Speaker 1: Hi everyone, and welcome back to the podcast episode. My
Speaker 1: name is Lisha Gogin, the host of the Globe Secrets podcast,
Speaker 1: where I help you expand your mind and become more
Speaker 1: self aware so that you can glow up into the
Speaker 1: best version of yourself. Hello everyone, and happy Sunday. If
Speaker 1: you're listening to this on a Sunday, I hope everyone
Speaker 1: is well. You have to be doing well at this
Speaker 1: point because today, at least in certain parts of the world,
Speaker 1: we have done daylight savings and the days are getting longer,
Speaker 1: Spring is approaching. We are in March. Things are looking
Speaker 1: up for the most part. By the way, if you're
Speaker 1: wondering where THEO is, he is beside me sleeping right now.
Speaker 1: We will have a THEO spotlight. And if anyone is
Speaker 1: new here, I'm speaking about my nine week old Italian
Speaker 1: Greyhound that I just recently got. He is beautiful, amazing, perfect.
Speaker 1: But the past few weeks have been challenging for sure,
Speaker 1: but in the best way. It's really made me grow
Speaker 1: as a person. And I feel like the past few
Speaker 1: weeks we've been talking on the Soulful Sunday episodes about
Speaker 1: action and getting out of your own way and not
Speaker 1: listening to the stories that are trying to keep you
Speaker 1: stuck or trying to negotiate yourself out of doing the
Speaker 1: actions that you know you need to take to get
Speaker 1: the end result right you go to the gym, or
Speaker 1: become a new version of you, or drop this bad habit,
Speaker 1: or go for your dreams. Thinks of that nature. I
Speaker 1: feel like that's just been the theme for a lot
Speaker 1: of us. I feel like it's March spring is approaching.
Speaker 1: That's kind of what we do. We awaken, we change
Speaker 1: up our routine. We want to become the best versions
Speaker 1: of ourselves. And I have been wanting to make this
Speaker 1: episode for a while now. There's so many questions that
Speaker 1: I get asked around the topic of you know, how
Speaker 1: do I actually take that action and how do I
Speaker 1: stop being that dreamer and instead really actualize my dream life?
Speaker 1: Like how do I do it? What is your advice?
Speaker 1: What is your tips? And I feel like I have
Speaker 1: a lot of things to say on this topic, and
Speaker 1: so I feel like I want today's Soulful Sunday Reset
Speaker 1: to be more so my advice and talking about really
Speaker 1: moving from somebody who is that dreamer and doesn't take
Speaker 1: action to actually actualizing and just becoming that version of
Speaker 1: you that you've been wanting. And I just want this
Speaker 1: to be motivation essentially, and I think this is a
Speaker 1: good topic to integrate within our Soulful Sunday episodes because
Speaker 1: I think this will really get your mind right for
Speaker 1: the week. Like, I really think this could be good motivation,
Speaker 1: and I am going to actually give you, guys prompt
Speaker 1: for you to really think and journal on it. But
Speaker 1: for the most part, I kind of want to do
Speaker 1: more of a specific topic, which is moving from being
Speaker 1: that dreamer to living your dream life. So I actually
Speaker 1: want to start off with a quote from Pinterest because
Speaker 1: it really it's gonna get you, and it even got me. Okay,
Speaker 1: dreams are fun when they are distant. The imagination loves
Speaker 1: to play with possibilities when there is no risk of failure.
Speaker 1: But when you find yourself on the verge of action,
Speaker 1: you pause. You can feel the uncertainty of what lies ahead.
Speaker 1: Thoughts swirl. Maybe this isn't right for me. Failure is possible.
Speaker 1: Now in that moment, in that short pause that arises
Speaker 1: when you stand face to face with your dream is
Speaker 1: the entirety of life. What you do in that pause
Speaker 1: is the prucible that forges you, which basically just means
Speaker 1: a very significant trial or test. It is the dividing
Speaker 1: line between being the type of person who thinks about
Speaker 1: it or the type of person who goes for it.
Speaker 1: When I really think about it, I want that moment
Speaker 1: to be my legacy. Not that I won or lost,
Speaker 1: not that I looked good or looked like a fool,
Speaker 1: but that when I had something I really wanted to do,
Speaker 1: I went for it. And so when we are talking
Speaker 1: about actualizing our dreams or actualizing goals, whether that is
Speaker 1: you want to become more of a gym girl, that's
Speaker 1: like the era that I'm in is getting back into
Speaker 1: the gym and like really taking you know, ownership and
Speaker 1: more care around my health and my fitness. Or maybe
Speaker 1: you want to become a YouTuber podcaster, or you want
Speaker 1: to start your own business, or you want to you know,
Speaker 1: go back to school to do something, whatever it is,
Speaker 1: every single one of those things will require you to
Speaker 1: take the action. It will require you to be the
Speaker 1: person who no longer thinks but does. And the reason
Speaker 1: why I'm going to start with that is because I
Speaker 1: really do think that we love as humans to dance
Speaker 1: around the fact that there is action that will be
Speaker 1: required of us. There will be some sort of sacrifice,
Speaker 1: there will be some sort of facing a fear, there'll
Speaker 1: be some sort of uncomfortable feeling, there will be something
Speaker 1: we have to do, and it's just really getting real
Speaker 1: with yourself. Are you somebody who is the thinker, is
Speaker 1: the dreamer, is the watcher and you have to get
Speaker 1: real with yourself and say, listen, I am never going
Speaker 1: to actualize anything in my life when I am only
Speaker 1: doing that. And so my first piece of advice when
Speaker 1: it comes to actualizing anything in your life is going
Speaker 1: to be to stop waiting for you to feel ready
Speaker 1: or to be ready, because you become ready by doing.
