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Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, welcome to for crying out loud. I'm your host,
Lye Corolla.
Speaker 3: I'm Stephanie Walter Tiller.
Speaker 1: Happy Fridays Friday.
Speaker 3: It's Friday, f July.
Speaker 1: I know, July third, Yes, Happy fourth of July.
Speaker 3: Happy fourth of July, everybody.
Speaker 1: You guys got any plans? We're only laughing because we
were just talking abound out full fourth of July.
Speaker 3: Week can be? You heard our Tuesday show? Yeah, you
know what we're talking about.
Speaker 1: So so I'll take that as a no. You don't
have any plans.
Speaker 3: I don't know what I'm going to be doing yet,
but I'm sure I will think of something and it's
going to be fantastic.
Speaker 1: Is it going to be fireworks?
Speaker 3: I'm sure it will involve fireworks, Okay, and maybe a
hot dog. I don't know. Yeah, you don't know what's
going to happen.
Speaker 1: You know what stuck with me that story of your
roommate in that roommates, Who's who's.
Speaker 3: The guy with the gay lovers? That one? And then
oh yeah, that was the happy ending, the happy I
don't know that not because of the happy ending.
Speaker 1: I don't know why it was. Those were good stories
you told on the podcast Fourth of July. When I
was a kid, you know, we were talking last week
about how Fourth of July, I'm afraid it's just it's
a long week of just disappointment.
Speaker 3: We were just talking about that on Tuesday.
Speaker 1: Right, so, like, you know, we have to be the
cruise director and all that. That's what we were talking about.
So when I was a kid, Fourth of July, I
realized Fourth of July was not that great either. It
was a tough holiday because once again I lived on
the street. All my friends lived up and down the street.
We'd go out and play kickball until the sun went down,
and it was like old school back then. And the
one time my mom came out with my beloved first
pet parakeet, mister Bill on her shoulder to tell me
that dinner's ready, and mister Bell flew away and I
was is the first time I ever felt devastating, like
heartbreak around for just crying. I'll never was traumatizing. But
mister Bill never came. We put the the bird cage
on the roof, thinking maybe that she'd find her way home.
Never did. But anyway, fourth of July. Because my parents
are Italian and strict, they would never let me go
spend the night, and I would. I was able to
go to a couple of my friends on the street's
house only because my parents knew their parents, even though
you know, there's no difference between them and that. Well,
my best friend Wendy's mother smoked pot and I wasn't
allowed to go to her house and she had Doberman's.
But other than that, I don't know why.
Speaker 3: They wouldn't live Doverman is such an eighties dog, I know,
I know, Oh my god. There were people had Doberman's
on my street too growing.
Speaker 1: Up, and I was not allowed. My dad was like, you.
Speaker 3: Well, my parents were the one smoking pot. That's true.
Speaker 1: That's true.
Speaker 3: My probably people weren't allowed to come to my house, right,
So anyways, we did not have Doberman's.
Speaker 1: I would always look forward to the long weekends to
be with my friends. But the fourth of July and
next door, our neighbor Ray and his kids. Every year.
He has a big camper that parked in our driveway
that my mom hated and like planted trees to cover.
They would take everybody in the neighborhood to down to
the beach and spend the night a couple days down
to the beach. Was I able to go? No, No,
I was not. And I have two brothers, one with
mental illness talking to himself in the bedroom, and the
other one is gone out of the house, and I'm
stuck home with my crazy mom and my boring dad,
and I would have nothing and no air conditioning. By
the way, in West Hills, California, where it gets to
temperature sore to one hundred and two, it's like a
box in the sun just baking, and it would get
so hot. And we had this one window that was
tinted in the living room. Why it was tinted yellow.
It was like that when we moved in and they
never changed it so yellow at three four o'clock and
the heat with no air conditioning is depressing, just depressing.
And luckily we did have shad carpet, by the way,
we did have shad carpet. We had rotary telephones. We
had no cable.
Speaker 3: We had shad carpet too.
Speaker 1: Yes, we had shot cover it. No, we had no
cable and when everybody else had that on and Select TV,
and that was high for lootin.
Speaker 3: For us, even the X Channel, even when I started, Yes.
Speaker 1: The X Channel, and I started dating Mike Girstine, who
was who worked for a cable company and he could
come and like he came and did the wires and
I got free cable for two weeks and then it
went back to and it was just so depressing. But
on fourth of July weekend, Ray would take everybody in
the neighborhood in his camper with his wife and kids,
and I was allowed to go. And I remember just
being so sad and so depressed over those weekends. It
was so depressing. So fourth of July, well, how about this.
Speaker 3: My birthday is July fifth, Happy birthday. Thank you? So
talk about depressing. Nobody was ever around for my birthday,
and if they were, it was like they were celebrating
July fourth, and I was like, hello over here, it's
my birthday is tomorrow, which was sort of fun when
I got like in teenage years, just because you know,
we'd go like we would go part in Springfield, Massachusetts.
We'd all go out to this one area on July fourth,
like downtown Springfield, and we would drink and whatever, and
then at midnight I would make people make out with
me because I was like, it's my birthday, but when
it for your actual birthday, people are hungover, tired, or
out of town. So when I was younger, I had
the double whammy of it being summer so your friends
aren't around, and it being holiday weekend.
Speaker 1: It's the worst.
Speaker 3: I don't remember any birth parties a kid.
Speaker 1: I don't know why. I hate to be such a
dinner when it comes to the fourth.
Speaker 3: But you're really bumming me out.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry.
Speaker 3: This is just gonna be different. It's gonna be great.
Speaker 1: It is now now I have my own family, I
don't have to rely on other people.
Speaker 3: Wait, get some sparklers, go in the backyard and make
it fun. Invites some people over it and have just
a little barbecue.
Speaker 1: No, no, all right, Well, no, I don't know what
we're gonna do.
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 1: Maybe we'll figure it out. I'll figure it out because
I'm Julie the Cruse director.
