1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,439 Speaker 1: Stream thinking learning how to trust what is in your 2 00:00:03,480 --> 00:00:06,679 present moment. To get there requires some practice. This is 3 00:00:06,719 --> 00:00:10,000 what I do one sheet of paper every day, just 4 00:00:10,320 --> 00:00:14,480 ten minutes, write about whatever is moving through your presence 5 00:00:14,560 --> 00:00:18,480 of what is right now, no judgment though, no judgment. 6 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:23,120 Streamthinking sharpens your skills as a listener, as a communicator, 7 00:00:23,440 --> 00:00:28,079 and as an activator. Learning to trust what is in 8 00:00:28,160 --> 00:00:31,519 your right now. This is stream thinking today. We're reading 9 00:00:31,519 --> 00:00:35,240 from January twenty first, twenty twenty three. Why do people 10 00:00:35,359 --> 00:00:39,560 dread doing things that need to get done? Wait a second, 11 00:00:39,560 --> 00:00:43,200 I've done my research. Research identifies dread as being a 12 00:00:43,240 --> 00:00:48,280 sense of uncertainty, a nagging sense of doubt, sometimes leading 13 00:00:48,320 --> 00:00:51,920 to panic attacks, getting sick to your stomach, even depression. 14 00:00:52,719 --> 00:00:56,600 And yes, there is such a thing as dreadful procrastination, 15 00:00:57,359 --> 00:01:01,479 usually caused or associated with very repetitive jobs or a 16 00:01:01,600 --> 00:01:05,400 lack of feedback. The most important thing to remember here 17 00:01:05,519 --> 00:01:10,200 is is that dread and procrastination are not laziness. They're 18 00:01:10,239 --> 00:01:14,719 classified as mental health conditions. Learning to work with dread 19 00:01:14,840 --> 00:01:18,879 is my hardcore mission. I dread a lot of physical things, 20 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:21,680 and when I'm late, I have to pay a monetary price. 21 00:01:22,280 --> 00:01:25,719 Why was I late. I dreaded it. I chose the 22 00:01:25,799 --> 00:01:28,560 fine over having to put myself through what needed to 23 00:01:28,599 --> 00:01:33,280 get done. We all have something that we dread. But 24 00:01:33,359 --> 00:01:37,680 what's the total cost in your personal life? Is it money, heartbreak, 25 00:01:38,159 --> 00:01:45,840 family time, workplace opportunity? What is your dread? Can you 26 00:01:45,879 --> 00:01:49,680 be honest enough with you about that dread? I have 27 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:52,640 a beautiful force here in South Charlotte, North Carolina. What 28 00:01:52,760 --> 00:01:55,560 I love about this forest is that I believe inside 29 00:01:55,560 --> 00:01:59,599 my soul it is stronger and more beautiful when it's natural. 30 00:02:00,680 --> 00:02:03,120 But my human eye, the one that's trained by those 31 00:02:03,120 --> 00:02:07,920 beautiful magazine covers, are going no, no, I've got to 32 00:02:07,920 --> 00:02:11,000 get out into that forest and clean that forest floor up. 33 00:02:11,439 --> 00:02:15,479 But I dread it because it's work. More importantly, I 34 00:02:15,560 --> 00:02:17,800 know that when I start lifting up those heavy branches 35 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:20,439 at sixty years old, I'm gonna be feeling some pain. 36 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:23,360 I'm gonna twist something, and then I'm gonna pay for 37 00:02:23,400 --> 00:02:26,120 it for several weeks or several months. It's part of 38 00:02:26,159 --> 00:02:29,520 the dread. It's not that I don't like paying my bills. 39 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:31,680 I just don't like seeing my bank account and go 40 00:02:31,719 --> 00:02:33,840 boo boo boo, boo boo boo boo boo. I dread it, 41 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:38,280 but I end up paying more because, yeah, I had 42 00:02:38,280 --> 00:02:41,159 to pay the fine, the fine of being late. It's 43 00:02:41,199 --> 00:02:43,479 not that I like being late, It's just I dread 44 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:45,759 the boo boo boom boom boom boom boom boom boom. 45 00:02:46,280 --> 00:02:49,039 What about you? Do you dread falling asleep? There are 46 00:02:49,120 --> 00:02:51,560 a lot of people that I share conversations with that 47 00:02:51,719 --> 00:02:54,560 do not like to sleep at night. They