Speaker 1: You can call yourself a podcaster when you actually get
Speaker 1: on the mic. You can call yourself a YouTuber when
Speaker 1: you're actually recording your episodes. You can say that you're
Speaker 1: a gym girl when you actually step foot in a gym.
Speaker 1: And I have found that what I used to do
Speaker 1: before I actualized a lot of my goals in my
Speaker 1: dream life was I would be the forever student. So
Speaker 1: whether it was health and fitness, or it was business goals,
Speaker 1: or if it was even relational things like socializing and relationships,
Speaker 1: whatever it was. I would be somebody who would watch
Speaker 1: all the content and read all the content and get
Speaker 1: a bunch of courses and just listen to other people
Speaker 1: do it and watch other people do it. I would
Speaker 1: tell myself that I needed to know more information and
Speaker 1: the thing about self development and changing your life and
Speaker 1: things like that. There's a lot of times where we
Speaker 1: will get wrapped up in this forever student identity without
Speaker 1: even realizing sometimes where we're just like constantly like seeking
Speaker 1: more information and getting another book and this that because
Speaker 1: there's so much content and knowledge and wisdom online or
Speaker 1: even in real life things like that. But you have
Speaker 1: to see where that's actually keeping you stuck. And for
Speaker 1: a lot of us who are in the self development
Speaker 1: space and want to change our lives and are interested
Speaker 1: in hitting goals, we do tend to fall into consuming
Speaker 1: way more than we need to. You don't need to
Speaker 1: know everything before you start. You quite frankly can't. Like
Speaker 1: you're gonna learn on your journey that there's gonna be
Speaker 1: tweaks that you have to make, and there's gonna be
Speaker 1: ways that you're gonna do it that's different than the
Speaker 1: other people. But also just being real with yourself and
Speaker 1: being like, Okay, I am getting the feeling of hitting
Speaker 1: a goal by watching someone else do it, but I'm
Speaker 1: not actually doing it. And there was definitely a time
Speaker 1: in my life when it came to even starting my
Speaker 1: podcast and becoming a YouTuber where I realized, you know what,
Speaker 1: I have enough knowledge, and I can start with what
Speaker 1: I know. And so if you are in the identity
Speaker 1: of that forever student and you're constantly seeking out more
Speaker 1: information in this that what you need to do is
Speaker 1: start with what you know. And this is difficult for people,
Speaker 1: a lot of us because we want to know everything,
Speaker 1: and we want to know every answer, all the advice
Speaker 1: or even in the gym right, we want to have
Speaker 1: the perfect routine, or we want to know every single
Speaker 1: thing before we start. You don't need to know every
Speaker 1: single thing. You just need to know one step right,
Speaker 1: one thing, and then you expand on that. Even when
Speaker 1: it comes to content, if you want to be a
Speaker 1: content creator, you typically start with like one niche or
Speaker 1: one topic or one thing that you're good at or
Speaker 1: you know about, or a story that you have, and
Speaker 1: then you basically put in those reps until you expand
Speaker 1: and you grow, or you evolve, or you kind of
Speaker 1: stay in that niche, whatever it is, but at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, you're starting in one particular place.
Speaker 1: And a really good journal prompt that I think can
Speaker 1: be helpful if you find yourself being that person that's
Speaker 1: always consuming consuming, thinking that you need another course or
Speaker 1: you need to buy a new book or learn something
Speaker 1: new before you take that action, then this prompt will
Speaker 1: be for you. Where in your life do you identify
Speaker 1: as a forever student rather than someone who takes action.
Speaker 1: So this could be buying multiple courses online but never
Speaker 1: actually becoming the thing that you learned. Maybe you wanted
Speaker 1: to be a coach, or you wanted to start social media.
Speaker 1: You took a social media course, or maybe you invested
Speaker 1: in a workout app, or you bought a meal plan
Speaker 1: or you created one or whatever it is, but you
Speaker 1: still have not taken that action on that, or even
Speaker 1: when you save workouts or like food ideas things like
Speaker 1: that online, but you never take that action. I would
Speaker 1: highly suggest to take inventory of some of those behaviors
Speaker 1: that you might be doing and really hone in on
Speaker 1: that and use maybe this week to come to say,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm going to take one small action
Speaker 1: that's going to actually lead me into actualizing the things
Speaker 1: that I have been consuming, the things that I've been learning,
Speaker 1: the things that I've been saying that I want to do. Now,
Speaker 1: another thing that's been huge for me is looking up
Speaker 1: to people who have what I want, who are successful,
Speaker 1: who have good mindsets, and who are in this type
Speaker 1: of world. And now, on one hand, you don't want
Speaker 1: to only just watch and consume and never take action,
Speaker 1: but you should really be almost taking action alongside of
Speaker 1: the person that you are looking up to. And I
Speaker 1: can give you an example. Back in the day when
Speaker 1: I was bartending and serving, I would listen to the
Speaker 1: Skinny Confidential podcast. I was like the first podcast that
Speaker 1: I ever listened to. They would talk a lot about
Speaker 1: health and wellness and beauty, and they would be interviewing
Speaker 1: people who are really successful and self development all that
Speaker 1: kind of stuff. They were like the pioneers of the
Speaker 1: podcasting space, and Lauren in particular really inspired me and
Speaker 1: motivated me with her blog. She would to have a
Speaker 1: blog called Skinny Confidential and she would post all of
Speaker 1: her wellness tips and like beauty tips and things like that.