Speaker 3: So what else. What else is happening this week? Both
my kids went to gymnastics camp. Yeah, both the twins
went to gymnastics camp. Well great, and Alby's at horseback
riding camp.
Speaker 1: I love that horseback riding camp.
Speaker 3: Yeah, for a week. It's in Chatsworth.
Speaker 1: Yeah, like where Charles Manson killed people? Yes, where he lived. No,
it's not where he killed People's where he's at a ranch? Like,
yes he was. I think he wasn't bordering Yeah, I.
Speaker 3: Don't think so.
Speaker 2: We can?
Speaker 1: We can. You could watch Aquarius and Fine Randon.
Speaker 3: Find out where where in the valley Charles Manson lived?
Will you we look it up from I was to
pang A Canyon. It's a panga. I don't think it
was Quorter ranch. See where that ranch was that ranch?
If it was in we'll find out fast.
Speaker 1: Look go ahead.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So, uh it's the one week where I have
all three kids doing engaged and uh so we'll uh,
I see if I can plan that for another week.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go to like sleep away.
Speaker 3: You think you know, I was just talking to my
girlfriend about this, so I think that it would be
an amazing experience for the kids to go ay to
sleep away camp. But I don't know that, you know,
I feel like you have to kind of let your
kids determine whether that's for them or not. I wouldn't
mind if I'll be wanted to go to camp for
a couple of weeks. But she's not going to be
doing that anytime soon. She's just barely gotten back in
the swing of having a sleepover. But you know what,
I can't understand, and I'm not judging it at all,
I just I can't these parents And this is a
very this is a very East Coast thing. It's a
very Jewish thing. Yeah, but these parents that send their
kids to the East Coast from LA for six weeks
to go to camp. I personally know some mobs, and
I'm like, why would die if I couldn't have one?
I couldn't live without Alvi for six weeks. I could,
I could.
Speaker 1: But the Jews know something. They're doing something right, Yeah, right,
because the kids love it.
Speaker 3: I mean, obviously they're not do loursing them to go.
Speaker 1: But are they going with each other's friends or are
they going by themselves?
Speaker 3: I think they go with friends.
Speaker 1: They go with their friends probably, right.
Speaker 3: And then they go year after year and they probably
love it.
Speaker 1: Six weeks is a bit much at this age, all right?
Speaker 3: Oh sorry, Yuba County, California.
Speaker 4: Barker Ranch, So it looks like it's in the Death
Valley National Park. That's where the ranch is.
Speaker 3: That's a different place, I think.
Speaker 4: Well, this is his house, which is located in Bennett Canyon,
which is just north of Beverly Hills. Yeah, that's where
the house is.
Speaker 1: Wow, well, I know, watch Aquarius with David Duchovny and
find out it's on iTunes. Love him? Are you watching
that show?
Speaker 3: No?
Speaker 1: I haven't.
Speaker 4: Well I don't have cable anymore, so yeah, I got
a pirate.
Speaker 1: If anybody's watching it, tell me if it's worth sticking with.
I've watched three episodes. I love him too, that's why
I'm watching it. And I like Charles Manson, so you know,
to win win Anyways, I I think at six weeks
is a bit much. But so people from la are
sending their kids all the way to the East coast.
Why not? Is there no good camps on the west coast?
I don't know, Stephanie, get.
Speaker 3: Back with I'm thinking, I mean, yes, there are lots
of good camps here, so maybe there are also people
that send their kids here, but like, but.
Speaker 1: Is there a reason?
Speaker 3: Maybe their families lived back there, maybe they were raised
back east, and there's camps they know of or that
they went to when they were kids, so they send
their their kids there. Who know? I don't know, just because.
Speaker 1: That to me, that Bravo show of Newly Divorced is
the new thing. What's that show? You know? That show
where she's divorced?
Speaker 3: Odd mom out?
Speaker 1: Not no, no, the other one where she's divorced. But anyway,
and is.
Speaker 3: That did that get renewed?
Speaker 1: I don't know if it got renewed. But they're running
like repeats Girlfriend's Guide to Divorce? Yeah, yeah, yeah. I
love their promo that they had by the way, where
they were doing the ad campaign. When they were running,
she was in bed and I was like, newly, what's
the name of it, Girlfriend's Guide to Divorce?
Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, and.
Speaker 1: I Can'm not going to do a justice But she'd
roll over in bed and there is like a young
guy next to her and she's like and he and
she said something like, oh, don't don't get it. The
answering machine will get it. And he's like, what's an
answering machine and then she's like h smiled like a
winked at the camera. So no, I lost my train
of thought thinking about young guy no answering machine.
Speaker 3: Camp. We were talking about sending your kids to camp.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she was talking about in an episode of how
she went to this certain camp and she said the
name of it, and Jody, I believe she's in Europe
or I would ask. I think she went to that
camp too, and she's Jewish. So it's this Jewish camp
that's somewhere back east that's supposed to be great, like
the camp, Yeah, the it camp. So I'm wondering if
that's it anyways.
Speaker 3: Camp is part of a lot of kids childhood. Some
kids go to camp for the whole summer. Every summer.
They go see their friends and that's their summer. They
like a week after school ends, they're off the camp
and then that's their summer. I think it sounds kind
of genius if your kids are the kind of kids
that love going to camp. I think the kids would
be fine. I would be so sad without my kids
all summer.
Speaker 1: Well, I couldn't imagine all summer. I mean. The thing
is is that, of course, I don't think your kid
at first is going to be excited. I think they're
going to be scared, of course, like anybody would. But
they're not gonna know unless they do it. So it
could be something that I don't know. I don't know.
I got to get to the bottom. We talk about
this every summer, like where are kids going to do?
What are our kids? We camp? Blah blah blah blah
blah blah blah.
Speaker 3: Well, ten next summer, she'll be eleven going on twelve.
Maybe she'll want to go to camp. Then maybe at
least maybe for like three weeks, I'll be together. They
would probably love that.
