Speaker 1: Hey, hey, I'm bad with something for you to think about,
Speaker 1: what happens when you choose to stay down? What happens
Speaker 1: when you choose to stay down? Because let me tell you,
Speaker 1: you can get down, you know, feel sad and blue,
Speaker 1: but you should never want to give up. So what
Speaker 1: happens when you choose to stay down? Because it's a choice,
Speaker 1: it's a choice. The first thing you need to do
Speaker 1: is understand how you got there? How did you get
Speaker 1: to that point? Now, I'm gonna tell you what I've
Speaker 1: seen over the years, and I've dealt with many, many people,
Speaker 1: young children, teenagers, adults, the older population. I've dealt with
Speaker 1: all types of people, good and bad. You have to
Speaker 1: think about how did you get there? A lot of
Speaker 1: people know exactly how they got there, but they don't
Speaker 1: do anything to change their mindsets. I mean, be honest
Speaker 1: with you, they do not do anything to change their mindsets.
Speaker 1: So people go through bad experiences, trauma, difficulty and things happen.
Speaker 1: They go through life struggling mentally. Because let's be honest here,
Speaker 1: traumatic things can affect your mindset, your thought processes, depending
Speaker 1: on who you are as an individual and how you
Speaker 1: allow things to affect you. Some people are resilient, some
Speaker 1: are not. A lot of people have that mindset wadling.
Speaker 1: When I say wadling, I mean just staying in the
Speaker 1: same place, allowing things to affect them. I mean. No
Speaker 1: one in life is exempt. No one on the face
Speaker 1: of the earth is exempt from trials and tribulations, exempt
Speaker 1: from the troubles of this world. No one. Money can't
Speaker 1: buy you out of it. Your beauty can't buy you
Speaker 1: out of it. What you have, your titles, can't buy
Speaker 1: you out of it. We all go through the storms
Speaker 1: and the rain. We all go through, but the mindset
Speaker 1: that you have going through makes all of the difference
Speaker 1: in the world. You have to have that positive mindset
Speaker 1: before you ever get into it. So that's why I
Speaker 1: want to talk about when you choose to stay down,
Speaker 1: what happens when you cannot see beyond your pain, beyond
Speaker 1: your suffering, beyond your storm, beyond your trial. You can
Speaker 1: put yourself in a bad position mentally worse than what
Speaker 1: you already was in. And this is what's happening to
Speaker 1: people you choose to stay down. Many of you know
Speaker 1: the issues that you're fighting right now. You know without
Speaker 1: a doubt it stems from your childhood, but yet you're
Speaker 1: still holding on to it. Why why why are you
Speaker 1: still struggling as an adult with what happened to you
Speaker 1: as a child. Why are you doing that to yourself?
Speaker 1: Why are you causing yourself this self inflicted pain? Because
Speaker 1: we all have a choice to move on, all of us.
Speaker 1: I went through things as a child that my mom
Speaker 1: went to her grave never knowing, and I'll go to
Speaker 1: mind taking it with me because it happened, but it
Speaker 1: didn't destroy my life. It just made my eyes open
Speaker 1: to people. I have dealt with tragedy since I was
Speaker 1: a little kid. When I was eleven years old, I
Speaker 1: saw my cousin get ran over and I could still
Speaker 1: see when I think about it. Only when I think
Speaker 1: about it, and it's very seldom. I could still see
Speaker 1: him underneath the wheel of the car. I could still
Speaker 1: remember the clothes he had on, the color in his shirt.
Speaker 1: I can still remember all of that. I was the
Speaker 1: oldest person in that group, and I was only eleven
Speaker 1: years old, So I could have went through my life
Speaker 1: feeling it was my fault. You know, I really could
Speaker 1: have been that person, but I chose not to because
Speaker 1: I knew it wasn't but still yet I could have
Speaker 1: had the mindset to let that destroy my life, like
Speaker 1: other things that happened before that. So all I'm trying
Speaker 1: to say to you is it does not matter your tragedy,
Speaker 1: your trauma, your pain, your suffering. What matters is how
Speaker 1: you allow it to affect your life. Some people as
Speaker 1: adults are depressed because they had one or both depressed parents,
Speaker 1: and normally it's one. They've seen this person depressed all
Speaker 1: their life, and so they adopt that behavior and then
Speaker 1: adapt to it and it becomes a part of their life.
