Speaker 1: What's up, beautiful people, It's your girls Story. Repeat and
Speaker 1: we're back with another episode of Chocolate, Chip and Sip.
Speaker 1: And today we are gonna be talking about the soft
Speaker 1: girl lifestyle, the not so soft breakups, and why sometimes
Speaker 1: you need a little bit of break in between, you know,
Speaker 1: maybe even a little beverage. All right, this conversation was
Speaker 1: so good I couldn't do it myself, so I had
Speaker 1: to bring a fellow beatty to come talk to me.
Speaker 3: Today.
Speaker 1: I got my girl days Chavu and Ima. Let her
Speaker 1: introduce herself. Go ahead, get give it to me, Give
Speaker 1: it to me.
Speaker 3: My name is Dad Janvou.
Speaker 2: I'm a hip hop artist from Methey, Tennessee. I saw
Speaker 2: a songwriter, a natural lover of life and creative all around.
Speaker 3: You feel me, daddy today and.
Speaker 1: Today they forgot to tell y'all, if y'all listening on audio,
Speaker 1: that she's so beautiful and she smelled like natural juices
Speaker 1: and berries. And when she came in, I said, oh,
Speaker 1: my goodness, who is I could.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, good.
Speaker 1: So I saw one of your clips and you was
Speaker 1: talking about how we always talk about, you know, standing
Speaker 1: on business and you know, self care and all other stuff.
Speaker 1: But will we ever see a web again. And that's
Speaker 1: when I said she's the one girl.
Speaker 2: Be it just you being a flow of self love
Speaker 2: and getting yourself right and then ovulation here and you'll
Speaker 2: be like, who's.
Speaker 3: Gonna get me right? Though? Like damn, you know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying.
Speaker 2: People always in the comments like girl investing a massage, gun,
Speaker 2: investing a toy, But a toy is not gonna hold
Speaker 2: it back of your neck, looking to your ass, call
Speaker 2: you beautiful and push it in slow.
Speaker 1: Like I don't need a toy. I need a bicep
Speaker 1: to lay on.
Speaker 3: That's what. That's what. I need a leg Like, yes,
Speaker 3: I put my to in. That's so much, that's too much.
Speaker 3: You have found the right place, little do you know?
Speaker 3: You you have genuinely found.
Speaker 1: The right place you found yeah yeah, kind of tying
Speaker 1: into that, I think that another one of my frustrations
Speaker 1: is like I hate when I'm done dealing with talking
Speaker 1: to dating a man. But nobody told fat Ma that
Speaker 1: we're done dealing with dating talk.
Speaker 3: To a man. And I think that's another part of like,
Speaker 3: you know, just being by.
Speaker 1: Yourself, like that whole two three week period after you
Speaker 1: stop dealing with somebody it's hard.
Speaker 3: Yeah, it can be. It can be.
Speaker 2: I mean, this is gonna sound out extra like serious
Speaker 2: and ship, but sometimes come on different levels. Somebody could
Speaker 2: really be in your body, but really be fucking your mind,
Speaker 2: your soul, and it be the energy of that that's
Speaker 2: still existing, your body calling for his match one of
Speaker 2: that person. So it's like ship. You gotta be careful, Yes,
Speaker 2: once the talk through it.
Speaker 1: Yes, because hold my therapist telling me to let go,
Speaker 1: but my body is saying let him have his way.
Speaker 3: And I don't know which one I need to be
Speaker 3: paying attention to.
Speaker 1: I feel that don't don't, don't, don't be serious.
Speaker 2: That's why you gotta be careful, because lord, you can
Speaker 2: get addict this at the wrong Yes.
Speaker 3: Yes, man, but we we be good to yes for you.
Speaker 1: And now it's two am and you sending texts or
Speaker 1: if you like me, you just type the text and
Speaker 1: then delete the text, and then twenty minutes later you
Speaker 1: come back and try to do it again, and then
Speaker 1: you do it again, you do it again.
Speaker 3: It's it's a little bit of insanity.
Speaker 1: I'm I'm, I can recognize it's a little bit of insanity, okay,
Speaker 1: g And.
Speaker 2: I make comments that I don't post like, yeah, I'll
Speaker 2: go to a nigga at g and just be like
Speaker 2: you should and then I just delete that word. But
Speaker 2: actually it's so many dudes that I got Christians on
Speaker 2: they have no idea.
Speaker 3: Can we talk about the adult crush?
Speaker 1: Because I feel like having a crush as an adult
Speaker 1: is way more severe and emotional than it was back when.
Speaker 3: We was kitched.
Speaker 2: Absolutely absolutely, Because you grown, I could literally get in
Speaker 2: my car and pull up to your residence.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. Ain't nobody Mama gonna say
Speaker 3: shit to me. I could really pull up and pull
Speaker 3: down on your ass.
Speaker 1: But you know, and I think it's different when you
Speaker 1: like cupkicking on the phone, swinging your legs, cheesing all
Speaker 1: herd because like, every once in a while you catch
Speaker 1: yourself like, what the fuck am I doing?
