WEBVTT 1 00:00:05.440 --> 00:00:07.519 What's up, beautiful people, It's your girls Story. Repeat and 2 00:00:07.519 --> 00:00:10.800 we're back with another episode of Chocolate, Chip and Sip. 3 00:00:10.880 --> 00:00:14.080 And today we are gonna be talking about the soft 4 00:00:14.119 --> 00:00:17.839 girl lifestyle, the not so soft breakups, and why sometimes 5 00:00:17.839 --> 00:00:20.120 you need a little bit of break in between, you know, 6 00:00:20.679 --> 00:00:23.160 maybe even a little beverage. All right, this conversation was 7 00:00:23.199 --> 00:00:25.359 so good I couldn't do it myself, so I had 8 00:00:25.399 --> 00:00:27.640 to bring a fellow beatty to come talk to me. 9 00:00:28.039 --> 00:00:28.559 Today. 10 00:00:28.960 --> 00:00:30.640 I got my girl days Chavu and Ima. Let her 11 00:00:30.640 --> 00:00:32.280 introduce herself. Go ahead, get give it to me, Give 12 00:00:32.280 --> 00:00:32.600 it to me. 13 00:00:32.719 --> 00:00:33.880 My name is Dad Janvou. 14 00:00:34.079 --> 00:00:36.320 I'm a hip hop artist from Methey, Tennessee. I saw 15 00:00:36.359 --> 00:00:40.640 a songwriter, a natural lover of life and creative all around. 16 00:00:40.719 --> 00:00:44.560 You feel me, daddy today and. 17 00:00:44.520 --> 00:00:46.880 Today they forgot to tell y'all, if y'all listening on audio, 18 00:00:47.439 --> 00:00:51.000 that she's so beautiful and she smelled like natural juices 19 00:00:51.079 --> 00:00:54.960 and berries. And when she came in, I said, oh, 20 00:00:55.000 --> 00:00:57.320 my goodness, who is I could. 21 00:00:59.520 --> 00:01:03.280 Yes, yes, good. 22 00:01:03.880 --> 00:01:07.640 So I saw one of your clips and you was 23 00:01:07.760 --> 00:01:12.159 talking about how we always talk about, you know, standing 24 00:01:12.159 --> 00:01:15.599 on business and you know, self care and all other stuff. 25 00:01:15.599 --> 00:01:19.840 But will we ever see a web again. And that's 26 00:01:19.840 --> 00:01:22.200 when I said she's the one girl. 27 00:01:22.760 --> 00:01:25.319 Be it just you being a flow of self love 28 00:01:25.439 --> 00:01:28.120 and getting yourself right and then ovulation here and you'll 29 00:01:28.159 --> 00:01:29.680 be like, who's. 30 00:01:29.439 --> 00:01:32.799 Gonna get me right? Though? Like damn, you know what 31 00:01:32.799 --> 00:01:33.239 I'm saying. 32 00:01:33.439 --> 00:01:36.680 People always in the comments like girl investing a massage, gun, 33 00:01:36.760 --> 00:01:39.200 investing a toy, But a toy is not gonna hold 34 00:01:39.200 --> 00:01:40.840 it back of your neck, looking to your ass, call 35 00:01:40.920 --> 00:01:42.959 you beautiful and push it in slow. 36 00:01:42.760 --> 00:01:45.400 Like I don't need a toy. I need a bicep 37 00:01:45.480 --> 00:01:45.920 to lay on. 38 00:01:46.079 --> 00:01:49.159 That's what. That's what. I need a leg Like, yes, 39 00:01:50.079 --> 00:01:55.319 I put my to in. That's so much, that's too much. 40 00:01:56.519 --> 00:01:58.840 You have found the right place, little do you know? 41 00:01:59.840 --> 00:02:02.079 You you have genuinely found. 42 00:02:01.879 --> 00:02:06.920 The right place you found yeah yeah, kind of tying 43 00:02:06.959 --> 00:02:09.520 into that, I think that another one of my frustrations 44 00:02:09.680 --> 00:02:13.080 is like I hate when I'm done dealing with talking 45 00:02:13.080 --> 00:02:16.599 to dating a man. But nobody told fat Ma that 46 00:02:16.639 --> 00:02:18.639 we're done dealing with dating talk. 47 00:02:18.520 --> 00:02:26.639 To a man. And I think that's another part of like, 48 00:02:26.680 --> 00:02:28.199 you know, just being by. 49 00:02:28.080 --> 00:02:30.599 Yourself, like that whole two three week period after you 50 00:02:30.680 --> 00:02:33.439 stop dealing with somebody it's hard. 51 00:02:33.879 --> 00:02:36.039 Yeah, it can be. It can be. 52 00:02:36.599 --> 00:02:39.319 