Speaker 1: And cancel, so high Ectasa, cancel, it's not sorry and.
Speaker 2: Hot take. Hating on men is not going to help
Speaker 2: you attract a loving good man. What's a positive bitch
Speaker 2: is how are we doing today? If you're hearing this episode,
Speaker 2: then you are meant to be here. So keep listening
Speaker 2: on that Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, baby,
Speaker 2: we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling
Speaker 2: our most empowered positive bitch self, that is babe in
Speaker 2: true connection with herself or himself. On this podcast, we
Speaker 2: unbecome who we are not so we can fully step
Speaker 2: into exactly who we came here to be. If you
Speaker 2: want to attract a loving relationship, you're not going to
Speaker 2: be able to do that if you're hating on the
Speaker 2: gender that you want to attract. The thing is, we
Speaker 2: manifest what we really really really want, and we also
Speaker 2: manifest what we really really really don't want. If all
Speaker 2: you're doing day in and day out is gossiping with
Speaker 2: your friends about how all men suck or how all
Speaker 2: women are snakes, that's exactly what you're going to attract.
Speaker 2: Think about it on a daily basis. You are broadcasting
Speaker 2: all women are snakes. Or all men are trash and
Speaker 2: they are terrible, then that is what you're going to
Speaker 2: see in your reality. Every word you speak is instructing
Speaker 2: your subconscious mind. You have something at the base of
Speaker 2: your brainstem called the reticular activating system, and this acts
Speaker 2: as a filter based on your own words and beliefs.
Speaker 2: If you think, if you believe, if you say that
Speaker 2: the only men out there are men who are trash,
Speaker 2: that is what you're going to attract. That's what you're
Speaker 2: gonna see in your reality. You can go to a
Speaker 2: party where there are ten amazing men and one trash man.
Speaker 2: Guess who you're gonna start talking to. Guess who's gonna
Speaker 2: be attracted to you. Guess who you are going to
Speaker 2: be faced with the trash man because your subconscious mind
Speaker 2: wants to reaffirm to you that what you believe is
Speaker 2: in fact true, So it will filter out all the
Speaker 2: good men and filter towards you, the one man who's
Speaker 2: going to reaffirm what you believe about the world and
Speaker 2: men in general. Your life is quite literally in your
Speaker 2: hands if you want to attract a better man. I know,
Speaker 2: I know, I know. It might be so fun for
Speaker 2: you to like the videos on TikTok that are complaining
Speaker 2: about men. It might be so fun for you to
Speaker 2: goss up about men and how they're all trashed with
Speaker 2: your friends. Guess what, it's hurting you. The more you
Speaker 2: say how terrible men are, the more you're affirming that
Speaker 2: in your reality, the more you attract that to you.
Speaker 2: And by the way, speaking from a woman's point of view,
Speaker 2: but men, hello, this goes for you too. The more
Speaker 2: you speak negatively about women, the more you hate on women,
Speaker 2: the more you're going to attract that type towards you.
Speaker 2: If you have nothing else to talk about, but how
Speaker 2: bad a certain gender is, you need a hobby. I'm sorry,
Speaker 2: you're boring. You are boring. I'm not gonna lie to you.
Speaker 2: Why would I sit here and lie to you. I
Speaker 2: have nothing to lose. You are boring If you have
Speaker 2: nothing else to talk about, but how terrible men are?
Speaker 2: You are boring. If you have nothing else to talk about,
Speaker 2: then how terrible women are? Get a hobby, get a sport,
Speaker 2: learn something new, pick up a book, for example, show
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Speaker 2: to become your most positive bitch self. That's right, it's
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Speaker 2: want to read my book, how about take a course
Speaker 2: on how to alchemize your pain into your power. You
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Speaker 2: in the show notes. How about learning how to transmute
Speaker 2: your shadow all the parts of yourself that you deny
Speaker 2: into your golden opportunity and key to open all the
Speaker 2: doors that you wish to walk through. You can take
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Speaker 2: Power Back workbook. There are so many things for you
Speaker 2: to do, and the links for all that is in
Speaker 2: the show notes. To become a more interesting person, Maybe
Speaker 2: the problem is not that everyone's trash out there. Maybe
Speaker 2: you're boring. Maybe you really need something new to talk about.
Speaker 2: I had to stop being friends with certain people because
Speaker 2: all they did was talk trash about other people. They're boring.
Speaker 2: I want to talk about how I want to build
Speaker 2: an empire. How there are so much good in the world.
Speaker 2: How to find solutions. If you keep talking about your problem,
Speaker 2: you're never gonna find a solution. Oh, I'm sorry, How
Speaker 2: do you expect to find a solution? When you're still
Speaker 2: broadcasting the same energy as the problem. Oh right, that
Speaker 2: does it makes sense? Hello, Hello, wake up and smell
Speaker 2: the matrix. What are you doing? What are you doing?
Speaker 2: You manifest what you really really want, and you manifest
Speaker 2: what you really really really don't want. If you're hating
Speaker 2: on men, you're hating on yourself because you are shutting
Speaker 2: doors on good, healthy relationships. Good luck, Charlie. There you go.
Speaker 2: Good luck, Charlie. If you want to attract a loving relationship,
Speaker 2: there are not just millions, there's billions. There's billions of
Speaker 2: people on this planet who are good, who want to
Speaker 2: give you love, who want to show up as your hero.
Speaker 2: The other day I channeled a message for this collective,
Speaker 2: and the song that came through was I want to
Speaker 2: be your hero. There is someone who wants to enter
Speaker 2: into your life or has recently entered into your life,
Speaker 2: and they want to show up for you. They want
Speaker 2: to show you how much work they've done on themselves,
Speaker 2: how much of a provider emotionally, mentally, intellectually, physically they
Speaker 2: can truly be. They want to show up for someone,
Speaker 2: and that someone is you. You have to realize that. Okay, yeah,
Speaker 2: some people suck. Wow, you're on planet Earth. Not everyone's
Speaker 2: gonna be great. And guess who's soul signed.
