Speaker 1: Madeh decision. Oh peace, sunny, sad on idasione nice so
nat Hey, what's up everybody? What's hey? How are you?
I'm good? How are you? I'm doing well? Thank you?
How are you? Let's say how to our people super fast,
let's let's let's get her done. Aaron is a dirty
Sanchez and Sarah Stefano she's our Paisano. Stephanie Stinker Rinker says,
give some money to plan parenthood. Bitches. That's right, thank you,
so me you yeah, come on, we're in a situation here,
yees situation Leslie with the gill, with the coffee, but
me too, I get I feel you girl. And guess
what I found out that Leslie is not a costing people.
She's a coast. She's a coasting. She's a coasting. Uh huh,
she's coasting. She is Yep, she's just coasting. Good. Yeah,
that's good. He she can hang out with Katie's rolling
on e one's rolling one's coasting. Yep. Elizabeth Williamson, she's
got so many kids, it's adorable. Family photos. Hard to
squeeze everybody, And though Athena Ginshirt is dancing up a
storm and Polly is making pancakes and putting hers yrup
on it. Valerie hits it out of the park and
Katerina seriously check your molar. We got a talk girl,
Gabby and Missy Oh I saw him at I saw
him by the Jersey shore. Oh. I'm one of those,
you know, checking for like looking for quarters and dimes
in the sand, one of those peppepepe. Yeah, that's what
they're doing. Shone Vaje pig back a little bit. Is
so cute. I love her. Kelly Brandt, she's she's related
to you, but don't worry about it. Jacob is so
growley and we I forgot to shout him out last week.
Did double shout out to you, Jacob, you are so loved.
I'm sorry. J Errish, no wonder why you're growley. Fucking Stephanie,
I know I'll get her in line for you. Rita's
rocking everybody's kids and her Bosanette and uh Nikki call
your girl? And Aaron who is? And Katie's rolling on
e and Kelly glad he done, Ashley so chic, and
Dick is frolicking Jennifer get up, Sandra, it's not easy
being green. And Christa gets a strap get the strapping girl.
So I just got back from Jersey. Yeah. Joy, Yeah,
my shirt. I got the shirt I got at the
shore store. What does it say? Oh? Everybody, everyone loves
an Italian girl. I love it. Yeah, I was with
my people. Well so tell us what. Okay, so you
you you got rid of you got your money back
for that other from the other air So how did
you like the one that you got? So we were
so we were staying at this hotel. It was in
Long Branch, Okay, and our family was like an hour
away down the shore because there's not a lot of
hotels and you know, I mean there's Airbnb. But after
that we were like, Wendy and I are good with hotels, Like, well,
let's just you know, we're not big Airbnb, you know.
So yeah, it was like an hour away, but she
we were. We were there just for us to hang out,
you know. I of course, we spent like a day
or two with the family because they were all staying
in one place an hour away. This is Wendy's like
in laws, extended family, Okay. So they were bringing their
new her her son, Wendy's grandson to meet the family.
The extended family, the in laws. So where was Wendy's son.
They were Anthony, They were Nicholas, Nicholas. Yeah, they were
down an hour away at a house that they that
family rented. Okay, so they were closer to the other
Peak families. So you and Wendy were the only ones
who were an hour away. Yes, So, but Wendy drove
from Chicago with Nicholas and the and her his wife
and the baby. So he drove and then I flew
met them. Wendy came to my hotel. So anyway, I
don't know if you've heard, but Hurricane Debbie was happening
last week. So yes, So on the way out, I
was on the plane and the plane was taxing, and
right as it was leaving the gate, the announcement came
on that all of Newark because I was flying into
Newark and then all New York City airports were all
being grounded because of the hurricane. Oh no, yeah, so
we sat on the plane for three hours before leaving,
before leaving, so then anyway, so then we get then
we then we I was supposed to land at like
eight thirty, nine thirty. We got in at two am,
New York time, and Wendy was still at the family house,
so she because I was getting in so late and
my plane was delayed, she was just like, I'm just
going to sleep here and I'll meet you at in
the morning at the hotel. So I was taking so
once I got to Newark, I got to get into
an uber, which drove another hour. So I got into
Newark at like two thirty. By the time I got
my bag it was like two forty five. Got in
the uber around three, and then was by myself for
an hour drive, which is fine, but like, I don't
know where the hell I am everything. It's pitchboy, Like,
you know, I know where I'm going, I know the
direction I'm going in. I've never been a Jersey you know,
so and this hotel there's not a straight shot. It's
not off the freeway. So it's like he's going left,
he's going right, He's going all like through residential areas
and I'm like, is this And you don't even have
any way to be like, is this guy is everything? Well,
I'm looking on my ways app and I'm seeing he
is going the right way, but I'm like, what is
what the all these you know, there's just no there's
no straight shot, there's no get off the freeway and
you're there, you know kind of thing. It's like you're
going through residential anyway. Get into the hotel at four. Yeah,
went to bed at like five, and then Wendy Nicholas
drove Wendy to the hotel the next morning and then
we got together and then it was rainy and windy,
like hurricane winds the whole time we were there. Oh no,
the whole time. And we were right our hotels, like
on the beach, you know, like we were looking forward to,
like going to sit on the beach or going by
the pool. We're stuck inside the hotel. And by the way,
this hotel is not great. Like, Okay, the Wi Fi,
I said, when I checked in, what's the Wi Fi password?
