Speaker 1: Minnesota. Goodbye, Let's get started. Kristen writes in and says,
Speaker 1: I was listening to Monday's episode and laugh when Dave
Speaker 1: spoke about doctor Harder, because my wife goes to a doctor,
Speaker 1: and I believe it's a woman. Her name is doctor Harder,
Speaker 1: and so I just, of course, because I'm, you know,
Speaker 1: a twelve year old boy with a sense of humor
Speaker 1: of that kid, doctor Harder, Doctor Harder, Doctor Harder, and
Speaker 1: it makes me laugh. So, Kristen says, I currently run
Speaker 1: a surgery center in San Diego and one of my
Speaker 1: urology surgeons is named doctor Dix. D I c k s.
Speaker 1: I always wanted to ask if the name led to
Speaker 1: them picking that surgical specialty or is it just a
Speaker 1: coincidence doctor Dix. I mean, think about it. If you're
Speaker 1: growing up with a name like Mike Dix, then somebody
Speaker 1: would be like, you ought to become like a urologist or.
Speaker 2: A porn star one or the other.
Speaker 1: Ooh, I'm I'm glad, you know, because porn star's uh
Speaker 1: number one. At some point you're going to be embarrassed
Speaker 1: because your kid's going to be like, yeah, everybody knows
Speaker 1: you're a porn star. And also one day you're gonna
Speaker 1: get old and they'll be like, oh yeah, look at that.
Speaker 1: Didn't you meet a porn star? Jenny? True story? You
Speaker 1: met a nineteen seventies porn star somewhere, Dave who told
Speaker 1: me this story. I know Viking's game or a Twins
Speaker 1: game or something. You met his seventies porn star.
Speaker 3: Oh, I did, And now I don't remember what the
Speaker 3: story is though, you just like unlocked a random memory.
Speaker 4: I don't know the story.
Speaker 1: Sorry, that's okay, maybe it'll come to you sometime. Next
Speaker 1: email is for Jenny. Jenny, I love an W. They
Speaker 1: are crazy. Those boys you work with, they know I'm saying.
Speaker 1: The reason this came out because we did the fast
Speaker 1: food brackets and Jenny wanted to put ann W in
Speaker 1: there is one of the Tasty sixteen and we did
Speaker 1: not include it because we couldn't include everybody, and Jenny
Speaker 1: was a little bit bitter about it.
Speaker 3: I was just feel like there were certain fast food restaurants,
Speaker 3: like I've never ate out of Popeyes. I'm not I
Speaker 3: know it's in the top two right now, but I'm
Speaker 3: not a Chipotle person.
Speaker 2: You're not a chipotlet.
Speaker 3: I mean, like I would fuck with it. I would,
Speaker 3: But I'm just saying, like, I don't choose to go
Speaker 3: to Chipotle. If you put that up against ANW I'm
Speaker 3: going to ANW.
Speaker 1: You know, I kind of get that. If I'm in
Speaker 1: the food coort, I get I like anw Okay, So
Speaker 1: here's a little behind the scenes thing. So I'm in
Speaker 1: Colorado and I do the show via the Internet and
Speaker 1: it works fine until it doesn't. Then it's like I
Speaker 1: sound like this and it's very frustrating. So we tried
Speaker 1: to reset it and the connection seems to work, but
Speaker 1: then you know, it's kind of like slow Wi Fi.
Speaker 1: But I don't know why it doesn't work very well.
Speaker 1: I know radio shows all over the country that do
Speaker 1: their show remotely. Sometimes they don't even come into the
Speaker 1: radio station. They just do. I know a guy who
Speaker 1: works in Las Vegas, good friend of mine. He does
Speaker 1: his show from Seattle, like six months out of the year,
Speaker 1: and they have no technical problems. They have no It
Speaker 1: works seamlessly, And I don't know why our we have
Speaker 1: trouble with ours? Do you think I don't. I don't
Speaker 1: know if it's Do you think it's because you're ugly
Speaker 1: day or well, that's cruel, but you know it is
Speaker 1: a possibility.
Speaker 2: I mean, yeah, I I want to pick up your voice.
Speaker 1: I don't understand it. I don't get it. I don't
Speaker 1: know if we have antiquated equipment or or what. I
Speaker 1: don't know. But let's move on to the next email.
