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<v Speaker 1>Minnesota, goodbye. Send emails to Ryan Show at KATWB dot com.

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<v Speaker 1>First thing we got is about upgrading on a for

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<v Speaker 1>like trying to get into first class. So we were

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<v Speaker 1>talking about this last week and somebody said that they

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<v Speaker 1>were I think they were going on a trip and

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<v Speaker 1>they said should they spring for first class?

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<v Speaker 2>Or they were asking if they could ask for first class,

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<v Speaker 2>not to pay for it, but like they noticed that

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<v Speaker 2>there were seats open, so they were wondering if there

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<v Speaker 2>was a way to get like to be respectful and

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<v Speaker 2>see if they could get upgraded.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, Naomi writes in says, I work for the airlines.

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<v Speaker 1>It does not work to buy treats because somebody said,

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<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, buy them a coffee or a muffin or whatever.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't hurt to ask. She actually says it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>work to ask, but I think she means it doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>hurt to ask. We have so many frequent flyers diamond, platinum, gold, silver,

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<v Speaker 1>then we have paid upgrades. It just doesn't work anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>So sorry, employees used to get these upgrades that weren't

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<v Speaker 1>paid for, and we cannot even get them. There will

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<v Speaker 1>never be a free random upgrade nowadays. Okay, that kind

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<v Speaker 1>of makes sense. Think about it this way, when's the

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<v Speaker 1>last time you flew on a half full airplane? It

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<v Speaker 1>doesn't happen anymore. And back in the day, like even

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<v Speaker 1>in the nineties, it was like, oh, you're on this

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<v Speaker 1>flight from you know, like Las Vegas back home, and

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<v Speaker 1>there's like all three seats are open, like the you know,

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<v Speaker 1>so you get a road to yourself. Never happens anymore.

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<v Speaker 1>Most time I get on Southwest and they're like, we

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<v Speaker 1>are completely full today, so blah.

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<v Speaker 3>Blah blahn, move all the way down.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, right, So thank you, Naomi. I appreciate the inside information.

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<v Speaker 1>Sarah writes in she says, you can say my name.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm currently listening to Jenny talking about sending the wrong link,

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<v Speaker 1>and I sympathize.

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<v Speaker 2>What was that about when I sent the link of

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<v Speaker 2>somebody wants to absolutely fuck the shit out of you

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<v Speaker 2>I instead of a link to some shoes that I

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<v Speaker 2>was trying to post.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, that's right, I remember that from last Thursday or Friday.

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<v Speaker 1>I've been there, done that. And to the gal who

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<v Speaker 1>sent a DM to the whole zoom, I'm sorry. It

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<v Speaker 1>will get better from here. That was the one she

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<v Speaker 1>was on last week. Her name was I think Cassandra,

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<v Speaker 1>and she was on a zoom meeting that got boring,

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<v Speaker 1>so to entertain herself and her friend, she sent a

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<v Speaker 1>private message to her friend on the Zoom meeting, what's

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<v Speaker 1>your favorite kind of porno? What's your favorite porn category?

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<v Speaker 1>And it's sent to the entire fifty person meeting. She

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<v Speaker 1>goes on to say, I've sent the wrong thing to

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<v Speaker 1>the wrong person so many times. I now double check

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<v Speaker 1>every recipient and every link before I hit send, texting,

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<v Speaker 1>Instagram message, her team's email, I check it. You should too.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't believe in regret. If you regret something, have

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<v Speaker 1>you learned from it. If you've learned, why regret it,

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<v Speaker 1>Just move forward and try your best not to do

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<v Speaker 1>it again. I'm currently rapidly leaving a verbally and emotionally

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<v Speaker 1>abusive home relationship. Listening to your show and podcast is

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<v Speaker 1>really getting me through this terrible time. I love you, guys,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm so grateful for each of you. Your work

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<v Speaker 1>makes an impact on me and so many others. Thanks

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<v Speaker 1>for all you do. Have a great day and make

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<v Speaker 1>good choices. Sarah the nurse from South Minneapolis, Sarah, that's

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<v Speaker 1>very sweet. We know we're not here too necessarily to

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<v Speaker 1>get people through the day, but if that helps get

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<v Speaker 1>you through the day because you're going through something really tough,

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<v Speaker 1>that makes our job even more valuable and we're really

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<v Speaker 1>glad that we can help you with something like that.

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<v Speaker 3>We're here for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Next one, Stephanie says, I listen to no phone screener Friday.

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<v Speaker 1>I one hundred percent agree with the caller about your

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<v Speaker 1>watch recommendations. Please, oh please do your watch of the

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<v Speaker 1>week and post it on the Dave Ryan Show website, Instagram,

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<v Speaker 1>Facebook are helpful too, but the website blog should for

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<v Speaker 1>sure have it. Can you try to remember that for

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<v Speaker 1>this week and Jenny and see if there's anything that

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<v Speaker 1>we can like. Okay, here's your watch list for the week. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I find myself so much many times sitting down at

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<v Speaker 1>the end of a long day after the kids were asleep,

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<v Speaker 1>to go what was that show Jenny said was great?