Speaker 1: Up for that?
Speaker 2: Yours did? Yours did?
Speaker 3: Your soul knew that there's going to be duality on
Speaker 3: this planet. Your soul knew that there is going to
Speaker 3: be polaterity on this planet, and your soul signed up
Speaker 3: to learn, develop and grow from all the different energies
Speaker 3: on planet Earth. So on some level, your soul wants
Speaker 3: to experience what is in your current circumstance and what
Speaker 3: you have gone through. If you keep hating on men,
Speaker 3: hating on women, you're hating on yourself and you're limiting
Speaker 3: your ability to attract a better partner. There are, like
Speaker 3: I said, some people who just suck, and then there
Speaker 3: are people who are amazing who are going to teach
Speaker 3: you how beautiful love can be, who are going to
Speaker 3: teach you how to receive love, who are going to
Speaker 3: shock you that they are even real. You are going
Speaker 3: to experience the type of love where you genuinely appreciate
Speaker 3: how divinity is expressed through this other vessel.
Speaker 2: If you want help manifesting love, I highly recommend getting
Speaker 2: my magnetizing mugs. I have a whole entire love connection
Speaker 2: for divine union. I have two too too. Right here,
Speaker 2: every single morning, when you're drinking your coffee or your tea,
Speaker 2: that is a moment to manifest, to intend what it
Speaker 2: is you wish to call into your reality. Instead of
Speaker 2: listening to the news or looking at Instagram, take a
Speaker 2: second encode what you're about to put into your vessel,
Speaker 2: and then drink it up. This is going to fine
Speaker 2: tune you to be the frequency of divine union. If
Speaker 2: I've attracted you here, if you are listening, you are
Speaker 2: someone who's meant to have divine union in this lifetime.
Speaker 2: I have no doubt about it, or else you wouldn't
Speaker 2: be here listening right now. Part of your your destiny
Speaker 2: is divine union. Part of your destiny is learning how
Speaker 2: to shed these limiting beliefs so you can see how
Speaker 2: much of a conscious co creator you can really become.
Speaker 2: Part of your destiny is realizing that you are the miracle.
Speaker 2: You are the magic, and you are the master. If
Speaker 2: you want to attract a loving relationship, you want to
Speaker 2: stop hating men. First things First, get a hobby, Get
Speaker 2: something to direct your mind to. Your mind is always
Speaker 2: going to go towards what is loudest in its reality.
Speaker 2: If you keep getting trauma experience after trauma experience, because
Speaker 2: you keep going out and dating but you're not shifting
Speaker 2: your frequency, You're going to compound momentum of negative energies
Speaker 2: and entities. If you keep experiencing men who are inconsistent,
Speaker 2: who don't treat you well, take a beat, take a moment,
Speaker 2: take a seat, because there's something in your energetic field
Speaker 2: that you need a cleanse, that you need to shift,
Speaker 2: that you need to release before you can change your resons.
Speaker 2: I had to go four weeks of isolation. I did
Speaker 2: not go out, I did not see people. I would
Speaker 2: go out to a workout class, I would go to
Speaker 2: yoga and I would work I did not drink. I
Speaker 2: stayed in and after four weeks I felt an energy
Speaker 2: being released from my body. And when I went back
Speaker 2: out there, it was all fine and dandy, and I
Speaker 2: attracted better people. Sometimes it's not the people out there.
Speaker 2: You actually need to take a beat. You need to
Speaker 2: take some time to read a book, to reset, to
Speaker 2: shake off some of the experiences that you have been
Speaker 2: dealing with, because if you keep going out there with
Speaker 2: the same frequency, you're gonna keep getting the same results.
Speaker 2: Give your mind something to focus on besides the trauma
Speaker 2: that you've endured. Give yourself something to be proud about.
Speaker 2: Give yourself something new to talk about. Hey, friends, guess what.
Speaker 2: I just tried this new yoga class and it was amazing.
Speaker 2: You gotta try it with me. Hey, I just started
Speaker 2: reading this book and it's really changing the way I
Speaker 2: think you might want to read it too. Introduce your
Speaker 2: friends your family to a new way of thinking. Be
Speaker 2: a beat of a light. How about that. The second
Speaker 2: thing you need to do if you want to stop
Speaker 2: hating men, if you want to attract a better relationship,
Speaker 2: is to realize your own power. A healed woman does
Speaker 2: not hate men, She just doesn't entertain the ones that
Speaker 2: aren't on her level. Not all men deserve access to Hugh,
Speaker 2: period full stop. When you allow just anyone and everyone
Speaker 2: into your field and you don't have a high standard,
Speaker 2: you are inviting in low quality experiences. Is it the
Speaker 2: fault of the Brads and the Chads of the world
Speaker 2: that you don't have standards? Is it the fault of
Speaker 2: Joey and Germane that you keep allowing people into your
Speaker 2: life that disrespect you? Whose hands is your life in
Speaker 2: a mind that lives under a bridge and doesn't speak.
Speaker 2: Is that who controls your life? Who controls your life?