Speaker 1: This is Becky again. Now, remember she wrote a few
Speaker 1: weeks ago about her sister who is dating another married man. Oh, yes,
Speaker 1: we said, we remember that. She said, I don't know
Speaker 1: what to do. I don't know what to hand, how
Speaker 1: to handle it. And I think I said, well, just
Speaker 1: step back, pull yourself out of that relationship a little bit.
Speaker 1: She said, I took your advice. For some weeks, I
Speaker 1: stopped replying and communicating with her. Then I left her
Speaker 1: a voicemail let her know my feelings towards the situation. Anyway,
Speaker 1: our relationship is damn beyond repair. However, I'm glad others
Speaker 1: could validate my feelings on the situation via group therapy.
Speaker 1: At this point, my entire family has met this man,
Speaker 1: and I will soon meet him at my brother's wedding.
Speaker 1: I'm not sure how I should act or treat him.
Speaker 1: What do you think? He is still not divorced and
Speaker 1: it's living with his wife and child. It's truly going
Speaker 1: to take everything in my soul to be the bigger
Speaker 1: person and not make a comment or face at him.
Speaker 1: Love you guys, do not make a scene, Do not
Speaker 1: make a comment. Just it's when at the end of
Speaker 1: the day, it's not your problem, m hm. So don't
Speaker 1: make it your problem. I know it sucks, and I
Speaker 1: know it's very tempting to be you know that person,
Speaker 1: and there's nothing wrong with feeling the way you do.
Speaker 1: But I don't make it any more of a problem
Speaker 1: for you because right now it doesn't affect your life.
Speaker 4: I would disagree though, because I can go ahead.
Speaker 3: I think it can affect your life because you don't
Speaker 3: want to be surrounded by shitty people you look at
Speaker 3: like your inner circle of friend Those people are a
Speaker 3: reflection of who you are. I wouldn't want that person
Speaker 3: in my circle. So I do think it does affect
Speaker 3: her life. I agree to not make a scene. She
Speaker 3: shouldn't be like going out and calling out the situation
Speaker 3: in front of people. But I also can see her
Speaker 3: point of view of like, I don't want to be
Speaker 3: around this person.
Speaker 1: No, I totally get that, but I think that it
Speaker 1: doesn't really, I don't know. Don't make it more of
Speaker 1: a problem for you than it needs to be. Let's
Speaker 1: say that I knew that Bailey was dating a married man,
Speaker 1: I'd be like, Bailey, you can do better than this.
Speaker 1: But Bailey, my persuasion is not going to change Bailey
Speaker 1: dating a married man. So why make it my problem?
Speaker 1: You know, I love Bailey for what she is, and
Speaker 1: I might be disgusted and not feel the same way
Speaker 1: about her, but I don't want to make it my problem.
Speaker 4: Yeah, I wonder if.
Speaker 1: They're dating a married man, you're offully.
Speaker 2: Quiet, not anymore. I wonder if he's separated from his
Speaker 2: wife and they still live together and they're just not
Speaker 2: divorced yet. I guess I don't know the I don't
Speaker 2: remember the details of that.
Speaker 1: I don't either. It sounds like it sounds like it's
Speaker 1: just openly he's dating, and maybe he thinks everybody thinks that.
Speaker 1: Maybe he thinks nobody knows. So next one, we were
Speaker 1: talking about how when my daughter Allison was born, we
Speaker 1: named her Heather in the womb, and when she was born,
Speaker 1: we said, that's not Heather, that's a new baby. So
Speaker 1: we named her a different baby's name, Alison, and I
Speaker 1: got a letter from Hannah who said, basically, that is
Speaker 1: exactly what we did. So the email is is a
Speaker 1: little bit detailed, but it's really interesting. So they changed
Speaker 1: the baby's name from Pace, which was the baby's name
Speaker 1: in the womb, to Mac when the baby came out.
Speaker 2: I cute Mac.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she's got great names for the babies. She's got
Speaker 1: four babies, Duke, Mac, Leona, and Minna as in Minnesota.
Speaker 2: Oh, I like Leona. Leona's really pretty too.
Speaker 4: Is it spelled am i nne am I n na?
