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<v Speaker 1>Every morning we all look in the mirror to get

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<v Speaker 1>ready to go to work, to go anywhere. The first

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<v Speaker 1>thing you see is your reflection. If you don't like

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<v Speaker 1>what you see in the morning, you lost the war

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<v Speaker 1>or ready. It's not even liking what you see. It's

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<v Speaker 1>about looking in the mirror, and you may start I

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<v Speaker 1>feel different that reflection maybe not. That reflection is not everything.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a feeling you're supposed to get in life. Once

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<v Speaker 1>you leave your house, the war begins in your house.

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<v Speaker 1>You have some control, and that reflects in that mirror.

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<v Speaker 1>You have to control that reflection in the mirror. That's

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<v Speaker 1>how you start your day and leave your house feeling like, Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>I can fight. I've established the mentality to fight.

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<v Speaker 2>You have to.

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<v Speaker 3>Discover what your values are. It's part of the reason

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<v Speaker 3>why I think that you need to tell the truth,

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<v Speaker 3>because you're forced to negotiate with yourself to operate properly

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<v Speaker 3>in the world. And if you've worked yourself, let's say,

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<v Speaker 3>or some elements of yourself by engaging in self deception,

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<v Speaker 3>lies and you're not now because of that, you're not

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<v Speaker 3>who you could be, and you don't live in the

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<v Speaker 3>world as you should live in it. Then when you

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<v Speaker 3>discuss with yourself what your value should be, it will

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<v Speaker 3>be as if you're discussing it with someone that you

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<v Speaker 3>can't trust.

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<v Speaker 4>You're haunted by all the opportunities that you missed by

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<v Speaker 4>not bringing your best at that time when you could

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<v Speaker 4>have won. That you didn't win because you allow life

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<v Speaker 4>to interfere with that one shot. That's greatness. Greatness is

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<v Speaker 4>your recall. Greatness is being so aware of the time

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<v Speaker 4>of life and the second that went by and you

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<v Speaker 4>can recall like it was yesterday. Greatness is being able

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<v Speaker 4>to go back there and not making that saying as

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<v Speaker 4>dake it did, and being haunted by it.

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<v Speaker 2>That is greatness.

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<v Speaker 5>Most people go through life never discovering what the talents are.

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<v Speaker 5>Most people never develop their talents to have skills and abilities.

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<v Speaker 5>But if you don't nurture them, if you don't develop them,

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<v Speaker 5>they will never serve you. Your gifts can take you

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<v Speaker 5>many places if you develop your gifts.

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<v Speaker 2>The best guests come from the bottom.

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<v Speaker 6>I value myself enough to give one hundred and twenty

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<v Speaker 6>percent or don't do it, and that.

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<v Speaker 5>If you decide that my life deserves my developing this

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<v Speaker 5>what I do?

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<v Speaker 7>Well, why are you only giving fifty percent.

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<v Speaker 5>What's wrong with you? I grant you that if you

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<v Speaker 5>begin to work to develop your gifts, you develop a

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<v Speaker 5>strong sense of happiness, you'll get a larger vision of yourself.

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<v Speaker 5>Because part of beginning to get a larger vision of yourself,

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<v Speaker 5>all of us need some area of our lives where

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<v Speaker 5>we can have a feeling of competence when other folk

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<v Speaker 5>are having a good time. You've got to have the

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<v Speaker 5>strength of character.

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<v Speaker 4>Rise, rise up with a full heart, rise that when

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<v Speaker 4>you're in.

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<v Speaker 6>Sand it, rise up from the excuses, rise up with

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<v Speaker 6>the wheal power and understand it. Then it's nothing to

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<v Speaker 6>do to make a difference.

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<v Speaker 8>People want to feel that the effort that they're exerting

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<v Speaker 8>actually are moving somewhere, and so successful measurement, successful recognition

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<v Speaker 8>is not just for the steps you take. It's not

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<v Speaker 8>just for the effort. It's that the effort you exerted

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<v Speaker 8>and moved us closer to where we're trying to get to,

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<v Speaker 8>and that get to should be some crazy ideal.