I mean, this is gonna sound out extra like serious 53 00:02:39.360 --> 00:02:44.039 and ship, but sometimes come on different levels. Somebody could 54 00:02:44.080 --> 00:02:46.199 really be in your body, but really be fucking your mind, 55 00:02:46.919 --> 00:02:50.439 your soul, and it be the energy of that that's 56 00:02:50.439 --> 00:02:53.639 still existing, your body calling for his match one of 57 00:02:53.639 --> 00:02:57.360 that person. So it's like ship. You gotta be careful, Yes, 58 00:02:57.520 --> 00:02:58.560 once the talk through it. 59 00:02:58.840 --> 00:03:01.800 Yes, because hold my therapist telling me to let go, 60 00:03:01.919 --> 00:03:03.840 but my body is saying let him have his way. 61 00:03:04.080 --> 00:03:05.759 And I don't know which one I need to be 62 00:03:05.800 --> 00:03:06.639 paying attention to. 63 00:03:06.919 --> 00:03:13.240 I feel that don't don't, don't, don't be serious. 64 00:03:13.360 --> 00:03:15.599 That's why you gotta be careful, because lord, you can 65 00:03:15.599 --> 00:03:17.240 get addict this at the wrong Yes. 66 00:03:17.879 --> 00:03:21.759 Yes, man, but we we be good to yes for you. 67 00:03:21.800 --> 00:03:25.120 And now it's two am and you sending texts or 68 00:03:25.159 --> 00:03:26.840 if you like me, you just type the text and 69 00:03:26.840 --> 00:03:29.319 then delete the text, and then twenty minutes later you 70 00:03:29.400 --> 00:03:30.800 come back and try to do it again, and then 71 00:03:30.800 --> 00:03:31.879 you do it again, you do it again. 72 00:03:32.240 --> 00:03:33.759 It's it's a little bit of insanity. 73 00:03:33.840 --> 00:03:36.400 I'm I'm, I can recognize it's a little bit of insanity, okay, 74 00:03:36.639 --> 00:03:36.919 g And. 75 00:03:36.919 --> 00:03:40.199 I make comments that I don't post like, yeah, I'll 76 00:03:40.199 --> 00:03:41.680 go to a nigga at g and just be like 77 00:03:42.719 --> 00:03:48.439 you should and then I just delete that word. But 78 00:03:48.759 --> 00:03:50.800 actually it's so many dudes that I got Christians on 79 00:03:50.840 --> 00:03:51.719 they have no idea. 80 00:03:52.599 --> 00:03:54.400 Can we talk about the adult crush? 81 00:03:54.520 --> 00:03:57.080 Because I feel like having a crush as an adult 82 00:03:57.479 --> 00:04:00.400 is way more severe and emotional than it was back when. 83 00:04:00.280 --> 00:04:00.800 We was kitched. 84 00:04:00.840 --> 00:04:04.560 Absolutely absolutely, Because you grown, I could literally get in 85 00:04:04.560 --> 00:04:06.000 my car and pull up to your residence. 86 00:04:06.400 --> 00:04:08.840 You know what I'm saying. Ain't nobody Mama gonna say 87 00:04:08.879 --> 00:04:10.680 shit to me. I could really pull up and pull 88 00:04:10.800 --> 00:04:11.639 down on your ass. 89 00:04:12.000 --> 00:04:13.919 But you know, and I think it's different when you 90 00:04:14.039 --> 00:04:17.800 like cupkicking on the phone, swinging your legs, cheesing all 91 00:04:17.839 --> 00:04:19.519 herd because like, every once in a while you catch 92 00:04:19.519 --> 00:04:21.040 yourself like, what the fuck am I doing? 93 00:04:21.680 --> 00:04:27.120 Grow walking around the kitchen, putting the milk in different. 94 00:04:26.879 --> 00:04:30.480 Places, Yes, but don't know why. Yes, all types of shit. 95 00:04:30.680 --> 00:04:32.800 You walking around with the phone and the spikes rack 96 00:04:32.879 --> 00:04:35.480 because you're still trying to FaceTime while you like it's 97 00:04:35.519 --> 00:04:35.920 a thing. 98 00:04:36.199 --> 00:04:37.720 I used to love that feeling. 