Speaker 1: Episode with two stories. First part, I hope you enjoy
Speaker 1: this story. The resident became extremely upset after we constructed
Speaker 1: a barrier on our land because she can no longer
Speaker 1: intrude through our garden. She has contacted law enforcement, submitted
Speaker 1: inaccurate claims, and is bothering us us. We used to
Speaker 1: get along great with our next door neighbor. For context,
Speaker 1: she is an older Polish woman who lives alone and
Speaker 1: is very ocd about her grass. She will pick up
Speaker 1: leaves as they fall down from the tree and pick
Speaker 1: up leaves off her grass even if it rained anyway.
Speaker 1: She has a front fence that she didn't run all
Speaker 1: down her property line. She stopped it at the front
Speaker 1: so her whole right side of her home is exposed.
Speaker 1: Next two hours, then picked up the fence when her
Speaker 1: back yard begins. We had more than a few times
Speaker 1: where strangers would enter the side of our house and
Speaker 1: actually try and enter our home, so my husband decided
Speaker 1: to put up a front fence. At the time, my
Speaker 1: neighbor was redoing her backyard fence and she knew my
Speaker 1: husband also wanted to do his backyard fence, so she
Speaker 1: recommend her guy. As she followed up to see if
Speaker 1: my husband called the guy to get the work. My
Speaker 1: husband told her that he did, and that he also
Speaker 1: asked the guy for a quote for the front as well.
Speaker 1: She immediately lost it. Since then, she has been acting
Speaker 1: so crazy. It started with her calling the alderman and
Speaker 1: she wrongfully accused us of taking her land. The alderman
Speaker 1: came and spoke with us and sided with me and
Speaker 1: my husband. The problem is that she wants to use
Speaker 1: our front walkway that's on the side of our house
Speaker 1: to access her right side of her property, the side
Speaker 1: that she didn't fence, so she fenced herself out and
Speaker 1: has always just went on our property to access her side.
Speaker 1: She's mad cause with our fence, she can't just walk
Speaker 1: in and go to her side of her house anymore.
Speaker 1: We told her we would give her a key, and
Speaker 1: she said no. Since she accused us of stealing her land,
Speaker 1: we didn't feel comfortable about allowing her to come and
Speaker 1: go off our property any more, but she didn't care.
Speaker 1: She called a handyman to install a security camera and
Speaker 1: he worked on our side of the property and she
Speaker 1: didn't ask. I ask the guide to please inform her
Speaker 1: for any future work she will need to ask us
Speaker 1: for permission before she enters our property. The security camera
Speaker 1: was to watch us because she was so paranoid we
Speaker 1: would build a fence. This Saturday, we had the company
Speaker 1: begin work and she totally lost it. She harassed the workers,
Speaker 1: telling them to stop work, and she was accusing us
Speaker 1: of stealing land. She threatened to report them to the
Speaker 1: city and to call the inspector on us. My husband
Speaker 1: had to stay outside with guys as they worked, and
Speaker 1: when he went in, she would come back out and
Speaker 1: harass them. Then she called the police for police cars came.
Speaker 1: I don't know what she told them, but it was
Speaker 1: not the truth because the cops sided with us and
Speaker 1: told her to stay inside and not bother us. Then
Speaker 1: Sunday she paces looking at our fence posts, staring. She
Speaker 1: looked at our fence posts like ten times on Sunday,
Speaker 1: and then she was pacing our back yard and we
Speaker 1: have her on camera just staring and pacing and starting
Speaker 1: in so creepy. Then Monday, she is walking and starting
Speaker 1: again and she stops on our neighbors and starts complaining
Speaker 1: to him about our fence right in front of our house.
Speaker 1: She continues pacing and staring through the day. Then later
Speaker 1: that Monday, a guy comes and she walks him to
Speaker 1: our house and he starts looking at our posts. My
Speaker 1: husband came out this time and asked the guy who
Speaker 1: this was and why he was interested in looking at
Speaker 1: our property. He told us that he is a realtor
Speaker 1: and a good friend of hers, and he came because
Speaker 1: she called him, telling him that we stole her property
Speaker 1: from her and accused us of putting posts on her property,
Speaker 1: which was all lies. We immediately showed him our proof
Speaker 1: and he agreed with us and tried to mediate with her,
Speaker 1: explaining that we are legally able to build and that
Speaker 1: she can extend her fence so she is not blocked out.
Speaker 1: She just said no, no, and didn't want to do that,
Speaker 1: so my husband just left. We made sure everything was recorded.
Speaker 1: Then to day she came outside and stared at our
Speaker 1: property again, just pacing. She did the same in the
Speaker 1: back yard, Then she went to the front and started
Speaker 1: flagging down neighbors who she never talks to, and starts
Speaker 1: to complain about our fence, calling us bad people and
Speaker 1: that we are stealing her land. She is acting so malicious.