Speaker 2: Because if you're not living for you, who are you
Speaker 2: living for? And what are you doing on the planet
Speaker 2: right now? You have to simply raise your standard for
Speaker 2: what you're going to allow in your life. And let
Speaker 2: me just tell you. Every time, and sometimes I was
Speaker 2: scared not gonna lie, But every time I raised my
Speaker 2: standard of what I was willing to allow, I got
Speaker 2: a better person, place, or circumstance every single time. The
Speaker 2: divine does not disappoint. The divine does not disappoint. Say
Speaker 2: it with me, The divine does not disappoint When you say, actually, no,
Speaker 2: I'm not willing to accept that. The electromagnetic field you
Speaker 2: reside within will bend to your will. Your subconscious mind
Speaker 2: will blossom and attract someone who is of a higher caliber.
Speaker 2: But who has to make that decision?
Speaker 3: You? You?
Speaker 2: Only you can do it. The way I think about
Speaker 2: it is, I won't even eat a cupcake. I won't
Speaker 2: even put a cupcake into my body. I'm definitely not
Speaker 2: gonna put Brad who doesn't have a day job, into
Speaker 2: my body. I won't even have a piece of cake.
Speaker 2: So I'm not going to allow Chad who is inconsistent
Speaker 2: and disrespects me into my body. I limit how much alcohol,
Speaker 2: how much caffeine, how much everything I put into my body. Yeah,
Speaker 2: I'm definitely not gonna allow some random person into my vessel?
Speaker 2: What do you allow? Reflective moment Looking back, I definitely
Speaker 2: had times where I would think, why is this person
Speaker 2: doing this to me? Why is this person treating me
Speaker 2: like this? I always think of Specimen six f four.
Speaker 2: By the way, if you're new to this podcast, I
Speaker 2: call some of the men that I've dated special men.
Speaker 2: Get it. You have to understand that I treat my
Speaker 2: life as an experiment, and based on my thoughts and emotions,
Speaker 2: it will manipulate the energy around me. So everyone I
Speaker 2: come into contact with is basically a social science experiment.
Speaker 2: You're also talking to someone who had four hours of
Speaker 2: science a day in high school. I was in a
Speaker 2: specialized science program women in stem Literally, I even went
Speaker 2: to science camp. We don't need to go down that
Speaker 2: rabbit hole anyway. Specimen six foot four. Mmmm, he looked
Speaker 2: like a Viking. Yes he did. He treated me terribly. Ooh,
Speaker 2: that man was a sad individual. He just had. He
Speaker 2: had a lot of wounds. But I looked at him
Speaker 2: and said, ooh, something for me to fix. That's my
Speaker 2: own damn fault. I knew exactly what that was when
Speaker 2: I was walking into it. But out of my own wounds,
Speaker 2: I said, oh, yes, I want that. Out of my
Speaker 2: own people pleaser, martyr wounds. I wanted that. I knew
Speaker 2: full well what I was doing. Your trauma is not
Speaker 2: your fault, but it is your responsibility to heal. Okay,
Speaker 2: So with Specimen six foot four, what I had to
Speaker 2: start saying to myself is, you know what, I keep
Speaker 2: getting mad at this clown, But why am I not
Speaker 2: taking responsibility over the fact that I keep going to
Speaker 2: the circus. I don't need to go to his apartment.
Speaker 2: I don't need to go meet up with him. I
Speaker 2: don't need to text him and tell him that the
Speaker 2: sandwich he cooked looks good it looks terrible. I don't
Speaker 2: need to do that. Instead of blaming him, why don't
Speaker 2: I take responsibility. As soon as you blame someone else,
Speaker 2: you're saying that your life is in their hands. As
Speaker 2: soon as you blame someone else, you're saying that they
Speaker 2: have more power over your reality. Than you do. If
Speaker 2: you want to do that, go off. Honestly, it doesn't
Speaker 2: affect me. Have fun. It's not going to serve you.
Speaker 2: It's not going to help you. You won't get good results.
Speaker 2: If you want to be a victim of planet Earth
Speaker 2: have fun, I can tell you you won't. You won't.
Speaker 2: Here's a fast pass. You won't enjoy it. Take it
Speaker 2: from someone who tried it. It doesn't work. It does
Speaker 2: not work. Whatever you allow you amplify in your own
Speaker 2: field and your life experience. If you keep allowing people
Speaker 2: to disrespect you, you're going to keep attracting people who
Speaker 2: disrespect you. If you can people allowing them to never
Speaker 2: make a plan with you and text you at nine
Speaker 2: pm to come over as a booty call, that's what
Speaker 2: you're going to get more of. If you never require
Speaker 2: them to take you out to dinner and you act
Speaker 2: like the girlfriend without being paid with the title of
Speaker 2: the girlfriends, you're going to get more of that. You
Speaker 2: have to reclaim your power by first of all taking
Speaker 2: responsibility and stop going to the circus, and secondly by
Speaker 2: having boundaries. Who are boundaries for? Are they for other people?
Speaker 2: Are they for the mystical mime? Under the bridge. No,
Speaker 2: boundaries are actually for you for what you're willing to accept,
Speaker 2: for what you're willing to endure. Did I forget to
Speaker 2: mention that fun is your divine right, that pleasure is
Speaker 2: your divine right, and you don't only have to learn
Speaker 2: through pain. Oh yeah, boundaries are for you to have
Speaker 2: a better life experience. I won't entertain inconsistency or weird,
Speaker 2: shady energy. I simply don't care. No one is that important,
Speaker 2: No one is that important. I came into this world alone,
Speaker 2: and ultimately I'm gonna leave it alone. Do I want
Speaker 2: love yes? Do I love divine union?
Speaker 1: Yes?
Speaker 2: Do I love relationships yes? Do I love men and women?
Speaker 3: Yes?
Speaker 2: We love everyone. But I'm not stupid, and neither are you.
Speaker 2: So I won't entertain something that's taking from me more
Speaker 2: than it's giving to me. If you are dealing with
Speaker 2: inconsistency narcissistic energies, all that's trying to show you is
Speaker 2: you don't choose yourself enough. You're still in a people
Speaker 2: pleasing container, and you need to learn how to prioritize yourself.
