WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.040 --> 00:00:02.359 Hi everyone, and welcome back to the podcast episode. My 2 00:00:02.480 --> 00:00:04.919 name is Lisha Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast, 3 00:00:05.000 --> 00:00:07.559 where I help you expand your mind and become more 4 00:00:07.599 --> 00:00:09.519 self aware so that you can glow up into the 5 00:00:09.519 --> 00:00:13.039 best version of yourself. Hello everyone, and happy Sunday. If 6 00:00:13.080 --> 00:00:15.599 you're listening to this on a Sunday, I hope everyone 7 00:00:15.800 --> 00:00:18.120 is well. You have to be doing well at this 8 00:00:18.199 --> 00:00:21.679 point because today, at least in certain parts of the world, 9 00:00:22.359 --> 00:00:25.920 we have done daylight savings and the days are getting longer, 10 00:00:26.399 --> 00:00:29.600 Spring is approaching. We are in March. Things are looking 11 00:00:29.719 --> 00:00:31.879 up for the most part. By the way, if you're 12 00:00:31.920 --> 00:00:35.240 wondering where THEO is, he is beside me sleeping right now. 13 00:00:35.280 --> 00:00:37.960 We will have a THEO spotlight. And if anyone is 14 00:00:38.000 --> 00:00:41.439 new here, I'm speaking about my nine week old Italian 15 00:00:41.479 --> 00:00:45.880 Greyhound that I just recently got. He is beautiful, amazing, perfect. 16 00:00:46.520 --> 00:00:49.880 But the past few weeks have been challenging for sure, 17 00:00:50.399 --> 00:00:53.600 but in the best way. It's really made me grow 18 00:00:53.600 --> 00:00:55.520 as a person. And I feel like the past few 19 00:00:55.520 --> 00:00:59.399 weeks we've been talking on the Soulful Sunday episodes about 20 00:00:59.600 --> 00:01:02.280 action and getting out of your own way and not 21 00:01:02.359 --> 00:01:04.719 listening to the stories that are trying to keep you 22 00:01:04.760 --> 00:01:07.319 stuck or trying to negotiate yourself out of doing the 23 00:01:07.719 --> 00:01:10.879 actions that you know you need to take to get 24 00:01:10.959 --> 00:01:13.400 the end result right you go to the gym, or 25 00:01:13.519 --> 00:01:16.159 become a new version of you, or drop this bad habit, 26 00:01:16.400 --> 00:01:18.079 or go for your dreams. Thinks of that nature. I 27 00:01:18.120 --> 00:01:20.280 feel like that's just been the theme for a lot 28 00:01:20.280 --> 00:01:23.719 of us. I feel like it's March spring is approaching. 29 00:01:23.840 --> 00:01:27.120 That's kind of what we do. We awaken, we change 30 00:01:27.200 --> 00:01:29.239 up our routine. We want to become the best versions 31 00:01:29.239 --> 00:01:31.480 of ourselves. And I have been wanting to make this 32 00:01:31.560 --> 00:01:33.959 episode for a while now. There's so many questions that 33 00:01:34.000 --> 00:01:36.599 I get asked around the topic of you know, how 34 00:01:36.599 --> 00:01:39.159 do I actually take that action and how do I 35 00:01:39.200 --> 00:01:42.920 stop being that dreamer and instead really actualize my dream life? 36 00:01:42.920 --> 00:01:45.159 Like how do I do it? What is your advice? 37 00:01:45.200 --> 00:01:47.560 What is your tips? And I feel like I have 38 00:01:47.920 --> 00:01:50.239 a lot of things to say on this topic, and 39 00:01:50.280 --> 00:01:53.000 so I feel like I want today's Soulful Sunday Reset 40 00:01:53.079 --> 00:01:57.680 to be more so my advice and talking about really 41 00:01:58.280 --> 00:02:02.159 moving from somebody who is that dreamer and doesn't take 42 00:02:02.200 --> 00:02:05.760 action to actually actualizing and just becoming that version of 43 00:02:05.799 --> 00:02:07.480 you that you've been wanting. And I just want this 44 00:02:07.519 --> 00:02:09.319 to be motivation essentially, and I think this is a 45 00:02:09.319 --> 00:02:12.439 good topic to integrate within our Soulful Sunday episodes because 46 00:02:12.639 --> 00:02:14.479 I think this will really get your mind right for 47 00:02:14.520 --> 00:02:17.039 the week. Like, I really think this could be good motivation, 48 00:02:17.280 --> 00:02:19.479 and I am going to actually give you, guys prompt 49 00:02:19.520 --> 00:02:21.360 for you to really think and journal on it. But 50 00:02:21.400 --> 00:02:22.719 for the most part, I kind of want to do 51 00:02:23.159 --> 00:02:26.759 more of a specific topic, which is moving from being 52 00:02:26.800 --> 00:02:29.479 that dreamer to living your dream life. So I actually 53 00:02:29.479 --> 00:02:31.479 want to start off with a quote from Pinterest because 54 00:02:31.520 --> 00:02:35.080 it really it's gonna get you, and it even got me. Okay, 55 00:02:36.039 --> 00:02:39.319 dreams are fun when they are distant. The imagination loves 56 00:02:39.360 --> 00:02:42.280 to play with possibilities when there is no risk of failure. 