And she's like, oh, there is no Wi Fi password.
You just you do the open password, just you know,
Omni guest or whatever whatever. The hotel just guessed and
I was like, okay, So I did that. Then I
get my laptop out, so then I turned the TV on. Okay,
no Netflix, no HBO, no nothing, no movie channels, just
straight twenty five channels like CNN, four ESPN channels, Comedy Central, Nickelodeon,
that's it. And when you hit guide it says unavailable,
and then you hit menu on the remote unavailable, so
you can't see what you're You just gotta hit change,
channel change, channel change, channel change, and you're stuck watching
whatever is on TV. So then I get my can't
even go do anything and you can't do anything. So
then I get my laptop out and I connect to
the Wi Fi and I have Hulu and I have Peacock. Nope,
wouldn't let me page unavailable page on it. So then
I had to connect it to my hot spot on
my phone. I mean, like had a Jerry rig the
Wi Fi, I know, like to get just to get
my fricking Peacock on, you know, and the TV again
was not nothing. And then it was just like all
the food was limited. There was not like room service
was limited because of the storm. Oh, I mean, it
was just it was just not great. But we made
the best of it. We made we made the best
of it. But then did you still have to drive
an hour both each way to get to Yeah, to
get to them, So like, you know, there was one
night where they're like, we're all gonna go have dinner
and like in Jersey, you know whatever, and you're having
to drive in a rental car in a storm, in
a rental car, in an uber oh to uber. And
a lot of times Nicholas, because he had a rental car,
would come pick us up, so he would drive an
hour anius up. Yes, yes, yes, yeah, that's what a
good boy he is. Yeah, a good mom. Yeah. So
that was nice. So and then one of the days
I went to the Jersey I went to the Jersey
Shore store where where Jersey Shore was filmed, and all
the rest of her cousins wanted to go, so we
all went. That was fun, Like I got n Italia
a bunch of stuff because it's fun because like I
bonded with Natalia. Want to show they got her all
these you know, meatball problems T shirts and stuff like that.
I got Sunny a T shirt that says Chewoch which means,
you know, like he's a chew ch. I think he's
gonna wear it, but whatever, And that was fun. I
got my T shirt. That was funny. My sister in law,
Raquelle shout out to Roquelle, who's a She's she's super funny.
She's called people cheoch since like she's from New Jersey,
so she was born and raised in Marlboro, New Jersey,
and she's like the original. I'd never even heard of
that before before I met her school. What's up, chewach?
What's that cute? Yeah, so you know what that means. Yeah, yeah,
it's it's it fits sunny perfectly. But anyway, so you know,
it was we made the best of it and everything.
Here's a funny thing too. When I was coming home.
Oh so then Saturday was the day we're all leaving,
and they were gonna hit the road because they're driving
back to Chicago. So they left Saturday was beautiful, hot,
not a cloud in the sky, sunshine. Yeah, yeah, I know, yeah,
that was it. But so on the flight home, this
is kind of funny because I thought, I don't know
why I thought of you. So I get on the
plane and I sit next to this this you know,
you're I sit next to this lady, right, and she's
like got her ponytail on and her like pulled really tight,
and she's on her laptop and you know, like like
shit's going down, and I'm sitting on the I'm sitting
at the window. So I go, I have to climb
over her. And I go and I said like, sorry,
I go. I never I never have to get up,
like I'll probably only get up once. Don't worry, I
won't like and she's like, she's like doesn't even like
doesn't even give me the time of day, like uh huh,
like she's really, you know. And then like we're sitting
on the run and I'm like, I want to turn
the TV on. I want to see what movies we got.
And I get the I can't get the remote out
of the like you it's stuck. You know. You push
the remote and it pops out sometimes, so it won't
pop out, and I'm trying. I'm trying. I'm trying, and
I asked the stewardess. I'm like, can you can you
help me get the remote? So they have to like
climb over her, you know, and then she won't just
get up for she when and then the guy goes,
you're rope. He goes, check check your remote. So she
couldn't get hers out either, and she goes, she pushed
it and won't come out. She goes, that's okay, I
don't need it. I'm not I'm not watching TV. She's
on her laptop. I'm like, all right, relax, calm down.
So anyway, the flights I'm watching, I am watching The
Big Short, right, and I immediately fall asleep and then
darted bear even on a plane, even on a blank
I'm jealous. I know, I know, I'm out. I'm so tired.