99 00:04:38.199 --> 00:04:40.839 I feel like as an adult, though, like the next 100 00:04:40.879 --> 00:04:43.040 one that I really want to like you. I want 101 00:04:43.079 --> 00:04:46.279 that same feeling, Like I really want to be sitting 102 00:04:46.399 --> 00:04:49.480 in the kitchen like running my fingers under the water 103 00:04:49.519 --> 00:04:51.480 for no reason and don't know why I'm doing that. 104 00:04:51.560 --> 00:04:53.759 Shit. Yeah you know what I'm saying in the bathroom, 105 00:04:53.759 --> 00:04:56.600 rearrange your towels, doing shit. I ain't got nothing to 106 00:04:56.639 --> 00:05:00.639 do on the phone, all giddy and shit. Listen, it's 107 00:05:00.800 --> 00:05:04.519 it's aimless. Shit. We always talk about like how the 108 00:05:04.600 --> 00:05:07.439 dating pool has pissing it and how it's trash. 109 00:05:07.480 --> 00:05:09.800 But when you find the right one and like you're 110 00:05:09.839 --> 00:05:12.120 dating one attention and you find somebody who like vibing 111 00:05:12.160 --> 00:05:15.600 with you, it's low key lit like bacon cookies at 112 00:05:15.600 --> 00:05:17.279 two am, Like. 113 00:05:19.120 --> 00:05:21.920 Yeah, like you're putting out energy that you're receiving back. 114 00:05:22.040 --> 00:05:25.759 Like people talk about how IG set up a standard 115 00:05:25.839 --> 00:05:28.879 that's like not realistic. And then at the same time 116 00:05:30.199 --> 00:05:34.120 I be seeing a lot of good looking looking okay, 117 00:05:34.240 --> 00:05:38.519 good looking, equally yoked looking type of relationships and marriages, 118 00:05:38.560 --> 00:05:40.519 and that make you think, like shit, it's still possible 119 00:05:40.519 --> 00:05:40.920 out there. 120 00:05:41.480 --> 00:05:43.920 It's not. It's not something that's too far fish to 121 00:05:43.920 --> 00:05:44.519 fall in love. 122 00:05:44.839 --> 00:05:49.240 And I think the only people who really experienced this 123 00:05:49.319 --> 00:05:52.000 whole IG ain't a real place. Are the people who 124 00:05:52.040 --> 00:05:54.680 think that IG is a real place. Like for people 125 00:05:54.680 --> 00:05:57.879 who understand that social media's entertainment, it's not that bad. 126 00:05:58.160 --> 00:06:01.720 It's really not like it's just adult hood. Honestly, you 127 00:06:01.759 --> 00:06:03.079 gotta have disinment with anything. 128 00:06:03.120 --> 00:06:04.800 It's like you might as well pregk to sit on 129 00:06:04.800 --> 00:06:08.120 the daily with the scroll. I don't know, it's killing us. 130 00:06:08.399 --> 00:06:11.279 The doom scroll. The doom scroll catch you in a minute, 131 00:06:11.319 --> 00:06:14.199 it will during this moment. Have taken a pause from dating. 132 00:06:14.560 --> 00:06:16.959 I found that I've encountered a lot of people who 133 00:06:17.000 --> 00:06:19.279 give me the vibes or the energy of we'll just 134 00:06:19.319 --> 00:06:21.040 pick one already, Like. 135 00:06:21.319 --> 00:06:23.639 One is like pickle, dude, they want me to just 136 00:06:23.720 --> 00:06:24.199 pick one. 137 00:06:24.600 --> 00:06:27.560 Like you're being so so picky, and I just feel 138 00:06:27.600 --> 00:06:29.319 like you're you just expect the perfect man to come 139 00:06:29.319 --> 00:06:32.160 into your life. It's like, this is a funny way 140 00:06:32.160 --> 00:06:33.759 to say, I got standards and boundaries. 141 00:06:33.800 --> 00:06:38.439 You were for being mad at me for having standards. 142 00:06:38.439 --> 00:06:40.759 That's crazy, God forbid. I want to wait for what 143 00:06:40.839 --> 00:06:42.360 I want. Who do I think I am? 144 00:06:42.560 --> 00:06:45.079 Oh my god, you're not. I think that's weird. 145 00:06:45.560 --> 00:06:47.959 I think the joy of life and being young and 146 00:06:48.000 --> 00:06:50.560 being tender and being fine and being tight and right 147 00:06:51.120 --> 00:06:52.879 is being able to date and see the variety that 148 00:06:52.959 --> 00:06:55.560 you have and as you change, see the changes in 149 00:06:55.600 --> 00:06:56.639 the people that you would tract. 