Speaker 2: If you keep day after day getting inconsistent behavior from
Speaker 2: the men that you're dating, it's showing you that you
Speaker 2: are actually inconsistent with yourself. If men keep ghosting you,
Speaker 2: it's because you are ghosting yourself. If they keep abandoning you,
Speaker 2: it's because you are abandoning yourself. Look at what they're
Speaker 2: doing to you. Because the electromagnetic field is trying to
Speaker 2: show you how you're actually treating yourself. The biggest me
Speaker 2: will be your intimate relationships. They are going to show
Speaker 2: you exactly they're going to amplify how you're treating yourself.
Speaker 2: Boundaries aren't for them. It's so you don't lose your shit.
Speaker 2: It's so you can remain on your own pedestal. It's
Speaker 2: so you can require and then have a higher quality
Speaker 2: of life. Boundaries are for you to respect yourself and
Speaker 2: to realize that you have the most power over your reality.
Speaker 2: Stop positively reinforcing bad behavior by people pleasing and just
Speaker 2: doing whatever it is that they want. Because the more
Speaker 2: you entertain the guy who's inconsistent, the more you block
Speaker 2: off the lover guy who wants to give you all
Speaker 2: of his love and be your hero. The more you
Speaker 2: entertain the guy who doesn't really care about you, the
Speaker 2: more you block off the guy who wants to give
Speaker 2: you everything. The more you entertain the clowns of the world,
Speaker 2: the less you're going to receive that prince energy. They
Speaker 2: are there, but you're not going to be able to
Speaker 2: find them. If you're engaging with people who literally don't
Speaker 2: care about you, it's not about them being evil. It's
Speaker 2: about you saying I have to create proximity from them.
Speaker 2: They're showing me how they feel about me through their
Speaker 2: actions of disrespect, and instead of me asking why don't
Speaker 2: they love me? I'm gonna ask myself why do I
Speaker 2: accept this behavior? Flip the script, make yourself the subject
Speaker 2: of your sentence again. Instead of wondering why won't they
Speaker 2: choose me? Why the hell do you never choose yourself?
Speaker 2: Instead of asking yourself, why aren't they attracted to me?
Speaker 2: Ask yourself, why am I attracted to someone who literally
Speaker 2: doesn't care about me. This has nothing to do with them.
Speaker 2: This has to do with you and your own lower
Speaker 2: self worth, your low self esteem. This has to do
Speaker 2: with the fact that you're still trying to prove to
Speaker 2: yourself that you're worthy of love. Your inner child right
Speaker 2: now is screaming, So it's time for you to realize
Speaker 2: that you're not just your innercher. You're also your wives
Speaker 2: inner adults reparent that girl and say, listen, little CC,
Speaker 2: you deserve more. And the only reason you're attracted to
Speaker 2: someone who's inconsistent is because the caregiver you crave love
Speaker 2: from growing up was inconsistent with you. And you're still
Speaker 2: trying to master that dynamic by repeatedly impulsively attracting people
Speaker 2: who remind you of that caregiver.
Speaker 1: No more.
Speaker 2: Instead of trying to convince people to choose me, I'm
Speaker 2: going to choose myself. What's going to bring me joy?
Speaker 2: What can I improve in my life? What do I
Speaker 2: have dreams of? And how can I make that my
Speaker 2: new north star. Give your mind something to focus on
Speaker 2: so that you're in control of your life. Otherwise your
Speaker 2: mind will find things to worry about. If you don't
Speaker 2: have something to positively obsess about that's going to empower you.
Speaker 2: Like reading a new book, learning a new language, mastering
Speaker 2: your body, mind's spirit, your mind will find something to
Speaker 2: worry about. In the same way you wouldn't positively reinforce
Speaker 2: your dog's bad behavior. Don't positively reinforce their bad behavior
Speaker 2: or yours, because then you're only going to elongate your
Speaker 2: own trauma. Right now, right here, We're gonna make two shifts.
Speaker 2: The first shift is shifting from our inner child of
Speaker 2: why won't they love me? To your wise inner adults,
Speaker 2: Why don't I love myself enough to leave? Why is
Speaker 2: it so hard for me to choose myself? The wrong
Speaker 2: questions will never give you the right answer, So flip
Speaker 2: the script. The second shift you're gonna make is from
Speaker 2: Mary Magdalen to Lilith. Mary Magdalen is a very loving energy.
Speaker 2: It's the role of endlessly forgiving, leading with love, washing
Speaker 2: of the feet, being in service. If you are consistently
Speaker 2: being mistreated, you might have been in an overact of
Speaker 2: Mary Magdalen energy of giving, give and giving giving, and
Speaker 2: you actually need to give to yourself. So what are
Speaker 2: you going to switch into Lilith? Lilith was actually, according
Speaker 2: to Jewish folklore, Adam's first wife, and Lilish was banned
Speaker 2: from the Garden of Eden because she decided that she
Speaker 2: did not want to allow Adam to get on top
Speaker 2: of her. She wanted to be on top, and when
Speaker 2: he said no, she left the Garden of Eden and
Speaker 2: she went near the Dead Sea. And then God sent
Speaker 2: a couple of angels to try to convince her to
Speaker 2: come back, and she said no. And when she said no,
Speaker 2: she was basically banned from the Garden of Eden. Lilith
Speaker 2: is an energy who stands up for herself, who speaks
Speaker 2: up for what she wants, who says no, actually I
Speaker 2: don't want you on top of me. I want to
Speaker 2: be on top. Actually no, I don't want to be
Speaker 2: in this space. I want to be over there. You
Speaker 2: want me to come back, Well, you're not giving me
Speaker 2: what I want. So the answer is no. I want
Speaker 2: you to make a conscious shift. From Mary Magdalene, the giver,
Speaker 2: the more martyr, the more people pleas are, the lover,
Speaker 2: the washing of the feet, to Lilith. No boundaries. I
Speaker 2: know what i want. I'm getting what I want. The
Speaker 2: divine does not disappoint me. I'm focused, I'm energized. I'm
Speaker 2: on my own pedestal from inner child to wise inner adults.