Speaker 2: Grow walking around the kitchen, putting the milk in different.
Speaker 3: Places, Yes, but don't know why. Yes, all types of shit.
Speaker 1: You walking around with the phone and the spikes rack
Speaker 1: because you're still trying to FaceTime while you like it's
Speaker 1: a thing.
Speaker 3: I used to love that feeling.
Speaker 2: I feel like as an adult, though, like the next
Speaker 2: one that I really want to like you. I want
Speaker 2: that same feeling, Like I really want to be sitting
Speaker 2: in the kitchen like running my fingers under the water
Speaker 2: for no reason and don't know why I'm doing that.
Speaker 3: Shit. Yeah you know what I'm saying in the bathroom,
Speaker 3: rearrange your towels, doing shit. I ain't got nothing to
Speaker 3: do on the phone, all giddy and shit. Listen, it's
Speaker 3: it's aimless. Shit. We always talk about like how the
Speaker 3: dating pool has pissing it and how it's trash.
Speaker 1: But when you find the right one and like you're
Speaker 1: dating one attention and you find somebody who like vibing
Speaker 1: with you, it's low key lit like bacon cookies at
Speaker 1: two am, Like.
Speaker 3: Yeah, like you're putting out energy that you're receiving back.
Speaker 2: Like people talk about how IG set up a standard
Speaker 2: that's like not realistic. And then at the same time
Speaker 2: I be seeing a lot of good looking looking okay,
Speaker 2: good looking, equally yoked looking type of relationships and marriages,
Speaker 2: and that make you think, like shit, it's still possible
Speaker 2: out there.
Speaker 3: It's not. It's not something that's too far fish to
Speaker 3: fall in love.
Speaker 1: And I think the only people who really experienced this
Speaker 1: whole IG ain't a real place. Are the people who
Speaker 1: think that IG is a real place. Like for people
Speaker 1: who understand that social media's entertainment, it's not that bad.
Speaker 1: It's really not like it's just adult hood. Honestly, you
Speaker 1: gotta have disinment with anything.
Speaker 2: It's like you might as well pregk to sit on
Speaker 2: the daily with the scroll. I don't know, it's killing us.
Speaker 1: The doom scroll. The doom scroll catch you in a minute,
Speaker 1: it will during this moment. Have taken a pause from dating.
Speaker 1: I found that I've encountered a lot of people who
Speaker 1: give me the vibes or the energy of we'll just
Speaker 1: pick one already, Like.
Speaker 3: One is like pickle, dude, they want me to just
Speaker 3: pick one.
Speaker 1: Like you're being so so picky, and I just feel
Speaker 1: like you're you just expect the perfect man to come
Speaker 1: into your life. It's like, this is a funny way
Speaker 1: to say, I got standards and boundaries.
Speaker 3: You were for being mad at me for having standards.
Speaker 1: That's crazy, God forbid. I want to wait for what
Speaker 1: I want. Who do I think I am?
Speaker 3: Oh my god, you're not. I think that's weird.
Speaker 2: I think the joy of life and being young and
Speaker 2: being tender and being fine and being tight and right
Speaker 2: is being able to date and see the variety that
Speaker 2: you have and as you change, see the changes in
Speaker 2: the people that you would tract.
Speaker 3: Because that's what I'm noticing too.
Speaker 2: The more I pour into myself and learn about myself
Speaker 2: and grow and settle into my own divine feminine, the
Speaker 2: more wide range, versatile, expressive, spiritual, like just different types
Speaker 2: of Yeah that I'm starting to a track and I
Speaker 2: have that it ain't no more.
Speaker 3: Why ends now?
Speaker 2: M m begeting into some grown men's now really liking
Speaker 2: that and yeah, yeah the growth, the growth should match
Speaker 2: that shit, you know you should. A lot of people
Speaker 2: settle at levels that they were supposed to keep going
Speaker 2: from us, and that be an issue.
Speaker 3: Yeah, trapped, don't don't five for.
Speaker 1: That, And I feel like that's why they don't understand
Speaker 1: five six years in they're not happy, but technically their
Speaker 1: partners and doing anything wrong, right, but they're not.
Speaker 3: Happy because they settled. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it's messed up.
Speaker 2: We can we gotta be best friends, Like if I
Speaker 2: can't kick it with you with nothing sexual involved and
Speaker 2: like you or we can't be together, yeah, no matter
Speaker 2: how good the sexual energy is if I can be
Speaker 2: your friend on a regular day, I can't fuck with
Speaker 2: you for the.
Speaker 1: Sn So how do you cut somebody off that is
Speaker 1: not doing anything wrong? You just don't want to be
Speaker 1: their friends? Like y'all don't vibe like that. You back
Speaker 1: that ass up.
Speaker 3: Up slowly?
Speaker 2: Yea, no more fun, let's take Okay, I'm gonna reply, okay,
Speaker 2: no more be in the store?
