Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to the Minnesota Goodbye. We have an
Speaker 1: ask for you. Please send us emails, yes, because we're
Speaker 1: a little bit low this week and we have one
Speaker 1: more day where Dave's not going to be on, but
Speaker 1: today we just don't have a ton of emails. And
Speaker 1: if you have sent an email before and Dave hasn't
Speaker 1: read it, feel free to send it again because sometimes
Speaker 1: Dave reads things and forgets about home and we don't
Speaker 1: get to them. Or truthfully, if your email's too long,
Speaker 1: we don't always read those as well, because we just
Speaker 1: needed to be a little bit more concise for this,
Speaker 1: so we're not reading an email for like five minutes
Speaker 1: of the fifteen minute podcast.
Speaker 2: So we'll start with this one.
Speaker 1: It says, hello, Dave, Jenny Bailey, and vant I hope
Speaker 1: you're having a good morning. First off, I have to
Speaker 1: say the obligatory. I absolutely love your show and have
Speaker 1: been listening since I was a kid. Bit Jenny has
Speaker 1: been so fun to listen to you grow over the years,
Speaker 1: and I think you've really come into your own Bailey,
Speaker 1: thanks for repping for all of us nerds out here.
Speaker 1: Love your sense of humor and you're fantastic with improv vant.
Speaker 1: It's been awesome having you added to the show and
Speaker 1: listening to you push people's buttons for phonsies is always
Speaker 1: a good time. Now that that's out of the way,
Speaker 1: onto the main reason I'm writing, and Dave, you've been
Speaker 1: like a father figure to me throughout my whole life.
Speaker 1: My own father is still around, but he's not a
Speaker 1: nice person, so you being the steady, level headed male
Speaker 1: influence in my life has meant a lot to me.
Speaker 2: Anyway.
Speaker 1: I'm a huge fan of thrift shopping, and I often
Speaker 1: visit the goodwill bins. Some days I walk out empty handed,
Speaker 1: but most days I find little treasures for the people
Speaker 1: I care about. Everything sold by weight, and books are
Speaker 1: priced by height, so it's an affordable way to bring
Speaker 1: to brighten someone's day with a small trinket or surprise.
Speaker 1: On my lunch break today, I came across a nineteen
Speaker 1: seventy two Scout handbook.
Speaker 2: It's a little.
Speaker 1: Faded but has that charming, well loved look, and it's
Speaker 1: filled with adorable illustrations. As soon as I saw it,
Speaker 1: I thought of sending it to you, Dave. When I
Speaker 1: was younger, I was a girl Scout, but I never
Speaker 1: quite felt like I fit in with the girls. Still
Speaker 1: don't Tellowel. I always wished I could have joined the
Speaker 1: boy Scouts instead, and was always so jealous hearing about
Speaker 1: all the awesome things Car and you did through Scouts.
Speaker 1: I'm really glad that today's kids don't have to be
Speaker 1: sorted by gender into different clubs if they'd rather be
Speaker 1: in the other one. You've always been the biggest advocate
Speaker 1: for Scouts, and since Susan always jokes about how you
Speaker 1: have piles of stuff lying around, I thought one more
Speaker 1: book wouldn't hurt.
Speaker 2: It'll blend right in with your newspaper collection. Ha ha.
Speaker 1: Feel free to pass on the offer. It costs me
Speaker 1: about fifty cents, so there's no loss if you're not interested.
Speaker 1: Thanks for being a constant presence in my life and
Speaker 1: for showing me that not all men are.
Speaker 2: Like my father.
Speaker 1: I'm so happy your kids got to grow up with
Speaker 1: such a loving dad. Happy Early Father's Day, your pal
Speaker 1: from Afar. This comes from Marissa. Now, Marissa, I know
Speaker 1: Dave's not Amus today, however, I will make sure that
Speaker 1: he sees it and gets back to you about the
Speaker 1: Scout book. And I'm kind of like scrolling through these
Speaker 1: photos if you guys want to see it. But yeah,
Speaker 1: it's it's definitely a loved book, a book that definitely
Speaker 1: looks like it's been.