Speaker 2: I have boundaries. I respect myself. I understand that the
Speaker 2: higher my standard, the better quality experiences I'm going to get.
Speaker 2: Something that I've spoken about is what I call the
Speaker 2: Harvard principle. These Ivy League schools, they have a really
Speaker 2: high standard and a low acceptance rate. Apply that to
Speaker 2: your own life. Have a high standard for what you're
Speaker 2: going to allow and a low acceptance rate for bs.
Speaker 2: When you see someone can't give you what you want,
Speaker 2: that's not a moment for you to try to prove
Speaker 2: your worth. It's a moment for you to realize, oh,
Speaker 2: they're incapable, but someone else will be capable. Not everyone
Speaker 2: can afford Chanel. Chanel isn't like, oh my god, this
Speaker 2: is so embarrassing that they can't afford me. They're like, no,
Speaker 2: we want someone else, someone else who can afford me.
Speaker 2: Chanell knows if that person can't afford the bag, another
Speaker 2: person will. If someone can't give you what you want,
Speaker 2: someone else will. There is something called the boyfriend effect,
Speaker 2: where people say that when a girl gets into a
Speaker 2: relationship with a guy, the guy gets better looking, better style,
Speaker 2: But when a girl gets into a relationship, she ends
Speaker 2: up either gaining or losing too much weight, they say,
Speaker 2: looking frazzled all the time, doesn't have enough time to
Speaker 2: do or make up her hair. And the way I
Speaker 2: have kind of faced this because I literally thought about
Speaker 2: this and I thought that makes me not want to
Speaker 2: have a boyfriend. I know this is so little, but
Speaker 2: that really did cross my mind, And if you were
Speaker 2: like me, you might have thought about that too. I
Speaker 2: just want to say, having the right boyfriend, the right partner,
Speaker 2: actually allows you to have like this glow up because
Speaker 2: someone is giving you so much compassion, so much love,
Speaker 2: so much attention that you feel so safe and grounded
Speaker 2: on the planet that you actually glow up even more.
Speaker 2: When I thought about people spreading this negative narrative, the
Speaker 2: boyfriend effect, when you get into a relationship you get uglier,
Speaker 2: I literally thought to myself, I'd rather be single and pretty.
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I don't know what that makes me. It
Speaker 2: makes me honest, I'll say that, but yeah, I'm not
Speaker 2: trying to be an ugo. So I had to consciously
Speaker 2: say to myself, I've reject that narrative of the matrix,
Speaker 2: and I had to start telling myself that when you're
Speaker 2: in a relationship with the right person, you actually have
Speaker 2: a glow up. Now, when you are in a relationship
Speaker 2: with the wrong person, you do get anxiety. So that
Speaker 2: can cause weight gain, weight loss, it can cause hair loss,
Speaker 2: it can cause allergic reactions. When I was in a
Speaker 2: relationship for a while that was not the right one,
Speaker 2: I was breaking out in hives all of the time.
Speaker 2: So being with the wrong person can have a negative
Speaker 2: effect on your physical body because you're spending so much
Speaker 2: time in your sympathetic nervous system, your fight and flight response,
Speaker 2: which means that you're going to be pumping out cortisol
Speaker 2: and that's going to have a negative effect on your appearance.
Speaker 2: So being with the wrong person can negatively affect how
Speaker 2: you look. But let's not call that the boyfriend effect,
Speaker 2: because that did affect how I looked at relationships, and
Speaker 2: I want to just put that as a side note.
Speaker 2: So when you're with the right person, it does make
Speaker 2: you prettier, it makes you healthier, it makes you happier.
Speaker 2: Being with the wrong person, whether it's a friendship, a coworker,
Speaker 2: that's always going to have a negative effect on you
Speaker 2: because of your nervous system. You have to start looking
Speaker 2: for evidence of what you want to experience. If you
Speaker 2: want to experience a good man, look for good men
Speaker 2: in your life. Is there a trainer at the gym?
Speaker 2: Is there an uncle? Is there a brother? Is there
Speaker 2: a friend? Is there a father your friend's dad? Is
Speaker 2: there a coach? Is there any man in your life?
Speaker 2: That you look at and say, Damn, that's a good father,
Speaker 2: that's a good husband, that's a good dad, that's just
Speaker 2: a good man. Because the more you highlight and emphasize
Speaker 2: the positive qualities that you like in the masculine energy,
Speaker 2: the more you're going to attract that towards you and
Speaker 2: when you notice it, have a moment of appreciation. Wow.
Speaker 2: I really love how that coach talks to the women
Speaker 2: that he coaches. He really gives them space to show
Speaker 2: up as their most authentic self, whether they're being emotional
Speaker 2: having a day, or whether they're feeling really strong that day.
Speaker 2: He really allows them space to just be them. Or
Speaker 2: I really love how my friend's boyfriend is sweet with
Speaker 2: her and sensitive with her, but yet can be really
Speaker 2: masculine when he needs to be. I will tell you
Speaker 2: I'm in a relationship right now with such a good man.
Speaker 2: I've dated other good men. They just weren't my man,
Speaker 2: but they were good men. Think about men you dated.
Speaker 2: Maybe they weren't the one, but you're like, yeah, they
Speaker 2: were really kind, they were really nice. They showed up
Speaker 2: for me if I needed something, they were there for me.