Speaker 1: What do I do? It's crazy? Edit, So I called
Speaker 1: the police to see what she accused us of. On Saturday.
Speaker 1: They said that she alleged we were encroaching on her
Speaker 1: property and blocking her egress. The claim was noted as
Speaker 1: false by the police. Update March twentieth, twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1: It snowed and the neighbor came out with her hair
Speaker 1: curlers and her hair and her pajamas and slippers, no jacket,
Speaker 1: So she was in some hurry and went to the
Speaker 1: front of our house to stare while she was on
Speaker 1: the phone. Not sure what information she needed from staring
Speaker 1: at our posts. Maybe she needed our address. Looks like
Speaker 1: she's trying to call some one else on us. She
Speaker 1: is straight loosing it as she knows. The fence will
Speaker 1: be completed as soon as weather is better. Additional info
Speaker 1: Boop clarifies the drawing of the fences. Boop, Sorry, yes,
Speaker 1: the drawing isn't the greatest, but to help explain, she
Speaker 1: has a six feet iron fence in the front of
Speaker 1: her property. It goes all the way down the left
Speaker 1: side of her house, but on the right side. She
Speaker 1: stopped the fence at the beginning of her house and
Speaker 1: curved it in so it leaves the right side of
Speaker 1: her house not fenced all the way until the end
Speaker 1: of her house. She then continues the fence and curves
Speaker 1: it in when her garage begins. She is upset because
Speaker 1: with our front fence she can't go on our property
Speaker 1: to get to her side. Every day she is out
Speaker 1: staring and calling people to her house to look at
Speaker 1: it and complain. Update one April tenth, twenty twenty five.
Speaker 1: Our fence has been up for a week and a half.
Speaker 1: The neighbor surprisingly did not bother the workers when they
Speaker 1: put the panels up. I was so surprised, So that's
Speaker 1: why I didn't really do an update, because I was like, Okay,
Speaker 1: this is over. Finally she must have come to her senses. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I was wrong. On Tuesday, I was coming home from
Speaker 1: picking up my child from school and some man ran
Speaker 1: out his car and shouted if I was the owner
Speaker 1: of the home. I asked who he was, and he
Speaker 1: stated he was from the city building in code enforcement,
Speaker 1: while also briefly flashing his ID at me. I then
Speaker 1: proceeded to tell him that I am the owner and
Speaker 1: why was he here. He stated that he received a
Speaker 1: complaint about a building violation and that our fence is
Speaker 1: too tall, and we must cut it down from six
Speaker 1: feet to five feet. Keep in mind my neighbor's fence
Speaker 1: is taller than ours. B t W. I told the
Speaker 1: inspector that three licensed contractors that we contacted all informed
Speaker 1: us we didn't need a permit, but that if they
Speaker 1: were wrong, we would gladly comply, of course, and or
Speaker 1: apply for the needed permit. He stated that there is
Speaker 1: no possible way the city would approve it, and I
Speaker 1: told him we will work with the city and find
Speaker 1: a solution. We don't want to cut corners and want
Speaker 1: to do it right. My husband then comes out and
Speaker 1: gets informed on what's going on, and then my husband
Speaker 1: asks the inspector for his email or business card so
Speaker 1: we can follow up and work together to fix it.
Speaker 1: The guy refused to give us any card or email
Speaker 1: to follow up with him. He told my husband all
Speaker 1: the information is on the city website. Why do you
Speaker 1: need my information for? He was very rude. I know
Speaker 1: how to talk with people, so I told him, look,
Speaker 1: I get you come across a lot of people who
Speaker 1: argue back and give you a hard time, so you're
Speaker 1: on guard. But I assure you we don't want to argue,
Speaker 1: and we want to fix this issue. He then calmed
Speaker 1: down and told us he has kids too, and he
Speaker 1: understand why we need a fence, et cetera. He then
Speaker 1: told us he would give us forty eight hours to
Speaker 1: get a permit, and then he left. Once I got home,
Speaker 1: I reviewed the camera footage, and the inspector entered our
Speaker 1: property and did not ring the doorbell to try and
Speaker 1: speak with us. He just trespased and was walking around
Speaker 1: looking at our property. He didn't measure anything, nothing, So
Speaker 1: I began to get suspicious. I then remembered when my
Speaker 1: neighbor threatened us and the workers, saying she had an
Speaker 1: inspector friend and she was going to report us. On
Speaker 1: top of that, why didn't the inspector want to give
Speaker 1: me any information to follow up? So weird? Then he
Speaker 1: tells me to get a permit in forty eight hours.
