WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.520 --> 00:00:02.680 Do you ever feel guilty about being inside on a 2 00:00:02.720 --> 00:00:06.040 gorgeous day like today? Today is Wednesday, May fourteenth. Do 3 00:00:06.080 --> 00:00:09.039 you ever feel bad about being inside and taking a 4 00:00:09.119 --> 00:00:11.560 nap or doing something like working on your kitchen Jenny 5 00:00:11.759 --> 00:00:14.000 on a gorgeous day, because in the middle of January 6 00:00:14.119 --> 00:00:17.079 we pray for days like today. So if I go 7 00:00:17.160 --> 00:00:19.160 inside and take a nap or i'm on my phone, 8 00:00:19.160 --> 00:00:19.920 I feel bad. 9 00:00:20.199 --> 00:00:22.960 Yes, yeah, no, I that's exactly how I felt yesterday 10 00:00:22.960 --> 00:00:24.760 because I laid down to take a quick nap, and 11 00:00:24.800 --> 00:00:27.800 then I did have softball that I knew I was 12 00:00:27.839 --> 00:00:30.559 going to be playing two games of softball outside, so 13 00:00:30.640 --> 00:00:32.520 I felt okay about that. But then I also went 14 00:00:32.640 --> 00:00:35.600 rollerblading after that because I just felt like I had 15 00:00:35.600 --> 00:00:36.560 to take advantage of. 16 00:00:36.479 --> 00:00:38.399 How never and you did go rollerblading? 17 00:00:38.520 --> 00:00:38.759 I did. 18 00:00:38.840 --> 00:00:41.039 Yeah, I'm glad you did. And you don't go with 19 00:00:41.039 --> 00:00:42.560 a helmet. We're not going to get deep into that. 20 00:00:42.560 --> 00:00:43.719 But you don't ride with a helmet. 21 00:00:43.960 --> 00:00:46.799 I don't, and I do only ride around the paths 22 00:00:46.799 --> 00:00:49.399 around lakes. I don't really go I don't go on streets. 23 00:00:49.479 --> 00:00:52.759 I don't go on like anything besides very designated paths. 24 00:00:52.799 --> 00:00:55.359 And I'm pretty good at rollerblading. I couldn't tell you 25 00:00:55.920 --> 00:00:58.079 the last time I fell, probably when I was learning 26 00:00:58.280 --> 00:01:01.079 at four years old, five years old. But no, I 27 00:01:01.079 --> 00:01:03.079 don't wear one, and you can come at me for that. 28 00:01:03.200 --> 00:01:05.159 No, I'm not. There's gonna be no les only. 29 00:01:05.879 --> 00:01:06.359 I wear one. 30 00:01:06.359 --> 00:01:10.040 One I bike, I wear one when I snowboard rollerblading. 31 00:01:11.159 --> 00:01:13.519 I usually am only going a couple miles around lakes, 32 00:01:14.120 --> 00:01:15.799 and I'm not going super fast either. 33 00:01:16.159 --> 00:01:17.760 I know that, no matter a lot of people. 34 00:01:17.799 --> 00:01:20.840 But yeah, you know, I'm a big helmet kind of 35 00:01:20.840 --> 00:01:25.040 a guy because and again not a lecture, but there 36 00:01:25.079 --> 00:01:27.200 was a guy that worked on our show twenty twenty 37 00:01:27.200 --> 00:01:28.920 five years ago, and his name was Chris, but we 38 00:01:28.959 --> 00:01:30.959 called him Zippy, and he was kind of a character, 39 00:01:31.079 --> 00:01:32.879 kind of like a badass, kind of a skater guy. 40 00:01:33.319 --> 00:01:35.920 And he was on I think a motorcycle, not wearing 41 00:01:35.920 --> 00:01:37.879 a helmet. He hit is on a curb and he 42 00:01:37.920 --> 00:01:41.439 went from being like, you know, just a wonderful, effervescent guy. Too, 43 00:01:41.480 --> 00:01:44.319 he's in a wheelchair and he barely can speak now. 44 00:01:44.719 --> 00:01:48.680 So I'm a big helmet advocate because this guy, again 45 00:01:48.719 --> 00:01:50.879 thought he was immortal. He was a typical twenty two 46 00:01:50.959 --> 00:01:54.439 year old kid and last time I saw him, he 47 00:01:54.480 --> 00:01:56.480 could barely speak, he was in a wheelchair, he was 48 00:01:56.519 --> 00:01:59.159 slumped over, but he could still smile. So I knew 49 00:01:59.159 --> 00:02:01.719 that Zippy was still inside there. But anyway, just a 50 00:02:01.719 --> 00:02:04.439 big helmet kind of a guy. Especially with me. I'm 51 00:02:04.480 --> 00:02:07.560 clumsy as fuck, and I know it's eventually a matter 52 00:02:07.599 --> 00:02:09.479 of time until I go over the handlebars of my 53 00:02:09.560 --> 00:02:11.680 new electric bike, and I don't want to hit my 54 00:02:11.680 --> 00:02:12.560 head on a tree trunk. 