Speaker 2: Around the block of time or two.
Speaker 1: Yeah, and you know it says fun things like carrying
Speaker 1: your equipment and help.
Speaker 3: With illustrations that yeah, straight up of like nineteen sixty three.
Speaker 1: Yeah, how to like roll your bed up and yeah,
Speaker 1: so that's fun. Okay, Well we'll let Dave know and
Speaker 1: I'll make sure that Marissa he hears all of your
Speaker 1: email because he will very much appreciate that.
Speaker 3: You should put it in his RV and you know,
Speaker 3: live by it when he's out camping.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he could.
Speaker 4: I remember when I was in third fourth grade. I
Speaker 4: remember we had like boy Scouts girl Scouts come to
Speaker 4: the after school program and yeah, they were teaching us
Speaker 4: how to like tie a knot and shit, and I
Speaker 4: was like, I want to make fucking cookies and they
Speaker 4: were like, no.
Speaker 2: I don't know do they learn that in girl Scouts.
Speaker 4: Make think they just sell well they do so, but
Speaker 4: I think like they were doing like a little seminar
Speaker 4: like at the time, like just to make like, oh
Speaker 4: you want to like diy fin Min's Yeah, I was like,
Speaker 4: this is what I want to do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I want to diy thin.
Speaker 4: Min's like, I don't want to tie a knot and
Speaker 4: make a tint.
Speaker 3: I never was in any of those like after school
Speaker 3: or you know, group community classes or clubs or anything
Speaker 3: when I was a kid. Like girl Scouts are Scouts
Speaker 3: or Scouts, you know. I took like one babysitting class
Speaker 3: when I was like twelve with my sister, and then
Speaker 3: I never babysat anybody, but I took an entire class.
Speaker 3: I was like Red Cross certified babysitter at age twelve.
Speaker 3: And that's as close to Scouting as I ever got.
Speaker 2: I think.
Speaker 1: Yeah, a lot of girls took that class because I
Speaker 1: think I was eleven or twelve when I took that
Speaker 1: babysitting I just.
Speaker 3: All I remember from it is how to give mouth
Speaker 3: to mouth to a baby.
Speaker 2: Gosh, I don't even remember that. I know I learned it. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I don't remember their.
Speaker 3: Mouth over their mouth and their nose and then I'll
Speaker 3: blow into both of them.
Speaker 2: Well you really more than you remember.
Speaker 4: You guys know how to swim?
Speaker 3: Oh girl?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 1: No, yeah, oh I forget. You don't know how to swim.
Speaker 1: Be like, yes, I mean I grew up my parents
Speaker 1: like before. Well, still my mom has a pool, but
Speaker 1: my parents did build a pool in our backyard growing up,
Speaker 1: so I was a fish. I was always swimming growing up.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's something else I learned in after school program.
Speaker 4: I I used to go to the YMCA after be
Speaker 4: four and after school, and there was a there was
Speaker 4: a group of like a guy friends, and there was
Speaker 4: a girl that we all thought was cute, and she
Speaker 4: we had different levels of They were like necklaces red, yellow,
Speaker 4: or green, just based on like how well you could swim.
Speaker 4: And the girl that we thought was cute wore a
Speaker 4: green and I was like, well, I can't be fucking
Speaker 4: out here wearing a red one or a yellow one
Speaker 4: swimming in the little kiddie four inch pool and she's
Speaker 4: going off the diving board. So I taught my ass
Speaker 4: I had to swim.
Speaker 2: Dang, that's exciting.
Speaker 3: I think that's so that's so cool. I was too scared,
Speaker 3: Like I took swimming lessons with my sister, and then
Speaker 3: it got to the point where we had to put
Speaker 3: our heads underwater, and I was too scared to do that.
Speaker 3: And man, I don't know why, but the instructors were
Speaker 3: just like, that's okay, you can just set out. And
Speaker 3: so then I sat out enough that I just stopped
Speaker 3: going to class. And then like a year later, my
Speaker 3: sister taught me in a hotel pool how to put
Speaker 3: my hat under the water. But that by that point
Speaker 3: everyone who was in swimming lessons was older, and I
Speaker 3: wasn't about to enter swimming lessons with kids who are
Speaker 3: a year younger than me because I would have been embarrassed.