57 00:02:42.719 --> 00:02:44.680 But when you find yourself on the verge of action, 58 00:02:45.039 --> 00:02:48.000 you pause. You can feel the uncertainty of what lies ahead. 59 00:02:48.319 --> 00:02:51.800 Thoughts swirl. Maybe this isn't right for me. Failure is possible. 60 00:02:51.840 --> 00:02:54.639 Now in that moment, in that short pause that arises 61 00:02:54.639 --> 00:02:57.000 when you stand face to face with your dream is 62 00:02:57.039 --> 00:02:59.599 the entirety of life. What you do in that pause 63 00:02:59.680 --> 00:03:02.800 is the prucible that forges you, which basically just means 64 00:03:02.840 --> 00:03:06.120 a very significant trial or test. It is the dividing 65 00:03:06.159 --> 00:03:08.840 line between being the type of person who thinks about 66 00:03:08.879 --> 00:03:11.400 it or the type of person who goes for it. 67 00:03:11.439 --> 00:03:13.439 When I really think about it, I want that moment 68 00:03:13.479 --> 00:03:16.120 to be my legacy. Not that I won or lost, 69 00:03:16.280 --> 00:03:19.120 not that I looked good or looked like a fool, 70 00:03:19.240 --> 00:03:21.520 but that when I had something I really wanted to do, 71 00:03:21.800 --> 00:03:23.719 I went for it. And so when we are talking 72 00:03:23.759 --> 00:03:27.759 about actualizing our dreams or actualizing goals, whether that is 73 00:03:27.919 --> 00:03:30.840 you want to become more of a gym girl, that's 74 00:03:30.879 --> 00:03:32.599 like the era that I'm in is getting back into 75 00:03:32.599 --> 00:03:36.080 the gym and like really taking you know, ownership and 76 00:03:36.520 --> 00:03:40.319 more care around my health and my fitness. Or maybe 77 00:03:40.360 --> 00:03:43.960 you want to become a YouTuber podcaster, or you want 78 00:03:43.960 --> 00:03:46.159 to start your own business, or you want to you know, 79 00:03:46.240 --> 00:03:48.319 go back to school to do something, whatever it is, 80 00:03:48.400 --> 00:03:51.919 every single one of those things will require you to 81 00:03:52.080 --> 00:03:55.479 take the action. It will require you to be the 82 00:03:55.560 --> 00:03:58.719 person who no longer thinks but does. And the reason 83 00:03:58.719 --> 00:04:00.280 why I'm going to start with that is because I 84 00:04:00.599 --> 00:04:05.919 really do think that we love as humans to dance 85 00:04:06.000 --> 00:04:09.719 around the fact that there is action that will be 86 00:04:09.759 --> 00:04:12.439 required of us. There will be some sort of sacrifice, 87 00:04:12.479 --> 00:04:15.000 there will be some sort of facing a fear, there'll 88 00:04:15.000 --> 00:04:19.759 be some sort of uncomfortable feeling, there will be something 89 00:04:20.000 --> 00:04:22.879 we have to do, and it's just really getting real 90 00:04:22.959 --> 00:04:26.959 with yourself. Are you somebody who is the thinker, is 91 00:04:27.120 --> 00:04:31.279 the dreamer, is the watcher and you have to get 92 00:04:31.279 --> 00:04:34.560 real with yourself and say, listen, I am never going 93 00:04:34.600 --> 00:04:37.959 to actualize anything in my life when I am only 94 00:04:38.079 --> 00:04:40.959 doing that. And so my first piece of advice when 95 00:04:40.959 --> 00:04:45.079 it comes to actualizing anything in your life is going 96 00:04:45.160 --> 00:04:47.879 to be to stop waiting for you to feel ready 97 00:04:48.000 --> 00:04:52.639 or to be ready, because you become ready by doing. 