150 00:06:57.120 --> 00:06:58.439 Because that's what I'm noticing too. 151 00:06:58.439 --> 00:07:01.240 The more I pour into myself and learn about myself 152 00:07:01.240 --> 00:07:04.000 and grow and settle into my own divine feminine, the 153 00:07:04.040 --> 00:07:09.600 more wide range, versatile, expressive, spiritual, like just different types 154 00:07:09.639 --> 00:07:11.360 of Yeah that I'm starting to a track and I 155 00:07:11.399 --> 00:07:12.600 have that it ain't no more. 156 00:07:12.600 --> 00:07:13.399 Why ends now? 157 00:07:13.480 --> 00:07:17.000 M m begeting into some grown men's now really liking 158 00:07:17.040 --> 00:07:23.240 that and yeah, yeah the growth, the growth should match 159 00:07:23.319 --> 00:07:25.560 that shit, you know you should. A lot of people 160 00:07:25.600 --> 00:07:27.639 settle at levels that they were supposed to keep going 161 00:07:27.680 --> 00:07:29.399 from us, and that be an issue. 162 00:07:29.519 --> 00:07:31.360 Yeah, trapped, don't don't five for. 163 00:07:31.240 --> 00:07:33.560 That, And I feel like that's why they don't understand 164 00:07:33.959 --> 00:07:37.279 five six years in they're not happy, but technically their 165 00:07:37.279 --> 00:07:40.000 partners and doing anything wrong, right, but they're not. 166 00:07:39.920 --> 00:07:43.680 Happy because they settled. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's messed up. 167 00:07:43.720 --> 00:07:46.040 We can we gotta be best friends, Like if I 168 00:07:46.120 --> 00:07:49.439 can't kick it with you with nothing sexual involved and 169 00:07:49.680 --> 00:07:52.680 like you or we can't be together, yeah, no matter 170 00:07:52.759 --> 00:07:55.920 how good the sexual energy is if I can be 171 00:07:55.959 --> 00:07:59.600 your friend on a regular day, I can't fuck with 172 00:07:59.600 --> 00:07:59.959 you for the. 173 00:08:00.319 --> 00:08:03.879 Sn So how do you cut somebody off that is 174 00:08:03.920 --> 00:08:06.759 not doing anything wrong? You just don't want to be 175 00:08:06.800 --> 00:08:09.240 their friends? Like y'all don't vibe like that. You back 176 00:08:09.279 --> 00:08:10.040 that ass up. 177 00:08:12.120 --> 00:08:12.720 Up slowly? 178 00:08:12.839 --> 00:08:17.920 Yea, no more fun, let's take Okay, I'm gonna reply, okay, 179 00:08:18.240 --> 00:08:19.240 no more be in the store? 180 00:08:19.399 --> 00:08:21.560 Back that ass? Okay? Are you just slowly backed the 181 00:08:21.639 --> 00:08:22.680 ass up? Wow? 182 00:08:22.720 --> 00:08:25.079 So you don't like intentionally be like, hey, you know what, 183 00:08:25.160 --> 00:08:26.360 it's not doing it for me? 184 00:08:26.439 --> 00:08:29.120 See unless I say that he's actively pursuing. If it's 185 00:08:29.120 --> 00:08:32.159 just who just like wasting time? 186 00:08:32.240 --> 00:08:32.639 Low key? 187 00:08:32.799 --> 00:08:35.480 Yeah? You know what I'm saying, talking just to have 188 00:08:35.519 --> 00:08:38.200 an option to talk to because it's normally when I 189 00:08:38.240 --> 00:08:40.360 get in positions, it's like I'm noticing something about how 190 00:08:40.399 --> 00:08:43.960 you treating me or how you're dealing with me. That's real, optional, 191 00:08:44.120 --> 00:08:47.519 real replaceable. So it ain't nothing official to be like, yeah, 192 00:08:47.559 --> 00:08:49.000 I think that. 193 00:08:49.000 --> 00:08:51.120 You ain't even there yet. Yeah, so I'm gonna just 194 00:08:51.240 --> 00:08:51.960 back that ass. 195 00:08:54.399 --> 00:08:58.440 So you're gonna like break from it reverse like you 196 00:08:58.639 --> 00:08:59.879 just slowly gonna let it go. 197 00:09:01.000 --> 00:09:02.799 And if you notice it and you got something to 198 00:09:02.799 --> 00:09:05.799 say about we can have a conversation, but as far 199 00:09:05.840 --> 00:09:09.159 as what I've already perceived about this, I'm replaceable to you. 200 00:09:09.440 --> 00:09:12.519 I'm just getting you know what I'm saying. Now, what 201 