Speaker 1: So if you spell that m I n n e,
Speaker 1: they'd say any.
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's what I say.
Speaker 1: I think so they're saying Minna, Hannah, thank you. And
Speaker 1: she put adorable pictures of her kids on there too.
Speaker 1: Here we go with somebody who wrote this a couple
Speaker 1: of weeks ago, and we did not answer it. So
Speaker 1: we'll get there. They're persistent, you guys. Jamie wants to
Speaker 1: know Number one, Dave, I missed the banter between you
Speaker 1: and Fallon. Would either of you ever do a show
Speaker 1: together again or a podcast episode? It would be fun.
Speaker 1: Never say never, But I don't see it happening in
Speaker 1: the future. This is the thing with Fallon. She grew
Speaker 1: so much when she got to KTWB in twenty eleven
Speaker 1: or twelve, she was just like an inexperienced, you know,
Speaker 1: little growing, budding baby DJ and then on our show.
Speaker 1: Our show has done this for many, many, many people,
Speaker 1: and I'm really proud of this when our show has
Speaker 1: helped people develop and you know, everybody from Lena to
Speaker 1: intern John to Chrisco to Angie Taylor have gone on
Speaker 1: to become big deals. Fallon included. So she doesn't need
Speaker 1: me anymore. So I don't know that that would ever
Speaker 1: come about. But if she ever approached me and said, hey,
Speaker 1: do you want to do this, or I ever said
Speaker 1: to her, yeah, we might, but I don't see. She
Speaker 1: doesn't need me anymore. It's kind of like your kid
Speaker 1: has grown up, you know what I mean?
Speaker 4: A that make you sad?
Speaker 1: That makes me sad? That doesn't make me sad at all. No,
Speaker 1: Fallon's doing great on her own, so and it's kind
Speaker 1: of like a kid that's you know, like left the nest.
Speaker 1: Next okay, next one. What is Zach Dillon's role on KATIEWB?
Speaker 1: Now I sometimes hear him on the weekends, Jenny answer
Speaker 1: the question.
Speaker 3: So there is somebody who actually schedules our music. So
Speaker 3: he is still the music director, so he's in charge
Speaker 3: of everything that you hear that plays on the radio.
Speaker 3: He is in charge of that. But then he also
Speaker 3: does still do some on air shifts on the weekends,
Speaker 3: so him and I actually rotate on Sundays. We're both
Speaker 3: either one of us is on three to six or
Speaker 3: the other one is on every other Sunday.
Speaker 1: Number three, How does the Night Girl Kayla record the show?
Speaker 1: Is it a recording or is it live? I know
Speaker 1: you say it's syndicated. Can you explain what that means?
Speaker 1: Thanks for all the inside Baseball appreciate you all. From Jamie,
Speaker 1: I can help, but I might need a little help
Speaker 1: with this. So it's not syndicated. There's a difference between syndication,
Speaker 1: which is where they take your show and they air
Speaker 1: it as it is in another market live. That is syndication.
Speaker 1: So for example, like Ryan Seacrest is not syndicated necessarily
Speaker 1: because he's not live in the midday show. Elvis Duran,
Speaker 1: on the other hand, is syndicated because his show is
Speaker 1: live in New York City, where it originates, but it's
Speaker 1: also live in you know, Memphis and Colorado Springs and
Speaker 1: Denver and Chatta Nucci and all you know what, it's
Speaker 1: all a Rooci injury Gotta Ucci. Yeah, so that's a
Speaker 1: syndicated show. Kayla's show is bill admirable because she's good
Speaker 1: enough to be voice tracked in another market. Explain Jenny
Speaker 1: really simply what voice tracking is and the difference between
Speaker 1: syndication and voice tracking.
Speaker 3: If you hit play on something and you recorded yourself talking,
Speaker 3: it all just goes into a system and then it
Speaker 3: goes and plays on its own later in the day.
Speaker 3: So she can basically pre record whenever she can to
Speaker 3: do the show, so it is not happening in that
Speaker 3: moment while she's out in La and it's airing on
Speaker 3: katiewb Okay.
Speaker 1: Now, that's voice tracking, and it's still honorable to be
Speaker 1: chosen to be voice tracked. But there's a big difference
Speaker 1: between syndication. Like if they took our show and our
Speaker 1: put our show live in Duluth and man Cato and
Speaker 1: Des Moines as it's live here in Minnesota, that is syndication.