Speaker 1: I would love that they would. Natalia, well, I'll tell
you that.
Speaker 3: I think I would. By next year, ILB will be
probably wanting to do something like that.
Speaker 1: I wonder if they would keep them together though because
of their age, maybe not. I don't know. We'll have
to find out.
Speaker 3: I remember being a camp counselor and the kids were
all like around the same age, close enough, like it
would be like ten to twelve year olds or but
I don't Yeah, I guess it probably depends on the camp.
Speaker 1: I always thought, like, you know, when before I had kids,
or when my kids were little. I was like, I'm
old school man. I am not letting anybody watch my kids.
Like I'm never gonna have the child care service at
the hotel. I'm never gonna have them go and state
the camp while we're on vacation. As if we go
on vacation, they're not going away to camp. None of that. No,
no babysitters, no nothing. That went right out the window.
Speaker 3: That's insane.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but that's the Italian.
Speaker 3: I thought you were gonna say old school, like I'm
gonna send them to camp right awayting pre school.
Speaker 1: Not the Italians. The Italians are the dumb Jews, but
they're the better looking Jews now Jews, I love juice
Jews are I love a nerdy Jew guy. Anyways, We're
all over the map here. But my point is Italians
they don't let other people raise their kids, or do
they do everything themselves, or at least old school Italians
like Jimmy's mom. She when Jimmy was married the first
time around. I don't know how she is now with
his second child, but first time around, his kids are wonderful.
They're grown, they're out of college, I think at least one.
But anyway, when Gina, she was my BFF back then,
and she was raising kids. They were like three or
five or whatever, and I was like, how come you
don't get a babysitter? How come you she had a babysitter.
But it's like, how come they don't go to canon? No, no, no, no,
no no, not the Kimmel family. They wouldn't and did
they ever because they all but they no, I don't
think so. I don't think they went to camp because well,
for one thing that they have going for them is
that they have there's so many of them. There's Aunt
Joan and Uncle Jim, and there's so many cousin Sal.
Not that you'd leave your kid with cousin Sal come
back a gambling attict, but you know there's so many
of them that they can all pitch in. You know.
That's the thing that I argue.
Speaker 3: About Adam village.
Speaker 1: That's a village, right, I don't have a village. Like
when Adam and I get in these arguments and he's like,
you got a nanny, and you got a nanny. I
don't have a cleaning lady anymore. But like a cleaning
lady or a dog walker. We have a dog.
Speaker 3: Walker yeah, people have to otherwise your dog kicking.
Speaker 1: No, Adam doesn't like it, and we got an argument
about it. And then we got in the car to
go to Sunny's game and the dog walker fucking walks
up right when we're pulling out, and he's like, uh.
And Molly was at the vet at the time, and
he's like, uh, the dog walkers here. You might want
to tell her the dogs at the vet like great timing, bitch,
Like I told you when you see the silver car,
just keep walking, don't come in.
Speaker 2: Wow.
Speaker 5: Yeah, he's a little controlling, li it right, you think, Yeah,
what's wrong with having a dog walker becuz he thinks
you have to be.
Speaker 3: Home all the time to walk the dog.
Speaker 1: Well no, he says, are you kidding? You can get
up in the morning and walk the dog, or lock
the dog when you get back from dropping the kids off,
or walk the dog, or the kids can start walking
the dog or whatever. I feel like, between you and
old and the kids, we don't need a dog walker.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm going to hire a hamster feeder. See, just
come over and once a week, not.
Speaker 1: If you're old Australian.
Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't get mad. What you can't just put
some food in the hamster cage. Well, I forget okay,
Yvet Valdivia.
Speaker 1: You we Vet. There's a lot of rooms going around.
Speaker 3: Do you think it's bitchy of me to not ex
up to date from a guy that works at Chili's
because he works at Chili's? Oh my god, this might
already be my favorite question ever. I don't think so,
but apparently other people think I'm stuck up? Am I
being a bitch? No? Well, wait, he works at Chili's. Really,
he couldn't get a job at like hold on, now,
is he cute? Is he gonna bring you fries?
Speaker 1: Is he going to school during the day? I mean,
if he's just going to if he's just chili in
it up and that's it in his life, then.
Speaker 4: In his early twenties, then you can probably chalk it
down to just callege God doing a job, right. But
if you're going late mid late forties, then maybe.
Speaker 3: Maybe you want to do well, what you just jumped
from like eighteen to like mid forties, there's like a
whole lot of in between the twenties. Then okay, so
let's just stay.
Speaker 1: After twenty five. Hey, you know what, By the way,
all right, let's finish his conversation, and then I want
to I.
Speaker 3: Just think I understand that it's not sexy to work
at Chili's if you're a guy. First of all, you
have to wear a uniform. Maybe he's the second of all.
Speaker 1: I like bartenders. I like the bartender at Oaks that place.
Speaker 3: Yeah, okay, Look, if he's hasn't been working there long,
maybe he was having trouble getting a job and he
needs some extra money and he's working at Chili's. But
he's a go getter, that's then you know, sure give
him a chance. If he's really cute and you like
his personality. But if he just works at Chili's and
he's like, yeah, this is a good job. I mean,
Chili's is a great company. There's benefits. I get all
the chili fries I can eat. You know, why wouldn't
I work here? If he doesn't get it, Like if
he's a little embarrassed himself and he's like, man, you
are so hot and I really want to date you,
and like, oh my god, it's just ridiculous that I
work at Chili's right now. But I just couldn't find
another job. It's not for long. Then yeah. But if
he's like, if he's like, hell yeah, I work at Chili's,
come on down. Let me hook you up with a
why I'm marguerite at what.
Speaker 1: I said. As soon as the job opens up at
the olimn guy, she was busy yapping. Everybody's right about you?
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: Now listen, I.
Speaker 3: Would you date a guy who worked at Chili's le.