Speaker 1: And then of course they had the podcast, and I
Speaker 1: was super into health and wellness, and I was always
Speaker 1: that person that was like sharing on Instagram like recipes
Speaker 1: at the time or what I was doing for health
Speaker 1: and fitness because I was really into that, and even books.
Speaker 1: I was reading podcasts all that kind of stuff. So
Speaker 1: I was like, you know what, I should create a blog.
Speaker 1: At the time, the Globe Secrets was actually a website
Speaker 1: that I would have and I would post when I
Speaker 1: would go to the gym and the workout that I
Speaker 1: was doing, and then all of like my recipes and
Speaker 1: things like that. But I was like building and researching
Speaker 1: and taking that action alongside of watching other people do it.
Speaker 1: And I kind of just cycled through that, like I
Speaker 1: would have these people who were taking that action and
Speaker 1: really inspiring me, and I would go take similar actions.
Speaker 1: And you know, the actions that you're currently taking right
Speaker 1: now are not the actions that the dream version of
Speaker 1: you would be taking. So you need to really think about,
Speaker 1: like what are the actions that the dream version of
Speaker 1: me would be taking. And a lot of times it's
Speaker 1: easy to help yourself see that when you are watching
Speaker 1: other people. Right I even think about when I was
Speaker 1: in college, I was so into fitness like I was
Speaker 1: in the gym six seven days out of the week.
Speaker 1: I was at the gym like hours upon hours, Like
Speaker 1: I was tracking my food, I was doing everything, programming
Speaker 1: my workouts, this that like you would have assumed that
Speaker 1: I went to school to become like a personal trainer
Speaker 1: or like a nutritionist without even going at that time.
Speaker 1: Down the line, I ended up actually going to school
Speaker 1: for things in the wellness space, and I became a pet.
Speaker 1: But I had already known so much of that stuff
Speaker 1: based off of all the things that I learned. But
Speaker 1: I also took that action. So every day I would
Speaker 1: watch fitness YouTubers back in the day. It was like
Speaker 1: Nikki Blacketer, Heidi Summers, it was Robin Glant, it was
Speaker 1: Christian Gruzman, like all of these fitness people. But I
Speaker 1: would use that as motivations every single day a part
Speaker 1: of my routine, and then I would go to the gym.
Speaker 1: I would actually take that action. I would eat well,
Speaker 1: and I would use those people as driving forces. And
Speaker 1: it's important to also do this because if you want
Speaker 1: more for yourself, you're gonna need to see it reflected.
Speaker 1: You're gonna need to see that it's possible, and you
Speaker 1: typically do that by maybe watching people online or listening
Speaker 1: to people's stories about how they made it from rock
Speaker 1: bottom to living their dream life and the mindset shifts
Speaker 1: that they had to go through, and you know, how
Speaker 1: they look at the world and what they do with
Speaker 1: their time and their action. So here's another problem that
Speaker 1: you can journal on. If you were already living your
Speaker 1: dream life, what habits would you have? So for me,
Speaker 1: right now, my quote unquote dream life looks like the
Speaker 1: version of me who is back in the gym and
Speaker 1: really killing it in the gym and weightlifting and you know,
Speaker 1: sleeping correctly and all the amazing things that come along
Speaker 1: with living a healthy lifestyle. So one of my daily
Speaker 1: habits would be having the gym be a very big
Speaker 1: priority in my life. Or let's say you wanted to
Speaker 1: be a YouTuber, and this is like I think back
Speaker 1: to when I became a YouTuber, I had to put
Speaker 1: YouTube on my priority list. My daily habit was always
Speaker 1: something to do with YouTube. It was recording, it was editing,
Speaker 1: it was uploading. My focus was on that thing. It
Speaker 1: wasn't just randomly or sometimes I was thinking about doing
Speaker 1: a YouTube video or whatever. It was a daily habit
Speaker 1: of having my focus on that thing that I really wanted,
Speaker 1: because a YouTuber does those things every single day in
Speaker 1: some sense of the forum. Like if you were a
Speaker 1: flannel wall in my apartment, you would constantly see me
Speaker 1: every single day thinking about YouTube or an idea that
Speaker 1: I'm having, or I'm editing a video or I'm recording
Speaker 1: something like that is literally a daily habit. Like every day,
Speaker 1: typically every single day, I have something that I am
Speaker 1: doing that revolves around YouTube and or my podcast. And
Speaker 1: the same thing goes with if you think about a
Speaker 1: really fit or just somebody who just lives a health
Speaker 1: and wellness lifestyle or goes to the gym a lot,
Speaker 1: like those gym girlies that you always look at on
Speaker 1: TikTok every day, for the most part, every day, their
Speaker 1: priority is going to the gym. Their priority is making
Speaker 1: sure that they're eating correctly so that they can gain
Speaker 1: weights or gain muscle or lose fat or whatever the
Speaker 1: case is for them. And when you're thinking about the
Speaker 1: YouTuber or the podcaster or the wellness girl or the
Speaker 1: business person, all of these people do not sit and
Speaker 1: scroll and that's all they do. And I'm not saying
Speaker 1: that you can never get motivation or inspiration on Pinterest
Speaker 1: or YouTube. This that like going back to the vlogs
Speaker 1: like that's super motivating, But the end of the day,
Speaker 1: these are the people who take action. It's one thing
Speaker 1: in common down the line, no matter what we're talking about,
Speaker 1: is the fact that every single one of these people
Speaker 1: take the actual action. There's no way to slice it,
Speaker 1: there's no way to dice it, there's no way to
Speaker 1: go around it. You can keep trying to go around it,
Speaker 1: but at the end of the day, you got to
Speaker 1: take that action. Now, this brings me to another piece
Speaker 1: of advice, thinking back to what I needed to do
Speaker 1: in order to get to where I'm at right now.