55 00:02:12.599 --> 00:02:14.240 Well, geez, how fast are you're gonna be going on 56 00:02:14.240 --> 00:02:14.639 that thing? 57 00:02:15.159 --> 00:02:16.759 I've had it up to I think twenty eight miles 58 00:02:16.800 --> 00:02:19.520 an hour going down a hill, which is pretty serious 59 00:02:19.960 --> 00:02:23.479 fast on an electric bike, ap really fast. I've got 60 00:02:23.520 --> 00:02:25.360 an app and I can tell you really quickly. Here 61 00:02:25.520 --> 00:02:28.199 there's an app that comes because everything comes with an app. 62 00:02:28.240 --> 00:02:30.080 Now you can get a toothpick, it'll come with it. 63 00:02:30.120 --> 00:02:33.120 You get a spatchuel, it'll come with an app. My 64 00:02:33.439 --> 00:02:38.039 average speed is ten point nine miles an hour. My 65 00:02:38.400 --> 00:02:41.319 max speed twenty seven point nine miles an hour. 66 00:02:41.520 --> 00:02:45.039 Zoom in. So I think the one thing I do 67 00:02:45.159 --> 00:02:47.240 like to measure my speed on is snowboarding. And I 68 00:02:47.240 --> 00:02:49.080 think I've gotten to forty six miles. 69 00:02:49.080 --> 00:02:49.960 Are you serious? 70 00:02:50.120 --> 00:02:50.319 Yeah? 71 00:02:50.360 --> 00:02:51.680 Wow, that's fucking quick. 72 00:02:51.919 --> 00:02:55.199 Yeah, and I mean, honestly, not that I talk about 73 00:02:55.240 --> 00:02:57.639 him much anymore, but Andrew would get to like sixty 74 00:02:58.199 --> 00:03:01.800 miles per hour. That's not fast because he is crazy 75 00:03:02.080 --> 00:03:04.000 good at snowboarding and he goes too fast. 76 00:03:04.000 --> 00:03:04.240 Though. 77 00:03:04.319 --> 00:03:06.759 Those guys are scary because I've been. You know, it 78 00:03:07.639 --> 00:03:09.120 depends on the run you're on. If you're on a 79 00:03:09.120 --> 00:03:11.599 black run and somebody's coming by at sixty, or you're 80 00:03:11.639 --> 00:03:15.039 on a blue black run and somebody's going sixty, let them. 81 00:03:15.080 --> 00:03:17.240 But if you're on a green run and some little thought, 82 00:03:18.080 --> 00:03:19.240 I don't mean Andrew. 83 00:03:18.960 --> 00:03:20.960 I was gonna say, I definitely that's not like what 84 00:03:21.000 --> 00:03:22.960 we would do. But yeah, I know what you mean. 85 00:03:23.199 --> 00:03:25.360 But you see some little asshole come by, and it's 86 00:03:25.400 --> 00:03:28.000 always like a twenty year old kid coming by going 87 00:03:28.080 --> 00:03:30.400 sixty miles an hour in a green run, weaving in 88 00:03:30.479 --> 00:03:32.319 and out of eight year old girls who were the 89 00:03:32.400 --> 00:03:36.919 first time on skis, and it's like, motherfucker, slow down, 90 00:03:37.000 --> 00:03:39.280 stop because it can be it can be really, I mean, 91 00:03:39.639 --> 00:03:42.280 that's like hitting the truck. Yeah, at that speed. 92 00:03:42.960 --> 00:03:45.560 Imagine just like clotheslining an eight year old girl learning 93 00:03:45.599 --> 00:03:45.919 to ski. 94 00:03:46.080 --> 00:03:49.680 No, it'd be just terrible or or me or even worse, 95 00:03:49.840 --> 00:03:54.599 even worse for you driver's licenses. Friend of mine, Melanie said, 96 00:03:54.599 --> 00:03:56.479 I'm really pissed off. Let me read a text message 97 00:03:56.520 --> 00:03:58.879 from her. She said, I need to renew my driver's license. 