Speaker 1: If they took little parts of our show and replayed
Speaker 1: it in Des Moines or in Duluth. That's voice tracking,
Speaker 1: so still cool. But yeah, no, Kayla's really good and
Speaker 1: that's why she's chosen to do other cities. And she
Speaker 1: probably does like a dozen other cities around the country.
Speaker 2: She does.
Speaker 3: I just thought she added on some more, so I'm
Speaker 3: pretty sure. Yeah, she does about a dozen.
Speaker 2: Dang Vant does a handful too, He does some.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but see, but vont doesn't claim that he's syndicated.
Speaker 1: He is a voice tracker, but at the same time
Speaker 1: he's good enough that he is being voice tracked on
Speaker 1: like other markets. I don't know what markets. But otherwise,
Speaker 1: how does he how does he do that? Does he
Speaker 1: just go in the studio and like.
Speaker 2: Yeah, he voice records it.
Speaker 1: Okay, there's different systems.
Speaker 3: Yeah, there's different systems that they use. It's called custom
Speaker 3: and that's getting into the nitty gritty of radio. But
Speaker 3: there's different kind of systems. He used to be able
Speaker 3: to make him much simpler than just like happy to
Speaker 3: go to every radio station and say the same break
Speaker 3: yeah five times over.
Speaker 1: Yeah yeah. Right. So yeah, radio changed a lot. It
Speaker 1: used to be every radio show was live all the time, everywhere,
Speaker 1: but then technology came in it's kind of like automate.
Speaker 1: So the radio industry said, hey, we can save a
Speaker 1: ton of money by not having an all night DJ
Speaker 1: or a nighttime DJ. We'll have somebody voicetrack it from
Speaker 1: another market. Oh okay, Bailey, I was listening to today's
Speaker 1: podcast and I couldn't help but empathize with you when
Speaker 1: you were sharing your experience about your best friend. I
Speaker 1: too lost a best friend and the friendship ended in
Speaker 1: twenty eighteen with no reason. My intuition said, maybe it's
Speaker 1: because I was in a relationship and he didn't like
Speaker 1: my new partner. We're married now, but it still hurt
Speaker 1: because it was just there one day and then done.
Speaker 1: The friend also did the same thing to another friend,
Speaker 1: and so now our three musketeer trio of friendship is
Speaker 1: now just a dynamic duo. It hurts when there's no explanation.
Speaker 1: But from what I've been hearing about your life on
Speaker 1: the radio, it sounds like it's more her loss than
Speaker 1: it is your loss, and low key. If you want
Speaker 1: me to do some online stalking or sleuthing, let me know.
Speaker 2: Well. Thank you for reaching out. In general, it seems
Speaker 2: like a lot of people have the same experience, which
Speaker 2: is a bummer for me or just to hear, because
Speaker 2: I don't think I've not heard about like my personal
Speaker 2: friends going through the same thing. So I don't think
Speaker 2: people really talk about it when it happens to them,
Speaker 2: because I know we definitely get on kind of the
Speaker 2: path of saying, hey, if you have a bad friend,
Speaker 2: drop them, and like power to you, which like I
Speaker 2: totally get, like power to you, drop your friends if
Speaker 2: they're being toxic to you. But I do think in general,
Speaker 2: I mean, if since it's happened to me, I would
Speaker 2: have really appreciated an explanation. And I think even if
Speaker 2: your friend is toxic, they I mean respectfully deserve a
Speaker 2: like an explanation of why you're dropping that, because I
Speaker 2: would feel better if I had an explanation. Because she
Speaker 2: she also blocked my mom, I assume she blocked my sister,
Speaker 2: but I'm still friends with her mom and her sister,
Speaker 2: so I wonder if she cut out like a lot
Speaker 2: of people like her family, and I mean, since we
Speaker 2: were friends for so long, she was my family, so like,
Speaker 2: I don't really know, And it's really nice when people say, like, well,
Speaker 2: she's missing out because you seem so fun and like, yeah,
Speaker 2: for sure, but she was my whole world. So like I,
Speaker 2: it's really hard for me. And she's not necessarily like
Speaker 2: a great person for doing this to me, and I
Speaker 2: recognize that, and she's just in general kind of sand papery,
Speaker 2: but that's her personality and I learned how to deal
Speaker 2: with it over twenty years and she was still everything
Speaker 2: to me. So yeah, it's a bummer and I will
Speaker 2: probably be in the dark for the rest of my life.