Speaker 1: You know, full time content creation. I'm doing the podcast,
Speaker 1: I'm doing YouTube. I'm living my dream life in many aspects,
Speaker 1: just like where I'm living my condo, my life. I
Speaker 1: came out with a book, and that not to say
Speaker 1: that I'm the most successful, I got the most money
Speaker 1: this that no, we are constantly up leveling. But in
Speaker 1: order for me to get to where I was at
Speaker 1: right now, I had to be willing to sacrifice. And
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people don't want to hear it,
Speaker 1: but the truth of the matter is when you first
Speaker 1: start something, whether you are working towards doing something online,
Speaker 1: being a YouTuber, starting a new business, or even like
Speaker 1: going to school, you know, studying for something new or
Speaker 1: going to the gym or whatever, there is going to
Speaker 1: be a piece of sacrificing your free time that you
Speaker 1: could use doing nothing, and you have to start looking
Speaker 1: at the thing that you want to cultivate and the
Speaker 1: goal you want to hit as basically your second job. Okay,
Speaker 1: so you got to get serious with what it is
Speaker 1: that you want in your life. Like when I think
Speaker 1: back to when I was bartending, and on those days
Speaker 1: where it was dead, I would be researching and posting
Speaker 1: on my blog and doing whatever I did. I use
Speaker 1: every ounce of my free time essentially to work on
Speaker 1: this thing as if it was my job, even though
Speaker 1: I wasn't getting paid for it. And that was because
Speaker 1: I loved it and I was passionate about it. But
Speaker 1: also I knew the name of the game very early on,
Speaker 1: Like you're not always going to make money right then
Speaker 1: and there, or you're not going to always see those
Speaker 1: gains when you go to the gym right when you start,
Speaker 1: but it's important that you look at this as something
Speaker 1: very important and valuable and like a second job, and
Speaker 1: you know what, yes, I'm going to have to sacrifice
Speaker 1: some time right now, but it is going to be
Speaker 1: worth it. And I think just reminding yourself of that
Speaker 1: on the journey of creating your dream life is very
Speaker 1: important because you will get to a point where sometimes
Speaker 1: you're like, when are the results are going to come
Speaker 1: or like, you know, you're getting a little impatient, like
Speaker 1: you want to see the progress, you want to see
Speaker 1: the money come in, you want to see your success.
Speaker 1: You want to you know, be that person. But you
Speaker 1: just have to remind yourself these things are all going
Speaker 1: to come to you if you just keep going. And
Speaker 1: this doesn't mean that you don't change your method. It
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that you don't pivot in a way, it
Speaker 1: doesn't mean that you don't try new things. But what
Speaker 1: it does mean is that you don't give up. And
Speaker 1: when you start identifying as somebody who takes their business seriously,
Speaker 1: their goals seriously, the habits that one would have depending
Speaker 1: on your goal, When you start taking those things seriously,
Speaker 1: you are going to co create with the universe or God.
Speaker 1: You are going to create that momentum. You are going
Speaker 1: to see things come into your reality. You're going to
Speaker 1: see growth. You have to, so just understand if you're
Speaker 1: not seeing any sort of growth or it's taking a while,
Speaker 1: that's just the name of the game. Okay, that is
Speaker 1: just the name of the game. And also it feels
Speaker 1: sometimes a little uncomfortable to give up some of your
Speaker 1: free time when you are working towards something, but you
Speaker 1: know what, it is going to be so worth it
Speaker 1: to have your dream life that you should honestly not
Speaker 1: want anything else, Like what is the point on you
Speaker 1: wasting your time and your hours in your day to
Speaker 1: do nothing when you could be working towards that version
Speaker 1: of you that you know you want to be. Now,
Speaker 1: another prompt that you can journal on is identify one
Speaker 1: wasted hour of your day and how can you use
Speaker 1: it to move towards your dream life. And this is
Speaker 1: the thing coming back to sacrifice and time. I feel
Speaker 1: like a lot of people always say I don't have
Speaker 1: enough time to do this. I don't have enough time
Speaker 1: to go to the gym, I don't have enough time
Speaker 1: to start the second business and this that, and I
Speaker 1: understand that everyone has different times like to do things right,
Speaker 1: Like you're going to have a unique set of hours
Speaker 1: in the day that you can utilize depending on how
Speaker 1: you're feeling, and depending on how many jobs you have
Speaker 1: and this that, But there is at least one hour
Speaker 1: that you can utilize in your life that you are
Speaker 1: not right now out towards doing one thing, towards your
Speaker 1: dream life or that habit. Now, a lot of times
Speaker 1: we get so tied down with doing things perfectly and
Speaker 1: so we're like, well, I can't do it perfectly and
Speaker 1: I don't have, you know, five hours to do that,
Speaker 1: so I'm not going to do it at all, when
Speaker 1: really it actually only takes you doing that baby step,
Speaker 1: maybe even thirty minutes, and you will see the growth
Speaker 1: that you could make with anything in your life if
Speaker 1: you just do it like that and you do it small.
