Speaker 1: Every morning we all look in the mirror to get
Speaker 1: ready to go to work, to go anywhere. The first
Speaker 1: thing you see is your reflection. If you don't like
Speaker 1: what you see in the morning, you lost the war
Speaker 1: or ready. It's not even liking what you see. It's
Speaker 1: about looking in the mirror, and you may start I
Speaker 1: feel different that reflection maybe not. That reflection is not everything.
Speaker 1: It's a feeling you're supposed to get in life. Once
Speaker 1: you leave your house, the war begins in your house.
Speaker 1: You have some control, and that reflects in that mirror.
Speaker 1: You have to control that reflection in the mirror. That's
Speaker 1: how you start your day and leave your house feeling like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I can fight. I've established the mentality to fight.
Speaker 2: You have to.
Speaker 3: Discover what your values are. It's part of the reason
Speaker 3: why I think that you need to tell the truth,
Speaker 3: because you're forced to negotiate with yourself to operate properly
Speaker 3: in the world. And if you've worked yourself, let's say,
Speaker 3: or some elements of yourself by engaging in self deception,
Speaker 3: lies and you're not now because of that, you're not
Speaker 3: who you could be, and you don't live in the
Speaker 3: world as you should live in it. Then when you
Speaker 3: discuss with yourself what your value should be, it will
Speaker 3: be as if you're discussing it with someone that you
Speaker 3: can't trust.
Speaker 4: You're haunted by all the opportunities that you missed by
Speaker 4: not bringing your best at that time when you could
Speaker 4: have won. That you didn't win because you allow life
Speaker 4: to interfere with that one shot. That's greatness. Greatness is
Speaker 4: your recall. Greatness is being so aware of the time
Speaker 4: of life and the second that went by and you
Speaker 4: can recall like it was yesterday. Greatness is being able
Speaker 4: to go back there and not making that saying as
Speaker 4: dake it did, and being haunted by it.
Speaker 2: That is greatness.
Speaker 5: Most people go through life never discovering what the talents are.
Speaker 5: Most people never develop their talents to have skills and abilities.
Speaker 5: But if you don't nurture them, if you don't develop them,
Speaker 5: they will never serve you. Your gifts can take you
Speaker 5: many places if you develop your gifts.
Speaker 2: The best guests come from the bottom.
Speaker 6: I value myself enough to give one hundred and twenty
Speaker 6: percent or don't do it, and that.
Speaker 5: If you decide that my life deserves my developing this
Speaker 5: what I do?
Speaker 7: Well, why are you only giving fifty percent.
Speaker 5: What's wrong with you? I grant you that if you
Speaker 5: begin to work to develop your gifts, you develop a
Speaker 5: strong sense of happiness, you'll get a larger vision of yourself.
Speaker 5: Because part of beginning to get a larger vision of yourself,
Speaker 5: all of us need some area of our lives where
Speaker 5: we can have a feeling of competence when other folk
Speaker 5: are having a good time. You've got to have the
Speaker 5: strength of character.
Speaker 4: Rise, rise up with a full heart, rise that when
Speaker 4: you're in.
Speaker 6: Sand it, rise up from the excuses, rise up with
Speaker 6: the wheal power and understand it. Then it's nothing to
Speaker 6: do to make a difference.
Speaker 8: People want to feel that the effort that they're exerting
Speaker 8: actually are moving somewhere, and so successful measurement, successful recognition
Speaker 8: is not just for the steps you take. It's not
Speaker 8: just for the effort. It's that the effort you exerted
Speaker 8: and moved us closer to where we're trying to get to,
Speaker 8: and that get to should be some crazy ideal.
Speaker 9: The magnitude of the reward you experience as you're moving
Speaker 9: towards a goal is proportionate to the importance of the goal.
Speaker 9: So that means the more important the goal you pick,
Speaker 9: the more possibility there is for that is life affirming.
Speaker 2: Don't really want to get up and get out of bed,
Speaker 2: or get up and get out of bed. I don't
Speaker 2: really want to work out, I work out. I really
Speaker 2: don't want to hammer on a project. I hammer on
Speaker 2: the project now. As an overall rule, I do not
Speaker 2: like procrastination. You need to get things done.
Speaker 7: What's that thing for you? That thing you've been wanting
Speaker 7: to do for a while?
Speaker 1: Now? Have you died?
Speaker 4: No?