So then at one point I wake up, I look over.
She's watching The Big Short, Like there is one hundred
movies to watch, and she picked the same one I did,
And that's kind of interesting. So anyway, I don't know,
I just thought it was funny if you looked over
at her computer and her laptop and it's just all
it says is all work and no play. Makes jillb
still girl. I work and no play some psycho, some
psycho as g lpm A. Yeah, I don't know, like
it was but at least, yeah, at least I slept
on the way home. But yeah, I mean that was
That was the trip. And it was nice. A lot
of good food, Oh my god, the food was so
good in Jersey, very good. And a lot of people
are very nice out there, you know. But yeah, the
hotel wasn't great. It was fine, you know, Wendy and
I make the best of everything. Yeah, I just hung out,
but it was fun. Yeah, I had a This is
not the same thing at all, But so Sadie and
Xander had. They have a friend that they met doing
improv in Hollywood at the Groundlings. This girl is she's
so cute and so so nice. But she lives in
and this will this will only make sense to people
who live here. But she lives in Lake Forest, which
is all which is past Irvine. Yeah, so with traffic, Caylin,
you know Kaylan's in Long Beach. I'm aware of the traffic, Yes,
very experienced. So you know from so Long Beach to
like Irvine? Yeah? Is that equidistance from like Long Beach
to La No closer? Yeah, Irvine A Long Beach is
closer to take me probably about twenty twenty minutes no
traffic to get their twenty twenty five minutes, whereas La
to Long Beach will take me about forty no traffic. Okay,
So this trip with traffic is about an hour forty
five probably hour and thirty six if there's no If
there isn't traffic, like at night, jeezy what put Yes,
she lives there now her parents used to drive her
every week into La to the groundlings, and then one
time we had her at our house for like a
couple of nights. Yeah. So, but the problem is they're
not in groundlings together right now. So Sadie went and
spent a couple of nights at this girl's house. Recently,
I drove her down there, but she stayed like three
nights with the girl and then John went and picked
her up. Anyway, they were she was having a birthday
and she wanted to do it at a local karaoke place.
So John and I agreed that because rap, we almost
get to the point where we're like, why not just
go stay down there? But there's nothing to freaking do
and it's really hot. So the kids wanted to get
to her house at four o'clock. They were not going
to go do karaoke until seven, and then that was
going to be until about midnight. Let's say, so I
I drove her there, I drove the kids there, I
get there, I drop them off. She's so far off
the freeway that my internet wasn't I wasn't getting a signal.
So and it's so I've never been there before. This
was just reminding me a little bit of your driving
with the Uber, so I don't recognize at all where
I am. It's like fifteen twenty minutes past Irvine. Then
you go down all these different roads, and then by
the I get to her house, I drop the kids off,
I go to tell my Ways or Apple Maps home
take me home. Can't type it in. It's like there's
no signal, so it says basically like unavailable. It won't
And then I'm seeing the like it's trying to like
rote it and it can't. It can't. It can't. No
internet connection. I have no clue even which way to, Like,
I don't have this good sense of direction. It's hard
to explain. But once you get off of this girl's street,
you could go right or you could go left. You're
at like a dead end. I cannot, for the life
of me backtrack, like figure out did I take a
left to get to this street or a right? So
I'm like, I'm just gonna guess, so I take a right.
Could you have maybe called the mom and asked her
and tell her I have no can you like? Yeah?
I probably could have called John and been like, can
you find me on a map and tell me which
way to go. But you know, in the moment, I'm
just like, I'll figure it out, right, I'll just drive
until I have it, until I have a connection, and
then I'll then it'll come up on my map. So
I take a right. I keep going, still not getting
a connection until I get to a finally, a main street.
I do not recognize it, but I so then I'm like, okay, well,
I'm gonna take a left, and I'm just gonna kind
of go. I'm on a main road. As soon as
I got a signal, I pull over. I put into
my I can't get Apple Maps, I cannot get it
to load. But Ways comes up for me. So I
bring up ways and I tell it take me home,
and it says, okay, get on this freeway. Have you
ever heard of the two seventy one. No, Now, I'm
gonna sound like an SNL skeet. Take San Vicente to
the four or five to the Okay, I'm out in
the in nowhere right nowhere land. Now they're telling me
to get on a freeway that I've never heard of before.
So I get on it and then it says you're
going to take that. You're going to just take this
two seventy one. So my exit off the freeway way
far away is the Balboa exit. Okay, Ways tells me
take the two seventy one and then all the way
and then the next step is get off the freeway
at Balboa. That doesn't make any sense. No, okay, but
now like another Balbo, another vollus somewhere. No, it's not.
It's because I look at it and it's set. Because
once you get off at Balboa, the directions are correct
to get to my house. Then you turn down the street,
you turn and I'm like, okay, something seems wrong though.