Speaker 1: It depends if it's his only gig and he's doesn't
see it. I mean, I'm sure the guy's young, right,
I would think he's got to have something on the horizon.
So it depends. Loves love, you know, I'm.
Speaker 3: Not saying that a guy can't be broke. Look does
he could? He teach guitar lessons freelance like guitar lesson
teacher and be a little that's more romantic, you know,
it is been working for a corporation like Chili's. Like
he's gonna come home, he's gonna smell like greasy food
in his work shoes.
Speaker 1: Like listen, guitar, I get it smell like greasy foods too.
Speaker 3: That I'm I feel you, my sister. I don't think
you're a bitch. I think you're just being honest.
Speaker 1: Stephanie's bitchy, you're keeping a rail. Let's keep pitching it up, okay,
Ashley Dushane, Yeah, go ahead. My daughter will be entering
kindergarten this FOD. I'd love to hear any tips you
have about making it a smooth transition, stories of your
own experience as would interest me.
Speaker 3: We're only going to tell stories today about other people's experiences.
You know, what kindergarten is so such a crapshoot I
think for a lot of people. Yeah, Sadie was cried
every day for a while, and I never would have
expected that of her. She did not seem like she
would be sad lb who I would have thought would
have been very traumatized by starting kindergarten. Was like, see,
I wouldn't want to be.
Speaker 1: She wants to get her learn on that.
Speaker 3: Yeah, she had a great day every day and never
looked back. I think. You know, usually kindergarten teachers are
pretty caring and they're pretty open to like they understand
that you're kids starting kindergarten. It's a big deal. They're
pretty open to talking to you and to giving your
kid a little special like, you know, love if they're
having trouble transitioning and they're pretty patient.
Speaker 1: YEP, I agree. I I would maybe if you want
some advice from us, I would say, go talk to
the kindergarten teacher maybe ahead of time, and feel her
out and see what she's got plan on the horizon,
and then go home and talk to your kid and
get your kid prepared and explain to your child, missus,
so and so is going to be doing this this year,
and she's going to be teaching that this year, or
you're going to learn this or that, or she's got
a goldfish in her classroom whatever, yeah, or excited maybe.
Speaker 3: And one thing that helps too is and maybe I'm
sure you've already thought of this, but one thing that
really worked well with my kids is taking them out
like a week before school starts, to get like their
backpack and a new lunch box. And I feel like
with one of the kids, they got something personalized. I
can't remember, but that's always like it makes them feel
excited about like you're a big boy or a big
girl now and you get your your backpack and you're
new a new one. If they had one for preschool,
they get a new one, right kindergarten and some pencils,
and I got them like a little bit of school
supplies and we kept it at home. And then because
you're gonna have homework and you know, just play a
good spin on.
Speaker 1: It, you're at Target and then they want to go
to the toy aisle. Yeah, and they're like, all right, now
on board, let's go to the toy asle buy something.
Speaker 3: And then you'll sink like ninety dollars into that trip.
Speaker 1: Okay.
Speaker 3: Caitlin Hanson, can you talk about the dynamic of discipline?
Have you met me and Lynette?
Speaker 1: Have you listened to our show Who Disciplines? In your house?
Speaker 3: Do your kids favor one parent over the other or
come crying to the other parent if you try to discipline.
Speaker 1: They always go crying to Olga.
Speaker 3: You know, O. Discipline is such another very personal some
I feel like not it's not one size fits all,
I know, if you're some kids need a lot of disciplines.
Some kids need no discipline. And you know what, I
don't like parents who discipline their kids when they're not
doing something wrong. Yeah, oh go, you're wasting it on
punish the kid who's actually doing stuff wrong. You know,
these parents that are just too hard on their kids
all the time. Yeah, they like are constantly saying no
and constantly like stop doing that, stop fussing with that stuff,
and you're like they're just being a kid, Like, yeah,
this will happen. You'll be in a waiting room, say,
and the kid will just be like maybe walking around
feelings that they put that down. Stop doing that, Just
come over here and sit down like you.
Speaker 1: Kiss three, Like, yeah, let them taddle.
Speaker 3: I mean, stop saying no and being harsh and strict
with a three year old because you're gonna have bigger
problems on your hand when.
Speaker 1: They're save it eight. Yeah, right, pick your battles. Yeah,
i mean disciplinary disciplines in our house. I'm I'm the
bitchy one. I'm now getting called Claire because of Modern Family,
because Claire is the bitchy mom on Modern Family. It's
the blonde and Natalia calls me Claire, and uh, I
just can't help it, because you know what I noticed
is that I've lumped my poor Sonny's been lumped into
her his whole life because it's you guys. You guys
better stop, you guys, better listen, you guys better and
it's not. We notice it more when she's spending the night,
because when she spends the night and it's just us
three at home, it's like, I mean, listen, we miss her,
we really do. We do. We know we do, we do.
We totally miss her. But it is so much easier.
I mean, and I realized that it's a lot of
times it's you guys, you guys, you guys, and it's
not you guys, it's her and I don't but it's
hard because you don't want to be yelling at her constantly.
But she's a push and she likes to push buttons
and she likes to to fuck with people. She does
not really, I don't think she's trying to fuck with people,
but she she's a button pusher and she wants to
see how far she can go and she gets, you know, reprimanded.
Speaker 3: But so like I was a button pusher when I
was a kid, and you know, I don't think I
was in a family that could handle that. So Natalia's
actually lucky that, you know, Yeah, does it push your buttons? Yeah,
she's a button push yourself, pushes your buttons. But obviously
you don't freak out and like write well on a
regular every day. But I mean, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: You have yeah, no, I know, a happy.
Speaker 3: Family, and you're gonna you have the ability to be
flexible with her aunt to just even if you have
to step back sometimes and just go okay, just the
fact that you can go she's not doing it on purpose,
you know, she's she's just this is the kid I have,
and you just.
Speaker 1: Deal with my worst moment as a parent.