00:09:12.559 --> 00:09:15.039 if he full court pressure? You're like, yo, I'm noticing, 202 00:09:15.440 --> 00:09:18.879 then I'm a full court give him then answer I 203 00:09:18.919 --> 00:09:19.480 didne did that. 204 00:09:19.720 --> 00:09:22.679 It's crazy sometimes they avoided because I remember in the 205 00:09:22.759 --> 00:09:25.159 DM this one guy he was talking about like, yeah, 206 00:09:25.159 --> 00:09:27.720 you've been playing games for so long it's been and 207 00:09:27.759 --> 00:09:30.440 I was like, what actually to break it down for 208 00:09:30.480 --> 00:09:32.159 you the first time when we first I just broke 209 00:09:32.200 --> 00:09:34.159 the whole ship and everything that I didn't like. Why 210 00:09:34.200 --> 00:09:36.480 I stopped sucking with him like that, the whole ship and 211 00:09:36.440 --> 00:09:38.279 I'm mona fucker read it and just didn't say shit 212 00:09:38.320 --> 00:09:43.159 else because like soe now I got an attitude that 213 00:09:43.360 --> 00:09:46.879 I don't I something and never looked back. 214 00:09:47.120 --> 00:09:49.440 I used good thumb power sending this text because you 215 00:09:49.519 --> 00:09:51.600 asked for it. That should be a lot. That's why 216 00:09:51.600 --> 00:09:57.440 you just backed that ass back. That just back that 217 00:09:57.480 --> 00:09:59.960 ass up. You really try to tell him a buck 218 00:10:00.159 --> 00:10:00.679 what they did? 219 00:10:00.759 --> 00:10:03.759 They not riddle to take accountability anyway, So you're wasting 220 00:10:03.799 --> 00:10:06.279 your time just back to the ass up, make room 221 00:10:06.279 --> 00:10:08.159 for the next motherfucker who ready for them games. 222 00:10:08.440 --> 00:10:10.559 You might be on a someng with that one. The 223 00:10:10.600 --> 00:10:14.320 accountability is something that I feel like everybody struggles with 224 00:10:14.399 --> 00:10:17.080 right now, So yeah, I ain't mad at it. 225 00:10:17.080 --> 00:10:19.120 It's a growth process. Not everybody read it for this. 226 00:10:19.519 --> 00:10:22.799 It's a multitude of things because sometimes you attract men 227 00:10:22.960 --> 00:10:27.120 who want to be with you, sometimes you attract men 228 00:10:27.200 --> 00:10:30.679 who want to be you, and sometimes you are attract 229 00:10:30.759 --> 00:10:34.399 men who want the attention that they get when they're 230 00:10:34.440 --> 00:10:38.159 with you. So it's hard sometimes trying to figure out 231 00:10:38.679 --> 00:10:41.720 what people's intentions are and try and not automatically to 232 00:10:41.799 --> 00:10:42.960 judge them, like, oh, I just feel like. 233 00:10:42.919 --> 00:10:44.720 You're gonna be in some fuck shit exactly. 234 00:10:45.039 --> 00:10:47.720 So understanding that about the individual can help you have 235 00:10:47.799 --> 00:10:50.960 grace not to crash out because it's like it ain't 236 00:10:51.039 --> 00:10:53.480 even worth it when you really can find like, oh 237 00:10:53.759 --> 00:10:58.840 you just feel insecure alone, or oh you you don't 238 00:10:58.919 --> 00:11:01.559 like the fact that people notice you won't when I'm around, 239 00:11:01.679 --> 00:11:04.519 unless when I'm not. I'm not even gonna waste my 240 00:11:04.559 --> 00:11:06.799 time crashing now, because it's low key what you want 241 00:11:07.080 --> 00:11:10.000 to give you some type of gratification, So that's how 242 00:11:10.039 --> 00:11:12.480 I find a grace for myself. It's finally like, what's 243 00:11:12.519 --> 00:11:14.000 really the motherfucker's issue? 244 00:11:14.759 --> 00:11:15.639 But I ain't gonna lie lucky. 245 00:11:15.679 --> 00:11:17.639 I've been kind of scared to like date because I'm 246 00:11:17.639 --> 00:11:20.000 so focused on my music and focused on my growth. 