Speaker 1: He didn't even tell me which one. And if he
Speaker 1: said the city would not approve it, why didn't he
Speaker 1: tell me to apply in forty eight hours? Things just
Speaker 1: seemed off I'd so then I went to do my research.
Speaker 1: I contacted my alderman's office and asked for assistance in
Speaker 1: applying for a permit. I wanted to make sure we
Speaker 1: did the right steps after we apply for our permit.
Speaker 1: I asked the representative if they could look up the
Speaker 1: complaint for me because the interaction with the inspector seemed suspicious.
Speaker 1: She agreed and looks up the report. There was a
Speaker 1: report made seventeen days ago by our neighbor before our
Speaker 1: fence panels were up, that our fence was not on
Speaker 1: our property line. The report said nothing about fence height.
Speaker 1: She also told me there was no inspector assigned to
Speaker 1: the case and that it was still open pending investigation.
Speaker 1: So that's weird. I'd maybe he was legit and didn't
Speaker 1: update the case, but it's all not adding up. So
Speaker 1: the alderman agrees this is weird and states that they
Speaker 1: are going to get some one from downtown involved to
Speaker 1: speak with my neighbor because she is harassing us and
Speaker 1: it's just too much. The report she made was false,
Speaker 1: Our fence posts are on our property lines. We have
Speaker 1: our plat survey that proves all of this, in addition
Speaker 1: to all the other things listed in my other Reddit
Speaker 1: posts that she has done. So to day, I'm just
Speaker 1: minding my own business like I usually do, and I
Speaker 1: get a notification on my camera. I see some one
Speaker 1: sticking their hand through my fence, pointing at my back,
Speaker 1: and moving down my fence repeatedly doing the same thing.
Speaker 1: So I go outside and calmly ask the women, do
Speaker 1: you have any questions about my fence that I can
Speaker 1: help you with. I see that you're sticking your hand
Speaker 1: through and pointing. She tells me, I'm your neighbor down
Speaker 1: the block. I was just speaking with your next door
Speaker 1: neighbor and she has a problem with your fence. I
Speaker 1: let her know that the neighbor's claims are bogus, and
Speaker 1: that we now have a permit for the height of
Speaker 1: our fence, and I have a survey of our property
Speaker 1: proving we are on our property line. I told her
Speaker 1: that the neighbor is crazy and if she has any
Speaker 1: concerns to please speak with me. As I turn, I
Speaker 1: see my neighbor in her bushes by her door. She
Speaker 1: was outside the whole time and stopped the neighbor as
Speaker 1: she was walking her dog to complain about our fence
Speaker 1: and spread false claims again. Then the neighbor leaves and
Speaker 1: immediately stands and stares at our house, looking at the
Speaker 1: permit displayed on our front door. This is getting crazy
Speaker 1: and I really didn't want to do tit for tat,
Speaker 1: but I reported her illegal basement apartment, which is not
Speaker 1: a false allegation because her zoning does not allow for
Speaker 1: a basement apartment. She also does not have two entrances.
Speaker 1: I really didn't want to do it, but she is
Speaker 1: really pushing me to become a person I don't want
Speaker 1: to be. I want this all to be over already
Speaker 1: praying she can finally understand reality soon. I will update
Speaker 1: if anything else happens. Additional information from O O P,
Speaker 1: who has received the translation of the audio file. O
Speaker 1: O P. I got the translation here. It is if
Speaker 1: you're interested. Women is my crazy neighbor. Man is her
Speaker 1: realtor friend She called over to look at my house
Speaker 1: and complain. It looks like he was trying to actually
Speaker 1: help us, and she was getting mad at him. He
Speaker 1: was mostly trying to mediate with her, allowing us to
Speaker 1: close the back fence that has always been closed for
Speaker 1: over twenty years. But now that she is mad, she
Speaker 1: is not allowing us to close it because she owns
Speaker 1: a couple inches of property next to her garage that
Speaker 1: is unfenced and open to our properties, So in order
Speaker 1: to close it off from the alley, we need to
Speaker 1: close it on her few inches of property, or else
Speaker 1: someone can slip through. Disily, she is just using that
Speaker 1: as leverage. Doesn't matter to us. We can just fence
Speaker 1: it straight down our property if we have to, and
Speaker 1: she will have awkward fenced in boxes on the side
Speaker 1: of her house and she can't get in. Makes no sense.
Speaker 1: She is just using that as leverage because it's all
Speaker 1: she has. That's the back story on the back l ol.
Speaker 1: And below in the transcript, Woman, it's mine. Man, yeah,
Speaker 1: but you use this M. The rats were running in
Speaker 1: front of the garage. W. He should catch those rats.
Speaker 1: EM okay today W curses. I'm sorry the rats were running. M.
Speaker 1: Does it bother you? Why? W? Yes, it bothers me.