98 00:04:52.839 --> 00:04:55.639 You can call yourself a podcaster when you actually get 99 00:04:55.639 --> 00:04:57.800 on the mic. You can call yourself a YouTuber when 100 00:04:57.800 --> 00:05:00.199 you're actually recording your episodes. You can say that you're 101 00:05:00.199 --> 00:05:02.560 a gym girl when you actually step foot in a gym. 102 00:05:02.639 --> 00:05:06.079 And I have found that what I used to do 103 00:05:06.920 --> 00:05:10.680 before I actualized a lot of my goals in my 104 00:05:10.759 --> 00:05:14.600 dream life was I would be the forever student. So 105 00:05:14.720 --> 00:05:18.519 whether it was health and fitness, or it was business goals, 106 00:05:19.040 --> 00:05:23.240 or if it was even relational things like socializing and relationships, 107 00:05:23.319 --> 00:05:26.519 whatever it was. I would be somebody who would watch 108 00:05:26.560 --> 00:05:28.680 all the content and read all the content and get 109 00:05:28.720 --> 00:05:31.680 a bunch of courses and just listen to other people 110 00:05:31.759 --> 00:05:33.279 do it and watch other people do it. I would 111 00:05:33.279 --> 00:05:35.399 tell myself that I needed to know more information and 112 00:05:36.399 --> 00:05:40.800 the thing about self development and changing your life and 113 00:05:40.839 --> 00:05:43.879 things like that. There's a lot of times where we 114 00:05:43.920 --> 00:05:47.439 will get wrapped up in this forever student identity without 115 00:05:47.439 --> 00:05:50.920 even realizing sometimes where we're just like constantly like seeking 116 00:05:50.920 --> 00:05:53.480 more information and getting another book and this that because 117 00:05:53.480 --> 00:05:57.560 there's so much content and knowledge and wisdom online or 118 00:05:57.600 --> 00:05:59.879 even in real life things like that. But you have 119 00:06:00.120 --> 00:06:03.399 to see where that's actually keeping you stuck. And for 120 00:06:03.480 --> 00:06:05.800 a lot of us who are in the self development 121 00:06:05.839 --> 00:06:08.959 space and want to change our lives and are interested 122 00:06:08.959 --> 00:06:13.319 in hitting goals, we do tend to fall into consuming 123 00:06:13.720 --> 00:06:15.800 way more than we need to. You don't need to 124 00:06:15.959 --> 00:06:20.160 know everything before you start. You quite frankly can't. Like 125 00:06:20.480 --> 00:06:23.240 you're gonna learn on your journey that there's gonna be 126 00:06:23.279 --> 00:06:25.079 tweaks that you have to make, and there's gonna be 127 00:06:25.120 --> 00:06:26.839 ways that you're gonna do it that's different than the 128 00:06:26.920 --> 00:06:28.879 other people. But also just being real with yourself and 129 00:06:28.920 --> 00:06:33.240 being like, Okay, I am getting the feeling of hitting 130 00:06:33.240 --> 00:06:35.160 a goal by watching someone else do it, but I'm 131 00:06:35.199 --> 00:06:37.439 not actually doing it. And there was definitely a time 132 00:06:37.920 --> 00:06:41.360 in my life when it came to even starting my 133 00:06:41.439 --> 00:06:44.879 podcast and becoming a YouTuber where I realized, you know what, 134 00:06:45.480 --> 00:06:48.560 I have enough knowledge, and I can start with what 135 00:06:48.680 --> 00:06:50.920 I know. And so if you are in the identity 136 00:06:51.040 --> 00:06:53.160 of that forever student and you're constantly seeking out more 137 00:06:53.199 --> 00:06:55.199 information in this that what you need to do is 138 00:06:55.319 --> 00:06:59.279 start with what you know. And this is difficult for people, 139 00:06:59.560 --> 00:07:02.160 a lot of us because we want to know everything, 140 00:07:02.199 --> 00:07:05.079 and we want to know every answer, all the advice 141 00:07:05.199 --> 00:07:06.920 or even in the gym right, we want to have 142 00:07:06.959 --> 00:07:08.800 the perfect routine, or we want to know every single 143 00:07:08.800 --> 00:07:11.199 thing before we start. You don't need to know every 144 00:07:11.240 --> 00:07:13.680 single thing. You just need to know one step right, 145 00:07:13.800 --> 00:07:17.160 one thing, and then you expand on that. Even when 146 00:07:17.199 --> 00:07:19.160 it comes to content, if you want to be a 147 00:07:19.199 --> 00:07:22.480 content creator, you typically start with like one niche or 148 00:07:22.480 --> 00:07:24.399 one topic or one thing that you're good at or 149 00:07:24.439 --> 00:07:26.120 you know about, or a story that you have, and 150 00:07:26.120 --> 00:07:29.160 then you basically put in those reps until you expand 151 00:07:29.199 --> 00:07:31.079 and you grow, or you evolve, or you kind of 152 00:07:31.079 --> 00:07:32.879 stay in that niche, whatever it is, but at the 153 00:07:32.959 --> 00:07:35.800 end of the day, you're starting in one particular place. 