98 00:03:59.159 --> 00:03:59.680 I just got this. 99 00:03:59.719 --> 00:04:04.879 Imn to go and she says, she says, I hate 100 00:04:04.919 --> 00:04:08.719 Hennebon County. I need my license renewed, just the regular license, 101 00:04:08.759 --> 00:04:11.719 and they only have four DMVs in the entire county 102 00:04:11.759 --> 00:04:14.919 to do them. Fucking insane. And I said, can't you 103 00:04:14.960 --> 00:04:16.839 go to Hutchinson? She said, not sure if you can 104 00:04:16.839 --> 00:04:18.600 renew in the same county where you live or what. 105 00:04:19.959 --> 00:04:21.800 I'm just bitching because you should be able to renew 106 00:04:21.839 --> 00:04:25.040 a regular license online. Plus they charge forty one dollars 107 00:04:25.079 --> 00:04:28.160 for a regular license. That bullshit. Sorry, I'm bitching. Just 108 00:04:28.240 --> 00:04:30.040 pisses me off. I said, oh no, you can bitch 109 00:04:30.079 --> 00:04:32.439 at me anytime. That's what friends are for. Does anybody 110 00:04:32.480 --> 00:04:34.879 know about the relicnsing renewal process? 111 00:04:34.959 --> 00:04:36.759 Yeah, I mean you always have to go back in 112 00:04:36.839 --> 00:04:38.639 when your license expires, and it is. 113 00:04:38.720 --> 00:04:40.839 I agree, it's so stupid. I don't get it. You 114 00:04:40.839 --> 00:04:42.040 don't have to get read all. 115 00:04:42.199 --> 00:04:44.360 Actually I do get it. They do test your eyes. 116 00:04:45.120 --> 00:04:47.839 That is the one thing that's the test, but it is. 117 00:04:48.000 --> 00:04:50.639 It's Yeah, I get it. It's frustrating because I think 118 00:04:50.639 --> 00:04:53.120 it's every seven it's year's. I had to get mine 119 00:04:53.120 --> 00:04:56.439 renewed last year on my birthday. I think it was Yeah, okay, 120 00:04:56.480 --> 00:04:57.639 so I don't have to do it for a while. 121 00:04:57.680 --> 00:05:00.199 But yeah, it's annoying because you're basically just sitting there. 122 00:05:00.519 --> 00:05:03.279 You have to bring in five million documents. I thought 123 00:05:03.279 --> 00:05:04.959 I did it right, and I still didn't do it right. 124 00:05:05.000 --> 00:05:06.920 But they allowed me to email something to them that 125 00:05:06.959 --> 00:05:07.920 they printed off and. 126 00:05:08.759 --> 00:05:11.959 I've had that too. Yeah, you're right, I did that too. 127 00:05:12.000 --> 00:05:17.240 I went down to there's a department bureau whatever in Southdale, 128 00:05:17.600 --> 00:05:19.560 and I did not have a document, but they said, 129 00:05:19.560 --> 00:05:22.680 if you email this and sign it, we will accept that, 130 00:05:22.759 --> 00:05:24.120 and I'm like, thank god. 131 00:05:24.439 --> 00:05:24.639 Yeah. 132 00:05:24.720 --> 00:05:27.560 And the cliche of DMV people is that they're slow, lazy, 133 00:05:27.600 --> 00:05:29.879 and rude. I have not encountered that. 134 00:05:30.000 --> 00:05:30.600 Yeah, me neither. 135 00:05:30.720 --> 00:05:32.360 Yeah, they're usually pretty helpful. 136 00:05:32.240 --> 00:05:33.480 Very nice DMV people. 137 00:05:33.879 --> 00:05:35.480 All right, here we go with the emails. Hello, my 138 00:05:35.519 --> 00:05:39.199 favorite crew. Kristen back with another random question. What is 139 00:05:39.240 --> 00:05:41.759 an article of clothing that you think you just can't 140 00:05:41.759 --> 00:05:45.600 wear or doesn't look right on you. For me, it's hats. 141 00:05:45.639 --> 00:05:48.360 I got an oversized head and super flat hair, so 142 00:05:48.519 --> 00:05:52.480 hats just look super awkward on me, especially baseball hats. 143 00:05:52.920 --> 00:05:57.160 Keep on dart licking it up, Kristin, I've never thought 144 00:05:57.199 --> 00:05:59.800 about that. I would say a tank top is not 145 00:06:00.040 --> 00:06:02.160 something that I would wear because I look like Billy 146 00:06:02.240 --> 00:06:05.680 Bob sitting out by his trailer in a tank top. 147 00:06:05.720 --> 00:06:06.720 It is not my thing. 148 00:06:07.079 --> 00:06:09.759 You just have a forever farmer's hand, Like it can 149 00:06:09.800 --> 00:06:11.360 be the dead of winter and you do have a 150 00:06:11.399 --> 00:06:13.720 farmer's hand. So that's why maybe in the summer, or 151 00:06:13.720 --> 00:06:15.360 maybe you get a little spray tan, you could. 