Speaker 3: Back that ass? Okay? Are you just slowly backed the
Speaker 3: ass up? Wow?
Speaker 1: So you don't like intentionally be like, hey, you know what,
Speaker 1: it's not doing it for me?
Speaker 2: See unless I say that he's actively pursuing. If it's
Speaker 2: just who just like wasting time?
Speaker 3: Low key?
Speaker 2: Yeah? You know what I'm saying, talking just to have
Speaker 2: an option to talk to because it's normally when I
Speaker 2: get in positions, it's like I'm noticing something about how
Speaker 2: you treating me or how you're dealing with me. That's real, optional,
Speaker 2: real replaceable. So it ain't nothing official to be like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I think that.
Speaker 3: You ain't even there yet. Yeah, so I'm gonna just
Speaker 3: back that ass.
Speaker 1: So you're gonna like break from it reverse like you
Speaker 1: just slowly gonna let it go.
Speaker 2: And if you notice it and you got something to
Speaker 2: say about we can have a conversation, but as far
Speaker 2: as what I've already perceived about this, I'm replaceable to you.
Speaker 3: I'm just getting you know what I'm saying. Now, what
Speaker 3: if he full court pressure? You're like, yo, I'm noticing,
Speaker 3: then I'm a full court give him then answer I
Speaker 3: didne did that.
Speaker 2: It's crazy sometimes they avoided because I remember in the
Speaker 2: DM this one guy he was talking about like, yeah,
Speaker 2: you've been playing games for so long it's been and
Speaker 2: I was like, what actually to break it down for
Speaker 2: you the first time when we first I just broke
Speaker 2: the whole ship and everything that I didn't like. Why
Speaker 2: I stopped sucking with him like that, the whole ship and
Speaker 2: I'm mona fucker read it and just didn't say shit
Speaker 2: else because like soe now I got an attitude that
Speaker 2: I don't I something and never looked back.
Speaker 3: I used good thumb power sending this text because you
Speaker 3: asked for it. That should be a lot. That's why
Speaker 3: you just backed that ass back. That just back that
Speaker 3: ass up. You really try to tell him a buck
Speaker 3: what they did?
Speaker 2: They not riddle to take accountability anyway, So you're wasting
Speaker 2: your time just back to the ass up, make room
Speaker 2: for the next motherfucker who ready for them games.
Speaker 1: You might be on a someng with that one. The
Speaker 1: accountability is something that I feel like everybody struggles with
Speaker 1: right now, So yeah, I ain't mad at it.
Speaker 3: It's a growth process. Not everybody read it for this.
Speaker 1: It's a multitude of things because sometimes you attract men
Speaker 1: who want to be with you, sometimes you attract men
Speaker 1: who want to be you, and sometimes you are attract
Speaker 1: men who want the attention that they get when they're
Speaker 1: with you. So it's hard sometimes trying to figure out
Speaker 1: what people's intentions are and try and not automatically to
Speaker 1: judge them, like, oh, I just feel like.
Speaker 3: You're gonna be in some fuck shit exactly.
Speaker 2: So understanding that about the individual can help you have
Speaker 2: grace not to crash out because it's like it ain't
Speaker 2: even worth it when you really can find like, oh
Speaker 2: you just feel insecure alone, or oh you you don't
Speaker 2: like the fact that people notice you won't when I'm around,
Speaker 2: unless when I'm not. I'm not even gonna waste my
Speaker 2: time crashing now, because it's low key what you want
Speaker 2: to give you some type of gratification, So that's how
Speaker 2: I find a grace for myself. It's finally like, what's
Speaker 2: really the motherfucker's issue?
Speaker 3: But I ain't gonna lie lucky.
Speaker 2: I've been kind of scared to like date because I'm
Speaker 2: so focused on my music and focused on my growth.
Speaker 3: I'm still trying to figure out in my.
Speaker 2: Mind how to exist as two different people at the
Speaker 2: long time.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm just fully locked in Daja food Daddy. I'm
Speaker 2: on the shit, Like you know, I don't know how
Speaker 2: to like, Okay.
Speaker 3: Now I'm your girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I got because I instantly after about like a
Speaker 2: day or two be like, I'm throwing my life away?
Speaker 3: What am I doing? It's just it's hard.
Speaker 2: So one day it's gonna make sense. But right now
Speaker 2: I don't even don't I don't know.
Speaker 3: Do you have a desire to want somebody or get
Speaker 3: a person? Absolutely? Yeah, absolutely.
Speaker 2: I feel like everything I'm doing right now is to
Speaker 2: become the best version of myself.
Speaker 3: To be that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, when it has it all like has the relationship,
Speaker 2: has the career, has the love life, has the growth
Speaker 2: in finance, like just the whole aspect of it, I
Speaker 2: just feel like point into myself right now is the
Speaker 2: most vital thing I can do, because who I want
Speaker 2: and what I want they doing that. Yeah, so I
Speaker 2: need to mirror that before I even meet you, because
Speaker 2: how else will I meet you?