154 00:07:35.959 --> 00:07:38.199 And a really good journal prompt that I think can 155 00:07:38.240 --> 00:07:41.120 be helpful if you find yourself being that person that's 156 00:07:41.160 --> 00:07:44.439 always consuming consuming, thinking that you need another course or 157 00:07:44.480 --> 00:07:47.560 you need to buy a new book or learn something 158 00:07:47.600 --> 00:07:49.720 new before you take that action, then this prompt will 159 00:07:49.759 --> 00:07:52.240 be for you. Where in your life do you identify 160 00:07:52.279 --> 00:07:54.759 as a forever student rather than someone who takes action. 161 00:07:54.959 --> 00:07:57.959 So this could be buying multiple courses online but never 162 00:07:58.079 --> 00:08:01.639 actually becoming the thing that you learned. Maybe you wanted 163 00:08:01.680 --> 00:08:04.079 to be a coach, or you wanted to start social media. 164 00:08:04.199 --> 00:08:06.279 You took a social media course, or maybe you invested 165 00:08:06.279 --> 00:08:08.879 in a workout app, or you bought a meal plan 166 00:08:09.000 --> 00:08:11.199 or you created one or whatever it is, but you 167 00:08:11.399 --> 00:08:13.759 still have not taken that action on that, or even 168 00:08:13.759 --> 00:08:16.920 when you save workouts or like food ideas things like 169 00:08:16.959 --> 00:08:19.720 that online, but you never take that action. I would 170 00:08:19.800 --> 00:08:22.519 highly suggest to take inventory of some of those behaviors 171 00:08:22.519 --> 00:08:25.759 that you might be doing and really hone in on 172 00:08:25.800 --> 00:08:28.120 that and use maybe this week to come to say, 173 00:08:28.160 --> 00:08:30.600 you know what I'm going to take one small action 174 00:08:30.759 --> 00:08:33.360 that's going to actually lead me into actualizing the things 175 00:08:33.360 --> 00:08:36.120 that I have been consuming, the things that I've been learning, 176 00:08:36.159 --> 00:08:38.559 the things that I've been saying that I want to do. Now, 177 00:08:38.600 --> 00:08:43.080 another thing that's been huge for me is looking up 178 00:08:43.120 --> 00:08:47.519 to people who have what I want, who are successful, 179 00:08:47.879 --> 00:08:51.960 who have good mindsets, and who are in this type 180 00:08:51.960 --> 00:08:54.080 of world. And now, on one hand, you don't want 181 00:08:54.120 --> 00:08:56.799 to only just watch and consume and never take action, 182 00:08:56.960 --> 00:09:01.200 but you should really be almost taking action alongside of 183 00:09:01.240 --> 00:09:03.320 the person that you are looking up to. And I 184 00:09:03.360 --> 00:09:06.320 can give you an example. Back in the day when 185 00:09:06.480 --> 00:09:10.279 I was bartending and serving, I would listen to the 186 00:09:10.279 --> 00:09:12.519 Skinny Confidential podcast. I was like the first podcast that 187 00:09:12.559 --> 00:09:14.600 I ever listened to. They would talk a lot about 188 00:09:14.639 --> 00:09:17.080 health and wellness and beauty, and they would be interviewing 189 00:09:17.080 --> 00:09:20.159 people who are really successful and self development all that 190 00:09:20.279 --> 00:09:22.559 kind of stuff. They were like the pioneers of the 191 00:09:22.600 --> 00:09:26.840 podcasting space, and Lauren in particular really inspired me and 192 00:09:26.879 --> 00:09:29.080 motivated me with her blog. She would to have a 193 00:09:29.120 --> 00:09:31.159 blog called Skinny Confidential and she would post all of 194 00:09:31.159 --> 00:09:33.799 her wellness tips and like beauty tips and things like that. 195 00:09:33.879 --> 00:09:36.879 And then of course they had the podcast, and I 196 00:09:37.039 --> 00:09:39.879 was super into health and wellness, and I was always 197 00:09:39.879 --> 00:09:43.559 that person that was like sharing on Instagram like recipes 198 00:09:43.600 --> 00:09:45.559 at the time or what I was doing for health 199 00:09:45.559 --> 00:09:48.120 and fitness because I was really into that, and even books. 