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Speaker 1: Creativity is an addiction unplugged because we will always say

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yes to creativity totally uncut because we all make mistakes.

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So let's just go ahead and turn it into a tool.

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This is arrow unplugged.

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Speaker 2: Heye zero. And this is vocal dfrag. Vocal d fragging

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is physically taking the time to ask yourself the questions

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and then whatever you come up with an answer, question

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the answer, because you know it's so easy just to

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basically just say anything just so something will get off

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your back. Ah, I said that that's good enough. I'm

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okay with that, when in reality I know you're not

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asking the questions questioning the answers. I dfrag in two

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different places inside a handwritten journal, which I've been doing

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since November of twenty seventeen, and I do a vocal

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dfrag And the reason for that is mainly because when

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you're writing, you don't hear pitch, volume and tone. You

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don't hear the inflection coming out of my soul. What

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you see your words. And then you, therefore the reader,

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the one that's studying, they get their interpretation of what

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the d frag was all about. Fragging in a journal,

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and then I invite you use your smartphone for a tool.

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Don't just use it to watch videos or do some

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of that little vocalizing with another person on the camera.

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Use it as a tool to talk to yourself. DFRAG

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vocal defragging. It's a great walk in life. Very interesting

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subject today. The subject is when you're not focusing on receiving.

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When you're not focusing on receiving, what's the next step?

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You know? It came to me in my DFRAG journal today.

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Two words, let's go. When you're not focusing on receiving,

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let's go. The only time that we seem to be

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focused on receiving is when we've ordered something from Amazon

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or Instacart. Oh man, I can't wait till that stuff

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gets here. Oh man, My focus on is on receiving

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all of that stuff. Yeah, but what about when you're

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receiving something in your heart or receiving something in your plan,

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the steps that you're growing forward with. Very rarely have

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I ever heard someone say, man, I just received this

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great idea. No, I always hear hey, I got this idea.

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You got this idea? Oh wow? Did you receive it

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or did you just personally come up with the idea?

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Now I came up with this idea. See, the thing

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is is that the universe is constantly moving through us.

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I'm not going to turn this into what Jesus saying,

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but I just want to turn this into a personal thing.

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When you are not focused on receiving what is your

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next plan? Most people set their lives aside, they set

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their dreams aside. Those things that you wanted to do well,

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you know will get around to it, but you're not

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focused on it. So when you're not focused, what you

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should do is say let's go. Because when you say

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let's go, all of a sudden, you have refocused your mind,

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your body, your soul and you start working on what

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is moving through you. It's energy at all times. And

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the happiest thing about that is that ninety nine point

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nine percent of the time it isn't for you. What

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is moving through you is to help others. Because what's

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made your day a great day today came from other people.

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It moved through them to reach you. So when you're

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trying to find your focus, I do mind through a

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lot of writing, by asking questions and questioning answers. I

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do it by having conversations with people that I truly love,

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and you know what, I also get it from people

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I just met, because what happens if the universe has

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made that happen for a reason, for a purpose, for

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a season, not to bring more anxiety to your life,

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but to help the core of the community. We have

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totally forgotten that. Hey, you know, one of the reasons

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why we couldn't stand the COVID nineteen lockdown was because

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we couldn't be with people. We were so upset. We

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couldn't be with people. What do you mean we couldn't

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be with people? And then you put that mask on

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our face. People can't see my teeth, they can't see

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me smiling. I still need to be with people. And

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now that we don't have any of that, it's like

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we've taken our mind off from community, those people that

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we know we need. And that's a big thought. What

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do you need and what you do need? Is it

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getting the proper focus? Are you giving it the focus

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that has the energy of creating change not just in

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your life, but in another person's life as well. I

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don't know why I was called to do this earlier today,

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but I did some research on what is a narcissist?

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Maybe it was a gut check. Maybe it was something

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that was saying, dude, you're really kind of coming across

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as a narcissist where you know, you're a little upset

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that you're going into work an hour earlier and it's

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knocking you off balance, and you don't feel good about

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going in an hour earlier because it's going to mean

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you got to put in nine hours today rather than

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eight hours. And you know, I think you're kind of

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being a narcissist. You're putting yourself ahead of everything well

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and doing that research. Yeah, okay, that might be one

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of the things where I'm putting myself first. But when

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you start looking at everything else that a narcissist is,

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then you find yourself going, you know, that's not me,

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that's not me. But there could be somebody listening right

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now that is struggling with such a feeling the emotions

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of others that they're carrying but they don't want to

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admit to it. Did you know that there is such

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a thing as a silent narcissist, somebody who won't admit

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to it, but yet they carry everything that a narcissist is. See,

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when you start putting focus on things, you begin affecting

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other people. So when the focus isn't there, what are

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you going to do? Let's go, let's find it. Do

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you think I really wanted to go to Google and

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look up the subject of what is a narcissist? No?

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I was horrified. I was horrified that I was going

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to see my picture there right there. Used to be

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that way when I was growing up. My father would say,

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go look up such and such word, and now hen

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he goes, if your picture's on there, then you're the one.

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You're the one the definition of what that word means.

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And so that's been my whole entire life. It's like, Okay,

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oh my god, why is this word even in my heart? Oh?

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Please don't let my picture be there on Google dot com.

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How many times during a day, a work day, just

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maybe a family day, do you find yourself out of

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focus and you're just not in the mood, You're not

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feeling it. As I hear a lot of times when

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you get into those mindsets, how do you get things done?

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How do you challenge yourself? Motivate yourself? Because if you

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don't make a move of any type, then you're gonna

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feel like crap. In a couple of hours if not

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right now. I work with a lot of people who

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use their out of focus times as being their greatest

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excuse as to why they want to go home early,

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or they're just not checking in and giving those guests

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that come into our store an opportunity to have an experience.

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I'm out of focus. I didn't get sleep last night. Man,

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I'm not eating right. My focus is just it's gone. Well,

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go eat. You got a fifteen minute break, Go close

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those eyes. Take that fifteen minute break, man, do a

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power nap. Get something going on here, because getting connected

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with the community. Remember, everything you do is for somebody else.

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It's moving through you. You can agree with that or

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you can disagree with it. But the seed has been planted,

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and what you do with that seed is going to

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determine where your focus is. When you've lost your focus,

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just go ahead and say it. Let's go, because all

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of a sudden, you're gonna go go where?

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Speaker 1: How?

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Speaker 2: Why? When let's do it, let's go vocal d fragging.

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Ask yourself the questions, question the answers. Listen to your voice.

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Study your handwriting in a journal. Take note if it's

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messy or if it's pretty. See there's all of these

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things that are constantly moving around you and through you,

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but sometimes you don't pay attention to the you that's

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in the mirror. I'm MARYL. And that's vocal D frag