Speaker 1: So kind of getting out of that perfectionist mindset and
Speaker 1: being like, you know what, I'm just gonna start and
Speaker 1: I'm gonna start messy. It's fine, but finding at least
Speaker 1: one hour of your day, and you know, we could
Speaker 1: start with the phone. Listen, how many hours in a
Speaker 1: day have you actually spent on your phone? And I
Speaker 1: can tell you it probably is more than an hour.
Speaker 1: You know, you sit and you watch two YouTube videos
Speaker 1: and then you never take action. Well, there's two YouTube
Speaker 1: videos right there that have wasted essentially an hour of
Speaker 1: your time because you also didn't take any action from
Speaker 1: that thing. But also you could have been using that
Speaker 1: to do something else. And it's not about always shaming
Speaker 1: yourself and being like I have to be super strict
Speaker 1: and every single hour needs to be utilized correctly. But
Speaker 1: there are so many pockets of time get creative. I
Speaker 1: think back when again I was bartending. Now this is
Speaker 1: like fast forward to twenty twenty ish year, not the
Speaker 1: blog years, but when I was on TikTok, and I
Speaker 1: had this goal for myself to post three times a
Speaker 1: day on TikTok, but I also had to work two jobs,
Speaker 1: and I would be serving in the afternoons, and that's
Speaker 1: typically when I would post. I would post like mid
Speaker 1: like early evening, and then at night. But of course
Speaker 1: at night, that's when things got really busy. But of
Speaker 1: course there's sometimes when you can go into the back
Speaker 1: and maybe you could have like a bite of food,
Speaker 1: or you talk to your friends and you talk shit
Speaker 1: and you're this that you know, like you're just screwing
Speaker 1: around a little bit. Even the most efficient workers. I
Speaker 1: feel like do that and like I was busting my
Speaker 1: ass when I was working, but there was definitely a
Speaker 1: minute I had to go to the washroom if I
Speaker 1: needed to or this that, And so what I would
Speaker 1: do is I would batch fill my content and I
Speaker 1: would make sure all the captions, all the like hashtags,
Speaker 1: everything was set and ready to go in my drafts.
Speaker 1: I would set an alarm on my phone. I would
Speaker 1: have my phone on me and I would like have
Speaker 1: it like virating or something, and I would go back
Speaker 1: into the back and I'd be like, I'm just going
Speaker 1: to the washroom for a second. And I would go
Speaker 1: when I post my video, and I took damn near
Speaker 1: two seconds to do that, and I would come back
Speaker 1: out like I did those things. I found pockets of
Speaker 1: time where I could work on my business or you know,
Speaker 1: there'd be days where I would work twelve hour shifts,
Speaker 1: so I would get into work at like eleven or twelve.
Speaker 1: I would do like a noon shift, let's say that day,
Speaker 1: and I would have to drive to work, so that's
Speaker 1: like another like thirty ish forty five minutes, and of
Speaker 1: course I need to do my morning retaining this that.
Speaker 1: But in the morning, I would take maybe an hour
Speaker 1: or two and I would work on a YouTube video,
Speaker 1: or I would work on batch filming, or I would
Speaker 1: work on setting things up so that way, either let's
Speaker 1: say I had those tiktoks ready to go, or I
Speaker 1: just knew when I got home, I was going to
Speaker 1: be super tired and I can't do it, so I'm
Speaker 1: going to try and utilize my time that way. So
Speaker 1: you just have to be a little bit sacrificial, you
Speaker 1: really do, even when it comes to the gym, Like
Speaker 1: you know, if you find you're tired every single day
Speaker 1: after work, well then you wake up thirty minutes earlier
Speaker 1: to go to the gym, or do an at home
Speaker 1: workout or do something like you know, close to home.
Speaker 1: You don't have to go to the gym if it's
Speaker 1: going to be too much. But you just have to
Speaker 1: see how you are getting in your way a lot
Speaker 1: of the times. And you have to also see how
Speaker 1: the current habits that you have are taking you away
Speaker 1: from doing the things that you need to do. You know,
Speaker 1: when you're sitting and scrolling on your phone for two
Speaker 1: hours before you go to sleep, I get it, you know,
Speaker 1: I get the decompression sometime, but sometimes, at least for me,
Speaker 1: that could keep me up at night, right, like it's
Speaker 1: just scrolling on TikTok for too long or just being
Speaker 1: on my phone. And then in the morning, no wonder,
Speaker 1: I'm tired, you know, no wonder, I can't wake up
Speaker 1: at six am to go do a morning routine or
Speaker 1: go go to the gym thirty minutes early. So you
Speaker 1: got to really see where you are wasting some of
Speaker 1: your time, your precious time, and try to allot it
Speaker 1: to those habits that you know you need to take.