Speaker 1: I thought that I felt that, like I felt like
Speaker 1: I wasn't meeting my person because I wasn't the person
Speaker 1: that my person would be interested in at that time, exactly.
Speaker 3: Exactly, Like that's accountability.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, Like I wasn't really like heavy heavy in
Speaker 1: the gym, and I'm like, yeah, but I want me
Speaker 1: a buff nigga?
Speaker 3: How where you want me to mark? He gonna find you? Yeah?
Speaker 1: Social media be trying to make it seem like, you know,
Speaker 1: outside is like just so much fun and all girls
Speaker 1: just want to be this, And it's like, contrary to
Speaker 1: popular belief, I actually do want to bark like I
Speaker 1: want it, Like I want to find somebody who makes
Speaker 1: me feel safe enough to like pour into them the
Speaker 1: way I want them to pour it into me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the big thing, the safety of doing it,
Speaker 2: because it's like when you do be on that outside
Speaker 2: tip and the telling females we're going outside, we're doing
Speaker 2: certain shit and this is no shade to the women
Speaker 2: who be outside because I know to be outside. But
Speaker 2: when you got a certain level of standards, this shit
Speaker 2: is not fun.
Speaker 3: Yes, spending out that time.
Speaker 2: Being in this motherfucker face, that person doing drinks, doing
Speaker 2: this is going here, going there all to just all
Speaker 2: that energy.
Speaker 3: You take it home and go to sleep with it.
Speaker 3: But you know, I think it is.
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people never had a person
Speaker 1: that brought them peace, and that's why they be putting
Speaker 1: so much negativity on. It's nothing good out there and
Speaker 1: there's nothing like it. Like it's like, no, you just
Speaker 1: ain't never had it. You just ain't never had it,
Speaker 1: well speaking, I never had it. We're gonna get into
Speaker 1: a segment of the show here it's called up somebody
Speaker 1: come look at this?
Speaker 3: Uh?
Speaker 1: And this is where I read hilarious stories.
Speaker 3: That I have found on Reddit.
Speaker 1: Okay, and I think that this ties in a lot
Speaker 1: to what we were talking about today. Want in love,
Speaker 1: but having boundaries and you know, sticking up for yourself.
Speaker 3: You no, I want to leave in things like that? Right?
Speaker 1: So the first one, am I the asshole for dumping
Speaker 1: my date? I had a first date scheduled with a
Speaker 1: woman I met on a dating site. We agreed to
Speaker 1: meet for coffee at two pm. You down for a
Speaker 1: coffee date for a first date? Me too, that's my ship.
Speaker 3: I met it. Or ice cream. I'm really big on
Speaker 3: ice cream. I like it. Or juice bar for realness.
Speaker 3: Oh you like Sai bowls? Girl? I am a realion.
Speaker 3: I say creamy, light, skamble, not no show. You know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying.
Speaker 2: But like you're not at said sometimes be laughing, doering.
Speaker 2: It's going to be there both to be damn near black.
Speaker 3: No, no, no, we're good.
Speaker 1: I arrived on time. At two ten, she texts me
Speaker 1: and asked if I was at the cafe. I said yes,
Speaker 1: and she said she was at home but would leave
Speaker 1: soon and would be there in twenty minutes.
Speaker 3: We were supposed to meet at two o'clock.
Speaker 1: Why are you texting me at two ten saying you're
Speaker 1: still home but you won't meet here in twenty minutes.
Speaker 3: That's disrespectful, that's respectful.
Speaker 1: Basically, her text implied she was waiting to make sure
Speaker 1: I was there before she bothered to leave home.
Speaker 3: That's disrespectful.
Speaker 1: I was put off. I took the risk she wouldn't
Speaker 1: show and came on time. She should have too.
Speaker 3: Am I wrong?
Speaker 1: I finished the coffee and left at two thirty. She
Speaker 1: still wasn't there. At two forty five, I got a
Speaker 1: text from her wanting to know where I was.
Speaker 3: How that's crazy. I'm not gonna lie. That's the whole story.
Speaker 1: No, I said, I finished my coffee and left at
Speaker 1: two thirty, when you still weren't there as promised. She
Speaker 1: sent a series of nasty texts telling me how awful
Speaker 1: I was and how I did everything wrong.
Speaker 3: I should have texted her and told her I was
Speaker 3: leading at my asshole.
Speaker 1: Do women really expect men to sit and wait forty
Speaker 1: five minutes for them to arrive late when the only
Speaker 1: reason they are late is to make you wait? It
Speaker 1: sure seemed like it was a game or shit test
Speaker 1: either way, she felt my test.
Speaker 2: I'd sure like to hear from women on this one.