200 00:09:48.159 --> 00:09:49.799 I was reading podcasts all that kind of stuff. So 201 00:09:49.840 --> 00:09:53.120 I was like, you know what, I should create a blog. 202 00:09:53.279 --> 00:09:55.679 At the time, the Globe Secrets was actually a website 203 00:09:55.720 --> 00:09:57.519 that I would have and I would post when I 204 00:09:57.519 --> 00:09:59.000 would go to the gym and the workout that I 205 00:09:59.039 --> 00:10:00.720 was doing, and then all of like my recipes and 206 00:10:00.720 --> 00:10:03.519 things like that. But I was like building and researching 207 00:10:03.519 --> 00:10:06.679 and taking that action alongside of watching other people do it. 208 00:10:06.759 --> 00:10:08.840 And I kind of just cycled through that, like I 209 00:10:08.840 --> 00:10:11.279 would have these people who were taking that action and 210 00:10:11.320 --> 00:10:14.120 really inspiring me, and I would go take similar actions. 211 00:10:14.159 --> 00:10:16.519 And you know, the actions that you're currently taking right 212 00:10:16.519 --> 00:10:19.360 now are not the actions that the dream version of 213 00:10:19.360 --> 00:10:21.320 you would be taking. So you need to really think about, 214 00:10:21.320 --> 00:10:24.720 like what are the actions that the dream version of 215 00:10:24.720 --> 00:10:26.279 me would be taking. And a lot of times it's 216 00:10:26.279 --> 00:10:29.360 easy to help yourself see that when you are watching 217 00:10:29.399 --> 00:10:31.480 other people. Right I even think about when I was 218 00:10:31.480 --> 00:10:34.799 in college, I was so into fitness like I was 219 00:10:34.960 --> 00:10:37.279 in the gym six seven days out of the week. 220 00:10:37.320 --> 00:10:40.000 I was at the gym like hours upon hours, Like 221 00:10:40.320 --> 00:10:43.759 I was tracking my food, I was doing everything, programming 222 00:10:43.799 --> 00:10:46.480 my workouts, this that like you would have assumed that 223 00:10:46.519 --> 00:10:48.840 I went to school to become like a personal trainer 224 00:10:48.960 --> 00:10:51.799 or like a nutritionist without even going at that time. 225 00:10:51.840 --> 00:10:53.879 Down the line, I ended up actually going to school 226 00:10:53.919 --> 00:10:56.559 for things in the wellness space, and I became a pet. 227 00:10:56.759 --> 00:10:59.200 But I had already known so much of that stuff 228 00:10:59.240 --> 00:11:01.440 based off of all the things that I learned. But 229 00:11:01.480 --> 00:11:04.000 I also took that action. So every day I would 230 00:11:04.080 --> 00:11:06.759 watch fitness YouTubers back in the day. It was like 231 00:11:06.879 --> 00:11:10.639 Nikki Blacketer, Heidi Summers, it was Robin Glant, it was 232 00:11:10.759 --> 00:11:13.720 Christian Gruzman, like all of these fitness people. But I 233 00:11:13.720 --> 00:11:15.879 would use that as motivations every single day a part 234 00:11:15.879 --> 00:11:17.720 of my routine, and then I would go to the gym. 235 00:11:18.000 --> 00:11:20.679 I would actually take that action. I would eat well, 236 00:11:20.759 --> 00:11:23.840 and I would use those people as driving forces. And 237 00:11:23.879 --> 00:11:28.159 it's important to also do this because if you want 238 00:11:28.360 --> 00:11:32.080 more for yourself, you're gonna need to see it reflected. 239 00:11:32.159 --> 00:11:34.559 You're gonna need to see that it's possible, and you 240 00:11:34.600 --> 00:11:38.600 typically do that by maybe watching people online or listening 241 00:11:38.600 --> 00:11:41.039 to people's stories about how they made it from rock 242 00:11:41.080 --> 00:11:44.159 bottom to living their dream life and the mindset shifts 243 00:11:44.159 --> 00:11:46.200 that they had to go through, and you know, how 244 00:11:46.279 --> 00:11:48.200 they look at the world and what they do with 245 00:11:48.240 --> 00:11:50.480 their time and their action. So here's another problem that 246 00:11:50.480 --> 00:11:52.840 you can journal on. If you were already living your 247 00:11:52.919 --> 00:11:55.720 dream life, what habits would you have? So for me, 248 00:11:55.960 --> 00:12:00.240 right now, my quote unquote dream life looks like the 249 00:12:00.360 --> 00:12:03.440 version of me who is back in the gym and 250 00:12:03.679 --> 00:12:07.200 really killing it in the gym