Speaker 7: Well, I'm just here with a friendly reminder that nobody
Speaker 7: will do it for you. If you're waiting for others
Speaker 7: to share the same convictions as you before you act
Speaker 7: on it, you'll be waiting for a very long time
Speaker 7: time that will render your desires to act on your
Speaker 7: dream is useless if you keep putting it top. Stop
Speaker 7: waiting on other people or the perfect conditions in order
Speaker 7: to start something that passion you want to pursue. The
Speaker 7: longer you think about it without doing, the more you
Speaker 7: get used to action. And the more you get used
Speaker 7: to an action, the easier it is for the dream
Speaker 7: you once had to slip.
Speaker 1: Out of your eyes.
Speaker 7: So sacrifice for what you want before what you want
Speaker 7: becomes a sacrifice.
Speaker 10: Don't have time to regret me. We move on because
Speaker 10: we are acceptable for what we are. I don't probably
Speaker 10: think we should be. I'm accepted in myself by what
Speaker 10: I am, but not as I think I should be.
Speaker 10: Because that's a lot.
Speaker 9: You can use your sense of meaning to calibrate your
Speaker 9: progress through life, but there's rules. You have to aim
Speaker 9: at the highest possible good that you can conceive. Start
Speaker 9: by aiming at the star you can see, rather than
Speaker 9: the dimmer one that you can't yet perceive.
Speaker 5: People that are hungry or willing to do the things
Speaker 5: inday others won't do in order to have the things
Speaker 5: tomorrow others won't have it.
Speaker 6: Once you get to that point, you cannot be broken anymore.
Speaker 7: Fine that readson a wake up every day and go
Speaker 7: get it.
Speaker 2: Everybody's gotta dream, everybody got to go.
Speaker 9: But when you write your.
Speaker 8: Why down, what your why does?
Speaker 5: When you are saying you can't quit, you can't give up, you.
Speaker 2: Can't stop, you don't.
Speaker 5: Need to tell you that you owe yourself.
Speaker 11: Your life won't change unless you change. You were put
Speaker 11: on this earth to do great things. I strongly believe
Speaker 11: that all of us were put here to uplift ourselves
Speaker 11: and others and experience joy every single day of our lives.
Speaker 11: I think many of us have gotten distracted by the
Speaker 11: many perceived problems of the world, and in doing so,
Speaker 11: we have taken our focus away from the positive possibilities.
Speaker 11: We can't discover solutions by focusing on problems, and so
Speaker 11: it comes down to one thing. We must choose to
Speaker 11: direct our energy towards positive outcomes. It's the only way
Speaker 11: to create positive results. As you gain new experiences and
Speaker 11: continue to focus on improving yourself, you will slowly evolve
Speaker 11: into a greater version of yourself. However, this process never stops.
Speaker 11: There is no end to your growth. It is important
Speaker 11: to avoid viewing your efforts as a miss means to
Speaker 11: an end, because that will make it very difficult for
Speaker 11: you to enjoy the process called life. Having a destination
Speaker 11: in mind is very important, but try to see that
Speaker 11: destination as a stepping stone rather than a final destination.
Speaker 11: The good news is that life does get easier as
Speaker 11: long as you continually force yourself to improve. There will
Speaker 11: come a time when it will seem as if your
Speaker 11: efforts have culminated to a final resting place. That I
Speaker 11: like to call self reliance, but it is actually just
Speaker 11: the place where things become effortless and every moment becomes
Speaker 11: a joy. This is a state that I have been
Speaker 11: referring to as extreme confidence. It is not a cocky,
Speaker 11: arrogant way of being, but rather a state of needing nothing.
Speaker 11: This is what we all desire, whether we consciously know
Speaker 11: it or not. Self reliance is something achieved by very few,
Speaker 11: but it is the mark of true confidence. A self
Speaker 11: reliant person does not feel the need to impress others
Speaker 11: with his or her achievements or knowledge. A self reliant
Speaker 11: person feels whole and complete and does things for no
Speaker 11: other reason than wanting to do them. Self reliance could
Speaker 11: be described as a lack of ego. This doesn't imply
Speaker 11: that a self reliant person is completely enlightened, although they
Speaker 11: might be, but rather goes to explain that they have
Speaker 11: reached a point where they are at peace with themselves.
Speaker 11: This is what most of us really want. When you
Speaker 11: realize that each area of your life affects each and
Speaker 11: every other area of your life, you will feel empowered
Speaker 11: and motivated to take more action. Even the smallest improvement
Speaker 11: in one area of your life. Will improve other areas
Speaker 11: of your life that seem totally unrelated. For example, the
Speaker 11: food you put in your body affects the chemistry of
Speaker 11: your brain and makes you feel happy and more energetic.
Speaker 11: An increase in mood and energy can potentially benefit your
Speaker 11: social life because you will act more outgoing and enthusiastic.