Speaker 2: That's a woman with no accountability. Like it's just you're
Speaker 2: gonna be dealing with somebody who gonna always want you
Speaker 2: to give one hundred and ten percent and they give
Speaker 2: maybe forty maybe feed these type shit, and if you
Speaker 2: want that then that's cool, But as somebody who do
Speaker 2: not respect you all, And.
Speaker 3: I don't care if it was the first date. If
Speaker 3: you're just not a good person.
Speaker 1: That's you saw you had a time, that's all you
Speaker 1: have to say, Hey, real mass before we link up.
Speaker 1: I'm not a good person, very that's all you gotta
Speaker 1: say once you go into the frame. Or like taking
Speaker 1: somebody else's time for granted, you don't care about their
Speaker 1: life because you don't know what if he had.
Speaker 2: A disappointment, anything he could be with you know what
Speaker 2: he count there, anything like that. But you think your
Speaker 2: time is so gracious, you are so much that they
Speaker 2: can wait on you. It's not anybody I want to
Speaker 2: be even friends with.
Speaker 3: I'm not gonna hold you.
Speaker 1: I don't like late people, and I don't mean like
Speaker 1: every once in a while you're late. Like I feel
Speaker 1: like we all have that one person in our lives
Speaker 1: who's consistently late, like we know they gonna be late.
Speaker 3: To their own funeral.
Speaker 1: Everybody has somebody like that in their lives, right, And
Speaker 1: it's like, you don't know what I be rearranging in
Speaker 1: my life to get to a place on time. So
Speaker 1: it really be pissing me off sometimes I hate it.
Speaker 3: So was he the asshole?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 3: Or no?
Speaker 2: No?
Speaker 3: He want no asshole? But I felt like he wasn't
Speaker 3: an asshole too. Hell no, he went no asshole.
Speaker 2: I wouldn't even tell the man I was still at
Speaker 2: the house soon as I'm like you, dad like yeah, okay,
Speaker 2: I'm down the street. I'm walking and be just grabbing
Speaker 2: my eyes. But to still not be there twenty minutes,
Speaker 2: light up there you a food.
Speaker 1: You don't like him to say, I like you to say,
Speaker 1: or you just trying to wait to see if the
Speaker 1: other guy was gonna text you back first. Just say that,
Speaker 1: Just say that, Just say that. This one piss me off.
Speaker 1: It says be an asshole. If I tell my boyfriend
Speaker 1: how disappointed I am in the date he took me on,
Speaker 1: I feel like we always.
Speaker 3: Talk about women be so mean.
Speaker 1: But just hear the story first. That's all I'm gonna say.
Speaker 1: Listen to the story first. For background, my boyfriend doesn't
Speaker 1: make a lot of money. This is the first problem,
Speaker 1: but I digress. We're gonna keep going. I don't mind
Speaker 1: this at all, but it also means we don't go
Speaker 1: out much because he doesn't like me paying for him.
Speaker 1: This is the second problem, because now you're you're you're making.
Speaker 2: This so we can't go out so the car I
Speaker 2: ain't got no dose the cain got no seat bill,
Speaker 2: but were driving okay okay.
Speaker 1: When he told me he wanted to take me to
Speaker 1: a nice dinner on him, I was pleasantly surprised. Turns
Speaker 1: out his mom had given him a fifty dollars voucher
Speaker 1: for a nice restaurant nearby, and he said he saved
Speaker 1: up a bit of money to cover the rest jesu,
Speaker 1: but you better have enough to cover that even like,
Speaker 1: even without the coupone is is it over?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: He had been to this restaurant before and had always
Speaker 1: raved about the beef Wellington.
Speaker 3: I was excited.
Speaker 1: We got there and sat down and he ordered a beer,
Speaker 1: so I follow suit and got the same.
Speaker 3: He made a comment about just one and then waters
Speaker 3: after this, okay, oh car.
Speaker 1: We started looking at the menu and again he was
Speaker 1: raving about the beef Wellington. I said it sounded amazing
Speaker 1: and I think I'll try that. Then he says, okay, great,
Speaker 1: so I'll order that. Now let's maybe look at some
Speaker 1: of the pastas huh. I was confused for a minute.
Speaker 1: Then he pointed out a penne a la vodka, the
Speaker 1: cheapest item on the menu, and mentioned how good that looked.
Speaker 1: I agreed, but said, what happened to one in the
Speaker 1: beef Wellington. He said, yeah, I'm gonna order that, and
Speaker 1: I was thinking the penne for you.
Speaker 3: Then we can try both. Yeah, the tie just pop
Speaker 3: or we not done yet? And we not done. We're
Speaker 3: still rolling, y'all, we're still rolling. Oh my god.
Speaker 1: I caught on at this point that the budget went
Speaker 1: and cover us both getting a pricey meal, so I
Speaker 1: agreed to order the pasta. I was a bit annoyed,
Speaker 1: but whatever. I also noticed at this point that there's
Speaker 1: a plate splitting fee on the menu. To be honest,
Speaker 1: I don't really know what that is exactly. By assume
Speaker 1: it means there's a fee if you want to split
Speaker 1: the meals between you. We put our food orders in
Speaker 1: and our drinks are empty at this point, so I
Speaker 1: asked for water like he indicated, because remember he said,
Speaker 1: after this, we just getting water. He then orders another
Speaker 1: beer from himself. Now I'm a bit more annoyed.