Speaker 2: I do have some people who are still friends with her,
Speaker 2: some mutuals, and I told them to just keep tabs
Speaker 2: on her because I do want to know when she
Speaker 2: gets married or if anything big happens in her life.
Speaker 2: I just want to keep tabs on her.
Speaker 1: Get take care Dad, Yeah, yeah, I get that. Yeah
Speaker 1: that sucks. When you said you think about her every
Speaker 1: day multiple times, like that really hit home for me
Speaker 1: because I think we all have somebody like that, Yeah,
Speaker 1: that we think about a lot. Jenny. Yeah, thank you
Speaker 1: for being the glue that holds this ridiculously funny show together,
Speaker 1: because without you it would probably wouldn't be as good.
Speaker 1: Even though Dave always says the show will go on
Speaker 1: no matter what. I'm young enough. I'll still be listening
Speaker 1: when Dave eventually tells us he's leaving for greener pastures,
Speaker 1: even if it's another thirty years from now. So I
Speaker 1: will look forward to Jenny in the Morning Zoo making
Speaker 1: its second debut on the radio.
Speaker 2: God, imagine Dave, like super Old still on the radio.
Speaker 2: He's like one hundred and seven.
Speaker 4: It's got a life.
Speaker 3: He wants to live Still, You've got a whole other
Speaker 3: life ahead of you.
Speaker 1: I do. I think that there's you know, I mean,
Speaker 1: I've been doing this show for so long and it's
Speaker 1: been such a wonderful experience and such a blessing. But
Speaker 1: at the same time, does any one job deserve more
Speaker 1: than thirty two thirty three years of your life? You
Speaker 1: know there's a defention I want to do.
Speaker 2: Yeah, are you going to work in like a fishery?
Speaker 2: You think after this, like your sun Set job?
Speaker 1: The term is hatchery, your hatchery. Hatchery.
Speaker 4: I thought it was fish fishery. I knew what she
Speaker 4: was talking about.
Speaker 1: Fishery. It's a hatchery.
Speaker 2: I think you could be a fan.
Speaker 1: Yes, we're I'm going to be wearing a big rubber
Speaker 1: pants and getting in the pool with the salmon and
Speaker 1: feeding the salmon.
Speaker 2: And having them mate with one another, and you have
Speaker 2: to force it.
Speaker 1: Now you're making me horny.
Speaker 4: So you're going to take part of farm raised salmon?
Speaker 1: Wow?
Speaker 4: Wow, wow? You disgusting?
Speaker 1: Why is that disgusted to watch?
Speaker 3: I watch Fresh because you're putting them in environments that
Speaker 3: they didn't choose to be in, making them hats.
Speaker 1: Well, they also didn't choose to die, so whenever you
Speaker 1: eat something, you didn't choose to die, so.
Speaker 3: You're at least they got to live their life in
Speaker 3: the wild. I only eat wild salmon.
Speaker 1: You don't know that.
Speaker 2: You don't know wild catching the salmon sheets, I use
Speaker 2: big old pause a bear.
Speaker 1: Anyway, the last paragraph of this very wonderful email, thank
Speaker 1: you all for making the show what it is. If
Speaker 1: I couldn't listen to the show, I don't know what
Speaker 1: I would do with myself. Sorry for the long read,
Speaker 1: but I appreciate the content nonetheless, and that comes from
Speaker 1: Chris in Miami, So thank you, Chris. I really appreciate that,
Speaker 1: So thank you very much. Next email, Hey guys, it's
Speaker 1: from Cessna. He says, it's been forever since I've emailed,
Speaker 1: but don't worry I still listen to every show and
Speaker 1: every Minnesota Goodbye. I want to talk about an app
Speaker 1: that I've been super into lately. I want you guys
Speaker 1: to check out. It's called Too Good to Go, Too
Speaker 1: Too Good to Go. This app helps reduce food waste
Speaker 1: by allowing businesses to post a mystery grab bag of
Speaker 1: day old goodies, a bunch of gas stations like Circle K,
Speaker 1: but tons of other businesses pop up all the time.