Speaker 1: And he will destroy it because he is so mean
Speaker 1: and it will M. But he asked you and you agreed. W. No,
Speaker 1: nobody talked to me about it. They just put up
Speaker 1: the fence English part. W cries Jesus on no, no, M.
Speaker 1: And now what's bothering you that it'll be open or
Speaker 1: that it'll be closed? W? What that? M? So if
Speaker 1: he closes it and puts something it'll be safer for
Speaker 1: you and for M. W. But but it's mine. M.
Speaker 1: Why does that bother you? W It bothers me because
Speaker 1: I'll have the entrance there M where W from that side? M?
Speaker 1: But from that side you block the entrance yourself. W.
Speaker 1: I'm going home because it's too cold. Are we going? M?
Speaker 1: Wait a second, W No, No, I don't want to
Speaker 1: talk to him. I'll talk to some one else. I'm
Speaker 1: going to go to the city hall. M. What do
Speaker 1: you want them to do? Two? Put here? W. I'll
Speaker 1: just sort this out. I'm not giving up M. To
Speaker 1: be honest, I'll tell you I live in a building
Speaker 1: far from the down town and I've done something to
Speaker 1: my neighbors too. They have something near their house. W.
Speaker 1: But why are you talking to them? You came to
Speaker 1: see me. M. You know what. I think you could
Speaker 1: stand your ground. But it doesn't make sense because he W. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'll stand my ground and he will do the same.
Speaker 1: You know what, Nobody asks me for my permission and
Speaker 1: do what they want. M. He said that he asked
Speaker 1: for permission. W. You know what I'm saying. M. But
Speaker 1: why do you need the entrance to the garage from
Speaker 1: this side? W. They did everything. Nobody asked me. It's
Speaker 1: mine M. But you should look and see what you
Speaker 1: did to the neighbors. Something with the entrance. W. This
Speaker 1: have been like this since the beginning, do you remember, M.
Speaker 1: But today someone could come to you and tell you
Speaker 1: to take down something. W. Then I'll take it down. M.
Speaker 1: That would satisfy you. W. You know what. I'm going home. M.
Speaker 1: If I were you, I would let him to do
Speaker 1: that thing. W And I won't M. But it'll be
Speaker 1: safer and he will put a fence here W and
Speaker 1: no M, so you will have W. No nobody asked me,
Speaker 1: and I won't allow it. So I'm going home. I'm cold. M.
Speaker 1: I'll go with you soon. W. You shouldn't be the
Speaker 1: one sorting this out. English Part update two April twenty ninth,
Speaker 1: twenty five. I know it's been a few weeks since
Speaker 1: my last update. A few of my neighbors actually found
Speaker 1: my post. So to protect the privacy and security of
Speaker 1: myself and my neighbor, I removed my old posts because
Speaker 1: there was pictures and videos that I didn't want getting
Speaker 1: shared to neighborhood platforms. I mainly made my post to
Speaker 1: vent and get feedback and didn't intend on it getting
Speaker 1: so popular. It made it around the world and back
Speaker 1: to my block. Lol, But I do appreciate the support
Speaker 1: and advice from everyone on to the update. So a
Speaker 1: lot has happened in the past two weeks. To start,
Speaker 1: the workers came back to paint our fence and weld
Speaker 1: some mesh on the fence. Our neighbor freaked out and
Speaker 1: thought the workers welded our fence to her post. She
Speaker 1: called our mediator representative from the Alderman's office. She came
Speaker 1: out to check and immediately saw that we did not
Speaker 1: connect her fence post to ours. Then our neighbor got
Speaker 1: mad and started demanding for us to personally show her
Speaker 1: our fence plans and permits. We had our permit on
Speaker 1: our door. She got more mad and used a racial
Speaker 1: slur to towards me and my family. And keep in
Speaker 1: mind she said the racial slur about us to the
Speaker 1: representative of the Alderman's office, so it has been documented.
Speaker 1: That same day an officer from the city department from
Speaker 1: Building and Code Enforcement showed up to our house. Again.
Speaker 1: It was a different guy this time. He told us
Speaker 1: that there was a report made alleging we were building
Speaker 1: a whole new garage without a permit. We haven't changed
Speaker 1: our garage at all. It's the same as when we
Speaker 1: bought our home, and it's clear to anyone it was
Speaker 1: not just built. The building inspector immediately closed the case.
Speaker 1: At this point, our neighbor is being malicious and is
Speaker 1: making false reports to harass us. What really worries me
Speaker 1: is that if we ever want to sell our home,
Speaker 1: these reports stay on record, even though they are false
Speaker 1: and dismissed. After this, we did a FOYA Freedom of
Speaker 1: Information Act for any three hundred eleven reports for our address.