Now though you know those freeways out in the fucking
interstate where you're going fast, there's like construction in different areas.
There's like you got to stay over to the right side,
and there's like a divide or here. I cannot be
looking at my phone like i'm and you have to
go like the speed of the rest of the traffic.
So everybody's going like seventy you know, I cannot figure
out and there's nowhere to pull off the freeway like
and im and I'm trying to eat a chicken sandwich
do such I was starving. I had gone through the
Carls Junior drive through. I got myself a chicken sandwich
and fries for the rest, I got a chicken sandwich
on my lap. I'm trying to eat. I'm starving. I'm
trying to eat a fry and now I'm freaking out
and I'm like, okay, all right, having to literally like
calm myself. I'm just like, because you know, I get
the dragon anxiety as it is, so now I'm like,
I cannot slow down. And you know, when you're in
these on this freeway in the middle of nowhere and
you see there's no like, there's no like, oh if
I just get off here, there's a shell station and
a Walmart, no, none of that. It's all it's nowhere land.
And I'm like, oh my god, I could be driving
and then it's telling me, Okay, you're gonna keep going
and you're going to You're going to Chino basically. So
I'm like, I'm starting to have a little bit of panic,
like I might be driving for because it's telling anyway,
long story short, I do not call John because I'm like,
at some point I'm gonna pull over and I'm gonna see, well,
here's what it was basically I went way far east,
That's how. But it took the same amount of time,
it just took me a totally different way. The two
seventy one turned into the fifty seven, which turned into
the two ten, which turned into the one thirty four
I see turned into the one oh one, which took
me to my house. But all of it was a
straight shot, like there was I never had to get
off a freeway. So that's how ways decided to do it.
Like to some anyway, I was totally panicked for a
solid hour I've been driving because there was like nowhere
to get off this whole time, and You're sweating. I'm sweating,
and you feel like how am I ever going to
get home? Like I'm never going to get my sandwich?
Am I gonna end up in palm sps? Just gonna
end up sleep in my car? Like am I going
to Willman Frida and just going like, hey, can you
can you make me some like ex Benedict because I'm hungry.
I didn't get to you my sandwich. Yeah, So eventually
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my god, my heart hurts. Yeah, So she leaves on
the twenty first, she leaves a week from tomorrow. Yeah,
and so before my trip I got you know, I
got a bunch of stuff for her, and we started
packing up her stuff and organizing it and boxing it
and putting it all like in one spot in the house.
So like the guest room is like filled with all
of her clothes and all of her stuff and boxes
and all. It's just as much stuff is she bringing. Yeah,
she's gonna tell ya she's got you know, she's got
to bring stuff for every you know, winter, spring, summer,
I don't know. And she's only gonna be like less
than two hours away, right, which I kept telling her,
but no, but still, like, you know, she's got all
her stuff, and you know, she has a lot of
vitamins and all her like supplements that she takes for
the gym and blah blah blah. So you know, it's
just walk by that room now and I look at
that and I'm like, this is your last week here
in the house. So we have a few more things
we need to do. I have to take her to
the DMV this week because she lost her drug's license
and I went online to try and get it renewed.
But I don't know if it's because she's a new
because she they wouldn't let it. They would I have
to go in. We have to go in there. She
has to go in there, so we have to do that.
We have to do a few more things this week,
so she have to go so to replace the driver's license,
you go in. Did you get an appointment? I'm gonna, yeah,
I'm gonna make up appointment. I've tried online, like several times.
I thought maybe because I'm doing it on my iPhone
because it's said if you're having problems blah blah blah,
then I use my laptop. Same thing. It's like I
can't do it, you know. And also she has a
change of address too, so we need to like put
the new address. Oh yeah, that's good. Then yeah, so
you know, we just have a few more things to
do this week. But she's she put in her notice
at work her last two days or this week, and
then that's it. And then next week we drive down
like in I'm gonna you know, she's We're gonna load
up the two cars and drive down there and she
gets her keys at nine am on Tuesday next week
and move her in. So everybody, all the girls move
in the same day. Yeah, yeah, h it's not university
housing though, right, No, it's it's it's a lot of
them are also going to the junior college too, so
it's it's it's but it's all that building is all students,
like it's all and then but it's not provided by
the Santa Barbara City College. No. But her unit is
like you know, it's a couple of bedrooms and then
it's like four or five five girls, five girls in
her and they're all students, you know that they match, right,
And they gave her her roommates, her new roommates they introduced,
so she met through online. She's met her new roommates
and stuff. So it is maybe school housing. I mean,
Alby is in an off campus apartment, but it's it's UCLA, yeah, apartments, right.