Speaker 1: It's reality, it's reality. They was not born that way,
Speaker 1: they learned that behavior and it became very real in
Speaker 1: their lives. All they saw was Mama depressed on medication,
Speaker 1: laying around sad. Or it could have been dead who
Speaker 1: became that way because he was trying to say mom
Speaker 1: and it ended up losing himself. I mean, there are
Speaker 1: many different scenarios that could have occurred, but I know
Speaker 1: for a fact a lot of people are that way
Speaker 1: because of their upbringing, not because they were beat or
Speaker 1: abused sexually, but simply because of what they saw. What
Speaker 1: I'm trying to say is we can all choose a
Speaker 1: better route. We can always choose a better path. We
Speaker 1: can always choose a better life for ourselves, all of us.
Speaker 1: You take tragedy and triumph from it. You don't have
Speaker 1: to let it dictate your life. You do not have
Speaker 1: to let it sabotage and destroy you. You don't have
Speaker 1: to stay down. That is a choice. How do you
Speaker 1: come out of it? You come out of it by
Speaker 1: wanting to come out of it. You come out of
Speaker 1: it by choosing change. You come out of it by
Speaker 1: doing something different. But the first thing you have to
Speaker 1: do is be real with yourself and say, hey, I've
Speaker 1: been this way for so long. I can't do it anymore.
Speaker 1: I want better. I don't want to do to me
Speaker 1: what's already done. I don't want to keep going through
Speaker 1: the glooming, the doom. I want a better life. I
Speaker 1: want to be better mentally. You have to choose that
Speaker 1: for yourself, and you have to accept what has already happened,
Speaker 1: and you have to choose for yourself to love you
Speaker 1: and move on. Let it go, because you've seen it
Speaker 1: has caused you nothing but suffering and self inflicted pain.
Speaker 1: You've projected that pain into your children lives, into people
Speaker 1: who have came into your life. It's time to let
Speaker 1: it go. And when you choose to stay down, it
Speaker 1: totally affects your life. You're the only person can change it.
Speaker 1: When you choose to stay down, it causes you trust issues,
Speaker 1: It causes you insecurities. I mean, you can't love yourself.
Speaker 1: You don't know how to love anyone else properly. I mean,
Speaker 1: it causes you all types of issues because of unhealed
Speaker 1: hearts and minds. And because it is a choice, you're
Speaker 1: choosing to stay in that negative state of mind. You're
Speaker 1: willfully choosing that medication is not gonna take it away.
Speaker 1: Drugs and alcohol is not gonna take it away. A
Speaker 1: significant other is not gonna take it away. A child
Speaker 1: is not gonna take it away. A friend is not
Speaker 1: gonna take it away. Success is not gonna take it away.
Speaker 1: Money is not gonna take it away, none of it.
Speaker 1: You have to deal with that one on one. You
Speaker 1: have to face that. You have to be the one
Speaker 1: to let it go. A lot of people choose to
Speaker 1: stay down, and they go further and further and further
Speaker 1: trying to dig dig dig dig, when really you just
Speaker 1: remain where you are. But really, the only way left
Speaker 1: is up. All you gotta do is choose it. All
Speaker 1: you have to do is choose it. But a lot
Speaker 1: of people don't. Most people don't because they're so comfortable.
Speaker 1: They have become so comfortable with all the negativity that
Speaker 1: it's normal to them. This is a sad reality for
Speaker 1: millions of people. Just think about this. Look at all
Speaker 1: of the millions of people around the world. Now, I
Speaker 1: want you to think about this. That's claiming and I've
Speaker 1: talked about this before a little bit, that's claiming they
Speaker 1: have mental illnesses. Most of it is PTSD, anxiety depression,
Speaker 1: people have fleeting, suicidal and homicidal thoughts. But I want
Speaker 1: you to think about that. Think about the many people
Speaker 1: who are claiming mental illnesses. They were not born that way.
Speaker 1: They were not People developed those things from stress, different medications, environments,
Speaker 1: all kinds of things that you allow in your life
Speaker 1: and to affect you. I'm just saying they weren't born
Speaker 1: that way. Unmanaged stress can lead to mental illnesses. Your
Speaker 1: bad relationships can lead to mental illnesses. All of the
Speaker 1: stress from it, trying to carry the weight of the
Speaker 1: world and your shoulders can lead to that. All of
Speaker 1: that stress leading to mental illness. People can even develop
Speaker 1: bipolar and schizophrenic symptoms and things like that because of
Speaker 1: all the stress in their lives and the trauma and
Speaker 1: bad experiences they're holding on to. Mentally, when you hold
Speaker 1: onto those things, it affect your body. Totally affects your body.