Speaker 2: I recognize good people everywhere I go because it makes
Speaker 2: me feel good and it makes me happy. Start to
Speaker 2: recognize the good men that are in your life, or
Speaker 2: even just knowing that I currently am in a relationship
Speaker 2: with a good man can help you realize that there
Speaker 2: are still good men out there. I met this man
Speaker 2: about a little over two months ago. All those narratives
Speaker 2: that there is no good men left, well, that's a
Speaker 2: lie because I just met one two months ago. The
Speaker 2: sentiment that there are no good men period, that's a
Speaker 2: lie because I'm dating one right now. The sentiment that
Speaker 2: there's no masculine men anymore, that's a lie because I'm
Speaker 2: dating one right now. The sentiment that there's no emotionally
Speaker 2: available guys, that's a lie because I'm dating one right now.
Speaker 2: That's actually one of the first things I said to
Speaker 2: my boyfriend is WHOA you are so emotionally available. I
Speaker 2: was actually shocked that when I went on our first date,
Speaker 2: I already deleted my hinge, and so did he, even
Speaker 2: though we never spoke about it. He was still so
Speaker 2: ready for commitment and a relationship. Now, mind you, before
Speaker 2: we met, who deleted hinge?
Speaker 1: Me?
Speaker 2: I did. On eleven eleven, November eleventh, I deleted hinge
Speaker 2: and then on January eleventh, I re downloaded it and
Speaker 2: we matched. I knew I could not deal with any
Speaker 2: more men, because if I did, I was going to
Speaker 2: start to believe the negative things that people said about them,
Speaker 2: because not every single relationship or experience I had with
Speaker 2: a man was roses and daisies. Some of them were
Speaker 2: more difficult, Some were facing me with a lot of
Speaker 2: shadow work that I had to do, and I understood
Speaker 2: that it was my responsibility to take a beat and
Speaker 2: do that shadow work so I could stop attracting the
Speaker 2: same experiences. You know what you need to do. You're
Speaker 2: hearing these words, and you know what you need to do.
Speaker 2: If you're feeling burnt out, delete the apps, stop dating,
Speaker 2: and work on yourself. Take the shadow Alchemy course. That's
Speaker 2: exactly what I did before I met my current partner.
Speaker 2: I knew I needed to take a break, so I did,
Speaker 2: and once I took a break and worked on myself,
Speaker 2: I then did attract a better person. They are out there.
Speaker 2: Start looking for them, because right now, if you're talking
Speaker 2: about how all men are trash, that means you're also
Speaker 2: looking for men who are trashed. Your particular activating system
Speaker 2: is going to do the filtering for you. And if
Speaker 2: you're thinking about how all men are tracked, that's what
Speaker 2: you're gonna notice. That's what's gonna be highlighted to you.
Speaker 2: So you have to start looking for what it is
Speaker 2: you want to find. When you start looking for what
Speaker 2: it is you want to find, the funny thing is
Speaker 2: yet end up finding it. Think about the observer effect.
Speaker 2: When scientists observed an electron, it's solidified. It condensed from
Speaker 2: a wavelength into a three D particle. This means that
Speaker 2: what we look for we will find. When the scientists
Speaker 2: looked away, the one solid particle went back into wave
Speaker 2: length form. What you look for will be condensed in
Speaker 2: your reality. If you're looking and thinking and talking about
Speaker 2: how all men are trash, that's what you're gonna find.
Speaker 2: But if you look, if you think, if you feel,
Speaker 2: if you talk about how there are good men out there,
Speaker 2: that's what you're going to find. That's just how your
Speaker 2: brain works, It's how the electromagnetic field works, it's how
Speaker 2: your subconscious mind works. Let's say you're thinking, CC, I
Speaker 2: don't know any good men even look at couples, and
Speaker 2: I don't love this, but I'm grasping for straws here.
Speaker 2: People even look at people who you think a really
Speaker 2: good relationship online and say, I love the way that
Speaker 2: boyfriend does this, I love the way that husband does that.
Speaker 2: I don't watch like family bloggers or people like that,
Speaker 2: so I don't know what's going on on the internet
Speaker 2: these days, but there's gotta be someone. So find someone
Speaker 2: you like and go for that. If you can't find
Speaker 2: anyone in your reality that's a good man, you can't
Speaker 2: find someone on the internet that you think is good
Speaker 2: to their girlfriend or their wife, call on Jesus, call
Speaker 2: on Archangel Michael, call on Archangel Raphael, and use even
Speaker 2: a loving ancestor as someone to give you energetic security.
Speaker 2: There was a time in my life where I was
Speaker 2: just fed up with guys in the masculine energy, So
Speaker 2: instead of relying on them in the physical form, I
Speaker 2: just started working with Jesus every single day, and knowing
Speaker 2: that there was this masculine energy around me that was
Speaker 2: supporting me, directing me, protecting me all the time. It
Speaker 2: really just gave me that extra blanket of security and
Speaker 2: safety that I was wanting from a physical guy, and
Speaker 2: I do think ultimately that allowed me to attract a
Speaker 2: man who did give me safety. If you want to
Speaker 2: attract safety, it's sort of annoying, but you have to
Speaker 2: broadcast it before you actually get it out there. So
Speaker 2: if you want to attract a masculine partner, start with
Speaker 2: working with divinity. Date the divine In the couple of
Speaker 2: months between November eleven and January eleven, what was I doing.