Speaker 1: She made three reports to the City do B Department
Speaker 1: of Buildings, all made in March and all made before
Speaker 1: our fence panels were even put up. She alleged we
Speaker 1: built a new garage, that our fence posts was not
Speaker 1: on our property line, and that we had installed a
Speaker 1: side fence without building permit, all false allegations. Keep in
Speaker 1: mind we adjust the posts up March eighteenth, and our
Speaker 1: panels didn't get put until April fifth. We also didn't
Speaker 1: build the side fence she is talking about yet, so
Speaker 1: she did a complaint in advance. Assuming we have no permit,
Speaker 1: can't even make this stuff up. It's insane. Then she
Speaker 1: made a false allegation to a police officer and told
Speaker 1: them my husband was yelling and screaming at her and
Speaker 1: throwing his hands up, intimidating her during a time she
Speaker 1: was talking to her neighbors. Then the said neighbor walks
Speaker 1: to her car at the same moment her and the
Speaker 1: cop are talking in. My neighbor points telling the cop
Speaker 1: to go ask the women our neighbor from across the street.
Speaker 1: The cop goes over and talks to her, and the
Speaker 1: woman tells the cop my husband didn't do what was alleged.
Speaker 1: Then the cop goes back over and tells my neighbor
Speaker 1: that the witness to the alleged incident says nothing like
Speaker 1: that happened. I also had the video and audio recording
Speaker 1: of that conversation. My husband went outside because she involved
Speaker 1: three neighbors at this point, calling them over talking about
Speaker 1: our fence and us. He went outside to talk to
Speaker 1: the other people and not her. Even his body language
Speaker 1: in the video was not aggressive and he was not
Speaker 1: talking to her directly at all. After he told the
Speaker 1: neighbors what is happening our side, he left and let
Speaker 1: them continue talking yet she wants to actually lie and
Speaker 1: try and put him in jail. So glad I have
Speaker 1: every interaction recorded. Same day, she gets very erratic and
Speaker 1: upset that things didn't go her way. That she comes
Speaker 1: outside while I'm outside and starts singing humming like an
Speaker 1: opera singer. She has never did this before, and it
Speaker 1: was just weird. I ignore her as I always do
Speaker 1: and just let her be. Then she decides to go
Speaker 1: inside and get her purse to pretend like she is
Speaker 1: going somewhere, and goes across the street, intentionally avoiding crossing
Speaker 1: in front of the neighbor who told the truth to
Speaker 1: the cops. They were outside on their porch. I assume
Speaker 1: she is now upset with them because they told the truth.
Speaker 1: Then she goes and talks to their next door neighbor,
Speaker 1: who was just watering her grass. She proceeds to talk
Speaker 1: about our fence and us to them. I saw it
Speaker 1: all plain as day because I was outside. I let
Speaker 1: it go because I want to avoid her as I
Speaker 1: always do, but it was so annoying. Then she leaves,
Speaker 1: and literally five minutes later she comes back in her house.
Speaker 1: She just went around the block and pretended to leave
Speaker 1: to just talk to another neighbor about us and just
Speaker 1: slander us and paint us as bad people. I honestly
Speaker 1: cannot understand this behavior. Then same day she calls some
Speaker 1: one over to come look at our back yard. I
Speaker 1: literally can't catch a break with her. We aren't doing
Speaker 1: anything wrong. Our fence is permitted by the city. She
Speaker 1: is just mad that she can't walk down our property
Speaker 1: as she did for twenty eight years to reach the
Speaker 1: side of her house that she fenced herself out from.
Speaker 1: And she can fix, but she refuses and instead blames us.
Speaker 1: That's the end of the first story. Let's begin the
Speaker 1: second one. I hope you enjoy this story. What was
Speaker 1: the most heart trending experience your parents put you through.
Speaker 1: My parents weren't particularly keen on having children. I was
Speaker 1: their sole offspring and essentially a surprise conception. As far
Speaker 1: as I know, relatives have told me. My childhood was
Speaker 1: initially good, but after I started growing out of the
Speaker 1: cute and adorable phase, my parents were less inclined to
Speaker 1: spend time with me. They both worked and had their
Speaker 1: own business that they started together. That business was their life,
Speaker 1: and I always came second to it. Any Other close
Speaker 1: family members lived states away, and I barely knew anything
Speaker 1: about them until I was an adult, so I had
Speaker 1: no other family around my entire childhood. I was practically
Speaker 1: raised by t V and my school teachers. My own
Speaker 1: birthdays by the time I became a teenager, were often
Speaker 1: spent without my parents, as they just give me some
Speaker 1: money and tell me to go out and buy whatever
Speaker 1: I wanted. It was more or less the same with
Speaker 1: Christmas and sometimes even back to school shopping. After after
Speaker 1: I turned ten, my parents no longer wanted to buy
Speaker 1: a tree at all. I had to convince my parents
Speaker 1: to buy a fake one that I could build up
Speaker 1: and then take a part later every year. When I
Speaker 1: turned sixteen, I asked my parents if I could work
Speaker 1: part time for them at their business. They rejected me
Speaker 1: immediately and told me they didn't have any open spots.