Speaker 1: The selection constantly changes, can be anything from restaurants, bakeries,
Speaker 1: butcher's coffee ops, candy stores, anything you can think of
Speaker 1: as a possibility being on the app. I live in Nashville,
Speaker 1: so I'll have a different assortment of options, but there's
Speaker 1: even a mushroom store in my area. I wanted to
Speaker 1: raise awareness for this app and recommend to everyone, no
Speaker 1: matter where you live, to check it out. If your
Speaker 1: area doesn't have a lot, when you download, give up,
Speaker 1: keep checking a couple of times a week and see
Speaker 1: what shows up. I've included some screenshots of my Nashville options,
Speaker 1: so here's one. I don't know exactly how the app works,
Speaker 1: but you can come by and pick up day old
Speaker 1: vegetables or mushrooms or food or baked goods for a
Speaker 1: deep discount, a deep discount, not free, but a deep discount.
Speaker 1: For here's one, for example, a place called Molly's Cupcakes.
Speaker 1: You could pick up but looks like a dozen cupcakes
Speaker 1: for eighteen dollars, but they've reduced the price to a
Speaker 1: five ninety nine. Now here's one Meatville, which sounds interesting me,
Speaker 1: Meatville population me. You can pick this pack of meat
Speaker 1: up for five ninety nine. Really interesting. I don't know
Speaker 1: anything more about it than you just heard right now,
Speaker 1: but I will repeat the name of the app again
Speaker 1: and you might want to check this out. Too Good
Speaker 1: to Go, Too Good to Go.
Speaker 4: I used to have it. I like it app downloaded.
Speaker 3: I don't think that it was available in the Twin
Speaker 3: Cities yet, so because I had heard about it honestly,
Speaker 3: probably like a couple of years ago now. But now
Speaker 3: it looks like it does work in the Twin Cities
Speaker 3: because I just re downloaded it and it looks like
Speaker 3: there's a So you do have to pay for the food.
Speaker 2: It's not just free, yeah, it just makes sense discounted, yes, yeah,
Speaker 2: So like.
Speaker 1: I wonder you have to claim it? Like if Jenny
Speaker 1: and I both go oh I want those muffins. Do
Speaker 1: I have to claim it and then run over there,
Speaker 1: because I can't. You know, you can't just say, oh,
Speaker 1: it's there and then forty minutes later go by and
Speaker 1: expect it to be there.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So no, you can reserve it. So right now,
Speaker 3: it's a surprise to she beg from sushi train which
Speaker 3: I've been to the one. It is the one in Outtown.
Speaker 3: So it's nine ninety nine. It's had originally thirty dollars
Speaker 3: on it, but nine ninety nine for a surprise sushi bag.
Speaker 3: And you can hit reserve. It looks like there's two left,
Speaker 3: it says, So it looks like you can hit reserve
Speaker 3: and then you would be able to go get it.
Speaker 2: Nice.
Speaker 1: That makes sense. Hey, check it out. I don't know
Speaker 1: anything more about it than what you just heard, but
Speaker 1: that's a SESSNA. Thanks good to hear from you, and
Speaker 1: I love the variety of stuff that we get on
Speaker 1: the Minnesota Goodbye. I think this is one of the
Speaker 1: cool things about this podcast. Last email, longtime listener, first
Speaker 1: time writer. I feel the need to share with someone.
Speaker 1: A few weeks ago, you guys did a segment about
Speaker 1: what to say to a friend who's going through a miscarriage.
Speaker 1: At that point, I was about seven weeks pregnant with
Speaker 1: my first child, and I had heard my baby's heartbeat
Speaker 1: for the first time ever a few days prior. Listening
Speaker 1: to that segment about miscarriage, I got this horrible feeling
Speaker 1: and I started hyperventilating and crying at the thought. And
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I had to turn the radio off because
Speaker 1: I couldn't compose myself. Oh, don't apologize. I don't know why.
Speaker 1: I've obviously heard miscarriage talk before, but it really hurt
Speaker 1: close to home at that point. Fast forward to this
Speaker 1: past Monday, and I learned we lost our baby. Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm so sorry. Weirdly enough, they discovered that the baby.