Speaker 11: People will want to be around you more because of
Speaker 11: your positive energy, which could potentially lead to a career
Speaker 11: opportunity of some sort, which in turn benefits your financial situation,
Speaker 11: which in turn makes you even happier and more positive,
Speaker 11: which leads you to make even better choices. One simple
Speaker 11: decision can change your life forever. Ultimately, you are the
Speaker 11: creator of your own reality. Decisions We make them every day,
Speaker 11: and with every decision we make, good or bad, our
Speaker 11: lives are defined just a little more because decisions ultimately
Speaker 11: shape our destiny. Knowing this, why do some of us
Speaker 11: continue to make questionable decisions. It might seem like the
Speaker 11: proverbial angel and devil on each shoulder, who want to
Speaker 11: sway you in one direction or the other. Every decision
Speaker 11: we make is dependent on our values. We make decisions
Speaker 11: that lean toward pleasure. We also make decisions that move
Speaker 11: us away from things we've determined are not as pleasurable.
Speaker 11: The need to avoid pain and seek pleasure drives everything
Speaker 11: we do. People will do more to avoid pain than
Speaker 11: they will do to gain pleasure. What lengths will we
Speaker 11: go to It all depends on our standards and our focus.
Speaker 11: Better decision making begins with self awareness, the ability to
Speaker 11: identify and express our emotions and thoughts. Learning what drives
Speaker 11: our decisions is the first step toward total control of
Speaker 11: our emotions and lives. There are three surprising factors that
Speaker 11: drive all the decisions we make. What you focus on,
Speaker 11: you feel, and it's what drives decision making like nothing
Speaker 11: else can. Will you make decisions out of fear or
Speaker 11: out of positivity, hope, and love. Will you focus on
Speaker 11: the past and let it define you or will you
Speaker 11: let it go? Every moment of our lives, we're answering
Speaker 11: three crucial questions. The first question is what are you
Speaker 11: going to focus on? Do you focus on what you
Speaker 11: can control or what you can't control? To engage in
Speaker 11: better decision making, we must shift our focus to what
Speaker 11: we can control. Do you focus more on things from
Speaker 11: the past, present, or future to enjoy the moment and
Speaker 11: build an extraordinary future. You must balance between present and future,
Speaker 11: but let go of the past. The second question is
Speaker 11: what meaning will you give to this experience? Is this
Speaker 11: the end or the beginning? Is this a punishment or
Speaker 11: a gift? Meaning is everything, and it defines the third question,
Speaker 11: what am I going to do with this experience? If
Speaker 11: you think you're being punished, going to react in a
Speaker 11: different way than if you're seeing it as a gift.
Speaker 11: You are the architect of your life, and the way
Speaker 11: you choose to experience that life is what drives your decisions.
Speaker 11: Many people think that what drives decision making is a
Speaker 11: matter of self control, but studies have shown that self
Speaker 11: control is either hardwired or it's not, and it can
Speaker 11: be depleted. Therefore, self control is not as reliable as
Speaker 11: our standards. Higher standards lead to better decision making. Raise
Speaker 11: your standards or make a shift in your beliefs and values,
Speaker 11: and then you will make the right choices. When you
Speaker 11: have a decision, whether it's straightforward or complicated, you often
Speaker 11: know what the correct choice is, but what option do
Speaker 11: you choose. The difference between two people who make opposite
Speaker 11: decisions in any given scenario is their own standards to
Speaker 11: write that report, grab that cookie or not. It's all
Speaker 11: dependent on how high your standards are. Ultimately, what drives
Speaker 11: decision making is also linked to the level of hunger
Speaker 11: you have. Achievers, those people who are determined to succeed,
Speaker 11: have a hunger for success and as such will make
Speaker 11: better decisions because their standards are so high. It's not
Speaker 11: self control, it's their high standards that push them forward.
Speaker 11: Achievers use failure to push through instead of letting it
Speaker 11: push them down. Someone on the other end of the
Speaker 11: spectrum might blame their failures on lack of self control,
Speaker 11: but they don't have the hunger or the high level
Speaker 11: of values to push through. However, these values can be learned.
Speaker 11: Raising your standards, values, or beliefs is not as hard
Speaker 11: as it may seem. Did you ever think about where
Speaker 11: your values come from? They come from other people. It's
Speaker 11: said that we take a little pear of everyone we
Speaker 11: have in our lives. You decided to keep the values
Speaker 11: and standards of various people you like, unconsciously modeling them
Speaker 11: and rejecting the values you didn't like. Decision shape destiny,
Speaker 11: and right now you may have a set of standards
Speaker 11: that isn't working for you. You can change them by
Speaker 11: consciously evaluating what drives your decisions, keeping what works, and
Speaker 11: getting rid of what doesn't.