Speaker 3: He wants you to die.
Speaker 1: I did consider telling him I would pay for my
Speaker 1: portion just so I could order things I actually wanted,
Speaker 1: but I didn't want to imply that he wasn't spending
Speaker 1: enough money on me, and he was so excited about
Speaker 1: taking me out and paying for it himself. Says, from
Speaker 1: the bottom of my heart, No he wasn't. No, he wasn't. No,
Speaker 1: he wasn't.
Speaker 3: No, he wasn't.
Speaker 1: You. Anyway, our food comes and he's in heaven I met.
Speaker 1: The pasta was actually amazing as well. I had a
Speaker 1: bite of his, but declined when he offered to put
Speaker 1: half of it on my plate out of fear of
Speaker 1: the previously mentioned plate spitting faith. He ordered another two
Speaker 1: beers for himself. Throughout the dinner, I didn't end up
Speaker 1: finishing my meal because honestly, I was just uncomfortable most
Speaker 1: of the time. Then at the end they came with
Speaker 1: the bill and a box for my leftovers, and he
Speaker 1: takes the box of leftover pasta and says, I can't
Speaker 1: wait for my mom to try this. She's going to
Speaker 1: be so happy that there's some left for her. I
Speaker 1: thanked him for the meal, but I think he could
Speaker 1: tell my mood was off. I know he was trying
Speaker 1: to do something nice, but honestly, the whole thing just
Speaker 1: felt a bit disrespectful.
Speaker 3: Would I be the asshole if I bring it up
Speaker 3: to him. It was the I can't wait for my
Speaker 3: mom to try this for me.
Speaker 2: You feel me, That's how I'm feeling like you Been
Speaker 2: know you had to know he was like that.
Speaker 3: He couldn't have just popped up like that.
Speaker 2: You've been accepting mediocre everything you had to be unless it's.
Speaker 3: The wee wee. If she Been knew he was not shit.
Speaker 1: You at least knew he was like well, I won't
Speaker 1: say cheap, but you knew he already was frugal.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you knew he was broke.
Speaker 1: It is what it is, but it's a difference. It's
Speaker 1: a difference between broke. Considerate.
Speaker 3: You're gonna take my left obles, nigga.
Speaker 1: After you done talk me up about this beef Wellington
Speaker 1: for weeks and I couldn't even get nothing but a
Speaker 1: bite nick well then technically hold on weight. Here's another.
Speaker 1: Here's another, here's another standpoint. Let's not forget the mom
Speaker 1: did give him the fifty dollars about.
Speaker 3: Your I don't care, so maybe she was expecting to
Speaker 3: bring you something back. Then take your mammy out. Don't
Speaker 3: do me like that. That's fair? Like what that's fair?
Speaker 3: Why y'all don't have a mic. They're not gonna be
Speaker 3: able to hear you.
Speaker 2: Guys not as crazy. Oh my gosh, she would have
Speaker 2: been what would you do?
Speaker 3: I have bet that is up. Okay, how do you
Speaker 3: make your ass up? You already have to you already
Speaker 3: at the table. What do you do now?
Speaker 2: Get a bat of there, take myself to go eat something.
Speaker 2: I really won't post it on my story, and sit
Speaker 2: there by myself like first date, kind of nervous.
Speaker 3: It's her boyfriend.
Speaker 1: I do feel like when she was like, oh well,
Speaker 1: I didn't want to, you know, disrespect him because he
Speaker 1: was so excited about paying, and I would have been
Speaker 1: excited about eating it and drinking. So we both gotta
Speaker 1: be excited. One of us can't be excited, but one
Speaker 1: of us not. So I don't sound like a bitch.
Speaker 3: Okay. The thing is, you got to feel a fifty
Speaker 3: dollar gift card from your mom. Cool. That's great. You
Speaker 3: said you got enough to pay for the resk. Cool.
Speaker 2: I know you lacking resources anyway. Cool, I'm thankful. Cool,
Speaker 2: But now you're taking advantage of the fact that I'm
Speaker 2: accepting this type of behavior and you showing your.
Speaker 3: Drunk as natural born ass like now, it's a problem now.
Speaker 2: I know you don't really value me. You wanted to
Speaker 2: do this for you. It wasn't an us thing. You're
Speaker 2: not excited to pay for it for me. You just
Speaker 2: would have felt guilty if you came and did this
Speaker 2: shit by yourself.
Speaker 3: That's what you're giving, Yes, especially because you be broke. Yes,
Speaker 3: that's what you're giving.
Speaker 2: What you should have did is on your work break,
Speaker 2: take that fifty dollars gift card.