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<v Speaker 9>The magnitude of the reward you experience as you're moving

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<v Speaker 9>towards a goal is proportionate to the importance of the goal.

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<v Speaker 9>So that means the more important the goal you pick,

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<v Speaker 9>the more possibility there is for that is life affirming.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't really want to get up and get out of bed,

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<v Speaker 2>or get up and get out of bed. I don't

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<v Speaker 2>really want to work out, I work out. I really

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to hammer on a project. I hammer on

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<v Speaker 2>the project now. As an overall rule, I do not

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<v Speaker 2>like procrastination. You need to get things done.

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<v Speaker 7>What's that thing for you? That thing you've been wanting

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<v Speaker 7>to do for a while?

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<v Speaker 1>Now? Have you died?

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<v Speaker 4>No?

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<v Speaker 7>Well, I'm just here with a friendly reminder that nobody

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<v Speaker 7>will do it for you. If you're waiting for others

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<v Speaker 7>to share the same convictions as you before you act

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<v Speaker 7>on it, you'll be waiting for a very long time

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<v Speaker 7>time that will render your desires to act on your

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<v Speaker 7>dream is useless if you keep putting it top. Stop

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<v Speaker 7>waiting on other people or the perfect conditions in order

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<v Speaker 7>to start something that passion you want to pursue. The

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<v Speaker 7>longer you think about it without doing, the more you

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<v Speaker 7>get used to action. And the more you get used

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<v Speaker 7>to an action, the easier it is for the dream

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<v Speaker 7>you once had to slip.

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<v Speaker 1>Out of your eyes.

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<v Speaker 7>So sacrifice for what you want before what you want

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<v Speaker 7>becomes a sacrifice.

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<v Speaker 10>Don't have time to regret me. We move on because

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<v Speaker 10>we are acceptable for what we are. I don't probably

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<v Speaker 10>think we should be. I'm accepted in myself by what

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<v Speaker 10>I am, but not as I think I should be.

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<v Speaker 10>Because that's a lot.

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<v Speaker 9>You can use your sense of meaning to calibrate your

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<v Speaker 9>progress through life, but there's rules. You have to aim

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<v Speaker 9>at the highest possible good that you can conceive. Start

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<v Speaker 9>by aiming at the star you can see, rather than

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<v Speaker 9>the dimmer one that you can't yet perceive.

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<v Speaker 5>People that are hungry or willing to do the things

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<v Speaker 5>inday others won't do in order to have the things

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<v Speaker 5>tomorrow others won't have it.

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<v Speaker 6>Once you get to that point, you cannot be broken anymore.

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<v Speaker 7>Fine that readson a wake up every day and go

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<v Speaker 7>get it.

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<v Speaker 2>Everybody's gotta dream, everybody got to go.

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<v Speaker 9>But when you write your.

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<v Speaker 8>Why down, what your why does?

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<v Speaker 5>When you are saying you can't quit, you can't give up, you.

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<v Speaker 2>Can't stop, you don't.

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<v Speaker 5>Need to tell you that you owe yourself.

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<v Speaker 11>Your life won't change unless you change. You were put

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<v Speaker 11>on this earth to do great things. I strongly believe

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<v Speaker 11>that all of us were put here to uplift ourselves

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<v Speaker 11>and others and experience joy every single day of our lives.

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<v Speaker 11>I think many of us have gotten distracted by the

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<v Speaker 11>many perceived problems of the world, and in doing so,

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<v Speaker 11>we have taken our focus away from the positive possibilities.

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<v Speaker 11>We can't discover solutions by focusing on problems, and so

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<v Speaker 11>it comes down to one thing. We must choose to

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<v Speaker 11>direct our energy towards positive outcomes. It's the only way

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<v Speaker 11>to create positive results. As you gain new experiences and

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<v Speaker 11>continue to focus on improving yourself, you will slowly evolve

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<v Speaker 11>into a greater version of yourself. However, this process never stops.