Speaker 1: They may as well have just come right out and
Speaker 1: said they didn't want me there. After I turned eighteen,
Speaker 1: my parents told me that since I was an adult,
Speaker 1: they expected me to move out as soon as I
Speaker 1: was able. I was working part time because I was
Speaker 1: still in high school and I didn't have anywhere near
Speaker 1: enough save for college. Not long after high school ended,
Speaker 1: my parents told me to pack up and move out.
Speaker 1: They got an official eviction notice that gave me thirty
Speaker 1: days and everything. They didn't even help me move. I
Speaker 1: had to get help from a friend's dad who owns
Speaker 1: a truck. I ended up renting a cramp apartment and
Speaker 1: working retail. I had no real life experience and no
Speaker 1: time for college. After just a few few months, I
Speaker 1: got fired because my manager legitimately head it out for
Speaker 1: me and wrote me up for the stupidest things. I
Speaker 1: ended up going broke pretty fast because I was terrible
Speaker 1: at managing my own money and couldn't find steady employment.
Speaker 1: So I lost my apartment. I went back to my
Speaker 1: parents begging for help, but they refused to take me in,
Speaker 1: not even for a little while to get back on
Speaker 1: my feet. I ended up homeless and living out of
Speaker 1: a tent in someone's back yard during the winter. My
Speaker 1: friends had all moved on to college, some in other states,
Speaker 1: and I was just a broke kid taking whatever work
Speaker 1: I could to stay alive. My salvation came when one
Speaker 1: of the neighbors of my parents found out I was
Speaker 1: living out of a tent and offered to take me
Speaker 1: in for a little while. So I wouldn't freeze. She
Speaker 1: helped me badger my parents into telling me how to
Speaker 1: get in touch with the other members of my estranged family.
Speaker 1: My parents did not want to tell us at all.
Speaker 1: My guess is it was out of fear of being
Speaker 1: judged for throwing their son out the way they did. Eventually,
Speaker 1: they coughed up the info and gave me a list
Speaker 1: of contact details. Then they told me not to bother
Speaker 1: them ever again. Thankfully, I was able to call my
Speaker 1: grandparents from my father's side of the family. They were
Speaker 1: very surprised and happy to hear from me because they
Speaker 1: hadn't seen me since I was an infant. After learning
Speaker 1: about my situation, my grandparents flew me over to live
Speaker 1: with them as soon as they could. They basically adopted me.
Speaker 1: My parents didn't even see me off at the airport,
Speaker 1: despite being invited to. I had zero contact with them
Speaker 1: for pretty much a decade. My grandparents said they despised
Speaker 1: my parents for treating me so poorly, and legally disowned
Speaker 1: them by striking them from their wills. I'm told my
Speaker 1: parents were not happy to hear that. However, I figured
Speaker 1: it didn't really matter because they were plenty well off
Speaker 1: and didn't need anything from my grandparents. How wrong that
Speaker 1: statement turned out to be. After about a year of
Speaker 1: living with my grandparents, I was able to afford community college,
Speaker 1: I got an associate's degree, got a decent job, and
Speaker 1: eventually my grandparents offered to sell me their house so
Speaker 1: they could retire to Arizona. My grandma wanted to live
Speaker 1: in a warmer climate, as the cold winter was getting
Speaker 1: harder and harder on her health every year. I was
Speaker 1: sad to see them go, but I happily bought the house.
Speaker 1: They sold it to me for one third of its value,
Speaker 1: and I'll have it paid off in a few more years.
Speaker 1: My position at the time forced me to go away
Speaker 1: on the road periodically. As a result, I can end
Speaker 1: up away from home for weeks at a time. One
Speaker 1: day in late twenty twenty, I came home after being
Speaker 1: away for over two weeks. Upon arrival, I found a
Speaker 1: large white vin I did not recognize in my driveway.
Speaker 1: I was getting ready to call the police when I
Speaker 1: noticed the van had the logo from my parents business
Speaker 1: on the side of it. All I felt was dread.
Speaker 1: My parents had broken in somehow and were living out
Speaker 1: of my home. On top of that, they had the
Speaker 1: nerve to greet me like we were buddy buddy. The
Speaker 1: moment I walked in, I told them to get the
Speaker 1: hell out, but they refused because it was grandma and
Speaker 1: Grandpa's house. I said it wasn't their house any more,
Speaker 1: since they'd sold it to me when they retired. I
Speaker 1: told them they'd have known that if they were in
Speaker 1: any way involved in my life, but they threw me
Speaker 1: to the wolves ten years prior, with no life experience.