Speaker 1: And this brings me to another prompt, and it says,
Speaker 1: what's one imperfect action you can take this week that
Speaker 1: will move you forward. So thinking about all of the
Speaker 1: excuses that you're always telling yourself, I can't start this
Speaker 1: week because of this, or you know, I'll start on Monday,
Speaker 1: or I didn't do well at the gym. I'm not
Speaker 1: I don't have enough energy to go to the gym
Speaker 1: to do my leg day, so I'll just push it
Speaker 1: off until Friday. And then Friday comes and you still
Speaker 1: don't feel good enough and you don't do it. You know,
Speaker 1: just thinking about the excuses that you make and try
Speaker 1: once this week to take one small piece of action
Speaker 1: that will bring you to that version of you that
Speaker 1: you know you want to be, but you know you
Speaker 1: need to be you are meant to be that person
Speaker 1: to keep trying, and I think what helps, for sure
Speaker 1: is using that motivation and people around you that are
Speaker 1: doing these things. You know, whether you're listening to a
Speaker 1: podcast like this or for me right now, I am
Speaker 1: down bad in those loggers that are going to the
Speaker 1: gym and lifting weights because that just reminds me, yup,
Speaker 1: this is what I want to be doing. When I'm
Speaker 1: eating my food and I'm watching YouTube, I'm watching those people.
Speaker 1: I am not really watching those mindless commentary things right now.
Speaker 1: Like I love that stuff, but that's not going to
Speaker 1: get me where I need to go right now. And
Speaker 1: I have a focus, and so I'm going to need
Speaker 1: my environment to reflect my desires. Essentially, you know, it's
Speaker 1: going to be hard for you to take that action
Speaker 1: when you're not consuming that content that might be inspiring
Speaker 1: to you, but also you might not be having those
Speaker 1: conversations or you're not doing those habits. And again there's
Speaker 1: a fine line where're bringing it right back to the
Speaker 1: most important thing about everything being the dreamer to the
Speaker 1: person who lives their dream life is action. So what
Speaker 1: I tell myself, You're allowed to watch the YouTubers, you're
Speaker 1: allowed to listen to the podcast, you're allowed to read
Speaker 1: the book. But what you're going to do after that
Speaker 1: is you're going to take some form of action. And
Speaker 1: if you don't, then we are not going to do it. Okay,
Speaker 1: we're not going to keep watching these YouTubers, We're not
Speaker 1: going to keep scrolling on pinches, We're not going to
Speaker 1: keep talking about it to our friends about how we
Speaker 1: want to do this thing and that thing. We're going
Speaker 1: to do it. Okay, you want to be a woman
Speaker 1: or a man, or whoever whoever you identify as a
Speaker 1: woman of your word, Let's not break promises. Let's not
Speaker 1: keep promising ourselves things that we do not do. And
Speaker 1: what you're really doing is you're showing parts of you
Speaker 1: that you don't have a lot of integrity, you don't
Speaker 1: have a lot of respect for yourself, you don't really
Speaker 1: care about showing up for yourself. And I understand that
Speaker 1: it's hard to not take action sometimes, but you know,
Speaker 1: I hope that you look at yourself as somebody who
Speaker 1: deserves more than what you might be doing right now,
Speaker 1: the habits that are not really serving you, the scrolling
Speaker 1: and the consuming. You don't deserve to be somebody who
Speaker 1: is constantly consuming, Okay, you deserve to be the creator.
Speaker 1: You deserve to go out and live life the same
Speaker 1: way you watch people all day, go out and live
Speaker 1: their lives. If you watch somebody who's romanticizing their lives
Speaker 1: and they're living like cool condos and whatever, you know,
Speaker 1: health and fitness, I don't know. I watch a lot
Speaker 1: of people do a lot of things, and that's great,
Speaker 1: But you know what, I deserve to live that life
Speaker 1: as well. So let me go and take that action
Speaker 1: so that I can become that person as well. Like
Speaker 1: I don't like the idea of watching myself, like you know,
Speaker 1: my higher self, watching myself like consume Pinterest all day,
Speaker 1: but also not ever becoming that Pinterest girl. Like you
Speaker 1: should be that pintress girl. You should be that Pinterest guy.
Speaker 1: You should be that person who has that life. So
Speaker 1: go and get it. It's not fair that you're watching
Speaker 1: somebody else live that dream life. I'm so sorry. It's
Speaker 1: not You should be on that journey with that person.