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<v Speaker 1>Or what was it Dave liked and then said it

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<v Speaker 1>wasn't worth finishing. I do the same thing. People will

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<v Speaker 1>text in and go, oh, you've got to watch this

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<v Speaker 1>watch Reacher, and I'm like, I remember that one because

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<v Speaker 1>somebody recommended it to me. And I did not like it,

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<v Speaker 1>but sometimes that happens. Ps, Dave, Netflix is different for

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<v Speaker 1>every single person based on what you watch. Yes, recently

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<v Speaker 1>you mentioned that the title you might be referring to

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<v Speaker 1>will be on the Netflix homepage, but it all depends

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<v Speaker 1>on what you're watching. Well, that's true, that totally makes sense.

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<v Speaker 3>I also heard somewhere that even the pictures that are

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<v Speaker 3>on Netflix are catered to who is watching it, So like,

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<v Speaker 3>if they know that I like watching Gurly movies and

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<v Speaker 3>Gurly TV shows, then all of the pictures will have

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<v Speaker 3>a girl in it, and the same picture for the

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<v Speaker 3>same show I have somebody else in it. Real, Dave, Yeah, okay,

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<v Speaker 3>which is kind of cool.

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<v Speaker 1>Here we go, Hello morning crew. First of all, like

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<v Speaker 1>to thank you for putting out such a great product.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm an airline pilot and I often find myself in

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<v Speaker 1>cities where I don't know anyone, so on walks. It's

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<v Speaker 1>great to put on your podcast and have my friends

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<v Speaker 1>walking with me. That is super cool. I really appreciate that, Dave.

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<v Speaker 1>You truly have a knack of doing an excellent job

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<v Speaker 1>of explaining complex situations relating to airplanes without watering down

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<v Speaker 1>but not getting too muddied in the details. I think

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<v Speaker 1>you could do a way better job than a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of the so called experts that media outlets use for

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<v Speaker 1>aviation events possible retirement side gig. You know what, I

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<v Speaker 1>appreciate that because I'm not an airline pilot and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even have a thousand hours of airtime, whereas, by comparison,

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<v Speaker 1>your average airline pilot probably has a minimum of five

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<v Speaker 1>thousand hours.

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<v Speaker 3>Wow.

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<v Speaker 1>So I don't even have one thousand, and that's since

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen ninety five. So for me, let's see, my topic

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<v Speaker 1>for discussion was what time that your company let you

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<v Speaker 1>down the most? For me, it was a time we

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<v Speaker 1>flew from Minneapolis to a city in Wisconsin during a snowstorm.

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<v Speaker 1>When leaving Minneapolis, we knew things were gonna get dicey,

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<v Speaker 1>but I was confident they were not going to cancel

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<v Speaker 1>any flights just to lay them. Once we got to Wisconsin,

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<v Speaker 1>our flight back was of course delayed, and I was

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<v Speaker 1>assuring everybody we would be on our way shortly. And

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<v Speaker 1>as I was making my PA announcement, the company went

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<v Speaker 1>and fucking canceled the flight and all the passengers knew

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<v Speaker 1>before me. Wow, talk about a egg on my face,

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<v Speaker 1>all right, And they called themselves Captain dart Lick because

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<v Speaker 1>don't put their name anywhere in there at all. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>just tell you one of my favorite insightful aviation stories.

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<v Speaker 1>Remember the flight about ten or fifteen years ago, where

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<v Speaker 1>they were coming from Denver or somewhere, and they flew

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<v Speaker 1>past Minnesota by about one hundred and fifty miles or sole.

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<v Speaker 1>They were supposed to land in Minneapolis, and they flew

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<v Speaker 1>then finally they kept calling them from the tower and saying, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>And they wouldn't answer. They wouldn't answer, they wouldn't answer.

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<v Speaker 1>They claimed they were both on their laptops and they

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<v Speaker 1>weren't paying attention. Now, I don't know, but as a pilot,

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<v Speaker 1>I would suspect they both fell asleep. Oh, because it

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<v Speaker 3>Do flight attendants not like check on anybody like pilots either? No?

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, oh no not really. I mean they could

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<v Speaker 1>call up there, but the flight attendants likely wouldn't have

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<v Speaker 1>known that they were approaching and then flew over Minneapolis.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, so, oh are there no cameras in a pilot cabin?

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<v Speaker 2>And that's one question. And then the other one is

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<v Speaker 2>isn't there some kind of box that like you can

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<v Speaker 2>get into when a plane crashes?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, makes sense.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean that has nothing to do with anything, but

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<v Speaker 2>that's interesting that they probably just fell asleep. So you're

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<v Speaker 2>telling me that those planes really are just flying themselves.

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<v Speaker 1>To a large degree. They say that flying is like

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<v Speaker 1>ninety nine percent sheer boredom and one percent sheer terror.

