, I'm done. I
Speaker 2: look at it. I'm like, it's overwhelming.
Speaker 1: I give all my clients fall apart, and I have
Speaker 1: to say I felt the same way. I collect myself
Speaker 1: and we moved on.
Speaker 2: But so I'm trying to cry on space for her so
Speaker 2: she can walk with her walker and not fall and
Speaker 2: all this stuff. And I threw out a bunch of stuff.
Speaker 2: I mean I threw out a bunch of empty boxes,
Speaker 2: empty bags, and you you just do not need them now.
Speaker 2: Our Comma. I will say this. I'm a bag lady myself.
Speaker 2: I like bags, and I just I just know that
Speaker 2: there are certain there are there's some nice bags out there,
Speaker 2: so I try to I have to watch myself too.
Speaker 2: I fully admit on what bags are keep in donkey
Speaker 2: because it's like it could be too much.
Speaker 1: So there's that.
Speaker 2: It's just tough because my business is doing very well
Speaker 2: and moving up.
Speaker 1: It comes to when it comes to.
Speaker 2: Let's recall it, Uh my got my blank off is
Speaker 2: and my personal life kind of sucks. So I saw
Speaker 2: I'm goodding back and exists at the same time, up
Speaker 2: and down sat the same time. So that's what I'm
Speaker 2: dealing with right now. And I think at this age
Speaker 2: a lot of my friends are going through the same thing.
Speaker 1: So it's not just me.
Speaker 2: We're all kind of going through it like a mother
Speaker 2: or a father or an uncle or you know, something
Speaker 2: like that, plus our own lives and so it's it's
Speaker 2: it's a it's a trip every day. I'm trying to
Speaker 2: figure it out. Just say it was rough today, I'm better,
Speaker 2: tomorrow can be rough again. Uh, that's just kind of
Speaker 2: how it is. I bought Barbaristris sends a new album,
Speaker 2: so I'm I going to put it in a listen to.
Speaker 2: It's called Partners, Volume to You The Secret of Life,
Speaker 2: and she has Paul McCartney, Sam Smith, Bob Dylan, Ran
Speaker 2: carry On and Grande, James Taylor Sting.
Speaker 1: See.
Speaker 2: I can't wait to listen to this, so that makes
Speaker 2: me happy at least a new Barb, a new Barb
Speaker 2: rock album.
Speaker 1: Yes, but we're working it out. We're gonna try.
Speaker 2: I have a life coaching client yesterday and we had
Speaker 2: a really great session and I always learned from my
Speaker 2: client's officer at the same time through their situations and
Speaker 2: it's a great exchange.
Speaker 1: I love it. That's it. I guess that's it.
Speaker 2: I'm James lad here for this week Q posting what's
Speaker 2: going on. It's just it's a roller coaster ride being
Speaker 2: fifty plus, isn't it.
Speaker 1: Bye.