Speaker 3: We've talked, are you trying to choke her with a blueberry?
Speaker 1: No? Oh, that's right. And I was about the blueberry. No,
not that one. When I was sick at home, Adam
was out of town. It was a no, no, no no.
It was a Sunday football and Adam was at Jimmy's
and I was at home by myself, sick, and I
was I'm feeling good. And they were like three or four,
and she had this like toy that she was trying
to Uh it was a toy. What was it? It
was something that she was trying to color or build.
It was a coloring something or build your own color builder,
something color, something creative, a color builder, creative color, or
maybe it was black lego. I don't remember something that
was a little on the educational side. I just remember that.
And she kept coming to me, and I was laying
down and I was saying, honey, not right now. I
can't even lift my head off the pillow. I'll look
at it and in a little while, just let me
rest for ten minutes because I just laid down right
And she's like, but but no, But she kept coming
back and coming back and coming back and coming back
and coming back, and she put it on top of me.
She goes, just do it, and she put it on
top of my chest and I picked it up and
I said no, and I threw it across the room.
The thing broke into pieces. And she looked at me like, wow,
this is gonna this is gonna be a long story
and therapy in a couple of years. In a short
couple of years, bitch, I'm gonna be talking about has
it ever come up?
Speaker 3: I don't remember.
Speaker 1: I think she forgot. I think she forgot about it. Yeah,
because she was a little young on the young side,
thank god. But it was my fine. Wasn't a proud
moment of mine. But you know what it happens.
Speaker 3: One time. I think I've told you this story before.
One time I was pregnant with the twins, I was
not feeling good. It was at the and LB was
so she was like two and a half and she
was in the back seat. Obviously she was in the
front seat. That would be a bad parent. She just
sit in Shotgun having a beer and she was playing,
We were playing. They were listening to a song that
she wanted to listen to that was by some kid's band.
And I don't know why I'd let her. She loved
this song and it went like this, do you want
to see my boo boo? Tell me? Tell me? Do
you want to see my boo boo? So we had
listened to it already like seventeen times. I had picked
her up from preschool. There was some construction going on
on our house, and uh, we'd had to go to
Low's for something. I'll never forget the whole setup to
the situation, because it was hot during the summer. We'd
picked her up at school, we'd gone to Low's, and
she just kept wanting to hear the song over and
over again. And I'd already listened to it a bunch
of times. So I finally was like, I can't. We
got to turn on something else and she started crying
and I was like, please stop crying. It's not you know,
it's just and she was like, want to hear it again,
want to hear the song again, want to hear the
boom boo song? And she just started having a freaking
temper tension in the back seat. And I don't know,
but like I lost boom my ship. I turned around
and I was like ship ship, Like I, oh my god,
I'll never forget I felt. I mean, I just freak
out lost it and to it. She's two, and she
started of course, she got scared and started crying. Yeah,
because always fixes it, right, They really shut up, don't
they know? They don't. She started crying, and then I
was like, then I was crying. Then she was crying.
And then we walked in the house and my husband
wasn't home, and it was like there were some workers
there because they were doing construction, and I was just like,
oh my god, I need help. But I mean, you know,
she doesn't remember it.
Speaker 1: That's the best part. Although Natalia though, does remember fix
my pillow, Mommy fixed my pillow, and and and then
she she thinks of it as that she was crying
for because she was sick. She wasn't crying because she
was sick, because she was like, I even threw up,
and I said, no, you didn't, because she was calling
me mommy, and I wasn't going in and I wasn't
feeding into it. And she remembers that she thinks she
was sick because she was going she was crying so
hard that she was doing that. She's trying to pretend
that she was throwing up, even though she's three or whatever.
But she wasn't throwing up. I was throwing up.
Speaker 3: Sadie has done that a million times.
Speaker 1: You were not throwing up, b you are not. It's
like I and I.
Speaker 3: Wish Sadie was a tiny bit older because Sadie and
Italia Elbie loves Italian, Natalia loves Alby. But Sadie and
Italia would be like the BFFs beyond all BFFs. If
Sadie was a.
Speaker 1: Little older, they would get a lot of trouble.
Speaker 3: They would get oh so much trouble.
Speaker 1: Maybe they will in the future.
Speaker 3: Sadie used to do that too. Sadie was the one
who would uh streak like a baboon from her crib
and then throw out everything out of her. She would
be so angry at bedtime. She would be like screaming
for me to come back in and throw out like
the crib bumpers. She'd get them off the crib. She'd
take off all her clothes, she'd take off all the sheets,
she'd throw all the pillows or whatever. Books. Everything would
be in a big pile on the floor. She would
wear us down.
Speaker 1: I'm sure anybody listens.
Speaker 3: And this is right after I quit drinking too. Some
of my worst times were with Sadie and they're refusing
to sleep, and then we went and bought I was
so upset and like I wasn't sleeping, John wasn't sleeping,
She wasn't sleeping. And this one point, I think she
was up for like twenty two hours because she just
refused to go to sleep, and then it was like
the morning, and then the other kids were up, and
then she was up and she wouldn't and she got
herself so in such a state, and I was I
was blogging at the time, and somebody on my blog suggested, no,
what do you call uh melatonin? H I went and
bought some melotonin from Whole foods in a dropper. Get
put it in a dropper, and I gave her melatonin,
like I looked up the dose on the internet or whatever,
and I gave it to her and uh it worked, yeah,
really well. And I did it for two weeks. She did.
Speaker 1: She said, don't don't give them the benadryll stuff. Give
him the melatonin because like, you know, when the tide
doesn't sleep, I give her some benadryl.
Speaker 3: Just kidding, but yeah, not kidding. Meloton pediatrician told me,
first of all, I've given Benadryl works and it's and
you know what it's it's not dangerous. And by the way,
my pediatrician, when Matilda was a baby, she was having
some night terrors and my pediatrician was like, give her
Bena drrill every night for ten days, yeah, to get
her her sleep.