and weightlifting and you know, 251 00:12:07.279 --> 00:12:10.919 sleeping correctly and all the amazing things that come along 252 00:12:10.919 --> 00:12:13.279 with living a healthy lifestyle. So one of my daily 253 00:12:13.320 --> 00:12:16.879 habits would be having the gym be a very big 254 00:12:16.919 --> 00:12:20.039 priority in my life. Or let's say you wanted to 255 00:12:20.039 --> 00:12:22.200 be a YouTuber, and this is like I think back 256 00:12:22.200 --> 00:12:26.879 to when I became a YouTuber, I had to put 257 00:12:27.000 --> 00:12:31.600 YouTube on my priority list. My daily habit was always 258 00:12:31.679 --> 00:12:34.600 something to do with YouTube. It was recording, it was editing, 259 00:12:34.679 --> 00:12:37.559 it was uploading. My focus was on that thing. It 260 00:12:37.600 --> 00:12:41.200 wasn't just randomly or sometimes I was thinking about doing 261 00:12:41.200 --> 00:12:45.120 a YouTube video or whatever. It was a daily habit 262 00:12:45.360 --> 00:12:48.120 of having my focus on that thing that I really wanted, 263 00:12:48.200 --> 00:12:50.919 because a YouTuber does those things every single day in 264 00:12:50.960 --> 00:12:52.480 some sense of the forum. Like if you were a 265 00:12:52.480 --> 00:12:56.159 flannel wall in my apartment, you would constantly see me 266 00:12:56.240 --> 00:12:59.080 every single day thinking about YouTube or an idea that 267 00:12:59.120 --> 00:13:01.519 I'm having, or I'm editing a video or I'm recording 268 00:13:01.559 --> 00:13:04.440 something like that is literally a daily habit. Like every day, 269 00:13:04.919 --> 00:13:07.679 typically every single day, I have something that I am 270 00:13:07.720 --> 00:13:10.360 doing that revolves around YouTube and or my podcast. And 271 00:13:10.399 --> 00:13:12.879 the same thing goes with if you think about a 272 00:13:12.960 --> 00:13:16.960 really fit or just somebody who just lives a health 273 00:13:16.960 --> 00:13:19.360 and wellness lifestyle or goes to the gym a lot, 274 00:13:19.480 --> 00:13:21.519 like those gym girlies that you always look at on 275 00:13:21.559 --> 00:13:26.879 TikTok every day, for the most part, every day, their 276 00:13:26.919 --> 00:13:29.840 priority is going to the gym. Their priority is making 277 00:13:29.840 --> 00:13:32.639 sure that they're eating correctly so that they can gain 278 00:13:32.639 --> 00:13:35.200 weights or gain muscle or lose fat or whatever the 279 00:13:35.240 --> 00:13:37.519 case is for them. And when you're thinking about the 280 00:13:37.559 --> 00:13:40.840 YouTuber or the podcaster or the wellness girl or the 281 00:13:40.879 --> 00:13:45.879 business person, all of these people do not sit and 282 00:13:46.120 --> 00:13:49.399 scroll and that's all they do. And I'm not saying 283 00:13:49.399 --> 00:13:52.120 that you can never get motivation or inspiration on Pinterest 284 00:13:52.240 --> 00:13:54.320 or YouTube. This that like going back to the vlogs 285 00:13:54.360 --> 00:13:56.559 like that's super motivating, But the end of the day, 286 00:13:56.600 --> 00:13:59.039 these are the people who take action. It's one thing 287 00:13:59.039 --> 00:14:02.080 in common down the line, no matter what we're talking about, 288 00:14:02.200 --> 00:14:04.559 is the fact that every single one of these people 289 00:14:04.759 --> 00:14:07.799 take the actual action. There's no way to slice it, 290 00:14:08.000 --> 00:14:10.080 there's no way to dice it, there's no way to 291 00:14:10.120 --> 00:14:12.360 go around it. You can keep trying to go around it, 292 00:14:12.360 --> 00:14:13.759 but at the end of the day, you got to 293 00:14:13.799 --> 00:14:15.919 take that action. Now, this brings me to another piece 294 00:14:16.000 --> 00:14:20.440 of advice, thinking back to what I needed to do 295 00:14:20.480 --> 00:14:22.279 in order to get to where I'm at right now. 296 00:14:22.440 --> 00:14:25.360 You know, full time content creation. I'm doing the podcast, 297 00:14:25.679 --> 00:14:29.919 I'm doing YouTube. I'm living my dream life in many aspects, 298 00:14:30.000 --> 00:14:32.799 just like where I'm living my condo, my life. I 299 00:14:32.879 --> 00:14:35.320 came out with a book, and that not to say 300 00:14:35.320 --> 00:14:37.480 that I'm the