247 00:11:21.120 --> 00:11:23.600 I'm still trying to figure out in my. 248 00:11:23.600 --> 00:11:26.080 Mind how to exist as two different people at the 249 00:11:26.120 --> 00:11:26.679 long time. 250 00:11:26.879 --> 00:11:27.600 You know what I'm saying. 251 00:11:27.759 --> 00:11:30.200 Yeah, I'm just fully locked in Daja food Daddy. I'm 252 00:11:30.200 --> 00:11:31.759 on the shit, Like you know, I don't know how 253 00:11:31.799 --> 00:11:33.759 to like, Okay. 254 00:11:33.519 --> 00:11:35.919 Now I'm your girlfriend. 255 00:11:36.440 --> 00:11:40.799 Yeah, I got because I instantly after about like a 256 00:11:40.879 --> 00:11:44.000 day or two be like, I'm throwing my life away? 257 00:11:44.080 --> 00:11:48.000 What am I doing? It's just it's hard. 258 00:11:48.200 --> 00:11:50.679 So one day it's gonna make sense. But right now 259 00:11:51.279 --> 00:11:54.000 I don't even don't I don't know. 260 00:11:54.559 --> 00:11:56.679 Do you have a desire to want somebody or get 261 00:11:56.720 --> 00:11:59.159 a person? Absolutely? Yeah, absolutely. 262 00:11:59.279 --> 00:12:01.720 I feel like everything I'm doing right now is to 263 00:12:01.759 --> 00:12:04.279 become the best version of myself. 264 00:12:03.840 --> 00:12:05.240 To be that. 265 00:12:05.519 --> 00:12:07.919 Yeah, when it has it all like has the relationship, 266 00:12:07.960 --> 00:12:11.399 has the career, has the love life, has the growth 267 00:12:11.480 --> 00:12:15.000 in finance, like just the whole aspect of it, I 268 00:12:15.080 --> 00:12:17.159 just feel like point into myself right now is the 269 00:12:17.159 --> 00:12:20.159 most vital thing I can do, because who I want 270 00:12:20.679 --> 00:12:24.840 and what I want they doing that. Yeah, so I 271 00:12:24.879 --> 00:12:27.039 need to mirror that before I even meet you, because 272 00:12:27.080 --> 00:12:28.120 how else will I meet you? 273 00:12:28.320 --> 00:12:30.399 I thought that I felt that, like I felt like 274 00:12:30.519 --> 00:12:34.240 I wasn't meeting my person because I wasn't the person 275 00:12:34.320 --> 00:12:37.720 that my person would be interested in at that time, exactly. 276 00:12:37.279 --> 00:12:39.039 Exactly, Like that's accountability. 277 00:12:39.320 --> 00:12:42.919 Yeah, yeah, Like I wasn't really like heavy heavy in 278 00:12:42.919 --> 00:12:44.159 the gym, and I'm like, yeah, but I want me 279 00:12:44.200 --> 00:12:44.799 a buff nigga? 280 00:12:44.879 --> 00:12:48.720 How where you want me to mark? He gonna find you? Yeah? 281 00:12:48.919 --> 00:12:50.600 Social media be trying to make it seem like, you know, 282 00:12:52.720 --> 00:12:55.960 outside is like just so much fun and all girls 283 00:12:56.120 --> 00:12:59.039 just want to be this, And it's like, contrary to 284 00:12:59.120 --> 00:13:01.759 popular belief, I actually do want to bark like I 285 00:13:01.799 --> 00:13:05.039 want it, Like I want to find somebody who makes 286 00:13:05.039 --> 00:13:08.240 me feel safe enough to like pour into them the 287 00:13:08.279 --> 00:13:09.519 way I want them to pour it into me. 288 00:13:09.840 --> 00:13:12.399 Yeah, that's the big thing, the safety of doing it, 289 00:13:12.480 --> 00:13:15.080 because it's like when you do be on that outside 290 00:13:15.120 --> 00:13:17.399 tip and the telling females we're going outside, we're doing 291 00:13:17.440 --> 00:13:19.480 certain shit and this is no shade to the women 292 00:13:19.480 --> 00:13:21.519 who be outside because I know to be outside. But 293 00:13:21.559 --> 00:13:23.440 when you got a certain level of standards, this shit 294 00:13:23.559 --> 00:13:24.159 is not fun. 295 00:13:24.399 --> 00:13:26.279 Yes, spending out that time. 296 00:13:26.159 --> 00:13:29.159 Being in this motherfucker face, that person doing drinks, doing 297 00:13:29.159 --> 00:13:31.399 this is going here, going there all to just all 298 00:13:31.440 --> 00:13:32.000 that energy. 