Speaker 1: The day the baby's heart stopped beating was the day
Speaker 1: that you did that segment about helping a friend through
Speaker 1: a miscarriage. I don't know if it was a subconscious
Speaker 1: feeling on my part, assigned from the universe, or what,
Speaker 1: but I will never forget that moment. I am currently
Speaker 1: sitting here devastating and angry that my husband and I
Speaker 1: are going through this, but I'm trying to remind myself
Speaker 1: there is nothing I could do. My friends and family
Speaker 1: have all been very supportive, and I'm currently torn between
Speaker 1: wanting people to reach out and not wanting to talk,
Speaker 1: but also wanting to scream and cry and rant to
Speaker 1: the world. Grief is overwhelming and i feel permanently changed,
Speaker 1: and I'm terrified this could happen again to me in
Speaker 1: the future. But I'm trying to take it one day
Speaker 1: at a time. I love your show. It's been comforting
Speaker 1: to listen to you these past few months to have
Speaker 1: a sense of normalcy. If you have any advice to
Speaker 1: get through grief, I'm all ears. I'm going to tell
Speaker 1: you my story that doesn't even compare to your story
Speaker 1: of losing your baby, but I will tell you that
Speaker 1: when I lost Josie last weekend, what I really appreciated
Speaker 1: was people reaching out, not once, but again and again.
Speaker 1: Because my friends would reach out, and I love my friends.
Speaker 1: They would reach out and go, oh, my gosh, I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry about Josie. How are you doing? And that
Speaker 1: was wonderful and very comforting. But when a friend would
Speaker 1: reach out again later in the weekend, or later in
Speaker 1: the day or three days later and say, hey, I'm
Speaker 1: checking up on you again, are you doing Okay, that
Speaker 1: really was comforting, like consistent, consist And so I don't
Speaker 1: have any advice for you, but I would say, if
Speaker 1: you know somebody who has suffered a loss, don't reach
Speaker 1: out just once, reach out again and again. Though.
Speaker 2: That's something that I definitely really care ask for too.
Speaker 2: So if somebody does say something to you, like what
Speaker 2: can I do for you, like asking for consistent check
Speaker 2: in checking in? Why is yeah? Because I don't know either.
Speaker 2: I don't really know how to. I'm really good at compartmentalizing,
Speaker 2: so like I deal with grief in a way where
Speaker 2: I just say, okay, well I'm going to go do
Speaker 2: something else. But that's not something that everybody can do.
Speaker 1: It's not always the best thing. Yeah, and you know,
Speaker 1: whatever works for you, and we all have our different ways.
Speaker 1: But again, I'm so sorry, and you know, maybe remind
Speaker 1: your friends, hey, you know what, check on me again
Speaker 1: and again because that really does help. Yeah, okay, and
Speaker 1: that's really going to do it. For the Minnesota goodbye.
Speaker 1: There's a couple that we didn't get to. But I
Speaker 1: still need more, always looking for more. And we love variety,
Speaker 1: you know what we don't want just skittles. We don't
Speaker 1: want just skittles. We want m and ms. We want
Speaker 1: an almond Joy, we want a milky Way. We want
Speaker 1: a heath bar once in a while. So if you
Speaker 1: got a weirdo topic that you want to bring up,
Speaker 1: send us that heath bar. Oh my gosh, analogies.
Speaker 4: Heath bars are only good in blizzard. Stop with the
Speaker 4: heath bars.
Speaker 1: I don't agree with that ideal. That's that's the beauty
Speaker 1: of it.
Speaker 4: He can get stuck to your teeth.
Speaker 1: That's the beauty of it because you enjoy it for
Speaker 1: a good fifteen minutes. You're too dull, You're so dum okay,
Speaker 1: I'm quirky. Bailey's quirky is rubbing off on me, and
Speaker 1: we gotta make it stop, all right?
Speaker 3: That is it.
Speaker 1: Send us whatever is on your mind the heath bar
Speaker 1: of the day. We'll look for that tomorrow morning. We'll
Speaker 1: see you tomorrow on the Minnesota Goodbye. Send it to
Speaker 1: Ryan Show at KDIWB dot com.