Speaker 1: You have pain and all kinds of things going on
Speaker 1: in your body because you're holding onto all of that trauma,
Speaker 1: your tents. A lot of people hold their shoulders up
Speaker 1: and don't even realize they have their shoulders up because
Speaker 1: they've been in that position for so long it's normal
Speaker 1: to them. They don't know how to relax. You make
Speaker 1: a choice every day, every day you get out of
Speaker 1: bed or wake up, you make a choice to be
Speaker 1: better or remain the same. It's nobody's decision but yours.
Speaker 1: And from what I'm seeing, a lot of people are
Speaker 1: choosing to remain the same when you don't have to.
Speaker 1: Everything we do is a choice. I don't care what
Speaker 1: curveball is thrown at you, how you perceive that, how
Speaker 1: you deal with that. It all comes from how you
Speaker 1: think feeling that. That's why I tell you all of
Speaker 1: the time, our mindsets are everything. If you don't have that,
Speaker 1: if you don't have a good, healthy mind, it's gonna
Speaker 1: affect you mind, body, and soul, point blank of the period.
Speaker 1: It's gonna affect you mind, body, and soul in some
Speaker 1: way to some degree. How we think is everything, whether
Speaker 1: you're faking or pretending, it's everything. You do what you
Speaker 1: do for a reason, and that reason is because of
Speaker 1: that unhealed part of you that you need to face,
Speaker 1: heal from, let it go so you can become the
Speaker 1: best you that you can be, because when you don't,
Speaker 1: you get those negative thoughts in your mind. Nothing ever
Speaker 1: works out for me. Bad things always happen to me.
Speaker 1: You feed that fuel, you give more to throw on
Speaker 1: that fire. You feed it more and more fuel you
Speaker 1: give it, and you really believe that about your life,
Speaker 1: and you draw that negativity to you. You don't have
Speaker 1: to stay down. It's a choice too, just like it's
Speaker 1: a choice to get up, dust yourself off. They keep
Speaker 1: it moving. With some of the things that I've gone
Speaker 1: through in my life, the tragedies and the recent tragedies
Speaker 1: I've gone through, people don't just don't understand, girl, how
Speaker 1: can you do it? It's not me, It's the Jesus
Speaker 1: in me. My faith is so strong, and like I've
Speaker 1: told you, I don't care how it sound to you.
Speaker 1: I don't give power to people or things to dictate
Speaker 1: my life, to uproot my mental health and my peace
Speaker 1: because they didn't give it to me. I just don't
Speaker 1: do it. I just don't do it. And if you
Speaker 1: don't understand that, I can't make you understan stand it.
Speaker 1: All I can do is recommend Jesus, because that's who
Speaker 1: gave me the peace that a pass is all understanding.
Speaker 1: I just don't look at people and things in the
Speaker 1: world like the average person. I just don't. Things don't
Speaker 1: mean that much to me, not like on that level.
Speaker 1: It don't. They really don't. Sometimes I have to say, Okay,
Speaker 1: you need to make some phone calls because I'm telling
Speaker 1: you I can move on like I'm in the world
Speaker 1: by myself. And it's not that I'm disconnected from people,
Speaker 1: because I'm not. I love my family, I love my friends,
Speaker 1: but I just don't let my love for them dictate
Speaker 1: my life. I'm not going to lose my peace because
Speaker 1: I love someone so much. No, I'm not. I love
Speaker 1: me more. So it's up to you every day. Do
Speaker 1: you want a better life, if you want a better life.
Speaker 1: You have to do better things, You have to do
Speaker 1: things differently, you have to face reality of Hey, I
Speaker 1: can't keep letting my past ruin my right now. You
Speaker 1: just can't, because, like I've told you a million times,
Speaker 1: and I'll keep telling you, your past is gone. Yes,
Speaker 1: you lived it, but it's no longer there. It's the
Speaker 1: memories that you give power to me and that old, comfortable,
Speaker 1: familiar way of thinking. That's why you stand where you
Speaker 1: are mentally. So that's all I have. I'm leaving it
Speaker 1: right there. Thank you so much for listening much less.
Speaker 1: I hope all of you are doing well. Please reach
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Speaker 1: hope and I pray you do it. I really really
Speaker 1: really really do. Thank on it