most successful, I got the most money 301 00:14:37.519 --> 00:14:40.679 this that no, we are constantly up leveling. But in 302 00:14:40.799 --> 00:14:42.440 order for me to get to where I was at 303 00:14:42.519 --> 00:14:45.799 right now, I had to be willing to sacrifice. And 304 00:14:45.840 --> 00:14:47.320 I think a lot of people don't want to hear it, 305 00:14:47.399 --> 00:14:49.200 but the truth of the matter is when you first 306 00:14:49.279 --> 00:14:53.679 start something, whether you are working towards doing something online, 307 00:14:54.240 --> 00:14:57.799 being a YouTuber, starting a new business, or even like 308 00:14:57.840 --> 00:15:00.200 going to school, you know, studying for something new or 309 00:15:00.200 --> 00:15:03.159 going to the gym or whatever, there is going to 310 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:06.720 be a piece of sacrificing your free time that you 311 00:15:06.759 --> 00:15:10.879 could use doing nothing, and you have to start looking 312 00:15:10.919 --> 00:15:13.360 at the thing that you want to cultivate and the 313 00:15:13.360 --> 00:15:16.440 goal you want to hit as basically your second job. Okay, 314 00:15:16.679 --> 00:15:19.279 so you got to get serious with what it is 315 00:15:19.320 --> 00:15:21.440 that you want in your life. Like when I think 316 00:15:21.480 --> 00:15:23.519 back to when I was bartending, and on those days 317 00:15:23.519 --> 00:15:27.440 where it was dead, I would be researching and posting 318 00:15:27.440 --> 00:15:29.480 on my blog and doing whatever I did. I use 319 00:15:29.600 --> 00:15:32.399 every ounce of my free time essentially to work on 320 00:15:32.440 --> 00:15:35.120 this thing as if it was my job, even though 321 00:15:35.120 --> 00:15:37.559 I wasn't getting paid for it. And that was because 322 00:15:37.600 --> 00:15:39.279 I loved it and I was passionate about it. But 323 00:15:39.320 --> 00:15:42.279 also I knew the name of the game very early on, 324 00:15:42.480 --> 00:15:44.960 Like you're not always going to make money right then 325 00:15:44.960 --> 00:15:47.039 and there, or you're not going to always see those 326 00:15:47.399 --> 00:15:49.360 gains when you go to the gym right when you start, 327 00:15:49.679 --> 00:15:51.840 but it's important that you look at this as something 328 00:15:52.000 --> 00:15:55.240 very important and valuable and like a second job, and 329 00:15:55.360 --> 00:15:57.320 you know what, yes, I'm going to have to sacrifice 330 00:15:57.399 --> 00:15:59.440 some time right now, but it is going to be 331 00:15:59.639 --> 00:16:02.080 worth it. And I think just reminding yourself of that 332 00:16:02.240 --> 00:16:04.840 on the journey of creating your dream life is very 333 00:16:04.879 --> 00:16:07.399 important because you will get to a point where sometimes 334 00:16:07.440 --> 00:16:09.360 you're like, when are the results are going to come 335 00:16:09.480 --> 00:16:12.039 or like, you know, you're getting a little impatient, like 336 00:16:12.080 --> 00:16:13.960 you want to see the progress, you want to see 337 00:16:14.000 --> 00:16:15.720 the money come in, you want to see your success. 338 00:16:15.799 --> 00:16:18.080 You want to you know, be that person. But you 339 00:16:18.279 --> 00:16:21.159 just have to remind yourself these things are all going 340 00:16:21.200 --> 00:16:23.799 to come to you if you just keep going. And 341 00:16:23.840 --> 00:16:26.360 this doesn't mean that you don't change your method. It 342 00:16:26.360 --> 00:16:28.399 doesn't mean that you don't pivot in a way, it 343 00:16:28.440 --> 00:16:31.200 doesn't mean that you don't try new things. But what 344 00:16:31.240 --> 00:16:33.000 it does mean is that you don't give up. And 345 00:16:33.039 --> 00:16:36.480 when you start identifying as somebody who takes their business seriously, 346 00:16:36.639 --> 00:16:40.559 their goals seriously, the habits that one would have depending 347 00:16:40.600 --> 00:16:43.240 on your goal, When you start taking those things seriously, 348 00:16:43.440 --> 00:16:46.679 you are going to co create with the universe or God. 349 00:16:46.919 --> 00:16:50.399 You are going to create that momentum. You are going 350 00:16:50.480 --> 00:16:52.879 to see things