Speaker 3: So I never learned swim period. You've talked about maybe
Speaker 3: trying to learn, though I would like to, I think,
Speaker 3: like my my issue is, I don't know. I just
Speaker 3: hate being perceived, So I wouldn't want to be in
Speaker 3: a swimsuit with anyone who's like not, I don't know.
Speaker 3: I would want like a forty year old woman named
Speaker 3: Sandra to teach me how to swim, like Dave, No,
Speaker 3: because Dave would Dave would like roast me the entire time.
Speaker 3: And I don't want like a hot young lifeguard to
Speaker 3: teach me how to swim, I any gender. I don't
Speaker 3: want a hot young person to teach me how to
Speaker 3: swim because I would feel self conscious about how I looked,
Speaker 3: and I don't want a friend to teach me how
Speaker 3: to swim, because I wouldn't want them to judge me
Speaker 3: and be like, wow, Bailey's really lame, she doesn't know
Speaker 3: how to swim. Yeah, I literally over the pandemic like lockdown.
Speaker 3: I learned how to put my head under the water
Speaker 3: without plugging my nose. And that's as far as I've gotten.
Speaker 1: Well that's good, So I mean that's a step I
Speaker 1: can do that, A step in the right direction.
Speaker 3: Yeah, but I would like to it'd be nice to
Speaker 3: know how I think.
Speaker 1: Some people just really don't like when you have to
Speaker 1: do swim lessons when you're young.
Speaker 2: They just don't like it. My nephew's so.
Speaker 1: Adventurous, however, he fucking hates swim lessons. Like he he's
Speaker 1: four now, and he my sister would have to walk
Speaker 1: into the pool area with him and like sit there
Speaker 1: on the edge with him, and he like wouldn't get in,
Speaker 1: and eventually they just gave up because the parents weren't
Speaker 1: supposed to be able to be in the pool area anyways.
Speaker 1: And it's just so weird because he's so adventurous in
Speaker 1: every other aspect, but he's just not a swimmer, and
Speaker 1: my my mom still has her pool, so the kids
Speaker 1: go over there and swim in the summer a lot.
Speaker 1: But he just like doesn't like to go in very much.
Speaker 1: It's like not his thing. Kind of kind of surprising
Speaker 1: for me, just knowing his personality, to be honest. That's
Speaker 1: like all we have for emails today. There's some old
Speaker 1: ones that I think Dave maybe hasn't read yet, but
Speaker 1: I'm not entirely positive, so they're at least opened, so
Speaker 1: I don't know if they've been read. However, there is
Speaker 1: one that maybe he hasn't showed you. It says I
Speaker 1: was scrolling through Reddit and came upon this navy ad,
Speaker 1: and the first thing I thought was Vaunt, What do
Speaker 1: you think look at those guy?
Speaker 2: Do you think it is his doppelganger? You're a doppelganger?
Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, there's okay, a picture of a man
Speaker 3: in the navy. Yeah, who kind of looks like Vaunt
Speaker 3: with a different mustache.
Speaker 4: Look like me.
Speaker 2: I think he looks like you a little bit. He does?
Speaker 2: He does? He does? You guys have similar eyes. I
Speaker 2: think his eyes are closed, his eyes are open.
Speaker 4: His name is Jared Richardson. If you. I just want
Speaker 4: to look it up for reference. I don't think he
Speaker 4: looks like me when he is a full beer too.
Speaker 4: He looks good looking, like he could pick up women
Speaker 4: on the street. That is not me. The only thing
Speaker 4: that keeps a lista in my household is the fact
Speaker 4: that I make bomb ribs. The person that people in
Speaker 4: the cities say that I look like a lot is a.
Speaker 4: He's a pastor or. He's like a motivational speaker named
Speaker 4: Ryan Leak. Not only do we have the same last name,
Speaker 4: but he genuinely.
Speaker 2: Looks like he's local to the cities.