Speaker 1: And this is what I love about my podcast. At
Speaker 1: least I hope that this is what you guys are doing,
Speaker 1: and even with my vlogs, is like, I want us
Speaker 1: to be doing this week after week together. Okay, I
Speaker 1: know we're all on separate journeys, and I also know
Speaker 1: that a lot of you guys look up to me
Speaker 1: in a way and you're taking my advice and that's amazing,
Speaker 1: but I want us to be doing it together. I
Speaker 1: don't want you to be sitting here and constantly week
Speaker 1: after week just listening to my podcast, which I love
Speaker 1: and I understand what it feels like to listen to
Speaker 1: a podcast that get your mind right. But this is
Speaker 1: kind of why I even started the Soulful Sundays is
Speaker 1: because I want you to take that action. I want
Speaker 1: you to take an hour or out of your Sunday
Speaker 1: or whatever day you are gonna be doing this, and
Speaker 1: I want you to sit down and I want you
Speaker 1: to think about your own life. You know, the ways
Speaker 1: you're getting stuck, the ways you're sleeping on yourself, and
Speaker 1: what action are you going to take. I want you
Speaker 1: to take that action, and I want you to do
Speaker 1: it alongside of me, because that's what I'm doing. The
Speaker 1: reason why I can keep coming on this podcast and
Speaker 1: giving you, you know, some sound advice. I'm not perfect,
Speaker 1: but some good advice, and you see me growing and evolving.
Speaker 1: It's because I'm first and foremost taking that action. I'm
Speaker 1: first and foremost putting the pens to paper. I'm first
Speaker 1: and foremost getting out of my own way and calling
Speaker 1: myself out and saying, you know what, Alicia, you keep
Speaker 1: saying this, but you're not doing it. Keep talking about it,
Speaker 1: but you're not doing it. You keep scrolling, but you're not. No, Okay,
Speaker 1: at the end of the day, we take action, and
Speaker 1: we take action together. Let's get up and let's actually
Speaker 1: live life. Let's actually participate and co create. We're not
Speaker 1: gonna sit by the sidelines and oh, you can do
Speaker 1: it over here. No, no, no, no, I know. Sometimes it's easier
Speaker 1: to watch somebody do it because it creates a lot
Speaker 1: of fear and uncomfortability and I don't know, and this
Speaker 1: that messy action. You do not need to know the
Speaker 1: entirety of something before you start. It's literally impossible anyways,
Speaker 1: it's if fallacy, it doesn't even make sense. It's not
Speaker 1: the way that life works. So you don't have to
Speaker 1: worry about knowing everything. You just start with those baby
Speaker 1: steps and another pinch. Just quote that I really loved
Speaker 1: says a bad idea written down is far better and
Speaker 1: far more useful to you than a blank sheet of
Speaker 1: paper and a mythical piece of brilliance that has been
Speaker 1: stuck in your head out of fear of failure. Go
Speaker 1: ahead and fail, then make it better. And my friend
Speaker 1: and I, Joey, we talk about this all the time,
Speaker 1: like this is her philosophy of life. And I think
Speaker 1: the same way too. If you're going to fail, fail fast,
Speaker 1: feel hard, feel quick, okay. And what I mean by
Speaker 1: that is a lot of times when we don't take action,
Speaker 1: we're afraid, you know, we're afraid, Well what if I fail?
Speaker 1: Or what if it doesn't work out? Or what if
Speaker 1: I get rejected? Or what if this is? Okay? So
Speaker 1: how about we do that quickly so we know and
Speaker 1: then we can actually get to where we need to go, okay,
Speaker 1: instead of procrastinating and pushing it off. And I'm going
Speaker 1: to keep pushing it off because I'm afraid of the
Speaker 1: I'm afraid. I'm afraid. I'm afraid. But the thing is is,
Speaker 1: you know, in life, there's gonna be failures. It's just
Speaker 1: going to be that's just what it is. But you
Speaker 1: want to look at failures as something that is good
Speaker 1: information and brings you exactly to where you want to be.
Speaker 1: That's really how I look at everything now. So it
Speaker 1: doesn't work out and this could be even going to relationships, right, Okay,
Speaker 1: that date didn't work out, that that relationship didn't work out,
Speaker 1: or things didn't whatever, instead of looking at it as oh,
Speaker 1: it's a failure and I didn't learn anything and this
Speaker 1: sucks and I'm like, what was me? No, failure is
Speaker 1: seriously just information on what you need to adjust. Okay,
Speaker 1: So what I want you to start identifying as in
Speaker 1: your life and in particular to the thing that you're
Speaker 1: trying to accomplish, is no longer a dreamer, but a doer.
Speaker 1: And I have to remind myself of this as well,
Speaker 1: especially when I am trying to go into a new
Speaker 1: habit or identity, bringing it back to being a gym
Speaker 1: girl again, I'm always reminding myself the most important thing
Speaker 1: to do is to do, is to take the action,
Speaker 1: is to take the step, and also to remind yourself.
Speaker 1: And I do this as well remind yourself of the
Speaker 1: version of you or the person that you look up to.