152 00:06:15.199 --> 00:06:15.680 Pull it off. 153 00:06:15.680 --> 00:06:19.240 Otherwise, Okay, all right, I think mine is probably rompers 154 00:06:19.399 --> 00:06:22.199 because I do not have the body type for a romper. 155 00:06:22.360 --> 00:06:24.639 Basically that's like a one piece outfit. 156 00:06:24.680 --> 00:06:24.839 You know. 157 00:06:25.800 --> 00:06:27.439 I don't have the body type for it because my 158 00:06:27.480 --> 00:06:30.399 butt's like too big, so it'll I need like a 159 00:06:30.439 --> 00:06:34.079 bigger size for my butt area. But my waist section 160 00:06:34.680 --> 00:06:37.360 is like it's I'm drowning in it now, So I 161 00:06:37.439 --> 00:06:38.480 do not look good and. 162 00:06:38.439 --> 00:06:40.120 Like one piece kind of items. 163 00:06:40.240 --> 00:06:42.800 Yeah, and I am a very uppear shaped person, so 164 00:06:43.600 --> 00:06:46.240 I would say some like dresses. If it's more of 165 00:06:46.279 --> 00:06:50.079 like a fitted body con type dress, it looks weird. 166 00:06:50.160 --> 00:06:53.360 So I definitely need an a line that hugs the 167 00:06:53.639 --> 00:06:55.759 waist or the rib cage and then just goes out 168 00:06:55.959 --> 00:06:59.680 at the end. Because my gut and butt are bigger 169 00:06:59.720 --> 00:07:02.279 than my boobs are bigger than my legs. 170 00:07:02.319 --> 00:07:04.160 They're just I'm just round in the middle. 171 00:07:04.720 --> 00:07:08.120 So whatever emphasizes that, I'm like, I want to throw 172 00:07:08.120 --> 00:07:08.920 it out and burn it. 173 00:07:09.040 --> 00:07:10.639 I gotcha. Yeah, I think we know. 174 00:07:11.040 --> 00:07:13.079 There was a woman last I don't want to get 175 00:07:13.079 --> 00:07:15.639 too specific, but it was at the gym. And most 176 00:07:15.639 --> 00:07:17.519 people when I go to SNAP, they are wearing, you know, 177 00:07:17.959 --> 00:07:21.759 very ordinary I'm not here to stand out kind of clothing. 178 00:07:22.040 --> 00:07:24.360 And there was a woman who she was younger, she 179 00:07:24.480 --> 00:07:27.240 was attractive, She had the long legs and the nice, 180 00:07:27.439 --> 00:07:31.680 you know, fit shape, and she was wearing matching like 181 00:07:31.879 --> 00:07:34.959 a tank top or a bra top or I don't 182 00:07:35.000 --> 00:07:35.839 know what you call it. 183 00:07:35.839 --> 00:07:38.839 It's probably a crop top. 184 00:07:38.360 --> 00:07:44.560 And then tight little leggings. And she knew she looked 185 00:07:44.600 --> 00:07:47.319 really good. I mean, you don't wear that unless you 186 00:07:47.399 --> 00:07:50.480 know you look really good in it. And it's kind 187 00:07:50.519 --> 00:07:52.800 of like, you know what, I don't care good for her. 188 00:07:53.279 --> 00:07:56.199 I did make a really special effort to ever never 189 00:07:56.360 --> 00:07:59.680 ever be facing her so she would never think that 190 00:07:59.720 --> 00:08:02.279 I would staring at that. I would do my sit 191 00:08:02.399 --> 00:08:05.279 ups or my planks facing the other way. I would 192 00:08:05.360 --> 00:08:07.959 did do my squats facing the other way because I 193 00:08:08.000 --> 00:08:10.800 never wanted, because I really think that when you're dressed 194 00:08:10.879 --> 00:08:13.439 like that, your radar is up for people that are 195 00:08:13.439 --> 00:08:14.160 staring at you. 196 00:08:14.240 --> 00:08:16.279 Would you agree? 