Speaker 4: I believe so shaped head and hair and the last name.
Speaker 3: Yeah, he's black.
Speaker 2: He is black.
Speaker 3: I don't think you guys look the same.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't think you guys on the air.
Speaker 1: Very different noses, very different smile.
Speaker 3: He's cute.
Speaker 2: I don't know the reason I know. I don't Ryan Leak. Yeah,
Speaker 2: be cute.
Speaker 3: If you guys did something together and then you could
Speaker 3: be like, you know, what's the leak with the leaks?
Speaker 1: There's there's there's my email that from I'm not sure
Speaker 1: how to say your name, but Natty and a D
Speaker 1: I E.
Speaker 4: Natty, I love that you felt that you saw that
Speaker 4: email or that picture and you just had to email us.
Speaker 2: Just that that's.
Speaker 4: Great, thank you for that. I'm a terrible uh.
Speaker 2: Host, I guess is the word sure?
Speaker 4: Because yesterday I made food for Bailey. Well, I made
Speaker 4: food for a lot of people, and Bailey came to
Speaker 4: pick hers up and I literally had you outside waiting
Speaker 4: for how long.
Speaker 3: Twenty five minutes. I was waiting for twenty five minutes
Speaker 3: waiting for my food.
Speaker 4: I'm a terrible person.
Speaker 2: I realized this was like a drive up situation.
Speaker 4: Yeah, like to go or side because I so here's
Speaker 4: the situation my girlfriend and my girlfriend listen to we made.
Speaker 4: We started making like plates of food Puerto Rican food,
Speaker 4: and we start selling them in shit and yesterday was
Speaker 4: the first time we ever did it, like paying people
Speaker 4: like people paying us. It was so good. Bailey was
Speaker 4: so helpful and so uh thank you for being so supportive.
Speaker 4: Bailey came to pick up her food and your food
Speaker 4: was literally just about done. But then you had what
Speaker 4: threw me off was you later in the day you
Speaker 4: asked me to make a plate for your sister, and
Speaker 4: me and Alyssa just didn't compute that, so we had
Speaker 4: to go like, oh shit, okay, make another plate. So
Speaker 4: I told you just sit outside, I'll come bring it
Speaker 4: down for you in like five minutes, ten minutes. Then
Speaker 4: maybe twenty minutes goes by and somebody else says, hey,
Speaker 4: I'm about to be downstairs. I was like, oh, well,
Speaker 4: just Bailey, she can wait like another ten minutes.
Speaker 3: It's just Bailey. She's not a priority.
Speaker 4: But thank you for supporting me my small business. Jenny
Speaker 4: doesn't support black businesses.
Speaker 2: Oh wow, I love you.
Speaker 1: But I have a very different financial situation than I
Speaker 1: did two months ago, so even spending fifteen dollars on
Speaker 1: a meal is like out of my budget right now, unfortunately,
Speaker 1: which I know you m question because I know I
Speaker 1: just went out of town this past weekend. But I
Speaker 1: literally packed food the entire time, and I had a
Speaker 1: turkey sandwich the entire fucking trip. Okay, I literally did
Speaker 1: not eat out once, and my friends fed me the
Speaker 1: other nights because they were proper and brought like kebabs
Speaker 1: and hot dogs and shit to grill, and they're like
Speaker 1: I felt, I did feel like such a freeloader because
Speaker 1: I packed enough food to cover me for the weekend,
Speaker 1: but then they had all this extra food. They're like, no,
Speaker 1: we brought stuff so you could eat too, and I'm like, oh,
Speaker 1: that's so sweet, and honestly, like their food was way
Speaker 1: better than what I packed, so I was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna eat it then if they're offering it. I
Speaker 1: did leave them a bottle of wine as a thank
Speaker 1: you though. When I left, I did bring because I
Speaker 1: brought some wine and I was like, here you go,
Speaker 1: thanks for feeding me this weekend.
Speaker 2: I appreciate you. How much.
Speaker 4: How many friends did you go with?