Speaker 1: Are they a dreamer or are they a doer? And again,
Speaker 1: the gym girl, she's a doer. The YouTuber a doer,
Speaker 1: the business owner a doer. Somebody who has a thriving
Speaker 1: social life a doer. They're not a dreamer. They did
Speaker 1: not sit here and talk about it and think about
Speaker 1: it and ruminate on it. And the way that they
Speaker 1: all started was not the way that you see them
Speaker 1: experience live right now, right so you might see me,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, successful, she knows what she's talking about,
Speaker 1: and you know she's confident on camera. We got the
Speaker 1: plaque from the other channel. Mind you, if you're new
Speaker 1: here and you're wondering why I have a plaque but
Speaker 1: I don't have one hundred thousands subscribers yet on the
Speaker 1: podcast channel, it's because I have a second one, but
Speaker 1: were my main one. But at first I didn't have
Speaker 1: this plaque, I didn't have that book, I didn't have
Speaker 1: the audience. I didn't have all of these things. And
Speaker 1: you just have to remind yourself of that, Okay, And
Speaker 1: you know, the gym girl that you look up to
Speaker 1: or the gym girl that I look up to. I
Speaker 1: know her body never looked like that at the beginning,
Speaker 1: or her discipline never was that strong at the beginning,
Speaker 1: like she had to work up to that. Or the
Speaker 1: social life that I see people have, you know, those
Speaker 1: great friendships and all of the cool things that they
Speaker 1: can have. It takes time to build friendships and relationships,
Speaker 1: It really does. But you know what, there's something freeing
Speaker 1: about understanding that you don't need to know all of it.
Speaker 1: You don't need to be the person who has all
Speaker 1: the information, or does the most insane workout, or have
Speaker 1: the most confidence to get on camera to start. You don't,
Speaker 1: you actually don't. You just need to take a small
Speaker 1: little step. You need to reach out to one person,
Speaker 1: not the entirety of the city. You know, in order
Speaker 1: to have a thriving life, I don't need to do
Speaker 1: the most insane workout at the gym to start building muscle.
Speaker 1: All I need to do is start identifying as a doer.
Speaker 1: So for me this week, that is my focus. Once again,
Speaker 1: We've been talking a lot about habits and taking action.
Speaker 1: I'm really honing in on consistency because THEO has really
Speaker 1: amplified the need to have a consistent rhythm in my
Speaker 1: life and a routine. And also because I want to
Speaker 1: get back into this fitness era of my life and
Speaker 1: it is going to require a lot of doing. And
Speaker 1: that's just what I try to keep working through any
Speaker 1: resistance that I'm having, anytime that I'm thinking like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'll push it off or I won't do it, I
Speaker 1: try and get out of my own way and do
Speaker 1: all this negotiating. Nope, doing is just the most important thing.
Speaker 1: And it doesn't matter actually how I'm feeling, which is
Speaker 1: not the same as suppressing our emotions when we're talking
Speaker 1: about something that's deep. You know, we're all about feeling
Speaker 1: our feelings. But at the end of the day, a
Speaker 1: lot of the action that we need to be taking
Speaker 1: it's irrelevant about how we feel. Realistically, we just got
Speaker 1: to do and everything else follows that. So with that said,
Speaker 1: I mean, listen, let's just show baby THEO why don't
Speaker 1: we And he would say to start taking that action,
Speaker 1: right THEO. Guys, look at how big he's getting. He
Speaker 1: is truly turning into Italian greyhound. And when you have
Speaker 1: something like this, this cute, innocent, little pop, you have
Speaker 1: to do a lot of doing instead of thinking or
Speaker 1: wasting time essentially, so having some sort of accountability could
Speaker 1: be great as well for you. I'm not saying get
Speaker 1: a dog in order to live your dream life, but
Speaker 1: I do think you know, having friends or sharing your
Speaker 1: goals with people who you trust, right or surrounding yourself
Speaker 1: with people who are doing, you know, instead of talking
Speaker 1: about things, is going to be very helpful. But if
Speaker 1: you are going to be watching people online or you're
Speaker 1: going to be reading that book, actually do the things
Speaker 1: that it tells you to do, or do the work
Speaker 1: in the course and don't start another module until you've
Speaker 1: actually taken that action or you've practiced, Or you're in
Speaker 1: school and you're studying something and you're doing all the theory
Speaker 1: and you're doing all the reading and the writing, but
Speaker 1: you're not actually implementing it in whatever way you need to, like,
Speaker 1: go out and do that and taking action is going
Speaker 1: to amplify and honestly like quantum leap you into your
Speaker 1: dream life way more way more than you thinking or
Speaker 1: reading a bunch of books. Half the time that information
Speaker 1: goes in when you're in out the other you think
Speaker 1: that that's you're taking action by doing that and you're
Speaker 1: really not, you know what I mean. Like, when you
Speaker 1: take that action, I swear it just it quantum leaps
Speaker 1: you more than anything else. So do your best to
Speaker 1: be a doer and not a dreamer. You deserve that
Speaker 1: you can do that. And this is the time. I
Speaker 1: feel like, this is the time, week after week to
Speaker 1: really get aware of the habits that you are currently in,
Speaker 1: the identity that you're currently in, and focus on that
Speaker 1: one thing and drive it home until you become that
Speaker 1: new version of you. So with that said, I hope
Speaker 1: you guys enjoyed. I can't believe we are going into
Speaker 1: the second week of March, like, Wow, it's gonna time,
Speaker 1: It's gonna fly. I already know April's gonna be here
Speaker 1: in no time. And I see nothing but good for us.
Speaker 1: I see nothing but doers and action takers and transformation
Speaker 1: and good energy and and changes in our body and
Speaker 1: our health and our money and our success all of that.
Speaker 1: But it ain't going to happen unless we what we do.
Speaker 1: So let's go do that. I love you, guys, and
Speaker 1: I'll see you in the next one. Bye.