197 00:08:16.480 --> 00:08:18.959 I guess it wouldn't occur to me to think about 198 00:08:18.959 --> 00:08:22.879 that unless, like I was wearing something super tiny, but 199 00:08:22.959 --> 00:08:25.319 I wouldn't be so. And I think the people who 200 00:08:25.319 --> 00:08:27.199 do wear super tiny gym clothes, they're just used to 201 00:08:27.240 --> 00:08:29.120 wearing super tiny gym clothes, so they probably don't think 202 00:08:29.120 --> 00:08:32.159 about it either. Okay, no, my radar would not be up. 203 00:08:32.200 --> 00:08:34.519 If you were wearing something super kind of you know, clingy, 204 00:08:34.559 --> 00:08:36.759 sexy revealing in the gym. Would your radar be up 205 00:08:36.759 --> 00:08:37.720 for people staring at. 206 00:08:37.679 --> 00:08:40.320 You, Jenny, Yes, But I think my radar is always 207 00:08:40.360 --> 00:08:42.600 up because no matter what, I'm always wearing leggings. And 208 00:08:43.000 --> 00:08:44.759 I know we talked about this a lot. It's just 209 00:08:44.919 --> 00:08:47.399 the fact is I have such a huge ass, and 210 00:08:47.440 --> 00:08:51.480 so I'm very used to walking past people and seeing 211 00:08:51.519 --> 00:08:53.519 like the side eye that they give me. Yeah, So 212 00:08:53.679 --> 00:08:55.679 I'm kind of used to that. No matter what I'm wearing. 213 00:08:55.720 --> 00:08:58.679 If I'm wearing leggings, I'm probably getting some people looking 214 00:08:58.720 --> 00:09:00.679 at my ass, you know. And I'm i of looking 215 00:09:00.679 --> 00:09:04.279 at women's asses too, honestly, Like there's some hot ass 216 00:09:04.320 --> 00:09:06.559 people in the gym and I sometime. And I also 217 00:09:06.639 --> 00:09:10.039 love a good matching set. So I see one, I'm 218 00:09:10.080 --> 00:09:12.240 like staring at that girl just took a. 219 00:09:12.200 --> 00:09:13.879 Trice fort the brand. Yeah, I know. 220 00:09:13.919 --> 00:09:15.600 I took a fight class like two weeks ago, and 221 00:09:15.639 --> 00:09:16.799 I was like, oh my god, I love your set, 222 00:09:16.799 --> 00:09:18.879 and she's like Target, and I was like, what, no way, 223 00:09:19.399 --> 00:09:20.840 So of course I went to Target. 224 00:09:20.840 --> 00:09:23.440 But she was way more fit than me. I would 225 00:09:23.440 --> 00:09:24.559 not have looked the same on me. 226 00:09:25.080 --> 00:09:27.200 Okay, Yeah, I was just very careful to because I 227 00:09:27.240 --> 00:09:29.519 never wanted her to look over and go like that 228 00:09:29.720 --> 00:09:32.000 guy over there staring at me. So I made it 229 00:09:32.120 --> 00:09:33.559 like when i'd passed her, like on the way to 230 00:09:33.600 --> 00:09:36.399 the water thing, the water machine, I wouldn't even make 231 00:09:36.399 --> 00:09:39.200 eye contact. Yeah, because I just don't want anybody to 232 00:09:39.240 --> 00:09:43.120 feel uncomfortable around me except the two of you. Yes, 233 00:09:43.120 --> 00:09:45.679 And that is why I don't even have a joke here. 234 00:09:45.879 --> 00:09:47.720 I was gonna make a joke, but I don't. I'm 235 00:09:47.720 --> 00:09:49.360 not even gonna do it. I told Bailey, I said 236 00:09:49.399 --> 00:09:51.639 this morning, I said, Bailey, you're so fucking cute. And 237 00:09:51.679 --> 00:09:53.799 the reason I said that was because the video that 238 00:09:53.919 --> 00:09:56.200 we did yesterday with the two coffees, it's on our 239 00:09:56.240 --> 00:09:59.600 Instagram reel. You were acting and I just said, you're 240 00:09:59.600 --> 00:10:01.440 so fucked cute. I was going to send you that 241 00:10:01.559 --> 00:10:03.840 last night and say, Bailey, you're so fucking cute, but 242 00:10:03.879 --> 00:10:06.399 I didn't want you to misinterpret it as me like 243 00:10:06.919 --> 00:10:09.720 being weird. So I told you this morning with a 244 00:10:09.759 --> 00:10:13.200 giant caveat, I will never flirt with you. I will 245 00:10:13.200 --> 00:10:16.559 never hit on you, so you'll never have to worry 246 00:10:16.559 --> 00:10:18.919 about that. That is what the cardinal rule I have 247 00:10:19.159 --> 00:10:22.519 where I work is, I don't, well, I have flirted 248 00:10:22.559 --> 00:10:22.919 with people. 249 00:10:23.320 --> 00:10:26.480 I'm gonna say, you definitely have a little crush crush 250 00:10:26.519 --> 00:10:27.279 on some. 251 00:10:27.120 --> 00:10:29.679 People, but I'm careful not to flirt. 