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<v Speaker 1>Fifty bloods fifty plus fifty plus.

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<v Speaker 2>We're gonna continue the theme. We're talking about what I'm

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<v Speaker 2>what I'm going through. It's just it's his age appropriate.

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<v Speaker 2>So I had to cancel my trip to Indiana. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>gonna go later. But it took cares of stuff with

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<v Speaker 2>my mom and my daughter. So the sandwich generation that continues.

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<v Speaker 2>The thing for my mom, which is much more important

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<v Speaker 2>than what's going on my daughter is I'm not I

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<v Speaker 2>mean my daughter's going through her mom's dead that I'm

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<v Speaker 2>not saying it's not important. That's clear, straightforward. There's a funeral.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm going to go support her and be there. My

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<v Speaker 2>mom's things are more complicated because either because she's not

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<v Speaker 2>eating so and not sleeping well enough, she's not get

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<v Speaker 2>enough nutrients that her either that or some kind of

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<v Speaker 2>dementia setting in not sure old age stuff. It's a

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<v Speaker 2>lot that goes that that's going into this right now

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<v Speaker 2>that I can't diagnose it on my own, and so

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<v Speaker 2>I had this. So I had a really bad episode

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<v Speaker 2>with my mom the other day where she's mumbling stuff

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<v Speaker 2>that thinks that she's done and I didn't know about.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm trying to help with her finances, take over things,

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<v Speaker 2>gonna help her our stuff, and she names he She's like,

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<v Speaker 2>but when I did this, like what did you do?

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<v Speaker 1>And when I got this in the mail, what'd you get? Like?

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<v Speaker 1>There's things she's not telling me.

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<v Speaker 2>I thought she was telling me, So I'm like, are

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<v Speaker 2>you So I don't know if she's purposely not telling

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<v Speaker 2>me or she just forgets. And there's some major stuff

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<v Speaker 2>she's mentioning in the mumblings of her talking. So I've

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<v Speaker 2>had to jump in, like, okay, I don't get even staying.

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<v Speaker 2>Find those papers, find what she's talking about, so I

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<v Speaker 2>can see what's going on, give her idea because I

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<v Speaker 2>want her being taken advantage of. I want something weird happening,

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<v Speaker 2>like I k I of want to that stuff happening

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<v Speaker 2>to her not at all. That's not that's not cool.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm trying to figure that out. Another thing too,

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<v Speaker 2>that is that has happened. So he went to have

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<v Speaker 2>the doctor visit. We had a we had a teleconference

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<v Speaker 2>doctor visit so to zoom, which was great. It wasn't

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<v Speaker 2>her regular doctor, but this doctor was great. She was great.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, oh my god, James, you you.

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<v Speaker 2>You know your stuff I said, well, I'm a I'm

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<v Speaker 2>a I'm an ex nurse, not practicing anybody.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm next nurse.

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<v Speaker 2>I know, I know a few things and so, but

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<v Speaker 2>I know I'm not a doctor. I don't take a fence.

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<v Speaker 1>To it at all. I'm not.

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<v Speaker 2>And she wanted to talk to a doctor. I mean

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<v Speaker 2>where my mother wants just gi a term. So she's

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<v Speaker 2>we were there together. My mother's compreating some stuff and

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<v Speaker 2>it's like she's like, Okay, we're having a good moment.

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<v Speaker 1>She's kind of copreating things. You know.

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<v Speaker 2>I had to jump in a couple of times to

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<v Speaker 2>express what was going on. We can't get her words

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<v Speaker 2>together a little bit.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a deal.

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<v Speaker 2>So the doctor understands and says, well, let's rule out

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<v Speaker 2>anything physical, just just just can rule out. She has Kaisers.

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<v Speaker 2>She's a great insurance. I don't care for Kaiser, but

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<v Speaker 2>she has great insurance for her.

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<v Speaker 1>And is it good.

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<v Speaker 2>So we're gonna get the siscate lab and chess ray.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's blood work and chess ray, chests X ray

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<v Speaker 2>and then doctor Mary. So I had set all that up.

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<v Speaker 2>I set all that up. Also had to find rides

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<v Speaker 2>for her. Who can who in the family could take

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<v Speaker 2>her on this day. I'm around town first now im not,

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<v Speaker 2>but it was it was a lot of I felt

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<v Speaker 2>like I was just everything I was doing was for her,

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<v Speaker 2>which in turn is kind of for all of us

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<v Speaker 2>in the family because weird ones will be affected by

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<v Speaker 2>whatever you know.

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<v Speaker 1>By her, you know what I mean. So I sent

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<v Speaker 1>her information.

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<v Speaker 2>And I call she calls me, was that a Starbucks?

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<v Speaker 1>Working on the stuff?

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<v Speaker 2>And she is saying some oft the wall stuff too

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<v Speaker 2>that I don't even know what she's talking about. She's

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<v Speaker 2>not she's not having her senses are complete. She's all

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<v Speaker 2>over the place, and so I tried to so when

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<v Speaker 2>she gets like that, I try to get a deep breath,

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<v Speaker 2>and it's a go okay, let me say. I try

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<v Speaker 2>to cipher what she's saying. And there was one point

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<v Speaker 2>she was like, you know, you get thirty dollars. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>like thirty dollars, Like you get thirty are you gonna

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<v Speaker 2>send back thirty dollars?