They they they assigned like LB picked two girls that
she Elbe originally applied to have a dorm, a triple
dorm with these two other girls that she met through
the Instagram account from CLA, but then when they got
to sign their housing, they got assigned off campus househartment right. Yeah,
I mean maybe some of these kids are going to
the university. I don't know. It's it's a I know
it's a chain, it's a chain place like I've heard
of it before. Okay, but I think it's in college towns,
so I don't know. But okay, interesting, all right, So
she hasn't met a couple of them, then she's met
him online, like she's talked to them and stuff. Yeah. Yeah,
so and then and one of the girls is her friend. Yeah.
Two of the girls that are her roommates are her friends. Okay, yeah,
and one of them was like at the house this weekend.
I got to get to know her a little better.
She's really nice. Yeah. Yeah. So yeah, so she's gonna
be gone, and then it's just gonna be me in
Sonny and then Sonny's gonna be gone the following month.
You've never really experienced, like I've experienced LB being at camp,
like being gone two summers ago. She was gone the
whole summer at camp, at camp when she's a counselor, right,
So I've experienced that, But I don't think Italia has
ever been gone for that long. No, my kids never
went to camp like that, like going away camp. And yeah,
I mean yeah, I mean she's gone, like been with
friends for like the whole week. I mean, but no,
I haven't. And she's got on church, but now I haven't.
It's gonna be hard, I know, I know, I can't
even think. It's like oh, like it hit me, like,
you know, I kind of forgot about it on the trip.
Then I come home and I walk past that room
and I'm like oh, and then I'm like looking at
the calendar, like this is her lat this is it.
This is the last week, and Sunny's gonna go with
us next week to drop her off. Oh he is
said he would. Yeah. Yeah. The two of them have
been hanging out a lot too, Like they went to
dinner last night with their dad, which was nice and
because they drove in the same car and spend time together.
And then when they came back, Yeah, we were talking
about next Tuesday and she was like, Sunday, are you
gonna come with us? And he was like yeah, I'll go. Yeah.
Oh that's so cute. I know. You know this is
so weird cause Sadie and Xander starting junior year, right,
this is the first year since we've been doing this
podcast that your kids are not going back to school. School.
I know, it's so weird. Yeah, I see all these
my kids started today. They did they went to school today.
Day to school. Yeah, ah, I feel bad for you.
I mean in a way, I'm like, I'm glad that
headaches over. But in another way, I'm like, oh, like,
it's well, that's I mean, for for me, it is
weird because I feel like old to have kids still
in high school. But on the other hand, I'm grateful
for it. Yeah. I think I'm finally feeling like, Okay,
I got you fuckers for two more years. You're still mine,
right right, So, but it's it's weird CAUSEDI drives now,
and she's been practicing the route to school. Oh, but
it's a little further than LB used to have to
drive to go to her high school. But we're and
she got a parking pass, so she's going to be driving.
And wow, Sander's gonna be so bitch. So she's going,
I know, so she's she hasn't like, did you take
them to school today? No, So John took them to
school this morning because we came to do this early.
So I had to walk the dog, which is another
whole weird thing. She wouldn't go for a walk this morning. Really,
she's getting old. I don't know if she wanted she
I don't know if she was sore, but she just
wouldn't go for a walk. Like she went outside, she
peed and then she wanted to come back in the house.
I know, I know it's weird, but John's going to
try to take her for a walk. But anyway, so
she didn't want to drive her first possibly few days,
which I totally understand. She was like, I think I'm
going to be too nervous to like also be figuring
out the route and getting into my parking space. She
just wanted to be dropped off. So yeah, but yeah,
I mean I won't really be dealing with it. Yeah,
So is she driving? Is she gonna gonna share a car?
So it's a little bit of air because god no,
we can't have another car. We own three cars right now.
The thing that I'm thinking, and Albie's not going to
listen to this, I think I'm going to try to
find a way for Elbie to not take the car
to school because and here's why. It's UCLA, it's college town,
it's in Westwood. Where is she going? Yeah, like she's
they're not going anywhere if they hang out on the weekends,
I see, I feel like it'll be local unless she's
already going to be driving back and forth to like
our house. I feel like the few times that she
needs to do that, she can uber yeah yeah, because
so that she doesn't get a parking space, So she
has to try to get a parking space, which will
probably be on campus, which will be a bit of
a schlep anyway to get to the car. That the
parking is going to be expensive for a parking spot,
I believe, or she's going to have to park find
a spot near her apartment. I think I've heard that
parking is really really tough and always be moving her
car and figuring it out and not getting a ticket.
I know it can be done, but I think unless
she has a job, there's no real reason for her
to go through all that, right, Like, why deal with
that when you're basically going to be walking back and
forth every day. She can't drive from her apartment to campus.
There's nowhere to park if she doesn't have a parking spot, right,
So I think that I'm gonna I kind of already
sort of said like, maybe you don't need to take
your car, and she was like, she didn't really argue
it that much. Here's what I'm gonna do. I'm gonna say,
I feel like, for the first while, you don't need
to have your car. If you get a parking space
and you decide that you need a car, then we
can talk about it right now, we're twenty minutes away.