299 00:13:32.039 --> 00:13:33.679 You take it home and go to sleep with it. 300 00:13:34.360 --> 00:13:35.279 But you know, I think it is. 301 00:13:35.799 --> 00:13:39.639 I think a lot of people never had a person 302 00:13:39.720 --> 00:13:43.080 that brought them peace, and that's why they be putting 303 00:13:43.120 --> 00:13:45.679 so much negativity on. It's nothing good out there and 304 00:13:45.679 --> 00:13:47.720 there's nothing like it. Like it's like, no, you just 305 00:13:47.720 --> 00:13:49.720 ain't never had it. You just ain't never had it, 306 00:13:50.279 --> 00:13:52.679 well speaking, I never had it. We're gonna get into 307 00:13:52.759 --> 00:13:55.639 a segment of the show here it's called up somebody 308 00:13:55.679 --> 00:13:56.159 come look at this? 309 00:13:56.879 --> 00:13:57.320 Uh? 310 00:13:57.360 --> 00:14:01.799 And this is where I read hilarious stories. 311 00:14:01.360 --> 00:14:03.159 That I have found on Reddit. 312 00:14:03.799 --> 00:14:07.039 Okay, and I think that this ties in a lot 313 00:14:07.159 --> 00:14:09.440 to what we were talking about today. Want in love, 314 00:14:09.679 --> 00:14:13.240 but having boundaries and you know, sticking up for yourself. 315 00:14:13.240 --> 00:14:15.080 You no, I want to leave in things like that? Right? 316 00:14:16.879 --> 00:14:19.879 So the first one, am I the asshole for dumping 317 00:14:19.919 --> 00:14:24.080 my date? I had a first date scheduled with a 318 00:14:24.120 --> 00:14:26.919 woman I met on a dating site. We agreed to 319 00:14:26.960 --> 00:14:29.360 meet for coffee at two pm. You down for a 320 00:14:29.360 --> 00:14:32.720 coffee date for a first date? Me too, that's my ship. 321 00:14:32.919 --> 00:14:34.679 I met it. Or ice cream. I'm really big on 322 00:14:34.720 --> 00:14:37.080 ice cream. I like it. Or juice bar for realness. 323 00:14:37.600 --> 00:14:44.320 Oh you like Sai bowls? Girl? I am a realion. 324 00:14:44.639 --> 00:14:49.080 I say creamy, light, skamble, not no show. You know 325 00:14:49.080 --> 00:14:49.559 what I'm saying. 326 00:14:49.559 --> 00:14:52.360 But like you're not at said sometimes be laughing, doering. 327 00:14:52.399 --> 00:14:54.759 It's going to be there both to be damn near black. 328 00:14:55.639 --> 00:14:56.399 No, no, no, we're good. 329 00:14:56.879 --> 00:14:59.799 I arrived on time. At two ten, she texts me 330 00:14:59.840 --> 00:15:02.440 and asked if I was at the cafe. I said yes, 331 00:15:02.600 --> 00:15:05.159 and she said she was at home but would leave 332 00:15:05.240 --> 00:15:06.919 soon and would be there in twenty minutes. 333 00:15:07.080 --> 00:15:08.639 We were supposed to meet at two o'clock. 334 00:15:09.559 --> 00:15:11.919 Why are you texting me at two ten saying you're 335 00:15:11.919 --> 00:15:13.720 still home but you won't meet here in twenty minutes. 336 00:15:13.759 --> 00:15:17.120 That's disrespectful, that's respectful. 337 00:15:17.960 --> 00:15:20.799 Basically, her text implied she was waiting to make sure 338 00:15:21.000 --> 00:15:23.559 I was there before she bothered to leave home. 339 00:15:23.720 --> 00:15:25.000 That's disrespectful. 340 00:15:26.519 --> 00:15:28.960 I was put off. I took the risk she wouldn't 341 00:15:29.000 --> 00:15:31.559 show and came on time. She should have too. 342 00:15:31.639 --> 00:15:32.159 Am I wrong? 343 00:15:32.279 --> 00:15:34.720 I finished the coffee and left at two thirty. She 344 00:15:34.840 --> 00:15:37.840 still wasn't there. At two forty five, I got a 345 00:15:37.879 --> 00:15:39.759 text from her wanting to know where I was. 346 00:15:40.200 --> 00:15:45.279 How that's crazy. I'm not gonna lie. That's the whole story. 347 00:15:45.320 --> 00:15:48.440 No, I said, I finished my coffee and left at 348 00:15:48.440 --> 00:15:51.240 two thirty, when you still weren't there as promised. She 349 00:15:51.360 --> 00:15:54.480 sent a series of nasty texts telling me how awful 350 00:15:54.519 --> 00:15:56.799 I was and how I did everything wrong. 