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<v Speaker 1>So the takeoff and landings, that's that's very involved. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>but the but once you get at cruise altitude, it's

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<v Speaker 1>kind of like you sit around and you're board and

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<v Speaker 1>maybe the person. And here's another thing that in movies,

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<v Speaker 1>Good, Jim, how's your new dog? Yeah, and then the

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<v Speaker 1>flight attendant walks on, Hi, Carol An, how's it going.

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<v Speaker 1>They've likely never met, they've likely never flown together, So

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<v Speaker 1>when you're sitting up there, you're kind of getting acquainted

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<v Speaker 1>they might have nothing to talk.

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<v Speaker 2>About, but don't I feel like flight attendants do get

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<v Speaker 2>to know a lot of the pilots. My friend married

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<v Speaker 3>I think wherever your.

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<v Speaker 2>Home bases as a flight attendant, that also could be

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<v Speaker 2>the same home base obviously as pilots. So then you're

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<v Speaker 2>probably chances are going to have more flights with those.

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<v Speaker 1>People, and that could be Yeah. I saw a really

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<v Speaker 1>to Land, and it was done about nineteen ninety nine

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<v Speaker 1>He was a soap opera star and he was kind

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<v Speaker 1>all the flight attendants got on like, Hi, Captain Smith,

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<v Speaker 1>It is like, no, they don't know each other that well.

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<v Speaker 1>It was terrible movie.

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<v Speaker 3>I not about pilots or any but so I saw

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<v Speaker 3>a play that was about planes over the weekend and

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<v Speaker 3>they said in it that planes are meant to be

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<v Speaker 3>flown and if they sit for too long, they like

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<v Speaker 3>start to deteriorate fast. Do you think that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>I've never heard that before.

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<v Speaker 3>Really. They were like, yeah, that we got to get

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<v Speaker 3>this plane. I mean the plane where they all were

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<v Speaker 3>like on the ground for maybe four days and the

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<v Speaker 3>pilot was like, we got to get this plane up

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<v Speaker 3>in the air. It's going to start breaking down if

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<v Speaker 3>we don't, so like we need to go now.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh So I never heard that. Yeah, well it could

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<v Speaker 3>That's a thing.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh Rinita writes in it says, Dave, I wanted to

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<v Speaker 1>say that I loved your recommendation given to the woman

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<v Speaker 1>who experienced a miscarriage. You are spot on people who

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<v Speaker 1>reach out more than once when you're experiencing grief or

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<v Speaker 1>something tragic. Truly means a lot. With my daughter's cancer,

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<v Speaker 1>I have honestly been surprised that who doesn't check in

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<v Speaker 1>the people who do the check ins without any agendas.

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<v Speaker 1>So kind of helpful to feel less alone during trauma. Anyway,

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<v Speaker 1>great advice, Dave. That is from Ranita. This came up

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<v Speaker 1>because when my dog died a week ago, there were

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<v Speaker 1>the wonderful friends of mine who's like check in and say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>I heard about Josie. I hope you're doing okay. Wow,

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<v Speaker 1>such a hard loss. And I appreciate that, and that's

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<v Speaker 1>all I expected, and expected might actually be the right word,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, But it was the people who checked in

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<v Speaker 1>like again later that weekend and checked in again like

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<v Speaker 1>on Wednesday. That really is like, wow, that was very comforting.

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<v Speaker 1>So a friend of mine lost her son in a

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<v Speaker 1>like killed on the spot. Yeah, And so I've tried

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<v Speaker 1>funeral and all that, and I've tried to remember, like

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<v Speaker 1>conversation with her to see, you know, not like how

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<v Speaker 1>are you doing because that's a stupid question.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, because clearly she's probably not doing well.

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<v Speaker 1>Ryan, So I'm just like, hey, just thinking about you,

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<v Speaker 1>what's going on with you? And she talked about anything

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<v Speaker 1>but her son, So I think it was good for

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<v Speaker 3>Her mind off of it.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, more emails. That's not one. Here we go.

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<v Speaker 1>What is your I get it now moment? Since becoming

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<v Speaker 1>a mom, I feel like I've had so many moments

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<v Speaker 1>where I thought to myself, I get it now. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>often call my mom and say I'm sorry, I get

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<v Speaker 1>it now. For example, my mom would go in her

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just curious about your I get it now. What

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<v Speaker 1>is your moment? Thanks? Abby? I would have to think

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<v Speaker 1>about that first.

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<v Speaker 2>I've got an answer.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you got?

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<v Speaker 2>So my sister and I really wanted to go to

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<v Speaker 2>our friends. Well, I wanted to go to my friend's house.

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<v Speaker 2>She wanted to go to her boyfriend's house. It was

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<v Speaker 2>a snowstorm. My sister had her license, so she was

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<v Speaker 2>going to take us there. My mom refused to let

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<v Speaker 2>So she's like, it's not safe, you're not going there

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<v Speaker 2>or whatever, while we lied and said we were going

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<v Speaker 2>a movie and.

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<v Speaker 3>So that was in town.

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<v Speaker 2>So she allowed us to do that, but really she

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<v Speaker 3>I went to my friends.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I get it now because driving through snowstorms is terrifying.

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<v Speaker 3>We were young. I get it.