come into your reality. You're going to 351 00:16:52.960 --> 00:16:55.679 see growth. You have to, so just understand if you're 352 00:16:55.679 --> 00:16:59.240 not seeing any sort of growth or it's taking a while, 353 00:17:00.039 --> 00:17:02.039 that's just the name of the game. Okay, that is 354 00:17:02.120 --> 00:17:04.119 just the name of the game. And also it feels 355 00:17:04.160 --> 00:17:06.279 sometimes a little uncomfortable to give up some of your 356 00:17:06.319 --> 00:17:09.359 free time when you are working towards something, but you 357 00:17:09.400 --> 00:17:11.440 know what, it is going to be so worth it 358 00:17:11.480 --> 00:17:13.960 to have your dream life that you should honestly not 359 00:17:14.160 --> 00:17:16.920 want anything else, Like what is the point on you 360 00:17:17.039 --> 00:17:19.960 wasting your time and your hours in your day to 361 00:17:20.039 --> 00:17:23.359 do nothing when you could be working towards that version 362 00:17:23.400 --> 00:17:25.079 of you that you know you want to be. Now, 363 00:17:25.079 --> 00:17:28.359 another prompt that you can journal on is identify one 364 00:17:28.400 --> 00:17:30.599 wasted hour of your day and how can you use 365 00:17:30.640 --> 00:17:33.000 it to move towards your dream life. And this is 366 00:17:33.039 --> 00:17:35.480 the thing coming back to sacrifice and time. I feel 367 00:17:35.519 --> 00:17:36.839 like a lot of people always say I don't have 368 00:17:36.920 --> 00:17:38.599 enough time to do this. I don't have enough time 369 00:17:38.599 --> 00:17:39.960 to go to the gym, I don't have enough time 370 00:17:39.960 --> 00:17:42.599 to start the second business and this that, and I 371 00:17:42.720 --> 00:17:46.759 understand that everyone has different times like to do things right, 372 00:17:46.839 --> 00:17:50.319 Like you're going to have a unique set of hours 373 00:17:50.319 --> 00:17:52.359 in the day that you can utilize depending on how 374 00:17:52.359 --> 00:17:54.440 you're feeling, and depending on how many jobs you have 375 00:17:54.480 --> 00:17:57.079 and this that, But there is at least one hour 376 00:17:57.200 --> 00:17:59.519 that you can utilize in your life that you are 377 00:17:59.559 --> 00:18:02.640 not right now out towards doing one thing, towards your 378 00:18:02.720 --> 00:18:05.000 dream life or that habit. Now, a lot of times 379 00:18:05.079 --> 00:18:08.319 we get so tied down with doing things perfectly and 380 00:18:08.359 --> 00:18:10.119 so we're like, well, I can't do it perfectly and 381 00:18:10.160 --> 00:18:12.240 I don't have, you know, five hours to do that, 382 00:18:12.279 --> 00:18:13.480 so I'm not going to do it at all, when 383 00:18:13.480 --> 00:18:16.079 really it actually only takes you doing that baby step, 384 00:18:16.200 --> 00:18:19.799 maybe even thirty minutes, and you will see the growth 385 00:18:19.839 --> 00:18:22.759 that you could make with anything in your life if 386 00:18:22.799 --> 00:18:24.440 you just do it like that and you do it small. 387 00:18:24.680 --> 00:18:26.839 So kind of getting out of that perfectionist mindset and 388 00:18:26.880 --> 00:18:28.160 being like, you know what, I'm just gonna start and 389 00:18:28.200 --> 00:18:31.960 I'm gonna start messy. It's fine, but finding at least 390 00:18:31.960 --> 00:18:34.680 one hour of your day, and you know, we could 391 00:18:34.680 --> 00:18:37.880 start with the phone. Listen, how many hours in a 392 00:18:37.960 --> 00:18:40.039 day have you actually spent on your phone? And I 393 00:18:40.079 --> 00:18:42.960 can tell you it probably is more than an hour. 394 00:18:43.200 --> 00:18:45.400 You know, you sit and you watch two YouTube videos 395 00:18:45.440 --> 00:18:47.640 and then you never take action. Well, there's two YouTube 396 00:18:47.720 --> 00:18:51.160 videos right there that have wasted essentially an hour of 397 00:18:51.200 --> 00:18:54.079 your time because you also didn't take any action from 398 00:18:54.079 --> 00:18:56.400 that thing. But also you could have been using that 399 00:18:56.440 --> 00:18:58.640 to do something else. And it's not about always shaming 400 00:18:58.640 --> 00:19:01.039 yourself and being like I have to be super strict 401 00:19:01.079 --> 00:19:03.720