Speaker 2: I was working with Brother Jesus. I was working with
Speaker 2: Archangel Michael. I was working with my divine team of
Speaker 2: light beings. I was working with Saint Germain and the
Speaker 2: Violet Flame to burn up seeds of karma. I was
Speaker 2: doing the energetic work because there's really no pill you
Speaker 2: can take to cleanse your energy. You just gotta do
Speaker 2: the work. So strap in, take a beat, and do
Speaker 2: the energetic work of the shadow work of transmuting your
Speaker 2: pain so you can actually attract different experiences. You can
Speaker 2: blame men for the rest of your life. It's not
Speaker 2: going to change what you attracts. I will remind you
Speaker 2: that all the courses are in the show notes. Thank
Speaker 2: you so much. Your past does not have to equal
Speaker 2: your future. It does not have to equal your present,
Speaker 2: and your power doesn't lie in your past nor your future.
Speaker 2: It lies in this moment right here to me. It
Speaker 2: was really helpful to realize that some of the more
Speaker 2: I could label them negative experiences I've had with men,
Speaker 2: I now on the other side of that experience, realize
Speaker 2: those were destined, Those were here by soul contracts because
Speaker 2: I needed to learn through those experiences. My human self
Speaker 2: CEC would never have chosen what I've experienced with some men.
Speaker 2: I would have never chosen that. CC didn't choose that,
Speaker 2: though my soul did. My eternal soul that has had
Speaker 2: many lifetimes and that will have many more lifetimes, chose
Speaker 2: to have certain men come into my life and trigger
Speaker 2: me and a little bit of traumatize me so that
Speaker 2: I can learn to develop and grow. I've made peace
Speaker 2: with that. I truly know that in my bones that
Speaker 2: that was all happening for me, and on some level
Speaker 2: I chose it. I am so sorry if something negative
Speaker 2: or traumatizing or something really hurtful has happened to you,
Speaker 2: and I do want to take this moment to just
Speaker 2: honor everything that you have been through, and I want
Speaker 2: to honor that you're still kicking and screaming, and I
Speaker 2: want to honor that you are still here and I
Speaker 2: want to honor that, even though shit has happened, you're
Speaker 2: still trying so hard to heal, and you're still trying
Speaker 2: so hard to show up as your best self, and
Speaker 2: you're still trying to just maybe take the next breath,
Speaker 2: and you're still trying to just take the next step,
Speaker 2: and you're still trying just to wake up and get
Speaker 2: out of bed and go to work. I want to
Speaker 2: honor that because that is not easy. That is not easy,
Speaker 2: and most people kick the bucket. Most people don't care.
Speaker 2: They let their trauma dictate how they're going to live
Speaker 2: the rest of their life. And you're not. You're not.
Speaker 2: So I know if you're listening to this, then you
Speaker 2: have enough will within you, You have enough momentum within
Speaker 2: you to realize that maybe, on some level, your soul
Speaker 2: chose is to give to you the momentum you need
Speaker 2: to move forward and to build the life of your dreams.
Speaker 2: I know that on some level, there is an ancient
Speaker 2: part of your soul right now that's itching to break
Speaker 2: to break down the barriers you feel other people have
Speaker 2: put you in, to break down the box you feel
Speaker 2: other people have put you in. There's a part of
Speaker 2: your soul that maybe's listening to me right now and
Speaker 2: knows that this is your truth, that you're more than
Speaker 2: what has happened to you. You're more than what you've experienced,
Speaker 2: and you have this new found maybe anger or resentment
Speaker 2: or hurt that you know that you can take this
Speaker 2: pain and use it as fuel to create. You ate
Speaker 2: that business, or to do the workout, or just to heal,
Speaker 2: or just to breathe, or just to go to work.
Speaker 2: You can use your pain and transmute it into power.
Speaker 2: You are an alchemist. You have the ability to transmute
Speaker 2: energy into anything you want. And that's why you're so powerful.
Speaker 2: That's why your soul has led you here today. You're
Speaker 2: not listening to this by accident. You're not here by
Speaker 2: some random weirdo circumstance. No, this is my divine design
Speaker 2: and you designed it. Your soul designed that you would
Speaker 2: be listening to me right now. Your soul design that
Speaker 2: you would be here so you could get gifted these
Speaker 2: codes to up level your life. On some level, maybe
Speaker 2: you're realizing that your human self will never be able
Speaker 2: to logically understand what you've gone through. Your human self
Speaker 2: will never be able to logically connect the dots. Your
Speaker 2: human self might not ever be able to understand why.
Speaker 2: But what if that's not the point of what has
Speaker 2: happened to you? What if the point isn't understand why.
Speaker 2: What if the point was just to experience it so
Speaker 2: you could cultivate momentum within your body to birth a
Speaker 2: new cycle, to birth a new you, to become even
Speaker 2: more powerful. What if that pain is just momentum to
Speaker 2: push you forward. You don't have to agree with me,
Speaker 2: but all I invite you to do is open up
Speaker 2: and become curious. What if? What if, on some sol
Speaker 2: crazy level, I actually chose this through a soul contract
Speaker 2: so that I could become more powerful. I was in
Speaker 2: an energy class ones and the teacher Anton was telling
Speaker 2: us that this woman was in a really abusive relationship
Speaker 2: for most of her life, and when she got out
Speaker 2: of it and started to heal and did past life regression,
Speaker 2: she actually found out that in a past life she
Speaker 2: was her current abusive partner's abusive spouse. So in a
Speaker 2: past life she abused this soul, and then in this
Speaker 2: life she had to pay karmic debt to that soul.