252 00:10:30.240 --> 00:10:32.919 Sure flirt, but you definitely, Like there's definitely people we 253 00:10:32.960 --> 00:10:33.919 work with where you're like. 254 00:10:34.960 --> 00:10:37.000 I'll talk about and like I'll talk about them behind 255 00:10:37.039 --> 00:10:38.799 their back. Like there's one person here at work that 256 00:10:38.840 --> 00:10:42.440 I'm like, I've had a crush on this person for 257 00:10:42.559 --> 00:10:45.840 a period of time and uh and they know it 258 00:10:46.279 --> 00:10:49.519 and they've never reciprocated at all. So I'm not stupid 259 00:10:49.600 --> 00:10:52.679 enough to keep you know, like, you look nice today, 260 00:10:52.679 --> 00:10:52.960 I'm not. 261 00:10:53.080 --> 00:10:53.879 I don't do that. 262 00:10:53.879 --> 00:10:55.440 That's blouse. 263 00:10:55.480 --> 00:10:57.879 You got nice blouse? 264 00:10:58.720 --> 00:10:59.080 All right? 265 00:11:00.000 --> 00:11:03.320 Our emails coming up on the Minnesota goodbye, all right? 266 00:11:03.399 --> 00:11:05.519 This one I had to blow up because the font 267 00:11:05.559 --> 00:11:07.720 was so small because I couldn't read it. 268 00:11:08.000 --> 00:11:09.080 Hello. I love the. 269 00:11:09.080 --> 00:11:11.200 Show and I email in every couple of months and 270 00:11:11.240 --> 00:11:13.840 text it often. Although I have a plane Jane name, 271 00:11:14.639 --> 00:11:16.600 and how could you ever remember? 272 00:11:16.919 --> 00:11:17.080 Oh? 273 00:11:17.120 --> 00:11:19.080 I see what she means. She's in other words, she's like, 274 00:11:19.120 --> 00:11:21.759 you wouldn't remember me because I have a plane Jane name, 275 00:11:21.919 --> 00:11:23.159 but she doesn't say what her name is. 276 00:11:23.559 --> 00:11:24.200 Anyway. 277 00:11:24.320 --> 00:11:25.840 I heard you all a couple of weeks ago talking 278 00:11:25.840 --> 00:11:28.120 about if you could go back to your childhome, and 279 00:11:28.159 --> 00:11:30.559 I believe in the past I've heard Jenny reference listening 280 00:11:30.600 --> 00:11:35.159 to the two Hot Takes podcasts. So both of these 281 00:11:35.200 --> 00:11:37.240 things got me thinking and I would send in my 282 00:11:37.279 --> 00:11:39.440 own version of am I the asshole? 283 00:11:39.759 --> 00:11:40.120 Okay? 284 00:11:40.279 --> 00:11:43.120 So let's see how she ties these together. Long story, 285 00:11:43.120 --> 00:11:45.159 short my husband and I bought our house five years ago. 286 00:11:45.440 --> 00:11:47.919 There was only one other family who lived here prior 287 00:11:47.960 --> 00:11:50.879 to us. The parents passed away while living here and 288 00:11:50.960 --> 00:11:55.919 their two children inherited it, so they must have lived 289 00:11:55.919 --> 00:11:58.679 there for a long time. So if they only passed 290 00:11:58.720 --> 00:12:02.000 away five years ago, to guess the parents lived there 291 00:12:02.039 --> 00:12:05.799 a long time. With the now adult children living in 292 00:12:05.799 --> 00:12:10.279 the home, it went to absolute shit. For example, even 293 00:12:10.399 --> 00:12:13.159 just the yard was horrible. I'm talking about when we 294 00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:15.159 bought it, not a single blade of grass in the 295 00:12:15.200 --> 00:12:18.879 front or backyard, wild pumpkin and rhue barb growing in 296 00:12:18.879 --> 00:12:21.360 the back. We couldn't even walk back there. We have 297 00:12:21.399 --> 00:12:24.960 since dug out everything, cleaned it up, brought in literally 298 00:12:25.159 --> 00:12:29.399 thirty dump truck loads of dirt, wow, to help build 299 00:12:29.480 --> 00:12:32.600 up the backyard again. So it was usable that brings 300 00:12:32.639 --> 00:12:34.399 us to last year. It was heavily pregnant in the 301 00:12:34.399 --> 00:12:37.320 front yard planting some irises. When a woman walks up 302 00:12:37.360 --> 00:12:38.960 to my front yard, I thought maybe she was a 303 00:12:39.120 --> 00:12:41.240 delivery person, but it turns out she was the daughter 304 00:12:41.320 --> 00:12:44.000 who lived here and was talking about me to me 305 00:12:44.240 --> 00:12:47.440 about how her dad would be so happy irises were 306 00:12:47.440 --> 00:12:50.440 back in the yard. I talked to her for a bit, 307 00:12:50.480 --> 00:12:52.559 then excused myself to keep doing what I was doing. 