351 00:15:57.080 --> 00:15:58.960 I should have texted her and told her I was 352 00:15:59.080 --> 00:16:01.919 leading at my asshole. 353 00:16:02.159 --> 00:16:05.039 Do women really expect men to sit and wait forty 354 00:16:05.039 --> 00:16:07.759 five minutes for them to arrive late when the only 355 00:16:07.799 --> 00:16:10.240 reason they are late is to make you wait? It 356 00:16:10.320 --> 00:16:12.480 sure seemed like it was a game or shit test 357 00:16:12.840 --> 00:16:14.440 either way, she felt my test. 358 00:16:14.759 --> 00:16:16.519 I'd sure like to hear from women on this one. 359 00:16:16.679 --> 00:16:21.200 That's a woman with no accountability. Like it's just you're 360 00:16:21.200 --> 00:16:24.120 gonna be dealing with somebody who gonna always want you 361 00:16:24.240 --> 00:16:26.919 to give one hundred and ten percent and they give 362 00:16:27.080 --> 00:16:30.360 maybe forty maybe feed these type shit, and if you 363 00:16:30.440 --> 00:16:33.120 want that then that's cool, But as somebody who do 364 00:16:33.240 --> 00:16:36.279 not respect you all, And. 365 00:16:36.279 --> 00:16:38.320 I don't care if it was the first date. If 366 00:16:38.360 --> 00:16:39.840 you're just not a good person. 367 00:16:39.960 --> 00:16:41.480 That's you saw you had a time, that's all you 368 00:16:41.519 --> 00:16:43.480 have to say, Hey, real mass before we link up. 369 00:16:43.519 --> 00:16:45.759 I'm not a good person, very that's all you gotta 370 00:16:45.759 --> 00:16:48.799 say once you go into the frame. Or like taking 371 00:16:48.799 --> 00:16:51.440 somebody else's time for granted, you don't care about their 372 00:16:51.480 --> 00:16:53.600 life because you don't know what if he had. 373 00:16:53.440 --> 00:16:56.720 A disappointment, anything he could be with you know what 374 00:16:56.799 --> 00:17:00.159 he count there, anything like that. But you think your 375 00:17:00.320 --> 00:17:03.039 time is so gracious, you are so much that they 376 00:17:03.080 --> 00:17:05.359 can wait on you. It's not anybody I want to 377 00:17:05.359 --> 00:17:06.079 be even friends with. 378 00:17:06.359 --> 00:17:07.160 I'm not gonna hold you. 379 00:17:07.240 --> 00:17:09.880 I don't like late people, and I don't mean like 380 00:17:10.119 --> 00:17:11.960 every once in a while you're late. Like I feel 381 00:17:11.960 --> 00:17:13.640 like we all have that one person in our lives 382 00:17:13.680 --> 00:17:16.039 who's consistently late, like we know they gonna be late. 383 00:17:15.920 --> 00:17:16.759 To their own funeral. 384 00:17:17.000 --> 00:17:20.960 Everybody has somebody like that in their lives, right, And 385 00:17:21.000 --> 00:17:24.400 it's like, you don't know what I be rearranging in 386 00:17:24.440 --> 00:17:26.880 my life to get to a place on time. So 387 00:17:27.039 --> 00:17:30.559 it really be pissing me off sometimes I hate it. 388 00:17:30.880 --> 00:17:31.720 So was he the asshole? 389 00:17:31.799 --> 00:17:31.920 Yes? 390 00:17:32.000 --> 00:17:32.160 Or no? 391 00:17:32.599 --> 00:17:32.640 No? 392 00:17:32.759 --> 00:17:35.359 He want no asshole? But I felt like he wasn't 393 00:17:35.359 --> 00:17:37.359 an asshole too. Hell no, he went no asshole. 394 00:17:37.400 --> 00:17:38.799 I wouldn't even tell the man I was still at 395 00:17:38.799 --> 00:17:40.960 the house soon as I'm like you, dad like yeah, okay, 396 00:17:41.000 --> 00:17:44.079 I'm down the street. I'm walking and be just grabbing 397 00:17:44.079 --> 00:17:46.920 my eyes. But to still not be there twenty minutes, 398 00:17:46.960 --> 00:17:47.960 light up there you a food. 399 00:17:48.640 --> 00:17:50.799 You don't like him to say, I like you to say, 400 00:17:51.160 --> 00:17:52.359 or you just trying to wait to see if the 401 00:17:52.400 --> 00:17:54.160