That makes sense. Yes, I agree, I agree. I mean
that's logic. And then the kids, Sadie can take our
Prius to school every day because she's used to driving it,
and if one of us needs a car, I'll drive
Alby's cars. There you go. I think that makes total sense. Yeah,
I think she'll be okay with that. I think she'll
be fine. I mean it's hard to take a car
away from a teenager after they just got it too,
you know, but it does make sense. Where's she going?
You know, everything is right there and parking is a nightmare. Also,
this way I can take her off the insurance. She can.
It's I think there's a way I can do kind
of provisional insurance so that she's still insured on the car,
but she's not. She doesn't have the car with her,
so it's only like if she's home. Do you know
what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, it makes sense.
I mean we bought the car. The car is in
our name. We didn't buy her a car and put
it under her name and like hand her a pink slip.
We got a car for her to drive. So yeah,
I don't know. I think it's a little different. And
I kind of told her listen, and I had told
her originally, depending on where you go, that car might
get handed over to Sadie Xander. Oh okay, And I
mean we'll see. I will see. I don't know, but
I'm the same. Sonny had a car and it got
had to be returned. I guess it was a lease
that his dad gave him. But the lease is up.
So he had it since Christmas until like a week ago.
Oh and at lease was up. And so now he
doesn't have a car. But I, you know, so he's
going to need a car in Oregon. But I don't
know what's I keep asking him, like if you talked
to dad about a car blah blah blah, and he said, yeah,
he's talking about it with me, but we'll see. So
I told him, I said, we should call Adam Lerner,
you know, And I asked him and he's and Sonny's
not picky at all. It's like what kind of car
you know? And he's like, I don't care. I don't care.
You know, well, if you call Adam, here's your ad
right now. Yes, if you call Adam, here's what he'll do.
Like he basically he's not like work, so he doesn't
work for a specific dealership. So he will tell you
here's a broker, what the deals are. Here's who's having
deals right now, Subru this company, you know, Like when
we got our tig one, he was like, here are
the two cars that I can get you for the
month the money that you feel comfortable spending way in
a month. Go drive a Subru, Go drive a VW.
And so we did and that and then he was
then he those are the two cars. I think he
found it for the cheapest price that he could get,
which was way cheaper than what we tried to price
it on our own. He got us, he was like, okay,
I got you this at like four something a month,
and he did that. He found the financing and he
pulled up in our driveway with the car. Yes, and
we signed the deal. That's what so I told Sonny,
I said, I know a car broker, like you know,
start thinking about what kind of car you want on
or what like, let's talk to him and let's see
what he's got, let's see what deals he's got. Yeah,
so to get him situated with that. But he's also
like not that you know, he's sunny is he's either
his friends pick him up or he walks to his
friend's house that they every all of his friends are
in town and they're walking distance. Well, does he want
to have a car in Oregon? Oh? Yeah, yeah, he
wants to car. Oh okay, and he's gonna have to
drive it to Oregon. Yeah, he'll have to drive it.
Mm hmm. That's going to be interesting for a new driver. Yeah.
I mean he's been driving, you know, but he'll he'll
have to get a new car. I'll have to get
used to it. But yeah, so but wait, but Adam
would drive the car or with him? I think? So, yeah,
whatever car he gets Animal drive, will drive and then
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how else would it work? Yeah, that's the way it
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So you're gonna take Natalia and then Adam's just gonna
come take Sonny, and then you're just gonna have to
say by that, how it's gonna go. I know, I
know it's just been me and Phil. That's so crazy.
It is weird it is to think about. Yeah, it's crazy.
I was talking a lot about it with my family
and like with Wendy and stuff, and she's been through it,
yeah she has. So you know, I don't know. I'm
trying to think, like I think the next at least
two years, I'm going to stay where I'm at and
see how they do, see if they you know, come
back or not come back or whatever, and then you know,
I think after that, I don't know. I I just
can't see myself like if they're gone and they're not
coming back, like I don't. I don't see myself living
out here for too long. I might. I think I
want to be around my family in Chicago. I mean,
I've got a whole new generation out there, you know,
and luckily podcasting you can do from wherever, right of course,
you know, So you know, I don't know, Well, obviously
I would move to Chicago. You will be with you, yeah,
of course, yeah. I just you know, it's just there's
my nephews are having kids, and their kids are young,
and Wendy's there, and I just don't see myself alone
out in like Lacayata, you know what I mean, right forever?
Or I don't know, or I moved to a different
area out here where my other friends are, like but
it's so expensive, Like a lot of my friends are
down in Manhattan Beach, Melissa and all of those guys.
But it's if that's expensive, But there's other places. Maybe
we're Donda, I don't know, or other around those areas.