308 00:12:53.000 --> 00:12:54.840 I could tell she was hinting she wanted to go 309 00:12:54.879 --> 00:12:56.559 in the house to see all the work that was done. 310 00:12:56.559 --> 00:12:59.639 It looks completely different on the inside now also, but 311 00:12:59.679 --> 00:13:02.600 I was inhabit it, I was heavily pregnant, two crazy 312 00:13:02.639 --> 00:13:04.279 dogs in the house, and at the end of the day, 313 00:13:04.320 --> 00:13:06.200 she's still a stranger, even though I could tell she 314 00:13:06.279 --> 00:13:08.440 really wanted me to offer to come in and look around. 315 00:13:08.919 --> 00:13:12.080 So am I the asshole? Curious to hear your thoughts? 316 00:13:12.120 --> 00:13:19.080 Loved listening every morning, dart lick. Now that I'm not pregnant, Okay, No, 317 00:13:19.159 --> 00:13:20.960 you are certainly not the asshole. 318 00:13:21.320 --> 00:13:21.799 I think that you. 319 00:13:21.759 --> 00:13:23.480 Would have been a little bit more amenable to her 320 00:13:23.519 --> 00:13:26.559 coming in had she taken care of and respected the 321 00:13:26.600 --> 00:13:29.320 house when she lived there, If she would have kept 322 00:13:29.360 --> 00:13:31.480 a nice house, It'd be like, Yeah, you seem like 323 00:13:31.480 --> 00:13:33.960 a nice person, but now because you let it become 324 00:13:34.000 --> 00:13:36.200 a shithole that you had to deal with, that you 325 00:13:36.240 --> 00:13:38.000 had to deal with. No, I would be like, no, 326 00:13:38.240 --> 00:13:40.399 And of course, you're never obligated. 327 00:13:40.159 --> 00:13:42.320 Right exactly. I mean, that's the first thing. You're never 328 00:13:42.360 --> 00:13:45.000 obligated to let somebody like, come in and root around. 329 00:13:45.600 --> 00:13:48.120 But I don't know that she would have rooted around. Well, 330 00:13:48.240 --> 00:13:50.000 maybe as she would have if she didn't take care 331 00:13:50.000 --> 00:13:51.120 of the house the way that she did. 332 00:13:51.120 --> 00:13:53.960 But yeah, no, I think you're fine. You're not the asshole. 333 00:13:54.360 --> 00:13:55.440 You're a good person. 334 00:13:55.639 --> 00:13:57.919 I love telling this story because and I've told it before, 335 00:13:57.960 --> 00:13:59.440 you probably heard it. But there was a friend of 336 00:13:59.440 --> 00:14:03.200 mine who lived This was twenty five is years ago. 337 00:14:03.320 --> 00:14:07.799 She lived on Nebraska Avenue over in Saint Paul And 338 00:14:08.000 --> 00:14:11.200 this house was built probably in the nineteen forties or so, 339 00:14:12.120 --> 00:14:15.120 and this was, you know, again, probably thirty years ago 340 00:14:15.279 --> 00:14:17.039 that she was living there with her sister. There was 341 00:14:17.080 --> 00:14:19.559 a knock on the door. She opens the door and 342 00:14:19.600 --> 00:14:21.919 it's a woman about sixty standing there with a woman 343 00:14:21.919 --> 00:14:26.600 who's about eighty five. And the younger woman says, this 344 00:14:26.759 --> 00:14:31.120 is my mom. She raised me in this house, and 345 00:14:31.200 --> 00:14:35.000 she's getting older and this is where all of her 346 00:14:35.039 --> 00:14:37.799 precious memories are. Is it okay? If she comes in 347 00:14:38.279 --> 00:14:44.039 and looks around the house that she raised us kids in, now, 348 00:14:44.039 --> 00:14:46.879 can you imagine the enormity of that. Yeah, here's a 349 00:14:46.919 --> 00:14:50.200 house that you haven't seen in probably, I don't know 350 00:14:50.240 --> 00:14:53.919 who knows if the it's hard even say she hadn't 351 00:14:53.919 --> 00:14:56.279 seen it. Let's say thirty years, been thirty years since 352 00:14:56.320 --> 00:14:58.919 she raised her kids in this house. Wow, And now 353 00:14:58.960 --> 00:15:00.960 here she is with her daughter or who grew up there. 