Speaker 1: It was just one couple, just one couple of friends,
Speaker 1: so they got yeah, I was third wheeling. Yeah, really
Speaker 1: Embracing the third wheel aspect of favorite part is yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: I mean I used to do it all the time
Speaker 1: in my twenties. It's a it's a new thing once
Speaker 1: again to me. But I don't know, it's maybe you
Speaker 1: feel the same way, Bailey, But like at this point
Speaker 1: in life, I just I don't really care that much
Speaker 1: about the fact that I'm the third wheel. I think
Speaker 1: I'm like embracing it more whereas I used to be
Speaker 1: super self conscious about it. Yeah, but I don't know.
Speaker 1: I one thing I'll say this time around of being
Speaker 1: single again is that there's a lot of other people
Speaker 1: who not A lot most of my friends are in
Speaker 1: marriage or a long term relationship soon to be married,
Speaker 1: but the people who aren't, like I just feel like
Speaker 1: we can relate a lot to It's okay that we're
Speaker 1: not in a relationship because we want certain things and
Speaker 1: if we're not getting it, we're not going to settle.
Speaker 1: And this has nothing to do with my previous relationship.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying that there's a lot of people out
Speaker 1: there who are also single, and I think at this
Speaker 1: point in life, it's a look debt negatively when you're single. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and it's it's frustrating because it's like, Okay, so I
Speaker 1: could either be in a really unhappy relationship because I
Speaker 1: decided to settle or I wasn't ready or whatever it is.
Speaker 1: And not that that's what most people are, but some
Speaker 1: people are in that, or it could just be single, Yeah,
Speaker 1: And why is that looked at as less then?
Speaker 3: Right now?
Speaker 2: People who are in unhappy relationships, Yeah.
Speaker 3: You know, I think if they're not adding to my life,
Speaker 3: then I don't want them in my life because my
Speaker 3: life is pretty good as it is and they need
Speaker 3: to add to it. And not subtract from it, but
Speaker 3: I will say those single friends that you have, you
Speaker 3: are going to get so much closer to those people
Speaker 3: because now I mean same thing. I have the same
Speaker 3: kind of boat as you, where most of my friends
Speaker 3: are married or in long term relationships, and I have
Speaker 3: two friends who are single, and we are really close.
Speaker 3: Now Katie and Sarah shout out because now we're like, okay, well,
Speaker 3: we're the ones who understand each other's situations and have
Speaker 3: the kind of same experience, and we're the ones who
Speaker 3: can talk about it versus talking about those same experience
Speaker 3: with someone who's been married for like five years, ten
Speaker 3: years or whatever and they're like, oh, well my son
Speaker 3: did this the other day, and I'm like that's cool.
Speaker 3: But I don't relate to that, and you don't relate
Speaker 3: to me, and we're having a hard time relating to
Speaker 3: each other. So it is kind of nice to have
Speaker 3: single friends, so lean on those people for sure.
Speaker 1: Yeah, No, I definitely, I definitely have. But most of
Speaker 1: my friend honestly, there's probably only like two people, and
Speaker 1: I don't get to see them very often because they're
Speaker 1: very busy. Yeah, that are single. Everyone else is in
Speaker 1: a relationship but I don't know. I think I have
Speaker 1: a lot of friends that are very independent of their relationships,
Speaker 1: so it's easy to find time to hang out with them.
Speaker 1: Like Tony, who comes on the show with us sometimes.
Speaker 1: He is he's been married for like seven years, been
Speaker 1: with his partner for like I don't know, ten, twelve
Speaker 1: years or something, but he they do separate things all
Speaker 1: the time, like he love that. Yeah, Like he's coming
Speaker 1: in tomorrow on the show, and I'm probably gonna be like,
Speaker 1: what are you doing this weekend?
Speaker 2: Let's do some things.
Speaker 1: Yeah, out, let's hang out and do some staff. Well,
Speaker 1: we are at about our fifteen minute mark, and so
Speaker 1: once again I'm going to beg you guys to send
Speaker 1: us a few emails and so we can read them
Speaker 1: tomorrow on the Minnesota Goodbye, and then Dave will be
Speaker 1: back on Monday.
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