Speaker 1: Got older and realized, oh that stuff makes me sleep.
Then she'd go to bed and go, I can't sleep.
Give me medicine. Yeah, And I was like no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
my not going down that road.
Speaker 3: Mine do it too, but Elbie does it well. When
Elbe was having her really bad bout of anxiety, we
absolutely gave her bet when she wouldn't go to sleep.
I gave her ben andjrol for a couple of weeks straight.
I had to give her bed and drol. But stop
and forget to tell you.
Speaker 1: She's just she gets in bed for five minutes and
it's like, I can't give me sleep medicine right right,
that's no, You're not going to turn into mommy and dad.
Speaker 3: Oh my god. We just gave a lot of advice.
I don't know if he answered the discipline question, but whatever,
Liz Blair Glad says, I'm visiting southern California right now
with my husband. He's from here, but we live in Belgium.
How can you live here? The heat sucks, the traffic sucks,
everything's expensive. How why do you guys do it? Where
would you live? If people live anywhere?
Speaker 1: Show? Of course it sucks. I know, we know. We
don't rub it in, Liz, we know.
Speaker 3: But doesn't everywhere suck for one reason or another?
Speaker 1: Yeah? I guess it's hot, it's a lot of traffic,
there's graffiti, homeless, it's.
Speaker 3: La But you can have a ben affleck sighting. Is
there any better reason to know it never happened? First
of all, Most people who live here are do it
for well. There's a number of reasons to live in
LA in southern California. One, uh, yeah, it's hot, but
the heat does suck, but not in Santa Monica. Don't
live in the valley like stupid people like I do.
Speaker 1: I hate Santa Monica. Oh do I hate crowded there.
It's so crowded. It's a beautiful place. It's so congested
Santa Monica.
Speaker 3: So most people that live in LA live here for work.
Most people do because they're in the entertainment business and
they have to live here. Now. I live here because
I was ray. I grew up here and it always
felt it did not feel like home anywhere else. So
this feels like home to me. And because I have
a lot of friends and I know people, and when
I go to Trader Joe's, I'm bound to run into
someone I know. And I just can't even imagine starting
over somewhere else. I can't. I'm just not a person
who likes change. But if you do like change and
you're living in Belgium, then go to it. Stay there.
It sounds awesome. Where would I live if I could
move anywhere?
Speaker 1: Well, see, I could move anywhere, Well, where would you
live if you could live anywhere?
Speaker 3: I mean, you know what, there's some really pretty like Madison,
Wisconsin is really beautiful. I mean if I wasn't me though,
do you know what I mean? Like if I was
somebody who could be happy living in a different city
with no one. I know.
Speaker 1: Jody's in Paris right while she was in London. Then
she I just facetimed with her and she went to
Paris for a few days now. Granted, Jody is a
single woman with no kids, and she's very pretty, and
she's like, len it Paris is my dream city. It
was awesome And I said why and she said, it's
just it's just civilized. It's just civilized. Are you stand
on the street, you can smoke a cigarette, you can
drink your beer outside? You can. And then she said
she just like are It's just not just Paris. I
think she was talking about English. She was talking about
Europe in general. How it's just so much.
Speaker 3: It's so I don't know if you can generalize. I
loved England.
Speaker 1: She she likes England. London it's just too expensive. No,
wait a minute, Paris is too expensive. London, she just
loved Paris and then really said that every guy like
turned their head towards her, and I said, well, hello,
what are you doing then? Are you hooking up or what? No,
of course not because she's Jodie, but she's like like
like good looking. She's like good looking guys, not like
the bald headed fat dude and you know, whole foods.
Where I live, it's like you keep walking, buddy. But
now in Paris there's like good looking guys, like hey,
they just treat women different. They just it's just such a.
Speaker 3: Oh my god, they're condescending and well in the city
of Paris. I had such a bad time there. People
are rude. Really, I thought people rude. They're very condescending.
Gay's really judgy. And if you like, I'm a tipper,
you know, they get mad at you for tipping too much.
Somehow that's like an insult or something since the tip
is included. I don't know. I couldn't get on. I
was wearing white sneakers. One time. Somebody was snickering at
me about my sneakers because I was wearing sneakers.
Speaker 1: Oh you cannot wear yoga pants, by the way, because in.
Speaker 3: A city fucking has an. It has an opinion about
what kind of fucking pants you wear.
Speaker 1: Fuck you, par friend. No, this is London. Jody hooked
up with her friend in London, and Jody lives and
yoga pants and she's like, oh, Kate was like no, no, no, no, no, no,
no no no. She's like, unless you have a gym
bag on your shoulder to wear yoga pants.
Speaker 3: I would have multiple gym bags, take them everywhere I
go sport. I would just carry a yoga mag.
Speaker 1: Just put a backpack. Yeah no, you can't, like, no
yoga pants.
Speaker 3: Well, I'm not moving there.
Speaker 1: This is why Liz grew up all the way home.
Speaker 3: Why I live in LA because you know why, yoga
pants are perfectly acceptable evening where in Los Angeles it
is on a cute top and you're good to go.
Yeah right, oh boy, oh my god. Can I just
I'm not I swear to you. I'm not just trying
to plug their show. But I have been listening to
watch What Crappens podcast. I'm gonna be guest. I'm guesting
co host.
Speaker 1: When is it?
Speaker 3: I forgot it's coming up though, It's like this week Ronnie.
Ronnie asked me to because Ben's going to be out,
so I'm going to co host Ronnie and I just
now listen. I only I started listening to watching Secrets
and Wives just so that I could understand, just so
that I could know the characters, so that when so
I have another show for them to recap that I get.
And it's just so funny. They're so funny watching I'm
in awe of their Oh my god. But the reason
that I brought it up was because I've been laughing
at the Orange County Housewives at Shannon Badore, because because
I was wondering if you wanted to just if you're
watching OC, because Shannon is so obsessed with her husband
who's cheating on her, and she's They do this impression
of Shannon where they're like, David David, David David, where'd
you go? David, David? Are you not interested in me anymore?