Speaker 1: We argued, and they refused to leave. My father told
Speaker 1: me it was his parents house first, and that meant
Speaker 1: he and my mother had the right to live there
Speaker 1: if they wanted. I walked right into my bedroom, locked
Speaker 1: the door, and called the police. When the cops showed up,
Speaker 1: they were of no help. My parents claimed to them
Speaker 1: that they had already been there long enough to have residency,
Speaker 1: which was a complete lie. Unfortunately, I had no cameras
Speaker 1: to prove they weren't there a month. My neighbors had
Speaker 1: no cameras either. As a result, it was my word
Speaker 1: against my parents over how long they'd really been there,
Speaker 1: and they were claiming squatters rights. They told the police
Speaker 1: they had a verbal rental agreement with me, and that
Speaker 1: I was trying to illegally evict them for no reason.
Speaker 1: My mother even put on the water works when saying
Speaker 1: that the police told me it was a family dispute
Speaker 1: and to file eviction with the courts to get them out.
Speaker 1: Since this was in twenty twenty, getting to court for
Speaker 1: anything took longer because of the pandemic. Meanwhile, my parents
Speaker 1: were squatting in my house rent free and rubbing it
Speaker 1: in my face from the information I got out of them.
Speaker 1: Their business went bankrupt and they sold off almost everything
Speaker 1: they had to pay their debts. All they had left
Speaker 1: was the van and a few personal belongings, so they
Speaker 1: expected to live in my house rent free for the
Speaker 1: foreseeable future. They were working too. Both of them soon
Speaker 1: got new jobs, my father as a delivery driver, my
Speaker 1: mother as a sales associate. They were making money and
Speaker 1: the only things they contributed to were electricity and water utilities.
Speaker 1: They basically just handed me a one hundred dollar bill
Speaker 1: every month and said I should be grateful they were
Speaker 1: paying me anything. Any Time I tried to discuss proper
Speaker 1: rent with them, they just said I owed it to
Speaker 1: them to live rent free because I took eighteen years
Speaker 1: of their lives. They then told me to be thankful
Speaker 1: that they weren't demanding the money back for that time.
Speaker 1: When I argued back, they threatened to stop helping with
Speaker 1: the utilities altogether. I was so at my wits end
Speaker 1: that I ended up calling my grandparents to explain the
Speaker 1: situation to them. They were very unhappy and spoke with
Speaker 1: my parents, but they still said they had the right
Speaker 1: to stay in my home. They refused to budge. My
Speaker 1: grandpa told me he was sorry it had come to this,
Speaker 1: and that if they hadn't sold me the house, my
Speaker 1: parents wouldn't have invaded. I told him not to worry.
Speaker 1: I'd already filed for a legal eviction and would get
Speaker 1: it soon enough. I told him my parents already knew
Speaker 1: that they were on borrowed time. I made sure to
Speaker 1: say that an earshot of them too. They responded with
Speaker 1: the silent treatment. My father was away most of the time,
Speaker 1: driving a delivery vehicle six days a week, which was
Speaker 1: a job really not to his liking. My mother basically
Speaker 1: tried to take over my house in her spare time.
Speaker 1: She demanded I let her rearrange my living room. At
Speaker 1: one point. She even tried to force me to give
Speaker 1: her and my father the master bedroom. She argued that
Speaker 1: they were my parents and they deserved better. I vetoed
Speaker 1: both of those things and said they don't deserve better,
Speaker 1: and to stop trying to act like I owe them anything.
Speaker 1: I didn't ask to be born, and it's a normal
Speaker 1: obligation for parents to raise their own children. I told
Speaker 1: her I knew they were trying to assert dominance to
Speaker 1: try and keep me from kicking them out. I let
Speaker 1: her know her time was coming soon enough. Finally, after
Speaker 1: four months and now into early twenty twenty one, I
Speaker 1: managed to take my parents to court over their squatting.
Speaker 1: We only needed to go to court because they fought
Speaker 1: the eviction and tried to gaslight me into rescinding it.
Speaker 1: They tried to use the fact that it was formerly
Speaker 1: my grandparents house and attempted to use the one hundred
Speaker 1: dollar monthly payments as some sort of leverage. However, there
Speaker 1: was no real rental agreement, and they were smart enough
Speaker 1: not to forge one, as that would have been fraud.
Speaker 1: In the end, the judge ordered that they needed to
Speaker 1: be out in a maximum of thirty days because they
Speaker 1: have zero claim on my house. After court, they confronted
Speaker 1: me and said they were disappointed in me for kicking
Speaker 1: out my own flesh and blood. I couldn't help but laugh.