would rather 48 00:02:54,759 --> 00:02:59,520 stay awake because the nightmares are so bad. They don't 49 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,080 want to have to deal with waking up from something 50 00:03:02,199 --> 00:03:05,439 that they completely had no control over. I spend a 51 00:03:05,680 --> 00:03:09,000 lot of time researching dreams, but that doesn't make me 52 00:03:09,120 --> 00:03:13,120 an expert. I am not. But I use meditation as 53 00:03:13,159 --> 00:03:18,319 my dread identifier and releaser of pain. Is there such 54 00:03:18,319 --> 00:03:21,199 a thing a releaser of pain? Getting rid of the 55 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:24,719 stress caused by dreams you can't control. But I too 56 00:03:25,439 --> 00:03:29,199 dread going to sleep at night. I will watch that clock, 57 00:03:29,319 --> 00:03:31,599 and when I hit a certain time, it's like, go 58 00:03:31,599 --> 00:03:34,960 go now, go now, go now, Because the closer I 59 00:03:35,000 --> 00:03:38,479 get to midnight, the more I can make it to 60 00:03:38,560 --> 00:03:41,719 two o'clock before that first dream boom hits me. I 61 00:03:41,800 --> 00:03:45,759 dread it. I don't think it's hate, but it's more 62 00:03:45,879 --> 00:03:52,560 like uncomfortable, insecure, And remember what researchers said. You do 63 00:03:52,599 --> 00:03:54,759 get sick to your stomach, you do get panic attacks, 64 00:03:54,919 --> 00:03:59,159 you do become depressed, and remember that it is not 65 00:03:59,479 --> 00:04:04,280 a sense of laziness, but rather it's classified as a 66 00:04:04,319 --> 00:04:10,560 mental health condition. Seek help, get a professional to step 67 00:04:10,639 --> 00:04:14,960 into your moments of dread and try to understand how 68 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:17,639 you can thin it out a bit. We all have dread. 69 00:04:17,759 --> 00:04:20,639 It's part of our everyday world. Do you dread going 70 00:04:20,680 --> 00:04:23,079 to social media? But you do it anyway and it's like, 71 00:04:23,120 --> 00:04:27,279 oh God, why did I do that? Coca Cola and 72 00:04:27,319 --> 00:04:31,800 PEPSI have these brand new products out constantly. I dread 73 00:04:31,839 --> 00:04:34,120 going into a convenience store because I'm gonna go, oh, 74 00:04:34,160 --> 00:04:36,759 I gotta taste that, and then I pay for it. 75 00:04:37,680 --> 00:04:40,920 We have dread in every step that we take. But 76 00:04:41,120 --> 00:04:43,839 can you get it under control? The answer is yes. 77 00:04:44,279 --> 00:04:47,240 I'm a daily writer. I'm also a d frag writer. 78 00:04:47,560 --> 00:04:50,399 That means I break it down. I ask the questions 79 00:04:50,399 --> 00:04:53,399 and I question the answers. It is so important to 80 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:59,360 even stream thing saying hey, it was good that peep 81 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:04,519 taste pepsi. But let's break it down. What did it 82 00:05:04,600 --> 00:05:06,959 do to the inside core of your body? You're gonna 83 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:09,360 get a stomach ache down well, I mean there was 84 00:05:09,399 --> 00:05:11,839 some sugar. Break it down, Break it down, break it down. 85 00:05:12,120 --> 00:05:15,120 Do some stream thinking, have an honest to God conversation 86 00:05:15,199 --> 00:05:19,120 with yourself, and when you do, the dread kind of 87 00:05:19,160 --> 00:05:21,519 lightens up a bit. But I think one of the 88 00:05:21,519 --> 00:05:23,839 best tools that you can use are what I personally 89 00:05:23,879 --> 00:05:27,879 have used. Okay, first of all, meditation is very difficult 90 00:05:27,879 --> 00:05:31,040 because your mind won't shut off. It takes many, many 91 00:05:31,240 --> 00:05:34,079 years to master the fine art of meditation to just 92 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:37,319 kind of check out a little bit. But what I 93 00:05:37,439 --> 00:05:39,920 do to help me get into that moment where the 94 00:05:40,000 --> 00:05:43,639 mind eases up on its judgment is I listen to 95 00:05:43,680 --> 00:05:46,439 what I call head music. It's frequency music. You can 96 00:05:46,439 --> 00:05:50,680 find it on YouTube. Find your frequency and step free 97 00:05:50,959 --> 00:05:54,519 of your dread. I'm Eryl and that's stream thinking.