So where I'm at now was great to raise kids,
but after that, it's like, you know, you don't want
to be there forever. But on the other hand, they're
only you don't know what they're gonna do. In two years,
because if Sunny goes to University of Oregon, then yeah,
I he'll be there for two years, which is on
this coast, right, But I guess he would could fly
back and forth to Chicago to come to see quote
unquote home. But then Natalia if she's if she ends
up at UCSB, right, then you're going to be moving
to Chicago. Well that's why I have to see the
first two years if that and they and they're coming back,
and you know, I know that the kids are going
to need a home base, I think, especially in California.
So but I do have my I do have my
condo and it's almost it's pretty much paid off. I
paid you know, big chunk of it, and so well
I'm getting that out. I'm renting that. But you know,
maybe they can come they if they need a place
to stay in La or I'm here in La half
the time. I can stay in the condo, I have
a place to be, or I just or I buy
a house I don't know, or I rent a house.
I don't know. But I just have to see what happens.
It's weird to be in limbo. Huh, yeah, it is.
It is so not just even the first two years,
four years, like they're gonna and I bet Natalia is
gonna come home a lot. You know, I can see her,
you know, coming home. You know. The other thing I
think about with Natalia is I can hear this all
I know this is coming where like I forgot my prescription?
Or can you just drive it? Can you just drive
I forgot my Can you just drive it down? Like
I'm going to tell her, like I am not driving
shit down. You know, if you want it, you have
a car, you come get it. I'm not gonna be
your butler coming from you know, La, to drop off
shit for you because you need it. But Natalia reminds
me a lot of my friend Cecily's daughter Ava, who's
one of LB's besties. And she goes to University of
Kansas and her mom has gone out there so many times.
I cannot tell you how many times she's just been like, mom,
can you really well when she gets sick. There's it's
been a couple of times. She once she got the
flu really bad and she just was like not feeling
well and then having to depend on her roommates her
mom that I would die out there get a hotel
get her. You know, a couple of different times that happened.
There were just times where she was just like needed
her mom right, didn't want to she needed me like
for if she of course, of course I'm saying like
I forgot my tennis shoes, you know that kind of shit,
Like I'm not doing that. I'm not gonna just because
you're an hour and a half away, I know, but
like we spoiled them with the whole dropped by school
and bring you lunch. Yes, exactly exactly, I remember. I mean,
this wasn't that long ago. But the kids forgetting their lunch,
You're like, mama, heart just goes like even though yes,
they fucked up, I'm sure they should just be hungry
and left to their own devices. I'm sure they could
moot some food off one of their friends, and they have.
But when you come home, I've just drove the I mean,
and I see their lunch. Yes, I open the fridgery.
I see their lunch still in the fridge. They didn't
they forgot it. I don't even wait for them to
call it, would just drop it off at the place
and then I text them, you left your lunch. What's
no skin? Off of my it's around the block. I know,
I know, it's just funny because it's all levels right,
because yes, we do that. And there have definitely been
times where I open the fridge and I go, oh,
Sadie forgot her lunch. Xander's the more responsible of the two, right,
So then I'm like, oh god, I got it all right.
Or I'll be like trying to be hard, you know,
and then John I'll be like, I'll drive it over there.
I'm like, no, we're not teaching them anything. And then
I'll be like I'll do it. I'll do it. I'll
drive them. But just when I start feeling really bad
about myself, like oh, I am handicapping my kids for
their future, then my friend Laura's like, hold my beer
because her kids what if her kids is starting her
second year at Berkeley. That's another one. A Albie's really
good friends. And then her other son is starting his
senior year. Yes, I'm talking her on the phone the
other day and she was like, Daniel, I made you,
I made you your breakfast. I toasted you a bag
She's still toasting his ass a bagel and putting cream
cheese on it. And I was like you're we're still
be turning eighteen. She's like, I know, I knows, but
what she said this, She's like, I know, but I'm here,
right am I doing? But exactly so now, buttering as
bigel is what you're doing. I know. I know. It's
so funny like now that we're older, like how we
look back at things like, boy, what you know we
were pushovers or whatever. But it's easy to say that
now because they're grown and you know they they're responsible kids,
you know, so we didn't like do too bad, you know.
I mean that's how I feel. You do things to
your own comfort level. I know, yes, I feel like
I was doing better than a lot of my friends.
As I've said a million times. Halloween, I was like,
let the kids go freaking trick or treating, and then
every other mom was like, no, that's not a good idea,
that's a bad I mean I had to. I remember
trying to get Elbe to walk around the mall by herself. Yeah,
like I don't know. She didn't have a phone yet,
but she did have an iPad, so I was like,
connect the iPad to the mall. If you need me,
you text me. If there's an issue, but I wanted
her to like walk around the mall. The other parents
were like, oh hell no, I'm like, what is going
to happen? Yeah, this I don't know if this is
like an LA thing, but I am telling you. Some
of Elbie's friends, the kids were like, We're going to
get abducted. I'm like, nobody's abducting you at Sephora Relax,
Like do you know what I'm saying? Like, You're not
going to get sex trafficked at the Gap. It's just
not happening. There's employees everywhere, Yeah, cameras. Yes. There was
that one time that I couldn't find one of the kids.