Speaker 1: I called them hypocrites because that's exactly what they did
Speaker 1: to me, without a care in the world for my
Speaker 1: well being. They had no love for me, so I
Speaker 1: have no love for them. I owed them nothing. They
Speaker 1: just tried to act like everything that was mine was theirs.
Speaker 1: But they had no right to call themselves my parents
Speaker 1: because they've never really acted like it. I called them
Speaker 1: a pair of snobby, lying and now broke narcissists to
Speaker 1: their faces, then told them to get their affairs in order.
Speaker 1: They knew I wouldn't hesitate to call the police if
Speaker 1: they didn't leave my house. When the thirty days were over,
Speaker 1: my father looked and raged, but my mother stopped him
Speaker 1: from saying or doing anything by grabbing his shoulder and
Speaker 1: shaking her head. He sneered at me and walked away.
Speaker 1: I just laughed in his face. They event left, but
Speaker 1: not without a lot of difficulty. That final month was
Speaker 1: spent with them either guilting me to try and make
Speaker 1: me change my mind, or completely ignoring me. I put
Speaker 1: up a calendar in the living room and checked off
Speaker 1: each day before they had to leave with a red marker.
Speaker 1: The exact day they were to be out was marked
Speaker 1: with a big red circle. I still remember that final
Speaker 1: day was March second. My parents waited until the exact
Speaker 1: day they had to leave my home for good before
Speaker 1: they finally left. What's even funnier is that they had
Speaker 1: been so convinced they could make me let them stay
Speaker 1: that they didn't bother to look for an apartment until
Speaker 1: after the courty viction went through. My mother spent weeks
Speaker 1: scrambling to find an apartment. They had to get a
Speaker 1: tiny and cramped studio apartment in the next city over
Speaker 1: because it was the only thing they could find on
Speaker 1: such short notice. It was a lot like what I
Speaker 1: had to do when I was eighteen, quite ironic. I
Speaker 1: drove my mother over to see at once, and the
Speaker 1: apartment was terrible. The walls were baby barf green, and
Speaker 1: the carpet looked like it was twenty years old. The
Speaker 1: only window just had a view of a brick wall outside,
Speaker 1: and there was no dish washer. The stove was the
Speaker 1: smallest one I'd ever seen. The toilet looked like it
Speaker 1: needed to be replaced, and the walls also did little
Speaker 1: to stop noise from neighbors. There were already two people
Speaker 1: loudly fighting in the adjacent apartment while we were there.
Speaker 1: My mother went out of her way to give me
Speaker 1: sad eyes. The whole time. She tried dropping hints that
Speaker 1: I should be feeling guilty for reducing them to live
Speaker 1: in such a place. I just acted oblivious to it
Speaker 1: all until she finally stopped. They signed the lease right
Speaker 1: away and moved what little stuff they had into the
Speaker 1: apartment over the weekend. They also ended up demanding the
Speaker 1: queen size bed dresser and flat screen TV from my
Speaker 1: guest room. I told them to just take the damn
Speaker 1: things because I no longer wanted them in the house
Speaker 1: after they spent five months sleeping in that room. They
Speaker 1: looked at me like I was treating them as though
Speaker 1: they were diseased, and demanded nothing more. The moment they
Speaker 1: had to leave for good, I started changing the on
Speaker 1: all exterior doors. All their stuff was at the apartment,
Speaker 1: and they'd spent their last night in my guest room.
Speaker 1: When the move was finally over, they watched me start
Speaker 1: ripping the old lock off the front door. As they
Speaker 1: were getting into the van. They said nothing. I said nothing.
Speaker 1: They just sat and watched me for a while until
Speaker 1: I had the new door knob on. Then they finally left.
Speaker 1: I breathed a massive sigh of relief the second that
Speaker 1: van went down the road. I figured karma had finally
Speaker 1: come for them and they could live under a rock
Speaker 1: for all I cared. But nope. My grandparents heard from
Speaker 1: them recently. They'd called them to brag about having a
Speaker 1: new business similar to their old one in the same
Speaker 1: state I'm living in now. Unfortunately, they are basically on
Speaker 1: track to being right back to where they used to
Speaker 1: be in life prior to the pandemic. I've already googled
Speaker 1: their new business and it seems like it's doing well.
Speaker 1: They have many positive reviews and everything. I'm pretty freaking resentful,
Speaker 1: truth be told. They put me through being homeless, squatted
Speaker 1: pretty much for free at my house for months, then
Speaker 1: went right back to being the snobby, wine drinking business
Speaker 1: people they used to be. If karma is real, it's
Speaker 1: taking too damn long.