David David? Are you cheating on me again? David David David.
Speaker 1: Shannon, why don't we have to do this? I just
left the house seriously doing this right now?
Speaker 3: A girl's voice, I know, Well, he's so afraid of her,
he just doesn't want to. It's like it's the walking
on eggshells. He's just like, don't anger her.
Speaker 1: And is it my imagination or is Heather getting crazy eyes?
Oh she's always had crazy, crazy guys going.
Speaker 3: She's just so unapologetic now about her mansion, I know,
her sixty thousand square foot house or whatever. She doesn't
even care anymore. That scene where she was laughing about
the cab how the cabinets went one hundred thousand dollars
over budget or whatever, and then they were laughing, it
was almost this weird evil, like this evil couple.
Speaker 1: They were like, yeah, no, she just she bugs me.
I feel bad for her husband for some reason. I
don't know why. I feel sorry for him because you know,
he's getting like beat up behind closed doors by her,
not physically, but just she just seems like such a fucking,
raging pain in the ass.
Speaker 3: And they all are. There's no one ever for.
Speaker 1: The guys, all the guys. It's pretty bad when Brooks
is your favorite character. I don't mind Brooks anymore. Like
he's nice, he's got cancer and everything. He's nice.
Speaker 3: I know. No, what do we think about? Do you
think he's faking the cancer? No? You don't know me that. No,
have you ever known anyone that faked cancer? You know,
it's like a thing.
Speaker 1: Well I've seen it like on dateline, but I don't
know people that have. People do there's a documentary of
somebody that faked being a widow of nine to eleven.
Speaker 3: Right right, the woman who wasn't there. Oh, great documentary.
But you know, this isn't a lot of people's psyches.
It's not really Munchausens because it's just faking. I wonder
if that has a diagnosis.
Speaker 1: Faking Cantler illness.
Speaker 3: Yes, but it's a specific kind. It's got to be
a specific kind. Munchausenes by proxy is when you make
your kids sick so that you can get attention for
having a sick kid. Munchausens is when you think you're
like when you get so it's prop Munchausen is faking illness.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so that means but when you practice, when's your kid?
But if it's just Munchausen, But if.
Speaker 3: Munch houses a proxy, you're really making your kids sick.
You're not lying and saying your kid's sick. Yeah munch.
Speaker 1: Anyways.
Speaker 3: Yeah, So I don't know is that I don't have
you ever known it? I mean, I know of people
who have done it. I knew of a person, you.
Speaker 1: Do, I knew of Yes, what happened.
Speaker 3: She was faking cancer and had a huge fundraiser, like,
and then was caught Are you serious? And yeah they
I think they pressed charges. Oh my gosh, ship to
give the money back. It was a whole thing. Wow, yeah, dang.
Speaker 1: Nothing like that for exciting ever happens in my life.
Like I would love for Suzanne to just go I'm
a fucking CIA agent bitch. Could you imagine like that'd
be exciting? Nothing ever happens. I am watching Secrets and
Lies and I got sucked into it. Yeah, kind of.
Speaker 3: It's pretty funny, it is, But I can't keep track
of who's who because they all look so much like
you have to watch multiple episodes to start being able
to tell the difference.
Speaker 1: And then who's married to who.
Speaker 3: There's two that look so much alike, and one of.
Speaker 1: The three blondes. All the blondes just look like every
town USA blonde.
Speaker 3: Yeah. So there's one blonde who's married to like a
plastic surgeon.
Speaker 1: Yeah, the cunt, sorry Gail. Why does she look familiar though?
Speaker 3: Because she looks like Camille Grammer is that who she
looks like.
Speaker 1: Yeah, she also looks like an old porn actress that
was in Boogie Nights. Oh really, yes, the old porn
actress that was in Boogie Nights. And I can't think
of her name, but she played herself, Brandon. Can you
look up the Boogie Knights cast and there's only like
three of them. There's three re actresses that did porn
in real life, and it'll say as herself and that's
who she looks like. But anyways, in the meantime.
Speaker 3: I think I know you're talking about Nina Hartley.
Speaker 1: Nina Hartley, that's who she looks like. King Nina Hartley.
And sure, yeah, maybe pull up Secrets and Wives cast,
lady married to the doctor surgeon, plastic surgeon doctor. Then
there's the one that looks like Tamar used to look like, look, look,
look all right, that's oh that's Nina Harley. Nina Harley
smiles too much, the plastic surgeon's wife. She doesn't smile
that much.
Speaker 3: But you're right, she does look like her.
Speaker 1: Yeah she does. Yeah, yeah, see uh huh, everybody at
home close your eyes and think of Nina Hartley and
you don't know what I'm talking about. Then there's the
one that looks like Tama Barney from Orange County with.
Speaker 3: The yes, that's that's her.
Speaker 1: Like it looks like her younger little sister.
Speaker 3: Her name is Cory.
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think I like her.
Speaker 3: Yeah.
Speaker 1: Then there's all right, But then there's the husband who's
mean to. Then there's the one brunette whose husband.
Speaker 3: Susan, who's got the husband who John He's like, hey,
everybody hears a bunch of bitches.
Speaker 1: That's somebody I would have married if I stayed in Cleveland, Ohio.
I bet like instead of married dad.
Speaker 3: Hey, you was gonna get some more fries pack going
under your fasts? Hey? Shut up? Yeah he's wow, he's
really he's a grass. Yeah. It's so high, it's so watchable.
But now that's a show where if John goes I
cannot believe you're watching that, Like if he says that
about the Housewise that, I'm like, shut up, yeah, I
like watching this stuff. But when he's he did say
it about Secret Wise, I was like, I know, I'm
only doing it because the watch What Crappens. Guys talk
about it and it makes me laugh.
Speaker 1: I say, I'm doing it because I have to talk
to Stephan about it on our shell.