Speaker 3: Eat that shit by yourself. Bring me the leftovers. Ma
Speaker 3: oh shit, Okay, cool, you want out with y'all?
Speaker 2: Okay, cool, and figure something else out or be cheaper
Speaker 2: and shit, go to the grocery store and we could
Speaker 2: cook at the crib or something.
Speaker 3: Take it out under the start, do something either doing that.
Speaker 1: Unacceptable, Do any of those things, or do what moms
Speaker 1: do every day.
Speaker 3: Eat your food in the car before you come in
Speaker 3: the house.
Speaker 1: Get your food eating in a car before you come
Speaker 1: in the house, like every other mother.
Speaker 3: Okay, that's what you need to do.
Speaker 2: Even if you went there ordered to beef Wellington out
Speaker 2: the size and shit like that and brought it home and.
Speaker 3: We split it. I'm cool with this. Yes, it's so.
Speaker 2: Many ways around being broke to still be happy. But
Speaker 2: that was Selfish's hell, hate me? You hate mee beer?
Speaker 3: No water? You hate me? You gonna drink the beer
Speaker 3: in front of me, knowing I want to live up.
Speaker 3: You hate me? You know they called me stone cold.
Speaker 3: I need more than one beer. You know that you
Speaker 3: hate you? Run all right? So one more?
Speaker 1: Am I the asshole for eating before my date arrived
Speaker 1: to the restaurant?
Speaker 3: How was he late?
Speaker 1: So for contexts, I am not a foodie. I eat
Speaker 1: to get full and not as an experience. I'll often
Speaker 1: eat at home before dinning outing before dinner outings just
Speaker 1: because I don't want to wait and rather enjoy the
Speaker 1: experience of the outing, which for me doesn't involve the
Speaker 1: eating portion. I met the score online and we agreed
Speaker 1: on meeting at a restaurant for dinner to get to
Speaker 1: know each other more. Fast forward day of our date.
Speaker 1: We agreed to meeting at nine pm. Now, my day
Speaker 1: was super busy with work and I just didn't get
Speaker 1: to eat lunch. It's almost eight pm and I'm starving,
Speaker 1: so I get ready and head to the date still
Speaker 1: having no food. I like getting to a date early
Speaker 1: so I can check out the environment, pick the best seats,
Speaker 1: and just prepare in general. So I have arrived about
Speaker 1: forty five minutes early this time.
Speaker 3: I think that's strange. Forty five minutes early, and what
Speaker 3: are you doing? Case and the joint? Why the fuck
Speaker 3: are you there so early?
Speaker 1: You plan an access though, you gotta that's creepy, creepy,
Speaker 1: that's creepy.
Speaker 3: What about that's creepy? Forty five minutes early?
Speaker 2: I'm saying out it's it's a way. What if he
Speaker 2: had to put his name on the list? He that's
Speaker 2: provision of.
Speaker 3: Forty five minutes is a little excessive.
Speaker 1: If VX me still starving, I decided I should eat
Speaker 1: to get that out of the way, or I'll be
Speaker 1: hungry and cranky having to wait another hour or so
Speaker 1: before I could eat. I finished my meal and ordered
Speaker 1: a cocktail. By this point, my date is almost arriving.
Speaker 2: Okay, okay, that's creepy.
Speaker 1: She gets to the restaurant and we instantly click. She's smiling,
Speaker 1: We're having a great conversation, she's touching my hand. It's
Speaker 1: overall going extremely well. Eventually she asks if I would
Speaker 1: like to order some food, to which I respond, no,
Speaker 1: thank you. I'm not hungry, and she insists, saying she
Speaker 1: doesn't want to eat alone. But I tell her don't
Speaker 1: worry and eat and that I'm enjoying my cocktail. Now
Speaker 1: here's my problem. I do not like eating by myself, period.
Speaker 1: I never like eating myself. That's like one of my
Speaker 1: pet peeves, like I need here, have a little bit
Speaker 1: of something, get some fries or something. I just don't
Speaker 1: like eating by myself, Like I don't know what it is.
Speaker 1: So I get her when she saying she don't like
Speaker 1: to eat alone, I get.
Speaker 2: So.
Speaker 1: We called the waiter over it, and she starts asking
Speaker 1: him for recommendations, to which she responds with no ill
Speaker 1: intentions that it seemed I really enjoyed the tacos, so
Speaker 1: maybe she should try them. I'm gonna tell you why.
Speaker 1: I don't give a fuck, and I feel like that
Speaker 1: waiter said the right thing. Right, You've been holding up
Speaker 1: this fucking table for two hours.
Speaker 3: And you only has.
Speaker 1: No I'm gonna say, as a former server, you're holding
Speaker 1: up the line and stopping my bag like she's not
Speaker 1: eating you already ate you're holding up my table.
Speaker 3: Somebody else would come in and be ordering fucking shots.
Speaker 3: Get here, I don't. I'm glad the waiter play I hated.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna enjoy shit.
Speaker 1: At this point, she's confused and acts, what does that mean?