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<v Speaker 11>There is no end to your growth. It is important

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<v Speaker 11>to avoid viewing your efforts as a miss means to

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<v Speaker 11>an end, because that will make it very difficult for

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<v Speaker 11>you to enjoy the process called life. Having a destination

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<v Speaker 11>in mind is very important, but try to see that

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<v Speaker 11>destination as a stepping stone rather than a final destination.

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<v Speaker 11>The good news is that life does get easier as

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<v Speaker 11>long as you continually force yourself to improve. There will

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<v Speaker 11>come a time when it will seem as if your

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<v Speaker 11>efforts have culminated to a final resting place. That I

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<v Speaker 11>like to call self reliance, but it is actually just

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<v Speaker 11>the place where things become effortless and every moment becomes

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<v Speaker 11>a joy. This is a state that I have been

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<v Speaker 11>referring to as extreme confidence. It is not a cocky,

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<v Speaker 11>arrogant way of being, but rather a state of needing nothing.

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<v Speaker 11>This is what we all desire, whether we consciously know

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<v Speaker 11>it or not. Self reliance is something achieved by very few,

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<v Speaker 11>but it is the mark of true confidence. A self

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<v Speaker 11>reliant person does not feel the need to impress others

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<v Speaker 11>with his or her achievements or knowledge. A self reliant

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<v Speaker 11>person feels whole and complete and does things for no

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<v Speaker 11>other reason than wanting to do them. Self reliance could

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<v Speaker 11>be described as a lack of ego. This doesn't imply

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<v Speaker 11>that a self reliant person is completely enlightened, although they

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<v Speaker 11>might be, but rather goes to explain that they have

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<v Speaker 11>reached a point where they are at peace with themselves.

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<v Speaker 11>This is what most of us really want. When you

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<v Speaker 11>realize that each area of your life affects each and

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<v Speaker 11>every other area of your life, you will feel empowered

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<v Speaker 11>and motivated to take more action. Even the smallest improvement

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<v Speaker 11>in one area of your life. Will improve other areas

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<v Speaker 11>of your life that seem totally unrelated. For example, the

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<v Speaker 11>food you put in your body affects the chemistry of

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<v Speaker 11>your brain and makes you feel happy and more energetic.

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<v Speaker 11>An increase in mood and energy can potentially benefit your

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<v Speaker 11>social life because you will act more outgoing and enthusiastic.

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<v Speaker 11>People will want to be around you more because of

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<v Speaker 11>your positive energy, which could potentially lead to a career

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<v Speaker 11>opportunity of some sort, which in turn benefits your financial situation,

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<v Speaker 11>which in turn makes you even happier and more positive,

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<v Speaker 11>which leads you to make even better choices. One simple

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<v Speaker 11>decision can change your life forever. Ultimately, you are the

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<v Speaker 11>creator of your own reality. Decisions We make them every day,

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<v Speaker 11>and with every decision we make, good or bad, our

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<v Speaker 11>lives are defined just a little more because decisions ultimately

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<v Speaker 11>shape our destiny. Knowing this, why do some of us

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<v Speaker 11>continue to make questionable decisions. It might seem like the

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<v Speaker 11>proverbial angel and devil on each shoulder, who want to

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<v Speaker 11>sway you in one direction or the other. Every decision

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<v Speaker 11>we make is dependent on our values. We make decisions

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<v Speaker 11>that lean toward pleasure. We also make decisions that move

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<v Speaker 11>us away from things we've determined are not as pleasurable.

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<v Speaker 11>The need to avoid pain and seek pleasure drives everything

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<v Speaker 11>we do. People will do more to avoid pain than

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<v Speaker 11>they will do to gain pleasure. What lengths will we

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<v Speaker 11>go to It all depends on our standards and our focus.