Wasn't it a was I think it was Sadie and
ended up member and I was at the Northridge Mall,
could not find her, turned around, she was gone, and
then she the employee at the gap called me and
was like, I have your kid. Because she didn't have
a phone yet. Oh really, so the gap person called
my phone and I was like, oh, thank God, Okay,
I'm coming to get her right. Yeah. But my point
is there's employees everywhere. You're not gonna like nope. So
one time Elbie was with her friend, well, I'll tell
you who it was. It was Julie's daughter. She was
with Bella, and Bella was so nervous. See, everybody judges me,
but like Julie is ten times worse. And she will
listen to this and she will totally agree. Julie would
not let her kids play out on her front lawn
when they were like nine because she was literally scared
that somebody was going to swing by and like get
the kids in the car and like take off with them. Okay,
that's fine. But Bella had like fear getting abducted at
the mall. So one time she and lb it was
her first time like walking. Elb was like old hat
at walking around the mall, but Bella they were walking
around and somebody, I think like at a kiosk, tried
to like straighten their hair or something, you know what
I mean. Yeah, yeah, and Bella freaked the fuck out
and thought that she was they were trying to abduct
her and got like super scared. And then I got
called and not to like come get them. See, my
kid worked the opposite because I sudden he would go
walking at night since he was like young, and I
hated it and I'd go like sunny, you're you can't
be walking around at night like you have you're only
twelve or thirty whatever, And it was the other way around,
and go, oh, why is a white vang gonna come
and kidnap me? Like? So for me it bet fired
like he's like relax, like and nobody's coming to get
me and locking you out like I'm fine, you know,
I'm like, well, I was really more afraid of like
the bears and the coyotes. But all right, I don't
you know, so for him backfired, but like you know,
I don't know, I guess uh it all worked out first,
it did. Listen, LB does a lot of things for herself.
Does she like being parented? Like I think that there's
something I think Elbe could do even more on her
own than she does. But she does do a lot
on her own. And I think that if if I
was not available, she would get it handled. I think
she likes being able to go mom, yeah you know,
I need a mattress topper for my apartment, just about one,
Like she has a mom that is going to go like, okay,
let's go pick you out one well, because and also
you and I didn't have a relationship with our moms
like that, yes, and that's why we love it, Like
we want our daughters to be like, you know, hey
you want to go to Target. Of course, you know,
because I didn't have a mom. You didn't have a
mom that we had like piled around with or at
least even went to them and going, hey, I need
clothes for school, Like they're like, yeah, go get it.
You're like, go walk to Fallbrook Mall and get it yourself.
My mom never took me clothes shopping. That is why
you and I have such a we get each other
on that level because yeah, I didn't either. Yes, my mom.
I don't know if she didn't care. I really don't.
I don't know if she just it just wasn't a priority.
But none of that, none of that like let's go
get you. Like when I have a rule my kids
do not buy their own underwear or bras Welborn bras now.
But like I feel like that's a way that I
can take care of my kids, Like that's like an essential.
So we'll be at the mall and LB will always
be like, do you want to go to Pink? And
I'm like, of course. They're always having a seven for
thirty dollars sale. Let's go stock you up on more underwear. Yes,
you know, it's just like a way that but yeah,
but like Sadie yesterday was like, Mom, do you want
do you want to take me to Target? I need
some school supplies? And I was like, yes, I do,
right exactly. You know, it's nice and I only have Natalia.
Like Sonny's never asking me to go to the mall
or anything like that nearly. Like Sonny with him will
like watch a movie or watch UFC fights, or hang
out in the backyard and talk, you know, and he'll
talk my ear off about more sports like that kind
of stuff, or go for a walk with Phil. That's
the kind of stuff I do with Sonny. Well, Sadie
is always so grateful for Like Sadie has been into
this thing of she wants to sew and one of
her couple of her friends have sewing machines and she
was like, I'm gonna save up for a sewing machine.
And I can't help myself. I'm always like, I'll get
you a sewing machine, like not a brand new one.
I'm not you know, money bags over here, but like
let's go on Facebook marketplace, my favorite. Yeah, I find
you anyway, I ended up she ended up researching and
finding one on eBay or refurbished sewing machine, and she
picked out the one she wanted, and then when I
ordered it for her, she was like, Mom, you don't
have to do that. I was just seeing if you
thought this was like a good one or whatever. And
I was like, but I want to see. I want
to It makes me feel good to like. But then
she had thanked me like twenty times. You know, yes,
they're grateful. That's nice, you know, it's great. Yeah, why
should that? Why should she not be allowed to take
care of our kids? Exactly? I don't care. I don't
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