Speaker 1: So I told her I ate some tacos before she arrived.
Speaker 1: She immediately becomes furious, saying I'm rude and who eats
Speaker 1: before a date has even arrived. I explained to her
Speaker 1: that my goal was to get to know her and
Speaker 1: the eating portion wasn't important, regardless the.
Speaker 3: Whole mood change. She ordered some food, ate and made
Speaker 3: an excuse to have to go and leave.
Speaker 1: I haven't heard from her since then, and that was
Speaker 1: last night, so a my asshole, lucky.
Speaker 3: Getting there early ain't an issue? You good? Getting there
Speaker 3: early ain't an issue eating.
Speaker 2: A full meal and having a cocktail before I even
Speaker 2: put my ass on this, Like, see, that's a problem.
Speaker 3: A meal? You couldn't get some fries?
Speaker 2: She should have just invited me to coffee. Bruh, we're
Speaker 2: like what, I wouldn't.
Speaker 3: Be mad at you on your second line save by
Speaker 3: the time I get there something like that. But a meal,
Speaker 3: we're supposed to be eating and joining each other.
Speaker 2: Man, I feed you a list something you feed me
Speaker 2: like you know It's an intimacy that could be there
Speaker 2: that you just.
Speaker 3: You.
Speaker 1: I couldn't get no spinach dip, okay, no my currella sticks?
Speaker 3: You got full tacos, some kind of flower nothing.
Speaker 1: You called yourself being considerate, but not consider enough to
Speaker 1: wait for her to eat.
Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe a couple of tea chips or some shit
Speaker 2: with some sauce on it, you know what I mean,
Speaker 2: little something I was starting. Baby, I'm sorry, I had
Speaker 2: me a little tea chair.
Speaker 3: But let's order, you know, boneless, what something?
Speaker 2: I'm good, I'm enjoying my cocktail. You didn't even say no,
Speaker 2: I already ate. I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: Nothing And why why the waiter had to tell me?
Speaker 1: Why you ain't tell me?
Speaker 2: Why you ain't Why she gotta put you on front street?
Speaker 2: Yeah she did right by eating doing her thing.
Speaker 3: Actually, I got it, man, I gotta go, gotta go.
Speaker 2: They seem like somebody that will, like try to have
Speaker 2: good intentions about doing something for you, but because they
Speaker 2: do that, they'll then also be selfish in that space
Speaker 2: because they feel like they extended.
Speaker 3: Themselves so much.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a weird type of space to be in.
Speaker 2: So I take it back. You might be you're weirdo, y'all.
Speaker 2: I'm about forty five minutes earlier.
Speaker 3: That might be forty five minutes early. It is crazy.
Speaker 3: That's ward enough time to get my sorella sticks. Twenty minutes.
Speaker 1: Twenty minutes is spare because I feel like most of
Speaker 1: the time you go to a restaurant, if it's like
Speaker 1: during happy hour or something like that, they'll tell you
Speaker 1: it's like a twenty minute week.
Speaker 3: Twenty minutes is spare. That's considerate.
Speaker 2: Yeah, because I'm just thinking, like, maybe you're doing this,
Speaker 2: so the better time I get in there, I could
Speaker 2: just walk straight to it's able to sit down, do
Speaker 2: my whole thing.
Speaker 3: You know.
Speaker 2: I thought that was very intentional, very sweet, but eating
Speaker 2: a whole meal prior too.
Speaker 3: You hate me like you hate me. I'm back to this.
Speaker 1: So if this is your brother, it comes to you
Speaker 1: and tell this story, what advice would you give him?
Speaker 3: Nigga? You a food? Are you like? Okay? Who raised you?
Speaker 3: Who raised you? That's what I would say, What the
Speaker 3: fuck raise? You didn't get that from outside of the family.
Speaker 3: Do you like her?
Speaker 2: I clearly don't like her. You hate her? Leave her alone.
Speaker 2: You're gonna cause no problems.
Speaker 3: Don't do that. Leave he alone.
Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, I felt like this conversation wouldn't be
Speaker 1: complete without really honing in on you and the dopest
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Speaker 3: So can you talk to us a little bit about
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Speaker 1: So?
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Speaker 2: It's on our platforms. It's the women empowerment song about
Speaker 2: all the work that we put in on it every
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Speaker 3: Oh girl, let me tell you something. I can't posted
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Speaker 1: I went on TikTok the other day to start a
Speaker 1: personal TikTok page and somebody had my name and they
Speaker 1: didn't just have my name, they used all my pictures
Speaker 1: from Instagram. And then I told TikTok take it down.
Speaker 1: And I can't even select myself as they're impersonating me.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I just had to report a couple of pages
Speaker 2: on TikTok for doing the same thing. And it might
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Speaker 3: Oh the dok told you? Oh hell no me? Oh shit,
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Speaker 3: In the words of dja Vu, you hate me. I
Speaker 3: love you, guys, and I'll see you next week.