Speaker 3: So one of the women looks like Jessica Simpson, you know,
the one. Her name is Eliza, and she's getting divorced
and she looks like an old Jessica Simpson. Yeah, losing
her house. And there was a scene from the first
episode where she's talking. She's like, has a fight with
her with him on the phone, and then she's in
the car and then she hangs up and she goes,
I'm paralyzed. So the watchert crap AND's guys just do
it all the time, just no reason. They're just like paraalized.
And I laughed so hard because I've seen it now
because I know what there's I.
Speaker 1: Gotta watch it. I gotta listen to them.
Speaker 3: You really should? You want to give you.
Speaker 1: Some bottles of angria to bring to them?
Speaker 3: Okay, yeah, I don't know if I'm going to see them.
I might be skyping from my house. Oh really, yeah,
they don't. They're not classy like us. Oh yeah, all right,
then never. I don't know how people do that. You
know a lot of people podcast that way just from
their house.
Speaker 1: Why can't they have guests? Then? I don't know.
Speaker 3: Okay, I know they're not in a studio.
Speaker 1: Well, not everybody has a husband that can build lucky me.
Speaker 3: I know. All right, should we take this last question then? Okay, yeah,
Nicke Marvin, we'd love to answer your question, but that's
basically listen to our show.
Speaker 1: How do you handle conflict in your marriage? Yeah, listen
to our show, Sylvia Vega.
Speaker 3: Oh, by the way, can I just say one thing
about the fighting when you're married. Don't listen to these
people that say, don't go to bed angry. I say,
that's such a such a hooy. Go to bed angry.
You know why, when it's late at night and you've
had a fight, you're not going to solve it. You're
just going to irritate each other. And you're married. If
you're a boyfriend and girlfriend, maybe I understand, because like
you don't want to go home, right angry, right, make up?
But if you're married, you're gonna you're not going anywhere.
You're not going anywhere, right, Wait till the morning, and
then you feel a little bit better, You get a
little you wake up and you go like, what was
I so mad about? Anyway?
Speaker 1: Yeah, it seems it's different.
Speaker 3: Yes, I agree, right a day, you just go that
was stupid, Whereas at night it feels so much more serious,
Like it feels like this is going to end our relationship. Yes,
where am I moving to? I'm gonna move to Madisonia,
content and start over a nice small town.
Speaker 1: And I got past that. We used to have those
that hump that time where we would argue and it
would be like, Okay, it's gonna end a divorce. That's it,
it's over. Like we would go to bed and I
would toss and turn all night and think, am I
gonna do divorce?
Speaker 3: You know?
Speaker 1: But now it's like we're past that, like a scream
and yell. We're like, we know we're not gonna get
an ours, so let me just yell at you as
much as I want and it'll reason and then we
resolve it. But there's no like, you know, right, get
the fucking lawyers on the phone.
Speaker 3: John and I have a joke. We us have a
joke because it would just be funny that we had
a fake divorce attorney that was an imaginary attorney. His
name is Martin Marty Gomez. Marty Gomezay, he's in Tijuana,
and he's like had a mobile. A mobile, okay, a
van he worked out of a van? Like is his
mobile divorce attorney? So so John would just make joke
if we had a big fight sometimes and he was
at work, he'd email me and he'd be like, are
we calling Marty? Did you call Marty?
Speaker 1: Reminds me of HARALDA Rivera whose real name is Jerry Rivers. Right, Okay,
read the last question.
Speaker 3: Okay, Sylvia Vega, what do you do when your child's
best friend is a brat and her mother thinks she's
an angel?
Speaker 1: All right, well, you're preaching to the choir, and we
don't have enough time to answer that question. Sylvia, Sylva, Sylvia,
We've discussed this nauseum.
Speaker 3: I'm so listen to some old episodes, but in a nutshell.
Speaker 1: And I'm nine years into it, and Susanna and I
are still best friends. We just don't We got over
that too. We tried and tried and tried to get
our kids together and it just didn't work out, and
so we decided that we're better off not getting our
kids together, and we're we're b f that.
Speaker 3: But this is a little different though. She's saying your
child's best friend is a brat. So we're not even
talking about saving the relationship with the parent. Like, it's
not your friend's kid, it's just your child's friend. I say,
depending on the age of your child.
Speaker 1: Yeah, we've talked about that too, Yeah we have.
Speaker 3: But I say, like, it's up to us, you know,
if you're if their kid's a brat and you don't
want your kid hanging out with them, then just don't
make plans with them. Yeah, and it'll go away on
its own. It'll die off. It will die if you
don't give it, if you don't give it oxygen and
give it a blood supply, and they don't see each other.
Speaker 1: It's gonna be hard for gus. There's times where she's
your daughters are gonna say, can I can I get
together with so and so? Can I get together? You know,
so and so is busy? So and so is busy,
And then after a while, your daughter's gonna think, man,
that's so and so is really busy, and they'll forget
moving on. That's that.
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Speaker 4: I don't have Twitter?
Speaker 1: Yeah? Yeah, where can people talk to you?
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Speaker 3: Yeah, he needs to be producer Gary. We keep telling
him that.
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Rap it's so bad, baby. You might have to set
down see something smelling fishing and they say it's you
or I know what that you're meaning with the whole
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the movie mascot of the Senior Boy Flock of Rules,
they said even walked in. There wasn't too much wrap.
A reputation got bigger and so than a gap, because girl,
your mama should have taught you better. I'm gonna sit
trying to write.
Speaker 3: You a long letter, dear.
Speaker 6: Yeah, yeah, bet, I'm glad you ain't myself event again
if you was, But I have to treat you like
you as my distance cousin. I'm not a news reporter.
I don't mean it was sooner. What should I think
I seen your.
Speaker 3: Coming after this bathroom?
Speaker 6: You wasn't in the room long, You wasn't using the phone.
The door was like for twenty minutes all I hurt.
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