Speaker 2: I'm not saying that to you. I'm not saying that's
Speaker 2: what you've been through. I'm not saying that even applies
Speaker 2: to you. The reason I bring this up is because
Speaker 2: we have to realize that we are not made in
Speaker 2: a vacuum. We have past life energies that follow us
Speaker 2: into this one. And that means that, yeah, sometimes there's
Speaker 2: karma we got to pay up to other souls. That
Speaker 2: means that, yeah, we do choose certain experiences to push
Speaker 2: us to grow, develop and learn. It means that we
Speaker 2: are more than just this current incarnation. I invite you
Speaker 2: to become curious instead of furious at what you have experienced,
Speaker 2: because in curiosity, you can grow, you can change, and
Speaker 2: you can try to better. I highly recommend if you
Speaker 2: are dealing with more difficult energy is to join the
Speaker 2: Art of Alchemy course because it's going to help you
Speaker 2: transmute some of those seeds of karma, but also any
Speaker 2: lower vibrational emotion that maybe you're having trouble working through.
Speaker 2: I want to remind you that as you're listening just
Speaker 2: to this podcast, you are changing on a cellular level,
Speaker 2: that you are changing on an energetic level, and walking forward,
Speaker 2: you are never going to attract what you have because
Speaker 2: it's scientifically impossible. As you shift in vibration, as you
Speaker 2: listen to these words, as you learn more about yourself,
Speaker 2: your energetic signature is shifting, So what you attract must
Speaker 2: shift its energetic law. We have to remember that we
Speaker 2: don't just attract what is like a vibration to us.
Speaker 2: We attract based on our own beliefs. So if I
Speaker 2: believe that all men suck, all bosses suck, that's what
Speaker 2: I'm going to attract. I want to remind you some
Speaker 2: bosses do suck, some men do suck. Some dogs are violent,
Speaker 2: some women are annoying to me, they are. I want
Speaker 2: to remind you that in general, yeah, some people are
Speaker 2: not great, but when you generalize that to a whole
Speaker 2: entire gender, you hurt yourself. If I allowed past experiences
Speaker 2: with women to dictate how I saw all women, I
Speaker 2: would be in big old trouble. I had friendships where
Speaker 2: people did not really treat me that well. Women did
Speaker 2: not treat me well. They low key bullied me, they
Speaker 2: isolated me, they let me out. If I was to say, well,
Speaker 2: that's how all women are, I would never be able
Speaker 2: to have any friends that were women ever. If I
Speaker 2: allowed my negative experiences with some of the men to
Speaker 2: dictate how I dated in the future, I would never
Speaker 2: have been able to attract my current partner. Some chocolate
Speaker 2: tastes bitter, some dogs are violent, some men are trash.
Speaker 2: But stop saying it's all of them, because that is
Speaker 2: limiting what you are able to attract. You have to
Speaker 2: open up your thresholds for what you're willing to receive
Speaker 2: and what you're willing to believe about the world. If
Speaker 2: you don't believe that there are good men out there,
Speaker 2: start to open yourself up by using what if statements.
Speaker 2: What if there are really good men out there? What
Speaker 2: if I could attract a partner that is super kind,
Speaker 2: super gentle, and yet super masculine. What if my husband
Speaker 2: is the hottest, wealthiest, funniest man out there? Have fun
Speaker 2: with this. If you want to play a game with
Speaker 2: yourself or friends, do the what if game. What if
Speaker 2: I attract a partner who is everything I could want
Speaker 2: and more?
Speaker 3: What if the.
Speaker 2: Universe blesses me with the best person I could even
Speaker 2: conceive and think about? What if my relationships just get
Speaker 2: better and better and better and better and better. What
Speaker 2: if when someone would say that all men suck to me?
Speaker 2: Or when I would see something I didn't like in
Speaker 2: a man, I would just say to myself, my husband
Speaker 2: would ever do that. That man might be doing it,
Speaker 2: that man might be a cheater, that man might be this,
Speaker 2: But my husband, Nope, My husband is the sweetest, the kindest,
Speaker 2: the most masculine man out there. My husband would never
Speaker 2: do that to me. So I don't care if I'm
Speaker 2: dating someone in a relationship with someone. I'm just looking
Speaker 2: at someone. If they do something I don't like, I'm
Speaker 2: going to say my husband would never do that, because
Speaker 2: I'm not going to hurt my ability to attract the
Speaker 2: best of the best of the best of the best.
Speaker 2: And by the way, whatever you have experienced, if it
Speaker 2: has left your life, just know that it gets better.
Speaker 2: It gets better. If something was divinely removed from your life,
Speaker 2: it's because there's something better out there. Your past experiences
Speaker 2: with men are there for you to learn from. They're
Speaker 2: not there to dictate what your future is going to
Speaker 2: look like. Your past with men and who you have
Speaker 2: dated is there for you to develop from. To you
Speaker 2: as a jumping off point, not as a mirror for
Speaker 2: what you're going to attract in your future. Let your
Speaker 2: past be your past and let it rest in peace.
Speaker 2: It has nothing to do with where your going. It
Speaker 2: gets better from here. That's how the universe works. It's
Speaker 2: constantly rerouting. You think about your GPS. If you go
Speaker 2: off track, what does it do. It reroutes you back
Speaker 2: onto the correct path. It doesn't bully you about your
Speaker 2: past and say you have to go back to where
Speaker 2: you start to know. It just reroutes you onto another
Speaker 2: road to get you where you want to go. If
Speaker 2: you know that you want a better partner, you want
Speaker 2: better relationships, then that's what you're going to get. But
Speaker 2: you might be rerouted. You might have to go through
Speaker 2: a breakup. You might have to say no, you might
Speaker 2: have to set a boundary, you might have to shift
Speaker 2: your beliefs, you might have to take the art of
Speaker 2: alchemy course. But you're gonna get there. Enjoy the season,
Speaker 2: enjoy where you're at, because it gets better from here.
Speaker 2: As always, the sparkling me honors of sparkling you. I'm
Speaker 2: sending you so much love. If you've not yet gotten
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