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<v Speaker 11>Better decision making begins with self awareness, the ability to

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<v Speaker 11>identify and express our emotions and thoughts. Learning what drives

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<v Speaker 11>our decisions is the first step toward total control of

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<v Speaker 11>our emotions and lives. There are three surprising factors that

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<v Speaker 11>drive all the decisions we make. What you focus on,

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<v Speaker 11>you feel, and it's what drives decision making like nothing

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<v Speaker 11>else can. Will you make decisions out of fear or

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<v Speaker 11>out of positivity, hope, and love. Will you focus on

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<v Speaker 11>the past and let it define you or will you

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<v Speaker 11>let it go? Every moment of our lives, we're answering

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<v Speaker 11>three crucial questions. The first question is what are you

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<v Speaker 11>going to focus on? Do you focus on what you

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<v Speaker 11>can control or what you can't control? To engage in

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<v Speaker 11>better decision making, we must shift our focus to what

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<v Speaker 11>we can control. Do you focus more on things from

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<v Speaker 11>the past, present, or future to enjoy the moment and

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<v Speaker 11>build an extraordinary future. You must balance between present and future,

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<v Speaker 11>but let go of the past. The second question is

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<v Speaker 11>what meaning will you give to this experience? Is this

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<v Speaker 11>the end or the beginning? Is this a punishment or

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<v Speaker 11>a gift? Meaning is everything, and it defines the third question,

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<v Speaker 11>what am I going to do with this experience? If

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<v Speaker 11>you think you're being punished, going to react in a

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<v Speaker 11>different way than if you're seeing it as a gift.

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<v Speaker 11>You are the architect of your life, and the way

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<v Speaker 11>you choose to experience that life is what drives your decisions.

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<v Speaker 11>Many people think that what drives decision making is a

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<v Speaker 11>matter of self control, but studies have shown that self

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<v Speaker 11>control is either hardwired or it's not, and it can

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<v Speaker 11>be depleted. Therefore, self control is not as reliable as

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<v Speaker 11>our standards. Higher standards lead to better decision making. Raise

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<v Speaker 11>your standards or make a shift in your beliefs and values,

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<v Speaker 11>and then you will make the right choices. When you

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<v Speaker 11>have a decision, whether it's straightforward or complicated, you often

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<v Speaker 11>know what the correct choice is, but what option do

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<v Speaker 11>you choose. The difference between two people who make opposite

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<v Speaker 11>decisions in any given scenario is their own standards to

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<v Speaker 11>write that report, grab that cookie or not. It's all

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<v Speaker 11>dependent on how high your standards are. Ultimately, what drives

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<v Speaker 11>decision making is also linked to the level of hunger

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<v Speaker 11>you have. Achievers, those people who are determined to succeed,

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<v Speaker 11>have a hunger for success and as such will make

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<v Speaker 11>better decisions because their standards are so high. It's not

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<v Speaker 11>self control, it's their high standards that push them forward.

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<v Speaker 11>Achievers use failure to push through instead of letting it

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<v Speaker 11>push them down. Someone on the other end of the

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<v Speaker 11>spectrum might blame their failures on lack of self control,

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<v Speaker 11>but they don't have the hunger or the high level

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<v Speaker 11>of values to push through. However, these values can be learned.

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<v Speaker 11>Raising your standards, values, or beliefs is not as hard

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<v Speaker 11>as it may seem. Did you ever think about where

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<v Speaker 11>your values come from? They come from other people. It's

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<v Speaker 11>said that we take a little pear of everyone we

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<v Speaker 11>have in our lives. You decided to keep the values

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<v Speaker 11>and standards of various people you like, unconsciously modeling them

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<v Speaker 11>and rejecting the values you didn't like. Decision shape destiny,

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<v Speaker 11>and right now you may have a set of standards

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<v Speaker 11>that isn't working for you. You can change them by

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<v Speaker 11>consciously evaluating what drives your decisions, keeping what works, and

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<v Speaker 11>getting rid of what doesn't.