354 00:15:01.200 --> 00:15:04.240 And my friend said, yeah, absolutely, come on in. It's 355 00:15:04.399 --> 00:15:07.000 changed a lot, and some of it had changed and 356 00:15:07.080 --> 00:15:10.600 some not. The basic layout was the same, I guess. 357 00:15:10.639 --> 00:15:13.799 But the mom, the eighty five year old, said, my gosh, 358 00:15:13.799 --> 00:15:17.759 there's just so many memories here. And I totally get 359 00:15:17.799 --> 00:15:20.480 that because I walk into my house in Colorado that 360 00:15:20.519 --> 00:15:24.120 I grew up in and there's so many memories. 361 00:15:24.279 --> 00:15:24.679 Yeah. 362 00:15:24.720 --> 00:15:26.720 I mean, there's so many memories in my house that 363 00:15:26.759 --> 00:15:28.759 I've lived in now for twenty one years, of my 364 00:15:28.879 --> 00:15:34.519 kids being little or younger. Every corner is a memory 365 00:15:34.559 --> 00:15:35.320 of something. 366 00:15:36.159 --> 00:15:39.279 So I love like houses that have like that memory 367 00:15:39.320 --> 00:15:42.840 and stuff, though I can't imagine. So, my grandma's house 368 00:15:43.519 --> 00:15:46.519 was seven one eight was the address cult so we 369 00:15:46.559 --> 00:15:49.399 always called it seven eighteen and my uncle lived there 370 00:15:49.440 --> 00:15:54.000 after both my grandparents died, and then he died, and 371 00:15:54.720 --> 00:15:57.000 the like city bought it because it was right by 372 00:15:57.080 --> 00:15:59.080 view of m campus. It was like the last single 373 00:15:59.120 --> 00:16:02.879 family home and walking into it without any of the 374 00:16:02.960 --> 00:16:05.440 stuff in It was so wild because I had all 375 00:16:05.440 --> 00:16:07.440 of these memories of what it was like and what 376 00:16:07.480 --> 00:16:10.679 it used to look like, and now it's gone entirely, 377 00:16:10.759 --> 00:16:13.679 like they tore it down and like built a apartment 378 00:16:13.720 --> 00:16:16.679 building or something. So I mean, if you get the 379 00:16:16.720 --> 00:16:20.080 opportunity to make that happen, like, that's such like a 380 00:16:20.120 --> 00:16:21.919 gift that not a lot of people get. 381 00:16:22.360 --> 00:16:24.360 I remember when my parents for getting a divorce. 382 00:16:24.600 --> 00:16:27.639 I was so sad because I thought we, like we 383 00:16:27.639 --> 00:16:29.480 didn't grow up with money, so I didn't think one 384 00:16:29.559 --> 00:16:31.679 of the parents could afford the house we were living 385 00:16:31.720 --> 00:16:33.679 in on their own, so I thought we were for 386 00:16:33.720 --> 00:16:36.879 sure going to be selling the house moving elsewhere. But 387 00:16:36.919 --> 00:16:39.840 my mom was capable of making it work, which I 388 00:16:39.879 --> 00:16:42.799 found out later in life. Actually she did struggle a 389 00:16:42.879 --> 00:16:45.399 little bit and her best friend had to like borrow 390 00:16:45.399 --> 00:16:48.159 her money for a little bit, which I had no 391 00:16:48.240 --> 00:16:51.320 idea like growing up that my mom was like not 392 00:16:51.440 --> 00:16:52.879 able to afford it by her own. 393 00:16:53.120 --> 00:16:55.360 I'm glad she did, though she probably did the lot 394 00:16:55.399 --> 00:16:57.799 for you and your sisters for sure, to make sure 395 00:16:57.840 --> 00:16:59.720 that you had that home and you didn't feel this 396 00:16:59.799 --> 00:17:03.840 play the last story and we'll let you go after 397 00:17:03.879 --> 00:17:09.240 this one is Jordan, Montana in about nineteen I don't know, 398 00:17:09.480 --> 00:17:13.559 sixty ish or so. My grandparents used to live out 399 00:17:13.559 --> 00:17:15.480 in the fucking middle of nowhere on a ranch. But 400 00:17:15.519 --> 00:17:17.279 then they got old and they had to move into town. 401 00:17:17.759 --> 00:17:20.079