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<v Speaker 1>Like what do you?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know what you're talking about. And I taught

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<v Speaker 2>me Rake very just nice about like girls. So I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know what you're talking about. What do you can

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<v Speaker 2>you slow just slow down? Ticket deeper out to tell

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<v Speaker 2>me what you and tell you what's going on. Sometimes

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<v Speaker 2>it works and I go, oh, okay, and I'll tell

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<v Speaker 2>her as long as it's like still confusing.

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<v Speaker 1>It great.

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<v Speaker 2>Ten minutes I realized she got in her mind somewhere

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<v Speaker 2>that I needed thirty bucks and I asked her for it,

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<v Speaker 2>and she said it to me and I never did.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I said, okay, I didn't that to my

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<v Speaker 2>account later and there were thirty bucks in there. I mean,

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<v Speaker 2>I turned back. I mean we're all sharing money. I

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<v Speaker 2>share money with her whatever. So I was like, I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, okay, is thirty bucks whatever? And then I

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<v Speaker 2>told her, but I said, I sent her a text

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<v Speaker 2>with her dots departments coming up. She didn't, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>she didn't understand the text. She was like getting in.

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<v Speaker 2>She was getting confused on the phone, getting frustrated. Don't

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<v Speaker 2>you give I don't get frustrated. It's okay. Maybe we're

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<v Speaker 2>giving you, he said, Maybe I'm giving you. I try

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<v Speaker 2>to be really nice.

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<v Speaker 1>Spot. Maybe we're giving you too many numbers. But I'm

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<v Speaker 1>talking too fast. It's fine. I slow it down.

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<v Speaker 2>I go, we're going to a doctor on this day

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<v Speaker 2>for your labs and we're going on the doctor on

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<v Speaker 2>this day with this, I said, oh about you, and

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<v Speaker 2>she still wasn't getting it. So I was like, it's fine,

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<v Speaker 2>said that's why. That's why I said, I want to stay.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm gonna go with you so I can tell them,

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<v Speaker 2>which they also have on their records too, but make

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<v Speaker 2>sure that he give what she needs to have done.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. It's like.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm just like okay, and I said, I'm learning

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<v Speaker 2>that I have to kind of because yes, it was

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<v Speaker 2>a hard day for me. And uh, because she's a hoarder.

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<v Speaker 2>So I looking at her house and I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 2>stopped working on it for two years. I used to

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<v Speaker 2>working all the time. But I said, I'm done. I

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<v Speaker 2>look at it. I'm like, it's overwhelming.

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<v Speaker 1>I give all my clients fall apart, and I have

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<v Speaker 1>to say I felt the same way. I collect myself

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<v Speaker 1>and we moved on.

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<v Speaker 2>But so I'm trying to cry on space for her so

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<v Speaker 2>she can walk with her walker and not fall and

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<v Speaker 2>all this stuff. And I threw out a bunch of stuff.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I threw out a bunch of empty boxes,

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<v Speaker 2>empty bags, and you you just do not need them now.

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<v Speaker 2>Our Comma. I will say this. I'm a bag lady myself.

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<v Speaker 2>I like bags, and I just I just know that

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<v Speaker 2>there are certain there are there's some nice bags out there,

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<v Speaker 2>so I try to I have to watch myself too.

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<v Speaker 2>I fully admit on what bags are keep in donkey

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<v Speaker 2>because it's like it could be too much.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's that.

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<v Speaker 2>It's just tough because my business is doing very well

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<v Speaker 2>and moving up.

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<v Speaker 1>It comes to when it comes to.

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<v Speaker 2>Let's recall it, Uh my got my blank off is

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<v Speaker 2>and my personal life kind of sucks. So I saw

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<v Speaker 2>I'm goodding back and exists at the same time, up

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<v Speaker 2>and down sat the same time. So that's what I'm

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<v Speaker 2>dealing with right now. And I think at this age

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of my friends are going through the same thing.

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<v Speaker 1>So it's not just me.

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<v Speaker 2>We're all kind of going through it like a mother

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<v Speaker 2>or a father or an uncle or you know, something

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<v Speaker 2>like that, plus our own lives and so it's it's

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<v Speaker 2>it's a it's a trip every day. I'm trying to

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<v Speaker 2>figure it out. Just say it was rough today, I'm better,

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<v Speaker 2>tomorrow can be rough again. Uh, that's just kind of

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<v Speaker 2>how it is. I bought Barbaristris sends a new album,

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<v Speaker 2>so I'm I going to put it in a listen to.

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<v Speaker 2>It's called Partners, Volume to You The Secret of Life,

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<v Speaker 2>and she has Paul McCartney, Sam Smith, Bob Dylan, Ran

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<v Speaker 2>carry On and Grande, James Taylor Sting.

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<v Speaker 1>See.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't wait to listen to this, so that makes

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<v Speaker 2>me happy at least a new Barb, a new Barb

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<v Speaker 2>rock album.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, but we're working it out. We're gonna try.

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<v Speaker 2>I have a life coaching client yesterday and we had

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<v Speaker 2>a really great session and I always learned from my

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<v Speaker 2>client's officer at the same time through their situations and

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<v Speaker 2>it's a great exchange.

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<v Speaker 1>I love it. That's it. I guess that's it.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm James lad here for this week Q posting what's

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<v Speaker 2>going on. It's just it's a roller coaster ride being

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<v Speaker 2>fifty plus, isn't it.

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<v Speaker 1>Bye.